since summer started ive done nothing but mope in my room, i have no friends, no real hobbies and no interest in leaving my house. due to my Asperger's and a traumatic brain injury i got at 8 i have a lot of trouble making friends irl and online (i am retarded). i feel hopeless and destined for a life of solitude,, i want more then anything to just have friends but like i said i can never seem to really make any. what should i do?? i put myself out there in discord servers and stuff but i always end up being ignored.. and ive pretty much given up on ever making friends irl.i dont want to spend another summer alone and depressed
same here. luckily a game release will make my life more interesting
What are your interests?
>>34651335i like my little pony and collecting toys. i also like watching youtube and drawing. sometimes i bake and i have 2 pet mice
>>34651299>>34651362There's no helping it then. You gotta take initiative and talk to people first. If you can, go to irl clubs or meetup.com events and try making friends with the people there.
>>34651383sigh
>Task is something I want to do>Task is something I enjoy doing>Task is something I can do easily>Task is something that I could do quickly>Task is something I could even make money off of>Still can't bring myself to do the task and get anxiety over starting it, and get the desire to do other things instead even when I do manage to start working on ithow do I fix this
>>34651246>how do I fix thisIDK i'll do it later.
>Match with half a dozen women over a few different dating apps>They are interested>Simple talks of what they like. Movies, music, etc>End up getting ghosted by all, usually within a day of talkingEvery single time. I know it’s because Chad swooped in, but how the fuck is one supposed to counteract that if they can’t be Chad? I’m like a 6.5/10. Is online dating really just this fucked? This isn’t even venting. It’s a genuine question, as to how one works around this. I’m never hiring a prostitute, and I am no longer in college. What does one even do in this situation? And no, I will not off myself. Kek.
Wanted to share this. Women are barely paying attention to this app and being complete flakes not caring a damn that you might only have matched with them, the women have hundreds of guys and are just fumbling them all because they don't even want a date. This is so frustrating.
>>34640255>I know it’s because Chad swooped inCorrection : you imagined this. Far more likely is that you have the ick aka dropped a load of spaghetti.
>>34649038He pulled them out of his ass.His basic point might be valid though - that the proverbial top 5% of men on dating apps could have 2-4 hook ups a week or 20-odd a month and that people on dating apps are make decisions based on very shallow criteria.The gold age of dating apps is long past at this point.
>>34650560It's not going to suddenly make you attractive. Quite the opposite actually. You always have to keep in mind that the reason you don't have success in online dating is because you are not good looking enough. Not because le evil app is hiding your profile or anything.
Incels really are homosexual for this imaginary "Chad", huh.
If I masturbate everyday, will that lower my risk of getting prostate cancer?I'm 40 and I love my penis. I would kill myself if anything were to ever happen to it.My penis is the very best of me.
>>34639021>My penis is the very best of me.Sadly, that is probably true.
>>34644738lol shut up you nigger
>>34639021I need to know this
>>34648243Like I really really need to know this
>>34639457just trust me on this and buy a rudeboy. you can milk yourself dry on anal flexion alone.
26 yo broke neet inkwell. Should I follow my passion and do a 3d animation degree or become a trucker?If the former, I can only get state funding for 2 years, and it's a 3 year course.
>>34649651Maybe become a trucker until you earn enough money to pay for the third year of an animation degree. That way, if you can't get an animation job, you can always go back to trucking
>>34649651I hear the arts are a good stable career
>>34649660Second this, art is a meme hobby and AI does it better. Indians, however, don't drive better.
obviously get a real job not some meme "degree"
>>34650364>>34650436I heared trucking is 'dead end' with no progression. Also my ex is unironically doing art for a job.
is there any way to really know? all i ever hear is "people who wouldn't usually bother will tell you" but wtf does that even mean? i feel like anyone i show is put under immense pressure to tell me its good
get feedback from people that aren't people that know you. countless fiction forums and reddits and everything else. post and see what score you get
>>34650875>i feel like anyone i show is put under immense pressure to tell me its goodThere's a writing general on /lit/. Whether those anons are worth listening to is up to you, but you might at least get some honest feedback.
