I am basically the South Park fat guy on computer meme. I am seeing a therapist and psychiatrist and they seem stumped. I have been on fluoxetine (aka Prozac) for 3 months but notice no difference. May start atomoxetine (Strattera) soon. Just turned 30. How do I fix my life?
>>34643663Take testosterone and hit the gym.
>>34648610That doesn't work unless the job is good
>>34643663>overeating > obesity > family criticism > low self-esteem > chronic stress/depressionAnon you have so much of this completely ass backwardsJust lose the damn weight
>>34643663>Take a break of all pressures>STOP BEING A FAT FUCK IS NUMBER 1 PRIORITY >Program a week of regular habits and commit.>ONLY AFTER A MONTH OF FAT FUCK TRAINING, start researching job roles and requirements. Pick a job you like doing or feels in the right direction>Take a social hobby like sports club, singing classes or language classes. Don't overdo them, see them as hobby and not as duty>Actively ask people if you can stick together and hangout. Ask strangers in waiting lines too. Start going to random events and spark curious conversation. Sing alone, take friends to karaoke. GETTING YOUR ASS OUT OF YOUR HOUSE IS THE HARD PART, WALKING ACROSS A STRANGERS' DOOR IS THE SECOND HARD PART.>Finance your gained hobbies and friendships through money from the job you picked.
>>34649666No they should literally focus ONLY on losing the weight and getting healthy. We can't just take their word for it that their job is a problem, in all likelihood the job is fine and it's their fat undisciplined ass that's the problem.Everything else you posted is way too much for OP. I get you're trying to inspire them but you're just gonna scare them with all that because it all sounds so far away from what they're capable of right now.OP's 3 problems are depression, lack of discipline and low self esteem. If they just address the weight, then 3 months down the line they'll have made huge progress with those 3 problems.
unironically how does one cope with having a small dick? I'm a 25 khhv for this reason
>>34648276You stop caring about your dick size and comparing yourself to others. That's how.
>>34648745I cant
>>34648276>I'm a 25 khhv for this reasonThat's not the reason.
>>34648276Women who have sex with women consistently report much higher levels of sexual satisfaction, including more and better orgasms, than women who have sex with men. How big is the average lesbian's dick, do you think?
>>34649633yeah it is
Need someone to help me end my life. I get so scared I need someone to encourage me. Also need help with logistics like where do I go to make sure my parents don't discover my body and what can I do to make it easier to have my funeral etc. Pic unrelated
>>34649554>Also need help with logistics like where do I go to make sure my parents don't discover my body and what can I do to make it easier to have my funeral etc.An all-in-one solution would be to go to a funeral parlor, arrange a funeral, and then kill yourself right there.
>>34649554If you're scared to die, it means that deep down you don't want to.
>>34649598I don't think OP should kill xir self, but this would be the way to do it
This is so unbelievably funny Im thinking about canceling the whole thing
How do you get your girlfriend to forgive you when she's mad at you? I didn't talk to my girlfriend for about two days because I was depressed, June 2nd to June 4th, and she's still bitter and making passive-aggressive remarks all the time. I've asked her if she wants to talk about it but she's not really interested in talking when her feelings are hurt, she just stews and gives insults and silent treatments.
>>34646858More like she doesn't want anything to do with your shit and there is nothing to work out. You are correct that I see no value in you. I am not willing to make amends.
Sorry to say this but if your girlfriend can't extend enough empathy to you to understand and accept that you need time to yourself, much less not bitch at you for it, she's probably not the one for you. She may be. But probably not.
>>34645569>How do you get your girlfriend to forgive you when she's mad at you?1) Make it clear that you understand that what you did was wrong. 2) Make it clear that you understand *why* it was wrong.3) Make it clear that you actually regret doing it. (Do not, for example, say something like "I'm sorry I upset you" - that means you're not sorry you did it, you just wish she'd reacted differently).4) Think seriously about why and how you ended up doing it. 5) Come up with a plan to make it substantially less likely that you will do it again in the future. (For example, if you did something stupid while drunk, quit drinking; if you forgot her birthday, put it in your phone calendar with reminders 1 and 2 weeks in advance).6) Actually put your plan into action. 7) Tell her about the plan with evidence that you are following it.This all sounds very laborious, I'm sure, but it's actually the bare minimum anyone does when they genuinely regret doing something and want not to do it again. I'm not saying you're one of them, but there an awful lot of people in the world who think that just feeling guilty about doing something is enough; but it's not. If, for example, you consistently show up late for work because you overslept, it's not enough to feel guilty about it; what you need to do is buy an alarm clock and actually use it. If someone says they're sorry for constantly oversleeping but doesn't actually start setting an alarm, their apology is worthless.So, perhaps you've given her that kind of apology - one that makes it clear you aren't actually trying to avoid it happening again?
