Should I quit if it gets to the point where people underestimate me and don't appreciate my work?
>>33640306Nope, not at all.>>33640328Alright
>>33640442>Nope, not at all.Is the money decent? If not, then quit, just because of that.
>>33640462>Is the money decent?Eh not in the slightest. It's quitting time!
Your work is going to take up a very large portion of your life. So don't waste it doing something that isn't personally fulfilling.
>>33641667If you're not happy, get the hell out of that job.Of course don't quit if you desperately need the paycheck etc.But if you desperately need the job then obviously you don't even have room to make these threads
I am actually a gymbro but I love running. I run 5km and 10km races. However, I feel totally pathetic about that because nowadays everyone is running half marathons, marathons and even ultra marathons.I perform well at my races, usually placing top 10% even with gym being my main focus. It doesn't mean anything though. Like if I am on a date with a girl I can never talk about me running because only the word "marathon" is attractive, especially if she is also a runner. 5km and 10km distances are just pathetic.
>>33640871Run a marathon if you care so much?Call your 10k a quarter marathon.
>>33640871You're just overthinking
>>33640871Walk a marathon. I'm a pudgy piece of shit but once per year I ride public transport as far out as it goes and walk back. Stop somewhere for breakfast, stop somewhere for lunch, stop somewhere for dinner, get wasted and sing karaoke at a favorite spot near home, and then shuffle the rest of the way home. Just do it, say you've done it, and that you aren't competing or training for it right now.
>>33640871The average person is on the borderline of obesity, nobody's running any fucking marathons these days.If the average person could run 5k we could cut healthcare costs in half
>>33640871Marathons are unnatural and have nothing to do with being healthy or long-lived.
The only thing that has ever got me to stop watching porn/nofap is just finding a moderately attractive woman (to your tastes and league, of course) that you can have sex with at least once a week. Girlfriend, fuckbuddy, whatever. Someone you can casually have sex with and not commit to so soon might be preferable because if you enter a serious relationship with them you might be subject to the whims of insecurity/not feeling fulfilled which will spring you back into the porn trap. Of course, this can vary and some women make really good partners while others are better to just maintain a fuck buddy scenario with.
This is truthfully the solution. This is what ive realized after nearly 15 years of trying to quit porn. If i was with someone, not even sexually but just physically(getting hugs, kissing, cuddling) i would stop watching porn and seeing escorts entirely. The thing with addiction is that its usually caused by you trying to cover something up, or fix something with it. Its caused by an escape that needs to be addressed. The problem is if you are subhuman like a lot of guys on here, and have been for decades, they dont know anything else. They dont know how relationships work, they dont know how anything like that works. Things fall too behind, and the chances of a fix becomes impossible because what they, and what i, want is impossible. Truthfully there is no woman out there for any of us. Porn is all we really got unless you want to go down the tired and difficult road of full on celibacy. The hole porn is filling is love and intimacy, but we are considered worse than rape to women, the worst thing they can ever imagine, so we cant find anything to fill that hole in so porn does it for us. Its such a shitty life, but its nature, and its something we cant control or have very very little control over. Truthfully like a drug addict i am just waiting to die its so hopeless.
>>33638176>This is truthfully the solution. Sounds good. Continue.>Truthfully there is no woman out there for any of us.Aaand you lost me. Fuck that. Maybe you're speaking for those too far down the hole? But even then, it's just dedication, introspection, and ultimately one's own decision to make a change that is the determining factor. Not some arbitrary absolute. >. Its such a shitty life, but its nature, and its something we cant control or have very very little control over. Yeah, fuck that "people/life is insignificant" and "things happen to me" vs "I'm in control" bullshit. That's true for you if you allow it to be. I do not. I'm responsible for my actions and I'm changing whatever I doesn't serve my long term goals.
the cure for masturbation is actually having sex? no shit
>>33635083Useless normie advice. Autistic mentalcels aren't going to actually have sex ever, so that can't be used for positive motivation. In my own experience fapping to porn has been so detached from any expectation of reality that I just live in my own fantasyland and choke it till it runs dry.
