I'm not interested in a relationship, I just want to have sex with women on dating apps but I'm afraid of getting STDs. What should I do?>Just wear a condom>Just ask if they got testedCondoms don't always work and whores can lie about their tests. All it takes is 1 mistake then I'm stuck with HIV for life.
>>34911693>I want sex outside of relationship>I want to be 100% sure to not get any stdpick one
>>34911714>I'll remain a virgin for the rest of my life because I'll never get marriednigga wat
>I'm not interested in a relationshipYou do not deserve the warmth of another human. But, looking beyond that, I can understand the overwhelming urge to cum deep in hot pussy.There's a million reasons not to do anything. Live while you can. AIDS isn't even fatal anymore. Does the fear of a lightning strike stop you from enjoying a beautiful storm? Does the uncertainty of what tomorrow may bring stops you from getting out of bed in the morning?>Condoms don't always workThey work well enough. Who wants to reduce their pleasure with a condom anyway? At the end of the day your mind is ruled by your fear and that is why you stuck here lamenting all the what ifs and why nots of life. We are all guilty of this. I learned a long time ago to just follow your heart, consequences be damned. If you won't do something because there's a chance something could go wrong, you might as well never do anything ever again.
>>34911793>Does the fear of a lightning strike stop you from enjoying a beautiful storm?NTA, but... yes? Obviously? Any sane person stays indoors during a thunderstorm, for precisely that reason.
The fact that its risky and dangerous makes it 10x hotter to fuck her so just do it OP
My fucking boomer employer fired me from my construction engineering job half a year ago and they are still salty, fighting my already approved benefits. Now I am going to have to waste a morning three weeks from now talking to a judge and some third party company that represents that employer over the phone.I have never been in a hearing like this before, how does it go? I got the packet of "evidence" two weeks ago and there is nothing beyond a handful of drawing red lines that they allege means I could not perform. No written warnings, no PIPs, no transcribed discipline. Just a vague "hey we think this guy sucks" and some very standard mid-stage red lines is all. I have the option to subpoena people or papers but their evidence is so flimsy that I think I am better off just letting the lack of evidence speak for itself. The employer did not even care to fully fill out the fact-finding questions which strikes me as odd.Do employers just bullshit unemployment office to drag things out in hopes I will give up? Am I going to just be arguing against some third party goon that was not a witness to anything? Has anyone here ever been fucked by a phone unemployment hearing? I have been approved this entire time so I assume the employer has to prove their case better.
america is a third world country holy shit
>>34909791>I have the option to subpoena people or papers but their evidence is so flimsy that I think I am better off just letting the lack of evidence speak for itself.That's a truly terrible idea. This isn't a criminal case: they don't have to prove you guilty beyond reasonable doubt. If they present no evidence and you present no evidence, the judge is just as likely to find for them as he is for you. Remember that what happened is absolutely irrelevant, here: all that matters is what you can *prove*. Collect evidence and present it; if you don't, you are fucked.
How long did it take you to find your girlfriend online?Any tips? Which service did you use?
>>34907775Lucky you
>>34907775What does it mean when a girl "tries" to rape you?
>>34912861She was having sex with me while I was asleep and unconscious. I woke up and she was penetrating herself on me. I say tried because I was into it and reciprocated when I realized what was going on. I never expressly gave her permission or consented before she started.Was she planning or intending for me to wake up or how long would she have continued if i didn't wake up, is what I tend to ask myself.
>>34912885That is kinda fucked up if it was unprotectedBut otherwise...
>>34912904It was unprotected. She was also black, so I guess it makes sense.
