I've always struggled to articulate myself. I know what I want to say in my head, but when I try to put it into words it comes out awkward, robotic, or incomplete. I struggle to find the right words, my vocabulary feels pretty limited, and I have trouble explaining my thoughts, even when I'm talking about things I'm genuinely interested in.I didn't take school seriously when I was younger, and I've spent years isolating myself. I'm also a hardcore introvert, and I have mild Asperger's, pretty severe OCD, and anxiety, so I haven't exactly had much practice talking to people.I've also pretty much stuck to the same niches my whole life. I mostly watch and play things I have sentimental attachment to from growing up, so I rarely try anything new. I almost never read books either. I'm wondering if that's part of the reason I feel so limited.People always say that reading books, trying new hobbies, watching different kinds of content, playing games outside your usual tastes, writing more, and talking to more people will make you more knowledgeable and more articulate. Is that actually true, or is being articulate mostly down to genetics or natural intelligence?Has anyone here been in a similar situation and actually noticed a big improvement?
What will help is you not looking at yourself as too dumb to say or do things all the time. OP, you can't be this perfect genius the world accepts all the time. You got to challenge it okay? You may think this is crap, but look at everyone around you and notice how they challenge the world. All imperfect attempts to get through and all equally met with backlash like you and me. The question isn't so much how do I articulate myself perfectly. It's how can I accept learning from my mistakes when I throw myself out there irregardless of how broken or fixed I am to the world.
>>34717329Think twice before speaking once. A LOT of inarticulateness comes from setting the mouth in motion before you've actually decided what it is you want to say. A bit of silence while you sort your thoughts or even a spoken "Give me a moment. I want to be sure I say this right" is better than trying to think and talk at the same time.
>>34717329Join Toastmasters.
I’ve been sorta dating this chick for 2 weeks and she’s been saying throughout it that her family prob won’t like her dating me because her parents are traditional and like her to date someone they pick from their church or at least a guy from their church. We’re both religious but she comes from a more religious house, I’ve had so much fun talking to her and being with her, then yesterday she told me her mom asked her when she can set up a date for her and that caused her to feel bad about dating me behind their back and she started crying while we talked about it, she said she wants to end things and we argued about it for like 3 hours. Half the night was spent arguing, the other half I spent in fever dreams where I desperately tried to make her stay.. i understand why she broke up with me, i know she tried to date someone outside of her circle before and she did it in secret and when her parents found out she felt bad and severed a 6 months relationship, but that guy was secular and I’m religious and I’m sure if she would just try to get her parents to agree they’ll let her date me… I feel like shit mainly because this is allcso stupid, I can barely think but if I can think about something it’s how it’s such a missed opportunity and how it could’ve been amazingI want to text her so bad even though it’s been around 8 hours since we last talked What am I supposed to do ?
>>34718637Meet her parents. More importantly, let them meet you and see you're acceptable.
>>34718643>>34718641Cringe
>>34718645Cringer
>>34718643She dosnt want me to, I suggested something akin to it but their problem would be that I’m not from their circle and that she dated me in secret, it’s a fight waiting to happen and apparently she dosnt want to ruin the relationship with her parents like she did back then
>>34718637Expedite the Redemption.https://youtube.com/shorts/RDzERcAPizo
>almost always work Saturday and Sunday >the schedule mostly comes out on Saturday >starting to work 7 1/2 shifts with 2 10 minute breaks>co workers stand around while I workIs it always like this? Do I have it good? Can I make it better
I forgot to say to that I can't ask for holidays off and 2 people recently quit. >>34716990Okay, there are people that work harder than me so I understand where they're coming from. I will remember this but in my job it is important that I try. Is working slightly harder the why to go to make sure it's done? It also seems like the people in charge know about this behavior.
>>34716737That’s a dead end job. It’s a job you take because you are desperate at the moment while simultaneously looking for a better job. If you stay there forever, you will only hurt yourself.
