how tf do i get better i cant overcome this Symbiote of a personality i treasure the worst in everything lifestyle, relations, wtv wtv. i treat myself to the shittiest thing i can findyou know the crazy girls whom only interact to insults? lowkey im like that 10 comments on a single thread i would kms if i had to reply to a good one i figured it out before i probably see anyone who treats me okay ish as a liar, fake person or just out right pathetic needycause why would you give me the time of the day if you had anything better going onso i figured it im (not a good) person and im being generous here i dont wanna insult myself infront of yall, ofc sadly ik i look ugly and im not healthy and wtv wtv thnx but yeah its like a self fluffing prophecy at least replying to the shitty people ensures that they wont change i know them for who they arehow can i stop being attached to shitty people in general and wtv fix whats going on w my lifefor anyone gonna say get better go gym make friends stop being pathetic just think if it was that easy we all would be the same, itried i just regress into doing the same thing i only feel happy hurting myself i love doing it its the only thing that gives my life meaning lol
well sometimes you can just tell someone is a loser and figure out his insecurity bad odor ugly face big nose etc etclast time i was texting a girl and she was very self aware of her bad looks and i kept pushing it until i almost actually cried idk why but the people i bully actually stay friend with mei hate having to do this i love just reassuring them and actually making them feel better than me but they just probably use me as a safety net then ditch mei stopped interacting with anyone unless its a necessity for this fuckass reason, since the dumb idea keeps reinforcing itself and proving itself right
no, you don't actually need to be a deranged abusive psycho to have friends
>>34398442>>34398325Autists can't understand concepts such as banter and state of play.
>>34398442how come they stay when i just become abusive i am not talking about "light playful stuff" i just bother them until they just give in and do what i want, lowkey very bothering shit. i found out that wat i do somehow aligns with the redpill stuff ig?i cant connect stuff together im just saying if i called you an idiot i can get extract more interaction time than just being "nice"
Hello, thanks for having me.I have a problem. What should I do if I invited a guest into my car and they accidentally defecated on the seat as they were leaving?
>>34398897>I have a problem. What should I do if I invited a guest into my car and they accidentally defecated on the seat as they were leaving?that dependswho was the "guest", are they a friend?how bad is the shit on the seat? did they NOTICE they did it, or did they just walk away?is it a nice car?there's probably not a lot you can do
Professional cleaning, send them the bill. If they're a minor, send their parent the bill. If they're someone who needs a caretaker, send their caretaker the bill.
>>34398900Well...>>34398902Um...>>34398905No, not a friend. Huge and smeared all over. It leaked through their pants somehow. I don't know if they "noticed" it but they definitely just walked away like as if nothing happened.>is it a nice car?It's a Toyota.
>>34398921Okay
>>34398928ah, that's fuckedand yeah, this >>34398921 might be a good ideaworst case scenario you can probably just replace the whole seat
In which social environments (gym, supermarket, retail store, park, etc.) is it socially acceptable to cold approach women?
Nowhere, but you have to do it anyways. The only hard rule is to not do it while they are working.
>>34398841>In which social environmentsSocial environments. >gym, supermarket, retail storeNone of these, they aren't social environments, they're public spaces. People are there to perform an action and leave. It's absolutely going to result in a negative response cold approaching people here, and if you make them uncomfortable they're forced to choose between leaving early and finishing the task they're there for.>parkAcceptable because it's a social environment. Albeit most people there are likely there to socialize with people they know. A better environment would be a club or bar. But cold approaching has a poor success rate, and most social environments are not places where cold approaching is even realistically possible because they're recurring places. Things like clubs, classes, or other areas that let you get to know someone casually enough that you can decide to invite them somewhere else. This will have a better success rate than cold approaching as well, particularly if you learn to recognize signs of interest and express your own before asking someone on a date. >>34398847You definitely do not have to cold approach. It's the absolute worst way to find a partner, even compared to dating apps, and that's saying something.
And people in general.I may have some unresolved trauma.
>>34397726*who aren't mysandrist>>34397754Yeah I guess my family is just that retarded or I just had terrible luck
>>34371884This. I regularly listen to nuns singing because it reminds me that not all women are horrible.
>>34371109Stop using this website and start talking to and interacting with people in the real world .
