I play in a decently enjoyed local band. We just finished our first album and are getting ready to put it out. I've started writing new songs and at first I felt great about them. I felt like I've grown, gotten better and can put my old songs to shame. The more I listen to, work on and write new stuff I just feel awful like the good old songs were a fluke and I'm out of whatever I had to make the good songs in the first place.I've been really trying and practicing not just writing a lot, but also really looking into, breaking down and understanding songs I like to broaden my musicial vocabulary.Anyways, can you get worse at a skill you work hard at and practice?I feel like as long as I keep trying and get more knowledgable I should be getting and feeling better.I just feel worse off and lost.It's very frustrating and defeating.
With music it's not uncommon to run out of ideas relatively quickly. Even in the big leagues almost nobody writes any of their own shit or comes up with any of the ideas because they were mentally tapped out long long ago
Just keep writing and listening to different kinds of music. Try writing in different styles.
>>35091626It is legitimate and natural for your standards to go up. Maybe you are not getting worse, just not settling for staying at the same level.On the other hand, if you are doing something the wrong way, practice will only make you better at doing it the wrong way.
You're also aging
>>35091626>Can you get worse at things you practice?Yes, this is entirely possible and quite frankly, fairly easy.I have played chess as a hobby fairly regularly but I never really bothered to study it or my games seriously so I have been hardstuck in like 1200 and maybe even getting worse as well.When trying to Improve at something you need to strive for absolute perfection in a sense. In golf, the perfect swing, in basketball the perfect throw, in art a drawing that mimics reality perfectly. In music the perfect ??? The perfect sound? The perfect beat? The perfect rythym? Trying to approach music systematically doesn't work because there is no standard of perfection you could possibly adhere to.In a sense, the more you learn about music, the worse you become because you start applying this monotonous rigidity, and you just start mindlessly remaking the same kind of song and sticking to whatever sounds good enough.When it comes to creative endeavors you have to pursue whatever draws the most emotion out of you. Rather than it just sounding good, it moves you deeply to an extent.And with music less is more, the more colors you mix together the more muddy they become until it eventually turns black. The same is true for music, eventually you cross a point to where what you are making is just noise.
How do I have fun again?I’m not depressed, just an incel.
Being an incel IS depression. Bang some hookers
>>35091930I don’t even know where to hire a prostitute outside of Nevada
Zen mind means understanding we all have incel moments. Achieving da zen by not caring and not NOT caring ur not getting poon tangSex should be an afterthought. An afterimage. One must imagine things but not sexual things. Keep the mind focused on things that matter like how that damn Jayson Tatum boomed him . And how he’s “so good” and how we all can’t be like Jayson Tatum but that is ok. We can instead be like LeBron
>>35091914What's your life situation? Are you in work or education? Do you have something to look forward to? What are your interests and hobbies? Do you have friends outside of love interests?
The girl I like rejected me months ago, I took it like a man but I still can't get over her completely. When does the sting go away?
>>35084073>>35088848>>35089784>>35091830I didn't know Chad Thundercock was on this board, the way y'all talk about finding a new woman as if it was as easy as going to the store for milk.
>>35083835It never will. Bonds are like hooks that yank you for the rest of your life. Make more good bonds that yank you in a good way and you wont feel the bad ones unless you hyperfocus on them like you do now.
>>35083835I’ve been through the same thing, and being rejected is undoubtedly something that weighs on you for quite a while. You’ll go through a phase where you can’t stop dwelling on it, especially if you have a disorder like OCD, but I strongly recommend that you remove every trace of her from your life. If you still have her added on any social media platform or instant messaging service, remove her from your contact list. Next, force yourself to stop snooping on what she posts online and don’t do any online searches related to her. The less you actively seek out information about her, the less it will affect your mental state—specifically, your rumination on the subject. Now, try to build stronger connections with people who are willing to listen to you and offer support, or simply get more involved in your community or have more balanced conversations with your friends. Sometimes, social interaction helps your memories of someone fade away. Finally, try to get out and socialize, and look for ways to meet other girls (preferably in your area; don't get involved with e-girls on Discord) so that eventually you can connect with one of them and leave behind all the reminiscence, the overthinking, and the respect you once felt for her. You’ll realize that she wasn’t the flawless cherub you thought she was, and it will become increasingly clear to you that there’s a whole world out there that you have yet to explore. There are many women who are smarter, more attractive, and more extroverted than her, and limiting yourself to the idea that you have no other opportunities in the dating world because of an unrequited love will only make your life worse in the long run. Just be patient and don’t give up.