So my right side is inflammed again and I dont know how to fix it. One of my tooth is exposed and the resr isnt looking too good as well.How do I fix damaged gums?
>>34645005This sometimes happens if you have high teeth and get braces that pull them in line with the others
>>34645786That's not a thing>>34645830Btw waterpik is a waterflosser as mentioned here >>34645214
>>34645786Yeah. My old dentist said that you need to brush the gums as well gently but I dont know about that
>>34645005do you floss after brushing?
>>34649756I dont but every time I brush there is some blood. I use mouthwash 2x a day whatsoever
Why are women these days only looking for "fuck buddies" instead of boyfriends or husbands?
>>34648762kek so fucking true and on point
>>34645432>>34645469I'm starting to realize I might just be a fuckbuddy cause we only hangout like once or twice a week only very late at night to do one thing(fuck) i dont even have her phone number we just talk on discordBut I want her to be mine and I want to take her places and just hangout instead of fucking all the timeDid the roles of men and women reverse somehow?
>>34650993Yes, you are her bitch. Nothing more than a glorified cheap disposable sex doll. She sees zero boyfriend material in you. You are nothing but a dildo.
>>34650993Lol dildo boy
>>34651023>>34651028
me and my ex had a pretty brutal but confusing breakup, it ended in anger and uncertainty and he wanted space before considering getting back togetheri personally have already explained to him that i want to grow from this and try again, but he is unsure and needs time to think and cool off from all the emotional distressits been around 2 weeks now, i sent him a longer text on mail thinking he wouldn't see it right away and wanting to respect distance, but the anxiety of uncertainty is weighing down on me a lot so i sent him a message 2 days ago asking which way hes leaning more towards (cutting me off permanently or also willing to try again) he said he wanted to read the email first before giving me an answer and i told him id rather he take his time to respond even if its a couple of days, i want to respect the distance but the anxiety is crippling.i wish i just could get a yes or no answer so i wouldn't need to spend so much time trying to predict the outcome or constantly check if hes said anything yet but ill give him the time he needshow do i deal with the anxiety? and how long is reasonable to wait for a response? i get he needs to distance himself to calm down but i also don't feel like i can wait forever
>>34649870If waiting is the hardest part for you, then distract yourself, hang out with friends, exercise, pursue your interests, anything to fill your day. My first serious relationship ended like this, it was only when i heard from my ex's friend that she perma ghosted me without my knowledge.
>>34649870If waiting is the hardest part for you, then distract yourself, hang out with friends, exercise, pursue your interests, anything to fill your day. My first serious relationship ended like this, it was only when i heard from my ex's friend that she perma ghosted me without my knowledge. If you still feel like you wanna try the relationship again, then wait, if not, then send another message saying youre done
>>34649870What's it like being gay as a guy do you get in a fist fight when you argue?
>>34649870>2 weeks nowNowhere near long enough if he "needs time to think." You just reopened all his wounds.
