>be me >recently broke up with my gf of 3 years, like 2-3 months ago >depressed as fuck but I'm open to meeting new people/women if only not to lose all social skills as I'm 26 and terrified of dying alone >go to the kinoplex with my family >I suddenly bump into an old friend from when I attended a sports team from college >she looks cute as fuck, and when she saw me her eyes lit up so much, she also gave me a warm hug >we spoke for a minute or so because we were in line to buy popcorn, but I felt some chemistry >after the movie we meet again in the parking lot and we talk a bit longer >I made an off-handed comment about how I thought the guy she went to the movies with was her boyfriend and she immediately told me that's not her boyfriend > She explicitly told me to text her so we can hang out >when I get home I text her on instagram and get her number. She also complimented my hair and said I'm in very good shape (thanks /fit/)Now here's the weird thing >the whole thing happened like a week ago >since then, she's taken like a day or more to reply every time I text her Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34645318could be two things in my humble opinion>flirty personality (a lot of women). she doesn't actually mean it.>bipolarIf she doesn't seem interested anymore, it's possible that she is bipolar and just switched to a depressive period. Maybe pause for a moment and thank God that he saved you from a crazy bitch before moving on. There is no future with someone that unstable anyways.
>>34645318Update. I asked her out, we are gonna go hiking this weekendGentlemen, I dont understand women
>>34648538happy for u OP !!F but even i am puzzled, maybe she just sucks at texting and keeps her distance from online platforms
>>34645318a woman is going on a date with a man and says he's not her bfthat's a red flagyou're gonna be her next "not my bf"
>>34648538Moral of the story, texting is gay and any more than necessary damages your chances. Good job OP
> be me, 26F> never dated> 25M guy, autistic as fuck, teaches college math, kind of nice to look at> small physical disability, well-managed> good with friends, blunt to strangers but everyone loves him anyway> meanwhile he's warmed to me because we bantered over stupid shit like both having perfect pitch and sensory quirks and arguing over what color F# is> he stays behind in library infodumping math at me for like 1-2 hours> says clinically dumb shit on the regular, went to shitty school got the shittiest fucking grades> thought a movie was racist until he saw it won awards therefore not racist> don't think he knows what antibodies are> but he's weirdly locked onto everything I say, finds the contradictions and needles them, nobody else does this> his moods are so goddamn transparent, bounds over like a golden retriever whenever he sees me> I can find a flaw in literally anybody to dodge intimacy> career/achievement is the only security blanket I have and my job might make me need to move cities soonComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34648641how the fuck do i know, you described what he does instead of what you feel
>>34648641so you guys never even went on a single date together? sounds like hes fumbling you and youre just losing attraction because hes not in his masculine. not your fault
What makes life worth living? Why do you live? Why should I live?
>>34633768Experiencing the sublime aspects of living Fighting to reach answersFinding out if I ever really knew anything Seeing things I'd never know i'd seeSolving problems in my life one by oneMinimizing regret as much as i can Among other thingsOnly you can answer that. But a question that brought me a little clarity is: "is suicide really the best that I can do?" Me who I thought I had everything figured out and looked down on my peers thinking I was so smart. When things didn't go my way the only thing I could do was cope, wallow in despair and just think of escaping. Is suicide really the best that I can do? If it's that bad then why I can't take an equal risk on the off chance it might work out if I really have nothing to lose? Even if I couldn't do that, do I really want to end this life in despair? Is this what I amount to? Another victim? Yeah the world is meaningless, what other people think is pointless, my pain is real, I want the suffering to end, so it doesnt matter if I disappear in the process of making the pain stop. But, going out with a whimper? Closing my short life with a pathetic ending like that would have been the greatest insult I have ever dished out to myself. Not that suicide is inherently wrong or taboo but simply that it was unjustified for me. Id be basically giving up like a pussy because I was too scared to live. Yeah this world is hell, but still, given my context do I really have a good reason to give everything up? Have I really figured out life if I'm only thinking about death? Can I really say I tried? If no then instead of sitting around all day asking if life is really worth living maybe I should go out and make it so I can say "it was worth it", even if I fail, at least I tried something.
