Why are men punished for being neurodivergent but not woman?
Neurodivergent women present differently than men and accordingly don't face the same social stigma. Autistic women are far more likely to possess the ability to brute force through social situations than austic men, because women are raised in a significantly more communicative and open environment. Women with ADHD tend to lean combined/inattentive or have lower movement needs, so they can fidget and mask in less intrusive ways. Part of this is also social conditioning that teaches girls to suppress their own needs or feel shame for those needs, while bots are socially encouraged to stake their own territory. Meanwhile, visibly neurodivergent men are almost always disruptive to the experiences of everyone else. Hyperactivity that requires constant moderation or autism that manifests as unintentional selfishness or outright narcissism. This leads to easy identification and stereotyping. Even men with inattentive-type ADHD were underrepresented in the social conscious until recently, because they generally keep to themselves. It's not a lack of sympathy from society as much as a lack of energy to continue indulging the boys who have held the class back since elementary school. Even so, neurodivergent women are not socially well-adjusted and face frequent bullying by other women. Women with ADHD can pass depending on presentation, but autistic women tend to get pushed into nerdy spaces. But since even an autistic women has a better understanding of social situations than men do (and will naturally amass simps regardless because tits), they don't get noticed quite as much. >>34811068Untrue. I'm gay and have never looked for vagina.
>>34811298Neurodivergent women still have a much higher chance if reproducing than neurodivergent men.
I think I'm neurodivergent because I say "mine" a lot.
>>34810998If you just focus on making money you won't have problems.
>>34812372Women are just biologically different than men and therefore the disorder presents differently in them. Often softening autisms worst symptoms or shaping it to be less disruptive. I say men and women are different because I'm an old fav who has been watching my kids and nieces and nephews grow up. Girls were much more mature than a boy of comparable age. They were more agreeable and followed instruction better. My daughter at 5 years old was more emotionally mature than my son at 6. Similar patterns in other family kids. We don't have a blank slate. Biology matters.
My 7/11 delivery guy just dropped off my hot dog orders but there are no fucking buns. What the fuck am I supposed to do here? Fuck is my best course of action?
>>34817747That's a big dawg
>>34817747Maybe don't eat it next time fatass.
>>34817747damn man, sorry that happened to you. I have no idea what I'd do if I got a dog with no bun
I cannot fathom being so incompetent that you are unable to cook a hotdog yourself.
>>34818137skillet cooking a hotdog pales in comparison to the spinny thingeven grilling is no match for the spinny thing idc about anyones facts or reasons to contrary
how to speak louder and more confident
>>34817958I actively try to follow these two steps:1. Do not think about you will say when your turn comes. You have to listen and be present to feel aware enough to confidently speak. And this way you also don't psych yourself out with anticipation 2. Pause to think before saying anything once your turn does come. You have more time than you thinkYou can reduce step 2 for simple things over time once you're familiar with them, but it works to practice on basically any question someone might ask you. Just try to make it cleae that you heard the question so they don't think you're ignoring them while you pause
idk but military officers and leo seem to know how to use their voice, maybe look into what they do
>>34817958Look into this goofy chink https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIiv_335yushis personality can be a bit annoying but he has some great advice about confidence and public speaking
>>34817958Remember that your lack of confidence is a form of disrespect to yourself and especially to others if they cannot hear you. Most men after mid forties have degraded hearing so, sound off like you have a pair.
>>34818081the part where he says your natural voice is just made from habits is pretty interesting and sounds true
Is it too late to go to college at 30?
I'd like to but I have absolutely no idea what I wanna do and don't have any experience in a meaningful domain anyway
Yes but choose carefully. An Engineering degree will take you further than a liberal arts one (unless your a wiz or something). At your age and by the time you graduate you'll have less time to fuck around with finances and retirement planning, and while you shouldn't have trouble competing for jobs necessarily, opportunities for advancement lessen and ageism starts creeping in. These aren't to scare you, just to be mindful of and if you choose a good ROI degree you'll be fine.I am 33 thinking of returning to college for an Engineering degree. I want fuck you money.
