I have an unbelievably hot gf who plays semi pro hockey and soccer (incredible 10/10 body) but I literally last minutes in bed, usually no more then 2 and almost instantly if I start going from doggy How do I fix this? I used finasteride before and I’m fat and have bad cardio and also used testosterone in the past Will running and losing weight fix at? Any peptides I can do? Should I get back on test?
>>34034876eat less, eat vegetables and protein, run, bicycle, and drink water only.
>>34034892God I wish I was able to squat like that
>>34034876Cardio and weight lifting and eating normal portions
>>34034892I was one of them until some anon encouraged me to go for a girl who was messaging me over the summer.
>>34034876Get good at eating pussy. It's your only option.
Gf thinks I have a gambling addiction and constantly brings it up whenever any randomness related topic gets discussed. It's getting kind of annoying, since I have no say in it and whenever I try to tell her why she's wrong she'll just talk over me until I stop trying. The thing here is, I don't even gamble. No bets, no slots, no poker, nothing at all. I only play a couple gacha games, and spend about 50 bucks on them (in total, not each) monthly. Sure, that's wasted money, but I get to support games I like and get something in exchange, albeit virtual only. I tried everything to make her understand I don't have a gambling issue. I went several months not spending cash on them or not using the gacha in all of them, if I don't get the rate up I want I don't make a fuss over it or spend more money, I stopped playing some through the years we've been together, hell I even went to several psychologists who looked at me weird and only said "you don't have a gambling addiction".Does anyone have any tips on how to convince her I don't have one? I was thinking about bringing her to someplace where they have slots or bets to make her see actual gamblers, but I'm sure she'd shut down the idea and say something like "oh sure, so now you want to go and get even worse"
>>34029678Set a boundary. Tell her she's risking the relationship by insisting on this.
This is why beating your wife used to be legal
>>34030528nta but you gotta call quits at some time. when one has a manipulative partner, they will eventually learn "bad" stuff about you that they can spread after a breakup, assuming you know they are that kind of person. if it's not gambling, later it will be something worse.50 bucks a month on gacha games is a very irresponsible and loser-y thing to do and it sounds like that is her main issue rather than seeing you as a "real" gambler, but she might just be using this rhetoric hoping you will stop if she talks about it in this way.you guys sound like a very bad couple either way, so imo it'd be better to break up. I feel like openly being such a big gacha spender in a relationship only really works if your partner is okay from it from the start. your gf doesn't like it clearly, and wants you to change. you likely won't, so better to leave her alone.
>>34029678It doesn't matter if it's $1 a month, she still sees it as a weakness that could spiral into something worse. As long as you keep doing it she'll see you as a weak person who isn't capable of self-control.
>>34029678>Does anyone have any tips on how to convince her I don't have one?Stop throwing away enormous sums of money on online games that are indistinguishable from gambling.
Freelance programmer with 10 years experience here. Being a contractor, I was always payed a bit more and did what I loved best: the technical, not the domain stuff. Being a bit socially weird I also enjoyed changing companies from time to time as I don't get along with people over a long period of time. In the current economy this is simply not possible anymore and I don't know what to do when I need to look for a new project in a month. Should I go down with my hourly rate to work at Eastern Europe levels or should I spend some months to improve certain skills and get certifications? Of course I could try to get a more secure permanent job, but all the good ones are gone now. I would be buying security but not really contribute to my savings anymore. I have 2 kids and around 500k in savings (real estate included), so I would need at least 500k more to "make it". As the salaries only go down, I don't see it being possible to "rush" that goal by simply working more, especially in a low payed permanent job (and with my bad social skills I am certainly not the type of person to influence people and make a career in a company).
>>34034674ok retard, keep saying touch grass while normal people continue to grow more deranged in the real world. they are and its observable if you spend any time around young professionals.
>>34034685yikes
>>34034724>umm have a normal one sweetielol old faggot
>>34034753that wasn't me, I actually think you're cool
>>34032211drop your discord if you are serious about a new start up project, I have an opportunity for you
I'm starting to realize my childhood was not normal. People tell me they were not suicidal as children. Are they just lying to me?How do I cope?
