>be me, 4/10 loser incel who barely goes outside>have friend from work who invites me to a movie>think she likes me cuz she messages me a lot but cant tell cuz autism>i dont confirm to the plans and sleep in>wake up to missed calls>apparently she thought i confirmed and was really sad i didnt gothis is totally my fault for being retarded but why couldnt she just confirm againi still havent apologized and its been like 2 days, she hasnt texted me since (neither have i tho) i havent even read all the texts she sent me because i have a panic attack everytime i try to lookdo i say sorry or just ropemaxx for being a horrible person
>>82510091what a normal people would do is apologize, say you had an emergency come up that you needed to attend to, and reschedule - as in you reschedule, you invite them somewhere and make it your business to show up on time regardless of how anxious you feel
>>82510101but what if she hates me? i already canceled before on her birthday because i had a panic attack as i hate big parties. wouldnt it be better if i blocked her so she wouldnt have to deal with me ever again
>>82510091damn, you will die alone, you are such a dork.
>>82510110blocking someone doesn't fix the problem, it just kicks the can further down the road, if you actually want to have a relationship with this person you have to talk to them and just be honest, because honesty helps you say what you really want while not getting yourself trapped in your own head
>>82510119yeah i know, ive come to terms with that already lol. considering just cutting everyone off to make suicide less painful mentally
>>82510128i want to try to text her an apology but whenever i open her messages i start to have a panic attack and close it as fast as I can. usually i just ignore problems with friends until they stop talking to me
>>82510134the problem will keep happening until you actively try to fix it, so why not try fix it now and save yourself the trouble? and why are you having a panic attack anyway, she probably thinks you're nice and just odd
>>82510141because i feel really bad and im not used to confrontation. id rather not fix it at all and just never talk to her again desu, not cuz i dislike her but because i dont wanna mess up again
>>82510145like i said, you'll keep having this problem until you fix it
>>82510156wouldn't it just be easier to kill myself
>>82510091I'm starting to see why normies say incels deserve their fate, because you surely do. Love is served to you on a silver platter, and you literally spit on it for no fucking reason.
>>82510248HOW IS IT LOVE SHE JUST INVITED ME TO A MOVIE. just because she pities me doesnt mean she loves me
>>82510251Literally proving my point, nonny.
>>82510270literally how !!! i do not understand how this was a chance for love in any way
So, why didn't you confirm on the date?
>>82510321i got distracted and missed some of her texts where she confirmed. im really anti-social especially with women so i was nervous
>>82510332Well the impression you gave her is that you are a dickhead.
>>82510299Then you will die loveless by your own hand, what the hell do you want me to say? Imagine getting served a nutritious meal and being all like "n-no it's probably poisoned anyway uguu" and starving to death. You revel in your own helplessness and woeismeness and if you don't fix these you'll get your bad ending and it'll be your own fault. Please snap out of it.
>>82510349i know!!! thats why i want to kms instead of apologize cuz i missed her birthday after i had a panic attack (i told her and she said it was okay and asked if i was okay after it)
>>82510358i genuinely dont understand how this couldve led to love though!! im pretty ugly and autistic so i talk too much. i doubt she would be attracted to me. she was just asking me to watch it cuz we both like Demon Slayer
>>82510169Ok listen. I won't pretend to have any experience, but I do have a lot of regrets and social anxiety.First of all, once you've actually considered suicide, this idea will never leave you. I know that. It is always an escape plan, and it really seems like it not the worst sometimes.Second, let's consider the possibility that you don't kill yourself. Then try to make the life of future you easier. If you want a relationship and live, then you need to take the first steps toward such a distant goal NOW. Sure there is always later, just like there's always suicide. But life really is a constant state of now. You are never tomorrow, only now. There will be a point in your life when you will have to do it and the sooner you do it, the better you will be at it.Now what to tell her : BE HONEST. By that I mean, tell her that you actually wanted to talk to her but that it stressed you out. Maybe you were scared of saying the wrong things and making her leave. Tell her the more you pushed back the moment the worst it made you feel. It made you feel like abandonning her or something (which you didn't like).Like someone else pointed out, propose another time to see eachother, that is important and shows 2 things : 1) You want to be with her, 2) You are ready to change some of your faults.I can't garantee it will work and anyone pretending otherwise is a liar. But I can tell you the best way to have relationships is through your own engagement (and you know it).
