is it only me who doesnt know how to get off?? ive tried so much and nothing..
>>84709993yeah i think it's only youare you a girl?
>>84709993Get off? Like cum? Or get off of 4chan
>>84709993Put a cucumber in your butthole
>>84709993For women it's like 80% mental, as opposed to men's which is 99% mechanical.
>>84709993your pussy is broken but today is your lucky day since im an amateur pussyologistcan you please post it so i can provide an acurate diagnosis
>>84710029the former lol >>84710055uff when i was younger i thought the only reason id ever want to be a guy was because itd be easier to jack off
>>84710055completely fucking disagree. i am not a woman but i am sure some guys cant get off or dont get their dicks up because of mental. the first times i had sex i couldnt cum even tho i was enjoying itthat being say i think for girls is not actually mental but biological. to make a guy cum you just jerk him off really tight and concentrate on the tip and frenulum, but a girl might only cum from penetration, or only from touching her clit in a specific way. i have one friend that told me his wife can only cum when she is on top playing with her tits.>>84710074so you either got a really bad draw or you are just not doing it right. have you ever played with a dildo before? i didnt know this until recently but apparently some girls feel much better by insertion rather than by playing with their clits, fucking wild
>>84710113also adding to this, you should be grateful you are a girl. men after they cum either go completely flat or they have a hard time cumming again. meanwhile women can just keep on going until they are tired.as much as i enjoy edging is just too annoying to cum and not enjoy it
>>84710074maybe you need an emotional connection?
>>84710113any sort of toy i havent. uh in regards to insertion, it just hurts slightly and im pushing myself out? if that makes any sense at all.ill give an explanation for the rest. i dont really understand why this is this way thats why im here lmfao, i cant tell if i should be concerned by this or not yet.any sort of touch just kind of feels like nothing, like id compare it to the same as oh! im touching my arm or something, like a normal sort of touch rather than anything pleasurable. like about a month ago i saw on twitter i think? that it took this girl like 20 mins to orgasm and mostly people were in agreement and such. and then i went to google and they were also saying similarly short times. me myself trying, *checks time* it had been 3 hours and literally nothing - this has happened on multiple occasionsi dont get it at all because it is telling me that i am apparently getting something out of this because i do get wet but i dont feel anything enjoyable?>>84710177honestly that would be great if i could feel it but i cant haha
youre probably just one of those unlucky foids for whom orgasm is extremely difficult if not impossible to achieve and barely feels like anything when it does happennot much you can do about it really. there was a thread on reddit about a similar foid and she said that she still enjoys sex despite being unable to orgasm, she enjoyed seeing her partner get off using her body so maybe develop that fetish to cope.
>>84710113>>84710177You're a mentally deranged tranny.
>>84710195aw man ill never get it then also sorry im so slow/missing replies, my connection is a bit iffy right now.
>>84710368I'll be your emotional connection. I'm so cool I know you can thank me later
>>84709993a BBC would fix that
bumping this b4 i sleep just incase anything useful will come out of this
>>84709993try roping, that might help
>>84710055>99% mechanicali can guarantee this is bullshiti barely feel like getting off to women most guys would consider 9/10s but i loved my ex's body with her saggy titsthen again i just wanted to be loved
>>84710226what does trying actually entail for you. if you get zero pleasure from it apparently what are you doing for all of those three hours lol. also, does your clit get "hard" when youre doing this and messing with it? that might be something to shoot for. when i touch myself i have to touch my clit really softly for a while and dont get much pleasure out of it but once ive gotten it to fill with blood from that and feel like a hard little bean i actually start feeling pleasure and i can cum. my only other recommendation is to buy some cheap bullet vibrator to see if that does anything for you
>>84709993Lie on the bed and watch/read something you find arousing on your phone while you massage around your clit.t. didn't know how to masturbate until 25
Bla bla so much bullshit in this threadOp is on ssris/psychiatric meds. Thats the reason. Probably takes Accutane and birth control as well lol.
>>84711471my brain was being horny during that lol so i could keep going, i think i was just absorbing whatever i was watching reading imagining or whatever and what i was doing would be the passive part instead? also im a shut in so im used to wasting a lot of time without realising lol i think i do show all signs of arousal physically? (that i know of) wet, hard idk what else but probably but no feeling good unfortunately :(will try being softer maybe. >>84711529im not on any medication nor birth control
>>84711516what i have been doing but no luck yet, maybe need 5 more years practice first
Have you tried going to a gynecologist or something nigga?
>>84709993You have low libido. Sorry
>>84710055>80% mentalI can cum from rubbing my clitoral hood over my clit in around a minute, even if I'm not really in the mood.
