I've been diagnosed with ADHD twice so I finally tried Adderall recently. Even 20mg gives me this mild "body high". But I thought if you actually have ADHD you aren't supposed to feel high at all, right? Was I misdiagnosed? Is ADHD itself just fake and gay?
>>33738034You're supposed to feel high for a little bit as your body gets used to the medication
Lucky, vyvanse makes me sleepy all day
>>33739341That's what I'm concerned about. The whole "stimulants work as depressants for ADHDers" thing makes me think I might've been misdiagnosed.
AMA (Advice).
>>33739362You have all the prerequisites to end your rumination. When I say end, I mean if you're currently ruminating on a certain situation, you can stop that instantly. You can look back at the situation and feel indifference. 0 emotional attachment, 0 investment. It will be like thinking of a random condiment in your fridge. It will not be interesting, just like any other thought in your head.It will free up your emotional space, and you will be able to feel other things beyond your rumination. You'll open up again.It's hard though. Even for me. I made this thread 5 minutes after ending my 4th rumination in the past 2 months, but it took me 2 days to get here. You get better at it, it used to take me weeks, one rumination lasted for two years, and I'm an adult. So it's hard, but it's a skill.You have 90% of what it takes to end the rumination so you're almost there.This is the process, simplified (based in ACT, but deeper, because ACT doesn't end rumination, only detaches from it):>1. Close your eyes, ground yourself, be mindful and ask yourself, what thought immediately comes to mind?>2. Observe your body's emotional response to that thought. What is it about it that you are fearful of?>3. Get to the very bottom of your fear.>4. Accept it.>5. Observe how you feel when you accept it.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33739458The process was simplified. Here is why it's difficult:>Step 1.Simple enough>Step 2.Simple enough>Step 3.Obviously the hardest part.5 minutes before creating this thread, I had been ruminating for 2 days about a person's treatment of me in an event from earlier. I did not know why I was ruminating, but I have a lifetime of history with this person, going back to the 90s, so where do you begin? I grounded myself and they immediately came to mind. I asked what I felt and it was a mix of fear and anxiety, a little bit of jealousy (afraid of losing possessions to them). But why did I feel that (these are shallow emotions)? Because they were disrespectful of me. But why did that matter? Because I was trusting of them. But why was I ruminating? Because I was afraid of their actions after the event, they were going to do X/Y/Z (...catastrophizing). But what is the outcome of that? They would minimize me.I went through this process, digging deep, to find out what I was actually afraid of. I am obviously not afraid of being minimized. I am not jealous of everybody. There was something about this person that scared me, and caused me to ruminate.Eventually, I landed on something like:They would do what I do, but try doing it better, in order to take my thing away from me and neutralizing me as a threat. Once I was gone, they would hop on to the next thing.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33739384This is very relieving to hear. Go hard on ACT. It works.
>>33739505Will do, >>33739458and >>33739498 are an excellent resource that I'll be implementing. Thanks again!
>>33739458>>33739498this is very helpful thanks man and once again i'm happy for you
I'll give an abridged rundown of my life so far leading up to 26 pushing 27.>plapped into existence>somehow mom turns out to be mentally ill and psycho after my little sister is born>didn't get affection and proper raising>dad can't divorce because it would mean financial ruin>be autist >ignore pursuing romance in high school just wanted to get into college >get into college>everything falls apart>learn that I'm ugly and undesirable>mom gets cancer >she goes fucking insane >fights everyday>get concerned for sister>stress too much have to drop out of collegeComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33738653If you don't know what degree you want, then college is not for you. People who pursue degrees know in advance why they do it. They have the end picture in their head already.You'll just waste your time, unless you plan on getting government loans or bursaries.
>>33738718There's no such thing as being shocked out of depression. In fact being depressed is the correct response to a shitty life. A computer with an error code mean's the computer is functionally properly because it recognized an error. The problem is staying in that state for too long is comfortable and it kills you. There's nothing pills and therapy can do for you that sun, grass, honest work, and solemn vows can't do for you better. The light at the end of a the tunnel is a train that isn't going to hit you repeatedly, but like Rocky says you do get better at taking hits and getting back up because you have things and people you value that carry you through.
