>diagnosed with fordyce spots on the penis/groin>no (easy) way to remove, need to live with thiswhat do /adv/? Do I just explain to every partner from now on forever that I don't have some new giga herpes? does anyone have experience with this?
>>34851813They're very prominent in color, shape, and frequency for me. I thought there's no way a girl doesn't see them and care about them. Trust me bro they do not care or notice.
People are more sensitive to disfigurements on your face than on your dick
>>34847309Pretty much
>>34852408fascinating, do you shave and otherwise keep the area groomed? I wonder if that's the trickdid this not bother you or what? or were you born with them?
>>34847309I have these on my dick and no woman I've been with has ever said anything about them. If they noticed, they didn't care.I asked my doctor about them one time at a physical and he said they're normal, but recommended me for an STD test just in case that came up clean.Herpes doesn't even look like that anyway. Herpes look like open sores.
I wanted to see if my girlfriend would cheat on me. Made a fake profile, used pictures of some guy that would obviously be her type, put a location in my biography that's not too far away from her, and messaged her, asking if we can get to know each other. Her answer>"Presuming it's romantic in nature? I am happily taken."Then I asked her if she really doesn't want to meet regardless, that no one has to know.>"Absolutely not. I am not that kind of person."I then stopped messagingYet I am still not assured. I was never cheated on or cheated myself, yet for some reason, I'm still anxious that she might one day somehow meet someone else. I've heard countless stories of women fucking over men in the most brutal of ways, and that being a boyfriend nowadays is basically a humilation ritual. Is it all exaggerated?
>>34843160A hippie told me that if a woman isn't cheating and having sex with someone else their original partner doesn't smell that they're engaging in sexual activities therefore no longer of value, so if that theory is correct, it's better for women to cheat, although I feel like it's sad and not that kind of life I would choose, personally.
>>34843160You should have the Patrice Oneal mindset of "I want this bitch to cheat on me so I can finally leave" aka stop giving a shit
>>34849912>A hippie told meRetarded>partner doesn't smell that they're engaging in sexual activities therefore no longer of valueWhether she cheats or not in this instance doesn't matter. If she could no longer cheat (let herself go) she's no longer of value to anyone. Paradoxically, the woman who can cheat is more desirable than one who cannot.What most men wish for is the possibility to be cucked but not to be actually cucked. That's what's messing autistisms like op up. Getting a partner he desires wouldn't give him a sense of security and his head is refusing anything less than perfect guarantee
>>34847495its over
>>34843160Does she love to travel by any chance? That's code word for will fuck the next guy with a boat.
Hey /adv/ I found a vet tech on tinder and I was wondering how to sus out if she would yum or yuck my yums. Got any advice?Pic related is the last time I tried on a girl I met.
>>34849888what's the don't date this guy site? I wanna see if i've made it on there>>34849925>Jesus is King!>lets get tattooed togetherall the lost souls.
>>34849977No this is my fanfic. https://archiveofourown.org/works/57471898>>34850570Thanks will do.>>34850590Idk. Blocked her as soon as she said that. I didn't want it getting around that I'm a dog fucker. >All the lost souls.What does that mean?
So have you fucked god before*dog
>>34853265;)
>>34853265
>meet foreign chick on dating app>first date at restaurant >2nd date is movie, I kiss her>3rd date she puts my hand on her tit, we go to another movie and I fingerfuck her in the movie theater>that was a month ago and either she's busy or I'm busy>at one point I offer to get us a room together so we can have some alone time since neither of our living situations can host the other>she says she doesn't want to be rushed into sex (???) >finally plan to meet tonight at a barcade>she wants to bring her friend who's been "going through a lot" to our dateWhat the hell kind of shit test is this? She let me fingerfuck her in public and even enjoyed the hell out of it, but I allude to actual sex and now I'm a rapist and she needs a chaperone? I do want to bang her but if she's bringing a friend then my odds are basically zero. Should I still go? I already have another woman I'm dating and fucking so I don't need this.
>>34850834>Her race? Just so I can avoid going through shit like you did, in the future.African. Like, from Uganda.>>34850684>>34850665I'm not really stressing out over it that much, just curious what I should do. If she stops texting me entirely, whatever, I'm already banging a really sexy asian girl. So honestly I'll probably drop the black girl anyway once the asian one wants to be exclusive.
