Image not really related.Dunno if it's the right board for that but whatever. Anyone has an advice on how to either:a) Stop cutting yourselfb) Go deeper.I'm a pussy. I admit it. I don't want to commit just yet, family and all that. I feel like stopping or going deeper than cat scratches is the only two ways to go ATP. If I don't do either it just feels attention seeking. Idfk. Not trying to went or anything, just genuinely looking for advice, but considering the topic I apologize if I chose the wrong board (not a 4chan user).
>>34779824>a) Stop cutting yourselfgo to therapy and a psychiatrist first of all. its likely that those alone will help>b) Go deeper.the fact that you asked this retarded question proves that u can be helped! there is no special method that all the severe self harmers are keeping from u. ur just a pussy basically. ur brain stops u from hurting urself too badly because u dont have experience and ur not desensitized that much. if u wanted to, u could kill urself with a butter knife, its just ur brain stopping u. there is nothing else to italso u need to be 18 to post here
>>34779824its attention seeking. call 911 or sewerslide hotline. seek help.if you want to feel pain without showing the rest of society you're a fag just knuckle punch your thigh instead and you will get the adrenaline from that.
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My friend has taken over the freindgroup I've spent years with and has left me out of hangouts for months now, it all started when I went on vacation and he decided that he wanted to take over the friend group I've spent years reforming and shaping, he's left me in the dark for all of this but I stalked him online and found out that he's been going on hangouts and doing stuff without me, and advice on how I should proceed? I'm a very private person and I don't appreciate him doing this as I've invited him with open arms in this group that has survived alot of ups and downs
>>34777019You need back up friend groups bro
>>34782936is it necro saturday?
>>34777019do nothing. why cant he hsvr friends?
so ur mad because ur friend is friends with your friends? is he not allowed to be friends with ur friends?
>>34777191I know that feeling Anon, but the only thing you can do is move on. relationships are always a two-way street
Im obsessed with gaping my girlfriends asshole.I love fucking it open and then shooting my cum into her pink open hole. If I’m lucky, she lets me do this once a month. She loves normal vaginal sex with me but kinda just does anal to please me and goes kinda silent and lifeless while I do this.Anyone else love this? How do I get her to enjoy it more? She has, in the past used her vibrator during anal and cummed from that. But never really tries with that anymore. Can she ever enjoy anal? Ive done it probably 30 times with her.
Hey, that's funny. I suddenly need to ejaculate.
>>34779243Well I know before me she did anal with a guy who really liked it. When she first met me she maintained she didn't like it and when it did it the first time, she always said "you've done it now, thats it".I looked on her phone back in the day and saw messages between him and her talking about anal and how much he loved it and her encouraging him. I saw her messaging some other guy (who she never slept with) but was asking her about her anal experiences. She said she has used toys and had a dick in her ass and came and had a guy rub her clit with his dick in her ass.I confronted her about this, and she said she never wanted to do it but it was his thing and she was younger and experimenting to see if she liked it. She said she never did but did it to keep him happy at the time. Didn't see him for long and ghosted him because he gave her the ick. They did it about 2-3 times in the first weekend (a tinder blind date) and then 3-4 times the second weekend, twice in once day. He also made her sniff jungle juice while doing it once too. She continued to talk to him from July 2018 until Jan 2020 (I've seen when she ghosted him), but maintains she didn't like this. She didn't always do anal and kinda tapered off seeing him (different towns 5 hours apart) to once a month after the first two months. She reckons it was about 6 times total. I've done the math, judging by their messages and its probably more like 10-13 times total over 6 months but she denies this.I think this is bullshit, she liked it and was turned on. It's too much to do in a short space of time for her to just be doing it to keep him happy. I feel like I' am not enough knowing all this. She gets heaps upset talking about this and gets angry that I read her messages. I dgaf, I'd rather know the truth. I've been with her for 5 years and this still bothers me.
