>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamhttps://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34558366>escaping zog moral subversionHuh
>>34558714it means zionist occupied government, and it's the reason it's so hard to get a gf
>>34558366>escaping zog moral subversion areHuh
>>34558866slavery, drugs, feminism, porn, godlessnessnot all jews, sure. but give no heed to jewish fables, as it is instructed in scripture.
>>34558892forgot usury if we could stop the debasing of our currency then settling down and having kids would be much simpler
can someone explain to me why the people who look down on people who see hookers are always virgin incel oneitis types? prostitution is the most cmmon place thing since ancient times, for both people who can and cant get pussy, it even makes more sense in the modern economic dating climate, just bizarre to me, you pay for a date to bang, or just outright pay to get laid, what's the difference? hookers have always been comfy/kino
>>34558374>can someone explain to me why the people who look down on people who see hookers are always virgin incel oneitis types?>t.
It's just spiritually unclean. That's my answer.
>>34558374>can someone explain to me why the people who look down on people who see hookers are always virgin incel oneitis types?they're obviously not. basically every single woman hates it, including the good looking sexually successful ones
>>34558657>every single woman hates itYou are right, women do not like prostitutes, but that is because they see them as competition. They pretend the hostility toward prostitutes comes purely from morality, religion, or concern for exploitation, but a large part of it is competition. A prostitute strips away the romantic theater modern relationships are built on.In older arrangements, sexual access for most women was tied to a structured exchange. A man had to pass through layers of expectation. Provision, stability, social standing, commitment. Sex was rarely isolated from the broader architecture of marriage and duty. It was embedded in a long negotiation between families, reputation, and survival.In that world, prostitution existed on a different axis. It was separate from the social contract that governed marriage. It did not compete directly with it because it did not claim to be part of it. It was an external channel, a parallel lane, acknowledged but fenced off from the main road of legitimacy.In the modern world, that separation weakens. Sexual access, dating, relationships, and casual encounters now exist in a shared space with prostitution. In that environment, prostitution no longer feels like a distant category. It feels like the same thing made explicit.From that perspective, the discomfort some people describe as moral objection is interpreted as something more primitive. If one form of sexual access requires long negotiation and another requires only payment, then the hierarchy of effort is revealed. Not abolished, but exposed.Within that framing, the tension is not only about sex work itself, but about perceived symmetry breaking. If value in relationships is already influenced by resources, appearance, and social positioning, then prostitution appears as the purest expression of the same mechanism, stripped of storytelling.
>>34558771*drops mic* well said but the only thing ill add is that you are more than likely to achieve real intimacy in a relationship than with a professional one, for obvious reasons, and this psychological dimension is very important for social animals i would say, butt you dont see a hooker for love but to have a good time, in whatever ay you please>>34558652honest answer
>>34558784God be with you.
>>34558808And with your spirit.
I have spent my entire life enduring severe trauma, starting with childhood abuse at a daycare and persistent bullying at school, which was compounded by physical and emotional abuse from my family at home. Isolated and neglected, I suffered early sexual abuse and online grooming, learning to hide my deep depression and trauma because I couldn’t trust therapists to keep my secrets from my mother. After changing schools and facing overwhelming academic pressure alongside cruel teasing from my peers, I attempted suicide by overdosing on medication, which led to a brief psychiatric hospitalization. Following my attempt, my mother stopped my medication, causing the voices in my head to grow louder and take control, leaving me to navigate my life within the fragmented moments they now allow me to have.
>>34558815tell us more
accidentally mindbroke myself rawdogging reality too muchcan just sit for fucking hours without doing anything and then the day is overcant do many hobbies of mine anymore because my brain just turns the fuck off and i time travel to bed time
>attractive/successful enough to get first dates>too sperg or weird or whatever to ever get a second oneYou might argue its worse than complete rejection in some ways. Knowing that its once they meet me and learn even a little about me, they then ick out. Can’t blame being ugly or unlucky with my lot in life. Not even to mention it essentially costs me like $60 (if meeting for drinks or so) to just get shot down after.Sorry, this is just a vent of sorts. Frankly this last one was a longshot anyways due to distance so I’m not even that disappointed, its just an annoying cycle.
Brootal I have your same issue , 27 dates this year not gone further than missing than a single one What do we even do?
>>34558195Just keep swinging at it I think is the only answer.
Don't take it out on yourself, it just means they weren't the right fit for you.
>>34558195>>34558185That's what you get for being conventional and using cookie cutter strategy
>autism, adhd, depression, bpd>ptsd from rape and abuse>barely any friends>only attention from online pervs>psych ward visit>uses self harm, eating disorder, drinking, weed to escape my lifei dont go outside unless its for school, dont know how to talk to people (let alone boys my age). this has been my life since i was 12. pls give advice, im so tired
>>34558217I know a fat unemployed piece of shit as an ex roommate that did that.Thankfully a couple months after I left, it's proven her boyfriend had balls and kicked her out.I hate people that fetishize their "disabilities", especially when they say they have them but not the paperwork to prove it.
