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One of my longest friends threw himself off a bridge last night an hour after I saw him and I couldn't care less. He's alive, but in the hospital.

How do I feign empathy for the situation? We all knew he had suicidal thoughts, but he's ignored all support, all advice, and all the help any of us could muster for the last few years. I'm genuinely at a loss as to how be a good fried, here. I'm close with his family, so I don't want them to know I'm a callous husk, ether.
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>>18350330
Being a callous husk is underrated. Ignore the whiny feels>reals fags ITT. If you gave advice and companionship for 10 years and he ignored it, I don't know what the fuck these niggas expect you to do. You aren't a psychiatrist and nobody can 'fix' other people.

Contrary to what hollywood says, people with depression aren't fixed by friends and good times (if at all, Robin Williams still an hero'd after all), they're fixed by removing toxic influences and medication, and it seems like your friend hasn't done either.

He swum in toxic waste and it made him sick, and he kept diving back in against your advice. You can like the guy, but whatever man. You can't save him from himself.
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You are in a difficult situation because ultimately, as you have learned, you cannot change people and you cannot help people who do not want to be helped. Your friend obviously needs professional help and you're not a professional. It's frustrating and exhausting dealing with these people. Obviously this is someone you care about or you wouldn't have stuck by him for 10 years. I suggest you try to get some professional help to deal with this and to learn some coping skills as well. This is whether or not you continue to try to help him. It's a lot to deal with either way. Best of luck man and I hope things work out.
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>>18350431
There's an idea. How many times you think he volunteered to talk about MY problems?

I'm sorry I'm not weeping on the ground, guys, but I'm not exactly the poster child for emotional availability already. I'm trying to be there for him, but I'm sure as fuck not gonna coddle him more. It didn't do much for him so far.
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>>18350460
He inherited $100k two years ago, I helped him find an affordable home that he could buy outright, helped find a psychiatrist, and offered to help him invest the rest in a business plan.

He spent every penny on eighths of dabs that he picked up every day.
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>all these faggots saying he's a shitty friend
fuck off cunts, you obviously don't know any hopeless people that were offered literally everything

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Some guy got my nudes. He claims to have gotten them from my ex bf. This was years ago. My face is in the pictures and I'm a YouTube actress now. Will people find out about them? He is blackmailing me to give him money or else he will send them to all my family and friends. He contacted me through a phone number. He said he will know If I tell the police. Can the police really help? What do I do? Please help
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>>18350051
As someone who has been blackmailed before. Paying is the worst thing you can do. If you pay up you are pretty much fucked. The blackmailer will keep asking for money or worse.
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>>18350058
This, own that shit. Ruin his life. Your family knows you have a body under your clothes, let them know you have a brain too.
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Instantly go to the Police.

If they still end up getting circulated make a vlog about it, maybe try to get some media platform to report on it.

Even if the nudes get leaked the PR from this could be huge desu
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>actress

Come on now
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>>18350051
Caving into someones demands because they hold something over your head is for weak people.

> He said he will know If I tell the police.
LOL, and you believe anything a fucking stranger who's trying to blackmail you says?

Go to your lawyer, and if that's not an option go to the police. They may not be able to help you, but they will be able to give you advice.

Is it really unacceptable to be socially withdrawn, or am I just conditioning myself to be irrationally afraid of people? How is it possible for me to understand this and still not get over it?
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See a therapist.
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>>18349693
None of the ones my insurance covers are taking new patients, and I'm not too keen on the idea anyway. And what's the point of promoting them here?
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>>18349685
It's totally fine to be socially withdrawn. What difference does it make?
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>>18349685
Go outside. Get a retail or hospitality job. Join a club. Talk to cashiers. Just force yourself to talk to people. If you don't talk to people for long enough, you'll end up socially retarded.

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does your gf or bf make you horny?

Ive been with my gf for 1,5 year and I literally have to force myself to have sex with her most of the time. I feel like Im tired of her. I mean I still like her and dont want to break up or something but I would rather fuck any other even much uglier girl than her. I kinda feel like she is my sister or something. Even when I feel horny, I look at her and I feel almost zero sexual attraction towards her anymore.

she is not a 10/10 but definitely not ugly or disgusting. Very slightly chubby but in a sexy way (pic related is what her body looks like)

I dont even know what kinda advice Im looking for. I guess Im trying to find out if the problem is in me or somewhere else.
Does anybody else feel like this? Tired of fucking the same person all the time?