>>34843835>This is retarded but it's already been a month since I've seen her.Sorry to say but it's probably already over or she's thinking about somebody else. Unless you guys have been intensely chatting every day. If it's not mutual love (and you'll know when it is, this isn't), I wouldn't bother investing this much in a woman. If you just wanted to have sex, there are women who are much easier.Save yourself and her the time and move on to somebody else.
>>34850610>She's always too tired to go out. She takes forever to reply.She's not that into you or she'd find a way to make time. You're only being considered as an option. I recommend not wasting your time with women like this.
>>34843835>so you are canceling?Shes playing games. Just day yes and dont text her until she initiates.
>>34853409Yeah I saw my other girl last night for a nice date and then she sucked my dick in her car. I would give the black girl one more chance as she is pretty fit but if she doesn't suck my dick or let me finger her and moan for me a lot, I'm gonna just drop her.
Looking for anons with opioid addiction experience. Should i get on suboxone or try to taper? I've heard some say subs were a lifesaver and others say they had a very hard time getting of them and wished they'd just tapered instead.I've been taking tapentadol daily for 3 months, so not super long but long enough to have become physically dependent. Currently taking 400-500mg/day. I've lost 10% of my body weight and I was already underweight. Barely eating, sleeping at weird times, not keeping on top of work and responsibilities, rarely leaving the house.I'm very scared of withdrawal. I tried to stop street xanax cold turkey a few years ago and it was one of the most taxing experiences of my life. I quit after 2 days and had to do a valium taper instead. Opioid WD sounds worse than benzo WD to me. Would like to hear from someone who's experienced both and can compare the two. I'm also not in the U.S. so opioid use isn't huge thing here... if that's relevant.Bit of a ramble, sorry. Basically any response will be appreciated.>inb4 lel drug addict>inb4 muh what is tapentadol? do you mean tramadol?
>>34853020>coming to /adv/ to be a cunt for no reason
>>34852299Benzo withdrawal is worse.
>>34852299My rather limited knowledge suggests suboxone would probably be the better option: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5349718/But honestly, this is not something you want to get advice about from an anime forum: talk to an actual doctor and get an actual medical opinion based on actual research.
>>34852299>Should i get on suboxone or try to taper?I've heard good things about Kartoum.
>>34852299Cold turkey you pussy
I once had a conversation with my colleagues at work and one of them told me a rumor that some bars are like a checkpoint to meet single middle aged women, and If you order just a glass of cola, you sit down and wait until one of them approaches you because it's their cue that you're looking for people like them, I think this is some bullshit story because they know I would try something like this.I'm not here for advice I just don't know where to discuss this. Have you ever heard mysterious rumors like this? If yes, what was that rumor?
>>34853394sounds like a gay bathroom joke like foot tapping under the stalls to proposition others. If anything it applies to a very specific bar.women dont cold approach. this is a cope.
>>34853394I don’t know man I’m pretty sure if that were a thing you’d hear about it on 4chan literally all the time kek. I have heard that guys who wear wedding bands made out of anything other than gold/platinum are signaling that they’re cucks. Shit like pic rel. I have no idea how I’d ever find out that it was true or false but it sounds like one of those things that would be true. Why would you get such a weird fucking wedding band?aIt’s probably all bullshit. Our present company is porn brained so we’d know.>>34853517To be a pedant, that is not technically a cold approach because the hypothetical person ordering the drink has specifically signaled interest in a specific other type of person. Still probably bullshit
>>34853394>I think this is some bullshit story because they know I would try something like this.Correct on all points.
>>34853394>some bars are like a checkpoint to meet single middle aged womenThis is true. Bars, like all businesses, will have a target demographic - hipster, old drunkards, "barely legal" or in your example: middle aged women DTF.>order just a glass of cola, you sit down and waitThis is bullshit. Middle aged women looking to fuck will go after anyone and everyone who strikes their fancy. They don't need some convoluted signal before hand.
>>34853394Isn't it dark in there how can they tell cola from any other dark drink
I started going to the gym, running and playing piano. I find myself barely reading any novels as I have less and less time. Also, whenever I do read a novel, I always feel like I am wasting my time. Like I should be out there living and experiencing life instead of sitting in front of a book reading about it.Though I wonder, do you lose anything if you give up /lit/ as a hobby completely?
>>34843991Reading novels is for women, children, and effeminate (homosexual) men. The gym and running will turn you in a sexual tyrannosaurus.