>>34635165>quotes Camus defensively cause muh mainstream contrariarism>proposes Sartre copingsHad this been a trolling, what a delightful and brilliant irony! The point of imagining Sisyphus happy is that he has no choice but to accept the situation, but it does not mean he actually IS happy, thats impossible for us to know, so we imagine it as a cope to the Nonsense that is Sisy's life (or ours). Anyway interpreting Camus is always kinda hard, sad he got isekaied
>>34633971>Booo hooo look what a stupid motherfucker I am waaaaaa
>>34646777die of turbo cancer pedo
>>34633768Helping others, being of service and growing as a person. It's why you're here.
>>34645749be chad with 6 figures 6 ft 6 pack same as for gilfs
>>34645973basically picrel
>>34645749Be a Chad with 6 figures. 6 ft, 6 pack, 6 zeros in your bank §§§ $$$ £££ €€€ ¥¥¥.Have a sick jawline, and have AT LEAST 12 inch cock. Have a least 2m+ followers on the gram, and you need to have lost ur virginity at age 5. Girls get the ick if u didn't get none as a kid. If u didn't get laid by age of 8 yrs old, it's over and u ngmi. Also make sure u r quarterback for a football team and also MVP at basketball at the same time and have at least 1 person killed u gotta be a murderer if u want the bitches panties SOAKED.Do all that and maybe u can get a 69 year old hag to maybe let you sniff her pussy but don't count on it. I gotta be a Demigod to be allowed a lick.Life is a bitch bro sorry u r not Chad like me
>>34645749>how to fuck [insert random arbitrary category] women?the same you would any other women, they wall want the same thingwork on your game. there are several axis of improvement, this is a long-term goal.>doget fit, learn to make interesting conversation, get a better job, take care of your appearance, learn to entertain groups of people, get extremely skilled at something, etc, etc. basically anything kind of RL effort will take you closer to the goal>dontsocial networks, 4chan / selfhelp / 'coaching' griftersthose lead to inaction through exposure to unattainable goals for the former, overthinking for the latter
I must be extremely selfish with my time, otherwise it will always be used by someone else, especially my mother-in-law (and sometimes my dad). She's an expert of utilizing everyone and everything for her own good, she's the type to never lift 1 finger if she can trip you into using your own time and resources for free.I'm very sad for this state of affairs, but I must be extremely decisive or I'll always lose.My question is, is this normal, should I just keep being very selfish with my time as to not being used every hour or every day for menial tasks? How do I ignore the guilt and shaming when that happens? I've given in at times and it was always detrimental to me.I've noticed some people are very good at tripping others to do their shit for them, and some people are like born to be cattle for lack of a better word. I need to be locked the fuck in every minute of every day unless I want to sign up for free menial labor.Halp
Do what you wantHelp people when you wantAsk for help when you needNothing is right or wrongJust take care of yourself first and be true to your own nature
>>34648513Easy in theory, harder is practice. I have this thing where I feel like if I can help, I must help even if I don't feel like it. And if I don't help or worse, I pretend like I can't help to preserve my own limited time and energy, I feel like a fraud and a liar and that weighs on my mind for some time. Impostor syndrome although it's not that exactly.
>>34648535That feeling is your conscience. It's an impulse towards what you ought to be doing, but it has to be managed by reason. You are morally obligated to help when you can help, but the key is to know yourself well enough to know when you can't help. If you need time for yourself to maintain your own well-being, either in a mental sense or a practical sense, then that should be your highest priority because your ability to help others and be a source of good in the world is dependent upon your own stability and peace of mind. I'd suggest spending some time each day meditating on what you can and cannot do, and setting reasonable limits for yourself. Not only will that give you a plan to work with, but meditation in and of itself is a calming and energy restoring practice.
She posted a picture with her little brother for his birthday to her Close Friends, but she's clearly choosing that picture because she's sticking her ass out, and it's literally the first thing everyone will notice. I'm pretty sure she knew I wouldn't be okay with it when she posted it because we've been dating for over two years. This is the first time she's ever done something like this. What now?