>>82510413i can try to fix things with her by apologizing but whenever i try to text her my chest gets super tight and I physically cant respond. im trying really hard but i cant get myself to do it
>Write out a message on like notes app>copy it>paste it into a message>send>take a nap>check messages after
>>82510462i physically cant even open the messages app. ive been ignoring everyone i know because of this
>>82510363You should try going on a ketogenic diet, I hear it can deal with panic attacks and anxiety.
>>82510427This guy >>82510462 may have a solution. If you only panic when you like open the chat then maybe this way you won't have the time to panic. Write your message, copy then very quickly open the chat, paste it.if you are on phone though I am not sure.What I can tell you to give you mental strength : listen to music you like that makes you feel powerful. and most importantly DON'T THINK ABOUT IT. I don't know hwy but there are things in life I do much better/easier when I don't think about it.
>>82510496i could try but i cope by having junk food or soda. if i get rid of that id probably drink more alcohol too. im not fat it just makes me feel mentally better
>>82510489Do you and her have any mutuals that you can ask to tell her on behalf? Maybe a friend/person you know to send her a message on your phone for you??
>>82510506i panic when im just on my phone in general. even when i dont think about it (playing games or whatever) my chest still hurts
>>82510511no not really. i barely have any friends, and the ones i do dont know that im anxious
>>82510521Is getting (slightly) drunk a possibility. Apparently it helps with social situations though I am no expert here. See this video on alcohol from Kurzgesagt : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOwmt39L2IQBut remember that this is to be used lightly and is only a very a solution for this present situation.You should really see a therapist at least to try and get better. Just like someone with a physical disability needs to go to a physical doctor, you need to go to a mental doctor. I don't mean this in a mean way. I just think this might be a way to help you get better.
>>82510573Agreed, chest hurting, uneasy stomach, being so anxious that it manifests itself physically over something like this should probably be checked out. It impedes your ability to live life D:
>>82510573i would but ive been drinking a lot recently. ive been to therapy nd it never halped me
>>82510587ive tried. been to multiple therapists and none have been helpful to me.
>>82510609Tell me have you truly ever considered suicide ? Do you care about what happens in the eternity of nothingness that will follow your death and that you will never feel ? Have you considered that after death you will have no possibility to know what happens to this world and to act upon it ?ps : I don't mean this as an insult. There is an actual thought behind it.
>>82510642yea ive considered it but im christian so i couldnt do it cuz im scared of hell
>>82510724No offense but can't your god help you ? Surely an omniscient, omnipotent kind being would know what to do.I am trying to convince a guy with no legs to run here. Not much of what I can say can help you. As Morpheus said "I can only show you the door, you are the one that has to walk through it" (see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xc3VG9JZM6I).But consider the following : you are the only person that can help you. If you die tomorrow (and there will be a day when there won't be a tomorrow) will your failure matter ? No they won't. Push through the pain like you are the last man on the battlefield fighting this war. Because really you are. You are exhausted. Your body and your mind beg for you to stop. But you won't because deep down you know why you fight for. You fight for the future you. You also fight for this girl that wants to be with you.Do it because when you give up on life nothing matters anymore, not the failure or the victories. But the victories will give you hope. They give you something to look back on and be proud of at the dusk of your life.I don't have much more to say. You are the one that can get your mental legs back.
>>82510823the problem is that i dont want to help myself. i despise who i am
>>82510886Did you come here just to vent or because you wanted to get help or advice ?
>>82510091>>82510110>panic attackWow what a fucking faggot you deserve to be alone then. Grow up and respond to people and be punctual stop expecting everybody to baby you like they're your mommy.>>82510119yup definitely dying alone fag doesn't realize how any opportunities to be social are going to dry up quick with age.
>>82510909both of them desu
>>82510915trvth nuke!! im trying to respond but my body physically wont let me so im kinda fucked tho
youre a loser lol
