I love him, but he’s a fucking trainwreck.The guy is 39 and still lives with us. He doesn’t work, doesn’t study, and doesn’t even wake up for breakfast. We literally have to drag him out of bed or he’ll sleep until 2 pm. Sometimes I get up to piss at 3 am and hear him whispering to some online e-girl or whatever the fuck in his room. He only leaves his cave to eat, then goes right back to hoard plates and dirty mugs in there.The only productive thing he does is sports. He plays soccer and he’s actually insane at it. insanely athletic and a solid 8/10 in looks, a total chad on paper. But he wastes his entire life playing fucking League of Legends on a toaster laptop. I reluctantly shared my steam account with him just so his brain wouldn’t completely rot from playing only League, but he still plays till 5 am.I try to get him into other hobbies, like drawing (he used to be great at it), but he won't budge. He won't even go to the grocery store, always makes me go instead.I’m 24, finishing college, and about to start working. My parents are incredibly soft on him but strict as hell with me. He almost died at birth, so I guess they’ve babied him into becoming this unproductive slug. All my other siblings moved out and made something of themselves despite the struggles.I’m moving out soon and I want to throw a bucket of cold water over his head before I completely wash my hands of him and make him not my fucking problem.How do I force some reality into this 39yo toddler before I leave?
>>34720849Have you ever heard the word ENABLER? Why should he change when he has it so soft? Kick him out.
>>34720849usually when people are that dysfunctional it's because something fucked up their psychology and/or reward pathways not because unironically enjoy being a worthless piece of shit
>>34721978This. You can't help people that don't want to help themselves.>>34720909>The only thing that can help men at this point is destitution and despair, he needs to face consequences of his inaction.This. He needs a serious wake up call, a catastrophic event that simply can't be ignored, to change his ways and get a job. That is not your job. Just let it go.
>>34720849>NEET>Wakes up late>only leaves his cave to eat>then goes right back to hoard plates and dirty mugs in there.>does sport>good at soccer>wastes his life on a toaster computer>was good at drawing as a child>don't like going outside>soft parents>He almost died at birthLiterally me, I'm just not 39, way younger, and don't whisper to e-girls at 3am.I'd say, from me knowing myself, that he probably has a mental state that makes his mind work in a different way compared to normal people. I'm literally like him, and I don't seem to find a solution, I tried many times solving this, I even got more productive and stopped being a bum for weeks, sometimes months, but it's inevitable that I return to this state, because it's like I feel more comfortable in this life even if I feel like shit every hour and I need to cope with slop to not go insane.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34720913HAHAHA LIKE DOES HE HAVE ECHOLALIA LIKE A PARROT?YOUR BROTHER'S A PARROT?How'd your daddy stick his hot dog in a bird
I asked a girl out for the first time and documented the events.https://youtu.be/nTuhi5W1mWMWhere did I fuck up?
>>34720926Those guys are retards
>>34720933They are also fucking.
>>34718055>asked a girl out for the first time>>34720820>I'm a 34 year old virgin>>34720926>How much effort are we talkingmore effort than one ask in 34 years, dumbass
why does everything need to be recorded? i hit the dislike immediately, fuck your view count
>>34723357I know its nit much, but most people seem to just sort of stumble into pussy anyway. My friend told me he never did anything as crazy or aggressive as I did.
My wife is 6m postpartum and she had no interest in sex anymore. I knew it might happen but obviously I’m very sexually frustrated. Are there any new dads here with some advice? How to handle this situation?
>>34724013a c section requires even more rest. Just say that you just made this up
>>34724445I said in my original post we haven't had actual sex and can't for a while
>>34722704If she's breast-feeding, there probably won't be any sex until the kid is weaned.
>>34722704Either get a hooker or divorce her and do.it in the most brutal way.She isn't meeting her duties.If she isn't putting out she doesn't deserve love or affection
>>34724457I'm sorry but is her mouth broken too?She is being selfish. She could spend 10 minutes twice a week to suck you off and make you happy. Men need to cum.
why shouldnt i kms if im a subhuman low iq brownoid
>>34717428Live for the McDonald's steak and egg
>>34717428
Have you tried to continue giving life a chance despite your circumstances?
>>34717428are mcsloppers bagels any good?
