I started integrating some weight training into my time at the gym. I'm in decent shape and I'm somewhat big/tall, but fuck me, I'm getting my ass kicked already. Some of the machines I can do several reps with proper form no problem, but a few of them, I can't do a single rep on the lowest weight possible. I know comparing myself to them isn't rational, but seeing NFL and NBA guys make it look easy makes me want to give up on life. What little masculinity I have left wilts away when I realize I occupy the same planet as those guys.
>>31111111
I'm 30, my gf is a decade younger. My family looks down on me for it. My friends laugh at me. I still love her. The end
It''s not about the destination but the journey. Be well everyone.
no place on earth accepts an autistic faggot and i had to be/become one. there are no safe spaces for my kind IRL nor online unless you want to get groomed or join a gooning circle
so when a girl deletes all her social media pictures it means she and her boyfriend broke up right
READ THE MANUSCRIPT YOU STUPID E-QUAINTANCEYOU'LL LIKE IT I SWEAR
>>31111364>Fresh off the latest of a long line of died-in-infancy relationships>Feeling kinda low, but not too bad since it was very short and feelings were mutually lacking>Consider giving up dating apps for a while while to get back on track with fitness>"Femanon liked you" notification>Check it during lunch>An actual troglodyteFuck, man! C'mon! I'd like to think that I'm at least a 5, and I most certainly lead an active lifestyle. So why am I getting hit up by this /x/-loving fatty, complete with smeagle teeth, asking me what my favorite board games are? This the first time in a very long time where I felt pain from a mere suggestion. I get that ugly chicks need love, too, but the odds of her looking good vs me dying of alcohol poisoning are not good.
>>31111364I had this shoulder injury under a year ago and I swear this has literally destroyed me mentally and physically, physical therapy is expensive and its needle in a haystack when it comes to finding a good one, im doing some stretches and occasionally working out to keep my strength but thats that, it never seems to get better no matter what. I have become much more insecure cause I pay attention to other's bodies and "masculinity" a lot while comparing to mine, and the thought of going into a fight with fucked up shoulders kill me. Fuck
I don’t think that witchcraft normally includes static holographic projections of nameless video game characters.
This world really upsets meSo,mone can go through so much and everyone thinks they are different but they are all just the same.I am like not the most well. I am very upset by how everyone isI am pretty much a recluseAnd do not want to get colder, but no matter how I open up and no matter what it is always wrong, people are always cruel, people who I thought I trusted or knew break it repeatedly.The world is not easy, and it is even less easy if you have had a weird, fucked up life.People hate what they do not understand, and I am not easy to understand. People want to be unusual to stand out and do not understand how much it hurts to actually not be normal.People always think that just means you do not know what others went through but I really am not normal. I have no family or extended family, no connection to my parents, no hometown, no childhood friends, and am diagnosed with illnesses that are so rare and isolating that even people with a large support network have trouble with themI have lost so much. I have tried so much.I loved everyone so muchAnd I got hurt by that and trying to find love in others so much.
>>31111436I hate myself because I fell for an incel who probably hates me more than I hate myself
>>31111529>THE MANUSCRIPTOmg not the MANUSCRIPT!
>>31111823Don't worry, it happens to the best of us. I fell for Julian Assange. lmfaoAlso, I wish they'd stop posting that fucking bridge. It just reminds me of my mistake. All good now though, everything is covered.
>>31111529Read or read? Where's the link E-loser?
Unfortunately, I'm smarter than you even if I don't have the same knowledge as you.
Oh my people ended ties with Russia. I didn't know, until now! Well done. https://www.space.com/cern-end-cooperation-with-russia-2024
>>31111694Just the dark cretins know about that stuff, no biggie.
Damn.I guess that this amateur porn star has yet to decide to make any career changes.
If you were smarter than me then why are we both losers? Really makes you think
>>31111963Speak for yourself, I win all the time! Case in point, they fell for this (lmfao!) :https://www.reuters.com/fact-check/old-video-wrongly-linked-cern-push-satanic-conspiracy-theory-2024-04-10/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQmmM_qwG4k
Putin is always on my ass, like a dirty hemorrhoid.
>>31112009It's fine though. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtD3FVJ37Rk
>ask question on /pol/ that goes against the hiveminded narrative>get called a shill, a jew, or glowniggerbaka my head
>>31111870>>31111963Anyone who brags about their IQ or intelligence isn’t as smart as they think they are. Humble up please.
Wah
>>31112047 I only brag in response to someone trying to exert dominance and superiority over me. You seem triggered, perhaps you have an inferiority complex.
>>31111364My dad and step mom are getting divorced and it makes me wonder if I'll wind up alone at 40 like my father, restarting my life yet again. I'm an adult so it doesn't impact me as much as my siblings. I don't live with them incase thats implied.I've got feelers for an apprenticeship, I'm not really ready to commit to something that time consuming but after two years I've had my fill of the NEET life. Finally got my license at the ripe age of 22, I'm kind of a shit driver.Haven't started a dating app but I really want to since it's been so fucking long since I've had a girlfriend. Half of me wants to fill it with photos of me in ahegao hoodies at conventions and other weird shit, the other half wants to be the same normie tier schlock thats already there. Won't do it until I have the apprenticeship, I'm not going to ask for date money. If anybody has a productive way to court weird women on dating apps let me know. I'm witty enough to flirt I just don't know how to cultivate the image.
League looks like a fun game, and I wish I could focus better and gain better map sense so I can climb out of silver. However playing this game keeps letting traumatic memories of this fake friend of mine who taught me how to play treated me when I was going through an extremely stressful time when I was trying to stay afloat in a big city. He called me stupid and an idiot on separate occasions and even banged my mouse on the table so that the bottom panel of it fell off anytime he made a bad play and I was out of the room. I had already admitted to him I was nearly suicidal because I was starting to think I was a retard all my life who got suckered into paying $160k for an engineering degree that I was in fact too dumb to use much less support myself in that big, stressful city. I had done that friend so many favors too like giving him rides from work, covering some of his meals before he found his job at the time and yea, letting him play league on my PC. It didn't help I went through an awful breakup at that time and he was dating someone very similar looking at the time and on the very last day before I left, just spent the day insulting me and rubbing his alphaness in my face, all because I texted him that I had had enough of that city and was returning home and must have stopped being useful to him. Still trying to get over his treatment of me and just restore my brain function
What was the point of therapy, again?Oh, right.
>>31112070How were they trying to exert dominance and superiority over you? Maybe a little triggered but not by that.
>>31111364Being horribly retarded is not a mistake, it is a gift from God. Being evil though is a choice.
>>31112193Why do you think that's any of your business?
>>31112223Most people here are evil. I love real retards... they're better, and smarter, than the retards here.
>>31112193This is a gioyc thread, he was just... getting something off his chestNo real reason to spill the whole situation to you imo
>>31112245>>31112250I was just curious about GIOYC lore and drama. But I read the argument from last GIOUC so I'm caught up no, thanks.
When I was a teenager, my father hired a retarded man to do some work for him. I found out he had a crush on me. It was so incredibly awkward.
>>31112262Assumptions...
like a manman no like mesad
>>31112270I don't want any trouble here friend, just delicious milk for my tea!
I sometimes purposely give bad advice and encourage people here into becoming more incel like, psychotic and deranged in the hopes that it will lead to a quicker societal collapse in a form of accelerationism so that widespread social change and progress can finally occur.
I feel extremely stupid for feeling down because I know it makes no sense but I'm still very jealous. I have a friend who lives eight hours away from me and the two times she visited me we ended up at her hotel room sleeping (cuddling) togheter, but she's austistic so I guess she probably thought it was just non intentional. I dated more people for two years, even got in a relationship but she's still in the top of my mind since she joins my friend group in a daily basis. My sex drive is low, every time I am going to fuck somebody I just picture her boyfriend and her fucking each other so I don't feel like doing this at all.
>>31112094>League looks like a fun gameRun while you still can. Play a different game with your friend. All that other progress is great to hear though.
>>31112305Men here have nothing to do with society.
recently dove back into my vices, heavily drinking again and smoking weed alot. just want to be okay with being sober. but i have a new job thats taking up most of my days. everytime i want to quit i end up coming back. any advice? or stories to share?.... i feel like im getting dumber
I miss you.
>>31112337Directly no, but my assumption is that they could interact with others who do interact with society and theoretically could spread that social contagion into larger society.
>>31112305Just like everyone else, you are not as smart as you think you are, and are vulnerable to believing your own lies. Be wise.
“What is the point of all of this?” I ask them.And just like that—the whole thing went nowhere particularly useful for me real quick.
>>31111364I've got the beginnings of a crush on a woman I went on two (2) dates with. I am leaving the country and will literally never see her again. It's not a big deal and hook ups come and go, but damn, she was funny and I just felt comfortable hanging out with her.
You know; I remember them talking about this sort of thing like way back in… the 2002 to 2012 period. Over ten years ago.It’s nothing new.Who are you, again?Oh RIGHT
There's a fine line between realising I'm self sabotaging and realising that I'm in a shitty relationship. Still figuring it out. This sucks. I don't even want people to treat me special or even that well, I just want some basic human decency, or at least actually hate me. Apathy and dismissal hurts infinitely more than the times I've been stabbed, bashed, or had rape attempts made against me. At least that violence shows effort. I'm so tired.
So much for feeling great.
you always disappoint me you do it all the time
>>31112276</3
I want to stroke my shit so bad but I know that if I do, I'll have no energy tomorrow. Today was a busy day since first I woke up at 4:30 am, then was in uni for around 8 hours and then I went to the gym for bout' 2 hours. I'll probably get 5 hours of sleep if I do it but the urge is still there and strong.
I want to better my mind, but not to become intellectual.
Had been taken kid to swim lessons, roastie lifeguard apparently complains that I was taking pictures of her for past several times (literally on 4chan) somehow building security and hr get involved and spy on me for several more days and find out nothing is wrong and they just tell me this bullshit. Feels so disgusting that girls can sling that shit around so casually and almost fuck up lives.
I think me and her would be a good pair but she wants the guy that she doesn't even know anything about. I shouldn't be depressed but I am.
my dick is small but it gets a lot bigger when hard
I need a reality check. I should not be holding out for you to come around. I wish things were different.
>>31112899What guy just ask her out
>>31112956Why would I ask her out when she's told me she likes him? Just embarrassing myself for no reason.