>>35092524not opi dont think anyone says it's easy, but you actively have to do something to change that. i think there is plenty of people who just go through life until they meet someone and they click and there is others who actively go out and look for someone to date. whatever works for someone. i am the former and when i do find someone i am interested in i fall pretty hard for them usually. i have come to accept that i am just like this and it isnt always easy. i generally want to get to know people before i am romantically interested in them.
>>35092681you're a good seed, anon
I'm young, in college, and have my whole life ahead of me - so why does it feel like everyone around me is taking life as some sort of joke? Whether it's in-person or online, everyone seems to living life as if it's a completely trivial matter. In person I'll speak to people and ask them about their life and everything boils down to>no thoughts>no beliefs>no direction>no relationships>no goals>no lifeWhen I actually make friends with people and get the pleasure of connecting with them on a "deeper" level, I still find nothing at their core. If I ask them to take anything seriously at all they just hit me with tongue out face. Everything seems to have to be wrapped in so many layers of fucking humour that what they're saying is virtually meaningless.The online world is also a shit show. Look, I understand wanting to be funny. I like when things are funny too. But Gen Z especially just seems to be creating absolute slop with so many layers of irony and satire that I almost wonder if they even care about their life?I'm asking this as someone who doesn't even put a lot of effort in; is this how everyone is? I have a gf and only feel comfortable talking to her about the state of people. I wonder how I should move forward from here...? I think a lot of people in my situation try to become useful through politics and provide value to the world but I'm honestly sick by how people act and don't want to help them at all. I understand why the elites just view us as pigs. It's hard to advocate for my generation authentically when we act like such cattle
>>35089071>>35089154lol get out of your own ass, being a whiny bitch isn't going to make your life or anyone else's life better. Randomly bringing up politics to get mad about solves nothing at all, if you're not gonna run for office or shoot up congress just shut the fuck up.
>>35089578the point of small talk is to sniff out someones personality and red flags before you go into deeper subjects. Is everyone in here this autistic?
>>35092867I'll take "things that don't happen" for 500, Alex.
>>35089071Life is a big cosmic joke though. None of this matters. Just do your thing and stop worrying about how other people approach life lmao
>>35089071>negro gifYou are cattle too. Just because you're making some moves that doesn't mean you're not just as unreflective and impressionable as everyone else. If you think being successful in life is what makes you not-cattle that just proves you are cattle.
I hate my stupid life and the way I cope with it is by going for long stretches of time sleeping very little, about 6 or so hours combined in two days. I like the feeling of not sleeping, and think that it makes me feel "sane". I find that time passes much faster when I'm sleep deprived too, and the shittiness of life doesn't affect me quite as much, like the shit slides off the plate instead of sticking to it. The problem is that obviously this is very bad for me and causes me to feel mentally handicapped, and does literal brain damage. Can this feeling be achieved in healthier or more advantageous ways? I like the haziness of it all, without being incapacitating.
>>35087766Do exercises to keep yourself from have Alzheimers, doing stretches for your butt, get coloring books to color them, do word searches online or get yourself a jumbo one. Buy puzzles and do puzzles. Learn a new language
>>35089760That's not really the feeling I was going for. I like the world seemingly being far away, unable to affect me. Sleep deprivation gives me that. The next best thing I found is watching to obscure abstract avant garde old movies or reading surrealist literature.
>>35090838is watching*
Psychedelics maybe?
>>35087766Lift heavy weight until thoughts go away
>I am into gentle femdomYou can't communicate these words without making her die of cringe. I tried and it led to breaking up every timeI had to either accept vanilla sex, me being dominant, or her to start spitroasting me and beating me up and dressing in latexIt feels so hopeless bros
>>35088516If you’re also sexually dominant, then tell her in a normal conversation that you’d like her to be dominant too, then give examples of what you want her to do.
