I live in my car. I can't make myself go get a job, or work on my projects at the library library. I waste the first 6 hours of my day on my fucking phone.I am a daydreamy dipshit, I spend all day inside my head. I want to make comics and I can't even get myself to do that. My mom was an avoidant narcissist, who made the entire house focused on her emotional needs. It took me til I was 25 to realize how much of my life I was wasting trying to appeal to her emotions and her lifestyle. Now I live in my car and I feel slightly relieved, but I'm still extremely dysfunctional, neglecting my health, my car, every responsibility I have regardless of how simple it is. I have a prescription for ADHD but I sparsely take them and don't even think adhd is a real thing.
What are actual alternative places/ ways to get a gf? It's abundantly clear to me that 'normal' methods/ routes are simply not the way to go. I don't have a social life that gives me those opportunities and I've tried meetup/ hobby groups and those are very limited in supply and haven't been successful. Even in VRChat where girls are more likely to fit my kind of profile, they're all in relationships and none of them have clicked with me anyway.It's my number 1 priority yet I'm unable to put enough energy into it because I don't see the avenues in which to put the effort into. PLEASE enlighten me. I'm beyond fed up and ground down, envying everyone else for being superior to me due to this one thing that I desperately want but can seemingly never have.
>>34915244if you have a mental/physical illness, some sort of trauma or are willing to fake having one, support groups.
>>34915244Dating is like applying for jobs. Looking is pure volume, it's all luck in the end and making it your #1 priority is soul-crushing beyond belief.It's not about the where it's about taking your shot when it presents itself. Landing the interview. You're going to get like 3 interviews over the next 12 months, maybe less, and those are the times where you need maximum effort.
>>34915244>It's my number 1 priorityWhat exactly do you want? Do you want to find a wife for children? Or do you want a stupid hot whore to fuck?If it's the former I have no clue where to find a woman like that. If you want the latter just simply download 5 apps and swipe every day. Like >>34915763 said it's all about volume.
How do I find a good looking escort in/around belgium?For context I'm a 26yo incel who sometimes hates women, I mean, I don't really hate women, I just find it funny whenever someone mentions they do or makes a rape joke. But like, I don't really give a shit about politics, I just find that most problems in my life stem around from me not being able to get pussy.
>>34915440Ok? None of that is relevant. Go to a brothel
https://www.quartier-rouge.be/escort-brussels.htmlhttps://oohlala.be/en/escort-girls-belgiumhttps://www.eurogirlsescort.com/escorts/belgium/#https://youppie.net/forumdisplay.php?98-BelgiqueLook through the first 2 sites first, the third one is less reliable. Try to search for the girl you're interested in on the forum to verify she's legit. I found a really hot French escort around Brussels when I was there a few years ago for like 250 euro/hour I think.
As the title says, my skin is and has been super oily all my life and it's infuriating. I have this 'cleansing face lotion' I use in the morning and at night and I still feel like I'm covered in a layer of grime when I wake up and throughout the day I can see and feel the oil on my face. I've even been to the doctor about it multiple times and despite several different medications it's been basically no help'It's similar with my hair, if I do not wash it every day it looks like it's damp with how oily it gets. What can I do to fix this? I am so tired of feeling this way
>>34915658I have had some success with picrel. It dries more than regular soap or even the Cetaphyl oily skin cleaner that I use.
>>34915658Your hair gets oily BECAUSE you wash it every day. Your scalp is overproducing oil because you're drying it out with excessive washing. Start rinsing with just water every other day. It'll be oily at first but it should lessen after a week or so.
Is it weird to massage your achilles tendon for pleasure? I've been doing that to my feet since I was a kid and I dunno what it is but every time I do it feels like this weird mix between a bit of pain and soreness that gives off a relaxing sort of pleasure. They're especially extra pleasurable to massage after I've been walking or running for a while. Why is that? Is it like a nerve thing? Mind you, I'm not talking about the whole foot, just specifically the achilles tendon, especially the part of it closest to the heel.
I'm fairly ugly but I did have girls interested in me in the past but my fear of them finding someone else eventually made me sick so I prefered to be singleHow can I deal with it?
>>34915399There's a limit to the extent I can reassure you, here, because the truth is that absolutely anyone can be cheated on. Including, of course, women you are dating: you might cheat on them. Every relationship in the world ultimately depends on trust, and it is in the nature of trust that it can be betrayed, and sometimes is. If you could be 100% certain you can trust someone, you wouldn't *need* to trust them. Trusting someone is always a leap of faith.So yes, it is definitely possible that you will be cheated on, and it's an absolutely miserable thing when it happens. But what you also have to remember is that the only way you can guarantee you won't be cheated on is to remain single for life; and remaining single for life is also an absolutely miserable thing.So, your options are: 1) Stay single forever. 100% chance of being miserable for the rest of your life. or2) Take the risk of getting involved with someone. Approximately 12% chance of being cheated on. If it happens, you'll be miserable for a while, but not forever. If it doesn't, you might be happy. When you look at those numbers, you'll realise that it is worth taking the risk. Not taking it is worse.
