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how do abusive men chose their targets?

how do i signal to abusive men that they can do what they want to me?

-hrt femboy
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>>35541301
have a damaged soul
you can't tell yourself if you have one
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>>35541301
these two
1. how quick they get attached (fast is good)
2. how badly do they want me to be happy / what will they put up with just because its me doing it
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>>35541301
you sound healthy
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>>35541301
im going to pin this because i need this info as well ty for making this thread
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>>35541301
you’re so real for this
>>35543272
yay good to know ty <3
i’ve been trying to not show how quick i actually get attached but i’ll be more open about it from now on
but i don’t think there’s any hiding how i’m willing to put up with pretty much anything once i like someone lol
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>>35543314
also the last guy i talked to for a bit i did literally both of these things >>35543272 and he was more wasnt willing to take advantage of me at all and blocked me cause i was too needy and mentally ill. how do i make sure the guy is actuallly an abuser.
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>>35543365
it'll scare away normies but abusers like it. i cant tell you for red flags to look for because i dont date men
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>>35541301
Abuse is just a power dynamic, the whole thrill of it is the chase and the victim resisting and hating it. Why would anyone enjoy abusing you if it makes you horny?
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>>35541301
Just be a fucking doormat with no self-esteem, abusers love it!
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>>35541301
>flinchiness, reactivity to loud noises, sudden unexpected touch, ect
>nervous eyes that scan a room
level of flusteredness when i (tall, large male) get close to them
>thin wrists
>thin neck
t. abusive male ama
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>>35543487
God, i want to kill you
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>>35543420
this is what makes me sad, i had a guy stop beating me once he figured out it was turning me on :(

what are the best ways to hide that i’m actually into the abuse? should i lament about past abuse at the start to make myself seem more like an easy target while also making it seem like i would hate it if that happened to me again?
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>>35543498
do you now? and why would that be?
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>>35543420
it depends. there's a kind of joy for everything, being forced and feeling pain, being forced and feeling pleasure, wanting and being denied, and not wanting and being left alone.
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>>35543487
i really like to see when guys admit to being abusive, it’s hot <3

