>european >only like specific other european countries because I am a culture and language sperg>people say I am too picky for that, but feel like I am settling for someone I don't like when I try to give others a chance
>>34588048Death to AmericaAnd butter sauceDon't boil meI’m still aliveIraq Lobster
>>34588048Post it.
My husband and I got a dog together after our first anniversary. We've had him for three years now, and he got out recently.I went out looking for the dog and had a picture of him. I was asking people in town if they had seen our dog, and a guy asked to check the picture with his phone.A minute later he showed me a pic of the back of a truck in his text messages with our dog sitting there happy & he offered to take me to pick him up.I asked to take a moment to call my husband first, and when I did he got upset and told me not to go with the guy by myself. I asked if he could come quickly bc I didn't know how long the guy could wait. He told me to just get the guy's number and meet another time to pick our dog up, but the man didn't want to give his number out.I asked to see the picture again and I noticed that the dog had like a weird extra toe looking thing on its foot, and there was an AI watermark in the corner but I didn't make any big alarm when I noticed. The guy said he lived "right around the corner" and tried to get me into his truck again.I didn't get in, I left and it seemed like he was following me so I started moving a little faster. My husband got there a little later and after hearing what happened he asked me to just stay home and let him look for our dog.He found the dog, but it feels like he was acting like it was my fault for running into a weirdo when I didn't do anything
>>34585732Jesus Christ, are you seriously that fucking naive? I would never marry someone like you and I'm not saying that to be hurtful, but I would never marry someone and love someone that is that careless with their own safety. The dog having an extra toe didn't set off any alarms? I'm assuming this post is bait based on that comment.
>>34586017She said that was what made her realize it was fake.To be fair, it is some very devious shit, and something a lot of people could fall trap to. I've never heard of someone doing something like that before.
Give him a blowjob and say your sorry.End of story.
>>34585732You fucked up because you weren't considering the fact that 70% of men are desperate horny degenerates and you were just talking to randos like it was a normal thing to do.Women shouldn't be talking to men in public. Men shouldn't be talking to women in public.
>>34585732Damn thats scary. Shouldve gotten the plate number and called the cops.
My only friend proposed to his girlfriend sometime ago, I don't know when exactly they marry but I imagine it'll happen soonI'm very happy for him, but I just can't help but feel like shit when I talk to him now. Even just seeing couples out in public reminds me of how much of a loser I amI don't hate anyone, I swear I try so hard to be in good shape and to be a better person, but nothing I do ever works. Seeing better looking people than me at the gym makes me feel terrible tooI just wanna to hug, kiss and have sex just once before I die to at least know what it's likeThe mental breakdowns and crying over my loneliness has become a daily occurrence that prevents me from focusing during the day and sleeping at night. I need help I don't know what to do anymore
>>34587487That's easier said than done, all I ever do all the time is compare myself to others
>>34587538My childhood was very easy, I dropped out of college, failed a normal job, failed the military and am going back to college this fall. But I know damn well going in I'm gonna mess it up again. But all I'm really concerned with is love
>>34587500Thanks for the advice, it's hard to believe that this isn't just fate, it feels like I'm supposed to be like this sometimes
>>34588317But it is possible, which means you ought to be taking actionable steps towards attaining that goal every day rather than wallowing in self loathing. Compiling a list of logical arguments for why it's irrational and self defeating to compare yourself to others and meditating on it every day would be a fantastic way to start. Mastering your own mind is difficult, no one ever said it wasn't, but what could possibly be more worthwhile?
>>34588334Np OP. We can turn the tide and change fate to our favor.Best wishes, brother, and I mean it honestly.
How do I become a classist? Any advice ?
>>34587126I mean, isn't every society like this? Most people are peasants, yes, we knew that already. Plus, warriors and priests don't even exist anymore like they used to. So what makes the Indian caste system so special?
>>34587140Okay thanks, but don't you mean it the other way around? I don't think poors can afford to live in a walled estate unless you meant concentration camps.
