i matched with my ideal woman in tinder but because i don't have (((gold))) i ended up swiping right on her too late and she ended up deleting her account, all i have is her name, age, distance and selfie; how do i find her? She probably goes to the same uni as me.
>>33835972Not OP here but my guess is he is a nerd. I speak from experience when I say non-western born Asian women value being a good provider more and also have lower requirements for being dominant.
>>33835965>Who even says thatI did. Someone not afraid to speak to women. Because she legit was like>Thank youuuuuu. I *really* appreciate your help! So much!But it wasn't forced or anything. You could tell that's actually how she was. So yeah. She sounded really pleasant.
>>33836024Why are femAsians like this?
>>33836239not all, just the ones raised in villages where casual hookups are not a thing or others being forced to study hard by their parents until they finally get their degree at 24. in some places they really have no time for social activities because of the permanent exams
>>33836024>Asian women value being a good provider more and also have lower requirements for being dominant.But then all men would pass their test and they would get with anyone... So this is only a half-truth
What should I do here?>dishwasher at homeless shelter kitchen>everyone usually finishes eating by 7:30am>I finish washing dishes by 7:45am>but there's a group of guys that like to just sit and chat with their homeless buddies till 8:00am and they hold on to their dirty dishes and cups while they chat>I need to be done and gone by 7:45>management never tells them to leave even though they're supposed to be done eating by 7:30>at 8:00 they bring their uneaten food and dirty plates to the dishwashing area when I've already wiped down the surfaces and shut down the dish washing machine>they leave a mess on the tableWhat should I do? Always wait for them till 8:00? Or just leave at 7:45 and let the 12pm lunch cleanup crew complain that there's still a mess and some stray unwashed dishes left on the table because management wont make these men leave at 7:30 like everyone else?
>>33836200You should not be washing dishes at a homeless shelter.
>>33836200Get a better job. Fuck homeless people, this is why I have zero sympathy for most of them.
I live in a dorm with 9 other people. And there's this one guy I find incredibly annoying.He is absolutely full of himself and has a massive ego. He sings every chance he gets even when people are around, like as if he thinks he's a Casanova. He brags to everyone that he knows karate or kung fu or whatever and can beat up any guy he wants. He constantly brags about how much money he has. Brags about the latest girl he's hooking up with.Every time he comes home from work he says stuff like >Oh what a beautiful day>I deserve it>I am awesome When it's time for people to sleep in the dorm, he has his phone out, playing music on the speaker. If it's not that, he's talking on the phone, while others are trying to sleep. Yep talking to those supposed girls, and having phone sex with them, while I am right there in the room.He just doesn't care about anyone but himself.I dunno, how do I deal with this? I'm stuck in this dorm for the next couple months.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
you live with a rich chad kung fu master and instead of being friends with him you whine? society is cooked
>>33836202Well, for one, I've never actually seen him fight anybody. Never seen any of these so called bitches. And his voice sounds like the reason autotune was invented. And yes, we all live in a homeless shelter.
>>33836297If he's so rich why is he in a homeless shelter sleeping in bunk beds next to other homeless dudes?
>>33836297Why would you be friends with someone so obnoxious self centered and audibly annoying? Are you one of those people that goes to the library and plays your music on speaker because you think everyone loves to listen to your shit music?
>>33836202>>33836297Oh, I forgot to mention, he's 70 years old. Every night, I can hear him urinating into a bottle because he can't be bothered to get up and go to the bathroom.So he just sleeps with bottles of piss next to him.
>be me>have autism>have complicated love-hate relationship with own mother>turn 18 today>plan to try out alcohol with my older brother later, though my mother said i should never drink alcohol in my life>wants to have a job to buy anything and commission artists online to draw anything i want them to draw while opening up a PayPal account (and secretly move out but i can't do it because my mom told me as a child to promise her never to leave her house and stay with her forever, and i couldn't refuse).>tell mom i want to have a job and asks her for my ID card so i can register a PayPal account>my mom, who believes autistic adults can't take care of themselves alone, gets weirded out and says "what do you need a job AND a PayPal account for??? Just ask mommy to buy anything you want, sweetie!"Help, how do i grow up without her being sad? I don't want to have a job while having to deal with my mother complaning every day about me going "too hard on myself". I don't want to live with my mom forever and be made fun of for it. I don't want to have her use my Twitter account to DM artists for commissions.Meanwhile my father and brother are completely supportive of what i want to do as an adult
>>33834317Your mom is correct, drink is for losers.
