How tf do you build self-confidence and a positive self-image?
>>34553155Repeated successes and a robust social network and material abundance/minimalism. Get to work. You can give yourself temporary confidence with rituals like affirmations and support from others. I believe in you. At worst you just got a few things to learn. Get to work. Get out there. Get your life together.
>>34553155Just b yourself
>>34553155Gaslight yourself
>>34553155Dont forget to reward yourself when you accomplish something. Also stay the fuck away from crabs.
>>34553155Experience.Go and do.Fail. Then fix your failure.
IMO you can't build generailzed confidence. You have to build confidence in one area at a time.
>>34553155you have to be born a retard with dunning krueger instead of a 130 iq anon with impostor syndrome. You get more confidence in yourself as you get older if that helps. Just bee yourself
>>34553155https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGS029Peq7k&list=RDWGS029Peq7k&start_radio=1
>told to just be more confident/say more nice things about myself>only things I don't completely hate about myself is I can be sociable with people, aren't a complete asshole, and my parents (appear) to love and support me>hate how much of an autist I am around strangers, no gf, and a shutinIt's rough.
>>34554477This is only a temporary buff but it can help to get REAL confidence from positive experiences.
>>34554547>Also stay the fuck away from crabsWhat did he mean by this?
>>34553155That shit is truly the most toxic poisonous thing in my life. I wasted my entire 20s believing I was ugly and worthless while hiding myself from society out of fear of being perceived. Family members always told me I was handsome and didn’t understand why I had no confidence or self esteem or any girlfriends ever. I never believed anything they said of course, cause that little voice in your head calling you ugly and worthless outweighs everything for some reason.But one day I got a job and just started putting myself out there and suddenly I have multiple women coming on to me and lost my virginity to someone I think is waaay out of my league. But even now I’m still down on myself constantly. Wish I could just shut my brain off sometimes.
>>34555072Crabs in a bucket, IE bitter people that will try to drag you back down if they think you're improving and "leaving them behind". Can be friends, family, bosses, etc. Many anons are like this.
>>34553155Do stuff that makes you proud to be yourself.Set reasonable goals and achieve them. Take good care of your health and be kind to people.
>>34555080Idk if that's more brutal or I'm just sour grapes but personally I believe I'm ugly and worthless, and going out just sort of reinforces that. Yes I am in fact ugly undesirable and worthless XD
>>34553155by bringing others down
>>34553155You didn't even ask if you deserve those things.
>>34555596Yea you know that guy's experience is not all that common. It's like a disney movie where the ugly girl takes off her glasses and suddenly she is prom queen. Some people are less attractive than others and it doesn't really matter if they have a job or talk to people. I have a great job, but I don't women throwing themselves at me. And in fact I was friendzoned and then dumped by my only gf even though I wasn't shy around her. We went and did all sorts of things together. But some people are just undesireable and it doesn't matter how many boxes they check.Not saying that is you, but it's definitely me.
