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I love my gf's personality, i could be with her the rest of my life and be happy, but I don't find her attractive, she's not ugly, I just don't like her. The way she dresses also doesn't help her.

Is it bad that I feel this way?
Should I tell her?
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Here's the deal OP. She's prob more than happy to please you. I told my wife what I love to see women wearing and she started wearing it. Also she was terrible at her make up. I told her what I liked and she adapted. They just want to please the man they love. Especially if it's small shit like that.
Definitely tell her. Light criticism is encouraged, unless she's a big bitch who doesn't give a fuck.
When she does happen to wear something you like try telling her that it looks good on her, and she should dress that way more often. I think that's a pretty simple way to not sound too demanding if you ever get the chance to.
>In a sort of sloppy way, clean, but sloppy
Much like the way you post, I guess. I can see why you would lose interest in her if this is the case
I disagree, abruptly ending anything is unhealthy.

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The FCC is basically ignoring 99% of people who complain about it, and they're voting during the holiday season so nobody cares. Should i get a VPN if this shit show goes the way it should and my ISP fucks me over? If yes, what should i get? I have cox internet.
>inb4 "ask /g/"
>"/g/ is NOT your personal tech support team or personal consumer review site."
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so net neutrality being killed is going to make my internet slow?
keep net neutrality =
>faceberg et al have green light to go ahead with the upgrades they desire regarding how they get access to their u ...er, i mean to how their users access their platforms without the respective corporations incurring any of the additional costs for it
>because if any isp objects when said costs are passed along in full to them, faceberg can throw a legal bitchfit which would end in isp btfo
>isp being stuck with the cost will then in turn have to pass the cost along to their customers in order to stay afloat
>result is costs to everybody except faceberg et al will go up for interwebs-wide net access

net neutrality is kill =
>having some options now for how to offset the costs of doing business in a still young and quickly growing & changing industry, isps will be able to structure their pricing and charge big fuckoff corporate entities in accordance with their bandwidth usage needs
>no longer having the option of auto-approving their own requests for special accommodations on the isps' behalf, faceberg et al will have to first overcome a large financial obstacle in order to move forward and enact the desired changes to upgrade their platforms' access
>they will have to decide whether they want to not get more free shit by either paying for it themselves
>>which....well (((lol))) basically
>or by passing the cost along to their users (whose data they've already made into a fuckhuge multibillion dollar industry, mind) via switching their gut fucked business model over to SaaS and charging tiered subscription fees
>>wherein users will have to start actively paying faceberg et al to violate their privacy and profit off their data all while never ever hearing the end of how it's the fault of the isps/trump/wipepo/nazis/cis scum that users can't be exploited free of charge anymore
not gonna make it slow. gonna keep it from getting ungodly expensive, gonna give people some incentive to put a little distance between themselves and social media, gonna lessen one arm of the socialized corporate death grip on the public to some degree, and gonna encourage competition among isps

don't haz tl;dr of >>18963141 sorry. put another way:

if the convenience of not having to pick and choose which internet bits you give enough of a fuck about to pay for and whatever peace of mind you'd get from knowing the already "censored" internet would continue along business as usual outweighs the expense of access costs that would be free to rise without restraint before getting pointed toward your bank account and that one big lump sum each month being what holds the key to your getting to access the internet period, you're in favor of net neutrality

if the expense overall for your internets being less due to a nowhere near as high isp bill and then only paying more for shit you actually care about (and not losing access to all of it if one of your extra expenses pisses you off to not want to pay and keep using it) and whatever peace of mind you'd get from knowing the corporate kikes would all be made super hella fukken salty over not getting to rob everyone blind for the nth time outweighs the inconvenience of having more shit to keep track of and that encouraging a pathway to open up for more than the 1 or 2 isps you can (or can't) currently choose from isn't a full-on guarantee that competition will arise, you're against net neutrality
Your internet in general will probably be the same.
All the people arguing against it talk like ISPs are going to put extra fees on the end users, but that's not likely the major consequence.
The first thing they'll do is start racketeering money out of major internet companies. Rather than charging consumers $5 more to get Netflix, they will just go to Netflix directly and say "fuck you give us $50 million or we slow down all your users' connections so they can't get more than 360p", and netflix probably pays.
This way is way easier to do than charging fees to users and doesn't get Comcast et al nearly as much PR flak.