>>31112984Oh well
NOTHING LASTS FOREVER BUT MATTER CAN BE NEITHER CREATED NOR DESTROYEDBA DUM TSH
I'm just going to leave. I'm so fucking sick, and tired, of being treated like shit for telling the truth and trying to help. I'm sick of men. I'm sick of misogynists. I just really hope some new disease doesn't break out when I leave. Bad things always happen when I leave... anywhere. I don't know why. They arrested him just after I left Ecuador (and that anon account knew it would happen too)
The only way I'm going to be happy is if I just don't care anymore. I'm very close to that point now.
Just don't cry when I'm gone. You asked for this.
>>31112951Yeah, don't waste your life for something that will never happen. I've learned my lesson and I'm no longer available for anyone that isn't available for me.
No more twitter, no more voice program, no more 4chan. I'm fucking done. Best of luck with the planet not blowing up, it's all up to you now.
men can't talk about being hurt.I have strong opinions on trannies and homosexuals,because i was emotionally and spiritually scarred by them. I can never be normal because of what i have seen, what has been said and done to me.Wasn't molested, or took any drugs, but it almost got to that point. why? because i thought they were my friends and compatriots who would "get me".i can never mention this when discussing the topic and it makes my blood fucking boil, watching people (women especially) pretend like this is something good and normal and if i mention my experience i am a "weak loser male" because even as a teenager i do not have the right to be a victim, that is only for rejects and degenerates.I want to talk about these experiences with real people, but nobody listens, nobody cares about me because my life does not fit into a box. I feel a genuine desire for violence at this point, if nobody will listen, then i will do the work myself, then maybe someone will hear my echo.aya aya
A friend of mine gained like 150 pounds since the last time I saw her. She legit went from a 9/10 to like a 2/10.It's to the point that even if she lost the weight the damage is done, shit is NOT gonna spring back to where it was.Fucking tragic man.But what's funny is I see her really active on online games lately, she's always in a group call with a rotating bunch of dudes, I'm pretty sure she's sending old photos to all of them lmao
>>31113181...some people even leave me completely when they find out i was hurt, especially the homosexuals and the "latent" tranny types.My life is a threat to them, my experience something that should not exist in their world.
I wish my boyfriend was more vulnerable around me. I know our relationship is still fresh but I want him to know I love him so much. Its a true love not an obsession just absolute pure bliss being around him.
>>31111457Same boat here anon, just reversed lol
Being autistic is hell. It's like being punished everyday for being who you are. I actually think I'm pretty amazing, but it doesn't matter the way I'm perceived and treated by everyone else. Right now I just want to get drunk and do a bunch of psychs, sleep and not wake up.
Why am I so obsessed with trying to succeed someone I barely knew before their death? This can't be healthy.
Maybe this guy could be the one. Maybe I can finally let you go even more now. As in, no more thoughts of us working out in another life. you felt a part of you still wanted me like your tipsy/drunk side felt, yet you never acted on it.I hope this new guy treats me right.
I wish she liked me as much as I liked her.
i also heard that all of the EMs and ACs sucky the big cocky is this true please respond
>>31111364It’s been months since I’ve last seen her irl but we keep in touch online and we interact at least once per month. Our casual dates were amazing, but something put her off on the last one and she never disclosed what it was and kept apologizing for not feeling the same way as I do. I guess it was the fact that I was taking it slow and I didn’t make the first serious move to get going, but I know for a fact that a relationship has to have a slow build up to work. Normally I would’ve moved on and ghosted her, like I did with my previous dates, where I also didn’t feel a spark, but I caught feelings that are stronger than I had for my one and only ex when we were in a relationship and they’re not going away soon. What should I do?
I'd thought that once I'd asked you out, I would move on. I had hoped to see you again, but I didn't mean to you, what you meant to me. I felt like we had bond, the thought of losing that bond, of never seeing you again was too much to bear at times. I'd never picture myself in a relationship after my last. I am content being alone. Relationships are more trouble than they are worth. I like having space to do my own thing. Mom keeps warning me that if I don't find someone soon, I will end up alone. I am fine with that, but, in the back of my mind, I still dream of finding that special someone, but I set my standards high. A requirement for any potential would be to have a work ethic that matches my own. I don't have time to cater to someone else's needs as I have my own. I don't think a partner should ever be a burden. My ideal match would respect me as an individual, the same way I respect him. I don't put much stock into this fantasy, but you made me wonder... I feel like we had formed a bond. You hit almost every requirement for a potential partner. Everything but the religious aspect, but I was willing to look past that flaw as so many have fallen victim to it. I feel shafted and betrayed. I know I shouldn't, but I do. I need to restrain from making new friends out of fear that this might happen again. I didn't want to like you. It happened gradually over time. I gravitated to you, you gravitated to me. I was content, then, everything changed. I began to think of you more than I should have. I tried to stop it. I knew there was a strong chance that you didn't view me in the same way I viewed you. It's going to take longer to forget about you than I originally thought it would. I have never met anyone like you, so the chances of feeling like this again is slim to none. The one thing that I can hold onto is that you didn't check every box as I am non-religious. I can't wait to be rid of this weak person I've become. I want to be happy in my bubble again.
Little fuckers are making threats again!I thought I was supposed to be feeling “great” right about now!…oh. Right.
Why do I miss him. :/
i take it that the ayylmaos dont like me :/
>>31113531You remind me of an earlier version of myself, before I became tainted. I wish I was still this person, more like my old self, more like you. Don't lose that purity, life isn't the same once you do. Stay happy sweet man, you are beautiful inside and out.
I can't stop crying.
>>31113734Because you are weak and have no self respect.>>31113767Pussy.
>>31113186What makes you think she even cares about getting a bf? Most zoomers I know are asexual. I mean, why not be fat if she doesn't want a man and likes to eat? I hope she sends unrecognizable photos because men are violent animals and very demanding.
>>31113303I'm not autistic, I don't think, but I'm not normal. What you wrote is relatable though.
>>31113734Now you're making me miss someone too. Every time I start to hate him, I remember things he did for me. He's so close, yet so far away, that I wanna kill myself.
>>31113373Did you even try?
>>31113740Why you think that?
How can I be in love with multiple people, it doesn't even make any sense. What's wrong with me? I want it gone. I don't want to love anyone.
My heart is broken.
>>31111364I'm madly in love with the Canadian actress Sarah Gadon
>>31113883Which is stupid because she isn't aware of your existence. Thanks for knocking sense into me too. Just because some famous people help me, doesn't mean they actually care. I'm so fucking dumb.
>>31113887But Sarah Gadon likes my comments on her Instagram
>>31113880obsession isn't love
>>31113904It's not obsession. I've been in love before, it took me years to get over him (never contacted him again, told him not to talk to me)... this is even worse. There is something wrong with me. I just think of all the nice things they did for me and I'm sucked right back in and my heart hurts but I don't know why.
>>31113897You're probably her only hardcore fan lmaoThis is different, they helped with a huge project... but ignore me in other ways. I will just take that as friendship, even if my heart pulls me to them.
>>31111364Obsessive love or obsessive love disorder (OLD) is a proposed condition in which one person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess Nope. >and protect another personYes> sometimes with an inability to accept failure or rejection. Nope>Symptoms include an inability to tolerate any time spent without that person, obsessive fantasies surrounding the person, and spending inordinate amounts of time seeking out, making, or looking at images of that personNopeObsession>a persistent Nopedisturbing>painful> preoccupation Nope>with an often unreasonable idea or feelingNope
>>31113958Although the feeling is pain
Sometimes in pain and I want to protect them. Those are my symptoms.
How’s the soul crushing ritual going?
>>31113966What's that?
>>31113969He doesn’t have an iPhone
>>31113972who? how do you know?
>>31113828I tried so hard, and even got so far... but in the end, it didnt even matter :(
>>31113977Nah I’m messing with you on purpose. If the person who knows what that means posts here they will understand.Sorry for messing with you
>>31113980copied lyrics aren't love
>>31113932You need to make a pro and cons list for everyone involved, then pick the one person that has the better ratio. You can't keep leading everyone on, it's not fair to you or them. You should do this sooner rather than later, because maybe the other guy(s) give up and move on, and you end up stuck with the wrong guy.
>>31113982>If the person who knows what that means posts here they will understand.People do it all the time to me - hence OPs image>Sorry for messing with youI'm used to it but ty anyway.
>>31113983THE SONG PERFECTLY DESCRIBES MY ATTEMPTS AND THE END RESULT.
>>31113984>You need to make a pro and cons list for everyone involved, then pick the one person that has the better ratio. It's not about picking someone. >You can't keep leading everyone on, it's not fair to you or them. You should do this sooner rather than later, because maybe the other guy(s) give up and move on, and you end up stuck with the wrong guy. >There is zero chance with two of them. >Another one, I do love and he does love me but he's never there for me when I need him.
>>31113982Fuck you. iPhones are garbage. Why would I pay MORE money for less features? Because everyone has one? Because there are iphone exclusive games you can play with other iphone users? Who fucking cares! If everyone jumped off a bridge, would you do the same???
>>31113994I'm really fucking up with those arrows, I'm exhausted but can't sleep
>>31113994>There is zero chance with two of them. >Another one, I do love and he does love me but he's never there for me when I need him.Explain?
>>31113990In what way? Sarah?>>31113995I'm glad that fits for you because that eliminates what I was I thinking.
>>31114002One is married (and other things), another is just... a megastar that probably has a gfThe normal guy is just irresponsible and distrustful sometimes. It's on his terms.
>>31114013Distrustful how? What did/do they do?
I think it's pain of not knowing if they need my help (and the guilt of it).
>>31114022Maybe they do want your help but are too proud to ask for it? I'm definitely like that.
>>31114021He's secretive but protective. Actually sometimes crazy protective... and if I get suicidal, he gets extremely upset with me.
>>31114035Well yeah, thats only natural.. because you're not thinking rationally when you're suicidal. You need to think about everyone you'd be hurting if you killed yourself. It sounds like he doesn't want to lose you and wants to do everything he can to keep you safe. Do the other guys even try this hard for you?? He sounds like the one imo
>>31114030This is my worst fear.
>>31114043>Do the other guys even try this hard for you??Yes, they put their lives/everything on the line for me..but it doesn't feel personal
>>31114047Then you should talk to him instead of writing about your problems here. Shits never gonna get resolved if you just bottle everything inside. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel, how he makes you feel, and definitely, stop coming here. It's not healthy.
