I'm going to meet my oneitis after 4 months of not seeing her in a week. I've patiently waited through her relationships, situationships, heartbreaks and now she's finally available. Any advice on how to strike? I've known her for three years but we're just casual friends.
>>34853290Be open and direct and warm, be a man. And congratulations, brother. I myself am also hopelessly in love with my friend, who is now with a toxic psychologically abusive boyfriend.
>>34853290If she were interested in you she would have let you know years ago. Move the fuck on, you pathetic incel.
>>34853290>I've patiently waited through her relationships, situationships, heartbreaks and now she's finally available.If she was interested, she would've fucked you through all of that. Just saying.
>>34853290Just ask if she wanna
how 2 avoid urge to look at pornography
just don't look at it
>>34853361but i want to
>>34853298Well nigha think about the ugly implications of that shit behind the screen.Do those people banging while being filmed look as if they've got a fulfilled life or that they are making use of their talents or things that make them special as individuals? Do you want to be like such people because I've read an article about being an adult movie actor fucks their mental wellbeing.Do you think those people can be at peace with their family while doing that shitDo you realize that the shit you see is not how healthy human relations work and is actually bad for healthAnd porn cannot be separated from human exploitation and human trafficking even when done by people who are "free" to chose their career because both exploit the human body for profitI think it is time we find pleasure in more meaningful and purposeful things
>>34853419I look at doujins instead of taped pornography
>>34853298Look at it only after you've nutted
Do stereotypical gamer gf girls with the cat ear headphones, liking games but being bad at them, cuddling while gaming with you etc. actually exist and are they good wife material?
>>34843533It's a consequence of phoneposting. It helps with sorting better through thoughts and writing a more cohesive message. Le oldfags never had this thought cross their minds
>>34847720This.
>>34848018This is what I'm looking for in a woman. Games, metal, tidy room. Been playing guitar since I was a teen but took me a long time to actually record music and put it out there, release my own games, own a house etc. You might need somebody older than you think (I'm almost 40). Men don't really grow out of stuff like metal music. I think a lot of women prioritize men that are young and attractive but don't really have much development yet, then find themselves unhappy when he is directionless.When I was 25, I could pull easily, but I had accomplished nothing.
>>34852733I just listened to this, it reminded me a lot of slayer which is pretty cool. thanks for the recommendation fren :^)
>>34853023it's redditspacing.
I don't have any friends irl but of those that I have online, I just vent about my life and they always give me good advice but I never do anything with it. I don't know how to fix myself, how to love myself because like them with their boyfriends and girlfriends, I, too, want to be loved by someone.But it seems like it isn't in the cards so I weep, I go "woe is me!" and yet I do nothing to improve but I know that even if I were to improve, I will never get over the social anxiety, I will never be an actual adult and person worthy of relationships, I will never love myself or have community, relationships, love, etc.So if I can't fix that, how do you learn to just shut up about your problems and NEVER mention them to people so you don't piss them off? I want to stop wanting to open up because I'm a weak ass PUSSY and I open up with venting way too easily. I should be way more closed-off in that regard. I'm in my 20s now, it's embarassing to act like this and keep taking SSRIs and benzos in order to feel okay for just a little bit.I want to have friends, community, I want to love and be loved but I am just unempathetic, or selfish, or whatever the fuck already and I haven't even discovered or loved myself. I know that, I know it, people tell me that and it's good advice but like how do I fix something so deeply wrong with my soul, how do I actually change my frame of mind, meet new people and fall in love? Why does it seemingly come so easy to some of these people but then you ask them and they have a big ass backstory so maybe it isn't easy after all?I feel so alone, I want a hug. I don't want sex or anything, just a hug and holding hands warmly together. I'm selfish and egocentric probably but just wanting this is okay, is it not?I just need to shut the fuck up.
>>34849291you have several problems, but your self-talk is making everything coming out of your mouth sound all retarded.it's fine if you're selfish as long as you're not trying to sell the lie that you give a shit about others problems.i'd get off the drugs no matter what. doctors are retarded and just trusting the science. 50 years from now they will be laughing knowing what they're dosing people today.if you're a woman, have you ever used a dating app? you'll get a zillion guys lining up to date you.
>>34849463i do doomscroll a lot, yeahthanks anon, i feel awful rn cuz i downed some medicine yesterday but i will try to apply what you told me
>>34849291>I will never be an actual adult and person worthy of relationships, I will never love myself or have community, relationships, love, etcWith this kind of mentality you are doomed for impending demise and loss. You also sound like a normiefaggot with zero aspirations. Good news, you can change all this. But it takes time, effort and inspiration.
