I'm turning 25 soon and I've never had a girlfriend before. What should I do?
>>34035656i was virgin till 24, i met a girl by pure luck. otherwise i would be 30 year old virgin now.i dont want to be the bearer of bad news but its tuff. unless you really start trying. yeah.. just trying.. but thats effort for a lot of ''no'', ''i have a boyfriend'' etc if ur taking the non jeet nigger approach and get to know them before shooting ur shot
>>34035764I’m 24 too I’ve kissed girls and went on dates but never made it past that. Should I just go to Thailand I’ve asked for 4 girls number this year and it all failed. It wasn’t much but it’s not easy here
>>34036117thailand is overrated. where are u from and what are ur finances?
>>34036145America, money is not an issue
>>34036162then you should go where ever the fuck you like. avoid overrated places like thailand of course. any low-key place in asia of course would be my go-to if money wasnt an issue for me. mongolia is underrated, khazakhstan, rural japan just to take a break from shit, china.. the world is your oyster my friend. what i can add is, sinc eu never had a gf... get a REAL female friend. get close to her, sister-brother kind of friendship (and DO NOT attempt to turn it into a relationship unless she SPECIFICALLY wants that, the goal is to get comfortable with a female, you will get a lot of xp from that.)
i often see men online saying that they can/can't "afford" a pretty woman. do most men feel like this? that you feel you must spend or provide more for a woman if she's attractive to you?so, if a man isn't acting like he wants to "afford" you, does it mean he's settling for you/doesn't find you actually beautiful? because based on what men say, it does seem this is true (even if men here will probably lie about it when directly confronted about it).seems to me like you're setting yourself up to date someone who doesn't actually find you attractive if a guy doesn't think like this about you ("i hope i can afford her") since so many men talk about women like this online. the implication seems to be that if he isn't trying to "afford" you, he doesn't find you attractive. and well, who wants to be that person who is dating someone who doesn't actually find you attractive.idk dating seems so stressful and learning about this stuff has made it seem even more stressful to me. i've always been more like a tomboy type, and now it seems like i must reject guys if they don't act like they want to be able to afford me, even if it doesn't feel natural, bc otherwise i will end up with someone who will not find me attractive.
>>34032671This is so real. I generally ignore the women who are easily available. The women who are super hot - I have to humiliate myself trying to get them, and they usually lose attraction when they see me trying too hard.I would imagine it only works if you manage to fuck them ASAP.I almost want to abstain from women altogether. The idea of a life partner - it seems like you have to wade through endless pain to find that.Life is pretty sad desu.
>>34032206men are expected to provide. some men have worked hard enough and earned enough to afford provision, some men know that they need to work harder and earn more.> now it seems like i must reject guys if they don't act like they want to be able to afford meyou would be rejecting men that are saying they want to work harder for you, to provide for you.
>>34035915>you would be rejecting men that are saying they want to work harder for you, to provide for you.I found this out the hard way. No girl truly wants the guy who's a work-in-progress, even if he has talent. And it's also the guy's best interest not to date anyway, because he's too busy building.The guy who is a WIP can easily lose everything and start from square one by choosing the wrong woman. Once you've actually made it, then the women will chase you, and it'll be harder for them to destroy you.
>>34035921i have heard it stated as 'women wait at the finish line and pick the winners'>Once you've actually made it, then the women will chase youi will agree to disagree on this one.
>>34036167>i will agree to disagree on this one.If you get to 1 million subs on Youtube, you will have random women emailing you wanting to fuck. This is real.
Every time I leave uni and visit family my younger sister is always tweaking out about stupid shit I do. Not only does my mom only ever talk to her about her degree and never mine, but at family gatherings, she, her bf (who's way taller and better looking, not even whining its just the truth) and the rest of my family cant be bothered to talk to me, even on thanksgiving and Christmas. They think all of my interests are so strange. I guess reading and niche sports (billiards mainly) are just below them. It's gotten to a point where whenever I go visit them I'll troll the fuck out of my sister and piss her off as a petty victory. I wanna convince myself I can salvage my relationship with my sister, but all my life she's always looked down upon me because she's so much smarter, prettier, whatever. I don't WANT to hate her but I do. It sucks even more because she's the younger one yet everyone likes her so much more than me. Anyone relate?
>>34036137I've actually never heard this kind of take before. Interesting, is it like a psycho thing?
>>34036122There’s nothing wrong billiards, but it is a pretty niche sport. You can’t expect anyone to care.What do you read about? I’ll bet it’s some weirdo stuff like aliens or Hitler.
>>34036151>is it like a psycho thing?it's a frequent family occurrence, in this case more like a woman thing. as such it's usually mom/daughter family dynamics that enable it (no father/weak father)
>>34036174Not aliens or Hitler, I need to catch up on the lore lol.The Bible, sometimes philosophy, dostoevsky, Dune.
