>>34782462
No. It looks weird as hell. All the body must be petite.

>>34782742
If i wanted attention i’d straight up lie and say i have a massive chest or something plus nobody’s forcing you to answer, i postes this to have a straight forward response

>>34779553
Tits don't matter much.

>>34782062
Yeah i see your point, i’ll try to stay kind and thin to balance out my lack of chest

>>34779553
You have the type of body that is coveted by billionaires.

>>34777004
If you complain about wanting to quit because of coworkers to anyone in real life they will tell you to man up and stop being sensitive and let yourself be some old angry faggots bitch because quitting is for pussies.

>>34776937
Change the job.
Thats literaly it. My last boss was a women which was altight, but in a span of 1y 2 male coworkers left becuase she gave them shit for stupidest things. From team of 8 the only males that were left was me and some duchebag that had higher position. Guess what? She started to get on my shit next and I just quited 4 months later, because its just not worth your nerves and mental health.
I confronted her that shes a bad manger that runs the team via conflict and escalates arguments on daily basis, people threat to interact with her at times and she pick on male workers while protecting the female ones. She didnt had any arguments, didnt offer any apology/promise of change and we just part our ways.
Seriously, people should be more proactive and dont tolerate bullshit managment from bad coworkers. The World would be better for all.

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>My boss is a lazy, angry narcissist that doesn't really train us well or communicate to us new responsibilities so we don't know what to do most of the time and then he gets mad when we don't do things to his impossibly high standards.

So, I had a narcisstic, abusive Indian Muslim manager. He literally drove me insane and I ended up going insane for it, took disability and everything, and it carried over into my next job. Eventually after a year of therapy I managed to get over it. I realized he was a retarded pajeet who was incompetent and a dumb diversity hire. I also realized that most managers are clueless retards. If they were competent they would be directors and executives. All middle managers literally go through an attention cycle that lasts from 4 days to two weeks.

>I've been dealing with this shit for 3 years and so I have a lot invested in this job but at the same time I'm miserable and want to leave. The plant manager likes me and wants me to stay and I like him so it's hard to leave him hanging by leaving, but at the same time I have to think about my health and happiness.

And that's the dumb as shit thinking that keeps you from achieving happiness. I would bet my lunch if you left and had another job magically lined up Monday and you walked in your first day you would feel better. Look, here's a reality you need to sink in:

All work is transactional. That's it. It's a transaction between parties. You show up and give time and talent for money. You are not there to make friends or find love. You are there to make money to go pay bills and live your life. If it stops working or the conditions are shit you leave. You don't sit and wait, you don't try and be a harbinger of change. You just find another position and leave. You never stay because you like somebody there. In the job world it's all about you, because I guarantee if your work buddy got tossed into a room and HR threatened their job they'd lie about you to save themselves.

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>>34777058
What the fuck is there not to understand? Read a newspaper article about the K Shaped Economy. Right now businesses are reporting record valuations and profit, but the average joe is getting fucked in the ass because the profits the business are getting are also being inflated due to workplace layoffs and staffing cuts. AI is letting companies cut employees.

>>34777048
Well, you don't deserve to be treated like a slave or a prisoner for showing up, working hard, and doing your best and being a productive member of society, which you are. You are at least that. Take stock in that. Don't ever let somebody abuse you. Avoid miserable people and the unlucky, they are like a disease that can infect you.

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>>34784556
why are you talking to me like this? no one's abusing me i swears

>>34783356
>Does being a fat fuck automatically means the doors of dating are haram for me? Like, "don't even bother"?
Yes. And with that height, its completely over. Hit the gym

>>34783404
if you're obese its gonna take like 6 months from your skin flabs to recover when you do lose weight, so best time to start is now.
cut out sugar, high fructose, seed oils, and any reprocessed foods. stick primarily to meat and vegetables or beans and rice (both make a complete protein) if you're a poorfag. dry beans and rice is practically free.
i've also found if you barely season your food and primarily eat the same thing, you'll eat much less of it. you'll start to go crazy after a month or two of it but it will also do you the favor of shrinking your stomach size by that time you have to add variety/more seasoning.

also most sauce in the US at least is also slop. read every ingredients label and count your calories. for exorcise try more aerobics than strength. long walks or runs.
cut out booze too if you're drinking.

if you're in your 20s you have plenty of time to turn the ship around.
when you do lose weight make sure you're still not dressing like a teenager and look well put together. people judge you in 30 seconds.
get a second opinion on hair/dress/facial hair

>>34783356
Fellow 91kg at 170cm 30 year old guy reporting in

Yes, from unfortunately very, very extensive experience - yes.

