We want to be equal to men but we will NEVER EVER EVER EVER NEVER want the same responsabilities as them - EDITION.Previous thread:>>34819579
>>34825036live frugally and invest wisely
Do women actually care about virginity or not? "Virgin" is used like an insult a lot but I'm not sure if it's because women care about it.On that note, a guy who is 24 and has never been in a relationship, red flag?
>>34822695>>34822705Ay ¿que dice? No hablo judezno
>>34825036Bless a handful of anons with a free 100 Test yourself to something niceInvest the rest
90% of women can be super hot if they just try with makeup and nice clothes
Is it possible to be attractive as a woman when you're half-black? My white mom is twice my age and gets approached in public by guys my age while I never have been approached at any point. She apologises for racemixing but there really is no point. Every hairstyle looks old or boyish, and even when I straighten my hair I look monkeyish because of my large jaw and nose. I just get ultramogged on the rare occasion I leave my house, coworkers laughed at my work picture and a customer straight up scowled at me and went to my blonde coworker instead. I'm good at drawing, math, have a degree etc. but no one cares about that because I'm not considered beautiful.
>>34824035White single mothers who have mixed race kids should have them taken away at birth. They have no idea what they are doing. Meanwhile when a black woman and white man have kids it's because they met in law grad school or something.Sorry society has failed you so you're not in touch with your black girl magic. Someone needs to make a Black Girl Hogwarts for the daughters of coal burners, kek.Look at someone like Michaela Coel. Her face is... challenging, but she's so confident and regal, and her body is bangin', eventually you get used to her features and she's hot. She's super successful, has created and produced more than one mainstream tv show.tl;dr: Make black friends instead of posting on 4chan.
>>34824035>She apologises for racemixingOP are you stuck in 1910? Do you need us to send a DeLorean?
>>34824404There are so many woke sheltered snowflakes on 4chan now.You think you have to go back in time to find people against mixed race relationships? That means you don't go outside and interact with real non-terminally-online people.
>>34824386Added you. Hope you're op
>>34824035Nice ragebaitNo, you can't be attractive, because I only date women who are darker than me
Just finished my History degree and was scared off from becoming a teacher, so i'm painfully aware of my lack of prospects and am furiously jobhunting because I hate being stuck at home with my Dad. I've been offered a job as a warehouse grunt for £35K a year (pretty okay for my age) but shifts start at 1830-600. I already have a dissociative disorder so my sleep pattern is very sensitive, but I really want this to work out. Does anyone have any experience in how I might adjust to becoming a night owl, how you deal with long shifts and physical labour? Whatever it is, I don't want to go back to my father's dissapointing stares from across the kitchen table.Also, I'm feeling very angry and lonely at this point of my life, and feel a kind of satisfaction in putting my soul to the grindstone and becoming a cog in the bottom of a large, careless machine.
I don't think you should be so harsh on yourself, you should just work this job while you have to and maybe reconsider teaching or maybe look at positions open to you at your local museums or university. I would invest in black out curtains, those daylight lamps, and maybe otc sleep aids. Don't use any screens atleast 30 mins before trying to sleep. And if you really need to maybe just get a weed pen.
>>34824852Unironically meth
>>34825007Thanks, but teaching and law are basically the sinks for History guys, and i've lost interest in both. Positions in Unis or Museums are all very well and good but they're rare and hotly contested between the Russel Group grads (our version of Ivy League). My Uni rank is lower 30s, just outside, and i've no misconceptions about not being part of that boy's club. I spent a while doing teacher training, even managing to secure a pretty hot placement at a grammar school, but quickly realised that my love of the subject and positive memories about my own teachers did not translate into a love of school, or students in particular. Didn't hate the kids, but wasn't ever really able to connect with any of them, something I couldn't have found out until I was in that classroom, I guess. it all kind of reflected back at me at once, and I realised that I've been pushing through school and education, far longer than my parents or my idiot brother ever did, for very little gain. I am not particularly academic, everything I have now has been by the skin of my teeth, and desu it's still not much to look at. I'm not sad about it though, I actually feel quite okay about leaving education behind, getting stuck in somewhere, and working to afford my own corner of the world to die in. It's my rightful position and I welcome it gladly. Thank you for your other recommendations.
>>34825040Dunno where i'd get it. Not even sure if I could tell what it looks like.