I dont want to be with you. We both agreed on FWB, I will treat you as a person outside the bedroom but I dont want to do anything with you.It was supposed to be so simple, you go to work, I go to my day job, maybe we meet up once or twice a week, we fuck and then we go back to our normal lives. I really, really, REALLY dont want to do anything out in this area. I dont want to take pictures, I dont wanna go walk around and do touristy shit, maybe we can grab lunch some times but I just dont want to do outings.Goddamn it, cant we just have brunch and go fuck? Is that so hard, why you gotta complicate shit?
>>31114056Thanks but everyone here knows it's not healthy yet we still come here.
>>31114054Listen dude, I'm gonna leave you with this since our toilet time therapy session is just about over. Don't waste your time with people who wont give you 100%. If they give you anything else, they're just trying to fuck you. That's how it always is, and that's how it always will be. Should I pencil you in for the same time next week?
>>31114062You both sound extremely retarded. You both knew this was gonna happen and you still continued it lol. Just tell this to the other person that you only hang for fucking and not for any other kind of emotional or relationship type affection. Tell them about the other people you fuck too so they know they aren't special.
>>31114071>They're just trying to fuck youNo, I wish.
>>31114074You are fucking a married man and leading on someone else on hahahahaha. Can't wait for the married guy to find someone better and younger to fuck as he gets bored of you and for the other person to get tired of your pseudo depression and cheats on you and moves on with someone better. Narcissistic cunts like you will get what they deserve. The short end of the stick as you get old and worthless. Ew gross slut.
>>31111364I want headpats and to be intimate. Being healthier seems to make the desire stronger stronger.
I think I have a problem making friends with people. And now that most of my friends are going their own way, or friendships loosening up, I have no real friends, and I don't know how to make new ones.There's this girl in my "friend group" (really just a loose group of people hanging out in school), we had some deep talk a few times, but I can't really befriend her, I think, because society dictates that a man and a woman can't be close friends, only a romantic couple. This is so nuts. I barely talk to her when the rest of the group is around. I'm drifting deeper and deeper into a depression and I don't know if I wan't to live that long anymore. What's a life if you have noone else?
Daily reminder if you are over 25 and have these gross moon craters on the thighs you need to kys.
>antisemitism is on the rise Good news is a welcome surprise.
She was bumped with a flagNot stabbed in the eye
Im not touching my dick before sleep ever again, it just give me nightmares
>>31114263Bahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
Of course I still miss youOf course I will keep my promiseI have many faults, but I'm no liar
I moved across the country with my gf 1.5years ago (we had been together for 2.5 all together). We broke up two weeks ago. Not even in contact anymore. I just put in my notice at work and moving back home to start all over again. I always had it in the back of my head even before I moved that it would not work out but didn't wanna let go. Now it just hurts that much more. Feel like a fool.
>>31114414Damn I'm sorry anon
How should someone stop obsessing over a mistake they made in the past? I keep focusing on this one decision I made half a decade ago because I don’t see any way to appropriate that choice in order to advance towards what I actually want to do with my life. It just feels like I took a giant step back without realizing it and now I can’t really recover because it’s too late.
>>31114414How old are you? My advice is to not move home, dude. Either stay where you are or find a new place to move on to. Going home is just retreat into the comfortable and familiar. What you really need is to advance rather than retreat.
>>31114489I'm 36. Yes I thought about it, I definitely can't stay here, because I have no family or friends here, my entire life here is built around my ex. So everyday is a painful reminder of the past. I don't know where else I'd go. Going back home gives me some comfort at least for a short while then i can move elsewhere.
>>31111364Just need a little advice on my situation.So i got into a relationship for little over a year now and boy it got complicated. Im not good at really saying no and so i kind of let things get out of hand in terms of how we really see each other. My biggest issue with her is that she never lets me have an opinion as in its her way or the high way. For instance, if something doesnt go her way, i tend to give her options on a resolution but its never what she wants (even though i know it is). Shes likes to throw a tantrum like a child and then manipulates me into doing what she wants, so as petty as it seems i do the opposite or just give up after trying to resolve things after the first or second suggestion.Anyways fast forward and now shes pregnant and i feel like looking back it could be because of how she had convinced me that the odds are so low and that “oh you dont want to have fun?” me tally got me to cave in and have unprotected sex with her. I know this isnwhat she wanted too because i broke up woth her so many times yet she managed to get me back in her grips and now im stuck here forever.I feel so helpless but in the end i have no choice and have to accept things for what they are and move forward. I just want to know your guys opinions and possible advice or what to look out for as a future daddy
>>31114090 I'm not fucking anyone you retard. Luckily I went to bed before I read your stupid message. Why are you virgins so stupid?I wouldn't fuck a married man. Kys.. and fast, you're retarded.
>>31114503Bahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
>>31114503On another note if that didnt make sense, here is one of the examples of how she is.I want to go visit my parents on a weekday as she keeps telling me i dont visit them enough, but then gets mad at me for going because she doesnt get to visit them too as she is busy with work, but she hates visiting them anyways and dislikes my mother “because of the way she raised me”.Another time was when i forgot to bring her something so i suggested that i go back and get it but she said no its too late now, so i suggest ill being it tomorrow and bring food on my way there and she said no and just go home. So i say ok and then she proceeds to get more upset and asks if i even care. So i cave in again get her food she wanted and the thing i needed to pick up the next day.Another is time is not relating to me but she got mad at her mother for not cooking something she wanted after work as her mom was going out, so she manipulated her into making it in the end as she knew she really didnt have any other choice, which ended up in her cancelling her plans. She even got mad then at her mom for making it and staying because she said she didnt want it anymore.Its fucking psychotic imo and i cant fathom staying in something that is that toxic for any longer
>>31114116kys freak
why in my dreams im very happy and full of energy but when I wake up life becomes extremely dull and my body feels very heavy. in my dreams I achieve happiness and energy that is not possible in real life. kinda strange. its like I experience a glimpse of heaven before I wake up again
>>31114567I feel bad for your baby
>>31114090>>31114071Through the roof, cringe!
>>31114567you’re a bad communicator. Even when you write it down, nothing makes real sense. So she’s a bitch and you can’t tell her to get fucked and then you can’t get out of your head and put on a condom when you knew that you did not want a child with her. try and show her how useless and pathetic you are and maybe she’ll be disgusted enough that she’ll abort your baby
>>31114579Me too, i completely fucked up on this one and not only ruined my own life but my child, and even her. I want to be a loving dad but the circumstances with my relationship is so fucked that i need to fix this woman before it gets any worse not only for my own mental but for my kid
Why am I even posting here with a bunch of socially stunted, retards that don't know the first thing about life? Or people?
>>31114608dunno man this is just where we congregate. you can leave if you want.
>>31113492tl;dr I got too attached to someone who was interested in me at first, went on a couple of dates and yet didn’t feel like we clicked. I can’t get over it and we still talk from time to time.
>>31114628 >>31114628 I'm genuinely curious as to why, a bunch of socially retarded losers, ever think they could give anyone any advice, about anything? Is this your fantasy, to pretend you understand people and tell women off, on here, because you can't do it person? Can't hate on them, in person, because you're too cowardly... so this is your chance for revenge? It's absolutely creepy.
>>31114589I guess youre right, well she told me to my face that wont abort the kid because shes always wanted a child. Its sad but something in me suspects shes using this as reason the keep me with her. I wouldnt be able to leave her now because i wouldnt be able to live with the fact that i have a kid iut there let alone leaving her as a single mother.She actually cant live without me, i went away for a weekend while we were living woth each other and she cried all weekend and wiuld message me non stop throughout the dayI really want to try and fix things but she doesnt make it easy for me
>>31114658post tits or gtfo
Most men here are even below this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XFkzRNyygfk
>>31114670That would be the first set of tits you ever saw, besides your mom (as you spied on her).
>>31114680You forgot porn, this is all these losers do all day because they can't see real breasts.
>>31114680>>31114687ya ya, so are you gonna post them or are you gtfo?
>>31114666Sounds bad manWhat kind of advice do you expect? The kid is fucked with a mother like that and you as a father.
>>31114709Does it make you feel like you've gone through puberty, by asking that? Does it feel like you're actually a real, tough alpha chad, that you think women want? You're all living memes.
>>31114721man, you are really streaching this. My question is quite simple. Are you going to post your tits or gtfo??
>>31114731Are you going to ever become a big boy, who doesn't desire to harm and control women? I know it's rough being rejected, for who you are every day, but at some point you're gonna have to man up.
>>31114738>>31114731I feel like he just desires to see your tits
They don't even know that they've all been trolled by the Jews here. They don't know what's really behind Pepe... Bael. It's actually really funny.
>>31114746He is going to have to settle for his mother's tits. Are you a rapist too?
>>31114719Yeah this whole relationship got me reading up on atttachment styles which i never knew existed u til now.Im an avoidant and could give less fucks and move on with my life but morally im obligated to stay and help people, i do love her but is so fucking hard.Shes anxioua and would need my attention 24/7 and its so exhausting to the point where i shutdown and give up. I know she throws tantrums only to connect but its so much effort. I really dont want my child to have no father, her dad left her which explains her abandonment issues..
>>31114755wait you are attacking pther women too!!! RAPISTTTTTT DEDICATED!!!1!
>>31114768No, nothing wrong with his mom's tits, just something wrong with you.
I'm grateful for anyone who keeps encouraging these incels to end their misery, and ours, with a bullet. You're making the world a better place, thanks!
>>31114755what kind of retard are you? you said nothing of substance
>>31114719I guess the adice im asking for is really what do i do, have any of you experienced something similar or know of somenresoices that ciuld help?I tried therapy during my relationship but i fucked up and didnt listen, he convinced me to leave, yet i came back so i guess thats karma and i get what i fuckingdeserve
>>31114790>you said nothing of substanceYou've never said anything of substance in your life.
>>31114658Well this website is filled with social retards so these are the people that will be giving advice to each other here. I too think that /adv/ is all around dreadful, and I just come here to vent in this general.
This place represents the fall of civilization. No patriots, real men fighting for their countries, no honor... just a bunch of sad losers, that jerk off to 2D girls, all day, because they're too afraid to go outside.