We have sex maybe once per week now and even that is mostly because she is just too horny and she basically kinda rapes me.
How often do you guys have sex in a long term relationships?
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>>18348732
All day. The second she sits by me. The good thing is she is cool and interesting so i can atleast ignore what my other brain is saying for a while.
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>>18349348
Just by slutty stuff for her to wear for you around the house when you two are alone.
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>>18350174
you mean your MEMbrain!?
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>>18348732
>this is her body looks like

nigga you gay. Get in there and eat that asshole like a starving man on a thanksgiving dinner
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>>18349160
Another guy here. Can confirm. They flip out if you even so much hint that they are getting fat. Should we just be okay with that shit? Just lay of the junk food you fat bitch.

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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

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Men, do you like giving/receiving neck kisses?
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>>18350461
I need in general give and receive so many hugs a day to be satisfied, that I don't think I would care less my partner if we ended engaged (maybe I would share those precious moments with my children too, but as specially "warm" person I couldn't forget him). My parents still love each other, and they show their affection everyday...

However...It's true that since I felt in love with him, It have been very difficult for me find inspiration and creativity for one of my passions: writing

So...probably I would try to spend more time doing what I used to do a year ago during my freetime...I hope I could find myself again

Thanks a lot!
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>>18349776
Girls: if a girl doesn't text me the night after we hang out and have dinner and end up making out & stuff (didn't fuck) does that mean she's not into it?
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>>18350514
why not?

>>18350517
yes.

that's called an erogenous zone
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>>18350520

>Girls: if a girl doesn't text me the night after we hang out and have dinner and end up making out & stuff (didn't fuck) does that mean she's not into it?

No idea. Have a conversation with her. Don't depend on a bunch of strangers over the internet to speculate on the behavior of a person they've never met.

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Hey guys, I got accepted into some pretty decent schools and I still haven't made up my mind about where to go. I'm deciding between the United States Military Academy (West Point) and the University of Virginia. Personally I'm not that interested in the Army, I could tolerate it but I wouldn't be that happy. The good part about West Point is that it's completely free, I get a B.S., I get paid a little to go there, and I'm guaranteed a job. I would much rather go to University of Virginia because my quality of life would be better and I would be able to get a job doing something I actually want to do. I have no money and I don't qualify for financial aid, my parents are willing to take out loans for me, but I'd hate to put that on them when I have a golden ticket for a free education. If I do decide to go to UVA, I'm looking at a scholarship with the DoD where I could get almost all of my college paid for, but it's not a guaranteed thing. What would you do in my situation?
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>>18350186
West Point. No question. The school is incredibly selective, and between that an being a veteran OFFICIER you'd be very well set up for job searching after your commitment.

I must ask, if you aren't enthused about WP, why did you apply at all?
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>>18350378
I applied to the other academies because I was actually interested in Navy/Air Force, I figured might as well go Army as well. I didn't actually think I would get in because my application wasn't very good compared to the other two. I know the choice is fucking obvious to most people, but when I think about going there and giving up the experience of a normal college, I just get depressed. I'd hate to show up to West Point, quit, and then having to settle for a community college.
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>>18350378
OP here. I realize now that posting this was pointless, this board is for advice and anyone with a fucking brain would tell me to go to West Point. I guess ultimately it is my decision and that I'll have to pick one of them, I just feel so conflicted.
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>>18350505
Well look at it this way, West point is "free" in that there's no tuition. But you pay in other ways. How many years of service are you forced to do afterwards? You say you don't like the army, would you be prepared to live an army lifestyle at school for four years of getting up at 0500 for PT every morning, standing in formation for hours, having to keep your room emaculate, etc. And then you'll be an officer stuck in a job you legally are not allowed to quit.

Yes it's prestigious, and good experience, but is it right for you?

How do i build dicipline to study or follow through with what i say. i always try to 'get my shit together' but always end up relapsing. I can't stop from temptations like porn, my phone and friends. Any advice where to start?
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>>18350414
This has worked for me.
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>>18350439
I didn't decide to strive until I suffered a mental breakdown. This happens for a lot of people. Now I'm very striving, even though I get depressed sometimes.

I don't know if it's necessarily better, but I seem to be living a higher quality life than average now, and if things keep going right I'll keep going up.