>>34782039I meant July 2019***
>>34782039Just keep fucking her in the ass. Fill her colon full of hot cum every chance you get. It's better that she is kinda lifeless when you do it -- make it part of her submitting to you and your desires. Bind her hands even. You just gotta fuck her pink starfish more and more until she gets more used to the fact that you are making her into your Anal Cum Slut Whore.
As someone who dated a girl who actually preferred anal over vaginal sex I can in fact say that they exist. My ex got into it in her early teens thanks to porn exposure and ended up finding out she enjoyed being anally penetrated better than vaginal penetration. When we started dating she almost exclusively engaged in anal sexual activity. The crazier thing is that she had no visible damage or prolapse despite having been inserting objects up her ass for 5+ years prior to us dating and could easily fist herself. She also almost never used lube unless she was being fisted or was inserting large objects. Not my image but she was able to ride conditioner bottles like those as if they were regular dildos. I genuinely miss her so much.
You know how when you live in an apartment and the landlord and his crew evict somebody that has just abandoned all their stuff, and then you see all of their stuff right outside the building for everybody to see? And their stuff just sits there and you have to stare at it for days and stuf?Is that a sign that you're living in a ghetto?When I say stuff, I'm talking every fucking thing. The sofa, the furniture, the bedroom mattresses, bags and bags of clothes, the TV, the stereo, the pots and pans... EVERY FUCKING THING...
>>34773090I like trawling expensive neighborhoods on Big Trash day. You find a higher class of rubbish
>>34781642>You find a higher class of rubbishAh I see you're a man of culture...
>>34773090mind ur buisness faggot
>>34783203>3 day old thread>op nowhere to be found
>>34783206>SegaThe Dreamcast was my favorite console
I turned 40 last week. I still can't believe it.... 40... I mean what am I supposed to do with my life now? Kill myself?
Boring old fart here40 isn't even middle age anymore. Anyone alive today has to consider the very good chance of living to 100. More than half of your life may be yet to come, and you had better start thinking about how to fill it.My 40s turned out to be the richest, fullest period in my life. I accomplished successes professionally, had more friends than before, had an active and enjoyable sex life, and had new adventures in travel, hobbies, education and other life-enriching things. I would have missed out on so much if I had decided I was as good as dead at 40 and just shui down as some anons here suggest.
>>34778073Cope. If you time was so valuable and your life so great you wouldn't be here reading our shitposts.
>>34779787exact opposite is true there's so much good that even reading these posts did nothing to drag it down
>>34779795Your time has zero value dude and your life is not as great as you would have us believe.
Fucking 40...
>be me, disabled light skinned black woman>go on facebook dating and cute white/latino guy likes me>omg>start texting and eventually find out we have similar interests>move to Instagram and we soon start flirting>schedule a date to Round1>we play project diva and street fighter together>we go outside Round1 and he asks to hold my hand, i accept>we visit a few stores like hot topic, >feels nice>we hug and then leave>last text agreeing that he had fun>few days later a no responseit's been months and I've felt completely broken. I've never felt so much affection from a male my age before and right as I fell in love he left because im retarded i guess
>>34782652just message him. at worst, you'll never talk to him again anyways so what is there to lose?if he ghosts you or isn't interested, it will also give you closure and the ability to move on.i know it's usually the guys job to initiate, but if you spent 10 minutes reading here, every "i want a gf" post starts out with "im shy and autistic. i dont know what to do."standards have changed.is there a flaw to the argument im making that you see?
>>34782659i don't know if internet causes autism, but there's a correlation that makes me think its contagious.because everyone is terminally online as well as covid, people are a lot more socially retarded than they used to be. guys are scared to initiate. it's such a frequent theme here that it's the cliche roadblock.who really knows whether he wants to take it to the next level? might as well ask. don't you want to move on past this? or are you just gonna give it time, since its already been weeks?i don't think you did anything wrong from what im reading unless there's something you haven't said.