Removing the regulations is generally going to be bad for everyone other than the internet companies, as is pretty much always the case when you allow monopolies or near-monopolies to form without regulating them.
Free market economies work in everyone's best interest only when competition is vibrant, and the billion+ dollar costs of entry mean nobody new is going to become a national ISP any time soon. When competition is absent, you need goverment regulation to stop monopolies from abusing their positions.
>20 shekels have been deposited into your shill account
Literally everything you said is a lie.

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Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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Is asking someone out who you're not that interested in, a bad idea?
Endearing. If you tried to make me dance, too, then irritating,
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mild autist guy here, how do I show / detect romantic interest
>If you tried to make me dance, too, then irritating,
I agree with Hitler. There have been plenty of times in my life when girls have tried to drag me out to dance and then act like I'm some giant asshole because they can't force me to do it.

Flirt/receive flirting.
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>Flirt/receive flirting
how tho
how do I differentiate between a girl just being nice and flirting with me

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How do I transition from being a bedroom imprisoned computer loner, to going out and doing things and living in the real world?

I'm female, twenty two, and all my life I've been that fucking loner computer person. At the same time however, I come across extroverted I'm attractive, all appears normal to those who meet me, and that all piles on to make me feel even more self-conscious about the situation and alone. That is to say, people meet me, expect me to be socially adjusted and normal because I appear that way and I feel this weird guilt/pressure to be 10/10 socially, because that's what's expected of me.

With that, I meet these people through college, and I ghost so many of them (all of them) because of how uncomfortable I feel spending time with them, because it feels almost as if in them assuming I'm social and have tons of friends and go out regularly, and have experienced things I haven't, that standard is being imposed upon me and I click into this fake self to try to meet it.

I've been like this since 12-13, so ten years, I've been heavily depressed since then so that's why this hasn't resolved itself naturally. I barely go outside, when I'm not at college I don't go outside at all because I don't want to go alone. I don't know how to break out of it.

Let me make it clear that this is not a problem of me being shy or socially inept, I'm not, I just feel fake with people and I've become insanely avoidant because no one feels like they could be my true friend or genuinely relate to me and I'm desperate for that.
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1ยบ depression always come back
>that standard is being imposed upon me and I click into this fake self to try to meet it.
because it is fake
and thats something YOU think and maybe u even find that quite stupid
>but why, whats the thing beyond the meaning of those words, why do I feel this way...
Isnt that fun?
trying to find the evil root that poison your own mind
> I don't know how to break out of it
u just need to stop thinking, wait a couple of seconds, then go a little crazy, maybe dance a little bit, make french toasts or hotchocolate, u deserve some time just for yourself.
but really if you cant stop thinking and cant afford to buy weed the best thing you can do is go to the gym and get fit, go 4-5 days each week for 2 months and dont think about social life or mindshit like that, just u and your things
sent, tell me if you don't get it

yeah I have all of that down, psychiatrist, meds, psychologist and all that shit, - how old are you anon? and have you just been doing talk therapy?
Let's look at the reality here because that's what I do. You've set yourself up in an unwinnable situation. You've been depressed since around the time you started to become self conscious and have built a fake personality to appear as if you don't have these problems. You want help but can't trust anyone enough to break the lie that ironically keeps you from getting close enough to have friends that will fix your situation.

How to fix? Idk really. Good luck though. You already got someone looking to be your friend in this thread. Maybe this will be the one you won't ghost.

I'm 25, just recently went to get help, as I had bad experiences in the past & anxiety.
Luckily in my country psychiatrists also act as therapists, so I've been getting meds from the person I do therapy with

why repeattt what i sayyyy and then say nothingg, why break my heart like that anon - I also don't ghost people I meet online given most of them are have some sort overlap with my situation, so there's no weird feels

that's like golden, I hate having it compartmentalized, and it feels like they have almost zero communication with one another, my psychs at least.