Just let her know lightly its not something you're comfortable with
>>34645004Now you know what she does when you aren't around. For her and all her friends its normal and I doubt your possible disapproval entered her mind. You could ask her why she and other girls pose like that but be prepared to be attacked. You know why and so does she. However, I would hate to think I couldn't have a conversation about this after two years of being together. Perhaps you aren't as close as you think.
Does nobody use this motherfucker anymore? I created an account to contact someone, and over the last week, I've sent friend requests to him, his brother, his friend, and our former classmate. Nobody accepted. I know all of them in real life, and I'm using my real name. What's going on?
facebook has the best shitposting groups out of all the social media. it is very popular in asia but not much anywhere else. unless you're an asian, like posting memes, or have a niche group you want to be a part of there's not much point in using it
>>34641407>All the popular kids use tiktok and Instagram.The person I'm seeking isn't active on Instagram either (despite 4chan telling me that's what everybody uses these days). The former classmate told me (on Instagram) that they use Discord/Telegram/WhatsApp. What is this shit? I've never used any of this shit before. I left all social media in 2021.
>>34644615I have to assume other people are like me and see that stuff as unpleasant to use. Otherwise who knows what's going on in their heads
Facebook has been dead since like 2015. It’s all boomers left
>>34644615>Discord/Telegram/WhatsAppAll three had become very popular long before 2021.
I am a huge fucking pussy and I'm too much of a pussy to even change it> m47 indian> weak and skinny as fuck> afraid of any sort of conflict> total people pleaser and I hate it> hate my family but too much of a pussy to tell them off> parents were emotionally abusive and controlling because fucking shit indian parenting> live far away from them for past 20 years but they still expect me to do performative bullshit for them> only had 1 real relationship with a single mom who I was never serious about> few other dates cuz no one wants to date a skinny indian guy> no kids, no wife, sour grapes> friends are happy for me to join them but hardly ever join me in anything> 1 longtime "friend" sees me as a little pipsqueak who he can disrespect at will> lost job earlier this yearComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34646631I'm not suggesting that you pretend not to be annoyed. I'm suggesting that you learn how to avoid annoyance entirely through meditation and by exercising the virtues of humility and patience. Insults and disrespect can't harm you, only your opinions about insults and disrespect can harm you. Anyone who changes his opinions and masters his own mind can go through life without any bitterness or resentment.
>>34646716Disrespect is disrespect it doesn't matter what your own opinions are of the disrespect pointed at you. You are naive if you think those who disrespect you only stop at verbal disrespect. It does not stop there, it becomes slight, then it becomes gossip, then it becomes lying on your name, then usury, taking advantage either financially or socially, escalating slowly until you put up with blatant abuse, whether that's verbal or physical. Trying to be 'Zen' about being a doormat doesn't make you less of a doormat. It just makes you a doormat with a cute yin/yang design on the cover. Still walked on. Good for you if you numbed yourself and buried your head in the sand. But the ostrich who buries his head in the sand still has his ass exposed, he still gets fucked.
>>34646374Nigga, I can be your life coach or some shit if you let me stay with you or something. Unless you are larping about the 3 million.
>>34646631>Thank you for the guidance Any time. I'm not a wise guru guy myself I won't pretend to know what's best for you. The goal is to remember that (you) know what is best for you. It's about balance, being agreeable & disagreeable at the same time. Being positive + negative, both are important aspects of human nature. Both of them are required to live a life that is whole. Unfortunately we live in a neurotic narcissistic time in history were people have inside-out egos. They demonize ego as if it were a bad thing, yet they do so with an upside down ego of their own, they still expect others to kiss their ass. Healthy egotism is about accepting and owning your ego, which makes you more trustworthy long term because to express both negativity and positivity is to be honest. Honest people are the ones who don't fall into extremity, neither becoming an abuser or someone who allows abuse.>have to learn how to set boundaries on my own this late in life. There was no such thing as healthy boundaries in my childhoodI believe you. That's how it happens. You can tell exactly when a child will become a man who can't say "no" right at the start, I see it with parents all the time today.>Child is 2-3>Guests come over>Parents fake smile and tell the kid>"Go hug aunty or unc! Go go!">Kid doesn't want to. Kids at this age are wary of strangersComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34648032Anyone who obsesses over what other people think about him is dooming himself to misery. It's not anyone else's fault that you feel angry and resentful, because it was your own responsibility to make yourself immune to slander and gossip. Your only goal in life should be to live upright, honestly and virtuously. Everything else must be allowed to fall where it falls, otherwise you're making the foolish mistake of grasping at what isn't yours to control. That doesn't mean you have to be a "doormat", because doing what's right includes not enabling manipulators and cheats. But it also includes not being hurt or emotionally roughed up by them, either. Simply make your own conduct good and go about your life, while ignoring petty distractions. What you're doing is worse than being an ostrich, you're intentionally going out of your way to stick your head into manure. What I'm suggesting is that you don't stick your head in anything, keep it high and keep it in the clear light of truth and righteousness and nothing can actually harm you.