>>31114794you still can go back to therapy, I guess therapist are used to patients not taking their advice. And about your attachment styles: avoidant and anxious types often find each other. It’s good you recognise the ways you are. And I’m sure you already know that it’s some bad feedback loop with you two. You avoid and retract which makes her more anxious and act out which makes you even want to avoid more. I’m sorry I don’t know how to break that, if I knew I would have better luck in relationships myself. Since there is a child coming, couples therapy could be something nice or at least make her go to therapy two
>>31114812If they were just social retards, like Bill Gates, for example, I'd be okay with it but they're worse than that. They're roleplaying something that doesn't even make any sense, some retarded man that they want to be. Someone masculine and angry, like a cross between Jack Posobiec and Nick Adams. It's genuinely concerning that they enjoy it.
>>31114827I swear it use usually the ugliest hoes that are the meanest just to ride that "woman power train" to feel valued. Some comping mechanism you got there
>>31114856>ugliest hoes I was a model but you keep going...
>>31114868but you hit the wall and now you aren't?
>>31114875I have better things to do now. You don't. I guess I really hurt your feefees, in some way. Maybe you shouldn't be such an asshole because this is karma.
>>31114856>that are the meanestbwahahaha it's hilarious that you got to him.
You took that wind out of his sail.lmfao
>>31114820Right, i can do it. I guess i just need to break the cycle. I know im part of the problem and need to fix myself before i can help her for the benefit of my child. Its the least i can do before bring up another human. I gotta accept that i lost my freedom and cant give up on myself. I havent been in a good mental state since getting back in this relationship since novemember and its been overwhelming.I considered so many possibilities from leaving her, waiting and hoping she will miscarry, to even giving up and ending myself. But those thoughts would ruin those around me or the baby future, instead i should be facing things for what they are and needed a little guidance in a more positive lightThank you
>>31114878>>31114891aight cut. ywnbaw.
>>31114906I know it hurts like hell right now, to know this, but I was born with a vag.
>>31114913It's like their high school nightmare of being laughed at by girls.
>>31114919laughed at by girls with dicks is my biggest nightmare frfr
>>31114919The manchildren really can't tolerate that, one bit.
>>31114827I don't think that most people here are roleplaying. The majority of people here are outcasts, for one reason or another, and that breeds resentment and people want to lash out. You're also started off spitting some venom freely, didn't you realize? You probably ended up here because you too are an outcast in your own way, and you have resentments of your own. Or maybe it was just morbid curiosity of your part. Regardless, 4chan truly is a murky vortex of bitterness and you need some degree of willpower to stay afloat not get sucked into it.
>>31114925Okay big boy, record a voice clip reading this and I will record one, to prove my point. Are you frightened?
>>31114903Good luck anon! Something else I forgot to say: you don’t have to stay in a relationship that ruins you to still be in the picture. Co parenting is still an option. It’s even better for the child to have parents who are civil but separated than growing up on a house with underlying problems and an atmosphere of sadness and frustration. It’s your life and your one shot at happiness
>>31114931you know there are AI voices all around the internet right?
>>31114927>You're also started off spitting some venom freely,What venom, exactly? Do point it out.I'm just sad and I hate misogynistic freaks.
>>31114939Do it from a site, without one. Not complicated. I hate transwomen as much as you seem to.
>>31114948Well, to be fair, I hate transwomen who think they're women, the rest are fine with me.
When did they get rid of the number of posters and change 4channel back to 4chan? I just noticed.
>>31114948what's the difference. I can still make a recording of an AI. I think there is only way to find out if you are a real woman. post tits or gtfo?
The fucking LTG piss bottle song is stuck in my head.
>>31114974No, just kys please, make the world a better place you dumb loser.
Went with my friend's best friend (which I had a crush on for some time) and a couple of other people to a rave. I shared some mdma with her, and we had a great time, dancing, making out and talking all night till late morning. We've sobered up at another friend's flat, then we both decided to go home around noon. She kissed me on the street, before leaving for her Uber. I don't easily fall in love, and I'm usually not interested even in girls that are into me. However, I was starting to develop feelings for this one, felt like she is a perfect match for me. As we are both kinda into traveling and nature, we agreed we should go on a trip abroad to hike up a specific mountain. All went well for about two days and I couldn't get her off my mind. Today, she sent me a voice msg that she has to cancel our trip plans, cause there's a slight chance of her getting back together with her ex bf, with whom she broke up like three weeks ago, she has some mixed uncertain feelings about that recent relationship and doubts about the breakup. This left me feeling really down (this and the mdma comedown probably.)Do you think there is way to save this situation? I don't wanna be too pushy and persuade her to forget about her ex, but still I have a strong soulmate vibe from her (or maybe it's just "limerence" idk.) Has anyone been in a similar situation?I know the easiest and most straightforward solution would be just to forget about her, but I still think there's potential. Just not sure how to play my cards right.
> If they were just social retards, like Bill Gates, for example, I'd be okay with it but they're worse than that. They're roleplaying something that doesn't even make any sense, some retarded man that they want to be. Someone masculine and angry, like a cross between Jack Posobiec and Nick Adams. It's genuinely concerning that they enjoy itThis is genuinely spot on and hilarious.
I cut my fingie on saturday so deep I could see the subcutaneous fat and lost feeling in the tip of my finger. I cut it right at the base of the very first knuckle just below the tip.Yesterday it was swollen, red and hot which I figured was just the healing process and not infection since I had been cleaning it and keeping it mostly covered. This morning, the scab that had formed yesterday was opened and the wound was covered what looked to be a yellowish pus which did not smell even slightly. The wound itself is now far less painful and swollen, but the wound is open and kinda soggy. Could it be serous fluid or signs of an infection I likely copped when I first cut myself?I'm worried about infection, but the wound is doing far better than how I imagine an infected wound would be doing. I don't want to go to the hospital, but I also don't want to risk cellulitis or gangrene, particularly since I'm missing sensation and might not feel the pain right away. I'm probably going to lose my finger.
Asperger seems to just be a rebranded psychopath.
>>31115053>I don't want to go to the hospital, but I also don't want to risk cellulitis or gangrene, particularly since I'm missing sensation and might not feel the pain right away.Go to the hospital, stupid.
I wish I could show her I was more than this, but I don’t think she ever will.
>>31111364>childhood friend came out as transgender like 6 years ago>had a falling out because they were calling me transphobic, not true at all they were just whining>our parents are still friends>their dad becomes a multimillionaire because of his business taking off>'friend' gets sent off to college and takes money>flunked out first semester, takes money from parents for the next few years and becomes a druggie>marries some other they/them druggie>parents find out that they've been lying>because their parents are too nice they let their kid live with them>make their parents lives hell>they're now 100lbs overweight at 5'10 and addicted to who knows what>crashed 3 cars, luckily no one was hurt>they want to move to Chile because of "LGBT rights", which I assume is code for, I can do whatever drugs I want>my mom is considering becoming a land lord and renting and tells friends parents>friends parents get an idea and literally buy an entire townhome building and rents out 3/4 'homes' out whole giving the remaining one to their kid>they literally celebrate getting rid of their kidI just look at this whole situation and feel bad, how do you become such an asshole that your parents would literally buy you a home just to get rid of youThey weren't this bad when we were kids, they did have some issues but they had tons of support
>>31115009Sounds like you might be the rebound, my man. You can wait around for her to eventually break up with her ex again because that's likely going to happen (and it'll probably happen like four or five times), or you can move on and spare yourself the bullshit. Trust me, she's still into him more than she's into you, as much as it may be painful to hear. Because what's going to happen if you decide to stick around and she's not fully over her ex is that she's going to vacillate wildly between her feelings for you and him, the feelings for him more than likely coming out on top every time. You'll be pulled in one direction and then the next, things will be okay and then they won't be. Spare yourself the drama and effort, I say, but at the end of the day it's up to you to make that decision.
>>31115073>but I don’t think she ever willWill what?
My cat threw up and before I could clean it up she started eating it. I had to hiss her away and get some paper towels real fast to stop her.Cats are so gross.
The most disappointing thing about the internet is finding out just how garbage people are, under their masks. None of these social retards would say what they say to people here, to their faces.
>>31115109You just have a retarded cat or don't feed it enough. Mine would never do that. At least it doesn't eat shit, like some dogs do though.
>>31115109food is food okay?
>>31115066I'm probably going to end up going to a clinic instead since I'll never get seen at an emergency room or hospital given the current state of my country's medical system. But how likely do you reckon an infection is in this case? I figured that, aside from the possibility of pus which hasn't seemed to have been continuously weeping from the wound judging by the state of my bandages, an infection would also be painful, hot and swollen. While that was true yesterday, it's not today. How likely is it that it's oxidized serous fluid rather than pus?
>>31115116same goes to you. You think you can yap your bs in real life to a group of people and expect you to take you seriously?
>>31114938I know of her cousin who co parented as he moved overseas only to find out his partner and son didnt end up following, it sounds eerily similar to my situation as the whole reason why inwanted to leave the relationship was to move states to build a life for myself.Its tough knowing i was so close yet one slip up blew it all for me, but it is what it isThanks anon again, im gonna need that luck!
>>31115099See me as boyfriend material. We still keep in touch and sends me mixed signals, but it must be a nothing burger. I guess I’ll just keep it platonic until she breaks up with the guy she ultimately chose.
>>31115124She might be a bit retarded but she has a full bowl of cat food all day every day. She goes crazy for wet food but I can't feed it to her because he throws it up every time. She just got too use to dry food from the shelter.>>31115127but surely the food in her bowl has to be better.
>>31115083Yeah well I think I'll know when to call it quits. Now I'm rather trying to figure out how to tilt the scale in my favor.Tbh, two of my past serious relationships started literally right after the girl broke up with her current bf.
There are girls that post on 4chan and when asked tits or gtfo they actually post tits. Girls like that actually exist. Sure they are probably underage but girls love attention.
>>31114856>>31114868Why dont you move to the ATOGA or make your own threads where you spice each others soup, until you cant swallow it anymore.
>buy no fragrance hairspray>smells like pure chemicalsbruh wtf how is it legal to write no fragrance when it fucking smells like death
>>31115173It's odd how you're so concerned about this thread...it's either because you want everyone to pay attention to only you, or you have some retarded autistic urge to be the hall monitor in a worthless thread, on a worthless website.
>>31115151You can try to tip the scales in your favour, I just think that might be setting yourself up for failure since she's clearly not over her ex. She'll get confused over her feelings and, because most people (and therefore most women) are stupid and impulsive, she might not be able or even willing to put them aside for you. He obviously still has some sway and that's something to be wary of. Shit, you should still be wary even if a woman claims to hate her ex and be totally done with him because, speaking from experience here, that's usually true right up until they feel they need the kind of comfort they've grown accustomed to with their ex as opposed to putting effort into a new relationship (usually happens during times of hardship that you won't even be privy to as the new guy). But do what you think is right, I wish you luck anyway.