I am 26 and currently working at a grocery store but was a NEET before that for 6 years. I plan on going to college next year after I have saved up some money. I have zero friends, zero family and never had a girlfriend, never even been on a date.I live in a city with 4 universities, so most girls in their 20s are students. Would a college girl even date a guy like me?Even if I go to college next year it will take years until I graduate and get a good career. Girls will already be married and have kids at that age or at least expect it from their partner.I feel really hopeless. I know I fucked up by being a NEET but I am refusing to give up on myself. I managed to get a job, I started gym, bouldering and running and even took up playing piano (even taking lessons).I want to know. How can a loser like me have a dating life?
>>34823142>People with money aren't complainingYeah they are. Power is the real limited resource. Money is what poor people (like you) think matters.
>>34813524You are not a loser because you were a former NEET or work in a grocery store. You are a loser because you have no friends and no passions. When was the last time you went sightseeing? What do you do on the weekends? What do you do when you’re bored? You need to start living life. Don’t go to college YET until you know FOR SURE it’s what you want. You can be a tradie, military, firefighter, cop, nurse, etc. so many options besides college. As for hobbies, you need to find something you care about that ALSO gives you access to a community. Playing piano in your room alone? BAD. Taking piano lessons where you can connect with other students to improve? GOOD. And don’t be limited in what you do for fun. You have 24 hours 7 days. Use what rime you have to explore
>>34823494Also, women are not socialized to care about age. Just be the person you want to be
>>34823483They aren't giving up their money whether they say chasing the money was worth it or not.
>>34813524See, you're going about everything wrong, actually trying to better yourselfYou can only get laid in your position if you become an actual drain on society>Do drugs>Sell drugs>Skip work or come in five hours late>Get drunk in public and get into fightsIn other words, be a nigger
How do you learn to accept and cope with the fact that we live in a horrible and boring world with no magic?
>>34824869by not being 12 years old
>>34824869If there was magic it would not seem magical to you.
>>34824869The world is horrible but it isn't boring. You should feel honoured to live in such an exciting time.
>>34824869grow up, you goddamned man-child.
My dad was a huge manslut that cheated on my mom with many women. Because of that I hold myself back a lot. I know if I’m not careful I’ll end up just like my dad because I jerk off a lot when I’m really bored. A lot of women are into me because I take care of my appearance, have hobbies, and not afraid to walk into a room and say hi to everyone. I don’t want to hook up at all, I just want to get married and boink the same girl for the rest of my life.My issue is I have a really hard time approaching women bc of mindset. If I approach, I have the mindset of “I am choosing this girl out of the potential hundreds of other girls.” I can’t get into the mindset of dating multiple women at once because it feels like I’m manipulating women even if I’m just getting to know them (i am an unironic volcel). There are rare cases of women approaching me first and I go crazy for those but there’s usually something stopping me (ex. Single mom, minor, already has boyfriend, incredibly immature, etc.) I must’ve missed out on so many great women because I end up not approaching women because I don’t want to get her hopes up when I barely know anything about her. I notice most women assume if a guy talks to them they assume he must be into them so i end up making women feel bad when I have to friendzone them (and I usually do because most women really don’t put any effort at all into texting or letting you know they’re interested) How should I flip my mindset into allowing me to approach women? I want a gf because I’m horny but I really don’t wanna end up like my dad
I’m a girl, and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve only ever had one close friend. My friends have had a lot of experiences with guys, and I’ve mostly just been the one listening to them talk about it. I’ve only kissed three guys in my entire life, and I’ve never had sex with any of them.I really want to know what it’s like to fall in love with someone, but every time I try to get to know a guy, I end up feeling pretty disappointed. I tend to be very distrustful of men and assume the worst, and honestly, I’m rarely proven wrong. I just want to be with someone where there’s mutual respect.I didn’t really start talking to guys until I was 17, and even then, I never got particularly close to any of them. I think I was really frustrated by the way they seemed to view me. A lot of the time, it feels like they’ll say whatever you want to hear just to get you into bed, and that honestly makes me uncomfortable. I genuinely want to have chemistry with someone and be able to show them that I’m actually interested in them as a person.I’m scared of losing my virginity to the wrong guy, because I feel like that would mess with me mentally for a long time. I’m not opposed to meeting guys or getting to know them, but sometimes I feel like the more guys I meet, the less hope I have that they’re actually capable of being genuinely interested in a woman.
>>34824923>they’ll say whatever you want to hear just to get you into bedWaiting until marriage for sex is the way to go. It filters out all such types, especially the more dangerous variety of men who genuinely confuse their lust for actual interest in you as a person: the kinds of men who will happily date and sleep with a woman for years only to get bored or lose interest.
