How do I get my life together?I live with my mother. My mom has always been emotionally dependent and was psychologically abused by her own mother as a child. She clings on me and controls me, she paranoically gives me unwanted advice and talks my ear off, makes a bunch of mistaken assumptions and misunderstandings. She loses it if I talk back, or if I talk any bit more energically, she says she's too old to change, she blocks any communication and wants to have the final word on every petty argument. I don't want her hurt. I can't stand her shit either.I don't want to pay rent to live and work a shit enslaving job, I studied medicine and I don't want to deal with sick miserable people anymore. I don't want high stakes high responsibility work. I don't know what to study that leads to a balanced lifestyle with understanding friends.My age weights on me, and it seems every fucking problem compounds on itself. I am living a life I never fucking wanted and ended up choosing to suck up to my parents because they couldn't handle their own shit. The therapist doesn't give me advice on how to choose the best fit life for me, he just tells me to cope with the pile of shit im sunk in. I have no idea where to start, I have $7000 to my name and that's it.
>>34179495The only thing you can do about your mom is move out, unfortunately. I know people like your mom and I know they won’t change, they’ll drag you down just to feel superior. As a man, you have to act and think about yourself to secure your future. >I studied medicine and I don't want to deal with sick miserable people anymoreMaybe try pharmaceuticals? That way, you won’t have to deal with sick people and the job is much less stressful.>My age weights on me, and it seems every fucking problem compounds on itself.That’s normal, it’s okay. Even people in their 50s can change their careers and their lives.>I am living a life I never fucking wanted and ended up choosing to suck up to my parents because they couldn't handle their own shitIt’s never too late to change that>The therapist doesn't give me advice on how to choose the best fit life for meIf you don’t have serious mental problems, then you don’t need a therapist! It’s a waste of money, time and emotions.>I have no idea where to startYou’ve already pointed out the things that interfere with your life and the things you want to achieve. You just have to figure out what kind of work you want to do and do whatever it takes to get it.
>>34179666How do I find out what kind of work do I want? I can't tell well when I'm being picky and when a position is toxic. Today I went to the doctor's credit union and there was a guy who clearly was not a doctor, he was the son of a doctor like I am, dressed in a rockish style just like I do, He was talking with the tellers about his job 3D printing anime figures, cosplay accessories by request. The way he talked was a mix of embarrass about anime stuff and pride in making things. He talked slowly, relaxed rather than confident, and pulled everyone out of reality and into his story. I thought "Goddamn, this guy has never suffered in his life. This would be me if I hadn't studied medicine". I guess yes, the main problem for me is I don't have a passion, and things that give me amazement are the nichest of things, mostly archeology, mythology, etc. I have been trying to draw for some time as well, but I don't know how to find people to share these passions with and develop them.I fear investing my precious remaining youth working in something tedious, repetitive and high stakes, so the time to develop my interests and the time needed to surround myself with people goes past me just like my training in medicine went.Back then, I was a dumb teen and thought I had to make my parents live forever. Then I took pride in doing things perfectly to do the least damage, then I burned out and been NEETing and studying garbage for years. I wouldn't like to be an employee making others money, but I don't want to scam people out of their money, and I'm jealous of people who do. I still cling to the idea I have to aspire to something grand or my life will be useless and forgotten. I guess all of these are the silly negatives that every job has and I just amplify their impact.
