I wanna know what you guys would do on my situation:Im 23 years old and I have absolutely lost my capacity for empathy, i cant feel anything for people, even childs, dogs, etc. To put you an example, yesterday I got into a rock climbing accident: where I was belaying a friend and the rope went out of my hand, and he fell to the ground like from 5 meters, he broke his ankle, I drove him to the hospital, and did everything I had to do technically except apologize to him or even say something upbeating to him, I ruined his summer vacations he was about to go to a trip of rock climbing and now he is unable to do anything. The thing is my brother and father started overwhelming me on how I should say something to him, and I know, but I dont feel anything, I barely can feel sorry for him, it sucks I wish it didnt happen.Anyway this is just an example of how emotionally fucked up I am, and how dulled my capacity for empathy and caring for other is. I cant imagine myself having a gf with this incapacity for feeling for others, I can barely talk to people.So yeah, idk what to do, am I some kind of psycho? I wasnt like this as a child, something corrupted me, and I becoming more cold hearted as time goes on, my moral compass is getting more corrupted and diffuse. Should I kill myself before I keep hurting others?
Idk it's mostly about going the speed limit. You shouldn't be too dramatic. When your life is really good you really can't be bothered to care, when you have a bad life same, when you are around a total idiot it's hard to care. If you don't care it just seems like dissociation and it's a coping mechanism for when people around you are suffering. It's just kinda awkward. Drinking and drugs seem to have a strange effect. You're usually more emotional when you drink but them it makes you more emotionless once you're sober again. Also sometimes whiny people are the absolute fucking worst. Some of them need help. Others are the worst. They are whiny over nothing and even go shoot someone because of it
By the way, with all the posts I've made, I really only am trying to give my own experience here having had a similar experience and tell you what helped me. That's it. Don't feel disheartened if what I've said just sounds like something you can't resonate with, I apologize if it seems tht. That literally doesn't matter, again, God will meet you where you are at if you put yourself out, start where you are and you will be met there OP.
>>34070139I honestly dont know anon, its like no psychiatry/psychology manual talks about this, no one that I know or heard about has been on this state. I cannot look at peoples eyes. I feel like a magnetic energetic repulsion, I get fear from them, even my family. Im defensive all the time, its no way to live
>>34070644Im currently in vacation with my family and cousins. I feel like shit, I cant interact with anyone, I cant love, Christmas is like a light that burns me like a vampire(that sounded so edgy)
>>34070644>>34070658Like I said before, I had issues that nothing would adress but Christian spirituality, particularly that of Orthodox Christianity. Nothing lead me to, and put me through the process of any changing or healing, but it. Prior to that, I knew of some pagan ideas that couldn't adress matters of the soul, and secularism by it's nature doesn't even account for it.
>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamhttps://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34069946Shes 31 im 29
>>34066249>I got humbled and she definitely cares less about me than I do her. We wouldnt work out anyway because of value differences, but she said we should talk last time we met up about being on the same page about what we want and shit like that. I should just end it casually without causing a scene and go back to looking for serious relationships right?Once you figured out that you're incompatible, you need to let that sit in your fucking head. Pussy is a crazy drug. She's not into you. And no, don't fucking casually end it. Keep banging her. Don't let your feelings cloud your judgment. Do you really want to be pussyless? Get some more pussy on the side and when she dips for some other cock you won't be so butthurt. This is simple stuff, but you're emotional. Once you figured out you weren't made to be, that's it bro. Time to mentally move on while you're still fucking her. gg
>>34071050I’ve never read something so pathetic that guy deserves to die alone
>>34071156RIGHT? Now every time the age gap arguments start I just think of him and crack up a little.
I know it's only page 3, but I'll be busy later so baking now>>34071391>>34071391>>34071391
How would you help a depressed self-hating perfectionistic loner who hasn't done anything worthwhile and fulfilling with his life due to analysis paralysis, procrastination and hedonistic-behavior?
Take an interest in psychology. Especially emotional schemas. Understanding them helped me tremendously. Regards, former self-hating perfectionist loner.
>>34070344>emotional schemasQrd?
>>34070069Fpbp kekk
>>34070344What terms to search for? What do I ask Grok
>>34069939Remember 1 sentence and take it to heart."Everything worth doing in this life, is always worth doing poorly"
So I guess I'm just fucked. I really want to be a nurse after having been a programmer for 6 years, but with my GPA (in the USA it would be the equivalent to a 3.3, I graduated with a bachelor's in compsci) my chances for admittance are slim. Anyone have any advice on what to do to boost my chances? Other pathways I could explore? If it helps at all I'm based in Ontario, Canada.
