How do I integrate my shadow?
>>34683475it's kind of complicated if you aren't willing to read like 5 volumes at least of jung. The short most direct answer is eventually doing active imagination consistently. Going all in and doing it unprepared or without knowing what you are doing can be quite dangerous though.Start with Modern man in search of a soul than read two essays on analytical psychology for the reading. Most of the popular stuff around "shadow work" or even active imagination is kind of a simplification and makes it way more of a "method" than jung intended. Even he thought analysts weren't terribly consistent. Look into your cultural/ethnic background and read it's folklore and history would be an additional key thing.Read/listen to fairy tales from where you genetically originate and things like that. It will help when you get more of an understanding maybe. there's not really a good answer that isn't just "do a ton of work"
>>34683511oh yeah I may not have emphasized it is worth seeing if you can see an actual jungian analyist but like I said quality isn't guaranteed so it's good to have your own familiarity with it
>>34683511NTA, I thought the shadow was a metaphor for a person's capacity for mayhem. What does somebody accomplish by doing active imagination and what are they supposed to be imagining?
Fuck bud it might be too late to blame me :/ police probably need someone else to blame other than me and of course themselves.
Of course! The fish is to blame! Pardon me, I’ll wait for u to deal with that. Take your time. Who fucking cares if I’m dead by then?
>>34683502For what? I know I’m a strange man.
>>34683510No it doesn’t make sense but they want me to make sense of it.
I decided not to go outside because my neighbors were out there playing cornhole. I'll get the mail tomorrow
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>>34682271I don’t find old women attractive, I don’t find tattoos and piercings attractive. I don’t find smoking, drugs and alcohol attractive. I don’t find obesity attractive. I don’t find non whites attractive.
>>34677549Man who gives a shit how many followers they got, so many people means they don't even know who most of them are.
low cost date ideas? starbucks is starting to get expensive
i boughted plat, its quite addicting.
>>34681035people like her are not worth your time. instagram, snapchat, etc are for people who never grew up after high school. it's worse when they get the ick when someone says they don't use it
>old contact reaches out>know old contact has information of girl I liked in a previous time>know said girl is almost guaranteed singleDo I ask for her information and pursue her (likely a joint meetup with the old contact and his girlfriend first) or would this be too contrived and awkward? If to pursue her, then would going out to my city's historic district (picrel) be a good place to go out to?
>>34680458Thank you.I might as well add that the rumours were back then that she really wanted a bf, but she tends to be a bit of a shut in playing vidya and watching anime. She also was at least a 6 or 7/10 if you asked me (I need to remind myself of the details and I only have a singular picture of her from those times, but I found her to be pretty).
>>34680454why not? as a girl something like this would be nice to receive even if I didn't like the person. "hey long time no see, I caught up with >contact and his girlfriend< the other day and we were talking about you. I found you really cute and cool back then, was wondering if you'd like to grab a coffee and catch up, no pressure if not."if she says no you'll have your answer. if she takes it poorly you'll have dodged a bulletyou'll be fine anon, hope it goes well for you
>>34680717Then I will, but first I will talk to my contact first to have a plan. I like what you have said, though.
>>34680430Yeah, why not? Don't get in your own way, anon.
>>34682467I just reach out to the contact. Now I will wait.
What should I focus on or spend my time doing? I’m prone to paranoia and am on antipsychotics will it still effect me?I’m making a thread since I don’t have a lot to do at the moment.
10mg isn't even enough to hamper driving on the interstate when you're not on meds. so do whatever you were going to already
>>34683302i started using it for the first time recently and it mostly just makes me tired
I'm a 32 year old anxious/avoidant former loner. Half a year ago I started going to a mental health facility that acts as a social space. There is one staff member there who I was immediately infatuated with, and the feelings have never gone away. A few months ago she started playing music with specific themes, some examples of the lyrics are "our love" (she sang this part out loud quietly while standing beside me), "baby don't leave me" after I confided in her about my plan to kill myself, and more recently she played a playlist that revolved around love songs, heartbreak, and being used/played with. It seems pretty obvious to me that she's using music to communicate her feelings. Staff and members aren't allowed to be in relationships so I don't know what she wants or expects. I asked her to stop, and she denied everything. After that she stopped for a month or two and then just recently started again, with the playlist that I mentioned, after I was talking to another staff member about starting to use dating apps and the fact that I had a date. I've seen some red flags (extremely impulsive, gets jealous of me being friends with other women, and bitterness), and as someone who is incredibly insecure/avoidant I don't want to be with a person who plays games and isn't able to communicate openly. I still have feelings for her but I don't want to be with her, I want her to find someone who makes her happy, and I want that for myself. I don't really know what to do beyond just being friendly while maintaining an appropriate distance. I have left for a week/month at a time but I don't have much else to fill my days and it's the only place where I can socialize. I've tried getting a job with the help of another staff member there but so far I've only been turned down.
