Oh yeah and you don't have to answer the thoughts green text that was just for me. I also meant to put my thoughts and I spaced it because its not supposed to be with the other greentext.

29
Male
Mental illness. Cptsd. im otherwise pretty average at least lookswise.
Porn
Maybe if my therapy works I'll get my life back I guess. Not just sex and gf but education and career too.
If nothing else, try not to blame yourselves too much for your lot in life. It's probably not your fault despite what bitter misandrists on reddit will tell you.

ive been here a long time, well before "incel" became mainstream

>>84498629
>These damn phones ruined dating... back in my day people would go outside and drank from a hose...
You're an incel because you're short and fat (you also probably blame your race among other stuff as well)
This thread will either die or have a bunch of fakecels complaining and then one troon will say something like "teehee I'm a foid and no one wants me" and the incels shall seethe while the simps will dropl

>>84498629
23
male
never put myself out there to be honest, never had a dating app etc.
i don't really think about it i just go about my day, i jerk off like once or twice a week
yes
i feel like things will work out for me eventually, i'm more focused on myself at this current point in time which feels fine but maybe i'm coping to some extent. never lose hope never doubt yourself howmstever

>>84498660
>Cptsd
hello fellow cptsd sufferer. That's also why I'm a virgin, took me decades to figure that out

29 yo escortcel
Physically and mentally ugly
I havent even tried talking to a woman in almost a decade now
I have given up
I dont even enjoy the whores I just get so desperately lonely and horny that I end up wasting my money on a depressing simulation of romantic intimacy

>>84498629
>26
>Male
>I can't get along with normies at all
>Mostly I don't care, sometimes I listen to metal to make the pain go away
>I don't know and I am not sure I care either

>Thoughts
I got things to do

>>84498629
30, male
never had sex, no cope, no hope

>>84498629
>Age
34
>Gender
Male
>Why are you a virgin?
Autism + don't have the looks to make up for it + live in a country where younger demographics skew male and the women are notoriously cold and picky (Canada).
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Masturbation.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
No.

>>84498629
37
Male
Autist
Dissociation
Its over

>>84498629
21
Male
Ugly as sin and fat as fuck+ socially awkward and broke
No sex drive due to low testosterone
I'm trying to lose weight, but I'm scared I'll look like a femboy or be unable to buy clothes as I'm already on the smaller end, despite being fat(I refuse to buy clothes from the women's section or kids section).

>>84498629
A common 4chan phrase is "you're here forever", right?
"WAGMI" (we're all gonna make it) is another one you see.
I and many others would say take that to the next level. How?
>We are seeing the inner darkness
>they escape into their own little addiction
Light. Light of all kinds requires resources, be it the sun, a fire, a bulb. Sometimes we need or would simply do well to take a step back from many aspects of life, even the attempt to make friends. Many do it to work on their *mental health.
I, like many others, shifted gears towards investing. Went to /biz/, did what many said and carefully researched leads instead of just chasing hype, stuff that already rose greatly in price, etc.
This isn't about luxuries, but just like people who prepare for rough economic times, or natural disasters fare much better AND are often able to help people they know, or good people they meet due to those events, so we can be as this "darkness" increases.
So even I, who didn't bother with grade 12 math, was able to do the boring research, and able to find opportunities that ended up multiplying investments by 10, 30, even 1000.
Because of this I've been able to help out people I knew or their families, to get medicines when they were unable to on their own due to lockdowns costing them their jobs, or rebuild after hurricanes hit them.

>>84498629
>mental illness* and social isolation
>obvious to the average person that things are bad
Material resources are just one form of light you can get prepared with for the upcoming darkness. I know boys and girls who call themselves out on their lesser ways or mental illness, sometimes diagnosed sometimes not.
I never heard "shit test" IRL until this girl I know had yet another moment of reflection, no one teased or criticized her, thinking she really needed to curb the habit if she ever wanted a good marriage. Same with "woman moment". Girls who want to find someone mentally stable, even knowing they need to overcome their own shyness/illness to attract/keep such a person.
Anyway, every confession I ever got was unexpected, because I was just taking the time to hear people out, so they felt I had gotten to know them by time that surprise came. I'd be replying while gaming or watching stuff and I think people appreciated that I was willing to do this, even if I replied slower.
But also, cursing/swearing is not something I do. I don't make references/jokes every couple of minutes. Basically, don't be afraid to display your calm, mature side as you interact with communities centered are your hobbies (games, music, film, etc.). Many have hilarious friends, or are memelords themselves, but feel they lack a certain level of maturity in their life. People who love joking, gaming and laughing with their friends, but sometimes wish they had a more mature figure to look up to (or could be that for others when their friends are very downcast).

