My roommate is a lesbian, so I was completely caught off guard when she started asking me the kinds of questions only a woman who sleeps with men would ask, turns out she’s been hooking up with some hispanic guy on the side for the past two months, and last night she found out she's pregnant. We're in the middle of the semester. Any advice? There’s going to be a lot of backlash, the guy already knows and he is tradcon who wants the kid, he is ready to fight for it.She has a girlfriend and parents back in asia (she's Chinese) so she has a lot of pressure right now, and want to help her but don't know how. She's been crying a lot since last night.
>>34970310Whether she has an abortion or not is her decision, not his. There's nothing whatever that he can do to stop her.
>>34970310Anyone but you. Hahahahaha
>>34970310Start having sex with her
>>34970310Your school/college has a counselling service and - believe it or not - they have run into pregnancy problems before. They can give her informed and objective help and advice.
>>34970310"My roommate is a pregnant Chinese lesbian" is probably not something you ever expected to say
How do I defeat the despondancy inducing nihilism that comes with thinking about what I will do with my life, what jobs I will get, how much money I will even be able to make in my life, the extent of what I could realistically acheive, etc? I don't have much driving me. I want to get a job just to have one, as I never have at the age of 21. Almost no progress was made in the last 10 years of my life. If I'm as far behind as I am, and my family couldn't do shit, I don't have much of an example to give me any hope whatsoever.My uneducated view of my prospects is that I will spend 10 years being a wage slave unable to afford anything considerable at best. I don't want to live life being an industrial slave selling myself out and descending evermore deaply into derealization. Again, this is an uneducated assessment, just going off of what I've observed in my life so far. I have absolutely nothing to kickstart me, and considering the sheer absence of anything of note in my life, I have to wonder if I'm just too retarded to go anywhere. A lot of stuff just seems like a humiliation ritual.
>>34972339>Almost no progress was made in the last 10 years of my life.>21Bro what. You have nothing but time.If you're gonna rope and nothing matters anyway then what do you have to lose. The world is your oyster. Go to trade school and build cabinets. Fuck off to Alaska and work on an oil rig. Join the military and fight for ZOG. Do literally anything other than bitching here about your lot in life at the old age of 21.You have no investment, no sunk cost, no loans I assume, no wife, no kids, literally nothing holding you back. The only thing you're selling yourself to is your own comfort in doing nothing.
>>34972357You don't need to tell me this, I already know exploding my face apart with a shotgun is an available option. I'm however, looking for an alternative.>>34972361Easier said than done, but I do know of some changes that could enhance my introspection and maybe help me arive at something, even if that's not promised, and I am again, most likely retarded.>>34972364I've had a terrible life by many measures which I won't go into here, and no force in my life to prepare me for adulthood in this world. I grew up being handed causes for nihilism at almost every turn. Forgive me if my escaping youth and the void of change in my life over the course of 10 years hasn't lead to optimism. >The only thing you're selling yourself to is your own comfort in doing nothing.I'm already on the course to getting a job. I'm soon to get a license so I can even drive at all. I was hoping someone with experience could give me something substancial and not merely insist on the supposed unmaterialized wealth I have. "the world is your oyster" means absolutely nothing to me if I have no path.
>>34972409I think you should ride a seadoo off Niagara Falls. We will remember you for sure. Try to hit the other side, send it
Chug copium
>>34972409>"the world is your oyster" means absolutely nothing to me if I have no pathYour purpose is to find purpose. If you're genuinely looking for a path and willing to try new things and take leaps of faith, then you're already on the path. You don't have to see over the horizon, you just have to walk towards it.
Is having a career/vocation you feel proud of doing every day an unrealistic goal?Everyone says "don't do the thing you like for a living" because you'll hate it. But how true is that really? It seems like cope to give the cognitive dissonance of having a soul sucking job some meaning.I am currently discerning a career change (to Electrical Engineering) and studying intently to that end. But I am curious to have more opinions. Is it enough that the mortgage is paid another month? Should I be grateful for the opportunity to just putz around collecting a paycheck, even when it carries with it a feeling of tremendous guilt for doing nothing of substance?I feel I am destined for excellence, but the truth of the matter remains blurred behind the veil of "do it faggot". What is the answer here? I feel stuck.
