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>be me
>cheat on my gf (no sex, was just intimate once with another woman)
>brain now cannot stop thinking about dating and fucking all different types of women
how do I stop myself
I already feel like killing myself for cheating, now my brain can't accept the idea of dating and marrying one women my entire life
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>>31481480
>>31481478
we were flirty for a week and she sent me nudes, you're immoral as hell if you don't think that's cheating
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>>31481507
that is fucked ngl but at least it wasn't the whole way, on the bright side at least it didn't get too far because lets hope you felt an ounce of guilt then called it off.

have you ever considered shes not right for you in the first place? I think many men are kinda like what youve described, because were men, theres always that thought of ''what other pussy is out there'' but you sort of have to ignore it. Youve got 3 options though
>ignore it, shove it down, be a better bf and just pretend it didn't happen
>break up with her, which is probably what you should do because clearly you dont want her
>tell her, face the consequences of your actions
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>>31481507
oh wow i overlooked that, i thought you actually slept with that woman.
yeah that's sort of cheating but a far cry from actually fucking another.
get a grip.
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>>31481470
you are not satisfied with your gf
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>>31481507
It's an over-reaction to consider killing oneself over that.

"Immoral" according to what standard? Are you fornicating with your gf? Shouldn't you be calling her your fiancee, or betrothed?

What you did was immature, that's all. So go now, and sin no more.

I’m a trend setter. Hobbies and sports and politics and things that I enjoy become popular with others after I already approved of them. The only thing that I hated was lgbt shit and I don’t know how that became popular since I didn’t approve of that. But I’m for the most part a trend setter. What should I make popular next? And how can I help to start WW3?
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>>31480273
>I’m a trend setter.
no, you are an old delusional Boomer.
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>>31480562
That’s sweet of you and I wish I could just bring that back and meritocracy with some slight amount of diversity but things are way too far gone I’m afraid for any hope of peace.
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>>31480573
What’s a boomer to you? Anyone over 30?

A boomer to me is anyone 60 or over
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>>31480273
you sound very homosexual
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>>31480273
Trend setters don't ask what the next trend will be, dipshit.

I am very fucking lonely. I know you're supposed to just suck it up and keep going, but honestly I just can't do it anymore. All of the advice about it is basically just platitudes, loving yourself, being content in your own company, trying to put yourself out there... it doesn't change the fact my life is meaningless and empty and that I have no outlets and no possibilities at changing it until some fucking Jezebel decides that she fetishizes me enough to give half of a shit to try to con me by staying around.

I am stuck in a rut of doing the same shit every day for the past four years (remote tech worker). I fuck prostitutes almost exclusively. My social life is nonexistent and I have no family or friends or outlets and I'm fucked.

It makes me insane that women choose you in the end and no matter how much I get in shape or try to make myself attractive it just doesn't happen and it actually gets worse over time. Women have started to call me a faggot because I'm 35 now. In my culture single men over 30 are seen as closeted.

The only women who seem to pick me are single mother/desperate fatties, so at the end of the day I'm stuck with whichever jezebel picks me (if one gets their sight off their fucking phone enough to give half a shit).

In the meantime I keep getting older and lonelier. I don't know what to do.
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There are so many people in life that other people are like I'd kill myself like nobody wants to work in food lol but some people do. To do that without wanting to die is impressive, in fact it's so impressive that you can glitch the system. Girls will fuck hundreds of dudes that are chad but they will also fuck a few dudes who just had some charm to them. Something just doesn't add up. If you can really eat shit and come out smelling like roses you are some sort of winner and girls like that.

But what those girls often don't know is that sometimes it's just weeeeed lol. Weed makes you happy at least you can use it to not quit your job you really really want to quit. If you are so down that you are like what the FUCK do I EVEN. Well, that's what drugs are for. Drugs are for people who should just fucking kill themselves. So btw, the next time you judge someone who does drugs, ask yourself if you are pro all those people just killing themselves. I kinda am but I'm not trying to hold up a bullshit view like most people. Most people would say they should just not do drugs and then their life would be better but no that's just not true there are just not enough good lives to go around everyone is hoarding the good
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>>31481268
You're doing nothing irl to find a woman. Simple as.
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>>31481441
I literally just got out of a relationship - I'm not looking for a relationship. And if I were desperate for pussy, I'd download a dating app. Retard.
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>>31481268
>I know God will love me
lmao. don't make this worse with imaginary friends, buddy.
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>>31481370
where are you from anon

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I'm a 25 year old woman and I've never had sex
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>>31481552
Whatever you say. I'm certainly not fat, been skinny my whole life.
>>31481556
You dumbfuck retard, my parents have a dog. I can't help that, I live with them. Why is your first thought about dogs sex? You're a projecting zoophile.
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>>31481151
Fucking tranny, get a hobby.
>>31481556
Stop responding to 'her', she's a freak with a boy clit.
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>>31481573
Do trannies really pretend to be older virgin "cis" women? Why would they do that? Trannies are hypersexual freaks.
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And?
I've had my heart broken by women.
It isn't worth it.
Ignorance is bliss.
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>>31481578
Fucking weird ass fetishes.

https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/31481151/#31481151

This freak makes these threads daily so he can jack off to men desiring and wanting his virgin woman persona. Fucking disgusting.