>>34064662oh you're defective. just die then.
>>34060589>in the USA it would be the equivalent to a 3.3,They don't background immigrants when they apply for doctors licenses, you can't seriously claim they're going to do some deep background check on a college application where you "forget" to include your BSCS?Just tell them you worked at Amazon in the warehouse or delivering packages or something as long at the tuition bill gets paid they DGAF around here.
>>34067201Here in Canada (or at least Ontario) there's a centralized system where they can see all that shit.
>>34067550sounds fucking stupid
Nurses aren't doctors, the process is not that selective so stop worrying about nothing
My mother is pregnant for the third time. Two years ago, my younger brother was born, and even during that pregnancy, my mother constantly took her anger out on my father and me. I recently found out about her new condition by chance. I was in shock. When my brother was born, all the attention shifted to him anyway, and now there will be another child.I told my mom I didn't need this child. She remained silent, and I tried not to think about it. But now her belly is noticeably bigger, and she's constantly stroking it, which fills me with disgust and dark thoughts. On top of that, she has started screaming at me again over every little thing—like an unwashed plate or an untidy room.I am at my breaking point. Sometimes, in despair, frightening thoughts come to mind, but I know they're not right. The idea of moving out is unrealistic—I'm a minor, I don't have a job, and our family is already living very modestly. I don't know what to do.
Should I avoid hover hands when posing in photos with a girl? I never know what to do in photos, I feel like a creep if I force my hand on her and I feel too awkward to just ask. I always just assume that people find me creepy by default even though I haven't done anything wrong and don't intend to
>>34070767
Buncha uggoes
>>34070767I just make bunny fingers on their shoulders or hips.
>19F>genuinely ugly, not even a "in the eye of the beholder" situation>living alone in an aunt's house rent free but only until february>only conditions are that i focus on college and keep the house clean>do neither>no job, no experience>moved away for college hoping things would get better>acted like a cunt, ignored schoolwork including group projects, pushed away and pissed off the few idiots that tried to befriend me>have no sense of charisma or social rules>hard to even get out of bed some days, can't stand up or do things for too long without feeling faint, so housework is fucked too>living in filth, eating trash>probably have some kind of health issue, too lazy to go see a doctor>basically exactly where i was two years ago, just away from abusive father but i'll have to move back if i don't find housing until february>too prideful about myself even though i have no reason to beComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34069483I would if I could! I really wish I could be on something right now. But money's tight, so I guess that'll have to wait until I'm working.
>>34069093>>19F>>genuinely ugly, not even a "in the eye of the beholder" situationdoubt. show face I bet you're 7/10 minimum
>>34069668>Is it really that easy to just stop??If you're asking that question, it means you haven't tried.
ur not ugly, u are poor.make money and get a nose job.
>>34069093psst hey nona can you share a picture of yourself with me
how do i speak in tongues?the bible says ask and you shall receive. everyone around me speaks in tongues and gets whatever they want, completely unintelligible, while i speak clearly and am ostracized and blackballed. whats the magical combination of "words" to get whatever i want???how do i speak in tongues?
>>34069270This doesn't even need to be interpreted and idk how the hell evangelical """""christians""""" understand it to mean retard drooling noises>And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance. And there were dwelling in Jerusalem Jews, devout men, from every nation under heaven. And when this sound occurred, the multitude came together, and were confused, because everyone heard them speak in his own language.READ nigga READ
>>34066616>how do i speak in tongues?Become a fucking liar. Cause tongues are not gibberish. Anyone that speaks gibberish is a liar.
>>34066616>how do i speak in tongues?As others have said, there is no such thing. The phrase originates in the Bible, where it refers to the apostles understood in dozens of languages simultaneously. That obviously never happens; it's impossible.The phrase is now normally used to describe when a person suddenly starts spouting non-verbal gibberish. Most people who do this are faking it: they're just deliberately making word-like noises that have no meaning. You can do that too if you want to, but why bother? In a case where someone is unusually suggestible, they may *feel* as if what is happening is involuntary; and this can happen in a group of people as a form of mass hysteria; but it is still meaningless gibberish. It's not something to aspire to.
>>34070129>That obviously never happens; it's impossible.This statement is unscientific. You can't say something cannot happen just because you haven't personally seen it. The brain is capable of some crazy shit sometimes.