>is it too late?Absolutely not! That's a great time to turn your life around. I've worked at wal mart with 60 year olds stocking a shelf. That's too late. They're too old to really change professions. Hearing them complain about old age hurting them, or being poor. That's pain. Real pain. Don't let yourself get too old. You don't have infinite time. 30 is much better than later.
In this economy? No. Maybe back in the 90s it would be considered "too late" by society standards but even fresh out of HS college grads are struggling these days
>>34813560Community college might still let you in. You're fucked for a "real" college. Strongly consider doing ALL your GE credits at a community college while working part or full time for two years then transferring, unless you choose some incredibly niche thing like a maritime academy.
How do I become more creative? I like drawing and am interested in other creative hobbies but it's just so hard to come up with ideas.
>>34815366why tf are u here nigga kys
>>34815367Where do you think you are retard
>>34815366It can help immensely to find someone else to enjoy the hobby with. Either as a mentor, or someone to learn with. Everyone struggles with getting into a creative flow, but inspiration often comes much easier if there's someone you respect who you can bounce ideas off of, or emulate interesting things they're exploring. Outside of that, you can find some really interesting stuff if you look up "art prompts" for the specific medium(s) you're working with. Sometimes it's better to just do totally random or even mundane stuff, as long as you're actively honing your skill and enjoying it.
>>34815366I think the best way is to seek inspiration, and the best way to find inspiration IMO is by getting to know other creative things, be it stories, art styles, music, etc.Ideally you need to absorb it as much as you can, and not just on a surface level.The more different stuff you know, the richer will be your creative catalog from which your mind draws inspiration from.
My undiagnosed ocd is telling me i cant trust to log into my accounts or plug in my pc an oppo phone cause i never used the company before. Ughh is it true fml fml
Fml
When it comes to sex, how fast is it over? or soon rather? I am terrified to have sex and I am a guy. I have really bad performance anxiety and I haven't even done anything. My biggest fear is ejaculating very quickly OR taking too long or even being unable. I believe I'd actually be unable to finish most likely. I have read some things like vaginas feeling marginally less good than your hand. In my head, I have sort of built up the sensation of a vagina to feel like some sort of instant orgasm thing but I get the feeling that its really not. So what can I do to make sure my penis actually works correctly? How long should sex take? I have read some things and it says 10-15 minutes. Others say it can be for an hour. Whats the truth? I have no idea what I am doing and I am 30.
>>34716999As a turboloser who lost his virginity to a more experienced woman- nah, that's like planning your retirement on winning the lottery. It happens but it's really not something anyone should ever bank on, be proactive or you'll just be frustrated and left empty handed (which is my situation for 5 years now)
It's over.
>>34732271Nah, I'm not a Saint or anything but I've turned down advances a fair few times because I really was not into them. I've talked to mates about it and they've done the same.If you made it to the bedroom then it's because it was a "would". The 1-10 scale doesn't exist, it's a binary choice or would or wouldn't.
>>34750916>lack of nerve endings inside the actual vaginaThis is fiction. Why would anyone claim this?
>>34755516Gods Above, man, you are impressively ill informed.
Share advices1. The topic image.2. Don't go to the supermarket hungry.3. Always have a financial reserve.4. Don't trust everyone, and know what to entrust to each person.5. Drink more water.
We went on two dates in May and we both had a great time. She showed incredibly high interest and we got pretty sensual with one another. A few days after our second date, she went on vacation for a week, though she was actually texting me while she was there, and even sent me a bikini pic of her and her friend. After she came back from vacation, we texted a little bit more (she still seemed enthusiastic) but then she left me on delivered since late May.Since then, we have both posted stories on ig. One time, I think I waited until the last hour before deletion to view one of her's. Yesterday, I posted a story and she likewise viewed it at the last hour before deletion. Is she just playing games and being strategic with me, or is it actually over with her (ie she found someone better or just thinks she can do better than me)? I have seen and am currently talking to other girls, but I can't forget about this one.
>>34817916some girls are highly sexualif she's willing to have sex with you in short time after meeting she is willingn to do it with other guysit was just your turn
>>34817916Unless she has a REALLY good reason for this, she's not really relationship material if she just randomly dips out of people's lives. Cut your losses and forget about her while you're ahead.
To me, it seems obvious that almost all men have a significantly higher sex drive than almost all women.
