I started spanking my BPD girlfriend (non-sexually).She was throwing plates and spoons at me, threw the food she cooked on the ground and I was just so angry that I spanked her for this. The difference is night and day. After she cried in the shower, she joined me on the Sofa, cuddled with me and was very affectionate. Now it's actually pleasant to be around her, when she isn't a massive bitch anymore.Do I have to make spanking her a regular thing? Only do it, when she is in the wrong? I don't want her to fall back into bad habits.
>>34891223I heard this meme too, that for some reason spanking a bpd girl sends her some signals that actually resonate with her messed up mind. maybe do spank her yes. when she's being bad.It's also good because spanking is not the same as beating her up. so no one can say domestic abuse (but she can still, she still has bpd, but that's just in general)and if a bitch says to people he used to spank me then you know, everyone knows thats a kink.
>>34891223Yeah, but you’ve got to be Stoic, practically Vulcan about it, and don’t give her any emotion of any kind until she stops being a bitch. And she’s good, dial it up to eleven, and when she’s bad, you leave. Also, you can unfuck her with Whole Food Keto, and a strong course of Ivermectin. It’s almost certainly parasites, from what I’ve learned. Also, adopt a religion and become a con man of sorts when it comes to justifying relationship structure to her. Be prepared for a stab wound, and keep a first aid kit that’s not a prop. Keep a gun that is loaded with fake rounds so where she can get it, so if she pulls it on you, you don’t die. Keep your important documents in a fire safe. Don’t trust her with animals you love. And have fun!
>>34891355I hope this is a fucking shitpost.
>>34891359Okay, thanks, asshole. It’s my opinion. This is a place for opinions. Your reply was just an insult, and wasn’t specific. Just mean for nothing. So fuck you.
>>34891223I dated a BPD girl for like a year and this basically worked on her. Less abuse-y the way I did it. She'd start another argument with me and I'd just lean in and get kinda growly and put my hand around her neck and she'd get wet and I'd put her in her place. There was also legit spanking but usually that was in the middle of sex.
>>34891223Spanking her is fine for now, but as soon as she feels truly slighted by some random thing you do she will paint it as a pattern of abuse.I pray prison treats you well, anon.
I would of been spanking day 1. That and much more. It's a given
>>34891418"would have," not "would of"
BPD people think they are pieces of shit, and that everyone hates them.When you spank her in a non-abuse way. It verifies her view of herself and signals that you understand her. “Pieces of shit like her deserve to be spanked.”Remember husbands spanking their wives was normal just a few decades ago.I’m making this entire post up btw.
>>34891837I don't often use this word but -Kek'd xddd
>>34891837>When you spank her in a non-abuse way.Except that OP spanked her in an abusive way.
>>34891223OP, what you did was physical abuse. Never raise your hand in anger. You can go to jail for shit like that. BPD is a mental illness. Using violence to treat BPD has never worked and was abandoned >100 years ago.
>>34891837>Remember husbands spanking their wives was normal just a few decades ago.So was wives murdering their husband to get out of an abusive marriage.
To be clear - her actions were abusive and your actions were abusive. That you ended up on the far side of her crisis snuggling on the couch does not mean your actions were bad and wrong.Your GF needs therapy, to learn how to identify the onset of a crisis and how to mitigate or avoid it. You need to go to therapy with her, to learn sane techniques to get her through a crisis without violence.Or you could do nothing and become one more abusive boyfriend of a BPD.
>>34891223I don't normally say this but, what the actual fuck is wrong with you. Never ever in a million years would spanking your gf and disciplining her like a child would ever be a good idea.I'll give you some advice on fixing this fucked up situation you have gotten yourself into.Firstly, you should consider her lovey dovey attitude towards you as problematic as her earlier outburst since they are both products of a mental disorder.Do not try to keep the parts of the disorder you like while getting rid of the ones you don't. That is not how any of this works.Secondly, do not escalate or feed into her negative emotions, remain calm. No matter what, you shouldn't retaliate against anything she does, if the situation becomes violent then leave. If you do retaliate you will just end up triggering her more.What you should do to reduce her BPD.Ask her why she got angry at you and had an outburst. She will most likely either dodge the question, or try to rationalize or justify her actions, by blaming it on something you did or that she just had a bad day, etc.Follow up with, even if you didn't like x, why did you get so upset because of it.Lead her to making the conclusion that her emotions are responsible and not a outside influence.You need to tell her and make her understand that her outburst is a product of her emotions. And that no one is responsible for her emotions aside from herself.Saying this will innevitably make her more upset, so you need to follow up with, "it is not your fault that you feel like this or that you feel the need to take your emotions out on me. But this current relationship is toxic. And I don't want to be treated like this. I need you to tell me whenever you are feeling upset, so I can help you."Also, the next time your gf has an outburst, give her a hug instead of fucking spanking her. Its clear that she has a lot of emotional problems and you aren't going to fix any of them by doing shit her parents would have tried.
