Ghosters, what's your secret? How can you not feel guilty when you block someone you've talked to for months when you get tired of them?
I’m very willing to talk to a ghoster
I've been talking to people from here for the last 3 years, I've never talked to someone for more than 6 months, usually it's because things get boring, the mystery dies out, and I look out for someone more novel, a more interesting character or a man with a more fucked up life, it's nothing personal, it's just that I need things to change constantly and most don't manage to do that because they get attached.
>>34794167Try to talk with the anon below you.>>34794175I understand how you feel, I'm just like you, but I feel bad about blocking other people and I end up forcing myself to keep some contact. Is there any protocol you follow before blocking someone, or do you do it randomly? What was it like when you blocked someone you'd been talking to for six months?
>>34794123People ghost precisely because they are ashamed and afraid. Ghosting is the easiest way as they do not have to confront anything.
>>34794195Exactly
>what's your secret?ketamine addiction
i don't block people but when i'm ghosting someone whenever they message me i'll change my profile picture right after
>>34794193oops didn't think this would get any replies. usually when I feel the conversation getting drier or them getting boring I just stop replying, or entertain them until i find someone new, I guess I function upon fixations like that. a few weeks later they stop messaging and remove me and it's out of my conscience. That 6 month person was interesting because he kept unraveling and removing me for long periods, stalking me or something. I never figured him out until I just realised he was just a massive attention seeker and stopped engaging, many like that on here
>>34794223Why was it because he shouldn’t have been talking to you? More closeted married men?
>>34794248no, he was just an incel acting like a teenage girl
>>34794251Dang not even a good reason
>>34794195>ashamed and afraidAshamed and afraid to confront what, Sakura-chan?>>34794199Give me a serious answer.>>34794215>i'll change my profile picture right afterWhy? Is this a way of indirectly showing that you're ignoring someone?>>34794223What was going through your mind the first time you ghosted someone? Do you normally delete messages you've sent in the past too?
>>34794254the first time I ghosted someone it was like years ago lol because they were boring me, I don't see it as something mean or rude, it's just something anyone with self awareness would sense that I don't find them interesting anymore.
most of people here are just mundane, boring and normies. they’re too formal, can’t alternate between clownish banter and getting-to-know-something-about-each-other conversations. it’s usually just talking serious, they don’t know how to be playful, goofy and deep/serious at the same exact time. zero craziness, which is what i would expect at such a place, but no, no one is actually a schizo that you could freak and creep together. it was a bit diff few years back, but now soc is kinda over so idk
Talking about selfawareness while showing about the same as an Indian god damn.
>>34794277Wanna ghost me in like three days
>>34794277>anyone with self awareness would senseThere are a lot of people without self awareness. Would you still ghost someone you clearly realized still doesn't understand that you're getting bored?>>34794289Everyone becomes boring after some months, even non-normies.>>34794290Was that a subtle dig at JEocUIpy?
>>34794123I used to tell men, "hey, I'm not feeling this but best of luck" or something similar, but they would always chimp out and make alts and stuff to try to keep talking. Now I basically ghost. I just reply very infrequently until it reaches zero. It's like a reversed boiled frogs scenario.
>>34794309Make them think they decided not to talk to you
reply faster i wouldnt ghost u then
>>34794325Read the thread.
>>34794330No.
>>34794297sure>>34794303yes, I just ghost them for a few weeks until they catch a hint and try to end it softly
>>34794336You fw married guys I like to learn things about you and complain
>>34794309>make alts and stuff to try to keep talkingHow did you react when that happened?>>34794333Fuck you then.>>34794336>I just ghost them for a few weeks until they catch a hintHave you ever been confronted about this? If so, what did you say?
>>34794309That isn't ghosting. People have distorted the definition of ghosting to mean every time someone disengages with them or stops wanting to interact with them and doesn't write a big clear reason why.Ghosting is abandoning someone on a total whim under circumstances that don't make sense to the victim and would leave them confused.Slowly responding less often and with less substance is a very obvious tell that the interactions are coming to an end and one or both parties has lost interest. Removing someone at that point isn't "ghosting", it's just inconsiderate. People do ghost, and it's extremely fucked up when they do.In the same vein, women use the existence of abusers and annoying faggots to excuse when they do genuinely ghost someone out of the blue for zero reason and totally mentally rape them. But it's easy enough to filter out BPDemons so it's whatever.
I want an unreasonably attractive guy to add me on Discord and soon after become obsessed with me. He must look too good to have any business looking for attention on this board; any less and I'll carefully distance myself until our correspondence drops off. I'd rather not hurt anyone's feelings and leave any guy thinking I lost interest in him because of his appearance, thus I'll convince him that it was indeed an error in his action rather than an incorrigible flaw in his form. I pity unattractive guys while also wanting nothing to do with them. Variedly, attractiveness is the most impactful variable that will keep me messaging you; however, there are behavioral characteristics that may lead to my enthrallment with the mildly grey Discord pane into which we together spill text. Anyone pervasively generic will lose my attention. Worse still, any degree of phony-weirdness will incite my dislike. I long for the authentic, otherworldly, and ethereal. If you were not homeschooled and were at any time in your life integrated into propriety: you are boring. Know that you are here for my enjoyment and that you were bred, created, designed, and raised to appeal to my aesthetic sensibilities
>>34794356Cool but that doesn't really help me to understand how to do the ghosting that >>34794347 is talking about without making me feel guilty. What you're doing is quite different.