I'm stuck in a relationship with a total bore that didn't do anything wrong on paper but she just isn't it and I have no clear path of getting out. She is kinda cute in her own right but she's just not the type of woman I imagined ending up with at all. She's decently below my league. To add insult on the injury, she's a blank slate with no interest in anything which really affects my enjoyment in her company. At least her IQ is pretty high otherwise I'd break up quite easily. Also because she is prudent she doesn't really leave blatant loose ends at which I can point and go "AHA! You did that so now byebye", its very tricky. She's really lazy outside of housework and never wants to take interest in anything I present on the table. I assumed it'd get better as the relationship goes but... it kinda never didShe's actually aware she is kinda below my league in terms of looks which made her insecurities and jealousy insufferable. She's semi autistic so she didn't spend her time fishing around male orbiters that could inflate her ego so she is virgin which is one of the reasons Im having a hard time letting go. Dating market is in the gutters and I feel like I'm risking a lot by letting her go (im 22 soon). It's like being a vault dweller and voluntarily leaving the vault to wander the dangerous wasteland. (1/2)
>>34910568only khhv retards like you think being in a relationship with a total bore because you are afraid of being alone so whatever solves you that problem is seen as holy grail. But anyone who isn't equally a cardboard of a person gets bored in relationships like that very quickly.>>34910572another khhv opinion. She is insanely sensitive and somehow not a doormat when it comes to that, she would literally break up with me if I put it in, trust me we had some slip ups and she gives me shit all the time
>>34910419(part 1 of 2)It's a safe bet I've spent more time in relationships than you have, sparky. Total time with by my current and previous partners is definitely more years than you've been an adult, and possibly more years than you've been alive. And that's not counting a few shorter relationships. So shut the fuck up, and listen to someone with a LOT more experience of both relationships and breakups than you.Your problem, I guess, is that you think leaving her will break her heart, and you're looking for some magical get-out clause that will let you escape without her getting hurt. There are four things you need to understand about that.1) What you are looking for DOES NOT EXIST. No matter what you do or day, leaving her WILL break her heart. This is absolutely inevitable.2) Absolutely anything you do to try to hurt her less will backfire and make things worse.3) The longer you wait before leaving her, the more damage you will do, and the more of her life you will have wasted.4) (and this is the most important one) NOT leaving her will also hurt her, and in the long run it will hurt her MORE.You are an objectionable person who doesn't like her, and is just pretending to like her in order to get his dick sucked occasionally, and who is now starting to feel guilty about that situation. Now, from HER perspective, how happy do you really think she is going to be if she spends the rest of her life with a man who doesn't actually like her? She deserves better than this. She deserves better than you, frankly; but she certainly deserves to be with a man who actually loves her, instead of one who is only pretending to. For HER sake, you need to leave her. (to be continued)
>>34912626(part 2 of 2)Every moment she spends with you is time she could have spent finding someone who actually loves her, and being with him. The longer you wait before leaving, the more of her life you will waste. If you really, genuinely care about minimising her pain in the long term, you need to leave her today, now, and do not leave the slightest hope in her mind that the two of you could possibly ever get back together. If you come up with some bullshit excuse along the lines of "I'm too busy for the relationship", she will say "I don't mind if we take a break until you're less busy; I'll wait for you!" and then you're still preventing her from finding someone better. If you explain there are problems that are her fault she will say "No, no, I can change! I'll do better!" and you'll waste more time waiting for that to happen (and it won't). The gentler you are with her, the more she will be clinging on to the hope that you might get back together. This doesn't mean being gratuitously cruel. But you don't owe her an explanation, and if you try to come up with one, it will make things worse.Simply tell her "I'm sorry, this isn't working; it hasn't been working for a while; it is never going to work; and there is no point in point in talking about it. I'm leaving." And when she tries to talk about it, don't engage. "Have I done something wrong?!" "No." "Isn't there anything I can do?!" "No." "Is there someone else?" "No, definitely not." Don't engage. Anything else will make things worse. If anyone else asks you, you just say "It wasn't working, and it was never going to. It's sad, but that's just how it is sometimes." And if they want more details, again, don't engage. That's all you can do.
>>34912626>just pretending to like her in order to get his dick sucked occasionally>She deserves better than this. She deserves better than you, frankly; but she certainly deserves to be with a man who actually loves her, instead of one who is only pretending to. For HER sake, you need to leave her.Wrote all that shit just to assume a bunch of basics wrong. I'm barely getting my dick sucked by her, I stuck around because I thought the sun will come out eventually, she will stop being low energy and lazy, she will start taking up interests, she will get her health and libido fixed etc but that day never came. I didn't break up because I'm a huge wuss and I'm concerned she'll never again find a man to her autistic liking. First few times we met SHE COULDN'T UTTER A WORD. I genuinely told her this isn't gonna work BACK THEN AND THERE but as I said I'm an empathetic bitch and folded for her pleas. That's how autistic, boring and uncharismatic she is, she is genuinely incapable of holding a conversation with someone new in her life. I'm afraid she's just gonna get played harder and harder after me.But anyways, still I gotta thank you for the effort you put in responding, some of it is actually useful.
>>34912658>I stuck around because I thought the sun will come out eventually,You'll know better next time.
