Had a pretty bad break up late last year and I'm still feeling the shock of it most days. It's a pretty long and evolving story I really don't want to tell again, but the gist of it is>Long distance relationship>Lots of incompatibility but it made us (me?) love more. He has abandonment issues and I have the opposite if it gives best insight>turns out he actually was actually messaging other guys and my sister the whole time and ultimately dated her behind my backKinda ruined a lot of my trust in others while also pushed me to try whatever I can to recover from all that.>Going to therapy and on some meds now. Depression and some psychosis stuff>Hanging out with friends more (weirdly enough actually helped two of them get through their own breakups and suicide)>Tried a sfw /soc/ thread (I ended up ghosting everyone)>I don't visit my family as much because of the one sister, but my parents are now aware that I'm biI feel conflicted about the whole thing I wanna be able to feel happy without feeling horrified again and it's been a wild ride so far. I think I'm willing to try anything but dating because I definitely wasn't great at the time and I'm aware I haven't changed yet (I'll hear your wisdom if this is a good idea or not)>ReligionI'd prefer not relying on one, but I think about it a little. Pray for me if you are religious
>>34648075>I'm biyou're a faggot, kys
>>34648075From my personal experience, there are no 'practical' actions you can take to get over a breakup faster. Just continue on with your like like normal, pursue your interests, hang out with friends and family, etc. And you will find yourself naturally getting over it day by day. These things take time.
How do I get rid of this feeling that I'm gonna get fucked over.>Be me>Working in a factory for years>manager knows I'm autistic and treats me like shit for it>Raises are few and far between and told I was too stupid to get a promotion>Try to job hunt while keeping things secret, nobody will hire me because I'm trying to not lose this job by calling in every time I have an interview. I am the only employee that doesn't get PTO, and I get points if I call in sick. >Manager gets promoted>They hire in a guy>I have to train him to do set ups and paperwork, because again...they think I'm too stupid. >He looks into my personnel record>Sees that I'm the lowest paid person in the shop despite years of experience and training>Even new hires make whole dollars more than me>He says that he wants to get me a massive raise to bring me into parity with my co-workers, basically 10 grand more per year>Management fights him on it, basically because management thinks I'm retarded.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34650593he still thinks you being treated like this is unfair, he's about to find out exactly why you're treated like thishe's gaining feeling like a good guy that's doing the right thing from it until he realizes it's the wring thing
>>34650593Then again, you are a stupid autistic freak. Autists molest children and torture animals, so it would be better if you continue being expoited.
>>34650473I'd be more likely to kill myself than anything. I quit once and had to go back because I couldn't even get a fucking minimum wage job. Someone once suggested that when I applied to places, they called for a reference, my employer told them I wasn't a good employee.
>>34650624I'll try to walk you through it.Get whatever government program for autism you have in your country to help you. There's manual jobs that require next to no skill or thinking, especially that your country has factories. The worst thing that can happen from you reaching out is finding someone with sympathy for your situation.>they called for a referenceYou're supposed to leave your friends' numbers as your supervisors. When the people from your new job call they say something along the lines of "anon? He's an average worker. I'm too busy to talk more"
>>34649847>that whole fucking storyyou know the origin of "going postal"?
>be me>girl at uni wants my d>asks me out on a date for next week>she happens to be turkish>stalk her insta a bit>she calls herself a muslim and has multiple posts celebrating islamic holidaysShe's hot and I like her but I don't know if I can date someone who is a follower of Pedohammad.What's weird is there is like nothing religious about her at all. You wouldn't even guess it. She looks European, dresses like any normal girl in our country (UK), drinks alcohol, smokes weed, and of course asked out me (non-religious white English guy).Be honest Anons am I making a mistake getting involved with her?
>>34642342She might have a disease
>>34646773Most of us can only dream.
>>34645992>anon fucked an Eskimo
>>34642342Unless you can convert her into athiesm I would say def not. Really don't like having to deal with people that have a bunch of retarded belief systems. I don't like dealing with people in general either. I don't like people.
>>34643904It depends on the kind of posts. Virtue signaling so the grandparents back home can see inspiring "God is love" messages on their feed is different from getting into retarded debates about the true meaning of some Bible verse.