If you're not accomplishing anything, it's because you're complacent, and probably paying attention to the wrong things. "Fap" all you want, but get out and get laid or something. When you're getting laid frequently, trying not to "fap" won't be as difficult.
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What worked for me was studying in the library(or for me the engineering computer labs) where you can focus on work and it keeps you motivated while you're there. You will also feel like an idiot if you dont stay long.
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>>18350471
Yeah library for sure. Leave your phone/computer at home if you have to. Get away from all your fun distracting stuff
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>>18350462
Virgin so i was hoping to get a gf for a real relationship and not resort to a hooker for my first time. So i guess i have to wait or have more self control.

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What's the best way to treat the burning sensation after eating a pepper?
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From what i heard milk.
I never tried it because i hate milk.

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I have no desire for sex. I'm male, a virgin and 20 years old. I'm not "asexual" because I can get turned on by things but the act of sex makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable and uneasy. I probably could do it some day with someone I really loved and trusted but in this modern age is that even a thing anymore? I get the feeling the whole world revolves around sex, lots and lots of casual sex. I heard a description of what a clitoris feels like and it makes me feel honestly sick.

>shove your hand down there and feel for a hard bit in an ocean of soft.
Its easy as shit
>a hard bit in an ocean of soft
that's the bit I really don't like. Imagining a small hard lump on my finger and having to rub it makes me shudder. Like a fruit's pip or a little lump of cancer.

Is this lack of a desire to have sex a turn-off for most girls? Also what the fuck is wrong with me and does anyone else have these strange feelings towards sex? It's NOT a fear/phobia and it's not a lack of a sex drive. It just makes me feel weird and uncomfortable to think about.

pic unrelated
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>>18350258
This. No one really cares about if you had sex. You do you and that is all that matters. I am in the opposite situation with my girlfriend. She is asexual I am not. We have been dating for 2 1/2 years and she has only been ok with giving me a hand job once a week maximum just last September. If you are looking for a relationship then there are people like you out there but know there are people who can tolerate your sexual squeamishness.
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>>18350258
I just hate this endless cycle that I see every other person go through where they're with someone, then they're fucking, then they're not, the one of them fucks or wishes to fuck someone else so the relationship ends and it's just that on loop forever and ever. I would love to have a girlfriend. But I want a girlfriend who'd go on hikes with me, who'd be able to discuss news and politics in depth without being confused, who'd watch movies with me because she actually wants to see a movie, not just have an excuse to make out or whatever.

I'm glad some other people get it but this is becoming an increasingly rare thing. Especially with girls and it really bugs me.
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>>18350118

>I probably could do it some day with someone I really loved and trusted but in this modern age is that even a thing anymore?

I'm always constantly confused by these kids who think their personality types and romantic preferences are so elevated and rare, as if "casual sex" people and "love sex" people are two concretely separated groups that can't vary or wander in grey areas. Firstly, you speak as though people who want sex in a committed relationship are a rare group; they aren't. Secondly, you speak as though preferences can't change or evolve and there is no such thing as being able to participate in both types of sex depending on where you are in your life and what you want at that given moment.

Thirdly, you go with this "feeling" that the whole world revolves around sex but you've never actually had sex before. Why is sex the one thing people so liberally create opinions about when they know absolutely nothing about it? If I said I have a "feeling" that winning a NASCAR race would be easy but I've never actually driven a car before how would making that statement NOT make me an idiot?

I think this is the inherent downside to having a robot mentality; you boil life down to such simple metrics and classifications that you completely miss the nuance that happens in every day life.

I think you have all these feelings and opinions because you don't know anything about sex. You're barreling into the twilight of your puberty and you still don't have any idea what sex is yet you've seemed to develop all of these staunch opinions about it.

I'm not surprised you're confused. Being uncomfortable with a daunting task you know nothing about isn't a strange occurrence, OP. If I were you I'd maybe start with actually having sex and then adjust your weird opinions accordingly.
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>>18350381

>I'm glad some other people get it but this is becoming an increasingly rare thing. Especially with girls.

It really, really isn't a rare thing at all. I don't know you keep saying that.
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>>18350381
It's really not all that rare, you just need to make it apparent to others what you're looking for. I find it better when people in a relationship want the same things rather than having to make compromises (the whole opposites attract bs) but they'll never know what it is you want until either they ask you or you tell them. It's the same thing with couples who like having casual sex, that's the kind of relationship they want so naturally they hang around people like that. Your idea of the perfect relationship is not farfrtched but it's also not the kind that shows up at your doorstep, you have to go out and find it. Start meeting more people and get a feel of what groups you enjoy being around and eventually you'll find someone who thinks the same way you do because chances are they'll be out there looking in the same circles.

