What is a good first car? I have a 30k USD budget and I know nothing about cars,, but besides that, should I buy used or brand new? I was thinking a Toyota Camry Hybrid or used Lexus es350 hybrid from what little I read online.
Get the Corolla or civic and just be done with it. Older the better.
I want to become a more interesting person because my only hobbies right now are the gym, self-improvement and video games (not even real hobbies). The only real hobby I have is reading, and I'm pretty sure it has the opposite effect I want.I'm also still a khhv at 19, so preferably something that would also make me more attractive to women.
>>33930954this x2. every woman has fangirled over some band member from a band she likes or has liked, and if you can be considered a "band guy", and she finds you attractive, her fangirl feelings will reawaken and be transplated onto you. >>33930963anything, even drums works if the girl is into rock.
>>33930741Adopting hobbies just to seem more interesting or to get sex will just make you hate your life and waste your time. As with anything else, not all women/men like the same hobbies. What is almost universally attractive is showing passion and interest in things you spend time on.E.g., if you like woodworking, even if you suck at it, spending time making little crafts is way cooler than picking up a thousand things that you don't have a genuine interest in. Experiment in different crafts like cooking, playing instruments just as an above poster said, painting, learning new languages, etc. Eventually you'll come across something you like and stick with it, and then a partner who is worth their shit will come along and support you and your hobby.If you like reading, maybe spend some time writing a little. Good luck.
>>33930963Guitar, always guitar. Piano/keyboard is good too
>>33930741Women don't give a fuck about hobbies.
>>33931531Yes, the game is rigged and like 75% face. The other 25% can make a difference for the right girl though.
I still live with my family. I have a boyfriend and I'm planning to move in with him soon, but we're waiting until after the holidays.My family loves my bf, and they're always happy to see him. They're old fashioned though, and they've been acting weird because I brought a guy friend over the other day.They kept whispering to me like "is everything okay between you and Todd?" And I tell them we're fine, and then they ask me who my guy friend is and why I'm hanging around another man.I've told them he's just a friend, he knows I have a bf, and I'm genuinely not interested in this guy as anything but a friend. My family does not believe it, and they had grandma tell me about how Todd's a good guy and they act like I'm doing something wrong and it makes me feel guilty.
>>33932419Continue ignoring your family. They're wrong, you're right, it's that simple and it won't even be an issue when you move in with your bf
>>33932419as a man in a happy relationship i personally would not choose to hang around one on one with a female friend in my parents house, i dont like the expectation that having the courtesy comes from insecurity, i think its just a natural kindness to give your partner
>>33932419This is crazy.Stop talking, interacting with your abusive, disgusting, and toxic family. What fucking right do they have to suggest anything?Fuck them!I hope they die and burn in hell!
Because Todd will be better off if you give up your friendships for him. It's not good for you personally and if your family had more collective brain cells they'd ask for you to keep the guy friend as a more of a distant friend instead of cutting him off completely.If the friend himself forces you to choose he's not worth it. If your family does- they don't have your best interests in mind.
She lied about birth control. Yes, I’m an idiot. Now please educate me. I barely know this girl, only met her once before she moved and she doesn’t seem that interested in me as the father. She won’t abort. Am I paying child support? Don’t make a ton of money right now. Should I skip town? I’m scared to give too much information in case it fucks me over later.
>>33931677My penis has been inside several vaginas. Why are you seething on behalf of lying sluts sir?
>>33931332sometimes in life you just fuck up in ways that are unfixable. i guess you should just hope that child isn't actually yours, and she was fucking someone else around the same time.
>>33931332Quit your job, incentivize abortion by being a povvo cunt.
>>33931672ive heard lying about an STD can be rape, but just like much of these things how can anon prove she said something that isnt true? hed have to have a text or voice recording at least.
Ask for a DNA test, the kid might not be your. If you meet her often there are plants that can cause a miscarriage. If everything fails you are fucked.
What do I do if I suspect someone is scamming money out of others by pretending to be homeless?There's a guy in my city (Melbourne) who's just pure shonk. He always looks clean, doesn't smell and his clothes are immaculate, but he's at it all day every day, has all the lines down pat and drives people nuts.I gave him money a few times (probably a total of about 20 bucks now) and now every time I pass by, he says "hey, can I have a dollar, have you got a dollar, please guy" (word for word) and he follows me and continues begging for a good 100 metres or so before can I get him to piss off. This has happened about 4 times now.He looks an awful lot like Spenny from Kenny and Spenny, a bit like the tall guy from American Pickers.Once I even bought him a sandwich from Subway and he thanked me but looked like he was secretly disappointed.
The fact that he looks like Spenny makes it 100 times worse.