>>34179978>This would be me if I hadn't studied medicinePlease, don’t compare yourself to others. This is the easiest way to lose your confidence and drive to improve your life. Just because he looks like he’s had no hardship in life doesn’t mean it’s true. Successful people can have tough lives too.>I guess yes, the main problem for me is I don't have a passionWhen it comes to careers, passion doesn’t matter most of the time. Many people have burned out in their dream jobs and hate them now.>but I don't know how to find people to share these passions with and develop themIf there’s no place for it on 4chan, then try some subreddits or discord groups. For drawing, go to /ic/ or /trash/. You don’t even have to go there, all you need to do is ask in a random thread on your favorite board for drawing request.>so the time to develop my interests and the time needed to surround myself with people goes past meYou can always make friends and enjoy your hobbies after work. Besides, you can do it right now! You’re a neet, so you have plenty of time!>I wouldn't like to be an employee making others money, but I don't want to scam people out of their moneyThen stay a NEET until your mom dies. Do you think people like their jobs? Of course not. But it’s about survival. How can you achieve something grand without money? Without experience? You either work for someone and have a stable income, or you work for yourself and take on huge responsibilities, not just for yourself, but for your company, your employees, and your livelihood. If you’re this hesitant, you’ll achieve nothing. Start being more proactive in life. Also, stop thinking about doing something grand, I can see you’re the type of person who gets blocked by such big goals. Many great things were made by people who didn’t think too much about them. Just chill out, don’t overthink, start taking action and great things will happen. Being stressed out about unrealistic long term goals is not productive at all
>How do I find out what kind of work do I want?By doing something or trying out a job you’ve never thought about. I once thought I would love working an office job, but it turned out it wasn’t for me. You’ll never be 100% sure if a job is for you until you actually start doing it
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>>34182567he cant pair bond
>tfw it's the hour where only low quality girls are postingsad
>>34182614yes he can, lmao.it's just a way to deter other males from stealing girls from him
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>>34182608I usually do turkey and cheese, but I'm out of turkey so I might do avocado toast with eggs! Trying to eat more protein in the morning so I don't get grumpy by 10 AM.Bread turned out delicious. Nomnom.
You can't add days to your life. Add life to your days.
of course you can, there even are multiple ways to do it. but since this is a low effort slidethread, i wont tell you any of them
>>34176221man i should take more drugs
>>34176221thank you :}
>>34177233>unalivingFaggot ass redditor>agonyHow did they get this information? Interviews?
You cant add days to your life but you can take them from others
Sometimes during my 20s I shifted from optimism about the world to realizing it's ALL doomed. Nothing I praised society and international organizations for is actually working for a positive outcome for the future population of this Doomed Earth.It's rotten to the core with humans ongoing being denied the fundamentals of existence such as clean water, proper nutrition and a faith to deal with the natural turns of life with. Originally we started out with all these rights. Then as they were formulated we lost them.All this energy and sacrificed lives that went into invention, prevention, curing, increased output - it's all for nothing. Nothing is better about more people stacked closer together for a shorter amount of time due to a unsustainable infrastructure supporting it.Getting the cash to buy the games is not what life is about.I'm thankful for not having brought life into this world and I'm regretful for not having realized what a living hell this world objectively is.How to erase and rewind this realization to not feel a need to blackpill those who are working for the world leaders goals?
>>34178867>Originally we started out with all these rights.says who? when?humans have been mistreating each other from the start. the right to proper nutrition was never a thing, the weak have always fed the strong.>realizing it's ALL doomedstoicism can be of some helpwhy give a fuck about things you can't change?
>>34178898>why give a fuck about things you can't change?If people knew they would not fall into the trap of praising the next bird flu vaccine or the next renewable energy scam.Like we did have renewable animals to pull ploughs and carts, they were fueled with renewable grass fertilized with their own manure.Then someone invented something unsustainable and it all went to hell. We're trapped having to fulfill the demands of society to keep this vicious cycle going.Many people completely unaware of the evil nature of it. Some willing to ostracize or otherwise silent the ones speaking the truth. I guess here is where the feeling of damnation enter. I can't disregard it. The propaganda about "being nice", "doing the right thing", "working hard" etc is everpresent. The end seems obvious: it must collapse to become good for real. But that's bad to wish for for obvious reasons.
you world is going in a great directionno more slavery/societal caste systems after thousands of yeardoctors just invented a way to fix spinal paralysisyou're a privileged white guy who didn't get enough pussy to see the brighter side of life
where can I find frens of my kind online? i want other 30 or more year old lonely guys, but guys who actually try, not just sit around and shit/doompost like the real incels. i want to get feedback from themabout my rock music im working on and they talk about whatever's going on in their life too, and we care about each other and know eachother by (online) name, trying to make eachother better. i want them to be like rightwing and christian, but not vicious or nazi about it, just antiwoke anticommie, pretty much what would've been "moderate" in the past. in fact i should never be talking politics with them, but I'll know just because they're there already, they're on my side. i know there must be plenty out there but where do they hang out online these days? i am so alone in this modern hellscape. some posts here are made by my kind but then they just vanish and new ones show up, community cant be here.i know of>here>some deader here spinoffs>reddit>saidit, dead now>x>communities>youtube comments>facebook>kiwinone is quite the fit. I'm going insane.