For years you've been giving me "advice" and it changed nothing in my life. I am still the same old piece of shit, I fail at every single thing I try, love, academics, hobbies, sports. What you people need to understand is that some people are just beyond saving. Only recently I realized that what I need is not advice, what I need is to kill all hope inside me, that fucking useless hope is what makes me cling to life and continue to suffer even though deep down I already know it's all for nothing.
>>34907021Its not really the board that failed, but you bunny
>>34907021Trust the plan.
>>34907021have you enacted any of the advice given thoif you come here to get advice but never enact some changes you'll never see resultsalso, changes take time, if you tried one day, didn't work out and went back to your old self that doesn't countno one told you it was going to be easymost people here need a change in their habitsand habits are hard to beat and to change, it takes at least 3 months of you doing something consistently for it to defeat the old habit and become the new habit.
>>34907021My intention is not to help you, i'll be real with you.Also, you already know what you should do, so someone telling you what it is won't change anything. There's something deep, sub-conscious and unconscious holding you back. I'm not here to fix that.
>>34907798Probably one of the most real and helpful posts in this thread. Been lurking and looking for actual advice, thanks anon, bless you.>>34908286Lol..
My crush is sleeping with a guy who is a total piece of shit. It's been going for months and she says it's a "situationship" but supposedly she has feelings for him. The guy is literally just using her for sex and will ditch her after a while. He has done it with several girls already. Everyone in our college circle knows him. How do I make her realize what's going on?
>>34909064>"just use them for sex"This entire sentence rests on the assumption that sex is something women reluctantly pay out in return for extensive simping or significant cash payments.The idiopts who spout this shit could get rid of all their problems with a simple, small mindset change: Accepting that women are human, and humans like sex.>because they view him as comfortable and safeFor one they know hes at least decent in bed if he has so many return customers, and secondly he won't immediately chimp out and go crazy with jealousy after having sex once. So many men turn into clingy weirdoes once they get into smelling distance of a pussy that its better to share a relaxed dude with multiplewomen than take the gamble on an unproven guy.
Every single retard who even contemplates the idea of having a relationship with a non-virgin woman who was drilled by other men should be castrated. Let your cuckold bloodline end with you for heaven's sake
>>34901396100% a zhore dude.
>>34901370She already realizes what's going on dude. Modern women are all sluts and just go to college to fuck the hot frat guys. She doesn't give a fuck if he isn't "nice" or if he's using her for sex. This is one of the most important lessons about women you must learn early on. Women aren't attracted by nice guys or guys that are considerate.I'm a pretty sensitive guy and have always been treated like dogshit by women who I genuinely treated very well. They don't care, trust me on this.
Yeah the more I learned about what women actually respond to the more I realized that true love is kind of a memeOr so incredibly difficult to find it's probably not worth trying
My avoidant personality disorder is ruining my life. Does anyone with AVPD have tips for forming relationships and just living a normal life?>23yo shut-in incel virgin>since high-school ended I isolated and just read books at home>haven’t been outside in months>demoralized to do the same stuff I did before
>>34905581I don't have money to go to therapy
>>34905586Then save up. Its not actually that expensive even without insurance
>>34905197>AVPDHave you been diagnosed?
>>34905197What helps me most is forced socialization, and being particular about the types of people I choose to see. Since I'm sensitive about social rejection and being picked on, I have a pretty strict 'No Assholes' policy. If I sense that someone is pulling weird social heirarchy shit with me I characteristically avoid them. But I push myself to socialize and meet people as much as I can so I can find the non-assholes and become friends with them.I prefer to seek out groups where people have likely experienced some form of bullying themselves, or have the humility/emotional control to not shit on other people for stupid reasons. A lot of hobby based groups can be like this depending on the mix of people.
烂透了 强迫自己社交,我不知道那是否有用 对我没有用 我很孤独 永久的孤独 avpd毁了一切。从小学六年级就觉察与别人的不同 身边的人很难适合 mbti你知道吗?这很难、suck、damnit、fuck.
I'm Argentinian, 22 years old, a graphic design student.My life has gone to shit.Several suicide attempts.I want a quick and painless method.P.S.: I'm not Christian or anything like that. I already made a post about this.
>>34912681Get into Vintage Story instead
>>34912696thx
>the only girl I've ever asked out (female, 20s) accepted despite not knowing me>clinical psychologist (female, 50s) told me I'm not ugly>psychotherapist (female, 40s) told me I'm not ugly>coworker (female, 20s) told me I'm handsome>coworker (female, 50s) compliments me every time I get a haircut>nurse at a plastic surgery clinic (female, 50s) told me I look great27-year-old KHHV here. What do you think? Am I really not (that) ugly? Or am I right to hate myself, feel like the ugliest person in the world, and not even think about approaching women?
