I want to wake up to text messages and missed calls and get constantly texted by her through the whole day and she is telling me how much she loves me and misses me and that she wants to spend all her time with me and be my wife. How do I find a girl like this?Hardmode she has to be a virgin and be nerdy.
>>82935022I want this too but not a virgin and doesn't need to be nerdy. I want some fake really. Just someone who wants my attention for a while.
>>82935044Low body count like 1 would be also fine she should not be a woman who slept around. I am also a virgin and only want to do it with my future long term gf/wife. She has to be nerdy I can't compromise on that.
>>82935059I'm fine with any bodycount, doesn't matter to me at all
>>82935022if i had that type of clingy gf id ghost her so hard that shed have to call an exorcist
>>82935022>I want to wake up to text messages and missed calls and get constantly texted by her through the whole day and she is telling me ___________ she misses me and that she wants to spend all her time with me _________I have a girl like that.She's a virgin too.Problem is I'm probably deep in the friendzone or possibly daddy/big brother zone. (I'm 29 she's 21)Good side is I'm not a cuck as she's an autistic schizo neet fem(vol-)cel self-proclaimed asexual that doesn't date and has never been in a relationship.But we do exchange around 500-1000 whatsapp messages per day on average for the past 1.5 years.
>>82935073That is fine then you have a higher chance than me I wish you good luck.>>82935093That would be mean girls like that are precious. They have been hurt in the past so you need to extra care with them.
>>82935101>daddy zoneThen tell her what to do and she'll be a good girl and do it
>>82935022>nerdy>not fat>virginpick 2
>>82935101You are lucky how did you meet her? 500-1000 a day sounds a lot but maybe they are just short text msgs so it could be fine if it just a few words per text.
>>82935116She can be fat I am going to help her lose the weight with my care and love :) I mean I would preffer if she would be not but the other two things are way more important.
>>82935114partially works, got her to brush her teeth regularly, clean her room, eat more (BMI went from 15 to 17), but its a struggle sometimes as she's also stubborn AF sometimes.I do not think I easily could (or would want to for that matter) manipulate her into sexual stuff she isn't herself convinced she wants.>>82935132had a tool that put you could export whatsapp chat data into and look at statistics.It broke and I couldn't import chat data that large after +99,999 total Messages, roughly 500K words written, 2500 image files, 15,000 voice messages, 300 video files.That was around the 6 month mark of knowing her about a year ago, so I assume numbers should be about triple that right now.so its an average of like 5 words per message, but the variance might be quite large, so rather than always short messages around 5 words, it looks like sometimes long text conversations, and at other times a simple 1 word "LMAO" message to a meme one of us send. 5 is just the average.>>You are lucky how did you meet her?>be me early 2024 28yo>KHHV, never even approached a girl or tried dating apps>decide I wanna at least try getting a GF this year as new years resolution>procrastinate a few month>create dating app profiles in spring>basically no luck on regular dating apps like tinder or hinge>have account on chink app (Jaumo) that allows users to message people without having to match them first (costs "coins" and you only get 4x a day or something, if you want more you have to pay, I don't pay)>Basically stack up coins for a week, and once a weekend I random message 20ish profiles that look interesting.>initial ignore rate is high, probably 80% don't respond at all>15% respond with low effort 1 word responses and ghost if the conversation is shit or she gets someone more interesting chatting her up>5% have semi good conversations that can last days to weeks, but hey its a numbers gamecont.
>>82935116I pick nerdy and not fat. I never understood obsessions with virgins. Sure, I don't want a girl who slept around with dozens of guys by her 20s, but I think a low bodycount (i.e. 4 - 5) is just as fine, if not better than complete virgin.
>>82935354>partially works, got her to brush her teeth regularlyGood job on making her do healthier things. I really enjoy that part of daddy type relationships. You don't have to manipulate her into doing things though. Just start kind of getting into that territory and see how she responds. If she's being bratty say she needs a spanking (this is an example, don't be too literal here just come up with something more risque that makes sense in the moment), see what she says. If she's negative on it then stop, but if she's neutral or positive try doing a little more and see where it goes.
>>82935022>How do I find a girl like this?Asia>Hardmode she has to be a virgin and be nerdyrural Asia
>>82935354Mainstream dating apps also never worked for me I had a tinny bit of sucess with less mainstream ones but nothing came out of it ever. It sounds like you were talking with women from across the globe which I don't want. She has to be from europe or else the distance will be too much.Still sounds like you are at least somewhat happy with her just try and make her your wife and things will be fine. >>82935426I am from europe I will not date in asia.
