Be honest.
>>34701257I wrote a long reply and deleted it.All that matters is keeping moving forward
>>34701257Literally me
>>34701257yep. have 3 stories i think about literally every day (to be fair to me, some times when thinking about them, some good developments occur). one of them has been in my mind for more almost 10 years, though its changed a lot. The current foundations of all 3 of them have been established since the coof. I have only done about 90 of story boarding in the past year. Maybe less than 20h over the past 3.I tell myself its because of how exhausting and awful my degree is, and how i got conned into thinking it'd only take 4 years to have reliable income (without totally needing to become a fucking orc) which turned out to be a lie. This statement (me getting conned) is definitely true, but in no way is it an excuse since other pleb human beings have literally the same bullshit they need to deal with, and the artsy types still suffer on wards despite it.
>>34701257All of that shit is nonsense "creative" garbage. This guy is a narcissist.
>>34701257What do you want advice about?
So there's this girl, i liked a lot since i was 16. We were friends, we would hang out.As a 16 yo loser i confessed my feelings to her and i was rejected, end of the friendship.i'm 21 now, got a stable office IT job and started settling up. Met her at a bus station months ago and decided to talk to her, she invites me on a few hang outs with her friend. Doesn't mention the boyfriend so much, i found out later. Anyways we update on eachother clearly and we found out about our love life etc. (i dated 2 girls while we were apart)Last week she invited me with her usual friend after ignoring her for a month, i was tired of seeing her and suffer (I like her a lot i know i'm being stupid for this). But last minute she says that her friend couldn't come cause of work, later on i found out that this was a lie.The Hang out went great we laughed a lot we got a lot closer, and she seemed interested in me like i've never seen before. She got touchy and we had a great night overall. Last moments, we were in our car 20 min talking about her future, university and such.She "asked for a hug" in the most clumsy and retarded way possible and after a few moments in eachothers arms i kissed her on the cheek, she blushed, slowly got out of the car and said "i had fun tonight, don't disappear no more, text me sometimes" Later on she sent me a inner joke via text wich i just reacted with a laugh emoji and that's it.Maybe she argued with her boyfriend and wanted company? Or is she even a little interested in me? i really do'nt know, i might aswell ignore her and see if she reaches out, i think she's a bit unsure about her bf, they've been toghether for a year.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34705793is it that bad if i date her?
>>34705786She wanted to bang or at least make out heavily so ur good,
>>34706529soooo should i text her? or am i too late/soon.
>>34706570I would text her saying hey that was fun I missed you a lot i realized... want to come to x and have some wine? I got franzia nigga !!! (Hat emoji hat emoji eggplant)Something like this without the last part
Bump
If I live in a nice $500K house, what are the chances someone will break into it and kill me?
>Nice house>500K$Do you live in a ghost town, or are you a time traveller from 2005?
>>34708242If he live in a small town from buttfucking nowhere, with no hospital and no public transportation and nothing to do but hunt your own meat, and that the public schools are so understaffed that they’re forced to hire someone without a university degree to teach the children… then maybe he can get a nice house for 500K$. But then again thefts don’t go to small town where everybody know each others, because they get arested really quickly… (if they are lucky)
>>34708242>>34708244>>34708266>these niggas act like they're elon musk and jeff bezos with billion dollar mansions and lambos in their drivewaysget the fuck outta here you don't even have 50K in your savings account much less 500K
>>34705815Looks pretty nice to me
>>34708299The houses are nice but I fucking HATE having neighbors right next to me.If I was rich enough to buy my own private island I fucking would.
Is there actually any point to getting help? I feel like all they do is just say "hmmm, interesting. Here's a generic printout of some numbers and pills that make your dick soft.>be me>25 and suicidal>mental breakdown after losing ex, cat and house>move back in with parents and brother>can't hold down job>can't motivate myself>can't even help my family>dad gets terminally sick>been ill and disabled since I was a kid but now he's always on oxygen >try to be his carer>fail miserably>basically just make him food and tea whenever he needs it>go back to being alone in roomComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34708175So you are experiencing a common problem with therapy that a lot of people go through. The common wisdom is to go through therapists like you’re dating in the 1950's and have the time and money for a new therapist every other day until you find a “good one” that you “vibe with.” Which is a problem when most of them are following the same cognitive behavioral therapy script. And this is a problem because the fundamental assumption behind CBT is that you are self aware enough to understand that you have the agency to consciously determine every reaction you have to any situation and any action you take at all times perfectly. How many anons do you think just don’t believe they can affect those things about themselves? You certainly don’t, you can but something tells me you wouldn’t believe it even if you were strapped into a chair and your eyes speculumed open Clockwork orange style and had it browbeaten into you for 17 hours a day.You can’t go back to a place you’ve never been, and you wouldn’t wheel a person born without legs out to the start line of a sprint with prosthetic legs in his lap and expect him to get up and sprint when he’s never walked in his life.