All of the attention I ever got from girls (and gfs) were when I was sub 70.
Yes, unfortunately that measley number of 20kg is making that huge difference in your life. Personality and fears can be worked on. I am not concerned for you or me.

Look like the role - you become it.
It's harder to pretend confidence when you're a fat fucker like us. We can RP - but everyone sees it in the face, in the body. Personality alone cannot carry this.
Maybe exceptional skill or social status can. But not personality.

as long as you didnt take any highly experimental genetic therapeutics (like mod. mrna so called vax) and are otherwise healthy besides overweight, you can just lose weight? i dont get what your problem is?
you have adipositas I, so maybe go to a doc? he might give you a plan, prescribe some weight loss medicine that bounds metabolitic fat (NOT deadly drugs like ozempic) and off you go doing sports ect
you know you can just lose weight, if you want aka WILL it.
i observe that many people do not have a strong WILL and therefore dont DO as they want or feel or wish. and if they want but still dont do then they are just lazy (or indeed have a medical illness making them actually unable to lose weight which is extremely rare). all of this is fixable at least to some degree
>>34783455
personality no, but character.
but even then, people perceive first what the eye sees and thats unfortunately a huge blob in their field of view. they will then have respect for your character but still pity or have some compassion for your unhealthy body
i can only speak for myself of course
>t. non judgemental aquarius

>>34784304
>first what the eye sees and thats unfortunately a huge blob in their field of view.
Are people really that shallow?

>>34783574
He should have, yes, but it's not rape.

I wouldn't care if the legal system screwed him, in particular, over with a rape charge, but the idea that women have no responsibility for their own words is completely unworkable at best. It's arguing that not only do you need affirmative consent (itself with a big a grey area in cases where a sexual relationship already exists), but you ALSO need to that "yes" to occur in an arbitrarily satisfactory way, like being long enough after the last refusal or counterbalanced with enough enthusiasm (however you'd even prove that) relative to the number or strength of the "no"s.

In principle, sure, we all know that this is a douchebag who took advantage of a spineless woman. But it's hard enough to enforce laws against forcible rape without introducing all of these layers of subjectivity, and the collateral damage of creating that much ambiguity isn't worth it when all you get is *maybe* punishing a couple dudes who prey on women who can't be assed to advocate for themselves (read: good luck ever getting these types of women to press charges).

>>34779115
Both because sodomy is Haram you raging faggot

>>34779115
they're both extremely context dependent but neither sounds like rape

you'd need to see a reenactment to judge in both cases

it all hinges of the precise definition of these phrases:
1: "giving in", "pressures you", "you say no several times but ultimately agree to do it"
2: "physically has to force the sex to happen", "go along", "initial push"


and by the same token, you need to understand how irrelevant these things actually are:
"who you don't have romantic feelings for but have flirted with"
"recently met and clearly like each other, have done stuff before once while super drunk, and you agree to go to his room"
"you didn't want things to happen that quickly(he wouldn't know this, u never said it) but also you never say no, "


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>>34784524
where's the fucking rape line?
is everything crossing it now?

>>34784369
are you trying to quit porn or go to the extreme?

you'll eventually sink down to the subbasement of gooning to cheese pizza. when that happens, it would be best that you take your own life before you harm someone

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>>34784493
since op left the thread, will you share my cave with me?

>>34783063
>make things for other people
not how you should go about it. you need to make things for yourself. if others find it neat, cool, if not, fuck them.

>>34782533
what makes you happy and contented, anon? that's what comes next. if you don't know, explore and find out. joy is best when it comes from simplicity and playfulness in exploration

>>34782616
a soul sucking whore who will betray

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>>34782533

Didn't take long for anons to start talking about dick and completely missed the thing that should be foremost in OPs mind. Is this child his? It takes nearly a week for the egg to travel and attach to the uterus lining and longer for the hormone levels to reach a point a test can detect pregnancy. So OP needs to log all the times he was not around his wife a month ago. When the child is born a paternity test is appropriate.

>>34781866
I'm pretty sure my trad wife who works from home with me didn't have time to fuck someone at 1pm when I went out to get lunch on a monday, but thanks for trying to plant that idea.

>>34781100
Tummy time is normie adv

Sit them up properly. They're not going to die if you're there paying attention and going in as slow sessions as tummy time. My kid rolls his dad's barbells around for fun.

>>34772276
Idk I don't have kids myself but I guess youre already reading a lot if books on maternity and child development.
Make sure you read good books by looking at the credentials of the author, check the reviews by other people in the field and make sure is not a disgraced doctor or educator, there are many of those.

