What if the reason I havent desired any man is because I fear no man would ever desire me?And im not talking about having sex.Im talking about someone who would write me letters, and gently caress me and be my companion. Someone whom I could confide in, and show my ugliest parts to. Someone to go on adventures with, exploring the world with. Grow old with. I think its all so unrealistic, im being blue pilled and life doesn't work that way. People grow tired of eachother and marrige isnt about who you fall in love with more than who you chose to love every day, despite the adversities. He will look at other women and he will want them and I will be hurt.Or maybe I do get a fairytale love, but at the expense of losing him, maybe losing myself... hurting him.Maybe I havent desired a man because I know this love, and by extention this life, is fleeting and imperfect.
I understand, anon. Life is fleeting.
>>84539076One day you will know that nothing, the void, is much worse than all your fears coming true.
>>84539103>>84539096Am I being a perfectionist?I feel like I am holding myself back due to wanting things to be just right. Perfect. How do I get rid of this and just live?
>>84539076I kinda have the same ideas myself. I fear that no woman will actually want me, the moment i become vulnerable she might use it against me instead of process it with me. It's happened a lpt of times with my lifes with friends and family, and I don't think i am ready for it to happen again. Not to mention, i'm not all that good looking myself, and i bet that if i date someone, she might look at someone better than me in every way, more handsome, good looking ect, and she'll leave me for him.You're not alone anon, I am glad to have met someone going through the same thing
>>84539137I'm struggling to find the answers too. I guess it just takes a lot of time and acceptance.
>>84539137You're just afraid to live like everyone else is. The answer is the one nobody ever wants to hear. You just have to force yourself to try despite it all
>>84539189Its so hard, considering there is so much to lose. I feel as though never experiencing it makes me at ease somehow. Like I never got hurt to begin with.>>84539160Good might come to those who wait, but for those who wait too late.We cant spend our whole life just waiting i fear.>>84539155>i'm not all that good looking myself, and i bet that if i date someone, she might look at someone better than me in every way, more handsome, good looking ect, and she'll leave me for him.Hit the nail on the head right there. I feel you anon and I have the exact same fear. There are so many people that are funnier, prettier, more interesting, cooler, kinder, better than me. How will I compete? I fear that my partner will always think that he just "settled" for me. That im not good enough.
>>84539244>I fear that my partner will always think that he just "settled" for me. That im not good enough. That right there sometimes keep me up at times. I'm basically so antisocial that i forgot how to have a normal conversation with someone as i'm always so silent. To top it all off, social media seems to really hate me by basically saying "You won't be loved if you don't have these qualities" and that kills me a bit every night. But to leave it on a bit of a positive note, I am trying some hobbies here and there, specifically drawing. Maybe i will find someone who also likes drawing, and maybe she'll like me for who i am. You can try too anon, maybe your future partner will also like you through your hobbies.
>>84539076>He will look at other women and he will want them and I will be hurtMy GF was the one who kept talking about girls with "better" figures while I was never giving it a thoughtWhen her words did technically put the thought in my head I didn't like it because she was putting herself down and it's like my love wasn't good enough to prove her wrongBut communication, encouragement and working together are what relationship are sometimes about and after a few times talking about it we managed to move past that thinkingLater on we'd even focus on each other even more in another way: both of us started working out - her to be thinner and me so I could lift her more easilyCan't even deny I liked her soft self but I wasn't going to be sad over her being more healthy and thus more confident and likely to live longerAll that said if you're content to be on your own nothing wrong with that there's plenty to enjoy in life and we can keep focused on that rather than longing for romanceWe were born without much care for romance and later developed the capacity for romance but it's never meant to become a dependence on romance