>>34780754Time to try again girl I dunno why you would get attached after meeting them once wait till you go through it 13 times and then get ghosted months into a relationship.t. moid
>>34780754You can't "fall in love" after one date you stupid faggot.
>>34783500you can fall in love with a look
And before you try to twist my words, no I'm not a basement-dweller and I go outside plenty.One of my hobbies is going to arthouse cinemas, been going for 3 years, you can probably imagined what happened. (nothing)An artist in my city decided to do a boat concert (picrel) as a promotion for his new album. Plenty of people, but dafuq should I do? All these people that were there either went in pairs or in groups.My point is, if you "go outside" and expect something to happen, you'll be pretty disappointed.
>>34783181>>father interrupting me for talking too slowly/stuttering or being disinterested in talking with me or being a cunt in general>>sometimes talked with mother, but it was often her talking most of the time>>kinda ignored at family meetingswoah, that's like literally me, or something
>>34783192you can definitely meet people and socialize with strangers before a concert. you probably won't end up making any friends but plenty of people go to concerts alone. to be honest i rarely go to concerts with friends these days since none of my friends who are into the music I'm into live near me anymore.
>>34783227>you probably won't end up making any friendsthen what's the point
>>34783257you shouldn't go to concerts to meet people. you go to a concert for the sake of going to a concert. socializing is just a secondary thing you do to pass the time and have some more fun. or to practice your social skills while you're there.
>>34783321>you go to a concert for the sake of going to a concert.that's what I did, but it still hurts seeing all those hot chicks and cool dudes around me having fun with someone else. Yeah it's a chuddish perspective, but that's it.
I've had vanilla sex with a girl multiple times and I want to do something different to spice things up. Any suggestions?
>>34780884Start simply, with different positions. Ask her what she likes or fantasizes about. Do not just spring something weird on her without warning
>>34780884Try chocolate sex.
>>34780884bondage, outfits, massage, etc
>>34780884Eat her ass
>>34780884>Any suggestions?Yeah. Don't.I'm a big fan of BDSM, but it works for me because I already know exactly what I want before trying it. If you aren't already fantasising about doing something, don't try exploring it. It won't go well.
this girl at work, she's attractive and she has a boyfriend outside of work. she has complimented a jacket of mine, my haircut, offered and put fries in the kitchen oven for me when i said they were cold. invited me to hang out at the front desk with her and her friend when i spent 90 minutes with her the day previously. i passed by one day and i didn't say hi cause she had her back turend and was working, and when she turned around to finally see who it was (me) she was like hi <my name> okay then (at this point i was already walking up the stairs when she said hi, i got to halfway up the stairs, and she calls out to me, and i look over the railing, and she's looking up smiling and she is like i said hi!!! and then another time i passed by, didn't say hi and the friend was like why didn't you say hi to us, bad morning? and before i could answer the friend was like oh she treated your ass!!! (so i guess the hot girl said something about me/roasted me but i didn't hear it) and i was like i had a bad morning, and she was like so did i <my name> but i still said good morning to you. and im thinking to myself, im not her boyfriend. i feel like her behavior is sus for a girl in a relationship. what gives? what does she want? two girls here liked me before and i didn't make a move so wondering if i should do something here. idk guys help ive never even been on a date before and was going to forget foids entirely because I never matched with girls I was attracted too on dating apps. she also asked to see a picture of my sister and called her cute and my family.
>>34783067so what would you do? >>34783080i would never match with a girl that looks this girl on a dating app and i don't go out much only to the gym grocery store and occasionally i go out with friends every few weeks. what would you do if you were me? do you think i have a chance to fuck her? honestly im not sure if she is relationship material but yeah
>>34782924This better not be another cuck fantasy thread.>>34783109>so what would you do?Isn't it obvious?
>>34783117how would you go about it cause she literally works at the front desk with her best friend. also no this isn't a fantasy. on one hand i feel like she hasn't given me a clear sign but on the other hand i feel like she is acting in ways she shouldn't with a boyfriend. she shouldn't get butthurt about me not saying hi.