>>33635083There is no way my current GF would be able to have enough sex with me to curb my porn usage. I have gotten it down to masturbating to porn a little less than once every 2 days on average, however some days it can easily surpass 5+ when I'm feeling very in the mood. Me and my GF have sex on an almost daily basis btw, it does virtually nothing to properly curb my libido as I end up feeling sexually frustrated almost immediately afterwards. >>33635083>finding a moderately attractive woman (to your tastes and league, of course) that you can have sex with at least once a week. Girlfriend, fuckbuddy, whateverDo not get a girlfriend for this purpose. Get a FWB or a fuckbuddy or someone similar. I am aware that 95% of people on this website have slim to no chance of doing this, but ideally get 2 or 3 that you can rotate though, as one will not be enough.
Lately I've been living paycheck to paycheck. Not because I'm making little money, but I've been so bored and sad and shit at home I go out and spend money on something I don't need. Outside of the me feeling sad shit, what are some low cost activities I can do at home or otherwise. Vidya is an option but I'm not feeling the same enjoyment when I was younger. What are some things y'all do in your spare time outside of browsing the channers?
>>33641355You have to find some exciting activity to get that dopamine hit you get from dilapidating money.Decide on what fucking hobby you have spent equipment already and consciously pursue it instead of wander in a spending spree.
>>33641355I can't recall EVER having felt that way. If I'm sad I know it will pass. I never get bored because there's so much to do. Only stupid people get bored, so stop being stupid (yes, stupidity is partly a choice).
How do I stop wanting to kill myself for starting late?Why even bother, I'm not catching up anyway.
>>33641523Why bother with anything we all just die anyway. Starting late? there's no set time to do anything retard, stop comparing yourself to others.I have to share the planet with morons like you... fuck me.
>>33641523Starting what late, nigger?
I'ts not about catching up or anything of the like. You always hear that it's about the journey but I am telling you that that is true. Do what you love doing because you like to and not because you feel you have to make progress. Life is not a video game!
>>33641523I won't even bother reading yet another why even bother calendar of doom thread.
>you could've been an egineer>you could've been a lawyer>you could've gone to university>you could've had lots of moneyi'm so tired, i never actually tried but i know i'd failed, i did somewhat try but i never was able to put in the work constantly, always doomscorlling, always avoiding, daydreaming to escape shit spawning conditionsi'm so tired, i know it's all excuses and im aware if i would've been able to just put in the work i would've succeeded but i play with a debuff, maybe im just not made to do itand on top of that i have the biggest God Syndrome, i think everyone else is retarded and that im better than people and that im more capable even tho i dont really have anything to show for itit's over for me isnt it?
>>33641419no
>>33641430what do you do for a living?
>>33640500>you could've been an egineer>you could've been a lawyer>you could've gone to university>you could've had lots of moneyNo, actually.That's an illusion of your animal brain.And if you where so intelligent, you should know it already.Things just happen one after another, in a chain.picrel: unlike us, really clever dude, lives in a flat and takes walks observing people.Do something, be happy, good luck.
have you tried getting your health checked? it might be that youre missing some vitamins or w/e. i started feeling quite a bit more active after taking b12 supplements when ive had a deficiency. also exercise can help clear your head.god complex is genuinely a consequence of spending too much time online. people are smart in different ways, so you have to be able to cooperate with other people and respect their skillsets to get anything done. also people are much nicer outside the internet, so dont get discouraged by stereotypes. just be kinder to other people, and theyll be kinder to you too :)also for mastering skills and learning - everyone goes at their own pace. the alternative to your learning pace isnt that of some other dude that progresses faster, but a complete lack of it. just keep at it, dont give up, and youll get there!
I was a failure then went back to school at 26 and got my doctorate at 32. Brutal 6 years as some of it was an accelerated schedule but I made it through with student loans. Make 150-200k per year now depending on how much OT I do. This could be you anon. I have ADHD also and still made it happen. I did community college to get as many classes in on the cheap that I could before going to expensive uni. I also gave up vidya during the process don’t think I would have made it if I was gaming the whole time>It’s already over for meThis is something people tell themselves oftentimes to avoid having to take any action, even though deep down they know things could be better. Easier to just say it’s over, too late, etc. it isn’t too late anon
Why does my happiness depend on whether I have a romantic obsession or not and how do I stop needing them to reciprocate my feelings when I'm clearly delusional
You have a constant need for external validation because you lack self-esteem.