I have been struggling a lot with many things lately. I have been trying to say "yes" to more things like going out with friends during a time I wouldn't normally go out even though I am not busy. For example, I'd normally only go out on weekends. I have been trying to say yes to doing things more often during the week. Anyway, I have major issues with driving sort of. I can do it but difficult driving takes a lot out of me energy wise and stress wise. I asked my friend "When you drive to a place you haven't been to before, what do you do?" He didn't understand my question. I asked him again and all he said "Bro, what do you mean? I throw the address in the GPS and just go. What are you asking me?" Then it dawned on me that I am some sort of neurotic mess. I don't at all EVER just "pop the address in a GPS and go." I have to manually go on google maps and I follow the WHOLE path from start to finish in street view. I take note of any weird intersections or weird roadways. I scope out the parking lot of the location and I scope out their busiest times and their slowest times as far as crowds. THEN, I double check everything the night before the event and then I go. So I never ever just get up and go.I do this sort of thing with many many things in my life. I have this intense need to know how things will flow. I can't describe it. Its like I can never just do something. I always have to prepare. I felt terrible once I realized that my friend couldn't even grasp what I was asking of him because its such an alien thing that almost no one probably does. So I was effectively asking him to think like a fucking retard. What can I do? I am afraid to ask my friends more questions like this because now I fear the answer. I remember the utter look of confusion on his face because he really didn't understand what I was asking him because it was effectively retarded.
>>34649810What is the difference between regular anxiety and an anxiety disorder?
>>34649836how often it happens, how long it lasts and how it seeps into everything you do. It's normal to feel anxiety sometimes, specially when trying new stuff, but not all the time, with everything you do.
>>34650041I would say it happens to me frequently unfortunately. If someone said "Hey man, we gotta go [INSERT EVENT HERE] next week." That would seemingly murder me. Its something about finding out I have to do something and then waiting for it to come around so I can finally get it over with. So basically what happens to me is that my mind basically pauses everything else and I can't help but think about the event that I have to do next week. I hate surprises but I'd almost rather people just spring shit on me instead. Because then I wouldn't have to be tortured by the waiting.
>>34650160>So basically what happens to me is that my mind basically pauses everything else and I can't help but think about the event that I have to do next weekYour brain is treating it like a life or death situation, you have to convince it that it isn't. Hanging out with friends shouldn't be stressful. It takes time and exposure but it's doable. I still have problems with anxiety, but something that helps is reassuring myself whenever I feel anxious, shit like:>"it's fine, I already checked the route twice, I can always check it again later">"if the parking lot is full I can always park further away and walk">"I double checked the door before leaving I'm positive it's closed"Try doing it with something small first and see if that helps a bit
>>34649774You sound like you have OCD.
Although is just 20h the week and the salary is more or less good for the amount of time you work, I only see macabre relates of being a teacher(both public and private). I am currently working in an administrative job and it's kinda comfy despite some stressful moments and it's also 20h.
>>34647069>Is it worth being a teacher?it used to be agood jb with a lot of free time, now it's just humiliation ritual, kids will film you and put in the onternet to shame u, use AI to make deepfakes etc etc, I personally would avoid it
>>34647069being a teacher is one of those jobs that you shouldnt get for the pay. you shouldnt be a teacher if you are not passionate about educating your community and potentially dealing with troubled youth. you will be doing kids a disservice
>>34647069In my opinion no, but that's only cause I have zero patience and also I know I'm the type to fold if a female student wants to fuck me so I'm not even gonna go down that rabbithole
>>34648751>>34648817>>34649208>>34649340Thanks for the answers. I'm also a History graduate, and I've always loved the subject and teaching it to others. But the state of education where I live has become pretty bad.Students can get away with almost anything, and teachers often aren't allowed to properly discipline them. On top of that, there are coworkers and school administrators who may go after other teachers simply because they have different views.I know teachers who are genuinely passionate about what they do, but they're constantly burned out. Unfortunately, many of them say that the negative aspects of the job are so exhausting that they end up overshadowing the good parts.
do you actually think teachers only work the school hours? kek at least research about a job before considering it
How do I become a person people want to hit up and hang out with instead of being the one that has to hit up people and never be the person you want to hang out with first?
>>34650518I'm already sick and tired of you after reading one of your posts, I can only imagine what it must be like to try and have fun at a party when you're there
>>34650530https://youtu.be/paq-ECNWqKQ?is=Buil8uHms-EU4Ribliterally, actually, exactly me at my own story
>>34650540not clicking that
>>34650544it's a hyena from lion king laughing too loud and disturbing the chill vibei feel like you'd get it
>>34650553yeah, that sounds about right
Why do women treat me like shit my entire life by not having sex with me?
>>34635489stop posting that guy's retarded face on here you faggot spammer.sage
>>34645638What’s retarded about his face?
>>34635489Because you're a shit person who only wants sex, not a relationship. You don't truly love women, you love them pleasuring you.
Meditate upon the Enneads, connect your incoherent appetites with your rationality, become passionate instead of emotional
>>34648743>>34648769Fuck off, cunts.
I am 37 years old and a khhv.If i would end up meeting someone and got asked about my last relationship or how many sexual partners i had, what i should say?