>>31115156>Sure they are probably underage but girls love attention.They're just girls who were abused, as children, and are used to abuse.
>>31115201this retarded "woman" is still here? would you gtfo kidlndly please? you are starting to be annoying
>>31115201the latter
>>31115150Make sure it's room temp, slowly introduce at about 1 teaspoon. Then increase by a tsp every day, until you reach the size of small mouse.
>>31115139>I guess I’ll just keep it platonic until she breaks up with the guy she ultimately chose.How long have you known her? Were you always platonic?
>>31115219No, I'm not leaving, your feelings sure got hurt, I'm happy about that! :3 That's what you get for being a retarded prick.
>>31115156So this loser, that is ranting, genuinely thought I'd post my breasts and got his feelings hurt? For what purpose would I post my breasts? What does any random loser here have to offer me? I just simply don't understand that.
>>31115284Maybe if you posted your tits we would all understand a little better.
>>31115251I'm more worried about you not me. It seems you went to psychotic melt down just now after discovering 4chan.
>>31115289Again, for what purpose? To attract unattractive, socially retarded, autistic men that I'd never talk to, anywhere, at any time?>>31115292I'm actually perfectly fine, just tired.
>>31115310>Again, for what purpose? To attract unattractive, socially retarded, autistic men that I'd never talk to, anywhere, at any time?I mean you sure love the attention you are getting from the retarded losers. Did you pick that trait from you "modeling" career?
>>31115333Why would you think I love replies? Don't flatter yourself, just stop replying. I'm good with that.
>>31115310There's an autistic artist I follow on twitter that use to be super conservative and never post any pictures. But in the last year she just keeps posting photos of herself in super low cut dresses and she has really big boobs. She also started to draw a lot of porn. She is in her 30s now but I think she just discovered sex.I don't know how that relates to your post but the autistic thing must have reminded me of her.
>>31111364 Found An Old VHS Tape Video :)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPVoXhJL5Sw
>>31115310You’re talking to them here a lot right now considering how worthless everyone here is to you. what do you have to offer here? Have you given any advice or insight? You’re just annoying and a waste of space that wants to feel important by picking meaningless fights on a degen board
>>31115341you can stop replying but you LOVE the attention. Do you miss the attention you qere getting at your modeling career? is that what is this all about?
>>31115347That's unfortunate that she feels the need to do that, to get followers for her art. It's sad that we live in a world like this, where women aren't appreciated for their talents, only boobs.
>>31115387No, you can't stop replying, to me. Next time you reply will be an admission that you hide in your mom's house and sniff her filthy underwear when she's gone.
>>31115351Is this what you guys do for fun? At least it's wholesome.
>>31115390Even the more well known, really talented female artists I know like to post sexy pics. I think they just like to look good in pretty dresses. They just happen to all be either super low v cuts or backless.This one amazing artist girl I met like 7 years ago came out of nowhere and is the prettiest asian girl I have ever seen. She hit the genetic lottery and put in the work to become a great artist.
I love My Cousin Vinny. That's a great movie.
I’m only a 24 year old guy and I have such a bad case of baby fever fuuuuuck I need gf and to get married soon
>>31115390guess her art is shit and her tits are her only redeemable quality
>>31115401ahh look at that. nothing worse than a woman pretending to be a woman warrior while harassing other women.Thank you for showing your true colors darling. Now you can go back and pretend you have the high moral ground with your just because you have a pussy even tho you are bitter loser yourself.
>>31115422You confuse pretty with hot. A beautiful, talented woman shouldn't have to show her tits off in a low cut dress. Audrey Hepburn never did and she was a stunning beauty.
>>31115438How am I harassing other women, exactly?
>>31115422Protip:Some of the other artists you like who draw are chicks too but just do not mention itNot the idiot girl you are replying to but I am a hentai artist who makes a living off it and am hot IRL but will not post pics of myself.I think the quality of the art should speak for itselfPeople will only find out I am hot once I eventually get doxxed for drawing the wrong loli or anime ship or somethingWomen have the ability to post great art without pictures of themselves tooJust women who draw and do not post themselves also do not mention they are women.The bombardment of horny people asking for pics of you becomes incredibly annoying and distracting if you even allude to being a girl whatsoever
>>31115438Also I guess you sniff your mom's underwear! Wow. Nasty.
>>31115466>hentai >artistBwahahahahahaha that's an oxymoron, moron.
>>31115466>are chicksYou're a tranny. Women don't write like this.
>>31115466My ex is an artist too and use to never post pictures of herself until she lost a lot of weight and got super vain. She loved the attention she was getting.I'm a male artist and have only posted a photo of myself once. It got reposted thousands of times on tumblr and at least one girl replied "omg why are all the great artists hot too" It pissed my other ex off beyond belief. She said I only posted the picture for attention and to pick up girls. She said I was making a sexy face too. I thought I was pretty average looking and it's the only time I posted a photo of myself on my art site.
>>31115235I’ve known her for months. We met on an app and hung out three times. Everything went smooth and we gradually got closer until she gave me the “I feel like we aren’t compatible” text a few days after our last date (cancelling one we planned) and she never gave me a proper reason why. Then I found out she had to choose between me and some other dude. We have remained friends since because I found her extremely likeable as a person, we talk every once in a while and she was the one that didn’t ghost me because it didn’t work out. I’ve had these end up like that before and she made a difference, which makes me appreciate her more. I doubt I’ll ever meet someone like her at all. I’ve realized it’s more about connection and not physical attraction, really. I just wish I could’ve turned back time and spiced up the mood on our dates, maybe that would’ve changed her feelings.
Why are trannies so disgusting. They can't even be normal artists, they have to pervert that too. Their very existence is about sex. They really don't care about anything else but sordid sexual shit and they're almost always pedophiles.
>>31115527>got super vainIt's strange how you're only capable of blaming your so-called gf but not the simps surrounding her. Curious. It's a male thing, no doubt. Men can never accept responsibility for anything they do in life.
>>31115528I see, well, once things fizzle out with the guy, try to spend some time with her. Or just find another gf.
>>31115548vain/vān/adjective1.having or showing an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth."their flattery made him vain"It's literally the definition of the word. The "their" is implied in it's use.women trying to blame men on everything are dumb as fuck.
>>31115559It would be a miracle if she does come back, but who knows?
>>31115351Couple cycles of forward and rewind and tighten beginning side of roll by hand with finger do again. Tight enough to hurt finger a little.
>>31115129Pus is likely fine, no feeling in your finger isn't. Go to a clinic, for sure.
>>31115358Projection and you don't know what advice I give here.
>>31115583I don't think so, unless you're an asshole pretending to be nice, to get laid. Women easily see through that because we've seen it so many times.
>>31115582That's your opinion of her. Why did you write that in the first place, instead of writing something like "she lost a lot of weight, felt more confident, so posted pictures. The simps wouldn't stop pestering her"You frame it negatively because you're an immature boy. She'll leave you one day when she finds out what you really are.
I always smile when I see you doing your thing. You’re going to make it (:
>>31115610Not really, my last relationship ended because we both rushed it and I don't want the same thing to happen again, so I'm taking it slow with every potential girl until I'm sure that person is someone I'm willing to invest all my emotion and care in.
>>31115632>simps wouldn't stop pestering her.You're projecting your hatred of men again. You say they are pestering her when she liked it. Hence why she is vain.You're just retarded and can't keep your bias out of things.
>>31115649>Hence why she is vainWhy is she vain? Because she posted pics, just as you did? You don't deserve a gf
>>31111364
>>31115600Certainly it's damaged nerve endings, something I've read is very common with finger cuts. The fingers are replete with nerves, obviously, but from what I can tell there isn't anything a doctor or even a surgeon could do about severed nerve endings in the fingers since they're small structures and are likely to heal on their own as well as be complicated further by less conservative treatment. In fact, there's quite a bit of anecdotal evidence online about lost sensation following a deep hand wound that eventually comes back over the course of a couple months. I'm still planning to go to a clinic of course but mostly to ensure that the wound doesn't heal improperly/get infected, the loss of sensation isn't too concerning to me funnily enough.
>>31115649not to mention you assume it was just men flattering her.>showing excessively high opinion of ones selfThis is somehow a mans doing. There's a difference between confidence and vanity.
>>31115657>why is she vainDo you not understand the definition of vain? Read the definition and that's why.Are you purposefully being dense or what.
>>31115645Wise move, women like that. Just make sure you make it clear that you like her, that's never a bad thing. Just put it out there... "If you ever stop seeing ___, I'll be waiting to see if this can work out with us because I'm absolutely smitten with you".. something like that. Women like persistence, at their own pace. If she has any interest in you whatsoever, she'll think of you in times that things aren't going well in her relationship. Just make sure you don't frighten her.
>>31115657You're not as smart as you think you are.
>>31115667>>31115674"excessive"That has a negative connotation and can't be proven objectively. It's your negativity and hatred towards your gf that makes you phrase it negatively. Why would you think it's EXCESSIVE?
>>31115682Yes I am, objectively smart, and I estimate your IQ is about 70.
>>31115694No u
>Are you sure that you want Veronica St. Clair?>Are you sure that you want Veronica St. Clair?>Are you sure that you want Veronica St. Clair?>Are you sure that you want Veronica St. Clair?What.The.Fuck.Does.That.Even.Fucking.Mean.
>>31115694kek
>>31115700Are those the voices in your head speaking?
I just sawIt appears your soul is still intact. Bad form anon, bad form
got the dentist in a few hoursso nervous but it's just a cleaningmore nervous about the cost
>>31115681I don’t think it’ll sound honest or appropriate over text, but I’ll give it a shot whenever I bump into her, because we happen to live pretty close to each other.
>>31115814I hope it all goes well for you, you sound genuine. Best of luck!
I can't believe they give people medication for 'excessive' daydreaming. wtaf is wrong with this world? I'm always daydreaming because it's fun to do. I do it all the time, even when I'm writing this. What's the big deal?
>>31115810Get a good electric toothbrush.
>>31115830You too!
>>31115881i cant use those ive tried them before and they set off my gag reflex and make me vomit (like actually vomit, i will literally vomit if i use one. not figuratively just gagging like i will fucking spew)
>>31115915I get that too. Just brush your tongue manually?
