Everywhere I go and no matter what I try i only see boomers and other young men?>Churches? Old people and men>barsOld people and men>hobby clubs/language classesOld people and men.So how tf am I supposed to meet and date people?
You're supposed to meet people at university and build enough of a social circle that you're regularly invited to social activities and introduced to new people
>>838671001. find a few activities that allow you to make friends with people2. let those new friends invite you to their social gatherings3. profit
>goes outside>talks to women>not a single one of them gives the slightest hint she's into mewow that changed everything im so glad i bothered
>>83867100Further on that i have asked everyone i know and heres what they told me:>familyThey have no idea and dont teally inderstand why me and my 2 brothers are single while my 2 sisters got engaged at 19 to attractive>coworkersTold me to go to the gym/approach random people in the street and worst case scenario go to the philippines>boomer landlordTold me to dress well and approach random women in the street by saying " may I court you" like in thar meme>male friends All single, told me to go on dating appsI am a bit at my wits end ane have no idea wtf am i supposed to do
>>83867147I did, made a few friends that way but its all guys and when we do stuff together we just hang out between men.Dont get me wrong i am super happy to have them around and going out wity them makes my week but i have never ever met a woman this way
You don't just go outside and talk to people... How does anyone give this retarded advice? Everyone meets people through mutuals. You make friends in school, uni etc. Then through them you meet other people. You need a social circle as a foundation, if you don't have that you're dead. You can't even meet anyone because the fact the you don't have friends or any social media presence at all is a red flag. So it's a feedback loop that keeps you isolated and there's nothing you can do about it now. Should've taken care of it in your teens or early twenties.
>>83867159Philippines and dating apps are both solid ideas actually.When you use dating apps you will be dealing with a ratio of like a hundred trash accounts vs. one viable woman to talk to, but it's the best low effort and low risk option there is.And going to a foreign country where you get an advantage just for being white is obviously helpful. Unless you're not white and then that might not be as great of an option.
>>83867100>literal troonbait gets 2.3m viewsNobody except for troon baiters and actual paid shills expect you to go out and just find a woman in the real world. It doesn't happen, having a woman for the average man is just not going to be a thing anymore, just like stable employment or home ownership. The sooner you understand that, the less disappointed you'll be.
>>83867186>>83867133>teenage yearsWas working as hard as i can to get into a good uni, barely spoke to anyone.Was sent ro an all male youth organization in the we>universityHad about 2 years of normal college life then covid happened and i moved.I have zero ties to my friends from colege anymore. Everyone drifred apart and i moved elsewhere for work
>>83867133Tfw program is all men and everyone just goes to classed then goes home. If you're in a major that's worth a fuck it's going to be mostly men.
>>83867186>Everyone meets people through mutualsNo, lots of people just meet people through dating apps or random other online means too. Even now that I have a bunch of people I talk to through discord the ones I know with irl friends and family and everything still end up dating random people they recently met for the first time off 4chan or discord.
>>83867159OK. It's tough. But the only thing you NEED to do is this:Be attractive. No, I'm not meming. Fix your whole look so you fit into a "type", and by that I mean a sort of man who women find intriguing, for this you need to be somewhat handsome, have a fitting hairstyle and be somewhat in good shape. That's all. Once you reach this TRESHOLD (it absolutely is a treshold) you can just wander about doing random shit and girls will make it obvious to you that they like you. They will stare at you. Ask you stupid things. Do weird things with their hair. At this point you just have to say anything, anything at all, and follow up by asking their names etc, and get phone number/socials. Just focus on your look. After that it is easy mode.
>>83867153Talking to women feels like pulling teeth when you're not Chad. You tell yourself you shouldn't have bothered. Women make me regret talking to them because they hate men and get off on wasting your time and leading you on. Women are Satan's minions.
>>83867100Honestly I have no idea. The only person I know that's destiny anyone is my sister and she met her boyfriend while they were in high school.
