>Splits the bills>Gets mad for actual valid reasons >Doesn't care about expensive shit>Caring and considerate>Can cook greatly>Appreciates little moments>Smart and practical>Supportive>Always hornyWhy you guys still haven't looked for a filipina dwarf wife yet? (Not the lower class ones, those are just social climbing leeches)
im gay
im in a friend group of roughly 12 people including myself and due to a recent falling out with one of the members everything is going to shit for everyone, so my question is, why do people bother to make friendgroups at all if one bad apple is all it takes to distance everybody back to square 0???
>>34785087it's the way it is. one table shitter and everyone has feculence sundays at the table. its up to the leader and everyone else to get rid of the bad apples and fix things to make it work.even friends table energy to make work so everyone/leader is going to have to try and make it work and tell people it's time to move past this. or the group splits in 2.did the table shitter have allies?has anyone tried to do damage control yet?
>>34785097the shitter has more than allies the shitter is dating someone from the group. and gets along decently with most.me and a close friend tried doing damage control and we got chastised for "taking it too seriously"
>>34785087It didn't use to be this way, but since social media has given the false impression that people can always be replaced with better people than whatever imperfect souls you spend your time with, anyone less holier than thou on whatever the issue of the day is can no longer make the cut in their minds and gets discarded. Nevermind how retarded this all is, that's how people act because they can't imagine a person with flaws being deserving of patience or effort, and so one bad apple gets enough stink on everyone else to make them throw out the whole bunch.
>>34785087Friend groups should be 3 to 5 people, not 12.
>>34785107>the typical guild story with love strings attachedi dont know if you guys have meetings, but if i was in your shoes, i'd get together with your close friends and write down very clear and concise about the problem, and then bring it up with those that care, or the entire group, to discuss.you will probably get a good idea based on the individuals reactions if they're some are going to go along with you or react in an extremely negative manner.if your suggestions/thoughts aren't met, then it is time to make an ultimatum and draw a line for yourself and your close friend. you don't have to be a turbo asshole, but just say something along the lines of, "X person is bringing the group down for Y and Z reasons. If we can't change X or keep them out of group affairs, me and my close friend are going to form a smaller group to do things so that this bullshit Y and Z doesn't keep repeating itself."Make it in a way that makes it sound like it's as impersonal as possible, and focused on the group health as a result of specific past history that keeps repeating itself.write it out like it's a police report that separates the people as much as possible, to prevent the, "you're dissing my girlfriend" reaction.>>34785243this sounds like the final solution
>34>people I know, but not really any "friends">few people I asked to hang out with either had other plans or were out of town>therefore alone on the saturday of a long weekend>45k a year at a 9-5 job I hate and am barely qualified for>never traveled>ok apartment in my hometown but dad pays for half of it>no gf>no degree>chronic autoimmune disease that basically requires me to be within a stones throw of a pharmacy in order to get medicine/medical equipment 90% of the timeI have a bit of savings but that's pretty much it in regards to things I have going for me. Around 100k. Would love to fuck off and travel a bit but worried about how to get diabetes supplies in foreign countries and don't want to die because I was stranded in some third world desert.What's the first step to fixing my life? I know I'm old as fuck. I lost basically the entirety of my 20s to depression among other shit. Genuinely expected to be dead by 30. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
No idea why you want to travel. You sound like you should focus on making friends which is harder the more mobile you are. If you're concerned about money I wouldn't worry about it. You can just hitchhike and couchsurf or bike and warmshowers. Your real concern would only be (((career opportunity cost))) but thats whatev depending on your personality.