>>34784178
Money was beloved in his time and disgraced is a standard for academics to use amongst each other.

>>34778158
You did it before. You can do it again.

>>34778158
>i find life easier when i'm in love with someone
Hmm, it's a bit much when i'm in love. I prefer not to be in that state.

>>34781630
True. OP is capable of being loved.

>>34778167
>>34778196
She went through MASSIVE schizo mental health issues and joined a cult whilst completely insane. She has been on a lot of meds which made her gain weight.

I wish her the best tbqh. She had a rough life after playing Cassie from skins.

i guess the real goal is to just learn to not want it in the end i mean i think it might be best

>>34784187
It's a retarded post, and you are gay, but I had the same with my ex past a certain point - she made me feel not good around her anymore, so because of my heart I stopped fucking her.

>>34784187
time to leave her unless you just don't want sex the rest of your life.
prolonging it is going to do more harm than good.
were you hoping for something else cause i doubt any of us are going to be able to get your dick hard for her.

>>34784187
so instead of being an adult and saying to her, "hey, i care about you but i no longer want to be in a relationship", you try to get her to leave by becoming an alcoholic? are you retarded?
the most important thing is to NOT tell her about the sexual attraction part, as that would kill her self esteem. you two just aren't compatible and you need to be honest with her about that. it's not your burden, you just are too afraid of being a man and actually handling the situation like an adult. you are hurting yourself, and you are hurting her by continuing this relationship.

>>34784187
There's always someone who does the fucking.
If it isn't you, then it's someone else.

>>34780249
>planning for the future
to give some perspective
ive been in a job where i was alone in the forest for 6 months straight and had to shit in the woods. no johnny on the spot. no wash basin. just squatting like ivan.
i'd eventually had pack rats that would unbury my shit and make nests of it in the hood of my truck, which eventually caught fire. no running water. no way to shower but hiking to creeks to hydrate and rinse off on days off (working 20 days in a row with 1 off)
i'd have to go out at night in the middle of work and shoot the packrats because the bucket traps wouldn't work on them and they'd just eat the bait that i needed for mice/chipmunks. i was so panicked they'd eat the wires of my vehicle (which they eventually did).
i'd tell that story to anyone interested, whether it was my girlfriend at the time or future ones. if they don't want to date me over the crazy situation i was in, so be it. i'm not going to sweat it.
it's an unfinished house. who cares? like i said, if you're taking them back to your place and not a bar, coffee shop, or what have you, just get a hotel room or go to theirs.

>>34780288
>i didn't tell my parents for years about my relationship because i didn't trust them. when they found out they tried sabotaging the relationship as well
>my mom thinks she did what was best for me, and i forgive her for that and don't hold her accountable for it or my actions.
ok, how did you get to that point? because I DO hold her accountable for every decision, every single stupid "advice" she gave me, every time she used something that I gave her *against me*, every attempt to fuck me over, every time I remember how she beat me and let other people treat me like shit, every time she tells me how she could have built a great life but didn't, and instead gave me poverty has affected me to this day.
I know this is a stupid example but, have you ever watched "back to the future"? ever seen how actions of the past completely change the future? my mom tried to steal money from me WHEN I WAS HELPING HER HAVE HER OWN HOUSE, and broke my trust in her to the point of make me feel threatened.
I had felt like shit for decades for not being able to help her, yet as soon as she could take advantage of me, she did it. at the time I realized she probably was narcissistic and assumed she might try to fuck me over, but I didn't know how, until it happened. I thought she might have gone to the point of trying to extort me or some shit like that.
ever felt that deep fear, sadness and rage against someone for being stabbed in the back by the person you loved and tried helping?

>>34780323
>interesting story
did you ever meet someone while living like that? I don't see that detail in your story.

>like i said, if you're taking them back to your place and not a bar, coffee shop, or what have you, just get a hotel room or go to theirs.
I don't like wasting money, effort and resources on momentary shit. see what I mean by being stingy?
also, I like fixing stuff. I don't mind living like this if it means improving my tomorrow. and I *WILL* improve my living conditions.

