i am a khhv girl and i can't stop freaking out at the thought of actually having sex for real. nothing has ever been inside my vagina. i feel like i am going to die the day a moid (ideally my future husband) finally takes my virginity. it is going to change everything forever and i am so anxious about it. i feel like once a man has sex with me, he sees how i look naked, how i act during sex, etc he will never want to come back to me because i am not pretty or experienced with sex. am i supposed to play coy or act outwardly horny? what if he thinks i'm a whore? what if he judges my pussy's appearance? what if he thinks it smells bad? what if i get sweaty and look and smell gross? what if my noises are annoying? what if i don't bleed and he thinks i'm lying about being virgin? what if i have vaginismus and sex just doesn't work? what if he sees notices body hair and gets grossed out? what if i don't orgasm and he feels bad? what if i orgasm too quickly and it ruins the moment? what if i get pregnant? am i even supposed to use a condom? god i dread my first time so much.
>>82352611I wish I could marry you. Overthinking girls are so cute. I wouldn't last two of those questions before kissing you. To shut you up and to make you feel like everything is all right.
>>82352611idk I've never held a girl's handbut I assume you'd enjoy every part of someone you loved, even the awkward bits would be endearing
Slight discomfort for an instant, that's it. Like popping a zit
>>82352611its pretty normal, people hype it up a lot here because they haven't had sex but i've taken a few girls virginites and really the big different is you gotta go slow, really ease them into it. other than that its like any other instance of sex really. all your worries about it are fair if you were to lose it during a hookup, but otherwise dont matter if you're losing it to a good man who loves you, as he wont judge your actions or body.
>>82352633i never feel like everything is alright... i can never relax. i wish i had someone who helps me with being such a nervous wreck.>>82352646i hope so.>>82352649i would never lose it in a hookup. i have been waiting my whole life for that moment and i really feel like finally losing my virginity will change my life completely. like i will be a different person afterwards.
>>82352740>i hope so.It's trueeBut personally as a 21yo man I'd gladly lose it without any emotion involved, because I know no girl my age is a virgin. All of my firsts being one-sided is kinda depressing, and most girls would reject me for being a virgin. I just want to get it over with as soon as possible
>>82352740>i would never lose it in a hookup. i have been waiting my whole life for that moment and i really feel like finally losing my virginity will change my life completely. like i will be a different person afterwards.i think you'll be disappointed fembot, its not transcendent like you believe it is, and making it seem larger than it is will innevitably lead to disappointment as life just goes on as it did before. if you want your life to change you'll need to do it of your own volition in the ways that any other person does.
>>82352776what?? i am a 24 year old khhv and have many girl friends who are virgins, you can definitely find a girl to have your mutual first time with.
I've taken two girls virginities and it was chill both times since both of them had already broken their hymens as children.
>>82352812>i am a 24 year old khhv and have many girl friends who are virginsThere's no way you live in the west
>>82352814i wonder if mine is broken too, i have no idea because nothing has ever been inside my vagina but i wonder if outside factors like clitoral masturbation might have also damaged it.>>82352818uh... yes i don't but i am sure there are girls in the west who are also virgins
>>82352847>i am sure there are girls in the west who are also virginsThey are not 24. or 20. and rarely 18
>>82352847>i wonder if mine is broken tooprobably.>but i wonder if outside factors like clitoral masturbation might have also damaged it.unlikely
>>82352740>i never feel like everything is alright... i can never relax.I wish I could hold you and tell you everything is gonna be all right. I wish I could make you tea and take care of you.
>>82352611>moidsshut the fuck up and go outside.
>>82352979how could that occur then?>>82352993awww you are very sweet, i am not used to being comforted. thank you.>>82353005i think it still counts as sex
>>82352611>i am a khhv girl and i can't stop freaking out at the thought of actually having sex for real. nothing has ever been inside my vagina. i feel like i am going to die the day a moid (ideally my future husband) finally takes my virginity.cringeit's not a big deal AT ALLeverybody fucksit's like eating>it is going to change everything forever and i am so anxious about it. i feel like once a man has sex with me, he sees how i look naked, how i act during sex, etc he will never want to come back to me because i am not pretty or experienced with sex.wtf?fuck someone who likes you for more than your holes and you're good>am i supposed to play coy or act outwardly horny? be yourself frfr don't overthink it>what if he thinks i'm a whore? there is no such thing just girls who wanna fuck you and girls who dont>what if he judges my pussy's appearance? we can't give a shit desu pussy feels good it doesn't matter the looks>what if he thinks it smells bad? get a shower>what if i get sweaty and look and smell gross? get a shower>what if my noises are annoying? they are hot>what if i don't bleed and he thinks i'm lying about being virgin? nobody cares we just wanna cum>what if i have vaginismus and sex just doesn't work? doctor>what if he sees notices body hair and gets grossed out? hes gay, not your problem>what if i don't orgasm and he feels bad? you try again and find what makes you cum>what if i orgasm too quickly and it ruins the moment? LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO>what if i get pregnant? there are ways>am i even supposed to use a condom? yes>god i dread my first time so much.you need the first for the secondsex is awesome
>>82353100>how could that occur then?Just by moving and stuff. Playing as a kid. Climbing things. Stretching. Gym. You obviously don't have a completely perforate hymen otherwise you wouldn't be able to menstruate probably and that would have become a medical issue.