>>34849291Stop taking drugs to numb feelings and just feel the feelings. Then go talk to new people until the "falling in love" crap happens
>>34849393Thank you for your reply you're based for that. I have downloaded this some days before to have a look at it, it's good to have some reassurance that it's not going to be a waste of time. Will have a look at EasyPeasy and Arcitea later too, it's rare to find some honest advice
I mean, interest, hobbies.>>no religion>>no career
>>34848755Women don't have interests, hobbies or beliefs unless another woman or their husband tells them to
>>34848821This nigga never suffered in life. His parents were 2nd generation middle to high income and were happy to see their kids have all kinds of experiences.I don't have a gf, all I do watch movies and documentaries, and feel I'm never competent at anything.
>>34853090>It does not bother that you have different interest?nope, that's what friends are for. we get along quite well and rarely ever argue and live in harmony
>>34848755You don't have to share already you can just share now
>>34853025Because i can't go outside with a sheet and ask random dudes "do you share more than 4 interest with your partner?"Thanks people for the honest answers
I get this thing where sometimes I'm interested in men and sometimes in women, but when I get off the gay part of the cycle I always feel weird and ashamed. Does anyone else get this? I don't even know if I'm really bi, sometimes I feel like I just do it for attention. I mean my gay activities are limited to 4chan, but I like to post in gay threads, and getting positive attention and being flirted with feels really good at the time, but is it even real? What should I do?
>>34852966>Just go to a gay bar and get your dick sucked by a twink or something to get it out of your system from time to time.This, but get Grindr instead, unlike straight dating apps, pics aren't required, you'll only send photos in private convo after the guy asks you for them
>>34848340Not much appealing about the average hairy minge either.>>34851271Good post. Underrated.
>>34853232>What if I'm the one that wants to suck dick? Well then it's not so simple is it, becasue AIDSCondoms. Use them.
>>34853261Also I should add that I live with my parents who don't approve of gays. So that complicates things.
>>34853379The obvious answer is:"Don't be a faggot"
Is nofap real? Why do i feel more powerful when not fapping?
>>34853356No fap is not real.Lack of sexual release can lead to problems like erectile disfunction.No porn is real. Abstaining from the consumption of pornography is the best thing you can do for your mental health.
>>34853356POIS
>>34853367How does that work?
>>34853356If you wanna be more sensitive I guess for next time
What are some red flags that the neighborhood you're interested in is actually a ghetto?
>>34810434MLK Boulevard
>>34848717Oh my fucking god, there's a Martin Luther King Drive just a couple blocks from me.
If someone could take a powerwasher/hose and clean it, but nobody does, it's a ghetto.
>>34849918lol I'd like to see that
>>34848717>>34849054Is there a Martin Luther King Avenue?
Is a tattoo of a lotus flower on arm a good idea or should I get it behind my ear because of possible future jobs?
Wouldn’t a tat behind the ear be harder to die? If you wear long sleeves or shirts at work, you’ll be able to hide your arm
>>34845145Depends on what you work, in most your arms and legs wont even be seen so if doesnt care. Now if you work in something that needs you to use short sleeve shirt you may want to put in the back of your ear. In most cases and in most works this doesn't care at all.Hey ppl look at kinoshita, she is the esence of the thing inside of a man.
>>34852324ig but also if its behind my ear i can hide it with my hair
>>34845145All tattoos look bad>>34852645This
>not into non-virgins at all>mid 20s and don't want to date teenagers (too young)How do I put myself into a position to meet recently recovered coma patients/ what other possible position would lead to a woman in her mid 20s (23-27) being a virgin?I don't want a flamewar about whether dating virgins is good or bad, so please don't start with that. Constructive conversation only pls.
>>34849887Most comatose patients are there because their lifes were so fucked up they almost die. It is pretty hard to beat the "my beloved one almost died" instinct of her acquantices so you will be fighting with even mores dudes than normal. My answer is, do not even try please dude, you can and probably will find someone else to marry
>>34850594OP starts threads weekly about virginity. He should just call them Virginity General and stop making these dumbass scenarios.
>>34852770I'm not a /adv/ regular and I don't want to discuss this topic in a time wasting manner
>>34849887I don't think they'd want you
>>34853262how do i become someone they'd want
>best friend of 11 years wants to troon out>he’s totally convinced, he won’t listen to reasonAnything I can even do to convince him? He’s fucking 34 and won’t listen to me, he wants to live his truth but I know he’ll get bulliedI know he probably listened to some gay leftist podcast but this will ruin his lifeIs there anyway to salvage this? He’s asked me to address him as a girl name too btw
>>34852977I'm pretty sure somewhere around half of trans people kill themselves. So that can't be it.Are you making fun of the fact I said commit suicide?I dont get where this is coming from.