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>>34780282
>basic needs
like i said as long as you can get it managed in weeks, it sounds just taffy. god speed and stay motivated.
i think you should still be pursuing people while you're doing it. if you go out on a date with someone and just get coffee and go for a walk it'll motivate you to fix the house up faster.
>is this stupid trying to fix one thing at a time
yes 100% it is. the world doesn't work that way. it sounds like you're better able to focus like this, which is a strength (myopic attention) and a weakness (unable to multitask), but its stupid to wait because the person you might date might have a relationship by the time your house is complete
>evil people taking advantage of me
at some point you have to become vulnerable, which allows people to take advantage of you.
i'd write down some barriers you don't want crossed in a relationship that might lead you to getting taken advantage of based on past experiences. something that might trigger them taking advantage of you.
for me i hate texting because text conversations on the phone go on for hours i don't want to spend. if people text me with something that warrants more than 1 response or a yes/no answer. i just tell them to call me, or call them. Or tell them my rules around texting. Most people can figure out by me taking it to a call that i'm playing by my own set of rules and adapt accordingly without conflict.
idk what yours are. if you don't like physical touch or people getting too emotional. i'd figure out what crosses the line for you.

OP here
I think I'm kinda sorta psychologically broken... I can't stop obsessing about how my own mom fucked me over after pretending to be a victim of others (her family, her coworkers and bosses, ...) and a good, "moral" woman for so long, how she has done a lot of damage to me simply by opening her stupid fucking mouth at the perfect moments to show me how much she hated me and my life decisions, and wanted to use me for her own benefit.
I'm thinking of leaving my house, building some small business while I'm away, and using it to make money. that would be my "compensation" and a sort revenge from all of that. only problem is that I bought this house for multiple purposes: to live in it, to use the space for my personal projects and other stuff, to have some security and privacy, and so on.

all of this makes me so fucking mad. I've wasted so much fucking time on this... it has been my life project, and this goddamned bitch transformed it into a fucking nightmare.

>>34784328
>building some small business
I mean, in it. like a b&b, some sort of corner shop, whatever.

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>>34779348
>have i met the cops
what?

>>34783002
Have you dealt with them? There's a reason why your phone now alerts them of your location. They are totally the ones who sent their informants here to fuck with me. I hear a truck engine rev every time I post something about them on /pol/.
They turned off the generator during the day after I signed up for firearm courses to get a gun. Them not being the only ones shooting daily takes away enough power to make them fearful and a tiny bit more respectful

>>34778971
This is why hoas exist

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>>34783017
no, not at all. but i've owned guns my entire life and worked for the government in the past so i guess i got a pass to saying whatever i want here and getting a free entry to every list

>>34779057
lmao

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>>34783330
go to work?

>>34783330
Fix stuff yourself, lazy piece of shit. Don’t contribute to this gig economy, learned helplessness bullcrap.

>>34783474
why would I do it myself when its their responsibility to fix it for free

>>34783643
So you don’t need to be assed with someone coming over and cramping your style.

>>34783330
go visit your granparents
go visit your parents
go visit your friends
go visit your siblings
go visit war veterans
go visit animal shelters
go visit some one in jail
go visit old people
go visit hotel
go visit
>go visit

>>34784055
Continue taking your meds and working on your depression. And working out, if you have the energy with meds. If you can get your mental illness under control, I think you have a good chance at love

You're not invisible if they cross the street while you're walking.

>>34783793
Most of Mexico remains very unsafe. Only real exceptions are Yucatan, Chiapas, and the Bajia. Oaxaca is less dangerous than Sonoro or Jalisco, but it still isn't safe. To get a sense, look up the murder rate for your Canadian city and compare it to anywhere in Oaxaca.

>>34783827
I was also contemplating just dumping a bunch of money on a tour group or something.
Tbh though I really want to go out drinking though lol
I feel like tour groups will be restrictive. I did want to go to Guangzhou and Zhangjiang in china though and usually tours don't go there. I want to see their tech districts though. But language will be an issue.....

I'm just worried I'll get to the Phillipines and spend the whole time alone and feel like I didn't experience anything...

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>>34783769
You'd be doing yourself a much bigger favor if you took a rope, tied it around your neck, and killed yourself.

>>34783842
Tour groups would make Mexico a lot safer but it does come at the expense of less freedom of movement and probably no shrooms

Have you tried lurking the philippines thread on >>/trv/ ?

>>34783925
>Have you tried lurking the philippines thread on >>/trv/ ?
I didn't even think of that. Thanks

>>34780387
Na. Take this mentally ill bs elsewhere. No one owes you life.

Op you want to see your boyfriend as a father one day trying to keep a daughter too useless try to keep herself alive? Tell him so.

>>34778121
Cuck him. He cucked you with a vtuber. Cuck him with a real man.

I never understood the vtuber epidemic, like either jerk to 3D or 2D, not some weird amalgamation of both

>>34778121
Dump him and find a bf who isn't into faggot shit like vtubers jesus fucking christ

>>34778490
I’d say it’s more like Avatar.