What do I do when I rarely feel joy and love for my hobbies anymore?I don't play video games by the way. My hobbies are writing, reading, and drawing. When I do them, I don't feel joy when doing them. It just feels monotonous for me now.How do I fix this? I really want to improve these skills, and enjoying them again is a big productive factor.I want to get my motivation back.
see what made you motivated before and try to do more of that, then hope it still works.
>>34009316Pretty much what the other anon said. Do stuff on why you started it in the first place.
>be me>32>manlet and balding>ex royally cucked me>am in a year long slump>go out by myself>group of girls enter>one clocks me, approaches>clinks my glass, dances around me>I stand there like a mushroom and say nothing>she starts grinding on me and bumping her ass into mine>I angle towards her and say 'I'm not a fucking ape, you can reach your hand out and introduce yourself'>she leaves immediately>takes her friend group to rhe other side of the bar>pick up my spaghetti and leaveComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34008445Yes. There is not a day in my mind where I don't think of her.We were together for 5 years, were working on a family, were supposed to lead adult lives.In the end I found out she was cucking me with some model with his dick down to his knees, and was lying to me for at least 6 months of our time together. Took plan B for him while we were working on a kid.I don't think I will ever feel adequate enough for a woman. Reading that shit broke me.
>>34008460SheeeeeeeeeeessshjhhhhhAre you GermanThis sounds like something only German girls are capable of, plus the context clue of being an alcoholicI wanted to say I'm in a similar situation, ex of 5 years, went on a dating app behind my back then left me and the country for this German guy and now lives there with him for a year. I stopped thinking about her due to the betrayal. But to fuck two dudes at once while telling one you're trying to get pregnant but actually secretly take the pill is... Somehow, surpassed my ex's level of debauchery. Incredible dude. All I have to say is - I'm sorry brother. You're a good dude, you don't deserve it. I'm 29. I also feel like time is slipping. My best advice to you is to take care of yourself, eliminate as many bad habits in your life, you'll be such a better person for it.
>>34008503every time I was jealous or suspicious, I got called crazy. Every time I questioned her, I got a fight and a cold shoulder.I just wanted us to be together dude. Women have no faces when I look at them anymore.I'm not German but I do live there. We moved together to pursue a better life. While I was doing overtime to plant our foot in the door, she was sampling bigger dicks.
Hey, you deserve better. And I hope you find a girl who doesn’t just grind on you like an ape but cares for u and gets time to get to know you and make you comfortable. We exist. You do have to do some level of healing and inner work from the trauma of ur ex though. But seriously, you deserve better.
>>34008460>I don't think I will ever feel adequate enough for a womanFix this. Work on this. Find the tools to work through this.
Why does family of all things kick you while you're down? Just causing stress and arguing about petty shit that doesn't make sense, that you could prove point by point doesn't make sense but they keep going. Bitching about shit done to them so hard only to turn around and do it to you. For years and years. Isn't life already bad enough dealing with dumb competitive strangers?
That sucks. Family can be great, but they can also be terrible. Just try to be your best and do your best, and draw up firm boundaries with family. If you're polite and respectful, and they still don't respect your boundaries, you're better off just cutting ties. A family like that is just going to drag you down and take advantage of you. But you should also be open to them apologizing and making a genuine effort to do better later, as long as they're willing to respect your boundaries.
>>34009268Sorry your family is like that OP. Deal with them based on how they treat you and put up appropriate boundaries. For example, I can talk to my father and share anything with him, we call several times a week because we enjoy each others' company. I phone my mother for half an hour on Christmas and her birthday, she is not allowed to see my kids
I'm considering abandoning programming to go back to university for nursing at age 31. I live in Ontario, Canada, and there's a provincial program that would pay most of my tuition. Tell me if I'm a fucking idiot. Pic unrelated but an excellent book you should read.
OP at least do something interesting like ER.
>>34006542Dumb fuck. You don't deserve to be a nurse. You've squandered your time, and no one will take you now. Useless fuck.
>>34006542Strive for your dreams, make it happen. Work hard and stay dedicated.