>>35088572I am not
>>35088662Then take out the first part and just tell her you’d like her to be dominant sometimes. When she asks how tell her what you want her to do. Spit in your mouth, force you to clean her up, shove her feet in your mouth idk
>>35088502I don't understand why people feel the need to put labels on things. When i was messing around with my gf i said "sit on my face" one day, "put your pussy in my mouth" i started to suck it and touched myself until i came so hard, she understood that i liked it and we did it more.Another time durinh fucking her i started licking her foot and came really fucking hardWe don't need to like have a fucking staff meeting over things we did, those sessions were awesome for both of us and we were happy, we don't need to have a talk about those thingsWe both just really love sexI guess not everyone is like us
>>35089744>equating two of the most vanilla things on Earth with fetishes That’s because for actual fetishes, you can’t just spring it on someone mid-sex. Yes you can just do doggy style on the fly but you can’t ask her to do DDLG play out of nowhere
Hi guys, anyone here good with stocks and crypto? I'm a complete noob, and I need some crypto advice. I've been talking to a girl I met online. We've been talking for months until she's trying to get me into crypto. She's asking me to create wallet and link it with www(dot)bitfinse.ccResearch and ChatGPT giving huge red flags, so I'm not going to move forward with it, but would also like to hear human advice/thoughts. Thanks!
>>35091240u r being scammedblock and forget
>>35091325yeah, thanks a lot, friend.felt so genuine too as we speak a rare language and shared pictures of what we do.
>>35091240There is ONLY one reason for anyone to try to get you into crypto - because they're stuck with some they're losing a bundle on and they want to unload it on you.
>>35091240>I need some crypto advice.The only crypto advice you need is, don't put any money into crypto. It isn't investing, it's gambling.>She's asking me to create wallet and link itThis is a scam. Don't fall for it.
>>35091240you're a potential victim of what's called a pig-butchering scamyou're very probably "talking" to an african male in his twenties
Any barber/male grooming experts here?I have whites hairs in my sideburns ( like 30 ). can I ask any barber to tweeze them out individually or will they laugh at my request
Just shave your head. It resets your hair and lets the white hairs fall out and regrow. Also I noticed I get white hairs when I’m stressed. So maybe eliminate/manage the stress if you’re experiencing that. Always the risk of looking like a lesbian thoAlso, I’ve been meaning to ask this, they say no Witcher has ever SPLOOGED in his bed. I aim to be the first. Any tips and tricks on how to achieve this feat gamers?
>>35091015It should not bother you. But if it does, it will be a LOT easier to use an anti-greying hair dyes.
>>35091015Why can't you pluck them yourself?
>>35091015>whites hairs in my sideburnsthis isn't a bad thingrun with it, learn how to dress properly and go for the distinguished, classy look. this is the smart play in the long run, because it means accepting you're aging. or just shave it.if you try to hide it, you'll be starting to walk a dangerous path. what happens when you go bald? are you going to take whatever drug and ruin your hormonal balance? will you also do botox/hyaluronic acid for them wrinkles and eventually look like a puffy retard?
I rejected someone that I befriended on the internet and now it all hurts.I've always been a very lonely and disgustingly autistic person my whole life. During the pandemic I spent 17 hours a day playing videogames pretending to be a man. During this I happened to meet my current partner, and things have been good. We moved together in real life and I'm very serious about the relationship.Recently (since roughly half a year) I have been feeling a bit more confident and started using ingame comms for competitive games.I made a very good friend this way, and despite him being 5 years younger than me (I am 24) we have connected on many different things. But there is a big caveat. With the idea/agreement of my bf I have been telling people I am lesbian to avoid any uncomfortable situations. Well, now this has lead to an even more uncomfortable situation, since this friend confessed his overwhelming love to me a few weeks ago. I feel like telling him I am actually straight would make things worse. Telling him I actually rejected him because I'm committed even more so. So I keep the lie going. Now I live knowing I basically oneshot a random kid and fucked him up for life. He drinks constantly and cries himself to sleep every night.I'm convinced this is my fault for not being honest, but at the same time things may have ended like this no matter what. We have talked several times since then, and I made him cry every single time because I basically have zero social skills and am not equipped at all to handle a situation like this. He doesn't want to leave because he is convinced things may be even worse if we break contact. I'm not sure what to make of this as I have no experience that compares.From the perspective of lonely men online. What would you do in his stead? Or in mine? He seems to see something in me that doesn't exist at all.