how did you figure out you like being abusive? where do you go to look for targets? :)
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>>35543487
i have all these things like im very jumpy socially anxious and im short and borderline underweight and still cant find one eugh. do i just live in too nice a place where people are normal?? where did you meet the people youve abused if you dont mind saying im curious
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>>35543569
>still cant find one eugh
youre probably ugly then
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>>35541301
Abusing the willing is just BDSM.
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the problem is that so many of the :3-core behaviours that attract abusive men are just fucking annoying for everyone else.
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>>35543542
i don't "like being" absusive, it's just how i am. it's like a groove i fall into every time i make a decision, slowly pulling me towards codependance and using people unless i consciously resist it. this includes mate selection. i don't actually abuse anyone (anymore) because i'm trying to use that self control tk bring about long term change. the realixation that i /could/ abuse someone is basicallt instant, future victems basically have it written all over their faces, you can find them walking around basically anywhere.
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>>35543574
idk i have no issue finding guys to talk to who are interested in sex or a relationship but as soon as i drop pretense and act without filter they run away. its been like 4 different guys so far in the past couple years who ive talked to and met a bit and they get scared off
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>>35543569
online. i've spotted them other places, though
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what are we defining abuse as? free will is an illusion btw.
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>>35543605
>filter
do you mean you filter out your needy behavior in the beginning or end
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>>35543575
i think you’re misunderstanding the mindset here. being turned on by getting genuinely mistreated isnt “bdsm”
>>35543596
do you ever approach these people you see as easy victims? how do these types of situations typically begin? how far do they usually go?
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>>35543638
it's fun to be just a liiiittle bit off to them. act like any other guy but be a little too touchy, a little to familiar, a little to insistant that they stay right where they are by my side.
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>>35543679
basically like a little boy?
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>>35543694
>narcissists are... le emotionally immature??
if i wasn't i would he capable of normal relationships anon. i never claimed this was some glorious thing that set me apart from other people. i am worse because of it.
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>>35543711
i was just thinking that it's cute in a way.
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>>35543727
go to hell lol
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>>35543609
ig this makes sense since more deranged people are online usually
>>35543635
yes i try my best to not be be as mentally unwell at the start so they dont get scared instantly
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>>35543679
that is hot :)
fuck i wish the guys at lgbt bars weren’t so harmless. i wish there were more risky, scary guys to talk to. but it’s always so safe at the places i frequent, it has me so bored and unfulfilled. maybe i should start hanging around seedier places
>>35543711
no! don’t feel bad about it. narcissists are hot to me and i’d make you feel appreciated for those types of traits <3
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>>35543754
>enabling
lol cringe. if i acted on what i wanted to i would go for someone who hated me and the part kf then that drew them to me, but couldn't possibly leave me anyway.
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Is it malebrained that pic related is giving me flashbacks to that mission with the fucking searchlights in VC4? I think that's where I quit playing last time because I could never get the A rank. Fuck the Imps.
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>>35543799
ohh i see. ok i’ll keep that in mind then. i’m used to having to act enabling cause i’ve dated borderlines mostly and their type of abuse requires constant praise and reassurance that you don’t hate them and what they’re putting you through. so you’d want a girl who pushes back on those behaviors and seemed to dislike them? if a girl complained about a different narcissist in one of the first conversations you had with them, would that be a green light to you?
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>>35543799
hmm so we need to convince the abuser that we dont actually like it at all but still want them badly ? i see this is good to know
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>>35543743
sorry anon but he's right, i view narcissists and sociopaths as lesser and broken humans so your behaviour is endearing at times
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>>35543848
well, i would prefer that on a rational level she hated the idea of being abused, hated the idea of being hurt by me, but her body instinctively reacted to being treated in that way that she has no choice but to go along with all the terrible things i would do to her.
>>35543727
although i am kind of a sucker for when people call my shitty abusive fantasies cute, i'm a bit of a freak in that i'm exclusively a sadist but i have some switchy tendancies as well
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>>35541301
i need to replicate my relationship with my father with an abuser without him knowing how can i achieve this?
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>>35543927
like this. instant erection. i'm just a scsred helpless boy lashing out against the world the only way i know how (thanks dad), it's not my fault you can fix me i promise just give me lots of hugs and i'm sure i'll stop wanting to train you to flinch every time i raise my hand at you
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>>35543953
oh ookay i see so i should be excusing his behaviour because he has trauma and it can maybe be fixed? like is it a mommy issue thing that should be played into like that?
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>>35543932
>i'm a bit of a freak in that i'm exclusively a sadist but i have some switchy tendancies as well
what so it would turn you on if i forced you into being an object i used to harm myself?
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>>35543953
love between two broken souls is so beautiful
the amount of faggots on here with complete pornbrain who post on and on about wanting an """""abusive""""" boyfriend is so annoying these bitches would NEVER ride with true freaks they're all posers
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>>35544004
not an object, no. more like pull me out of repressing my sadism. make it obvious how much you want me to hurt you. bruise yourself and press my hand against it while you gasp. try to push me around as best you can with your weak little body until i get fed up and push you down and then grun ul at me to make the point of how easy it is to prevoke me into violence.
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>>35544044
oh i'm starting to see. what you're really into is the passionate drama of the tragic frailty of human will?
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>>35544090
that would be a fair analysis. i claim to want to be over this but by revealed preference (continuing to browse this board) i am still very much a slave to my desires.
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>>35544116
>i am still very much a slave to my desires.
we all are
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>>35543952
i like to give the people who fuck me my dad’s cologne to wear during sex
>>35543953
so i’m more confused than ever about how to find someone like you. i’m supposed to fall for the part where you’re super open and friendly at first but not like the scary parts that come down the line?
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>>35544162
i don't want to be found, retard.
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>>35544162
oh god lol my mom gave me a bottle of the same cologne my dad wears for my 15th birthday and i still have it lmao thatd be perfect
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>>35544175
well what the fuck why are you in this thread about how to find and attract abusive men then
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>>35544200
>your mom wanted teenage you to smell like your dad
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>>35544204
for validation presumably.
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>>35544226
uh i never thought of it like that desu. ig it is kinda weird
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>>35544175
don't respond to that trip, it's an insufferably pornbrained retard. spice 2.0
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>>35543502

Omg I really hope you find someone that takes it so far that it doesnt even turn you on anymore.. just leaving you broken and trapped. You really deserve it <3
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>>35544467
i agree :)
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>>35541301
Abusers want someone who is mentally weak. An hrt "femboy" is automatically out because you actually had the mental strength to go on hrt, go dress feminine etc as a boy. That's already too strong.
Also since you want to be abused it's bdsm and not abuse, another red flag for the abuser
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>>35541301
They like ya isolated - trans women across the country with no family and possibly no friend group are great for not having anyone wonder where they are for a few weeks instead of the same day.

Then they kook for that “doe vibe” - do you come across as prey? Look up psychology of this.

Then a bunch of other stuff, but if you can address those things, 80-90% of abusive men (dangerous too) will avoid ya for easier meat.
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>>35541301
there are probably scholarly reports from well-meaning organisations that could answer your question.
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>>35544934
>80-90% of abusive men (dangerous too) will avoid ya for easier meat.
this is true
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>>35544934
>with no family
god is this why they avoid me? i live with my older brother and we have a good relationship. i think ive told every guy this so far
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>>35544934
That's true!
My significant oder made me chose friends or him, so I isolated myself completely. Since he can provide I don't go to work either.
He just wants me to get intoxicated as much as possivle because he likes seing me struggle to talk and walk.