Hello,I am a Woman and I wanted to tell you my thoughts. If someone loves you they won’t care about any of that so dont lie to the women you meet with. If she does care it’s because of insecurity (eg; “He wont know how real women look since he has never been with one and he will expect me to look like a pornstar/model) but those fears will go away if you treat her right and are nice to her.
>>34646104>never having had a serious relationship is weirdIf someone fails a serious relationship then what his new woman is expecting from him? Isn't this a "red flag"?>>34649596>If someone loves you they won’t careBefore someone will fall in love with me i would have to pass the initial filter and being a virgin is a tough one.
>>34649625When someone likes you for who you are none of that matters. Im speaking from personal experience here.
>>34649625If she loves you she would be happy to lead and help you lose your virginity in a comfortable way. Dont overthink
>>34649596do no trust her even if she's saying the truth, she is not the majoritydo not state you're a 37 year old virgin to a woman you're trying to date
Anybody know what it takes to make a successful PMV? I've been trying for years to make one that people like, but I only ever manage to get like 1K views on them while other PMV creators get like 10K or 30K views on theirs.
>>34645374Let's celebrate by giving OP a blowjob
>>346458335.7K views and apparently it now has this squiggly arrow icon over the top of it. I guess that means it's on some kind of trending list.
>>346289905.1 with 109 votes>>346484266.0K views
>>34641887So this is my score report for the pmv games of 2026. It's how they do it based on their judging criteria.>https://www.worldpmvgames.com/judgingThis was the preliminary round and the reason I didn't make it to the finals. But they did include feedback. So I guess there were 4 judges. Their names were>skerrako>Mandy>posty0398>mstc You get up to 10 points, 5 hot, 5 cold. The more points, the better your score.The hot points count more than the cold points, cause it's all about being positive. My average score was 2.23
>>34650443Here's what each of the judges scored me and their individual feedback of my video >skerrako>Hot Score = 1>Cold Score = 3>Total Score = 0.70>Finalist Nomination = No>Comment>Wel isnt this a love letter tot he legendary Nastya Ness!. As far as a PMV, pretty basic, unforutnately the cuts arent always synced wand tightly, but this edit does have great source material. I do that you used all of the alotted time, but it feels a little more like a compilation than a pmv - try adding different types of cuts and transitions to give the edit some depth. Thanks for your entry! >Mandy>Hot Score = 2>Cold Score = 3>Total Score = 1.70Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>spend most of my time bored and listless>even small goals seem too far out of reach>proven immune to every depression treatment on earth>can't even kill myself because I have people dependant on mewhat the fuck do I even do with my time?
ora et labora
How do you even get back the trust of an IRL close friend after saying something that hurt her feelings and now she’s blocked you everywhere?We used to talk every day and she even said I was one of her few friends. One night we were joking around insulting each other where it hurts, but she took it seriously and ended up blocking me everywhere. I tried apologizing but she didn’t respond. It’s been a month since then and I still feel really bad about it :(
>>34649686(2/2)However, this has made me think about everything again. I don't want to show up and have it turn into this awkward thing when we inevitably run into each other, but it probably will be. I guess part of me wants closure and part of me wants to be friends again. I also have a morbid curiosity to know if she has been seething anywhere close to me (I suspect this is a possibility) but that line of thought is unproductive, so I'll let that one go.I also left her a voicemail the other day. First time reaching out in, again, over 2 and a half years. Since it went directly to voicemail I know I'm still blocked, so it's a long shot that she'll even think to check her blocked voicemails (that's how it works on iPhone). She tends to be pretty immediately reactive to calls and texts, so that's another point towards "definitely blocked" I still have several mutual friends with her, but the ones that are mine have a pretty dim view of her after everything, and reaching out by proxy feels weird to me.I guess I'm just ranting now. I miss my friend.
>>34649661Damn, that's actually solid advice. If she wanted to talk to me, she would've reached out by now. Maybe I should just stop checking her messages. Thanks, anon.
>>34649691Bro, if she hasn't tried to contact you, she may have simply moved on with her life. If you two had a good friendship, she probably misses those moments too, but if she still hasn't come back by now, there's a chance that when you meet again she won't want to fix anything.If she tries to start a conversation with you at the event you're going to, just act casual. Don't overthink it. In the best-case scenario, she'll see that you've changed, and you'll see that she's changed too. And maybe (JUST MAYBE) you can rebuild the friendship as different people.Don't get discouraged, but if nothing happens, then you'll just have to accept it.
>>34650110keep in mind women are not usually the ones that reach out first in situations like that.t. been in that situation, met up in person through a mutual reintroducing us, and got married.
