How do you guys cope with having no partner? The sex is one thing, but the feeling of being loved.. how do you cope with that?
>>82925279i don't cope, i just feel the pain, through and throughthere's no cope for not being loved, everything you can think of that might work will make you feel even worse instead
>>82925279>how do you cope with that?You don't, when you make a terracotta jug, the clay might fashion the outside, but it's the void inside that makes it useful, someone full of everything they need seeks nothing, but someone who seeks nothing can gain everything, when nothing remains everything is equally possible.
>>82925279Video games, anime, studying Japanese, and focusing on physical fitness. Reading helps as well.
i dont have to usuallyi only get lonely when im in bed but as soon as i get out of bed the feelings disappear and i feel good again
>>82925279Dating sims
>>82925279>The sex is one thing, but the feeling of being loved.. how do you cope with that?Hatredmaxxing. Hatred is more useful than sadness.
>>82925316>>82925308Embrace the pain? I just want to have those moments with a special someone. I feel like shit whenever I go out and see couples. Especially old ones. But we charge forward bros. We have to I guess.>>82925334I like running. It keeps my mind of things. But when the day settles and I'm alone in my condo, I just feel like the weight of loneliness is crushing me. >>82925374A what now?
>>82925279I have my kid, and I have my friends.I'd love a girlfriend or wife, sure. But I can live without one.
>>82925521I run too. Everyday (except Mondays), regardless of the weather (unless it's storming before I even begin). I just ran today, in 55-degree weather (Freedom Units), in light rain. If you're still feeling anything/loneliness after your run, you're not running hard and fast enough. Consider picrel; how many laps do you think you could run around this if you were fully hydrated and caffeinated in...oh, 80-degree weather? I could do two, maybe two and a half.
>>82925521>Embrace the pain?no, not embrace it, just withstand iti don't really like feeling that pain and i never will, but i'd rather not worsen it so i just put up with itwe charge forward
I remember that most normies aren't any better. Most are simply coping in different ways than ours, faking it, some are even suffering more than us for some other reason.
>>82925521>Embrace the pain?Not so much embracing it, or denying it, pain to the mind can be prevented by reframing the mind so the pain simply passes through you, trees aren't knocked over by the wind because they sway with the breeze, what is soft is strong, if the trees rigidly tried to fight the wind, they'd fall over in a stiff breeze, the same with humans and pain, there is nothing we can ever do to possibly resist a hundredth of a thousandth of a millionth of the pain the universe can inflict, so don't resist, let it pass through you, you have to simply obverse emotions but not let them have control over you, read the Tao Te Ching and Sermon on the Mount for more; https://www.spiritual-teaching.org/ebooks-/ewExternalFiles/Tao%20Te%20Ching%20-%20Jane%20English.pdfhttps://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%205-7&version=NIV
>>82925573At max I could do 2, but I'd probably stop at 1.5. Running helps for a while. I run in the morning before work to start the day right. But when I return home after work I feel like shit. It's cold and empty and I have to make dinner. Meal prepping helps somewhat, but the food ends up tasting like turd come the end of the week. My bed feels like concrete and nothing feels right. I wish I had a loving family and a wife I could hold.>>82925544Having a kid is a dream. You are blessed anon. Hopefully we will get a loving woman by our side.>>82925625>what is soft is strong, if the trees rigidly tried to fight the wind, they'd fall over in a stiff breeze, the same with humans and painThat's extremely wise anon. Maybe I should just let it happen. Linger in it. Overcome my fear of dying alone. I am in control of nothing. So maybe I should accept it all?>>82925620One day we will find the cure to our pain. Until then, we will keep withstanding it.>>82925483My heart can't carry hatred for prolonged periods of time. It hurts too much.
>>82925521ANON!! hop on dating sims!! I'm telling you it fills the void. You can get the feeling of being in a relationship without potentially harming yourself or your partner. Overal win win situation.
>>82925788You're a youngster aren't you? Look, novels and dating vidya only works to a certain point. After that, you end up regretting it. Using years imagining love.
>>82925849Well they are great when they work tho! Makes you giggle and what not. But just be patient anon, you will find one.
