i wanna do a whole cutting board on my wrist but i don’t think i can embrace the pain. even wanting to do just a small cut makes me think more than twice about it…why do i have to be such a bitch when it comes to harming my body? why cant i just take it like a champ?
>>33679195just a deep cut is necesary, just put the knife on your wrist and take your time until you're able to do it.
>>33679195>why cant i just take it like a champ?Do you really want to hurt yourself, or do you just want control? What is it that you're trying to get away from?
fuck off attention whore, go back to tiktok
>>33679195try hobbies that use a razor, like model kits. you'll end up with small cuts on your fingers that heal quickly, don't scar, and sting in the right ways all the same, and because it's "accidental" there is no fear ahead of time and it's easy to explain away to others.
How can I become a better person?
>>33673250FUCK no.
>>33673313>Joseph MengeleNo Shlomo, he was libelled just like all the other nazis. There were no fiendish experiments and he saved many of the work camp inmates from typhus.
>>33673271Hey there Anon, sorry I didn't reply until now. Don't worry about my time, you're welcome though, but I did it all willingly because I feel we all have to help one another these days. If we all did, just a bit, I think it becomes contagious and good things begin to happen. Things seem really bleak at times with all the negative news and such around the world and it makes me feel better to try and help out others by listening and giving hopefully positive perspectives to help them, and even me, course correct and reflect. I definitely don't have all the answers and make a lot of mistakes as well as have my own down days but what I mentioned about live music, socializing and dancing changed everything for me. It literally is my happy place now a days and is something I cherish.Now to answer your question about a God. I don't actually know the answer to that question but I do believe in energy and spirituality. Animals can sense good and evil without speaking human languages. They know good people from bad. They aren't just reading our body language. They can sense love, kindness, safety, etc. I've had birds land on me, cows lie at my feet like dogs, soooo many wild animal encounters with things like foxes, deer, coyotes, skunks, cougars, even bears. I've lived through it all and I respect wildlife. All this variety of life and unbelievable complexity came about somehow. I don't think it was created by one single entity (a God) though but I do know that I'm a bag of water and meat that has a conscience and makes decisions in an avatar body so I can interact on this planet Earth. I think that goodness brings greatness and as a community we all have a place. The universe is massive and apparently infinite. We'll never get to see any of it in this current body form. So I'm hopeful there is some kind of afterlife or way to go elsewhere. Simply lights on and lights off just seems like a giant waste of everything.
>>33679871Don't worry Anon! I'm really thankful to see a response. I think it was really insightful. I think there must be something more out there which at least if one believes that it helps when it comes to create a sense of meaning but it also makes life as something that must be taken seriously. I have to make the most of it, in the sense that I want to die without regrets, I want to know that I triedThank you very much for such thoughtful replies, I'm really grateful that you took the time to reply to me
>>336704791 Do as little harm as possible2 Within the bounds of #1, do as much good as possible3 Within the bounds of 1 and 2 find as much joy as possible
recently I've started getting horrible intrusive thoughts of her being intimate with her previous bfs and it makes me feel like fucking shit and ruins my day. and I think its because my gf recently opened up about her shitty romantic past>ex who was absolutely shit. had major drinking issues, was "previously" a serial cheater, once forced another girl to abort, and one time sneakily removed the condom without her permission>another ex was an egotistic asshole who was a coward. said he had to break up with her because his family would never accept her being not white (she's a halfu)>a guy she knew from high school. they went on a few dates, he lovebombed her, she felt this rush of emotions, they had sex, then he ghosted her. she said it was such a horrible feeling having sex with someone she didn't have a real connection with, like it felt like she was giving a part of herself to someone that didn't deserve it.like I appreciate her being comfortable enough to share these vulnerable thoughts and experience with me, but for whatever reason it's fucking with me on the day to day and I can't get these thoughts of her being with these horrible people out of my head. I see her dressed in a cute sundress and I'm thinking oh no those bfs saw her like that. she sends me links to cute couples activities and I think ah fuck she probably did all this shhit with those terrible people too. the worst is last night when she was going down on my going all sloppy and im thinking oh shit did she do this to that guy she knew from high school (she even knew something was up because I instantly lost my erection when that intrusive thought same to me but i said I just had to pee)anyway how do I manage these shitty fucking thoughts. idk what tf is wrong with me, cuz everythings great, our sex life is great, we see and speak to each other all the time. help please, wise anons, this shit fucking ruining my life
>>33676873>>33677031If OP's an obsessive, ruminative type this won't workNot everyone has that zenmaster mindset or can even cultivate it.
