BPD mothers plus enabling or absent fathers is the factory that produces most NEET sons. This isn't some fringe theory. It is the repeating pattern you see over and over in these threads.BPD mom is a walking emotional hurricane. Fear of abandonment, splitting where you're perfect one day and worthless the next, constant drama, guilt trips, silent treatments, explosive rages over nothing. The son grows up in a warzone where his own emotions are never safe. He learns early that the world and especially women are unpredictable and hostile. The best defense is to withdraw, shut down, don't try, don't risk anything, and stay small so she can't hurt you as much.No stable father or a weak one who enables her makes it ten times worse. Real dad either bailed or was driven out, or stayed and became her emotional punching bag and wallet. Either way there is no one modeling masculine boundaries, stoicism, or how to handle female emotional terrorism. No one teaches the boy to say no, to take responsibility, to leave the house and build his own life. Dad either checks out completely or actively helps keep the son infantilized so mom doesn't have a meltdown.
The son never learns to regulate his own emotions because mom never could. Any stress at a job feels like mom's rage or discard so he quits or gets fired. Independence triggers abandonment fears because moving out means you hate me or you're abandoning me, so he stays. She enables with food, laundry, rent, and constant reinforcement that you're her special boy. Normal adult milestones like a real job, a girlfriend, or actually leaving feel like betrayal or completely impossible because his nervous system is wired for her chaos. He retreats into the only place that's safe: his room, computer, video games, porn, and 4chan. Dopamine without any risk of mom's splitting or dad's weakness. Over time he becomes the classic twenty five to thirty five year old NEET with no skills, no friends, no prospects, living in the same house where the damage was done, sometimes on disability for anxiety and depression that traces right back to the home.This is why you see so many NEETs with the exact same story: crazy mom, checked out or spineless dad. The ones with normal stable high conscientiousness mothers and present fathers have a much higher chance they actually launched even if they were awkward or had other issues.Single motherhood and fatherlessness stats already show worse outcomes for boys across the board. Layer actual cluster B pathology on the mother and you get a perfect storm for producing manchildren who can't function. Feminism celebrates the strong single mom while ignoring what it does to the sons. The welfare state and easy NEETbux just subsidizes the failure to launch.
Most of these guys aren't lazy. Their operating system was corrupted in childhood by the person who was supposed to protect and prepare them. They never got the psychological tools or the male modeling to become independent adults.Fix the mothers by not breeding with BPD or cluster B women, or fix the fathers by actually raising your sons and not letting crazy women run the household. Everything else is cope.
>>537903451Well said. Nothing I can add.
>>537903402Men should not be living with their Moms past the age of 16 otherwise their maturity gets severely stunted. Get them out the house by the time they're 18 at least so they can learn independence, self-sufficiency, and hard work. This is why military can be an acceptable path if there isn't another. Boys in divorced families should move away to their father when they become teenagers, or go to some kind of school/institution/job where they are no longer around their parents. It's a tougher life but it forced you to pull your shit together. The only reason the Neet has the comfort to live like that is because it's literally enable by his parents: free rent, free wifi, free food.... Literally sponsored neetdom.
Oh fuck off ojr generation were given no chances in the work force, systematically removed and given zero financial independence. Blaming parents for the work of your masters is all you are good at you limp dick demoralisation agent of the state. Fuck off back to r/raisedbynarcicisrs with your gaggle of mind fucked psyopped losers you dickhead.
society is broken because the average person is too successful and theyre all riding high on that entitlement to the easy lifeif you had my mental chemistry you would be pissing tears on a carpet and eating sleeping pills by the whole kilo while on stolen opiates just to not feel like going sky divingi only trust people who know this is all bs and prove theyre tough enough and intelligent enough to manage a completely fucked up fate to begin with because the problem with everyone else is they are way more successful than they ever would really deserve to beseriously it would be enlightening to you to have to drink like i think ill call it bitch water. its the only water you can havei got about 7 mental disorders that are all chemical basedif im not distracted by that i could do your job whatever it is in 10 minutes
>>537903402no the problem is as society has become more productive the real gains in productivity in financial metrics, has gone to the wealthiest group of people who are squandering it, through their own stupidity, on the most faggoty metaphorical penile enhancements you can imagine, while the prospect of maintaining the same quality of life grows more and more daunting for the average person. Your MATERIALISM is turning this into the fucking rat paradise experiment
most people als othough are fucking retardedjust because you figure out how to dick around with plants or something doesnt mean you can control your fertility intelligently so i literally mean that from the lowest to highes of persons the real source of accumulated discord and general fuck is too much success across the whole boardthe poorest should still be struggling with endemnic child death and disease because you won't prioritize functional administrative organization and talent before scaling the population too muchthis has nothing to do with someone else its is entirely the fault and problem of every single group to just blindly trumpet ahead into a darkness only waiting to swallow all of you back
>>537903753military does NOT help, get the fuck out of this thread. You have no idea what you're talking about you fucking retard, leave jackass.