>>34812834For a healthy guy it will be consistently high. For women it fluctuates more. Also for women the potential for cooming 20 times a day is there, for men not.
>>34815592Does it fluctuate more? What is the evidence of this? I think it is just lower. If it does fluctuate, it would be in a lower range
Women can't cum and therefore have no reason to seek sex like men do
>>34816106They obviously are able, but seem to have less of a drive to do so
>>34815627nta, but women are cyclic, men are not. Her sex drive is tied directly to her menstrual cycle.Man on the other hand is always ready.As for averages, yes, lower compared to men.
Happiness and purpose in life isn't given freely. Happiness is purchased with blood and tears generated through struggle. What is so valuable about happiness that justifies its cost paid through suffering? If a candy bar cost $1000, nobody would spend days working to afford that single candy bar; it wouldn't be worth the cost. Why is happiness so valuable that any cost is deemed justifiable?When people say "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem", they are saying that you don't know the future, that you may be happy in the future, and that suicide prevents that from ever happening. In other words, the only way to guarantee that you will never be happy is to commit suicide. What stops you from turning that around? If the only way to guarantee that you will never be happy is to commit suicide, is it not correct to say that the only way to guarantee that you will never be unhappy is to commit suicide? Life requires suffering; death requires nothing. Life requires you to be uncomfortable, and to struggle, and to suffer in hopes that things might get better. Death requires nothing from you. How do you gain the desire and will to endure suffering in hopes that it will purchase happiness and fulfillment for yourself, and why should you? Does happiness live up to its asking price, or is it an overpriced commodity that's not worth the effort?
>>34817361Striving for happiness in the way you have described us funneling the goal of happiness through a social convention. Happiness is available to you now.I guarantee you if you put on a movie and started playing Tetris you would feel happiness. Happiness comes from taking pleasure in learning, problem solving and relating.I it also comes from food and pussy and weed.None of that has to be a struggle.Everybody has a nigger job.
>>34817361Happiness is completely unattainable. You will always strive for more. Reject existence. Attain enlightenment.
What the fuck are you talking about?
>>34817406>There is no rational reason to believe that your unhappiness will end when your life ends.It's just as rational to believe your unhappiness will end when your life ends as it is to believe that it will continue. I'd argue that it's more rational because you already know what it is like to not exist, since you know what it was like before you were born, which was nothing. You experience nothingness every time you fall asleep. Nobody has experienced something outside of consciousness, but they have experienced nothing outside of it. >The happiest men in history were all able to achieve it with very little. In what sense did they have very little? Those who have little because they willingly gave up their belongings have done so with much effort. They struggle more than anybody else and they do it willingly because they believe it will lead to something better. It takes an enormous willingness to struggle to give up that which is meant to provide relief from their struggles. People who are happy with very little are only happy because they believe that happiness is worth its asking price.>Everyone is capable of becoming happy as a consequence of their own thoughts. Nothing else can make a man happy, because nothing else is within a man's power to directly control.Is it within your power to directly control your own thoughts? I really don't see how that's the case.
>>34817539>It's just as rational to believe your unhappiness will end when your life ends as it is to believe that it will continue.It isn't, because nothing in existence has ever just disappeared. When something is destroyed, it's broken down into its constituent parts. Matter and energy are never lost, so nothing that currently exists can truly cease to exist. Logic sets the precedent that consciousness must go on, it can't just end for the same reason nothing else in existence can simply go away. It's as axiomatic of a truth as the fact that something cannot be created from nothing.>In what sense did they have very little?They had very little worldly treasures, but what they had instead were spiritual treasures. That's why they were happy, they found their well-being in something that wasn't subject to misfortune or loss. It does involve work, but it's not unhappy or grueling work. It's immensely rewarding.>Is it within your power to directly control your own thoughts? I really don't see how that's the case.Of course. No one else gets to decide what you assent to as true or reject as false. Your own beliefs and thoughts are entirely under your own power. Questioning whether or not you get to control what you question is as fruitless as questioning whether or not you exist. In order to even ask that question, you're already affirming that it's true.