As a sex-haver with close to two dozen partners, approaching 50, with a decade-and-a-half relationship I've dicked down over 1000 times, I can tell you quite assuredly that the Japanese plastic pussy technology rivals any biohole you will ever fuck. A loli onahole is peak. Your dick will never feel better. Magic Eyes. You can just get them on Amazon now. What you miss is companionship. Find a bro, start a bromance, or just get a dog. Dogs understand loyalty better than any foid; and a bro understands friendship better than any woman. They are incapable of love, honor, or self-growth. There is only one gender; a woman is an object.
>>82925767>Having a kid is a dream. You are blessed anon.It's fuckin cool. Love that little guy to death.>Hopefully we will get a loving woman by our sideI don't think I will, but stranger things have happened. Hope you get yours though.
>>82925930>They are incapable of love, honor, or self-growth. There is only one gender; a woman is an object.You don't deserve to have a fucking opinion dipshit. Keep fucking a plastic tube.
>>82925279>How do you guys cope with having no partner?Hobbies and masturbation. It really isn't that complicated. Granted I am a asocial sperg who actually enjoys solitude most of the time, but still. I think if you keep your balls empty and your days filled with stuff to do then life is pretty satisfying.
>>82925767>That's extremely wise anon. Maybe I should just let it happen. Linger in it. Overcome my fear of dying alone. I am in control of nothing. So maybe I should accept it all?It's not so much that we can't control anything, but rather should only do what it requires nothing from us to do, a cow doesn't have to learn to eat grass, nor does a lion have to learn to hunt, if a lion tries to eat grass it'll die, if a cow tries to hunt it'll die, do whatever takes nothing from you to do, it's not non-action, it's effortless action (the sages call this Wu Wei) which is achieved when you act in accordance with the Tao (the way things flow) like a fish swimming down a stream; being controlled by forces infinitely beyond our comprehension that drag us towards an unknowable and ineffable future, you can still remain without changing, or being destroyed, that fish is an example of Wu Wei but then consider the salmon, who intentionally go against the stream then metamorphose into effectively entirely different organisms then die instantly, that salmon was made to do that, and is acting accordance with the Tao, so it's also an example of Wu Wei, and then the bear doesn't swim at all and eats the dead salmon after they're done breeding, it's not about doing nothing, and letting outside forces act on you, but rather acknowledging the Tao, and your relation to it, then acting effortlessly doing what you're supposed to do, a sword is made to cut, it's achieved Wu Wei when it's cutting, and it's disharmonious when it's being used as a hammer, ofc humans are more complicated than objects, but if you try to use a swordlike person in a hammerlike manner, or a hammerlike person in a swordlike manner, they'll never be satisfied, a hammer can only ever be a hammer, and will only ever be happy hammering, I don't know if any of that makes any sense?
>>82925279I don't, I don't feel anything about "not being loved", I barely even acknowledge love as a real thing. For coping with no sex, I masturbate 3-4 times a day and remember that virtually no real women could keep up with my extreme hunger regardless.
>>82925279watch anime, listen to music, and cry. lots of crying. im embarrassed about it too. i cry quietly in my room once or twice a day and then cry myself to sleep most nightst. it makes me feel like a bitch but i cant help it.
I cope by not contributing to society. No point being at the bottom of the wagie game just to make women's lives easier.
>>82925279originally night walk
>>82925279Hyperviolent power fantasy video games where I embody a creature devoid of any ability to love in fluctuation alongside playing eroges when I get a boner.Pairing that with incredibly poor episodic memory and a good friend circle makes me pretty much set.Worst urge is probably just hugging a pillow in the morning to feel it's warmth. Any thought of romanticism is promptly deflected and returned to the thought cabinet.This has functionally completely stunted my growth as a human being. I am the same man as I was when I was a teenager. I just started owning up to it and most people like me despite my eccentricity.
>>82925279I don't. I am not okay.
Temporary hope.My problems end, with effort.But I wont do it.
>>82925279I have not had many things in life. I've never had a friend or a childhood. A partner is just one of the many footnotes to the list of missing pieces of my humanity. I never loved and I never was loved. My family shunned me since I was born and my mother said her deepest wish is to go back in time so she could abort me.You are trying to peek into a stone cold truecel's heart but you have no pickaxe.