>>34036177I see. I did have a weak father. Years ago I spiritually overcame my father through therapy and Christiantiy.>>34036182Also its like all my country bumpkin senpai ever wants to talk about is muh jewelry or hunting. I dont even dislike hunting but all we ever talk about is so repetitive and stupid. I'm not expecting Aristotles philosophy class on thanksgiving but damn we never talk about our interests or worries, etc etc. I even try to get to know my family and extended family better but its like anything other than consumerism or gay politics they cant comprehend
I have been lingering on some pretty minor grievances I have had with people. For some of them, I'm actively plotting revenge. Examples:>I recently quit a job because the new manager decided to cause a new issue with me everyday. This one annoys me because I got along fine at this place for two years until her. But I was done being told to cover up the injuries she caused.>the job before that had a staff that hated me and called me a faggot, incel, and some names I don't really understand. It got to a point where the girls requested I not be in the same room as them or speak even when it was work related.>I was banned from a support/discussion group Reddit literally years ago. The reason was for answering a question about my actual beliefs. >I had a scam call earlier this year where the guy pretended to be a cop. I hung up, but for several days afterwards I had no idea if it was real or fake.What's extra weird is that, I have had major, life altering things, done to me. And yet, I don't think about them. It's as if I view real issues to be inevitable and therefore not subject to assigning responsibility for. But somehow the above examples aren't or something?But the fact remains that, it's pointless to "correct" any of these perceived wrongs. How do I stop thinking so much about them?
>>340329551. Don't sweat the small stuff.2. Realize that it is all small stuff
>>34032955>I have had major, life altering things, done to me.Needs more information.
>>34034491Here I’m referencing to >getting falsely accused of falling asleep.This lead to being forced to sign a confession by my command and having all my progress in the station halted. However, I didn’t know what I was accused of at first, so when command asked “what do you think you did wrong.” I answered honestly. This meant that I was a liar and raised the charges. For the following year I was the complete fuck up and lair. There was nothing I could do to be treated as an equal. The others of my same rank just used me as their excuse for their problems. I eventually took the first assignment that would get me anywhere else. This didn’t go well either for different reasons, but I was far away from the accuser. Until the day she went to a school in the same station.>getting stabbed by hooker because I didn’t want a hooker. This one is more me being stupid and not quite life altering. Basically, I used to believe in seeing good in people. I stopped walking one night to listen to a very skinny woman tell me a long sob story. I gave her some spare change to help pay for gas. I had a very wrong idea of what she was asking, so she was pissed.Most other people who I would describe as evil, didn’t really do anything to me in particular. Like a woman I worked for until I found out she killed a puppy every month because she couldn’t take care of them.I cut off the less major people and events because of the character limit. I hope this answers your question.
Need advice on locking the fuck in for 2026. That means...>no chasing girls / women>no drinking>cutting back on the cigs, coffee, and weed>building my portfolio and presence as a CompSci. student>beginning to set aside more distractions like playing / making music and video games>reading more, learning more, exercising more>meditation>etc etc etcHow do you guys lock the fuck in?
you cant lock in for 2026. you need to lock in now in order to be locked in for 2026. most of these things you can achieve by the start of 2026, and that can be done by reconnecting with nature and physical activity outside, both are good alternative to smoking/drinking cravings plus give you more mental clarity, an outlet for feelings and a way to process your thoughts so you dont have a constant need for distraction.
In the next few weeks create an ideal routine, write it down, write down your diet too. Balance your dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin levels naturally with diet, exercise, sleep and sunlight.Start today with a brisk walk and go to sleep at a reasonable hour. Replace your habits don’t cut out your habits.I still struggle with nicotine, it’s tough.Reflect weekly with a self-introspection journal. Set your goals and evaluate them regularly.
Don't help anybody, don't offer any advice to anyone ever. If you see someone struggling, ignore them. The suffering of others is not your business. All advice is dogshit and the very concept of advice should never have been created. You should in no way pass any knowledge or wisdom onto others; be sure to hoard everything your experiences have taught you.
>>34033964More Jewish poison. Advice is life-changing then it comes from someone with experience and is told to someone ambitious.
>>34033964>>You should in no way pass any knowledge or wisdom onto others; be sure to hoard everything your experiences have taught you.Incredibly cringe. Knowledge should be free. Open source superiority you dumb-fuck
i am here to save you all. freedom and brotherhood means i share my knowledge with you if you want to be saved or not if you do not wish to be saved
>>34033964I frst thought you were a professional demoraliser from the pic but I like and recognze your style. Anyway, it took me decades to come to the conclusion that I disagree. I worked in a competitive backstabbing environment and got an illness that I thought was killing me. I started sharing all my secrets so the company could continue to produce. It was important work, creating jobs by indirectly killing millions of innocent people, you know. Anyway, the more I gave, the more I got back in learning with other. Quality went up and my fellows prospered from sharing about money and bringing up children and all kinds of shit. Your brains are being manipulated by the mass mind control program and part of that involves you proliferating this backwards thinking. We have a choice on our path of evolutionary advancement.
