I mostly had subs in mind typing this but I suppose responses from doms might be even more interesting as using a safeword is usually seen as a "bottom" thing to do.I'm a khv so I've never had any first hand experience with kink. People keep talking about having a safeword which is great but never about the lead up / what happens after tapping out besides the obvious "you use it when you feel uncomfy" and "aftercare" respectively, so any actual stories? Have you ever had to use a safeword / the traffic lights? If so, does it happen often? What caused you to use it? How did your partner react? What did you do afterwards?
>>35697270i can't contribute beyond this greentext i saw a few years ago from the perspective of a top who DIDN'T respect the established (nonverbal) safe word
>>35697375i meant to link the thread, but i forgothttps://archiveofsins.com/lgbt/thread/22156366/
>>35697270No, I never needed a safeword in that sense. There were situations where my bf did hurt me, but it always was sufficient to ask him to stop, like "please stop, you are hurting me". Maybe it works better if you say it as as a full sentence, but otherwise idk. Bump for answers.
>>35697270in my experience most of the time a bottom uses a safeword you can ignore it
>>35697375Ughhh i know that would fucking suck, ive literally had that happen to me and it's awful, but reading that made me sooo turned on fuck
>>35697375>>35697428actually making me scared to start hooking up cuz what if i get a grug like this
>>35697428If I use a safeword, its because I need you to stop NOW, and if you don’t ill bite down as hard as I can until you do
>>35697270Cis male top with CNC and breath play kink here. Literal safewords often don't work well because there's a lot of sex acts that make it very difficult to speak. Even something as simple as getting dicked good makes it difficult to form words, and the line between pleasure and getting hurt is often too slim to wait for a full word to get out. It's best to have a physical gesture. Like my recent FtM twink bf used to double tap my forearm for thigh if he wanted me to immediately stop. I would also immediately stop if he ever start coughing. I had another partner that would give a thumbs down if he wanted me to stop. Safe words/gestures happen quite often in rough, kinky sex and that's good thing. In fact, giving someone a break can resensitize them to make the act feel even more intense.
>>35697450That sounds really hot, but in a cnc way. Like imagine having a fake safeword that you can use and pretend that your bf ignores it and fucks you harder, but then a real safeword too. I find the comfort in the knowledge that my boyfriend really cares about me and wouldn't actually hurt me the hottest part of it honestly.
>>35697467if you use a safeword you're a dumb bottom and if you bite me I'm gonna punch you in the stomach you dumb bitch
>>35697905You think that’s a deterrent?
>>35697905please tell me doms aren't like this irl
>>35698282good ones are
>>35697270Our safeword is Danny Devito
>>35697270had to do a few timesi would feel bad because of the things that happened— vulnerable and hurtbut, the comfort and assurance from the other person was still nice...
>>35697428you have no experience and someone should shove a live grenade in your urethra
>>35697905Please lose your virginity before posting further comments
>>35697270If my girls says stop, i stop. So thats the safeword.
>>35697905i hope you do this to someone unhinged enough to retaliate by shooting you and eating your corpse
>>35697428unironically true. just have bwc and swag and they will end up forgetting like they do with everything else in their life.
>>35698761what if she says stop but doesn't want you to stop
>>35698875Then why would she say stop?
>>35698875no i dont play games like that. If i hear the words no or stop i am putting my pants back on and get back on discord to vc with my friends
>>35698887trannies want to get raped
>>35698918i want you to die a gruesome death
>>35698887sometimes it's excitingthat's why you have a safe word, for when you actually need to stop
>>35698940of course, it's worth noting that this is explicitly discussed beforehand, and both parties know from the beginning that it's roleplay
>>35697428Obvious trollIf you ignore a safeword you are a rapist.This isn't a discussion, nor will I debate about it. Disgusting.
>>35698805can i shoot you and eat your corpse
>>35697428next time you clean, blend all of your products together in a big bowl and dunk your head in it jew
>>35697270I'm not super into BDSM, but when I do it I'm a dom.Safewords are kinda whatever to me. It just means we take a breather, I gently kiss them a bit and help them get out of character, then we either pick it back up or just have normal sex (which I kinda prefer desu). I've never put someone in such a bad situation that we've had to fully give up on being intimate, but I've also never done any super-extreme kinks.I once had a relationship end because she didn't use a safeword when she should have (she wanted to tough it out because she thought I wanted that from her. I did not), and then she started resenting me for not respecting boundaries that she never communicated. She apologized for it later on when she realized that was bullshit, but we'd already broken up by then. So yeah, please use them instead of breaking our hearts, we don't actually want to hurt you.
>>35698823so many trannies are getting offended but they all secretly love it
>>35697428if you ignored my safeword I would probably cum
>>35699329you can love cnc and still know that safewords are importantthey're not mutually exclusive
>>35699373good girl
So basically if you respect the safe word your sub has power over you, and if you don't you go to jailFuck subs
>>35699556Welcome to the reality of being a dom. It's not actually about us or our pleasure, it's a production we put on for the sub's enjoyment, in which we happen to also get out rocks off.