>>84710367projecting much?>>84710226that doesn't sound right. its fine if you dont feel much with penetration only, you didnt mention your clit once tho, you are touching it right? i mean thats a no brainerare you even horny or just trying to cum but cant? can you cum a lil but not as hard as you want?
>is it only me who doesnt know how to get off?? ive tried so much and nothing..I can't get myself off either. Only when someone else jerks me off with lube, then I bust a giant load.Of course I am an incel who cannot afford escorts anywhere near often enough. FML.
fucking hell i keep failing the ascii thing, bumping so i have more time to reply
oh im surprised this lasted until i woke up>>84711927i havent. i think id be too scared to and also i was still deciding how much of a concern this was yet before i humiliate myself lol. i get freaked out just being in the same room as others let alone someone poking around down there. i dont know if they actually do that or its just mostly talking but ehalso im in the uk so i think its kind of hard to see one here.>>84711930disappointing because i think about it so so frequently!>>84712787sorry sorry yes thats what i meant xd touching my clitsorry i feel like im dancing around saying things quite a lot. i never speak about anything perverse normally so i think im like automatically trying to soften it beforehand.im very mentally horny, if that makes any sense. like i think about it very very frequently. i think i could say that i am trying to even when i am not really physically horny ? but this is like the very few times out of them and i am very horny then still nothing.at most i think i have only felt like 1 percent good lol.and i have never had any sort of orgasm yes.>>84713126ah im sorry, good luck with that id give you advise but im clearly not the right person haha
Are you a virgin? Maybe you should try letting a guy help you.
>>84711587What sort of material arouses you?
>>84713757yes i am. maybe it would help but i dont think it is likely to happen, i am unattractive and scared of people touching or being near me. i think ill stay a virgin forever lol
>>84713825Don't let yourself get groomed by 4channers. Be hellbent on keeping your virginity as it is your main way to pairbond. As for the mechanics of female orgasm, look into Nina Hartley as she has guides on how to masturbate and where/how to touch yourself. As for the mentality of what'll get you off, there's women's erotic literature but it mostly boils down to being in the headspace of being desired. The porn or smut you imagine will shape your fetishes so be careful what you consume. You are what you eat. Also, enjoy your body and spend a day just like touching yourself and masturbating and learning about yourself. Most of the women who cum in 3 minutes actually fuck themselves with the plastic equivalent of a lead pipe, bruise themselves, piss the bed, and scream like demons. Fun, sure, but you are no where at their level and enjoy the long tease while you can.
>>84713983ah dont worry im too insecure to give it up easily if i had the chance lol, thank you for your info though! i will look her up later
>>84713576>and i have never had any sort of orgasm yeswell that sucks for you then, really each person is it's own temple. although if you keep thinking about horny stuff all the time maybe you will be able to cum eventually once you figure out what you actually enjoy.
>>84710226honestly you have gotta try vibration on your clit, that's the easiest way of brute forcing it
>>84714262how loud actually are they? i live with my parents still and i feel like i can hear everything with these walls xd im guessing ones that claim to be silent are probably expensive?
>>84714291at the sex shop they will let you test it, like ofc not use it but to actually see if that is what you want because you cannot return it
>>84714298im definitely not bold enough to go to a shop haha, will try online maybe and hope for the best
>>84714348well they arent loud in my experience you will be fine, worst case scenario just do it under the sheets or smth idk don't overthink it too much
>>84714291kinda depends, the cheaper ones have a higher pitched buzzing sound, whereas a more premium one is going to have a deeper quieter sound usually. either way, it's nothing a fan or some white noise or music playing on a phone or speaker isn't going to fix.
>>84709993If you death grip, you need to be gentler with your dick/clit. Give it gentle rubs and hugs. Heightens sensation.Also, I am a femanon and I agree with mental arousal and emotional fulfillment improving the intensity tenfold. I can mechanically cum in less than a minute from hydraulically pressing and frantically rubbing my clit. But that hurts like a motherfucker, and the "waves of pleasure" I chase for in my orgasms don't cum. Whereas if its a scenario pleasing to my heart, and I let myself take my time to slowly edge myself and let my heart flutter, then I get that amazing pleasure wave throughout my entire body O.Too, I like to imagine whatever porn I'm watching, or scenario I'm imagining, is my boyfriend/girlfriend and that we are in love. But I hear that makes some people even more sad and lonely, so its your call.
>>84715015>But I hear that makes some people even more sad and lonelyi think it makes it better in the moment, but it can be sad after. sometimes i cuddle and rub on a pillow because cuddling is one of my biggest fantasies and it feels really good but after i'm just left cuddling a pillow instead of someone and that makes me sad.