>>33677242then what can I do anon?>>33677231>Is this your first gf?she is my fourth (and final) gf but I know what you mean anon. my first gf was kinda a whore (fucked like 7 people at 19, had sex with a rando black dude on a trip abroad [and complained his dick was smaller than she expected], etc etc). I tried to make it work but exactly as you said, it wasn't possible for me to work it out then so I broke upwith my now gf, honestly I think it's just me problem and not her. I think its just this what I said here>>33675717>idk I think I just never wanted to even consider the fact my gf had been intimate before, like obviously she has and I'm cool with her having a past (ofc within reason), but idk something about this bothers me and idk what. like before, I knew she had shitty exes and experiences on a high level and it never bothered me, but now, after she mentioned revealed some of the negative sexual experiences she's had, I'm like "forced" to think of her in a sexual way with her past, you know what I mean?man your stories remind me of me going on dates with many women with weird sexual pasts (giving blowjobs at 13, weird bondage, repugnant cheating, faking pregnancies with the wrong person) that I instantly would say no to. my gf is a normal girl, thank christ. it's only been normal bf-gf type intimate stuff in her past. in fact, I was the first she agreed to swallow and also the first dick she actually came to with penetration.>I recently broke off a relationship because of a sexual past dealbreakerdare I ask anon
>>33677242Yes it will work lolThat's the whole point of doing it. Its just harder at first and will take a longer time to learn for people like that. Obsessive thoughts aren't normal.
>>33677425Well sounds like lack of experience isn't the issue then, 4 is a good number and it sounds like you're about body matched.If you're willing to acknowledge it's a personal hangup then yeah maybe there is a chance of you working on it. My advice is to not discuss it or bring it up again and see where that gets you. Maybe even spend some time apart from her, not like taking a "break" but maybe going on a trip to see family or something, some healthy distance to make the heart grow fonder.>dare I ask anonShe fucked the streamer Destiny after one of her breakups, she was in his discord and they were "friends" lol. It's funny to me now but my initial reaction was visceral disgust.It was on top of a bunch of other red flags, like being on anti-depressants, being older than me, having "dated" black guys (I've dated black women so I brushed it off), being a cat lady with frozen eggs. But she was pretty for her age and she was a very generous lover but looking back it was probably baby rabies.Anyway I've been single for like half a year now but I don't regret it, rather be single than have the knowledge I'm having Destiny's sloppy seconds.
>>33680396>4 is a good number and it sounds like you're about body matchedYeah our body counts are both 5 inclusive, and she's always had sex within relationships, barring that one guy who she wanted to date anyway but now regrets having sex with. We both agree that sex without love is shitty af.>not discuss it or bring it up again and see where that gets you.>some healthy distance to make the heart grow fonder.Yeah that's fair my guy. She is a great girl in all honesty, and I fully intend to work on myself and make this work till the end>my initial reaction was visceral disgust.I'm with you man, that woman is fucking yucky. you made the right call.I once had a date tell me how she slept with a senior colleague at work who was married and had kids. dug deeper and found out her dad was a major cheat growing up, and it all made sense. its crazy how shitty parents are connected to so much shit in life. disgusting woman either way.>rather be single than have the knowledge I'm having Destiny's sloppy seconds.kek I never imagined id read a sentence like this, but yeah mate good on ya. there's always good women out there, don't settle for slop
I realize that if I were to die atm then they would have nothing to remember me by. I keep everything about me inside this laptop and if i'm dead then they'll never know the real me, which would be really sad and probably add to their grief. How do I go about doing this though? Do I just leave my password on a sticky note somewhere? Maybe turn off bitlocker? My brother is the only one that's tech literate but I'm afraid he won't be able to figure out how to use a linux thumb drive to look at windows files. I don't want to compromise my security too much either because obviously I don't want them going through my laptop while I'm alive.
>>33674027How about being memorable to them while you're alive?
>>33674027share it while you are here. probably your laptop will go in the trash or get sold if you die.
>>33674027write password on stickynote and put it on your keyboard. dont forget to delete all your embarrassing stuff
>>33674027Get/create a living will. There are free templates online. In the document put the password to the laptop on it and decide who should get your digital stuff and physical stuff. Or you could have no password on the machine but that's not a good idea. A living will is supposed to be updatable so you can do as you please when you please. Honestly, every living person should have one just in case.Unfortunately, getting rid of all the stuff someone accumulates through life is a big burden on those who are left to receive and process the deceased person's things. We spend our whole life accumulating STUFF and in the end you can't take any of it with you but what is in your head/brain. So think about that when you have to buy things...Not picking on you or anything...just giving you a perspective to think about.