>>34033964>All advice is dogshit and the very concept of advice should never have been createdThank you for the advice.
What could make someone not enjoy social situations and is there a way to change? Ever since I was a kid I've been a loner who doesn't want to the company of others. Even when people try to befriend me I rebuff them. I don't even like spending time with my family. Life without friendships or relationships or other connections seems hollow, yet I can't bring myself to enjoy socializing. Feels like I'm lacking something that everyone else has
>>34036049maybe you're just introvert
Hey everyone.I'm currently in the middle of writing a self-help book that teaches practical reasoning as a way to care for oneself emotionally + mentally. The actual contents of the book are settled. But what I'm having most trouble with is the foreword, which is why I've come here. The issue is that I know my target audience is people whose mental health + life problems are deeply connected, but I don't know what would actually compel people to read it.Don't get me wrong. This isn't to say I've no idea what it's like to struggle mentally, or to say that I'm not confident in what I have to offer. But it's because I've struggled with mental issues in the past that I know having faith in what should be reliable in theory, no matter how proven, can seem hard. And at the same time, it's also because I was so focused on my own mental health that I didn't get a chance to see how others were drawn to hope in their own way.Also remember: It's about what would make you FEEL that way. If something concrete like evidence-based research or tenure would make you feel more secure, that counts. But remember that I'm not asking for what you expect for this book to have in order to be practical. That's already covered. I'm mainly just having trouble with the foreword, which of course, I'm writing to convince the reader to pick it uptl;dr my question is>What would compel you to believe a book could help solve all your mental problems where you wouldn't give that same faith to others?
-a charming book cover-unique and extensive aduthor backstory/experience-less psychspeak, or at least followed by potent simple analogies etc. (to prove fundamental understanding)so essentially grounded wisdom rather than sterile pathological stuff. I can get that info myself. what i want is applications and interpretations of such phenomena.
The book being freeThe book being widely shared and recommendedThe book's very title playing into my firmly held biases
>>34035832Nothing.Books are not going to help people, especially in an age where literacy rates are dropping, and nobody really gives a fuck enough to read.Words on a page will never be a fair substitute to real connection.
>>34035842Can you give an example of that last bit? Because a lot of pathological stuff and wisdom can often be the same thing
>>34035972yep literally just anecdotes that can reference/exemplify clinically observed concepts.e.g. easy to know ocd traits, but I'd like to read personal stories that encompass all facets; management, troubles, interpersonal stuff, etc etc
What games can i play to talk to people? Someone tell me please. I just want to interact with people. It would be nice if they were constantly new folk. Im not good at video games btw
>>34029383Just stop pretending you're a woman and go outside.
>>34029383social games.become a street magician.PickUpplay some RealLife (RL). you get to keep your stuff. no server outage takes it away.
>>34032502But isnt that for pedos
>>34035560Steet magician sounds fun but im no dynamo
>>34035860 any platform you play on is gonna have pedos. If you're trying to avoid a pedo on vrchat though, you can select their avatar to block them. You can also change your privacy settings to limit who you can see and who can see you within a public lobby.
>Be as brief or as detailed as you want.
