>I misspoke >ppl do it all the time in convo>it’s fine to make mistake >brain: no>logically slipping up a convo happens to everyone>brain: no>i bring the mood down>relationship will be harm in the long run>im a failure>brain: yes u r a fail—>attempted counting to shut brain up>brain: no>panicked>die in misery the whole day>ppl probably see thatComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34033925>>34033934So the burning question you may have is;>Why would a therapist lie? Why do they sell an u attainable expectation to people struggling with anxiety or depression? Is it on purpose? Are they really so evil?Answer is no. Answer is they're not evil, answer is they are like AI chat bots. They only know how to kiss ass and validate and make wishy washy feel good platitudes. They do this because they feel it's the safest way to make $$$. That's all.
>>34033943>Listen to 4chanSometimes. Listen to yourself first of all is what I'd say.>Therapy is a scamAbout 80% of the time, yes.>I will allow myself to feelThat's the spirit. Now we're talking
>>34033944I am aware. This is why I ghosted majority of them. Sitting there is like free money for them while my problem got worse baka
>>34033947Very good. And I say you did well to ghost them. Because you know it felt bullshit and you acted accordingly. So for things like anxiety, play it similarly, act out the anxiety. Act out every emotion that comes to you and you'll be alright. The reason modern society freaks out and says 'No' to this is because we are in a low-trust society that does not even trust people to have much less express their own emotions. They're neurotically worried about how it might encourage homicide or suicide or school shootings or some shit. But they never stop to consider the emotions aren't the problem, it's the suppression of them and the bullshit pretending to be 'happy' 24/7 that sinks souls into hell from the weight of the collective deceit. Good health to you, and may God bless you.
>>34033663They've done studies on this. They stage a scene where someone says/does something cringy, and then survey the witnesses.1/3 didn't even notice because they were immersed in their own dramas1/3 noticed but then got right back to their own more interesting dramas1/3 noticed, laughed or cringed, and then got back to their own dramas.When questioned again a week later, almost no one in the last group remembered the incident.The point is that YOU are the only one still stewing over the embarrassing moment. No one else cares or even remembers
helloim 23, virgin, never even held hands with a boy or had my first kiss. i live at home with my parents. i also have no friends.i don't even make eye contact with men at my job, i desperately want to get married and start a family but im afraid that a guy will think im too retarded to marry me so ill end up forever alone. i cant hold a conversation either.i overheard my parents talking about me last night. my mom is afraid that i will never find someone. i heard my dad sigh and agree. why am i a disappointment.also, am i a retard for thinking tequila joseph is hot
>>34031250make up is not that hard when you already learn the foundation of it, so just ask your mother to teach you, and thats a great time to bond with your parents so you hit 2 bird with 1 stones
>>34030035the wall isn't real. it's real for 18-28 year olds that post here, but when you're that age, there will be older men that are fine with it
>>34032237>Thinks that user activity on a scandinavian hackey sack forum full of autistic virgins is reflective of real lifeYou must acquire the sensation of grass
>>34030035Are you Australian? My situation is similar
>>34034399aside from finding Joseph hot
I'm 20 years old, I got a job offer in a state halfway across the country (US), I want to go but the only thing holding me back is my parents. I don't have a very stable relationship with them, in fact I wanted this job specifically to leave them behind, but when I told them that I got the job, they started trying to either guilt trip me into not going or tried to give me reasons why I'd basically fucking die if i live by myself because, to them, I'm like a baby that can't survive without their help. I need to tell them that im going to leave before I leave due to certain factors but I don't know how to go about that without having to deal with that whole conversation.Also, as an aside, how do I deal with the fact that my youthful years are slowly coming to a close and the fact that I had a horrible childhood and basically had my youth raped from me (another reason why I want to leave, I can't deal with living in the same house as the people that ruined my childhood). I watch twink porn just to catch a glimpse of what it would be like to be a youthful and virile male engaging in an act of communion with another healthy, beautiful young boy. Its that bad.
>>34032565Leave. Nothing will ruin your life like toxic parents. It's worse than any drug or bad relationship.
>>34032565people used to have to stab people with a spear in the military while wearing a metal hat. I'm sure you'll be fine
can you afford to live there? is the job stable? if you lose the job will you have to live with them again?if you can get away and stay away then leave. it will likely be good for you. if you can't yet then hunker down and wait. Just don't be stupidalso stop watching porn that's not helping anything.you're still young. if you wanna have casual sex go ahead, it's not hard. Just be careful
i'm 34 years old and still tied to my parents. granted, they are wealthy and always been good to me but i've come to realize my aversion to independence has negatively affected me for my development, such that i'm finally considering jobs that would require me to move rather than those around my area. no point in leaving now because my job is 10mins from my parent's home.if i were you OP, with the mindset i have now, i would get all the logistics down first and then head out for that job. you don't have to stay there forever, give it a 1 year trial but at least get that experience of living alone so you know you can do it again for the rest of your life.