>>34824923It sucks that you’ve been struggling. I hope you find your match. You are not wrong for waiting and don’t feel pressured like you have to. Move at your own pace I’ve never had sexual experience with women either. If I had normal parents I wouldn’t have this issue. but it’s mostly just because of fear. Most women my age already have experience. I can tell because some of them know the right words to say when flirting. but those aren’t the ones I want. The ones that are too shy to approach aren’t the ones I want either. I’ve genuinely only met one girl who was the perfect in between and the rest have been me making the first move and getting lucky in finding a girl that actually puts in effort to let me know they like me. but it’s never worked out yet. maybe one day I’ll find that unicorn
What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGGhttps://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>been on vacation for a week with another week and a half to go>girl I started fucking just before I left wants a facetime date>she's naked in bed but refuses to show me anything except her tits for a few minutes, even though we talked for an hour and a halfWhat the fuck, does she not remember I've literally seen her asshole? I'm considering bringing up this fact to her in the future. What's with her fucking prude behavior.
>>34821438my first terrible date. she was insanely unattractive and convos sucked
>>34823614why did she delete hinge before meeting up with you?
>>34824857She doesn't want her nudes to get screencapped for revenge porn purposes, smart girl
>>34823449Alright, where should I ->long list of bullshitOk, where have YOU met women you have dated?
so apparently sex 2x per week is "normal". Everyone says I should be grateful, lots of couples have it less than once a month. We're a mid-twenties couple, together for three years, live alone together, no kids, plenty of free time. I'm 6'2", 3pl8 bench with abs, I would be having more sex than this if I was single (I was before I met her), instead I'm expected to literally go fuck myself whenever the stars aren't aligning and she's "not in the mood". I do a dozen things I don't want to every day, because I know it's for the benefit of our relationship. But she simply can't bear to spread her legs and fake a smile for five minutes. I'm not saying I want her to force it, but surely she would be making some kind of effort to make me happy considering how badly she wants to marry me. I know giving her an ultimatum will only end in disaster, but how do I get the message across that I can't stay with her if things aren't going to improve?every time we talk about it, she says she's going to "try harder" and nothing changes. Or she gets frustrated and says twice a week is an average amount for couples. I suppose I should just get myself an average salary then. Oh and how often does the average man go to the gym? How well does the average man cook? If I marry you, will I be as satisfied as the average married man? Fuck off with these general population statistics as evidence that everything's finethe current dynamic is that I am very gentle and patient, I pull all the tricks like gentle touching, compliments etc, she loves it, feels very comfortable, we can easily escalate to the point of kissing, but about 80-90% of the time it goes nowhere. I need her to get the message that I'm starting to look for a way out, and that to stay I need more sex. She knows I want more, but it's clear she isn't taking it seriously enough. But I know that if I'm thinking about leaving her over it she'll resent me and it won't last even if I do get more sex for a while
>>34824726Your "libido" is normal. Ignore all other anons. Mexico Albuquerque Mexico Albuquerque Mexico Albuquerque New AlbertaRhode island Oin oink oinkYou need to get another bitch because this is literally all a relationship is aboutAnd fuck anyone who gaslights you into thinking otherwise
>>34824785>How frequently would you like to have sex?I would guess once every two days would suit me, so about 3-4 times per week. But I don't like this question, because the response to my answer is always to say that it's not a reasonable expectation. They say hardly any couples do it that often. Sure, but how hard could it possibly be? It's like saying>hardly any couples go for a walk together every day>it's unreasonable to expect your partner to give you an extra massage per week>you'll never get to watch the show you want with your gf, you can only watch what she wants to>>34824831I was exaggerating somewhat. I sometimes feel like I want to do it twice a day, but I would never need it to be that frequent. If she was horny enough to do it that often though, I would certainly be happy to try. Even if I couldn't handle that frequency I'd just get some boner pills or something to improve my stamina. I can't relate to the mindset of being so disinterested that I'd turn my partner down when they're in the mood
>>34824726Testosterone is what makes women want to fuck too. Easiest way to increase that without any specific conversations is to get her to start working out.
Women don’t really understand that sex is how men feel close in a relationship the way other things make them feel close and at large they are not interested in figuring it out. She feels close so you should too. She doesn’t understand why this matters to you. You also can’t argue somebody into fucking you even if you have a series of good points. If she has some small thought that this might matter to you beyond what she immediately understands of herself, she’s clearly not doing anything about that. You talked about it>but she wants me to do all the guy parts without doing any girl parts!The standard in 2026
>>34824831How is it 'huge'?He just sounds like a healthy normal male, nothing unusual about it.