>>34649040Problem is when you haven't done anything wrong and that is just being projected on you
>>34649474Sure, that's not what's happening here.
How do you find a good woman? I'm 6'2, decent looking face, muscular with low bodyfat, making a 6 figure income, a few hundred k saved up to index funds, no criminal history or debt. I feel I've done everything right and have been a morally good person helping people even when there's nothing to benefit, but somehow struggle to find any woman that inspires me to be a better man. How would you advise I find a good woman to build a family with? I'm at the point where I want that or will just settle being alone while helping my parents/brothers and passing my money to them in my will.
>>34649462It's not very good, hence why I keep my day job. Mainly electronic music and paintings I hang around my place or give away. I just try to work on them every day. Maybe I'll be decent in another decade.
>>34649484>electronic music and paintingsHave you tried going to venues/areas that are based around those interests? Would give you something to showoff/connect with.
>>34649493I go to a lot of concerts for artists I genuinely love and sometimes join little music production clubs and DJ at little venues like art galleries. I've met some decent people from it, but never any girl I felt was worth asking out. I just do all this because I want to create the things I wish existed.In all honesty most these people are larps that just want to seem important for Instagram/external validation and likely will never make anything decent because of that. I rather get good enough where people reach out to me to collaborate and I would only accept if I appreciate their body of work as well.
>>34649530Alright well that's good. Yeah having a lot of people just clout chasing sucks. As you get better you can probably find more serious people. Keep improving, but also try to make some connections because you never know.
>>34648812All the attractive women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to
around a week+ ago was my birthday (won't say the exact date for obvious reasons), and like every birthday since i was around 9, it felt like just another day - i didn't have a birthday party since i was about 9 and usually got no birthday gifts besides from one person in my family (usually between 50-100$)most of them have been spent completely alone, usually on my hobbies, differing in almost no way compared to other days, besides that my immediate family (3 people) would say happy birthday to methis one was no different, but it hurt because i thought i would at least invite this older person i've known since i was a baby, and that we would all eat a pizza together (including my immediate family). i went to their house when it was their birthday and gave them a gift, tried to spend time with them, and i didn't really care that much about having a "birthday" as much as i wanted to just maintain the few relationships i have in my life. but they said no, and it hurt a lot when i heard it, but i just pretended not to care and shrugged it off. after that, my (immediate) family had something come up and said we would go to dinner tomorrow, and i just ordered food instead. then tomorrow, my (immediate) family did really want to go on a lunch, but i just felt sad over the day before and didn't really see a point in going, so i just ordered food again and ate it by myself in my roomno one else besides my (immediate) family and the person i spoke about above said happy birthday. only 3 people in my immediate family. i don't really know why i care, since that was a constant since i was a child, but i think it's a reminder of just how alone i am
>>34649343that is to say, even the "good" people as you say, are biologically still prone to the same rules as the "evil" people, the only difference is in how morality shaped this behavior.if you are objectively unattractive, you will be unattractive to "evil" and "good" people equally, and the end result of your treatment will be the same regardless of the paths that lead to that - a "bad" person might make fun of you for it, while a "good" person might simply avoid you - your end result, or destination is just about the same either way, exclusion
>>34649343I apologise. I was aiming to console your heart but instead it seems I have hit at your mind instead, since you seem to be elaborating on your intellectual views now instead of focusing on your own life or feelings. This is probably because I am not good enough at talking from the heart.In any case, I wish you all the best. I hope that you will find the joy, peace and positive experiences you seek.
>>34649371no, it's not your fault, it's just that there's nothing to console. i've cried so much that i don't cry anymore, i just feel an underlying sadness about the reality of life. it's why i say, i don't even want relationships anymore. if i keep getting money, and signal it to other people, then inevitably i will finally be given a chance to have what i have wanted my entire life - relationships with other people. sounds great? except it's not, i don't want relationships anymore. i don't want to hear another person speak again anymore. i know that i will have chances to have relationships in the future with people, yet i do not want them anymore. ironic, isn't it?my memory is getting significantly worse, sometimes i do not remember the day before, and sometimes even days before. i detach, depersonalize and derealize a lot.