>>34915453Ok well just so you know I didn't read any of this thread and don't plan on it
>>34915453>the first time I post about this, you must be refering to someone elseYour problem is too common with the type of anon that spams identical threads .As for your answer: of course you can get cheated on. Anything worth pursuing can fail so start with that mentality and be fine with things not working out. Then when you're doing the thing without pressure or expectation you'll find the thing failing less than all the time. Really, less than all the time is eb to succeed on.
>>34915470That's true, I think this fear definitely reveals traumas and fear I hid within myself because I did not want to deal with them and now they are manifesting externally, but now I can see my flaws better since I would like to think I'm more aware>>34915498True, I used to copy or emulate the guys my crushes were into, of course I was a teenager at the time but it goes to show how low my self-esteeem actually was/is >>34915511You bring a good point, in the end if someone wants to cheat they will so worrying about it does nothing, well, it could actually make things worse by making the cheating thing more likely to happen as a result of feeling worn out by the other person, I guess I also need to work on my neediness>>34915526Don't care>>34915656True, I used to put all my mental well-being onto a girl's hands and that drove me insane, so I should focus on loving without expecting anything in return just because I love that person sincerely, I haven't found that person yet but it would be nice to build something wholesome one day
>>34915714>so worrying about it does nothing, well, it could actually make things worse by making the cheating thing more likely to happen as a result of feeling worn out by the other person, I guess I also need to work on my needinessCorrect on all points. If you can't trust the person you're with, that lack of trust will destroy the relationship just as successfully as them cheating on you would.
So there's a guy in my college who I really like. I never confessed to him because of my social anxiety and I don't have much experience in dating in general but he def knows I have feelings for him and he never gave anyone a solid answer about his own feelings for me. We started actively talking about 4 months ago and everything was great but it just changed in literally one day. I thought I was just imagining things but it's like one day he walked me to the metro, laughed and talked about life and stuff with me and another day he just straight up ignored me. Few days ago during our class I heard him joke about his girlfriend and he kept discussing her with his friends. The same day when I sped off to the metro after our classes he called up to me and wanted to walk together. This shit led to a really bad depressive episode for me. So what do i do? Was it a joke? Does he actually have a girlfriend? Do I ask him about it? My friend tried asking him about it and he kept avoiding the question. I'm not afraid of rejection that much, I'm more afraid he was just using me all this time. I really need advice on this
>>34898269Can you stalk his social media?
>>34898269Grab his arm in a playful way, then pull it between you boobs. Squish them together around his arm. If he leaves it there, then he’s into you. If he pulls away you can try to comfort him a little and try the embrace again. If he pulls away again, he’s just not into you. It’s better to do this in a secluded area so he doesn’t feel judged by other people.
>>34898269Bump
>>34898269Why do you need a middleman? Just ask/tell things directly to him.
>>34898269just because you got ignored for a day doesn't mean he doesn't like you anymore or once or twice or for a week unless he's totally avoiding you weeks long for a reason then let it be. This is just your social anxiety taking over youMen have feelings too. If they wanna be alone and don't wanna bother others around them so be it. He might have issues in real life like family issue, personal issue etc.. There's so many missing context in this regards and it's all your perspective in this case. If you think it's all about you and misjudged it then you sabotaged your own future relationship with him. Only time will tell with additional information you can get.
i nag my bf because i want to see his problems as mine and i would like to push him to better himself.i like to believe i have good intentions, but i have verbally abusive tendencies and end up just doting on the issue and calling him rude things whenever he ignores my advice and does something against it. he said he would like more positive reinforcement and i told him he is not a dog who needs to be rewarded for a simple trick. he is more complex than that. this upset him and i feel guilty and insensitive.is positive reinforcement really what this situation calls for? i don’t know how to deal with this.
>>34911339Your bf is a fucking pussy yapper, don't get what you found in him. This loser doesn't want to do changes, only yap about them. They get rubbed their face to the truth. Only shit they say is "Could you be nicee??" "Could you be positive" - These guys been to much on their mother care. I think you just like him being pathetic idiot, so you could compare yourself and feel better which also one of shittiest way behave.Find yourself a normal guy who can grow near you or at least say you to "Fuck off"PEACE AND LOV PEACE AND LOVhate you all
>>34911712You must be Japanese, lad.
>>34911339>i like to believe i have good intentions, but i have verbally abusive tendencies Please don't take women too seriously guys. When your girlfriend is like OP just simply ignore her and use her for sex. That's it. Your life will greatly improve if you approach women this way.
>>34911339Everytime you want to tell him something ask yourself "what do i want from this? " and "is it going to help him?" then you try to express your feeling and your goals if you are not sure that he will understand. TL:DR, shame on myself anons...
>>34911339OP... is your boyfriend.. uhh .. a human?, he's human right, RIGHT??..
>5-in-1 multi-tool>only lists 4 functionsGuys, seriously....what's the 5th tool??
