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I get edibles from my dealer every 5 months or so. I like listening to music and watching videos while it kicks in. I'm still pretty new to this and prefer doing it alone.
Any tips to make the experience more enjoyable? Music recs, activities, whatever.
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>>34718513
Lmaooo depressed loser namefag can't stop begging for attention
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>>34718520
Okay, you win every argument against me. With all these points you win against everyone online. What are you gonna spend it on? What valuable currency do you get from all the points you spend on being negative on the internet?
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>>34718528
Holy shit you're pathetic dude
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>>34718520
You're out here fighting a war that only exists in your retarded head because you're either mentally disabled or got baptized by the bananas in pyjamas, you faggot
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>>34718534
Kys if you don't like it.

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Is there such thing as caring too much? If so, how do you find the balance between caring too much and not at all?
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>>34716556
But how do you stop caring while having the want to be a good person and make the world a better place?
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>>34716582
Is an ant concerned about making the world a better place? What about a fish? How about a squirrel?

No. They are concerned with eating, fucking, and not dying.
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>>34716530
through experience. I had too many people talking all that but never act upon it. I used to care and now I really dont care what happens to them.

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What am I in for? Am I going to die?
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>>34716842
>You're probably one of those unlucky people that doesn't get high on opioids. It's a genetic thing.
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>>34716450
euphoria doesn't happen until like 100mg

up thru 80 is just vibes
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>>34716939
>euphoria doesn't happen until like 100mg
Zamn.
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>>34716880
>Why would anyone take drugs that aren't designed for having fun?
I don't want to have fun. I just want to feel good.
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>>34716692
You should try heroin its great

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Parents who think you failed and smoke and are lazy and do nothing still despite moving
>Left home more than 10 years ago
>Have a job
How do you deal with them being angry at you for no logical reason, because it's embarrasing when they parent me infront of people at gatherings as a 30 yr old and assume shit
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>>34716137
If you kys, they will no longer bother you at social gatherings.
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>>34718371
This is a guy who talks everyone down because he has yet to meet a fish bigger than him. Anon, if you talk the way you do to a 6'8" buff biker I think you'd get your ass kicked. Always thinking you are invincible, but have no idea someone bigger than can get to you.
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>>34718378
Kys dude
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>>34716137
hmm that's honestly infuriating, yeah the obvious solution is make more money, but that's just like, material, and doesn't solve the facts your parents are dicks, i also agree with the solution of just moving far away maybe to a foreign country where they have their hand forced to be genuinely concerned for you
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Two can play at that game. Make them aware that they're embarrassing themselves.
>You see how good that anon's family acts. Why can't you behave yourselfs?

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Does anyone else find socializing exhausting, almost like a chore? It’s nothing personal, but I feel like I can’t be my true self around people, which makes every interaction feel forced. Is it normal to force these connections just for the sake of having friendships?
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>>34715358
It’s exhausting because you are afraid of being judged, but this is an irrational fear. Everyone judges, even you. Once you stop being insecure about it, you can proudly be yourself in front of others.

You are not supposed to force connections with people you can’t relate to. You find people with similar values and you focus your efforts on those people.
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This is me with my friend groups. I just exist and they just like my company. They are content being monotonous and do the exact same thing. I want to explore more and do something unique. All friend group comes into an impasse after interacting enough. What am I suppose to push past the boundaries.
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>>34715358

Kys and you will no longer feel exhausted
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>>34715358
socializing felt like a chore when i was smoking pot, now that I'm off it socializing is actually quite fine and tantalizing
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>>34715358
no. you are not showing your true self around people because you are a pussy. you are afraid of being yourself for whatever reason. maybe you are afraid they would make fun of you but they are strangers so why would that even matter?

I asked a girl out for the first time and documented the events.
https://youtu.be/nTuhi5W1mWM
Where did I fuck up?
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>>34718055
Numbers game

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I hear all the time that it fucks up the people left behind, but how true is that for the average person?
It's suppose to be selfish because the pain is being passed down, but isnt it more selfish to assume that people would be traumatized for life and never get over it? On the other hand, some people may laugh and ridicule one for commiting after the fact. What are you thoughts?
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>>34715734
Murder is based (good) tho ur just a pussy
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>>34711714
He killed himself cause his dads a fagg
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>>34710097
Apparently one of the best predictors of suicide is knowing someone who committed it.
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>>34718081
ER killed two times more men than women
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>>34718396
That's too bad
He had the right idea tho (killing women, that is).