Get It Off Your Chest, Big Guy
I don't know if I can do this
I can.I am the master of ninjutsu
>>34824956Impossible. There can only be one.
Well would you look at that. ColtonwasLarping as her AGAIN
>>34824981We'll see about that...
Is anyone else trying to drink less and just feel like they're white knuckling every "sober" dayI've been drinking the past 15 years just about, the last few months before this I was drinking pretty much every day, my weapon of choice usually being beer. But, I am starting to get very fat. I literally look like a pig in pictures, and none of my clothes fit anymore. It's embarrassing and beer has to go.But as much as I hate being fat, I fucking hate being sober even more. There's no RELEASE anymore, there's nothing for me to get excited about or that makes me feel good or relaxed>You're just bored! You need to get some hobbies to fill the time! IT'S NOT THE FUCKING SAME. I have a bunch of books at home I haven't read. I have a bass guitar I play. Endless catalog of movies and videos at my fingertips. A full free weight gym and boxing gear at my workplace, free to use whenever I want. I don't care about any of it, and none of it makes me feel better. The fact of the matter is there is no sensation on this planet that tickles my brain and scratches my back like a fucking frosty, tasty, delicious bottle of suds does. Anyone else feel this way, that there's just nothing that replaces the feeling of having your favorite drink? Genuinely, how the fuck do you go on? I can't go back to drinking beer every night, I'll end up weighing 500 lbs at this rate, but holy fuck sobriety FUCKING SUCKS.For anyone in this thread who is underage or hasn't started drinking yet, DON'T. DON'T DO THIS TO YOUR BRAIN, DON'T EVER TAKE A SINGLE FUCKING SIP OF THAT DEMON IN A BOTTLE. IT WILL HOLD YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
>>34821324i quit drinking due to a mindset change. i analyzed my behaviors and basically once i accepted that i only do these things to keep the bad thoughts away i was able to stop. you need to have a reason to be sober, and your "health" alone isnt a good reason because health doesnt actually matter if you are just waiting to die, if you have a goal that you need to be healthy for then thats different. i dont even exert any will power or think about alcohol, i just dont do it.
>>34821324Literally everyone who drinks too much feels like this when they stop, but many of them manage it successfully. Everyone needs to find their own way through, and I don't know what yours is; but one thing that does occur to me is that every activity you mention - reading, guitar, movies, fitness equipment - is something you do by yourself in your own home. So the first thing you might want to try is going out and doing things with other people.
>>34822510>So the first thing you might want to try is going out and doing things with other people.I don't usually get out of work until like 8 or 9 pm most nights. I've also done a lot of group hobbies in the past and I just never end up fitting in, with anyone. I always get pushed to the periphery, just that weird guy that's always "there." Jiu jitsu, church young adult groups, writing clubs, cosplay groups, it always end up like that. I'm either too autistic or not autistic enough.
>>34822985>I don't usually get out of work until like 8 or 9 pm most nights.And you work 7 days a week? Including mornings?
>>34821324You're romanticising it. Even when you're hating it's like you love it, you love the passion, you love the self-destruction, the 'tragedy' of it all, even in the way you talk about it. You're watching yourself through the screen of a movie and don't know that it's gonna end with you red and purple all over, not able to catch a breath, and shitting in big goopy piles because you'll be a walking vat of poison. It won't be fun then, or cinematic, or relatable. However it will be too late and you'll drift slowly and embarrasingly toward death.
Is a fat girl really that bad if she:>always ask how you're doing>listens to your problems and helps you find solutions>is there for you when something is not going well in your life>sucks you dry everytime>drinks your sperm and jokes about it>kiss you like there's no tomorrow>cuddles up with you>quietly moans when you're banging herIs it really necessary to fuck a hot, slim slut to be happy? Because I'm happy just like this.
>>34824471Idk, I think fatties should stick with fatties, but I get being into a chubby girl.If you think she’s cute and you like each others company I wouldn’t care about what others think and be happy with your fat gf
if her face isn't attractive to you, you wouldn't like her even if she was skinny.
Sounds like you've got it all, anon.