last bump hope someone has something. kiwifamrs seems nice but then i still have to hide it
>>34166223Form your own club. Be a leader, not a follower.I said club, not cult, just keep that in mind.
>>34175347considered it, but where do i get my followers? I can't promote it anywhere in real life, and I could promote it on the internet if I could find the type of place where that's allowed, but if I could do that, I'd already be home, and not need that would I?Besides that even if I were able to get it started then I have to fight the rest of the world that wants to shut it down or dox me or whatever. i have to find a place that is already there.
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>>34166703NTA, any harm if I add you?
Should I stay away from it?
>>34176593Mmm I really only use blue boards the post quality on NSFW is abysmal. >>34176827NTA but I mostly post on /ck/ and /tv/ because I love cooking and classic movies/celebrity talk. I also like /v/ and the related boards. Sometimes I like going on /int/ but since I’m from a small Euro country I feel like I’m namefagging and the mods on there are terrible. I wish there was a SFW random board desu >>34176832You should try going on random boards and making threads about things that interest you. The last thread I made was a really comfy twilight zone one on /tv/ asking for similar shows and discussing 60’s cinema.
The only board that will make you lose faith in humanity faster is /soc/
>>34176827I browse drawthreads and music threads, funny /vp/ threads and some silly meme threads on s4s :)
>>34176828Yeah well, the real world isn't really giving me anything or anyone to relate to si here I am
its only good for posting the most unrelated and spammy shit possible because no one gives a shit about that board besides degens or normal people
my bf m22 is bisexual and he sometimes watches gay porn and it kind of disturbs me i brought it up and he was uncomfortable but he did not stop i know he is not gay because of the way he is with me but it feels humiliating can i do anything about this or will he just do it in secret if i press too much? i think this might be the right place to ask something like this please give me sone honest advice or just the truth about it. im 100% sure he is not gay and just i bc the relationship for cover up i just dont like him watching gay porn.
>>34179964Bisexuals are like the middle class: both the lower class & the upper class hate them. Straights and gays who date bisexuals always run into trouble. If the bisexual man is dating a girl, he will crave gay shit. If the bisexual man dates a gay guy, he will crave hetero shit. Dating a bisexual is very much like owning a cat, the cat can't be kept indoors, it will always meow and meow and meow and meow and meow to get outside aka to go play the field and get dicked down. We are very much past the age where we could discuss or consider therapies to help treat what is essentially a straight guy with a fetish for male bodies, and correct them back into the heteronormative but those days are over in large part thanks to identity politics abd progressivism, so you're kinda fucked OP. Sort of. You would need to set hard-line boundaries that he is not permitted to goon to gay porn but if you do that he will resent you & will have even stronger cravings because it operates like an addiction (but shhh you gotta pretend the fetish addiction is a whole identity and 'orientation' or else you're a homophobe or something). You would be hoping that his love for you as an individual is there that he sees you as a soul, a human, not just a woman, but a soulmate and that he will agree to fight off the bisexual temptations to build something with you. If he cannot or will not do this it's best to end things for the well-being of both of you.Some maybe many bisexuals are out there who can keep a lid on the urges and can reciprocate and enjoy a full on relationship and marriage, without cheating or fucking around too. But whether not he's that kinda guy will be determined not on his 'orientation' but his overall temperament and values.
>>34179964>can i do anything about this or will he just do it in secret if i press too much?That's exactly what he'll do, yes. Why does it bother you so much?
Are there any sites like omegle anymore? That site was the best, I would set the tag to Snapchat and just chat with random people, then wed sext on snap, now every site asks for registration bullshit. Any sites you guys know of?
