I struggle to do any of my hobbies on a consistent basis, even though I enjoy themI go months of time basically spending my time doing nothingReally honestly nothing - like sure I talk to friends and do a tiny bit of whatever I want to do - but the majority of my time is just spent refreshing YouTube and Twitter, reading things I don’t care about and watching videos at 1.5x speed I also don’t really care aboutI’ve had times where I just close discord and Twitter and YouTube and can perform tasks better, but it feels so odd for that to be the only solutionLike right now I think it’s been 7 months since I’ve watched a show or read a book (not that I have any obligation to, but I do enjoy it!!)I want to just naturally do it but cannot picture that being the case everI can only act if I put extremely rigid and spelt out rules in place And that’s kind of a key point hereNo real internal, forward drive, only able to act within confines I’ve set - I think because my base state is nothingnessEven the thought of doing something often leads me to feeling incredibly stifled and stressed because it’s like that time I will spend is “locked in”It’s something I am giving upSo instead of do nothing of note, but it’s nothingness that can stop at any timeI can only blame social media for this but I want to interact with my hobbiesSometimes I have a bout of a few good weeks but then go back to nothingComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34583465Yes I’m only using it for Japanese breasts and other such thingsFeel like my mind is a lot more conscious than before and can feel my focus improvingMy next problem I have to solve is always feeling like I could’ve spent my free time doing more and learning how to anticipate doing things without turning it into a responsibility Like right now I’m at my work desk just checking my phone after 30 mins of straight workI know I wanna go home and readBut the fact that I’m planning this will make me not want to do it
>>34583849You just gotta maintain flexibility. Whatever you do takes energy. Its good you treat it like responsibility, but the key is flexibility. If you don't feel like reading, do something else, but do something.
>>34584594YeahI’m treating it as either doing the thing I want, nothing, or something elseBasically what I’m highlighting is not doing distracting activities first and foremost, more than a mindset striving towards maximum efficiency
>>34584913I feel that. Unfortunately, the only way I know is to just stop when you catch yourself doing it and to do something else. Good luck. You will make it.
>>34552193holup this guys onto something actuallybut even scrolling is so much less painless than actually doing nothing.
Basically a guy on discord bought me something and I want to send him 13 euro worth of bitcoin. He gave me his wallet id or whatever it's called.Can I send him him this without him seeing my name, address, bank, anything that could link him to my real identity etc? I've never sent money through bitcoin before.
>>34588387you're so naivegood luck getting arrested eventuallymight want to check out how bitcoin works again
>>34588362I'm not trying to buy illegal stuff. He literally just bought me something that I didn't end up using and I want to pay him back. It's 13 euro. It's not some big organization, just a dude on discord. He's not a hacker either so i'm not worrying about him wasting time looking for details about me.
>>34588483transfer him 13 euros worth of bitcoin to his wallet address. he will only be able to see your wallet address, wallet balance, and wallet transactions, nothing more and nothing with your information on it.
>>34588362>but bitcoin is completely traceableNo it's not, dumbass. Unless you bought from a centralized exchange. Also, even if he bought from a centralized exchange, it's not like the guy can discover who OP is, unless he is a law enforcement of some sort and OP is involved in illegal activities.>>34588332>Can I send money through bitcoin while remaining anonymous?Yes, as long as you buy from a DEX or P2P and you know what you're doing.
>>34588542>Yes, as long as you buy from a DEX or P2P and you know what you're doing.what if I don't know what i'm doing at all right now and I want to send it to him tomorrow? Can I do it easily?