>>34843991If you read and haven't started writing then the reading's useless
>>34843991Read on the shitter.
>>34843991>find myself barely reading any novelsNothing will happen, novels are the lowest tier of books.
>>34849732None of this is true.
How do I become a man worth marrying and starting a family with?I feel empty. I have no interests, hobbies or skills. I’m not interesting or fun to talk to although I can hold a conversation, albeit awkwardly. But I don’t really feel like I could be a father that a kid could respect or think his dad is one of a kind.
you've already identified the problems.next step is to act on them.pick a hobby, act on it. don't think too much. it does not have to feel right or good. as long as you don't stay idle you're on the good path. kind of roleplay into what that person you want to be would do and just do it, put yourself in its shoes if that makes sense. hardest part is doing it daily
>>34853440An active hobby?
Bumparoo
>>34853470Not necessarily, it should be something creative.
>>34853426Well what about your own parents. Anything you'd do the same or different from them?
>10/10 girl hit me up on the app>not a whore>listens to good music>is also going to gym>900km diffI don't want to do long distance anymore, should I keep rerolling or waiting till a new one comes or give this one a chance?
>>34853460Why can’t you keep talking to her and then be more serious with other women while rerolling?I’d imagine part of the fun for her is that this is extremely low stakes and you two can have fun together without her ever having to get asked to meet up.Has she ever seriously suggested you two meet up? If not, it sounds like you have a pretty fucking cool discord friend but should keep looking for a girlfriend. Maybe this lady knows some other women in your area? If you “vibe” so much, maybe she’d be happy to help you out and then you’d be “pre-vetted” by a hot lady and in an even better position.
>>34853474Not op, but i have a female e-friend also far away. We tell each other some shit that we don't tell anyone else. Because we're kind of on different planets. We can be completely honest.
>>34853460If youre willing to drive the distance, go for it. Id try to meet sooner rather than later though to make sure it isnt a scam though.
>>34853460>I don't want to do long distance anymoreThen don't.
>>34853460Just talk to them and others too
so my mom is going through a heavy divorce. i'll skim the details, just know its messy and my dad is a scumbag. but my mom is so insufferable lately. i think she might be schizopheric i dont know. let me give you a good idea of what im dealing with here. one time she fell on the floor and she broke down in tears because my dads family put a curse on her and its zaping her energy, yes she really said this. when in reality she was just using dusty ass shoes (she has good shoes but doesnt want to wear the) she always leave the curtains close because my dad family might spy on her or something. and its clear this woman is delusional. anything i can do to help?
>>34852341How does she respond when you say>this is not happening and you are delusional?
>>34852360She was always unhinged but after my dad cheated she became more so
>>34852401RIP
>>34852341i was in a similar situation when my own parents divorced. what i would recommend is to involve yourself as little as possible. your mom is a grown ass woman and even if she is a bit schizophrenic and delusional it sounds like she's perfectly capable of living on her own. she'll be fine within a few years. focus on your own problems and treat your mom the way you'd normally treat her (with respect, call her regularly etc.)if you currently live with your mom, i'd try to move out as soon as possible. it isn't good for your mental health (and probably your physical health) to live with someone like that, especially in the long term, even if she's your own mother.
>>34852341What is up with your dad's family why does she blame them for everythinh
>be me>17>obese basicaly all my life, was 10 and had tits >living with mother, obese since i remember her>family always make fun of me bc of my weight and doesnt take me seriously>madly in love with a girl i know , we grew up together >realise she will never like me if im fat, also cant look at myself anymore, cant exist in my body confortably >maybe if i lose wieght and go to gym family and girl will like me >start going on walks >mom knows what im trying to do , buys me chips every time i come home after walking>ask her not to, ignored, eat it and cry in my room>decide to go to a gym>ask for money for it>it takes a bit but she gives me > goComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34849960this might sound stupid but if you just stop eating for a while your appetite will go away. power through like a week or so of not eating and youll just naturally eat less when you start eating again
>>34849960Tldr Stop being fat
>>34849960as someone who has a pretty similar experience, it's in your head.It is true people are nicer to skinnier people on average, but based on what you said your height and weight is you're not even really fat.I don't know if I'm just projecting because this sounds similar to me, but it sounds like regardless of how much weight you lose you still feel obese, disgusting and hopeless.As someone who still struggles with that mindset my best piece of advice is to just try and capitalize on the good days and keep trying to make the right choices with food and exercising.The fact that you made so much progress despite having the one person in your life who should love and support you unconditionally trying so hard to keep you down is fantastic and if nothing else you should be proud of that. I think most people wouldn't be able to do what you did.As a former landwhale with an abusive mother as well, I got your back and I hope for the best for youAlso you don't need to keep exercising to lose weight just eat less calories than you burn.If you stress eat, burn it into your head that you will feel much worse if you eat that burger than if you hadn't and get rid of/don't buy extra food or snacks they will only tempt you.