Hey that was some good porn with CB a few months ago. Think you can show me that in a dream? I mean, since you insist so much during waking hours.
>>31115955i do nibba lol
>>31115974What’s CB?
>>31115984Carbon-Based
Once upon a time, there was a man who deeply disapproved of his son smoking weed. The son would embrace him morning, noon, and night. The son would genuinely feel terrible if he let the sun go down without saying "I love you." The man's kid even made sure to substitute "I love you" for "Good night" or "Goodbye," just in case one of them died, so that he could make sure that, no matter what, "I love you" was the last thing he said to him. His stomach was pretty delicate and he barely ate as it was, but every day, the man's son would go without eating in the afternoons and late into the evening just to partake in the ritual of having dinner with him later in the night, because he knew it made his father feel appreciated and loved. When the pot smoke did its trick, the man's son would relax his stomach and the pain throughout his entire body would dissolve for around 20 minutes, and when that happened, he would elect to share that tiny sliver of worthwhile time in the day with his dad. But the man could smell the weed on him if he got near, and he made his disapproval and judgement known. But his son, rebellious, disrespectful, and unappreciative, would not obey him. He just never did anything his dad asked, after all. If only he could just LISTEN!The son never actually stopped smoking weed. He just stopped hugging his dad while actively emanating pot smoke. But after a while? He just stopped hugging him altogether. Morning, noon, and night, plus whenever, became never. Something similar happened with dinner. After a while, the man's son just decided that being hungry and miserable and skipping meals in order to be scowled and growled at while thanking his dad for a gesture he only took part in for the SAKE of thanking him just... wasn't worth it.Over the course of eleven years, there were at least twelve thousand hugs that never happened.The man became too lonely and afraid to make a big deal out of the weed anymore, but by then, the habit was broken.
>>31116036Hope you'll get well soon
>>31115974What the hell? I don't daydream about porn. Why is everyone's brain so rotten these days. Can't you be wholesome?
I fucked a married woman I'm in love with. Yes, I feel bad.She went home and told his husband.Now they're "trying again"...Feels so damn bad.
I want to foster like 100 boyfriends. I need a mega mansion.
>>31116144>his husbandGay
>>31116154This is called a harem, not fostering.
>>31116164What really upsets me about his story isn't that he ruined the sanctity of a marriage, but that he ruined the truly holy sanctity of a same-sex marriage.Shame on him.
>>31116164>>31116174*her
>>31116178oh then it's okay. you should kill her husband.
>character in movie doesn't drink/smoke >by the end of the movie this has changed >is presented as a good thing hollywood can piss off
>>31116154Get them all to put in a million each. Can you imagine the drama? lol
>>31116181I feel bad for having sex with a married woman.But the guy is a total beta for not breaking up with her imo.Their 3 year marriage was boring for the last 2 years with not much going on.I guess she needed something to stir up the stillwater and either divorce or try again.They try again. I wonder how it will go.I love her.
I hate finding rotten food so much.
I hate grocery shopping but I have like no food. I have to go out in the rain to a crowded store and get food. Fuck everything.
>>31116238Why tf would you love a cheating hag? Have some damn dignity.
>>31116266Order it to your door then
I really never knew how different I was from most people. Somehow, I retained my childlike innocence, throughout everything.
No watermelon?
>>31116291I got one now.
>>31116278She hanged out and had sex with me because she has feelings for me and finds me attractive.But her marriage must be more important to her.Also, I can't control who I'm in love with.
My heart always aches for her. :(Love is pain for me and I don't know why.
>schizoid>female>0 attraction to people>0 interest in dating>met crush>get turned down>been a year>can't get over it>odds of me finding another person i like enough to spend life with are minimal>i had my one chance and blew it>would rather just not interact with anyone, everback to square one i go...
>>31116305>because she has feelings for me and finds me attractiveNo you dumb idiot. That is what she tells you so you give her validation. She is living the life right now. Two men that are hoping and begging for her to chose them. Lmao you are actually pathetic. You absolutely can control who you are in love with by realizing that she is playing you like a god damn fiddle. You can easily turn this so called love you feel for her into disgust. She does not give a single shit about you, but she knows you are desperate enough to get your hopes up if she gives you some attention and thus can keep milking you for validation on a daily basis like the cow you are.
Why are you so insistent on being sad all the time? Are you afraid to be happy?
>>31116297I see you made it back from the store alive. Kudos. EnjoyI’ve been subsisting on a steady diet of apples and peanut butter which has gotten me through a VERY long two weeks. I should get some celery too
>>31116307What happened?
I don't know, it's not a choice anymore, it's worry. I'm a chronic worrying mother to the world. It pains me, everything is pain. although I don't always show it. I don't wanna live with this amount of empathy or feel this amount of responsibility anymore. I love TOO much.Fighting kills me inside (shocking I know)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_9CcHC3VRs
>>31116379How do you do that? I would go crazy eating the exact same thing for two weeks. Is this your only option because of financial reasons, health reasons or why did you do that?
>>31116388At this point my only hope is a lobotomy. I can not keep existing with all this awareness i have.
>>31116349>That is what she tells you so you give her validationWhat do you people have against someone getting attention, or being validated? I really want to know. Not in this scenario, but in general?
>>31116390Well it was an exaggeration, I have been eating other foods. But basically when I need a quick and filling meal that I can eat quickly (not for the joy of eating but because I got that empty feeling in my stomach) a tablespoon of peanut butter and an apple is the perfect choice. Peanut butter and bananas or even Greek yogurt would also be excellent, but this week I had apples.
>>31116393You or me?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IguywkHESUc
>>31116394There is nothing wrong with wanting validation and attention. But there is something wrong with collecting people that give you validation and attention like pokemon and especially when you do that by being manipulative by telling them what you know they crave to hear from someone or by seeking out especially lonely people because you know they will jump on any occasion to bond and connect so you can get a lot of validation and attention out of them with minimal investment. It is also bad if you collect it by leading them on. By making them believe you love them or that you will leave your partner for them at some point in the future or telling them you will change or are different than how you really are to get them to believe you are what they need and want.
>>31116349I hope you aren’t speaking from experience here haha… Oof
>>31116399Ah i see. And yes, peanut butter and apples is surely an amazing snack choice.
>>31116402I would want one, maybe it would help you too. There is nothing i can do to make this world a better place, so i am just left to observe and endure and it is driving me up the walls.
>>31116417I actually am. I have seen it many times and it is always the same old dumb story.
>>31116435I meant experience from doing, not seeing
>>31116421Indeed it is. But it can’t be good in the long run. I think the combination of caffeine (lots of it lol) and sugar (from apples) is causing my skin to break out a little bit. Or maybe thats from all the work but either way the body knows something is going on here
I'm so sick an tired of living a life where my exes have done nothing but spread lies about me. I'm not a social person. Never have been so I only have one best friend. So they take advantage of this and spread rumors about me. I have the texts, the pictures the evidence to prove all of this wrong. But it just feels so hopeless. I'm not close with anybody. I've thought about reconnecting with the people who's friendship my ex killed because of rumors. I am 33 now though and this happened more than 5 years ago. It feels like loose ends. Unsolved matters. I wish I could be vindicated. I wish I could know justice.
>>31116449Oh yeah, if you are breaking out then something is off. I had been drinking a lot of diet coke and my skin was acting up and i have cut that out the last three weeks or so and it is a lot better again. Maybe it really was the caffeine. It stresses the body out after all and it is not like we need more stress in the system. I doubt it is the apples or peanut butter though. But maybe your body reacts differently. Trial and error.
>>31116412>There is nothing wrong with wanting validation and attention. But there is something wrong with collecting people that give you validation and attention like pokemon lol pokemonHow would you define "collecting people?"Also, why do you feel it's your obligation to try and control, what other people do, who they interact with, etc? Do you believe in person freedoms of two consenting adults, or not?>and especially when you do that by being manipulative by telling them what you know they crave to hear from someone or by seeking out especially lonely people because you know they will jump on any occasion So like players picking up women?>to bond and connect so you can get a lot of validation and attention out of them with minimal investment.You have something against people bonding?>It is also bad if you collect it by leading them on. By making them believe you love them or that you will leave your partner for them at some point in the future or telling them you will change or are different than how you really are to get them to believe you are what they need and want.Who determines this? You can read their minds well enough to know that's not what they want?Is anyone perfectly honest, about all their terrible flaws when they first meet? Do you tell people women, on a first date, that you fart all the time when you get home from work? That you hate cleaning and cooking? About how you're in debt or poor? etc etc
>>31116439Yes, i definitely had phases of being a huge attention and validation whore. But once you have become self aware you start to recognize it in other peoples behavior and you find out just how common it is. Pretty scary actually.
>>31116412I probably don’t need to tell you this but I think this free validation scam would work extremely well on me. That’s something to think about. You probably noticed
>>31116466I’m still in that phase. I haven’t gone as far as to intentionally use and manipulate people to get it but validation makes the dopamine in my head whirl around. I like being reassured that I’m not too bad sometimes that’s all.>>31116458I have seriously been mismanaging the machinery over here. On my most stressful days I’ve downed multiple cans of a drink with 250mgs of caffeine to get through it. At this point I think good old concerta would be better
>>31116424I do understand. It kills me to my core. I guess, at some point we're just going to have to realize that it's out of our reach, that it's not up to us to fight what we see coming. It's a curse to see so much, to be powerless to fix it but most of all, to feel it all. I also still love every single person I've met on my journey. That's a burden. To worry about them and love them all from afar.
>>31116484>>31116424How do you guys live like this? I dedicate all my days and find most of my motivation from the beautiful and simple concept that I can make a difference
>>31116465>How would you define "collecting people?"Seeing them as objects to use for your own benefit. >feel it's your obligation to try and control, what other people do, who they interact with, etc?I do not feel obligated to do that but i have an urge to call people out when they are behaving like assholes or inform people whek they are being taken advantage of by an asshole. Then it is their own decision to do with that information what they want but they can then later never tell themselves that nobody warned them or tried to force some semblance of self awareness on them. I guess i wished people would have cared enough to warn me before it wad too late, so now i see it as a kind if public service to not just turn a blind eye on people in abusive situations. >Do you believe in person freedoms of two consenting adults, or not?No because people do a lot of things that are very bad for them out of desperation, self hatred or self destructive tendencies. >like players picking up women?Yes>You have something against people bonding?I have a problem with people leading other ok by pretending to bond with them to use that bond as leverage to exploit them, yes. >Who determines this?I do. >You can read their minds well enough to know that's not what they want?Yes>Is anyone perfectly honest, about all their terrible flaws when they first meet? No but that is not what i mean and you know that. >fart all the time, hate cleaning and cooking, in debt or poorLeading someone on is not mainly about pretending to be perfect , although that is certainly a widely used tactic. It is mainly about pretending to care for them when you do mot actually care. Because the best way to get someone to care for you is to pretend you care about them first. Then drop them when they actually would need your help and come to you because they thought you genuinely cared about them.
