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Question for actual long term relationship sex havers. How fast should you scale up sex with a virgin? I've been dating this girl (21yo) for two months, and we had our first time together a month ago. We've had sex twice since then. What I'm worried about is that one day I'm not going to be able to top myself, and she starts wanting to go find big dick Chad/Tyrone.

She is a massive masochist. Right now, she wears a blindfold during sex, and she likes it when I slap her ass as hard as possible and choke her with my dick. She's starting to ask for hand on neck chocking, which I think is hot as fuck, but I'm scared of literally killing her.

We are already doing 4+ hours of foreplay, and I'm already totally winded by the end, so I can't just go longer (I'm doing jogs to help with that, but that is obviously a slow process). Eventually I know I can upgrade to tying her up or using toys, but I want to save that as long as possible.
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>>31479758
reduce foreplay to 30 minutes. how many times does SHE cum?
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>>31479773
Either a lot or none. The first time we had sex she said it was 7 times, but now she isn't sure that she is actually cumming, probably because of how easy it is for her to cum.
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>>31479773
Why would he need to reduce foreplay?
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>>31479758
Sex is a very personal matter and it depends on the preferences of each couple.

Husband and I have been together for about 8 years. We fuck 7-10 times a week.
For the first 8 months we had sex all the time (several times a day) but it was all very vanilla. We did kinkier stuff as time went on. Now we have sex 5-7 times a week, and I'd say it's normal vanilla sex 75% of the time and kinky 25% of the time. Plus a few blowjobs.
I also would say that from start to finish our sexy time will take maybe 20-30 minutes. Sometimes we linger on longer foreplay a little, but honestly spending 4+ hours on foreplay seems unnecessary.
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>>31481799
Because he's totally winded by the end and not having a good time. Sex should not have to be a whole production.

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How important is sexual satisfaction for a long-term relationship?

gf is a sweet girl and generous with plain boring sex but doesn't like giving head or wearing sexy stuff etc etc. I feel like if I have to be with one woman my whole life I want to do some fun stuff with her, I dare call this kinda stuff a need

She gets all her needs met with just basic sex, great for her, I want more tho. Yes we've talked about it it's not going anywhere, but I also don't wanna break up with a potential great wife just because she won't wear lingerie or go down

Thoughts? I'd also love to do anal but im guessing that's never gonna happen either. Inb4 moral weirdos thinking everything except missionary for procreation etc etc is wrong
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>>31477547
> high sex drive, terrible partner

Its one or the other in most cases, it would seem. I'm sure some women out there are high sex drive and a great partner but thats rare (probably wifed up in early 20s).
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>>31447986
>>31459256
>>31460418
>>31461677
Women posts
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>>31477547
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>>31447912
+1 based
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>>31480476

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This guy I have known for the last four years I would consider my best friend. We have been playing video games with each other pretty much almost every weekend. However recently he has become more hostile and harder to talk to 1 on 1. Even recently when of my friends asked him how much he like me out of 10 and he said 6. I feel like if i try to ask him why he has been acting like this he would get mad at me.
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what do you think has changed? has anything major happened in either of your personal lives? or was there maybe a shift in moral values or a conflict of political beliefs?
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>>31481357
men and women cannot be friends, sorry you were lied too
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>>31481366
Nothing really at all. Maybe he is just outgrowing me idk
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>>31481357
If your best friend considers you a 6, then he shouldnt be your best friend anymore.
Chasing him is prob counter-productive so give him space and let him reach out to you himself when he wants to hang out.
Reach out to new people, get more friends.

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I just randomly had a bunch of random games installed on my android phone out of nowhere with no prior indication/notifications.

>"water sort puzzle"
>"solitaire"
>"spades"
>"crossword jam"

Is this caused by/is this a sign of malware on my phone? according to a vague google/reddit search skim - some people were claiming in similar cases that it's just harmless bloatware that was silently installed after an OS update (supposed to be pushed/curated as a "sponsor"-kind of thing from whatever the phone's brand is supposed to be.)

But I just want an anon to confirm as to whether or not this is harmless (uninstall and im good) or some kind of virus/malware with a keylogger/some nefarious function or some shit that's lingering - that'll need a more firm "nuke"/measure to get rid of?
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bump

need an answer ASAP - i wanna use this phone again; keeping it off limits as a safety measure until this shit is sorted out.
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>>31481619

In general, you are good to just uninstall and keep going. this is pretty common on the cheaper android phones as a way for the manufacturers to earn some more income and shi


Although it would be nice if you gave more info on your phone...
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>>31481619
Also happened to me today and a week ago, I disabled some auto-install feature from the play store so hopefully won't have this happen again.

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placement tests are fucking difficult. how did you get through them?