>>34009146Thanks anon>>34009120Fuck yourself buddy
>>34006542What kinda nursing OP? I've heard that med-surg is shitty.
>be me>uni begins>opportunity to make friends>hang out with them couple of times, feel like I'm making genuine connection>feel like I'm going to be a part of a group for the first time in my life, like people are finally mature and uni is going to be great>try to overlook the fact that they are the kind of people who groupthink and have a hierarchy of who's liked more and who's liked less, would take pictures of people they deem as worse to poke fun at them etc.>try to play along>I am not invited to a groupchat, when I ask them about it they just laugh>one time I got a sneak peek of my picture in there, weird>ever since I began distancing myself>make some other friends on the side but not a friend group, I don't even know if they like me all that much but say I have a good sense of humorAm I wrong for wanting myself to distance from such people or was I supposed to be a suck up that knows no self respect. I want to change no matter what in order to be in a respectable friend group however I can't just bend the knee and do what I deem wrong. Am I destined to be a loner if I respect myself too much?
>>34009205You already solved the problem when you branched out to another group. Just because you're not core to that group yet doesn't mean you failed. Stuff takes time.
>>34009205try not being a moidsogynist rapist, oh wait that’s impossible! just die instead desu lol
>>34009205become the first honest moid
I am not sure which one i want to get either the new apple macbook or the new legion laptop. Apple has better security when it comes against malware than windows does. So, that is steering me a way from the legion laptop just from that reason. What would recommend i get?
>>34010020I got a legion laptop to play hoi4 with
whats the difference between fwbs and a normal relationship?
>>34006563>I don't mind that you're fat, all we gotta do is hit the gym togetherdo y'all do this on purpose? i get kind of sad when i see moids say things you'd expect women to say, like, "I"m worried my gf is cheating on me", because i wish it was actually possible to please a moid.i'm white by biracial standards and biracial by white standards, lmfao
>>34006563>>34008665
>>34008665>biracial by white standardsJust say you're biracial lolThis pretty much confirms that you are in fact from Brazil.What are you a mix between?
>>34008671hater, come get mad that this mf thinks you're a femcel.>>34008857im american, faggot. white and black.
>>34009945>white and black.I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe hit up Brittany Venti and try to find some semblance of identity by being around others like you.
1: What you see in a person that you meet at first is what you're going to expect of that person as long as they're a part of your life. People can change, but never in a way that will benefit you.2: The internet is for fags. People that use it to socialize are losers.3: Nobody really cares about your opinions. You can never persuade or help people in a meaningful way. Find someone that agrees with you enough.4: If someone does something retarded, they deserve to be ridiculed once and then ignored. You should never enable a delusional person's behaviour since they mistake time wasted on them as reassurance/justification that what they're doing is correct.5: In business, 99% of the time, the work you do will go uncredited because people are only focused on ladder-climbing. Only do what you need to in order to get by and whatever you know for certain will earn you a better position with better pay. A job is a job, nothing more than that. Don't be loyal to anyone. If a better opportunity comes along, take it.6: Don't choose/keep someone just because they're available. Keep your standards high and your expectations of others low.
>>340075313 is correct; all the others are wrong.
>>34007531You are the reason I'm misanthropic
4 and 1 are the only incorrect points
>>340075311. What you see in a person at first is only the top layer of the onion. Not that they are gonna change after that, you will just reveal more about them, and it might change the way you think about them.2. True3. People who are closest to you/care about you are gonna care about your opinions because they might influence or affect them. But yes, you probably can't change people's beliefs unless you're super charismatic like a cult leader.4. Absolutely.5. This is true if you work in a larger corporation, but I've been part of a small business and those people become family. You might not make big bucks but they will stick up for you no matter what.6. Yes but only while you're young.
I don't necessarily feel as if I'm better than anyone else or above anyone else, but I feel like my mind and soul inhabit a specific space which others simply cannot or will not ever reach. I guess what I'm trying to say is "Nobody understands me" though I know that isn't true. 99% of people are not unique and our problems are not only usual but easily understood and quantified. That doesn't mean that WE are understood, or that people really see us for who we are. The me that I feel inside when I'm dreaming, that true inner self. I struggle trying to see that person myself, so it depresses me that no other human probably will either. How do I get over this? How do I learn to love people without caring that the deepest emotional crevices of my heart will remain untouched?