>>34724448The bagels themselves are not, but the steak and egg sandwich as a whole is pretty good for fast food. It's greasy enough to make up for the dry bagel too
I've been working on myself these last few months. Really heavy subconscious refactoring. So far I have realized I had the following fears holding me back from my true potential:>getting beat up because I talked to someone's girlfriend was a fear of mine>people learning of all the failures in my life was a fear of mine>people thinking I was weird was a fear of mine>being proved wrong when I stated something was a fear of mine>inconveniencing others was a fear of mine>people finding my identity online and ridiculing me was a fear of mine>being taken advantage of was a fear of mine>letting people down was a fear of mine>leaving early and having people talk about me behind my back was a fear of mine>having my stuff stolen due to trusting friends and strangers was a fear of mine>people learning I had no friends and was lonely was a fear of mine>making the wrong decision in hindsight was a fear of mineI'm working on getting past these by rejection therapy. My aim is to get rejected 5 times per day until it becomes mundane and no longer gets in the way of living the life I want.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34724659you've been working really hard on yourself and that's nice.. but yeah it looks like a strong sense of insecurity is behind much of what you describedfirst of all... I hope you come to see that nobody is constantly observing or judging you in the way your thoughts suggestI got past things like that after my teens when I realized I don't have to give all my energy to people around me, because no one really cares about the small details and it's better to put that into myself insteadit may not come across clearly, but what I am trying to convey is that there was more flexibility and freedom after that
how long to heal from porn consumption if you became into watdhing others doing it and develop a cudk fetish
>>34718788Fetishes can't be cured. The most you can hope for is not to make them worse by feeding them.
>>34722397ugh i enjoy romanticising pain and loser bs idk whybut okay thanks for the help>>34722399more shit i can be miserable about do you know if anxiety can lead to this?i think being anxious and having such lowself esteem has lead to that, me thinking "if i am subservient and masochist enough i will be liked"like what does an anxious sadist feel, do these assholes even get anxious?
idk just dont masterbait
Everything in moderation is good. Find out how much porn you really need and limit yourself. The right amount of porn is whatever heals you not hurts you whether its zero porn or one hour a day
>>34723296i need none1 day clean journey i am an addict i cant limit my consumption it goes south when i try>>34722641suck my dick dicksucker6969 and i wont need it please
I tried making a reddit account and each time I click continue on the enter username and password page I get a different server error code, like random numbers and letters everytime (think b16d18, c10bf8, e04cf9, etc.)Am I shadowbanned?
>>34721914It definitely is. A lot of the communities there can not handle being challenged.
Maybe use a different email? IdkAnyway Reddit sucks nowadays. I don't know why you would want to make an account, unless for redgifs porn.Fuck the faggots who banned r/incel.
honestly just get twitter bro its better and they dont give a fuck on there
>>34721921>communitiesNo need to be racist
>>34724505So that I'll suck your dick and go suck the community's dick's opinion and only say what the community repeats 10 times every month with the downvoted content being original.
Met my boyfriend in September. We’re both 23 and this is our first relationship. At the beginning he was very intense. He talked about marrying me, running away together, living out of our car, etc. We spent almost all our free time together.About a month ago I got rear-ended and lost my car, so I’ve been alone more because I don’t have many friends nearby. Since then things have felt different.We planned a trip that fell through, and he invited me to his friend/sister’s party instead. The day of, he uninvited me because it was mostly guys and he thought they’d see me as a “buzzkill.” He has a pattern of inviting me places and then choosing his friends instead.The next few weeks we barely saw each other. I took off work to see him, but he sent me home early one night because he was tired and wanted to see his friends. He stayed out until 2 AM with them, then was too tired the next day. He also went away for July 4th weekend and didn’t text or call me.I told him I felt like he prioritized his friends over me. He said he wants to go away with friends for his birthday in September, and I got upset because we haven’t even taken a trip together, while he’s already gone away with friends multiple times.He was supposed to come to my allergy shots last Thursday like he always does but he slept through them and forgot.He said I need to be more independent. He also said the honeymoon phase is over, our spark has been coming in waves, and he doesn’t want to talk about marriage anymore because we’re young and he got carried away before. However, he says he loves me, I’m his best friend, and he doesn’t want to break up.He still reassures me, tells me I’m beautiful, and has been taking me places I want to go. He said he’ll work on not ditching me for friends.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34716311> he invited me to his sister’s party >then uninvited me because it was mostly guys >and he thought they’d see his gf as a “buzzkill”If that were my brother, I’d be offended he uninvited one of the few female guests from my party for being a girl. You should call his sister and become her friend instead.
>>34716311The honeymoon phase is over because you guys are losing ambiguity. U need to up the ambiguity, romance and desire lives in the confused ambiguity. Once things settle and u know where you stand with one another, desire instantly collapses. You need to seem like ur cheating basically and not give a fuck about him and he will come RUNNING back I promise this
>>3472397514 year old ESLs should not be giving advice
>>34724024I'm fucking right when u lose ambiguity u lose desire and it collapses
>>34724040>when u lose ambiguity u lose desireYeah when you're 14 lmao
Loving couples editionPrevious >>34718982
>>34726083>Even then if he's otherwise perfect and good with his hands and mouth...might be worth keeping.can work if she's 19 years old and thinks she will get married next year, but standards can only go up and never down, so if she gets a few more bfs and discovers that she can be picky, then why would she be charitable?