>>34784307heres some advice anonJUST FUGGIN DO ITbuy the tickettake the ride
>>34784104https://youtu.be/lqZehFAwoTM?t=32It's over as soon as you turn 18 and leave the school system without a well established social circle. You go to work, but you won't make any friends, just coworkers. You join a sports club, same deal. It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood. You'll be nothing more than a coworker, destined to be alone for life. Social life and relationships are like trains you have to catch at the quay, a race against time that takes place during adolescence. And by extension, logically of course, no social life and no women.But normies don't understand this because they are clueless normies who think you can walk into a bar full of strangers and magically form a social life like in The Sims. Only women can start from scratch and create a social life and get a boyfriend from scratch because of their status as women.Whether you're 34 or 44 it doesn't change anything, maybe for the normies, but for you and me Chud, a year is like any other, the sands of time flowing towards nothingness, nothing more.. nothing less.
>>34784309It's less the insulin and more the pump supplies, cgms, etc that I think would be the real pain in the dick to source. Is healthcare free in the netherlends even if I'm not a citizen? Like do I get the subsidized drug costs if I'm a leaf?>>34784465Because I want to see a little more of the world, on my own terms. I feel like one of the reasons I don't have friends is because my lived experience is so shallow and narrow that I struggle to be interesting or fun to spend time with. I'm burned out on my hometown, you know?>>34784871The fucked up thing is I had what I thought was a pretty decent social life until a few years ago. Started drinking less, so the drinking buddies fell by the wayside. The remaining friends I do have I see maybe once a month because they just....don't like doing anything. I'm not going to go sit at your house and watch you fuckin play skate or some shit you know what I mean? I need people to go hiking with. Swimming. Anything besides fucking sitting around smoking and bitching about work.
>>34785248why not join a hiking club in your city? i dont know what part of leafland you're from but i bet you there's one you can join to meet new people.hope for the best anon since you have some circumstances that you can't change.
i feel ultimately hopeless regarding my future, but not because i have an ultimately ambitious mindset or never feeling like things are enough. i've been living an immigrant life for the past 4 years, working my ass off in multiple jobs, but at the same time keeping up with the university, passing everything with good grades. i missed lots of opportunities to have fun and enjoy my early 20s because i was 'grinding', i never wanted to have this victim mindset and i did not want to admit that my lack of opportunities could be holding me back, so i always blamed myself about being lazy, and worked harder. now that after 4 years of studying, still working hard in two jobs and having some side gigs, i am the only one left from my classroom who couldn't manage to write this diploma thesis and defend it. everyone went ahead and started studying their master's, or landed some sort of corpo jobs. and here i am writing this during my lunch break at my minimum wage job just so i can pay my rent or afford buying some slop to eat. i am feeling so fucking worried that after years of sustaining myself and being, independent everything can go to waste just because i couldnt manage to write 30 pages of paper in the time, might get kicked out of uni. i just still can't accept that me having less time, less money, less energy than the others count as an excuse. but at the same time it does not feel fair. i dont want to bend the rules just for me either. so please give me your most unhinged and even unethical ways to get a thesis done in a span of one-month. i am not very creative with cheeky ways to get this going, i am simple and i believe in hard work. but i feel like i don't have much left in me, so i just want this shit to be done as soon as possible, so give me your advices about how to cheat this system or somehow write this shit in my few available hours per week
ask for a time extension ask for paid leave from your jobs, state you're finishing your thesis they most likely will give to you at least a few daysSLEEP AT LEAST 7 HOURS A DAY
the time extension they gave is until 30th of sept. and about the paid leave, the contracts that i have does not provide me paid leave. i donno how it works there but here in poland we do have two typa agreements, and i just get paid as much as i work. but i appreciate your comment a lot, thanks man
do a thesis about your favorite film.
>>34784792i only slept 6 hours last night. am i gonna make it?>>34784773>picrelwhy can't you use the enter key reading that wall?
>>34785218sleep is important bro, don't neglect it
I'm so fucking miserable. I don't even remember what being happy feels like. And when I think I'm happy these days I get fucking scared. My brain is bad, I'm born wrong. Fuck this. Fuck all this. Killl me. Kill me. I want this to end. End now. I don't want it.
