question for men: would you date/marry a woman 20 years your junior? if so, why? do you think you could truly love her?
>>84364564A seven year old, op? I'm not Muslim.
A two year old, op? I'm not a billionaire.
10 years from now, maybe. Right now? I ain't dating an 11 year old. That said, loving her would be the easy part, her seeing me as something other than a surrogate father or an atm would be the real concern.
>>84364588hmmm. i suppose you will have to imagine that you are 38 years old (minimum) in this scenario.
>>84364564No, because they'd be a minor. An 18 year old though? Probably not; we'd have almost nothing in common culturally.
>>84364564If you care about passing on your genes, getting young women pregnant is more optimal than marrying an eggless hag.
>>84364612you will have to do the same:>>84364615>>84364618alright, interesting.. what are the biggest cultural differences between you and an 18 year old?
>>84364613hmm. you would prefer she think of you as a father/atm? you wouldn't be comfortable with her having feelings for you?
>>84364564No. Not until I'm in my 50s and she's in her 30s.
>>84364619This image is retarded because a woman making $300k is going to want to date up to millionaires at least, and most people here don't make that much, and a woman with an IQ of 140 is going to be significantly rarer than men with IQs that high; she would be a unicorn and know it. Her standards would undoubtedly be so high only the top .0000001% of men could hope to meet them. If she were actually going to reciprocate my feelings, I'd pick her in a heartbeat though.
>>84364564>would you date/marry a woman 20 years your junior? if so, why? do you think you could truly love her?I mean, i'm pretty open minded, but I have doubts about that ever happening. I can't claim that i truly would in all contexts say no, but I have a hard time imagining it. The only reason i wouldn't say definitively "no" is that i don't think i can truly know for sure that it could never happen.
>>84364642seems sensible, anon.
>>84364650hmmm. so you lean towards "yes" if it were to really happen?
>>84364641No, as in, that would be concerning and upsetting. I want to be neither of things. The surrogate dad one I can at least understand and bear with a little, since I've already awkwardly played that role for a few of my friends over the years and a lot of people seem to just kind of get that vibe from me a lot. I hear 'you remind me of my dad' enough for it to be annoying.Being seen as just an atm is pretty inexcusable, though regardless of the dynamics at play, and it seems to me a lot of women who are younger than their partner go in with that expectation.
>>84364637What would I even talk about with an 18 year old?
>>84364564a 14 year old? yes that would be ideal. Id let our relationship build for a couple years and then consummate when she's 16 or 17 at peak female form. Then I would have her for the maximum amount of healthy breeding years and physical attractiveness. In return she gets complete emotional and resource stability from a young age and a loving family for the rest of her life. there's a reason arrangements like this were the norm for thousands and thousands of years.
>>84364644an ugly 140 IQ foid making 300k just wants to fuck chad like literally all the rest of them. they want to marry millionaires for the beta bucks, but they will be cheating on him or at the very least fantasizing about ol rape-eyes chad the whole time.
>>84364564I'm 34 and noeven if they were 20, noI'd consider a 24 year oldBut even then I'd really have to know them beforehand because I want to get married and actually love the person
>would you date/marry a woman 20 years your junior? Yes, provided she is a virgin, same race, and will be a good wife. I want her to be obedient, submissive, faithful, diligent, and virtuous >if so, why? The reason should be obvious. A good wife is a good wife. We have eight or ten kids and happy ever after. I know it may seem shocking but I'm not exactly flush with potential brides over here. I'm not alone because of indecision, there's seemingly no women meeting my standards. First good fit that accepts my leadership and philosophy will get snapped up, none of that dumb dating for five years engaged for two years nonsense. If she wants any say on the engagement ring the gets she'd best be looking at designs and styles after our first meet. Ideally we're looking for <1yr timeline from the first talking to married and a positive pregnancy test. >do you think you could truly love her?I'm guessing the unnecessary word 'truly' here is some kind of trick or gotcha. I would love love her, she would love love me, never ending story playing in another dimension.