>>82352611I've only taken one virginity. Took forever just to get it in and hurt her lots, so I didn't enjoy it at all.Just take your time, shower beforehand and match his energy and you'll be fine. It'll probably start off unpleasant but get better down the line.
>>82353160>perforate hymenimperorate*
>>82352611I had my hs gf get on top so she was in control of how much discomfort she was in, I could tell she was in some pain during penetration but once she took the whole thing she seemed fine, took her a few min to have an orgasim. Penetration hurt a few times after that. I think you are overthinking.
>>82352611i have never had sex so i don't have a clue
>>82352611why did you come to r9k to ask? most people here are khhv
>>82352611everyone girl I talked to lost it 10-14 yrs old
>>82352611>or experienced with sex.Relax, that's female projection. Men find inexperience in a woman to be a huge positive. We like it as much as you like experience in men.
>>82352611You should lower your standards and settle for unattractive nice guy male feminist incels who would accept you for who you are. Also virginity is a dumb social construct that doesn't matter, females wouldn't worry about seeming like a "whore", vaginismus isn't a big deal because you can always do clitoris focused stuff, and frankly sex in general is conservative bullshit so you should just settle for a nice loving relationship with an incel and focus on emotional platonic intimacy without needing to have any sex at all. Just stop being so fucking picky and conservative holy shit
>>82352611>what does it feel like to take a girl's virginity?how the fuck should i know? I'm khhv too
When you come for our trip I'll take care of you in every way
>>82353119>everybody fucks>it's like eatingholy kill yourself
>>82352611>ideally my future husbandIf you get this part right none of the other intrusive thoughts stuff will matter.
>>82352611Fuck off, trannyturd
im a virgin too and the way I imagine it it starts with lots of foreplay and mutual masturbation so we're extremely horny and relaxed and if the girl is insecure we can do it in darkness or under cover but hopefully I will have done oral on her before so she knows she's beautiful and her smell and taste turn me on, cause you know this is how love works, you get addicted to her sweat even
>>82352611If your husband loves you, he won't care about any of that. Your desire for sex will be mutual and any difficulties will be worked through patiently. These kinds of insecurities are in play for random hookups and short term relationships. Your husband isn't going to freak out about your weird vagina or your body hair.
>>82352611Never took a girl's virginity but losing mine was the most underwhelming thing of all time. Wait for the right person and I'm sure it'll be something huge for you.
>>82355235>doesn't specify if he lost his virginity to a girl or notA guy fucked you in ass didn't he?
>>82355156>>82355207>>82355220i really hope that it is true and he is going to be understanding if he loves me because i cant stop having a panic attack thinking about when i am going to lose my virginity and all the bad possibilities
>>82356139If you want, I'll be your first. I've taken a handful of virginities and I'll be patient and gentle and give you an experience that will make you less anxious about your first time with your first love.
>>82356157no... i think the first time is supposed to be with a special person like your husband or fiance not a stranger
>>82356139Unfortunately as a foid you will only ever be attracted to abusechads so you WILL get pumped and dumped. You WILL have your hymen violently blown apart by a guy who will leave 20 minutes later and never see you again.
>>82356139stop being so fucking conservative. you could simply get with guys who are fine without having sex at all, but that would require settling for male feminist incels and you only want trad chads who want to fuck
>>82356163i cant think of anything worse what is this weird cuckold fantasy? stop projecting
>>82356172It's not my fantasy, it's yours.
>>82356162We wouldn't be strangers by the end of it. I think we'd spend a week together, give or take. Talking, cooking, cuddling, working up to it, getting comfortable, and then a few days before we go our separate ways, give it a go. That's what I had in mind.But yeah, if you want to save it for your husband, that's the better way to go. I think with my plan though, it would demystify it for you and ease your anxieties.
just use a dildo what's the issue?
Another gay ass larp thread. Dude you're 100% gay
>>82356234i think losing your virginity just for the sake of it is always a regrettable idea and you should save yourself for marriage>>82356329why would i waste my virginity on a fucking dildo? there is nothing to gain from that
>>82356606I think if you think that, you're going to have a happy marriage and I wish you the best.
>>82356621She's going to overthink everything and hold out for better at every opportunity until she hits 30 and completely sluts it up.