Don’t give a single a fuck about your co workers. They aren’t your friends
>>34716990>he fell for the nigger co worker
>>34716737That is how most low tier wagie jobs without a union are.>work weekendsLow seniority at any place that has weekends to work>schedule comes out on saturdayThe weekly schedules are mostly a thing for places with ephemeral staffing (i.e. low retention)>7 1/2 hr shifts with 2 10 min breaksVery jewish, low tier non-union wagie shit. They make it 7 1/2 to get around some full time labor laws for pay/benefits/mandated brakes. Basically fucking you over to maximize the profit they get from you per hour. The 2, 10 min breaks differ from state to state but are another way to fuck you. Most work places have to provide a “reasonable” bathroom break for employees every 4ish hours. What reasonable is differs in the civil courts from state to state. In your state its 10 min and they use it so they can get legally upset at you for bathroom breaks since you already get two.>lazy coworkersMost people are lazy. Your job probably is not picky with who it hires and has shit work culture. But before I got my government job, I climbed a shit wagie job up a corporate ladder to middle management mostly for my work ethic.So if you’re uneducated, a good work ethic, flexibility, and being charismatic helps you climb in any place. Management experience is always useful. If you need to wage a shit job, do it at a place with lots of upward mobility. Don’t bitch, narc on people, gossip, or do anything ti make enemies. It does get better once you climb.You have it pretty bad right now. One great piece of /adv/ i got was>every 6 months if you’re not starting to move up, think about moving out.
I'm 28 and I live in Dublin, Ireland and I went to this event called "Speed Friending" at a bar called Drop Dead Twice. I walked into the bar and I saw a door that said "SPEED FRIENDING UPSTAIRS" and I walked upstairs into the Speed Friending event there was tables with people sitting at them and loads of pride balloons everywhere and this black man in a tank top had a microphone and kept doing gay gestures and said "Welcome to Speed Friending"Anyone know any non-gay places where you can make friends?
>>34716649google "singles events dublin"
>>34716649Go to the gay one, maybe they have bugchasing evenings there for you!
Why do I suffer from severe chronic insecurity despite no one being particularly critical of me growing up?
>>34718490Kys, then you will stop feeling insecure
Not one? Did they all have low expectations?
>>34718504I guess so
>the KYs schizo is backGrim
>>34718723Kys and it won't feel grim any longer.
what are the best methods to leave this hell realm?
>>34718324its hard to do without fucking your sleep up
>>34718398Then I guess it want good enough to try harder for
>>34718199Old age
>>34718199GO TO PANDORAAAA like Jake sully yess
>>34718199If you think this is hell, wait till you actually get to actual hell.
So, there is this new girl at work responsible for making the connection between different companies (her company is responsible for the logistics of the company I work for). On Monday I was talking to her about something related to work, and then I asked her if the company provided her a phone. Then I asked for her number and specifically said it was to talk about work stuff. She said she would give me her personal number because the company is probably monitoring what people do on their phones. This one caught me off guard, and I've been thinking about it.We could talk using her company's phone, and if something different happened, she could just call me on her own phone.We only talk about work stuff, and she replies really fast. She's beautiful and such a nice person (from what I saw of her), and I don't know if I should try my luck. Like, I'm a really serious person, and I don't know if there is a chance. I don't even know how to check if there is a chance. What to do? Like, what should I say to know if there is any interest by her?I would like to ask other people who know her if she got a bf or something, but she pretty much only deals with me, my boss, and his assistant.I'm lost.
bymp
The last bumpo.
Work is for goyim
>>34716007Find opportunities for face-to-face meets. Keep professional but friendly. Then "Hey, I was thinking of trying that new sandwich shop down the street for lunch. Want to test it out with me?"
>>34716007Haalanddd wowww droolingggg
How the fuck do you make more money outside your job? I might get a better paying job next month, but I still dont like the idea of only depending on my job. All side hustles I see are completly unrealistic, fucking sell flowers pots on the street or some shit like that. Starting a business looks cool, but everyone is selling their course on it so probably makes money from the course and not from the business. I once decided to buy a course (I know, stupid idea) and it was absolute garbage. Is there anything you guys recommend? For now I found giving classes on a foreign language, the problem is that is nor very scalable, so I would like something more scalable, automatized, etc. I also though about making money with AI as everyone is talking about this, but is this more BS or is there any possiblities behind? Thanks anons.
>>34713203Admittedly it's not that easy to know what you would buy yourself, I think it was Steve Jobs who said that people don't know what they want until you show it to themBut you can try thinking about how modern developments are affecting your life and what you would want to be different
>>34707854This>>34707846And use the money for bitcoin.