>>33738333Can't you get disability benefits if you're doing ECT?
>>33738748I get what you mean. I'm just hoping that ECT works because I don't want to be recommended medical suicide because Canadian healthcare.>>33738786I don't know about that.
>>33738786>Can't you get disability benefits if you're doing ECTJust looked it up according to AI I can.Too bad I'm having my last appointment tomorrow morning. I might report back on whether I genuinely feel better like it worked or not. If this thread is still up.
I really love my waifu. I don't wanna say her name here but I love her a whole lot. I own lots of merch for her, commission SFW and NSFW art of her, think about her, and have a dakimakura of her. I'm starting to like her more than most irl women honestly. The thing though is I still want to have sex. I feel bad. I know she's not real but I feel like she's really important to me. I don't know if I should do the waifuism route or not. I'm not even a good boyfriend I read and watch lots of ecchi and hentai and I have some naked anime girl figures that aren't her. I want to be better to her but I still have my sexual desires and I know she's not real. I'm really confused anons....what do I do?
>>33739166Nice anon! I don't wanna say my waifu's name in this thread but I'm happy for you!
>>33738220>Melty blood/type moon maids.Cute.In all seriousness you know what you are doing is wrong because you come here to question about it. You are overindulging in escapism because you have a hole in your life, which is probably romantic/socialization. People with worse lives and people who lack support systems/socialization are more likely to delve into bad habits (such as what you are doing). I am not Goggins or some beacon of masculinity, so I am not going to pretend that I am and lecture you on being a man. HOWEVER, I think you should at least put away the fiction/escapism for a month or so, and go hard in real life socialization. Also lay off the (softcore) pornography for that time, and talk to some women IRL. You should sell the figures and the bodypillow, those are too much imo (mostly the bodypillow). Once you get a solid grasp on IRL socialization you will come back and you won't lean into escapism as much.
>>33739173Thanks for the kind response anon. I won't sell anything because they mean too much to me but I'll be more social and try to talk to girls more often this month.
>>33739182Good on you for socializing, but again be warned on the figure/bodypillow because I really do think they will be offputting to others and any potential .Here is my reasoning for selling the merch:1) Anime culture is looked down up on for various reasons. (if you care about fitting in, which to participate in society you kind of have to play the "game" of socialization and status to some extend)2) Allows you to detach since you feel as if you are in to deep and have formed a parasocial bond with a fictional character.3) You can be (deeply) interested without letting it consume you. You do not have to plaster memorabilia all over your living space just because you like something. You can be a fan without being a fanatic (even though that is where the word fan originated from).
>>33739225They're all very expensive ( most over $150 ) so I a can't throw them out. I'm just gonna socialize and see what happens
As the title says. I'm a 33 year old man looking for a way to be content without being with a woman. Whether it's flings, relationships or just dating - I'm completely done with it. I gone through the whole thing in my 20s and considering I'm now in my 30s, I think I've done all that I can. Right now, in my 30s, I notice more wrinkles, white hairs and even my hair getting thinner and I know that it will likely get worst in my 40s. Seeing as the bar is set so high and almost every women I've met has issues with cheating, I'm completely uninterested anymore. I want to know how one picks up from here? What hobbies did you get into and did they help with giving any type of fulfillment or happiness? I prefer hobbies that aren't too sociable because I get approached by women that interview me and I'm sick of it. I'm thinking about shaving my head to completely avoid it, lol! Again, what are some things I can get into that will help me suppress the chemicals in my body that drive me to the desire of finding a life long partner?
>>33736915>as soon as one treats you somewhat nicely your brain will instantly think of her as potential partner.OP here. That's not what I think at all. I have a lot of experience with women and usually my first impression is when one treats me nicely is that she's scheming (which is what they're doing, even if she's interested) and not that she's a potential partner.
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I won't read imaginary problems threads.