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Vent out to your heart's desires, /adv/
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I got drunk and shagged another guy. It was a massive regret and I hope you'll forgive me.
my days of forgiving are looooooooooong gone.
Nobody would forgive a cheater.
I just cancelled my plans with some folks because I feel like no one actually enjoys my company and I was just there as a nicety. How do I convince myself that I'm not an ugly, stupid, piece of trash that I am?
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I miss you. Hope we can get in contact soon, if only to confirm that you still know I'm there for you.

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Are there any blogs where people do walkthrough on social situations? I don't seem to fit in anywhere ever, at this point i just don't know what i should do and what i shouldn't, how to approach people, etc.
As a last resort, tell me: how to be happy and not feel lonely while lonely and sad?
i suggest you see a therapist

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Am I ugly adv? How do I become more handsome? Being black sets back my looks a bit
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OP I'm gonna be honest you are no Denzel Washington. Luckily you're a guy. And looks aren't the only thing women look for in men. Thank God women aren't like men when it comes to attraction. You need to learn that. Become wealthy, fit, or funny. Fitness is the easy thing to accomplish. Spend some of your day working out and eat better and you'll make progress. No money needed. It's seriously a cheat code to life. If your strong and make women feels protected they will fall for you. Good luck anon. And as a fellow black, stop thinking you lost the genetic lottery. Our pros are just different than other races. Learn to use them to your advantage and you'll feel differently about your skin color.
it is. being that you are fat you should focus on cardio first.

dont be stupid

foucs in cardio you stupid basketball american. once you become /fit/ you can get all the white womenz
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how do I write in greentext?
and how do i approach someone i have never talked to and left school to be homeschooled (I have their insta and facebook)
wrong thread
You're fat and your posture is shitty. Fix that.

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Not a virgin asking, I seriously want to know if I'm the only one who smells

>Sulfuric Acid or

some form of lime lithium batteries on every girl I've had sex with.
it's so weird man I don't even know how to explain it, just ate a girl out and now my nose is clogged with this scent.

had sex with about 12 women in my lifespan
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It's different per girl, and it's different depending on if they have washed it recently.

If they have it, it can smell a bit fishy.

Also if a girl is really horny it can smell really good, but that could also be because in those situations I was horny myself and was more turned on by the smell
Yes it does you mongoose
You can sniff a freshly washed cock and it still has a certain smell to it
Lick the back of your hand and smell it after 5 second
>freshly washed cock

Oh my god anonymous I don't know how I made it to 28 and didn't know this. It's actually really close.

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I have severe long term procrastination. My typical pattern:

>put it off
>assignment gives me outright panic
>do fun things instead
>usually internet or gaming (up to 16 hours per day)
>day of put it off some more
>get super tired
>repeat cycle
>too late so stop trying

I do this over and over again, and I can never really feel like I have any control. How do I break this cycle? It seems pretty ingrained into my brain. Do I have a learning disability?
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idk sounds like me. I've always been self diagnosed ADD. Makes sense. Try adderall. I've never tried it. Too much of a pussy, afraid too much brain alteration in my developmental years (pre 25) will cause me to go in the mind earlier like catch alzheimers by 50 or some shit. Just gotta force yourself. Maybe it's just not important enough to you. I find if I try harder if I really see the value in it.

I can focus on shit like lectures just fine. Just when you give me an assignment I never start, and if you give me a nice distraction like the internet, I can only get 5 minutes of work in between checking internet.

I'm probably an internet addict at this point as well. I get little seratonin highs from seeing new posts, new responses, people agreeing with me, little (yous).
Oh man i know what you mean about the little notification highs. Twitter likes/rts and replies always get me.

Well as long as you get by. You don't need to be the best to be successful.

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My boyfriend told me he used to have sex with his female best friend.
Their fathers are best friend, and they grew up together. They stopped having sex because she found someone else.
I'm not comfortable with them being friends or hanging out alone.