I’m 26 and I find myself only being able to imagine myself with a late 30s-40s woman. Young women I’ve been with have too many problems and I find it extremely unattractive.

I seriously think I want to be with an older lady but I don’t know how feasible that is. Also is there something psychologically wrong with me?
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>>31480062
All is good now, but first time was hellish, we both didn’t know how to raise a human lol. Prepare to be tired all the time and to give your wife as much help as you can. She’s gonna be exhausted and the changes in her body will make her prone to depression.
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>>31480086
did you have sex while she was pregnant?
id love to see my wife pregnant
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>>31480086
I dont think I can be prepared for it lol. But I can make peace with that. Took me a minute but I learned that the best things in life that really count are the shit that has a bit of sacrifice and pain to pay first. That’s about as prepared as I can get.

Thanks for the insight anon. I’ll take any of those i can get
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>>31479749
seek therapy.
i had a co-worker who was into older wmn and the dude had so many other issues wrong with him.
being attracted to older wmn is a warning light on your dashboard.
good luck to you.
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>>31481565
What exactly are those issues? I think I look after myself pretty well I’m just a bit depressed and burned out most the time

I’m seeking advice from anyone who has experience in a relationship or co-parenting with someone who has borderline personality disorder, or just any fathers who have dealt with a vindictive woman who is trying to alienate them from their child. I have a 1 month old son with my BPD ex (yes I know I fucked up, but I absolutely was deceived into doing it under false premises) and she has 100% “split” on me, “devalued” me and is now trying to estrange me from my son. She has changed his name to a last name that is different from mine, and gave him a different first name than the one I chose for him, which we both agreed on and were happy with for the entire pregnancy. She has banned me from visiting him and is even refusing to send me pictures she took of me and my son together. Not really asking for legal advice because I have access to that and laws very by jurisdiction, more asking just for daily practice strategies in dealing with them and communicating with them. Any genuine advice is appreciated
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>>31478336
I may have to, but I don’t want to. I don’t want him to grow up without a mother, I just want her to accept that she has BPD and get treatment, but she won’t because all borderlines are allergic to accountability and take any suggestion that they are at fault as a deliberate “abusive attack” on them
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>>31477537
>calling me a “narcissist”
Damn, I knew I had you pegged as a female. It’s crazy how I totally NAILED that. Hey guys, turns out there are girls on 4chan after all.
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>>31474043
Three options:
1. Argue and bring a bunch of people into it causing more distress.
2. Walking away.
3. Developing an adult, calm if distant relationship with the baby momma. If real, it seems like you care a lot, and should together see a professional.
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>>31480505
Thanks. Number 3 is definitely MUCH, MUCH easier said than done with a borderline, but you are right that it is ideal to work towards that so I appreciate your input
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you absolutely need to talk to a lawyer because what you need to do is get the courts to be so weary of her that she is ordered to get treatment if she wants to keep her kid. and maybe just maybe she will get treatment and start acting right and you guys will be a happy family etc

you need to let go just a little bit like this is a fucked situation and if the worst happens, it is what it is. like I'm not going to say your kid is going to die, he will some day for sure, but, in my experience bpd basically means psycho. In fact I'd rather someone just be psycho and know they are psycho than someone who might accidentally be psycho because they get anxiety and their idiot brain has no method of controlling the anxiety other than immediately lashing out

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I was out walking when I saw a car about to hit this girl with AirPods in her ear in my neighborhood. Being the nice person I was, I swooped in and tackled her out of the way. She rolled over underneath my grasp, looked at me real long and hard, and literally screamed "RAPE!"

In almost an instant, I saw men swarming from everywhere nearby, running towards me. One of them tackled me and wrestled me off her and another one of them started punching me. Pretty soon, the police were called.

They took me to the station and basically refused to believe anything I said when I told I was trying to save her from a car. If there wasn't cameras in that location, according to my lawyer, I'd apparently be in jail right now for sexual assault.

The worst part of this is that the guy who almost hit her went over to de-escalate the situation and told her what happened and she was still calling me a disgusting rapist freak fuck loser.

