How do I overcome? Don't tell me "iTs YeR pErsOnALitY" when I've had two separate interview coaches tell me my personality isn't the problem. If that were the case no one should have a job.
I’m going to tell you all a huge secret to getting a job, and I mean a desk job with air conditioning and weekends off.Tell them you’re married with kids.Employers, especially the women doing the hiring, will see you as attractive. They will see you as a man with plans. You will get benefits such as a higher pay. You will get priority vacation days. You won’t be bothered on your days off. You will get to leave early because they think you’re helping your kids. You will get holidays off for your kids that don’t even exist.>You’re young and single! You can’t complain! You can cover for Stacy! You don’t have a family to take care of!You do now if you pretend.>Job interview>”Tell us a little about yourself”>Well, I’m a husband with a great wife and a father of two kids…>”What kind of kids?”>Oh, I have two beautiful little daughters. One is nine, and the other just turned three…Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
The jobs are either fake or intentionally obtuse so they can either find an elusive 10x, or say "we can't find eligible candidates, we're sending the job to India".
>>34964167>9 roundsFor the same job?This sounds like theyre too timid to turn you down so theyre going to keep interviewing you forever until you say you're not interested.
>>34964167I'll let you on a little secretcocaine is the right tool for those short, high stakes moments where you need to display confidence and brainsbtw, your competition is using it
>>34964167Find blackmail of the person who can give you a job and blackmail him into giving you the job.
I barely reflect about things anymore and I don't care about many things, only games, books and visual novels, and even though I read books I don't think they aggregate too much to myself, probably because I'm a NPC. The only thing that is occupying my mind lately is my coursework and Danganronpa, which lead me to want to read more mystery novels, and while there is nothing wrong with that, maybe it's too little. How to stop being an NPC and become a proper person? It seems that even with what I'm majoring in I'm more moved by university bureaucracy than the passionate flames of my heart, one that is eager to understand deep ideas and such.
>>34973400what if Im bad at building though, I like to draw but I'm terrible at my own ideas, I want to make music and make many riffs in my niche genre but then I re listen to them and think ''this is terrible'', I build my body through weights but that doesn't fulfil a creative need to build. Is it just about doing these things despite being terrible to stave off becoming an NPC or is that cope, like if I thought of something then drew it and now that exists in the world does this stop me from being a drone?
>>34973002stop using your phone and the internet every time you feel bored, you might have an original thought or two
>>34973586 I got shit for this earlier, but everyone likes to draw and wants to make music. Do you have the 1 in 500,000 skill to make a living at either? Neither does anyone else. Same thing we need to tell to retarded blacks in the1st world: Don't plan on playing professional sports. Did your parents not have that talk with you? Ok, now, real talk. Building is not just playing with crayons and a keyboard. It's fixing things, putting them together, using your resources to make something that didn't exist before. Yeah, there are respectable hobbies and ridiculous gay ones, but focus on real building: building relationships, a life, a future, a business. It's good to use your hands and brain to create, it's rewarding, but building also refers to building a life for yourself. I own a millwork and fine carpentry shop. I mostly make high end custom staircases, statement pieces like bathtubs, but my kids are my legacy, not my business. Oh, I'm proud of it, but going home is the best part of my routine. Op, if I can offer one more piece of advice, stop worrying about being ordinary. If you build a life you love, you'll end up doing something rewarding and exceptional if you make a plan and work towards it over the years, if that's what you want. The stuff that happens after you make concrete progress towards your goals will help you stay on target if your goal is a good one.
>>34973669I have access to 0 workshops though, I have no intentions on making a living from hobby things, I dont think generating money from that is a requirement to being a non npc either. I also have nothing to fix or to put together. With no workshop or physical resources I cant make a staircase or bathtub so thats out of the window. I suppose I could look at pottery or something but that doesn't entirely interest me. >building relationships, a life, a future, a business.In terms of building a life itself I mean ive been doing that for 25 years, I have a gf, I do things with people occasionally, I have a job that I like from my stem MSc and I have enough to get a mortgage, I'm in very good health and physical shape. But in terms of a long term massive plan I have no idea, I've just been trying to get to this point for years and now I'm like wtf do I do now, I'm not sure what to do aside from continuing building what I'm building as on its current trajectory its solid but on a smaller level I dont create anything, there is no creation, but create what? I dont want to be an npc, I can consume finer things like literature or climbing up a mountain but I'm still consuming something, I'm sick of consuming and despite pondering what I could do to not be an NPC I'm still going to be an npc. Also not OP.
