>>84803374
And also, how do I tell him all of this? He already knows I'm not into dating rn

>>84803374
>>84803442
Talking on this site in the last few days kinda made me think that guys would even be okay with being friends with a girl that DOESN'T like you and also doesn't want to date you or sleep with you.

You see i'm turbo mentally ill, and it basically prevents me from liking people, being close to people, touching people, or having almost any contact what so ever. I'm a lifeless NEET hermit, i got nothing going on for me, my hygiene ain't great, i almost never go out, stuff like that.

Basically i made no effort to hide or soften how absolutely damaged i'm. And still there were several people who told me they for some reason like me, like talking to me, would want to be friends off-site, would want to be friends IRL, would want to hug me, or even would want a relationship. I don't see the appeal but yeah. So you can absolutely be friends with them as it seems.

>>84803374
i don't know, i'd say it depends on the details of the situation

>>84803374
Does this ever actually happen though, seems like it's always just "I don't find you attractive but won't just that, and will spread my legs for the Chad I meet in a few weeks."

>>84803508
I'm basically in the same boat, I don't have anything going for me either and I'm pretty mentally ill too and don't like physical touch.
>>84803522
The details is that we both sorta like each other but we're both mentally ill. He has mental problems and so do I. I don't want to say mine are worse than his, because they're not, but I am more embarrassed about the affects of mine and don't like feeling vulnerable. So I'm not dating rn until I'm mentally better. I told him all this, besides the fact I'm sorta soft for him, and he knows about my mental problems. I'm just concerned he'll stop being my friend if he finds out
>>84803528
Well it's happening to me.
Also I've never had sex

>>84803374
As long as she doesn't emasculate me and flirt with other guys...

No. Being friends with a girl and only beint friends is cuck shit. We are either fwbs or bfgf, nothing in between.

>>84803374
Nah, I dont need to be another orbiter.

>>84803581
Thank you for the actual response
>>84803585
Okay
>>84803604
I'm not an egirl, I don't have orbiters. He's my close friend

>>84803374
No? what the fuck would I be friends with an annoying bitch if she won't put out?

>>84803612
Because we're already friends? So you're saying you'd stop being friends with me?

>>84803374
Can I still inflate her?

>>84803577
>The details is that we both sorta like each other but we're both mentally ill. He has mental problems and so do I. I don't want to say mine are worse than his, because they're not, but I am more embarrassed about the affects of mine and don't like feeling vulnerable. So I'm not dating rn until I'm mentally better. I told him all this, besides the fact I'm sorta soft for him, and he knows about my mental problems. I'm just concerned he'll stop being my friend if he finds out
are you really friends with your opposite sex friend if you wouldn't at least try dating them?

>>84803620
Bruh get out of my thread and back into yours
>>84803622
The thing is, if I were better mentally, I would date him. I just know with how I am rn, it'd just end badly and with both of us getting hurt. So I'm trying to be considerate of his feelings too and trying not to hurt him by leading him into a relationship I know will fail.

>>84803630
>The thing is, if I were better mentally, I would date him. I just know with how I am rn, it'd just end badly and with both of us getting hurt. So I'm trying to be considerate of his feelings too and trying not to hurt him by leading him into a relationship I know will fail.
so how come you can't hurt him as a friend? doesn't seem like you thought this through

>>84803610
>one word response
Yeah, that's what I thought.

>>84803630
>if I were better mentally, I would date him. I just know with how I am rn, it'd just end badly and with both of us getting hurt.
Same bs excuse every time. It's like you're all made in a factory.

>>84803678
I just can't hurt him as badly. And being in relationships, I've had some in the past when I was way younger, made me absolutely neurotic. It's like it brought out every bad part of me and amplified it.
>>84803696
I just don't see what I could've said to it. I'm not interested in being friends with benefits, but I can't date rn
>>84803719
It's a real reason for me, I know it sounds like an excuse but there's nothing I want more than to be okay and normal and I'm trying so hard to achieve that. But I'm trying to avoid hurting people until then

>>84803374
>Would you be okay being friends with a girl that likes you but doesn't want to date you?
I already have a lesbian friend, so yes, I'm used to having female friends who won't ever date me.

>>84803630
Inflation is spreading.

>>84803768
But the thing is we like each other
>>84803793
Right..

