Can I still turn my life around at 28?I have almost no job experience, can still get a good job? Or its over?
>>33833960>unemployed Whats holding you back? I was pretty mentally immature about trying to find work. Get a part time job for now if you can, it will suck, its ok that it sucks, it wont be forever I promise you.>I live at homeThis is ok, you can save more of the money you make from the job this way. DO make a budget and dont impulse spend, I used to do that and I think a lot of people do honestly. >no friendsI dont know you personally, but anyone can make friends if they try. Its not free, you have to put in some work. Its a two way street kinda deal >tfw no gfIts ok buddy, my best friend has never had a GF either, I dont think it means anything in particular and I think it can be quite hard. Dating apps suck, but if youd like to try one Hinge is seemingly the best atm. My personal advice is focus on yourself for a bit first, women can come later>no hobbiesWhat do you do all day? I dont mean this in a demeaning or dismissive way, I would just like to gauge your interest in some way. Even if you fucking goon and watch loli harem anime all day its literally something. Then again when I was very depressed I would bed rot, scroll social media, and vape until id pass out again. >I rarely leave my houseThats ok, you have a computer and I dont know where you live but if its not urban/a city there might not be much out there. If you have a pair of headphones id like to suggest going for a walk, thats it, just walk. Its a habit I picked up when I stopped smoking and I think its a good one. Fresh air, movement, and some time to think. It could be a short walk, or a long one, but I think its good.I just want you to know anon, its ok, you arent alone in experiencing this. Im pretty much in the same boat as you, but I believe in you. WAGMI brother, if you cant believe in yourself believe in god or even me because we believe in you.
>>33833864holy based
you have 30+ years of working ahead of youunless you want to be a professional athlete then no it's not over
>>33833960This is me too, and I am 29.>>33834077You're so nice, anon. But some of us are just so fucked up to fix the course we're on, stuck in a rut as some call it, it's difficult to get out of that abyss when you're lost and do not know what the fuck to start with since everything needs fixing all at once and the clock of life is ticking. I get panic attacks knowing I will be 30 soon and haven't done shit with my life.The only things I do is eat, sleep, shit and sometimes buy, fix and sell used PCs and phones to help my aging parents and it's not sustainable at all and I only make pocket change.The only reason I leave the house is to workout at a park, that's it.Cannot even talk well due to my years of social isolation, and other dudes look at me weird, and I do not even go near girls at the park to not make them uncomfortable since I look like a creep.I feel horrible for ny parents, I wish they had a better son.I do not sleep well at night, merely 4 to 5 hours due to the stress and thinking about my shit life 24/7.
>>33834915You dont murder people for fun, itll be ok.>buy, fix, sell PCs and PhonesHave you ever considered getting a cert and making a career of that? >some of us are too fucked upI wish my parents had a son who was more deserving of their kindness and the opportunities they afford me. I have never dreamed of a life past 30 because I just assumed since i was 16 something would magically happen or id off myself. >workout at the parkThats actually really good im glad you get out anonIm going to be honest, anytime id mention interest or things I liked it felt like others were patronizing me. Any time a job or career was brought up id literally almost cry and get angry. Id waste my money and even my parents money smoking weed all the time or getting drunk as fuck and driving home. I just didn't care that I might kill myself or someone else. I would pray id get a brain tumor and die, or maybe if I did and survived id finally find a reason to live. Its retarded to admit. Every day anon you you need to take one small step, even if you fall. You might feel like youre being realistic, but even IF thats true (its not) what does it get you? Be delusional if you must, but its not over. Have you ever tried Journaling? I dont like the idea of reaching out to anyone ever about anything, but recently I have been writing in my notes app or making voice notes in them when I feel sad and frustrated. Its a good way to get ideas out and talk through them yourself. Do you like video games? If you do, what kinds? I swear to you anon, you can change, I know you can. Stop comparing yourself to others as if its a race. I have been in the abyss, im nowhere close to free, every day I wake up thinking ill just fall back down. It doesnt need to all be fixed at once though, truly. Its small things every day. Im a 28 year old "man" and the best thing ive done is give myself a bed time (it helped a good amount desu). You can do it anon, trust me. Dooming is going to anchor you down there.