>>34586842nah I'm actually never an asshole to the plebs irlI only come here to be an asshole to poor peopleIRL I'm actually considered a pillar of my community and participate in charities and stuffthey need to be kept content for a system to work and not crumble downthat's something many rich people in some rich countries have forgotten, that's why I've seen so much unrest in 1st world nations as of late, communist and socialist and all of that was a bad word in the past in a lot of those countries and nowadays I see a lot of movements to reinstate communist parties and stuffthat that's fair, your rich people have failed you in solving your problems and treating you with minimum dignityI might eventually run for some local office, I have the contacts and the family for it.
Go live with poors and minorities for like like 2 weeks. All it takes
>>34586358You have to be born into one, it's a mix of immaturity and having responsibility dumped on you early on.
I need to know from someone who is like me. I've started considering that I have ADHD or AuDHD after nearly 17 years of anhedonia starting in my mid teen years. I haven't enjoyed much outside of novelty in this time, my threshold for dopamine just completely flatlined. I feel like everything I do, even if it's "fun", requires willpower and focus. Watching a TV series requires willpower. Playing a video game requires willpower. Going out requires willpower. Most of my life now has felt like existing until I die.I used to have incredible difficulty with even starting homework, and my grades fell hard when this started. Just minor tasks felt overwhelming and impossible to focus on, like this massive hurdle I had to overcome. When I'm constantly met with novelty, it becomes easier, and I managed to develop a degree of tolerance for getting stuff done, but it's tough. I don't just START something, I think about it for a while and procrastinate. My self-esteem and life are just so damaged from years of this and I've started the steps to get medicated.I've seen people here talk about getting medication for this before, and I want to know what your experiences are. I've heard someone people describe it as a cheat code for their life and it made everything until that point feel unfair. If this does the same for me, I'll surely feel powerful grief from all the wasted years where I could have been doing this. But I also wonder if having to learn to adapt through sheer willpower could now become like one insanely worked out muscle and that I might be able to push far beyond what normal people do. And did you also need therapy on top of this?
>>34585700I think it's a cluster of interconnected things. Something in particular set me off back in April which hit every single problem I had. But it was something an online friend asked me last year when he had been diagnosed with AuDHD that had me wondering. He asked me how frequently I fapped, and that he was the same, because it's a dopamine fix.Self-esteem and anxiety are interconnected, and exacerbated by the mediocre life I've led.Obsessive-compulsive tendencies are used as a substitute for dopamine.Focus is a major problem. I've had periods of hyperfocus on specific topics I'm interested in, but it's extremely selective.If Adderall or whatever I need allows me to just DO the things I think about, if my dopamine threshold is reactivated and I get enjoyment and joy out of things that aren't pure novelty, and if I can weaponize newfound focus into productive habits, I think I can fix multiple issues at once and turn my life around.>>34585715I've always wondered how people can be so addicted to video games that they just spend endless hours playing them and ignoring real life problems. And I've known people who have told me that they've been through that and they wondered why I react with envy, like I'm making light of a part of their life that they're ashamed of. I spent the exact same time they did just staring at a wall and feeling empty, not even getting the enjoyment they did. If two people both ended up in the same dead end position at age 30 because of procrastination but one spent 15 years having a blast and the other spent it feeling nothing while staring at a wall, I would think anyone would rather be the first person.
>>34585723Can you tell me about your experience before and after?
>>34585744Before: failing out of college because couldn’t studyAfter: passing classes and keeping my scholarship because I could study That’s pretty much it.
Finally got a call from the psychiatry office for a conference chat this FridayI hope there's no more suffering
>>34588127Good luck anon. With what you told us here you won't even need to play it up to get a prescription.
I'm not talking about physical characteristics here. I like women who are like me: weird, neurodivergent, socially isolated, very exposed to the internet. How do I meet women like this? It is important to me that I find a partner who I can relate to.
Drop the elitism. Be someone who enjoys life, not demand everyone match your IQ level.
>>34586314I'm an elitist for wanting a partner who I can relate with?
>>34585841Follow me
>>34586099yes. my advice is look more and look in less convenient places. you want something that is like a wild mushroom that grows in caves and are looking in grocery stores.
>>34588109oh damn it I meant to say what is your advice to me fucking autocorrect
how far in the relationship before I disclose my mental illnesses to her?
>>34585408>Option 1 Never >Option 2Now>Option 3Later Recommend Option 1
just let her find out on her own
>>34585408Are we talking not-interested-as-you-except-a-fleshlight-leave-me-alone type illness or a “real” mental illness?