I ghost randos all the time, like people I only messaged three times. But I don't understand why people ghost people they already had a rapport with. I got ghosted by someone I cuddled with from soc (he lives near me) he blocked me everywhere and never spoke to me again because I was too clingy
>>34794414>But I don't understand why people ghost people they already had a rapport withI don't know how my brain works. I'm needing to use more and more willpower to be able to stay in touch with my online acquaintances, everything is getting tiring.>because I was too clingyIs that the conclusion you drew, or did he tell you that?
>>34794414you must be one stanky ass nigger
>>34794341I have, I just block and move on because I have already found someone more important, so it's not something making me guilty
>>34794175>>34794223>>34794251rent free also kys you transphobic abbo
>>34794507? I don't even know you girl
>>34794289>there are no schizos on /soc/bro idk what you are on but ive fucked and met up with like 7 guys from here and they were all insane
>>34794494I'm really just like you, anon. I see interesting people and think "wow, I want to add this guy!", get tired after some time and then find another person who I want to talk to. I used to hold back from adding too many people because I was afraid of losing old contacts, but I'm not going to let that hold me back anymore.I feel I've been able to reflect a little more on how I should act from now on, thank you.
>>34794123I got ghosted by my girlfriend I met off here. Even travelled to meet her. We both fucked up, but she really is selfish and values her own comfort over anything else. Extremely conflict avoidant. What a bitch
>>34794528Don't let people or their judgement hold you back, you are constantly changing and that's okay, it doesn't mean you need to be attached to people you no longer find fascinated, for some reason the culture of shaming people for it online doesn't happen AT ALL irl
>>34794525really? the few i have met have been pretty normal. obviously they have their issues, but nothing concerning
>>34794531one day all of the shit you did in the past will come back to bite you in the ass
>>34794356Can you post your discord?
>>34794123Ghosting you people is easy because you're all mentally ill and retarded so I don't feel bad throwing any of you away. Why should I care about your feelings when you add nothing to my life besides a headache? You aren't entitled to my friendship, if you bring nothing to the table and expect me to carry everything, I'm out of there. If you disagree with any of this, male or female, you are the problem, and you will remain alone until you learn to not be retarded.
>>34794356You are an autistic tranny. You will never have that, retard.
>>34794370The trick is to stop being a little bitch. You will never meet these people in real life because you will never leave your room, so why the fuck do you care about their feelings? No one on the internet is real.
>>34794175>>34794223>>34794251>>34794277>>34794336>>34794494>>34794535you sound like the avoidant retard i met on here a few years ago thats now dating her indian stalker kek
People need to start just saying "its not working, bye" then just unadd.Just ghosting is terrible, you dont know if the other person is just busy or ghosting, it feels terrible, can cause anxiety. So being empathic and just saying bye is much better
Having known someone for 2+ years from here, and them up and ghost me, it's the most trash pathetic thing you can do. Just tell someone it's not working out.
The only person I talk to online at all now is a literally autistic tranny. I want to ghost, but I've talked to them daily for over 2 years now. I don't want to interact with anyone online anymore at all, for a lot of reasons including that it's just pointless and always fades away over time. I don't want to interact with real people either. I've been meaning to vanish for a year but I feel bad about hurting this person that has kept me company for so long and thinks they love me. I try to remind myself that it's a crazy tranny, but they're still another person and my friend, and they will suffer because of me.
>>34794774Mentality of a loser who won't achieve anything and won't get out of their room because of their pessimism, yeah of course you won't meet anyone if you keep being a coward who won't take a step forward like you are.
I dont usually block people at random unless they disrespect a boundary or are acting crazy. Recently I blocked someone since they kept acting like a coomer after I warned them, and when I woke up the next morning I had a "why the hell am I still talking to them" moment. I felt bad since I knew about their real life, but theyve been on here way longer than me.Just remember that if they're a regular here then they should know the nature of /soc/ relationships by now. Not to say you can't form a long term bond here, but I've realized that everyone in these threads are mentally ill to some capacity even if they seem normal, so it's harder. Otherwise, I'd try to talk it out first.
>>34796001Yeahhhhh I recently started using this board. I was extremely naive about people on here. I thought, for a second, that people on here were just edgelords but relatively well adjusted. Nah, it turns out most people on here have commitment issues, are avoidant, are anxious attached, are on the ASPD spectrum, are cluster B, are manipulative, love attention, etc etc. I didn't realize this because I was approached by a few people who seemed pretty normal, then it all went to shit. I was introduced to the true nature of this board. The only way to browse this board is to be an irony poisoned fuck who keeps people at arm's length and doesn't take anything serious. Which ironically attracts people who mean well, and it repeats the cycle of hurt. This board is like an ouroboros of misery. I don't even know why is till browse here. Matter of fact, I'm getting ready to leave after 5 months here. I don't know how people can be on here for years. After only having been here for this long, I've already felt myself regress emotionally. Fucking juvenile behavior. I swear it feels like everyone in here never matured past middle and high school. Insanity.