>>34035889VIRGIN
>>34035358>140 iq>dont know how to make themselves look pretty
>>34034088>hourglass shaped>dark hair>can cook>doesn't hurt me>doesn't scream>is thick>latinaall I'm asking for
>>34035296learn to read, he doesn't want children, so he is leaving smarter ones for others
>>34034088>is from my home country region>around or lower my age>healthy>easygoing and racist>humble without delusions of grandeur or worthlessness>romantic; not materialist or consumerist>traditionally minded>with a fighting spirit>in love with me
Is it possible to modify a normal swimsuit so it falls off after the person wears it underwater for a few minutes. There are lots of YouTube videos where people prank others with a dissolving swimsuit and then laugh when it falls apart in the water but almost all of them are fake and the swimsuit does not really dissolve or fall off. I looked a lot and I could only find one dissolving swimsuit that is actually for sale online. It is a one piece not a two piece. The reviews are mixed. Some people say you have to size up a lot. Some say the fabric ripped a little even before it got wet. There is no bra padding so it looks obviously fake. The threads that hold it together dissolve but not the whole fabric. It is still fun. My wife was 99 percent sure what was happening especially after we had to stretch it really hard to get it on her. Even after 10 minutes swimming in the lake only the sides had partly split. It was advertised as less than a minute in the water and the seams come apart but that did not happen for us. https://www.amazon.com/Dissolving-Swimsuit-Girlfriend-Bachelor-Swimming/dp/B0CR5HC6YH There's a YouTube video by howcast about this https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cV0esyopY_Q [Open] with ten million views that states you should just take a regular bikini or one piece and remove all stitching and replace it with "water soluble stitching" and says it works fine in a sowing machine.What kind of water soluble stitching should you use specifically? What kind of bikinis or one pieces will fall apart best without stitching? Ideally it should match the color of the original stitching, dissolve quickly and uniformly and should not rip prior to being worn in the water the stitching ripping when the bikini or one piece is pulled onto the wearer before going in water.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VBq5W1wCRj8 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=asg3hoJPYH4
>>34035961Video review of that swimsuit from AmazonHe recommends a type of thread in the description and says he colored over it with a marker so it blended inhttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Xq8tk0uLX2ghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DCN8A44Dissolving thread used in one of the YouTube videos
Anyone know how to regain penis vitaly and vigor? My penis over the years has progressively started failing on me. I am now 26 and my penis is barely getting the erections it used to get when I was 17 to 20. My sperm also doesn't shoot out like it once did. Even if I don't touch my penis for 2 to 3 weeks it just doesn't have that same strength that it once had. When I was 17 to 20 and even younger I was like a bull. I would get mad hard everyday. I am a shell of my former self. I have been working out since I was 16 and am in really good shape even to this day. It's not like I stopped working out and dieting so anyone know what could be causing this? My willingness to touch my dick is still there but my penis has completely fallen behind, I really don't think about women like I once did because my penis simply doesn't want to anymore.
If you're American, you're literally missing part of your dick.
>>34034779This is completely normal. Teenagers are insanely horny; by the time you reach your mid 20s, sanity is returning. Don't worry about it.
>>34034779If you were circumsized, it's over. Your penis will never work properly and you'll need to rely on dick pills for the rest of your short life (because they will kill you). Uncircumsized chads stay winning.
because by now you should've pairbonded and have a specific woman to lust for.find your oneitis
>>34034993>>34035903No one was talking about foreskins you literal homosexuals. You'd get punched in the face really hard if you said weird shit like that in person.
I have to justify my absence from an exam with a document, I need a solution, and I'm not very smart, anons...
Roll your dice and just ask the professor if you can take the exam the next day. I lucked out in that chance with one professor and passed with a C. But again you are rolling your dice. It's a gamble what you are doing.
>>34034719What's the real reason why you can't attend?
>>34034719Fake a police report.
>>34034719>Eat a laxative>Go to the doctor
>>34034719I bet the doctor s office is still trying to get rid of vaccination slips.
Where can I find movies files in mp4 or other video formats? I burn dvds as a hobby and Im having trouble finding all the movies id like in files I can burn. So far ive been using Internet archive and YouTube to mp4 but as you might imagine its a limited selection.I want to avoid piracy if at all possible but I understand it might not be.
>>34034666Can't you just remux to MP4?
>>34034666Your question doesn't make sense. You want to burn DVDs but you want to avoid piracy? So you want to burn movies that are public domain or what? Circumventing the encryption on DVDs and Bluray is illegal in and of itself.It doesn't even matter what the file format is, you can convert movies from any format to any other format with free tools.
>>34035191Yeah this. How are you tech savvy enough to know how to burn your own DVDs but don't know how to convert videos of one format to another?I recommend ffmpeg
>>34035139Thank you ill look at it>>34035210Well I mean the file format doesnt matter but I usually just use mp4s. Burning dvds doesn't really require tech savvynes just putting up with slightly old software like dvdstyler and some external hardware.>>34035198Well I dont really care about the copyright aspect as much as I dont know how to pirate and dont have a vpn.
>>34035810>I dont know how to pirate and dont have a vpn.I pay for a seed box. $6 bucks a month and I can download anything I want without worry.
i'm kinda racist, i like everything about ww2, war, esoteric philosophy, theology, fighting sports, programming.i don't even wanna pretend that i have normal interests, i don't use any social media and i find normal things boring.seriously, no person i ever meet irl has any matching interest.also women are completely different character wise to me, only thing that may match is physical attraction.how do you make friends irl?
>>34028876You don't need to have much in common — just enough.
>>34028876>racist>esoteric philosophyTry black metal
Dude if you play your cards right with who you are, you will attract chicks in no time.
>i'm a social pariah, w-why can't i have frens?you'd think the supposed superior race would be smarter...
>>34034258Don’t listen to this guy he fucks blacks>>34035303
