a girl started working with me a few months ago.in that time she made me home cooked food, opened up about her past relationships, and showing choosing signals like finding excuses to touch you or your clothes.very recently, I broached the subject of hanging out outside of work, and she seemed receptive to it, but has seemingly made excuses to not set an exact date.(says she's busy even though she talked about hanging with her friends like three times in the last week.in a random conversation she says she's going somewhere. I ask with whomind you, I know about her family and her previous abusive ex-boyfriends, but somehow never a mention of her current one until now.This mirrors an experience with another girl that ended at texting because when I tried to ask her out she ghosted me for 3 weeks and then replied she only did so because "it would of been rude to her boyfriend" to respond to me in a timely manner. I've never been treated so warmly before, I finally thought someone was attracted to me, but what she really wanted was to feel pretty and desired by men other than her boyfriend. She said as much earlier in the day, that sometimes she doesn't feel pretty, likely fishing for validation from me.She kept asking me if something was wrong shortly after the conversation and I could barely look her in the eye when I told her I was fine.Every time a girl is nice to me I delude myself into thinking I have a chance until the rug is pulled from under me. This time is felt a little different, but ended all the same. I think I was actually led on this time.If a woman can try to make me feel this special without it meaning anything, how could I even tell if someone is actually attracted to me? What do I even do now with this one? Do I wretch out a smile and accept my spot in orbit? As of now my confidence has taken a serious blow because she made me feel wanted for being myself and there's no one else in my life that makes me feel this way.
fuck, I forgot to add, after I ask "with who?" she says she's going out with her boyfriend.kind of important, sorry I didn't proof read well enough.
>>35011594I feel like there is too much narrator bias to give any actual advice here. You just sound starved of female attention and if any girl gives it to you, then you start feeling limerence.Catching feelings sucks, but there's no cure, it just happens. You seen to be a nice enough guy that girls enjoy talking to you, so eventually someone will come along.I know it doesn't help, but women talk to their friends in a very intimate kind of way. It works with other girls, but to men this registers as "I like you" when it's probably not the case. I don't know your exact situation but this could be what's happening.
>workIs she getting/expecting some sort of favor from you for being nice to you? She's working with you. Is she sucking up to you as her boss?
>>35011594>If a woman can try to make me feel this special without it meaning anything, how could I even tell if someone is actually attracted to me?I went through this myself this year.You can’t let this experience teach you anything about women in general. Let it teach you what an unrepentant emotional manipulator looks like.Don’t blame it on all women. Blame it on her.It will be hard for you to trust as easily again, but that may be a good thing.You may have learned from this where your boundaries actually lie in relationships regarding communication and trust.>What do I even do now with this one? Do I wretch out a smile and accept my spot in orbit?Fuck no OP. Stop being her “friend”.This is a one-sided friendship, to put it lightly. Don’t bother making a dramatic exit, but emotionally disengage from her.Stop spending your free time on her. Let time pass, focus on yourself and before too long, you’ll start trying to meet other women.
>>35011594She's using you for attention retard. You made it clear when you said you're trying to push for more and she gave you every answer but yes, you're not gonna fuck her or be her sneaky link if that's your goal. I agree that bringing you food is a bit suss, but all that other shit is just what bitches do when they feel comfortable around you. Look at you, you're on 4chan pining over a woman whose taken and has had you on a bait line for her own amusement. Either she tells her friends about you or she tells her bf that some guy at work is crushing on her and that he's not even remotely on her radar. Learn now that a woman being nice to you doesn't mean shit. Her words mean nothing, her actions do and she's made no action of taking you seriously outside of work
>>35011645yeah exactly. OP had too much bias toward describing what hurt his feelings and didn’t provide enough description of her behavior for us to tell him the woman was 100% in the right and he’s a bad incel.
>>35011679she's like my assistant/helper. we both report to the same person and it's not like she's a slacker or anything.non zero possibility I guess. Thinking back to when I first met her, I think she said she wasn't seeing anyone, so it might actually be something new, and it might explain the kind gestures being fewer and farther between.I don't even know how to face her now. She wants to joke and smile and I feel like a cuck, being the emotional tampon for a girl while she's fucking some other dude. I've been fantasizing about being in a relationship with this girl after work, and she's probably getting her back blown out at the same time.>>35011693>She's using you for attention retard.It all clicked when she said "boyfriend." I've been asking "why" this whole time. I even told her when she started I feel guilty accepting gifts without reciprocating and she said "you can just accept it, I expect nothing in return."This went against all logic, so I assumed she was effectuated with me. Soon it was the other way around. I was fooled.>>35011712I am an incel, nigger. And what could I even omit that would change the situation I described. Seems you want to call me a liar in a roundabout way because you cannot accept women could be manipulative, solipsistic, or even just thoughtless.
>>35011737If it all clicked then why are you here then? That's your fucking answer genius. >me like girl>girl mentions other man>me no like girlIt's that fucking simple you twit, but let me guess, she's soooooo pretty and she's soooooo amazing! Buddy that's because you're around her for 8hrs a day, that's called proximity attraction and chances are she has it too. You're only worth shit when both of you are on the clock, outside of work and you're the same as a bum outside 7-11, she probably knows this hence why she's flaking on you. Once again, stop being stupid because a bitch is nice to you.