>>34585408people can react differenly to different illnesses and it depends how much awareness she hasppl tend to look down on certain parsonality disorders, whereas they might not mind something more known about, like depression. but that is just one situation that i find people have to be more careful about - it could varyi have no idea, u just gotta feel it
Never bro. She ain't gonna tell you all about her body count and shit I promise you that.
Advice for dating BPD and mentally ill woman?
>>34573203BPD girls like dating below average guys because they think they're less likely to leave them.
>>34575306>At this point I think they give it out for free to almost anyone who isn’t willing to take shit from othersYes pretty much
>>34576902Exactly my experience with it. Drove me insane and I'm not just using that as an expression. Very different from any other girl I dated.
>>34579609Imagine the blowjobs from that girl... Imagine the face fuckingOML
how to recognize if girl is bpd before talking to her? any particular style or something?>>34573203
How do I become a good writer? Genuine question. These zoomer directors make me want to create but I also don’t want to release dog shit.
i started by publishing two books that sold about 20 copies each and now i'm writing a hentai game that hasn't even been finished yet and i've made more from it than both of themf*males have the market well-saturated with quality and appealing market on books, like actual books, but hentai games appear to be a place where the average writing is so abysmal that even mediocrity can bloom--not only are there an order of magnitude fewer h-games than books but more retarded brain rotted zoomers and millennials are playing video games than reading booksif you are talking about writing movies (apparently you are) then my advice goes double because you can prove that you can craft an experience before you enlist a whole team and associated resources to make an experience with you
>>34587171I saw it last night with with some friends, it's a solid 7/10, but fans of the horror genre will get something new.
>>34587065If you’re wanting to make movies, don’t worry about the quality of the writing. Most movies have terrible writing now a days and still are successful.If you want to get better, practice, read other good works, and join a writing community.
>>34587239>>34588068What books would you anons suggest reading?
Honestly it seems like you either have it or you don't. I put an enormous amount of effort into writing on a project I did and it came out mid. I think I never could get a good theory of mind for my reader. I was always over explaining or assuming they are dumber than they are which is a really bad thing to do. All the best writers read a lot of books though the shortest path to becoming a good writer is to work on your writing, not reading others stuff.
>meet woman>she doesn't have much beyond food, family, and work/school to talk about>when she deviates into philosophy, she interpret things wrong or doesn't understand it at all>that's ok because new perspectives are fun and I don't mind explaining things>spend lots of time with her>I have schizoid tendencies but still act flirty seldomly, and compliment her often through metaphors (she doesn't always get it)>get told my eyes are glossy and that I'm not with her, which makes her lonely>it's true, I often daydream>sometimes I even forget she is beside me (I've been isolated for a long time)>we have sex often>always hug and kiss them>text them about my day>invite them to do things with me>be accused of me treating her like a friend, and me being the center>get ridiculed for not showing enough affectionComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34587338>I'm open to adapting. That is because you are a simp. Women don't even know what they want, they just want to see if you're a beta who will do what they ask you to.
>>34587345what you're saying is partially true, but there is more to it. Maybe you know this, but you're just out to dab on woman (fair enough)>>34587344I suppose, my apologies
>>34587391>what you're saying is partially true, but there is more to it. Maybe you know this, but you're just out to dab on woman (fair enough)I adjust my advice depending on what the person needs to hear.
>>34587395good lad, cheers
>>34587195I don't think most men have to deal with this. She sounds insecure and badly adjusted, as in she thinks her insecurity is your problem to fix. I wouldn't lie to her. Be truthful even if it makes her feel insecure that you don't constantly miss her every second you're apart. Keeping up the lies will be really exhausting
So i just got back from traveling recently, and the place I visited had a lot of stray dogs. None of them ever bit or scratched me, however i did pet some of them, and i did notice a cut on my knee that i don't remember getting. It must've been from when i fell or maybe scraped against something, but i really don't remember. But anyway, im paranoid now that i could have contacted rabies somehow. It's been almost a week since i notice the cut on my knee (it didn't look like a bit or scratch, just a cut), but im just really paranoid now. Should I try getting a vaccine for it now even if I wasn't bitten or scratched to my recollection?Btw I'm in the us now so any medical decision will be like a billion dollars
>>34588152IIRC, in one episode of House, Foreman got bitten on the hand, it went numb, he got the vaccine, and he was fine. Is your knee numb?