>>34783159I would just get more and more flirty and talkative with her slowly. If she doesn't want to cuck her boyfriend with you, she will eventually say no. Otherwise, your sign is clear.Tell me, is her boyfriend a manlet?
>>34783109i wouldn't touch someone with a ten foot pole that was doing what she's doing, but if you're ram forward with the little head...just play stupid, and ignore that she has a boyfriend and ask if she wants to go out for a walk or coffee (or whatever you think she might like) next time you talk to her.if she brings up her boyfriend, just say you forgot or some shit. an ex taught me how much you can get away with by playing dumb especially if someone likes you. i'd had a dozen speeding tickets by my early 20s and i got to watch her get out of one by playing stupid and acting like she didn't see the speed limit.
Daily reminder that doping is bad, and (You) shouldn't do it.
>>34782333>implying marijuana is healthykek i was really replying to a teen with 0 reading comprehension all along
>>34782392Mood swings are another symptom of the emotional dependency you have on marijuana. The tendency to lash out at people when they don't respond favorably contributes to many antisocial and even criminal behaviors that do alot more harm to society than diabetes.If my reply sounded absurd to you, consider that you raised concern about the unhealthiness of sugar only to insist it wasn't motivated in any way by the motive to make marijuana seem healthier by comparison. That's an absurd approach to arguing, and it's unfortunate to see people eagerly protect a substance which is used almost exclusively to harm the user and those around them.It's not too late to be sober, just saying.
>>34780543drugs are foundational to our society and culture. if you don't do drugs, none of this shit will ever make sense.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=R3pfsUgtL9A&ra=m
>>34782506so you're saying you HATE waffles now
>>34783139what am i even reading anymore?
Seriously considering going to an escort, pros, cons? I don’t think I should but I’m so fucking devastated I just want a girl to get my rocks off.
>>34781019This is one area where you get what you pay for. Quality of experience goes WAY up with price.
>>34781540Honestly what I figured, which is another thing holding me back. Price and the fact that it’s not real sting equally as bad.
>>34782131it's not worth it. sex is over rated if you don't love the person.
>>34781108>jerked off and immediately felt better lol, like I don’t need the hooker.this happens to me eveytime i browse hookers lol
>>34781019>I don’t think I shouldThen don't. If you ever decide that you should, *then* do it. But if you think you shouldn't, it's not going to make you feel good.
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>>34786218Plap
my soulmate probably died fifty thousand years ago
>>34786261its rare but yes, two good friendships came from that board, one i knew for almost 2 years. can’t say anything regarding romance tho.
>>34786205Tanks, sex? We have sex now?
>>34786265You're right, that's a better descriptor actually. I was conflating "normie" with basic things like social experience, outgoingness, etc but the form it takes in the /soc/ types is a mutated one anyway
Hey, it’s been 3 days since i noticed i had this black thing under my foot, at first i thought it was ink or something but it doesn’t go away when i shower and scrub, just to make sure, it’s not my vein right ?
>>34779455Keep watch of it, if it grows go to a doctor, it's most likely just a talon noir or intraepidermal hematoma (blood trapped under skin). Veins aren't that visible on soles
>>34779455it is aids
>>34779455From here it looks like dirt or oil. Soap, warm water and some stiff rubbing should get rid of it.
>>34779455It's close to your main toe, so it could be toe-main poisoning
>>34779455Buy one of those plastic grip handle nail brushes from amazon (the colorful ones that come in a pack of 4) and use hot water and dawn dish soap to scrub the fuck out of your foot. You’re welcome.