>>33739202Okay, once more bump.
months ago this person fucked me over hard. I'm not going to go into too much detail, but it was at my last workplace and it ended up being quite a bad experience for me as I lost a lot. My hatred for him is....strange. I know who this person is and I can look this person up on the internet, however when I think of doing it there seems to be a block, like my body is afraid of seeing his fucking face on my screen. Is this pure hatred or trauma?
>>33739048I thought they’d give me some fucking leeway. I thought they would at least give me a chance to explain why I did the things I did. I thought that if I came out with it they would consider that as a mitigating factor.
>>33739064Can you elaborate what group and/or site you affiliated with (or at least some hint as to what it did)?
>>33739117Far right.
>>33739064Inscribe it in your head as a future reminder, because this will keep happening. If you lie, then lie all the way. You can't lie when you get hired and then decide to just admit your lie and expect any form of empathy or understanding. They are robots following a script and can't deviate from it.
>>33735913I'm probably late to the thread but literal psych here.It's trauma. You are afraid. You are currently in control and seeing the face of the person who took control away from you jeopardizes your sense of safety. Yet, you feel compelled to look him up. You feel the compulsion because you want to confront your trauma in order to retake control. As long as you don't, the fear of losing control remains.In other words, you want to get over your trauma but you are still not ready.Do you understand rape victims now? This man probably didn't pull down your pants and put his dick in your ass to relieve himself sexually. But imagine if he also did that? How long would it take you to recover?But trust that there is a way. If rape victims can get over their trauma, you definitely can. There is a proven way to do it, and I unironically autodidactically improved on that way. Currently writing a book.t. browsing for inspiration.
I have immense anxiety that gets in the way of doing all of the things I want to do. I've had this anxiety for years and it's primarily caused by OCD and burnout. Whenever I want to engage in any of my hobbies such as watching anime, playing vidya, and especially my creative hobbies like video-editing, I'm immediately overwhelmed with intense anxiety, fear, and dread that makes engaging with these hobbies feel like an endurance test. My body goes into fight or flight mode and it legitimately feels like I'm going to die. This anxiety also comes up whenever I try to socialize or perform any sort of task that needs to be done. The result is that I spend most of my time doing things I'd rather not be doing, like browsing 4chan or watching Youtube, because those are the only things that feel somewhat comfortable for me. Really the only time that I feel any sort of relief is when I masturbate, but I do it so much that my dick barely operates at this point. I spend all of my time feeling guilty because it feels like I'm wasting my time and that I'm depriving myself of the things that matter most to me, but the mere task of doing those things causes me so much anxiety that I'm just not able to do them consistently. How exactly can I alleviate this anxiety, and how can I work towards finally being able to do the things I want without feeling overwhelmed and exhausted? For the record, I'm diagnosed with autism, ADHD, OCD, depression, and generalized anxiety disorder.
>>33736372The masturbation is what's making you have anxiety so bad because it lowers your libido and testosterone which is literally the male ego and the male's source of confidence. It lowers your vibration and takes away from your aura and confidence. So in essence you're destroying and abusing the one thing that's supposed to keep you from feeling anxious all the time. Confident men don't masturbate so you need to stop that immediately. Porn and masturbation should not be a part of your life, at all, in any way shape or form. I guarantee if you fix that problem all the other problems will fix themselves. You can't say you feel anxious and like you're missing out on life and everything that's important to you yet you're masturbating to the point your dick doesn't work. In order to get the pleasure you want, you're gonna have to sacrifice the quick pleasure you get from masturbating. The perfect girl isn't gonna walk through your door if you're sitting there beating off all day. She's gonna be like "Ew." Turn yourself into the kind of guy you'd wanna be with if you were a girl or the kind of person you'd wanna be friends with. If you wouldn't be friends with you why would anyone else?
>>33736372Site ate my post.TL;DR: Neurofeedback.You can get the gear for relatively cheap.
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I won't read diagnosis threads. OP should find an OCD specialist.
Just purchased a used switch lite for around 1/3 of new price over here.Which game should I get to tide me over before pirating on it becomes easier.I like turned based strategies so i was leaning towards either fire emblem, final fantasy tactics, or tactics ogre.Which do you think I should get, and probably.hold its value in the future when I sell it to recoup costs when switch piracy gets better
>>33739029>before pirating on it becomes easier.So several years? The only reason the original Switch got hacked anyway is because of a really easy hardware exploit. There haven't been any software exploits in the OS for 7 years.