OP, you're gonna find things differently compared to neurotypicals. The neurotypical way in doing things is getting told how it is done and patted on the back for little accomplishments. Autistic people we have to problem solve secretly and through making terrible mistakes. You have to be your own example OP. You do that you'll soon be independent like me. Note an autistic as an independent adult is like a tools guy as in all practical in everyday situations and driven.
>>33834317Grow a pair of balls and learn to say no to your parents, you will end up like my neigbor who is a 35 year old virgin and is under his 65 year old mothers skirt all the time, and does what she tells him.
>>33834317You can tell her you want a job in order to help your family members, or tell her that you can't always relay on her and that you need some degree of independence. If everything fails just ignore her and get a job.
>>33834317Just say that you need to learn how to live by yourself, one day you will be alone, and you can't do it without money.
But here we are, it's Octover and I'm still a single chud without a trad stacy who is half my age by my side. I'm still hopeful as there two more months left but then that's it it's truly over for me.
I've only ever been in one real relationship. It was nice but I never said 'I love you' because I never knew if I did. I enjoyed hanging out with her and being with her but how do I know if it ever went into love. That relationship ended about six years ago and I've only been in a few dates since then. Now I struggle to feel any real romantic connection as quick as others seem to. Went on a few dates with a girl back in January - February. She wanted to be "boyfriend/girlfriend" after the second date and I said that was too quick for me and then she wanted to stop seeing each other. Is there something wrong with me? Am I just incapable of feeling love or am I misunderstanding what it actually feels like?
Love is the moment you realize the person you're with isn't just fun to be around, but that they make your life better on a fundamental level. It's when you're at your lowest and the first thing you want is to be with that person, when you truly feel like their presence will make things better for you. It's the realization that even when you two fight, even when they drive you up the wall and you fantasize about getting out, deep down you know you don't really want to be apart because you don't want to be without them specifically. It's not just fear of being alone, it's fear of being without that person.When the rush wears off and you still feel warm and comfortable with them, that is love. Experiencing true love requires a leap of faith, to allow yourself to be vulnerable like you've never been before. To truly trust someone in ways that can be downright terrifying, and hope to god they accept you as you are. It is a gradual buildup to getting to that point, a series of small awkward moments that help guide you to taking the big leap. And when you do, if they're really the one for you, you'll be rewarded with true, deep love.
>>33834869Damn that sounds nice. I hope I can experience that with someone.
>>33834878You will. I know it can seem hopeless or unfair at times, but so long as you are open to the possibility of love and are willing to try and build your way to that big leap of faith, you will find love. The worst thing you could ever do is close yourself off and convince yourself that love is not real, or that it's not for you.
>>33835099Makes sense it's just hard not to become jaded today, especially getting older. There's just fewer opportunities to meet others before you can even start to think about dating, let alone love.
>>33834869I had this once but it couldn't work because our lives were too different. God knows I'll never have it again. My heart is empty now. I will die alone.
Why is dating as a fat guy a fucking nightmare in 2025
>>33829035No, you're an idiot. >op:"Why is dating as a fat guy a fucking nightmare in 2025">anon holding 4 cocks: "Objectively wrong. Pic related is Kelly Johnson, who happened to design some of the most advanced aircraft ever made but was a chubby engineer desk jockey all his life. Dude managed to be married three times. To increasingly younger women each time. TL;DR our world has gotten more vain and shallow with each passing decade. What's on the inside doesn't matter anymore for attraction, people are picking the books with the prettiest covers."You're using someone who managed to marry due to status & resources while also suggesting that "people are more superficial today", which is a blatant contradiction to your point. Terrible example of yours. They don't care about his feats and feets in and off themselves but what they can project on to her. Social acceptance for the day and age. They don't give a fuck about him, which is plausibly the reason why his spouses divorced him so frequently. Furthermore, anons above your first shitbreak post said:>It has ALWAYS been a nightmare, anon.And not that it was impossible. Just seriously tough, which op also suggested, which it also fucking is. And you're accusing others of lacking higher order reasoning and logic, while you can't even stay coherent in your own reasoning. You're literally projecting. You know that, right? Moreover, in an egelitarian society like you and I and OP lives in - where women are free to choose with very little social stigma of being alone or being the main provider, women would rather kill themselves than be with tubby, which is why OP is having a hard time. tl;dr you're a low iq fat fuck and a can of kerosene is recommended for your condition who's the llm here you little bitch, i'll whip your ass with a towel
lol..