>>84364564>>84364615>would you date/marry a woman 20 years your junior?I wouldn't be opposed, though I'd prefer like 10-15. Because do you really want someone you supposedly care about to end up alone in their 50s when you'll die? I can understand around 60 because you're old by then, don't move as much, get tired easier and don't fuck, and your spouse dying when you're old is kind of expected.>if so, why?Because there is longer fertility window so there is not as much pressure if you want few kids. Because youthful looks and body is great. Because for some reason I get along with younger people better as my peers at work have completely different life and talk about usual non-topics whenever I hear them. Because I wouldn't mind being kind of guide and mentor to her and "groom" her into wife as I apparently have a knack for teaching.>do you think you could truly love her?Obviously, because age doesn't determine completely how you get along. Besides if she's willing to give me her years that are considered the best then it's only fair I stick sround when she's past that in return. It's like with stretch marks: women hate idea of having kids and being pregnant, claiming it will ruin their body, except the whole point is that you're having kids with someone you're going to stick with, not return to dating market and use your tight belly to lure in next guy. And if we're to stick around, sacrificing belly for basically having some purpose in life as now everything you achieved and learned can be passed down isn't that bad deal, especially that belly doesn't make whole person, it's just part. And apparently having kids earlier lets you bounce back easier to nice looks so more of a reason to have kids earlier than later.1/2
>>84364742I look at stage of life more than age. While I could be much younger girl, if she's willing to spend next 5 years in university, that's a pass as I'm approaching mid 30s and simply don't have time to wait 5 years to have kids if I want energy to play with them. I've already fucked up by not having family by that age, but it was result of both my "less than optimal" choices and stuff I had no control over. No point in crying over spilled milk. If girl isn't willing to have family within like 2-3 years because of education or whatever then 25yo ready for kids is superior choice to 18yo who will stall you for twice or thrice the time.2/2
>>84364564There's a very high likelihood she'd divorce me and that would be very tough to deal with.
>>8436456420 years, well she'd be a little young but I'll assume you mean if I was 40. It depends greatly on her personality. I would be willing to be though that 999/1000 I would not want to date her since our life experiences would be so different. Our personalities would probably be incompatible. 10 years is probably my absolute max and even that is a big stretch I think.
>>84364564I'm 36, adjust the math a little to make it legal but yes I'd go down to 18. My ex was 20 so what's a couple more years? 18-28 is my sweet spot for a serious partner. It's not like I have much in common with women my age anyways so that argument about "What will you even talk about with her?" doesn't bother me. Women are malleable. They take after their man. I will share stuff with her and teach her about things to be interested in and hobbies we can enjoy together.>do you think you could truly love her?If she's good to me and isn't too much of a bitch, absolutely.
>>84364679I'd say most likely not, but i've never been in the situation, so i don't feel like I truly could give such an overconfident answer.
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I am 15. I am in the midst of puberty and have developed enough of a grasp of it to start to consider what kind of girl I like. I also have ADHD and high neuroticism so I put way too much thought into it. My ideal woman is most likely older than me, in her early 20s.I am in my early 20s. I have more developed preferences, learned a bit more that lets me refine things, but ultimately the kind of person I want to date is the same. My ideal woman is now likely around my age. I am deemed updateable for completely arbitrary and sometimes even made up reasons.I am now in my late 20s. I have met a girl who seemed to meet every single thing I was looking for. She was in her early 20s. I did everything I could to make things work, completely 180'ing my life and becoming truly hopeful for once. She cheats on me. She tells me I deserve better and I will have better options in the future. My ideal woman is still in her early 20s.When I am in my mid to late 30s my tastes will be exactly the same. I will value the exact same things, because I always have. The personality traits I look for will continue to almost exclusively be in women in their early 20s. If I don't want to die alone I will have to accept I will be kind of a creep. But really, I don't see how this is my fault. I knew what I wanted the entire time, if it was up to me I would've had my life partner locked decades ago.
>>84364564>do you think you could truly love her?
>>84364637>what are the biggest cultural differences between you and an 18 year old?honestly..theres not much of a difference anymore between the generations. everyone is just as permanently online as the next.i don't think similarity will really be the difference maker anymore.but why would you need to be with someone 20 years older than you?not want.. but need.. why do you need it?
I'm in my 40s so yes, as long as she is mature enough for her age. If we click then the age difference won't matter.
not like girls my age will fucking date me. no one will really. so, i take what i can get and enjoy it. applies to friends too. obviously, you can see how this backfires all the time
>>84364564Your question is weird no matter who you're talking to the chances of the being 38 or above is really low and only a handful of states allow 17 etc
It doesn't really matter what I would or wouldn't do. A woman 20 years my junior would never date me. I'm short, fat, getting gray hairs, and I'm not rich. I severe dry skin issues and I have a small penis. A woman my own age wouldn't even date me, so what does it matter what I want?
>>84364564It would be like adopting a child because 4 year old cannot be wife.
>>84364564More like I wouldn't seriously date a woman under, say, 22? Less than that feels too young for an actual relationship.
>>84364564I'd have to wait a year legally speaking but otherwise yeah of course I would
>>84364564>would you date/marry a woman 20 years your junior?Yes.>if so, why? I don't think people actually change much as adults. I still do pretty much the same things I did 20 years ago.>do you think you could truly love her?Yes, why not?
>20 years from my current age? no>if I am older20 years is excessive and there's likely to be nothing in common culturally. it would also feel wrong. However, I am not going to say no explicitly on age. If there's a connection there, there's a connection there. I don't want a girl to want me just because I am wealthy when I am of that age though. My only real age requirement is that they are an adult that at least has some level of learned life experience (so generally early 20s). They are capable of making their own decisions. My other requirement is that I want kids, so while I prefer my age or younger (since the biological clock ticks a bit faster for women for bearing kids), it's not explicit.