>>84715071I close my eyes, get a picture of my crush which blocks my entire vision if I ever do open up my eyes, listen to their voice on loop, and hallucinate their hands fondling me, and me fondling them, until I delude myself hard enough. Its like method acting but for masturbation.
>>84715120ugh that sounds so nice :( i wish i could do that, ive never had a crush before or really felt attraction to someone else either (this might be a seperate concern lol)
>>847152122D works too. Do you have a husbando?
>>84715120i used to do that when i was in a long distance relationship, but since then i haven't really had anyone to visualise, and masturbation has gone back to being a chore. i've never had a crush or felt attraction to someone i'm not emotionally familiar with, so masturbation has been very unrewarding since then. i don't understand how people enjoy getting off to porn of someone they have never met. the only way i've ever been aroused by it is by imaging myself and someone i love doing the actions in it.
>>84714291>i live with my parentsThis definitely doesn't help. You will constantly have the fear of getting caught in the back of your mind. It makes it harder for you to watch porn or hentai or anything that arouses you.
>>84715212NTA, but are you the flag femanon? I spoke with someone on my old discord account and her explanation of it sounds similar to you, so just wondering
>>84715240ehh not particularly i think? there are characters i could probably say are attractive, but in the way that i like them so i would favour them over others. so i dont think i would consider that attraction per se?>>84715264might be a factor too, my parents bother me very often too.>>84715284sorry im not them unfortunately, unless you are vbq but i dont believe ive told anyone any of these sort of things before lol
>>84715378>might be a factor too, my parents bother me very often too.have you considered using your showerhead? its private, most people have one, and it's a safe space from anyone, and no one will assume anything.
>>84715408i have tried very briefly but it doesnt feel like much either, at most a bit ticklish lol
>>84715378Are you a NEET? Maybe you should try getting a job so you can move out and have your own space with privacy.
>>84715454you might have better luck switching it to massage? mode (the one with a single jet). if you dont have that, you could try lifting up the hood on your clit and making sure one of the streams hits it to directly stimulate it. you should also try different positions: legs spread, pushed together, on all fours etc. that might help you feel different sensations.
>>84715539yes i am both a neet and a shut in. i would try and force myself to get a job if it was easier because i do need the money and i do still apply, but literally no luck. both job market and rent is insane where i live>>84715543added to my list!
>>84715631i hope it works for you, i imagine this stuff can be frustrating. i would love to hear if you have any luck, i'm just a lonely moid, but i have a deep fascination with this stuff and love talking about the details. i can drop my tag if you want to talk about it more at some point.
>>84715784im a bit scared to attach this to myself but if there is any progress ill post again, or if i get too annoyed at lack of it too maybe
>>84715859ok good luck and i'll keep an eye out!
It would be hot to lose my virginity with a girl who felt no sexual pleasure, it would feel like raping
>>84715987i'll never understand how people find the idea of sex without mutual pleasure hot
>>84715987>>84716044hmm this is something to think about though. it would be fucked if future me was still like this. if i did ever become interested in someone and did have a chance i think it would be significantly lowered by this. i dont think i have anything going for me already, im not good looking and i dont think i have a particularly amazing personality, probably about average. personality can be enjoyed without a romantic relationship too and i think very very few men would settle for a sexless relationship or one with rubbish sex. especially not with anything else to gain in its place.though thats more of a problem for me in future i guess because for current me i am sworn off it until tbd because sex is fucking terrifying
>>84716242i really think you are overthinking this, there's almost a 0% chance that it's going to be impossible for you to orgasm forever, it might just take time and pratice. hey, you might even meet a guy where it just works with him, you never know. i wouldn't just write off your chances of a rewarding relationship because of this
>>84716044They did a study and a significant portion of men are aroused by nonsexual violence. Like actually just causing pain gets men off
>>84716280thats probably true haha, i think that because i have had nothing at all ever is making me worry that i will never have anything either. cause for me i am khhv, has never been attracted to anyone (as far as i can recall) and apparently does not know how to masturbate. and me being me i have plenty of time to worry about it too xd
>>84709993i'm a girl. virgin so don't call me loose anons you fucking chudsbut vibrators. only on the clit. used to use my fingers but they take too long. and maybe you're someone who can only take hardcore porn/hentai to get off? that's mebut if you can't then maybe you're just not meant to do this shit
>>84709993You are a depressed sad sack of shit
>>84716464i mean i feel fine, but i think this thread isnt doing the best job at proving that lol