>>34891223Yes and the spanking also has to be during sex.
>>34891355>Cut her off emotionally whenever she is acting out and ignore all of her outbursts and negative behaviors until they go away.>BPD is caused by parasites.>Store all of your important belongings and pets in a place she can't get to.>Use religion to manipulate her into being subservient to you.>Essentially treat her like a rabid and dangerous animal and make no attempt at actually helping her.>>34891359>I hope this is a fucking shitpost.>>34891375>Its just my opinion, this is a place for sharing opinions, why are you insulting me for no reason.>no reason.What the actual fuck is wrong with you. Holy shit.
>>34891929Luckily women are harmless animals almost always. What you described doesn't really happen.
>>34892106I love choking a bitch
>>34892122Weak men lol I've been with a bpd goth witch for 11 years, no abuse needed ur just weak lol. She can do whatever she wants idgaf
>>34892236>No abuse neededWhen did I say that abuse was needed?
>>34892257Lol cause ur weak bro, ur a weak guy who u have to control your women I don't have to do shit lol. Weak, insecure a lame. Most of u are
i've not concluded a conversation with "what is wrong with you?" in probably a decadefeels like anyone who puts that arrowhead on an argument has no theory of mindi'd go as far as to say any vagueries such as "manipulative" and "abusive" belie the same such>>34891355might be edgy and silly but most of you look like hysterical chickens in comparison and your pearl-clutching is most unhelpful
>[subject] DOESN'T NEED [practical solution], [subject] needs (((help))) and ((((((((((therapy)))))))))))nigger cattle coded
>>34892268>>34892274thank you, based anon. your sense is appreciated
>>34892259Unless you are nta. Didn't you say>Also, adopt a religion and become a con man of sorts when it comes to justifying relationship structure to her.And you are saying I'm the one who needs to control someone?>ur a weak guy who u have to control your women. When have I ever said that I need to control my women? The last thing I would ever advocate for is making women subservient to men, I would only say something like that as a joke.>>34892268>i've not concluded a conversation with "what is wrong with you?" in probably a decade You do realize that "what is wrong with you?" Is a rhetorical question and no one who asks that is genuinely trying to gain a "theory of mind," right?Its a euphemism for, "You are crazy.">your pearl-clutching is most unhelpfulNormally when people say outright deranged things here, I assume they are being ironic. But when it is obvious that isn't the case, I am going to say something.
>>34892089>Lead her to making the conclusion that her emotions are responsible and not a outside influence.Some of the only sane words ITT.
>>34892274In this case, help and therapy are the practical solution. Everything is going to make the situation worse.
>>34892555help and therapy aren't solutions they are vague references to someone else providing a solution >>34892524yes, i meant what i said ending a discussion with "you're crazy" is equivalent and you can swap it freely in my post with no misgivings >no one who asks that is genuinely trying to gain a "theory of mind," right?yes, obviously if you aren't capable of radical empathy why are you posting on /adv/?
A good sharp slap is like a reset button to a bitch who is sperging out. If she becomes in anyway physical, open hand therapy will sort her right the fuck out. If she claims you abused her, just deny it. Don't listen do these understanding and therapy faggots, be a fucking man and do what her father should have done years ago and you can set her straight and put her in her place.
>>34892584>Saying "you are crazy" shows you have no theory of mind.Let's say for example someone confesses to eating children. And tells other people that eating children is good and that you should eat children too. And isn't larping.If I said that person is crazy, does that mean I have no "theory of mind."Forget that, If someone says and believes crazy bullshit thats clearly wrong, I am going to call them crazy. >b-but you dont have any theory of mind or whatever that is supposed to mean.Idgaf. I'm not going to waste my time making a proper argument for stupid people, that never works. I'm just going to call them crazy, because they are.
>>34892612By being a man u mean just laugh in her face and ignore her lol weak bitch putting hands on her
>>34892629i could play this game with you, on your terms, and very well, but that topic is a cognitohazard you are definitely not ready for and that i would not like to spread even if the audience would like me toin general, when bizarre rhetoric is presented to me i would ask "to what end?"critically, the difference between your "untouchable" scenario and the one we are posting under is you have a reported positive outcome, which is interesting and worth exploration"crazy" is another one of those unhelpful vagueries i was talking about btw"i'm just going to call them crazy" is as worthless as it is easy
>>34892691You sound like a faggot. Equal rights, equal lefts. Now toddle off and drink your onions latte little boy
>>34891223How does one even dance like that?
>>34891923>believe all womenHer brhaviour was abusive.His was corrective.
>>34891927>don't beat abusive cuntsSure thing, enabler. Maybe you should be beat instead.