>>82925279i have a girlfriend, retard. she was over last night and i was licking her butthole for like an hour straight while she sat on my face among other things such as cumming inside her twice
I've never had it, so I don't know what I'm missing.Therefore I have no reason to be upset
>>82925279Im fine but my family is very concerned and Ive incidentally made my mom cry about it. My friends dont bring it up anymore and I fly under the radar amongst my coworkers. You dont see cripples spending all their hours wishing for functional legs and seething about it. The deaf and the blind aren't bitching about senses 24/7. You have to live and work with what you got.
>>82925279i give myself all the love i gave her now that she is gone.>bought myself my favorite choclate and my favorite beer and a steak>cooked and ate it myself>bought books i enjoy for me, and read them>instead of supporting her art, i started engaging in my artistic disciplines again>instead of supporting her gym, i started getting /fit/ myself>no more endless bpd hurricane that i am always in crisis mode for: i give myself grace and patience and settle my mind with long walks or runs and im so much calmer now, can think so much betterOr you can think of it in a more mythic-spiritual framework:>'faith is a companion in the darkest of times; a true believer walks with an angel before him, behind him, and upon each shoulder, indeed there is an additional angel in your heart who tempts you and whispers suspect words...surely everything you think too much about becomes problematic: so laugh off bad feelings, impulses, vices and ruminations as the voice of your hearts brother goading you to trip and fall, and be glad that he is with you every step of the way. This love is the love of the faithful to the faithless, the compassionate gift of struggle.'
>>82925788update: i viscerally need this manhe's added to my harem thank u
>>82927575Why don't you buy your own fumos
>>82925279When I'm alone at night scrolling and watching videos and doing things I enjoy, I catch myself thinking about such things. I get into a gosling vibe. However, I'm quickly reminded that my fantasies are just fantasies. If you had a girlfriend, she wouldn't actually love you, you'd just be one of many, if you break up, she can easily find another and she WILL do it. There is no love like the type you see in media, such thing does not exist. Relationships are majorly utilitarian, you provide her with love, comfort, money so on and you get somone you get to be somewhat intimate with. If you did have a girlfriend it would most likely feel like a chore you have to deal with most of the time, where you have to "maintain" her so you can still be her boyfriend and if you don't, she will be unsatisfied and just break up or cheat on you. The only genuine connection you'll ever have is the one through blood, like siblings, parents and your own children. Actual love, where you meet someone, they feel like an actual soulmate/partner, you get to be vulnerable with them and they accept you, and you feel like a special someone to that person is unbelievably rare if not outright fictional. When I'm reminded of that, I immediately go back into enjoying my life like normal, because I have absolutely no desire to be a slave to some slut.
Why would I want to be loved?If God loves me, I am satisfied.If God doesn't love me, nothing matters. All I need do is attempt to be Good.However I have failed that task haha. All that remains is a minimal void waiting for the end.
>>82927727I thought I was about to read a tragic story of an anon who lost his wife. I'm glad you're doing better now.
>>82925279drug addiction, it's the second best thing.
>>82925279I gave up on wanting or getting a girlfriend a long time ago. I just find it a wasteful "investment" really. I can do whatever I want honestly and not having to worry about anything like paying more on things.I guess I am just "different" than everyone else really.
>>82928149I'm addicted to weedThe main give away is the bags under my eyes and the eye crust.
>>82925279I can't, I don't how long I can keep this going. I've always been a codependent person, with my friend a few years ago, but now I have nothing.
>>82925279I just look into the mirror and laugh at how fucking ugly I am, a quick reminder that nobody would date me, so I just do other shit that I enjoy, from time to time I visit hookers to keep my biological urges in check so I don't do something stupid like ask a girl out.
>>82925279I'm 29 and after a decade of trying and getting nowhere I've just accepted that it isn't meant to be and I will just be alone, I'm at the point where having no experience pretty much renders me being in a healthy normal relationship impossible and just left in a perpetual loop
>>82927155Man, I've never been romantically involved with someone but if my immediate family said that shit to me I'd just immediately go buy a gun and off myself
>>82925279I burn myself with a lighter whenever l start to feel something
>>82925279i dont care about being loved, i just want SEXSEXSEX. i dont like being touched and i really dont care much about emotions or whatever so im genuinely not interested in any kind of affection, im just not built for having a gf. i cope with the lack of sex in my life by jerking it 4 times a day minimum.
My mommy loves me like no gf could
>>82925279if you've ever been in a relationship you know that women aren't capable of love, only dependency.