For me it was like I felt he was a little bit of a psycho from the beginning and when he started treatibg me like an abuser I showed submission.
I have thanked them many times for making me isolate and drink like an it-girl lol
I especially love the rough sex when I am barely concious
He even takes pics of me passed out or in my puke, wearing skimpy outfits, looking like rapemeat.
He plans on inviti g friends over and roofie me so I act all slutty for his friends and get my holes filled.
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>>35545526
envy
my brain is so fucking retarded
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>>35545710
I really hope you find someone that gives your life purpose.
I truly believe that as a stupid tranny I deserve it and I am soo glad rhat I am the victim and not a real woman!
It's time for my hourly shot now :)
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>>35546078
>I really hope you find someone that gives your life purpose.
you shouldn't say stuff like that to others
it's really damaging...
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>>35546640
are you better off healthy than abused in a world that structures the standards of health in accordance with it's own total perversion?
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>>35544934
since my best friend is out healing from FFS until june, now would be the perfect time for someone to abuse me cause no one is keeping track of me. and i def think the brain damage from meth and popper abuse has given me the doe eyes
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>>35541301
i’m not too sure, but i think you have to come across as not wanting it. you need to be very lovey with them, and show them that you depend on them fully. don’t be too negative about yourself, but display that you have a poor self image and need praise from other people. also, establish abandonment issues, if the abuser believes you’re scared of being dumped, they will possibly use that as a bargaining chip if you ever stop obeying.
i hope you don’t end up in a relationship like this, i’m certain deep down you know it would not be good for you, but you still want it anyway. i know because i'm in the same boat. rape is a disgusting vile thing, but part of me wants it to happen so i have proof someone wants me. stay safe out there!
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>>35546640
I would actually be sooo happy if ppl would do the same thing to me.
Saying stuff that helps me nurture a mindset that is damaging, all while I giggle and think i am so happy to have the worst things happen to me lol
This thread was opened exactly for stuff like that and not for healthy things.
Please accept that there are super dumb idiots that want to be victims
Not joking: in my opinion supressing sexualities like that leads to abusers looking for non consenting victims ( see fucking guantanamo bay- stuff I jerk off to, imagining it happen to me) bc they cant imagine a dynamic with someone who says "thank you" after getting that kind of torture.

Please just look the other way round when victims manipulate other victims into joining. They would still do it anyways but this way they have their little flashbacks to foreshadowing moments when they are trapped lol

Dont make society worse lol

Time for another shot, my boyfriend clmes home in 30mins and I am still not wasted enuff for his liking :(
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>>35546682
Hahahaha you abuse meth and poppers? What a good girl!
Do you only like men?
Bc if not we could do like a battle who gets wasted worse for my cisf mistress to laugh at.
How much time do you have to get trapped? :)
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>>35546880
ayo i ain’t about that poly shit
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>>35546891
Lmao what an idiot. There would be nothing amorous lmao only abuse
But its fine, real victims are very very rare. Big talkers on the other hand..
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>>35546854
based and thank you
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>>35541301
Get this off my chest. I'm very much romantically and sexually attracted to trans women and femboys, but they are typically the people i hurt the most. I've spent countless hours online stalking and harassing them. Flirting with them, getting mad at them, saying awful things to them. I hate it. I want to stop. But it's honestly mostly because i grew up religious and my sexual attraction to them is what fucks with me. I want to indulge in it but i can't. Nor do i feel it's socially acceptable to do so. I just want to be balls deep in a feminine person with a penis and fill them up with my cum but i can't. Online dating does nothing for me and i'm too autistic to go outside.

If you feel the same way or have dealt with people like me before, please reply to this and try to help me figure myself out or how to deal with my issues. Thank you. PS i know a lot of you are gonna say "egg" or something like that, since lots of chasers end up being gay or trans, but i don't feel that way. I want to BE with one, not BE one. You know?
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>>35541301
Be weak
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>>35547039
Awww don't say thank you
Tell me to binge drink so my partner gets hard when they come home. Being a set of holes is my only purpose
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>>35547048
Please find a tranny/femboy you can punish for being agttracted to them. It will be such a good outlet.
Hatefucking is a super great coping strategy.
If you find a willing victim you will have such a great sex life.

You stalk and harass themm can you tell me how? Please, I want to jerk off to it, imagining it would happen to me :(
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>>35543487
How tall
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>>35547008
im not interested in fucking around with couples, and im not interested in abuse from someone i don’t love
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>>35541301
THe sad thing is that 90% of abuse victims are like this, self hating pussies who literally seek out and reward their abusers for treating them like shit because they equate pain with love and violence with power. OP, youre a degenerate subhuman and you deserve whatever you get from the next shitheel you latch on to like the parasite you are
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>>35547048
ok, why do you still feel it’s wrong to do so? i can’t imagine you’re still religious right? most of the time stuff like this needs to be directly addressed. people tend to feel like “god is still watching and judging” them. if this is you, then you need to i would recommend logically going through these thoughts when you encounter them. ask yourself why you feel bad about this, and if you really should. sometimes acknowledging the compulsion to feel bad is enough to begin getting better.
>>35547098
also this is hot, can i get some action as well?
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>>35547156
what’s sad about it? abusive people exist and we appreciate them. it’s symbiotic
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>>35547156
I am totes like that too and you are so right lmao
I got abused when i was little. And thats why I behave like that :)
I kinda think its funny that its an endless cycle lmao
But look thebonly other way would be to bohoo about having been abused.
Instead I sexualized it
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>>35547136
Don't worry, I dont really care about you :)
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>>35547290
oh no whatever will i do? a random anon tweaker cuck doesn’t care about me….
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>>35547202
Its not symbiotic. Here's what usually happens IME
>"victim" gets with abuser
>the toxicity of the relationship is totally obvious to everyone but the "victim" insists that their abuser is actually totally a good guy
>"victim" eventually reaches a breaking point, usually caused by the abuser either hurting them too badly or cheating on them
>"victim" runs to friends/family (who aren't allowed to say "I told you so" because that would be insensitive) to cry and beg support
>suddenly the obviously toxic relationship that the "victim" entered into willingly and knowingly and constantly defended to you is now YOUR problem