Anyway, my advice for men: just let women die.
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>>31481463
US.
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>>31481446
no good deed ever goes unpunished in this world, anon.

sorry to hear about your troubles. and, yeah, i'd sue the living shit out of everyone.
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>>31481446
I remember the days when shitposts were believable, youve all gotten lazy.
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>>31481446
We're all rapists OP, didn't you know that

Doesn't matter whether or not you actually did anything, we're just rapists because we look so rapey
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>>31481446
Next time just pull out your camera and post it on >>>/wsg/ or YouTube

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What would Snufkin do if he found himself camping with a really chaotic arrogant turkish guy?
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>>31479433
i meant from other anons but yeah, thankyou. this snufkanon doesn't have much time for camping though, no more till winter now.
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>>31479010
Deploy RAID spray.
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>>31479010
he would have packed in the night, quietly and disappear without the turk knowing. Snufkin is a free spirit, he doesn't like to be bothered and he doesn't mind to give way
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>>31479889
This is the correct answer
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>>31479833
>>31479889
this thread has honestly surpassed my expectations, thankyou anons

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I've been struggling with my insecurities since I was 10 or so years old. It developed due to trauma. I don't really know how to stop being insecure about myself. Are there any ways to remove that feeling?
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>>31479425
Get good at something. Doesn't matter if it's woodworking or mathematics or muay thai. Just start learning about something, seek others who are doing it, and get better than them at it.
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>>31479914
Alright. Shouldn't be too hard.
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>>31479425
radical self acceptance isnt a meme its a cure to what ails you. you are only ever going to be you, so accept yourself as you are
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>>31480494
That'll take time, but I'll give it a shot.
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>>31479914
That does not work. The best you can get of it is impostor syndrome. Insecurity about something and insecurity about themselves is completely different thing. The first is a surface problem, the second is core problem.

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I got anxious about doing something my mother asked me to do on the spot, and because I was worried about it, and said I don't want to I'm worried, she rightfully got upset with me, took it out on me, then yelled at me later and did it herself. Dad thinks I am a bad son, mum thinks I don't care about her.

I come home feeling bad, and we conflict some more and now I'm emotional, angry and hurt. I want to leave, they will call the police on me if I leave because I am unstable apparently. Dad blames me.

Should I run away from the house (I am 20) even though the police will find me, mum will tell them I am dangerous because I seem unstable.

I have an anxiety disorder, mum has poor health, and I already said I'd fill the car for her and come tot the shops to help her, if she spoke to me calmly I'm sure I would've gone in but saying am I a man or mouse didn't help me. I am the pussy that should've said yes right away, but I get the blame for all of it, now it's over.
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>>31480943
Move out. I've already paid rent in advance so I am not legally bound.
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>>31480445
Apologise. Do something nice for her without being asked. All will be well.
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>>31480875
your parents just want your money and your chores. But, if you leave, you will have to deal with the gaslight. The gaslight is the cops pulling up and saying yo r u crazy? And you will have to somehow spell it out for them without sounding crazy. You would have to start with the end and say "they just want my money and chores and are seriously trying to screw with me specifically because they don't want me to leave, so they called you, and no I'm not exactly totally happy right now because of all the shit they are doing but this here right now, you pulling up on me, is just another example of their gaslight and exactly why I want to leave"

cops actually don't like busy bodies or users especially when they waste their time but naturally will side with the one speaking more calmly and stuff.
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>>31481498
You're wrong they don't want me for that. They want me to be empowered and to grow up. I can move out if I go to a union campus. They didn't want me running away today because I was unstable. They are good people. I'm not.
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>>31481477
I will do that. Thanks.

>>3148152
I demand you take that back, they do not want me for that.

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I have a long distance girlfriend and we've been together for over a year, and whenever she's stressed, she lashes out at me. She admits that she does this. She has told me multiple times that this is something she KNOWS she does. However, when I try to tell her to at least TRY to stop doing it, she accuses me of not understanding how stressed she is and how hard it is for her. I tell her that I do understand that she's dealing with issues and that they're bad, but she cannot tell me to shut up, insult me or cut me off when she needs help, but she doesn't want to hear it and goes back to the first point. 2 days ago she told me she doesn't want to talk to me anymore, blocked me, and then a day later came back SHOCKED that I assumed she had left me. In that time I relapsed into cutting after a year clean. She also cut herself, and she mentioned before she blocked me that she was in danger of relapsing. In fact, that's what I was talking to her about before she blocked me. She rarely talks to me anymore and will often go entire days barely saying anything to me. I feel like she fucking hates me, I don't know what to do.

Am I in the wrong here? If not, then how do I convince her that what she's doing is wrong?
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>>31480109
If you want to turn things around for yourself, you are going to have to stand up for yourself and not tolerate this any longer. If that means the relationship is over or that she starts painting you as a bad guy, then you are going to have to choose if you want that decision. Do you want that?
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>>31480109
asks for advice, gets the best advice, then throws a fit because its not what he wants to hear. get over this bullshit emotional attachment you have to a woman you've never met and go outside dude. quit being a fucking loser and do something with yourself
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>>31480109
Another one for the e-girl meat grinder.
When you think about your life again in a couple of years, remember - you chose this. No refunds.
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>>31478274
>I have a long distance girlfriend
No you don't
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>>31478274
When women complain, they don't want solutions.