I was physically beaten for most of it, yet also treated (materially) well. This confused me into believing my childhood was normal.>How do you cope?Simple; The measure of a man is the extent of which his circumstances affect his character. I choose my future.>>34027686You’re right.
i was suicidal and quite depressed since i was about 9/10 but i had very good childhood (other than that). i think depression just runs in my family
>>34027411I had that realization recently myself as a 27 year old (the suicidality part, I knew my childhood was fucked all along)I distinctly remember having a breakdown when I was like 12 and planning on how I would kill myself. It suddenly hit me that I was basically depressed my entire life just slightly less since I had friends and school gave me a semblence of a social life.My parents were fighting since I could remember. My dad had problems with alcohol which now with hindsight was most likely because of my narcissist mother. Constant screaming matches then divorce when I was about 10. Dad ended up drinking himself to death soon after but I didnt even know he died until I was 18 and we found out due to some tiny amount of unpaid taxes.Can't tell you how to cope because I have no idea myself.
I was physically hit and insulted from age 6-14 by my parents and bullied at school, wasn't great but I had a roof over my head, never went hungry and had internet. Guess it could have been worse.
>>34027411My parents were just shitty enough to ruin me permanently but not enough for me to leave them without feeling like a selfish scumbag. It's this weird Goldilocks zone and they've always been careful to never swing too hard either way. They are old and poor and I'm the closest thing they have to a retirement plan, so while I know deep down they are not my responsibility (they chose to have me) I somehow always act against my own interests just because I don't want them dying on the streets. As horrible as they are they don't deserve that, which is why I'll never end myself though I've really really wanted to at certain times. I resent them a lot obviously and likely always will for basically bringing me to life as some long-term investment (of course they've never said that outright to my face, but the unwritten expectation remains). Thankfully I've never been ambitious and don't want much, just a friend or two and if I'm lucky a partner to go through life with, assuming there someone out there who wants a self-pitying loser with no prospects and no social skills.
Okay anons, round 2!I’ve worked in psychedelic therapy for years and nothing really shocks me.If you want to unload something fucked-up, shameful, confusing, or personal, drop it here and I’ll give you my honest take.I was able to talk to a bunch of anons in the last thread who asked for a call-in style instead of typing, so I set up a simple anonymous option for anyone who’d prefer that.No pressure, no judgment, no names, no faces. Just talking. If you’d rather drop something privately instead of posting here:https://forms.gle/u9xszhc1DJpi114n7Ignore this if it’s not your thing.
3somes with 2 females (1 being me) and a male, who is usually the dominant one, and servicing him both. Getting off on the fact that he can have two of us but me only one. Or occasionally depending on my mood, threesome fantasies w one person being the center of attention/being kind of used/dommed or serviced/worshipped by the rest (all hypothetical)
>>34032612I forgot to ask in the last thread but what are psychedelics?
I don't know what my sexuality is, I'm biologically and socially a man, and I definitely love women romantically and sexually, but I can't deny I want to suck dick and take a dick up the ass. I have dildos I do this with, it's a hot and fun way to masturbate for me, but it also kind of feels like I'm doing this to imitate the things I see in porn and hentai, I can't figure out if I like taking dick as me, as myself, or when I'm pretending to be a woman. I don't think I could have sex with a very burly masculine man, but with a femboy, idk maybe. He'd have to be super passing as a woman, though.So idk, maybe I'm a femmesexual? (Likes people who are traditionally feminine regardless of gender)
Here's a summary of what this fucking faggot retard does before anyone wastes any more time on his asinine thread>Oh, mhm, mhm, could you explain that a little more?>Mhm, yes, ok, why do you think you are the way you are?>Really? Alright, I've got it! You are the way you are because [what you just fucking said]!Total therapist death, total psychologist death, total psychiatrist death.
>>34034994not op, you watch too much porn and have coom brain. you're straight.source, I have this exact thingquit porn and get a girl who will peg you
If I've befriended a girl who I like and got her number, but her parents apparently read all her texts even though she's an adult?What do?
>>34028409Bizarre as hellLike anons said, call her instead. But don't be surprised if her parents ruin any chance of getting with her, it's not her fault, I feel bad for her but you don't need that crazy in your relationship. Plenty of other girls in first year of college too
>>34028409My fiancee was in this situation with her parents. She was 19 and they'd check her shit constantly. She had no freedom; even when she got a job, they'd take money from her to pay for their car insurance cause they're wiggers who can't do anything for themselves and have to make their kids do their job. Since she lived a state over from me, we worked out a plan where I'd drive down there and pick her up after her shift so she could run away lol. We've been living together ever since
>>34028409Play 4D chess. Buy her a used phone. Put her on your phone plan. Smash her old phone. Track her calls, texts to make sure she's being faithful.