My answer may sound corny, but try to take up some hobby. A hobby can be called anything that brings you pleasure (4chan is also a hobby) Honestly, physical exercise helped me in difficult moments. After playing sports, my thoughts became free, and I began to like myself.
>>33641199>Why does my happiness depend on whether I have a romantic obsession or notPerhaps it is because you prefer it.Happiness may or may not be able to be derived from a multitude of sources; some of them from the unlikely, some lurking where you have already previously checked such as items you may have deemed to be well beneath.>how do I stop needing them to reciprocate my feelings when I'm clearly delusionalDo you really?
>>33641199>Why does my happiness depend on whether I have a romantic obsession or notYou're a toy with no battery, a car with no gas - you get your energy solely from the efforts that other people put into you as opposed to having any kind of self-sustaining emotional mechanisms. When people are praising you and loving you then you feel great. When nobody is praising you and loving you then you feel worthless. That's how it goes when you need other people's validation to make you feel good about yourself. >how do I stop needing them to reciprocate my feelings when I'm clearly delusionalYou want them to reciprocate not because you have any genuine romantic interest in them as a person but because their validation is your fuel. You can't survive without it. That's why their participation in this emotional dynamic with you isn't necessary. They might as well not even exist. For your mind, they're just a battery - an energy source you can consume to stave off your depression. You're the only one who can answer this question of no longer needing them. Something or series of things happened to you in your life to stifle your emotional growth and make you incapable of building your own sense of self. I can't possibly know what that is. Maybe sit down with someone and figure it out.
>>33641199You live in a world of nonconformity and uniqueness so when someone who is simple and honest like myself appears complimenting you, you assume from your nonconformist mindset I'm bullshitting you, because in your world everyone who is trying to do the right thing and good thing are lying trying to cover up a lie. You reinforce that belief when your mother yells at you to get off the Xbox yelling at her that she is a fascist. When in reality all of us who is of this system is seeing a guy who we want to help, but can not do anything about it, because he thinks digging himself further and further in a hole is what keeps him away from the world. This world you believe no one is good in. You assume churches are a part of the KKK, you assume schools are turning children submissive, you believe your parents are blind to your pain, you believe every conservative politician out there is only got up there due to influencing the rich, and you think soldiers are savage beasts who fight in wars only to savor a sick sociopathic pleasure.Anon when you live your life like this, people who you see passing by your day are going to be genuine, and in your head because they don't fit your complication like the friends you smoke pot with after feeling like the world isolates you when really you are gonna be okay; anyway these genuine people are going to show they care about you. There is no need to act all cool and tough. Drop your guard. Throw away the bullshit detector that you use everytime you feel a kid who you feel is not at your intellectual level is. Because most certainly you and your pothead friends get the world and the common man doesn't.Anyway, just drop the bullshit detector. Okay, yeah me and a lot of people are too mainstream for you, but we care about you and want what is best. If you can't see that oh well at least we're giving you your freedom you wanted.
How to cope with being molested and abused and recieving no support
Accept it. It will always be there but doesnt mean you have to give in to the pain your better than that fuckass bitch who couldnt get laid properly also process it talk abt it with a friend or something and get yourself out of that shit hole if you havent
>>33640954Thank you anon.>>33640941All my friends have either moved away or are my abusers friend now - which means they either can't help or think I'm crazy>>33640644This is probably as true to the reality of the situation as it gets
>>33641265So you apparently thought I treated your serious situation like a joke, because I wasn't logical like the other anons. Anon, escaping abuse has no logic. It demands an immediate action. I pray to God you start seeing my honesty, because abuse is an extreme thing. My God you and everyone between the ages of 16-35 are hurting yourself if you think everyone is sarcastic all the time. Best of luck for you, but please stop it with the weirdass standpoint that those that wish the best want to do the worst. Maybe your abuser was like that, but Zach is different. I'm not perfect as how I got to being good was a journey not an instant thing.