Is it unfair to ask him to cut contact with her?
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It's never easy to get, nor should it be.
The problem is that girls are simultaneously told they should save themselves (which is good) while being hounded by thirsty guys who then call them whores when they finally accept the advances. No sane female would be fine with that state of affairs, and it lets them discredit the whole idea of saving themselves just because assholes can't keep it in their pants.
You have no right to tell them they can't be friends anymore. He's with you and that's all you should be worrying about.

Reframe the question and ask yourself: would you have any right to ask him to stop hanging out with his best friend if the friend were male? Would he have any right to ask you to stop hanging out with your best friend?
But best friends tend to not be historical fuck buddies. There is a difference.
No there isn't. Partners should have no control over who the other is friends with. You can dislike their friends, and you can even say "I wish you wouldn't hang out with x," but you can't compel them to stop and you should never voice your opinion in a way that implies they HAVE to stop seeing someone YOU don't like.
You seem very retarded. Listen closely, there is a difference between a regular best friend, and a best friend that you used to fuck for fun on a regular basis. If you don't understand that, I'm done with you.

It is safe to assume you did not read all of the OP's responses in this thread, you skim fag.

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Hi all,

Recently I went out with some workmates when I ran into an old "friend" on the night out. Note I'm in a committed relationship with someone who I genuinely adore. I managed to get extremely drunk (been a while since I drank) and decided to go home but this friend followed me. Anyways I black out and apparently I ended up slipping this friend the hand. Now I'm being emotionally blackmailed because of it. I would have never done this if I was sober but I'm being told it was my fault, what was I thinking even though I wasn't single etc. I honestly don't remember how this happened but we didn't sleep together or kiss apparently which and this is their way of implying I knew what I was doing, despite the fact that I didn't. I feel like I was taken advantage of because like I said I never would have done this normally and there was no meaning behind it.

Anyone have any advice? I'm genuinely terrified, you never hear stories of men getting taken advantage of.
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>apparently I ended up slipping this friend the hand
as in fingerbanged her or groped her or what, not familiar with the term
Is there an proof of this accusation against you? Any pictures...or video proof? If not, chances are its bullshit.
I didn't forgive my ex when he cheated on me sober. But I did forgive that other ex that was high and drunk as fuck when he cheated.
OP here, having trouble replying directly.

Fingerbanging which makes no sense because I wouldn't have got anything out of that, hence why I know I was completely out of it.

There's no proof as far as I'm aware, I woke up sleeping on the floor.
Did your hand smell like fish?

I'm currently an IT professional with several certs and a cush, stable job with lots of room for growth. Only problem is that I really find the work boring, perfunctory and contrary to who I am as a person. In addition to this, the more I've progressed in IT, the longer hours I've had to work to earn my salary.

I am someone who has a rich, interesting life outside of work and it isn't until I come home everyday or have the weekend off where I feel like my life really begins. I am a very creative person and love writing, making videos, and doing things of that nature. I always have been this way, however I realized early on that I'd likely never make a living doing these things so I abandoned them for a practical career.
However, here I am, several years into working IT and the more I work in it, the more I can't stand it.

What I'd like to do is quit, become a full time writer but I know that my chances of being successful at this are slim. But also the thought of working IT until I someday retire years from now, despite making a lot of money sounds worse and worse every day.

Thoughts and opnions on what you think I should do.
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Sounds like you know what you have to do. You made the right call ages ago. Not so deep down you realize you live in the real world.
By all means keep writing as a hobby and enjoy it but don't get lost living the fantasy.
I get about 4-week vacation a year, not including holidays or sick days. I've only worked at my current company about two years so if I stuck with it another three or so I'd have about 6-weeks.
some niggers worked in the house, some niggers worked the field

isn't she? she has to be some sort of stripper or prostitute something. looks like the type of girl you'd find in any bar.