I'm going to my psychiatrist next Wednesday. How can I be chemically castrated using legal drugs?I'm currently on some SSRIs and Naltrexone (usually for alcoholics and opioid addicts but can curb the desire to coom) but that's not enough.I want to have ZERO desire to masturbate and completely get rid of sexual thoughts of any kind.The best one I could find was Depo-provera (contraceptive for women) but it would be hard to convince her to give it to me, and it may give me male boobs as a side-effect.Any advice is appreciated, but keep in mind that I've tried EasyPeasy, NoFap, etc.
>>33737047That's fucked up. I just wanna stop cooming to Tifa and gym thots.
>>33737052The only thing that helps is meditating, or maybe magic mushrooms if you can get them
>>33733593Ketoconazole might help? It's an antifungal, but one of its side effects is lower testosterone.
>>33733593trannies used to do it by injecting alcohol into their testicles. testosterone blockers like bicalutamide and spironolactone can also it if you take them for a long time. Doing it as man can potentially lead to really bad health outcomes though. Cognitive decline, osteoporosis and some other stuff.
>>33733609The urge for companionship won't go away if you don't get horny anymore, you just lose a potential level of intimacy and the potential to have said companionship as a result.
Why do I only seem to get attention from women when I have a girlfriend? I am not even out with my girlfriend, but girls will stop me and say that "I'm really cute" and stuff like that... things I didn't even think happened IRL until I got a girlfriend. I am guessing I carry myself differently when I'm dating and they can notice? Or I treat them differently? What is it? I have dated 2 girls in my life, once 5 years ago, and the last few months. I noticed this BOTH times very clearly happening constantly. I do think I am decently attractive, but I am definetly not a 9 or a 10.
>>33738839>Why do I only seem to get attention from women when I have a girlfriend?It's a phenomenon related to the feminine nature.There's a reptilian lizard brain part inside the female subconscious that instinctually makes her wet to guys who can get a lot of bitches.Man can get females = he can secure resources and was able to pass her tests = He is desirable.Man can't get females = he can't secure resources = something is wrong with him, avoid him at all costs.This is what explains guys who were previously invisible to girls, getting a lot more attention when they actually get a girl.
I won't read thinly veiled r9k threads
>start hooking up with girl for about a year>things seem to be building toward a relationship>she gets distant and shady, things eventually fizzle>write it off as typical female behavior>months go by, mutual friends report similar stories of her withdrawing, burning bridges, isolating from everyone in her lifeThe other night she hits me up out of the blue, seemingly to talk about nothing in particular. Then she arrives at her point - there's a wedding coming up. Does she want me to go with her? No. What she wants is to attend the wedding, then sneak out, and have me act as her getaway driver; we are then to spend the night at a hotel, where we will either hookup or she'll kill me in my sleep.Wtf is this? Everything about this plan is harebrained and insane. The hotel isn't very far from either of our houses, so what's the point? Why do I need to be involved at all? Why doesn't she just not attend the wedding?Can somebody help me puzzle out wtf is going on in this woman's brain?
>>33738580She is just acting out a scenario, probably of a runaway bride. You're probably just who she flagged for most likely to go along with it. You're thinking way too deep into this.
>>33738473idk but nice picture OP
>>33738473She might be an avoidant.
>>33738557>>33738611god I can't fucking believe women can do this ;(((THEY CAN'T KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH THIS!!THEIR LIVES ARE SO EASY THAT THEY CAN JUST CONTROL OTHER HUMANS!!!!!I WISH I WAS A WOMAN OH MY FUCKING GOD THEY HAVE IT SO FUCKING EASY ;(((((((((((
>>33738611I dunno, you say that like it's such a run of the mill thing. I don't know anyone else in my life who behaves that way.>>33738627Thanks, I thought it was funny.>>33738631This seems to be the most likely scenario.>>33738686???