>>34031462Yeah but how many of them are pretty, nice, and think I'm hilarious?
>>34028409be a "friend" in text messages.just someone to casually hang out with.maybe have a fun persona and something you can both have a inside-joke. as in: acting really like a gay. only for text messages.i mean... you are into her.and then when you meet: be a different person. be you. or be what feels like you to her.you get the idea. just make sure to act the way she has to like you. acting properly is key. and when it comes to seeing her parents: be casual. be a normal friend. nothing too fancy.i would do it this way. idk the whole situation.
she ended up screaming at dad and it ruined the day, dad said stuff about her to me which made me more sad. And now they seem fine, all the day spent tense (when either was out of the house today) and I just don't wanna have to deal with it anymore I feel angry now it really pput a bad day on for me.
>>34033767Things that might help:>convince them to stop fightingA great long term solution, but often not possible.>be outside of the house more, especially when they are fighting>learn different kinds of cope to make yourself feel better, like mediation (if you get really good at this you can sometimes stay unbothered, being able to choose yourself how you feel)>improve your wellbeing by doing exercise and eating a good nutritious diet and sleeping well, and also getting enough water>read the bible if you are Christian or considering it, it can give a kind of serene feeling
>>34033767Also, forgot to mention about the long term, when parents are the problem, you should try to move out as soon as possible, so look for opportunities to do that.
Spend more time with people that have a good influence on you. And know, that you are not the one who has to mediate between them, even if you feels like it. It is THEIR problem and THEY are responsible to find a way to handle it.
just got out of a 9 year relationship, ended 2 months ago, still thinking about her, still wondering what I did wrong, last night had a dream about her. Tired of it, 9 years and all I got was a damn "better as friends" text out of the blue, TLDR: How do I move on from a relationship that was most of my adult life?
>>34034201Such poor English I can hardly tell what you're askingIf you're asking if we scorned* guys still love our exes, in my case no. I miss having a long term partner like that, as in I miss having a woman who lived with me, had a nice body and had sex with me, kept me warm in bed, did things with me etc, but I do not miss the specific woman, and I certainly don't love her. I hate her right now actually, but that's just the opposite face of the same coin love is on so I'm working on indifference. Sadly I think that will only come when I find a new woman, and I'm not dating right now and when I do my aim will be marriage, so that will be a while.If you're asking if we still love women in general, not really that either anymore. This whole episode showed me what many guys before me have said but I never internalized, that you can't base your happiness on a woman. They are not a safe space, they are not where you may rest your head as a man. They are emotional and treacherous humans who really are kind of "less than" compared to men. I can't really see myself falling in love with a new woman the same way I've gone head over heels in past relationships. Maybe I'll find someone special that changes my mind, who knows. I'd bet all my money on the opposite though.
>>34034501my english is fine you faggot.I asked whether or not you sad boys still love the women who fucked you over
>>34034533>my english is fine you faggot.No sorry Ranjesh, "Scorn" is infinitive present tense, "scorned" is the proper past tense. A native English speaker would know this.Sorry you still love Poojeeta even after she rutted with big dick Sanjay like sacred Hindu cattle, if you still love her you are a weak man.
>>34029898You wasted her prime fertile years, 9 years and no kids, no marrige? What did you expect?
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Old evil cursed thread filled with ops: >>34032447
>>34036859That's only if you molest them with these american ideas of I-I JUST DONT BELONG ANYWHERE IM SO DIFFERENT UGH WHERE ARE MY PEOPLE?!?!?!?!?!?ill teach my half asian children that they need to stop being gay and overthinking things
>>34036876>my argument is consistent because I believe both premises!LMFAO
>>34036881the logic is consistent because one premise follows the other. You're being an intentionally obtuse fag because I insulted your cooming habits and you desperately needed to mis-represent my argument in an attempt to justify your degenerate lifestyle on an anonymous imageboard. gg tho keep shooting rope alone in ur room lmao
>>34036828we're not officially gf/bf though...
>>34036890>ur le coooooomer!Keep spouting nonsense. Accuse me of whatever you feel like, it won't assuage your insecurities and it won't change reality.