>>33932687tell him
>>33932655"HEY BRO CAN YOU GIVE ME 10 DOLLARS I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE LIKE 10 DOLLARS DO YOU MIND GIVING ME 10 DOLLARS"just approach them like this, jovially, when you see them approaching and talk through them
>>33932734HahahahahaI'll try that
>>33932736go get those 10 dollars bro, you can do it!
It's basically pretty much over. I have to KMS
>>33932690my lifei failed my mission
>>33932691what was your mission? like a catholic mission?
>>33932700im not doing as good as i wanted to be doing in grad school
>>33932705damn bro when you put it like that its a surprise the sky isnt raining blood and shitdust off get back up, dont be a baby
>>33932705grad school is practically designed to make you kill yourself nowadays, unless you have a cushy gig with a helpful competent supervisor.
Why does society teach us that we should ignore problems and be the bigger man when faced with confrontation when doing these are the fastest ways to lose respect from others? I look back at all the times I've apologized when I was clearly in the right and I highly doubt it ever made the other person think about their actions. And even though other people saw it, they never gave me a pat on the back or acknowledged me being the "better" person for not escalating or defending myself, even when it would have been justified. They always just pretend they didn't see anything. Or even worse, they probably just assume I was at fault because I apologized and internalize it subconsciously, forever painting their perception of me as a weak bitch.I feel like it's the latter because I've never been respected and people treat all my achievements as flukes instead of real competence even though I feel like I've proven my abilities time and time again. My merits just don't speak for themselves I guess... I also think people are inclined towards the more cynical way of thinking because they lack empathy, act in bad faith by immediately assuming the worst, and don't care enough to put in the effort to see who was actually in the right once the dust settles. Even when I'm shown to be right in the end, everyone who saw just pretends they forgot or that it never happened and never acknowledge it. But they still keep with them that mental image of me and my "weakness" that they picked up on and was imprinted subconsciously.
>>33929288>>33930926Anon I'm not even saying this as a joke if you were a female you'd get raped over and over again.
>>33925080Do you still live with your parents?Also the "society" I grew up with always told us to fight for our rights and shit, but I never really cared for their propaganda
>>33925080Your owners teach you that, so they can take advantage over you at will.
>>33925343ThisWhen I started watching them, I stopped believing a word they say.
>>33929240Ever heard of "self-defense"?
>be 18 a few years back >come out of relationship that didn't work out >Covid made end of high school a mess >Oh it'll be fine, I'll have a fun time in uni, get my driver's license, get a cute khv wife and make a bunch of money after my bachelor's or master's degree >Sudden 3+ years of chronic sickness >Spend my days fighting symptoms in bed, wondering if it's still worth continuing to live >Decide life is probably worth living >Docs finally find the cause and cure me, life is colorful again >Doing driver's license, close to finishing up bachelor's, and have a small job now >But >People still look down on me and make me feel like a failure because I'm far behind >Bad grades from past years seem getting into a master's program or getting a good job seem impossible >Feel like I'm too old to find a virgin wife Was fighting to continue living really worth it? Should I have just killed myself considering it seems like my sickness also stole my chance at achieving my dreams?
>>33928941it probably doesn't compare to chronic illness, but i lost quite a few years to mental illness and ended up pretty far behind. It's hard to appreciate how far you've made it when it feels like you're running out of time. I'm proud that i made it out alive, but even i'm occasionally paralyzed by terror and grief at the years i lost.You could have just stagnated forever, but you're moving faster than you were a few years ago, you're further ahead than you were a few years ago, you're more determined than you were a few years ago. You're probably pretty far ahead of your peers in those areas.>>33928948>what if my gradesthen you'll try again and do even better than you did the first time.>what if i can't find a girlyou might just have to get over the virgin thing. Women like sex, they can't all wait around for you to show up and bless them with your penis. It won't be her first time ever, but it'll be her first time with you.
>>33928941>But their judgement ultimately ends up deciding my career and future lifeStart your own business if you are seriously this worried about it.You had a medical reason. You can easily turn the fact that you beat a life threatening illness into a reason people respect you.
>>33927125>is it worth it?always
>>33929439>then you'll try againIdk if I'm allowed to retake exams, I don't think so. I gotta make the cut or I'm just not getting into a (decent) master's program.>get over itNuh uh. If the desire for a perfect partner kept me alive then, that's all the more reason to keep it now :3>>33929525I hope so. Most people I interact with seem to immediately think I'm lying or exaggerating for some reason and it makes me feel hopeless.>>33929539Thanks anon
>>33932009>Most people I interact with seem to immediately think I'm lying or exaggerating for some reasonWhat 70 years of pissing calvin core judeo-libertardian rugged individualism does to a social fabric
how do i as a black person keep living in a world where everyone hates black people (including other black people)
>>33925195“Black fatigue” is overblown, thank your lucky stars you aren’t a pajeet shitflinger. Idk if you’ve noticed but people are much more openly racist to Indians than blacks, this website just doesn’t filter the word nigger. Also BNWO porn is disturbingly prevalent on this site. Just dickmaxx & fitnessmaxx & fuck white chicks. Go play sports since you have a natural athletic advantage. If you’re even mildly attractive & above 5’10 your life is on easy mode. Good luck & Godspeed anon.