>32, have ED from years of prone masturbating
>finally quit at age 31 and started jacking off normally
>dick still doesn't get as hard as it used to
>slept 5 hours a night for 6 years and really sank in my ED
>have to take viagra to fuck
>fuck a girl whose pussy is so tight I have to finger her for 5 minutes just to be able to get her wide enough to take me in
>still isn't enough for me to cum
>have her jack me off for 10 minutes
>still don't cum
>this is after not jerking off for a WEEK
>have NEVER had an orgasm from sex
>she cums multiple times from my cock and fingers
>dick is mostly numb due to prone smooshing my cock against pillows for 20 years
>have had sex with 4 women now and none of them made me cum
>start to get upset because all I do is finger fuck a girl for 15 minutes, then stick my dick in and pump for like 5 to 10 minutes, go soft, finger her more, get hard again, fuck her 5 or 10 more minutes

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>>34714940
What am I, a fucking doctor? The fuck am I supposed to do?
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>>34715018
Maybe doctors lurk here
I tried reddit and no one replied on /r/askdoctors
But if some woman posts about her period being 5 seconds late she gets 900 replies from simp jeet doctors.
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yeah bro doctors are coming here to read some bullshit about how you can't stop playing with your dick

stop playing with it
stop having loveless sex
and get tested for autism because holy fuck dude
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>>34714940
If you kys you will experience the ultimate, unending orgasm.

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I'm 21 years old and have never had any sort of employment. Admittedly, i have done my military service, but that's the state forcing you to do something then giving you cash after the fact, so not the same. A company or individual hiring anyone but already experienced people for any role seems incomprehensible. Currently im in university and can live off investing the low-rent student loans since i live with my mom but that's very far from a permanent solution.
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>>34712143
Step 1: Create a fake resume with fake experience. Entry level jobs like restaurants or retail will be the most believable. For references, just create fake references by taking the numbers of people you know and have them pretend to be a former manger or something.
Step 2: Spam the resume everywhere. Local businesses, job boards, job fairs, etc...
Step 3: Use connections. If you have any friends or family that have jobs ask them if their jobs are hiring.
Step 4: If you manage to get an interview, practice what you are going to say ahead of time.
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>>34715875
Here are some common interview questions:
>Tell us about yourself.
<Basically just an elevator pitch about yourself.
>What is your biggest strength?
>What is your biggest weakness?
<Be sure to say how you overcome/fix your weakness.
>Why do you want to work here?
>Why did you leave your last/current job?
>Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
>What is an accomplishment you're proud of?
>What's something about you that's not on your resume?

Also since your in uni they might ask you some questions about that like "why did you pick your major".


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>>34712143
At 27 not much is different.
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I'm 31 and I've never had a job. You think you have to bad? Fuck you.
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>>34712143
Kys and it won't be a problem

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I have this friend at work who has ADHD, and it's kind of difficult. She often makes impulsive and decisions, bit of a control freak and its kind of exhausting being around her for long periods of time. The best way I can describe her is she's like sugar: Good in small doses, really bad for you if you have too much.

Recently I was supervising her driving home and it was pretty obvious something was bothering her. I tried asking if she wanted to talk about it, but she didn't say anything, she just blasted her crappy spotify music in her car. I tried to turn it down so I can speak with her but she told me to fuck off, pushed my hand away, and turned it up, we didn't say anything else for the rest of the drive.

It was an uncomfortable drive and it made me question if my friendship with her has any future, and Im considering just keeping my distance from her. We can still maintain our level of friendship, but I think it will be near impossible for it to strengthen as thinking about it, our energies don't match and I feel like whenever she asks me to do something for her it feels like she's using me.
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>>34716954
Definitely maintain or reduce the level of friendship. Some people can actually manage ADHD without being assholes, but it sounds like she isn't one of them
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>>34716954
That's not solely explained by ADHD, these are behavioural issues.

Relationships with ADHD-I are often difficult in terms of trying to talk them out of a bad decision - they're stubborn as an ox.
No matter how hard you make the case that certain thing is bad, they'll do it anyway.

So you just watch them do the dumb thing and sort of be there for then...
Then the cycle repeats lmao.

However, the difference is: It's mostly self-destructive instead of being overtly toxic.
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>>34716954
If you kys, you won't be troubled by how to be a better friend any longer.

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I want to find someone’s social media profiles. I have a name and phone number. However it’s a Russian phone number. Any suggestions?
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>>34718345
If you kys, you won't need to look for social media profiles any longer.

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A girl hugged me and told me that she liked me. What did she mean by this?
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>>34712071
Bearing in mind that some people are just naturally more touchy-feely-huggy than others, it means at the very least that she likes you personally and just as one-of-the-gang; and it MIGHT mean that she has potentially romantic feelings
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>>34712342
typo - and NOT just as one of the gang
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>>34712319
NTA. He's not gay, he just doesn't want to make her uncomfortable
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>>34712071
She was just being nice, don't read too much into it
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>>34712071
If you kys, you will no longer be troubled by the need to figure out what did she mean by this.

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So, I have an incest child with my half-sister, and the child is trying to find their dad. The guy my sister pinned it on is denying everything and wants a blood test.

Will a blood test identify me? How accurate are they?
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>>34714733
We were always close, she is 10 years older than me. Single mom worked all the time, so we got close. Eventually we had sex when I was 16. She started dating a guy not long after. When she found out she was pregnant. We both figured the child was mine because of the timing. He broke up with her because he was a fuck boi and didn't want to have a child. She did marry a guy who adopted the child and they had 3 more after, but he's dead now from hitting a deer while riding his motorcycle without a helmet.