>>31116493>How do you guys live like this? I dedicate all my days and find most of my motivation from the beautiful and simple concept that I can make a differenceYou can make a difference, in small ways, but you can't stop Putin from killing people and trying to dominate the planet, for example. We all do what we can, in our own way. I use my psychic abilities to help, and it's absolute HELL, because I don't want to see it all, I FEEL it all. I feel all the pain out there, it's the way I'm built.
>>31116493Poorly. I want to leave every single day. I used to be hopeful and i tried to find ways i could see the good and make a difference. I so badly wanted to believe in the good in humanity and i wanted so hard for us to have a future worth striving for but after twenty years of trying to keep up my morals and hopes i have sadly had to come to the conclusion that it is all futile and pointless and that there is absolutely nothing of significance to be done about it. It is a miserable realization for sure. I wish i could pretend to not be aware but i simply can not anymore.
>>31116502>I feel all the pain out there, it's the way I'm built.Same same. It is insufferable to be exposed to the pain of all the suffering that happens every single day that is so preventable and pointless. Just suffering because it benefits some greedy person that already has more than they could ever need. It is absolutely miserable to be aware and feel.
>>31116469Yeah, unfortunately most people are very easy prey for this kind of manipulation. >>31116483Hey, self awareness is the first step to not give it more fuel. >multiple>250mgOof, no wonder your skin has been acting up.
>>31116502>>31116509>>31116518I hope in the final analysis that the work of my life will be said to have made things better even slightly. I’ll work triple as hard for both of you. I promise
>>31116523> Yeah, unfortunately most people are very easy prey for this kind of manipulation.I’m definitely one. I hope nobody I am close with used this to their advantage.>self awareness I don’t like using people. What I meant was that I could see myself falling for someone who offers me cheap validation because they know it will keep my around.>no wonderYeah. It’s not good
>>31116528I mean, i am still dedicating every waking hour of my days to trying to make this world a better place but it becomes a burden too heavy to carry once you realize that the people that do care do not have the power to make a significant enough difference for those that desperately need things to be different and those that do have the power do not care for changing things because how things are is exactly how it benefits them. I hope we will have at least a few people in the future that do have a little bit of power to make things better and that genuinely care for those that can not make a difference and are in need of someone caring. There is so many innocent souls that deserve much much better. I hope you can do your part to get some justice up in this hell hole. We sorely need it.
>>31116497>Seeing them as objects to use for your own benefit.Fair>I do not feel obligated to do that but i have an urge to call people out when they are behaving like assholes or inform people whek they are being taken advantage of by an asshole. So you do this in person, online, what? In what situations? Do you track down pimps and tell them off? > Then it is their own decision to do with that information what they want but they can then later never tell themselves that nobody warned them or tried to force some semblance of self awareness on them. How do you apply this to yourself? To the "plank" in your own eye?>I guess i wished people would have cared enough to warn me before it wad too late, so now i see it as a kind if public service to not just turn a blind eye on people in abusive situations.So this is coming from a personal place of pain?>No because people do a lot of things that are very bad for them out of desperation, self hatred or self destructive tendencies.So you feel it's your responsibility to analyze every person and situation for other them, putting your personal spin on it because you feel you're always right?>>Who determines this?>I do.>>You can read their minds well enough to know that's not what they want?>Yes>It is mainly about pretending to care for them when you do mot actually care. Because the best way to get someone to care for you is to pretend you care about them first. Then drop them when they actually would need your help and come to you because they thought you genuinely cared about them.I feel obligated to point out that you might very well be narcissistic (this is coming from someone who has been around mentally ill people). You think you know everything about everyone and every relationship they are in. You always think you're 100% right and justified in crossing other people's boundaries, without permission and need to control other people.
>>31116538Thank you for the encouragement
>>31116528<3 love to you friend <3
>>31116535Well i mean there probably is some grey area there. Relationships by default should be about benefiting each other. So just because someone might use you for validation and attention does not automatically mean it is exploitative. If you get your needs met in turn too then i guess it should be fine. I think it is mainly an issue if it is one sided or if it uses unfair advantages like positions of authority or power. Human connections are a messy thing, but i guess it never hurts to be conscious of the fact that it can get ugly fast and check the sanity and fairness of the relationships you do have with the people in your life. Better safe than sorry.
>>31113788What is self respect? I'm just kid of nostalgic after thinking about it.
>>31116540NTA but I definitely think you should at least consider the fact that someone stringing you along into a love triangle and keeping you hooked based on a “will they won’t they” dynamic is not a good person to have in your life.I wouldn’t go as far as the other anon who’s suggesting that she’s doing it intentionally to fuck you over. I don’t know you or her. But women who do these kinds of things are ones we can do without as men.If you need any perspective, any time she does something brash, think about a role reversal, if you were married to her and she was messing around with another man. Putting yourself in that position will tell you what you need to know. If she does it to her husband she may do it to you one day
"I feel obligated to point out that you might very well be narcissistic (this is coming from someone who has been around mentally ill people). You think you know everything about everyone and every relationship they are in. You always think you're 100% right and justified in crossing other people's boundaries, without permission and need to control other people."I actually think this is very common in nerdy, autistic people. I've seen it a lot over the years. The intention, of higher morality, might be good but the application is absolutely awful because the need to control other people.
>>31116574Okay, it's good to tell people that, if the advice is welcomed ONLY.
>>31116576The >I KNOW BEST, LISTEN TO ME NOW!thing is definitely common with autists. I think it is because they struggle to understand why you may be doing something that isn’t “optimal”And people behaving in a “sub optimal” way stresses them the fuck out for some reason. So they can’t help but get involved and pushy out of some misguided sense of love and care
>>31116584Sorry brother, but you are on the advice board. You will be getting unsolicited advice
>>31116540>So you do this in person, online, what? In what situations?Whenever i come across them. >Do you track down pimps and tell them off?No, i do not track anyone down. >How do you apply this to yourself? To the "plank" in your own eye?By reflecting on my own behavior.>So this is coming from a personal place of pain?Obviously. Everything people do is built on personal experiences. >So you feel it's your responsibility to analyze every person and situation for other them, putting your personal spin on it because you feel you're always right?No it is not my responsibility but it happens automatically if i gain knowledge of a situation because i observe how people treat each other or by them offering up informations otherwise about their personal life. I do not believe i am always right since i am not omni scient but honestly, i am yet to be proven wrong just once. >crossing other people's boundariesI only feel the need to point things out if the situation appears to be abusive to me. If it is not abusive then neither of the people involved would have any issue with me checking in because they would appreciate someone caring about the wellbeing of the person i would have assumed to be exploited and not take offense in me caring since they actually do care about the wellbeing of the other person and would always want people to check in on that person. Someone getting angry or riled up about me checking a situation is always a huge red flag that they know exactly what they are doing. I can only think of one instance where a husband tried to forbid his wife to talk to me because quote „i but bad ideas in her head“. Turns out he truly was fucking his secretary and stashing away money for himself in a secret account whilst leaving her wondering how to make ends meet and not even have enough money for groceries at the end of the month. I do trust my intuition and only people that are afraid that my intuition will expose them have an issue with that.
>>31116587The reason is that suboptimal behavior leads exactly to the kind of world we live in and i will always call out people that actively make this world an even worse place to be. Also, it is called pattern recognition and telling people that have been observing humanity since decades that your case is definitely not how it seems to be is simply laughable. Humans are insanely predictable and logical beings. Nothing they do is by coincidence or insignificant in any way.
>>31116576Also, I'll illustrate with an example. My brother, and his friends, were huge nerds (in every way, and had limited social skills). They used to throw pennies and hookers when they used to throw water balloons, at people, who were having fun at parties. They felt morally justified in all of it but it actually came from a place of deep loathing, judgment, misogyny and jealousy. They didn't throw pennies at the pimps, who were freeloading off these women and controlling them. Why is that?
>>31116604Thank you for proving my point. I understand you care and all that but people are naturally going to be defensive when you call an inquisition into their lives because they don’t live up to your mathematical standards of what a person should do. And it’s not because every single one of them is a monster who doesn’t want you “exposing” them like you suggest here >>31116592It’s because we’re all complicated, flawed and troublesome individuals who have our reasons for doing things not exactly the right way every time. Someone trying to impose themselves on you and wag their finger at you for not making the best decisions all of the time will illicit a strong response from people
>>31116592To add, that wife did decide that those things were no big deal and to stay married for the sake of the kids and i respect her decision and simply distanced myself because this is not my battle and i have no personal interest in the outcome of it but i never want the kids to have to think that everyone was just standing by and nobody said anything to at least wake up their mom to leave that shit head and have a god damn back bone. I never get obsessed about fixing someones situation. I simply state my observations and offer help if they need someone to have their back as they make changes but if they decide to just endure it instead then that is none of my business unless the kids are actively endanger by the situation, in which case i would call in cps because that is not my can of worms.
>>31116610>pennies and hookers when theyat* hookers and they* jfc me>>31116604No, they only think they're smarter than everyone else. They are coming from a disingenuous, painful place and lack the proper social skills to help anyone.
>>31116616I only tell people of it is grave issues of abuse. No worries, i do not tell people how to mow their lawn and what to eat for dinner but i damn sure will tell them to not hit their kids and to not financially abuse their wife. And no amount of guilt tripping me for it will make me stop because this minding ones own business policy is exactly why we have so much shit going on in this world and i will not stand for it. If you do not want people to be in your business then simply do not do asshole stuff and you will be fine.
>>31116622There certainly is people like this but that will not discourage me from telling people how it is if they are in abusive situations.
>>31116587Yeah, I agree with this. On the positive side, they are trying to do what is noble and right but it turns out as you say.
>>31116637So you would prefer to live in a world where nobody says anything and just looks the other way? Sorry but that is not the world i ever want to live in.