>>33678079>Unfortunately, getting rid of all the stuff someone accumulates through life is a big burden on those who are left to receive and process the deceased person's things. We spend our whole life accumulating STUFFunfortunately this. We keep things meaningful to us, or perceived as valuable, useful, whatever, but to others it's just stuff they now have to deal with it. Most of the things we cherished will end up in a dumpster once we are gone.>>33674027see >>33674056drives don't last forever, and especially laptops that are a daily driver. Look into cloud backups or a home NAS for yourself, if not for any legacy. If you are still here in twenty years, you want your data to also be here too right?Some cloud services like github offer legacy ownership transfers in the event of the account owner's death, but if your family is not technical that won't help much.Although I've been in similar situations and had to make similar choices, everyone's situation is different and I won't pretend to know what you are going through. I hope you have trusted friends or family you can confide in though. It's a real struggle to work through those things alone.
Im going to school for electrical engineering, does /adv/ have any tips on making my employment process go as smoothly as possible? Gif not related
>>33678294is that the same as electrician? Find an apprenticeship/internship asap
>>33678899>I dunno what to do then.Well have some agency anon, and repeat what I did.Make a list of jobs you'd like or at least tolerate. For each career field:Figure out how many people are employed now, multiply by some percentage to see how many new hires there will be every year. Some absolute shit jobs like K12 education burn out the average teacher in only five years, and what they do the rest of their life is someone elses problem. Others like medical doctor, if you make it, you got a job for life unless you go into management.Add some corrections for BS govt predictions about growth or shrinkage of the field, those people historically have been morons but sometimes their advice isn't that bad.Add some more corrections for BS govt policies about immigration, some careers are highly at risk others not at all.Add a correction factor for "the effect of AI" or some nonsense.Then compare it to the last couple years graduation rate to see the odds of getting hired to do the work after you graduate.If academia creates about 20K BSEE per year in the USA, and there's at most "maybe" jobs for 3K to 6K american grads, thats going to be a big problem if you took out a mortgage sized student loan for a job that statistically you're just not going to get. And the backup field for EE used to be going into programming which is also dead. Other jobs may be better odds. Maybe other jobs are even worse.
What are you looking to specialize in? Do you want to do field work? Have a desk job designing shit? Power electronics? Process Control? Industrial Automation? Mechatronics? Honestly you're better off starting as a tech first then after a couple of years when you're really good go back to school and get your degree which will put you in an elite category of engineers that make the big bucks.
Get a college approved internship
>>33678294internshipspart-time and summer jobsnetworkingTake every opportunity to meet people actually working in the field. When the day comes, they just might be able to offer you a job
I've realized I can't have a healthy relationship with women. My mother is a narcissist and made me hate women before I even got to know them properly. Then I was exposed to porn and blackpilling, which reinforced that women are very narrowly focused on a small subset of men with traits that I do not possess (not in terms of attractiveness, but behavior). I don't want treat someone like trash just to get into bed with them. At the same time I feel like sex is all that matters with women. In all honesty I can't imagine a loving relationship with a woman, I'm 34 and I have never had one. What could be done at this point?
>>33680976see? entitled*bows and leaves*
>>33680998Understandable *bows in return*
>>33680998kek no kek as in kek for >>33680972 bc no you do need to give advice to give advice. Even if it's one guy vs everybody.. if everybody just says you got a x problem and doesn't explain lol like yeah obviously what the first person is saying and doing is probably exactly what they are referring to but most people who are willing to just go around saying YOU as in just starting any sort of sentence with you, they are bitches. YOU are just always blah blah blah yeah actually not even true bitch.You are halfway to understanding that it is just your perspective... but also not... bc women are people first... people with tits. So they know they are cute and can get away with anything. It's a fact. They can't help but be sociopaths when things come so easy. But there really is an entirely different world out there, a world of abundance, one in which you may actually still not get laid bc people assume you do and you just fail to fuck the five or so hot bitches around you. But you know... WELL ADJUSTED PEOPLE. just start fucking IMAGINING IT. because you really have to expect shit for it to come to you sometimes
>>33680433Every single man in the world has mother issues. Every single man in the world has seen too much porn. They don't all give up. That's all that is wrong with you - you have given up.
>>33681318On some level sure, but how do I recover? That's the whole point, I'm consumed by negativity towards women, myself and the world, I suppose. I can't imagine a woman wanting me on her own accord, not currently at least, and I'm already 34. I mean what the fuck do I do?