i would murder nearly any of you with total impunity and no sense of guilt for being a waste of fucking time if and only that and anything
>>537904094>rat paradise experimentye
Hmmm you've described my life except ummm my mother and father aren't diagnosed with anything as they refuse to ever go to doctors.
I knew NEETdom and being a BSB were a mutually exclusive phenomenon.
>>537903402I'm a schizoid demi-neet because of my parents being as the op describes
>>537904802How much does your mom pay for you to live off of her?
>>537903402Do the one about Pan Piano this morning.
>>537903402IT'S THE JEWS!!!THE JEWS DID THIS TO US!!!!!!!!
>>537903753> military> just join a gang that requires you to abandon all your god-given rights and take orders including (and exceeding) killing people, so that you'll never be able to leave the gang as you are haunted by the memories, assuming you have no physical scars, for which you will be totally abandoned and left to rot having served your purpose for the economic machinery of your nation!> oh wait there's another dip in recruitment... lol, stop-loss trap card ACTIVATE! time to bring back in the old veterans for another tour.if i could kill you through the internet i would make your head fucking explode.
>>537903402That's a lot of presuppositions that miss the point entirely. >say no, take responsibility, leave the house and build his own lifeYou're so right, OP. If he would just leave the house, he'd have a $75/hr job at the local post office waiting for him, all he needs to do is give the manager a firm handshake. Since his parents worked so hard to support their son and give him a great life, all he has to do is save up to build a new house on the land his parents own, right? He can bridge his expenses with the trust his parents set up and max out his contributions to the investment portfolio his parents gave him.What, he doesn't have that? His parents are overleveraged on a twice-mortgaged home and live paycheck to paycheck? Their total retirement savings are $40,000 between the two of them? They tried to flip a house in 2008 and got rinsed for $180,000? Why don't they just pull themselves up by their bootstraps? Very strange, OP.
>>537903402>we have offered himThis is exactly what those motherfuckers do to their kids.>we >we>we>we>wethat guy from day one of his life lived in envorioment where everything that parents should naturally do for the child they decided to have comes naturally as >we did this for youthis is the NEET >we did you fucked him up without day in jail
>>537905392I wake up at 4:30 AM, not because I want to, but because my shift starts at 6, and if I’m even a minute late, I get written up. Drag myself out of bed, choke down some stale cereal, and drive 45 minutes to a warehouse where I spend ten hours sweating, lifting boxes, and getting barked at by managers who probably hate their lives more than I do. I come home exhausted, eat some microwave garbage, scroll my phone in silence, and pass out so I can do it all over again.For what? I’m still stuck living at home. I thought working hard would get me somewhere, but I’m 27, still sleeping in the same bed I had as a teenager, surrounded by the same posters from a life that never took off. Rent is impossible unless I want to split a filthy apartment with three other guys who smell like Hot Pockets and despair.Meanwhile, Pan Piano is out here making millions by playing a keyboard in a sexy cosplay outfit. That’s it. She dresses up, plays a song, and simps throw money at her like it’s nothing. I break my back every day and can barely afford gas. No real skill, no real effort—just looking hot and pressing keys, and she’s set for life. Meanwhile, I get yelled at for stacking a pallet the “wrong” way.Tried dating. My parents met at work, so I figured I’d ask a coworker out. Big mistake. Got written up by HR and now everyone in the warehouse makes fun of me. “Bro thought he was in a rom-com.” Meanwhile, some girl from high school is making $400K working from home in her pajamas, married to some finance dude, traveling the world, while I have to beg for a day off just to sit in a waiting room at the dentist.I work harder than any of them. And for what? Just to keep existing? Hard work doesn’t pay off. It just keeps you alive enough to keep suffering.
>>537905374Less than 10% of military ever see combatLess than 1% chance you'll ever get killed or injured Get skills, independence, see the world, priority in getting jobs, zero down payment on a house.
>>537905668nope, military makes it worse i highly recommend not joining.You really don't understand who you're talking to. Stop spreading lies to people and getting them even more fucked up in the head.