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do guys care about breast size?

i've been talking to a guy for 2 months (no sex) and he's made some comments about breasts that imply he likes large breasts. i noticed when he kept staring at my friends boobs and made a comment about how she probably got her job because "her boss fucked her and her boobs were bouncing everywhere". i also found a folder on his computer full of women with very large breasts. i'm a b cup and a virgin. i feel insecure now and don't want to have sex. i guess this is how guys feel when they find out their gf's ex had a HUUUGE dick or the BBC stuff. anyways, i'm sad. he's nice to me and treats me well, but will just feel inadequate.

i've never thought of myself ugly and have had plenty of attention from guys but now i have a very low self-esteem because of this realization
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Sounds like a huge pervert
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>published in 1914
where you do you find these articles by god
I have a lot of free time.
Attached is a much newer study.
Marriage = best way to keep one sexual partner into old age.
Why the fuck would you like a guy like that?

That being said, i know lots of guys who specifically date asian chicks with tiny breasts so preferences varies i guess?
My ex was very insecure about her C-Cup breasts who became As after she worked out a lot and stopped taking the pill. I know I prefer C or bigger but it didn't make a difference to me. I loved her, not the boobs. And her nice ass and wide hips/small waist more than made up for it. When she said she wanted to get a boob Job it made me consifer breaking up with her. She also told me she'd prefer if I was taller (6'1" here) but that has nothing to do with us brekaing up. Now I have a small, soft redhead gf with nice boobs to play with and she's trying to score some 6'4" Chads.

tl;dr: Preferences are mostly that, preferences and not dealbreakers.

Possible/good idea to stay friends with an ex?
She totally ghosted me, is that of concern or is that normal behavior after a breakup?
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Look if you actually want to try to get back together with her don't use clothing as a pretext. She'll think you're coming over to put the final nail in the coffin. You can't 180 on her that hard and expect this to work. It's a horrible pretext to use if you want her.
How do I open to someone who doesn't want to talk to me? She's really fucking upset. She did end a few recent, very short interactions with "If you need something let me know." One of the hardest things for me to wrap my head around is does she actually want me? Want me to reach out even after she's being short with me? Does she want me to be the one who admits my errors, which is why she won't tell me why she's upset. She's already bad mouthed me on Facebook (saw on a coworkers fb page since I'm restricted privacy). Got likes and shit from her mom, sister and grandmother.
I honestly don't know. It can go either way, she might want you back if you apologize since it hurt her or she might just think when the going gets tough again down the line you'll just bail on her then too so why bother letting you back into her life if you're just going to hurt her later on down the line.
Still trying to figure out why you want to be with a confused bitch like her. She is a typical female, says one thing, behavior reflects the opposite. If you need something, let me know...but no, I'm not ready to see you to give you your clothes back.

Just boot this bitch and forget about your t-shirt and belt.
This adds a new layer of depression I was not yet ready for. I did a little soul searching recently and I don't think I treated her right. She gave so much more of a shit about me than I did her. It was in front of me obvious as day the whole time but I never cared enough to care until it was too late. Her ghosting me is the near equivalent of me treating her in our relationship, and she's probably not all that bent out of shape about it. If she perceived me as non caring and not committed it was probably fairly easy to cut me out of her life I was never truly in. Did I just use her for sex? I'm feeling real grimy right now. Idk if I'm discovering some repressed feelings or memories or if I'm analyzing everything far too much. How do I apologize or make up for that?

I don't know either but I think I'm starting to learn new things about myself I don't particularly like. Funny you should mention a belt, I have a very nice one I left at her house and she knows it's worth a bit.

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There's this qt girl in my film class, and I'd like to get to know her to see if I'd want to date her. The problem is, I haven't talked to her at all this semester because she's only recently caught my attention. If I suddenly struck up a conversation, it'd attract attention and I don't like other people observing my affairs. Also I can't really see her outside of class unless it's some chance meeting on campus. Any suggestions on how I should proceed?

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>I don't like other people observing my affairs
Fuck those other people. The question is, how thirsty are you, son? Ask her if she would be interested in having some coffee with you outside of school.
She seems really cool, it's just that I don't want the people in my class to view me as that guy who asked that girl out and got turned down. I feel like I've developed a fairly "cool" image for myself in that class, and the class is comprised of people I see on a daily basis. Oh and I probably should've made this clear, but we're all seniors in high school.

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