Can solve almost all mental, physical and spiritual ailments
No doubt, when I think of people that fast a lot, my mind IMMEDIATELY guess to being free of mental and spiritual problems
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>>34034568>>34034572Fasting is not the same as starving yourself for vanity and glamourWords have meaning, shame 90 IQ ESLs don't get that
>>34033367I'm poor, i go hungry all the time
>>34033367How much fasting are we talking about? >>34034572She needs to do something about those fat disgusting tits.
>be me 26>have what I can only describe as extreme choice paralysis>at work>everything is fine and normal, I know what I’m doing and there is structure>at home>everything is up to me, there is no structure and I can't do anything>turn on tv, can't choose a channel and if I do choose a channel there is this awful feeling in my head that I've made a wrong choice and there is something better to watch>it's the same with games>it makes me feel physically sick and some sort of headaches in the back of my head>this has been going on for a couple yearsHas anyone else had this experience, what should I do?
>>34027648stop giving yourself choices, flip a coin/roll dice...stock to whatever it lands on
>>34027648I haven't had this experience so take what I say with a grain of salt but it sounds like you need to realize what are important decisions and what doesn't matter as much. What TV channel you watch or game you play ultimately doesn't matter. There is no real "wrong" choice
>>34027648Same boat here, I don't think there is a correct answer. I'd say go with trail and error with new hobbies and such and If you feel like you did wrong choices for me seeing japanese salarymen work 13 hours a day helped me realize my situation is pretty tame in comparison to a lot of people out there
>>34027648Flip a coin.Not to decide for you, but because the coin flip will lead to a flash of happiness or disappointment, and that reaction will tell you what you really wanted
I feel like I should be happy or at least contentI have what some people consider a "good" life - my own place, a car, steady decent income. I am a "smart" guy, class valedictorian and HYPSM college and PhD. I started my own business and am pursuing my "dream" career but I don't feel happy over my "wins," I just feel bad about my "losses."Currently, I'm spiraling out over the tiniest detail - I met an eceleb comedian I really admire and he made some jabs about me being autistic (fair) including asking me to quick solve a multiplication problem. I realized today I spat out the wrong answer in the heat of the moment because I carried a number wrong. I was drunk and it was two seconds in a meet and greet and he doesn't even remember it, but it's seared into my memory. If I had solved that problem correctly I would have proved I am "smart" and gotten some validation that even if I'm fat and ugly and autistic, I have something, I have one thing that redeems me and gives me some worth. But if I'm not "smart" I don't have anything. I'm just a big fucking fat ugly lumpIt's not even like I don't have problems. I got into a fender bender a few weeks ago and also sliced the tip of my finger off while cooking, but for some reason this cuts me so deep because again if I'm not the "smart guy", what am I? Just a big clumsy retarded looking guy.Nothing seems to help my self esteem. I have never once felt comfortable in my own skin, and any satisfaction I get from my achievements is as fleeting as footprints on a beach. The wins don't do anything to uplift me, and the failures just drag me down to miserable pits of despair no matter how minor they are.What's wrong with me? What am I missing? It feels like I'm fucking cursed, how the fuck do I lift this curse? I feel like SOMETHING is missing but nothing I've tried fills that whole that stops me from obsessing over my failures to be "smart."
>>34033566You'd have more of a point if it weren't so obvious you're raging because I'd bang on about you being a phoneposting newfag Indian who has nothing.I've already been calming down about it the whole day and getting over it, agreeing with viewpoints like >>34031638>>34032742But you didn't read that. You are full of ego, which is again why you're a namefag, why you don't want me to see when you reply, because you want to feel like you're some big bad man when you're a fucking 19 year old in Colcatta on his first iPhone.It's not what you're saying, it's your fucking arrogance and ego and presumption mixed in with the very very obvious jealousy of anyone who had some academic success (fail those A levels, Ranjesh?). You came to shit on someone who has something you'll never have, not to offer advice. YOU were the one who were acting wrongly and in bad faith right off the bat >>34030212You did NOTHING to offer me advice to help with my core issue which is finding meaning beyond just basing my identity off of "I'm intelligent and successful". Fucking coward fucking brown rat>Only poorfag is you when you out yourself as not even being able to handle the COL or move or stop working for even just one monthYou've never built anything in your life and don't know how money works. I sign my own paychecks you faggot, I underpay myself deliberately because the cash is reinvested. I'm not a niggerbrained brown that will spend funds I need for machinery, equipment, stock material etc on a Bugatti. If what I'm doing works, yes I will actually be able to do whatever I want.