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where can I find a mentor to steer me in the right direction in life?
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>>31481502
this, you already know what to do, just do it
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>>31481492
I may be able to help I’ve been looking into becoming a mentor. What do you need guidance in specifically like what are you struggling with?
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>>31481492
Like anything good, they do not exist
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>>31481492
You mean like Charles Manson?
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>>31481492
Is your real problem motivation?

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>be me
>get $300/month in food stamps
>get told that I made too much on my last paycheck and I will reduced to $23/month
>lordlord notifies me my rent is going up $100/month

I can't afford to lose this money, bros. I don't have any subscriptions except amazon prime and I can't get more hours at work.

I looked around on indeed, but it's all shit jobs I refuse to work like in nursing homes and warehousing. Idk what I'm going to do. Should I kms? should I take the homeless-pill?

I can't work anymore I already have zero motivation when I know I will never be able to retire or afford a house, when I know because women are in such a god-awful state that I will never have a family, what the fuck is the point? It was only tolerable to work part time like I've been doing because it didn't take up a huge amount of time. So not only do I need to find more hours, I won't even be making more money, just working to recover the money I lost in rent increases and benefits cuts. Which is doubly demotivating. I'm so angry, I hate this gay fucking earth, I hate the Jews so goddamn much. Why the fuck shouldn't I just start stealing and taking whatever I need? These fucking people think they just price me out of living and I'm gonna roll over and die? I'll fucking kill them.
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Just wanted to give you guys an update:

I decided that if the problem was that I work too many hours, I could just voluntarily have my hours cut. I did the math and it actually works out that taking an hours cut is slightly profitable if I get my full food stamp money back.

I will still be out $300 a month as I will loose that in hours. But it seems like it made no sense to work those hours when I can just get that money for nothing from the state. Then I can figure out if I can live without that money or not. In all likelihood I will need to get either get another part time job (and just not tell them about it), try to wait it out until some more hours open up at my job and quietly start to work more. Or just quit and get a different job entirely.

>The benefits of this happening to me:
I have been pretty miserable at work lately, in part due to a very obnoxious coworker. But by cutting hours, I have one less work day around that person, which will be a big stress relief in the short term and of course if I quit, I won't have to see that person ever again.

It has forced me out of a stasis period, where I was too comfortable at work to leave (it's close by, I only need to work part time and I make enough money to live). Now I no longer have that going for me and it's allowed me to justify looking for something else.

It has forced me to sell some used camera gear and computer parts that I've been indecisively hoarding while not actually using.

Overall I've ended the night feeling more in control and less anxious. I'm afraid, I don't know what's going to happen, but taking decisive action and choosing to meet it head on rather than waiting to get financially crushed feels good.
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you are majorly fuckng up by not working your ass off/trying to sleaze your way into a better position right now especially because there are so many other lazy fucks that a lot of jobs are available. Want to go be a gm at a food place and make $60k? You could probably get it just looking like not a stoner piece of shit. I was legit going to be a doctor or lawyer, despite me just saying legit and it all went poof so I was depressed so I was just working like 30 hours as a pizza man for a while but I regret it myself. Had I simply busted my fucking ass like I already was instead of being a whiny bitch... I mean I just wanted to drive and make good tips and I did and I paid off my cars and also smoked some weed and cars kept breaking down completely and my credit was fucked too so no good car. So, it was simply unfeasible but I kept trying. But I should have just worked two jobs and saved while I was at my grandpa's. I don't know what the fuck is any half well off person's problem with shit. I had a friend who I had to pretty severely cut off last year because... I don't fucking know. I guess everyone just has low self esteem. Just short and no dick and not very smart but he had a mom and already an associate's.. There are seriously fucking hobos grinding over ten times as hard as you. Thinking you can just get by on half because you should be able to, because you did the math and it should work is a BAD idea. Because something like what just happened to you inevitably happens and you're left standing there with your thumb up your ass. I don't want to sound like Jordan Peterson but you need to get your shit together and I'm not judging you at all because because but so this is actual genuine advice and not some working stiff who is just angry because the reality is, it hasn't worked out for me. But, it hasn't worked out for me because I got pulled in slowly until I needed two jobs whereas if I jumped in head first it would have.
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>>31481298
>you are majorly fuckng up by not working your ass off/trying to sleaze your way into a better position right now
Wrong. Working has no value or function anymore.
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>>31481317
kek that's a pretty sad way of looking at things. if you aren't rich you need money to do anything at all. you could work two or three shitty jobs, saving all of it for a few years, living with mum, and then you'd have $100k with which you could do whatever you wanted
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>>31481515
>kek that's a pretty sad way of looking at things
Says the man who has convinced himself that working 3 jobs making other people rich, while he himself can barely afford the things he needs. You're getting fucked and instead of getting rightfully mad about it you choose instead to take systemic problems and making it an issue of personal responsibility, as if it was your fault you need to work three jobs. You're a turbo cuck of the highest order, so buck broken that you thing it's a virtue to get taken advantage of and that's what's really sad.