>>34032565Go. Don't look back. If you make mistakes along the way, you'll survive them
Whats the point?>father was clinically mentally ill but absent (except from lawsuit against me and threatening letters)>mother had ptsd from psycho dad and I grow up with her constantly chimping out>have a cyst that destroys my upper spine when im 13 and im in the hospital for nearly two years>probably a alcoholic>unattractive on account of my height>all friendships feel hollow>have mediocre grades due to alcoholism and skipping school so work 12 hour shifts at a low skill job>only person I ever truly felt loved by (my grandmother) slipped and hit her head and died in after a 2 week coma recently21 now and i just dont get the point, i have nothing happy to look back on, nothing happy to look forward too. I have no family to turn to, I have no friends to turn to. I know i won't get a gf, I might get a carrer if study and improve my old grades which is what im doing but whats even the point of that? To get money?I work out, I read, ive tried god, ive tried therapy but nothing helps the unavoidable fact my life just feels pointless. The only thing I moderately enjoy is reading, but now there is barely time for that.
>>34033235op just stand up walk to the bathroom look in the mirrow, you are the point, no you family no your friends is you life, just liive you life no the enviroment around taked and impose the rules, live you life how you enjoy more
I think the sooner you realise that life really has no meaning, the sooner you can get on with your life. And I don't mean that in a nihilistic way, but just in an objective way - we exist to exist, so may as well, right? If anything, the meaning of life is to enjoy it. I think there's a lot to be said for doing things that you enjoy, or creating goals (studying, etc.). I'm a similar age, and I won't profess to understand your specific circumstances, but having something to work towards is definitely what's kept me going for the past few years. It's been studying for me, even though there's mixed opinions on whether there'll even be any job opportunities by the time I'm done in a year's time. Kinda depends on what you're studying I guess, but that's besides the point. Working 12hr shifts with no end goal would definitely take it out of me, but having the end goal of saving for a holiday, or a house, or an apartment, or even just getting by until you finish your degree, can really help.I think, if you can help/afford it, spend less time at work and more time reading, working out, etc. for the above reasons. If you can't though, oh well, still do as much as you can be arsed doing. Just make sure to make time for yourself, mindless wageslaving is probably one of the more harmful things I've realised you can do to yourself.The upshot for me, is that the more you get caught up in the "why"s of why you should keep going, the harder it gets. if you can just keep going without really considering why, that's probably the best way to go about it. It worked for me, I guess. Maybe it'll work for someone else.
>>34033235Gee, your life is really rough. No wonder you've done nothing with it.
where did you find your partner/fwb/crush?no school/work please, i wfh
>>34026570I'm my head
>>34026570Tinder in 2018, still with her, 7 years. Tinder was free at this time, the goody ol time
>>34026570i met him on /soc/ funnily enough, lmao
OP here, seems like it's mostly all online, i do really bad on dating apps>>34030147dumbest fucking post, i said WHERE
>>34026570Every good romantic relationship I've had was with someone I already knew, as classmate, workmate, neighbor, friend, etc. We only got romantic after already knowing each other.Every online, fix-up, blind date, etc has been a failure.
How do I deal with dangerous people who are stronger and smarter than everyone else? They're much heavier physically and always think in five steps. How do I deal with this while I'm studying? They attack where no one is around And they are extroverts who control the narrative of everything.They have better academic performance due to genetics because they spend all their time partying.
>>34034284Don't be where they are.
> Get SSDI > Want to work eventually> Vagrant constantly with no friends familyis there anywhere else I can go besides the homeless shelters
I'm gonna be traveling for new years, staying at a hostel known for parties. How do I prevent pic related from happening again just like every other party I go to? I'd also like to maximize my chance of losing my virginity. Hell, even just a kiss would be a massive victory.>just talk to peopleEveryone's in their own groups already >talk to people who are alone It's only other incels who are
>>34028404In that case it's better if you don't get any attention at all. Your goals are based on lust and you won't be at peace with yourself until you let them go.
>>34027749Not worth it.
>>34030319What isn't? Having fun and being surrounded by social opportunities?If I wanted peace and quiet I'd just stay at home
>>34027749>Everyone's in their own groups alreadyYou joint a group and contribute to the conversations. If you're at the party you are part of the supragroup.
Any tips?
Yes I know this is disgusting but I'm trying to get my shit together. Recently I walked into my room and the smell of cum was overwhelming so I realized I have to do something about it. I usually just cum on my bed, couch or clothes, so obviously I will clean them but is there anything else I can do?
>>34023776>I usually just cum on my bed, couch or clothes
>>34023776I can imagine that OP just walks around in public like that. You're on your break standing at a line in a Subway, trying to get your sandwich and shit. Suddenly this man with long greasy hair in sweatpants and a dirty jacket comes in smelling like ass abd semen. Gross.