>>34393856>But like, why do you think women were 2nd class citizens for most of human history?Fake feminist narrative. Women were always coddled and protected. Women were at home playing with the kids and cooking while their husbands worked 16 hour shifts in the coal mines. Women were gossiping and handing out white feathers while men were getting their legs blown off by artillery in wars. At no point in history were any serious obligations ever put on women or were they ever put into danger. They basically had life on easy mode, consequently, the only thing men got in return for sacrificing their lives for their family was respect. Women wondered why they weren't getting the same respect for puffing their faces with expensive perfume that men were getting for supporting the whole family and nation on their backs, and spun this narrative that they were oppressed.
>>34371109by stop being an incel, oh wait you cant hence your impotent rage
I have a friend who is on the spectrum who constantly talks about himself and subjects related to himself, or will somehow divert a subject we are talking about to relate it to himself. I know this is a common autistic trait and for a while I really didn’t mind, but it has gotten so overt and repetitive. He has repeated facts/stories about himself three to four times already across multiple conversations of ours, he will only initiate conversations with me with facts about him and his life too, it’s like he doesn’t understand how to socially interact any other way. It has gotten to the point where our dynamic is that of a child/adult, like as if you were talking to a child and going “wow! your dinosaur toy is so cool! can you tell me more about it?”. It’s almost as if his brain is unable to create any new thoughts or divert from certain spheres of subjects. Why are autistic people like this and what can I do to diversify our conversations? It very much feels like I am talking to an NPC with limited voice prompts.
>>34392138"John, that's about the limit of what most of us care about badgers. Let's talk about something else."That's how he learns.
>>34397050nta my bf had adhd too and i've always seen it as one of his 'faults' that he takes the most possible negative meaning from things sometimes, i feel like this will help a ton lmao. i already try word things very very carefully when saying anything stressful/negative(bc sometimes there is no choice but to tell your partner something has gone wrong for example or that he accidentally did something), but i realize now that i don't tend to preface anything of that sort with reaffirmation first because it has always felt too 'cliche' to me.. i hope it works!
>>34397920i will never grasp why its perfectly normal to talk about trash tv where some deanos fight about whos whore girlfriend has sucked the least cock but talking about badgers (or about the fact that electric eels aren´t actually eels but a catfish) is somehow weird
>>34398289>electric eels aren´t actually eels but a catfishThis is cool as fuck though. I want to know about electric catfish.
>>34392565Learning a lot about my ADHD here in this thread thanks to you!Question though: How do ADHD people compare to normies on reading people, or sussing out social situations? Are we just faster at it, do we pick up a lot of smaller signs thanks to our weakened sensory gating? I guess I'm just wondering if it's something that can do some good instead of just being a burden (minus the autistic and adhd pairing). I really really really wish I could just not care about things and live my best life like the rest if my frens
Why do I have these ads? How do I make it stop?
what happened to the site I love?
>>34395497>Brave browserThat's what I am using too and i still get this shit. My brave shields are up too.
>>34397183I use Firefox with Ublock Origin on phone but have also found that Opera's built in ad-blocker works as well.
Use an ad blocker on pc, use imageboard apps on mobile, or buy a pass.
>>34390848>How do I make it stop?retards will spend years on this site without knowing what an adblocker is>>34390872then don't open 4chan and focus on the real world lol
I am trying to get clean off rampant hardcore porno usage. I was doing good but I have noticed that I will still lose my mind and super binge it if I even edge a little. I don't even like edging either but its hard to resist it. Anyway, how do I tell the difference between REAL horny or coomer induced horny? I don't want to shun and bury actual real sexually healthy urges. But I also don't want to just coom out and goon all the time. Some things I have noticed is that the coomer induced horny comes about when I am also bored and maybe a little aroused. Mostly bored. So if my thought is "I have nothing to fucking do." Then I know I might have a coomer episode coming soon if I am not careful. However, some times I really feel "Man, I just want to look at a nice pair of large tits." and that to me seems like natural horny. But how can I really tell?
Yeah you got it right. Bored horny is coomer and those random urges about tits or ass is the real thing. Maybe you'd be better off abstaining for a while though, just to be safe?
>>34398671stop using porn entirely. it's unnatural.>b b but masturbation is healthysure, but porn usage is literally frying your brain whether you believe it or not.hit the gym, go hiking, fuck it pick up a creative hobby. get off of the internet. you are hindering your humanity by zorking it to porn. yes, even the vanilla stuff. you should be able to use your imagination.not to shame you, op, but fuck real women instead. porn ruins you.