>>34824471>always ask how you're doing>listens to your problems and helps you find solutions>is there for you when something is not going well in your lifeThis puts her at a higher value more than the vast majority of humans with XX chromosomes
>>34824471the one girlfriend i ever had was on the chubbier side and yeah while it did suck that all my friends' girlfriends/all her friends were much hotter than her she was down to fuck constantly, many times more than i was.too bad she was a crazy bitch, that may not have had to do with being fat probably me being the only guy to actually respect her. probably also had lots of sex as a means of validation which is sad. she went through a pretty serious depression after our break up and is much skinner and hotter than she ever was with me, probably been with a lot of guys by now while i'm scraping the bottom of the barrel on dating apps and not getting laid with them, so that makes me pissed
>39>NEET for basically entire life>no high school or college education>dropped out of school in 9th grade>have left house maybe 5 times in past 15 years>never had a job>never worked>can't drive>never had friends>0 social skills> morbidly obese>5'2">parents are broke so I won't inherit anything>no skills>never exercised in my entire lifeComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34824813Keep doing what you're doing. Never change. I'm sure it will work out eventually.
>me and my dad own a business >3 days in a row someone tried to steal or did steal >day later someone steals >dad follows and brandished gun >they didn’t steal anything >cops come >dad has court date tomorrow and no lawyer Bros I’m so scared. He’s 75, has diabetes, needs eye drops and his foot isn’t good. I’m so fucking scared.
for what it's worth i bet they did steal something and just dropped it o algo
should have just ventilated the stupid nigger.
>>34824297Eh. I wish they did honestly.
Any half-decent lawyer, even a public defender,can plead down to probation for a non-white 75-year-old small business owner who pointed a legal firearm at a suspected shoplifter but didn't actually hurt anyone. He's in trouble, but he will be fine.
>>34824801Yeah I told him to just go balls on the walls expensive. First time hiring a lawyer for anything so we don’t know what to look for. Ironically his son in law is one but that means my sister is gonna know about it and yeah.
Every single time I smoke weed I end up going over why I broke up with my family 9 years ago.I smoked THE TINIEST amount last night and swore I was going to just play games and not listen to my thoughts, but again I started writing down why we fought, what happened, trying to figure out how we went from a sometimes happy family to me leaving them.There was a lot of abuse over the years but I can't figure out how I came to change my mind about them. And this happens every time I smoke! And I only smoke crumbs of weed and it's like 3 puffs max! And once every 2 weeks max!Why does this happen? Can anyone else relate / had something similar happen? No matter how much I try, I always end up just chasing my thoughts and thinking about this when high, even when I'm not thinking about it day to day when sober.
I can relate op, I have issues with my family too and it’s easy to go down the rabbit hole of trying to determine things that have happened in the past. Ultimately I’m happier now but these things cross my mind from time to time
Weed is some weird shit bro. For me it gives me the same feeling after I just came. My body just heavy and full of this warm glow. But if I smoke just a tiny bit too much I get sent waves of unrelenting anxiety and get the same feeling I would have gotten as a child sent to the principles office. Delta 8 is amazing because it gives you this body high and spares you the anxiety. I would recommend getting some if you can because they are banning it in November.
>>34812575>I smoke weedFound your problem
>>34815024You insist he contacts his family assuming they’ll have the same heart OP does. There are vile family systems out there that create nests of shitheads that need to be avoided at all costs. All recontact will do is retraumatize much of the time
not OP but 2 months ago I got a bit too high and then I felt like the walls between memory and imagination became scarily thin. It didnt break but stuff was going through. As if I saw different versions of small events happen and I wasnt sure which one was real. Anyway since I stopped smoking but I still spiral like OP about stuff but sober
how do I get into construction?I like the idea of building homes and learning how to maintain them
>>34821739will they take me on if I have zero experience and am not physically fit or built for outdoor environments?My state's training center usually has carpentry classes available, but their building is not fit for actual workshop classes atm. They're waiting until October at the earliest for the new building to be ready so they can offer those kinds of classes again
>>34823399In the mean time try some related course like plumbing.
>>34821717Trust me you don't want to consider that.Many older tradesmen have a harsh attitude towards apprentices. Rampant alcoholism & substance abuse.
>>34824942Why is society built upon rape and fear?
>>34821717>>34824942Take up alcohol and substances I guess.Not to be pedantic, but what industry is both well-paid, low stress and welcoming? I've always heard that most guys just fall into construction due to family or friends or something. If OP really wants to do it, then great. It's full of druggos and shit heads but you might be guffawing with them in a few years time. Physical fitness should be near top of your priorities though. If you aren't ready for the physical strain, you'll suffer and it might dissuade you from the whole thing.