This exact sequence has been borne out in front of me multiple times with multiple different people. At a certain point you realize that both the abuser and the abused have the same soulless, inhuman outlook, only with the roles inverted.
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If you actually look for abuse.. you will find it
Most of the self pitty tranny will be glad about ANYONE who gives them attention lmao they dont even get abusers bc they are that much of a loser
Just be a funny victim. The thing is.. that means experience with abusers.
Cant give you a 101 on how to attractvabusers lmao. They sense easy victims.
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>>35547337
i’ve been that victim several times too. just don’t cheat on me idk that’s like my one breaking point
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>>35547346
Yes except for the last part.
I never made it someone elses problem
And I ALWAYS went back to my abuser, so much that even my mother calls it love altho I ended up with black and blue eyes a few times lol

Yes, yes the victim is as much of a bad guy, if not even worse!
We egg on our abusers
Even if they are good guys, we make them abuse us
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>>35547380
This was meant as response to>>35547337
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>>35547318
Aww cant even get abused lmao
What a L.O.S.E.R
Now please instead of answering me write your therapist lmao
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>>35547337
>both the abuser and the abused have the same soulless, inhuman outlook, only with the roles inverted
Yup, well put
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>>35547380
You make it the world's problem by enabling your abuser. People who abuse their partners didn't just start there and don't just stop there, they abuse friends, coworkers, family etc. Because thats just their mentality. You validate this approach by rewarding it with love and affection, you feed the egos of bullies because you have no sense of right and wrong, only respect for violence and power.
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>>35547488
dude what are you 40
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>>35543799
fuck … this would probably work on me
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>>35547098
>>35547167
Well, i usually try to flirt or befriend them at first. No matter how it ends up, eventually i reveal to them my true side. The homophobic and transphobic side. And say heartless things to them. Name calling, threats, lots of messed up stuff. But at the same time i kinda get attached to them and feel sad once they block or unfriend me. I wish i could hatefuck my pain away into some bussy ngl
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>>35547551
How is that an insult?
Once I am 40 I would be on hormones for 25yrs and looking like any other middle aged women, since I pass now with 26yrs.
It is only an insult to be a john 50 repper, not to be a mature women.
What a loser thinking everyone worries about aging like you do.
My guess is you are mid 30s and still manmoding?
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>>35547740
lay off the crystals faggot your posts are nearly illegible
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>>35547679
are you really transphobic and homophobic though? from the way you’ve talked about it, i don’t think you believe what you say. are you scared of intimacy? do you use this idea that you’re a bigot to keep others away? you obviously care about them, and truly feel attracted to them, but you back out before anything deeper can happen.
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>>35547536
I am really sorry if you think that, but I kinda find it positive that you turn on the victim <3 i like that!
I hope I teach my abusers that they can do what they want with willing victims.
My owner has said multiple times that they have much more control in their daily life, knowing they can take it out on me later.
I also keep them from seof harm by being the one who acts out the self harming behaviour in a funny way. By binge drknking for example..
I don't want to seem needy but I kinda like your input so much, it helps me to see it from a different point of view.
Is there anything you would like to add/would like someone like me to know?
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>>35547679
Ugh fuck I am so drunk and needy omg but can I send you my discord so you can do this to me?
It would be so hot to get to see some real trans and homophobia.
I swear I won't block you but only fuel that side
I also think i look kinda hot.. but you can also just call me names and block me if you dont think so <3
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>>35547763
Dude you are talking to yourself lmao
I don't touch meth while you said you abuse it.
I really hope you get what you deserve, abuse would defenitely just be the beginning hon
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>>35547835
Hard to say honestly. I don't want to be this way, i just kinda am. I fall into it very easily. I don't get what i want from someone and i go crazy mode.
>>35547912
Well that person in the photo sure does look attractive, but i've been hurt too many times from femboys and transgirls in discord or in games. Sorry but i'm just not in the place right now of mind to take you on. Plus i'm trying to be a better person, not feed my rage. Also you might be a hacker or troll
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>>35547536
Also it totally is not true that I have no sense of right and wrong.
I really do have it
But when it comes to me.. I forget it.
Like it totes is a learned behaviour from my childhood, but I also learned there is nothing I could do to escape this situation. So I started sexualizing it and romanticizing it and everything :) my abusers always started to have fun with me then and it turned into more of a stockholm syndrome thing <3
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>>35547968
you’re not this way anon. someone who was that way would have taken up (>>35547912)’s offer and wouldn’t have the recognition and desire to change as you do. there’s a good person at your core, just waiting to come out. what exactly do you mean by
> I don't get what i want from someone and i go crazy mode
i thought you indulged in that behaviour once you got what you wanted from them, since it made you feel bad for doing so, and you took it out on them. it may seem hollow and superficial, but i really do want you to get better, introspection is an important part in that. take a little break to really dig deep as to why you do this, and why you feel the way you do, you’re already doing good by asking for help.
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>>35547968
Ugh, its fine
Lmao yes I am the hacker named 4chan, don't tell anyone.
I am actually giggling rn bc I am sooo computer illiterate that the idea of beang a hacker is soo stupid haha
If anyone else wants to have fun, discord is: piggy_fuckdoll