>>33931872You haven't met many white women, they hate blacks. It's like a social embarressment to get with one
>>33931872>Go play sports since you have a natural athletic advantage.Being good at sports is not at all comparable to being good at science or engineering or finances.
>>33931906Come to Denver, it's crawling with coalburners. They're gross as fuck but I'm sure you don't care
>>33931906>Has most definitely been cucked by Tyrone.>>33931968>”muh iq” when your nigger classmates had a fulfilling time in college & make millions as pro athletes.lol. lmao even
(unrelated pic)hello anons.your fellow anon tyfyt suffers from a severe nutting addiction.or, to be fair and im not egoistic here, i think im better off than most of guys. on average, i nut 8 times a week (it was so hard to count you wouldn't believe it).i tried several stuff:>"just stop doing it"?-ive got no will power>associate it with bad feelings?-i literally insult myself *while* doing it, let alone after.>whatch bad porn?-tell me if there is worse than 4chanand a long list of commun strategies that didn't go well for me (if you have a better way of implementing one of those strategies tell me!).Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33930833I used to be like you Anon. Masturbating 3x a day for 7 day week.I am also 18, fresh out of HS. Avoid pornography. You see.. your bored so you turn to masturbating. Find other activities to do when your bored (reading, puzzle-solving, exercise, etc)
>>33930983FwdMasturbating is just a thing you do when your bored and feeling down. Find healthier routes like above plus learn new skills(play an instrument).
>>33930983will do anon. will advice will not go to waste.
>>33931005And masturbating itself is a healthy activity. Except when in your case or PMO. I was acquainted w/ a guy that was a porn addict whom eventually streamed himself selfsucking and downward spiral went from that point. Don't end up like him.
>>33931121i would take a habit of twice a week AT MAX. but now as i said i cum 8 times a week and its killing me.
How can someone succeed in the dating realm at 5’3?Please no bs platitudes. I just want a gf. I’m in Aus if it matters
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>>33914990go back to ironforge
>>33931477>I'm not op you apeNever said you were OP. You do act like a faggot, though. I guess the world can seem really scary when you have to ask your bartender for a booster seat, huh?>just think you’re low iq for telling a 5 foot fucking 3 manlet to “just be confident”It makes high IQ people laugh that you will never, ever get to have fun at Disneyland because you refuse to change your attitude or take personal responsibility for your failure at life. If you did, you would realize that doing so is what makes you "just be confident" over time with hard work and honest self-reflection. The world owes you nothing and is content to let you die.But by all means, just give up. I don't care what you think about anything. Neither do women from the sound of it. They, like everyone ITT, sense that your genes dying out will improve the world.>>33931499>>33931504
>>33914990>5’3>Australiaget money, get fit, acclimatise yourself with rejection, because you'll get rejected almost all the time. get used to approaching at bars and clubs and use that as your superpower, as the women know that men rarely approach there now.leave the women at work alone and don't approach there.
>>33931758>masking viciousness with dating advice
I have no interests and no hobbies and I do nothing except browse the internet and I think people think I'm too interested in things I talked about a few times but lost interest in laterI don't know what to talk about about myself, I'm just a fucking loser who can't commit to anything. Let me give you guys some basic info>I hate music and avoid it because it's feminine and a waste of time and my female relatives were fucking cunts>I'm not really allowed to go outside as my parents think it could affect my face within society>I lost interest in art and painting because I hate artists and I think it's degenerate>I hate smartphones because I had been addicted to them and I stopped using them>I hate the language of my country because I'm in Southeast Asia and it fucking sucks and is pointless>I hate reading anime and manga because I'm above 18 and I'm too old for them(I don't read comics anymore too)>I hate food because I'm pretty much anorexic and I hate eating and I never made food once>There is no home depot or any place over here where I can get things to be autistic with>I have no interest in vehicles>I use Linux but I don't even care about OS autism and I just prefer it because I'm poor>I don't like writing because my parents check what I write and I can't write anything>I don't like singing or speaking because I hate the fact my family could interfere in something>I hate reading books now because other people are doing it and judge meComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33927266I also feel entirely purposeless. I don't know what to do. I hate how suicide is made illegal. I just want to be free. I wish I had a sense of self like people with autism, my friend told me once about how he wished he had autism so he could draw something he'd been making, I wish I'd something similar. I hate how it's all so miserable and pointless.