>>34070319I'm saying it can't happen because NO ONE has ever seen it. Occam's Razor means it makes no sense to believe that such a thing is possible. For it to be possible almost everything we know about language and the human brain would have to be wrong. If you are going to make unfalsifiable claims that fly in the face of all scientific knowledge, the burden of proof is on you, not on the sceptic. (See also, Russell's Teapot).
i recently got into an argument with the person i loved the most. im not kidding when i say i've never loved anyone more in my life even if it was e-dating (yes make fun of me i don't give a fuck, i live in a shithole and i'd rather die than go out with one of these fucking brainless waste of space normies). we dated for a month then we broke up but were in this weird fling where we still flirted and sexted and talked about how much we meant to eachother, but in the meanwhile she was basically just being constantly flirty and sexual with people on social media and it made me wanna puke. i called her out on it with a really harsh message and i've basically made her stop talking to me. i apologized and everything but she's now created an account exclusively for sexual shit where she still flirts with people and im just crushed. th e person im in love with doesn't care about me. i really have nothing to look forward to in life. her good morning messages were the only thing tha tmade me smile. im so done. do i just rope? all my friends are her friends. doesn't help that they too are in the best times of their life. what the fuck do i do. im so fucking sad. i've just been crying for 3 days. i wish i had worth. i wish i was important. i miss her so much. i just want her
>>34070538it hurts but you will feel better, im proud of you for moving on anon, learning from this will make you happier in the long run
>>34070551i'll try and meet people into stuff im into even though im in the balkans. not just for dating hopefully just friends. i've been focusing on this girl too much. i sound like such an incel in that post. i really ought to work on improving myself
>>34070559thats the best thing for you, isolation is so poisonous, you'll find your place and company you enjoy, good luck friend
>>34070028This happened to me a few years ago too. You just need to get out od the delusion that the woman wants attention from you exclusively or there's a possibility for something romantic there.Keep trying, but with other women, not this one.
>>34070028>brainless waste of space normies>>34070461Exactly, you, and that ewhore are even bigger wastes of space and more brainless than any normie ever could
So I just had a massive disagreement with my father at the family dinner. I said our country is boring, and he exploded and called me ignorant and said I don't know anything of this country. I told him that I've seen enough and it's boring to me. He thought I was projecting but I named him some countries that I don't find boring, like Italy, Japan and Korea. He was screaming at me, my left ear is still fucking ringing.Anyway, my mom started crying and my aunt told me I was being a cunt and told me she won't come to my birthday dinner because I didn't deserve it now. I told her that's her choice to make.My father told me I can never accept other people's opinions and that I always enforce my viewpoints onto others. I said no, I don't care about changing your opinions, but I'm still not ignorant and I still find this country to be boring. I told him that he was behaving like a big baby and that he's only angry because he can't control my opinions. I swear, everyone got so worked up about it, lmao. Then my father told me to leave. I told them to take philosophy classes to have rational conversations. Then I fucking left.I kinda regret telling them about my life and all that. Had I known that they were just absolute fucking losers... Well, I always knew that, but I thought it was a good idea to eat dinner with them again.Who was in the wrong here? Should I finally cut them off from my life, even though I had already told them my next life plans? Fuck, I shouldn't have told them about it all. FUCK.I stood my ground, and I love this rush I'm feeling. That rush of defending myself.
>>34069927I agree.>>34069965>you truly are your father's son, OP.How? Did I scream at someone for having an opinion I don't agree with? What is this shitty gaslighting?
>>34069965durr these are both the same position
Ride a motorcycle thru America, then see if you can say it's still boringPeople who say this about the USA have never explored it or are completely ignorant to the history of our country. There's a lot of cool shit that isn't in other countries
>>34070409Not from Merica.
>>34068985>It needs to have cool places, like Rome or Tokyo or Sydney has, I'm talking about stuff like the Colosseum, Robot Restaurant, Capsule Hotels and amazing and stunning architecture. It has to be elite and pristine. Like Singapore or Chongqing where they basically live in a labyrinth (super hilarious).How do you know that your country doesn't have "cool places"?>It needs to have a clean beach so I can look at the waves, go surfing, swimming and diving.Subjective bullshit but actually a valid opinion.>It needs to have interesting people doing interesting thingsEvery country has interesting people doing interesting things.>entrepreneurial people who are as eccentric as me.Lots of contrarian faggots fixated on being super special snowflakes is not interesting, it's irritating.>Uplifting people, people who believe in something greater than life.I can't think of a single country that doesn't have these people.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I will go entire weeks at a time without getting in the shower or bath. If I start smelling too much like shit, I’ll just put deodorant on my body. This isn’t because I like doing, I actually hate it. But I will do anything, absolutely anything, except bathe myself because I cannot bring myself to force my ass into that fucking tub. It’s the last thing I’m ever motivated to do, every single day. Same with brushing my teeth, by the way, although the shower thing is worse. Is there any way to get myself to stop being such a disgusting unkempt retard?