>>34795943You are all turds floating around in the toilet bowl that is /soc/, and when I'm done engaging with you, I flush.
>>34796034Sorry but youll probably leave a while and then eventually come back, unless you have friends in the real world.
>>34796078Idk, I think it'll be pretty simple to stop visiting. Even now I'm just visiting as a, for old times sake. This board has nothing of substance besides attention whores and gooners. Only reason I even browsed here to begin with was because it happened to have a thread dedicated to something I do and I was told to check it out. If I must stay on 4chan, I'll just browse its other boards. It's not worth sifting through the shit of the people on here hoping to find the rare gem
>>34794123Occult,For femcels, by femcelscome and get ghosted by pretty femcels.Join up foids.discord.gg/cul7Occult,/home/vib1240n/Pictures/IMG_0969.png
>>34794123I do feel guilty, it's the mounting guilt that keeps me from reaching out
>>34794303>Was that a subtle dig at JEocUIpy?It was quite an overt one but it may have been muddled slightly by a post coming up as I was typing mine. The prima dona act won't get her far IRL.
It's sad you're all subhuman trash
I've ghosted several women I've met on dating apps after several months of "relationship".Mostly batshit crazy single moms or rape victims. I usually get super into using their asshole and degrading them for a while, but I can't help but being caring and affectionate after brutally manhandling them, so they get clingy as fuck.Then realize how crazy they truly are and how dangerous it is for me, so I gtfo without looking back.Zero regrets.
I talked to a girl from /soc/ for a little while, we had lots in common, loads of shared interests and hobbies and an age gap we both liked. We met up in person for a few days, had a great time, again we got along super well, it seemed like we both liked each other to some degree. We made plans to meet up again this coming weekend and just a couple of days ago she told me she was still talking to people from /soc/ who asked for some derogatory shit or something and then after that she's ghosted me. Is this the true /soc/ experience? Honestly, pretty fucking painful, I would haven fine if she had just said "im done" The one positive is that she was actually a girl irl rather than a trap, so at least I can be thankful for that.
>>34798717>Is this the true /soc/ experience?It's the true any sort of online dating experience. But yes, /soc/ people will lose interest and block/unfriend you randomly when they get anxious or bored.
>>34794123>oh my reddit she le ghosted meeeeimagine being this invested in a woman that you haven't had sex with
>>34794123Honestly I get bored, or more commonly I forget and then i get nervous after not replying for too long when I remember. I did meet a guy who incessantly messaged me for months and months talking about how evil I was.
I do feel guilty and shitty for itMostly do it cause i feel like as if i don't deserve that person's time and the only reason they even stay is because they feel like they have too. Also because I'm just a pos who hates any sort of commitment and keep thinking I'll suddenly change
No but had someone do it to me though.Added me off a region specific thread and we talked for 7 months before meeting irl.Really attractive, probably too attractive to be someone browsing this board. We made out yhe first time we met, and the 2nd time he took my virginity. We met up almost weekly after that until about a week before halloween, he couldn’t see me because his mom got admitted to the hospital. Since he became really distant and eventually stopped responding to me on everything. Our relationship was definitely not healthy, nevermind the age gap (Im 20 and he was 30) but I felt like I was in heaven whenever I was around him. I miss him an insane amount.
>ASL 19/F/USA >Looking for lately ive been feeling like something is missing in my life & i think having someone i can truly bond with will heal my soul. my ultimate goal is to form a serious relationship. i want a lifelong partner (aka a husband) that i can eventually meetup with irl. i will get to know you first and see where things take us. please dont add me just to immediately sext me, not interested in that until we've established that sort of relationship. being able to vc sometimes is a plus. >Not looking for ghosters, unironically rude people, people immediately interested in sex, doesnt contribute to conversation, consistently taking forever to respond, people who do not live in the USA, people not looking for a serious long-term relationship, people who dont want to have children, NEETs>Interestssinging, video games, cooking, tv shows, voice acting, fashion, food, doomscrolling, hiking, animals, just started getting into jigsaw puzzles and i love it >Discord clingycassie
>>34794123I got excited because I thought this was a thread for people who want friends to hunt ghosts with. I see I was mistaken.
>>34799051>clingycassieUse the catalog you ugly obese retard
>>34799178IM USING THE FUCKING CATALOG YOU BITCH. AND DON’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO. I’M NOT HERE TO FOLLOW COMMANDS. I’M NOT AN UGLY OBESE RETARD EITHER. I AM THE CASSIE AND I’M THE PRETTIEST WOMEN TO EVER EXIST. IM 135 IQ AND A CLEAR MIND.
