Pretend you're in the following scenario :You had a girlfriend who you emotionally abused, left her pregnant and then dumped her and blocked her on everything on the day when she got the abortion you forced her to get and didn't pay for. She apologises for everything and sends you emails and voicemails begging for you to give her another chance. You ignore those emails and only answer after a week or so saying you will not take her back, but that if she keeps sending emails the chances of you taking her back will lower (which contradicts the fact that you said you wouldn't take her back in the first place). After 3 weeks of that, she sends you one last email asking you how you are after you haven't answered for 9 days. 2 days later you still haven't responded, so she email bombs you with 1500 emails, half of which are just funny ones, the other half asking you to talk to her. You ignore them. She then uses your business email address and subscribes to tens of newsletters. You still do not answer. She then starts posting your discord, phone number, face and body around 4chan. You still don't answer. She calls your hundreds of times without a caller ID, you don't answer and turn on the setting to reject unknown callers automatically. She sends you more emails saying she will stop if you just answer her, you still do not. What would be the reason for you not answering in this scenario when it could stop all the harassment?
>>32622388Oh wait you're the retard thats autistically spamming some dude with emails? Bruh give it up. Hes not interested. You are clearly proving to him that you are unstable and crazy and that having a kid with you wouldve been hell on earth. He dodged a fucking bullet when he convinced your ass to get that abortion. He clearly wants nothing to do with your crazy ass, so give it up and go find someone else to torture, you fucking autismo.
>>32622388>What would be the reason for you not answering in this scenario when it could stop all the harassment?Nobody gave you a serious answer so what the hell, I'll do it. There's no credible commitment from you to stop. It's like paying someone a blackmail ransom. You hope they will stop asking for more blackmail money and just go away, but in truth you've actually encouraged them because now they KNOW you will give up money.In this case, you are trying to get a payment, but instead of money it's a payment in attention. By reacting to the harassment, it sends the signal that you get what you want when you harass. He doesn't want to encourage you to continue. Even if you say you'll stop the harassment if he just meets you, what's to stop you from continuing harassment until you get all of your other demands, such as a renewed relationship?It sounds like you might have an obsessive disorder if you are going to these lengths though. I do not mean this insultingly, we all have problems. Please see someone, it's not good for your blood pressure or healthy relationships.
>>32624972I do not listen to pro-abortion retards. Anything you say lacks logic.
>>32627181>best response itt>"im not gonna listen to them because im a retarded and crazy liberal"
>>32627881Most liberals are pro-abortion you dimwit. I am very much conservative and pro-family.
Not being willing to learn the hard way to get it right all the time will make you miserable. Yes I get it at certain times you need help, but given the times you don't need help, you rely on yourself not everyone else. You will know these times because these will be times when you're not in real danger. Even a therapist will expect some independence from you.
>>32627629ok jordan peterson. Go read the bible
>m 19>europe>neet>broke>mentally ill (severe)HOW CAN I GET NEETBUX SO I DONT GO HOMELESS??
>go to therapist>get all the diagnoses you can >make them declare you unfit to work >apply for disability >live in poverty
>europehighly depends on country. ask chatgpt, then for details and illegal stuff (how to fake illness) ask reddit
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>>32627137is any of this useful to avoid the upcoming draft in europe?
>>32625567>europedo you mean europe like germany/france/switzerland, europe like poland/czechia/croatia or europe like ukraine/bulgaria/bosniathese are 3 pretty different europes
I'm tired of my skin breaking out frequently with zits and would like to know how I could prevent break outs
>>32626741dietexercisedon't touch facedon't beat off too muchwash bedding, clothes, and selfwash face (especially after greasy foods)Use head and shoulders shampoo (other shampoo that drips onto your face could fuck up your skin if it is extremely sensitive.I would follow most-all of these religiously to the point where I seemed schizo. I had/have (lesser now) bad cystic acne, I went to the dermatolgist and all they told me was that it was most likely hormonal and asked me if I do basic shit like wash my face. After a while I agreed to go on Accutane (not name brand), and let me tell you, it works! It fucks with your brain chemistry quite a bit though and can make you severely depressed/ suicidal (or make it much worse if you already are)I do have some acne scars from before I was on it though which sometimes makes me wish I went on it when I first was getting bad acne
>>32626741wash your bedsheets every weektake daily showers & wash your facemoisturize & exfoliate with the right products that match your skin typelook into rosewater & glycerinuse sunscreen that doesnt contain mineralseat cleaner foodsreduce stressdrink more water
>>32627454no head and shoulder from my experience, try tea tree and argan oil shampoo/conditioner. Never better hair and face.