And two more twings.
If it gets your cock rock hard to be like that.. why not indulge
If trannies are your only victims I think everyone will look the other way or even joke about it (which I love so much.. ppl casually joking about being mean bullies)

(This is torally not the alcohol talking, I totally am not a masochistic freak and this is all just roleplay ofc)
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>>35547953
please learn how to handle rejection with grace and dignity instead of autistically spazzing out. go talk to your gf if she actually exists
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>>35548101
And to add.. thank god this site is anonymous.
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>>35548117
you were flirting with that mf in the beginning of the thread lmao
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>>35548117
Wow yes you are so right.
I felt totally rejected,you are actually that important to me.
How will i ever handle you, a faceless anonymous tranny on 4chins, rejecting me
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>>35548179
..And they think i am the one who is tweaking on meth lmao
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>>35548101
actually fighting my urges to give in. You're hot as fuck and i want some of that in my life. But pp is bad. I need to control myself. I don't want to be mean to you. But if i add you i may be nice to you idk
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>>35548258
anon, you know what’s gonna happen if you add her as well as i do. with that said, i won’t stop you. ultimately, it’s your decision if you want to feed the urges or not. if you’d like, i can give my discord so you have someone to vent to, if not, i wish you well on the road to recovery.
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>>35548258
Just trust in yourself.
What is one more time?
Ofc you can always be nice to, you could encourage me to down more shots while I send you some spicey pics.
I would upload them here but I always get banned from hornygen, even for the censored ones.

Please dont listen to people who talk about recovery. If you are an actual sadist.. The healthy thing is not to repress but to find sone way to life it out happily and consensual, so you can supress those urges when they arise in social contexts and not abuse someone who doesnt deserve it!
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>>35548258
anon, does she >>35548430 sound like she has your best interest in mind? encouraging you to relapse. you want to get better, you know this deep down. if you didn’t you wouldn’t be here, right? you wouldn’t have asked for help. look at your past self and learn from his mistakes. don’t let his efforts go in vain. look the self you desperately want to be in the eyes and tell him your choice. watch him smile and well up with tears if you tell him you want to be like him, or watch his face fall destitute as you deny him his right to live. you know the right choice, i believe in you
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>>35548552
Regardless, i'm too scared to add her. I want to, but it will only end in bad things. Either i'll treat her badly or she'll end up being a troll or something. I wish a genuinely real femboy or transgirls would show interest in me, for who i truly am and accept how unattractive i am
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>>35548552
I am just teasing!
Dont make this out to be like something big.
First of all.. having to push someone isnt really what turns me out. I lose interest quickly since I do this for quick validation.
Dream scenario would have been:him getting a hard on and not controlling himself but acting on his urges

You acting like this can only be unhelpfull triggers me honestly.
So far my answers have been in a horny and ditzy mood but.. ugh
I honestly think it can be therapeutic to act out those behaviours if "aftercare" is involved. With that I mean reflecting on it all.
From what i have seen.. the classical sadist has had some traumatic experience
The reason they want to see others suffer is curiosity..
How does someone else act, presented with a similar struggle. And if they handle it too well, preasure usually will be increased until they suffer.
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>>35548798
you made the right choice, well done. i’m not exactly the best looking myself, but i am a tgirl. i understand if you want distance, if you want to wait to feel better, but if you want to talk i'm open to adding you. i take no offence either way. enjoy becoming who you deserve to be, i hope the best for you
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>>35548798
At least you posted a cute cat pic. I am satisfied with that too..
Also my euphoria from drinking wears off anyway slowly.