I am very depressed. I have no motivation to anything. I do not even have motivation to apply for NEET bucks. I'm only obsessing over my past and ruminate. Day in, day out. I see my life fall apart and I know I have to be worried, but I am not. I wish I could go to a doctor and get medicated, but I have no insurance, anymore. I'm about to be evicted in a few months and think I'll let myself be arrested hoping I'll get help in prison. I'm from Europe. Any advice?
>>34587502i miss reynisfjarasorry can't help you. depression is not easy to handle. you need professional help for that. like seriously, you need professional help
>>34587502I'm sorry to hear about your situation man. I also ruminate on my past a lot. I'd say it consumes about half of my daily thoughts.If you can though, why not apply for the NEETbux? You may use the money to help yourself a bit.. maybe buy an instrument or something that'll give you an interesting hobby. Maybe enough to go camping, or go on a small trip by yourself... the point it, you may find out more about yourself and life, and find some motivation from that. Maybe enough to find some passion, things to look forward to, that sort of thing.Best wishes, OP. I'd give you a bro hug or a friendly handshake if I could. I sincerely hope you may find motivation and peace.
>>34587523>>34587574thanks for words of kindness guys
>>34587502Rumination is just you looking for a guarantee but since there is none you circle and circle and circle hoping to find "something" but since that is a structural impossibility you will circle endlessly the start of ritual and neurosis is trying to guarantee an outcome. So at the root of this all it's because you are afraid to take risks that might put the fantasy of yourself in danger of collapsing but maybe this already happened and u find it hard to engage in the fantasy necessary to mediate the pointlessness of life.
Can a very severe case of inferiority complex be solved without therapy?I live a pretty cool life on my own terms, I live by myself, work as a freelancer artist, and have friends I meet at least once a week.but I have asperger's and I was raised by a family that treated me like a freak or a creature for not being normal.At 30 I still stutter when talking with others, can't react to praise, and look at people's feet when talking to them. Anyone fixed this?
I really understand you, but I'm not sure about trying to solve it without professional. If you can spend some money on therapyn — it will be really good. Everything has an end, and this state will come to an end too. You can do it!
yes i think you should live another 30 years like this, it will be fixed on its own trust.
>>34584368>without therapyeasycocaine will instantly make your insecurities vanishadd a little alcohol to take care of your anxiety and social things become easythink of it as borrowing happiness and well-being from future you
>>34584368i have a massive stuttering issue too sometimes i cant even get words or sentences out of my mouth or pronounce them properly. its not a bad thing. annoying at worst neutral at best. i have nearly no friends generally (only 1 im super close with, otherwise everyone else hates me or ends up hating me) but i know at the end of the day only i am here to truly take care of myself and im still wiling to learn more ways to make my own environment better for my own wellbeing and comfortto be cringe is to be free!!!
>>34586638shut up
I have bipolar and the only times I'm happy are when I'm hypomanic. how do I trigger a stable long-term hypmanic state?
>>34584016>If you try to lengthen your hypomanic periods you may go full manicNot always. I've never been full manic, but am hypomanic regularly. Not op btw.
>>34583295Stop being retarded and do the opposite of what jews say
>>34584016I don't care. I'd rather kill myself than live like this for the rest of my life
>>34583257I also love being manic and want to achieve this, if I figure it out I'll let you know :3
>>34583257Got hypomanic for two weeks after having gone cold turkey on hash a few years ago, and it was some of the best time of my life.
My throat lumps, eyes start tearing up/streaming, especially when under pressure/stress or getting yelled at. Why can't I seem to compose myself or become more "neutral"? It's been a problem for a while now.>20F
why do you get yelled at regularly? that seems like a problem in itself
>>34585371Cause you haven't learned how to deal with stress so your body gets overwhelmed and starts dumping hormones onto you.
>>34585371sighs... listen, that's completely normal. It's a biological human response to stress, pressure, altercations etc. its quite common in fact... Humans react differently - you may not be the most nonchalant on earth but let's be serious, not everyone out there has to compose themselves 24/7 and it doesnt mean anything if you do/dontWhy are we acting like showing emotion is illegal past the age of 18???