I’m a trend setter. Hobbies and sports and politics and things that I enjoy become popular with others after I already approved of them. The only thing that I hated was lgbt shit and I don’t know how that became popular since I didn’t approve of that. But I’m for the most part a trend setter. What should I make popular next? And how can I help to start WW3?
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>>31480273
>I’m a trend setter.
no, you are an old delusional Boomer.
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>>31480562
That’s sweet of you and I wish I could just bring that back and meritocracy with some slight amount of diversity but things are way too far gone I’m afraid for any hope of peace.
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>>31480573
What’s a boomer to you? Anyone over 30?

A boomer to me is anyone 60 or over
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>>31480273
you sound very homosexual
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>>31480273
Trend setters don't ask what the next trend will be, dipshit.

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I'm a 25 year old woman and I've never had sex
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>>31481552
Whatever you say. I'm certainly not fat, been skinny my whole life.
>>31481556
You dumbfuck retard, my parents have a dog. I can't help that, I live with them. Why is your first thought about dogs sex? You're a projecting zoophile.
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>>31481151
Fucking tranny, get a hobby.
>>31481556
Stop responding to 'her', she's a freak with a boy clit.
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>>31481573
Do trannies really pretend to be older virgin "cis" women? Why would they do that? Trannies are hypersexual freaks.
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And?
I've had my heart broken by women.
It isn't worth it.
Ignorance is bliss.
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>>31481578
Fucking weird ass fetishes.

https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/31481151/#31481151

This freak makes these threads daily so he can jack off to men desiring and wanting his virgin woman persona. Fucking disgusting.

I’m 26 and I find myself only being able to imagine myself with a late 30s-40s woman. Young women I’ve been with have too many problems and I find it extremely unattractive.

I seriously think I want to be with an older lady but I don’t know how feasible that is. Also is there something psychologically wrong with me?
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>>31480062
All is good now, but first time was hellish, we both didn’t know how to raise a human lol. Prepare to be tired all the time and to give your wife as much help as you can. She’s gonna be exhausted and the changes in her body will make her prone to depression.
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>>31480086
did you have sex while she was pregnant?
id love to see my wife pregnant
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>>31480086
I dont think I can be prepared for it lol. But I can make peace with that. Took me a minute but I learned that the best things in life that really count are the shit that has a bit of sacrifice and pain to pay first. That’s about as prepared as I can get.

Thanks for the insight anon. I’ll take any of those i can get
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>>31479749
seek therapy.
i had a co-worker who was into older wmn and the dude had so many other issues wrong with him.
being attracted to older wmn is a warning light on your dashboard.
good luck to you.
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>>31481565
What exactly are those issues? I think I look after myself pretty well I’m just a bit depressed and burned out most the time

I’m seeking advice from anyone who has experience in a relationship or co-parenting with someone who has borderline personality disorder, or just any fathers who have dealt with a vindictive woman who is trying to alienate them from their child. I have a 1 month old son with my BPD ex (yes I know I fucked up, but I absolutely was deceived into doing it under false premises) and she has 100% “split” on me, “devalued” me and is now trying to estrange me from my son. She has changed his name to a last name that is different from mine, and gave him a different first name than the one I chose for him, which we both agreed on and were happy with for the entire pregnancy. She has banned me from visiting him and is even refusing to send me pictures she took of me and my son together. Not really asking for legal advice because I have access to that and laws very by jurisdiction, more asking just for daily practice strategies in dealing with them and communicating with them. Any genuine advice is appreciated
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>>31478336
I may have to, but I don’t want to. I don’t want him to grow up without a mother, I just want her to accept that she has BPD and get treatment, but she won’t because all borderlines are allergic to accountability and take any suggestion that they are at fault as a deliberate “abusive attack” on them
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>>31477537
>calling me a “narcissist”
Damn, I knew I had you pegged as a female. It’s crazy how I totally NAILED that. Hey guys, turns out there are girls on 4chan after all.
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>>31474043
Three options:
1. Argue and bring a bunch of people into it causing more distress.
2. Walking away.
3. Developing an adult, calm if distant relationship with the baby momma. If real, it seems like you care a lot, and should together see a professional.
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>>31480505
Thanks. Number 3 is definitely MUCH, MUCH easier said than done with a borderline, but you are right that it is ideal to work towards that so I appreciate your input
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you absolutely need to talk to a lawyer because what you need to do is get the courts to be so weary of her that she is ordered to get treatment if she wants to keep her kid. and maybe just maybe she will get treatment and start acting right and you guys will be a happy family etc

you need to let go just a little bit like this is a fucked situation and if the worst happens, it is what it is. like I'm not going to say your kid is going to die, he will some day for sure, but, in my experience bpd basically means psycho. In fact I'd rather someone just be psycho and know they are psycho than someone who might accidentally be psycho because they get anxiety and their idiot brain has no method of controlling the anxiety other than immediately lashing out

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I was out walking when I saw a car about to hit this girl with AirPods in her ear in my neighborhood. Being the nice person I was, I swooped in and tackled her out of the way. She rolled over underneath my grasp, looked at me real long and hard, and literally screamed "RAPE!"