>>82935471>I am from europe I will not date in asia.Try Hungary then
>>82935491Lmao hungarians are european the few % of asian dna is neglectable. Better question would be how to meet women from there.
>>82935116i pick one, the virgin thing, and peeps still bash me for it
>>82935548I pick>not fat>crazyand people bash me for that. You can't win anon, so just do your own thing and ignore everyone else.
>>82935561truu truuwell hope u find ur token fembot, anon
>>82935354>after a 2 or 3 month get frustrated with constant ghosting and just being an entertaining clown for an afternoon trying to keep dry AF conversations with foids going>decide rather than just "conserve" my limited coins on women that I could see realistic relationships with from their profile, decide to fuck around and just randomly message people that seem interesting>basically just a mixture of trolling / writing random ass chicks stupid messages out of boredom in a simmilar style I'd talk with random anons on 4chan>e.g.girl has pfp with a falcon on her arm, rather than some thoughtful message about how our interests match and interesting things I found in her profile, I'd message shit like "Yo, your chicken looks kinda skinny, is it allright?">this is actually highly successful, while I can't hold conversations for shit after that, the initial ignore rate (you can only send 1 message at the start, after that the females have to accept your request first, most messages just got ignored) dropped significantly.>anyways, after a while find a profie with 1 blurry AF pic of what might be a skinny girl, a pic of a plant and a pic of a WW2 model tank.>bio says shit like "I hate everyone on here" "Society must burn" etc, just a long ass rambling text about degeneracy.>Think its probably a scam / fake account or a troll or something, but whatever. I don't conserve my coins and I'm bored.>write "Hey, are you autistic or something?"(considering this is her, "Hey, are you autistic or something?" is my most successful pickup line thus far. LMAO)>she accepts the request>she asks me if I'm retarded and tells me to go fuck myself>reply "to be fair, you have to admit your bio does sound autistic as fuck.">she starts rambling about how she's just on here to tell degenerates who message her sexual stuff to kill themselfes and that she hates society and everyonecont.
>>82935022every moid says this btw till they actually have a girl like this
>>82935471no its semi local, like still a few hours by car, but It theoretically wouldn't be a problem meeting up IRL.Also helps that we're both german in germany, all the conversations in my greentext are just translations from german.
>>82935595I had this and she ghosted me because it was too much for her in the end. So no I can say 100 % I want that, I just want to be with her and ignore all other women.>>82935605Oh rly? I don't feel like trying the app since I know how dating apps are but that you could find someone in germany sounds a bit too good since I am also from here. Maybe the move is to just now give a fuck and show your true character as much as possible. Most won't like no matter what so might as well show the one who like you who you really are to have a higher chance.
>>82935595Nah I want that too, had it before and it's nice
>>82935595I don't say that though, I had a girl like that and I kept telling her to look into her anxiety because I don't want her to be so unhealthily obsessed.
>>82935753>>82935746ur just one of the few then lol majority say this till she wants to be apart of everything in ur life as if that wasn't already part of an obsessed gf >>82935759kind of falls into the idea of getting tired of her but most girls like that prefer to stay in their ways than change
>>82935799>most girls like that prefer to stay in their ways than changeWhy not change? Obsession is bad for you. Both people in the relationship would be happier.
>>82935799I think that is very cute and I would feel very loved if I had a girl like that. Sharing everything is the best and my ideal type of relationship.
>>82935799>ur just one of the few thenI just really like the high intensity obsession. I think women like that always lose interest, but I'm looking for temporary anyway so it works out.
>>82935586>I start talking about niezsche, hedonism and nihilism, how social decay is a direct result of "god is dead" the society wide collapse of spiritualism, how to become the ubermensch you have to "become god" and forge your own purpose in life rather than hoping for divine providence>chat for a few hours about philosophy, why the world sucks, personal experiences that confirmed that the world sucks etc.>its nearly 11pm (on june 4th 2024)>eventually say good night>next day, play some vidya life my normal life>afternoon, check dating app again>chat with her is gone>think she probably blocked me, meh, has happened before, will happen again>has been a nice convo, but had other nice convos on that app that only lasted 1 day, whatever, go back to looking through profiles checking if I wanna write a message to anyone.>find new profile with pic of the WW2 tank model>BIO: My account got deleted. Philosophy guy, where are you?>immediately write her "you mean me?">yes, I was "philosophy guy">tells me her account got banned because she told to many people to kill themselfes>ask if she wants to switch to whatsapp in case her account gets deleted again>move over to whatsapp>chat for the rest of day 2 about our childhoods and life experiences and politics and dreams and fears and...>same happens on day 3, and day 4, and ... for the past 500ish days.>>82935746yeah, dating apps are dogshit, I got really fucking lucky I think.She's a bit mental tho, she has a bunch of what would usually be considered "redflags" and since I didn't really care that much yet and was in the IDGAF just see where this goes I just treated her as interesting experiment / pet.At the start I literally called her "Haustier" lolAnyways after knowing so much about her the greenflags far outweight the redflags and I'd wife her up in a heartbeat if I knew she'd agree, I'm just still not sure how to convince that little gremlin that thats the best path foreward.