appreciate the great advice thanks guys :D
don't eat chocolatedon't eat refined sugardon't eat seed oilseat sad healthy stuffwash with basic gray soapdo sad healthy exercises everyday
So I live in an area that hardly gets snow, maybe once every few years. Every time it does snow, I always feel like I have to make the most of it because it's gone by the next day. This usually leads to decision paralysis and I get nothing done. Has anyone experienced something similar to this? How can I get out of this mindset
>>32627657Yeah at it's core, it is. I should rename this thread "How to get over FOMO"
What is there to "do"? Snow is just pretty when it first falls. You can go out and walk around and take pictures when it's fresh. If you're in an area that barely every gets it, chances are it will melt away in the next 2 days and you won't have to see how dismal and disgusting it all looks in places where snow stays around for months and weeks. It's seriously the best of both worlds.
>>32627662everybody have a sense of "fomo"You just have to understand that you will not be able to see, buy or experience everything. That's why you need to prioritize what fomo you're dealing with.Try to value experience over purchase.
>>32627713Can't buy snow
>>32627713Also in this cause missing an experience is the issue
I have a final the day after tomorrow that involves complex processes and lots of information that no average person can cram in a day.I've decided to maintain a high GPA so my pre-final exam grades are 55 out of 100.The exam's out of 40.If I cram, I'll only get 10 out of 40 or something and wind up scoring 65% or some other low grade like that.Or, I can skip the exam, study for the incomplete for a whole month, and get a very high grade (80%-95%?)Problem is, my parents are throwing fits, my father spat in my face, and they insist I go and get whatever grade in the exam. Technically, I've passed the course already but I just don't want to barely scrape by.They insist since they're paying my tuition, they get to choose how I behave.Any tips? I had to cram for today's final (and I actually did good, especially since the material is easier) but I don't have the energy to do two all nighters within two days.I've had a hiccup this semester and it's almost certain I will get my act together in the next semester, but my parents don't want to understand.
Despite being in college the helicopter parenting that I am experiencing and a complete lack of agency and flexibility in how I take the most basic decisions in my life have been making every waking moment of my day full of suffering.My parents just don't want to give me a break and I am running out of mental energy and might break down.IDK, shouting matches don't work on them. Trying to talk things through don't work either, I am cursed.
>>32627492>>32627512Incomplete grades last for 6 to 12 months, depending on your uni's definition. I am also pretty sure you need to have the highest grade so you don't get an F and fuck everything up.If you really want to do the I grade thing, you would be forced to live close to your university to work and live in, as well as be closer to your professor as not all of them will be willing to give you an I.Regarding your parents, you probably should clarify that an I grade is not an F yet, and that you need time to get a good final grade so you don't fuck it up and take yet another year and waste your parent's money.
How do I stop crying when a foid actively avoids interacting with me?makes me feel like a piece of dogshit
>>32626889Go seek male friends instead brotha
>>32626897Don't want to do that anymore , I feel the ache, the call of the vag
bump
I've given up and ghosted multiple lucrative career opportunities since graduating college years ago. I let myself become insecure, paranoid, and lazy which led to me ghosting work, and haven't kept any one job for more than a few months, save for a security guard role and now as a delivery driver (but that's subject to the contract staying open). I ghosted my most recent job at a grocery store after only a couple months, even though the manager said I was a good worker (I went back to apologize to a different manager afterwards, but still...). I know I don't deserve to complain about my situation, but how can I become and prove myself to be a reliable worker and rebuild my career and reputation? My dad suggested going back for my master's, I thought about switching career paths/industries entirely.