>>34069945Disregard saar, this propaganda comes from people who sell soap and studies. They say skin is dirty machine, must be reset daily, but skin is living map with balance. Old villages lived fine without morning foaming ritual every single day. Doctors change opinion every decade, first fat bad, then fat good, now wash more, then wash less. I smell reality, not laboratory. Microbes are balance, not enemies. Water strips wisdom from body. Clean obsession is fear management, not health. Ask grandmother, not pamphlet.
>>34069977What time of day do you typically bathe or shower?If you don't already, I'd recommend trying right before you go to bed. It's the laziest, easiest way. The best part is that you don't even need to put on clothes after, depending on how much privacy you have. You can shower, them hop right into bed with your birthday suit.
>>34069945This is only a problem worth fixing if you actually have stuff going on in your life. I used to only shower once every couple of months years ago, but I was an isolated shut-in NEET at the time, so it didn't really matter at all. If you're anything like that, there's no problem with you being a disgusting unkempt retard.
>>34069945Sink shower. I do it all the time, I don't have running water.Just wet a rag, scrub a little soap on there, hit the pits, neck, and ass (in that order), chuck the rag in the wash, repeat without the soap so your skin isn't irritated, and do your arms and face normal. That'll clear most of the spots where noticeable grime or body order comes from.
>>34070495>goes from pits to neckBro why are you moving pit stank onto your neck?
Any solution to teeth grinding at night? I don’t have dental insurance
>>34070342ZQuiet mouthguard
>>34070342find the witch jinxing you and cease her
Mouth gaurd 100%Get a lil vat of solution to put it in, idk what the stuff is called but definitely do it. You only want to grind on work hours, not on sleep hours.
>>34070357Thanks>>34070399I’ve taken the wizards oath I only duel sorcerers when challenged >>34070403The lost ones I got made the jaw pain worse but I’ll try the Zquite one
How true it is....
>>34070048Intelligent people forgive. They do not ignore, because this is something stupid people do. Ignoring your problems will only make them bigger.
>>34070048Categories are meaningless. Revenge has consequences, forgiveness has consequences, and ignoring has consequences.
>>34070230>Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.
>>34070048revenge isn't a verb, thirdie
>>34070078Bingo.
Imagine yourself as a young man, who works a minimum-wage dead-end job as a night security guard. The job is meaningless to your soul, but you still make enough to live by yourself quite very comfortably. You essentially get paid to do nothing--a very stress-free work life. You never went to college, because you don't care. You also don't give a fuck about advancing a career, to the dismay of your friends and family--in fact, your ex dumped you because your own existence was somehow okay with having no ambition.So, you watch anime at work, then go home to play video games. Your ownly 'productive' hobbies are drawing and working on your own video game. This makes you no money, and it never will, but it keeps you happy enough.Despite your meager earnings, you have enough money to take a mortgage on a humble house when combining your income with your girlfriend, who you love and want children with. Living like this, you will never really achieve anything, but it is a simple life.I live this life, and I am fine with it. Everyone around me hates it. Hates it that I don't care about participating in the rat race. Even my co-workers in the same job are flabbergasted that a young man such as myself isn't desperately trying to get out of this field of work.Is this really a bad life?
>>34066136You live a nice life bro.
>>34066136There is no problem NOW.The problems with this life come in the last thirty, twenty, ten years.The problems come when you get the unexpected massive bill.If you are planning for returement, and you have emergency funds saved up, then there is no problem at all.Most people living how you describe wont be able to retire until they are 70, if at all.Most people living how you describe would get wiped out with an emergency payment over a few thousand dollars.
>>34066136Honestly, as long as you're happy and fulfilled, it sounds fine. A lot of Normies can't understand actually enjoying this type of life, but not all of us are meant to have partners or families. Again, as long as you personally are happy with your own personal life and you feel fulfilled, then there's no problem.
>>34066136How do I get or find this job? Do I need some certfication? My feet are so sore and I'm tired and already work overnights.Can you bring a book or a laptop?
>>34069460What country are you from, horse-thief?Yes, in most you will need the required licenses and training. It is not expensive and training is like... two weeks. And yes, of course you can bring a laptop and books. That is how people watch anime and manga, and shitpost on 4chan while on duty. I'm doing that now at this very moment, in fact.
Should I out to Bermuda?>small island in the middle of nowhere>population of snobby rich people>literally everything is imported>beautiful beaches>beautiful climate>no plebs around except for the workers
>Should I out to Bermuda?Fuck off we're full
>>34063079You're from Bermuda? What's it like there?
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