>>82935808for me ive felt comfort in obsession as it just feels stronger and more real than a normie relationship with complete trust, but i do wish i preferred the latter>>82935824they look for permanent knowing it will be temporary most of the time, it just isn't a good mix imo
>>82935865>i do wish i preferred the latterYou can actually work through it and have your partner be a source of calm rather than anxiety. It feels so much better. I only ever run into girls who are either completely out of their mind in obsessiveness or who use and discard partners.
>>82935865>they look for permanent knowing it will be temporary most of the time, it just isn't a good mix imoThat's true and there are other issues (I refuse to vc, I will log off and do my own thing when I want to) that make it even harder for me to find this. Still, I'm fine with extreme mental illness and don't mind if they want to trauma dump on me so I think I offer something useful here.
>>82935832What redflags if you don't mind sharing?>called her haustierlol what and she was fine with that? You really have to be a bit extreme with women sometimes. Good luck man happy for you for real I wish I could have this as well.>>82935865I also look for permanent I just want to find a girl I can be with forever and grow old.
>>82935893not really a good idea to mingle with that sort of girl based on how you are then, for me i get really upset when people are gone for too long which is pretty common. logging off and doing your own things messes with that and just as a cautionary thing you would just be hurting an already mentally ill girl, and it can take a toll on you>>82935879I hope to live up to that one day but for now it's well managed for the most part
>>82935937>not really a good ideaIt's always worked out fine for me and the people I talk to. I don't tend to be gone long, I'm just not flexible on when I leave. It's never a surprise though and I can give specifics on when I'm leaving and when I'll be back. I'm a very predictable person.
>>82935937How long is too long for you? 1-2 hours or a day?
>>82935937>I hope to live up to that one dayYou should date someone a bit too quiet (me) who needs to learn to be more affectionate and in return learn to be less clingy yourself.
>>82935956seems okay then, reassurance is a big part so u seem fine enough lol>>82935967it really just depends on mood, if im already not in a good mood it could literally just be 5 minutes>>82935970i prefer to be alone now than deal with those kinds of issues, better for both sides
>>82935999>reassurance is a big part so u seem fine enough lolThat's part of what I like. I can dump reassurance on them and be very accepting of whatever they're telling me. Feels good to have that for a while but of course it never lasts long.
>>829359995 minutes is really short but I get it if you are anxious. A bit sad that you don't want to be with anyone atm since women like that are rare.
>>82936015permanent relationships happen more irl, but it might be easier to have one w a girl who is clingy like that, i personally wouldn't know as I never got the point where i actually dated anyone b4 they got tired>>82936029being a very obsessed partner is tiring for me and i've noticed either means nothing to the other side or everything to them, making them tired, its sad but id rather stay out of it
How do I find a nerdy introverted gf who's merely loyal but not insanely clingy?
>>82936051I never got tired of the girl I have talked with but you made bad experiences do I get it, you are just protecting yourself which is fine.