>>34649343>"evil" and "good" are human attributes and explanations for actions, that are therefore also subjectiveI've been struggling with this for the past couple of months now too. Most people either don't notice, or they choose to believe life has some greater purpose that justifies all of the cruelty. Or they abandon empathy and pursue a selfish lifestyle instead. I have no advice for you, because I am currently a hopeless nihilist myself but I can recommend something to pass the time. If you don't mind anime, give Puella Magi Madoka Magica a watch; it grapples with moral relativism as one of it's themes.
>>34649518Oh and happy birthday too, I forgot to add that to the post. It's funny how everybody's a little different, I personally don't care much for birthdays because saying happy birthday to someone always feels trite.
A red-flagian e-girl got a crush on me somehow. She's smart and hot apart from the red flag stuff and has been kind of seducing me through chats. Thing is I'm an incel and do not know how to be intimate, I don't care about the red flags since I'm lonely and she is too and we might get along (I want to believe) but I don't want to push her away due my lack of exp given how we are old already and it's weirdany tips?
>oldhow old? And what are the redflags?
>>34649354>old3X>redflagsold and single(ex?)pot headkind of pseudo-hippy vibesthat sumarize it
>>34649376>Old and singleThose aren't red flags. Age isn't a behaviour or a personality trait, being single is a green flag, unless you want to date married women?>Ex pot headAmber flag if it's true that she stopped. Red flag if she lied and still smokes>Pseudo-hippy vibesRed flagOverall the relationship sounds like it would be a mistake. You admit you only want to start it out of soothing loneliness and not out of genuine admiration for her as a person. Those types of relationships always die.
>>34649467>not out of genuine admiration for her as a personI don't know if I admire her, she intrigues me and I find she has a lot of virtues (and she seems to like me). We are barely getting to know each other yet
How do I stop being serious and boring? I've been like this since about 10th grade and its ruining my life. I'm not a naturally funny guy, sometimes people laugh at my jokes but I find it difficult to laugh at others' jokes, even if I find it funny. This could possibly be 'blunted affect' but thats besides the point. How do I become a fun, chill guy who isnt so uptight all the time? I'm at the point where coworkers straight up tell me that I'm too serious. Please help.
>>34646685be a little more interested in others, don't talk so much
>>34646685You have tism. Talk less. Observe. Watch movies and adopt personality traits
Grass is always greener, I used to be the 'funny guy' and people always treated everything I did and said as a joke. If you are going to try anything, try to feel more comfortable with yourself, this will naturally make you behave more authentic and therefore be more charming.
If I'm the blue labels and I'm attracted to women in the pink labels, where would I be most likely to find my match?
>>34640114>Brainbleedis a term used to describe the kind of mental pain you receive when you see someone being more autistic than you. Contrapoints made a video called "cringe" where she kind of mentions how people obsessed with Chris Chan are kind of Chris Chan themselves. It's a bit like that. People tend to say they cringe when someone stubs their toe or makes a social blunder.But brain bleed specifically, that is the more slowcutting thing you can’t stop as you see someone be autistic over and over again constantly and you can’t stop it. It’s hemorrhaging your brain as it’s been lacerated over and over again with every autism moment made right before your eyes. It is the defining reason why masked autists deny to themselves that they have it.
>>34640145Dr Who, Supernatural, Sherlock is included in the vibe images above. It’s a trifecta of shows typically enjoyed by dads (including my dad) that young adult women go crazy for. A bit like how MLP reached the wrong autistic target audience. But yea, I specifically included SuperWhoLock to both include the show itself and the oddity of the autistic target audience mismatch
>>34639574I imagine you can probably find sports autists in their natural habitat on /sp/
>>34642384Yea it’s just a bunch of tourists rn (including me). But yea I’ve always said: every board is a special interest
>>34639604really really cool image anon, any more like this?
I recently noticed something on my body that could be a sign of bad posture.As shown in the picture one side is a bit curved while the other one is pretty much straigth (sorry for the lack of specific terminology, english is not my native language).I exaggerated the effect in the image to better show the problem.I suppose this is caused by the big amount of time I spend sitting in front of a computer.Do you know any way to fix this before it becomes worse/permanent?
>>34641970let me guess one arm muscle is much more developed than the other as well
>>34644563im not vaxed nigger nor have i ever had a blebbit account in my life. unlike you i live in a White city where doctors are White too and actually want to help people.>>34644105bullshit cope
>>34644563>destroying my body to own the redditorsretard
>>34641970>flat foot>tibia twists>knee collapses>hips become uneven with one higher than the otherFix yuor feet
I really enjoy flirting with my neighbour and I would like to act a bit more spicy towards her but I'm mega autistic and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.She's very friendly towards me and I often chat her up and give her a compliment or two which she always appreciate.Unfortunatly, she married so I can't just ask her out on a date . I''m in my late twenties while she's in mid fourties. Should I try to shoot my shot or just keep casually flirting with her?