In almost an instant, I saw men swarming from everywhere nearby, running towards me. One of them tackled me and wrestled me off her and another one of them started punching me. Pretty soon, the police were called.

They took me to the station and basically refused to believe anything I said when I told I was trying to save her from a car. If there wasn't cameras in that location, according to my lawyer, I'd apparently be in jail right now for sexual assault.

The worst part of this is that the guy who almost hit her went over to de-escalate the situation and told her what happened and she was still calling me a disgusting rapist freak fuck loser.

Anyway, my advice for men: just let women die.
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>>31481463
US.
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>>31481446
no good deed ever goes unpunished in this world, anon.

sorry to hear about your troubles. and, yeah, i'd sue the living shit out of everyone.
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>>31481446
I remember the days when shitposts were believable, youve all gotten lazy.
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>>31481446
We're all rapists OP, didn't you know that

Doesn't matter whether or not you actually did anything, we're just rapists because we look so rapey
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>>31481446
Next time just pull out your camera and post it on >>>/wsg/ or YouTube

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What would Snufkin do if he found himself camping with a really chaotic arrogant turkish guy?
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>>31479433
i meant from other anons but yeah, thankyou. this snufkanon doesn't have much time for camping though, no more till winter now.
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>>31479010
Deploy RAID spray.
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>>31479010
he would have packed in the night, quietly and disappear without the turk knowing. Snufkin is a free spirit, he doesn't like to be bothered and he doesn't mind to give way
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>>31479889
This is the correct answer
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>>31479833
>>31479889
this thread has honestly surpassed my expectations, thankyou anons

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I've been struggling with my insecurities since I was 10 or so years old. It developed due to trauma. I don't really know how to stop being insecure about myself. Are there any ways to remove that feeling?
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>>31479425
Get good at something. Doesn't matter if it's woodworking or mathematics or muay thai. Just start learning about something, seek others who are doing it, and get better than them at it.
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>>31479914
Alright. Shouldn't be too hard.
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>>31479425
radical self acceptance isnt a meme its a cure to what ails you. you are only ever going to be you, so accept yourself as you are
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>>31480494
That'll take time, but I'll give it a shot.
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>>31479914
That does not work. The best you can get of it is impostor syndrome. Insecurity about something and insecurity about themselves is completely different thing. The first is a surface problem, the second is core problem.

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I got anxious about doing something my mother asked me to do on the spot, and because I was worried about it, and said I don't want to I'm worried, she rightfully got upset with me, took it out on me, then yelled at me later and did it herself. Dad thinks I am a bad son, mum thinks I don't care about her.

I come home feeling bad, and we conflict some more and now I'm emotional, angry and hurt. I want to leave, they will call the police on me if I leave because I am unstable apparently. Dad blames me.

Should I run away from the house (I am 20) even though the police will find me, mum will tell them I am dangerous because I seem unstable.

I have an anxiety disorder, mum has poor health, and I already said I'd fill the car for her and come tot the shops to help her, if she spoke to me calmly I'm sure I would've gone in but saying am I a man or mouse didn't help me. I am the pussy that should've said yes right away, but I get the blame for all of it, now it's over.
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>>31480943
Move out. I've already paid rent in advance so I am not legally bound.
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>>31480445
Apologise. Do something nice for her without being asked. All will be well.
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>>31480875
your parents just want your money and your chores. But, if you leave, you will have to deal with the gaslight. The gaslight is the cops pulling up and saying yo r u crazy? And you will have to somehow spell it out for them without sounding crazy. You would have to start with the end and say "they just want my money and chores and are seriously trying to screw with me specifically because they don't want me to leave, so they called you, and no I'm not exactly totally happy right now because of all the shit they are doing but this here right now, you pulling up on me, is just another example of their gaslight and exactly why I want to leave"

cops actually don't like busy bodies or users especially when they waste their time but naturally will side with the one speaking more calmly and stuff.
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>>31481498
You're wrong they don't want me for that. They want me to be empowered and to grow up. I can move out if I go to a union campus. They didn't want me running away today because I was unstable. They are good people. I'm not.
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>>31481477
I will do that. Thanks.

>>3148152
I demand you take that back, they do not want me for that.


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