>>34971373Jobs are only soul sucking when the conditions suck. Whether you do nothing of substance really depends on the job.If you want a main takeaway is that your job is a portion of your life that helps pay for things. If you let it become your life then you have no life. You can feel proud of things you do outside of your job too, but there's nothing besides yourself that prevents you from being proud of your work, whether that's at a job or not.
No it isnt. 2 years ago I was working a tecunician job at a casino and I fucking hated EVERYTHING about it other than the aspect of fixing machines. I hated the industry, the clientele i interacted with, my employer,my hours, my pay, my benefits and found it all morally rotten. Now I am working a tech job related to a vital government service and I am proud of my work because it is conducive to helping people. I dont get paid as much as other tech people but the work is challenging, rewarding, and interesting. And no, there is nothing wrong with wanting more in life. This shit is hard to figure out but just keep on pushing through and looking for more oppurtunities.
>>34971373I have a very cushy job. It lets me mostly slack off, but when I do work I typically enjoy what I do. But it doesn't make the world better in any meaningful way, it's not a calling for me. It pays the mortgage and that's all I need it to do.As >>34971475 says, your job doesn't have to be your life. Seek fulfilment and meaning in your community. Find an organization, a hobby, a club that either does some good in the world or brings you joy or preferably both. And personally, I find a lot of fulfilment in my family and my daughter, though kids aren't for everyone.
>>34971373I have a job that pays me to do what I would rather do than anything else in the world
Downloaded Hinge in June. Had 600 matches since then, went on two dates despite countless convos that went nowherI honestly think it’s over for me. I'm already 24 and my brain is so fucked up I don’t think I’ll ever be capable of having a normal relationship with women or even getting them to see me as a human being.And I don’t even think it’s because I’m neurodivergent. My friend is ND too and he’s already fucked 2 girls after being on Hinge for like 2 weeks.
>>34972763Two dates and you're giving up?
>>34972763Get off apps. Don't listen to sunk cost fallacy retards like this:>>34972779Apps are built to keep you trapped in the loop of swiping and paypigging. Moreover, by now almost all women have left them because all the apps are good for is for getting flooded with creeps and dead eyed gymbros on the hunt for the next pump and dump. even if they were real women, most of your matches were just bored chicks looking for someone to jester for them while their bf is busy, or getting confirmation that they are still hot.Talking to women IRL takes a fraction of the effort while yielding markedly better results.
>>34972893>>34972938I think you misunderstand something. Its not the top 20% of guys who fuck, its the bottom 20% who don'tYou're just unusually ugly or give off a pussy repellant vibe, that is all.
>>34973081I work a retarded shift and an app got my me my current girlfriend and a few fun flings, YMMV.
I don't want to give up, but it's depressing seeing skinny fat Redditors who look and sound like cucks getting 10x more results than me. If they had my looks and my matches they'd probably have a body count of 100+ within a few months.I don't even know where I stand in the grand scheme of things being this autistic and this bad with women. At least being isolated would mean I don't have to constantly stress myself out and get reinforced in the belief that I can't do shit with people every time I interact with women.
Yeah, title. It's been a few years but this isn't your standard-issue fooling around as you could probably guess. It was the one that sticks to your brain like a parasite. I could've never imagined her going so far in this direction, she gave zero hints that she was that type of person. Occam's razor might be that dad was the odd one out in the love triangle because of his beer gut or whatever else. But ironically, she's a pretty jealous woman so that's another mindfuck (maybe a narcissist?).Back to me. I still get "bouts" of desire to cold start the whole thing again and whatever happens - happens. I feel like getting it out of my system might be inevitable? How bad can it be? Touching grass helps but it's just a remedy, not a cure.
>>34963332Well, give us the spicy details you moron
>>34963414Ass massages (yes, really), casual ass grabs (would sometimes dare to give her a light "oil check"), spooned barely clothed, and maybe few other small things
>>34951857Hot take I feel like fucking your mom is such healthier type of incest than fucking your sister, but only if she's not jealous because that would be bad for your future relationships
>>34963178from what you're saying here i'm assuming this was a situation where she never touched you directly but you touched yourself? either way, 16 is extremely young and you were a child and your mother at the very least majorly failed you as the adult in this situation. these things don't happen in a vacuum. you've been really vague about your dad - where exactly does he play into this? you mention your mom being a narcissist - how do you mean? by crossing boundaries i am mostly speaking about grooming behaviors like adult-ifying you from a young age or disrespecting your privacy in the home or speaking with you about personal/sexual topics that would be unusual for most parent child dynamics. have your relationships with other women been affected by the one with your mother? i don't think repeating this behavior is inevitable - but you need to be honest with yourself about some things here and actively work towards another outcome. wishing you luck, sincerely.
