I don't blame my best friend for killing himself 8 years ago. What have you learned over the years?
>>34445443Why is that?
to not associate with people whoms ex killed themselves
>>34445447now that I'm older I've seen that the world is brutal. most of the people on /soc/ probably don't have advice to give. they're underwater and don't know which was is up>>34445450he was my best friend, not my ex genius
>>34445495no shit you retarded cunt
>>34445495I think we may have spoken for a few months a while back,hope you’re doing at least a little better
I've learned that ALL women are way too picky and only want chads, that women talk big game about equality and gender roles and beauty standards but only to benefit themselves while still demanding men perform the traditions and beauty standards that women no longer need to. In short, women fucking hate equality, when it comes to dating. And they really don't appreciate basic decency, love, niceness, and true romance at all, just some horrid performative power dynamics traditional garbage. It's amazing that most people see women as the romantic gender.
>>34445495are you retarded
>>34445652a little. my iq is 80
>>34445443that i need therapy and no one will ever love me as i am
>>34445443I have learned that I'm very, very eepy...So fucking tired all the time.
>>34446415do meth lad
>>34445522This
>>34446422I don't think I need a drug addiction on top of my other problems.
>>34446446spanian did it and now he is a global super star
>>34445522I don't think it has anything to do with equality. Striving to get the best thing we can is just what humans do. Fact is, in our current society most women have their chance with way above average men. Frankly if i had to choose between a 10/10 with a great personality and whatnot and a 5/10 I know what i would choose.
>>34448590>most women have their chance with way above average mendo girls really not know that there's a difference between fuckmeat and waifu? they have their chance to get dicked down by a top tier guy, to be a disposable cum dump. the chances of that guy ever calling her back and wifing her up are almost nonexistent.
>>34448590Finally, someone who just accepts that things are the way they are and knows damn well they'd do the same if they were in the same situation
>>34445776Did you ever go by cryo? You probably think you're joking here but it's not far from truth. You will live a long sad life and you will have learnt nothing by the end of it.
OP, I saw your thread title earlier today and took some time to think about that premise while going about my business today. As I've gotten older, I've certainly had to learn many lessons, and can share some of them here—fair warning that this may end up being a series of posts. One of the most fundamental things I've had to learn is the value and fleetingness of youth. When I was an undergraduate in college, a senior speaking at an event mentioned that it felt like just yesterday that he was in our shoes as an incoming freshman. It barely registered to me at the time, but now roughly ten years later I understand better what he meant. While there are edge cases, many career paths are more or less unviable if you do not pursue them in your youth; this applies not only to employment options, but to other areas of life as well. For example, men who do not pursue a serious relationship when they are roughly college undergraduate age will likely struggle to find one later on, as their inexperience becomes increasingly repellent to (most) women and the gulf in age grows between them and the few women who are actually suitable marriage material themselves. It is much harder to put yourself out of your comfort zone when you are young compared to once you have gained more life experience, but it is vital. For these reasons and many others, it is important to guard your time wisely. A first and obvious suggestion would be to steer clear of 4chan entirely. Beyond that, your priority should be developing basic life skills, as well as choosing a field in which you can make a sufficient salary and not be phased out in the near future by third-world migration or technological advances. For example, if you choose to go into STEM, something dealing intimately with hardware like CE or EE might be a better choice than Computer Science. 1/?
I accidentally lost this section by refreshiing, so this version of it will be more brief. Cut out porn entirely, and keep media consumption to a minumum and ideally within social settings as much as possible—no one wishes they played more video games on their deathbed. Take care of your body and avoid things like junk food, alcohol, illicit substances, and nicotine. Even if you think you can manage one or two of them alongside an otherwise healthy lifestyle, they always tend to come concomitant with unhealthy activities as well, i.e. eating heavily while drunk to avoid hangovers. Be careful who you choose to associate with. If a friend is consistently a negative influence in your life (not just going through a rough patch), cut them loose unceremoniously; making a big production of it will not help things and may make it worse. A fine example of this would be a friend who becomes a jester around women and will throw you under the bus to entertain or otherwise appease them. Do not become close with or reveal intimate secrets to someone who has not solidly proven they share your ideals; this means that their talk alone is cheap. There are few instances in life when you will regret saying nothing (and it will be abundantly clear when these emerge), but many in which you may regret saying too much. 2/3
As women are concerned, never overlook anything that you consider a red flag; you may think one or two such traits that do not sit right with you are not dealbreakers, but the reality is that these things caught your attention for a reason and your ignoring them will be at your own peril. The best kind of women are going to be low-mileage, apolitical "normie" types: needless to say, you will not encounter them on /soc/. Finding a woman that does not display the most common red flags is difficult, and the majority of long-term relationships and marriages today are not happy; you may find that remaining celibate, or at least romantically unattached, is more gratifying if you can manage it. Pursuing many casual relationships, if your genetic dice roll affords you the option, may also be less miserable than a relationship in which a domineering, low-quality woman attempts to leverage the power of the state and/or public shaming against you every time a dispute arises; however, I would not consider this to be particularly fulfilling, either. Certainly pursue a young, feminine, high-quality woman if you can find one, and if not, you will still be more content by finding and pursuing a specific purpose in life than if you were to merely rot.If you do find yourself in a relationship with such a woman, you should paradoxically never fear losing her. The kind of mentality a man adopts when he is determined to cling to a woman will be unappealing to her and will provide her with an unnatural amount of control that she will secretly resent being given. No matter how ideal the conditions may be otherwise, I have not known relationships to succeed when the man is desperate to maintain it. This is about all I can think of for now, and I may come back to add to these posts later. Hopefully, some of you will learn from my mistakes and lead a disciplined and productive life of which you can be proud. 3/3
>>34448590See >>34448611, these retarded sluts are driving the West into the ground over chasing what gives them the tingles. They have no concept of how to form successful relationships long term and saying it's "muh just the way it is" is boomer tier cope and negligence of the problem
THIS IS A NORMIE THREAD
>>34445443I've learned that everyone is evil. Not just women, but the men too. Everyone will eventually leave or betray me, and it's just something I have to learn to accept.Male btw
>>34450549that's most people, champ
>>34457821Not everyone poisons their own life or mind or relations to that level.
I've learned if you want to pursue excellence its a very lonely path.
>>34445443I learned to forgive my ex for being a BPD whore. We went through a lot of tumultuous on-off relationship drama when we were teenagers and even adults in our 20's. Turns out she was just really fucked up by all the ways she'd been abused as a kid and couldn't figure out how to NOT get turned on by abuse. I was trying to be the guy who was different and treated her right, and while she was looking for that romantically, she wasn't looking for that sexually. Now I know how to treat her, but she ran her car into a tree and died. RIP lol. I've been in other relationships and had meaningless sex with other girls, but I'll never get over my dead ex, and it's only now that I'll never be with her that I fully understand her. Kinda funny, ain't it? :)
>>34465563I hate this world. I thought God wanted man to not be alone when he took the rib
>>34465604Well, god isn't real. And all your failures are a result of your own complete lack of self awareness and social skills. Try being less of an autistic faggot and maybe the world wont sick so much my guy.
>>34465741What's the secret sauce
>>34465755He's a redditor talking out his ass. We both know personality isn't the issue here, don't make me pull up the Jeremy Meeks memes
i learned that i'm mid thirties and going to kill myself, probably in my 40's. i'm horribly alone and life seems pointless without a partner and without anyone being attracted to you