What's ugly is your lack of confidence
>>34912000Agreed, bee-lieve in yourself
>>34911892lol
>>34912461What's so funny?
>>34912576u
I'm in medical school and I'm afraid I'm wasting my entire youth and going into extreme debt just to graduate and be replaced with AI and have no way to pay my debt and be part of the permanent underclass
>>34911369Worst case scenario is you being a caretaker for the olds. But that's what a doctor is anyway.
>>34911369Brother. You have been brainwashed.Did you seriously think studying all that biochemistry bullshit ever mattered? I could teach a 12yo to be a clinician and I could have him trained and performing the same as any practicing doctor in 2 years. On his free time even.A NP, DO, PA, all have the same roles and education. MD is a caste, it's a concept that only exists in the US, It's a caste that justifies that retarded insurance-legal bubble. Finally the bubble will pop, because it was never anything more than a scam.The real role of the doctor is to be a Customer Service Clerk within the Operations Section of a Healthcare Establishment. Medicine is not an artisan guild anymore, it's a service industry and it will be subject to the processes of industry.Here's the "worst case" scenario. Healthcare lobbyists break up clinical services as technical careers with 5 years of college education. First year you see Physio, Anatomy, Histo. Second year you see basic pharma, patho, and preventive medicine. The rest of 3 years they see the clinical aspects of their specialty and done.Poof. No more residency bullshit, no more med school, no more mcat, no fucking american jackshit. Medical services supply goes up, salaries go down, liability goes lower, patients keep being given the same standard care. Lawsuit lawyers get fucked.This is how it should have always been. You're practicing during the early years of that transition. Some jew will fight hard so you can still be a special snowflake, and that transition will take decades, or maybe it won't at all.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34911326Aim for surgery. We're decades and decades away from finding technology reliable enough to replace surgical percision of people.
>>34911326just do cosmetic surgery, shit's booming at ludicrous speed
>>34911817That's like the hardest thing to match into and I genuinely do not want to do it>>34911812Strongly considering surgery. Not sure if I can physically handle it or if I want the lifestyle but I am definitely interested in operating.
I consider myself a person of African descent. I am not a black person. I do not consider myself a member of the "black community" because they do not represent who I am, I do not care for them, and I find the whole idea of a racial "community" to be extremely stupid.It's like my friend. He was born in Korea but he does not consider himself Korean. He considers himself a global human.Are we retarded?
>>34900906Bone her...
>>34903688Does your knee grow?
>>34906453Does it go with the flow?
>>34907384Can it touch your toe?
>>34909993Can it hit the floor?
HiIrecently started talking a lot with a coworker after moving to a nearby department, and I think she likes me. She asked for my Instagram, sends me those silly videos every day with the caption "us," and recently invited me to the movies tomorrow, just the two of us. I’m still not sure if she’s just being friendly or if she actually likes me, she’s a very outgoing person, but that’s not the main issue. It’s the first time in years I might end up dating someone, in real life I’ve only dated one person before, plus a few online bitches who just wanted attention and with whom things didn't work out. This coworker is the total opposite of who I dated before, a normie and also quite religious. She comes from an Evangelical family but says she’s drifted away a bit, though she remains religious. I’m an atheist, but I told her I believe in God. Can dating someone who is my total opposite actually work? I’m afraid she’ll find out and get angry or upset. Also, like I said, she’s very normie. It’s rare for me to mention something specific I like or find funny and for her to get it, something that was easy with my exes. Even so, I like her, she’s fun and incredibly attractive, the exact opposite of my exes. She would be the most attractive person I’ve ever been with. Should I pursue this if she really likes me? Does a relationship where two people are so different work out? Should I give up my life as a weirdo who likes weird stuff just to be with her?Also, any tips for this date? I’m rusty, the last time I went out with someone I was 18. She really likes touching me; a few weeks ago we were celebrating a coworker's birthday, and after the party we shared an Uber home. She rested her head on my shoulder the whole ride. I looked for a chance to stroke her hair or something but I’m a total pussy.
>>34910732>Can dating someone who is my total opposite actually work?dunno, but building a relationship on a lie definitely doesnt work long term.