>>33641379It's not that I don't think you're being sincere, it's that I do not have the resources or means to just dissappear. The thing about abuse is that it doesn't give you determination to improve - it just breaks your spirit and destroys your will
>>33641379I need to clarify... I DO NOT have a safety net outside of my freak family. If I leave them I will not just be hungry or poor: I will die
I'm black and over the years I have developed a deep burning desire for asian women.It's honestly not even a fetish anymore. I genuinely want to find and marry one of these women and spend the rest of my life with them.Even the ugliest asian woman is extremely attractive to me. A knockout 10/10.Please... can anybody give me advice on where I can find an asian woman that has the same burning desire to be with a black man?I live in America.
>>33632419That's hot
>>33634998Depends. You're going to have a lot of high expectations put on you and you'll be expected to provide at every step of the way
>>33636453That's not hot then. Fuck that shit.
>>33636882Fuck that puto
>>33629267what... what show is that?
I'm eighteen (18) and I haven't really ever tried to smoke a cigarette, never ever in my entire life did that cross my mind, but I've had multiple people around me do it. Whatever their reason was for it, it got them to feel some kind of stability, so I thought that in the times I feel unstable both emotionally and mentally, should I reach for a cig and smoke it? Or should I find a better addiction, cause self harm is out of the way for now and alcohol probably tastes gross...
>>33637265No
I smoked a cigarette for the first time in my mid-30s. My zoomer french gf convinced me to try it, and she was giving me a ton of compliments saying I look so cool smoking and drinking but honestly, I didn't feel any effects, maybe I wasn't really inhaling. I'd rather smoke weed, it feels nicer to inhale and therefore easier for me as a very rare smoker, good fragrance.I have been considering carrying around a pack when going out, especially at night to at least see if the situation presents itself. There was one time where a hottie at a party asked me for a cig and I could have easily gotten closer to it because of it
All of the people saying Yes should be ashamed of themselves.
>>33637265If you must, vape
I have a poster in my room with a smoking character from a computer game. But I don't smoke, and I never have. Smoking only makes movie/TV series/game characters cool. And there are many other ways to relieve stress. In situations of instability, doing something I loved or exercising helped me. After sports, my mind felt lighter and calmer.«Every smoker should know and understand that he is poisoning not only himself, but also others»
So bros, I'm a 28 year old guy, pretty introverted but with the right people (like her for example) I can get extroverted, and I met this really cute 23 yo Albanian girl that's been born and raised in Athens working as a pharmacist, I live in another country but a flight would take around two hours to reach Athens, so not far.We met on this language exchange app, I wanted to learn or actually improve my Greek since I know a bit, she wanted to learn Korean but we still talked even though I didn't know any Korean, so she helped me with some Greek, and also practiced some English, even though both of us are pretty fluent in it. So we talked and got comfortable with each other for around 3 weeks, told each other good morning/night, we sent each other a few pics, some voice messages, selfies, she even sent me a no makeup beach pic, we talked about out lives, what we want for the future and what we want in a partner, you know I guess more mature kinds of talks, but we also sprinkled in some memes, jokes, and flirts/teases as well. I asked her if she has any boyfriend and she said no, and that she isn't really looking for one.Now out of the blue in one morning, she just told me that she's really upset about this, but that we have to cut contact now when it's early rather than later, cause she started liking me and stopped seeing my as just a friend, and I got so mad and sad about it, I tried to convince her that I will come to Athens and meet her, but she said that long distance relations don't work and she doesn't really want a boyfriend now anyways cause of some personal issues as well, she also said she gonna move from Athens in a month, and I told her to give me any of her social or number, but she said she doesn't want to because of what she said earlier...So after a bit of talking, she said goodbye and wished me a good life, and that I was a good guy who will find someone as good as I am, or can't exactly remember what she said but basically a goodbye forever.
>>33639768I won't read how to move on threads. They are always extremely long and posted by someone who gets perverse satisfaction from torturing himself, and I won't indulge his fetish by listening to him.