>>34799239I hope you end up getting your heart broken over and over lol
>>34794356Lmao, and I thought incels were insane. Femcels are on a whole other level
You lie timidly on the cheap blankets in our tent, the light of an electric lantern illuminating your shy face and revealing the rosy spotted acne coating your cheeks. You are dressed in winter apparel; a thick, tan-colored parka with dark gray furs over a lighter shade of ski pants, with black wool socks tucked into the cuffs. I look down at your body as you avert your gaze. Unsurprisingly, the moment is awkward. I can tell you regret meeting me. Perhaps it was too much to assume that I could have pleased anyone. Still, the possibility of holding a girl fills me with moribund courage; it could not get worse than it is now.>Well this is awkward.I say lightheartedly, in a desperate attempt to ease the thick atmosphere of regret. Unfortunately, you do not reply. I cannot even begin to imagine what sort of person would refuse to accept an attempt to break the cold ice of social tension. Are you angry? Am I that ugly? Maybe it was the stare, I did look at you for several seconds. Perhaps I should kill myself right away (there was a fairly large cliff just a few hundred meters north). No, that could make things much more awkward—besides, if you want me dead for whatever reason, it would be a major strategic loss to commit suicide now. I ought to find some other means to resolve this. Playing it off casually is the best way to save face, if only because I can gaslight you into thinking you are making this difficult. I could offer to take you back and ghost you as soon as I get home, besides, you will ghost me anyway. Well, I need to ghost you now and delete you, otherwise you will do it first (and that's quite a bit worse). I hate people a lot, and I hate you most of all. This this why I don't talk to people. Would you be happier if I were Ted Bundy and slit your throat right here? I'm guessing you don't realize what a dangerous position you're in.I sigh, kneeling down to pick my phone from the blankets.>I'm sorry, I really like you. I'm so bad at talking to girls.
People are talking about being bored of people... But how? It feels like whenever I add someone from here, they hardly get to know me! It feels like I'm always carrying the convo.
I do ghost but I don't block or remove. Frankly its usually because I feel Im no longer interesting enough for the other person or that Im boring them,.
Holy shit, this thread is still alive.>>34794531>met off hereRedflag spotted>>34794535I will follow your advice, my brother-in-arms.>>34794774>Why should I care about your feelings when you add nothing to my life besides a headache?There's no reason at all. But some of us like me have instincts that don't let we think that clearly at first.>>34794786You're completely right, I was just being dumb before the day I made this thread.>>34795352>So being empathic and just saying bye is much betterIt would make me feel bad, and it's tiresome. I'm tired of everything lately.>>34795366>browse a place full of mentally ill people>"WHY ARE YOU GUYS SO MENTALLY ILL!??">>34795826>I don't want to interact with real people eitherMe neither, lad.>friendFriends are nothing more than the people who you spend the fun yet meaningless times with. When those times get rough, they aren't there to support you.>>34796001I was just tired, I think. At some point it wasn't fun anymore for me.>they should know the nature of /soc/ relationships by nowYes, but some people still get disappointed. Not that I care anymore lol.>>34796134You ghost people because you feel guilty? Huh?>>34796984Got it.
>>34798099for real. good numbers>34798516>34799041sex-haver normalfaggots>>34798717>Is this the true /soc/ experience?Yes.>pretty fucking painfulMan the fuck up, we aren't your parents.>>34798908I don't add women at all.>>34798923Something similar happens with me, but I still used to reply at some moment.>>34798928Do you delete your old accounts or do you just stop replying to them?>>34799057I'm sorry, anon...>>34799635I won't read your schizopost>>34799753>But how?I'm mentally ill idk, I just woke up one day and didn't want to reply anymore.>they hardly get to know me!Maybe you were so autistic in your first hours of interaction that the other person got tired of talking with you? I can't answer the question because I don't know you. People ghost for different reasons.>>34800077>I do ghost but I don't block or removeThat sounds very evil assuming they can see your profile picture changing or you being online, but who am I to judge you.
>>34801060Noooooo! Not my schizopost!
>>34801060>Maybe you were so autistic in your first hours of interaction that the other person got tired of talking with you?I don't get ghosted it's very rare for me. If interactions don't go well, I just let them know it's not working out. I'm just wondering what people mean by 'boring'.
>>34801254If you dont know what boring is, you are probably boring.
>>34794356You fear being ordinary.You fear rejection.You need external proof of exceptionalism.You equate desirability with power.You structure standards so most people fail.You prefer control over intimacy.That combination guarantees stimulation and makes real connection unlikely.You don’t want love.You want status, control, and ego reinforcement.You’re using attractiveness as a proxy for your own worth. If a man who is “objectively” high-value becomes obsessed with you, it confirms that you are exceptional. That’s the real drug.You reject average men not just because you’re not attracted to them but because choosing one would threaten your self-image. It would imply you’re ordinary.The obsession requirement? That’s about control. If he’s obsessed, he can’t leave first. You stay superior, unexposed, and emotionally safer.Calling others generic or boring is also defensive. If they’re beneath you, you never have to risk being beneath them.You want transcendence without vulnerability.Intensity without equality.Validation without reciprocity.It’s protective, yes but it’s also immature and isolating.
>>34801056I didn't say shit about someone having mentally ill. I said that they were trash.Your projection is showing. The person who ghosted me was normie tier, with no mental health shenanigans.