>>33827967fat people aren't so scary once you climb a few stairs
>>33827967the hypocrisy is too blatant, this is a ragebait thread
>>33834011Holy shit this is a TL;DR full of copeNo machine could seethe this much
Can a 26 year old who is a complete social recluse turn it all around and be normal? Or would I just always be too far behind everyone else my age.
>>33827534https://youtu.be/lqZehFAwoTM?t=32It's over as soon as you turn 18 and leave the school system without a well established social circle. You go to work, but you won't make any friends, just coworkers. You join a sports club, same deal. It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood. You'll be nothing more than a coworker, destined to be alone for life. Social life and relationships are like trains you have to catch at the quay, a race against time that takes place during adolescence. And by extension, logically of course, no social life and no women.But normies don't understand this because they are clueless normies who think you can walk into a bar full of strangers and magically form a social life like in The Sims. Only women can start from scratch and create a social life and get a boyfriend from scratch because of their status as women.Whether you're 46 or 26 it doesn't change anything, maybe for the normies, but for you and me Chud, a year is like any other, the sands of time flowing towards nothingness, nothing more.. nothing less.
>>33836046>as soon as you turn 18It's over well before that if you didn't have a friendgroup in grade school, didn't go places with your friends, didn't date anybody, didn't go to school events like sports games or prom, because you missed out on crucial life experience during your formative years
>>33828681>But having to deal with their stupidity, biases, preconceived notions, suspiciousness, power-plays, gossip, and general evilness is just too much.Implying you won't also get that just surfing the net and talking to people online (especially on 4chan kek).
>>33827534>>33836046>>33836079It's over if you don't have friends from Kindergarten.
>>33836046>It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood.Riddle me this: what if those friends were losers? You'd have no other choice be to detach yourself from them
>24, almost 25>About to graduate college with a BS in Biology with no student debt>Only 20K in savings, have not had a job in over 4 years>Only job experience is with fast food>No drivers license>Overweight, 240lbs>Have never had a girlfriend for more than a month; social skills and confidence have since eroded>Already doubting that my degree will get me anywhere before I even start looking for jobs>Have severe speech impediments; lisps, dyslexia, unable to speak on the fly without having to stop and spend 1-3 seconds thinking about what i'm going to say like a slow retardAll my hobbies have grown dull to me and every waking moment my mind is telling me that i'm wasting time, it is screaming to me that this is the point in life where I make it or break it, that i'll be a forever fuckup if I don't get my act together right now. What would you focus on doing if you were in my shoes? Lose weight? Focus on socialization? Work on my speech impediment? Go back to college for a more practical degree?>Inb4 suicideBelieve me, I know
>Only 20k in savingsCould be worse, you could be down to your last $100 with no job. Go get your driver's license, teenagers do that it isn't hard. Exercise can be hard, especially keeping a routine, but do your best to stay consistent and lose weight. Go to more social things. Can't recommend a bar unless you're a fag, then gay bars have very welcoming patrons, though this is kind of a bad thing because it means they have no standards. Go try new things instead of getting fatigued on current hobbies. You can return to them later down the line and fall in love with them again. Can't really help direct you with that other stuff but it seems like a decent amount of your problems can be solved. Even still, you're not in an unwinnable position with any of your problems right now. It'll get better, trust.