Are you a cis dude? Bc then its honestly not too hard to have some other good qualities.
Humor, making someone feel safe, making someone feel special.. looks are an easy way to get a foot in the door but not everything.
With all that being said.. i dont want love but validation, so for me looks are almost everything. Sry
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>>35548844
I might add you yeah. I"m always open to finding an outlet for these pent up ideas i have. I can't vent to anyone really since all my family is religious and all my online friends are conservative retards lol.
>>35548884
I'm Cis yes. God i hate that word. I'm a natural born male, a real male, a biological one. Don't say Cis lol it's gay as fuck. Honestly i want both love AND validation. Looks come second.
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>>35548844
You did it!
Instead of having a quick orgasm, my man now feels bad for his desires. Feels kinda wholesome in a christian way lmao
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>>35543596
>future victims basically have it written all over their faces, you can find them walking around basically anywhere
can you describe this?
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>>35548988
read the thread
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>>35548922
awesome, i don’t much care for my username being in the archive, can i post an unsee?
>>35548937
it’s ok to have desires, and i agree that in some cases acting them out in a safe controlled environment is best, but anon didn’t want that.
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>>35548922
How exactly is this person different from religious family? Will they tell you anything other than feeling bad? Is it because this person acts as if they actually care or you hoping they at least seem to do as they preach?

I dont get why you would rather talk to someone who tells you to supress your desires, rather than living them consensual lmao.

>God i hate that word.
>I'm a natural born male
>a real male, a biological one. Don't say Cis lol it's gay as fuck

Ngl that kinda made me squirmish.
But I am so sorry, you are so right, I didnt want to make you feel gay, I am the fag after all :)
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>>35549010
As I read it:
My man is in a religious environment
Has to supress his urges
Is afraid to be unmanly
Overcompensates it in a sadistic way

Why not let him call me a faggot and enrage him a little in a playfull way until he has let off steam and then talk abt how to handle shit so he can integrate all those complex aspects of life?
I mean you do you. At the end of the day I dont think its unreasonable to assume all my abusers (that I got that deep with) gaslighted me about it being helpfull lol so take whatever I say as something maybe coming from someone with a little bit of a skewed perspective... bc I really sexualized all the abuse lol
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>>35549094
he feels bad whenever he indulges. letting him do so now would only perpetuate his problem. the talk about why he feels this way and how to not should come first, otherwise when he indulges he may push you away and thus not get better. i believe this approach is best, but i admit i may be wrong.
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>>35549020
It doesn't make me feel gay it's just that i disagree with modern day gender norms. There are only 2 genders.
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>>35549161
I mean dude.. he should feel bad if he is trans and homophobic towards people that dont like it.. and treatening them too..
It's actually kinda psycho shit but in a certain context it can be hot.
For some reason he wants to confront people with stuff like that. To get a reaction. Why not make it lead to hatefucking and then get clear and talk like two grown adults.
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>>35549227
I am too stupid to care about gender norms to be honest. I just wanna be cute and desireable
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>>35549276
yeah. yeah. up until he said that stuff about cis and real, i was hoping he was just a little messed up. ironically, i has broken bird syndrome this time. i truly did want him to get better, i get why you wouldn’t believe me, but i did. i agree, that transphobic stuff can absolutely be hot in the right situation, i literally have a misgendering kink, but he doesn’t see it that way. i know talking to him will only really bring me down, and not bring him up. on a more personal level, i also sexualized my abuse as a coping mechanism, i think we are more alike then we are different. stay safe!
anon, if you’re reading this. i still believe you can get better, but you have to stop being homophobic and transphobic to do so.
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>>35549010
nta but if you want a hotter and more socially confident anon to talk to you how you wanted, post that unsee
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>>35549345
bro i'm depressed as fuck reading all this shit back. Like it kinda hurts to know i'm disappointing even to the people who i try to mock. I'm not as bad as i come off to be i guess. I truly do want to solve my issue. But seeing how you people react to my last comment, i'm honestly feeling even more outcast than when i first came in here.
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>>35549345
Dunno but that was kinda harmless to me.
In the end, I would find it interesting to talk to the guy but he probs won't message me.
The perspective how bad he should feel is the norm so he shouldnt have a problem finding someone who judges him if he needs another perspective than mine.
Sorry but "I too sexualized my abuse" sounds a bit like how do you do fellow kids to me lol
Not doubting you, the way you brought it up just seems not too organic lol
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>>35549493
honestly bro you're kind of a dick. I'm the one getting these girl's attention and you come in here claiming you're "hotter' and "more socially confident" ? Man it's people like you that make me hate people. I'm the Anon everyone is talking about and you try to come and swoop away the few girls that are showing me some interest or whatever. I feel like a fucking joke.
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>>35549543
it took you over an hour to respond dude and it was to me instead of the gal youre talking to lmao. and sorry man you just gave me that vibe im sure youre a cool guy and all that. plus girls can chat with multiple people so dont be too autistic about it my friend
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>>35549513
Now dont make it sadder than it is lol
Its an anonymous board.
Please dont take things as too meaningfull. See it a ttaining mode.
This time the convo left you feeling shitty.
Next time you might feel better.
Anyways post more cats pls
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>>35549493
after a day like today, a little break would be nice.