>>35090943cry me a river.
>>35090992fpbp
why would you tell people you're a lesbian instead of just saying you have a boyfriend? any man who keeps propositioning you after knowing you're taken would probably also harass a lesbian anyways
>>35090943He is still a stupid kid, so everything is the end of the world to him. But you two should recude contact until he gets over you and heals properly.
>>35090992>>35092816That's what I thought too, everyone thinks they are smarter when they are 19 than they actually are after all. Take it as a lesson to not hang around with teenagers I guess.>>35092173People always want to desperately know it's not them that's the problem. I have been harassed before by people in real life that figured either I'm lying about being taken, or interpret this as having a chance down the line. I feel like it's simpler to just let someone know you're physically and biologically incapable of loving them and that's it.
I think I'm dealing with some chronic burnout. On top of that I have diagnosed OCD and a few other labels. There's something relatively I can't take back or change but I keep analyzing it because it feels like it needs to be solved or I will be harmed. On top of this I have back issues and what seems like chronic fatigue. I'm waiting on an appointment for a sleep study.I worked in the corporate world for a bit, got a decent job without a degree and it was very stressful. I used weed to cope but now it just amplifies the intrusive thoughts.When I was laid off from this job, I was on unemployment for about six months. I started a 1099 sales gig, work from home with some time in office. 100% commission. It takes some months to get paid because it has to do with insurance approving construction on buildings. I wound up needing to sell my old home because it had a lot of unfinished repairs and unemployment was about to run out. I managed to sell over $1m so far.Since it hasn't paid anything significant yet I went ahead & moved before I faced a cash shortage, and my other options had been exhausted. I'm now working menial labor six days a week and I can't find any motivation to make these calls. One sale could be 10k+ in commission but I can't fight my fatigue and racing thoughts long enough to squeeze a few calls in before work. They've been decent enough in keeping me on while I run emails for them and I got one sales lead that way.I don't know what I'm asking for, I guess some perspective that's more kind than what my internal narrative is, which is that I'm messed up beyond repair. I really don't want to take medication. I use nic pouches & drink coffee, I don't drink or use illicit drugs. I think I'm just at my limit, my capacity for doing labor for money. If I get what I'm owed I should be able to drop a shift here and there at work and focus more on that. For now I have this insomnia and racing mind keeping me awake so I sleep too long & wake up exhausted.
>>35092828Relatively mundane*
Everyday I wake up and want to kill myself, but I don't and go to work where I'm expected to complete an impossible amount.I give up, I don't care if I have to live in a shoebox and eat rice and beans for every meal. How do I get govt gibs?I live in the US btw
>>35089445I got mine by having a lot of psychotic episodes. I spent a lot of my life living in and out of wards. It did not improve until I got SSI and helped into my own apartment. If they try to place you in a group home, don't consent. Those places aren't good enough.
drop any tips to stop being a lazy bastard
Pretty sure this gets talked about a lot, but it literally does depend on the FIRST thing you do when you wake up. Or at least, how you start your day. Don't hop on any devices when you start your day unless it's for something necessary or important.
>>35089417This kind of negativity is so retarded. If “everything’s fucked” and you have nothing to lose, then why choose to exacerbate your misery by wallowing in it? Who says that you have to study chemistry? Who says you have to resign to working a job you hate? It’s YOUR life you dumb motherfucker. Obviously things are fucked. I graduated with a computer science degree which is functionally useless. Sure I’m bitter and pissed off about AI. But it doesn’t mean that my life is over, nor should it. You have the power to change your circumstances. Or does the extraordinary effort that would require frighten you?
