My girlfriend and i have been together long distance for 4 years, the thing that bothers me is that she goes to more concerts during her free days off of work, than she goes to visit me abroad, notice i'm a poorfag sack of shit that cannot be hired for the love of me, while she's a good wagie making decent money in her country.Do you guys think she's not that much into me? Do you think she should be visiting me more often instead of spending half her salary going to concerts 2-3 times a year (plus albums), while coming to visit me once or twice max?
>>82672466>long distance>4 yearsI'm sorry to tell you this mate, but you don't have a gf
Who the fuck buys albums anymoreBro download her music for her and send it to her.Also 4 years ldr is nuts. People are young to say she's probably is cheating with Chad but consider where you're posting. I'm a romantic fool so I believe ldr scam be successful under certain circumstances. What are the barriers causing this long gap? The total for any ldr should be to be together in person. Are you able to immigrate to her country?
>>82672508Sorry I'm phone posting, I meant to say people are going to say that she's fucking chad and that ldrs can be successful
>>82672466She doesn't owe you anything anon, she's visited you, you haven't visited her. The fact that she makes money and you don't doesn't really mean anything.
Man, you sound like some shutin 5/10 who miraculously scored a pity GF but she didnt have the heart to end it when she should have
>>82672508i'm unemployable, i have no way to get a decent job in my country, let alone hers, she doesn't want to move in mine, she has a cushy work from home job but it requires presence a few days a week.She's definitely not cheating, she's jealous and too spergy to allow anyone else near her.4 years are a lot, and the main problem with moving is money, i'm broke, and she doesn't have her own place, if we were to move she woudn't be able to save up, and i would have no job, wouldn't know the language and would end up dying inside working with pakis at the worst possible places.>>82672535>you haven't visited heri visited her many times when i was working and she was broke.>she doesn't owe you anythingWith this kind of mentality, if you have a wife, she doesn't owe being loyal to you, faggot.>>82672555maybe, let me ask her real quick
>>82672555got the answer, she said "yeeeeeesss" laughing, so that's your answer i guess.
>>82672591Can you get a remote position? Better yourself and learn skills. You can lie in your resume, everyone does
>>82672606So... did she just end the relationship then?
>>82672591You need to include these details anon, you can't make it sound like you've done nothing for four years and let some woman visit you, then cry that she isn't visiting enough.BUT, still. It is her money, she worked for it, she can do what she likes with it. So yeah, honestly, she still doesn't owe you anything.
>>82672606Top kek that you actually asked
>>82672623yeah i program with AI support, python and js, maybe i can poke my nose into C, i've added lies in my resume, has been years and haven't gotten a "yes" yet anywhere stable or serious.>>82672628no anon...>>82672630WIth the same mentality what does a man owe any woman if he makes more money?With the same mentality there would be no marriages and families i assure.Now if you tell me fuck equality, that's ok, i accept the fact a man must earn more, and that's the natural order, but with no context, the "doesn't owe you" doesn't stand on its own.
>>82672682The context is she makes her own money and you don't. That's why she doesn't owe you anything. She might love you, but she clearly has interests outside of you, you can't ask someone you love to give that up and devote themselves to you fully.
>>82672466>long distanceYou don't have a gf. Fucking loser.
>>82672918>you can't pretend that your husband spends money to sustain you if you're a stay at home wife, he doesn't owe you anythingI hope you agree with your above statement for your reasoning method to stay consistent.
>>82672466you sound like a man child , you've been putting in the bare minimum effort with her and you're just holding her back. she's making small steps to live while you're rotting. also 4-5 years is the make or break part of the relationship and the outcome doesn't look good for you. either lock in or start making steps to live without her cuz this doesn't look sustainable anon
>>82673077Well those are two different situations, in one situation there are two people separated by a large distance, it costs a decent amount of money to even see each other. In the other, two people have built a life together, presumably have children, and it genuinely makes sense for someone to be home with those children.
>>82673128i've put in the work, yet money doesn't grow on trees, it's either given to you by those that control most of it (the easier path, the one most people take) or by attempting to provide useful service.I've been focusing heavily on the second as companies have decided unanimously that i am not worth even getting the foot in the door.I've been trying out different alternative avenues to make money, with not great results.now what am i supposed to do here? I've given my best, this manchild simply can't grow up because opportunity isn't being given or handed to him.>>82673196The situation is that i've spent a lot of money to see her and build our relationship, now that i no longer have a job i'd like to see the same from her, and attempt to move forwards, which she said she will, she's getting an apartment eventually, and i'll likely move in yet i'll still need to find a way to make money.
>>82673235Well it sounds like you have seen the same from her. What else do you want her to do? Do you want her to spend all her money on seeing you?
>>82673312No i just wanted to shitpost here, because she asked me to because i complained that she spends half her salary and lots of time off on concerts abroad while we could see each other, since we don't for most of the year.
>>82672466Did you deflower her? Thats all that matters
>>82673387no, she is prudish, actually no, she's not, she's just fearful, both of my size, and of being vulnerable and allowing herself being touched.her words:"it's actually like a third leg i have good reasons to be fearful" just now.