>>33639797Nice LARP ass hat. Now I know that every single post here can be disregarded. Fuck off. Not convincing anyone of shit
>>33640843HE IS SAME FAGGING BACK AND FORTH TO CREATE DEMORALIZATION CAMPAIGN AND TARGET OTHERS
>>33639831I think they call that a sex addiction
>>33639786This and..>>33640843This...Especially when the so-called "move on" threads are about moving on from a person they've never fucking met in real life.I'm really getting fed up with these fucking kids where their entire lives and social circles are on the internet. Go the fuck outside...You don't know her, you don't love her, none of this shit is real. You never really know a person until you actually physically interact with them in person.How do they behave in real life? How do they act in public? How do they react in certain situations? How do they treat the waiter when your out to dinner? Etc...Any time I see some child lamenting over a virtual, online non-relationship it fills me with rage and I don't know why.Plus, I'm sure most of the people in this thread have similar, bullshit "gfs" and "bfs" they've never actually met. Go meet a real human in the real world and get over it, pussy...Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I fucking hate this website that has taken up almost 15 years of my fucking life. 99.9% of the posts made here are complete fucking dogshit made by retards yet I continue to mindlessly scroll 16 hours a day. I'm the real fucking spastic for staying here but I CANNOT LEAVE.CAN SOMEONE TELL ME GENUINELY HOW I LEAVEI WANT TO LEAVE AND MAYBE I'LL MAKE SOMETHING OF MY LIFE
I left this site for a year. It actually made my life worse. I was just miserable and depressed and boring. Really I need this site and its stream of random bs to stimulate my brain and give me ideas and keep me on the cutting edge so I can be more creative. Maybe something else out there could work but I can't find it. I think everything else is too artificial and mainstream and doesn't give the same freedom and immediate feedback.
>>33640723just keep lurking and posting, 99% of 4channers give up before they win.
>>33640723>99.9% of the posts made here are complete fucking dogshit made by retardsIts about 50% bots and 40% paid posts by glowies. The other 9.9% are the retards you're looking for.There's really not that many genuine humans left on 4chan
>>33640723just get a life ban by posting actresses on /tv/ that are 17 years and 11 months old
>>33640723OP, you're one of the retards. I love coming to this website once in a blue moon and reading all of these low IQ people complain that other people are retarded.
>its a "anon took meth pills and jerked off for i shit you not 28 hours straight" episodei think i am at a low point. I am doing this atleast once a week. The problem started when I got prescribed vyvanse for ADHD. So I started buying 'adhd meds' on the darknet which are probably just meth pressed into pillsso for the past .... 3-4 months ive been reguarly taking (meth)amphetamines and basically gooning all dayshits getting bad. How do I get out of this spiral?This is pissing me off because I was just starting to do goals and things before i get misdirected
>>33636945incest porn
bump
>>33637032Based. What kind of incest porn?
>>33640226mom/son, aunt/nephew
>>33625129smoke weed to stop yourself from doing meth, it will help.
My fiancé took a job in another city without consulting me. It's over, right? Like I should just break up with her at this point, no?
>>33640326Nigga that's your fiancé just fucking talk to her.
>>33640436/thread
>>33640326Need some details.Does your job provide more or less than hers (specifically the one she plans to get)?Have you had any conversation about it? What was said? The more specific you can get with I said / she said the more useful.Is the city in which she took a job larger/more glamorous than the place you currently live.Do you and your fiance currently live together? How "tied" to your current place of living are you?How intertwined are the both of you in each others' lives? Shared friends/ Get along well with each others family/ etc. Do you have joint finances?How long have you been engaged? Was there a wedding date set?All that said its probably over. Uprooting and moving without telling you her plans is anti-commitment behavior. If she perceives her new job offer as a superior provider than your career (even if its not strictly true, financially) there's a high likelihood she thinks she can upgrade. Despite all feminism's stated values of equality women notoriously ditch the man if his role as a vastly more able material provider is not blatantly obvious.
>>33640794What are your goals? In most cases "Long term planning" is just a cope that allows people take less initiative in the present.
>>33640902It's just my gut feeling which tells me when I am working that It should server a greater purpose
>>33640902>>33640991The rockefeller meant that working hard isn't enough if you don't think about longterm, (the pic related)
>>33640991Better answer than I was expecting. I'm not sure that really exists. Opportunity exists in the present and is fleeting. Success usually comes from finding some sort of opportunity, going all in and having everything pan out for you.
>>33641207Got it, thanks for the answer fren.