>>34009191I don't know what you're talking about>>34009199I'm talking about my subconscious, that thing we all have.
>>34009235You're not making sense.>my mind and soul inhabit my subconscious.>others cannot reach this place.This paraphrases you. By definition, you aren't conscious of the content of your subconscious. Also there's no spiritual system I'm aware of in which your soul resides there.Try using simpler words even if you feel they lack the emotional punch you need.
>>34009115>>34009245Sorry.. I guess first anon was right that communication may be my problem. I feel like I'm a little worm trapped inside of this flesh vehicle and I have no idea how to control it. Whenever I try to open up or put myself out there it just never feels right. Like I'm one way inside, but for some reason I can't manifest that inner me on the outside. The way that I am outwardly feels like it comes from an external place, so when I'm talking to people I have to almost translate myself because there's a disparity between what I want to convey and what I'm actually doing or saying.
>>34009278First anon here:> I have no idea how to control my flesh vehicle> I can't manifest that inner me on the outside.> there's a disparity between what I want to convey and what I'm actually doing or saying.Understandable. Now the original description of the problem also has enough meat around the bones:> … deepest emotional crevices of my heart will remain untouched?Unfortunately, I am not good at giving advice on this problem, so I won’t try. I have no idea if the next step should be therapy or theater school. Had it been this clear from the start, I wouldn’t even have replied at all. But now I came back to say that I understand and you have communicated your problem clearly enough for me to understand it, I’m just not comfortable giving advice on it due to my lack of knowledge and experience on the subject.
>>34009278Well anon, the benefit of written communications like this are that you can take time to think about what you want to say and how.So, if you wish to express your feelings in text form, now is your chance. No one here can even see your flesh suit so give it a shot.
Does life really get better? If I'm depressed what are the odds I will be consistently happy one day?
NoIt’s a slow decline until the end
>>34009878demoids deserve no peace or happiness. suffer.
>>34009878There's no way for me to crunch the numbers and give you a happiness quotient, but life really does get better.My life is much more enjoyable in my 30s than it ever was at any point prior.I hope you find contentment sooner rather than later. It could take a while, but I'm sure it could find you.You wouldn't be asking this question to begin with if you couldn't conceive of it happening.
How do you find a woman you can bee yourself with, like a cringe queen. I keep hearing that anons on this board are returning to dating apps...is that the only way to fish for weird women now?
>>34006562> How do you find a woman you can bee yourself withDo social activities during which you can be yourself
>>34007806I missed you, love...
>>34007919So sick of this retarded advice. Single women do not do things irl. They go out with friends who will cockblock and gatekeep you, or with their boyfriends.You will NEVER, and I mean NEVER, find a sports club, cooking class, hobby club, etc with normal single women attending alone. Ever.The only thing single women do by themselves is lay on their beds all day farming likes and dms on social media
>>34006562I met my girl at work. I just got lucky I guess. I'm sure you know what a lifetime of 4chan does to a mf.
>>34006562whatever you want to do to women, i'm sure there is a prostitute who will tolerate it>>34007928thats a troll, not me.
Why does women actually caring about personality trigger incels so much?Is it because you can work on it?