>>34714765
No

>>34715081
How likely are they going to test me?


The child is otherwise very healthy, she is in college and was Salutatorian when she graduated high school.
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>>34715367
>How likely are they going to test me?
Well, clearly *someone* has to be the father, but if the mother refuses to say who it was, they can't just go around randomly testing every man she's ever met. They would have to have some reason to suspect it's you.
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>>34715367
Why can't you just tell the kid you're his dad and if anyone else finds out you and your mother are going to jail and he'll be an orphaned little shit without anyone to help him in the world?

Guess the dad is as inbred as the son.
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>>34717798
Bad idea

>>34715367
Tell your rat bastard the deer is the father cause he skullfucked his daddy to death and that's how little babby's are made
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>>34713928
They will not figure it out.

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> Be me
Didn't have the best childhood. When I was 14, I found out that my mom had a really rough childhood. Growing up with abusers wasn't something easy for her to process and get over.
I also got abused to an extent, took some beating here and there which I truly despise my dad for. On top of that, he's really damn weird. Sexual remarks and touches towards me as a kid, something that will change the life course of anybody. It's kind of like I projected what had happened to my mom over to my life, and the pain of it doubled.

Damned underachiever. Grew up the top of my class, recognized by teachers and peers as the smartest kid in class, proceed to fuck everything up past freshman year.

Unimpressive academic achievements, I couldn't keep up with the educational framework, too damn lazy to learn what doesn't interest me, too much of a procrastinator. I got my shit eventually figured out and pursued tech as a career, I'm pretty good at it.

Loneliness, crippling fucking loneliness. Not entirely alone, but if I had an accident right now I wouldn't know who to call. Never had a birthday party, never was part of a friend group past age 12. At that point I had decent friends at school but decided to cut everyone off during Covid. Never had friends that close ever since.

Luck is the part missing in my life. If I had more of it maybe things wouldn't have been this bad. But I can still recognize that I haven't lived enough to determine that yet.
I just haven't come across the right people maybe, because I really am a decent human. I'm kind, helpful, genuine, easy going and engaging. I beat myself down pretty often, but I know that my character is pretty decent. Yet everyone I get to know seems to disappear from my life after a short while.
Unlucky, the randomness of this life didn't line up in my favor, and in many different ways. Enough to be significant. Maybe this will help me get over the fact that I'll vanish one day. There will be an end to it all.
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>>34718320
Damn, sorry to hear you're unlucky

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i feel like i am slowly but surely losing the love and interest i once had for my girlfriend and this is making me feel like a horrible person i honestly don't know what to do or what path to take

for some context:
we have been dating for 1 year now and there is a "is that it?, is that all there is to it?" situation unfolding right in front of my eyes and i can't stop feeling like this.

she is conventionally attractive, she smells good, is fairly trad, she was a virgin when we first met (i think) and her parents and family are ok with me so far. the only thing that ruins this seemingly perfect scenario is how she acts (or don't in some parts) she is so fucking passive it annoys me. i am pretty forced to do EVERYTHING and put all the effort in the world for the relationship to keep going since she can't really be assed with it on some parts, for example:

>won't start any sort of intimacy at all (won't hug me, won't touch me, won't kiss me, won't say anything endearing or atleast demonstrating that she cares in person).

>is a literally starfish in sex (will simply lay down on the bed and do nothing besides look and wait for me to do everything, she still won't touch me either too btw, i feel like a glorified vibrator)

>will bitch about me talking or interacting with other people (one particular event that helped further with the feeling of disconect was me helping a classmate carrying her bag to the bus we usually take, she had a broken leg btw, she bitched about the incident for a whole month and even her mother and father cussed me out for daring to help an injuried classmate).

>is expensive (i get that its usually the dude that pays for the bills and i sorta agree kinda, but i ain't rich i work a 9/5 that barely pays the stuff i need to survive and she knows it but she insists on whenever we leave i have to pay the bills and she also is always sending me internet product ads she wants and indirectly asking for me to buy them)
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>>34717873
no other context sadly

classmate was in an accident and broke her leg and had to use crutches, she asked for my help on getting her bag to the bus (we take the same one) my gf saw it and started bitching at me for helping her then she went and told her mom about the whole ordeal and when i went to her house in the weekend they pretty much just cussed the shit out of me for whole thing, i have never felt like such a piece of shit before and i know i was in the right on this one
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>>34717507
>sex outside of marriage
>trad
Pick one and only one. You're a degenerate retard who thought with his dick, and if you hadn't actually had sex, you would have left this mess of a relationship in a couple months.
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>>34718235
Ok incel
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>her parents and family are ok with me so far
>even her mother and father cussed me out for daring to help an injuried classmate
Read those two side by side. They're not fine with how you act.

>>34718235
The solution isn't to turn this trashfire into a marriage and birth another loser like you.
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>>34718317
No sex outside of marriage =/= marrying the first person you see just so you can have sex.
That's my entire point. That OP is artificially invested in this relationship because of sex, and he wouldn't have put up with it if his judgement weren't clouded by it.


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