I am 26 and currently working at a grocery store but was a NEET before that for 6 years. I plan on going to college next year after I have saved up some money. I have zero friends, zero family and never had a girlfriend, never even been on a date.I live in a city with 4 universities, so most girls in their 20s are students. Would a college girl even date a guy like me?Even if I go to college next year it will take years until I graduate and get a good career. Girls will already be married and have kids at that age or at least expect it from their partner.I feel really hopeless. I know I fucked up by being a NEET but I am refusing to give up on myself. I managed to get a job, I started gym, bouldering and running and even took up playing piano (even taking lessons).I want to know. How can a loser like me have a dating life?
>>34813524Yes. You can get women to meet you Stop hyperventilating. Your actual question is>Can I get laidAnd that I don't fucking know. Maybe your dick doesn't work or you apparently have performance anxiety. I just date to date personally. Just keep on keeping on and simply by virtue of the statistics you will go on a date. Just don't be too desperate or too picky.
>>34813524Yes. I've made the mistake of dating losers, and so have many others. As long as you're not a piece of shit as a person, you should be fine.
>>34813524Check out >>34816115. Absolutely anything is possible
>>34813524Women go ballistic in groups if they suspect loser status in a guy. Not in school or working during the day on a weekday? wHy IsN't He WoRkInG?!1Money, looks, status are a requirement. Focus on that. Set a goal to be established in a career that actually has higher earning potential with a hot bod by early 30s and you can easily pick up early 20 somethings.
If you're cool with going after girls who are as bad or worse than you, it can be done. There's some cute homeless baddies out there.
Doctor told me to get a girlfriend
>>34818003Damn medical prescriptions are getting crazy expensive these days
>>34818003Well, did you?
>>34818003I'd copay for that
>>34818019wtf i love universal healthcare now
How do I come to terms with and accept the fact that I have the inferior version of autism (ADHD)? I've always deeply envied autistic people and their intelligence and ability to do such impressive things. I've always felt like a retard in comparison and have always wanted to think like how they think.
>autism gives me the passion and ambition to create wonderful things>adhd strips away my focus, motivation, and patience>everyone except my closest friends think i'm faking it all>most of my time is spent daydreaming about what could be or could have been>everyone i know, including other autists, somehow interpret "I want there to be a cure for autism so other people don't have to suffer as I have" as "I want a genocide of all autistic people">romance is completely out of the question Living the fucking dream over here.
>>34803314>Autism + adhd + butt ugly + no socialskillsI am actually really upset at being turbofucked
>>34803314Having Autism is equally shitty. trust me. coming from someone who has Autism.
im 42 and it doesn't get betterthe only saving grace for me is good neetbux
>>34817564Oy vey ever get worried you will be forced to work again or punished otherwise?
Never had a gf, just turned twenty five, had a breakdown and deleted like 1500+ out of 2k songs on my spotify. Anything related to love, relationships, a partner or even positivityslop.Didn't even realize i was doing it to begin with. Im also seriously beginning to fucking hate women. Such vapid fucking whores. Not my fault turned out im only 175cm in a nordic country. according to these worthless whores, I deserve to be alone forever. If the world didnt need women i wished they'd all die. Wtf am i going to do bros?Also why is retards like pic allowed to exist?
>>34816376Problem is, women dont let me get to that stage or have any interest because im short. Most bluepill height studies take all mens height into account not people 30 and under only which are vastly taller
>>34816376I asked out 3 and everyone rejected me. Im average looking, not ugly and from the same ethnicity as my country. Women wont even look at me lol.
>>34804319Hey anon, I'm also 25 and only just went on my first date with a girl less than a year ago. I had my first kiss (which I hilariously blundered, but she didn't care) just a few months ago. That turned into my first relationship of any kind, which I sadly broke off due to stupid panicAnyway my point is that I had a similar feeling of hopelessness and anger before. Dating is still really rough now but I don't see it as fundamentally inaccessible to me anymoreThe only advice I can give is that if/when you do find someone, make sure not to bring the self loathing or frustration into that relationship, it'll make you make stupid decisions
>calls women whores>wonders why they dont like himLMFAOOOOO they can smell your fear bro
>>34817371well ur probably american anon, lower height requirement. but im glad it happened to u and sorry it ended badly. wome n here cant respect any man not 180/185ish tall>>34817405>u observed our behaviour thats why ur single