>>31116632I’m not going to let you off the hook that easily this time. Calling out abuse is good. Caring for others is good. I agree.>I don’t micromanage people BUT “”Nothing they do is by coincidence or insignificant in any way.””?> If you do not want people to be in your business then simply do not do asshole stuff and you will be fine.At first you were claiming that ANON was the victim of a manipulative woman who was using him. When he didn’t take your advice you changed tone and now you’re making it out like he’s the bad guy who’s creating misery in this world, which justifies you getting on his case.If you do call out abuse when you see it that’s great. You shouldn’t feel ashamed for that. Just understand that your way of trying to reach people is severely flawed and won’t illicit good reactions.
>>31116642That’s not what anyone is saying. We are saying that people with this mindset do not have the patience or the creativity to help people in a way that actually makes a difference. You want to do well, which is commendable. I deeply admire that trait. But you fall flat because people don’t see how you’re trying to help them. They feel like you’re imposing yourself on them and commanding them to behave in a certain way
>at work today>training with another coworker>get near to the end of the shift>oh hey anon we're kind of running behind so you're just gonna have to stay later until we're done>could have said this 5 hours earlier >could have done or said literally anything at any point which would have allowed me to increase my pace and get off work at the proper time>but no, instead he says fucking nothing until the last second and just takes half an hour of MY life away>acts like I'm the asshole for getting annoyed by it
>>31116649He kept pretending like i was some sort of monster that wants to control people. I do not give a single shit about his situation really. If he wants to get fucked over then more power to him. But i bet you he will be thinking about my warning in five years when he finds the texts on her phone and they are married and have a kid. Then he can moan and bitch about how he should have listened. Idk why he would think i would have any other reason to tell him to be careful other than that i do not wish there to be more unnecessary suffering in this world but if he decides to proceed anyways then i am all for fuck around and find out for yourself. I get it. I am like that tok because i never assume that people giving me advice have my best interest in mind so i have to find out the hard way every time.
>>31116635Okay but know you pay the social consequences of interfering in other people's lives when they don't want you to. I have reported clear cases of child abuse to the authorities when children came to me, to tell me about it (I was honored they did that). So that is different.
>>31116663Yeah, perfectly stated. Better than I could do.
>>31116663This is an anonymous online place. It does in no way reflect how i help people irl because i can not do anything but tell people how their situation seems to me and how they could possibly help themselves on here. For example, i told anon that hs best bet would be to transform this so called love he feels for her into disgust by becoming aware of how she is behaving. That is all the helping i could do from a distance but if he instead wants to keep up the illusion that she is his soulmate and it will be different with him and her than it is with her and her husband then that is his choice and he can obviously do that and find out the hard way instead. In real life i can obviously do a lot more. for example, i offered this woman i talked about to move in with me to sort things out. I offered to take care of the kids so she can have time to talk thing trough with her husband uninterrupted. I offered to help her figure out her financial situation and find ways to make ends meet if she gets a divorce. I offered her that she can call me any time of day if she needs me. I offered to help her to understand how she ended up in that situation and why that happened. I offered to help her pack and move. I gave her money to buy groceries. I offered her to sit down together and write the divorce papers. And yes, i obviously also tried to help her figure out if they could instead fix the situation. Which they could not. But i am trying, ok?
>>31116681How is that different? The kids that need help the most are those that do not dare to get help. You are just trying to not having to take responsibility. That is not noble, it is weak.
>>31116673My point is simple. When you challenge people on a fundamental level they get defensive. And when you meet defensiveness with this wall of “I know best, if you don’t listen to me something is wrong with you” then they will feel like you are being unreasonable. You genuinely cannot help people if you cannot tolerate the notion that people won’t always see eye to eye with you. If you actually want to help you need to understand where they are coming from first. You genuinely may know best, I don’t deny it. But what leads people to believe certain things has to do with a lifetime of experience. You won’t be able to help people by standing on a tower and yelling down at them. People need to be made to understand (IN THE CONTEXT of their own lives, which means you can’t attack them when they get defensive) why what you are saying is relevant to them. When people get defensive they’re basically exposing their hand and revealing why they’re not receptive to your message. That’s your key to helping them You will have to abandon the idea that you’re always right to meet people eye to eye
>>31116719Not really my problem. I offer insight. If they refuse to take it then that is their issue, not mine. I obviously explain to people why i think what i think irl but i will not type all that out with the dumb character limit on here. You can not expect people to explain their whole logic behind their advice right away. You could ask why they think that instead of getting defensive but i can not write out my whole life experience just to tell someone that it is a bad idea to be involved with a cheater.
>>31116715No, I would report any case of child abuse, anything criminal but beyond that, no. I would jump in and help someone getting raped too (if I had a weapon).You're going to have to pay the social consequences of interfering in cases of moral judgements that you impose and dictate to others.
>>31116709Alright then. If you did all that for someone who needed your help that’s what you should be doing. That’s more than enough.The reason I thought this was a general thing for you, to be completely honest, is because of how upset you get at anonymous people who don’t agree with you. It lead me to believe that you do buy into the mentality I subscribed to. Reasonably, you can’t do much to help people on the anonymous shitposting website. Most people accept this fact and move on. Getting so worked up about something you can’t control made me think this stuff about you. But I’m happy to say (assuming what you say is true which I don’t doubt) I was wrong. I just hope you understand why you always get such bad reactions from anons when you try to help them
>>31116741I mean, he isn’t wrong. There’s always a tax for not minding your business. Always.But if you can genuinely see that you’re helping people, you can live with paying that tax no?
>>31116749>I subscribed toI mentioned*
And honestly, I’m being hard on you because I can only focus on one thing at a time. The other anon isn’t a saint either. I mean coming to the advice board and being pissed off when someone offers you advice seems like a bit of a silly thing to do
>>31116755I was terrified of the parents finding out I reported them and it could've happened but I did get involved because it was the right thing. It's criminal though, and it's against kids. It's clearly wrong, there is no justification.
I know what it’s like being so in love with someone that you get genuinely frustrated with people who try to talk you out of it. I see you’re a bit of a romantic fella anon, we’ve all been there at one point kek.I hope your insistence that we have no right to judge because we don’t know all the context is hinged on some facts that would legitimate justify a married woman going out of her way to do things with you. Anyhow, that’s not for us to decide
>>31116776I believe in non-interference in other people's lives and respecting their boundaries. If they're doing something harmful to other people, and criminal, that's different. I don't know if you thought I was pissed off, or not. I wasn't. I just think other people's relationships are none of his business. Cheating, gambling, drinking, etc. Unless he is perfect, himself, who is he to get involved?
>Theoretically: if AC offered to suck your cock, how would you respond?Me: Context? What led up to this situation?>Wrong answer! You die now!
>>31116834Fair enough but this is a public website, and the advice board. If you feel like people pressing your buttons violates your boundaries then I wouldn’t advise you to air things out here.GIOYC is for confessions yes, but you won’t avoid unsolicited advice here
>>31116833Sometimes people need to experience things in life, make their own mistakes, to learn. Or maybe the married woman will leave her husband for that guy eventually. Who knows.
>>31116860>If you feel like people pressing your buttons violates your boundariesI definitely don't feel that way. It's not my boundaries that I felt were violated either, it was the other anons. Understand?
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>>31116878Not at all. I thought you were that anon who slept with the married woman this whole time. It’s getting late I need to go to bed. But yes I think I follow you now
Also, maybe that married man or woman, is an open-relationship with a cripple or gets beat or is completely controlled in every decision. How would we know?
>>31116869Alright take care. I hope you know, when I talk this way to people it isn’t personal. I just tell it like I see it, I thought it was best to be honest. But I’m very tired now
>>31116889Lol no, it was one of the best discussion I've had on here. Along with the previous empathy discussion. Sleep well.
>>31116898Yeah, you're a lot like... Jordan Peterson in character.
>>31116903>>31116907Not only did I just figure out that you were not the original anon, but I also just realised I also thought that your post here >>31116869 was from the guy who initiated this whole discussion by telling anon not to fuck with the married girl.Damn. Anyway, have a good week
>>31116719I agree for the most part.>When people get defensive they’re basically exposing their hand and revealing why they’re not receptive to your message. I definitely agree with this in some cases. I would ask why though. Say, someone was being overly protective of their child, being a helicopter parent, and that judgey anon yelled YOUR KID JUST WANTS TO PLAY! That anon might not know that the parent recently lost a child, who was playing on the road. That's why it's really none of his business, if he wouldn't be willing to tell other strangers all about his personal trauma, in public.
Lemon zest is my favourite icing sugar for a cake. Carrot cake with lemon zest icing is amazing. I love it to bits, but I can’t have it too often or too much
>>31116935No, that was me lol
>>31116944In fact, I got some poppy seeds in the ground the other day. I hope they sprout. If they do I’m going to make poppy muffins with lemon icing sugar from the lemon tree we grew in the pot. I sure do love lemonJust thought I’d get it off my chest
I will kill myself everyday until I die.
>>31116592>By reflecting on my own behavior.I would like to know how you've reflected and what you're changed. Is that too personal?So you are coming from personal pain and therefore you're biased. I believe you were proven wrong here. "'I only feel the need to point things out if the situation appears to be abusive to me"This is where you cross the line because you don't know the entire situation, it's none of your business and abuse is often subjective, there are two sides, or more.
>>31116980I’m aware. I won’t stop you.
I have been masturbating less often than usual. Sometimes I hold off.
>>31116989What if I wanted to make a slice-of-life webcomic set in New Zealand?
>>31117013Follow your dreams
>>31117013Like Ongezellig but New Zealand? I could dig it. If you don’t know Ongezellig browse /co/ for a day
At the end of every month i start getting this feeling like i have a womb, like, a womb inside of me, where it is in women.I am a guy.I don't know how to think of it, it's a very cyclical and regularly occuring feeling i do not know how to process it.Sometimes when i do not see my body i imagine a woman's body, and that i am wearing heels. Not even a concious process, sometimes i do not notice it, sometimes i dissasociate and let the woman take the wheel. She is like a different half of me, a different expression.I don't know how to process this.
>>31116887yeah but why
>>31117308i wouldn't know
>>31117311okay sorry
I wiped out at some point and I have no recollection of that time
>>31111364I was nearly molested by my drunk uncle on my 21st birthday. I tried telling my parents, but they didn't believe even though my Dad was there the whole time but was too drunk to notice. I tried telling someone I thought was my friend at the time, but he just laughed in my face. I have a hard time trusting anyone now. Life fucking sucks.
This hole feels a bit vile
Fight the future?