>>34707846Become a prostitute.
>>34707846>everyone is selling their course on it so probably makes money from the course and not from the business.Correct. Remember: if people had a trick to making money or starting a business, they would keep it to themselves. None of the people who sell internet courses on business have ever bought them. It's a grift. >I also though about making money with AI as everyone is talking about this, but is this more BS or is there any possiblities behind? AI is just a tool. The only ways to get rich off of AI are to either make an AI and sell it to people to use, or use an AI to make stuff and sell that to people. The best way to make money is to be useful. Find a want or need, figure out how to fulfill it cheaper/quicker/conveniently than anybody else, and profit.
>>34707854>>34708274Biggest NPCs on planet earth
How do I get revenge on someone who called me a whore even though I'm not one
>>34709354The fact you're offended only proves them right. Most people would just laugh it off because it doesn't apply to them
>>34718033>people can't get mad over false accusations Meme take
Rewrite it:>called me a [pedo] even though I'm not one>called me a [rapist] even though I'm not oneDepending on who's doing the accusing. Low class trash get an insult back in response. Someone who isn't supposed to make this kind of joke is getting sued for slander.
>>34709354You suck his dick but do it not good enough so he is not satisfied. That will also make him question his judgement because if you were a whore you'd do a better job
>>34718033This
Someone stared at me at a gas station. I know where they live. What are legal ways I can surprise them so they learn a valuable lesson
>kinda recognised some guy but he didn't say hi>turns out he's a total spaz
>>34717752no, he was mean mugging me, then waited out front while i was getting gas, then finally got in his car only after i was getting in my car, then proceeded to pretend to follow me. But, I saw what apartment complex he turned into in my rearview mirror. Then I found where he was parked. So stfu and give me advice, you sperg
>>34715156Go murder their entire family right now
>>34716380>call the copsWhite pussy
>>34718165Nah, i just want to surprise him. Maybe the other dude he was with.>>34718169I would rather not call the police, but, that heavily depends. It would be kind of funny to set him up to get arrested.
How do I keep women as far away from me as possible?
>>34717553If you kys, the foid demons will be unable to access you at all.
>>34717566Kys
>eminem_im_NOT_afraid.mp3get the shirt and wear it and enjoy your splendid isolation
>>34717553You referred to them as women instead of something derogatory , very telling
>>34717553Just be your usual charmless self
I'm dating a guy who's twenty years older than me. It's not a traditional situation, but it works for both of us and it's been pretty casual.Last night he got kind of real and started talking about "the future" and I thought he was trying to play a joke with his idea.He wants me to marry him, and he wants to have kids. He's afraid he won't settle down and have kids otherwise and he wants his family name to live on or something.He said it can be an open marriage, but he wants there to be a stable home life for the kids. He also said he would raise them himself if I wanted to do other things with my life, but I obviously couldn't just have kids and leave them.He said he'll cover my tuition and stuff for uni so that I can have an education to support me and the kids with if he kicks the bucket (if I go along with all this).So...I feel like this is super fucking weird and all, but I also feel pretty comfortable around this guy and getting my college paid for would make my future a lot easier.Is it stupid to go along with it or stupid to pass it up?
>>34710747Kys and marriage won't be an issue
>>34710747Get everything paid for while you get to fuck other guys? What's the downside?
>>34710747>. It's not a traditional situation, but it works for both of us and it's been pretty casual.Does that mean it's a sugar situation?
>>34713010>You got really rude and stuff but my holdup is just that I like this guy but idk if it's true love wordswordswordsFrom what far-reaching crag of niggerhell do women gain the ability to read something absolutely insane and schizoprenic then just continue to babble on like it's nothing?
>>34710747if he's 20 years older, and he doesn't have kids already, then he's running out of time to have them and still be part of their lives, compared to if you were closer in age.Thats it. And if he offers up an open marriage, then he also has low self esteem and thinks you don't think he's worth a commitment in marriage (but is still wanting to convince you to have kids, so his priorities are fucked too)so if you've never thought about marriage, let alone marriage to him, sounds like a dumpster fire, unless you think you're ready to majorly fucking change the direction of your life.you got some thinking to do, and talks to have with this dipshit.