>>32623531last bump
>>32623531Just stop doing that shit. Also don't go to grad school unless someone else is paying for it
>>32623531>going back for my master'sYou are barely starting. Not a good idea to have a lot of education since you will be barred from getting minimum wage +- 5 dollar an hour jobs because of "muh overqualified".
>>32627541>muh overqualified".Already in that predicament - too qualified and get rejected by literal McDonald's, but not quite enough or the right experience for shit relevant to my degree
Why is it so easy for some people to clock me as gay?
>>32627437The way I see it there are 3 types of people who try to project gayness onto others (besides gays):1 straight men who see someone who has traits or values they don't have. They seek to devalue these traits to feel more secure2 women who see traits they as indicating bad genes. They call men gay to indicate they wouldn't reproduce with them, it signals a desire to eradicate them from the gene pool. These women see society as inherently dangerous 3 women who see gays as moral leaders, they seek a dangerless society and will follow the cues of those perceived as gay beyond their basic instincts
>>32627437it's probably the gay stuff you do
Also lots of women are both 2 and 3 simultaneously depending on who they are talking to
>>32627437>Why is it so easy for some people to clock me as gay?because faggots are easy to spot
I've wasted the last year (and some) trying to "go pro" in Counter-Strike, I'm 20 years old. I spent over 2,000 hours in the game, and a fuck ton more watching content / esports. I'd get home from school, and just play. My grades weren't good, just barely enough to graduate highschool.I've just uninstalled the game, and it's like now what? I don't regret it or anything, it's just that the dream was always a pipe dream.Should I try to go university/college? Work at some oil rig? Right now I'm living at my dads unemployed. Maybe pick up a trade?I want a new dream, and I don't know what's next. I suppose I just want some ideas or advice. NEETdom is not very alluring for me.
>>32627164At your age?Trade first, college later. Or start a business with your trade. You'll be set for life.
Man counterstrike sucks cock because you have to know sooooo much on top of being satanically skilled.I gave up because i didnt know the perfect molotov shots or the exact places you have to plant bombs as a terrorist.It’s so annoying to throw molotovs wrong and shit. The terrorists AKs are so much better too.
Yeah I had a period like that too, different game. Now you do something with your life.Figure out what you want to do. That's not easy. Start with shit you like. What do you like? What do you like about it? Why do you like it? You know, work around it.
>>32627164i did too, but i never wanted to go pro.i just did elo boosting and account selling in LoL. it just gave me a full psychosis about videogames and electronic devices in general.im mid 20's and and if i were you i would go to uni or military. if you wanna be safe go uni and do a useful degree.
I'm going to become a firefighter, or join the military. Then assuming that goes well, maybe attend some form of post-secondary. Thanks bros.
I'm starting my new job on February 18th but due to procrastinating I have to get college classes in person on Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday. Most of my classes have a reasonable time but one of my classes is a night class and the other would require me to get to work within an hour. Now this wouldn't be an issue but my car is broken down still and I have to take the bus or relay on my mother to take me there but it's not possible either because she has to work full time. The job I want to work is to be a custodian for the department of aviation. What should I do?
>>32626452Fix your car, I guess. Try and switch one of the classes to online, so you can do it on your time. Don't take your full class load this semester if possible, and just accept you'll be in school a little longer (might affect health insurance, I know).Procrastination is a great way to fuck up class registration. I've done it before.
>>32627598Okay anon, I will consider that.
My pride is a little hurt. I'm an enby, I use they/them pronouns, and I wear a binder to hide my breasts. My partner still calls me his wife despite my asking him to keep to neutral terms.He got upset and asked what I expect our future kids to call me if I don't want to be "mom" so I told him I want to be called "parent" or "guardian" and he just looked at me like he thinks I'm retarded.At this point I feel like I have to prove a point but I don't have a clue for what would really work.