я чyвcтвyю ceбя бecпoлeзным, вce cтaлo oчeнь тяжкo тaк кaк пoгoвopить пpo чтo тo нeтипичнoe и нaцeлeннoe нa кoнкpeтнyю гpyппy вeщeй тeмы c мoим лyчшим дpyгoм я нe мoгy - oн нe пoймeт и кaк мнe пoкaзaлa пpaктикa eмy oнo и нe нyжнo. нeдaвнo мнe cкaзaли чтo я paзгoвapивaю нaдмeннo бyдтo cтaвя ceбя вышe дpyгих (кoгдa я чтo тo paccкaзывaл я oбъяcнял пoтeнциaльнo нeoбычныe cлoвa и их знaчeния, ecтecтвeннo нe нaвязывaяcь пpocтo мeждy cлoв), этo вocпpиняли кaк тo чтo я пpинимaю вceх oкpyжaющих зa тyпых. нa дeлe кaк бы этo жaлкo нe звyчaлo, я paзгoвapивaю co cтeнaми нa кaкиe тo интepecyющиe мeня тeмы чтo бы пoтoм в бyдyщeм кoгдa бyдeт пoдхoдящий мoмeнт бeз пpoблeм cмoг c кeм тo oб этoм пoгoвopить. пoтoмy мнe вceгдa былo вaжнo избeгaть нeдoпoнимaний. мoжнo cкaзaть я oдинoк вeдь живy нe в cвoeй poднoй cтpaнe yжe дocтaтoчнo дoлгo. и имeннo ceйчac кoгдa мнe дaжe в интepнeтe cтaлo нe c кeм пoигpaть/пoгoвopить, я cтaл cхoдить c yмa и чacтичнo дocтaвaть мoeгo дpyгa нa чтo и ycлышaл этo. ( я дeйcтвитeльнo paccкaзывaл eмy o тoм чтo eгo нe интepecyeт и в чeм oн нe paзбиpaeтcя, я дeбил?)
do women really view these 3 things in the same light?
>>34584283Yes
>>34584283I won't pick someone I'm unattracted to, simply because I'm not attracted to them. there's no need to justify it, there's no need for excuses, there's no need to assume the worst and attribute bad traits to people I don't even know. that's just scarcity mindset, they'll find someone who is attracted to them. they deserve someone who is attracted to them, that's all.
>>34584500oh I'm retarded. no. beating is worse than cheating, cheating is worse than watching porn obviously. the first two are obviously awful, watching porn is just kinda nasty and a bad habit, the porn industry is pretty exploitative and it usually contains all sorts of disgusting exaggerated things. honestly I wouldn't really mind it if I had a boyfriend who watched ecchi/hentai or whatever, sorry not sorry, it's much less disgusting than real porn somehow and they don't traffick and drug people in order to produce it.
>>34584283Ive barely ever been able to convince even one woman to sleep with me at any given time, let alone enough to cheat with
>>34584518Women view them all the same way because "beating" is just looking at her wrong. You have to actually date a woman for a year or two, develop trust in her rationality (mistake,) and watch her instinctually need to move into the next cock in the carousel, before you understand. Most women never experience that. Most women only hear "he beats me" at the end, and take her literally; as if she's abused. In reality, men are half as violent as women.
She’s a literal demon and a coward.
>>34588262Drugs or Heroin...
>>34588270She’s an asshole who doesn’t communicate and blocks you instead, so you’re left feeling like it’s all your fault. It’s toxic as hell and I hate her for it.
>>34588262Living well is the best revenge. Allow her to stew in the hell on earth that her life surely is and stop giving her any more of your energy and time.
>>34588513She unblocked me to let me know she was thriving without me in her life.
>>34588530Her behavior is petty to the point of being funny. Like who the fuck does this lmaoIf you didn't have a previous emotional attachment or history with her you'd probably laugh at her for this and let her fuck off to her apparently amazing life.
GENUINELY what do if the only things that bring me any dopamine are video games, food, and masturbation? Literally everything else feels like a chore.
>>34588076Happiness comes from peace and wisdom, not from dopamine. You're on a samsaric treadmill, and it's only a matter of time before you start to feel exhaustion. Rather than waiting until you're too miserable to think straight, it'd be a good idea to distance yourself from your vices now and learn how to be happy without them.
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>>34588076I used to be like you, but somehow I got even worse. Even blideo bames feel like a chore now. I eat nothing but sugary snacks anymore. And SSRIs killed my sex drive.