>>34650896my last message to him was saying that i understand he needs time to think and that im leaving it up to him to reply whenever he feels ready. i want to stand by that, i'm just not used to things being solved without talking but i understand he needs time to de-stress.its just hard for me, the wait makes me super anxious because i have zero idea what is going on behind the scenes. ill give it more time and not contact him even when i really feel like i have to
I grew up in foster care and got moved around a bunch. I kept running away from them whenever I could, because they kept insisting on controlling how I dress and how I refer to myself.They didn't like when I cut my hair short, or when I dressed like a guy. They kept throwing out my jeans and my T-shirts whenever they found them. I had a stash of secret clothes I'd change into whenever I left the house during the times I did have to stay with them, because girly clothes just made me feel like a weirdo.Eventually I ran away and aged out of the system before they found me so they didn't really care past that point. I started calling myself Marc and cut my hair short.I was always kinda petite so I never needed a binder. Nobody ever took me for a guy, but getting to dress how I wanted and call myself what I liked felt like freedom.I talked to a doctor about getting started on the hormones and stuff, and they referred me to a psychiatrist to confirm I'm trans and stuff before moving forward. I talked to the psychiatrist and she said it sounds like I'm just trying to reclaim control over my life by rebellin against biology.I feel like theres more to it than that, but she sort of shut the book on my ability to move forward with this by that diagnosis. I can't afford to just keep seeing psychiatrists to try again for a different opinion, but I am trying to save money for it.I'm with a guy who's into me though, who agreed to let me stay with him and cover expenses if I'd be exclusive with him. He made it clear I have to find my own place if I transition though.It feels like the world is against me here, and the battle to be who I want to be seems impossible compared to what would probably be a pretty easy life if I just go with the flow.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34647615It's not a "grass is greener" thing, so much as femininity makes me uncomfortable and however much of a tomboy or butch I could try to be, there's still an inescapable element of femininity in being a woman.I just want to feel comfortable in my own skin, and being a tomboy has never been enough for that.>>34647804A lot of this I feel like is hard to trust. I do feel like transition isn't for everyone, but that there are some people it genuinely helps. Some people might detrans because it wasn't right for them as an individual, but I feel that it would be right for me.>>34648521>So you already have someone who accepts you for who/what you areIt's complicated. He saved me from homelessness. He's a lonely man who struggled to get a relationship, I'm his first girlfriend, and the arrangement started as kind of...I be his gf and he gives me a place to live. It wasn't a romantic beginning or probably even a healthy one. He's been there for me when I needed him though, and I appreciate that support and ended up caring about him enough that the idea of losing our relationship does hurt.
>>34639271My only question to you is why the fuck are you here on 4chan? You're literally the enemy; the globohomo jew's creation. Fuck off back to plebbit or kill yourself, but you are NOT welcome here, retard. You disgust me. Please transition
>>34639271Do Foids really hate themselves that much? You won at life, just look at this kazakh chick that's making the rounds on the net.
>>34639271>I talked to the psychiatrist and she said it sounds like I'm just trying to reclaim control over my life by rebellin against biology.Sounds like she was spot on. It sounds like you're so desperate to assert control over your life/choices that you're going against a trained medical professional's diagnosis just to continue your preexisting plan of transitioning.It reminds me of the bullied kids that end up blasting tren from the trauma, ending up as a freak with a myriad of health issues just because they never knew how to feel comfortable in their own skin.If possible, I'd recommend following up with a psych(preferably the one that gave the initial diagnosis) to talk further about healthy coping mechanisms, CBT genuinely helps with the kind of dysmorphia you're showing.