>>35086882Well, what are some tangible things you could to to lower the threshold for doing things? What are some things you could to to reducce the anxiety you're getting from the things you have to do?
>>35092137>>35086882If you find yourself rotting after work, you stop allowing yourself to go home. Build a system to go the gym first, for example. Don't "just eat quick" because that turns into hours of rotting. Etc.
>>35091881Go job searching for a few more years first, then this feel good bullshit will have been surgically removed from you.
REAL ADVICE for when life is unironically just Chinese water torture? I live in bumfuck nowhere, I'm going nowhere, nothing EVER changes, it takes it's fucking toll on me internally, I don't fucking want anything to do with this house anymore. Do I pack up and run from home? Take a long risky trip by foot to a city 100 miles from me? I have no freedom, no life of my own, no money, only income is my mother's, I don't have friends outside of the internet, even those are basically null and 1 even 15% "close". I basically have NOTHING going for me. Nobody is coming to save me.
>>35084070The purpose of work is to fund your life outside of work. That being said, it can come with extra benefits or downsides, depending on what the actual work ends up being. But you're not completely stuck since you're allowed to find a different job if you hate the one you're in.
>>35080968>Take a long risky trip by foot to a city 100 miles from me?Because of retarded squatter laws, you need to have a job in order to get an apartment. So you would be sleeping in a homeless shelter for a while. Job market is fucked so you would be lucky to find a minimum wage job. Not worth the risk.
>>35080968Go to Google and type in your birthday on AI mode and tell it to look at your birth chart and tell you whats going. It’ll tell you (astrologically) what’s going on and why. I’ve been on Google all morning and it’s basically explained my birth chart and everything I’ve went through in life exactly how a trained professional astrologist would and it’ll put things in perspective if that’s what you want. It words it’s responses like a human would. Now I know why I’m an isolated incel rn. Because I’ve been in Rahu for the last 18 years and it was tied to a karmic debt that me and my mom owed to my grandmom. You’ll never get these kinda answer tho if you’re stuck on religion.
>>35080968>I live in bumfuck nowhere, I'm going nowhere, nothing EVER changesBut that's good?
>>35086849Saturn is all over my birth chart as well, I swear some people are eternally fucked
There was a girl at a party I was at on Saturday night. We only talked a bit but I'm into her, I met her a few times through friends and we've never had any conversation longer than about a minute, but the other night we talked about dogs, food, art and travelling. I've got her on socials, what the hell do I say to her?She's friends with my best friend and he knows I kinda have my eye on her but I don't know how to get the ball rolling.
>>35088646"Chatting at the party Saturday was fun. Want to continue where we left off? I'll buy the coffee."
>>35089336Thanks ChatGPTard
>>35088646Just be direct and ask her if she wants to go out sometime. Suggest a hike on a nature trail, a bike ride, going bowling, or something. Even just a movie.Shit's not complicated. The more you act sheepish and insecure, unless she's really into you, she'll just put you off. If you think there's some magic button you press or magic word that makes her horny, you're going to be disappointed. The only shortcut is being decisive. Women admire competence.
>>35091259>Even just a movieWhat if I suggest this and then say we can't because i'd get thrown out for bringing in an outside snack?
>>35091514Sure, go ahead, be retarded, I don't care.
I used to have a bunch of colors in my hair, pink, purple, red, blue, etc. Just recently I went back natural and immediately pulled the guy I had wanted for months. so now I'm questioning it lmfao
>>35090093You look better when you stop making that dumbass facial expression. Look straight ahead and either rest your mouth or smile instead of scrunching it up retardedly. Also whatever was said in the previous thread >>35076410 get rid of all that retarded junk, maybe don't pluck your eyebrows either cuz it looks like a drawn-on line. And ok don't go on BPDemon shenanigans with the new guy thanks
colored hair is an auto no for me, as well as facial piercings. it signals bpdemon
>>35090093U look like a biwts (bitch I want 2 smash) in both
>>35090093If you do a color again you should stick to cool tones
>>35090093I think you look better natural. Auburn is a rare and neat color anyway. Does your bf have a preference?