Okay so here’s the deal. I turned 40 back in August. Bald. Like completely bald. My scalp is so shiny now it reflects the screen back at me when I watch YouTube in the dark. I haven’t touched a woman in over a decade unless you count accidentally brushing the cashier’s hand at Aldi.Anyway. I’m deep in a depressive spiral one night, sipping flat Diet Dr. Pepper and scrolling through anime covers. Suddenly YouTube recommends me Pan Piano. If you don’t know who that is, imagine Chopin reincarnated as a busty Taiwanese woman cosplaying 2B and somehow mastering the ancient art of sideboob.It was like God reached through the screen and slapped me in the face with a very jiggly miracle.I signed up for her Patreon immediately. Not even thinking. $110 tier. “Just to see what it’s about.” Total impulse. No big deal, right?Fast forward 8 months.I’ve given her nearly FOUR GRAND.And not even through Patreon. No, I used most of it on YouTube super chats like a full-on brain-damaged simp. Dropping $100 a stream just to say “Nice playing!” in a sea of other degenerates. She never responded. She never even acknowledged me. At one point I think she laughed — not at a joke, but at my existence.I told myself it was for “supporting the arts.” My bank account says otherwise.Do you know what $4,000 could buy? A used car. A flight to Thailand to die in peace. A lifetime supply of ramen. Hair plugs, probably. Therapy, definitely.Instead I have 8 months of footage of a woman who doesn’t know I exist dressed as anime girls playing songs from Genshin Impact.I emailed her asking if I could get a refund because I was “in a bad place emotionally.” No reply. Not even an emoji. I tried telling YouTube I had “a mental health episode.” They told me to contact law enforcement if I feel unsafe. I AM unsafe. Unsafe from my own choices.
>>537903753Jewish "Men" should not be living with their Moms past the age of 16 otherwise their maturity gets severely stunted. Drag the little kikes out the house by the time they're 18 at least so they can learn independence, self-sufficiency, and hard work.This is why military can be an acceptable path if there isn't another. Jewish Boys in divorced families should move away to the army when they become teenagers, or go to some kind of school/institution/job where they are no longer around their parents or rapist rabbi.It's a tougher life but it forced you to pull your shit together. The only reason the Kike has the comfort to live like that is because it's literally enable by his parents: free rent, free wifi, free food.... oy vey make the little kike work!.ALL JEWISH KIDS SHOULD BE KICKED OUT AT 16! ALL OTHER NORMAL KIDS DESERVE THEIR FAMILIES SUPPORTING THEM
>>537905928>be me>parents made sure ever since I was a child that I understand that life is a miserable curse and refuse to allow me to do things that are enjoyable like going outside and exploring, playing with other kids, or eating good food>do too good of a job and I end up a nihilistic neet who can’t hold on to a job for more than a couple of months because I don’t have any incentive too>even if I wanted to self-improve it won’t fix the wasted years of social development, the fact that I look like a meth addict because of the shit diet they forced on me, and I’m circumcised so tightly to the point where it hurts to masterbate>parents realize they fucked up badly finally and realize they are going to be stuck supporting a adult son for the rest of their miserable lives and are now finally starting to encourage me to make friends and go outside and do things I should have been doing at six and even then they half ass it like a token gestureWhy the fuck do American parents want their kids to live absolute shit lives of poverty and misery? It’s like they get off on being poor and miserable. I straight up said I’d get a job if it would get me an apartment which no job will these days and they just can’t comprehend that I could actually want something from a job they outright said I shouldn’t worry about pay.
>>537905668Eglin faggots deserve to have their intestines cut out in their gay little uniforms.
>>537906034>be me>wasn't allowed to go outside and play with other kids because of pedophiles>wasn't allowed to date or have friends in my teens because alcohol and drugs>wasn’t allowed to get a job and I was threatened with the police if I did get a job because the car isn’t mine>25 now and now I’m condemned for being a jobless loser who won’t give them grandkidsSeriously, do they not understand cause and effect how did they expect me to end up?
>>537903402Can confirm. I fully believe that if my mother straight up died when I was little, it would have been nothing but beneficial for me. Admittedly my situation is exacerbated by chronic illness, but, for reasons too complicated to get into, I believe that could also have been entirely prevented by my mother's absence.
>>537905841Worse than living with a mentally ill parent until youre a dysfunctional adult? What are the neets gonna do when their parents die?
>>537905920>“in a bad place"I read this as "I was in a bald place"
>>537905920Bro, what the fuck is wrong with you, chinks are worthless, why would you give a non-white any money or help ever? Even a bald white man is better than some stupid chink.
