First of all, let me start by saying this is meant as constructive criticism, and in no way I'm trying to find culprits, man nor woman, chad/stacy nor incel/femcel.I think what most of you define as chadness (Physical beauty, money or success in general) is not what's impeding you to find a partner, but it's rather a matter of socialization. Being pretty can help, obviously (see "Halo effect"), and success too, but those aren't more than social lubricants. People tend to look over reprehensible socialization when those social lubricants are in play (As per the classic threads of fake chads on Tinder saying they are kiddy diddlers), but that doesn't mean that the bad socialization is not in play.In fact, there are many things one can point out as the opposite of social lubricant (social friction?): Bad hygiene, reprehensible opinions, bad manners, and the list goes on. These are the typical things that people point out as tips and advice on how to meet a partner, and it is a place to start, but I think these are the more superficial elements on socialization, the stuff that's easier to change.The core of the matter is, basically, learning how to live in society. How normal interactions go, how people talk and act in everyday settings, and also in more romantic ones, too, and there's no better way to learn those than by just trying, failing and learning. There's so much you can do without actually putting yourself out there and learning through failure because communication and socialization is made up of many small things, not just broad strokes. And by "putting yourself out there" I mean you have to interact with the otherness, with people outside your bubble. The same reason you guys feel normies are out of place here is the reason you feel out of place out there.
>>82891712not reading this, most people are shallow and dont deserve me as friend or whatever
>>82891782I think there are lots of people who are not shallow, but maybe I just got lucky