>>34973361Thanks, anon. If what you said is true, it seems that I'm on the right track already. >>34973400Thank you for taking your time. Actively, I'm writing and playing sports. I am also trying to become a better reader by reading progressively harder books (even if that's more passive, at least my improvement fulfills me). And now that you say, I think I'm finding ways to not let life pass me by. I will try sticking to those.>>34973586OP here. From my experience, even if your drawing is bad, you have to keep practicing keeping in mind that if you do so, you will get better. After one year of drawing, I could see a huge difference in my skills, and the same goes for sports [spoiler]especially because I'm a former fatfuck[/spoiler].>>34973612That's my biggest problem. Despite knowing I should do that, I still get my phone or play some game, always.
I feel like I'm missing a certain "X-Factor" when it comes to attracting women. On paper I should be doing well, I'm 24, white, have been told I'm good looking, I used to be a personal trainer and am in good shape, and I have a prestigious and high paying career. The only thing truly wrong with me is that I'm short (5'8") but I don't think I'm short enough to negate literally everything else I have accomplished. I have had one relationship in the past, and the girl liked me (I ended up breaking up with her) but outside of that I've basically had zero luck with women. When I chat with women online, they're aware of my situation, find me attractive, etc. yet never want to go on a date or meet in person, all they want to do is chat. It's a similar story with a lot of women that I meet in person, most women are actually pretty nice to me and treat me well, but it seems like the very few times I have tried to pursue anything romantic with a woman irl something just fallas flat it's hard to explain. I've never experienced outright rejection, but it's always like the women want to put off a date until later if that makes sense. I'm hoping someone on here may be able to redpill me on what I'm doing wrong or what's I'm missing. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to read and respond.
>>34972365In your self-catalog you make no mention whatever of a personality. Is there anything to you other than your looks and job?
>>34973082I don't think I'm a bad person, I actually think I'm quite likeable and most people I meet do like me, I very rarely have beef with anyone. It's just that it is difficult to explain my personality objectively through text. Obviously my issue likely does stem from some aspect of my personality, I'm pretty reserved and kind of a shut-in, which doesn't help of course, but I still find it difficult to wrap my head around why it's rare for women who are attracted to me that I meet online to rarely want to go on a date in real life. I'm never disrespectful, nor do I push the envelope too much with someone I don't know like that. Maybe one of you autists will have some advice to give, although I'd wager most people on here are in a similar boat.
i kill niggas like you out in the wide open. give me your fishies before i get tame on yo white ass. you know it, i know it. give me your wifeys.
>>34972365>I've never experienced outright rejectionthis is hella sus, they must be getting herbivore/friend vibesare you conveying interest / flirting heavily enough so that they KNOW you're trying to get in their pants?
>>34973527I think so, but maybe not. With most women, especially irl, I am trying to avoid getting blasted on social media, or getting BTFOd in some other way. I have shit to lose now is the problem, and I'd rather keep what I've got than risk it, even if it's a tiny risk, just to get with a girl if that makes sense. Maybe I am just paranoid idk
This guy in my sociology class keeps looking at me and I don't know what it means kek. I think he might be from a middle eastern country (we're in the US if that's helpful) so maybe it's not strange to stare at people to him(?) Or maybe he likes me? But I'm a kind of ugly girl and we've never spoken so I feel like it's not that either. Anons please let me know what you think
>>34973157It's impossible to say. He may think you're attractive, or he may be horrified by you.
>>34973157he may think you need to be stuffed in a burka or he may be imagining what it would be like to cut your face off and wear it as a mask for halloween - but just let nature run its course time will tell
>>34973157Maybe he's looking at you cause you're ugly.