>>84498629
>>Age
20
>>Gender
Male
>>Why are you a virgin?
Unattractive and I'm an autist NEET with zero social interaction or friends.
>>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
I seethe on 4chan and watch violent porn.
>>Do you think there is any hope for you?
No. Will probably kms one day.

>>84498629
28
lol
autism, was fat a long time of my life because of depression, grew up poor and bullied took me years to catch up while others had sex and relationships and I have high standards
I don't really care anymore women at my age are so ugly and younger women don't want me so who cares
Yeah maybe once I get jacked and have a lot of cash + looksmaxxing. Women only care about looks, status and money nothing else. I am 6'3 so lel.
AWATS

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>>84498629
>22
>male
>not good looking enough for girls to notice, too socially inept to successfully initiate anything
>lean into escapism, play vidya, smoke pot
>no
>thoughts
I'm too much of a chud to ever be liked by a girl. I wish there was someone out there who could like me for who I am but that kind of love doesn't exist with females. The only care about how you make them feel, and I can't make them feel anything.

>>84499399
This has caused people who are actually more mature than they let on normally, or who wish to develop a more mature side, to reach out to me. I never see it coming because to me it's "normal" or just how I was raised, even kinda boring. People adding me with personal accounts in spaces where that's usually a no-no.
Makes sense in a way: the best parents know how to be fun and/or see why their mate/children enjoy something a lot, while also knowing how to be mature/composed when the situation benefits from it.
So don't feel you have to be the eternal jokester or social butterfly. Communicate with people in a calm, mature way, that shows interest in understanding their thinking, over time.
This has lead to me hearing about ways people said I was stable/reliable when I wasn't around, or waking up and back-reading in a server to see what funny stuff happened and seeing people say stuff like "he's the only/most level-headed one". Many times this comes out of nowhere when I'm present talking with everyone too.
So, by taking some time to focus on yourself, developing your mature side and maybe even your material resources, you not only bring light to your own life, but become capable of shining some light in a darkening world as well.
Is it easy? Not all the time but it's worth doing. Is it your obligation? Perhaps not but hopefully you can see the benefits and why these are paths worth considering. Much as we could have been born surrounded by people who had great maturity and resources, serving as great examples for us... we can be the ones to bring that into our lives and the lives of others.
Many people have an "inner light" that has been rejected over and over, who now hide it, but wish to meet someone who can give them the courage to show it again. That can be us and as experience shows we may meet those people when we least expect it. But we have to take initiative to find them among over 8 billion people.

18
F
Cry
No, people are too cruel and i am not special

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>>84498629
>Age
26
>Gender
Neutral
>Why are you a virgin?
I never thought about it.
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
I never thought about it.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
I'm just glad that I'm not starving
>Thoughts
I love video games

>>84498629
18
male
struggle to develop romantic feelings / timid, especially considering living in extremely normie city / still suffering from an anxiety disorder, depression, disassociative disorder, with traits of anhedonia and bpd after being cleared from hospital
masturbating and escapism through dxm since pot is illegal here
unlikely since therapy is ineffective and usually just boils down to things i'm already aware or explained or reflected on, and medications doing the same thing
i'm probably just a volcel

>>84499613
>dxm
You really are 18

>>84498629
>age: 21 (turning 22 this yr)

>gender: male

>why virgin?: dunno if i'm truly even an incel because i honestly haven't tried, i don't have dating apps, when i go to bars or out to eat with family and friends i have never thought about hitting on women, only spending time with my family & friends, i honestly don't care all that much about sex in general and i will only give my virginity to a woman that loves me

>how cope?: i honestly don't really cope at all lol, i guess i masturbate habitually? (3-4 times a week)

>is there any hope?: maybe, my concern isn't sex, it's love, i'm an awfully hopeless romantic, the influence of social media and dating apps has genuine, true love by the throat, most people date primarily for looks, most people have had one terrible relationship and are still healing, most people too are stuck in the day to day rat race and slaving away which leaves them unable to focus on love and relationships, most people want hookups and then to call it a day, so on and so forth.

it's a wicked age we live in, being a lover is like being a sheep surrounded by a pack of wolves.

>>84498629
>34
>m
>never thought I was worthy, never thought it was possible
>how do I cope? How can I miss something which I've never experienced?
>hope
Deep down I know there is none but for some reason still when I see a pretty girl I wonder how I could trick her into letting me take her to dinner.