Did becoming Catholic help you the most? Maybe talk with a priest, get more involved with your church, make friends there or volunteer with church members to feel a sense of purpose
>>34708175Is there any point to answering questions like this?
>>34708175Getting more serious about your religious practice will do you more good than any pill or diagnosis. Starting reading things like Boethius's Consolation of Philosophy and Kempis's Imitation of Christ, and spend at least 30 minutes every day in meditation.
>>34708175Take shrooms or do sativa marijuana edibles.
>be me, 21 yo retard cursed with aspergers>decently attractive, conceal retardation in order to attract women>girl way above my league shows interest in me>nigga wtf.jpeg>find out shes a slut that goes bar hopping and gets passed around by guys>whatever, I’ll just pump and dump>lie about being a recovering drug addict that does illegal shit in order to raise her interest>it actually fucking works and she’s borderline obsessed with me>spend time with her over next few months, begin to actually bond with one another>finally fuck one day, it was okay>months go by, radio silence>last week she hits me up out of nowhere wanting to fuck again>we fuck, it sucked because I sacrificed my own pleasure to give her a good experience>”you’re so good at this, anon. You should work for pornhub lol. You’re so hot.”>she’s so sweet, bubbly and cheerfulComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I open shit vent threads with vague questions on /adv/
>>34708048I reply to snarky faggots that use reddit speak and don't want to actually contribute
>I'm extremely vague about what advice I ask, but I PRETEND you must read my mind and exactly know what I wantop only want reassurance, he couldn't give a shit about adviceeither that or he's a larping sack of filth
>>34708045Wouldn't know. I typically get everything I want without any effort or personal sacrifice
I hate myself. I'm 32M. I was simultaneously dating three Japanese women for 2.5 years and I got caught by one who ended up texting all 3.One stayed with me but I absolutely hate the state of our relationship. It's constant bickering and complaining over stupid stuff. We haven't even had sex since all this happened 6 months ago.I deeply miss one and I should have made the courageous move to be only with her. Instead, I dangled everyone along for years. We lived together for 6 months without ever having a fight. I took her virginity and we would have sex everyday until this happened.I fucked it all up being a cheating POS. I've had a lot of experiences with Japanese women cheating on their partner with me, so I always took it as not a big deal in their culture.Please don't be like me, I'm miserable now and I think about her everyday.
go buy a body pillow
>>34707757Thanks, which one would you recommend?
>>34707751>I fucked it all up being a cheating POS.Yes. And it's important that you never stop feeling bad about this. Guilt and regret are the way you become a better person. Feeling like shit about what you did is what will stop you from ever doing it again. If you ever feel good about it, you'll start cheating again. So hang on to that feeling; that feeling is your friend; it will keep you straight. Find someone else, and don't make the same mistakes again.
>>34707751so what u lookin for?
>>34707751Don't hate yourself, just hate the path you took. Turn back and find the different path. You did wrong, your guilt is absolutely deserved and necessary. But do not despise the guilt, it is a teacher that helps you. It will show you how to find the better path. And y'know something bro I'm proud of you that you came to terms with this, it takes guts.
How do I cope with the fact I will never have a wife/gf/kids? How do I be content with that?
>>34707185Go to the Philippines and nab up a sandwich maker.
>>34707704Ok I'll try>>34707714Sounds good desu>>34707720How lol? Do they just throw themselves at you over there?
Why do you ask about coping for something that's your own choice? If you chose to never have a wife/gf/kids and that makes you miserable, then change your choice.
>>34707185>How do I cope with the fact I will neveYou made an interesting typo there. You typed FACT when you meant DECISION.