>>34398703I can definitely still use my imagination but I know I definitely don't orgasm as hard which is maybe the problem. If I use imagination, I usually have a decently weak orgasm. Even just looking at tits though helps me be more satisfied.
Context is needed for this girl, but I will give examples of other girls as well. Previous thread: https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/34243948/#34243961I am at 30% bodyfat and at 135kg (around 300lbs). I used to be at 190kg so there's that.Since my last thread, late February I posted story (book page, I don't post myself) on facebook, she opened it in a half an hour, didn't do anything. I sent a group invite for hangout at my place since I moved into my apartment. Everybody insta confirmed, but she waited literally 1 am on the day of the event, and even that was after friend pressured her to either confirm or decline. When they arrived I greeted them politely, Moved into kitchen, she came to the kitchen, hugged me and talked a bit. I remember she positioned herself to sit in front of me at 45 degrees angle and groomed her hair. We had multiple charged interactions, she "tried" remembering one of my catchphrases/quotes about her hometown people (insulting), a friend tried to correct her and I said "let her, she is pretending" she just smiled. There were other girls there, she didn't know them but tried connecting with them. There was a bobby pin left in a living room, and sister's hairtie in the bathroom drawer.When leaving she picked her strands of hair and went to the trashcan and said "Sorry I have to throw this, so your girlfriend doesn't get mad". I didn't understand at the moment what she said so I just had blank face.Just after she came home she wrote message thanking me for the invite, said how everything was nice, bla bla. I said thanks, closed the loop there.Few days after that I sent a photo to our group chat, she insta responded with her photo, I moved into private convo, had a bit back and forth, but closed that loop fast as well.
>>34385368The girl that this and previous thread revolves around just screenshoted my bonding reattempt. And her and her male bestfriend laughed at me
>>34397719Depends what you want. Do you think she's trustworthy enough to be your gf? Do you even like her? If so, then at this point I'd just say "hey I was thinking and I like you so I want to ask you out on a date" and if she says yes then I'd bring her somewhere and have fun. Maybe give her a kissShe has already signalled in her own retarded woman way so you've got this, you don't need to be nervous about it. You have to now show interest. If she says no, then it doesn't have to be awkward. It's how you take it
>>34398718How is it not going to be awkward if I am going to have to see her every single day and if she is going to share it with her friends, my classmates? Same thing will happen as it did with the first girl. I will become class clown and the well will be poisoned for all the other girls.
>>34398732By not caring and not being awkward. If you are perceived as embarrassed or insecure about being rejected, then people will laugh. If you confidently state that you like her and confidently take your shot, and shrug off retards that laugh, then it will be respected
>>34398732>>34398737This is the thing about life. Only the bold win what they want. You got to take risks. You want to cower the rest of your life and hope things just fall into your lap? Then you can do that and get nowhere. You have to weigh up the risk and the rewardRisk: I embarrass myself briefly if I can't help being insecure and unsure of my action and even if I can't live it down, none of that will matter when we all move on from Uni/collageReward: I get a nice GF. Even if it doesn't work out, I get more experienceThere are plenty of spineless, sheepish young men running about. Don't be one of them. Believe me, it will set you apart and get a head start in dating. Let women know your intentions but be respectful. Don't be ashamed of your interest toward them. Don't let them twist your intention into getting used. And hit the gym, stop being fatThis is the best advice you're gonna get anywhere
do you think it's possible to effectively replace yourself (your appearance, your personality, your life) with that of another person? obviously you will never be an exact replica of the other person, but if you have enough similar circumstances, can a close facsimile be achieved? is it even possible to be satisfied imitating another person if you know you will never truly be them or live their life?
>>34395343obsessed over someone i knew from ages 14-18 and tried everything to be like them but it came down to me enjoying interacting with others with my own personality instead of theirs and not being able to change my interests that made me give up
>>34396504i've already been able to shift my own interests closer to the person i want to replicate, but i'm worried i won't be able to get close enough to feel satisfied. i feel like i'm missing too many gaps in the image i have of him to imitate him properly. if you don't mind sharing, did you feel like you knew your person fully? were they someone you could observe and learn from often? thank you for the reply
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>>34395343>do you think it's possible to effectively replace yourself (your appearance, your personality, your life) with that of another person?No, like 50% of who you are is genetics. That said, "being someone else" is a fake concept. "Being someone else" isn't something you can do just like "being the sky" or "being a river" isn't something you can do, even "being a chef" isn't something you can do, what you can absolutely do though is do the same things that a chef does, and maybe get the same accolades. That's enough possibility for change to entertain anyone for their entire life. You can be a musician tomorrow, a painter the day after, then a lifter, a dancer, you can wear a great many hats in such a short life.