>>34973157Impossible to say. I was staring at a woman at the airport once because she looked uncannily like my mother. It could mean anything
>>34973157hello. i am middle eastern as well. he likes you 100%. also, keep in mind white girls like yourself as seen as stacies in our part of the world, no matter what you look like. for him, fair skin and blonde hair = 10/10
I don't underastand my envirnment and find it extremely hard to do tat which I do not have a habit of doing, even things I enjoy. What do? :(
I’m 26 just got my CDL, don’t really have a “life” no friends no girlfriends nothing like that. Every now and then I get a real strong urge to join the military and it’s not even for the money it’s more the “experience” and pushing myself physically which attracts me. I’ve had this since I was like 18 and I take it serious for a month and then say nah and push it to the back of mind again.How do I know what to do? Because it’s a pretty big commitment and like I said I’m 26 not 18 so
You look for a purpose in life. You wont find it there.
>>34973456yeah100 years ago or so when in return you would be given a house, a tight virgin wife who gives you 3+ kids maybebut nowadays you go to military to defend the zogbot gay status quo of endless subhuman import and monetary inflation
Maybe look deeper at it. Thinking about something is not a rewarding activity, and neither is talking about something. Explore the idea. Really look. Take the ASVAB (or your country's equivalent), the military aptitude test. There's no obligation but it will VERY accurately tell you what you're good at, what you'll enjoy doing, and what the military will be willing to do for you. Fwiw, I qualified for nuke school, navy nuclear engineering training, but the test showed I would enjoy Seabee work more, which is true. I own a woodworking company today.
>>34973450I was a cadet and that shit made me realise I never wanted to join the army.
>>>/v/748698141>Kissless, fapless virgin at 31>First woman, instant girlfriend, for the hell of it>Nothing in common>Torrid, passionate, "let's get married next month" kind of relationship >Lasted for 8 months>Second woman at 36>Five year relationship, two of them living together>Great person, although not really compatible with my core personality>Decide to marry her anyway>May turn out to be the greatest mistake of my lifeIf I could do it all over again, I would NOT have had anything with either of them. I settled for less. I recommend you don't.Fap as much as you need to quell the thirst. Do not settle for anything other than a woman you have A LOT in common with. Do not put up with their shit.
>>34973363I only care about my soulmate and our path forward. Good luck with whatever situation that you're describing
>>34973363the mistake here is failing to dump the 2nd woman in time. you did fine with the first. 6 months is good for exciting sex and fun dates, past that you have to have a lot in common and be on the same page with long term goals
>>34973363may you find solace, op
why do women do the "my ex was such an asshole" thing i hate it so muchthis weekend i went on the third date with my coworker, i was actually thinking this girl was gonna be my gf but then on the date she wouldn't shut the fuck up about how her ex was such a jerk to her all the timeit makes me lose interestand this seems to keep happening
>why do women do the...1. They don't. You keep picking up a type2. You want to hear how her ex was a great guy?
>>34972566i would completely genuinely 100% rather hear about how her ex was a nice guy and it just didnt work out than how she bailed this guy out of jail and hated him but stayed with him for 8 monthsi dont think that proves what you think it does
>>34972538You're rebound material, broLearn how to attract single women instead of creeping around taken coworkers and scooping up the sloppy seconds and you'll stop having this issue. I realize this is hard because women can only remain single for 0.2 milliseconds at a time but good ones or young ones will have stuck it out that long.
>>34972566Stop gaslighting. Every woman babbles about their ex. They think it means..."By telling you this, I'm telling you not to make all these mistakes he made when we date."...when it really means..."I'm a vapid cunt who's still hung up on my ex.".
>>34972538>why do women do the "my ex was such an asshole"Because in their mind if their ex was the asshole then it absolves them of accountability of the role they played in the failure of that relationship. It's a major red flag.
Hypothetically you are deceived into a loveless marriage and want to start fresh. What are some things you would do to start a new life elsewhere?