>>34588076I enjoy all those things too but I have no shame about it
My parents were extremely strict when it came to nudity and sexual content when I was a kid. I wasn't exposed to porn until I was nearly 15 years old, excluding 1 or 2 nude images, which was after a handful of my friends started having sex. I was exposed to a lot of sexual talk due to the extremely deviant nature of my friend group though. I didn't have my first real girlfriend until junior year of high-school, and then after we broke up I started dating someone I had known for awhile right before I went back to college as a sophomore. While neither of these relationships were healthy or good for my mental health or theirs, they were both wildly degenerate, more so than anyone I had known personally or have yet to know. It didn't help that the 2nd girl was into everything the 1st was into and wayyy more. Fast forward. New relationship. Arguably in a better place with my mental health and physical situation and my new GF is genuinely a good person. While she can easily match my libido, she is effectively vanilla pretending to be otherwise. Almost every time I we have sex I end up fantasizing about my exes. This is taking a severe mental toll on me and our relationship. I need advice and probably help.
>>34588512We live together and I am in a rather bad financial situation at the moment. While I am not leaching off of her it would cause me severe financial repercussions. It also does not help that I work for one of her relatives. Finding a new place to live, a new job, and moving all of my shit would be expensive. I would likely need to save up for months and line up a new job in order to continue living where I am and be able to break up with her. But then again, that's a dick move. My family situation is also very complicated so I would not be able to move back in with them and if they found out why I broke up with her there would be hell to pay.
>>34588408>deviant>degenerateStoip doing this shit.Sex is Sex, everyone has different needs and tastes. Yours happen to be a bit more rough, which is anything but unusual.Your parents are puritan weirdoes, and you should stop judging yourself for your own needs.>>34588455Look, if you're not sexually compatible, then you aren't. Its not going to go away. You will just spend an eternity in sexual frustration until you break up or cheat. Sex is one of the cornerstones of a functional relationship, even if it is not the only one. Theres plenty of nice and well adjusted girls who enjoy getting choked. Just look for one of those instead of forcing yourself to be something you aren't.Its not about how you have sex, but with whom you have it, and apparently you are now able to find non-crazy women.
>>34588408>more so than anyone I had known personally or have yet to know.Last one. How do you exactly imagien knowing about that? People don't tend to describe their sex lives in detail, not even to close friends.You know fuck all about how other people have sex. In all likelihood the most milquetoast couples you know are into some severely weird shit.
>>34588519>Theres plenty of nice and well adjusted girls who enjoy getting chokedYea my current gf is into choking, but the shit my exes were into were levels of magnitude more extreme. You are right though, I just need to put my non-sexual affairs in order before I break up. Also yes, my parents are puritan freaks. You are also right about the use of deviant and degenerate, just lingering vocabulary. >>34588522Many of the people I was around regardless of if they were guys or girls had 0 issues discussing their sex life, especially in middle school and high-school. Yes, I personally knew several people who were sexually active in middle school. Is this the norm? probably not. Were they lying? potentially, however some did in fact bring real receipts.
Anyways, OP here, might be back in an hour or maybe tomorrow morning. Dont know yet.
My boyfriend barely pays attention to me. He's too busy trying to get world records in Crash Bandicoot 4 Time Trials. What do I do?
>>34588397Show him the world, but maybe also try speedrunning. It takes a zen mindset. It's not about getting the record.
Speedrunning is a gateway to transexuality
I want to fuck my cousins ex wife. Im hanging out with her for me to smoke weed for the first time, just her and I, should I make a move? Will this break the code?Am I allowed?
>>34584724I just wanna have some fun
>>34582935You’re Latin, right?Getting obsessed with an ass and close to a family relative is so fucking common.You’ll burn in hell, psycho.
>>34584982How did you know lmao
I think you should go for it if I'm being honest
>>34584903Seeking pleasure is a root of evil.
Let's get it out of the way, I am ugly, end of story. Beauty is a reflection of the individual's fitness and I am dysgenic, simply lost the genetic lottery. I didn't come here to cry about myself as I have (as much as I could) accepted it. I want genuine life experiences, how did it affect you (being ugly) or anyone you know and what are the workarounds. My best bet is money and status, like with everything.
>>34585196>No. My genes are great. Plastic surgery fixes other issues that affect physical beauty.Ok fair enough. The phenotype isn't a product solely of genes>You realize that someone with shit genes like you can also benefit in some wayI mostly rely on my schizo brain for original ideas and deflecting social conditioning.