>>84499647
I think the best way to go about relationships is a bit like going out with friends and family: there's tons of risk involved (accidents, disasters, shootings, etc.) but instead of being too scared we decided to acknowledge danger and stay alert and take precautions
Some of this is so standard now we see it as common sense or law like putting on seatbelts and many other car safety matters which at its best includes knowing a lot about the vehicle we've bought
Honestly no guarantee our friends and family won't go down a bad path or have an episode and cause trouble for us but people continue to make friends and have families and at its best it involves taking a long term approach to getting to know them well
Many people yearn and talk to their friends about their yearning but sometimes this yearning goes on for years so we might as well take the time to really get to know people even if the romantic in us makes us want to get with someone we're getting along with rather quickly
It's like a house can get away with a good foundation but if you can spend more time and make it a great one then you might as well and by getting to know someone better (even if we think they'd go out with us now) we might get to know the stuff they need to heal from or need help with and develop methods before beginning a romance rather than figuring it out after it begins

>Age
19
>Gender
Male
>Why are you a virgin?
Social anxiety and social isolation
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Journaling my feelings
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
It depends. If I get over my social anxiety and make friends maybe I would have a chance.
>Thoughts
I'm trying to accept I will never have a girlfriend. By doing that my focus shifts and I'm now more concerned with my hobbies. Maybe I can't suppress that for too long though.

>>84498629
>Age
25.
>Gender
Male.
>Why are you a virgin?
I don't really click with what people around me like + whenever I tried to make "friends" (not even getting a GF, "friends") people would just eventually ignore and abandon me no matter how much I put myself out
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Post here. And fap once a week. Although I have been trying not to do it for more time because I don't feel as much pleasure anymore, but eventually end doing it anyway because I guess even that little pleasure I still feel is better than nothing despite losing sensibility.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
Not really. I have accepted that I'm so boring for other people claiming to be "friends" that they never call me for anything (I had to be the one initiating all the time) and eventually abandon me. Can't really force to change myself since I just don't like what other people do. If I can't hold basic friendship then no way in hell I could hold a GF, even worse in the current era with how women are. Doesn't help that I already went though high school and college so with just wageslaving I got no hope left. I can only hope when I die or kill myself that I reroll a better life.

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>>84498629
>Age
Early 20s above drinking age
>Gender
Dude
>Why are you a virgin?
Extreme lack of self confidence and self esteem long with being socially retarded. Parents divorce really messed me up.
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Hanging out with friends/spending time with family. Playing video games, watching movies/shows/internet videos, and reading books/comic books(and manga). Going on walks. Drinking at bars when they have "goth n emo" events.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
I guess. Friends have been teaching me how to work out properly and have accompanied me to the bars and clubs I like. Still feels weird when chicks dance with me/touch me. Though things got weird when my friend drunkenly kissed my neck despite him having a gf. Had to push him off of me. Intimacy issues are kind of crawling back now.
>Thoughts
I just want to spend time with a nice chick who's as interested in me as much as I'm interested in her. I don't know what's broken with my brain that makes it hard for me to get a gf. Friend's gf(alt chick) tried to set me up with one of her friends but her friend never has time for me. And years before that I was friends with this (different) alt chick but she was a schizo cutter who just out of the blue schizo'ed out over text and cut off and my friends.
I just don't know what I am doing wrong. Only new people who talk with me or recognize me are dudes and the only time chicks seem to talk to me out side of dancing with me is out of pity.

>>84498629
>Age
33
>Gender
M
>Why are you a virgin?
Abandonment issues stemming from childhood trauma, raised by a mentally ill mother and a weak father. I had one chance to break free for the cycle, but I failed, had a breakdown, here I am.
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
I started to disassociate for long periods of time. I once looked up and realized I had been on autopilot for 2 years, not a single thought in my head, long memory gaps. Not a recommended strategy
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
I hope there is hope. I try to interact and be friendly as often as I can, but its hard when I know I have nothing to offer in a relationship. or even friendship.

>>84498629
>30
>male
>ugly
>I don't
>no
>none

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>>84498629
>Age
32
>Gender
Male
>Why are you a virgin?
I have autism along with adhd. I am very shy and intimidated by girls so it makes it very difficult to talk to them. I was given bad advice growing up and used that advice but it just hurt me all throughout school. I can barely hold a conversation with a girl let alone look into her eyes because of how I am. I sweat profusely when under a lot of pressure and stammer. Who would even want a person like me?
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex? I try to fight those urges and distract myself with something else so I dont get too overwhelmed and let my emotions control me. I disappointed mom im sure with no family for her to see and it hurts me more to know i failed.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
At 32? No way. I believe I missed every opportunity and I will always be alone.
>Thoughts
I already feel like I am broken and who wants a broken guy? No one. My hair is slowly falling out and I feel like libido is at like 1 and my dick doesnt really get hard anymore. I guess it goes like if you dont use it you lose it?