>>537906190Same here man, my father will probably die first, but it would be a huge benefit to everyone if she died first. Also have chronic illness from my parents neglect and abuse causing me to have bone spurs and breathing problems.
>>537906212so fucking hilarious how desperately you want to play pretend with me.>I dont like this person therefore they must be "X"
>>537906496>>537906190>>537906407What sort of parenting do you think leads to a neet; which is ultimately a usually young man giving up on life? My cousin had a BPD mother and a pussy whipped father and he was never allowed to do anything because of his mother neurosis and if he dared rebel and by rebel I mean go outside and play with me or other kids his mother would sick his father on him and “put him in his place”. End result is a 34 year old man who has long given up on wanting or expecting things out life. He was denied being able to make his own choices or go after his own desires for so long that he simply gave up and lived vicariously online to the point where even if he wanted to he couldn’t function on his own now because his mother simply never let him grow as a person wanting him to be “her baby boy” forever. What’s sick is she has the fucking nerve to blame him for it whenever she feels ashamed of having a neet son by her peers. Why do parents do this to their children? Set them duo for lives of misery like this?
>>537906688>be me>put on heavy medication my my struggling single mother who “just couldn’t” anymore keep in mind I didn’t do much to bother her except exist>put on multiple Medication I can’t even spell>destroyed all my motivated, my emotions, and I went though my childhood in a daze>mother is now stuck with a emotionless dead inside 22 year old man who refuses to work or do anything and doesn’t see the point in anything and has the nerve to want grandchildren when she didn’t even want childrenWhat exactly did she expect would happen? That I’d just mature into a successful man with no input from her and despite all her sabotaging?
>>537903753>Literally sponsored neetdom.How else do you become a neet unless someone pays for it? Is a dude in his 50s who worked hard all of his life to save up for early retirement actually a neet?
A burning enquiry
>>537906979>a problem exists>doesnt get solved>mad the threads keep popping up
>>537903402Nah I'm a neet and my dad was present and worked insanely hard
>>537903402I fucking hate how words seem to lose their original meaning when used by the common plebs the son by definition isn't a fucking NEET. a NEET is someone who's not in education, employment, and training
>>537907258>im doing this for you>everything i do is so you can live better than i did>with telling you that all the time>with only one goal in mind>for you to not be better than himi saw those type of parents i knowfor everything that child becomes after 21 years of age, parents should be accountable for by law
>>537903451At some point in life you are your own man. Once you hit 30s you can’t blame your shitty upbringing anymore.
>>537903402>>537903427>>537903451Well said, based, and truthful.But what about the guys who've been broken already?What can they do to heal the damage their dirty whore mother caused?
>>537907473man you are full decade behind everyoneits overgtfo if you dont understand
>>537907473man you are full decade behind everyoneits overgtfo if you dont understandthere is no going back, everything you know up to 30 years of age is upside down, you are foreigner in life
>>537903753>muh military Cool if you think being a homeless opiate junkie is a career path, and that's your reward for surviving goyim war #286.
>>537907473if you arent neet or never were don't bother coming in here.
>>537903402What does Broncho-Pulmonary Dysplasia have to do with NEETing??
I just met a BPD girl I like btw and have a date with her today, what should I do guys.
>>537906844Technically anyone who's not in employment, education or training is a NEET.People who retire early, whatever their age and whatever their reason, are NEETs.Most people who are NEETs aren't early retired people though... unless you consider giving up on the society that raped you your whole life a form of retirement as well.
>>537907473>At some point in life you are your own man. Once you hit 30s you can’t blame your shitty upbringing anymore.depends. The mom that mentally abused me is still around and still mentally abusing me and won't listen to reason.
Effeminate faggot boomer/gen x shaming tactics don't work anymore since everyone hates you and wants to put your head on a pike for stealing their future.
>>537907473>at some arbitrary point other people decide for you, your category changes bruh>can't blame the people who bludgeoned you out of shape for you not fitting the mould anymoreWhy don't you go be a bruh in the gym and mog the other bruhs with your wisdom
>>537907473There's a shitty upbringing that hardens you and makes you hungry for life. And then there's a shitty upbringing that kills your desire for life. Becoming some magical number only has the effect of closing the door forever on the possibility of being able to pull yourself up by your bootstraps once you reach it.