I'm a mech eng with 3 years work experience suffering from chronic depression. I'm currently stuck in a dead end CAD monkey 9to5 that is slowly killing my mind, and the pay is abysmal too so I want to get a new job. Problem is LinkedIn is like one of those fever dreams I kept on having while I had my major depressive events and I just can't seem to find an actual job in it. Job postings are vague, compensation is never declared, and I never get an answer.Am I just retarded? What am I doing wrong?My dream is to get a remote job so I can get the fuck out of the shithole I live in currently and go live in a place where life is worth living and houses are actually affordable, which I already identified with the issue being that there's no work around there hence the remote requirement.
My life is the story of trying my best, being able to do things well, but fucking up to the point where the end result is only 'satisfactory'. Work as esg consultant. >Thought my company was ok, slave consulting/slide deck mill but ok, pays average I guess>my manager legitimately lied to stonewall my promotion. Said gaps between promotions was minimum 18 months, and said the best we could work towards was a pay raise. >Turns out that was a fucking lie, multiple other people got promoted this round only 9 and 12 months into their role. I'm at 15+ Job hunting>Get a lot because I'm qualified massively on paper, but my AuDHDness turns a lot of people off even with practice and masking. Plenty of final rounds where I 'just didn't vibe' Dating>I've had relationships before, but it's been about 2 years since my last serious gf>Plenty of dates and short term relationships since, but they were either not a match emotionally, or didn't want to have sex (this is a big issue for me as I have a high libido)>dating new girls is draining due to the tism due to meeting new people even if I'm authentic, so I have on/off seasons. >currently at the end of an on season as I'm burnt out from the girl who I thought was basedComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34179583Sounds rough. What kind of advice were you looking for exactly?
cont. Home>older sister lets me live with her for free now (I paid a fair bit of her mortgage over the last 2 years as rent). >Family pressures me to live with her (we're Chinese). >sis is a fundamentalist Christian so I'm fucked if I try to bring a girl home even if my autistic ass can pull a girl>sister is a former schizo and is a control freak. She tries to be nice, but I can never really relax properly in my own house>old flatmate who was chill moved out>parents getting old, and into quack medicine (they think traditional Chinese herbs and shit will cure all ailments). They're fine now, but it's an escalating riskStartup shit>wrote multiple scientific whitepapers in my unique field, possibly one of the first 50 or so people in the world to talk about this, but have no idea how to get business out of it even though I've tried going to conferences and had a few convos with people about it >can't convey myself properly despite getting sales training for myself>trying to apply to fellowships to get funding for self projects>trying to apply to accelerators to get this started but tism makes for a bad combo with a lot of these. Plus see all of the above, am burnt out.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34179589Sorry, I had a pt two being written up. I guess general advice on how to cope I guess. Even targeted advice towards dealing with one of these problem areas would be appreciated anon. I genuinely feel ahedonistic. Nothing brings me much joy anymore, other than fantasies that my crypto moons and I can retire. It's like I know I have the skills and motivation to deal with each item one at a time, but it's all at the same time
I feel like a fucking sexless, useless wagie chud who's good for nothing because I can't balance all aspects of my life like an adult. Wtf do I even do? I'm this close to going to a hooker again just to feel something
My girlfriend said I am really bad at being a dominant man but I can't help it. I want to be sweet and loving and supportive to her but she just reads this as being a bitch. How do I adjust my mindset to stop being so corny?
>>34175216Maybe say that to her. Tell her you aren't interested in being an asshole and that's not what you have in mind for your relationship, so if that's what she wants she'll never get it from you. I think male willingness to self-objectify and feed into the toxic expectations of their gfs out of a fear of losing them is a big part of the problem.
>>34175557Yeah good idea, she likes to push this idea that I'm mean because I like it and I tell her no, I'm mean because you don't listen or consider anything and it frustrates me. Like she'll do inconsiderate/stupid things and then wonders why I'm ready to put a foot up her ass (I wont) it's tiresome cause it saps my energy making the problem worse cause now she's upset I dont wanna do anything with her.
