I met my girlfriend on here about a year ago. We fell in love immediately and became very serious.We lived in the same state, about five hours apart. Our first meeting felt truly spiritual. Meeting on this platform made everything feel even more intense, especially since we had both felt lonely and isolated for most of our lives.About a month ago, she started acting cold. She turned off her read receipts and turned off her location tracking. A few days later, she completely ghosted me. She removed me from everything. I kept texting her to see what was wrong, but she just ignored me. I panicked and started sending a massive amount of messages and calling her constantly, but she still ignored it all. I tried reaching out to a friend of hers whom I know. Her friend just told me that she was okay, and then she ignored me too when I asked if my girlfriend wanted to break up or leave.After a few more days of trying to make contact, she finally texted back. She just said she was really burnt out and brought up an argument we had three months ago. Then she told me she wants me to find someone better. I told her no, that I do not want anyone else but her, and that I am in love with her.She ghosted me again and then proceeded to block my number. It has been brutal trying to cope with this. We are both religious, and seeing someone do this when you used to pray together is an otherworldly kind of pain. I even tried to contact the crisis hotline last night, but they just left me on hold for about three hours.Right now, I am trying to figure out how to handle this without ending up with a restraining order. I am thinking about calling her mother to get an answer so I can finally figure out if I should move on or not.I obviously have no intention of driving to her house or doing anything like that, but can a restraining order be filed against me if I contact her mother? Her mother and I were actually pretty close, but I do not know if she will just ghost or block me too.
it must seem all so pointless to her. why do you even exist at all? do you even know?
>>85706240I will never know now
>>85706100This is just how the modern female chooses to end relationships once they realize they can get someone betterDont ever expect a calm, rational apology and conversation, she has zero intention or even giving you a chance to change her mind, this is her basically letting you know she is repulsed at the idea of being with you. It is so beyond over its not even funny, time to let it go anon, once a bitch does this, even if by some miracle you convince her to stay, she will just end up doing it again laterAlso she already found someone else, thats the main reason this is happening
>>85706321Thanks anon i appreciate this wake up call I have been through stuff similar to this meeting other girls through here and you guys talk for two weeks and get close then they suddenly ghost you which sucks but whatever This time though its just fucked me up so badly like a year long relationship where almost everyday we call and I drove to hers like eight times in total and spent days together to see how easily she just blocked and ghosted has fucked me up
The trials and sufferings of a non-chad.
>>85706100Alright, from the information gathered here I would say just give her some time. Let her figure something out on her own but try your best to be there for her. She is probably got some things going on and I think contacting her mom right now would be a bad idea. Just give her some time to do what she has to do and if a couple days go by and nothing? Then, yes. Contact her mom and see what is going on. You dont want to overwhelm her with whatever is going on with her. When I was younger like much younger when I was a teen I did a few things similar to blocking or ignoring but it was just a day or two because I was so conflicted and confused of my feelings but it does not make sense with the Info given here. Tldr just give her time and see what happens anon.
>>85706692Thank you so much anon I dont have any friends to talk to about this and I mentioned I tried to contact the crisis hotline and they never picked up As for the timeline this happened around a month ago now but I noticed her being colder and texting me a lot less in the last two monthsEven though I know its obvious what shes saying by completely severing communication I just feel like I cant move on until she actually says itI dont want to waste my life away waiting for someone who no longer wants me but unfortunately this is my first love and its just been making spiral this whole month Thank you for your words
>>85706760Oh wow I must have looked over something in your first post. A month or more? What? That is way too much. At this point and time I would contact her mother and try to keep it between you and her. Say you concerned for her and want to know if she knows anything. I doubt you would get a restraining order for contacting her mom. To me, it would be very very tempting to go and see her for the way she is acting. This is actually pretty worrisome anon. I wouldnt give up either until she actually said it was over too. Yeah, dont stop trying to reach out and get ahold of her asap. Good luck anon. Update us at some point when you can.
>>85706811Fuck man you think soThe exact timeline was basically two month ago she started becoming colder and text got shorter so when we would call I would ask like whats going on are you good are we good and she would just say yeah that she is burntout from uni work and I would offer to help her with them and she just said no shes okayA week before she cut me off we basically got to one text per day level and I was like shes not feeling goodThen around the thirteenth of September I realized she had unadded me on discord so I message her like whats going on and why did she remove me and she dosent say anything so I blow up her phone texting like are you leaving me And can you just say anything which she did not respond to Then after a week I contact her friend and Im like is she okay and her friend says yeah shes fine so then I say okay well can you at least ask her if she wants to leave me or what is going on because she is not answering my calls or messagesThen a day later when Im trying to call her she responds to me saying she no longer wants to talk and that she wants me to find someone better and I respond saying I dont want anyone but her and that I love her and then she just ghosts again and then blocks my phone numberThat last respondent happened around the twenty of October Im kind of worried because I was talking to some goybots and legally if they blocked you and you try to contact a family member then you are legally harassing them but I just genuinely need for either her or anyone from her to tell me yes she is done you guys are over Like then I can actually move on im not schizo enough to think I can fix it if she is no longer attracted to me I just want someone to tell me that she is done
>>85706321Beautifully said. Never underestimate how unbelievably cruel and heartless the average woman is.The harshest blackpill is that even if you somehow do find yourself a gf, in a matter of two months she'll just stop talking to you and leave you like nothing, never thinking of you ever again. They'll never voice any concerns or try to talk through any issues with you, they will just leave and you'll be a distant memory to them.Women cannot love. Men can love, women can't. I'll explain more in my next post.