>>537907473I'm 33. I am waiting on a surgery. My life is fucked and 100% of it is circumstantial as I've always been well behaved, always done the right things, always been a self-improver, always been kind to others, never ever start dramas, studied psychology, tried always to "fix" myself, very disciplined, etc. but I'm a total wreck right now faced with poverty and illness. I even run marathons despite being so sick but then I end up being awake for multiple days and nights despite trying to sleep and just doing very poorly. If I didn't have the issues I have, I would be leagues ahead of everyone.
>>537907658Then get rid of her.No-contact.It can take years to process everything.
>>537907633>be me>born to a BPD mother and a weak father>groomed by the mother to be her eternal emotional pet and surrogate husband that she abuses viciously and forbidden to do anything or develop as a person while condemning me for it with her attack dog that should have been my father at her beck and call who she also treats like shit>end up moving away and disowning my crazy family>older brother became a meth head and killed himselfI understand woman are fucking crazy but why did my dad invest his and his children’s lives into this black hole of a woman who even after decades is still not happy and still hates him and being alive. Why didn’t he cut her off or literally do anything else than support her being a lazy worthless cunt.
>>537907726I go to the gym all the time but I've made in years the same progress non-injured people make in mere months of going to the gym because I can't fucking sleep.
>>537907829Thats easier said then done to cut off someone like that.
>>537903402Sounds like my parents, but also my dad did everything he could to sabotage my social life for some reason.
>>537907876Why do white men pretty much worship white woman despite the reality that they are utterly repugnant whores on average? I grew up with a crazy mother and an enabling father and no matter how bad she treated him he always gave her his paycheck and came crawling back and apologized for whatever she thinks he did. She constantly accused him of cheating and other things like blowing money while she buys an ungodly amount of cigerates, booze, and weed. Another story is one of my classmates in highschool girlfriend accused him of beating her after he broke up with her and he was harassed and assaulted through the rest of the year. Even the teachers turned a blind eye to it until he fought back.
>>537907567>>537907658>>537907726Then give up faggot and take the rope. There’s your choice.
Also the mom is overbearing but not to the point of making it unbearable, because in those cases kids decide to fuck off on their own. They are overbearing enough to not let their kids socialize or do things on their own, but not too much as to make the kid uncomfortable while playing vidya in his room.
>>537905986You're going to start off with a bullshit job that won't pay you enough for your own place, but the bullshit job is always a path to something better. It also is worth your time to get a trade, apprentice programs, training, etc. Contact your local employment agencies or Department of Rehabilitation.
>>537908068first lets adovacte for parents reposnsibility about what they do in child formative years without just allowing them do dropshit retards 18+ into society and take 0 flac for it
>>537906160Bro I'm 37. I got my shit together at 34. You can't blame your parents forever.
>>537903402I propose a parenting licence, you shouldn't be able to have kids if you can't prove that you will make a functioning member of society or produce a retard (but this is MUUUH eugenics)
>>537903402humans are built to see problems as local, it just doesn't make sense to live 200 years viewing everything as the end result of macro environments. but that's basically the only answer to why humans can no longer rely on cross-generational wisdom to help each other, and yet we persist with this mindset, for it's all we've been evil ed to know
>>537908372>percieved sucessyou didnt fix anything and what you did in your 34 years of life did unreparable damage to everyone around youyou are just too dumb to realize it
>>537903402>be gringo>kick your childthe jews must be proud
>pay for his school>collegeGoing to college never got me a single job. Businesses literally do not care.
>>537908058It's natural to like your own people.
>>537903427>He retreats into the only place that's safe: his room, computer, video games, porn, and 4chan. Dopamine without any risk of mom's splitting or dad's weakness. Over time he becomes the classic twenty five to thirty five year old NEET with no skills, no friends, no prospects, living in the same house where the damage was done, sometimes on disability for anxiety and depression that traces right back to the home.next time, you better cite my autobiography
>>537909060Do Mexicans in Mexico relate to any of this stuff?
>>537903402Yeah well I tried to move out of mom's house, but nobody wants to pay enough to afford rent around here so it just never happened. Now the job market is dead so I'm double fucked.
>>537905920Demoralization pasta, KEK. Hope the readers see this shit for what it is.
>>537909664nope, my mom took care of me even after I had a wife and a child. My mom just gave me a room to live with them, then I got lucky I got a job, bought a house and went back to take care of her in her last days
>>537907889I did it.By the time it's necessary, it's effortless.It's as simple as not taking the calls, not returning texts, and not telling her anything if you run into her.Simple in structure. The emotional load of actually doing it is different.