>>34649423Let him impregnate you and the baby hormones will make you forget all this
I think on some level, I deeply hate women. It’s not even being resentful over a lack of attention anymore. I had the opportunity to talk to some new women today and didn’t even try. I’ve completely given up on finding a new relationship. Even if one fell in my lap, I wouldn’t feel comfortable starting anything when I’m not sure where my next paycheck will be from. But when I’m alone, I just whisper all the bad things past women have done to me or my friends.>I hate the woman that lied about me to my command. Completely stunted a whole career in a day, and yet I had to fill out most of my contract with her present. > I hate the ones that promised me a promotion that never came. > I hate the ones that backed up a guy to charge legal action against my friend. > I hate the multiple times I got cops called on me simply because I was in the same grocery store.> I hate that they hated me when I had a good job. > I hate that I know no amount of natural muscle building or weight cutting is truly enough.> I hate the manipulation from even the “good ones.” The stringing along for months just for attention. The convincing to help with one thing before being discarded. > I hate the fake smiles, the “you’re so funny anon.”> I hate the lack of any intelligent conversation. The constant chattering about sex chapters in books they can’t seem to read cover to cover. The proud announcing of all men being trash followed by what men are attractive. > I hate that I’ll never be able to tell if someone is truly showing kindness or lying as part of a game.I want to change this. I want to be able to talk to women again. I want to live without fear for a day. Just one day. I want to start a new relationship and a new job in a new place. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
OP, you can read these two books, they boil down to : you need to work on your self esteemhttps://anonfilesnew.com/s/3DomitOf7U2https://anonfilesnew.com/s/ASSTHykJX9z
First, I’ll take a second and thank you all for engaging in earnest. I know this probably isn’t an easy subject matter nor am I an easy person to talk to. I’m trying to give push back not to argue but to explain. >>34648850> Or are you just jaded?Yes. > If you already know that 1: not all women, not even nearly half, are like thatAt some point you tell yourself this enough times that you stop believing it. I want to, sure, but right now I’d be lying if I say this statement.> know for sure that your experiences are outside what other people around you experienceI don’t think they are. I think people are either blessed enough by our society that no pain will ever find them or they are like the unjaded me a few years ago. Constant denial, general optimism, and the belief that people want to be good. Like, this goes a little beyond the women question thing, but it genuinely believe some people are born into this world just to cause harm for harm’s sake. Our society rewards these people with power and wealth. Through natural and cultural selection the world will become crueler. Most optimistic people are just one bad week from seeing this for themselves.> There are a non-zero significant number of women in positions of authority, but like any “authority” is their power just in their heads? What is the penalty for leaving a paper prison?Blood is the currency of power. The fear of what may happen to the prisoners is what keeps them in a cage. Just as the fear of what’s behind a locked door is what deters the home robber, not the actual lock which is easily picked. > is it right to judge a person by another person’s crimes?No. I do it because making a guess based on patterns is what keeps us all alive. Is it ever morally right? Maybe in one case who knows. Is it morally right here? Again, no. My only defense is that moral righteousness is subjective and therefore can not supersede survival in most cases.
>>34649613I’ll have to check them out later. I’m on mobile and the ads can’t be closed.>>34649359> The only way to curb this is to go out of your comfort zone and meet more womenOkay, where is this outing that will change my mind?
>>34647221I have a pretty cynical view of women and even I don't think they're that bad. I know some good ones, a number of alright ones, lots of stupid/selfish/broken ones, etc. The main thing about modern women isn't that they're evil (although some of them are) but simply that they're a disappointing shadow of what past generations' women were. They're basically all superficial, social-media addicted losers without much to offer the world. If you actually go through life conflicting with so many nasty people the problem is likely you, stop starting shit with people who aren't worth interacting with.
>>34647221>cops called on me simply because I was in the same grocery store.Dude, this is a tell. This means you harassed her enough to get a restraining order on your ass. You earned it. You worked hard for you isolation and you earned your time in solitary.
How do I become less horny? Is there a drug or supplement I can take? I can not do anything with my day because I just feel the need to jerk off. It's with senses as well. Everything that I hear or see makes me uncomfortable. I've tried exercise and diet. I don't want to jerk off. I just want to get my day done and not feel the ever increasing need to do that.
>>34649629>Go to psychiatrist (not a psychologist, there's a difference)>Set up an appointment and explain your symptoms >They perscribe you stuffNote that SSRIs come with other major side effects so I wouldn't go this route. If you're too horny the best method is to stop looking at porn and lewd imagery even if your brain is screaming at you to do so, the more images you give it to work with the harder it will be to not ruminate on them and get horny.
>>34649476>needing pills to stop touching my dickMotherfucker you probably don't do shit but work out for 3hrs and goon for the other 21, miss me with your "I've tried everything" faggotry, you just don't have shit going on. I would believe you more if you had actual sex addiction but you're just an idiot that can't find shit else to do but touch himself and thinking it's some sort of impossible addiction. Grow up retard.