>>82356632A truly awful thing to say about someone. I have more hope for her than that.
>>82356606I would wait for marriage for the girl I love
>>82356648So do I but unfortunately that's just how things are now. She doesn't really stand a chance.
>>82356621thanks>>82356632fuck off not everyone is a degenerate like you and the trash you are surrounded with
>>82356657Hope is a cardinal virtue and despair is a mortal sin. You had better check your thoughts.
>>82356665>where do you think you are.jpg>>82356668Do you actually think it's not completely over? I'm talking about human beings on Earth if that wasn't clear.
>>82352611>>82352740Jesus you sound just like my gf. Actually she doesnt say all this out loud but she's a pathologic overthinker which hinders her in all aspects of life, sex included.
>>82356694No it's far from over. Humans have lived through tougher times and we're extremely adaptable.
>>82356739anxiety is such a pain in the ass but i cant help it, it is very stressful. i wish i could let go sometimes, mentally i just get over it.
>>82356770Yeah things with her were slow as fuck she couldnt even speak when we first met. I hope you manage to find someone patient but that sounds impossible.
>>82352847Here in the west most girls lose their virginity when they're 12-17. My ex lost her virginity at 13.
>>82352611There's a rush and warm glowing feeling that come from making love in general. Taking her virginity is only different insofar as it adds a romantic "this one is special" flavor.If it eases your mind, almost all women are bad at sex, regardless of experience.
>>82352611>am i supposed to play coy or act outwardly horny? If you're too coy it won't happen at all, you have to make it clear that you want him. A cuddle and a kiss is usually enough, but try getting deep whiffs of each other's scent to make things a bit more passionate/animalistic.>what if he thinks i'm a whore? No man will consider a virgin a whore. Oxymoron.>what if he judges my pussy's appearance? what if he thinks it smells bad? It probably does look and smell bad, but that's completely besides the point. He'd be focusing on your face and breasts the whole time anyway, the vagina doesn't have the same erotic focus that the penis does.>what if i get sweaty and look and smell gross? what if my noises are annoying? That would be cute and sexy>what if i don't bleed and he thinks i'm lying about being virgin? It's pretty common not to bleed, and it would be next-level paranoia on his part to come to that conclusion. Most guys will psychologically avoid thinking about their lover having been with other men.>what if i have vaginismus and sex just doesn't work? That would be sad, but you could just keep cuddling to ease the pain/awkwardness.>what if he sees notices body hair and gets grossed out? Depends on the kind of body hair and how much, but you could try shaving it in advance.>what if i don't orgasm and he feels bad? Just make it clear that you still want him.>what if i orgasm too quickly and it ruins the moment? There could be no greater compliment.>what if i get pregnant? am i even supposed to use a condom? That's up to you. Do you/would you want to get pregnant?
OP is male and you're all falling for the bait for the millionth time. Retards.
>>82352611how would i know i am gay
>>82352776>most girls would reject me for being a virginHow do you make these assumptions when you've never talked to any women in the first place?
>>82352611>it is going to change everything forever and i am so anxious about it.It won't>i feel like once a man has sex with me, he sees how i look naked, how i act during sex, etc he will never want to come back to me because i am not pretty or experienced with sex.Choose to be with a man that will want to be with you afterwards>am i supposed to play coy or act outwardly horny?Just be yourself. if you're shy, you're shy. If you're horny, you're horny>what if he thinks i'm a whore?he won't>what if he judges my pussy's appearance?he won't>what if he thinks it smells bad? showering before sex is always good practice>what if i get sweaty and look and smell gross?it's sexywhat if my noises are annoying?it's sexy>what if i don't bleed and he thinks i'm lying about being virgin?talk to him>what if i have vaginismus and sex just doesn't work?talk to a gynacologist >what if he sees notices body hair and gets grossed out?that's a him problem >what if i don't orgasm and he feels bad? just do it again later>what if i orgasm too quickly and it ruins the moment?just do it again later>what if i get pregnant? am i even supposed to use a condom? Use condom or a pill. don't rely on pull out method>god i dread my first time so much.your husband will look after you>>82352776Don't do this. find a girlfriend and have sex with her.>>82357877don't care. replied anyway
>>82352611Ignore the retards telling you sex is as basic as any other bodily need, I guarantee you they're fat and ugly degenerates. Find someone that loves you and wants to spend their life with you and just slowly enjoy learning everything about each other, both mentally and physically. Be sure to be the best for each other and enjoy your lives and intimacy.
When I lost mine, it hurt. Part of that though was because I was extremely nervous. It was like that both the first and second time. Thankfully my now husband was was really gentle with me. By the time we had sex the third time on our honeymoon, it was great. It really opened doors for me.I wish I did have some sex toys to get used to before, but I was stupidly naive and my parents were that type.