>>33927180Bump
>>33927180>I hate music and avoid it because it's feminine and a waste of timet. demonDemons react to certain frequencies when two tones cross...it drives them crazy. Bach discovered this and put it into a system using a mathematical progression of tonal combinations that allows us to expose demons.>my female relatives were fucking cuntsI'm sure
>>33930979I think there's a wikipedia page on people who don't like it
If youre lurking adv right now get a hobbyIt keeps you in contact with people where you aren't a hermit and lonely and the interactions are usually centered around relatability or learning and new experiences rather than the odd hunt that can lead into trying to prove yourself.When dudes don't have stuff they like to do they tend to get into scarcity mode and then the issues arise. As humans we are meant to be social albiet men are wired to be able to endure being alone but there is a difference between being a basement dweller and being on your journey of life and meeting people along the way.
Let me tell ya, I have a good hobbies that I'm good at and I'm still antisocial. I hate all of the people I've come to know in my city and those spineless cocksuckers hate me too. They earned it, fuck em. No one to call or open up to, I just have my work and fighting. Helps keep me off of drugs. You're right that /adv/ is a emotional cesspool but so is your local bar. If you're reading this, go win and fuck someone's girlfriend. Be the change you want to see.
>>33931951That's because nightclubs are havens for people with no identity looking for warmth. Go to people and talk to them. They're simple, all they want is fun and inclusion. Just be the party and let them adjust, they're all moths to lamps anyway.
>>33931944Doing hobby things with people annoys me and feels bad. Can only be social for the sake of being social.
Having hobbies isn't a golden ticket towards meeting people.
>get a hobby
>Didn’t meet my wife in middle or high schoolI should just kms now, yeah?How was I supposed to know that the dating “scene” would become what it is today?I would have smashed every last video game, severed every nerdy friend connection I had, spent 12 hours in the gym everyday and the other 12 on a sportsball field if I had known it was then or never.Humiliation ritual to the max.
>>33930367I’m 31.Had 2 gfs. First at 29 second at 30. Neither lasted more than 6 months. First was a 34 y/o autistic femcel who couldn’t handle being in a relationship and I have now concluded my second gf only dated me for alternative intent, rather than ‘me’.
>>33930383Fair enough, I thought you were in your early 20s or something
>>33930336>How was I supposed to know that the dating “scene” would become what it is today?Zoomers talking about "the modern dating today these days" really grinds my gears, dating has been the same as it's always been - especially in the last 20 years.This notion that women prefer attractive guys, or that people with a social life will date outside of their immediate circles to go flirt with strangers is nothing new, it wasn't created by dating apps in 2017.
>>33930383Fakecel post
>>33930336>didn't meet wife in middle or high schoolYou're caught up on a fantasy that you've imagined as a missed opportunity. You didn't miss it because something was wrong with you or you made a mistake, you missed it because it's a Television fantasy.>>33930383>I should just kms now, yeah?>only dated two women ever>started 2 years agoSo you only tried twice and decided it's time to give up?
You can call me pussy or whatever, I don’t really care. I did terrible thing of cheating on my gf 8 years ago and it’s haunting me everyday since. I told her everything not long time after .Some days are better, some are worse, but it’s never good. We are married now and have a child, but I feel like I’m falling apart. I developed a swing/cuck kink only becouse I feel like her cheating on me would be the only thing to heal me, but I never told her that. I would love to end my life but I don’t have enough courage.I don’t want to go to psychologist becouse I’m worried everyone would find out. I’m so embarassed for what I did.I can’t stand it any more. I know I deserved that, but I just can’t. You can roast me, I like to feel like piece of shit(which I am).What sould I do?
Has she forgiven you? Truly, really?If she has (If you got married after you cheated, I think she has) accept that and move on with your life. You'll gain nothing whining about it.
>>33931438>Some days are better, some are worse, but it’s never good. We are married now and have a child, but I feel like I’m falling apartThis is the reason why sometimes breaking up after infidelity is for the best. I cried and raged and begged to stay together with my ex after I cheated on her, but she was stalwart in breaking up. I truly believe now it was the only outcome that would help us find happiness in our lives, since we very clearly weren't finding it in each other. And T B H, it really wasn't the break up that hurt me as badly as learning she had an emotional affair going with some guy at work and immediately started dating him as soon as we broke up.>I don’t want to go to psychologist becouse I’m worried everyone would find out. Shrinks are bound by anonymity, if your shrink told anyone they'd be breaking the law. I genuinely think you need a psychologist and probably couple's counseling too.
I just always break up before the infidelity. I always had the feeling that something like this would have happened even if I could get away with it.
>>33931956Oh and by couple's counseling, I mean by an older, married man who is a psychologist and will actually work with you to reach the root of your issues instead of just being a mediator while you both air your grievances.Women are right out because they'll just forma sisterhood and sabotage you. A younger dude, married or unmarried, might try to take advantage of the situation to bang your wife because there do be slimy couples counselors out there using that as their game.
Fuck any and all of her friends that think you're sexy.