Have you ever made a careless mistake that put you in danger and at the complete and utter mercy of someone else where they could have destroyed and or killed you but instead chose to humiliate and ruin you after beating the shit out of you?How do you deal with the trauma of that incident when you still think about all the things you should have done, could have done, even decades later?
>>34647567Story time?
/b/ tards in a nutshell
>>34647594It's too painful to think about :(
>>34647567I would cum.
>>34647567No.
I keep wasting my time and money on escorts even though I've looked at so much porn throughout my life that I can't even get hard while trying to have sex. But even though I know it's pointless I keep getting the urge anyway. How do I overcome it whenever it starts acting up?
>>34644000It's not comparable. Obviously the escort is a much more intense experience.>>34643911Use Viagra.
Bump
I said BUMP
Here’s what you do. You go binge Jordan Peterson clips and Tate hype edits. You need to get to the gym. You need to go to church . After that after that after that after that after thatttttttThere is no method. There is no plan. There is no strategy. There is only doing it. You will experience moments of lucidity where you hate who you are and what you are doing. During these moments you need to sabotage and ruin your possibilities for ever doing it again. You need to hurry because these moments go by fast.I texted all of my escort contacts and told them I had tested positive for HIV. I then texted as many unknown ones and asked if they would be okay seeing someone who was HIV+. They all blocked me. I went scorched earth. I chucked my escort phone/burner. When all this failed and I was planning on texting them again, I would text them. Set something up and as soon as they confirmed I would masturbate till completion. I would then be uninterested in paying for sex. I would cancel and they would block me. I made myself an economic poison pill for them.If you’re expecting your urges to go away you already lost. They will always be there.t. escort and sex free for a year this August.
>>34643911you need to have an escort experience that is so terrible you swear to yourself you'll never do it again.alternatively, get a girlfriend.alternatively, masturbate.
What do you do when the girl you fell in love with and married you completely gave up? Put yourself in my shoes, you were both completely in love and couldn't be separated but her ''i can fix him'' meter ran out. I feel alone, I've had sex and had one night stands multiple times since but nothing feels right. I always feel angry and disappointed in myself. I wonder if she feels the same.I've improved my life since, I'm now a professional fighter and I earn more money in a single fight than we used toearn together in a few months. But I can't shake this.
>>34644329Whats actually wrong with you?
>>34644329Thank God we didn't marry yet and I figured out what you did and that you are all lies. Pawn or flush , I'm out of here
>>34645000In the 90s and early 2000s, kids with ADHD were just considered trash. There was no special teaching or anything that we may have needed, if we acted up we sould get sent to a school for ''bad kids''. There was like 2 halves in the bad kid school, one part was for literal retard helmet wearing kids and the other was for those deemed difficult to deal with by public schooling, violent, annoyed and angry and hard to deal with for a regular school program. I just googled it and apparently now they call it ''alternative'' schooling. Pretty fucked up. What they used to do was, if you got in trouble there, lock you in a janitors closet that had a window overlooking their oval and playground - so you got to watch everyone else play while you had no real room to move.