Am I the asshole? >Wife out of the blue implies that we are going to house her mentally disabled brother who lives in another state>Didn't even ask me, just implied that it's just a thing that's gonna happen>She's tried to imply that before but every time I calmly turn it down>As the oldest sibling, she was put into an adult position and tasked with taking care of her younger brothers>Her mom was abusive, kicked her out but treat her brothers like gold and they both still live with her mom>Her mother probably isn't gonna die for another 30 years>But somehow my wife thinks it's her responsibility to take him in at some point from an entirely different state despite the fact that he has a better support system than her and that there are assisted living communities and programs for adults with mental disabilities>She said some dumb shit like "I wish I knew this before we got married" and I threw that line right back at her because just expecting your husband to take care of a disabled person when you guys haven't even made up your mind about kids yet is extremely weird>She's suddenly quiet for the rest of the night despite yapping my ear off beforeShe has a weird mother complex over her brothers but I'm trying to let her know that they're not her responsibility.
>>33835661>Am I the asshole?ywnbah clanker
>She's suddenly quiet for the rest of the night despite yapping my ear off beforeThat's because you beat her in the argument and now she doesn't know what comeback to use
>>33835661No one's the asshole. It's just a shitty situation. I think you should stand your grand, but do so gently.Yes, it could jeopardize your marriage. But if this guy moves in with you, things will just go from bad to worse because you won't be able to conceal your resentment.
>match with girl on bumble>she agrees to a date within 4 messages >we text all day very day before the date >pick her up >starts off good but as the night goes on she starts to seem disinterested and things get a little awkward >lots of awkward pauses >she was twirling her hair a lot though and looking at me in my eyes >walk back to car and she says she’s cold, put my arm around her briefly but then stopped cause I couldn’t tell if she liked me or not and got nervous >dropped her off >texts me the next day she had a good time but don’t think she felt a strong connection >mfwWhat could I have done differently? Is there any way to save this? What's the best way to kms?
>>33835243You need to get out of your own fucking head.
>>33835258>pick up girl>is awkward quietly the entire time >body language facing away from me>unnatural conversations with long pauses>gave me a awkward one arm hug instead of a full body hug >refused to play music in my car despite us hyping up her music taste and listening to it together >brooo she was so into you why didn’t you make a move?Yeah I’m not going to make an awkward date even more awkward by holding her hand lmao
>>33835209Genuine question, even if this is true, why on earth would someone throw themselves at a first date? I hardly know anything about her aside from just meeting, I want to take the time and get to know a bit more, sure call me a raging faggot, but why is it my fault if I don't feel like being affectionate with someone that I don't fully know yet? Especially if I say I'm looking for something long term, as does she, why is there a sudden expectation in the concept of love at first sight, without knowing anything about how they're capable of handling deeper feelings?
>>33835594All of this stuff is in your head. You were the one who jumped to thinking i was ever talking about “making a move”. You need to look at situations with their opposites. You interpreted her looking into your eyes and twirling her hair as disinterest. Disinterest is staring out the window or looking around the restaurant. You interpreted her asking your favorite color meaning the conversation was too stunted. Alternatively you could have interpreted it as a cute way for her to engage you in an easy and fun topic. You interpreted her not putting on music in your car the same as if you had put on music she likes then she turned off the radio,So, like i said, you need to get out of your own head.
>>33835622I wasn't OP, but I was speaking as someone with similar experiences with women acting interested then at the drop of a hat suddenly heel turning. Had a frustrating date this week where everything seemed great, she was engaged, laughing and going through a wide array of topics, then suddenly at the drop of a dime, she heel turned, made a piss poor excuse about leaving, awkwardly said "I'll text you" about a next date when she didnt have my number, and the date had an awkward end. I have enough social awareness to know I didnt say something controversial or radical, but the whiplash was so intense I have no idea how to even process what she was looking for. I just feel led on.So why are women like this? What on earth are they possibly expecting right off the bat?