>>84803577
Yeah, for me it's not that i don't like it. Theorethically speaking i do, because i love when my Dad hugs me or touches me, or when i'm touching him. For me the problem is my neurotic SPD causes me to literally be "allergic" to people in a way. Like their voices sound like horns in my ears which causes phantom pain inside my head, and touch is the same but worse, it's like acid spilled on me, and it triggers violent outbursts or seizures. It's all of course phantom pain, it's just my brain boiling itself alive inside my body because it's damaged and defective.

But yeah as i said, even with all this being told, somehow people still thought i would be a good friend. I don't know lol.

But you should look at the positives. At least you can have both these friendships and sex in the future, so hopefully that makes you feel better, because it could be worse. I'm just fully locked out of all of that, loneliness maxxing on disability is the only grind i'm on.

>Would you be okay being friends with a girl that likes you but doesn't want to date you?
Nope. No sex, no point.

>>84803374
Yes but if I got horny you would have to leave immediately or I might end up raping you and regretting it

>>84803865
Yeah I get what you mean. I dislike it so much it causes me to dissociate often, at any small touch from anyone. No matter who or where it is. And it just makes me feel like my skin is crawling
Yours sounds horrible though, I'm sorry that happens.
People still somehow think I'm a good friend and think I'm "sweet" even though I don't see it.
I can't have sex, I have health problems that prevents it.
I hope things get better for you anon
>>84803902
Okay
>>84803925
Weird

>>84803374
Would you be ok with masturbating each other

>>84803986
Well i'm sorry you also can't have none of this because of health problems. Fucking amazing that we just come out like this, thanks nature.

I find it funny that there is so many health problems that can prevent sex yet it's the natural designed way to reproduce. How weird. Well i only had sex once in my life, and it wasn't consensual, and it was absolute hell torture, so i know i'm out of commission on it too.

Things likely won't get better but thank you, i'm trying to at least salvage scraps. Hope stuff goes better for you too.

>>84804013
I'm not sure. I never thought about it
>>84804057
Ikr, fuck nature.
It was nice talking to you anon, thank you for talking with me and answering my questions. Hope you have a nice day

>>84803374
This sounds like you blue balling him to make yourself feel more attractive and desired while offering "my company" in return

Dont tell him anything if you arent going to act and dont flirt either or else you will eventually destroy the friendship

>>84804300
>Dont tell him anything if you arent going to act and dont flirt either or else you will eventually destroy the friendship
Okay, I didn't really plan on telling him. I was just scared about him finding out and cutting me off or something.
And no, I'm not doing it to feel more attractive, I know I'm not attractive

>>84803374
Just end things with him already. Straight men and women can't be friends unless both are already in a relationship with other people. I don't know why it's so difficult for foids to grasp this. Imagine people aways assuming you have a girl everywhere you go and needing to correct them every time. It's humiliating. Just break things off with him and find a female friend

>>84803442
>And also, how do I tell him all of this? He already knows I'm not into dating rn
By telling him exactly how you told us? Don't beat around the bush or give him mixed messages just be direct and clear cut him loose.

Yeah. I just got done chilling with my Deadlock gal pal. Besides, it is social proof to women when men maintain healthy relationships with other women.

>>84803374
No because that's retarded. If she likes me she shouldn't waste my time by trying to keep me as a friend to make herself feel better. This is why guys end up single or stay virgins. Women spot their weakness and string them along because they know they'll never stand up for themselves and leave. If you mean fwb, that's fine, but I don't think that's what you mean.

>>84804366
But I don't want new friends. I'm not good at making new friends.
Plus we're online friends and we've never met in person. We don't have any mutual friends, so there's no one to correct.
>>84804377
I don't want to cut him loose though. I like him. I just want him to stay my friend and not be mad at me not wanting to date him because of my problems
>>84804409
Cute
>>84804412
Why do all of you think I'm doing this to make myself feel better? Read the thread. I like him but we can't date. I'm not stringing him along, the part he doesn't know about is that I like him, he knows I can't date.

>>84803374
>Would you be okay being friends with a girl that likes you but doesnt want to date you?
I think so but I feel like I would have mixed signals from you. I think it would be great at first but at some point im sure I would catch feelings for you and would seek more. You tell me you dont want a relationship and I could accept that to a degree but you like me but dont want me? I would feel like it is something about me you dont like or whatever. I would still want to pursue and be yours though. I cant help but get attached and feel like a tick that just wont let go so I would keep trying with you.