>>83867229Same. One sibling just went on bumble and picked the best man she could find amongst litteral thousands. One used another app idk which one and the third one got approached irl
>>83867100Have you tried laying off tranime and talking to women?
>>83867159When I was 24 I had a very well paid job in a prominent company. Still totally friendless, khhv, still not enough to ever afford to own my own living place (be it house or apartment). Top 1% earner in my city by the way.Of course, I already had hobbies. Mostly solitary and too niche for there to be any meetups in my city.So I went through the last the same way as you. I looked up all possible things I might see myself doing and all events and meetups. Like you found out, all hobbies/activities are ancient boomers or men only. And no, of course they won't help you find a gf. Why would they?I didn't do church because I really can't see myself doing that.I tried the gym and made very good strength progress over 4 years, but with a shirt on it makes absolutely no difference. Even with a shirt off, girls told me I look great but actually they prefer if I have a bit more chub on me. I ended up with a permanent injury due to a slightly bad posture exactly once when I was distracted and I can't do any exercise at the weight level where I could make progress any longer.I went to professional hairdressers and stylists and while it's true that I have a strangely polymorphic face that is highly influenced by haircut (and in particular, a female hairdresser, after she was done, was genuinely stunned by my good looks), that still didn't really change anything.Bars, like you said, were just men, with the only women there always being accompanied. Moreover, I have never seen, anywhere in life, a man approach a woman.I then moved countries and suddenly I saw women alone at bars nodding at me to approach, people approaching women at bars and hobbies, women at hobbies at all, etc. I got a date and it lasted a few years. Still looking for someone who won't say she loves me just to monkeybranch later, but at least it's really looking up. And NONE of the usual memes have any relevance.
>>83867422Thats what i am trying to do but i couldnt really get a visa anywhere else. Also my family doesnt want me to quit my jobd and become a vagrant hobo again.
>>83867458Your family is right. What you need to do is get a job first and let the employer sponsor your visa.Don't get me wrong: if you don't have the right passport, it's an uphill battle. It's not like one of these memes where people say "haha you can't afford to live just move lmao".But, it can be done and you can do it if you keep trying. It will take time and effort, though, and you can't just apply to any country at random and see where you land, you could easily be trapped somewhere worse, where the amount of money you earn will be too low to escape later.If that is at all an option for you, try finding a remote job that would allow you to travel. This can help you find countries worth moving to, and it's easier to find jobs when you are in-person than through purely online means. Many managerial and classic desk-type jobs now have remote options, so it's worth looking into this.Otherwise, I'm sure there is SOME way to work with what you have locally, it's just that personally I have never been able to make it.
>>83867509>What you need to do is get a job first and let the employer sponsor your visa.That will absolutely never happen. I work in finance and have never seen anyone get a work visa and litteral every job in anglo countries says "must be allowed to work in x country".>remote jobsDont exist in my country, everyone wants wagies to come to the office 5 days a week which pisses me off because my job COULD be done 100% remotely but they wont do it.
>>83867576That is highly unusual because I happen to be familiar with the finance job landscape and they very heavily higher from elsewhere. The caveat is they don't give a shit how smart or good you are, if you don't come from a good school your CV goes straight into the trash without ever getting looked at. Although to be clear I specifically mean backoffice fintech. I don't know about the rest.Most jobs in general will say 'must be authorized to work', but not all. And it's not just shithole companies that don't say that. Just gotta filter them and see.Have you tried looking at startups? They often are more flexible in their operations. It's a gamble, of course, but usually it's more stable than you might expect. As for remote jobs, look both inside but also outside your country.All that aside, like I said, it's easier said than done. But you are wrong to say it "will absolutely never happen".
>>83867618> you don't come from a good school your CV goes straight into the trash without ever getting looked at.I assume youre talking about the US, i have some random law degree and i got into compliance/AML-KYC/fund admin without any issues because pretty much everyone is recruiting in that field.If you dont mind telling which country did you move from and where to?People have been telling me my only option to migrate is getting in on a working holiday visa , then applying to one of my old clients (got tons in canada/aus/nz).