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Ok so I had sex with a condom on, came inside the condom and like an idiot kept going. I pulled out when I started to lose my hardon and the condom never slipped off or ripped or anything. However my dick was completely wet with cum. At this point in the heat of the moment I never mentioned that I came, so I went over to get another because I wanted to keep going. Never cleaning it off or anything.

However nature being what it is I wasn't able to keep it fully hard to get the condom on. At this point she jerks me a little and then starts to blow me for a while. That does the job well enough and I put the condom on and try again. But I can't keep it hard enough and give up. After a minute or so of cuddling and kissing she gets on top of me and puts my uncovered dick inside her for a bit.

We go like for a few minutes and stop because I don't want to finish inside of her unprotected. She then goes back to blowing me for awhile I cum again and that was it. Now I'm bugging out wondering if there's any possibility that I might have gotten her pregnant.

Is there a possibility that she could get pregnant from that?

tl;dr
>had sex, wore condom
>came in condom but wanted to keep going
>condom never came off or leaked
>dick was covered in semen and stuff
>got blown
>put new condom on and tried again but stopped

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How do I stop being insecure about being a virgin?

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Ok, /adv/. Two days ago I tried to hang myself. Even though, the whole process felt super fucking awful (use a shotgun to the head if you want to die, seriously), I went through with it. Fortunately (or unfortunately), right when I was strating to fade away, the fucking cable snapped and I crumpled on the floor. After a few gasps, I started to vomit harder than I've ever vomited in my life. It was fucking Exorcist tier.

I felt worse than a fly-covered Ethiopian child, but managed to find some strenght to clean up and go to sleep.

When I woke up, I couldn't fucking speak.

I had absolutely no voice. Totally mute.

Today, I regained some of my voice for a couple of hours, but it was like 3 octaves deeper, bordering on Tay Zonday level. When it went out again, it started sounding like a loud whisper. A few minutes ago, I got a window in which I could speak somewhat like myself again, but it was so, so fucking hard. As I write this, I have no voice again.

I want to ask if there's a doctor or a nurse or something here - Will I ever recover my voice, or is my larynx fucked forever from the botched hanging and the fire-hydrant vomiting? How can I repair my vocal chords? Warm milk? Some type of vocal excersise? Hot towels?

I'm asking, because I don't want to go to the doctor. I'm afraid, that they are going to put me on some type of suicide watch.

Thanks.

Okay /adv/ ive got kind of a silly issue at hand.

My dad recently caught me smoking pot, he disapproves immensely, which I understand. I tried to explain to him that it wasnt that bad, and that it was kind of like having a beer every once in a while. He didnt buy it all.

So we kind of agreed to disagree. Im an adult and can make my own decisions and he realizes that. However, lately hes been driving me up the fucking wall.

The other day I wanted to go on a night walk to the gas station. I told him I was going to go out for a walk and he immediately started interrogating me. asking me if I was going to go smoke pot, he found it inconceivable that a person would want to walk anywhere at 9pm. So I decided not to go on a walk to appease him. Now a new issue has risen, I had a pretty shitty cold about a week ago, and now I have this lingering cough. Of course today, after coughing all day, he comes into my room and asks me why I keep coughing, I knew what he was getting at, so I told him about the cold, then he asked "How much pot have you been smoking? I know that cough is probably from you smoking pot" I literally laughed at him, at this point he's just trying to find shit to accuse me with.

Im moving out withing the next month, I have a full time job, its not like im a braindead burnout loser.

How the fuck can I save the relationship between me and my father, this shit is getting annoying and I dont know if its ever going to fucking stop.

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recommend some degrees to major in
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>>18350171
just do what you like doing.
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>>18350173
>>18350177
>>18350203
u can pick all this crap. but if you hate it. enjoy hating yourself at work
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>>18350172
>falling for the CS meme
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is it true cs majors are screwed due to h1b visas?
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>>18350420
Can someone explain why majoring in CS is a meme? I've seen this brought up before, but I don't understand. What's so bad about it?
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If you do EECS you're a virgin neckbeard loser with no life. (Not very true imo but that's the stereotype)

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Just found out that my younger and older brother both sell weed. Should I tell the police, because my parents ignore it or don't want to listen to me and I want them both to stop. I don't want to talk to them since I hate them both and don't like confrontation
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>>18350436
Don't be a faggot and tattle tale. Word will get out and no one would trust you. Nobody likes a rat.
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Why would you be a snitch for?
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It's not your choice just because you don't like it. Put it back and shut up unless you want people throwing your things out every time they don't like it.



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