>>34682675I enjoyed reading your story, so I will bump your thread. Why wouldn't you want to be with a girl who infatuates you? Is it because she's ugly?
hii 4chan! this is my second time hereso basically for the past two years i went from unattractive to somewhat attractive and a lot guys have been liking me and some examples are that one kid in ur class who ragebaits the teachers and everybody hates him and another one is the other kid that everybody also hates bc he supports charlie kirk and tries so hard to be nonchalant and tuff to the point where hes sorta a tryhard and its funny and im nice to these two guys because theyre just people at the end of the day and i feel bad for them because nobody really likes them and i wanna be nice to them and theres also this one guy who used to like my bestfriend and then i knew she didnt like him back so i sat next to him for like the last weeks of maths and i found out that he was actually a really cool guy and i text him everyday ab literally anything and im so comfortable with him and i love him as a friend! but his bestfriend told me that this dude actually likes me now and i should stop leading him on and im like bruh hes literally a friend to me how do i stop and now i feel guilty because im a girl and i only ever just wanted to be friends with these guys not make them like me
>>34682919Shut up whore, I will report your comment for being extremely low quality. You stupid bitch!
>>34683063no i have good relationships and my women love me. you're a retard fagstop pretending male/female are equalit only leads to suffering
>>34683440I never said that men and women are equal, just that they can be friends.
>>34683447>>34683447ok retard
>>34683452i lold
tips on socialization/normie practice as a 30 year old? long story short, i was always the "weird" guy, totally shut down for the past 15 years basically just waiting to die, but recently i have gained a second wind in life and want to try. feels like i am emotionally and socially stunted. should i start going to restaurants by myself?
Find something that you think will be interesting but won't require a lot of social participation from you until you're ready, like a sport, church, community college class, library activity, etc. Therapy or a shrink can probably help, too.
Last reply is good.My suggestion is always go to conventions, for whatever you enjoy. Built-in friends and shared interests. Because I'm on 4chan: I went to local anime cons for a few years to max out my socialization stat. Half of it was literally to just practice being social and get better at it. You will absolutely improve if you make the effort. You can also spend some time on their message board... or, well, I guess social media now. To pre-make friends you can meet up with at the actual con.
>>34682997How do you stop negative thoughts? I always think to myself "nah this will just be lame. Ill just be a loser weirdo with other weirdo losers there. Theres no point in even trying. It will just be a let down etc etc". Its literally killing me.
From a Christian point of view, is it murder if a girl takes a plan B?
>>34676194Sex outside of wedlock is a sinSex without the possibility of generating children is also sin
>>34681548So is killing yourself.Get married before puberty thanks to your parents arranging a chaperoned relationship and not sin
>>34676194From a Christian point of view, how are you even putting yourself in situations where you need to take plan B? Maybe start there
>>34681384this guy gets it
>>34680989Author of Genesis 38 certainly thought he did.Read the fucking story. It literally says in black and white that Onan did it because he was afraid of endangering his own kids’ inheritance, and this is why God killed him.
TLDR: should I/how do I go about adding a sister wife/live in girlfriend/fwb without fucking up my relationship with my wife and kids?I dated my wife f35 about 5 years then married her and since then we have had a bunch of kids (probably no more but I haven’t gotten snipped yet). I love her and our kids very much.Before I met my wife, I had a major crush on a coworker/friend, (who is now 38), who was in my friend group, and when my wife joined the friend group, wife and f38 became best friends. F38 has since moved to another state but wife and f38 talk/text daily and see each other a few times/yr.I have much higher libido than wife, so I want sex at least daily and she wants sex like once a month. A running joke between us is that if she dies, I can marry f38 and she can move in and be an excellent stepmom to our kids (she has the wifey seal of approval). Last week during foreplay/pillowtalk on Father’s Day, we were drunk so I don’t remember all the details (or how much was a joke vs serious) but the gist was wife said f38 could just move in as a sister wife because she could take care of my high libido, she could drink wine and chill with wife, and she’s great with the kids too. Wife said I couldn’t knock her up though, but I said if I got a vasectomy then could cum in her.
Just masturbate a lot, don't bring another girl.
>>34677283F38 is very unlikely to have herpes. My wife and f38 talk a lot, and wife tells me lots of shit about her various girlfriends, including deets like std status. Wife and f38 have shared drinks and clothes (can’t recall sharing swim bottoms but might have happened?) so f38’s panties are low risk fapping.I think my play is to get wife liquored up on the 4th and chat about fantasies and if the conversation/vibes are going in the right direction, ask her. Maybe start at the smallest risk/most vanilla fantasy and seeing if she’s receptive before moving onto the big kahuna.>>34676085Her libido went way down after kids. To be fair we’re both really exhausted a lot. It’s just from my perspective, sex needn’t be a big time consuming, high effort thing. Even when I do all the work wife is still not wanting sex very often. Sometimes as a better than-nothing compromise, she begrudgingly sometimes lets me fap in bed next to her and finish on her tummy, butt, or thighs.