>>34892709>I'm not ready for it.Sure buddy.>to what end is calling someone crazy not a sign of "no theory of mind."Are we seriously doing this? Let me ask you this, how many atoms do you have to take away from a chair before it stops being a chair.You can't answer because you can't objectively define what a concept is, because it is not a real physical thing.What you should be explaining is why I can't say someone is crazy for saying bs unironically.>"crazy" is another one of those unhelpful vagueries i was talking about btw>help and therapy aren't solutions they are vague references to someone else providing a solutionLet's say for example someone gets stabbed.And a onlooker said, they need help, someone get a doctor, and you said.>help and getting someone a doctor aren't solutions they are vague references to someone else proving a solution.Do you realize how ridiculous you sound?Calling him crazy is as equally worthless as arguing against him, it achieves the same result.
>>34892826you are actually unaware that "chair" has a definition?and that you can subtract units of matter until it doesn't satisfy that definition?and then you have the pride and retardation to assume that nobody but a doctor could resolve a stab wound? no, we are not doing anythingyou are not worth my effort
and what do you mean by "sure buddy"you used that example as if it's so obviously ungrounded and indefensible, do you know anything about austrailian aboriginal culture?or are they not people? just crazy and easy to dismiss?you are as dumb and easy to french wave to me as an aboriginal is to you
how many facts do you add to a person's brain before he becomes a doctor you stupid bastard
>>34891355>It’s almost certainly parasitesI remember an ex-friend from Elementary and middle school who was nicknamed “Bipo” (short for bipolar in Spanish) who had that condition. He was always fond of cats, had them since being a kid as far as I'm concerned. I remember him being my friend and another day it was like he emotionally had betrayed me by joining the group of kids who used to softcore-bully me with ostracism and mockery; in middle school he just ignored me and treated me condescendingly most of the time, for no apparent reason. His behavioral changes were unpredictable like that some days (he may also have been a narcissist) but a cool friend I (sort of) had nonetheless, and that's in the past now.Recently I was researching toxoplasmosis online and found out there are psychological symptoms of it, which makes me think he had that illness. So yeah, sort of related to parasites. This may also explain why cat owners sort of “adore” their pets like slaves, to the point that it becomes a meme.https://iere.org/what-are-the-mental-symptoms-of-toxoplasmosis/>>34891223That's the Shuffle dance style.
i just wanted everyone to know it's okay to respond to me and even disagreei like it! it's a fun part of the 4 chan experience it's just thatwhen someone tries to take the moral high groundand tries to sound learnéd and rationaland theni write a thoughtful, sincere, and engaging postwherein i label a point criticalliterally, i say "critically"and then my sparring partner completely ignores specifically that section of the postit just really grinds my gears friendsi'm sure you wouldn't make this simple mistake when debating with me, and i just want to make sure you know it can be a fun and enjoyable experience regardsrick james
>>348930624chan is not a place for rational, intelligent, constructive discussion as you may have already seen. This is a place for weaponised autism, trolling, meme-ing and retarded back and forth but mostly for discussion of anime and Japanese culture, other than the messed up stuff at /b/ and pornographic boards... At least this is what it used to be because now it has been invaded by bad actors and young, impressionable users who swallow the antisemitic, radical propaganda and that kind of stuff.You know modern 4chan is gay-and-lame and also went stale when a freaking Facebook group such as the one who organized the Area 51 Naruto run raid is more awesome than the freaking constant White Man worship ideological spam here. Like, this seemed like the natural evolution of Project Chanology but it happened elsewhere.
>>34892960>you can subtract units of matter until it doesnt satisfy that condition.Okay then, give me an example.Surely it can't be that difficult if its so simple right? All you have to do is find the atomic wieght of a chair and the exact atom it stops being a chair.Can't be that hard.Oh, your not going to do that, because you a faggot and are full of shit.>and then you have the pride and retardation to assume that nobody but a doctor could resolve a stab wound? Where exactly did I say that only a doctor could resolve a stab wound? I would really like to know. Because for some strange reason, I don't remember saying that.Oh you arent going to tell me that either. The reason is that you are a faggot and are full of shit.>you used that example as if it's so obviously ungrounded and indefensible, Uhh, because it is. What about eating children for the sake of eating children is defensible to you? Kekekek hahahahahha.You aren't going to answer that either, surprise surprise, because you are a faggot and are full of shit.You act like the Australian aboriginals are the same exact thing as the hypothetical I gave and they aren't even close.
>>34893062Stupid bitch says retarded bullshit and then tries to claim the moral highground by saying>Hey guys just want to let you know I'm totally chill I just dont like it when other people act like their chill.>it just really grinds my gears friends>regards, rick james0/10 virtue signaling. Try harder.You are so pathetic it is actually making me laugh holy shit. Also you literally brought up Australian aboriginals and tried to shame me because you dont think I know about them, and now you say I am the one trying to sound smart.God, you are a clown, can you be any more of a hypocrite. Let's see just how far down the faggot hole you can go.