>>34707185>How do I cope with the fact I will never have a wife/gf/kids?Why have you decided that this is the case to begin with?
I have an addiction woth a celebrity (Khloe Kardashian) . I can not get an erection unless I think of her. It really affects my life woth my gf.I am to ashamed to ask for medical help
The guy in the back is looking for something?
I can not say she would be my dream girl. But would not pass unnoticed for sure
Not bad at all. Tell your gf to dress like her more if you like. Or even better pretend it's her. You can experiment and see hownto goes
Someone is a cuck
>>34708081She is not bad. If she was waiting at bed to me like this I would jump onto her
So short story short:>get a new job, well paid and I like it>few months pass >they hire a woman to a part of the company that I honestly thought was redundant with ours>I talk with that woman>she's nice and all and I kinda like how she looks like>pay no attention at first>time passes>I've noticed I'm just randomly thinking about her at times, I'm obviously a bit infatuated with her>decide I'll just try to avoid her and it'll pass>month later>company merges my and her wing>guess who's sitting next to me in the office now!I don't think I'd ever be able to actually make something happen with her, but I don't want the pretty nice job to turn into torture because of this feeling. How do I stop it?
>>34706965Unironically learning to not hyperfixate on pretty girls and stay genuinely safe to them is a good skill to have. I've had girls friends tell me they genuinely enjoy that I didn't hit on them, when many of their friends had given it a try. It'll also help dating more than you'd imagine. It's also a very useful trait now that I'm in a couple. So I'd say focus on that, becoming a better person.If you really can't control yourself it's more complicated. If you were a pedophile in a kindergarten I'd tell you to change jobs and that it's on you even if your new job is worse.So in your case, since it's only moral to ask her out if she wouldn't have to face you everyday after refusing, it's on you to first switch desks, tell HR if you need to, maybe even change jobs. Or, once again, just learn self control and move along.
>>34706965Give mix tape.
>>34706965>So short story shorter: I like this woman at owrk but never told her and things seem awkward.So tell her.:
But it's raining. What should I do?
>>34707666You should learn to use multiple sources.
>>34707666Ask people. Droids are dumb.
>>34707666go outsids n sniff airhumans are reaaaaaaally good at detecting rain so if u have good nose (n good air quality) you'll smell it coming !!
>>34707666go outside and do the rain dance
How do I let a guy kindly know that I only like him as a friend after we had sex? He thinks were a couple now and I dont want to make him upset
>>34708134Nah bit gonna work. If the woman wants to close the door she has to pump a cold heart and masuclinize her response, cold hard honesty is a turn off for most men. Gives them the ICK. If she gives him flowery language like that he will still want to sniff at her flower. Birds and the bees my nigga. She need to AlligatorMAXX
>>34708147lol retard>>34708134this
>>34708151The soft gentle let down only works for women because women have vanity issues. For men it's patronising and irritating. "I'm sure another woman will be very lucky to have you!" that sort of shit. The man thinks "if that's true why isn't she feeling lucky if she perceived value between us." But go ahead and give bad advice
>>34708157incel
>>34708170Lol yes you got me I am an incel. I'm hugging my body pillow right now
I pretty much pass out immediately the moment I come home from work and take a 3-4 hour nap and it sucks cause it pretty much destroys whatever free time I have. How do I stop this?
>>34702219get your iron levels checked t. chronic fatigue from critical levels since middle school
If you're not already getting a decent amount of sleep every night, see a doctor.