>>34972421Move to where you want to live is the number one thing. You're gonna struggle no matter where you are, and you're gonna be okay eventually. When you're okay you're either okay in Anaheim or back in Ohio. You have a chance at a real fresh start, start somewhere you really want to live this time.
>>349724211) Move out. Stay with family for a bit, maybe.2) If you don't already have a job, get one and start earning money.3) Get a place to live of your own. 4) Find a divorce lawyer and file for divorce.5) Initially, communicate with your spouse only to organise logistics like picking up any of your stuff from the house. After filing for divorce, don't communicate at all. This assumes either that the house is jointly owned or that it belongs to your spouse. If it's entirely in your name, then obviously they need to leave, not you.
>>34972421Don't leave until you have a backup cumdump.
>>34973260This. Find where you lost your heart before the person who decieved your into the marriage and start there. You will get support from those who care about you.
>>34972421does this hypothetical marriage feature any hypothetical kids?
How do you help a close relative (in this case male, 35) who is depressed, but is doing everything fucking wrong in how he handles it? And yes, I know people cope differently, but I also know that refusing to change ANYTHING that has led one to said depression doesn't fucking help: He's a overweight, close to obese and getting fatter; not in a relationship; and all he does is sit around, inside, playing video games or scrolling Youtube all day, every day.I want to be there for him, but it's hard when he just keeps digging himself deeper and deeper.
>>34972392>No one imposed them on youMy father, multiple teachers, factual, cause-and-effect evidence from actions I took.>You chose ugliness, stagnation, and comfort. No one else did that for you.I am forced to choose it. I'm not capable of anything else. Anyone that thinks otherwise of my abilities simply does not know anything about me or my history of failures.>There's nothing profound or meaningful about it.Plenty of novels to find those qualities in. A meaningless patch of time in a meaningless lifespan where you get to tell me [BREAKING NEWS] my selective isolation won't bring any clarity or revelation to me. >You do it to yourself buddy.And the world keeps turning. Likely in a better state than if I hadn't.>How about an hour? Set your gaming PC on fire, take a cold shower, leave the house. What then? Will you shrivel up and die?Considering I've no survival instinct, yeah. Maybe fentanyl will accelerate that (if I don't just get robbed outright for looking like a flabby bitch). Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34972392let's revisit>set your gaming PC on fire, take a cold shower, leave the houseAKA "just leave and make it by yourself, bro"This isn't the 1980s job market. I have no qualifying skills, and I don't have enough saved to move anywhere other than straight to the homeless shelter. picrel
>>34972334I'm 30 too and hikikomori loser like you.The problem is that someone is paying all the bills while we rot.I eat, I drink, I use electricity and internet and I'm not helping with the bills at the end of the month.I'm trying to find a low pressure job where I don't have to talk face to face with people but sending applications online is miserable and never leads anywhere.Your "just let me be" is definitely not sustainable though.
>>34970149this kind of case is almost desperatesounds like time for drastic measures>wait for good weather>drag his ass deep in the woods>feed him 4g dried magic mushrooms>watch him die and be born again (be there for safety but let him face his demons. he'll have a tough trip)>help him build healthy habits during the afterglowI've seen it workI've also seen it backfire spectacularly
>>34973409>someone is paying all the bills while we rotTrue. There's a lot of selfish entitlement in that. My attempts at working have ultimately landed me in more debt, however, and will incur even more if I do something like go back to school. Shutting myself in is a form of damage control.>I'm trying to find a low pressure job where I don't have to talk face to face with peopleA mirage, as you've pointed out. >not sustainableof course it isn't. I'm essentially waiting for permission to kill myself. I can't even corner the market on vlogging about it, and my situation is much less sympathetic than picrel.Yes, I'm aware of the "permanent solution to temporary problem" cliche. My estranged father essentially isolated his obese, mentally ill self to death 5 years ago, and my younger cousin did kill himself 2 years ago. I was born into a mentally ill family, where the boomers pulled out all the stops to prevent anyone from knowing they would inherit circles of hell in their head for their lifespan.One more time: against all better judgement, I was born. If you're a parent, you signed yourself up for this for a lifetime.I can never have kids myself. It would be an act of extreme cruelty to inflict this life and my neuroses onto them.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
i’m a shut-in girl, around 165cm tall at 54kg. I have glasses and unkept blonde hair and i wouldn’t say i’m the most unattractive person. I enjoy playing visual novels and im pretty much always on my phone. I’ve never been in a real relationship excluding online relationships.Every time i ask somebody out in real life i get rejected or they break up within a day, so i’ve never really dated anybody. I really wanna get into a relationship yet i have severe social anxiety and really wanna improve, is there any way for somebody as useless as me to get into a relationship?I’m very close to giving up entirely on love, but i always see people portraying being in a relationship as the most fulfilling thing in existence, and i wanna experience it sometime.I desperately need any help with this, since i don’t wanna be a single loser forever..