https://unsee cc/album#mkOjG8jyieOo

>>35549513
well, the unsee is there. i’ll give you a chance. i believe people can change, but i’m not gonna ruin my mental health for you.
>>35549530
that’s fair desu. i was just trying to find a middle ground.
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>>35549543
Now you know how I felt when you didnt add me </3
Broken hearts all over the place lol
Now lets talk abt something less awkward maybe

Also my guy took the L anyway, he answered the one who said "she doesn't look good" instead of me
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>>35549566
I'm off work spending my time wasting it away listening to femboy asmr on youtube right after going gorilla mode on my fleshlight pretending it's a femboy. Of course i'm not happy. I'm miserable. I hate this existence and having minor competition in the slightest way for female attention is what pushes me over the edge. It's like touching a nerve, it angers me beyond words. Fuck that faggot. Fuck all these faggots. Maybe i'm right. Maybe i should just turn full homophobie and transphobe afterall. I mean atleast then i'd feel like i understand myself more. If no one wants to help me or make my dick shoot, then why even bother. I'm not an extremist, but deep down i've gotten kinda happy or fulfilled when watching gore videos of tranny and gay executions. Or even just general hatred or physical damage towards lgbt people. Thank god for the internet. Not only can i jerk it to them on pornhub but also watch em die lol.

OK see that. That's what i mean. I let my anger take over. Like i shouldn't be posting this information. But it's truthful. It HAS been something in my past. And i'm not sure how to change it.
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>>35549587
girls with low self-esteem are more fun
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>>35549622
You havent seen me after a few drinks and being called an ugly faggot lol
Just kidding, have fun
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>>35549640
i'll just close my eyes then
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>>35541301
I think I am just naturally abusable. Nobody really likes me, they will only tolerate me but if I even do one thing wrong they will completely flip out on me like a sociopath or something. I am short and weird though. People just laothe my existence
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>>35549618
Now that sparks my interest and probably is proof of my taste in men... but kinda hot lol.
Its anonymous qnyway lmao but there is some german content thats basically.. hatespeech against trannies, paired with hot images and stuff like that. Meant to trap ppl like me in a self hate spiral.
Loved being forced to watch it and feel like shit for cumming buckets to it and wanting to be the victim lol

So I get that.
Just dont snap at random people please.
There is trannies that will let you punch them in the face and say thank you.
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>>35549653
Is this meant to be an insult?
Srsly I am maybe alrdy a bit drunk lol
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>>35549714
>Is this meant to be an insult?
no
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>>35549700
sounds really nice if i could consenually abuse a cute boy or tranny but cuddle them afterwards and give them endless kissies and rubs. Too bad i'm me. If i looked like someone else or had someone else's personality i might actually achieve my dreams of being married to a boywife and living together. Honestly filled me with so much power when i'd bully vrchat trannies in their safe spaces. They would get so emotional and teary. Their anger and sadness was something else. Made my heart feel otherworldly.
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>>35549727
anon, i’m offering you know? did you miss it? or do you just not want me after what i said
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>>35549785
I honestly don't know man. I"m autistic and i'm also self sabotaging. As much as i want to talk to you in private, i'm also afraid to do so. That and i don't trust you. Sorry i'm a stupid guy who doesn't know how to get what he wants in life, but i don't see it changing anytime soon. I like your offer, but i'm too paranoid to try and find out if it's genuine or not. I wish i was normal
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>>35549865
it’s ok, good luck anon, in spite of my outburst, i’m rooting for you
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>>35549876
i don't know how to describe this feeling. It's like watching the girl you oggled all throughout highschool run away and get married to the jock. Meanwhile you're just sitting there watching your lost memories disappear over the horizon. But they were never real to begin with. I had no chance. But maybe i will try and addd you on discord idk. Part of me wants to do so but i also kind of want to lay down and forget about the world for a few hours.
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>>35549908
well, you can write my username down and think about for a few hours, just make sure to have a screenshot of a reply of mine so i know who you are. there is no need to rush into something if you’re not comfortable, i want to help you, not bring you more harm
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Why are abusive men so often just insecure autists?
I have to be honest and say woman abuse better.
They need to be more manipulative since they usually are the physically weaker ones.
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>>35548101
sent you a request if you’re still looking for someone hot and aggressive to degrade you.
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>>35543581
so what the fuck do i do? i cant just stop doing this shit
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>>35552422
trial and error /shrug
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>>35550127
women make abusive men lel
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thread full of broken worthless humans
you'll all cause your own young death and the world will be a better place for it. don't keep the devil waiting
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>>35549908
you are a bit of a loser who fumbled two tranners that wanted to talk to you. its ok because i added them instead
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>>35542311
>>35543272
yup these three ended up with multiple people fucking with me
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The older /abusegen/s were better
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>>35554817
this
this board is irredeemable trash now, it's literally all twitterfags
i don't know where else to go
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>>35543487
ily ily ily ily ur by far the best poster this boards ever had
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>>35542311
does ur soul stay damaged after u die?