>>35697375>rapes trannybut how do i repair relationship tho
>>35699628relationships are about mutual enjoymentthe sub submits for the tops enjoyment, and the top respects the sub's boundaries in order not to disturb their enjoyment
Pro tip, if you think you're about to push them over the edge but still wany to finish you can choke them hard. They wont be able to say anything or bite you. They might be a bit mad later but you can easily gaslight them into accepting an apology>babe i didn't know you didn't say anything i'm sorry>you said you like it rough, its your fault>yes i accept your apologyAs long as you make them cum they will get over it.
>>35699924cut your dick off
My partner and I have one but never had to use it because a) she's pretty tough b) I'm not a complete retard and know how to pace a scene that she can keep up with endurance wise More of a thing for playing with strangers whose limits you don't know imo
>>35699970I'm not a troon
>>35699924my caged dick got so hard reading this, but he's right... bottoms submit to real men
>>35699286You sound like a really nice dom. i hope i can find someone like you when it comes to it :)
>>35699373sorry babe the t-shirt stays on during sex
>>35699993You need to relax. What's What's the point of a safeword? Its to make the bottom feel like they have some control. But its all bs, its like a lucky charm for old mexican ladies, its not real. They never had any control, they were always at the doms mercy.And when its over and they wake up feeling relaxed, cummed in and not dead they will realize they were never in any real danger, feel safe and get over it.
>>35700014didn't ask
>>35697270my sub's safeword is the n-word
>>35700207If you violate the safe word knowingly you're a rapist. Rope
>>35700207please be larp please be larp
>>35700207Also you're a faggot snitch.
>>35700207if you neglect the responsibilities of the dom, you deserve none of the benefits
>>35697428>
>>35700365That wasn’t me, you probably just triggered some bot posting that on the troonboard. Dumb faggot
>>35700448Never had a problem with it before double faggot. Sounds like you got caught and your doubling back.
>>35700448A snitch and a rapist what a waste of oxygen lmao.
>>35697270I had a sub that started cumming so hard she couldn't stop. I started getting concerned she was going to pass out then very abruptly she started screaming SEACUCUMBER (she told me later she got frightened). I shut down the vibe and she wrapped herself around me, shaking. I held her tight and gently petted her head until she felt okay enough to let go.I'd say it worked
>>35700462Whatever you dumb faggot idgaf.
>>35699924This is how you wake up with superglue down your dick
>>35700540you will see heaven. how sad that the requirement to be a good person is not to make your partner uncomfortable for your pleasure. hope things work out for you anon
>>35700614You think they're sleeping over, cute
>>35697270The one time I did it, he was a perfect gentleman, and stopped. That was the last sexual contact I had with another human being, pathetic as it was. This was about 12 years ago now. I will not be giving further details as it could uniquely identify me.He was/is a bigshot. In an old article state, his nickname was listed on a bdsm-related wikipedia article.
>>35700650do doms like you give warnings in advance? need to know who to avoid in the future
>>35700633Yeah this thread is kinda making me lose faith in humanity. Maybe the difference is I am a switch and I know what I like in a dom, so I try to be that dom.
>>35700710They don't respect boundaries, because they don't actually respect you.
>>35700774never have never will
>>35700710Get a room already jesus
Ignore all safewords.SLAM the tgirl butthole and pull out a hunting knife, fuck it
>>35700540good lord this would fix me i think
>>35700785you keep getting worse>>35700793kek i’m a different anon, just disgusted by that behaviour >>35700794kino name i’ll let you slide
>>35700822>just disgusted by that behaviourYou all say that but when it comes down to it you all fucking love it, every single one of you. Ofc we don't respect you, most of you don't even respect yourself.
>>35700920have you considered the "consensual" part of "cnc"
>>35700920but that’s not how it’s supposed to go! you’re supposed to find someone with low self confidence and then love them into loving themselves. being taken advantage of is only hot when it’s with someone who cares about you, at least a little bit
>>35700794Dracula Flow-ass statement
>>35700920Subs only respect power, which is why they need rape/abuse/degradation to get off (and also why they end up with abusers)
>>35701422You don't quite get it. subs want to feel powerless. abuse is one way of doing that but faaaar from the only way
>>35697375>>35697389Disheartening to read. This will pop up in my head randomly in the future
>>35700785shove a pipebomb up your ass you rapist subhuman piece of shit
>>35700920NO YOU FUCKING TROGLODYTEYOU COOMBRAINED FUCKING TWATEVEN THOSE WHO DO STILL DESERVE THE BASIC FUCKING RESPECT OF BOUNDARIESi seriously hope you get on a severe accident and it leaves you incapable of having sex
>>35701716You're being baited. Don't feed the troll.
>>35700794>>35701313>THIS SHIT AIN'T NOTHIN TO ME, MAN
I'm an actual experienced dom unlike the horny virgins in this threadHonestly? I wish subs would safeword more instead of going along with something I planned and thought they'd love only to complain about it at a later date
>>35701784Why don’t you make it clear before doing anything?
>>35698887because cnc is fun
>>35701716I lost my dick in the war. But that was many years ago...
>>35700170<3FWIW, look for people who can firmly separate being in-character from being their normal self. People who start getting into dom-mode before they even know your last name are usually the ones who take it too far.
>>35697375should've kept going, let them feel owned and safe
>>35703244oh, i'll keep that in mind!