>>34558194the minimum age to post here is 18, get lost kid
>>34558239i go to my local uni. just live with my parents because money and close proximity
>>34558230not to mope or anything but i do actively try and get better, i just find i cant keep up with it. as for people who fake, ive been diagnosed since middle school and bpd was only diagnosed within the last two years or so.
>>34558278>>34558256>>34558194Tell us how your uncle raped you so I can laugh and jerk off
Speaking is becoming harder and harder as the days pass. Italian is my main language, but I live in the UK so I speak both languages daily, especially at work since I'm front of the house at a restaurant so I constantly talk to people. Yet, I'm having this issue in both languages, I have to thoroughly think about what I want to say and what I have to do to say it (like, what movements I need to do with my mouth), and despite that, my mouth refuses to move properly, often causing the person I'm talking to not to understand what I'm saying. In the past it was just me speaking really fast, nowadays it's an even worse form of that I guessAny idea what's wrong with me and what I can do to fix this?
>>34558676>Any idea what's wrong with me and what I can do to fix this?I am conversational in Italian, talk to me through Discord so I can improve my Italian and acquire vocabulary.Well, you don't need to do that if you don't want to, whatever. But try reading things in English and in Italian then, or write ideas on paper, I think it's easier for you to articulate if you practice these specific abilities I mentioned (speaking, reading, writing), this will definitely work, unless you're starting to have neurological problems, in this case, you should consult a doctor.
Is it possible to turn off the inner monologue and think without words?
>>34558772Fasting detoxifies your body and cleans your gut, which has a direct connection to your brain and thus your thinking. Your gut is called the second brain for a reason. Clean body = clean mind. Speaking from personal experience whenever I fast my mind becomes noticeably calmer.
>>34558849Your life sux tho, with or without the fasting meme or your other stupid gimmicks
>>34558856Lmao why are you so triggered?
>>34558862Seems like you are
>>34558423Why not just make your inner monologue more positive?
So i'm 30 yo and i have these friends who are about 22-24yo and they act like they're 15 and that shit bothers the hell out of me, should i be friends with people around my age? its not like i hate them but they're too immature
>>34557848what gives the impression that i don't like them? i try to like them but they're always pissing me off
>>34557866Im about your age and the only difference with older friends is whether they're married and own property or have kids. Even then your friend group isn't gonna be a congress meeting.
>>34557844It sounds like all 3 of you are retarded
>>34557844My main friend group is in that age range and I’m 29. I never feel out of place. Though I’m constantly told I pass for early 20s. Maybe that will change when I hit the big 30
>>34557866You're retarded
Anyone here taken them? I've been on sertraline for a few months now but it has only sorted my constant replaying off trauma in my head. Glad that's gone, but I am far too emotionally reactive still and cannot get my life together.I want something that will stop me thinking and simply be able to do the tasks I need to do. I need to not have my mind and emotions control me. Thinking of asking for quetiapine.
don'tjust don'tyou don't want antipsychotics unless you absolutely need them and have no alternativethey suuuuuuuuuuck
>>34558722OK but I read quetiapine at a very low dose can tackle emotional reactivity and stuff. I'm too old to put up with this shit anymore. I can't control my actions, and spend all day everyday mired in my thoughts and emotions. I need a space between myself and my mind and emotions.
not an AP but mood stabilizers are nice. im on lamotrigine for bipolar but i think they prescribe it for bpd too
>>34558697I hated Seroquel. I don't think you want to feel that level of dulled out. For me the sedative effect made me useless I couldn't do the tasks I needed to do I couldn't do anything because I couldn't think. I definitely got the sedation and fatigue side effects, weight gain, and dry mouth.
Should I take Lexapro? How will it effect my fitness?
Its the most faustian shit ever.>this pill will stop you from feeling bad bro>stops you from feeling anything at all
>>34554847>you live in a loud expensive tiny apartment surrounded by immigrant criminals, have no financial or social future and not a single indication things will ever improve>your brain chemistry must be the problem
>>34549615OP, you should only consider antidepressants if every other mode of treatment has failed. Are you eating well? Are you sleeping well? Are you getting enough sunlight? Are you doing work that you can tolerate / enjoy? Are you spending quality time with friends/family? Are you using your free time productively? Have you talked to a professional before? If you can say, "yes" to all of these questions and still feel like shit - then and only then should you consider SSRIs. I was on Lexapro for about six months during a very rough period of time, but I made it a point to get off it sooner rather than later because my symptoms had improved to to the point where I could function without it. You don't want to be on ANY kind of mind-altering medication for a long period of time, because that comes with its own host of effects.