>>34585185>How does education help you?NTA, but it keeps you busy, and you feel like you achieved something, even if it's an illusion. I learned several languages and abilities that are useless. I won't be paid a single penny more just because I learned them, yet I feel like I achieved something. Even though I actually did not achieve anything, being locked into your room jerking off and browsing 4chan leads to the same results as pursuing education.
They just moneymaxx for this problem.
>>34585150>My best bet is money and statusNope. What will actually help is confidence (or the ability to simulate it convincingly) and being fun to be around - being funny is an obvious option there, but there are others.
>>34585150You seem like a guy who has initiative, even though accepting that you are ugly you bet on other things to become your situation, thats nice.Besides your face, are you fit? I assure you that a body change can improve your looks totally
So I have this childhood friend who I love very much.He is the perfect chad, handsome, tall, SUPER INTELIGENT AND SMART, but above all very kind and humble. An Adonis, the perfect specimen. He drop out collage recently tho, but somehow he was making tons of cash.Last month he came out as bi and he said he is working as a male prostitute, doing both cam work and literal whoring!I think this is absurd, he has so much potencial and he is so intelligent, I can't bear thinking about the dude I used to play video games with is fucking old ugly faggots for a living. But everyone in our group of friends is acting like 1-Is no big deal. 2- None of my business 3- Rude of me to think I would dare suggest this is a bad choice for him.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34587684It'd be good to voice your concerns. Let him know that you're worried about him and his long term wellbeing because his current choices carry a lot of inherent risk. The point where it would become excessive is if you cross the line between your responsibilities and his responsibilities. It's your responsibility to give the advice that will help him, and it's his responsibility to take that advice and follow it. If he refuses to listen, then there's nothing more you can do. You can't force smart choices out of somebody, because if it has to be forced at all then by necessity that person's choices are not smart. Some lessons take a long time to be learned, as well. He might brush off your advice now, only to realize that you were right a year from now. But you have to give the advice now for that to work, in the same way that you have to plant a tree now if you want to enjoy its shade in the future.
>>34587684Sounds like a wise man to me. We're all prostitutes in modern society, at least he's being up-front about it.
>>34587684>Isn't that what friends are for?No. You're allowed to offer advice, but ultimately you have to respect your friend's right to live his life as he chooses, and not as you choose.
>>34587719That's very wise.>>34587761It's part of his argument. When I said he needed to think about his future, he literally is in the process of acquiring 6 properties for renting and live off passively. So it's a good argument even if the life style is degenerate and open him up for dangers and possible health issues.>>34588063I know but it sounds like such a waste of potencial, it's a shame! How can people be so no chalant, it's like hearing someone is going to do meth and be fine with it. What about intervention is that what's expected of a friend?
You sound jealous to me, you should pay him and get what you actually want from him
I have constant fantasies about being used by white men. Either being tied up, blindfolded and having a massive white cock stuffed into my mouth, or a romantic kiss from a tall white stud with a huge dick. I am bi and do love my brown girlfriend, but something inside me just craves to have sexual encounters with white men. I also love watching porn of brown women being fucked by huge white cocks. I probably wouldn't mind at all watching a really hot white guy fuck my girlfriend in front of me, he could cum inside her an everything. I also find white jock dudes far more relatable and easier to talk to than my girlfriend. I am a good looking guy with a big cock myself so have always had an easy time with women, but when it comes to being bi I have had encounters with tall handsome white men when I was younger.I hate this side of myself but I cannot deny that the feelings are genuine and real. I dream of big white cocks, I find myself staring at tall handsome white guys and wondering how their asses would feel in my hands, dreaming of grinding my cock up against a handsome tall white guy while locking eyes and slowly making out. I did it before when I was younger and now I miss it, it's been years since I had those encounters.Is there a cure for this faggotry? Should I kill myself. Would I actually be happier coming home to be throatgagged by a hung white guy regularly? I just don't know anymore.
>>34583573There is really no other solution aside tasting the water to see if you GF would be okay with a threesome. Brown women usually workship white men so you may have a chance
>>34583573Saw a thread similar to this one month ago. Please find a better hobby fag
>>34586731We all get cravings.You need to learn a word... Sublimation, is what monks and nuns do.I sublimate a lot my gf too. She has a thing for old guys and I'm not old, so she sublimates.And I'm bi too, and I like bodybuilders but I sublimate that part of myself.This way everyone is happy. Fantasies are just fantasies the moment you get them realized you notice how nightmarish they truly were.