>>34852983A troon felt extremely defensive reading about how his former friends feel but there was really nobody to argue with except you on that one point.They can’t leave anything alone. Nothing. I mean they can’t just sit there existing while a thread conversation criticizing them goes on.
I don't believe you should cut him off like other anons suggest. I'm a detroon going on around 2 years now, and I doubt I would have pulled through that ordeal if my long-time friends hadn't stuck by me. I wasn't 34 when I renounced all common sense and bought the gender ideology meme wholesale, though. I was still a teen, so there might be scant chance he will change his mind. Try your best to instill an apprehension to any irreversible cosmetic treatment, so he won't have more to deal with than gyno.
>>34840442>>34840879What rubbish. Every aggregation of data shows that medical & social transition creates worse psychological and social outcomes than the patient accepting their natal sex. If you'd like an anecdotal example, here's mine:>>34853276
>>34839313Yeah he needs to realise that he will NEVER pass at 34. You don't want to be a hon.
So this is kind of a weird situation I'm in but basically half a year ago i got added to a group chat by an old friend of mine for this project they want to set up for like a communal house/living type situation. They already technically live in the house though it belongs to their parents and they want to invest around 6 figures in construction/repairs and things like that. I was never really asked if i wanted to be a part of this group and honestly besides the several potential dead ends i see it leading to, living in a communal house and spending loads of my money/going into dept isn't something I'm remotely interested in. But because I'm kind of a people pleaser/pushover and i didn't want to sour my friendship i kind of went along with it and though "well let's see where it goes".Thing is where it's gone is basically just filled me with more certainty that i want out and also because I'm kind of not very interested i guess I'm not really "doing my fair share" in contributing to the project and two out of four of us, who live in the house already hae started to get slightly irritated with me and I've been "reprimanded" of sorts twice now.So the question is, how do i leave this thing without making things sour with my old friend?. Do i send a text? What should i say exactly?. We have our weekly zoom call meeting this evening
>>34853268hah? you know the answer already? what are you wasting our time with here>be polite, but firm
>>34853285I'm kind of a pussy and i try to avoid any potential confrontation at all costs so i don't know through what means i should tell them i want out
>>34853268Tldr just say you aren't interested and will not be part of the project
>stop peeing>put dick in pants >walk away>piss continues to release>not enough to be visible, but the insides of both pantlegs are wetwtf causes this
>>34851231I explained the muslim piss thing in>>34851450
>>34851450Also I meant "soap"
>>34849987Do some kegels mate. Used to have this issue, not anymore.
>>34849987You didn't finish pissimg
same idgaf
How do I break my job conditioning? Lately I've been very disillusioned at my job, after working here for 10+ years, my salary is literally lower (they removed some sort of firm bonus that we used to get, so now the overall pay is like 20% lower). After emailing my boss every month for a full year for a raise and getting ignored (at this point is not even about the raise anymore, it's the principle), I've been working less and less, slacking more and more and generally not caring all that much anymore. I used to be really active in the firm, doing a lot of extra stuff, running around and solving shit.Well, today it kinda hit me and I've been feeling kinda off, like I should be working harder, trying harder, solving more stuff, doing extra hours and such. Then I think about how shit my pay is (it's a low salary even in the standard of this position), so I have this constant struggle inside: I feel bad, I feel like I should work harder, but then I remember that I'm not getting paid for this shit, move on, then feel bad again, and so on. It feels like conditioning, manipulation, etc. How do I break out of this?
>>34852990western jobs are funny, you're expected to hop from job to job, or your wages will be garnished
>>34853209Yep. In the west they are willing to find new hires (an expense), train them (an expense) and pay them more than old hires. Yet they are not willing to give raises or benefits to existing employees who did their job well. Remember: It's a job. They owe you. You don't owe them. If they won't give you respect and a decent salary, they get what they paid for.
>>34852990New jobe
Why do women not want relationships? I don't understand
>>34852208It works exactly the way it is designed, they want you to buy gold so that you can see likes and match them instantly.If you're on android, then if you have a like then the like is usually 2nd on your stack, so you should always like it back. Then turn off the app and repeat. Another trick is to filter the exact age of the liking profile and distance if it's visible.
>>34829923This. Too many options for women because there are 10 single guys for every girl and dating apps are cancerous fucking garbage trash. On dating apps women usually only gonna go for male super models Ive gotten two dates from dating apps after endless fucking swiping but they were actually both 4/10, bat shit insane and ended up brutally dumping me. IRL most women are already taken or are not even interested in holding a conversation with a guy like me.
>>34831651>>34831657both of these anons should kiss
>>34837029hot
>>34852208Wow, you're a Chad with these numbers.