>>537908068>then stick to my arbitrary classifications and kys for not meeting their requirementsFigure out what you wanna say before trying to insult someone.
>>537909777Checked. So Mexican boys don't experience overbearing mother's that gaslight them growing up?
>>537910006I get you, I was raised in L.A and thought it was normal to kick your children at 18. But in the end, who else do your children have? you are the only one that can push them forward, not kick them out like an animal
>>537903402>>537903427>>537903451This was my life, psycho mom and a step father that was just there. I'm a 25yo neetcel now.
>>537909150You have your advanced work permit. Go go go.
>>537909743>see this shit for what it is.A way to spot the newfags
>>537908372>got my shit together at 34how ?
>>53791030632 here.I was put on disabiligibs when i turned 18, my mother arranged all of that.The unemployment services kept harassing me regardless because they thought they could help, at least that's what they said.They would send me to those letterbox firms that take 4 years pay in advance and offer 2 years of promises they can't keep and resources they don't have.This was attempted 3 times though it only worked the once.The services also threatened to take my gibs away if I refused to participate in that fraud they kept committing.Safe to say, that man never spoke with me again after that threat.It's funny in a way. I needed help last year, so when they called, I made my plea.They'll be hearing a lot about that one, how they heard "I'm gonna an hero" and said "lol go make friends" and waited 5 months to do their 2-minute part of the job.Tried it too.That institution is seriously corrupt. It can't be fixed without ripping every system apart and firing everyone who works there.
>>537903753Sounds like a good way to create rent slaves
>>537908372>bro I'm age this, and got there at age that>I'm applying the standards I have for myself, to you, and judge you a failure for not meeting them despite the fact you're not in my positionYou didn't fix anything, anon.You haven't healed at all.You did the weak child thing and "manned up" by pretending the problems don't exist, and now just like a pathetic little shit you're attacking people who are processing their trauma through grieving because they've got bigger balls than you choose to have.
>>537903891I get the sense that this was supposed to drive young men to some form of military and or hard labor. But something broke in half along the way, so to speak. The currency system all over the world kept inflating while wages no longer reliably paid rent or mortgage. Buying a house or condo or car outright became unheard of. I remember buying my first car and the salesman being in a state of disbelief when I told him I didn't need a loan for the car as I had enough money inherited to buy it in one payment. You don't have to be jealous of me. I blew my good chance over several decades and still live with my abusive Progressive Left family and still avoid them in my room. I post on the net and have been watching soccer lately. I'm more than a little worried about my future. Not because I couldn't find some shit job that would take me but because I was taught to either run away or to explode with Devil Possession levels of wrath over even the slightest errors and surprises of normal life. Or to thoroughly belittle anyone who has displeased me, just as my parents did to me every time they spoke to me. Mom is the Matriarch and Dad is the physically dangerous handy man who doesn't have final say in anything. I couldn't join the military without being forever shunned by the family. I'm too old now. I never even knew cheap housing existed until I had blown my inheritance, so I'm stuck with these monsters. But I did learn how to write music and cook food. So why don't I do that? Because I was taught to be deeply fearful of the world, white Leftist style and I got sick of playing bash the white man with all the Progressives I was raised around. You win! Say, how does this power to issue currency work and why do so many Jews have it? That's a question I would be in danger for asking at the dinner table. Why do threads stop when it gets brought up? A lot of forum owners must be ordered not to talk about it. Thus, that's the one to tell.
>>537903402The solution is to find him a wife.No wife, no life.
>>537909979Make a stand then. What age do you consider it pathetic to blame your childhood? 50? Are you blaming your parents at 60?
>>537903753Fuck off kike
>>537911723it's about a destroyed trajectory brainlet
>>537903402>BPD mothersthat's just women
>>537903402>talking about your actual flesh and blood as if they were a pet god i wish i could give whoever wrote that a solid kick to the hip
>>537911723The age is irrelevant.The only thing that matters is the grieving process, which means going through it and releasing all the stored energy.You can use trauma-relief exercises to help do this.For some people it'll take 5 years, others a decade, it entirely depends on what they experienced.Could also be 6 months.Another thing to consider.Just because someone's healed when he's 40, doesn't mean he's not allowed to blame his parents for having needed the healing for what they did when he was a kid.You can talk about how things used to be, without them being that way today.If that triggers you, it's because your own trauma's still with you and you didn't do the work to heal it.
>>537903402>>537903427>>537903451This was/is my life exactly, word for word.
