these sorts of communities are usually ruled by victim mentality and toxicity. they generally don't encourage each other to do good for themselves. they get jealous and full of rage when others achieve things they haven't yet done. this is a place you come to whine, not grow in.

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>>84789337
Holy fucking shit anon, Jesus Christ

>>84789337
>they generally don't encourage each other to do good for themselves
because self improvement is a proven meme
there's nothing to fix, they just don't want us

>>84789314
>hardmaxx
???
Not self explanatory

>>84789575
you are supposed to self improve for your own sake, not others. that's where you guys fuck up. my life has gotten so much better since i started living for myself. outside validation helps, but you can do it without.

>>84789314
In your opinion, how many fags really need to hard max? I think 80% of the degenerates who waste away on this website would be normie tier if they cleaned up their appearance, worked out (or at least stopped being fat), and touched grass. Hardmaxxing I think is better left for the facially hideous and turbo manlets

>>84789587
Not all that hard to live for yourself when you literally have no one else. How many le hobbies am I supposed to do alone before I'm allowed to not be having a good time?

>>84789601
it's not about hobbies, it's about reflection. cultivating awareness of self. fighting your own demons. becoming empathetic. developing your own philosophy and educating yourself. fighting addictions. challenging unproductive negativity. learning how to regulate your emotions and choosing discipline. changing your lifestyle to suit happiness.
hobbies are a very small part of a massive undertaking. it requires learning balance. it isn't easy, but it's better than just wading in misery. and it's not about fucking up, because every will, it's about creating a system that is specifically designed for you. outside of anyone else.

>>84789581
it's a gay zoomer way of saying they're going to bog themselves.

>>84789665
Yeah, I had to look it up, because it sounds like it would be like thugmaxxing. Anyway on topic with OP: Why would you hardmaxx before not at least trying to softmaxx. That's like buying a sportscar before learning how to drive.

>>84789664
I am aware that I'm alone and do everything alone and I don't like it.
>no you don't get it
Yes, I do. You're just mad you can't sell me some MGTOW course or whatever you're working up to.

>>84789737
No, I was once a completely alone, traumatized, miserable, depressed, victim-complexed incel and these are the things that helped me.
You are less likely to be lonely when you have a good relationship with yourself. You draw people in when you're a well-rounded person.
Why don't you do these things? If you're alone anyway, why does it matter?

>>84789750
Do what? This is self-help book dogshit. What addictions?
>uhh well if you do anything at all you're addicted to it
Why are you incapable of understanding that people actually have Tried, and it just doesn't work? Where do you idiots get the idea that everyone will win in the end because if you haven't won yet it isn't the end?

>>84789750
You fell into what
>>84789337
was talking about, you can't help these people they cannot see a way out of it and resigned themselves to misery. If they didn't think this way then it would be their fault and a path forward but they're tired of trying, they think
>why do I have to expend so much effort to get something that people take for granted normally?
Not realizing that those things take effort to maintain, effort they're not putting in and complaining about not having the fruits of that labor.

I usually come here to feel better about myself and get motivation to actually try so at least they're serving a function.

>>84789794
No, it's a mix of all sorts of methods used throughout human history.
If you're just deadset on being this way forever, you will be. That's all there is to it.
If you give up, you lose the right to whine. Easy as that.

>>84789810
>uhh you were born a loser so by recognizing this you deserve it or something
>>84789796
and yet you're still here
>>84789796
>Not realizing that those things take effort to maintain
You still don't get it. Halo Effect people's efforts are rewarded every step of the way.
>just ask a girl out and she'll say yes, that's how it worked for me
you fucking moron
>I usually come here to feel better about myself
inb4 reddit but that makes you a terrible person, you should kill yourself about it