I'm in love with a cosplayer I follow on ig. She's now coming to a con near me where I'm also going. Should I try to search for her there and shoot my shot? She has responded to a few of my comments in the past and I have sent her money.
>>34784952You are as mature as a 16yo
>>34784945>I have sent her money.Are you stupid?Where is the con. Tell me,, I'll bang her for you.
>>34784945>I have sent her money.And this is where it is over. The moment you send a woman even a single cent is when you ruin all chances of her ever viewing you as a prospective partner.
>>34784945how would you say you rate out of 10 and how would you say she rates out of 10?I mean you might as well try and go to the convention and pull her aside and ask her, but desu i think your chances of getting it are small. she's being nice to you because you've made yourself a paypiggy.you should probably work on finding someone more attainable that isn't lost in the sauce of fame and becoming an 'influencer' unless you think you're 10/10.
>>34784945No. You should already be getting interest from her in her DMs. If that's not there, then you have no chance in person either.
I started chatting with a married woman and feel like I’m getting cucked without even being in a relationship. I met this woman through a mutual hobby. I really like her a lot. We talk over text a fuck ton. Sometimes all day long and into the night till 3 AM. We talk about personal stuff, our hobby, but never anything crossing the line of a relationship. She made it clear at the beginning she was married, not trying to hide it at all. Sometimes when we are messaging she will say “sorry I have to go do something with X”. She doesn’t even say my husband, she calls him by his name which I thought was weird. Some days I feel like there could be a future, other days I feel like there is no hope. I get extremely disappointed and depressed when she goes and does stuff with her husband because I know i probably won’t hear from her the rest of the day. It’s a really shitty situation and feels like it’s fucking me up mentally. I don’t even know if her husband knows how much we talk to each other. Am I wasting my time here? Should I just stop replying to her? I enjoy talking to her but I want something more and there’s a good chance that will never happen here.
>>34784166THERE IS NO FUTUREShe is getting all she wants from you - sympathy and someone to vent to - at no emotional or commitment cost to her. Imagining anything more than that is pure (and pathetic) fantasy on your part
>>34784166All the attractive women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to
>>34784166Impregnate and abandon. Don't tell her where you live or your full name. That's how you cuck the husband.
>>34784166>Am I wasting my time here?Yes. >Should I just stop replying to her?Yes.
>>34784463I’m kinda lonely as fuck desu. She’s the first person in a long time that has given me so attention and genuinely seems interested in me as a person. >>34784757I’ve found this is the case as I’ve gotten older. Any women I’ve been interested in during the last 10 years is already taken. >>34784842I probably will. But there will be times I’m forced to see her in person still, so it might get awkward
My very first girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago and wanted to "be friends" and I blocked her off discord but apologized and unblocked her. A day later she reaches back out to me not to acknowledge my apology but to double down on blocking me on her Twitch chat and discord server because apparently whatever words I said pissed her off that much (I really didn't say anything...all I said was several different variations of the word "boobs" so Twitch auto mod doesn't bar me from posting. Anyway she's got this problem where she's been picking apart singular words and calling me a walnut head/dropped/kicked in the head at birth, and all sorts of names ever since I made 1 little comment bringing lube for sex. I have not had sex with her. We've been on 6 dates (don't worry, I didn't really pay for any dinner/lunch or whatever, it was all just walks for the most part). Strangely by date 3 she invited me around her family. The only intimacy I've had with her is hugging and putting my hand on her breast (which she did herself) because I've waited for her consent. Apparently she didn't like that I wasn't initiating. But at the same time she has a schizo blog where she lists all sorts of definitions and one of them is about consent and battery. Even though she verbally said I was her boyfriend I was too scared to do anything without her making the first move. It's a long story...my point is, she reached out back to me via friend request and doubled down BUT she still insists on "being friends" and at the end of her last message she mentions her wanting me to play with her intimately when her daughter goes back to school in August. She told me my "brain is wired to be a friend, try being a friend first". On her dating profile she said she didn't want "friends with benefits", so what exactly is the kind of arrangement here? Is she using the "friend" label for me so that we'd talk more to get to know each other more?
>>3477935932 is still young though
>>34758835fpbp
You fucked her yet?
>>34785046School starts around August 10th in my state, so no. Once the kid goes back I assume she'll reach out for stuff like that.
>>34780303Not young enough to explain acting like that
My left arm is significantly weaker than my right arm because of a neurological deficit. How should I deal with this while training? Asked /fit/ but got no answers. Should I train only my left arm and wait til it’s strong enough, or use the same weight on both sides, or try to max out each side with different weights?Will people assume it’s because I masturbate too much?
>>34784979Yes. Explicitly train your left arm for neuromuscular adaptation. See a physicst.