>>34913692They count the keyring as a function My pocket knife is the same way
>>34913692spaghetti portion measure
>>34913866Wait but that’s not the big empty port on the back of an original playstation2
>>34913692>kikeland
What a shit tool. A pocketknife does a better job at everything without being mishapen
Is it gay if your girlfriend wants you to put your dick next to another guy's dick so they can rub together as she's jerking the both of you with one hand?
>>34912044lol
Is it?
>>34912044BIG PHARMA IS MAKING THE MEN GAY
>>34911162Just skip to doing dvp. It's better than a handjob, and probably what she's going to ask for next anyway.
Try being a twin. You'll be asked to kiss.
I have a “problem” where I block my friends or just stop talking to them permanently once I reach a point of frustration. Just ghosting them pretty much and they get all confused but I just can’t come back. I don’t really have a clear reason as to why I do it, but I mainly do it because I feel tied to them and I don’t want to be held down. It feels oppressive. I don’t have that good of empathy and I probably have narcissism just saying. It could be started by them saying something I disliked and I just cannot forgive them anymore because the bad thought haunts me every time I’m with them. My relationships last less than 2 years on average. But this one friend keeps coming back despite me ghosting him on multiple occasions. I want to ghost him yet again, telling him straight up I resent him but he gives me compelling logical things as to why I’m being like this. Even despite all that logic, my emotions and intuition are getting the better of me, and I just WANT to get rid of him. Please tell me, is this normal? Should I even fix it? I honestly don’t want to fix it. But I also don’t want to end up all alone and without anyone. It’s such a hard paradoxical thing. Please help me.
>>34909802>Ghosts could be here, he thought
>>34909802That's pretty good 2 years, a lot of women will block you after like 3 sentences.
>>34914484>That's not what a narcissist does lmao which ass did you get this take fromYes it does.The story of Narcissus from the mythology is where the term narcissism came from."self-centered personality style"Nothing self centered if you care about the people around you and don't care back at you and ignore you.>Narcissists HATE confrontation and accountability, and they don't threaten, they just do it without askinghttps://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/narcissisticKeywords: self-centered, self-importance, excessive admiration.None of that shit applies to ghosting and putting value to friendship. If your friends ain't acting like friends they're no friends.
>>34909802I have a "friend" like you. Sentimental people like me were put on earth literally to torture your type. The honest truth, for a person like me at least, if you just up and said to me "I don't want to be your friend anymore, please stop talking to me" I would literally never say another word to you as long as I lived.
>>34909802>I don’t have that good of empathy and I probably have narcissism just saying.>My relationships last less than 2 years on average>>34914663>That's pretty good 2 years, a lot of women will block you after like 3 sentences.Yeah with what the other anon said here. If women block you after having a failed date attempt then they're a narcissist in this regard? This is all just jargonized insults. There's nothing wrong with you. It's just the millennial boomers that says that trying to impose control over you since back then they couldn't run away from social norms in this age of privacy where ghosting is a thing.
I hate all religious people. Jew, christian, muslim, hindu, wackadoo. I want to start protesting in front of churches. What should my sign say to piss off the most amount of people?
>>34915560We’re entering schizobabble “Christian Science” territory now. Presupposition of God is not a valid theory. The fact that the people who made the scientific method were religious doesn’t change that. It only shows the level of control religion had over society at that point.
>>34915619A Principal Cause's necessary existence isn't a matter of presupposition, it's a matter of rigorously proven logic. Ex nihilo nihil fit is axiomatic, second in discovery only to the law of non-contradiction. Not being able to understand the concept due to a lack of education in philosophy does not make it "schizobabble". Nothing that I've explained is distinctly Christian, either. This holds true of all theism by logical necessity. You may as well be calling Plato a Christian schizo, since I'm in effect merely reiterating his metaphysical teachings, which he in turn learned from Egyptian theologians.
>>34915633>You may as well be calling Plato a Christian schizoAnon, he kind of was. He wanted musif to be illegal because it corrupts the mind or something. Plato was worse than a christian schizo.
>>34910181Calvin won, you lost
>>34915649No, Plato absolutely did not want music to be banned. He viewed music similarly to Pythagoras, that its mathematical properties were evidence of divine order in the universe.
I just lost $5k-$6k on my truck because I didn't have full insurance and wrecked and now I'm extremely angry. What should I do next?
>>34915540Yeah I will. I figured since I hadn't had a wreck in 15 years and am generally a safe driver I didn't need it. Then I had one little stumble and fucking totaled my shit. The air bag didn't even go off so if I was going any faster I would most likely be dead
Build the Killdozer
>>34915594this
>>34915594I can't even build a sandwich right now I'm still recovering from the wreck
Go down to the used car lot and talk to a bank about financing another truck. You're alive and nobody else got hurt. Take the hit to the ego and wallet and hit the road again.
Which blade cuts threads easily?
>>34915477Threads of what? Cotton? Kevlar?
>>34915535Threads of 4chud
Tell me, is my guppy comfortable with me? I don't shout, and I create a calm environment.
>>34915587I work at a fish store and you would not believe what happened. This guy got a fish and bullied and screamed at it day and night with his friends when i asked him what's up with that he just shrugged and said "I dunno".Some people just cant find anything better to do
