>made a Bumble account>got a blurred like>continued swiping on Bumble and ended up matching with the woman who liked me>I'm 28 and she's 22 and she lives in the same city as me>we talk for an hour and exchange less than 10 messages>she asks me what I do for workIs it normal for women to ask this or is she a gold digger?
>>34334615hmm
>>34336279>>34336269hmmmmm
>>34336291hmm
>>34334539it's weird you don't have that on your profile, are you a jobless bum? lmao
>>34334539>we talk for an hourwhy?why are you wasting so much time?Do you guys hit it off, then fucking MEET already
My coworker's birthday is coming up. Would it be weird to make her a full-size birthday cake?Especially since we have a bit of a history. We used to talk a lot, and I thought it meant something more, but she rejected me (before I even made a move). I thought we'd continue as friends, but she's keeping her distance. I like her as a person, and I miss her, because she was the only person I talked to. I give her candy whenever I see her, but it's not enough to bring her back.What do you think?
>>34332739Well, I don't talk to anyone else, so it would be weird to offer them cookies out of the blue. However, I'm having second thoughts about this. I think the cookies are too crunchy, so I might wait and offer her a cheesecake on Monday instead.
>>34335860Sharing food with coworkers you don't know is actually a good way to break the ice and establish rapport, ironically. Instead of having a pretense to get something in return you would actually be doing something nice just for the sake of being nice.
>>34335991>UPDATESo I went ahead and offered her the cookies. She accepted and even said they smelled nice and weren't crunchy. (I can't take positive feedback, so I assume that was a lie/politeness.) However, I forgot to stop for a chat, so I just walked away immediately. I also chickened out of offering cookies to the other girl, even though I walked past her with the box in my hands several times. So all in all, it was a big nothingburger, and it probably won't be any different with the cake.
>>34326385I normally share your opinion, that work isn't an automatic no-go. But continuing to impose on someone who has blown one off already clearly and has made no effort to get back in touch, is going into the harrassment area. Especially at work.
>>34336789How am I imposing on her? I'm just trying to be friendly, the only way I know. This was literally the first time we spoke all week. And later, she walked by and said, "Hey, thanks for the cookies again, anon, they were really good!" That's not something someone feeling harassed would do.
When I am alone at my personal computer desk, I'll play with my dick in a nonsexual way. I squeeze it, bend it, do a lot of stimulation out of boredom. I never think sexual thoughts during this (I am white) and so far it's pretty much a tic for meI just bent my dick a little a couple minutes ago, like one might do to a glowstick if they were bending it just enough until they hear it cracking, and I felt a sharp pain like it was cut. Did I just do damage? Should I go to the doctor?
>>34327918A cubicle is not private
>>34325845if this isnt a joke post monitor for the development of peyronies disease. if it starts to develop go to a urologist. waiting too long can make the plaque harder to treat. if it isnt peyronies just rest it and youll go back to normal
lol
>>34325845I absentmindedly play with my dick too. It's like silly putty or a fidget spinner that I always have on hand.
>>34325859you should do stand up, you're a fungi
>its another episode of Anon installing hinge again only to get extremely miserable after getting ghosted and unadded several timesHow do I stop letting this shit bother me? The second I match with a girl I try hard to think of good responses only to get unadded after several messages. It makes me feel like bottom of the barrel garbage even though I know im not worthless. Am I just caring too much? Ive been trying so hard to improve but it feels like I lack the mental faculties or personality to court a woman my age.
>>34336057Professional salesmen - the kind that make cold calls to customers - work on the assumption that 99 percent of their calls will fail;. If they get a hit rate of 3 out of 100 they are stars.
>>34336057If this is happening, your profile isn't good enough.
>>34336489Thanks my brother told me something similar. It makes me a little sad that I have to market myself like a commodity but it is what it is and there is no changing it. I feel like I am not even getting any women in the awareness funnel of marketing.>>34336497You are probably right my pictures are pretty ass just a couple selfies, group rugby photos, and a picture of me on a mountain. In 60% of pictures taken of me by friends/family my eyes are closed or its a bad angle. I really fucking hate social media shit and taking pictures but ill stop bitching and make my friends take decent pictures of me. I know all about the rules for pictures I just cant be assed to pose in a suit or whatever bullshit.
>>34336057Vehicular recently made a vid on this. He said getting girls online is next to impossible. I believe him. He says real life approaches bring superior results.