>>34023776Air freshener , open windows, and if those do not help then you get an air purifier.
>>34030258Still smells better than your average Mudslime or Pajeet.
>>34025771no its absolutely awesome and you should continue being awesome like that, ur wrong
Without much suffering I do a lot of sport and don't want to give up on that.Is there some way of life which would cause a heart attack (no stroke) after a few months of constant exposure without making me look awful or sick on the outside ?No drugs nor Alcohol not jogging please.
EXTREME sports?
>>34034170Too much work for that, and besides, dangerous sports can leave you paralyzed for life.
gambling? kaiji style ?
>>34034120Eating really healthy
What's life after divorce for 34 years old man?Assuming no kids.How bleak things are?
>>34030603>Prime of your lifeCope>>34030627Even if you're in good shape young women can still tell you're a fucking old man who should have had a family by now. Girls who are actually ok with an age gap or are genuinely turned on by older men are getting rarer and rarer these days, our culture is too youth and sex obsessed for older men to be seen as viable.Also be prepared for the endless barrage of "why are you single at your age?"
>>34030728>Long story short, after marriage she wanted to get pregnant so sex stopped and only on her fertile days, which killed all the fun for me.>So now she wants to get IVF which I refused, to which she responded that "sex now hurts her" and I'm too rough with her and too big for her.>This happened in the first 2 years in our marriage, and we didn't have any sex in the last year or so.She lost attraction for you, sorry about that dude. She'd probably put up with a miserable life "settling" for you for stability and company's sake but she's not getting wet for you the same way when she first met. Very common but still sad.>>34030748Also this. There's no such thing as marital rape, if you're a Christian it's literally a sin to deny yourself to your husband or wife if they need to coom. Of course at the world has gotten more Judeo-secular, this has been forgotten and even seen as "wrong" somehow.
Dating in the west is grim. Seek greener pastures in other countries. Or just live alone. Both options work.
>>34032617>>34032684To hit your wife is to communicate with her, not to damage her or to fulfil one's ego. Women can say some of the nastiest things, even more so the one you have given your heart to.
>>34030728Dude you need to ask yourself how the fuck you chose to marry someone that is such a mismatch for you. Divorce might be necessary but won't make you a better judge of character.
Should I even bother with girls like this?>You: Hey, so you're looking for a boyfriend?>Stranger: Yes! But only if he likes the same stuff as me
>>34027419>girls like this? those are carefully manicured fantasies drawn up by lonely losers. they do not exist IRL
>>34028829Yes they do
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>>34030465lol your mother... that guy was 100% fucking his mom back in the day
>>34030465Lol
I'm a 3'4'' (yes, 3'4'') woman and, while I am very attractive, not many men actually approach me. I get viewed like a small child.Is there any way that I can make myself look more adult?
>>34031917You are going to have to resign yourself to doing the approaching, I'm afraid.Can I be incredibly nosey and ask what specific form of shortness your body has?
>>34032100DONT FALL FOR IT OP HE WANTS TO KNOW IF YOU HAVE THE DAME PROPORTIONS AS MIDNA FROM THE LEGEND OF ZELDA OR ROUGE THE BAT OR POPPY FROM LEAGUE. HE WANTS TO KNOW IF YOU ARE A SHORT STACK AAAAAAHHHHH
>>34031917I would absolutely smash a hot dwarf. Im sure youll find someone else that will. Lots of dudes are shameless. I wouldn't worry so much.
>>34031917Dark hair with a grey streak
>>34031917Stilts
Does your small penis keep you from taking yourself seriously too? Have you found a way to deal with it? How can I take myself seriously when I piss on my balls?
>>34033507Fourth from the left is good shit
I'm like 5.5"x5" and I want to kill myself. That's smaller in Western countries. Even if it's "average", being average is fucking horrible. Who wants to be average?
>>34032142There is absolutely no correlation whatever between race and penis size.
>>34032189Average is 5.2" length and 4.6" girth. You can lol all you like, that's just a fact.
8.3" x 6" and 6ft tall with visible abs but no gf and too depressed to even try anymore. The only gfs I had only gave me a a fews bjs then we broke up a few months in. What does sex feel like, bros?
Okay, I know this is a longshot. An extremely long... shot... but...Where can I find women that would love to date a sex offender?Maybe even get off on dating one?A dating site for sex offenders?
>>34020952The irony in this is that 99% of women are actually sex offenders they just avoid being charged because female worship and pussy privilege.
>>34031180I'm not giving up, goddammit, I'm just saying it's been a year.
>>34030270Negative zero even
>>34020952On the darkweb there surely are some, even that baby fucker singer who got killed got women to offer him babies somehow.
>>34031180yes, never give up bro LOL
