It just isn't gonna happen for me.People like me. They say "You're a cool guy" or that I'm nice. But it's nothing more than being an acquaintance, or part of the background.Nobody really likes me, and no woman is ever gonna love me. I'm just kinda that guy that's 'there'. If I died tomorrow, someone might say "Oh that's a shame, he was nice." But that would be the end of it.And I dunno how to get people to care, even when I do whatever I can to reciprocate.
>>84736602This is me. People will vent their problems to me and generally be nice, but I am never someone they would actually depend on or hang out with. I'm basically just a lifeless object they talk to sometimes
We can be friends if you like; I get attached quickly, and if you reciprocate that affection, it's even better for me, although I might become emotionally dependent.
>>84736602just like me for realit won't get better brah, hopefully you get lucky and get a gf so you stop looking for the approval of the people in an out of your lives
>>84736602Same but I think I know why, it's a lack of action from my part, I never make the step to reach out and everyone else already has a group, so the onus is on me, but doing it is very awkward, that being said the only time I asked a girl out in real life we did date, so I don't think it's impossible for most people because I'm quite ugly and low status.
>>84736630Someone online being dependent on me is kinda scary. Tbh I would like irl affection/connection. But you're sweet to offer. What are your interests?>>84736689I try to be proactive but like you said it's very awkward. I basically just walk around my city looking for things to do, like music shows, fairs, things I would want to do with friends - but I can't just approach people out of the blue.
>>84736707Oh, I understand, many people want that, even me, but it's not possible because I'm very shy. Anyway, what I'm interested in is someone I can talk to often, someone I can grow fond of and who won't ignore me. I don't care about physical appearance, so... I just don't know what to say about it.
>>84736707Yeah I don't think that works, it has to be either a place where you are forced to spend time together like a college, work or it has to be a hobby place, I do archery and there people seem to want to reach out to others but it's all people outside of my age range, the best place is probably a gym, I have people my age sometimes come and strike up convos with me, usually when I'm lifting heavy to ask me if I compete or how long I'm doing stuff, so maybe being seen doing something relatively impressive or some sort of accomplishment being acknowledged helps, but even if you get the initial interest and you get along you still have to ask them for contact, you have to communicate with them, you have to plan some sort of hangout etc it's a lot of effort which I honestly don't feel is usually worth it for most people, so ultimately any loneliness is my fault, but to be fair I also tolerate loneliness much better then the average person, if I had a wife I probably wouldn't care to make friends with anyone ever again.
>>84736761I found the gym was a pretty bad place to socialize since people seemed to just wanna get in and get out. I hurt my arm so I pretty much just swim now for exercise. No chance to find a connection at work since I work from home, largely unsupervised and disconnected.I feel better now after making this thread though.
>>84736850The swimming pool is probably the worst place and yeah, it's probably dependent on the gym, bigger gyms are like that but smaller places, especially places frequented by college students or similar ages, like small cheap places are more friendly since there's only like a dozen people there at a time, you kind of just fuck around.Really, I can only recommend some group or semi group hobby, archery, HEMA, MMA, woodworking or blacksmithing at a workshop etcor just join a DnD group and try to make friends