>>34801223I'm sorry, anon. I'm just very tired lately, I don't have a lot of energy left to read that type of post.>>34801254I don't know what they mean with that too. As I said before, people ghost for different reasons, mine is that it was taking me too much willpower to keep replying after some point.>>34801741>Your projection is showingNah, I don't have any problem with being pathetic and mentally ill, I say this with great pleasure because I at least need to be on my own side. But despite you calling me pathetic, do you even feel any pity for me at all?
>>34801777Trips! Fuck yeah!
>>34794123>>34794167>>34794175>>34794193LOL are you kidding me? I block you because you deserve it so fuckign much. Try being decent even once
>>34794774Yea im leaving this place soon
Wow crazy coincidence that I can go other places and make friends for life, but its on here where I block mentally ill freaks and incels
The worst part is the failed normies. Imagine failing at life when you already have everything
>>34801790>>34801797>>34801809>>34801810Someone sounds a teeny tiny bit mentally ill.
>>34801815it is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society
>>34801817Um. Yeah. But why are you angry ITT for no reason?
>>34801822Theres literally infinite things I could have done with better outcomes but I wrongly decide to go to this place
>>34801777I have zero pity for anyone who ghosts in any capacity. Whether it's the one night stand and not ever even answering a text message again to the woman who ghosted me after *years* of talking every day practically. I have zero sympathy for the people who are trying to act like it's normal. It takes all of 30 seconds to type out "Yeah, it's not working out, sorry." before some white knight or whatever says how "oh but thecrazy dude is gonna spam my x everywhere" the fact that you feel like some piece of shit justifies you ghosting anyone else proves you're pathetic.
>>34801839Go post on the reddit looking for friends sub then bitch
>>34801790Read the thread.>>34801839>pathetic>adjective>1. inspiring mixed contempt and pity>2. inspiring scornful pity>3. deserving or inciting pity>I have zero pityThen I'm not pathetic, yaaaay
>>34801884doesn't matter how many anime girls you post it can only lower your ghostability by a maximum of about 20%
>>34801645Yeeeeah lol no I'm not boring, either... That's why I'm asking what that means exactly.....
>>34801884Just because i have no pity for you, does not make you pathetic. I have no idea who you are anon.You are still pathetic.
I don't want to talk to men anymore. It's all just been men. I want a girl to talk to, I want to get to know her. To love her, hang out with her. Voice call, video call. I want a girl. I can't get a girl through a guy. When does that ever happen? I just want a girl who is as bland and NPC as I am. I want a girl who is as unnoteworthy and mid, mediocre as I am. I want to be valuematched with a girl. I don't want to talk to any guys anymore. That's why I ghost. I'm sick and tired of men. I want to get to know a girl for the first time in my life. That's why I more often than not ghost men. I am so tired of /soc/. Does there exist a girl throughout thos hellscape? Or is this all there really is? That is why I "ghost". And I don't feel good about it, but that is why. I am sick and tired of it all.
>>34801939I'm a man who's hoarding all the girls you want. They are too busy talking to me to entertain your retarded lesbian fantasy. Join my harem or die lonely.
>>34801939Go to a female dominant space and try your pitycall. You come off as some AGP retard, but on the off chance you are a woman, go back to tumblr. go to some lesbian subreddit. Fuck go to the /lgbt/ board.
>>34801897I don't know you, nigger.>>34801929How can I be pitiable if you don't feel pity for me? That doesn't make sense. Let's just forget about this.>>34801939Girls are a rare commodity around here, and it will be even harder to make her attached to you for a long period of time.
>>34803060>Girls are a rare commodity around hereThey aren't really that rare. They're mostly just way flakier than the average /soc/ poster so it's basically pointless to get invested into them as people. But for every 10 adds I've got at least 2-3 are usually biological women. They just have a 90% ghost/major spergout rate compared to guys which have like a 10% ghost/spergout rate.
>>34794123I talk to women, get them to fall for me and ghost them. It is fun
>>34794123People are retarded and the more I get to know them the more they generally start to piss me off. There are rare exceptions that I still talk to but we really gotta click.I don't owe my attention or energy to anyone so I see no reason to feel guilt when most people on here are about as shallow as a puddle.
>>34804549I wasn't being literal, if all that matters to you is the female:male ratio here, then it's fair to say there's a considerable number of women. But as you said yourself now, the rate of biofem:troon is around 2BF:8T, and only 10% of these girls will really keep talking with you (be aware that you'll be sharing her with about 10 different people, she's not just yours). With all that in mind, how much work would it take to find a biofem to be yours alone who shares your tastes (assuming you are autistic like the average anon) and is around your age? It certainly would be very hard, I think you would have to add like 100 people and lose hours of your life. It's like a gacha game, it's hard to get the SSR card. Even getting Angra Mainyu on fate/go must be easier.>>34804569With "women", do you mean mentally ill BPD barely legal (or underaged) girls and troons? Because it sounds like a loss of time to me.>>34805549 >I don't owe my attention or energy to anyoneBased. Every time I'm anxious I say something like that as a mantra to myself. I'm not neurotypical and don't have many friends but some people here are just sub100 IQ and you can only realize that when it's already too late.