I’m a shy autistic guy who has been trying to fake it as socially outgoing. It sucks and is mentally draining. I do it to try to make friends or potentially get a girlfriend. the illusion works initially, but as time goes by people realize that I’m a weirdo and they stop trying to communicate with me or ostracize me if I’m in a group with people. Women are so good at smelling autism. I try to fake it but they eventually tell because I stop making sense in conversation sometimes and I’m not hot to pass the weirdness off as just being eccentric. I feel like the only way I can be loved is to be fetishized. Depending on who it could be… I’d be fine with that. How do I stop acting like a weirdo around ppl
stop trying to seek approval from NPCsthey're material constructs and don't have soulsthey get activated by their demons to hurt you if you expose yourself
>>33832127Normies are way better people than I am. They are well rounded. Talented. Have better intrapersonal relationships. etc. I have nothing. I’m no where near as amazing as these people
>>33832045From left to right:RacistCatholic CommunistShill JewThese people have nothing in common
>>33832045I guess the sword is mightier than the word?
>>33833934>>33835218It's an image meant in jest, calm down edgelords.
Ok here I go
I don't want to ask if you will careTry to get you out my head, but you still there
>>33832260That evil bitch is manipulating you, stop seeing her.If you stop the divorce, she will go back to not giving you intimacy again.Foids are weird in that they crave sex while single, but shut down with their own husbands while married.
I have to start at the bottom.
Right now I don't care how edgy it sounds, but I think I finally understand and relate to AM. The idea of feeling trapped, viewing the wonders and beauty of life, while simultaneously feeling like you yourself are never going to obtain it, no matter what you attempt, it is physically impossible. And that turns into a poison, as you shell yourself up, to protect yourself, because it feels like the only safe option. Because being open with others has gotten yourself hurt. I'm tired of being led on, I'm tired of constantly trying to prove myself and feel like I achieve nothing. I feel myself slipping into a more bitter mindset, and I want to stop it but it feels inevitable.
Encountered some conflict with my only friend group lately and thinking it might be the end. I was reassured by one of the people that everyone was "cool" with me but I also get the feeling that they only said that because they think I'm gonna kill myself if they cut me off. I think they're waiting for me to stop being a schizo before cutting me off. Also doubting if they're even worth keeping around, they are a solid group of people but there's concerning behavior I've noticed that makes me wonder if it's worth the effort it's gonna take to rebuild.Realistically, I shouldn't be on here talking about this. I should take time off the Internet and work this out with a professional. But this gives me a great deal of anxiety and it's hard not to think about how I'm most likely gonna become a recluse soon.
Also to be clear the conflict started because I fucked up really bad. The biggest part of this dilemma is feeling like it's almost selfish to try and keep people around that I don't deserve.
>>33835409I you don't explain why i'll only assume you're playing the victim card
>>33835297>Encountered some conflict with my only friend group lately and thinking it might be the end. I was reassured by one of the people that everyone was "cool" with me but I also get the feeling that they only said that because they think I'm gonna kill myself if they cut me off.yes? that's the definition of friends? people that hate you don't give a shit if it seems like you'll kill yourself and don't reassure or change behavior
>>33835297>everyone was "cool" with meYou just need to get a lot more chill.
>>33835486Maybe I'm way too far gone but what if it really is not wanting to feel responsible for my possible death? I don't present that idea to paint these people as self interested monsters since there's no proven evidence of that, but I'm always preparing for the worst with everything in life.
With my gf of 4 years, live together. Things are great, came off a 10 year relationship so love was a bit hard to find again but I got there. About half a year ago one of her friends goes through a huge breakup...almost identical to my experience and through that we bonded and became close, so did my gf. Long story short feelings were there, my partner was even fine with a 3some, which we had...which only made my feelings grow even more...this is such a dumb unrealistic situation but I thought I could have both. Now my gf isn't for it anymore, couldn't stand seeing me woth another woman even though she got more attention...I was fine with this not going anywhere until I was allowed past that point and was lead to believe my gf felt the same about this other girl...now it's been snatched away and I don't know what to do. Heart just feels broken and empty...Yea that sounded kinda gay but fuck knows what I do now...I just want to leave it all...
>>33833407That's valid...but my feelings toward her haven't changed, I just feel hurt, like I was given so lead and had it all yanked back...it's not even the sex just emotionally I feel like I've been stunted now.