>>33833059>be me >30 y.o NEET virgin, kissless, hugless, sexless, loveless >short and bald >live with parents >no job experience, only getting by hustling >have a driver license from 9 years ago but forgot how to drive due to never having had a car >only thing I have positive is that I am lean and in shape, literally nothing else is good>extreme social anxiety, abysmally low social skills, maybe on the spectrum but idk >no friends >no family member cares about me or likes me beside parents, i feel sad and ashamed they still love me regardless >cripples by self doubt, panic attacks, insomnia, etc.. Don't do it.If i haven't done it yet, neither should you.
>>33833059> If I were in your shoes.Take them off and give them back to you.
>>33833059lose weight >drink nothing but water and coffee (as much sugar + milk as you want, but no milk outside of coffee, as it suppresses hunger, and milk makes you hungrier)>eat in meals, skip breakfast if you don't have work or school>slowly start exercising>join a boxing gym, it'll be months before you spar anyway>pay for driving lessons>practice talking, only way to improve idk howyou can do these all in the same general period of time If you don't do these, you'll just get worse. I have no advice when it comes to social stuff or education, however you do these, utilize them for social practice, use common sense.
>>33836257don't exercise too much and hurt yourself, try to do it every day, or 6 times a week, never been fat. Start with walking, or whatever the american equivalent is
Is there anything I can do to appear intimidating at 5’4”I’ve already taken up boxing and getting a buzz cut (I used to look more geeky)
>>33834327why do you care? do you really want to be as pathetic and insecure as taint?
put on some muscle but dont go the body building route unless you're trying to be body builder. Basically if you can achieve 160 lbs and 10% body fat that is a good look. But if you were to acheive 10% body fat and 180 lbs thats when you get that short man lift weigths to comensate type deal. I'm 5'7 (almost, sadly) and yeah it sucks because the best relationship I have ever had in my life i really loved her looked at me and said with all sincerity that she loves my body she just wishes I was a bit taller and she was like 5'5 and that hurt, and yes I am self concious.... I havent had sex in 12 years nearly. aside from the females perspective of me, something that also deeply troubles me is even just around other men you get talked over, not taken seriously, joked at, the butt of all jokes, etcits a cruel thing
>>33834327>appear intimidatingget a job where you get to wear a scary uniformpolice, military, waffen SS, etc
>>33834327Leg lengthening surgery is probably like 2k in turkey
>>33836098>160 lbs and 10% body fatthis at 5'4 will make you look like jeff nippard lmao
I grew up in a muslim house , but prayer was never crazy enforced or anything , I still don't even pray 5X a day , maybe max 4 when I'm feelin good or as little as just 1 I do believe in God , but I have some doubts about Hadith (and yes yes this technically makes me Kafir to many muslims) but I never talk about it. I firmly believe christianity made Jesus more than man and Islam made muhammad morally sketchy - both religions essentially have their own leap of faith. The thing is, I've recently been getting into it and going deeper and honestly I'm so torn , Islams practices are resonating more and more with me (minus Muhammad sometimes but hopefully I get my doubts about him cleared) BUT I effing hate muslims - they are incredibly judgy, preachy, and nitpicking every little thing "why dont you have a beard? Kafir!" , "how dare you buy coffee from so and so chain - they support israel!" (bitch I have a gift card) and so on. The irony is - the same types of girls and dudes that judge for me for this are behind me in line ordering haram chicken at a fast food place or buying coffee from the same place! I like praying (just maybe not 5X), I like the Quran, but I hate the stress of being a modern muslim - you're supposed to be a social justice warrior AND you can't mingle with people of other cultures essentially. I went to a mosque and they take it super seriously but that makes me think - why am I always trying to bend over backwards to a group of people that essentially keep moving goal posts until you move all the way out to a middle eastern country while enjoying cushy western lives themselves. It just feels like the blind leading the blind in many ways and I'm just so tired. If I'm essentially committing sin every day by not praying, always behind the 8-ball, why am I still doing this? Should I quit and pick a new one?
>>33834605>It just feels like the blind leading the blindthats religion, dumbass>point the finger and then commit the same sinyet to meet a muslim who wasn't dumb as a rock or a disengenuous snake>should i change sidesalmost there...