>>34805549"i don't owe my attention or energy to anyone" you literally talk as if you are however owed those things. here's a hint, if everyone except "rare exceptions" piss you off, you're the retard. Retard.
Femanon here, I usually don’t feel bad because they deserve it. Sorry but it’s true. Last time I ghosted a guy it was because I could tell he was lying to me and/or omitting some of the truth. He told me he was going to jail for a while but didn’t really say why, just that it had something to do with the car accident he was in. He told me he was the only one involved in the accident (crashed into a tree) and I know he’s a heavy drinker, so I connected the dots and figured that he must’ve gotten a DUI. That’s not the only thing that I believe he was hiding from me. I’m too young and he’s too old for me to be in that kind of relationship. I sent him a short goodbye message and blocked him on everything.
>>34806183More like most people are just trash, including you.
>>34806387Can someone open the garbage bin lid? I want to hear what this foid is yapping about some more
Looking to talk to ghostanons to try and help them gain courage and work on their communication skills, perhaps ask them what leads them to ghost. I never ghost, so you can feel safe about that from my endspawnofhalloween
>>34806385>I sent him a short goodbye messageThat's not ghosting. See No.34794347 for more information.>>34806456Good initiative, anon. But why are you willing to help strangers?
>>34806557I am bored
>>34794123It's the cruelest thing a person can ever do to another person. There is no closure. There is no growth to be had. I don't even get to know what I did wrong. It just hurts and leads to suffering.t. ghosted after 2 years of talking daily
>>34794123Cause most of these people are overwhelming manIf a girl from here gets too attached to you, it's always "Oh I'm so sad my family is so abusive oh woe is me I wanna kill myself I have 7 mental illnesses I have ED I cut myself I have BPD oh I hate myself please have esex with me all the time or I will act retarded"If I don't ghost and continue not giving in to the egofeeding and esex, they'll get bored and move on anyways.This isn't a gender issue btw, men aren't very pleasant to talk to either I imagine. Unless all your illnesses match up with the other person, one of the two is gonna get tired eventually
>>34805995> think you would have to add like 100 people and lose hours of your life.I've never added a single person from /soc/. I just get adds from people and about a third of them are women.
>>34806387oh noooo, someone called me trash for pointing out an obvious foid issue, whatever will i doooo.
>>34806663>2 years of being stuck in the small talk talking stage>sobbing and crying when they ghostNigga are you retarded? You two werent friends. You wasted 2 years talking to the equivalent of a chat bot. If you're depressed over that, you're an idiot.
>>34807066>small talk stageas apposed to what? we did literally everything save for actually meet up because it'd cost a lot to do that. Maybe don't be a weirdo and assume shit just to attack someone else/
I had a conversation with a girl a week ago that was probably the best I've had in years. We shared face pics, and she got scared and ran away. I sincerely don't know if she thought I was too ugly for her or if she thought she was too ugly for me or if it just got too real and she was just that afraid of falling in love. Either way, I miss her. Absolutely perfect girl too, exactly my type. Cute, literary, smart, unique, gracious, virgo. What a shame. Marriage material.
I really just ghost girls if they don't show me their tittiesIsn't it that simple?All of my friendships are based on if she lets me look at her titties and how long it takes her to get bored when I monologue (anything longer than 2 minutes is a caution flag desu, you are NOT this interested in quantum tunneling or obscure video game mechanics)
>>34805995Indeed, people from soc especially are a different breed of subhuman sometimes. Who else is going to respect your limits if not yourself? Just don't engage with them and find your own peace in solitude.>>34806183I don't know where you sperged out and started reading what isn't there but let me try again. I don't owe my attention or energy to anyone and I expect everyone else to treat me the same way. Only through mutual connection and understanding do both parties actually develop a relationship, be it romantic or platonic. You cannot and shouldn't force it.With love, Retard.
>>34801690Holy shit, this is literally me. You basically deconstructed my entire psyche in a single post. I'm not being ironic or sarcastic. I'm not who you're responding to, but I've been experiencing a lot of stress and anxiety the past few weeks and despite trying to psychoanalyze myself, felt like I could only get so far to the root cause of the problem. This explains everything. It's like you know me. I don't know who you are, but I feel like I should kneel to you. You seem to have the answers about me that I desire. What am I supposed to do to end this cycle of grief? My standards for myself and others are so unbelievably high it's <1% of anyone at all that I feel attraction to, and I'm open to both men and women, so that's the largest possible pool. And yet I am everything you describe. Help me, knower-sama ...
>>34808554Literally just post your tits, it's that simple
>>34808580Damg, why didn't I think of that ...
>>34808586Penis envy, that's whyGo on, ask another(ps, I'm not ghosting you, just going to bed)(you will never hear from me again tho, so like)
>>34808554>What am I supposed to do to end this cycle of grief?End the cycle by doing the opposite of what your patterns demand.Stop seeking obsession. Seek reciprocity instead of validation.Let someone be your equal. Allow yourself to be ordinary in their eyes.Take real risks with vulnerability. Share thoughts, feelings, and flaws without controlling their reaction.Accept that connection can exist without superiority, intensity, or proof of exceptionalism.Stop measuring attraction by status or obsession, focus on mutual compatibility and trust.Do these consistently, and the grief ends. Anything else keeps you trapped.