>>34784984>See a physicst.agreed. though you probably meant a physiatrist
>>34784979My right side is stronger and bigger due to my body being mangled and my physiotheraphist told me to avoid exercises where both arms work the same implement like instead of bench press do dumbell press it has made the issue less prevelant
Is it considered childish if every now and then you still remember the good times you had with your ex from years ago?I'm not talking about desiring to be with them again. I'm just talking about like if something triggers a memory and you're reminded of that time.
>>34778178Body in the reddit icon sussy
>>34778808Trying to recreate a past relationship is bad, yes, but if all you’re doing is reusing date ideas then I don’t think you actually have anything to worry about.
>>34778178Nah. I still occasionally look back fondly on times I spent with an ex who I haven’t seen or spoken to in over a decade.
>>34778178>childishgambino
>>34778808Yes, not a good idea anon.
Alright... I have mild CPTSD and mild ADHD which means im half mentally ill and it sucks ass for me and people around me. Should i just let go and be a full blown retard in this wicked wretched clown society? or... Is there a mode of living or an occupation that fits me well to treat myself without doing drugs, alcohol and ciggs? I'm fully aware its never too late to do the right thing so... im asking... how do i fucking start?
>>34784894Being a full blown retard can be kinda fun, and if you were born that way, why fight with it.
OP here, all advice is immensely appreciated.
>>34784894Not sure what you're asking us. If it's how to make money with ADHD, get an easy going job that people avoid for reasons irrelevant to you. Like a mortician, if you're so inclined.
>>34784921its either that or he is asking for acceptance to becoming a meth head I think?
Diagnosed with psychotic depression and was put on Zoloft. Had my first psychotic episode last year in August and I'm now recovering from another, milder one.Am I fucked forever in a cycle of relapse and recovery? Doctor didn't say anything but he'll probably put me on antipsychotics later and I'm afraid of the side effects like weight gain.
get yourself on aripiprazole (abilify). its got less side effects because its a third gen antipsychotic
>>34782009To add to this, make sure your doctor doesn't start you on too high of a dose or increase it too quickly. You could develop akathisia which is a living hell. It's less likely with newer antipsychotics like abilify, but it happened to someone I know. Good luck anon, sorry you're experiencing this and I hope things can improve for you
>>34782009>>34783766Thanks for being kind anon.
I have schizophrenia and I have learned to know what triggers an episode for me and how to get over it. For me what helps is that I get to a place where I can relax and then I just do nothing, take the medicine and wait for the episode to go away and this usually takes few hours. Antipsychotics made me gain weight because you could eat endlessly. What I do is I just buy a certain amount of food, so that I don't eat all the time. Also remember to exercise.I get about 100-120 episodes a year.
Considering recent developments in that Sony is seemingly not going to walk back their all digital move (at least not yet) (I'm against this because of lack of resale market, lack of ownership, etc.), I've become severely depressed. But there are some games that could be fun for me, although now I don't even know if games in general are fun for me anymore. There is at least one game I am looking forward to (Spyro 4), although my excitement has been dampened by this and other bad things happening in the games industry. I have become more depressed now. What should I do? Gaming has much nostalgic and sentimental value to me still. Also, don't say "just play indie games" because they have their own problems.
>>34783064>they have their own problems.there are a LOT of indie games out there. surely some of them will be to your liking. some of my favorite games of all time are fairly recent indie games. if you're too lazy to dig through shitty games all day just rely on other people's recommendations, the hidden gem threads on /v/ aren't terrible.
>>34783064>Also, don't say "just play indie games" because they have their own problems.Well, fuck. Idk much about vidya but was gonna say something like that. Had to read your schpiel before getting to the end. I don’t get. Didn’t Sony just screw themselves? Having production and distribution capabilities seems to me the main thing that separates big companies from boutique producers. Isn’t there like a good third party controller. And operating systems without copyright and all that? Can’t games be a thing like on a platform, where you can tip creators and participants instead of bankers, owners and slave drivers?
>>34783064Why would you be depressed about that? There have not been any good console games released since 2012. Also, people have been using Steam for 20 years and no one complained about games being digital.
>>34783064I hadn’t really considered physical vs digital since I’ve been a PCfag for well over a decade now and just used Steam but this recent discourse unironically got me to buy a Switch 2. Yes the games run like shit compared to my PC and it’s a miracle they even get shit like Yakuza or Pragmata to run but I want to own my games rather than be a digital cuck forever.I’m actively going to buy Switch 2 versions if they exist and I’m just gonna slowly move away from Steam. Incidentally this also helps me focus on work/study on my PC since I can keep my gaming in a different physical locationFrankly gaming should move away from graphicsmaxxing anyways. Orbitals and OoT Remake are gonna be fun and I’m looking forward to it
>>34783843>where you can tip creators and participants instead of bankers, owners and slave drivers?itch.io
I remember a few years ago when I was walking in my own apartment and my downstairs neighbor kept getting angry until he eventually came upstairs and started repeatedly kicking my door down and threatening to kill me.When I called the police, they took their time to arrive, like about an hour, and it was only one cop, no lights and sirens, and he acted like it was nothing and only told the neighbor to be mindful of others.How come the police didn't take this more seriously?