>shut in>likes VNs>never been in a relationship >probably smells weird Literally my type. I'd kiss you if we met IRL.
>>34972212>kissKys, sexpest.
>>34958279tits or gtfoif you're really having trouble being around people, try to join a hobby group.>>34972212op is a dude, you probaly knew that though
>>34972873i’m not a man lol
>>34958279>is there any way for me to find love?>i'm a [...] girlyes, there is, get a dating app and a wide selection of willing boyfriends within under 24 hours
For whatever reason, I stopped having morning wood and proper erections a couple of days ago and I have no idea why. I haven't watched any porn for a month or so, and 5 days ago, I masturbated an hour before going to my gf since she was on her period, and then she jacked me off later that evening and I was rock hard, everything was fine. Next day, no morning wood, thought to myself "weird, but I did cum 2 times yesterday, so that could be it". However, it persisted. GFs period passed 2 days ago, tried to have sex, I barely got hard and came after 2 min. And yet I still have no morning wood, and whenever I try to make myself hard, it doesn't grow all the way (like, maybe 75%) and I can cum really fast. What the fuck is going on?????
What muscles should I workout so that I can last longer in bed?And by bed I mean a vagina.
>>34970248YOU HAVE LOST THE MATCH!!!
>>34970357lol peak boys i think no fap october is making me horny again im imaginign this mid british girl i met on an internaitonal trip recently and now i wish i had fucked her
>>34973228>no fap octoberuhhh don't you mean no nut november? o_O
>>34973276whats the difference - the point is there may be hope for us gooners after all we just have to resist long enough and then fat chicks will become attractive to us and wam bang thank you ma'am
>>34973281shit I don't have to resist I'll fuck a fat bitch right now
How to stop thinking about bad events that happened in the past? I can't stop thinking about a certain situation where i felt betrayed by everyone and let down, due to this i am starting to become misanthropic and resenetful towards society, i can not stop thinking of ways to fuck society up and harm others. This situation and the betrayel i felt keeps repeating in my brain everyday and with every day i become more psychopathic to humans.
>>34969687Don't worry because it's reversing right now and everything will be better. The moon only has eyes for the Sun
>you will forget about itSounds helpful but it is not it is like saying "this bleeding will stop" while not doing anything to the wound.
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>>34969687
Try this: Dwelling on the past is a powerful excuse to not think about the present. Don't make excuses for your unhappiness. You can choose to say NO! to your mind when you start doing this. It takes practice and a little discipline but only at first... a diet of the mind. No excuses. You will regret not trying harder to succeed and regrets at things not done are absolutely brutal... so stop doing that. Practice not looking back, and work at finding fulfillment. The work you do will be the best part when you start to get wins. It's a wonderful feeling, being proud of yourself. You just gotta work at it.
>recently discover my dad uses twitter>go onto his laptop when hes not around>its just lolicon >tfhow to proceed?
a middle aged guy who's not otherwise a weeb being into loli is suspicious
>>34972475You should hook him up with a double date.
>>34972475Watch it together
>>34972475you have a moral duty to kill him op
Fake and Gay op.>>34973214Thats like saying playing videogames will evolve into full blown murder and torture.