>>34649629SSRIs are prescribed for much more than depression. There's even a thing called compulsive sexual behavior disorder, for which you might get them as well (along with therapy).>https://icd.who.int/browse/2025-01/mms/en#1630268048Alternatively, you can just buy them. I have been prescribed atomoxetine and fluoxetine, and I still buy alprazolam and dextroamphetamine to help me through my days.
>>34649476heroin and steroids are known for giving you a limp dick
>>34649476They use cyproterone acetate in low doses to treat acne and baldness in men and women. They use high doses to reduce the libido of sex offenders.They use super high doses to treat prostate cancer.Theoretically, a medium dose should even out the libido a bit without ruining it completely. You can drop into any gender clinic and request it, just have to say you're nonbinary or some such.
24MI spend most of my time online, I work a stable job. I live on my own.I'm a miserably depressed chud. I live hundreds of miles away from my family now.I don't get out much, I don't have many friends. I don't really talk to anyone, even online.When I'm not working I just sit at my computer and just watch YouTube or play video games by myself.How do I stop being a chud? How do I fix this?
>>34650701do you have any interest in anything outside of being inside and playing video games? Even remotely is a start, like running, painting, photography, cooking...etc.
>>34650733Yeah. I love getting out of the house and going for walks, going to bars, etc. It's just hard to convince myself to go to public spaces entirely alone. Feels awkward.
>>34650739It can be pretty difficult to do things alone like that, especially if you dont have any drive. But maybe see if theres any events around you, like a beginner pottery class, run clubs, literally anything if you're in it for the sake of becoming a real person. Just remember that not everyone you try to talk to is gonna reciprocate the feeling of wanting to be friends, i personally recommend trying some trial classes and martial art gyms, because it immediately puts you in a situation where you need to communicate with other people which makes it easy to make friends from my experience.
>>34650701you have the freedom and space to be by yourself, you're in a sustainable place by having a job...whatever you're gonna do, you're in a good place to figure it out. IMO just keep doing you, don't search for more, you might not like what you find
My greatest fear is that the girls I'm rejecting are the best I can get.
>>34649269Anon have some respect for yourself. Being single is better than being in a toxic sexless marriage. Just look at r/deadbedrooms, that shit will really make you question if you ever wanna get married. Ive been lonely for a while and developing an autistic hobby to latch onto has made my life so much better. For me its classical guitar, I am sure there is something out there for you to get hooked on.>muh dying aloneMost people in relationships die alone as well, Ie dying on the shitter or slipping in the shower. Only difference is their body is found much faster lol.
>>34649415>Ive been lonely for a while"I haven't had any water to drink since two days I'm soooo thirsty" motherfuckers be like
>>34649187How do you know what I look like?This just goes back to the problem of the OP.
>>34642040Not necessarily but if your standards are based on just whether a girl looks like the porn you jerk off to then you're doing it wrong. Attraction is a threshold, as long as someone is attractive enough for you then when you fall in love with them you'll find them attractive. Pay attention to whether a girl is the kind of wife you'd want, and then once you've found one of those, consider whether she's attractive enough to fill that role. It sounds like you might be doing it backwards.
>>34650719>Pay attention to whether a girl is the kind of wife you'd want, and then once you've found one of those, consider whether she's attractive enough to fill that role.Isn't this just leading someone on? What happens if you decide she's not attractive?
>Brand new at a job>Very attractive female boss and I are talking one on one, I’ve worked like 80+ hours this week so I’m completely exhausted (explains why I said something so weird) >She asks me point blank during our conversation if I have a girlfriend. >I say “no, but that’s alright too, haha”>She awkwardly laughs back and pivots subjects. How do I recover from this?
If you're not going to date your coworkers anyways you can wear a rainbow pin for diversity quota points.
Jerk off onto her hair while she's answering a phone call.