>>34336057>It makes me feel like bottom of the barrel garbageare you? how much money do you make per year? women are unable to think so what they do and say doesnt matter
What's keeping you going? What makes you get out of bed everyday and keep moving forward? I myself have nothing, no reason to keep trying. And even though it feels right in my head that nothing really matters, it still feels like I'm making a mistake by wanting to give up. I won't get into detail as to what's causing me to ask this, I'm not here to vent. I've ignored thinking about this matter for a long time. But lately it has become too much to ignore. And this question has always been coming up on my mind: "Why bother, for what?" Seriously, what's the point? I can just assume that there is one and keep trying my best, but what meaning does that hold if I might never even perceive it? And at the same time it's tiring as fuck to go through the same shit everyday without even knowing why. I have people that I deeply care about and love, I have my own responsibilities, I have my own dreams and ambitions, memories, experiences, things I look forward to. But I don't know why I even care in the first place. Sometimes things get too much, sometimes things can get very fucking heavy, and that's when the question of why I should keep going comes back again. But why should I keep ignoring it?I'm okay with living without direction or a given purpose. But without one, letting everything go just seems like the easier choice. When nothing feels like it matters, the only thing that starts to matter is to stop what doesn't. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34335518What if you found the thing that was making you happy and then you lost access to itWhat if getting the chance to get back to that happiness requires a decade plus of grinding and most of your youth and income with zero guarantees other than that if you get it, you'll have to begin another grind because you've only earned the right to show up at the starting line and you're behind everyone elseWhat if there isn't anything to try where you areFor a lot of my life, I used to wonder what was so bad about prolonged solitary confinement, it's prison but without the danger of other prisoners. I thought that I'd like to give it a shot for a year or two just to say I did it. After leaving my environment for over a year, I realized that such a thought was indicative of the type of life I was already living. My time meant nothing to me, I had absolutely nothing to live for other than to not die because it would probably hurt, it would make people you know sad, and I wanted to see how certain things ended.I'm back to the original environment and lately I've been thinking about how it would be better if I just could gradually erase whatever presence I have in the lives of others and fade out from existence.
I have dreams. I want to get strong. I want to get good at music and start an NSBM project. I wanna fuck a big tiddy black girl. I wanna go to poland. I want to be romantically loved. Etc. But as Pessoa said,"The only way to survive in this world is by keeping alive our dream, without ever fulfilling it, since the fulfillment never measures up to what we imagine"
>>34334680>no reason to keep trying.Forget the word try. Things are supposed to be effortless. Either in failure or success. Remove friction, remove obstacles and enjoy whatever path you're walking.
>>34337179You either learn to identify with living in a trailer park and think it's the greatest life in the world and never question anything or you become aware that you can eat better food than roadkill and don't need to live next to a meth lab in tornado county.
>>34335347charge ur phone.
I just finished reading The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, & Love by Bell Hooks. The author’s observations seemed pretty accurate to me; I, too, believe our (white imperialistic capitalistic) patriarchal society has done us all a disservice. I also agree that a return to integrity, that is, the integration of all the parts of ourselves that make us human, not limiting ourselves only to that which is “feminine” or “masculine”, would be tremendously beneficial both individually and collectively.How to achieve that integrity (per the book) is largely vague. There are no action items or To-do lists that follow. As a man, I didn’t receive instructions in my life either. Also socialized within the same structures and systems, I had internalized a lot of maladaptive and arbitrary beliefs and shame around gender-based expectations too. I’ve been trying to unpack, critically inspect, and rebuild these beliefs into something that aligns with reality and my values using any resources available to me: decades of individual therapy (some group in there too), CBT, DBT, RO DBT, mindfulness, buying books or borrowing books from the library, watching lectures on YouTube, enabling deeper personal analysis via ChatGPT, etc., and then applying what I’ve learned IRL (i.e. I completed my self-assigned homework).I’m no Buddha here, but I’ve made enormous strides when I look back and see where I started. Of course, everyone is different, and it would be unreasonable to expect a one-size-fits-all solution. I’m interested to hear others’ thoughts on this topic and how everyone else is grappling with these issues. I imagine that the experiences of a person may be different enough that there might be an extra preceding layer that needs care as a foundation before it can be built upon. But I have no way of knowing without hearing from all my bros!
>>34336204Words like that say more about you than they do about me.
lmao Everyone talks about being a “real man” like it’s some hard rulebook, tough, unemotional, dominant. But what if that’s just a cage? Real strength might be about owning your emotions, showing respect, and not feeling threatened by anything or anyone outside your comfort zone. Maybe the whole “man up” and “pride in nation” stuff is just a way to avoid dealing with what really makes us human
>>34336105I'm not even sure what the issue is in your post.