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>>82935903okay, the redflags:>lives in a government subsidized group home assisted living facility AWO for people with "difficulties">has a legal court appointed guardian despite being over 18>has been involuntarily put into closed psychiatric care for teens... more than once, including for trying to stab another girl>no good relationship with... anyone really, including her mom or other family (dad's dead)>depressed>didn't care for basic hygene, semi shitty teeth, but she's in the process of fixing it actually going to the dentist and regularly brushing, I help her with that.>paranoid (e.g. thinks there are cameras in her bathroom, hates showering and only does so with the lights out occasionally, sometimes thinks she's being gangstalked, doesn't take / refuses when the therapist offers her meds)>depressed, some self harm scars>panic attacks in stressful situations, like going full catatonic or even passing out. E.g. during dentist appointments, in crowded public transport>practically hates all humans including children>OCD (the bad kind with actual ticks and triggers, not the meme kind, e.g. has to lock and unlock her door exactly 10 times every time she comes back to her room before finally continuing with her day)>claims she's asexual and hates everything "degenerate">Was diagnosed with BPD by her therapist about a year ago when I already knew her, but desu I don't know how well that fits her>some "Wahnstorungen" audiovisual halluzinations, though those are pretty rare.>lol what and she was fine with that?yes, as long as it isn't meant in a sexual way its fine. Current nickname is either Kartoffel (von Couchkartoffel because she's a NEET) or Katze because she behaves like someone put the soul of a paranoid stray cat into a person. (she fucking circles her sleeping spot on her bed exactly 2 times as an OCD tick before curling up into a fetal position FFS, how cute) and no she's not a furry and hates degenerates, calling her cat is me teasing her
>>82936271That is quite a few but most are things I could overlook if she is nice and caring + a virgin who want to have a ltr and marry one day. Maybe she is just a rough diamond waiting to shine but I don't know about her. A few things do sound good to me since I don't think I could be with a girl who is "normal". Viel glueck mit deiner kazi, mit viel liebe kannst du sie zu einer hauskatze machen.
>>82935903>I also look for permanent I just want to find a girl I can be with forever and grow old.Yes I feel the same way. I basically would wanna wait for marriage anyways, thus I have no problem with her currently claimed asexuality and not wanting to be in a relationship due to her massive trust issues I don't really feel like a friendzoned simp as long as she's a virgin and doesn't date others while I have to watch, and its pretty obvious we are already emotionally dependant on each other as I'm basically the only person in her life she talks to all day for the past 1.5 years.Oh right I forgot a few redflags lol (>>82936271):>massive trust issues, doesn't trust ANYONE including sometimes, but very rarely by now, me>BMI < 17, eating disorder>sometimes as stubborn as a mule>didn't even finish Hauptschulabschluss (she's actually pretty smart tho, not brilliant, but at least >100 IQ, she isn't what you'd expect when you hear she didn't even finish Hauptschule, she just had a shitty life)>unable to hide powerlevel when agitated, non-zero chance she'd call a migrant "Nigger" to his face>shitty emotional regulation overall, sometimes extreme mood swings / extreme emotions in general both positive and negative can be triggered by even tiny shifts in the conversation>and dragonball "ultra instinct" levels of emotional perception, she'll sense any kind of shift in my mood before I even do myself, like a goddamn bloodhound can be scary sometimes, which can be exhausting sometimes having to explain myselfbtw I think thats also the secret as to why I'm the only one who's actually managed to stay in contact with her for longer than a few days without her telling them to fuck off. (She's hot, even dressed like a tomboy hobo)I made a concious effort to be my 100% true self, never lied, gaslit, and autistically explained my thought process every time i "manipulated" her
btw the "manipulated" is using various psychological tricks to get her to brush her teeth or start playing vidya with me or some shit.>>82936497>Viel glueck mit deiner kazi, mit viel liebe kannst du sie zu einer hauskatze machen.I'll fucking try, If this doesn't work out I think I'll just give up and become a hermit, I'm a 29yo KHHV and I found this treasure, because you have the greenflags:>22yo>virgin>never been in a relationship>no friends male nor female, no close family except rarely her sister>kind of secretly wants a soulmate she can trust and get old together, but on the other hand doesn't trust anyone>semi-racist>hates all LGBT, trannies, furries, high bodycount sluts (both male and female), everything degenerate>dresses modestly (albeit looking kinda like a tomboy hobo somtimes rather than "traditional modest female clothing")>autistically obsessed with WW2>never smoked, never drank alcohol, no tattoos, no piercings not even ear rings>no birth controll pills, never even went to the Frauenartzt (that one is a bit of an issue maybe)>will 100% murder-suicide me if I ever manage to get into a relationship with her and then cheat (yes thats a positive)>unvaxxed>not fat, above average looks, and as I form attraction through emotional connection she's the most beautiful person in the world to me>is a NEET, doesn't leave her house unless forced to, doesn't interact with anyone unless forced to (except me, her sister, her Therapist, and her Betreuerin in the assisted living facility)>no social media at all (the dating app where we met was an exception since due to a paranoia mental crashout she though she was gonna die during a dental surgery in a few weeks so she created the profile to insult degenerates, after which she found me.)
>>82935022Even if this girl.exosted she would cheat on you eventually
>>82936051>i personally wouldn't know as I never got the point where i actually dated anyone b4 they got tiredI don't really get tired of it. I just let them end the relationship when they're done. I don't think I'm capable of a permanent relationship so that works well for me.