Is 25 old? 25 never had a real girlfriend
>>33680186at 26 I got my first serious gf, the previous ones barely counted, one we were together for two months but in those two months we almost never saw each other or anythingthe other her dad was some sort of ex military or ex narco or something and when he found out he sent her abroad for a couple of months and we broke up over e-maila couple of kisses and stuff here or there but it was mostly me being at the right moment at the right time, nothing out of meritthen at 26 I got a serious gf I stayed with her for years
>>3368018628 and never had a gf. at this point I'd be happy just getting anything. i think it's ok but don't waste your time like i did.
>>3368018631.Had a few dates, nothing productive and the few "breakups" were made out to be victim situations.... At this point in time don't worry about it women have been brainwashed to believe in unreasonable things. Just hope you meet a girl who isn't 100% fem brained and knows men are actual humans.
>>33681196More details.Girls I have been around expect me to both be a MAGA chad with perfect liberal values. To always agree with her but also always assert my own will. To have hobbies that are macho but also be 100% invested in her interests and have no conflicts between the two. Have my own very full life and and open schedule for her interests.Also fully fund her "lifestyle" but not do any of that nasty capitalist stuff.Making women happy is impossible.
>>3368018634 non larping khv. Never been on a date, never had a single girl interested in me.
No family, no girlfriend, all I have is one close friend and one non close friend.What can I do about this?
>>33680153>What can I do about this?Try to get the things you don't have if you want, but with the family part you're fucked obviously. Also, if you have money (have a decent job with good money saved up or are rich from your parents) and do things on your own just fine, plus enjoy that lifestyle, then I suggest you keep it that way. Sure you can occasionally hang out with people if you know for a fact you enjoy that or are one of those extremely needy people, but if you have never had a girlfriend and want one, to have her live with you, and maybe a family, etc. I suggest you take a very hard look and understand that shit isn't a fairy tale, plus your life can go to complete shit with that route extremely fast.TL;DR: Life is a gamble, people use you for what you have and are fake as hell (99% of the time), so if you're currently comfortable, then stay that way. In other words, be careful when going for those things. Also, life is boring as hell, so you either deal with that or go insane according to most anons I guess.
>>33680153Get offline and go spend time with your friends
What’s the best strategy to get good grades in college?I’m struggling
>>33680948We're going to need a bit more information than that. What's your subject? How, exactly, are you struggling - are you having trouble retaining information, or having trouble expressing yourself in essays, or what?
>>33680948Show up.Do the work.If you feel yourself slipping, IMMEDIATELY go to prof for help. That's what they keep office hours for.
What’s the only way to keep going in life and hope there’s an afterlife?
FomoThis life is very much temporary either way
>>33680586Wait so I’m just fomo on cool stuff?And nah I believe in some god man, I think life could be more than temporary you know?I mean I hate this life I was given and want the one I believe I didn’t get when I shouldve
>Hope for afterlife>keep goingTry christianity. Go to your local church.Christianity held together the middle ages.>feed the chikens>feed the pigs>till the land>Rinse once a month>repeat till death
>>33680925I mean that’s what I am at the end of the day a Christian…with a lot of embittered views on a lot of people.Could I substitute church with room praying?
>>33680450The only way to keep going is to keep going
36M close friends (purley platonic) with 37F, she's more sociable and has a friend circle I cross into a lot, most people are cool but theres this Tranny that she invites and I'm not an asshole, be nice to them, (shes hung out with tranny's before) I don't go on conservative rants (She knows I'm a right winger, we have fun disagreeing about politics) My birthday is coming up and we're all going to go out to eat like we do when its someones birthday, how do I tell her "Hey, please don't invite the tranny to my birthday" without being an asshole
>>33673498>explaining why trannys are gross to your lefty gfthat was tough for me in 2018 but I'm sure it'd be easier todayit helps if you know what she finds compulsively repulsive so you can make a good comparison
>>33673498You're asking how you can be an asshole without being an asshole. You can't.
>>33673498>how do I tell her"I don't like hanging out with people who have severe self mutilation level of mental illnesses as a form of recreation""I don't want to be friends with someone who shares the beliefs of numerous mass shooters"I don't understand why you're obligated to invite someone who's mentally ill whom you don't really like to your own party. Do you think you should be forced to marry the tranny?