>>34808671I will try to seek this path, knower-sama ... your words of wisdom shall not go to waste. >Allow yourself to be ordinary in their eyes. >Share vulnerability without controlling their reaction.>Accept that connection can exist without intensity or proof of exceptionalism.I believe these are my sorest pain points and will be the hardest for me to overcome ... the rest I have more confidence in being able to achieve. But, being seen as ordinary, being vulnerable by relinquishing control, and accepting the idea of being unliked or unexceptional ... may prove more difficult than I would like to admit. But I believe what you describe are the necessary steps to becoming a better human, so I will do what I must to embrace them. Is there any specific insight you could provide on these last few points?
>>34808725>>>34808725Heh. Listen here, kid. Lemme put it straight.Being ordinary? Don’t sweat it. You’re not put on this world to dazzle everyone. Fly steady, do your thing, and let people see the real you, warts and all. That’s enough.Vulnerability...it’s like taking your plane out in rough weather. You show your true course, but you can’t control the wind or the waves. Let them react how they will. You just keep flying.And being unexceptional? Ha! Forget about proving yourself. Even a small plane can cross the sky. Just exist. Do your work, be honest, and let life take care of the rest.The trick? Fly light. Don’t carry the weight of what others think. That’s how you stay free.
>>34794123I only ghost people under the following>first week or two of talking>they're extremely annoying or>they're actively harming me or>they're giving me horrible vibesotherwise, no ghost unless they do something horrific
>>34805549unless you've established some sort of relationship or friendship with them, no, you don't owe them anything, and i feel you.however, you're moving like a scared little bitch. i will tell these mfs to their face what i got the ick from and THEN i move on. wasting your own time trying to dodge them because you're a wimp is lame, and not a slay.sincerely, a "foid"
>>34800077another case of pussy syndrome. literally just tell them that. tell them exactly this. that u have anxiety about being boring and you're trying to cope with it. communication is soooo simple and you guys will do emotional gymnastics and spend weeks months years of effort trying to avoid it.
>>34799635please kill yourself this is like that tiktok of a hinge guy writing voice bio fanfics in this one girls dm
>>34811650Fuck man that's fucked up. I only sent a few fanfics on hinge.
>>34811642Thank you. Usually I just block and move on, though I would argue that it's due to not wanting to waste time. While hurling insults at these retarded mongoloids can be fun, not a smudge of it will reach their hollow skulls and neither will any actual attempt at criticism. Mostly because a majority of these creatures lack any social or communication skills. It would be like wasting words on an ant.
people on 4chan just don’t know how to have a conversation. i don’t have the best social skills but the last few guys i talked to from soc must have secretly been brine shrimp behind a keyboard. they are “normal” (for 4chan standards) for the first few days, then it just devolves into them communicating through anime kissing gifs and sending porn until the conversation fizzles out. it’s not like i don’t try, i have genuinely tried to make friends from here to learn how to socialise better, i try to ask lots of questions and pretend to gaf about their interests but i never receive the same effort back. you literally cannot communicate with some people, they make it so difficult that it just leaves such negatives feelings, it’s like why tf would i waste my time trying to explain to someone that i don’t want to talk to you anymore when they have no brain cells to comprehend anything. if you don’t know why i ghosted you, look at the chat history nigga.
hey! ghoster here!so the main reason i can ghost with no guilt is that i dont really care about these people. its also a key component of life. you get ghosted, you ghost, you move on. also the ghostee is literally just a random on my phone. ghosters dont OWE the person they ghosted an explanation, most of the time it's pretty obvious why they were ghosted. people will send you the most evil shit ever and act all confused when they get blocked LMAO. also i usually unfriend people i ghost because i dont care about them enough to block them. i dont really block people except for my evil exes. hope this helps
>>34812822>people will send you the most evil shit ever and act all confused when they get blocked LMAO.That's not what ghosting means retard.
>>34813152no, YOU don’t know what ghosting means. here’s the definition of ghosting“the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.”doesn’t say anything about the reason you ghosted, or that you can’t ghost for reasonable reasons. you just have to unfriend/block with no explanation. that’s what ghosting means.
>>34813190If I text a girl that I think she's an ugly bitch, then she proceeds to block me without a response, that is not being "ghosted". You're removing all context from the concept like an autistic retard who doesn't comprehend how to parse language. Try again, ESL.
>>34813190How is that without explanation you absolute retard? Your quirky little typing habits are not adequately concealing how little you understand the language.
>>34813190this is retardedyou're not ghosting a pdf if you block them without explaining that you're not a pdfghosting requires a relationship of some kind, imo it needs to be longer than a week/month
>>34808554love thyself.
I still think of the anons who I've gotten to talk to and befriend. Occassionally you meet someone who you really click with and it leaves such a void in your soul to ghost them, to know that the genuine moments you've shared are gone and are never coming back. But life happens and sometimes it's unavoidable. It's been 3(?) years and it still hurts, not being able to say goodbye and not getting closure sucks.t. femanon, ghoster by circumstance not by choicesigned your_federal_agent_gf for the archives
>>34794223>>34794251The person you’re talking about, is it Z?