>>34396515yeah we talked often and quite deeply, i really envied her and the life she led even down to her looks and family life but in the end i just couldnt do it. i am me and thats okay, and im sure youre more than worth being yourself too
Should I get some tattoos? I have some ideas that I think would be cool. They're not symbolic or important to me in any way, it's just that I think they'd look cool and I think tattoo is the best medium for them (as opposed to printing them on a T-shirt or whatever). I'm not sure if they'd go well together, though. In my head, they look cool individually, but all of them next to each other on my arms might just look erratic and ugly.
>>34398708anon what the fuckyou're literally just monologueing your thought process
>>34398717yes, now you do the same and help me figure out if this is a good idea or not. that's how advice works.
Is it even possible to look like a femboy at 27?I used to be morbidly obese but thankfully managed to diet down to skinnyfat status, but I still have a lot of loose skin and shrunk fat cells that make it impossible for me to be truly thin unless I go thru surgery.I do want to have lipo and skin removal done, but according to my calculations I'll only have enough money to pay for the surgeries in my late 20s at the very best.
>be my aunt>1990s>16 years old>her best friend tells her he's in love with her>she turns him down >he commits suicide>his father finds his corpse in the bedroom>already had heart problems >has a heart attack and dies>the mom commits suicide a few months laterMy aunt is still haunted by what happened back then. How do I convince her that it's not her fault? It's time to let this trauma go.
>>34397136lol you're not making this thread to show to someone so she takes you seriously when you threaten to kill yourself if she says no, aren't you?
>>34397136The guy forgot that you're supposed to threaten suicide for fun as manipulation, not actually do it.>if you don't go on a date with me, i'll kill myselfAnd say this with a big smile on your face
>>34397136suggest she go to therapy?
This is why women should never say no, you don't know how many people you will ruin
>>34397136It literally is her faultWhy the fuck would you be best friends with a member of the opposite sex if you couldn't see yourself dating them?
i need to swap bodies with my crushhow can this best be achieved
>>34392745is bus the only option or will any method work
>>34391438First thing, get a cellphone to receive your isekai crush's messages.
>>34391438They do that at Zorro Ranch.
dmt is a good place to start, salvia can work tooif you dont have access to a plug, open yourself and them up and swap each others innards
>>34391438>>34392710hire an etsy curse person fro $100 it'll work 100% trust me
Ever since I was a little kid I've been wearing glasses and to be honest I've never looked good in glasses. Whenever I took off my glasses everyone would be surprised at how much better I look without my glasses. It was like going from a nerd to a jock in seconds. And I've never liked wearing glasses either. Every pair of glasses I've tried has been uncomfortable on my face. I also hate when I take off my glasses for a quick second and somehow I can't find them anymore only to later in the day find them in a completely obvious place. Luckily about 6 months ago I finally got contacts! Way better than glasses! More comfortable and I look better too! But just one and exactly one issue...touching my eyeballs. I can't fucking stand it. Once I got my eye contacts in everything is golden but touching my eyeballs is the absolute worst. My eyeballs feel kind of wet and slimy probably due to the tears, reminds me of when I touched a slug once. And my eyeballs are so slippery too. I just hate everything about it. No idea how I can get over this. Sometimes I even leave my contacts in overnight (terrible idea I know) because I'm afraid of touching my eyeballs. I love contacts but hate the feeling of putting them in and taking them out. The only half solution so far has been smoking a shitton of weed when putting them in and taking them out but that's not a sustainable solution. That shit is expensive plus I can't do it on days where I have to drive and work and shit. So that's why I'm here.
>>34387516if he's blue then why is his lower eyelid red and his eyes full of red veins
>>34396922He's not actually blue. He's a regular human. He was painted blue by Dracula so he could fit in with the Halloween monsters.
>>34387516If you struggle with something as basic as this then no idea how you're gonna deal with life when push really comes to shove.
>>34398570ikr. first world problems be like...
>>34398642For fucking real. Like he's so lucky to live in a country where contacts are so readily available in the first place. It's like some people don't have any problems so they start to make some up.