>>33834605OP, what religion you profess and the jewish question are two very different things. The Gazans are being genocided for being arabs in a land occupied by jews. It's a race war. Ironically, the jews are not totally wrong when they accuse their enemies of being nazis. Practially every race that encounters the jews ends up hating them. The arabs there are a mix of religions. Also, Isn't it interesting how it's the Shia (Iran, the Houthis and Hezbollah) in particular, who are the only outsiders fighting in support of the Palestinians. The Sunni countries neighbouring Israel won't do anything.>t. Rambled a bit, I know, and only tangentially relevant to your question.
>>33834605Religion is 100% hypocrisy. Always. The more someone will show off his pious ways, the bigger of a sinner they are. The only people who maybe really believe all this nonsense are literally mentally ill. Just like someone who actually believes in alien abduction. All else is just performative.
>>33834605islam has some good stuff (unless you're a woman)which one would u pick? (and where do you live?)
>>33834605you're breaking free of the bounds of religion, they want you to play their game and live within this ecosystem that offers you free salvation points for doing certain deedsthe reality is the reality though - muslims are pricks, as you experienced on your own flesh.You need to live to be a good personsimplelive to be a good persongood person means, not being a cunt, not being abrasive, not having such strong fervor about specific topics to the point where you dedicate your life to meaningless pursuits.Who the fuck cares about some war happening far away? who cares?you wake up in the morning, you have your two eyes, you have your two legs, you have your two arms, you are still alive. You need to be happy and thankful for this, and you need to use ALL of your power - to maintain it. And to maintain your mental health as much as your physical one because the two are interlinked. You take care of your body, you also take care of your needs to socialize, to have good interactions, to be a good person. You become classy. You become wanted. People like having you around. You don't fake it, you're just happy to be there and happy to be part of society.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>mom lost her job last year>we both struggle to find work>I finally found a job last month >nothing special, but it's a job, and I can save up and pay some bills>2 weeks in I find out that my things in my drawer have been rearranged >she tossed out my psp, gameboy, and my pokemon cards>I get pissed and ask her about it>she plays dumb and says she'll get me another one >I curse her out and decide that she isn't worth speaking to>stop going to church with her because I don't care for religion and I have no respect for her anymore>she starts acting like the victim and believes that my videogames are the reason why she can't find work now(she's a superstitious, carribean bitch who believes that videogames and comic books can bring demons into your home)
>>33835482>>33835539I also just realized that I'm continuing a cycle. She cut off her family because of how they treated her despite how much work she did for them. I understand that she wants me to go to school, become more social, find a girlfriend, graduate, get a good job, etc. But when her idea of pushing me towards that is by destroying my things or throwing them out without my permission, or trying to get me to enter some random program at a university in a different province, making me stay in that province with her for several days and nights and increasing the amount of time I spend over there every week because it's her way of forcing me to get out of my room, and to get me to pretend to be a homeless student who needs housing because she wants me to go back to school, I start to grow tired of her garbage ideas. I understand that getting an education is important. I understand that we're in a pretty shitty situation, but I'm not going to screw myself by picking out a random shit degree so I can pretend to be a homeless student living out of a car with his mom, so I can get some benefits. I'm not gonna take an actual homeless student's spot when I have a nice house to go home to. It's maddening.
>>33835600>She cut off her family because of how they treated herI'd point that out to her, then tell her not to touch your stuff anymore
>>33835692Pointing that out won't change anything because she's so damn headstrong. She told me that she wasn't suppose to hit me in the same way that her siblings used to hit her last year or in 2023, I felt absolutely nothing because the damage has already been done. Of course it was her way of trying to discipline me, but it's too late for me to care at that point. The only thing she knows how to do these days is pray for around 4 hours a day and ask Jesus to help her because she thinks she's being spiritually attacked by people who want to harm her.
Anon, I think your mother is paranoid schizophrenic and should get her check. Not even saying this to shitpost since she can actually start being a danger to herself and others if things go unchecked.
>>33835874She might be or she's just another religious moron who ate up the videogames and certain music genres are demonic kool-aid.
So I recently have been promoted at my job after working there for a year and I get 2 20-min. lunch breaks. One at 8 and another at 11. Im moving from an 8 hour shift to a 10 hour one. What can I pack for my lunch in the morning that's relatively healthy and can get me through the workday. The work I do isn't strenuous, just monotony.