I'm sick of this femoid body. Every day I wake up with disappointed because I'm not a real rock. Why did I have to be a cutesy alt girl. If I can't be real rock, then maybe I should just kill myself.
>>34712398Kys and you will reincarnate as a shitrock>>34712798>>34714547>>34718001Kys mineral faggots
>>34718070how are you even certain that OP will reincarnate in to a rock?
>>34718384Statistically most likely.
cheer up, I found some cool orbital jasper yesterday
>>34715390>t.heseus, ship of
Met my boyfriend in September. We’re both 23 and this is our first relationship. At the beginning he was very intense. He talked about marrying me, running away together, living out of our car, etc. We spent almost all our free time together.About a month ago I got rear-ended and lost my car, so I’ve been alone more because I don’t have many friends nearby. Since then things have felt different.We planned a trip that fell through, and he invited me to his friend/sister’s party instead. The day of, he uninvited me because it was mostly guys and he thought they’d see me as a “buzzkill.” He has a pattern of inviting me places and then choosing his friends instead.The next few weeks we barely saw each other. I took off work to see him, but he sent me home early one night because he was tired and wanted to see his friends. He stayed out until 2 AM with them, then was too tired the next day. He also went away for July 4th weekend and didn’t text or call me.I told him I felt like he prioritized his friends over me. He said he wants to go away with friends for his birthday in September, and I got upset because we haven’t even taken a trip together, while he’s already gone away with friends multiple times.He was supposed to come to my allergy shots last Thursday like he always does but he slept through them and forgot.He said I need to be more independent. He also said the honeymoon phase is over, our spark has been coming in waves, and he doesn’t want to talk about marriage anymore because we’re young and he got carried away before. However, he says he loves me, I’m his best friend, and he doesn’t want to break up.He still reassures me, tells me I’m beautiful, and has been taking me places I want to go. He said he’ll work on not ditching me for friends.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34718473Incel
>>34718478Cope
>>34716311Kill yourself.
>>34718480Incel.
>>34718473Have sex. Fall out of love. Date someone else.Don't create divorces and kids unless love surives after the honeymoon phase. >personal compatibility Sleep with them. Men who have been abused don't respond correctly to emotions during sex. The world doesn't need anymore children manufactured from abusive parents.
You're standing in line at the store with your girlfriend and some guy comes and just stands in front of you, cutting the line.You say>Yo dude, I'm in line hereHe says<Yeah so? I don't care fuck offNow he's just staring at you.What should you do in this scenario?
Shoot him.
Kiss him and accept that you are now his bitch and piss on your girlfriend
the answer depends on my mood. if he genuinely pissed me off (or it was in line for something important) i would probably make a scene and talk as loud as i can telling people that this guy cut in line. maybe even call a manager or something. but in most cases, its not really a big deal. youre risking a fight over something as trivial as waiting an extra minute. if its a grocery store trip, its whatever. you dont wanna start a fight in the ghetto i live in because retards will genuinely shoot you over dumb shit like this.
>>34710502get his license plate on the way out>he is on foottrained crows
>>34718483pretty much this.I have two stories with opposite reactions for myself:i am usually passive but one time I accidentally bumped into someone at a bar and spilled their drink just a little. I immediately said "I'm sorry man, my bad."I honestly would have bought him another drink if he had been chill, but he tried to give me the stare down, not saying a word, just looking me up and down angry and puffing out his chest. It was clear he was bitch made and I was on liquid courage, so I said "I said I'm sorry. are you going to fight me over this or just pretend to be tough like a bitch?" He literally just kept doing the stare so I just said "that's what I thought" and walked away (slightly) bumping him againThe other time I was a freshman in high school and at a metal concert where it is shoulder to shoulder packed waiting for the band to come on. some dude decided he didn't like me in his space and without warning or me seeing him shoved me in the back as hard as he could, sending me forward to the ground. i get up and see this dude is some how scrawnier than me and shorter. I go up to keep it real with him and his giant 250 pound 30 year old uncle or age gap friend covered in piercings and tattoos steps in. Needless to say I did not keep it real that day.[spoiler]thanks for reading my blog[/spoiler]