>>34644834I lnow you're nothing, so i just smile at your dumbass posts. I feel like that is some charactr development,
>>34645107This
Eat nuts.t. gained 5 kg in 5 weeks by consuming nuts
>>34639556It doesn't matter what you eat as long as you are eating a caloric surplus. Track your calories. Everything you eat, make sure you know how much of it you're actually eating. This is the best advice I've learned over my years gaining weight.Depending on what you choose to eat, it will be unhealthy. But my headcanon is that gaining weight is unhealthy regardless of what you eat. I think bodybuilding being seen as healthy is an american pysop/misunderstanding caused by female sexual selection. Good luck anon
>>34645653that's [spoiler]crazy[/spoiler]>>34646138if there's an ideal range of functional strength, OP can probably hit that with some effort without roids
>>34646138>Body building is unhealthySays who, since when?Do you think people were eating McDonalds and chocolate milk 300 years ago to be buff or downing protein shakes nonstop. The only reason modern body building is unhealthy is because most body builders are just shills for all this crap. You said it yourself that calorie surplus is all you need to gain weight, eat some decent unprocessed fiber with that, and chicken or real food for protein and that would be a heathly bulk.
>>34647986>eat some decent unprocessed fiber with that, and chicken or real food for protein and that would be a heathly bulk.I agree with this. I also agree with your take that modern bodybuilding shills are responsible for the overtly unhealthy practices seen today.My original criticism of bodybuilding boils down to a few pseudo-scientific beliefs I have. It's commonly accepted that women like big strong men because of the man's ability to fight in wars and defend the family/offspring. But for the modern man who doesn't need to fight off grizzly bears every morning, over-eating and working out might land you an unnecessary heart attack at 50. My criticism is that despite this possibility, the American consensus seems to believe that bodybuilding is a healthy lifestyle because it counts as exercise and it makes you look more attractive.I can't prove that bodybuilding will kill you sooner than the guy who only does cardio, but it's something that I personally believe. The rabbit hole goes even deeper when you consider the evolutionary cost of an entire nation spending half their life at the gym looksmaxxing instead of finding the proverbial cure to cancer
Why do I feel so fucking tired when my neck is tight? When I look sideways at myself in a glass storefront reflection I can see a big hump of muscle pushing on my neck, and nothing I do untightens it. It legitimately makes me dizzy and nauseous and between it and my chronically dry eyes and edges of my nose I feel like I can't concentrate on anything. It's so fucking annoying. It's SO constant and tight and puts SO much pressure in the front of my head and around my temples it's unreal anons. I feel like I'm being strangled so I'm always either super fucking angry or wanting to lie down prematurely. RrrrAAAAAAGH I'M SO FUCKING MAD PISS OFF AND LET MY HEAD CLEAR
>>34644703Stop being they heje
>>34644703Learn how to relax. Most people don’t even.
>>34644703You might be waking up in the middle of the night repeatedly and not realising it OP. Get a sleep study, or a close friend or family member to watch you whilst you sleep. Or just set up a camera and film yourself sleeping.
I got fired from my first job as order picking after a week cause I made too many mistakes. The reason was because I did't take the job serious because I got distracted by a pretty girl. How do you deal with the fact that a girl is too good for you? Do you shrug it off or distract yourself with other girls?
>>34642736Makes sense. Karma sucks c.
Yea girls are starting to do this. If you think hard enough about it she was probably distracting you on purpose as a form of bullying. Girls do this out of jealousy. Maybe you did something wrong by not talking to her or you scared her.
>>34642736>How do you deal with the fact that a girl is too good for you?You should work on getting better self confidence.
>have my own group chat on discord>i talk about missing one girl whom I used to be friends with, she ended up blocking me after reaching out again so I see what she’s up to using a burner account and saved some photos to remember her by>this leads to a friend tearing me apart verballyI don’t know why they’re acting like this, I didn’t mean any harm whatsoever.
>>34645233You Jason, what's your disc username?
>>34645233the problem is you are a faggot that gives a shit what people on fucking discord think about youuninstall the app
any "victim" or a bullied individuals ends up in this situation because they themselves only interact and engage in self harm which empowers the perpetrators and the bulliesfor example if i tried to bully or harass someone "better" than me they would just ignore me which in theory makes me feel like shit since im not getting responses back nor any engagementfake being not bothered by this until eventually you will stop genuinely giving a fuck