>>34726094Hear that flatties you're unfit for reproduction and breastfeeding
>>34726098Bro I'm 34. I feel like there's a middle ground where if you've only experienced like 4 dicks you think there has to be something better or more perfect out there but you touch enough of em and you get over that. I'm less picky not more lmao. Only thing I'm more picky about now than I was at the start is face.
>>34726088Thats literally average. Nothing special, but it gets the job done. If you stop crippling yourself with insecurity so much that you can't even get it anywhere near a pussy.
>>34726067I like them. They’re fun to play with
I have been attending a sort of cycling club lately with a buddy. In the group chat we will pick times to all meet up and go cycling. Usually about 4-6 of us total. I actually have fun doing it and I do get to talk to more people I guess. I am a bit more introverted. Anyway, a woman from it messaged me on the side of the group chat and started asking me about cycling routes that she could try etc. I have cycled with her many and the rest of the group quite a few times at this point. She also asked me about cycling tips in general etc. Long story short, a few days ago we chat for awhile and she sends me a unprovoked nude image of herself via direct text message. Never received a nude in my fucking life. She then asked if I could send some as well. I didn't and now things feel awkward. I would never send a nude of myself but I am really uncomfortable with how ready she was to send it I guess. She didn't strike me as a weird person. But it was just her, in front of her fridge, butt ass naked.Realistically, I just don't want things to be awkward at the cycle meet ups. I was having fun. Now it seems odd. My other friend told me I am a retard for not sending anything back but I really didn't feel comfortable and nor would I ever feel comfortable enough to do that. What do you think? Also, is there a way to make things not awkward? I am not afraid of her or anything, I just don't want the situation in general to become weird and ruin the feeling of the cycling. I have heard about women getting random dick pictures from men but never the other way around. I wasn't appalled by it, I just felt awkward because it felt like she sent it to me for no reason as I was definitely not sending one back.
>>34724086She wants to have sex with you. I would personally avoid her, because women that move that quick sexually tend to be extremely crazy and not in the fun way. In the "ruin your fucking life" kind of way. I've had the experiences and they were never good wholesale.
>>34724139Feels weird because I assumed I really wasn't all that sexually attractive. I think I am okay but I couldn't see a woman actively being the one to pursue. I assume they can all see my autism and it repels them. I just like cycling. If she didn't move as fast as she was trying to, I'd probably go on a date with her but the nude was just too much for me. It felt really extreme and skipped a lot of steps as to how I perceived a relationship should progress. However, it makes me feel like an idiot because it seems like any "regular" man would have jumped on her immediately. I just didn't feel that way though.
Tittle explains most of it, from what I've heard getting to know the interests of autistic people makes them like u but idk if that would make her like me.We are both 19 if anyone cares and she has a huge adiction to roblox, minesweeper and Will Wood.
>>34718709dont worry op, they just projecting their suicidal tendencies because an austictic girl would never fall for their dog asses. I think she already likes you if she shared her special interests.Just don't stres it, cortisol is bad for you after all :D
Fuck.Quick update, I feel like a failure. Today she invited me and some other friends to her house and I did nothing. I was always on the other side, literally; while on a table while on her couch I didn't really get to talk to her, there was always distance between us. I guess i should try harder next time.
>>34722118You got invited to her house. Take a win
>>34718709I'm going to give you a very important piece of life advice here: girls either like you or they don't. You can't make them like you.
>>34722118Time to kys.
How does it normally go if someone says they want to set you up for a date with another person? I have never been "set up" in my life but I don't even know how it really goes. I am afraid to say yes because what if I look at the woman and don't like her? Long story short, a Turkish grandmother I do yard work for said she would love for me to meet her daughter because I am apparently so nice. I think I am a nice guy but I am always hesitant because I am basically an autist too. Anyway, she said her daughter has had bad luck with guys and she really wants her to meet someone nice. So if I tell her yes, what usually happens next? I am going to be real with you, my biggest fear is that I say yes and the woman they want me to meet is obese or has kids or chain smokes or something. So to the people who have been "setup on dates" before, how does it normally go? Tell me all details and leave nothing out.
>>34720766"Bob, I know a girl named Jane you might like. Want to meet up with her?""O K""Jane, I know a guy named Bob you might like. Want to meet up with him?""O K""Bob, here's Jane's number. Give her a call.""Hello, is this Jane? This is Bob. Our friend Joe seems to think we'd get along. Want to meet for Coffee?""O K""Great. How's Starbucks Tueday at 3:00? I'll be the nervous blond guy in the blue shirt."
