does life gets better, what do you think?
no, everyone is the same and never forget that
>>84285577Why are you demoralization stimming so hard today?>>84285567It can, but you have to work hard for it, and if you're not cut out for hard work you have to work even harder. If you're capable of doing that, yes, you can make it.
>>84285567i like that picture reminds me of home the flat stretches of land along the back roads
yeah, I mean my life is the same as ten years ago but I gave up on trying too hard to be respectable person and now I am content with what I have>>84285591>you have to work hard for it>top 5 phrases spoken before disaster
>>84285631Don't I know it. I've worked my ass off but have been screwed over by the world. Maybe OP could have better chances.
>>84285631are u a hikki neet?
>>84285637Everything depends on what exactly you want to achieve. But the general rule is that you're definitely going to suffer to get something and you only have a chance of getting it. The rest is to be considered.>>84285642thankfully yes
>>84285662what do you do on your day to day?
>>84285567sure your circumstances can change and whatever else superficial external attribute but at the end of the day you will always be *you*, and there is no changing that. people have different temperaments and some just have a higher capacity for joy than others, and while you can try and force yourself into a different attitude towards life, you can never force yourself to be someone else. suffice to say that if u werent even capable of being joyful during the peak of the human experience (youth), you will almost certainly not suddenly *change* into some pathological optimist like the normalfags around you.
>>84285662>But the general rule is that you're definitely going to suffer to get something and you only have a chance of getting it.Pretty much what I'm saying too
>>84285688gemu, evening incelwalks, lifting, learning to draw, learning to program, cooknow that I think of it, my life ad vice should be disregarded, considering that it comes from very careless person
>>84285693well my main problem is that my life has always been shit until i met my ex, i got a job, cleaned myself up from drugs, dated her for a year and suddendly she broke up with me without a reason, since then i became an alcoholic and while i am not using other drugs i havent been this miserable, it is not comparable to the past when i was miserable in a way, but i can say for sure NOW im truly miserable, it was 4 years ago and i havent been able to move on from her
>>84285728you have to build some mental fortitude bro. its not healthy to ruminate on events outside of your control. in general, letting other people dictate your emotional states is not worth it. humans are unpredictable and often act entirely on instinct without consideration for how it affects the people impacted by their actions
>>84285567>does life gets betterIt sure does. Then it gets way worse>T. Oldfag
>>84285768>Oldhow old?
>>84285567i have a very bad feeling that no
>>84285759well, im severaly mentally ill and she was the first girlfriend i truly loved her, i even proposed to her to get married, but she broke up with me out of nowhere, bpd is hell desu
>>84285797love is fleeting. you need to lower your expectations for humanity, it will make your life much easier
>>84285843the problem is that i cant make connections anymore, my life is meaningless now, i literally am detached from any emotion other than grief
>>84285797>bpd is hell desuyours or her?
>>84285857mine, been dealing with bpd since i was 16, she had autism, but controllable.
>>84285854this is why god made hobbies. find something other to do with your time. thoughts (even bad ones) disappear if you simply change your focus and stop dwelling on them
>>84285567i just look at my parents lives, nothing has really changed in the 30 years ive been alive. its just the same week on loop. i dont think things get better
>>84285872the problem is i dont even enjoy drawing anymore, im an artist, and i dont even like art anymore, i tried music, videogames, learning another language, etc.
>>84285884sounds like u dont want solutions
>>84285866oh, I seekinda reverse to what's usually happening on this board>>84285890"sounds" is a good word because it's hard to tell these things from an online post
>>84285890i do want solutions, i have got jobs and gone out to meet new people, tried hobbies and stuff, nothing works.>>84285899yeah, its rare for a male to have bpd, desu im foid brained.
>>84285567no and then you die so it doesnt matter
>>84285778>how old?Don't worry about it>T. Oldfag
get better than what? from what? what is the point of comparison?
>>84285567No it doesn't. You either learn how to deal with life being hard and make your circumstances tolerable however you can or you self-destruct. I'm 35 and I've already seen dozens of people ruin their lives or die because they couldn't handle it.
>>84286007hehe, wouldn't it be silly if by Oldfag you've meant something like 33>>84286022to be honest, these types of questions are supposed to be starters for mutual feeding each other with pessimism
>>84286007i bet this anon is 100 years old
>>84286041>something like 33I wish. I was still married at 33
What is to get better? To improve temporarily just so the bad feeling return after a month or two? Or is it to get better for a lot more time? Then I guess it's pretty subjective: imagine a homeless drug addict that went through rehabilitation and now is clean of drugs and work. I guess someone like that exist. But then you have a clinical depressed man that remains sad for the rest of his life. Both scenarios are possible, so I don't think it's possible to draw a single rule.But if it will get better to both of us? I don't know about your life, so I can't tell. As for me, I don't know. From the last 4 years to now my life got gradually worse, but I do hope that someday something change in my life and things improve for good. I'm tired of restarting and restarting things just to get nowhere.
>>84286041>these types of questions are supposed to be starters for mutual feeding each other with pessimismquite boring to be honest
>>84285567I don't think my adult life will ever get better than when I was a NEET living with my mom in a nice house with a pool, delicious homemade food, a cleaning lady once a week, just no responsibilities with my mom doing everything for me in general.Now I'm a wagie dealing with workplace harrassment to make matters worse, living in a shoebox-sized apartment with no privacy, and I just miss those years so much.But also I'm a single and lonely virgin, so my perspective of the future might be skewed...
>>84285567it has its highs and lows. sadly for the majority of people, more lows.
>>84285631>I gave up on trying too hard to be respectable person and now I am content with what I haveThis is the best way. Living up to other peoples expectations of "respectable" is an ever changing goalpost, but being "just okay" is attainable.