>>34006839>WOMEN SHOULD APOLOGIZE FOR TELLING ME NOT TO RAPE KIDS!!1!1! WHY DO WOMEN REFUSE TO TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY?!?!?!?>hypergamy only favors men who are 7 and above, thats why dads are famously handsome>>34006993all moids cheat if they have the opportunity.moids hate their wives but feel entitled to marriage.>women are still going out and engaging in the same dysfunctional culture they claim to despise.we have record high rates of voluntary celibacy, something only women do.for fuck's sake, you take your t=name after me, and you think im a monster because i don't engage in that culture.>Women's standards are impossible to reach>Women have sex with a different male every day from the age of 13Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34009832>>34009848I've noticed you get online in the afternoons. How was work Honey?>thats why dads are famously handsomeModern Hypergamy in our generation does not include previous generations.>all moids cheat if they have the opportunity.I have had the opportunity to cheat and I didn't, so you're wrong.>moids hate their wives but feel entitled to marriage.Again, not all moids, but yes, a lot of people get involved in spiteful marraiges because they're unhealthy people and don't know what it takes to have a real relationship, or like the maturity and the skills.>something only women do.A lot of men are doing this, even more so then women, hence why the majority of women are involved in relationships while the majority of men are not. There are many Incels (Involuntary Celibates) but there are just as many if not more who are voluntary at the moment, myself being one of them.>you are not entitled to a girlfriend. Didn't say I was, but I think I want something functional, and I don't want to get involved with somebody who is emotionally immature and incapable of processing their emotions, which as you're proving time and time again, it most women.If you want Men to be accountable, you need to also hold women accountable. Right now you're entering into threads to talk about Problems, not Solutions, and that is the difference that determines your immaturity.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34007073>the system at the moment has explicitly anti male purposes.i wish. moids are not people, and everyone must stop treating moids like people. for fucks sake, moids bitch about being treated like people>as men we have been raised to essentially be door matts to what is going on.>constantly bitches about not having a harem of child sex slaves>Women are not nearly as cognizant of the issue, that's why women are opting out of a system that is meant only to hurt people for funsies>the system at the moment incentivizes their shitty behavioryou punish women for having sex with you, and you're mad that women are rewarded for not having sex?>constantly demand premarital sex>whine about premarital sexComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34008283america has never had a blanket ban on immigration. we need to ban immigrants and tourists from many countries though, most importantly israel and russia>You haven't given men a single incentive to give a shit about anythingyou are the ones demanding sex slaves. begging for sex while giving women who arent extremely masochistic and a little morally loose every incentive to opt out>nobody is going to listen to you if they don't already have estrogen coursing through their veins.>because testosterone is famous for causing level-headed and moral behavior
>>34009865>Modern Hypergamy in our generation does not include previous generations.if youre whining about young women, why are you bitching about women with a bunch of baby daddies? how delusional can you be?anyway, modern women are simply better off. shunning moids is the best choice to make>I have had the opportunity to cheat and I didn't, so you're wrong.this is an obvious lie. moids constantly brag about being inherently unfaithful.you also say that any moid who doesnt admit this shit is just trying to get laid. i hope you know that im not gonna fuck you.ALL married moids hate their wives.moids do not turn down sex. redpill is a lie, ironically. moids cannot be volcels, moids are whores to the core>I want something functional, where i can lie to her and cheat on her and bite her and choke her and beat her and rape her, and she loves me for being exactly as evil as every other moid to ever existComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
pushing 40 years of age my libido has tanked and completely abysmal, I have no motivation (for life btw, probably combined with severe life time undiagnosed adhd), no energyimprooving my life one step at a timedo I really need to hop on test to solve this situation? along with daily intake of adhd meds?I need to do a 180 of my life and get it on track before it's all over (inb4 it's already over)thoughts and opinions?
>>34008851>even if I get a private assessment here taxpayers would still subsidize my meds, have to double check, but I'm pretty sureelse it's fucking alot, probably, maybeThey call it tritation, if your diagnosis comes from a certified legitimate psych clinic, you can take the diagnosis and the public health sector has to recognize it as official. Then public healthcare takes care of the meds. That's how it went down for me, I didn't have to pay for the meds after diagnosis. The point of going private is to bypass the waiting list and the shitty unqualified 'psychiatrists' public health sectors have. 9/10 times it's not even a psychiatrist they put you in touch with, usually a 'psychiatric nurse'. Aka someone with no actual expertise or qualifications
not OP and while I pretty much stopped watching porn except for the few vids and pics I have saved and barely feel the urge to jack off more than once every two week, I still go to bed and wake up with a hard dick.I did also go from fat NEET to getting a job and sleep schedule and then eating healthy & working out and then putting muscle over the last few years. I weighed like 235 with the worst skinnyfat belly, trimmed down to 180, and now I'm around 215 and it's mostly all muscle.Getting my energy and motivation and life back really started with just walking away from the computer and doing literally anything else even if it was just going for a walk for an hour. At first I was barely able to walk for like 20 minutes and was constantly aware and ashamed of my fat fuckin skinnyfat belly bouncing around.