>>32626912Why are you being sexist at me when I am explicitly non-gendered?>>32627442>>32626966Why can't I just *be* this way? Everyone acts like I have to change, or "grow up" or get a clue or whatever. What's the hurt or harm in just being an enby?
>>32626917Lmao. Rekt.
>>32627477>Just *be*>Force everyone around you to adhere and adapt to your ideologyChoose one.
>>32627477>What's the hurt or harm in just being an enby?I'll repeat myself you're lucky I'm autistic.The harm done is you are boxing everything into male or female. Again, >picrel shows you think like a kid if you're not baiting.Men can have long hair, done nails, wear heels. Women can have short hair, filed down nails, wear sneakers. None of these people are less men or women, only you decide by claiming you're "enby" that everything is sexed.People are way more colorful than a fucking blueprint of a 1950s ideal US american woman/man. Yes, grow the fuck up.
>>32626745The fad is over
I want a boring job. One that pays enough to keep me comfortable. I am tired of every day being a damn emergency. I'm not a doctor, I'm not a first responder. What are some good "boring" jobs I can do while being a paraplegic.
>>32627034disability
How do I stop being afraid of black people?
>>32625687Op said stop
Black people are usually nice and eager to make friends who aren't trying to fix them or monitor their morality
>>32626883>monitor their moralityany by this I mean excessive scrutiny, not calling out objectively harmful behaviors
>>32625435While I'm a mutt, I eat the same you way do, shit the same way you do, sleep the same way you do. I enjoy food like you enjoy food, I like to socialize and make friends, I like to watch tv such as korean cooking shows or court room dramas.I'm not some "different" creature who's brain is completely wired differently than yours. I grieve, I laugh, I cope and seethe. I'm just another human anon. I am aware that there's a noticeable physically-vocal minority of black people who give us a bad reputation but we're not all like that. Some of us just want to have a family, read the Sunday newspaper while taking a shit, walk the dog. The sooner you realize the nuances of everybody, the better :)
>>32625435You shouldn't relax around black people, that's how you become a victim.Don't relax around anyone for that matter.
15 YoE, have founder and faang experience. At a faang+ company now. Extremely well payed, however not learning anything. In a “systems engineering” role which is essentially vendor management for bare metal storage solutions. Used to be a real swe for most of my career. Now getting pigeon holed into infra/sre/systems roles. Imposter syndrome is getting bad. Just had my first kid and don’t feel like I have time to do side projects but feel like I should. Also feel like side projects don’t matter at this point and I should just stay in leetcode shape, but god damn I miss actually making things. Have tried game dev and thats what I want to do but no money in it and I am in HCOL. Currently on a path to early retirement if I can keep whoring for 10 more years. All of this is to say, do I lean into building a side project and gridning leetcode for the next job hop after my cliff or do I go to management? Also have a wild idea of leaving tech and becoming a therapist treating tech / finance bros for mental illness after it helped me during my separation from my pregnant wife somewhat. TLDR burnt out on tech, paid way too much to quit, job is easy, pigeon holed in sre/devops role, misses actually producing software, considering management versus the vendor management hell, albeit well payed, hell I am in. How long can the charade last?
>>32627261Doubtful part of my job requires us citizenship and manager is white
>>32627263>>32627261Unless its Amazon, the higher paying jobs are going to be much less work. The only thing that matters for getting them is interview performance (leetcode) assuming you can get interviews. Tech is a completely broken industry at this point.
>>32627262you're underpaid
>>32627214Just to let you know: I hate you SWEfags, every single one of you. You live like kings, do basically nothing and yet, you whine >muh burnout ;(((((((>muh booooring ;(((((((>I was offered only 400k, but I wanted 500k ;(((((SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU UNGRATEFUL APESGo collect garbage at 6am no matter the weather. Go fix clogged sewers. Mommy's little princess does not want that huh? So shut your trap. I wish you the most severe cases of hemorrhoid, arthritis and RSI possible.
>>32627269I grew up on a farm and had a restaurant job from 14-22 while learning how to code on my own sorry you are poor.