>>35543581
those just attract e-sexers that shit up social spaces to coom over eachother theyre not actually abusive relationships. i mean most abuse victims or potential abuse victims arent anywhere near outgoing enough to be like that, and when they are they usually ghost wherever they do it pretty quickly
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Just woke up re-reading the messages..
Fml i was so wasted yesterday :)

Its funny to see a lot of armchair psychologists here.
No, not everyone is annoying irl just bc they r an easy victim lol.
I am usually pretty competent, social and pretty likeable from what other people told me.
But if I get triggered into the submissive mindset.. i basically turn into a needy puppy.
And that can be annoying for people that dont want to take advantage of me. Gladly I am pretty good at getting found by abusers lol
Also shit like not outgoing.. you rly have no clue..
Most of the severe cases of masochism that really get off to being abused I know are hypersexual whores, that have had something happen in early childhood.

The non outgoing one, the annoying one.. those are types of personalities and may be part of how they have handled their experiences.
The "innocent" victim some people think they need to portrait to get abused usually attracts damaged guys. Like the autist last night.
Thats really not hot.
I personally never played the innocent but i made it clear that i know whats going on but still can't away bc my broken mind says I deserve that treatment and that its hot how heartless they are just to have "fun".
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>>35555833
>Also shit like not outgoing.. you rly have no clue..
>Most of the severe cases of masochism that really get off to being abused I know are hypersexual whores,
key term being "I know". you don't know the ones that aren't like that
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>>35556133
Yes, I make it clear that I speak of personal experience and that ppl differ. and not like some, act as if abusers nd victims are monoliths and all the same as each other.
But whatever, most of the ppl here dont seem to have much experience anyways
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>>35556381
yeah, true, this place is 99.9% posers nowadays
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>>35541301
Ask, simply, honestly. Would you like to abuse me Sir?
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>>35556627
That's true but it is very hard to find people in general that are really limitless.
99% of people tell me at some point that it's too extreme what I do.
When my abuser tells me I am fat and should go and puke.. how I get told I have to imagine the flushing as applause..
But the thing is.. the ones that do get hard when i talk about my abuse really really push me to accept my place.
The thing i love most is when i have my "clear" moments and become a litlle bit frightened and strangers tell me how much it amuses them.
For me it is a helpless situation bc my abuser really knows how to manipulate me and use triggers to fuck with me..
I assured my abuser that even if I manage to get away.. they would just need to send a letter with the perfume they wear for our sessions.. and i would be right back. Even if they told me they are going to beat me senseless, I couldnt resist..
I would really love for other people getting trapped the same way <3
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>tfw too beefy to get abused
built like a linebacker, I could overpower anyone who tried... and that sucks!
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>>35547131
90th percentile or so.
>>35555501
love you too, sweetheart.
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>>35543487
Soo hot

You said ama..
So ermm.
Do you like it more to have an unwilling victim..that is left traumatized afterwards.. stuff like making trannies suicidal on an anonymous bord 4 example..
Or someone who giggles along stupid until you overstep their boundries. Still traumatized by it but they learn to accept it and sexualize it

Apatethic toy that doesnt put up a fight or slut that giggles while you put a rope around her neck
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>>35557574
both. fuck. keep talking.
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>>35556933
I don't know what that means
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>>35556933
Whatever I do now just give me cm or meters please. 90th percentile does not tell me much except you're tall
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>>35557611
Well i am the second one
Rn I am working towards alcohol addiction
My owner wants to see me indulge like a greed pig lol
But I also get turned on by innocent victims getting fucked with
I feel truly sorry for them but get why people get rock hard doing it to the stupid whores lol
I love to be like...pushing other trannies along and watch them get trapped.. but at the end it gets me as well lol bc its fun to fuck with stupid trannies lol we should be stand ins for real woman anyways.
An euqal society is only possible with a someone to take outvthe anger on.i would love to get hatefucked by a bull so he later can be romantic with their cis partner, not having to objectify them
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All I can say as a drunk tranny is:thanks for all the abuse. Ttabsphonia shows you think about how to get to me and how to really hurtvme. Thats only possible if we are close <3
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>>35543487
>ama
how do u feel abt the idea of drugging someone/getting them high (knowingly or unknowingly) to take advantage of them
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>>35556933
*6* FEET?? theres no way ur real ur too perfect r u an angel
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Generally, sadists and masochists just have a magnetism that draws them together. The tells aren't really articulable.

t. masochist who has dated multiple sadists
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>>35546854
>please accept that there are super dumb idiots that want to be victims
There's an even more taboo layer to this that even people in BDSM spaces don't like to talk about, which is that for some people, only in finding someone to hurt/be hurt by do they find a sense of peace. That sort of relationship can literally somehow make both people involved in it far more functional than they were before.
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>>35562744
Yees totally!
Like what i have gets called abusive so much by ppl in the bdsm community. Just want others to be happy for me tho :(



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