It is physically impossible to make friends offline outside of school if you failed to make any lasting friendships before you graduated.
>>85441886Sometimes it takes being a friend to find friends. Life goes the direction we choose.
>>85441886It's equally difficult to keep up school friendships too since those were probably just due to seeing each other every day in the first place. Once that goes, they'll just kind of drift away especially as they get consumed by their own careers and wives. Honestly, friends aren't real.
>>85441886i find it near impossible to make friends with people online anyway. whenever im in a vc with people i just kinda stay silent for 70% of the time, probably playing some vidya while everyone else talks. when i do talk its probably about something related to whatever video game we're all playing or if theres a discussion going on that i can actually contribute to, mostly in the form of providing facts and insight.
>>85441902You're so wrong it hurts, people establish their circles by freshman year university. Please get the fuck on with all this pseud shit, before you make me physically ill you miserable cretin.
I disagree I make aquaintances often, and I have made a few genuine friends. More than I had in highschool, for sure.
>>85441886It gets harder the older you are, I think. People get them through communities and proximity within spaces (e,g.,place of employment, online spaces, game stores, etc.) when it's not school. Though, I think you have to be charismatic and/or friendly to initiate. Keeping them however and having a deep friendship, that's a whole other ordeal.
>>85441886Yeah because there's no such thing as higher education, or your workplace, or interest groups, makerspaces, religious-based community organizations, volunteer groups....You'd rather hold on to the deteriorating fabric of connections you made with other people who were all put together in the same place by geography and age?
>>85443297You're just the outsider joining those things to Make Friends. You don't have an interest in whatever the subject matter is. You think they can't see through this?
>>85443314About half the people there have those exact motivations. What difference does it make when everyone works hard and contributes?
>>85443359I went to a stamp convention this summer, just because it was in town and when am I ever going to go to a stamp convention? Do you think I wasn't the only person there who wasn't already heavily invested in stamp collecting? Completely lost any interest in it. Oh and there were no single girls either. I brought the average age of any room I walked into down by about 30 years. Young people literally don't do any of this shit you're talking about. Now tell me about how this isn't true of every single "hobby."
>>85443383>Young people literally don't do any of this shit you're talking about.You're not wrong. Most people of all ages lie in bed looking at brainrot short form videos on social media and bitch about culture war bullshit online. Do you want friends or not?You went to a convention. What was the follow-up? Did you join an interest group? Did you go to a club show and tell meeting? Or did you do what most people do, feel slightly awkward, list a bunch of excuses why you don't want to participate, then go home to your comfortable bed and your socials and your algorithm-driven ideahole?
>>85443407I already told you the follow-up. I realized that since I haven't inherited binders full of centuries of stamps I did not belong in that community.>You're not wrong. Now do you want friends or not?You're not wrong either. Talking to a wall would be more productive than this.
>>85443426So fuck off, dipshit. Drink the bottles under the sink. Don't ask questions you aren't ready to hear the answers to.
>>85443432Maybe have better answers than "join a group full of people you aren't looking for" in the next thread you invade with your worthless drivel I won't call advice out of respect for actual advice.
>>85443438Go back to bed and scroll your phone, normalfag
>>85443444>scroll your phone>t. normalfag also rotting away on 4chan
>>85443407nta (though similar situation), but I got a lot of socials from where I went but no one really reached out to hold onto that connection. I can post and watch as people don't feel comfortable with my presence in their communities as a new face - I get it. You can tell immediately though if someone wants to socialize with you after a few conversations or they just want to get away from you and rather speak to other people.
>>85443448Joke's on you, anon, I'm working.>>85443454>I went into meatspace and got a bunch of social media connections and then went back on social media and none of those social media connections I made in meatspace amounted to anythingOk now think about why.
>>85443465>nobody likes me>how could you know that have you even tried Going Outside?>yes and nobody likes me>uhh maybe you're the problemerino...yikes...Nobody in this thread likes you. Think about why.
>>85443474>hates the truthSo stay fat and unhealthy in your bed on your phone, anon. No one cares what you do.
>>85443482>the truthYeah I hate that the purported holy grail of hobby groups turned out to be just a bunch of old boomers who hate their wives.>muh phone muh phone muh phoneDid you get raped by a phone or something? You are an extremely off-putting person.
>>85443465>think about whyGenuinely, though... Why? I don't get it. I think people just have found their social circles already at my age. I'm really good at initiating and I've had good IRL conversations with people, but it just seems like they have closer people already. I'm not farming their social media to talk to btw. I just meet people and talk with them.
>>85443493Why are you talking like that? If you want to be a terminally online loser just do it, you don't have to convince anyone of anything.
>>85443507I hope this isn't your job. Holy shit you are so bad at this.
>>85443504>Genuinely, though... Why?You went to an activity group so you could meet people and talk to them on social media.You went to a group based on irl connections and tried to draw them into your social media. They don't want to do that anymore. Social media is dead, it's a bad habit nowadays like smoking.
>>85443514Bad at what? Young nigga, I've been online since 1989 and it's hard for me to remember a conversation that made less sense than this one you're trying to force.
>>85443520>Draw them into your social mediaNah, just Discord. Because how else would we keep in touch in this day in age when I'm flying across the country to go to a convention?
>>85443504He's one of those people who claim to come here in good faith, like a missionary to an uncontacted tribe. And it turns out the tribe actually knows about and rejects everything he's come to proselytize and this greatly confuses and angers him so he very quickly reveals himself to have hated the tribesmen all along.>>85443520I was told that half of the people one finds at these things would have the exact same motivations >>85443359. Now the reason nobody likes him is because, completely and solely according to you, social media is "the devil" and they don't want to talk to the young whippersnapper on that newfangled contraption? How fucking old are you? Could you just please die already?>>85443524holy fucking boomer confirmed please fucking drop dead at once
>>85443528You were supposed to sent them a letter by aeromail https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8Z70FMFLeM
>>85443528Almost nobody you meet outside in the world uses discord, it's a chat app. They want to talk to meat people in meatspace.>>85443532Just keep scrolling. You know how to do that, right?
>>85443563>you went to a convention to meet people and you wanted to...TALK TO THEM OUTSIDE OF THE CONVENTION USING AN APP THEY AGREED TO ADD YOU ON WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOU THINKING NO NO NO THERE ARE R U L E Syou people really cannot go extinct soon enough
>>85443573>online I talk like a Tasmanian devil>why does nobody want to talk to me online?Cause you act like this, anon.
>>85443583Yes but at least I'm not doing so on DISCORD ON MY PHONE now am I?
>>85443590Your thoughts are violent and anti-social. Fix yourself. If you make any social connections you'll just drag them down to your level. Nobody wants to be there, not even you. That's why you're miserable.
>>85443671No I'm miserable because I don't look good enough to get a gf. You probably really think I talk like this. Fucking retarded boomer.
>>85441886One thing about trade is that camaraderie is the norm. So just go be a trades person, and use drugs to cope if you're autistic.
>>85443674People only have one mode, anon. This is "the real you". This is your personality. And it's really off-putting.