>>34587375If she’s already that insecure then I think you’d be better off gagging on big white cock. Otherwise you’ll have to cheat on her. Maybe date a tranny?
>>34583573Are you a gears of war player by any chance
What do you do if you text a woman but she doesn't reply?
>>34580873Idk depends on the girl, I try to communicate it but my bf knows I love taking naps c:
>>34583458Are you a foid?Foid trying to text back challenge:
>>34580873Assuming you're trying to date/fuck? Give it up and jump ship. If she's not interested nothing will change that. If she is she'll make the effort to communicate.Seriously man, attention it's two way. It's not there? Then it's not there, don't force it.
>>34580873Depends. If you know her well you can follow up in a few days/whenever. If you don't know her well you can just leave it be.It depends on urgency, you see. For someone you know well, it's more likely you'll have a situation that involves their input more urgently. Made date plans but something came up that needs clarification? Yeah, send another text even within minutes. Just got the girl's number but she didn't text you back? Nah, you can leave that one behind. Your girlfriend was supposed to show up at your place 30 minutes ago but you haven't heard from her? Call her.I say all this, but in practice I'm really a simp with attachment issues.bIt takes an active effort sometimes for me to not keep reaching out. I hate it and I'm working on it, but at the same time I've heard that some women like when a guy simps a bit.
>>34586850no im male. thats probably why its even worse
it's really hard for me to friends because i cant connect with anyone. i think its unironically because im more mature than most of my peers. ive dealt homelessness and hikkikomoriism for a bit and do all of my chores and errands myself. i take my health seriously and workout regularly because i have no insurance (i paid 1800 out of pocket to get my tooth removed once). dont smoke, drink, or do hookups because my dad loved those and was a terrible person. still cant drive because nobody taught me. in the almost 10 years ive lived in my city ive only made friends in one place which was a homeless shelter. literally everyone there regardless of age or background (lawyers, divorced dads, junkies, military, gang members, etc.) i felt a connection to. most of my peers have not dealt with struggle so they only really care about getting drunk or wasted. they either work decent jobs because their families put them through college or work dead end retail jobs because they live with family that can share rent. i was so close to getting a girlfriend once. but i ended up fumbling it because i could not understand this girl. i asked her out (after a long time of her giving hints) and she turned me down. i started ignoring her after and then she started talking to me (very aggressively) after seeing a different girl flirting with me. but she was still expecting me to ask her out instead of just telling me she liked me. i blocked her and never saw her again. she started dating someone 6 months after i last saw her and apparently the guy is taller and has tattoos which is just a blow to my self esteem. im glad i met that girl but also wish i never met her
>>34583354I'm in a similar situation as you anon, I am 19M no friends. It already doesn't help if you are different from the norm. I'm not going to try to say "I don't need anyone cause I am a lone wolf" because we do need someone. Unfortunately some people are one-sided & I warn you that they'll drain your energy. Some people only want friendships based on transactional purpose instead of an emotional connection, to add onto that some people rank their friends based on how "close" they are which could translate to: "what they can give me". Group dynamics are the worst if you are different, because almost every single time you get outcasted. You have to deal with belittlement from others that are clearly threatened by you.Some other anons will come onto these types of threads & give you the same answer: "go to club,church,gym,etc" but that advice is flawed.
>>34583401Ignore this
>>34583354If you are neurodivergent, sometime moving out of country is the solution, Do not bother pleasing people, It does not work, Consider the travelpill.
>>34583354You don't have to seek out friendships just do whatever you want and if you happen to encounter someone on the way you get along with just befriend them
You are living in your head bro and you lack spirit. You need to go play sports, get drunk, get in fights, have sex, smoke weed. Basically live like Tyrone would. Stop thinking and let your passions move you.
can a woman on here become my friend?
>>34588044no>>34588065its ok>>34588083i want reel gurl>>34588092hello mister
>>34588038why would you need that?
>>34588227because Ive never had a female friend
>>34588038Some of them might, but it won't work if either of you catch feelings.
>>34588238I donnt think a girl will fall in love with me