I don't think I'm ever gonna make itNot everyone makes it
There's no future for me
I'm sorry I forgot about your birthday.I feel awful about it even 7 years later.
Love you, little one. New video up. Large one woke me, slept 1.5h. Love you. Miss you. Still oddly happy though, with drawls not fully setting in yet, probably bc I just slept then woke up. It’s cruel that we have to be apart. It’s like being under water and only allowed to breathe when I get to hold you, feel your heart against mine.
I'm in love with a cosplayer I follow on ig. She's now coming to a con near me where I'm also going. Should I try to search for her there and shoot my shot? She has responded to a few of my comments in the past and I have sent her money.
>>34784952You are as mature as a 16yo
>>34784945>I have sent her money.Are you stupid?Where is the con. Tell me,, I'll bang her for you.
>>34784945>I have sent her money.And this is where it is over. The moment you send a woman even a single cent is when you ruin all chances of her ever viewing you as a prospective partner.
>>34784945how would you say you rate out of 10 and how would you say she rates out of 10?I mean you might as well try and go to the convention and pull her aside and ask her, but desu i think your chances of getting it are small. she's being nice to you because you've made yourself a paypiggy.you should probably work on finding someone more attainable that isn't lost in the sauce of fame and becoming an 'influencer' unless you think you're 10/10.
>>34784945No. You should already be getting interest from her in her DMs. If that's not there, then you have no chance in person either.
I started chatting with a married woman and feel like I’m getting cucked without even being in a relationship. I met this woman through a mutual hobby. I really like her a lot. We talk over text a fuck ton. Sometimes all day long and into the night till 3 AM. We talk about personal stuff, our hobby, but never anything crossing the line of a relationship. She made it clear at the beginning she was married, not trying to hide it at all. Sometimes when we are messaging she will say “sorry I have to go do something with X”. She doesn’t even say my husband, she calls him by his name which I thought was weird. Some days I feel like there could be a future, other days I feel like there is no hope. I get extremely disappointed and depressed when she goes and does stuff with her husband because I know i probably won’t hear from her the rest of the day. It’s a really shitty situation and feels like it’s fucking me up mentally. I don’t even know if her husband knows how much we talk to each other. Am I wasting my time here? Should I just stop replying to her? I enjoy talking to her but I want something more and there’s a good chance that will never happen here.
>>34784166THERE IS NO FUTUREShe is getting all she wants from you - sympathy and someone to vent to - at no emotional or commitment cost to her. Imagining anything more than that is pure (and pathetic) fantasy on your part
>>34784166All the attractive women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to
>>34784166Impregnate and abandon. Don't tell her where you live or your full name. That's how you cuck the husband.
>>34784166>Am I wasting my time here?Yes. >Should I just stop replying to her?Yes.
>>34784463I’m kinda lonely as fuck desu. She’s the first person in a long time that has given me so attention and genuinely seems interested in me as a person. >>34784757I’ve found this is the case as I’ve gotten older. Any women I’ve been interested in during the last 10 years is already taken. >>34784842I probably will. But there will be times I’m forced to see her in person still, so it might get awkward
My very first girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago and wanted to "be friends" and I blocked her off discord but apologized and unblocked her. A day later she reaches back out to me not to acknowledge my apology but to double down on blocking me on her Twitch chat and discord server because apparently whatever words I said pissed her off that much (I really didn't say anything...all I said was several different variations of the word "boobs" so Twitch auto mod doesn't bar me from posting. Anyway she's got this problem where she's been picking apart singular words and calling me a walnut head/dropped/kicked in the head at birth, and all sorts of names ever since I made 1 little comment bringing lube for sex. I have not had sex with her. We've been on 6 dates (don't worry, I didn't really pay for any dinner/lunch or whatever, it was all just walks for the most part). Strangely by date 3 she invited me around her family. The only intimacy I've had with her is hugging and putting my hand on her breast (which she did herself) because I've waited for her consent. Apparently she didn't like that I wasn't initiating. But at the same time she has a schizo blog where she lists all sorts of definitions and one of them is about consent and battery. Even though she verbally said I was her boyfriend I was too scared to do anything without her making the first move. It's a long story...my point is, she reached out back to me via friend request and doubled down BUT she still insists on "being friends" and at the end of her last message she mentions her wanting me to play with her intimately when her daughter goes back to school in August. She told me my "brain is wired to be a friend, try being a friend first". On her dating profile she said she didn't want "friends with benefits", so what exactly is the kind of arrangement here? Is she using the "friend" label for me so that we'd talk more to get to know each other more?
