showed attraction to a woman at work who was friendly to me and now she has become very distant, i didn't mean anything by it,i just couldn't hide that i thought she looked nice as well as i probably should have, now i feel like a massive unlovable creep againthis is how i know i'm hideous, cause what other reason could there be from me unsubtle expressing attraction and a woman being so revolted by it that they don't want to acknowledge me anymore?i'm tired of this being my life guys, i just want people to like me with it feeling so hard to achieve
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>>82367424To express desire is to reveal the self, and in doing so, invite the judgment of another's world. Her withdrawal is not a verdict on your worth, but a reflection of how easily vulnerability unsettles the fragile balance between presence and perception. What feels like rejection is often just the dissonance between two inner worlds, briefly and imperfectly intersecting.
>showed attactionNever, ever, show attraction in co-workers. If you do, make sure they or you are close to their last day of working there. It becomes very fucking awkward afterwards if it is unrequited, even if the friendship is great.
>>82367424SHE'S A DUMB FUCKING CUNT WORTH LESS THAN SHIT ON YOUR SHOE OP FUCK HER SHE'S NOTHING AND SHE'S A HUGE FUCKING BITCH WHILE SHE'S NOTHING THE GALL. And OP? Sometimes people just don't know how to handle situations like that because they don't expect it at work, I wouldn't take it so personally.
>>82367493here's the thing though, she is the one making it awkward now, i wasen't going to actually going to try pursuing anything with her but now i think that she got that glimmer of attraction she thinks i'm a creep that will try it on with her, sorry, i'm just a guy who likes women and isn't as subtle about it as i should be given that i'm not attractive enough for them to find the feeling mutual, nothing more to it
>>82367523the best thing to do is to not reciprocate her awkward behavior. keep talking to her like you used to, and if she doesn't respond for a while then oh well. if you let it seem like her reaction is a big deal to you, then you are doomed. if you can keep being normal around her then after a while she will start questioning herself about your intentions, and probably after a week will start treating you how she did before
>>82367424Wtf is "show attraction"? How would that even be possible? How do you do that? Surely you either tell her or don't.
>>82367424F. This is why I never do shit unless a foid is all over me. Which has never happened.Even the foids who liked me never spoke to me, let alone cross the touch barrier.They just stared, and they were never alone at the time.
>>82367939i think it's obvious when i'm getting a bit flirtatious, i'm not as subtle as i'd like to be and i'm not smooth about it either
>>82367963>obvious>little bitTell us what you did, schizo
>>82367972you see the clip of harvey Weinstein rubbing the woman's arm?kind of like that without the arm rubbing
>>82368001you're disgusting. at work, too? holy shit.
>>82368001How do you rub someone's arm without rubbing the arm? Was it a hover hand type of thing?
>>82368074harvey weinstein called the girls into his office and then sexually ab*sed them with all kinds of nasty offers and blackmail
>>82368001that's what i felt like i was doing in the moment, i was thinking about that clip as i was with her, i just came up in my mind, i could have been completely normal for all i know but i felt like is was being like harvey in that moment and her avoidance of me since has kind of confirmed that i was being too weird>>82368074i didn't put my hand anywhere near her, i just felt that i was being flirty
>>82367493Its just attraction not love you dumb hole
>>82368123>unrequited attraction
>>82368134Yh like the anime milfs I fap to just carnal lust not love
have you tried apologizing?
>>82368105>i just felt that i was being flirtyIn what way? Were you doing something?
>>82368178she might find it weird if i apologize cause it would acknowledge that i thought i was being flirtatious and i'm not even sure if that's the reason she is behaving more distant around me, this is all just speculation on my part, the narrative in my mind is that i must have been being weird and therefore she is treating me differently cause of it>>82368197staring, smiling creepily , talking in a deeper voice
>>82368227none of those things are flirty.
>>82367424Ur a retard. Never state ur attracted to them / clearly show it. women live in their head and desire mind games for emotional highs. They gotta be the ones openly hinting at if ur into them or not same way she's gotta be the one to say I love u first
>>82368227So you acted like a fucking retard and now she's so turned off by you that she can't even pretend to be nice to you. Makes sense.
Think of it like this, just like you cant help showing attraction she cant help showing revulsion. She isn't trying to be mean, youre just repulsive.
anyway, going to bed now, will just think about the fact that i'm thinking way too much about her right now and know for a fact i'm not at all a thought in her mind at the moment, so why bother wasting all the mental energy anyway
>>82368272not the first time i've acted retarded around her, this was just in a more flirty way
>>82368281that another good one for the ole self esteem, thanks man, sure is great being an unremarkable man
>>82368283she is in the girls group chat at work slating you rn. when you go in tomorrow they will all be staring at you and then quickly turn away with a slight grimace when you look at them
You might not be hideous. You obviously have really bad social skills though. >cause what other reason could there be from me unsubtle expressing attraction and a woman being so revolted by it that they don't want to acknowledge me anymore?You can't read the difference between friendliness between colleagues and attraction, and that's terrifying to a woman. Her mind immediately goes to "What else might he misread?" Better to just stop talking to you. The truth is you probably aren't hideous otherwise she wouldn't have been nice to you in the first place. Women are only nice to decent looking people, unless they have some other reason to be nice.
>>82368307i don't know why they'd have a group chat, they chat enough at work as it is
>>82368319bro really? of course they have a stupid whatsapp group or whatever where they gossip. this is common everywhere. just because you're never invited doesn't mean they don't exist
>>82368319wym? everyone has group chats.
>>82368315i can tell the difference, i never assumed it was anything more than friendliness, i am already fairly certain she has a partner, my dumb porn addled man brain however started having me look at her differently thoughthe other reason to be nice if that we work in the same building btw
>>82368334>>82368337we are in our 30's, lot of the other coworkers have kids and lives outside of work, i doubt they have a group chat
okay but have you tried apologizing?
>>82368370are they under the age of 70?