>>34008907Oh and also testosterone doesn't have to be an injection, you can do just fine using one of those t creams, that's what I did, they won't turn you into a t monster but they will bring you from low t to mid t and that's all you really need.
>>34008912>The point of going private is to bypass the waiting list and the shitty unqualified 'psychiatrists' public health sectors haveyeah I know and I don't think they send you to such a place after a fucking long ass waiting timelast time I was at such a place was when I was young (and quit) so not sure how they do it for adultsI was thinking of sending my note in so I can wait for this garbage a long time ago now again (due to starting classes again)now I'm most likely underperforming as always, might still do regardless though, due to this and it will effect me>>34008921lifting decreased my libido and resting and recovering increased it even morenow it's terminally dipped to all hell>>34008927I'm not a medical professional endocrinologist but those seem like a scam
>>34008279blahblahblah yeah we all know you’re just mad you can’t RAPE anymore. Stay castrated moid.
My friends are mostly guys, and I heard from them enough horror stories about women they dated that I decided to try avoiding doing the same things with my bf.My bf and I are having sex, and we're at the point we started talking about kinks. I told him I couldn't promise I'd do anything a second time, but I'd try any kink he was interested in at least once.He gave me a couple "to test the waters" and I'm a little shocked at what he handed me. I was expecting spanking or like, tying me up or something but he's into something a lot weirder and I feel cringe thinking about doing it.I'm tempted to be like, "hey so I am willing to stick to my word and give this a shot but it feels kind of extreme and I'm reluctant about it". I need some sanity checks here. Is that a reasonable way to handle this?
>>34005632>okay listen to these audio tracks and I expect a 6 page essay on each one about what you learned on my desk by MONDAY and NO I will NOT accept late work.Yeah the strangest thing about this is how boring and academic this guy's fetish is. And don't a lot of girls turn their brain off and lower their inhibitions during sex anyway?He should just tell OP to stick her tongue out and say some ditzy shit while he's fucking her, and she'd probably do it with exactly the gusto he's looking for.
>>34005792>>He should just tell OP to stick her tongue out and say some ditzy shit while he's fucking her, and she'd probably do it with exactly the gusto he's looking for.Exactly. Like, she wants to do kinky stuff with him, shouldn't he want to do the same? OP and bf need to have a serious talk abt how they play together
>>34001431Hypnosis isn't real for the most part.He has a mind control/hypno kink, which I would put on the same level as BDSM.He just wants you to pretend you are under his control so he can let go of guilt while he is fucking you.But why do women do this?They will have a good thing going on and then mess it up by asking stupid stuff like tell me your darkest secrets.I would never fall for this bait and I am beta as hell.If you asked me this question, I would lie and say something boring like sex blindfolded or reverse cowgirl.
>>34001172How many of these "guy friends" have you fucked? Honest question as I'm doing a survey.
>>34001172He wants pee sex. It's not so bad. Do it in the shower. Rinse it all off. But I warn ya, the steam makes the pee smell waft into your nostrils and it will make both of you gag.
How can I cope with the fact that girls like picrel are simply beyond my possibilities? How can I deal with the frustation?
>>34005274WE KNOW YOU ARE PLANNING TO RAPE U FUCKING MOID YOU ARENT FOOLING ANYONE
>>34005274I can get girls like this. I hope this helps
>>34005274Stop putting women on a pedestal and become someone who has fulfilling life that he can be proud of. Or keep posting here and let your self-defeating cycle stay as your permanent reality.
>>34007521moids hate women. moids will all cheat if they have the opportunity>claim to want you but will only be interested in fucking you, nothing more.moids are worse than this. they just want to get laid and inflict suffering
>>34005274dollmaxxing is a cope that's better than real foids