>>537903402>>537903427The child is born defective, like his parentsThe excesses of wealth and modernity will be returned to Nature
>>537903402I had a BPD mom and were NEETing through most of my 20s. Felt like she is always emotionally and financially manipulative.
>>537903402I almost got stuck with a BPD psycho. I got her pregnant but thankfully she had an abortion, probably in one of her fits because she had dumped me and told me I wasn't going to be involved so I blocked her because I needed a break from her constant ups and downs for awhile. She already had 2 kids with 2 different fathers, both of whom wanted nothing to do with her. It would have ruined my life. At the time it was incredibly painful, but now that's been a couple of years I am so fucking relieved.
>>537907473A building built on unstable ground with no blueprint will always fallHow are we really any different?We need something and somewhere to learn from, a stable foundation from which to build upwardYou don't magically get there at a certain age, snapping your fingers to make it reality like it was Marvel movie That is a bunch of kike bullshit
>>537912182You probably should have been warned by your dad your mother was a psychic vampire like all other women, if he wasn't drinking to numb her voice, but you're not allowed to say that are you
>>537912143>>537910306>>537909667>>537907535>>537905141I feel like we especially value some sort of bonding and helping out. Can we have a community for this?
>>537903402The parent in OP's pic is retarded. I don't know where she gets this "go to college/tech school and you'll make more money" bullshit, but it's not true. I graduated from two colleges and only ever made decent money (25 an hour) working as a maintenance man in a hospital. Graduated at the top of my class in my state's most prestigious university, in fact. Yeah, Mr E-peen over here, right? But my point is that extra schooling does nothing. The "good jobs" are staffed entirely by 3rd world jeets who work for 15 an hour and have some chubby onlyfans roastie directing them. The only thing a normal guy can hope for is to find a job as a security guard, maintenance, or janitorial worker and they alwaus have good benefits, raises, and starting rates.Will you make 100k a year doing these jobs? No. But you'll make half that and live semi-comfortably if you invest well and you're smart about finances and saving. His parent's are so clueless.
>>537912347>The parent in OP's pic is retarded.These people are actual child people and part of realizing why your life is so fucked is realizing how everyone around you is actually a bumbling child person whose parents never taught them anything that coast through life being dopamine chatterboxes
>>537912342This is the community for this.
>>537903402>BPD mothers plus enabling or absent fatheris that a TADC reference?
im a neet single father. honestly it's pretty comfy bros
>>537903402Thank God the BPDemon I had a child with gave me a daughter. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
>>537903753>This is why military can be an acceptable path if there isn't another. Boys in divorced families should move away
>>537912680you're going to have to put the kid in isolation while you waterboard your wife
I took back my BPD ex because I miss the grippy pussy. She had a kid since we last broke up and it's still grippy. I am not motivated by things like relationships or love I just like grippy pussy
>>537903402>BPDAnother mental disorder made up by jews, the same jews who say being a fag is totally normal.
>>537903402>>537903427>>537903451I wouldn't say it's just BPD but yeah, spot on. Also lack of opportunities for them to get out and stand on their own. Anon suggests the army >>537903753 sadly there aren't really many other opportunities to gtfo and be supported with accommodation. Maybe some ship gig but it should certainly be easier to go out, get a stable job and get your own life together.
>>537908320you will get droned at the frontline and your babushka mother will get potatoes.
>>537912877*Isn't just BPD
>>537903402the most strict father is no father at all–natural selection, boys have to learn everything themselves & only the best make it–society gave women all the power & privileges, now men have to carve out their own path & create novel worldviews since the men of the past have clearly capitulated before lifes struggles & allowed women to take over–make no mistake about it, nature is still working as intended–
>>537903968They're putting chemicals in the water.
What's wrong with being a NEET, who are you to decide what is right or wrong.Maybe it's time for the white man to stay at home and collect welfare, let the women and the browns work an pay for my NEET bucks.
>>537912741Nah, I just fucking left because I couldn't put up with the constant splitting/spiraling over a comment some random woman made at the grocery store trying to be kind and personable, while she takes it like she heard "you're a shit mother and should be shunned", then I don't lie to her and take her side and suddenly I'm an abusive, narcissistic, psychopath, but OH GOD DON'T LEAVE ME, PLEASE NEVER LEAVE, I'M SORRY, onto; YEAH WELL GOOD RIDDANCE, YOU'LL NEVER FIND WOMAN WHO TREATS YOU BETTER THAN ME, followed by everything I've ever told her in confidence used as a weapon against me, etc. FUCK that noise. I still visit my daughter, and she loves me more than she loves that witch. Fuck the custody laws in this country.