>>34674464Having a wife and kids is so gay and then u want to add degeneracy into the mix dude I'm so glad I'm.never going to have retarded ass kids bro I thank god every single day I can fuck hos cause I'm snipped
>>34678216F38 is tentative on coming to visit for the baby shower, might stay at our house one night! >>34678239Troll, but, having kids is literally the best thing I have ever done. It’s a ton of work but more rewarding than anything.
>>34679442Wife has sexed me 4 times the last few days, which is a recent record. I’ve gotten some post nut clarity from several days of being sexually sated, so my desire for f38 is hugely diminished. Might still steal her panties though.
this summer i am done jerking off until i 1 cc all touhou games or am a 5 digit in osu because i jerk off 2 times a day for the past couple years and even jerk in school from time to time. i hope these goals help me not jerk. any tips?
>>34683323You know I think there's a lot of reasons why this would be a bad idea, but I'm gonna say it op, kinda based
If my circumference is 5.78 inches, what size condom should I use?
>>34682721Ask customer service. That's what they're there for.
> *Fucks women in 2026*Ngmi
>>34682721Only commercial brand is Trojan magnum XL. Everything else is going to be too tight
https://pro.mysize-condoms.com/I'm 4x4" and this is where i have to go
So I`ve been enjoying the same adult video for the past 15 years and now with the leaps in AI technology I`ve been wanting to AI upscale it, the leading AI video upscaling tool costs $59/month which is more than I would like to pay, I looked at torrent/pirate options for the software but I`m worried about the risk of torrenting .exe/software, for my own safety not legality wiseDo you think I should pay $59 to AI upscale my favorite adult video from 2009 which is 480p/dvd quality or should I take the risk of torrenting the software or should I just keep enjoying the old 480p version?Thanks
try Video2X, its free and you just need a decent gpu for it https://github.com/k4yt3x/video2x
>>34683032Tried but it gives me an error "[Worker] Array buffer allocation failed"
comfyui + klein model is free
I'm really addicted to this website but the defeatist crab mentality has been getting to me lately. How do I move on with life without coming here? I don't have anything going on in my life though. No goals, passions, friends or lovers.
Just like HxH and Micheal Jackson. The thrill of living. Pushing God and reality to its limits. All just roles
>>34682313I asked ChatGPT and got this:NEET: "I have unlimited free time. I don't answer to a boss. I can pursue my interests."Wagie (wagecuck): "I earn my own money, have independence, and don't rely on others."Mad dreamer / artist / inventor: "You're both wasting your lives—I have an ambitious project that will eventually pay off."Also apparently it's an r9K thing I'll take a look in the archives.Did not find anything in the archives desu
been here since 2006 (at age 11). filter out the buzzwords and slurs and it's tolerable.
I'm not reading this whole thread but do you live near Vancouver? Want to hang out?
>>34682391neet freetime is worthless, though. you just stay at your house. you don't have money to go out
>be me, pushing 24>cs degree>wasted a year rotting in bed and doing nothing after graduating, sleep 12 hours a day>still doing nothing, social anxiety so bad I cannot even ask for help>not even applying for jobs>Older sibling sister helps me with skincare and buys femalegaze cloths. tfw social anxiety wont let me have a gf. I just love being khhv. >I'm asexual bro>have this delusion that I will look the same at 30 or 40, and I'm immortal. How do I increase my sense of urgency and stop wasting time and my youthful years?
I was like this last year. Could not change till the regret really built up during college. Cried every night to my parents saying I let them down. Crashed out. Stopped eating. Applied hundreds of places. NothingBut I kept going. Eventually, stuff landed. Sleeping 12 hours a day is okay, but you need routine. Fix it - gym in the morning, applying to jobs at night, and please, give yourself free time to relax. But you need a daily routine. Without that, you will be distracted and disorganized, like I am right now with the summer here.As for khhv, you just need to get lucky in meeting a woman that will give you your first time. It happened with me 3 months ago, and I "used" her for my first kiss and first time. A lot of these understanding women have high body counts and are looking for a reset, but you need that first experience and since these women don't like their past they're actually way kinder to men if you treat them with basic human decency.Just keep going, anon. From a person who regretted not killing myself earlier, even if it doesn't get better, your outlook on life can. Just keep going, and try to surround yourself with people.
24 here, I agree with first post but especially the keep going part.Give yourself time to relax and also push yourself at times. Both are necessary, the struggle never endsAnd when you push yourself don't try to motivate or stress yourself, that's useless, just "do it" and deliberately do difficult things sometimes which seem useless like running
>>34679039I'm also 24 and finishing my CS degree. I just make my own life hell, no joke.I don't know, try creating an enemy in your own head?
>>34679039>I'm asexual broYou're a low T incel. No such a thing as an "asexual," stop buying into everything big corp tells you, fucking faggot.
>>34679039yes, you're retarded