I've never really considered myself socially awkward. If anything, I'm pretty nonchalant. I don't randomly walk up to people because I don't like invading someone's space, but if I see something interesting or have a reason to talk, I'll approach anyone, guys or girls.The thing I've noticed is that whenever I approach women, they almost always seem really distant. At first I figured maybe that's just their personality, so I didn't think much of it. But then I see the same women talking to my friends, laughing, asking questions, carrying conversations, and their whole attitude is completely different.When they talk to me, it feels like I ask a question, they give the shortest possible answer, and that's it. The conversation dies immediately. I get the "please leave me alone" vibe, so... I leave them alone.The weird part is I don't think I'm a particularly boring person. I skate, make music, I'm a CS major, I have a job, I play games, I fish, I go camping, and I've been told by plenty of people that I'm not ugly. Even friends who usually roast me have straight-up said I'm a decent-looking guy. I take care of how I dress and how I look too.After almost every interaction with a woman, I end up replaying it in my head hundreds of times wondering if I said something weird or came across the wrong way. I genuinely can't find anything. My tone is the same one I use with everyone else, and I don't think I'm acting creepy or anything.So I don't really get it. Why does it feel like women immediately become distant with me while acting completely different around other people? Am I missing something obvious here, or has anyone else experienced this?
>>34776179the decorum of socializing today is vastly different than any other time in history.since smart phones in the late 2000s its the first time socializing is dictated by internet standards over anything real.as much as id like to say its just women its men too. its fucked.you're probably just digging in the wrong places. sadly the dating apps are how people find relationships now and past that i'd look for third spaces people meet and look for others as opposed to, "i just want to go home with my matcha and browse netflix, please stop talking to me".its like when you are in a roleplaying game and instead of a dwarf hitting you up at the dock asking how're the fish, sharing an ale, instead you have some discord fag talking about setting up rules out of character first. people aren't just organically engaging but setting the parameters of how to engage. its retarded but the standards changed.
>>34776215only use tinder when cope-vacationing in another country realize blaming "society" is massive cope and changes nothing literally every girl I interact with acts the exact same way statistically it's impossible for me to be right and all of them to be wrong must be a me problem only true wizard left in the entire friend groupHow cooked am I and what am I doing wrong, anon?
>>34776286like i said in the other threads, third spaces.cut off all online bullshit, vidya, and go outside. hiking clubs, aa, alanon, yoga clubs, book clubs, library, church (even church shopping). women go to these events, and men often don't.you'll have to do a lot of testing to see what fits but it'll be like school putting you back in an environment where the opposite sex even exists.i dont know about being a passport bro. im sure it'd work in the Philippines but then you may as well not lie to yourself about what you've become.i try to avoid dating apps but many people still find others on them even if they aren't fair and broken by design. i have a buddy that fucked half a town on it every work day off and even though his teeth were fucked, he was skinny and had enough southern retardation to make it work.
>>34776179You have to remember that the majority of women are socially-retarded and also act weird around men that they like, just like men tend to. Just look at all the reels these people post of how they act around people in whom they have no sexual interest (charismatic, smiling and chatty) and around people whom they want to have sex (cold, stony, glaring). Life is a lot, lot, more enjoyable when you stop trying to interpret women. I know it's easier said than done but at least try to ignore it.
>>34778268This is true
What's a good strategy for setting aside money for annual big-ticket expenses? Talking like homeowner's insurance and property tax.
>>34779220Have more than one bank account, with different functions.
>>34779220Break up the expense by month and set aside a little bit more than you need each month
>recurringly paying a tax>in order to perpetually occupy a space>that you only paid for one timeThe most bitch of taxation.
>>34779220The two examples you give almost certainly have pay-monthly options, and your bank almost certainly has a "direct debit" or "bill-pay" option, so you can arrange to have the insurance or tax money automatically taken out of your account each month, bypassing your involvement. Just make sure there's enough in the account each month.
>>34779220A good way to think about it is not "how much should I set aside" but rather "how much am I able to save while still being reasonable". Saving is like a muscle, it takes practice to get good at it. People always screech about how buying an ice coffee every day is NOT the reason they are poor. And they are right. But its a poor-person-habit, likely one of many, and once you start breaking those habits you can start saving meaningful amounts.