>>33833378assert dominance via rape...both of themor, stop being a shitbag and either pick one or leave both
>>33833378make sure she knows her place and stays in it, use shock collar if necessary
Omg the other two have never even seen a woman in their lives. How about you tell her how you feel and try to be honest about your feelings? Looking for a middle ground where both parties' feelings are equally considered?(Probability this take a time)If that doesn't work, maybe you should see a professional (couples therapy).
>>33833533>stop being a shitbag and either pick one or leave bothListen to the anon with 6 3's. Quit being a dildo, pick one and live with your decision. You're being a total chode otherwise.
Is 26 too late to rap
>>33834015i see someone's still stuck in 2003
>>33831211Drop a bar nigga.
>>33834015Tell me you don't pull any chicks without telling me you don't pull any chicks.
>>33835378not the same anon but what do you mean by that?
>>33835443What I mean is chicks love shorts above the knee man. So I have a girlfriend as well as several female friends and I'm also on good terms with my girlfriend's female friends. Before my relationship with my girlfriend all of my shorts were knee-length. But my girlfriend convinced me to buy shorts above my knees, like 3 or 4 inches from the top of my kneecaps, like a 8 or 7 inseam or so if I remember correctly. And the praise I then got from both my girlfriend and literally all the women in my life was basically insane. I even got some compliments from some female acquaintances I wasn't even close with. So anyone saying shorts above the knee are "fucking gay" obviously doesn't pull any chicks. They're literally the least gay thing you could wear.
f & recently turned 18, and i know most later adults say at that age life "hasnt even started yet", but what is it that makes it start? does life get any better from here, or is it just getting jobs and driving and paying things and being expected to go out and party and get a boyfriend, etc?im homeschooled, i did in person til freshman year because i couldnt handle it anymore, i havent gotten a job yet because it intimidates me, ive been suicidal since i was 12 and it hasnt gone away and i dont know where else to ask adults if theres actually anything worth sticking around for or if this is really where the good/easy parts of life end. i dont understand what happens from here
>>33833606I doesn't spontaneously "start," by and large, although people will tend to give you a break compared to when you get a few years older. To be a success you must work at it and have a long-term plan. Check out a book titled Succeeding by John T. Reed, intended for your exact age.>t. I sound like the proverbial broken record saying this, but it is true.
>>33833606>does life get any better from here, or is it just getting jobsA job is completely optional as a female, as long you arent obese you can just housewifemaxx. As for it "getting better", it depends entirely on you finding meaning or direction in life.
Well, it's not something that starts automatically with an event like a game at 18. Instead, it progressively improves. In the sense that everything you thought as a child (like "when I grow up, I'll have a house with lots of dogs" or "when I grow up, I'll help people") can now come real. And not only can you fulfill your childhood wishes, but you can also discover new dreams, passions (like vocations), hobbies or even skills. This stage also allows you to make good friends for the rest of your life. It's when you have no ties or limitations and can freely explore without restrictions. And (over time) you'll discover many interesting things for yourself. It's when you begin to lay the foundations for the rest of your life. So don't worry, run, explore and enjoy!
If you what to see more how it turns out you can play some video games about this (life/grow up) I think there are some that are entertaining!
>>33833606What are/were you doing before, and what's stopping you from doing more of it?
Basically Getting into your local state school for Engineering vs getting into a T3 school in your country that is known to send kids to ivy leagues but for something like forestry or kinesiology or some other random ass major?
>>33834908Why is a prestigous school better?t. poorfag
>>33834966Basically the main reason is wider international scope + increased competitiveness for jobs which is becoming increasingly important in a world teetering on economic depression, your state school is maybe recognized by your states employers and surrounding areas but its not going to carry you as hard if u go abroad or want to get into jobs that have stiff competition. or at least thats my logic
>>33834908The value of the prestige school is in the networking, making connections with offspring of the ruling elite. If you are unwilling or unable to socially interact with people then it's probably a waste going to an elite school.
>>33835060but what about the major you go for?