I (21f) met my ex boyfriend (30m) two years ago on a dating app, and we had been on and off since may when I found out he was fucking my best friend (21f). I texted a different ex gf (23f) and found out he had been sleeping with her too, and during our conversation I find out that his cat is actually hers that he had been taking care of for her. So we go to his place and unbeknownst to me my best friend was there, pantless in the kitchen. Holy fucking shit. He started putting his hands on the other ex gf and I went for her defense, subsequently getting arrested and charged with DV and forceful entry. My sentencing is minimal and I’m doing really well in life in general, I just got received into the Orthodox Church ( he is an orthodox catechumen currently, I spoke with our church father about the situation and the father asked ex bf to go to a different perish.) and am now fully baptized and committed to my faith. This still eats at me though and during my sentencing ex bf and new gf showed up, publicly humiliated me in front of a full court room, and then proceeded to make an Instagram account dedicated to calling me a whore and followed a bunch of my family members and orthodox mutuals I have on Instagram. Public humiliation isn’t the concern, I dont care too much, but man is it hard to go about my day normally without this looming over it all of the time. I was totally in love with this dude and to some degree I still am— mostly because of the rejection of it all, I think. How the fuck do I change the way I view this situation? Inevitably it was an act of God that it all happened, as I am grateful for the experience and have gotten a lot of opportunities to self reflect on my own behavior because of this, but damn. Ouch. This sucks. If you need more details lmk. thank ya’
>>34706868If I were you I'd just block anyone who runs to mention you. Then again I'm a man and I don't give a shit about keeping up social appearances or keeping social networks like women do. Might be harder for you, I don't know. Keep going to church and see what comes of it, socialize with the other laity, don't market yourself since the objective is God, but if there any activities hosted by the church thats outside of church attend each and every one of them. Make good friends with the old grandmas, who many of them have grandsons your age. Word of a young church going woman who is single and devoted to God will spread like wildfire, and you will get a man delivered at your feet.
>>34706762maybe just go full social media detox and have another account that's only exclusive to the people you trust?
>>34706762Tldr BPDemons account of life in hypergamous society.Go to jail and get molested by the dykes there.
>>34706762>now fully baptized and committed to my faith.Welcome sister!I'll be honest with you, if you had been dating a guy for two years and describe it as "on and off" and still live separately you should know it is going nowhere and the guy was never committed to you to begin with.
>>34706762You larpers always have to take it too far.
It's life better the more shameless you are?Like, I've had friends who noticed how shy I was, who noticed how much effort I had to put in order to be able to talk or socialize, but when I was drunk, it took me nothing, and saw how happy I looked then.Even then, they suggested me to drink more often, even one of them told me they did that.Now, I'm not saying I want to drink more, but should I act as shameless as when I'm drunk? To take the same courage and do things without the fear or judgement of others?!?!
>It's life better the more shameless you are?Not necessarily.Shame is, some part, related to tradition; and in tribute to tradition — what has worked for a long time(and even generations) may be worth keeping and some of it may be the very thing that's keeping you alive.>when I was drunk, it took me nothing, and saw how happy I looked then.Liquid courage is an aide, or a crutch of some sort; and when one is finally are able to walk, that is the first thing they discard.Perhaps, being able to function without it is somewhere in the root of things, and how you are able to reach it.>should I act as shameless as when I'm drunk?I'm afraid that the consequences may be dire, everything that find its way in the internet is now cataloged and organized in such a way that numerous Artificial Intelligence-related facilities review the statistics of the internet. There is also no real proof of feedback that organizations anonymize information.This may inhibit you from reaching some higher station in life.
>>34707993alcohol (or cocaine or drugs in general) only work so long, then you have to quit or it ruins your life and relationshipsthe long and hard way is raising your self-esteem step by step through self-improvement and RL wins. once you've had enough of those, you'll start feeling good enough about yourself that you quit giving a fuck about what others think. (this is equivalent to the shamelessness you seek)see also, Nietzsche's ûbermensch
>>34708007>>34708063good answers
Any advice on how to combine the two?
>>34705706You are really badass Anon. Keep your head up, you really shown me how tough you can be, good job
Camp or hike in forests that are suppose to be haunted. If you don’t encounter anything, then at least you get fresh air and get to take nice pictures.
>>34705071Unironically just be outside at nighttime dude. I see the weirdest fucking shit when I’m out smoking at night or biking in between buying more tobacco and my house. Camping and urbex type stuff is cool but you truly don’t even have to plan that much. Just going for a long-ish walk at nighttime is frequently enough to see a weird thing.
>>34705071Ok I got this.X is about complex pattern recognition. Being a crazy person is when you can't toss out junk info and your own BS.You should be a crazy person in the data you are willing to take in and process, but you need to be smart about what give value after assessment.Explore everything but have high standards for what you believe.Actually reading flat earth stuff and working through yourself it is amazing exercise.
>>34707882So you are saying I should investigate everything I come across even if it seem extremely unlikely and delusional but take it as true in the moment and afterwards focus on if it's actually true or not?