Women are incapable of romantic love. I can prove it.If you lose your job, does your mother stop loving you? Of course not.If your girlfriend or wife loses her job, do you stop loving her? Of course not.If you're a husband and you lose your job, does your wife stop loving you? Absolutely, happens all the time.Keep in mind women are the initiators in over 80% of divorces. Keep in mind the odds of being divorced go up by 68% after a husband loses his job.Women are genuinely incapable of love. They can only love their children and their pets. Only women, children and pets are loved unconditionally. Men will never, ever know what it's like to be loved in their entire lives.
>>85707028Again this is different to my case Ive had people who I talked to for a week or a month and they ghosted me This is a one year long very solid strictly monogamous and reading prayers for each other relationship This was not some online relationship we met plenty of times we slept in the same bed togetherI understand this bp but I thought I had escaped it because the woman who I found I thought was also like me
>>85707035My view on this is ofc that yes most are like this because modernity has made the everyday people goys Almost every bad caricature on men and women stems from dating app demons and neurotic Shekle chasing people I believe that true love can still be found and molded under the right circumstances It would be absurd to say all men cannot love because men have felt romantic love In my case it just really has taken its toll because I had thought I found the perfect instance and it seems I was wrong
>>85706321>>85706556LARP THREADNah I know my girl and your faje thread wont make me give up on her or think something thats not true of her. I detest manipulation that you do.
>>85707409This is how I felt listening to every boomer give me the never get married and women are evil speech Never think it ll happen to you until it does
It's your first relationship and it's totally normal that it hurts like hell, anon. But don't humiliate yourself chasing for closure from someone who already decided to vanish. You have to give yourself that closure. Give it time, delete this thread, and focus on healing.
>>85707444No, Op is a narc and upset he got caught and made this thread>>85707450I hope whatever ops attempt at manipulating is, it backfires and they are ruined for it.
Op is butt hurt narc and now posting short threads because his only decent attribute is being tall. Called it.>>85707488
>>85707449Thanks man its just so hard its not my first ever relationship but its definitely my first love I just thought us being so similar was a religious sign or something It just feels impossible not having a day where memories of us doesnt flash into my head or something Im trying to find a therapist but my insurance is next level goy so its impossible
>>85707409>>85707477>>85707503You are correct. I looked and this thread, along with those 2 are the same anon. I dont knows who the anon was attempting to manipulate with the fake threads but hopefully the person can identify who Op is based on the typing style and details such as bruised ego so makes retaliation black pill thread. I can tell you its houston area.
>>85707551Kek its c larping as m again.
>>85706100I am sorry anon, you might find it helpful to check out /r/bpdlovedones on reddit
>>85707594C gaslighting that m has bpd again. I hope m is able to get away from c and doesnt ruin her life like >>>/adv/34981336She really should read that thread and see the similarities to c. Maybe that is enough for her to ghost him and still have a good future.
>>85707573This is literally my only thread and Im purely posting just to figure out if I can get a restraining order filled on me if I were to contact my gfs mumI legitimately dont understand wtf your on manipulating what exactly
>>85707614I see now my apologies for intruding on the pscyhcosis episode friend
>>85707622YUP YOURE A NARC. Narcs always "no u" and say mental illness, take your pills, etc. Remember to use this handy site to reference and if you see major simularities CUT AND RUNhttps://www.medicinenet.com/how_do_covert_narcissists_argue/article.htm
>>85707619Ignore those schizos, to answer your question, a temporwry restraining order does not require evidence, just sworn testimony. So if she feels like blocking you irl she absolutely can just make shit up and say she feels threatened by you contacting her familyWomen WILL lie and distort reality to get what they want
>>85707573the facts dont lie. Thank you for letting us know. All op can do now is deny deny deny. If he was smart he would let the thread 404
>>85707640Fuck me its that simple Jesus Christ I really need a wake up call its actually insane how much you think you know someone when you really dont got a clue Thanks again man
>>85707648Oh I know you and I know you need a wake up call before you ruin your life marrying him. Look at the links and really put time into understanding the mistake you would be making. Then for the rest of your days know a friendly colleague saved you.
If you need me to be more clear, m, dont marry c. Look at the links. Be thankful you got saved at the last minute. https://sys.4chan.org/derefer?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicinenet.com%2Fhow_do_covert_narcissists_argue%2Farticle.htm>>>/adv/34981336-a colleague
>>85707686>the letter thread llm's forgot which thread they are supposed to post in