>>34336105>I, too, believe our (white imperialistic capitalistic) patriarchal society has done us all a disserviceStopped reading there. You deserve whatever bad thing is happening to you.
>>34337112Same. OP is too deep into the psi-op to realize the brainwashing. Probably majors in liberal arts or something and ready this as part of their agenda. Either that or OP is trollbating us. Should have gone posted on reddit for the upvotes lolOP, do yourself and everyone a favor, actually contribute something meaningful to society. Pick up a trade, work in construction, learn coding, anything...
How do you recognize when you're being ghosted?
>>34336733How do you not?
>>34336738>>34336775No I mean BEFORE the not responding part happens... duh...
>>34336837The structure of your question says otherwise. If your invitations are met with half hearted responses or short deflectionary answers, it could be an indicator.
>>34336849Well the structure of my dick suggests I am male. And yeah, I have been receiving half hearted responses and deflection.
>>34336733It shouldn't matter to you. Abundance mindset is a must have even if you're only texting one woman.
she stopped shaving downstairs and it looks like a fucking jungle now, it's not attractive at all. I'll be honest I really don't like pubic hair on girls, I prefer the clean shaven look. I always trim my pubes and keep that shit nice and tidy but I just wish she would do the same. I don't know how to bring the topic up. I know it's her body and her choice but I'm always doing shit that she wants me to do, why can't it work both ways?
>>34336886motherfucker any sort of hair near an orifice accumulates dirt particles ergo smell
>>34336317I'd like you to show historical references for this.
>>34336906Go to a museum and see with your eyes
>>34336917aka "I have no proof yet I must believe"
>>34336920He just told you idiot.I'm greek, and all women remove their body hair before porn was a thing.
I was just walking on a path and the red part was a fence and you couldn't walk. Bottom were two dry paths. I went to a dry path and a man walks straight through over ankle deep water to not have to walk near me. Am I ugly or are men just crazy? It's not like I'm mad he didn't talk to me. It's just choosing discomfort over walking within a couple feet of me seems crazy and performative. I'm a woman. I was dressed cutely and accessories and a pink jacket. I wasn't going to rape him. Men explain. Do men do shit like that as a snub? I was exercising I have a bf. Just felt weird. Is this how blacks feel when I act shifty by them
>>34331039>Is this how blacks feel when I act shifty by themThanks for the reassurance that my skin turns people off.
>>34331039He probably had new water proof boots and wanted to test them out.
>>34331039Hes just like me. Water, dirt, concrete, mud etc, doesnt matter. We walk where we want, when we want and how we want. It has nothing to do with you. In fact ppl like us dont pay attention or give 2 shits about anyone or anything except our mission.
>>34331039You will never be a real woman. You have no womb, you have no ovaries, you have no eggs. You are a homosexual man twisted by drugs and surgery into a crude mockery of nature’s perfection. All the “validation” you get is two-faced and half-hearted. Behind your back people mock you. Your parents are disgusted and ashamed of you, your “friends” laugh at your ghoulish appearance behind closed doors. Men are utterly repulsed by you. Thousands of years of evolution have allowed men to sniff out frauds with incredible efficiency. Even trannies who “pass” look uncanny and unnatural to a man. Your bone structure is a dead giveaway. And even if you manage to get a drunk guy home with you, he’ll turn tail and bolt the second he gets a whiff of your diseased, infected axe wound. You will never be happy. You wrench out a fake smile every single morning and tell yourself it’s going to be ok, but deep inside you feel the depression creeping up like a weed, ready to crush you under the unbearable weight. Eventually it’ll be too much to bear - you’ll buy a rope, tie a noose, put it around your neck, and plunge into the cold abyss. Your parents will find you, heartbroken but relieved that they no longer have to live with the unbearable shame and disappointment. They’ll bury you with a headstone marked with your birth name, and every passerby for the rest of eternity will know a man is buried there. Your body will decay and go back to the dust, and all that will remain of your legacy is a skeleton that is unmistakably male. This is your fate. This is what you chose. There is no turning back.
>/adv/Ask for advice or FUCK OFF
I am 20 years old and women my age are hopeless. I do not want to marry any girl in America because none of them have any basic housekeeping skills or interests other than using their phones. I doubt it is any better in Japan which is Asian America but maybe in China or Vietnam. What’s the best way for me to geomax and get an east Asia sea monkey tradwife?
you should get a indian gf. they are good housekeepers
You will regret race mixing when your kids look nothing like you or anyone in your family
You don't exactly sound like a high value male.
>>34336490>none of them have anyYou say this, having talked to less then 6 of them.