>>33834908>T3 school in your country that is known to send kids to ivy leaguesIt doesn't work like that, if you want nepotism to work, you need to at a minimum find an advisor with Ivy connections
>Had a crush on this girl from my university for over a year>She's very attractive and pretty goofy and funny>She's a popular cheerleader type. She liked athletic guys>Even though I was nerdy I gradually changed myself to become more athletic and confident>I was talking to her, flirting without being too obvious, working on my smile, etc>We became friends, or casual friends at least>Not quite sure where I stood with her but I got the vibe of me being her nice male friend>After more than a year of knowing her I was about to confess to her>She suddenly appears with this guy at least a decade older than her, he looks like he's homeless, his clothes are all dirty and torn, his hair looks filthy, his beard was like a foot long and dirty, he's missing several teeth, he has shitty tattoos all over his face, lots of facial piercings that look infected, he smelled really bad, etc>She starts kissing him in front of everyone and calling him darling>Oh brother if I had a gun right now I'd kill myself>When I confronted her about how I liked her over a year and now she appears with this loser, she says she likes a bad boy who's genuine rather than a goody two shoes like me>Since this happened I've already gained over 100 pounds, stopped washing myself or my clothes, stopped exercising, etc>What should I do? Why should I work hard only to lose to a homeless loser?
>>33815655your story teaches me to never trust a thing women say. they act like they have super high unattainable standards for men and then pull off shit like this
>>33815655Okay dude. The solution here is simple. Basically do the exact opposite of everything you did. Like just do a complete 180. Ask her out quick, don't try to be her friend, don't act desperate, and be ready to handle rejection.
>>33815655I wonder if the guy in the picrel is legitimately a homeless guy or just simply playing the role of a homeless guy because holy shit he looks rough. If he's not actually homeless he plays the role perfectly.
>>33815655>>33831139what the fuck is even up with his neck dude? there's a weird lump there on his lower neck. is that supposed to be his adam's apple? that's one fucked up looking adam's apple
Never put so much value on just one single woman. No one woman is worth that much. Always have back up women in mind and back up women for those back up women. If you put all your eggs in one basket you'll be screwed
For certain things LLMs like DeepSeek have been immensely helpful. As long as you're wording is concrete depending on what you ask it can be really helpful. This is scary because professionals in different areas tend to be incompetent. If a computer that just predicts things and barfs information at me is better at telling me certain information we are in trouble as the human race. Of course I'm careful what I listen to it about and I just see it as software. I think the problem a lot of people run into is they give it way too much credit for certain things and think of it as a person. A lot of the scripts it gives me for talking to people Id never use because it sounds like a robot. So id paraphrase those in my own words if I ever used them. Should I have angst about how dumb the world is getting?
>>33835311>are LLMs ever impressive to people who know what they're talking aboutno>Should I have angst about how dumb the world is getting?after reading your post, I'd worry about yourself
How do I get a red-flags galore to lose interest in me?She's an apartment neighbor, never thought about her before but we had multiple run-ins and now she seems to look for ANY excuse to see me.I feel like a rabbit being stared down by a fox if you catch me...She's young(er) than me, completely obsessed, AND MARRIEDI want NO part in this but she's made a scene of it and it's turned into a headache.
>>33835115Leo DiCaprio or idk some celebrity had a stalker and invited her for coffee and just whined and complained for an hour and apparently that broke her fantasy and she stopped following him. So idk, just be your worse self around her
>>33835115Idk fuckin shit your pants in front of her or something. Maybe burp right in her face, maybe make a joke about disabled people or go on a tirade about how great Hitler was.Say "check this shit out," and attempt a backflip, hurt yourself and ask her to call 911. Start twitching while talking to her and apologize and blame it on AIDS. Figure it out.
>>33835115Do "run-ins" mean you fucked her?
>>33835236It's more she's had a run of bad luck and it's always me who sees it happening and has to act.Like, the first was some thief who was jumping balconies. He tried to escape through my apartment but when I wouldn't let him through he tried to jump back through hers but I restarined him and a few other tenants helped me until the police came.Another (later) time was her getting harassed in front of the building, I just yelled those guys down.There's been a few more over the past few months, like it's not all at once. She just seems to attract disaster somehow.She started talking to me more without her ring but when I asked about her husband she stopped bothering to remove it. Now she just talks about how her husband is always traveling, never home, etc.>>33835210I tried that. Unfortunately, I'm not a very good actor, fuck I'm not even good at lying.I figured if I bored her head off and chattered about nerd/technical shit she'd get the "ick" but she was just listening and enjoying (don't think she got any of it)
>>33835308Just tell her and be frank that she is married and you have morals and cannot do anything with a married woman. Both indirectly chastizing her for her behavior, and setting a red line. Bitch seems unhinged to be so eager to cheat.