>>34794251>>34794175like 75% sure this is a person who catfished me for 6 months and enjoyed tormenting me
>>34794251that's literally every trans person
Every girl I've talked to on 4chan has ghosted me, honestly I'm done with it. Even when the conversation goes well and we actually have rapport, boom ghosted. No one wants to have any form of connection anymore, the moment you SLIGHTLY become boring it's like, ok on to the next guy out of my 200 male friend requests because I'm a girl. Like sorry I'm not skydiving today and climbing Mt. Everest tomorrow.I put in so much effort into every conversation too, I ask questions, I ask follow up questions, I remember the things they say.I seriously hope any of you girl ghosters see what it's like to get constantly ghosted by everyone you talk to, even if the conversation goes well. It's soul sucking and feels so lonely and you're constantly second guessing yourself like am I boring? Is this person gonna ghost me next?
>>34816006This is also why online dating fucking blows. It’s like we’re literal jesters
>>34816461It's a huge imbalance everywhere, every girl gets swarmed with guys. They can post their discord on 4chan and probably get 200 friend requests, but a guy does it and maaaaybe. Same with the apps, girls can swipe right and it'll just be constant matches. I guess that's why girls can just ghost one guy out of 200 possible choices they can have and literally not feel anything, even if there was a "connection".Sucks to be guys right now though. I am being crushed to death by the male loneliness epidemic I guess.
>>34816006how the actual fuck can you sit here and acknowledge that every single woman you've spoken to has ghosted you, but not acknowledge that you're the problem? you people deserve hell sometimes i s2g. what a braindead post.>>34816755yes we get swarmed everywhere by soulless npcs and sex pests but we still make effort for people who can actually hold a conversation without being creepy or tone deaf. shit ain't hard. block button has been on tap for me as of late, personally.
>>34811830fyi also you're correct and i didn't mean to suggest that you should insult them at random, just confront head on what they did that grossed you out and make your exit.
>>34811642>>34811646I think you might be angry someone ghosted you. Are you older than 30?
>>34817077no i usually do the ghosting and would not let somebody like that rent free. i overwhelmingly have beef with inauthenticity and the average persons horrible communication skills. i'm often the fixer friend in my circles so i have to hear them whine about a lot of this shit when the solution is so simple. everyone just needs to stop being a little bitch.to answer your question i'm in my mid twenties
>>34817077>>34817082*depending on how you define it. i cut people off very often if they move in ways i don't fuck with.
>>34816941>but we still make effort for people who can actually hold a conversationyou speak for all women do you?personally i've had one good connection so far and we've been consistent with conversationi say something about me, she asks or tells something relatedshe says something about her, i ask or tells something relatedthat's when we're not just flirting or jokingall the others i've talked to haven't been like that at all, they get weird and assume stuff if i flirt and they don't ask or tell anything so it's just me telling random shit about myself
>>34817549sounds like ur describing chemistry and then a lack of it.yes as a woman i'm speaking for nearly all of us. ive been on this planet long enough and have the perspective and experience to do so.perhaps you had a few socially retarded examples, or you were boring them to tears and they didn't feel like yapping at you. all of which could have been saved if the average person, in general, wasn't fucking terrible with communication. hopefully you see my point now
i’m soft ghosting someone i met a few months ago. we’ve only flirted casually but i think he’s gotten a bit attached. i don’t mind that or anything, but he has no idea i’m trans. it isn’t something i bring up until things actually cross a line or get sexual or whatever. but we talked about some problems he had with a trans person in the past and the way he talked made me feel like it wasn’t something he’d react well to. so now i’m ghosting him and i do feel guilty because he has done nothing wrong and i’m pretty certain it’s upsetting him but he’s trying not to show it because he’s so soft and thoughtful and kind. i’m the worst.
>>34816941Because I've held long friendships with many girls from non dating social media. I have a pretty sizeable Instagram and I've connected with some of my followers. One of them I was 90% of the way to a relationship but we didn't agree on children, but we're still talking heavily. IRL I have many friends and people generally like me. But whenever I enter the more anonymous/fast dating places like the apps and girls from 4chan dating thread and discord it's just ghost ghost ghost. Like a huge stark difference.
I have a life
>>34817633This whole "chemistry" and "boring" thing is what's the problem with online dating and connection. A guy has only text to impress a woman and nothing else. Do you want guys to read your mind at every interaction and cook up the most fun texts possible? Add a little bit of zinger emojis here? Make some personalized joke that really gets into your frontal lobe chemicals?Meanwhile the medieval village girl knows a guy nearby out of maybe 4 suitable guys, who fits maybe 40% of her in some ways, so she agrees to get married.But when girls have 200 guys on tap at any moment, they can look for maximum chemistry and the least boring, so they ghost anyone who doesn't remotely fit that. And then they get frustrated that no one is out there who is 100% perfect and never boring and they fall into the illusion of choice unhappiness trap. I swear it's the same problem as guys have with porn and girls bodies. The internet is just not a humane place to make connections.