>>34967695eh I don't think so. The dynamic is much more unnatural and perverted which is why mom/son incest is like 10x more rare than siblingcest>>34969454>where exactly does he play into this?Umm, idk? I guess he doesnt which is why it happened.>you mention your mom being a narcissist - how do you mean?I said maybe? Because she is a jealous woman but almost cheated with me. Idk, she is really close-minded and never concedes any point no matter how little she knows about the subject which is why she is unbearable to talk to even though she really wants me to be more in her company. But its a pretty common thing from what I've seen on the internet, these all-knowing moms.>by crossing boundaries i am mostly speaking about grooming behaviors like...she didn't do any of that which is why I said it really flabbergasted me that she was "into" this.>have your relationships with other women been affected by the one with your mother?not really desu. Some guys actually had sex with their mothers and moved on fine so it'd be really weak of me if being touchy feely fried my brain that hard.> wishing you luck, sincerely.You're the man, thank you
>always stressed out>84% of my body is cortisol the rest is pure autism>nothing relaxes me>except an alcoholic beverageIs there an alternative that will not destroy my liver and/or give me cancer?
>>34970426next time you're not depressed, build such healthy habitsso that you don't become depressed again, ever
>>34970452you do realize that depression is often times genetic and has nothing to do with habits?
>>34970484>nothing to do with habitskeep telling yourself thatand don't forget to take your chems, they work so well. who needs physical exercise, vit D or tryptophan sources when you can just take SSRI / SNRI (yeah that was sarcasm, just spelling it outright because you seem stupid)
>>34972972nice strawman
>>34972984not addressing the habits either, are we? where are we at on that front >physical exercise, vit D or tryptophan sourcesbecause, they ARE the habits which will help prevent your depression. the ones anon pretends don't exist
Its been a year since I one of my good friends to suicide and it still pains me every time I think I about him, and I still don't know what was his motivation behind doing it, he had good relations with his family and had friends when he was studying abroad so he wasn't lonely or depressed but he did have his struggles with religion and I always tried to help him with it and he seemed to be going in the right path but suddenly there was a period of time (about 4 months before killing himself) were he cut contact with a lot people during his time abroad and I didn't much about it considering the difference in timezones was huge and he kept saying he was busy studying so I assumed he wanted sometime alone so I didn't contact him during that period because I didn't wanna bother him, but I still feel regret over it, I felt like I could've still done something or anything before he did it, and the pain still eats me till this day, how can I move on from this?
>>34972809since I *lost oneSorry for the ESLtism
>>34972809Many depressed people don't let others in, even people they are close to. He could have chosen to talk to you and ask for help, but instead he chose to kill himself, nothing you can do about that. I am sorry all this happened to you OP
>>34972809I was in hospital after this last one. I hope god either makes things better or lets me go when I try again.
Have you ever been in a situation where you had to survive on just $100 worth of food.. a month? How did you do that?
>>34955636What is spinach
>>34958313>$20 slow cookerUse a pot you entitled cuckNiggas don't know how to be poor
>>34963784Cat paws typed this
>>34965189Bullshit, most vegans hate food and veg*n is just an excuse to be a picky eater. I grew fat while being vegan because I ate a lot, just like now.
>>34965252Let me tell you about deer anon...
She became cold and distant a few weeks ago and I eventually found out it was because she was seeing someone else and wants to be with him instead. She even said we could still be friends but I couldn't think of anything worse.We'd been seeing each other for nearly a year, gone on so many dates, spent so much time together, planned on doing so much in the future and going places and now just... nothing.I still can't stop thinking about her and want to move on but I can't let go. I feel like it's destroying my mental health.
>>34970704You need to hate her anon. You need to see her as something hostile and non-human. Use the hate to propel yourself and push harder at becoming a man she'll regret leaving. Then give your improved self to another woman you deem more deserving.
Use what you get for a valentine
Show up where she works with a giant bouquet of flowers. You can win her back. But you gotta fight for it.