I don't think you can get neet buxs for anxiety, I have crippling social anxiety and been working full time for 10-15 years now, got a mortgage, two cars paid off, etc etcif I could get paid to just survive and not afford new things I'd take it in a heart beat, that shit sounds fake as fuck
>>537912853There's literally measurable brain differences.https://amfmtreatment.com/blog/bpd-brain-vs-normal-brain-differences-size-scans/Why there are brain differences when people are exposed to trauma in early childhood should probably get more research and prevention efforts. It's probably some weird evolutionary way to make someone slightly crazy so as to survive better in what appears to be a crazy world. You can make quite a close guess as to the age someone experienced childhood trauma at depending on what personality disorder they have, as different brain regions are affected or don't really develop properly afterwards. Narcissists usually get hurt when very young, this is why they have literal toddler temper tantrums.
Never EVER date cluster B women. You CANNOT fix them.You WILL be worse off after the inevitable implosion of your relationship.
>>537903753>>537905668>>537908372>I'm 37. I got my shit together at 34Did you join the military at 34?I'm just guessing because I'm 2 weeks away from shipping out to the army and I'm 25. I can't stand my mentally ill parents anymore, they know and they dont care what I do.Just wondering how a guy 10 years older than me fixes their life.
>>537903402>No stable father or a weak one who enables her makes it ten times worse. Real dad either bailed or was driven out, or stayed and became her emotional punching bag and wallet.all of patriarchy failed us, now we have to reboot & make our own–
I feel like this OP is putting too much of the blame on the parents. It's not always the parents. My own parents are flawed but wonderful people and I don't blame them at all. I blame public school.Here's the typical school day>Get beat up>Get spit on>Get kicked>Get tripped>Get called gay faggot for the billionth time>Get your backpack stolen and dumped out and kicked around>Get laughed at and mocked by all your peers>Get ignored by the teachers who watch you get bullied and probably laugh about itReally it's the public schools. They are a warzone and the children in them are monstrous animals who should be drop kicked off a tall building onto Mortal Kombat spikes. I learned early on that everyone is my enemy and I can't count on anyone or any authority.
>>537913150I think most of women's insanity comes from the society that tells them they're perfect is actively disintegrating. It's a race to the bottom of your desires and nobody tells them any other goals. They're probably not even receptive to avengers fairy tales when every one is an allegory that flies over their heads, they're illiterate culturally probably in some misplaced attempt to make them independent
>>537903402>ask son to leave because insurance ran out the most jewish american thing I read here today
>>537913026NEETing is a poor survival strategy and will be ending soon with the bankruptcy of Social Security.White men stop working and then war breaks out and white men have to fight.Happened every single time until 1945. And they didnt ask you they just did it and white men complied.Even if you dont fight a war for someone else you will have to fight a war yourself or make another team so ultimately having resources to create an alternative for yourself seems to be the best way.Only getting out of NEETdom provides this opportunity.
>>537913501>Modern society is a poor survival strategy
>>537903402>BPD mothers plus enabling or absent fathers is the factory that produces most NEET sons.also nigger welfare state & the consequent devaluation of labour–
>>537913584Explain without implying, shitbag.
>>537903402>jobYou can't be a neet if you're a wagie.
>>537903402Rent IS too high and college does t get you better wages
>>537913662Any society that imports a bunch of people reliant on on time delivery of goyslop to survive that abuse their kids through incompetency and "coasting through life" probably isn't well suited to change
>>537913774>Ranjeet the Doordash driver is why I can't be a man, you see
>>537913501Best thing is to use social security while it's here to make clever investments.No quick pumpy in your dumpy schemes, no crypto.It's gay to slave for your pittance and then spend that on stonks.Using public debt instead to Jew the Jew, is based. Worst case scenario, the debt the gouvernment took is destroyed in stonk memes.Best case you profit.
>>537913823So you are saying Canadian levels of jeet importation is fine? So you really don't see any problems with it?
>>537903402It's really funny to me to observe the most jewish brained boomers struggling to understand why their kids end up hating them "for no reason".
>>537913823Ranjeesh is a symptom of the race to the bottom of jewish consumerism. Yes. You are supposed to be ranjeesh, a scamming smelly turd worlder, that is what society tells you when they import consumers because whites aren't consuming enough. Maybe Jung was right in a way
What produces NEET sons is a completely wrecked society where there are no good jobs, everything is an anti-racist gynocracy, and even the churches and armies are literally fucking gay.