>>3477935932 is still young though
>>34758835fpbp
You fucked her yet?
>>34785046School starts around August 10th in my state, so no. Once the kid goes back I assume she'll reach out for stuff like that.
>>34780303Not young enough to explain acting like that
My left arm is significantly weaker than my right arm because of a neurological deficit. How should I deal with this while training? Asked /fit/ but got no answers. Should I train only my left arm and wait til it’s strong enough, or use the same weight on both sides, or try to max out each side with different weights?Will people assume it’s because I masturbate too much?
>>34784979Yes. Explicitly train your left arm for neuromuscular adaptation. See a physicst.
>>34784984>See a physicst.agreed. though you probably meant a physiatrist
>>34784979My right side is stronger and bigger due to my body being mangled and my physiotheraphist told me to avoid exercises where both arms work the same implement like instead of bench press do dumbell press it has made the issue less prevelant
Is it considered childish if every now and then you still remember the good times you had with your ex from years ago?I'm not talking about desiring to be with them again. I'm just talking about like if something triggers a memory and you're reminded of that time.
>>34778178Body in the reddit icon sussy
>>34778808Trying to recreate a past relationship is bad, yes, but if all you’re doing is reusing date ideas then I don’t think you actually have anything to worry about.
>>34778178Nah. I still occasionally look back fondly on times I spent with an ex who I haven’t seen or spoken to in over a decade.
>>34778178>childishgambino
>>34778808Yes, not a good idea anon.
Alright... I have mild CPTSD and mild ADHD which means im half mentally ill and it sucks ass for me and people around me. Should i just let go and be a full blown retard in this wicked wretched clown society? or... Is there a mode of living or an occupation that fits me well to treat myself without doing drugs, alcohol and ciggs? I'm fully aware its never too late to do the right thing so... im asking... how do i fucking start?
>>34784894Being a full blown retard can be kinda fun, and if you were born that way, why fight with it.
OP here, all advice is immensely appreciated.
>>34784894Not sure what you're asking us. If it's how to make money with ADHD, get an easy going job that people avoid for reasons irrelevant to you. Like a mortician, if you're so inclined.
>>34784921its either that or he is asking for acceptance to becoming a meth head I think?
Diagnosed with psychotic depression and was put on Zoloft. Had my first psychotic episode last year in August and I'm now recovering from another, milder one.Am I fucked forever in a cycle of relapse and recovery? Doctor didn't say anything but he'll probably put me on antipsychotics later and I'm afraid of the side effects like weight gain.
get yourself on aripiprazole (abilify). its got less side effects because its a third gen antipsychotic
>>34782009To add to this, make sure your doctor doesn't start you on too high of a dose or increase it too quickly. You could develop akathisia which is a living hell. It's less likely with newer antipsychotics like abilify, but it happened to someone I know. Good luck anon, sorry you're experiencing this and I hope things can improve for you
>>34782009>>34783766Thanks for being kind anon.
I have schizophrenia and I have learned to know what triggers an episode for me and how to get over it. For me what helps is that I get to a place where I can relax and then I just do nothing, take the medicine and wait for the episode to go away and this usually takes few hours. Antipsychotics made me gain weight because you could eat endlessly. What I do is I just buy a certain amount of food, so that I don't eat all the time. Also remember to exercise.I get about 100-120 episodes a year.