>>34971363Things couldn't have turned out any other way. It just wasn't meant to be. The only way to move on is to erase every trace of her from your life and meet other girls until you connect with someone. There are plenty of women out there; there’s no reason to obsess over just one as time goes on.
>>34970704go tell your story to women at the bar at 3am last call till one pity fucks you to get over it
How could I get a girlfriend being a lesbian girl? I really don't know how I have gotten other female partners, they just came, so I don't know how to really get one.
Stop being a fag, OP
>>34967880Is there a GBLTWXYZ society in your school or college? Do you live near a college that has one? Google "GBLTetc events [your city]" or just "lesbian bars [your city]"
>>34967880hi *wink(s)*
>>34967880MGo for bi girls, they're generally fatigued with dating men, and other lesbians often write them off. You can literally just go up, too. I've never heard a girl say she wasn't at least flattered when a woman approached.
>>34968181>>34968310ntawhat if i dedicate my life to being useful to lesbians?
How does someone get a gf into being a cuckqueen? I think it's so hot that some women are into finding hot younger women for their man to sleep with and getting off to it. How do I get my gf into it? It's the only real fetish I have
>>34967356Because, from what I understand, part of the reason men are cucks is bc they want to see their girl get more pleasure than they themselves can provide. Women don't care about men, or anyone except themself, so they are not going to be attracted to the thought of pwople making their moid feel good. Being a male cuck is fucked up and subhuman, yes, but it requires a certain amount of empathy and putting your partner before yourself. Women are naturally selfish and possessive
>>34972458I think for male cuckolds is more about degrading themselves not about pleasure their woman is getting
>>34969052>In 1989, then Prime Minister of Japan SĹŤsuke Uno resigned after a geisha revealed she had an extramarital affair with him. The key of the scandal wasn't morality, but that he had failed to properly provide and support his mistress with an appropriate amount, and was branded as a stingy man.Enough to keep a mistress happy.
>>34967053Swingers parties
>>34972710
Is approaching women the precursor to rape? How do I approach women without them thinking I want to rape them and instead want to pursue a lifelong lasting healthy relationship with them?
Don't drug them with ketamine like how these fellows did
the woman drugged herself that wasnt the issue - the issue was the homies didnt hold a democratic convention immediately on how to handle her - woman are dangerous bro and the only safe way forward is for all the homies to be on accord with a long term strategy
are these guys super heroes or super villains?
>Is approaching women the precursor to rape? It could be >How do I approach women without them thinking I want to rape themLeave when they say no. Don't play games, especially the ones who demand that you constantly chase them after they act wishy-washy from your first attempt at picking them up.
>>34972420She was okay with the first two, but not the five after
How can i support trans rights and empower them as a sis man?
>>>/lgbt/
What do you consider a 7 out of 10? Can you define it?
>>34972514A 7 is halfway between mid and hot.
>>34972514>hey claude, render a 7 out of 10 girl. Make no mistakes.
>>34972647This, and mid/hot differs from person to person. I’d give girl OP an 8, and 10 if she were my gf (since loving her would increase her overall appeal to me)
>>34972752And I give her a 6, see OP? Taste is subjective. Your idea of a 7 is completely different from someone else.
Is the choice of whether you do something or don’t do something simply a matter of the state of mind you’re in?Is this state of mind easily convince-able and mailable?I have certain bad habits I want to quit and certain good habits / hobbies I want to engage inHowever, I do the opposite of framing since the bad habits are things like doomscrolling and the hobbies are things that take effort like reading and writingI understand how to form good habits, but what should I do about the bad ones?Can I just convince myself not to do them or that I’m not the type of person who would do them?What I mean is, instead of it being a battle of NOT doing something and constantly worrying about the urge arising then fighting it, can I convince myself that the chances of it happening are 0 and move on from there Offensive instead of defensive I suppose
>>34971893well i work a job and have hobbies on a pc so
>>34972069So wake up earlier.
>>34972116wake up at 4 am to take a walk and do bullshit just so when you get home and have free time you can focus moreok
>>34970933Doomscrolling / internet addiction replaced my binge drinking bar fly habits. I'm not a fat broke slob anymore, but I also don't get laid.Vaping replaced smoking. I taste food now and my cardio's much better, but I look way less cool.
>>34970967Explain to me how you truly have free will then