>>33673498have your party somewhere where trannies aren’t welcomed and act ignorant if it comes up
you could stop being a peice of shit
Alright so yesterday I jacked off from 1:00 am to 7:00 am I woke up with pain in the tip of my dick and left thigh, plus a burning sensation.On a 1-10 scale, I'll say the pain is a 5 with occasionals spikes to 7 . I tried taking a painkiller but it did nothing. Balls are a little bit swollen
>>33680979I did man, is not the first time I do something similar. I normally jack off for an hour in the morning and another hour at night, every day. But I tried do the nofap shit for a month, and broke my streak at the 15th day. I was SUPER horny during all this time so I decided to beat my record of 5 hours and I fucking regret it JFL.Obviously it was not non-stop wanking, I took breaks to pee, take water (I ended up drinking 3 liters) edge myself and stop for a 30-60 seconds. Plus every time I came I give myself 5 minutes to rest and recover.I couldn't believed when the sun came out and I was still edging
>>33680634>should i go tell a doctor that i jorked my meat until it hurtlmao yesthey'll give you a paracetamol and mental health screening>>33681034>creatures like this walk among usyuuuuck
>>33681056I already took paracetamol and it did not help with the pain
>>33681054Holy crap the gooning meme is real? Zoomers brains are going to be so fried with this and tik tok + social media how will they ever function past age 40? They’ll probably all get early dementia
>>33681083For me it isThe only social media I use is this and an obscure forum for books. Don't use tiktok either.
I don’t even know how to start, but I basically started playing this game a year ago and i recently picked it up again a month ago and I cant stop. I went from having all A’s in my classes to failing most of my classes just because I never do schoolwork, and I've always gotten all A’s in my past years. If we're using our laptops, I play minesweeper, if we're not, I just play it on my phone. everytime i do a quiz or an exam, even if i know the material, i just guess everything just to start playing minesweeper. sometimes i pull out my phone in the middle of the quizzes to play mnesweeper. I lowkey think I'm not getting into a good college or university cause of this. Im deadass playing minesweeper as i type this out. In the morning i wake up and play minesweeper, i go to school and play minesweeper, i come home and play minesweeper. When i go to sleep and close my eyes i play minesweeper in my head as i try to go to sleep. I literally stopped scrolling on tiktok and instagram and lost my whole roster cause im too locked in on minesweeper to text them back. help
>>33673596I won't read made-up bullshit threads.
>>33673596Ask Tyrone to play a few rounds after he is done fucking your wife.
and of going to work every day. The few seconds of pleasure are not worth spending 9 hours slaving away. At least if I had a more younger and prettier partner it would make working more bearable. Should I dump her and become a neet? I really want to be a neet so bad.
>>33679488Not him but your entire argument is countered by the fact men could at the drop of a hat be drafted off to war.
>>33680150Men going to war doesn't change that marriage was always about sex and women were obligated to give it to their men because they were much more dependent. Pointless post.
>>33671064get a better job first and start working on yourself. if you follow this plan, either she’ll shape up or a woman will take her place. either way you win. don’t embrace neetlife; women of quality come into the lives of successful men.
>>33673074no I have to add another layer to this. Yes, incels have NO (and for real if there was ever a no... you've heard it all. The golddiggers, the cheaters, the crazies. Women are evil lol. Seriously though.... They. are. the devil. The actual devil) idea how miserable and boring it can be the very second you realize a girl is into you... but some of you guys sound like FAGS no offense. Like oh man I have this fucking GIRLFRIEND just laying in my bed ready to jack me off any time I want. FFFFUUUU
>>33678903white people are just boring. Black people have HOME girls. You know what that is? your actual girlfriend... except not bc the mistresses are... or something. idk iced tea explained it
I consciously know women want muscular men, but I have the personal desire to be a twink and get below 60kg (130lbs) at least once in my life because I love the aesthetic.What should I do?
there are different women with different tastes in men. if you like the way you look you'll be more attractive to women that have aesthetic preferences closer to yours, and that's one of the best things you can get. you can't appeal to "women", they're not an homogeneous mass, they're individuals. Some of them like twink looking dudes.also, if you do you, you'll also feel better with your self, wich helps
>>33679222A rose by any other name
In my experience twink death is when the amount of pussy you can easily get exponentially dropsSo yes twinkmax maybe retain enough muscle for ottermode and you will drown in bishes
>>33679175>I love the aesthetic.part of being a man is doing what you desire. Fuck what everyone else thinks.>I consciously know women want muscular mendifferent kind of women like different kind of things. But the biological imperative always exists- yeah, look like a twink, but can you kill another man in hand-to-hand combat looking like a twink? I know some who can. It's that dangerous disposition that attracts women. MMA fighters or boxers aren't all volume muscular, but they are damn lethal.>What should I do?just look at popular men with that kind of aesthetic. They get laid all the time. Like I said, different women, different tastes. Video related:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mmekHL8cfU
>>33679495i would argue that mid 90s and beyond girls like twinks, mostly