Just do what you did when you were single. Women want to be an accessory to your life not the center or driver. Women, just like dogs, get very stressed if their male doesn't make his own decisions or fails do anything. It's just instinctual, and not something they mentally choose to do.Men get into a relationship and they dump their responsibilities and independence on their woman like she's their mom, they hate that. This includes the little responsibilities too, like choosing where to eat or doing your laundry. Basically, women want to do literally nothing for you except get fucked, pampered, and worshipped by you.
>>34179142Women considering household chores beneath them or blowing it up like it's some herculean task is really irritating. I as a single guy do all that shit for myself and I don't have some martyr complex over it.
>>34179142And I won't be that cuck that you're describing, I'll calories a girl and be her man child and she will be my mom that I fuck, and still I'll have my own life but she will take on the responsibility of fucking me and letting me touch her constantly, and to coddle me and cuddle me and wrap around me and stroke and pet me and love me. And then if she wants to she can also cook and clean. But she doesn't have to do those two. The rest of it I can do myselfI had this with my ex of 5 years and she did it gladly. I can't wait to have it again.
How do I quit 7oh without rehab?
>>34179551Reach out to ur doctor and be honest, there is something they can prescribe (i think). Not a med professionalt. Younger brother got addicted, gave him a script, and told him he is treating 8 others the same
>>34179551As with all physical addictions, taper. Tapering means taking less and less slowly (over the course of weeks/months). What dose do you currently consume per day? (specifically in mg if possible, read the packaging and such).>>34179704>prescribeSuboxone. It's used for typical opioid withdrawal treatment. The point is to agonise the receptors but not provide substantial effects (so no high) while allowing you to live life while tapering.
What are the best games to meet people in? Bonus points if people generally use text chat, not VC
I've only been seeing for a few weeks, told her that I'm still upset about my grandfather's death and she responded telling me that he's been reincarnated as a water buffalo and saying some shit about using healing crystals. I'm not wanting to continue seeing this woman but it's honestly put me off the whole idea of therapy. I don't want to be put on another long waiting list just to see someone who has no idea what they're talking about.
>>34177901get a male therapist. one of the first things they ask is do you prefer a male or female therapist. Men are more productive in getting to actual life improvement and help and practical advice.
>jewish pseudoscience created by sigismund shlomo freud to genocide whites and nothing else>causes irreparable damage*shocked pikachu face*
>>34179560You should speak to a psychiatrist about your jewish white genocide ideas. I think they'd really be open to listening and maybe helping you.
>>34179582Ok kike.
>>34179582Maybe getting stabbed through the eye and into the prefrontal lobe would make you feel better, you mentally ill demon kike.
I'm a painter and recently got kicked out of my storage unit for using it as a workspace (to paint in).I called around and every storage company has a policy against "actively working" in a storage unit.There are rentable art studios, but they start around $50 per hour, vs. the $49/mo I was paying for the unit.i thought about building a structure out in the woods, but it's a serious crime to destroy public land, and my idea would qualify as that. I asked my neighbors if I could rent their garages, but they are all using them for storage.i really need something 8'x5' with a flat level floor, power outlet, and private.Budget is $300/mo
>>34178928first off good for you for making art. I love you OP. Unless your art is shit. Don't show me your art in case it's shit. second off, ask all of your neighbors if they know anybody. if that fails, make a bunch of facebook/craigslist/etc ads. your best bet is someone's garage.
>>34179008thank you for the advice and kind words. I think you're right about a garage being the key here. I'm seeing some condo-style garages, and it's great because I can access them 24/7 without bothering someone in an attached home with garage door opener noise.i didn't realize I could make ads requesting it, so that idea is pure gold and exactly what I was looking for.Lucky to have come across a fellow art lover so quickly!
Can't you just rent out a shitty office space? I see some locally for like 400 a month im sure there is cheaper.
>>34178928Rent another storage space and be more discreet.
>>34179068it's about the same here. 33% over budget but I could always raise the prices on the paintings.>>34179431there's only so much I can do. everything is electronic access these days and the computer tattles that I've been there 10+ hours each day and flags me as a worker