>>34783532>>34783576born yesterday? yes, current day usa is a dystopia. police do nothing to help regular people and police budgets grow every year
>>34784458>you saged this shitfuck you and bump
>>34784481double bubble fist bump
>>34783376On a night with rapes and murders going on all over town, a neighnor complaining about noise didn't quite rank as an emergency
>>34784723So if I go and try to violently kick your door down saying I'm gonna beat the shit outta you, you would be okay with that?
we go to an abandoned hotel in the middle of the forest at night no phones just two flashlights and a camera we walk the long way there break into the hotel which only has one window that isnt blocked with planks chill on the couch inside and the play hide and seek i give her 2 minutes to hide she can use the flashlight and me too, ill go looking for her and when i find her give her the creepy look and squeeze her cheeks and pet her hair tell her she cant escape then slowky kiss her let her get really into it and make her lay on the ground holding her wrists on the ground and keep kissing her. when were done kissing id tell her about my next idea, go outside from the hotel and say she has 30 seconds to run as fast as she can after 30 seconds i chase her shes a pretty slow runner so i catch her fast grabs her by the neck from the back and start choking her with my elbow until she almost pass out, haha i caught u youre never getting away from me. by then shell be really exhausted ill slap her face gently and tell her shes been a good girl and carries her back to my place help her shower and sleep together. :)
I have been going to the military since everyone gets drafted from my country and every now and then they let us have a vacation weekend where we go back to our civilian lives for a few days. Every sunday when we have to go back to base my mind instantly fills with worries about civilian life after my service is complete and having to go back to early mornings, slop food, being in a hurry to wait and the exhaustion. My thoughts become so draining its hard to focus on anything. I constantly think about pulling the fucking barrel of my AR up to my neck and pulling the trigger the next time we go out to the range. Every time I hear the person next to me shoot breakthrough the absolute silence of my earmuffs it makes me think about it. I can't even fucking type properly anymore and its fucking Sunday.
you are describing the physical acts of civvie life, they should be encompassed by what you value in life, by what you desirethey shouldn't be the goals, but just stepswhat do you want the most from life? if you found a genie lamp and you could make a single wish, what would you wish for?
>>34784830I know what I wan't in life its just not reachable. In life I have always wanted to have a loving family and protect my countrymen. You can argue im sort of doing the second one but one soldier is so insignificant I don't fucking matter. I will be buried in a mass grave on week 1 at best. Most importantly and the reason I guess I haven't shot myself yet is I don't want all the money that wen't into raising me, feeding me and etc to go to waste.
I'm 26 years old and I developed an incest fetish when I was 12 or so. It was a result of my mommy issues and the fact that I was bullied relentlessly so thinking any women other than my family could feel affection towards me was laughable even within the fantasy realm I can't get hard whenever I try to have sex, when I think about my mom or my aunt I am able to because I don't feel that they will find me repulsive but in real life even if a girl is into me I just can't believe her or trust her so I don't let my guard down and can't feel arousedThe issue might be physical too perhaps, I did jerk off too often I might have broken something (I did go to the urologist but they told me it was most likely psychological)How can I live with myself?
typical gioscotti poster becoming a deranged coombrain
>>34784800Just take Cialis and stop worrying about it.
>>34784800cool
We´ve been together for 3 months. She reads, trains, boxes, goes for running, is vegan, studying a PhD and doesn´t drink nor smoke. She is what you would call a hyper-productive role model. But here´s the catch: I just don´t find her physically appealing to me. It´s not that she´s ugly, she´d definitely get dates. She´s already skinny and fit, nice ass, but its the face and body shoulder structure that just put me off. Sometimes when we kiss I see Greta with bangs (picture reference). Last 2 months I got tempted to cheat but I said to myself "personality is more important than looks" and I didn´t. But meeting her after and then having mediocre sex at best, I just felt stupid for not giving into temptation, especially since just lately I have realized how much attention I get from women, the last year especially. Background about me: I grew up very shy and reserved. Weak father figure lead me to never develop a confidence throughout my teenage years. No amount of gym could fix how broken I felt inside. Just recently, at 26, have I started to overcome that. And then I met her. She is m,y first "committed" relationship. I told myself that I would not do hook-ups anymore as I want something serious. In hindsight, I think I lied to myself. Sometimes during sex with her, I imagine other girls. And regardless of sex/attraction, I am starting my career and she is going to be doing her PhD for at least the next 3 years, which means I would have to bring 80% of the income. I am not sure I am ready for that compromise. But she already mentioned meeting her parents one day. No girl from my past has treated me this good with so much support. She even forgives me for losing my erection even though I always thought that was a dealbreaker. SIDENOTE: Before I met ehr, I was working on myself (quitting drugs and porn, reading more). As soon as we hit it off to a relationship, I felt super comfortable and went back to these vices. Thoughts?