>>34336816>when your kids look nothing like you or anyone in your familyWhich would more likely than not be a net positive for uggoes like you and OP
Why are we entering an era of performative retro appreciation? Everyone around me is buzzing for raw, analogue shit right now like physical game consoles and thrifted clothes. Weird times. Is this stuff just a trend or is it here to stay? I want minimalism back, but maximalism is picking up serious steam. If I had to label what I am seeing, it would be "authenticityslop" and I think its another excuse to buy shit. We need a non-aesthetic, non corporate version of minimalism.
>>34335655>now like physical game consolesHow is the idea of actually owning what you buy performative? Are you talking about old shit like the PS2 that is easy to emulate or shit like modern games?
>>34335655i see what you're getting at and for me i just hate trends of any kind. it's absolutely a trend but has everything to do with the individual.i used to collect retro gaming consoles and had a bookshelf filled with games back in like 2019, way before this stupid trend was popping off. i also prefer to buy vintage deadstock clothing as it is better quality than fast fashion slop.for example, my friends girlfriend (and others) has a shit ton of digital cameras, books, and other analogue crap lying around every corner of their apartment, but never ever use it. i do believe in owning what you buy and having it last, but many zoomers and women are of course just going to dick ride the trend, and they WILL donate all their shit back to a a thrift in a year or so
I am 20 years old, this is my fourth job, in total I have worked 2 years and 8 months adding up all my jobs. In this current job I have only been here for 3 months and I don't like this job. I basically just organize the supermarket shelves, it's an easy job, but that's precisely the problem. Since the supermarket sells little, there are always few things to organize, so I and the other employees basically just hang around until it's time to go home. In the supermarket where I used to work, there were always many things to do, since it sold a lot, so there wasn't this problem. In this job I am more concerned with fulfilling the working hours than actually working.Now about crying: Every day I feel like crying because I know that I am in a job where boredom dominates me, because there are few activities. But in the end I always end up holding back the tears.I'm not going to change jobs because I fear that a new job might be worse than this one.I wanted advice on how to deal with having a job you don't like and that makes you feel sad.
>>34332768Do something you want to do while youre waiting. Fuck wasting your youth and time just because the economy is organised badly.
>>34332768Stocking shelves was a good job for a 17 year old, but it is time for you to start thinking about what you want to be when you grow up.
>>34335905There's no difference between 17 and 20
>>34332768Off topic but based for Coraline. Remember to call her CORAline. Not CAROline
>>34336210Not if your ambition extends to a life of perpetual childhood.For many people these years are the greatest transition of all, from being an underage b& kid who nobody talks seriously to beginning your life in the adult world.As >>34335905 says, shelf stacking is a job for kids, it's what I did weekends whilst I was finishing high school to earn some spending money. By 20 you should be looking upwards.
Best self improvement channels as a man? Not any “Chad” “Looksmaxxing” type of bullshit either.
Face , height , frame . Genetics . Its not looksmaxxing , there is not a thing you will be able to do about it TILL ACCURATE SCIENTIFIC SURGERY . ACCURATE because lineage , not feature . FIX MY AUTOIMMUNE DISORDER or i will go to a doctor (considering how much i have going 4 me , yes its a threat )
>>34336672Schizophrenic?
I have no vehicle of my own. My family took me to work like normal. We had to leave work early this week because of shitty weather, and one of my coworkers was wanting offer me a ride home on her route. Despite that I was fine with waiting 2 hours for my family to pick me up. I just would feel guilty about accepting an offer I couldn't repay. I was so reluctant to take up the offer.Why were my coworkers so willing to offer me a ride home? Do I give off an attractive energy to them?
>>34336476Ok, yeah. So am I overanalyzing?
>>34336240You don’t “owe” people for doing shit. Are you Asian or something? I could not let you sit around for two hours either and I definitely don’t wanna have sex with you. It is karmatically altruistic to trade a couple minutes to give someone else a couple hours.
>>34336585Shut up bitch
>>34336240Helping someone with a small thing like that is the most pleasurable thing there is.
>>34336493Massively. Car driver here - if somebody was going to be waiting around for two hours for a lift and was going somewhere on the route I'd be driving anyway, I'd have to actively despise them to not offer them a lift. Costs me nothing, doesn't inconvenience me, so why not?
What's a good and witty response to when someone asks if anyone's in the shitter?
>>34336292Yea
>>34336332Okay, well, can I lick your pussy, mommy?
>>34336148I don’t see anybody in this one.
>>34336148I'm the one who asks the questions.
>>34336540LMAO