>>34650312Never really thought about it like that. Women are pretty complex. Maybe if he doesn’t come in all aggressive, things might just play out naturally without forcing anything. Though he’s still kind of hoping it works out, so he should probably relax a bit.
If I never got a single match on Tinder in the entire year I used it, is that a good sign to give up dating?
how about you give up posting abhorrent threads?
>>34649203No
>>34649203He’s been at it for ten years, he probably will rope if he had to stop
>>34650292would be nice if he did
Anybody ever have cramps in your diaphragm? Those hurt like a bitch.Y'all know how to minimize the pain when they happen?Shit feels like a heart attack man
>>34648900Why not like massage the diaphragm?
>>34648918Oh right:Gently press two fingers into the sore spot just under your ribcage while exhaling slowly. This can help manually release the tension
>>34648935Excruciating painful. And it's at the core of your body too. The most vulnerable of all the vulnerable places.
You just made me remember I suffered from these all the time growing up. They just started going away. By college, I hadn't had them for years. Shit's awful. Can't even breathe in or else you feel like your chest is being stabbed. I actually wish I could help you, OP.
>>34650170Thanks man. It's probably due to some vitamin deficiency. My doctor said I am severely deficient in vitamin D, and you need D to properly process calcium and a host of other stuff.She gave me a mega dose 50K IU prescription of vitamin D to be taking weekly, so we'll see where that goes.
can someone with people skills audit this and tell me what she meant>take the train to work every week for the past 4 years>sit in same spot, same car, same train every week of those 4 years>cute girl sits across from my spot each time>my age (context: usually the only person my age on that train, live in suburbs so few 20's here)>catch her stealing glances at me here and there, but otherwise never spoke to/interacted, but visually acknowledge each other>train's "culture" is basically never acknowledge anyone else unless you know them, especially on quiet car where we sit>train ride is like an hour btw, we look at each other every so often>this goes on for 2 years (how long she's been taking the same train)>one day, only time this ever happened, she gets up from her spot (we sit on the 2nd level separated by railings on opposite rows facing each other) and walks over to sit on my side, like a few seats over>Completely unprompted, the train wasn't half as crowded that day as usually is, she had like a dozen seats on her side and 1st level>Train arrives, everyone gets up beforehand to stand in line to exit (we both usually get up before the train stops)>she keeps sitting, waits for me to start walking towards the stairs down, past where she's sittingComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34648936Weird that you've set across from her for 2 years and haven't even said hi. Id at least try to get familiar with her just to break the ice. "Morning, seems kinda weird that we've been sitting across from eachother and haven't ever talked, lol, im anon."
>>34649768Wouldn't it be kinda weird after 2 years? To suddenly go from vaguely acknowledging each other to talking?And the train car we usually take is mostly the same people each time (I can recognize at least 8 of them by face) but I've never seen anyone speak on the train/platform ig it's just the way things are here>>34649041How? Like, as a socially inexperienced person, what do I even say? That the morning is nice? Serious question here. I see her reading on some days (idk the books or authors tho) so should I ask about that or would that be creepy?
>>34649860>That the morning is nice?A neutral theme like the weather is always a good thing. Or maybe talk about the local sports-ball team. If she has ear buds in, you could talk about music. I don't know your culture, so maybe talk about weekend drinking or some TV event.If you want to be more personal, if you know anything about clothing. You could comment on your shoes or her coat. Maybe she just got her nails or hair done.If you want to be very personal, you could say how seeing her on the morning train is proof you are awake and not just dreaming about the commute. Or something goofy like that.
>>34650054How should I say it though? Like do I need to say my name, followed by the weather? Or like "Hey, the weather is cloudy today, I hope it doesn't rain. I'm anon btw"And like if she gives a one-word response do I just keep talking or back off? Do I need to say "sorry" or "see you" or something? I don't want to weird her out and make her feel uncomfortable siting in the same train
>>34649860>Wouldn't it be kinda weird after 2 years? To suddenly go from vaguely acknowledging each other to talking?I mean a little, but you have to get over that hump if you wanna talk to her. You're really just talking to her to see if she wants to talk to you. You'll sense from how she responds to you if she wants to talk to you or get to know you at all. If she seems happy to talk, asks questions or talks about herself willingly. And hell if she doesn't seem like she wants to talk then at least now you know, you wont have to wonder what could have been if you talked to her.
Why are women so obsessed with confidence in men?
>>34643562Because men who don't have it are insufferable
>>34647916That didn't answer my question
>>34647947And douchebags are so good
>>34648819The douchebag will at least protect her
>>34648819Douchebags are overconfident.They overstate their abilities and importance. You can be confident without being pompous.