Some guys have all the luck. I was born with glass bones and paper skin. Every morning I break my legs, and every afternoon I break my arms. At night, I lie away in agony until my heart attacks put me to sleep. How can I continue to live like this?
I won't read laundry list of woes threads.
>>33738798Read David Goggins and instantly become super human athlete.
These guys vecome more appealing by the minute.I don't see the value in live anymore.It is only a matter of time before i crack and hurt others or myself.
>>33735916Now i found this nihilistic groups online wich share my viewOne of the NML members attacked people with a knifeAfter the police asked him whyHe said he wanted to know if he would feel something
>>33735931I might become the same way.I could kill someone and feel nothing.
>>33735937What else do you wanna know?
>>33735949Thanks for sharing your background. Here are my thoughts.It sounds like you had a good thing going in vocational school. Did you finish your apprenticeship or did that get put on hold due to the conflict with your family? If you at this moment were teleported back there, would you be able to enjoy or do you think your mental state is too fucked atm?I would recommend getting away from your mother and brother as they seem to be a great source of misery to you. Not sure if that's possible for you at this very moment, but based on your financial situation and the fact you've done most of an apprenticeship already, I'd say you're in a better position than most to get the fuck out of there. I would heavily recommend not engaging with these nihilist groups or even listening to them in the first place. Their purpose is not to improve your life, it is to make you comfortable in your misery. Avoid them as they serve to drive your thoughts further and further away fromm anything productive. When I have been in shittier periods of my life, it's made me a lot more receptive to these types of ideologies. For me it was more of blackpill/incel type stuff instead of straight nihilism. Eventually I realized my view of life was going in the wrong direction and I stopped listening to that content. instead I looked at my own life and tried to draw conclusions about the world solely from what I experienced and witnessed with my own eyes. People in the real world will give you a whole range of responses compared to these online spaces that give you the same responses. That's because they gather based on a shared mindset.I recommend just trying to talk to more people. Doesn't have to be real life, you could do it online. But don't regulate yourself to a specific mindset. Get the whole dataset of people. I think you will find that many of them are interesting and will challenge your view of the world. More for my own curiosity, what was your apprenticeship for?
>>33738046Selling cars and car parts
How do i force myself to go bed at 10 pm and stop using ky phone at 8?
>stop using >ky>phoneOh my.>>33734514BASED.
>>33734492I won't read threads posted by subhumans that have no agency, who ask to be told what to think and feel or to somehow be supplied with motivation that they don't have. Nothing can be done to help such people.
Do things in those two hours that don't involve a screen.-do dishes-shower-read-journal-doodle-practice with a musical instrument
>>33734492You put the phone down at 8. Ever try that?
>>33734499FPBPMan up, OP.
So this is my second attempt to get /fit/, and its going like the first:>go to the gym with no plan and no idea how any of this works>do starting Strength or whatever, no idea what good form looks liek beyond some pictures>zero clue how to set up a training plan>no real progress>start going inconsistentlyAlso, its boring as fuck and theres zero satisfaction to me in muh number go up. How the hell do people go there and actually progress? The internet is chock full of contradicting advice, how often you should go how many reps which exercise blah blah and broscience, yet finding a concrete plan that just tells you to do x sets of x thing x times a week apparently needs me to pay a personal trainer.Fuck, in school I just did situps and pushups and got reasonably muscular, why does this shit have to be such a fucking science? At this point I spent more time reading up than actually at the gym. Is this just a goddamn meme, and how am I supposed to get fit?
>>33738358Ask yourself why you want to get fit.
>>33738366Well, originally I wanted to get into Boxing class because doing sports with a friend on occasion made me feel better , so I wanted to get into sports.Coach told me to fuck off and come back when fit after I failed the warmup. So now I'm stuck with this gym garbage again.
>>33738382Boxing is more cardio demanding. I would suggest HIIT. Sprint intervals with running. Maybe twice a week. Fix your diet too. Only meat/eggs/dairy/fish and veggies. Do some fasting to speed up weight loss.
>>33738358If you muscles don't get sore you are doing it wrong