Thoughts?What have your experiences been?Are ugly worth it compared to pretty girls or are they as much trouble?
I categorically refuse to consciously treat an unattractive woman as less of a human being just because of looks. So should you.
>>33826309Please clarify.>>33826433>>33828633Chicks that if placed in an attractiveness lineup would be chosen last. Suppose personality is not considered in this example. Or think back on your childhood and remember the times you were picked last for the sports team, it is the female equivalent.>>33828651>>33828705>>33829289>>33830299Thank you.Assuming you have the normal desire for a monogamous relationship are there additional obligations I should fill or is loyalty and love enough? The girls I have dated were normal but I was the retard causing problems.>>33830094Is chocking normal?>>33834160I am uncomfortable around most women and depend on their talkativeness to carry the conversation in the beginning. Ugly girls are more often shy which makes us incapatable at the start but I fear my anxiousness implies a personal attack on their appearance which I lack the charisma to counter.
>>33826218I've been in relationships with girls uglier than me and observed others in this situation.From what I experienced and what I observed, ugly girls are as bad if not worse than normal or beautiful women. Because of their insecurities they will cheat as much if not more than regular women. This happens because they dont value themselves, but also because they think youre so much better that you're probably cheating, so they might as well. Because theyre ugly men see them as easy targets so they get hit on way more than pretty ones, so they'll have way more options.Also because theyre insane and insecure to a larger degree, they're much more annoying and will mentally torture you for no reason, just because shes having another episode.All in all ugly and mid girls are way bigger whores than pretty or gorgeous women. Dont waste your fucking time with ugos like I did.Also another aspect is that its humiliating and you'll feel embarrassed in public.
>>33826401Absolutely not. In my experience the ugly ones are worse.What you said applied a decade ago.But now with social media addiction most women have, these ugly twats have a very overinflated ego and think they're 9s when they're 4s at the very best.These types disgust me.
>>33826218The trick is to find an ugly girl that's still kind of cute in an ugly way.
I can't forget my ex gf and I keep torturing myself over my stupid ass actions during the relationship (esp. when I don't sleep well, for some reason... Also, when something reminds me of her). I think I might have some mental illness, or maybe justo autistic, stubborn and depressive, idk.Never had a gf before her, barely even had sex with anyone else.. But I had sex at 6...I was a miser when we were together, and by the end of the relationship I started mistreating her. Nothing terrible, but still.I was trying to buy a house when my employer started firing people, so things got complicated and I was stressed af. Meanwhile, she became extremely annoying to me. I also never really trusted her much, so I decided to end the relationship. I'm a grown ass man, and the day before I ended it my ex told me she thought I was immature, stingy and that I only wanted sex from her. That was the last straw.Months later I regretted it. She told me she was feeling better alone than with me. For some reason I just couldn't hold this fact in mind, and became annoying to her, so after ~10 months she told me to stop talking to her. Now it's been more than a year and I'm still thinking of her ;_;I had a shit life and I discovered a while ago that my mom might be narcissistic herself, and that I probably have been her useful fool... Or at least that's what she wanted from me. She makes me mad af. Everything she does seems to do to get my sympathy to extract something from me. Either that or I've become too paranoid.Wtf do I do?Picrel, I guess. I did it to myself..
>>33834116I'm not asking what I should do, but how. I don't watch movies or enjoy obsessing over social relationships. I don't even have an active social life in the first place...
>>33834141... I have no clue what sources to use. So, how do I study what I want?
>>33834102Because you just have to observe how a tired person behaves. Erratic, easily irritated, impulsive, anxious, insecure and doubtful at the same time. Like you, basically.
>>33834046>>33834153Well, you can't really observe thoughts. Also, I just read about this quote and it doesn't necessarily mean what I'm saying here. It might talk about more mundane shit.
So, is this n9rmal or not?
