over the last few months, i haven't been feeling myself lately>20>have a girlfriend>have a job>have a life outside of work>have amazing friendsbut as of recent, it all hasnt been going well. over these past few months, my girlfriend has driven me crazy (i guess?) with some of her bullshit. hates the fact that i hang out with my girl friends that she has already met, and who ive known longer than her. she even gave me the "go hangout with your girlfriend" bullshit and intentionally became petty about it. she knows betteralso lately whenever we've hung out together, it feels like she gets bored of me. we'll still smoke and fuck later in the night but then the next day we text it's like nothing happened. our relationship nowadays is just led through in person hanging out.i have a feeling she's lost feelings for me at this point, i will tell you why>only gave me candy and toys for my birthday as a gift. i spent $500 on her gifts....>dislikes certain friends of mine because her cousin had a bad relationship with 2 of em. forced me to cut them off. >thinks ill end up like them.>takes hours to respond back to me, despite her being on tiktok, instagram, or on facetime with her gay best friend>recently gained weight out of stress eating and i guess depression. (was already fat and was working out for 9 months straight.) i sometimes go back to the gym when i can out of work but that momentum doesnt go past 1 week.what do i do? i still love her. i think she is the best thing ive ever had in my life so far. she's made me learn a lot of things, even took my virginity. i feel like i need to talk to her about this, maybe go our separate ways so i can personally fix myself. we've been together for 10 months, and i honestly feel like she has slowed me down mentally and physically. if you read all this, thank you for your time. anything advice would greatly be appreciated.
Think it's over nephew. Great relationships sound nothing like your post, even if I were to assume you embellished things. She sounds like a negative person. Also if she gets fat on you and its not baby weight and you didnt put a ring on her finger, cut her the fuck off. Keep that in mind next time
>>34979134i guess the only thing keeping me going in this relationships is the love and the sex. i wouldn't say shes much of a negative person, but she does go through a lot of things such as her job (shitty management, so miserable) and currently moving out the house with her momi guess i did make her a bit more thicker? shes curvy but we love going out to eat. also part of the reason why i still love her and part of the reason why i wanted to be with her to begin with. chased her for 2 years, and when i got her i felt accomplished. those 4-5 months of our relationship felt like a dream. but now she just feels like a side character to me.im gonna have to talk with her soon then.
>>34979139>im gonna have to talk with her soon then.Just my hunch but I would not talk with her about this unless it's a "I'm breaking up with you" talk. Sounds like she wears the pants and you might get convinced to keep trying in the relationship. Don't feel bad about making up some excuse to end it either.
>>34979148im more so stuck on how i wanna approach this talk with her. cause im also fine with going my own way. ive had that thought about breaking up in my mind for months too. but lately ive just been appreciating the time ive been having with her, but the walls are now slowly closing in week by week. and would breaking up with her hurt me? maybe. but i also would feel so much free.
>>34979160Yes it hurts but if you have to do it you have to. Cut your losses.
>>34979125"You need to talk to each other" is really cliché relationship advice, but it actually works assuming both parties have a reasonable level of mental maturity. It's perfectly reasonable to say "I am unhappy about X, Y and Z in our relationship" and then ask if they also think it's a problem, if and what they want to do moving forward. >only gave me candy and toys for my birthday as a gift. i spent $500 on her gifts....Holy fuck why would you spend $500 on birthday presents, especially at your age? If you were giving her jewelry after 25 years of marriage that would be understandable. Maybe I just don't understand the weird sugar daddy/baby girl dynamic some relationships have where part of the relationship maintenance is a high price tags on gifts.>dislikes certain friends of mine because her cousin had a bad relationship with 2 of em. forced me to cut them off. This should be a dealbreaker unless those two friends of yours are actually terrible people. You're a bad friend and a spineless boyfriend for going along with this.
>>34979171>but it actually works assuming both parties have a reasonable level of mental maturity.sometimes she can become immature of out pure pettiness. but she most of the time is mature. i just need to find the perfect time when we're both not at work or anything like that.and for the $500 on gifts, i guess it's because giving gifts is my love language. and gotta admit, i spend my money irresponsibly. i just like seeing her happy too. she REALLY loved the flowers i gave her.>This should be a dealbreaker unless those two friends of yours are actually terrible people.they are. and im so iffy about that thing where it goes "you are who you hangout with" shit like that. am i a bad person? maybe. but i haven't hung out with those two in months. mostly because ive established my time with my closer friends and the ones i talk and hangout with today.to summarize what they both did to her cousin>both friendzoned her throughout high school>one got hands on her while she was drunk>the other told her that theyd be nothing more than just fuck buddies>both put her in the worst state of mind where shes now boy centered and doesnt care what both of them did to her as long as they fuck. i hate to admit but everyone there is in the wrong. she dug her on grave and lost her self control over the years. alcohol gives you the stupidest decisions. and those 2 friends of mine are retarded for going with her when theres other girls they can go mess with. they just see her as an easy option at this point. so i have to admit, all 3 of them are fucking retarded. but just because they all created their drama, doesnt mean im part of it. it's almost like im now part of it because everything i just said, was told to me by my girlfriend.
>>34979193>sometimes she can become immature of out pure pettiness. but she most of the time is mature. i just need to find the perfect time when we're both not at work or anything like that.This conversation has to be had face to face. There is not a 'perfect time' to have it, there is only one time. As for the situation regarding your (former) friends it sounds like a nothingburger, just dumb kids being dumb kids, assuming the drunk thing wasn't someone sober taking advantage of someone being blackout drunk. Yeah it's not nice to fuckzone someone if they like you, but that is just an unfortunate dynamic of a lot of FWB relationships, the fact that one them even openly said they were only going to be FWBs is a good thing, but I assume he said it somewhat tactlessly, but as a rule of thumb it is a good thing to be forward about intentions and expectations.
I wonder how she would react you to you posting on 4chan about how annoying she is while jerking off to anime porn
I’m just gonna send this to her but you will never know
Why did you rape her while she gets drunk? Quite a relationship
Just kidding but you should be careful OP. I the mad dreamer have a lot of power to ruin 8 billion lives but I don’t. Don’t ruin your life before 25
Imagine a world where man can walk side by side. That would be a site to see huh God. All this because I ate a fruit heheheheh
>>34979125>i haven't been feeling myself latelySo get someone else to do it for you