>>34549615thanks for helping me discover im into pits anon. equivalent exchange, ill tell you my time on lexapro was awful. but, if youre depressed enough its worth it. the "you wont feel sad but you also wont feel anything" is basically true
>>34549624A nerdy jeet
The other day, I got into an altercation with some random dude about some shit that he started. I didn't do what he wanted and so he jumped over the counter to use the machine that I was using. I tried to block him, but the dude was unmovable...Motherfucker was like the hulk. I tried to push him off, but it was like trying to move a brick wall....Then he threw me across the room like I was a tennis ball.Holy shit dude. How the fuck do I get that strong? Am I a weak ass bitch? Do I need to be able to bench press 500 pounds or something?I weigh 150 pounds, and I can only bench press HALF of that...
>>34556955The only good fight is the one you avoid.
>>34556955steroids and peptides are all the rage rn
>>34557082Kys faggot>>34556955Yeah, get liftin'
Is it better to have a starter girlfriend who is a 5 out of 10 or should you just stay single until you find a girl you are genuinely attracted to?
>>34558619That jeet is pure sex
>>34558683Is a couple of uggos fucking like animals 2-3x a day not happier than OP? What if OP can never land the 10/10 model? Not saying he shouldn't hold out, everyone has a choice etc. Just saying there is another path.But this is the same idea behind why this >>34558687 situation occurs. I believe women should also open their fucking minds. There is no happy ending to the inflation of beauty requirements for love and long term partnership, just large swathes of single and lonely people who hate each other.
>>34558687You're right but at least i'm a brown manlet faggot and it was over for me before it even started. What's your excuse my (((white))) virgin friend?
>>34558619Average. 100%But you still need to aim for personality. Not necessarily cool, or fun party animals, but kind. You want a kind woman. Trust me, you do not want a girl who's worried about being cool. You definitely do not want a girl who's mean. If she's mean to other people, she will eventually be mean to you as well.Dating a 10/10 is exciting, but it's a fucking head ache. You won't sleep at night if things are on any level not going perfect. She has guys approaching her all the time. Any single guy, and even guys with gf's, who meets her wants to get with her. If you go to a bar, a restaurant, any bitter guy there will try to mess with you.Being the guy with a knockout gf puts a target on your back and it's annoying as fuck.
>>34558731I'm not a jew and I lost my virginity when I was 14. How does that make you feel faggot?
how to gain more will power to study a language i wanna learn? everytime i say "today ill study" i end up doing nothing
>>34558227stop posing as a lazy retard and just do it
>>34558276"just do it" doesnt work
>>34558154>hanging out with barely A1 fluency? lol noI had a friend that learned my language entirely by hanging out with the locals for long enough. You will be fine.
>>34558288"just do it" always works better than just not doing it
>>34558300wdym locals? i dont live in their country
I'm a huge fucking LOSER.I failed once or twice and then I just kept losing for a looong time now.I know it's stupid to even ask here but I am desperate and against the wall so to speak.Context:>Graduated in 2023, Software Degree and IT course (didn't know the market would get saturated this fast)>2024 I tried to get a job the way you usually do>2025, went abroad for work and only managed to hold a job for 3 months until the contract ended and the business changed owners>2026, basically fully NEET and back in my home country after pussying out overseas>Did a course in teaching English because I thought it'd get me short term cash (it did not)So, what do I do? I know any plans of having 'fun' 20's are over and done with but even the idea of getting anywhere in life seems impossible to me.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34547265NPC
>>34550926>>34553376>>34554512>>34555940>>34556713Guys, let's join together and create some SaaS, then. That's actually perfect. But I can't tell who OP is or whether you guys are the same person. I had dropped my Discord ID before, but I usually get nervous and end up deleting it.With that in mind, I created a Discord server called "SaaS Server." The invite will last for 7 days. Anyone who thinks they can contribute in a meaningful way is welcome to join us in the meantime. Depending on the number of people, we can assemble one or two teams. It's going to be an interesting experiment: https://discord.gg/MepMcc4d
>>34556907c'mon guys, join the server
>>34557486
>>34552299Get a full checkup but push for them to check your t-levels too. It is better to be thorough about this stuff.
does length matter?
>>34558458is the bigger one funner to play with?
>>34558056yes. i wasn't able to make the love of my life cum because my dick was too small. its ruined me.
>>34558499and what happened?
>>34558517i fucked a few random girls on tinder then dated a short girl that was easy to make cum, then a tall girl that was average difficulty to make cum, i broke up with both of them and only fucked 1 other girl ever since, got a blow job from another but it sucked and she was fat. if i had just had a larger penis i would have married emily and lived a happy life.
>>34558719how big is it?