>>34033743>jealousy of anyone who had some academic successWhy would I be jealous of these useless badges? You're already a living example and a walking meme that all of those things mean fuck-all and are used to overcompensate for a lacking in all social aspects in life.>came to shit on someone who has something you'll never haveIf you interpret my observation as "shitting" on you, then that's on you. It still rings true, doesn't it? Anyway, what is this thing that you have that I'll never have? More useless scrap metal badgery? Yeah I don't think I want that useless junk.>IF what I'm doing works>yes I will actually be able to do whatever I want.No you won't because you HAVE NO IDEA what it is that you want. You have no clue what to do with that freedom if you were ever granted it.
>>34027914https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAWaZqDf-VE
>>34027914They've done studies on this. They stage a scene where someone says/does something cringy, and then survey the witnesses.1/3 didn't even notice because they were immersed in their own dramas1/3 noticed but then got right back to their own more interesting dramas1/3 noticed, laughed or cringed, and then got back to their own dramas.When questioned again a week later, almost no one in the last group remembered the incident.The point is that YOU are the only one still stewing over the embarrassing moment. No one else cares or even remembers
>>34034457>The point is that YOU are the only one still stewing over the embarrassing moment. No one else cares or even remembersSure, and with distance from the incident I'm starting to feel better, but there's a greater issue here that I base so much of my self esteem and identity on being "smart" because I really don't have much else going. I'm a clumsy, doofy-looking oaf that people would think is retarded until they hear me spout some brainy shit and realize "ok he's not retarded he's just Rain Man." I once got emotional in my grad student office while talking to the other PhDs, and I forget what let up to it but I loudly declared I was a "freak" and everyone else got quiet, because they had nothing to say against it.I used to have an active and healthy social life and did all the things people say you should do. Activities outside of work and school, was part of a jiu jitsu club, tried to be involved in grad school politics, all that. For years in my 20s, genuinely. But it didn't "stick," eventually people sloughed off in my life like rotten scabs. Women leave me, or they become intolerable so I leave them. I'm so clumsy and uncoordinated that even with years of practice I only ever became mediocre at jiu jitsu. Now I've built a business that is doing ok for now, with the potential to become truly huge, but that's just a tangent of the "he's the smart guy" identity. As cringe as it sounds my driving goal is to just be like Lex Luthor or something, get a bunch of money and power using my mind and just fuck with people. But damn is that fucking depressing...I feel like there should be something, something that makes me feel like an actual human and not some caricature that has to be constantly smooth and suave and perfectly calculated, because otherwise he's just retarded.
Women of /adv/, if you're boyfriend told you he had a gay past. Would you care more if he was the top or bottom? I want to tell my gf I used to top crossdressers and trannies, but I'm afraid of her reaction.
I am not a woman, but is not like you cheated on your gf, you don't need to tell her.Should I tell to all of my friends and potential life mates that time I pissed myself at school? Or how there was not toilet paper in my first school and I would just smear my shit around the toilet walls? No, what good is there? What do you think you will achieve by telling her? You should be asking advice on how to metabolize that if is the kind of information you feel the need to tell to people close to you.>>34034376social media (instagram,facebook,getting tagged,conventions) people you fucked trying to get back in touch, tagging you, on top of my mind
>>34031848Just tell her the honest truth
>>34031848>if you're boyfriend told you he had a gay past. Would you careI'd care more that he doesn't know the difference between YOUR and YOU'RE.
>>34031848As long as you didn't bottom it wasn't gay
>>34034523Yor gay
My 8 year old niece likes girly stuff. I need a Christmas Present for her. She also likes k-pop demon huntersPic unrelated
>>34032294Whatever commercial brand (Pony, Kitty, etc) she's currently into, in a pen/pencil/notebook/backpack set (as many matched items as you care to spend on)
I had to take a year off from university because of my depression, caused by the university environment full of untreated sociopathy, narcissism, bipolar disorder, and ADHD. When I go back, how do I deal with these people? Notifying the university doesn't seem like a good idea. They are relentless, smarter and stronger, they never stop
>>34032595>I had to take a year off from university because of my depressionYou are not going to make it
>>34032595>untreatedBuy an ad or pedal drugs somewhere else.
>>34032595>caused by the university environmentBullshit. One of the really good things about university is that YOU get to select or create the environment. Don't like certain people? Avoid them. Don't like certain classes? Don't take them