You don't have a relationship anyway.

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I'm attracted to skinny white girls with horse faces and big noses. How do I date a hot young 20 year old that looks like this? Where can I find one?
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>>31478957
Onlyfanstan
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>>31480099
What do you mean by this?
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>>31478957
You like Slavic girls.
picrel is a typical Russian. Polish and Ukrinian gilrs look similar. No idea about Belorussians.
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>>31481300
You have never seen a Slavic person in your life, horse jaw is a typical Anglo thread, less commonly you also see it in Germans but it's most predominant in Anglos. The aforementioned Ann Coulter is a classic example.
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>>31481487
>Anglo thread
trait*

Have any of you ever gone to the doctor? Seems like taking your car in. You pay $500 for them to figure out the problem and then they want more than the car's worth to fix it so you just say fuck it and kill yourself. My elbow hurts like I think I have tennis elbow from being a cook. Hypothetically speaking, if it were easy enough and worth it, I don't have insurance but I want to get an x-ray and have them say yep you got tennis elbow you need to take a month off work or something. Really I just need to find another job.

And how often do you "go psycho" on someone. I actually confronted someone as in asked them what the hell and said what I felt after they fucking got me fired and that was what some actual psycho said after she showed him the texts and then we were hanging out. As if. The dude himself thought he was a white knight or fucking dark knight idk and would go tell people their bf is cheating and stuff like that. I told my grandpa how I felt recently and it was whatever. I want to message that bitch again and tell her she's an evil cunt because I was definitely mad but didn't call her any names or anything and she led to me being more evil in general like I'm in a bad place in life in part bc of her shit. I could fuck her job up if I wanted and she has a good one. I could fuck up some other people's jobs too bc they fucked me in so many ways but those people are legit insane and if I fuck with them.. idk they think their asses are right on the fire it seems. Like they are "hardcore" as in will do anything to keep their shitty job. Well I have fukn nothing and if I did put my life aside as in idc if they kill me I could at the very least expose them in shameful ways, maybe even get them killed just being a white knight and ratting on them. But I could actually be psycho like who the FUCK do you fucks think you were even talking to
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>>31481337
>cheats on his gf
>gets called on it
>wants to kill the girl

Would you say, in broad terms, that you are mentally stable?
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>>31481433
meh I went off on a tangent but no some other dude lets call C was cheating on his girl, so, this one dude B went and tattled on him and routinely had in his head this righteous rat mindset. Dude C was not a good person per se but dude B was righteous enough to actually do things to people that would lead to consequences. All in all I think everyone is similar just wrong at times but being around people like them makes me want to act like them but I'd be right. I just want to tell her, and him too, that they are both fucking psychos because they are and what they did was fucked up and stupid and yeah back then I was so nice I was like wtf why would you do that I did so much for you, but it's been almost ten years and now I'm more logical after dealing with another group of psychos. The reality is I have kept my mouth shut and it's hurt other people and I really ought to say something about this current group but I don't totally want to give up on life, bc just one thing they did was try to get me shot and I haven't even said anything yet lol

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hey,(let her reply) youre cute,(let her reply)(if she smiles then) do you wanna hangout some time later?

is this appropriate while randomly talking to girl on streets?
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>>31480626
>is this appropriate while randomly talking to girl on streets?
No, anon, it's a bad idea. If you want to hang out with a cute girl, try searching for one in places where both of you are likely to see each other often, like college, work, or some place the two of you usually go to.
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>>31480626
>Hello random female stranger. Would you care to come back to my place partake in a "hang out"? Perchance we could procreate? I can assure you, it would be most enjoyable for both parties involved.
If you don't talk to women like this, you're not getting any
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>>31480714
what if im stressed just by watching a video of someone else talking to women?
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>>31480626
Guaranteed to get you a faceful of mace.

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>be me
>want to be freelance video editor so I can travel and be rich in a developing country
>stuck in the beginner entrepreneur/freelancer paradox where I need work in order to get experience and network and build a portfolio, but I need a portfolio, network and experience to get work.

What do I do?
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>>31481117
No my videos are going to be quality. Maybe not Mr Beast style ADHD spaz-tier editing with 1000 effects, but good enough to make $1000 per month.
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>>31481135
are you tho?
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>>31481206
Am I good enough to make $1000 more per month or am I making $1000 per month?
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>>31481290
Yes you aren't
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>>31481361
Bro you’re going to have to be more specific about the part of the sentence you’re responding to.

Is English your native language?


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