after what length of time is it appropriate to remove a friend that stopped talking to you?
>>82510651After trying to contact them again first a few times and getting no response, instead of expecting initiation from them.
>>82510769tried that, didnt work. I just want to know im not crazy in thinking I have been ghosted and should just remove them
>>82510780How many times, and was it during a reasonable time they would be free? If they straight up don't respond after many attempts to reach out to them. Then yeah that's kinda ghosted. If they don't initiate really, but at least respond when they're free. They aren't ghosting.
>>82510792four times, I think they I tried at reasonable times. i got no response each time and on different days
>>82510820I personally don't believe in removing people ever, but yeah it sounds like they are kinda being a dick.
>>82510879I honestly think they are probably a friend collector and I am going to be just another username they look at and laugh at or whatever friend collectors do with their trophies
Whenever you want but if I do have a couple people I talk to only every few months or more.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQ274ieBfcE
>>82510903that's fine and all if both sides know that is how it is but if one just ignores the other for a long time with no explanation its rude
>>82510890>probably a friend collectorwhats wrong with that.
>>82510954they waste peoples time
>>82510972but aren't you a people pleaser.
Approximately 168 hours
>>82510996I like to be patient with people, but there is a limit>>82511010why 168 hours specifically?
>>82511015sucks 2 know you wouldn't wait 4 me.
>>82511035who are you, specifically?
>doesn't replyif you're her, I hate you so much.
>>82510651you can remove any friend for any reason, you don't really need a justification if they're not adding much if anything to your life anon
>>82511331I just did, the other anon reminded me how much I hate friend collectors even if it isn't her.
>>82511331You sound as bad as the person OP is complaining about.
>>82511343i hate those kinds of people too :[ i'm a bpdemon so i detest friend collectors too, i really like friendships that mean a lot to me and i put a lot of effort into friendships, whereas collectors don't and just think quantity over quality is better>>82511369i would assume living for yourself and making your own decisions is a terribly hard thing for you, anon :[
>>82511430>i would assume living for yourself and making your own decisions is a terribly hard thing for you, anon :[Nope, I just oppose evil and treachery is the highest form of evil. Twats who see friendships as a commodity that exists solely to extract value from, and then discard aren't human beings. This is the mindset of the friend collector. However I know you are baiting as this mindset is a complete contradiction to the mindset of someone with the disorder you claim to have to the other poster, and how you hate this behaviour in others. Also if you had that disorder what you said to me is complete hypocrisy as they require validation to function. So enjoy the (you) I guess.
>>82511430>i hate those kinds of people too :[ i'm a bpdemon so i detest friend collectors too, i really like friendships that mean a lot to me and i put a lot of effort into friendships, whereas collectors don't and just think quantity over quality is betteryour people are a strange folk, some of you value people a lot and some of you seem to cycle through them at a rapid pace. I don't get it
>>82511921They get scared the person is going to leave when they aren't, and then be complete assholes towards them to push them away or ghost them. Thus making the abandonment they fear actually happen. It's the most fucked up sort of brainworms.
>>82510954>>82510972I detest people like this and realized that its a very common trend. Its dehumanizing for those who practice it and those who are on the receiving end. The Human experience is about the depth of relationships, not shallow dopamine hits. People are much too into ther own head cannons.
>>82511941I dodged the biggest bullet of my life not marrying my bpd-ex. bpd relationships destroyed peoples lives, so many peoples lives that I know, and multiple people died because of it in one way or another. Throw drugs in the mix and its game over.
>>82511941that's fucked and sad honestly>>82511967I just wish they would at least communicate before they ghost, it's very annoying.
>>82512178its a part of life. it really is. get used to it and learn to understand when its done for good reasons or for bad ones.
>>82510651As soon as you notice that you aren't talking anymore. Can be a day, can be a year. Don't waste your time thinking about people that aren't thinking about you.
>>82512194It really wasn't part of life until the late 00s. This behaviour was condemned and not seen as normal or acceptable until dating app culture.
>>82512194still, it sucks. it really sucks to get along with someone only for them to unceremoniously throw it away without an explanation. >>82512218if only I was rational enough to stop caring
>>82512178as a bpdemon, i have always been really strict on communication, like if i ghost someone i actively say why and its ironically usually because i get ghosted first :[
>>82510651I think it depends. I removed someone because I felt they stopped treating me as a friend.