>>84498629
>>Age
27
>>Gender
Male
>>Why are you a virgin?
Avoidant/scared of getting close to people because my mom was emotionally abusive, whereas men are expected to initiate and pursue relationships
>>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Reading, working out, biking and kayaking when it's nice out, video games when I can find the motivation to start one. Used to be drinking but thankfully not anymore.
>>Do you think there is any hope for you?
No way. Even if I was able to somehow mask my social awkwardness enough to make women not be immediately put off by me, being a virgin at this age would disgust them and I'm not the type of person to just lie about it. At best I'd end up with someone who quietly resents me because they wanted someone better, and I'd rather be alone than in that situation.
>>Thoughts
I feel like I have pretty much maxed out my potential when it comes to regular indicators of success. I have a small house, the mortgage on which eats up half my income, and one friend I see every month or two. Any further financial or relationship success seems inaccessible because of my social ineptitude. So, I think what I need to do is find out what else I want out of life/what I would really like to do, but it's difficult to think of anything, I feel very unmotivated pretty much all of the time.

>>84498629
>>Age
24
>>Gender
M
>>Why are you a virgin?
Uggo + mental illness.
>>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
I don't.
>>Do you think there is any hope for you?
Maybe.
>>Thoughts
Negative ones.

>>84498629
>>Age
23
>>Gender
M
>>Why are you a virgin?
For one I never had the chance to lose it probably because I'm ugly and no girl showed interest in me. Other than that I want to wait until either marriage or engagement.
>>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Vidya, sleeping, idk man. Hard to tell what behavior is a cope and what isn't. But it's not all due to lack of intimacy also because I'm mentally ill.

I am honestly more sad about the fact I never managed to get a girl into me so far in my life. Not that I know of at least. I don't know how I'm supposed to cope with missing out on teenage crushes and such.

>32
>Guy
>Cause I can't stand ppl. I've had girls flirt with me and even girls that wanted to sleep with me but I hate ppl as much as I hate myself
> By telling myself being alone is better
>No, I will die alone

>>84502294
>I've had girls flirt with me and even girls that wanted to sleep with me
Failed normalfag. Not incel.

>>84498629
30
Male
Exclusive pedophilia
Mentally separated myself from those feelings when I hit age of adulthood
There never was any hope, in fact pedohysteria only grows as foids gain more sway over culture and society. It only gets worse from here unless I can afford a (likely also to be made illegal) cunny seggsbot before I die

>>84498629
>21
>male
>don't know how to speak to women or where to find someone to have sex with
>I don't, I'm very depressed and miserable
>maybe someday IDK.

I don't even care about finding a gf anymore, I've been blackpilled on relationships. I just want to fuck some whore or something.

>>84498629
23
male, as if women could be incels
because something inside me is offputting to people, always has been. I barely made friends because they're mentally ill and/or the relationship is carried by innertia, and because I know enough stuff to sometimes be useful
I'm a hentai and masturbation addict, every time I try to stop for more than a few days I get the urge to bang but I never have anyone, so I jack off again
yes? no? unlikely? I'd have to destroy and rebuild the strange personality I developed after years of isolation and emotional numbing, then somehow get good looking enough to not scare women by sight alone
Getting fit is the easy part, all things considered

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>>84498629
>Age
27
>Gender
male
>Why are you a virgin?
i grew up in a countryside as a fat fuck kid, developed anorexia at 15 and i was locked up in a hospital for weeks. my childhood was troublesome because i was abused and i spent my youth pretty much in hospitals and sanatoriums. no people my age to hang out with, so i spent most of the days inside studying because there was absolutely nothing to do outside, rather than work on the farm. i wasn't the best looking and i grew up rather poor, so, naturally, i was bullied and made fun of at school. i moved to the big city when i passed national exams. i was not used to seeing a lots of people in class, let alone campus. i talked to some female classmates, unaware that i was ugly but i didn't care, i wasn't seeking relationships. i studied and worked part time. i didn't make any friends because of the busy schedule, plus i didn't know how to talk to people because i was a loner my whole life. i work an okay job now. just recently i got into skin care and beard products. i think i look much better now but i feel very tired each day after work.
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
by starting work late and working long hours, so that i don't see young couples outside. i talk with some people in gacha games. being financially stable helps with feeling better about myself.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
maybe, when i turn 30. i tried dating apps for a decade and i went to 3 speed dating events in the big city, used discord dating threads for years, approached some women at the bus stops, but nothing has led to a relationship or new friends. i can rope anytime, so, maybe, i will spend the remaining days travelling the world or sailing the sea.