>>34911506I think OP can do some funny stuff, he can sidestep the question on God by saying he's "spiritual" or believes in the existence of some higher being, thus functionally he is an atheist, but he is not trapped in this contradictionTell her you believe in a God but its not the Christian God
>>34910732I'd do and say it all just to fuck her. Just to get a lick of pussy
OP here.>>34911506>>34911541>>34911764Jesus, do you guys really think lying about that was such a bad ideia ? By nature I don't usually talk about the fact that I don't believe in anything, and this time was no different. I planned to talk about it once I felt more comfortable with her. >>34911325I don't have any profound reasons or a stack of books explaining why I'm an atheist; I simply don't have faith. And believing just for the sake of believing doesn't feel honest to me, so I prefer to consider myself an atheist. The date is in a few hours, I've got four hours of work left, and after that I have to go home to get ready before heading to the movies. I'm freaking out, but I want to give it my best shot so I don't let this opportunity slip away. By the way, I've never made a move on anyone before, not even with my first girlfriend. She was the one who kissed me first because she knew I was too much of a dork to have the guts to kiss her. I'm scared because I know it'll be different with this girl, and she'll be expecting me to make a move.
>>34911764>he can sidestep the question on GodHe could, if he hadn't already lied about it. >>34912510>Jesus, do you guys really think lying about that was such a bad ideia ?Yes. Instant relationship suicide. If you'd been honest, she might have decided to give you a chance. But for you to lie to her about believing in God in order to try to get her to have sex with you - I can't imagine anything that would upset a genuinely religious person more than that. The moment she figures you lied, it's over.
Like I overhear some normie guys discussing this, and my family members sometimes ask me about this as well, like if I did something with a girl in the holidays/on a trip.Is this true for normies? Do they actually do this? Or is this only reserved for attractive people?Not like I would mind something happening like this, but I guess that's pretty unlikely (at least for me) and it's been getting on my nerves lately when my family members ask me about it.
>>34910359Every /trv/ travel fantasy involves hooking up with a female in some foreign country. So yes it is extremely common. But that doesn't mean it's easy if you have minimal sexual experience. Travel sluts have a very high body count and rarely select for any man not in the top 10%.
No shit after I graduated college I went to the beach and at a club I had a haggard rough 40 year old lady ask if I wanted to go back to her room and party. She was with her husband and he would have come too. I politely declined. Then I made friends with some male nurses that just graduated. We got insanely drunk and they were giving each other IVs. One guy did a chin up off the side of the 7 story balcony. Crazy fuck. We ended up next morning making sandwiches dicks on the beach and asking women walking by to judge and select their favorite type. French tickler, skinny and hooked, short and fat, etc. Ended up picking up two pairs of girls and partied with them and 3 of us group fucked one pair and the other pair of girls hooked up with individual guys. I added the girl who gave me her pussy on Facebook and we never talked again because she lived 4 states away.
>>34910391Get a load of this kissless virgin incel giving advice about women and sex.
>>34910359>Is this true for normies? Do they actually do this?Yes>Or is this only reserved for attractive people?No>But that doesn't mean it's easy if you have minimal sexual experience.Bullshit.t. lost my virginity this way
>>34910359It can happen, yes. I live in London; I had a pleasant but sadly short-lived thing with a very nice Brazilian girl some years ago; she was only there for a couple of weeks.
NA fag here, has anyone here or know someone that has gotten away with not paying or withholding personal information when receiving medical care at a hospital? Hypothetical question: want to do something stupid that might involve physical consequences but don't want go into medical debt?
>murrican healthcare
you at least have to tell us how you intend to hurt yourself if you want tips on fraud
>>34909210I want to try out mountain biking but I'm currently at an age where is probably not a good idea. Also Is not really fraud when you NA healthcare is the one committing fraud.
>>34909295just tell whoever you go with that you don't have insurance, want to take it slow, and be carefulsearch for a guide on how to fall and practice on grassthen if you do break your wrist or whatever - pay someone a hundred bucks to report their wallet lost or stolen
Is it no coincidence that an inch is only a little more then a quarter of an 10cm dick? So if you grow your dick 3 inches by attaining an erection you can fuck your transsexual girlfriend in the anushole while maintaining sufficient phallic power and girth to provide sexual pleasure.Brotip: You dont have to undergo an operation just because you are a loser.
>>34912196Makes no sense. You begin by talking about length and then end with girth. I've read that some guys don't grow much longer when going erect, but I don't know how true that is. I'm kind of thankful that I'm a grower.