>>34849960>needed it of my chest.you mean breasts get it off your breasts
>>34849960Your lack of self control isn't anyone else's fault. You're never going to improve yourself or your condition so long as you continue blaming other people for your personal failures. You're extremely immature for your age, and seem to have problems that run deeper than obesity.
If a girl is wearing a ring, does that always, 100% of the time mean "don't even try"? I know some single women who wear rings sometimes.
Look I know some woman that just got married and she's already flirting with her coworker day in day out.
>>34852910Poor fucking retard on the other end of that kekNever fall in love so hard that you forget the house ALWAYS wins guys
>>34852762there are no rules. there is no winning.but sooner or later she'll be in heat.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FgxacX72snA&ra=m
>>34852762They give it up so often Steely Dan had a song about it
>>34852762You can always try. Failure rate maybe 100%, maybe not. How da fuck are we sposed to know if she down for cheating
Incel virgin matched with the most perfect girl on Hinge. We have been talking nonstop and I started falling for her big time and we went on a date it was great but halfway she said "I'm non-monogamous and always have been. I told her I'm not interested in that and she said "I really like you we can just be FWB if you want". As an incel I don't really know how to feel about this? She still talks to me like we're dating but shes seeing other people and told me not to catch feelings for her. My friend told me I hit the jackpot because I get to fuck this girl and still look for my soulmate or whatever but I feel weird about it's like that movie 500 days of summer. It doesn't help I'm not getting any other matches so I have nothing else going on my life. It's like I just have this fake not real non-relationship relationship.
>>34849862If I'm reading that other thread about how not to be a nice guy right you're supposed to call her out for that because that is negging and she will crave you for it>I'm non-monogamous and always have been>Oh so you're a whore incapable of true connection and proud of itthen she'll hate you but she'll also fuck you. But in this case she was already going to fuck you if you want it.
>>34850569What if fuck her like 10 times and then say that after telling her she is nothing but a hole to me. Will she marry me then or is that too harsh
>>34841948fuck her while still searching for a better one because she's ok with that and also doing that
>>34841948Soooo you're hot enough to be chosen, the answer is yes, but then you know.... Keep dating. Because falling for a girl who's actively fucking others will make you feel quite bad in the long runThough yeah, I probably couldn't do it.
>>34845142>crawling with semen
I’m posting this as a last ditch effort. I’m a really obsessive person, romantically speaking. I’d argue I’m obsessive to a level of it being scary, I don’t want to get too graphic here but you guys can use your imaginations. I’ve tried therapies, medication, meditation, just being “normal”, trying to suppress it etc but nothing works. These feelings are so intense they’re intoxicating and I feel sick 24/7 not to mention the things I think and do. So at this point I’m open to any advice and I’ll try anything. Or do I just give up and hope I find people that understand me? Or just isolate myself entirely?
>>34853434Why do you think that you're obsessive?
I’m honestly trying to avoid getting to graphic as I’m not sure what’s allowed here because I’m newish to 4chan. I’m intensely jealous, I can’t think straight without my s/o, I become unstable then they’re not around. I love so much it hurts, physically and emotionally and it makes me physically sick. I have and would go to extreme lengths for my s/o and that includes isolating us both completely. I want to be hurt by them and for them to hurt me so I can offer myself to them completely and see all their reactions and sides of them no one else has seen…
>>34853434Vaguepost how are you obsessive and no our imaginations can't just telepathically know what you mean
I went through a lot of trauma as a child so right now I just want a simple quiet life. Most girls find me boring and uneventful apparently but at the moment I just seek peaceAs for hobbies I like studying philosophy and religion to make sense of the world and I also like metal music and horror
>>34853453idk where you are. id look for a Mennonite or someone at church