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>>34646822IF a married older woman wants you she will grab your dick and say lets go. Being polite and engaging in flirty harmless banter is no where near that. Be ready to move if you take your shot.
>>34648635She's seems to be quite religious so I imagine she's rather prudish. However, she dresses like a bombshell.
>>34648799How hot is she?
I like to love, but I don’t like being loved. Is there a word for this?
as another anon mentioned attachment styles, i thought this book has been helpful at least adding a vocabulary to some of the things i feel and see. you might learn something from the book like you are an anxiously attached person who's drawn to avoidant people because their aloofness affirms your own perception that you're a needy unlovable person. idk you, but try the book out or some yt videos about attachment theory.
>>34646350abusive
>>34647737Why
it's called being a coward, hope that helps
>>34646350Low self esteem.You hate yourself so you think anyone who loves you must be fucking retarded therefore you hate them too
i need to make a thread for myself and all those who struggle with sleeping because sleep deprivation is destroying you, it makes you more depressed, more crazy, more horny. nothing is worth staying up late for. GO TO BED EARLIER! GO TO BED AT LIKE 9PM!i keep staying up scrolling and watching absolute shit, i know in part it is my deepest inner drives searching for a mate, but i won't find her if i am sleep deprived and retarded.sleep is the major factor in most of my emotional problems. GET MORE SLEEP.
>>34640027you wanna know something crazy? they are caused by sinus problems. sinus blockage causes blood to get trapped around your eyes giving you dark circles. i have dark rings too and permanent sinus problems.
staying out late and drinking with the boys doesn't help. gonna quit drinking and socializing late.
>>34632296that image captures it quite wellthe negative thoughts spiral so easily when you’re running on almost nothing and everything feels heavierit’s also noticeable physically... you get migraines and recover more slowly from pains or injuries>GO TO BED EARLIER! GO TO BED AT LIKE 9PM!even though you caught me there, lately i’ve been sleeping until midnight or +1am!... I wake up around 8 or 9am but I know it’s not idealit's just where I am the days are ridiculously LONG right now so it’s kind of hard to feel like going to bed much earlier when it’s still light out so late, 9pm feels kind of unrealistic
>>34646048>the negative thoughts spiral so easily when you’re running on almost nothing and everything feels heavierthat's what i want to avoid
>>34649224right... in my case I think i’m lucky it doesn’t feel as heavy for me most of the time... because the people close to me tend to be careful and try to shield things a littleso even when i haven’t slept enough the thoughts don’t accumulate or persist in the same way, thanks to this I suppose... it makes a difference even if I don’t always notice it right awayand it makes my situation a bit different I guess, so I don’t really have helpful advice to give... apart from the fairly evident need to stay clear of negative environments in generalsorry if this doesn’t add much
>live in one city all my life>even went to a foreign country and didn't like it>came back>began university which is surprisingly great>met few people>every single person I know is either a hard alcoholic, a total autist that prefers to stay home or univeristy tryhard that studies non stop>my only bet at actually meeting someone is either randomly going to gym with one female friend or waiting till there's a drinking event with friendsAll my life was like this, ever since childhood. Except drinking became the main focus since we had our 16th bday. I just have no fucking clue what could I do in this dead city. Every normal person is leaving to a bigger city to pursue a life there. I have finished one year of my university and I'm liking it.I either take the plunge and go to a different city where I have to live in a shared flat with random people whose habits would piss me off or stay in this city and make-do
>>34649137Sound like you're good where you are, don't move.
I ultimately want them to be happy but I'm scared something bad might happen to them constantly when I'm not around. I'm paranoid about everyone else in their life potentially hurting them. Also how do I balance between spending time with someone and being clingy?
>>34646174Cuck mentality. Sorry to hear all of these issues specific to you
Make "not my fucking problem" your mantra. Also stop listening to them complaining so much, cut it down by 80%-90%. I was like you and then at one point I got so worried that I couldn't sleep. This doesn't help anyone. Put yourself first to put everyone first.Also, visit a psychologist to rule out any paranoid conditions.
>>34648934>Put yourself first to put everyone first.Damn. I have been looking for a way to express this idea for month and you nail it with a simple sentence. Thank you I will borrow it.
>>34649125It becomes really obvious when you end up nuking yourself for someone else and they are the exact same way they were before. Can't help anyone if you aren't sleeping well, eating well, resting well and feeling at least relatively well.
>>34649141narcissists yes, the bane of humanity, can't love them, can't hate them, you can still love them but, like, low key