Considering recent developments in that Sony is seemingly not going to walk back their all digital move (at least not yet) (I'm against this because of lack of resale market, lack of ownership, etc.), I've become severely depressed. But there are some games that could be fun for me, although now I don't even know if games in general are fun for me anymore. There is at least one game I am looking forward to (Spyro 4), although my excitement has been dampened by this and other bad things happening in the games industry. I have become more depressed now. What should I do? Gaming has much nostalgic and sentimental value to me still. Also, don't say "just play indie games" because they have their own problems.
>>34783064>they have their own problems.there are a LOT of indie games out there. surely some of them will be to your liking. some of my favorite games of all time are fairly recent indie games. if you're too lazy to dig through shitty games all day just rely on other people's recommendations, the hidden gem threads on /v/ aren't terrible.
>>34783064>Also, don't say "just play indie games" because they have their own problems.Well, fuck. Idk much about vidya but was gonna say something like that. Had to read your schpiel before getting to the end. I don’t get. Didn’t Sony just screw themselves? Having production and distribution capabilities seems to me the main thing that separates big companies from boutique producers. Isn’t there like a good third party controller. And operating systems without copyright and all that? Can’t games be a thing like on a platform, where you can tip creators and participants instead of bankers, owners and slave drivers?
>>34783064Why would you be depressed about that? There have not been any good console games released since 2012. Also, people have been using Steam for 20 years and no one complained about games being digital.
>>34783064I hadn’t really considered physical vs digital since I’ve been a PCfag for well over a decade now and just used Steam but this recent discourse unironically got me to buy a Switch 2. Yes the games run like shit compared to my PC and it’s a miracle they even get shit like Yakuza or Pragmata to run but I want to own my games rather than be a digital cuck forever.I’m actively going to buy Switch 2 versions if they exist and I’m just gonna slowly move away from Steam. Incidentally this also helps me focus on work/study on my PC since I can keep my gaming in a different physical locationFrankly gaming should move away from graphicsmaxxing anyways. Orbitals and OoT Remake are gonna be fun and I’m looking forward to it
>>34783843>where you can tip creators and participants instead of bankers, owners and slave drivers?itch.io
I remember a few years ago when I was walking in my own apartment and my downstairs neighbor kept getting angry until he eventually came upstairs and started repeatedly kicking my door down and threatening to kill me.When I called the police, they took their time to arrive, like about an hour, and it was only one cop, no lights and sirens, and he acted like it was nothing and only told the neighbor to be mindful of others.How come the police didn't take this more seriously?
>>34783532>>34783576born yesterday? yes, current day usa is a dystopia. police do nothing to help regular people and police budgets grow every year
>>34784458>you saged this shitfuck you and bump
>>34784481double bubble fist bump
>>34783376On a night with rapes and murders going on all over town, a neighnor complaining about noise didn't quite rank as an emergency
>>34784723So if I go and try to violently kick your door down saying I'm gonna beat the shit outta you, you would be okay with that?
we go to an abandoned hotel in the middle of the forest at night no phones just two flashlights and a camera we walk the long way there break into the hotel which only has one window that isnt blocked with planks chill on the couch inside and the play hide and seek i give her 2 minutes to hide she can use the flashlight and me too, ill go looking for her and when i find her give her the creepy look and squeeze her cheeks and pet her hair tell her she cant escape then slowky kiss her let her get really into it and make her lay on the ground holding her wrists on the ground and keep kissing her. when were done kissing id tell her about my next idea, go outside from the hotel and say she has 30 seconds to run as fast as she can after 30 seconds i chase her shes a pretty slow runner so i catch her fast grabs her by the neck from the back and start choking her with my elbow until she almost pass out, haha i caught u youre never getting away from me. by then shell be really exhausted ill slap her face gently and tell her shes been a good girl and carries her back to my place help her shower and sleep together. :)