>>34720766In general, women (including your own mom) set men up on dates to give a woman a chance because she thinks the other woman deserves a good guy. You get singled out as “a good guy” and they start trying to hook you up with women who have problems because they’ve clocked you as somebody who will just accept it. Who you are and what you want is completely fucking irrelevant. You are an item that is to be offered to another woman.I’d say to try this one out simply because the lady is old and not American, so it’s slightly less likely that this is a “give a fucked up woman a chance” situation. If you don’t like the woman for a reason that would piss off the old lady (single mom, smoker, fat, etc), then just make up some other reason that you didn’t like her so you don’t ruin your ability to do work for her.
>>34722607Why would a American woman try to pawn off a woman who doesn't have her shit together onto a man they consider nice? It seems mean spirited.
>>34723802You have the female concept of personhood reversed there.It is not mean spirited, especially to them. The woman is nice and she deserves something nice to happen to her. The woman is not being pawned off onto a man, the man is being presented to the woman as an easy option. I guess you could think of it like offering a healthy cricket to a frog. Mean spirited toward the cricket, nice thing to do for the frog. Depends on with which one you sympathize and women sympathize with other women more than you. Just how it is.
guysss i need help, i quit janitorai around new year’s bc i kiiinda sorta unfortunately very much got addicted to it and it almost ruined my relationship.BUT- i rlly rlly liked discovering people’s ocs + cool worldbuilding/lore and omg some of these creators’ writing was so amazing that i am honest to god struggling to find an alternativelike?? wattpad is just full of… weird middle aged women’s romantasy revenge daydreams… god forbid you say smth politically incorrect on tumblr. ao3 is mostly fanfiction. like?? where do i go now to find actually good writing and characters/worlds to obsess over?
Use AI as a teaching tool.
>Somehow wet the bed as a grown up>Develop peeing OCD and have to go to the bathroom every 10 mins when it's bed time and keep waking up in the middle of the night to pee.Please help.
Have you tried elevating your feet 2 hours before bed? Piss is stored in the feet
>>34719283put a cork in your cockholehow often do you drink water, and do you have problem with prostate or bladder or peeing in general? people who pee but doesn't empty it completely has to pee more often or so I've heard, I'm no pee expert but maybe you should get a medical checkup
>>34719283I don't suppose it has occurred to you to see a doctor. There are a variety of treatable physical ailments that could cause this.
>>34719684I only wet the bed once more than a year ago. The real problem is the trauma it caused me.
How often does this normally happen to people?So this morning I was asleep and I had this dream that made me aware that I was asleep but I couldn't fully wake up. I was still stuck in my dream, but I was aware of my bed and my body, and I couldn't move my body and so that caused me to panic and scream and try to move my head.And I could hear my screaming. Cause I could also hear my voice in real life from my real ears. That's how I knew I was making sounds in real life in my sleep.Eventually I woke up as my body stopped being paralyzed. And I was like wtf.The last time I was half asleep and paralyzed was years ago.
>>34723721>Supposedly supernatural phenomenon happenlol I remember years ago I had a dream where I was being electrocuted by a billion volts of lightning going through my body from my head to my toes. I didn't feel any pain but it felt like I was being violently shaken like I was in an earthquake. You would think an experience like that would mean I was ascending into a higher plane of existence or about to meet god. Felt like it too. Personally I think it was sleep paralysis. But holy shit that was quite an experience. I hope it wasn't a seizure though...
>>34723619You're tainted
>>34723751>>34723619Nigger it's just sleep. For instance I feel pain when I'm dreaming.Dreaming, Paralysis and consciousness are 3 different unrelated mechanisms. I get sleep paralysis all the time because I stay up late a lot, mostly when I sleep on my back, and I dream my room at present time accurately. I have been conscious at the time the dream is being weaved in a particularly fatigued but unrestful night, and it's like shit's rendering before your eyes as you think of them.Also, the paralysis mechanism is pretty fucked, it also involves your eardrums tensing to reduce the sounds of your surroundings further, it can happen your eardrum gets a spasm and you hear thundering explosions that drown your voice. As you wake up your dreaming part may interpret the sound of a fan like wind, then rain, and finally a fan.Also I have had inception style dreams in which I'm in my room, I wake up in the evening, then I wake up in the middle of the night, to finally wake up in the afternoon in reality.
>>34723799>Also I have had inception style dreams in which I'm in my room, I wake up in the evening, then I wake up in the middle of the night, to finally wake up in the afternoon in reality.Dude, you were a dude playing a dude, disguised as another dude!
>>34723799>I feel pain when I'm dreaming.I have never in my entire life felt pain while I was dreaming. Wtf? Am I weird?>I have had inception style dreams in which I'm in my room, I wake up in the evening, then I wake up in the middle of the night, to finally wake up in the afternoon in reality.I have never had dreams like that. How the fuck do people have such dreams? I'm so fucking jealous of you people. I'm 40 years old for fuck sake!