>>84498629
24
Male
I've never approached a woman with the intent to build a relationship in my life
I don't ever agonize over my virginity, so no need to cope
An old Asian lady called me handsome today, which makes me a lil hopeful

>>84502672
Yo fellow Nobu lover, I'm currently "seeing the world" I guess. Moreso living in my truck and trying to keep the days entertaining (not enough money to really do much more than survive, gas got crazy expensive) 60k is a crazy amount to have at 27 though, you could go for a long time hitting the road woth that much stashed. I'm a few years older and only got a couple thousand left. Not really sure what I'm gonna do when I run out, I got a gun so I guess I could an hero. Good luck with finding a girl, I've been devoted to my little bat for the last 13 years though, no 3d girl can compare

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>>84502724
Forgot the nobu pic

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>>84502724
hello
>I'm currently "seeing the world" I guess. More so living in my truck and trying to keep the days entertaining (not enough money to really do much more than survive, gas got crazy expensive)
you do you, but as wise introvert, i see that as a waste of time and money. i'd say your best bet is to move in with your parents and look for a job, so that you could save the most and maybe develop friendships at work.
>60k is a crazy amount to have at 27 though, you could go for a long time hitting the road with that much stashed.
hmm, it's not a lot, in my opinion. i can neet only for 5 years with my current lifestyle if i were to drop everything, and maybe, just maybe, that would be enough for a down payment for a small house in the middle of nowhere. it's good to start thinking about investing and be consistent with dollar-cost-averaging when you're young. it helps to save and stay fit when i don't have a driver's license nor a car, so each morning i walk 1 mile to the bus stop and take public transportation.
>Good luck with finding a girl
im not sure if i want to devote my life to a girl that i worked hard to obtain. in my opinion, she should be the one to approach me, make all the effort to see me and and be crazy obsessed with me. maybe it's a good thing that neither of the posters here have a wife, because she could baby trap us and we would be working twice as harder to support a 3dpd who sleeps around and resents us.

>>84502903
Yeah at 30 living at home is no longer an option for me. I've got enough for a few months at least though, if I had 60k I'd probably buy a single wide trailer home and chill though.

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>>84503031
you will run out of money sooner than you realize, then comes december and you will be freezing in your car. you should start actively looking for a job or ways to better off your life.

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>>84498629
18 going on 19
You already fucking know, man.
Slightly below average looks, not trying to reach out to people on account of being too shy, thinking they are annoying and we have nothing in common, and never being in love with anyone.
Wanking.
With the world on the route it is going? lmao

I'm probably gonna An Hero myself before 30.

>>84498629
>quit my low end job
>career plan I had quit for failed
>quit the emergency retail gig because the boss wouldn't let me on the sales floor. He just wanted young women near him and no one else.
>snapped at said women for it before pathetically apologizing.
I don't blame women for not wanting me. I'm a failure. Even when I worked an interesting career, all I did was tolerate shit thrown at me until I suddenly couldn't anymore.
I'd say I'm going to kill myself tonight, but that's not true.
I'm just gonna stop looking for a job and be homeless for a while.
I'll do some door dashing and Amazon driving to pay for food.
Then hustle until I either make it or turn 30. If I don't build up enough to have a gf by then, I think it's time to go.

>>84498629
>>Age
28
>>Gender
M
>>Why are you a virgin?
Social anxiety, self isolation
>>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
not well
>>Do you think there is any hope for you
Probably not. It takes me a long time to get comfortable around people and I don't think a women would be willing to take that time, and I might just as well disappear from her due to anxiety. Not that I even go out anywhere where I could meet a hypothetical women.

>Age
29
>Gender
M
>Why are you a virgin?
I guess mental illness? I'm socially isolated which lead to poor social skills and the feedback loop repeats
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
Idk? It's all I've ever known.
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
No


>Thoughts

I will die forever alone.

>>84498629
19
M
Ugly, socially retarded.
liquor
probably not. I'd like to think so but realistically no.

>>84498629
>Age
28
>Gender
M
>Why are you a virgin?
I'm lazy and scared of women
>How do you cope with the lack of intimacy/sex?
I jerk off a lot
>Do you think there is any hope for you?
I have no reason to believe there is