This is where were at with basedciety
>>34782017>wants to cheat, imagines other girls during sex, history of hookups, slips back into drugs and porn as soon as he gets what he wantsYou sound like a piece of shit lmao, wild that you think you can do better.
>>34782017I'm surprised you went back to your vices after having a girlfriend. Usually it's the thoughts of the girlfriend that keep you away from the vices (unless it's a situation like with a wife that you drink or use because she nags you too much). I can understand going back to porn if she isn't visually doing it for you. Although if you like her ass and don't like her face, just do her doggy all the time.The PhD income thing is a big yikes. I've always felt that people should handle their own debts.One thing to think about is if she's genuinely long term good to you. Not "nice to you" but good to you. Is it just the companionship that you like or does she actually go out of her way for you? Because someone who does that is super rare.I would take some caution. If you're only 3 months in and she expects you to pay 80% of her stuff for 3 years, that's a huge flag that she could just be with you because you have money.
>>34782017>veganmental illness is a massive red flag.
>>34782717She has her own income from a scholarship but is barred from working outside of Uni. So no, she doesn’t expect me to pay for her but if we were to live together, I would have to give in mouch more than her.And regarding the vices, sometimes she nags me about quitting smoking and doing healthy stuff sober, so the thought of doing healthy stuff 24/7 made me go back to drugs.Other than that, I love how she makes me feel important.
I have spent several years trapped in my own mind, constantly worrying about what other people think about me, assuming everyone else is as perceptive and judgemental as myself. I have come to this simple conclusion:People are fucking stupid.I see it so clearly now. I have overestimated the average persons intelligence by an embarrassingly large amount. The vast majority of people don’t have complex layers of thought/consideration they apply in everyday social interaction. They’re fucking stupid. They take everything at face value. I hate using the term NPC but it’s really the best description I can use here.Until proven otherwise, every stranger you see is a retard.
you're statistically true about thatconsider that there are entire countries whose average iq is lower than the average iq of a gorilla, so...
I don't know if anyone else relates to this, but does anyone ever feel like they belong everywhere and nowhere at the same time?I've never really been socially awkward. I have friends. I get invited to parties, coworkers ask me to go out, people invite me to skate, and nobody treats me like an outcast.But I never feel like I actually belong.It's like I'm always present, but never someone's person. I'm part of the group, yet somehow still outside of it. Everyone else seems to naturally pair off or have someone they're close to, while I'm just... there. Existing.People will talk to me for a minute, then go back to the people they're actually close with. I'm not ignored, but I'm rarely the person anyone seeks out.After a while, you start wondering if you're the problem.The worst part is that when someone is genuinely kind to me, I sometimes mistake it for a deeper connection. Not because I'm trying to force anything, but because kindness feels so rare that my brain wants to believe it means more than it does. Then reality hits, and I realize they were just being a decent person while I had already built a completely different picture in my head.It's embarrassing to admit, but I think loneliness can mess with your ability to tell the difference between simple kindness and real emotional closeness.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34781758society has accepted you, it just doesn't have much to offer.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ&ra=m
Fuck, I'd offer some advice if I had any, but you somehow described my situation and feelings spot on
>>34781827i'd call you to just have a chat>>34781758hey op, i didn't read all that, but are you still at status quo or did any response help you?
>>34783478I'm kinda starting to accept it, someone up there said "Some are destined, or defined, to be more like "followers" people that are accepted but not particularly sought." I'm starting to give up on it I'm ngl. You never get everything you want in life.
>>34781758https://youtu.be/lqZehFAwoTM?t=32It's over as soon as you turn 18 and leave the school system without a well established social circle. You go to work, but you won't make any friends, just coworkers. You join a sports club, same deal. It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood. You'll be nothing more than a coworker, destined to be alone for life. Social life and relationships are like trains you have to catch at the quay, a race against time that takes place during adolescence. And by extension, logically of course, no social life and no women.But normies don't understand this because they are clueless normies who think you can walk into a bar full of strangers and magically form a social life like in The Sims. Only women can start from scratch and create a social life and get a boyfriend from scratch because of their status as women.Whether you're 30 or 40 it doesn't change anything, maybe for the normies, but for you and me Chud, a year is like any other, the sands of time flowing towards nothingness, nothing more.. nothing less.