>>338359052 sandwiches
In the morning, hot cereal, yogurt with granola, boiled eggs and an apple, a protein smoothieFor lunch you could bring like basic cheese and crackers or more involved stuff like picrel that's from my lunch idea list you might find some inspo. I eat pretty balancedWhen I fall into a rut I google shit like 100 lunch ideas sometimes I forget I like stuff and go oh yeah
>>33835905Beans
I'm getting married soon, and I'm happy for that, but everyone is putting this expectation that like after I get married I'm supposed to have kids.I don't really want to have kids. My fiance and I haven't discussed it much, but I feel like he would be too busy with work to help me with raising kids and I'd rather just it be me and him together instead of complicating it by making our family bigger.Our parents are helping us get a house, and I'm getting the impression they're doing that because they want grandchildren.Would it be wrong of me to take their help without telling them that? I've got birth control and I don't plan on stopping it.
>>33834157Somebody has to breed and raise the next generation of goyim cattle. Most normies will happily step up to the plate and wage their life away for a chance to reproduce, might as well be you bitch.
>>33834199Okay so then by your logic the entire 3rd world should just stop procreating right now, huh?>insert happy merchant jpg here
>>33834199>No one should have children unless they can guarantee the child will live their lives free from undue hardshipSo you support forced eugenics being implemented against everyone based on economic status.>muh world badAlways has been. People have agency and can't predict the future. Having children is inherently a selfish decision initially because people are motivated to have a legacy for themselves, and want to build a family as it provides purpose for them. Your angsty doomerism is pathetic and gay.
>>33834157>My fiance and I haven't discussed it muchWhy the fuck not? That's a pretty central premise to any relationship, especially one that turns into a marriage.You need to know what his expectations are in marriage and if they're inline with yours before you say your vows.That's a really dumb thing to not discuss.
>>33835977Yes shlomo tell them, if someone has a family its only goy cattle, just be at home alone and consoom while raising cats.
Genuinely how do I get a job in the modern economy? Is there some sort of fucking method that I'm not doing that gets people hired? I'm in college and I just want to save some money until I move out. I've applied everywhere. I've applied for literal wageslave level pajeet jobs. I've applied online, in-store, dropped off resumes, done everything and gone through rounds and rounds of interviews, and all I get is nothing but the same old emails of>"Sorry, but we've decided to not move forward with your application."Not even McDonald's has managed to respond back and I went in for interviews countless times. Is there anything I'm doing wrong? I feel like I'm at the end of my rope and I don't want to succumb to being a NEET just yet.
>>33835330I wouldn't start learning a trade at 30.I still know plenty guys in the trade. By the time your into your 40s, your back is fucked. The only really successful tradies are the guys who learned their shit, broke out on their own, started their own businesses and got to the stage where all they do is go out to quote jobs. Then they hire young blokes to do the donkey work and show them the trade.The guys who are still up on rooftops at 45, or still huffing scaffolding poles, those are the guys who will be forced to retire at 55 due to a heart attack. And with the way the economy is at the moment likely end up penniless and having to sell their houses to pay off the mortgage. Don't do it.
>>33835330This guy >>33835330 mostly has it right but electrician or welder are still possibilities and if you take the time to be good at either if those you can make really good money and it shouldn't be backbreaking work
>>33835046You're absolutely fucked if you're a white man in America that doesn't have any connections/networking
>>33835350I'm still amazed that my 66 year old car mechanic dad hasn't croked, he's stabbed his hand multiple times, been in multiple car accidents, been shot, been stabbed, constantly inhales all sorts of fumes, smokes a pack a day, etc, yet he still can work 14 hours a day
>>33835330Yeah, it's too late. Not only that, but you're not gonna succeed in it if you're not a charismatic social animal. You need to know how to talk to people and sell your skills so they choose you instead of any of the other thousand people offering the same thing as you. Also, if you're an honest man, then you'll be in for a rude awakening because trade is filled with deceitful people chasing money and scamming old people. Competing with scammers is not possible unless you become one yourself.
