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>>34011666Wtf swiss is a tranny? Mad ting lol
>>34011719i watch female streamers and content creators, read comics and books with female authors, but overall my media consumption is way down and i spend more time doing things than watching things. television/movies are straight garbage so i just avoid them.
>>34011624ok jh
>>34011059It did, I think these people are from under a rock.
>>34011702>Women, are you having sex with a FWB soon?Like a month
>29>neet since 2016>agoraphobic >5’3>4K to my name>live with mum>no degree >leave house maybe 6x a year>no irl friends >sister makes low 6 figs a year and refuses to give me a cent>exzema >live in shitty small town>spergIs it even possible to have a great life with these stats? Where do I even start? What jobs to even go for?
>>34007664>agoraphobicSo is my co-worker, he didn't leave his house for 15+ years but has started to this year and he's came out of his shell completely. >5'3 Only vein people online care about that shit, IRL most people don't care>4K to my nameso you have more money than 90% of people>live with mumso no bills either, you're in the top 1% of people.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34007715>dunno Why even respond?
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>29>start
Just join the navy atp
I thought these depressive and suicidal thoughts were caused by adolescence, but now at 22 it's impossible to ignore them. I hate the passage of time. I'm seeing suicide as an escape. Life is truly exhausting, it's simply that, exhausting. I am completely alone, and I will never achieve my goals
>>34006774What are your goals?
>>34006774we resist change, we resist grace, we are accostumed to wallow in our misery bit redemption is always at the door
>>34006774>depressive and suicidal thoughts were caused by adolescenceI'm 56. I've had suicidal ideation since my teens. Learn to live with it. Learn to give yourself the space needed to get past a bout.
It could always be worse. You could be a child brick slave in India. But your life is way better than that. And even if you were in that situation, you still would have the ability to have friendship and love, no matter how bad things are. Those are two things that can never be taken from you, no matter where you are or how bad things are. The only thing that matters in life is people, how you treat them, how they treat you.You can be crushed by the evil in the world or you can work to make it a better place. You can throw a boulder in a lake, or 100 pebbles, spaced out over time. The ripples of every pebble will reach every edge of the lake, given enough time.
Ian Curtis is the goat
I'm very conflicted on this. If you get along really well, have lots in common, both want a family, and genuinely do love each other but the sexual attraction isn't very strong (example, "cute" vs "hot") is that a recipe for disaster? I want to say not necessarily because it's natural for attraction to fade in a long term relationship regardless. I've also had objectively attractive partners who didn't have much else besides their looks and it was pretty awful to be honest.
>>34003906>If you get along really well, have lots in common, both want a family, and genuinely do love each other but the sexual attraction isn't very strongOne of the things you mention isn't very important for long term relationships to work out. Can you guess which one it is? "I NeeD to be attracted to my wife" is a beginner problem. One day you're going to realize that pussy isn't worth crossing the street for and pretty girls are pleasant to look at, but someone who makes your life easier and shares most of your values is much much better.
>>34009520female hands typed this btwif she isn't sexual attractive, she needs to do excercies. also put her on a diet. nobody wants his wife to be built like a goddamn marshmallow. if all of this fails: plastic surgery
Yes. If you're marrying for a transaction, expect the transaction to quickly take over all there is to the relationship and both of you to tolerate each other at best.>>34003943>friendship, partnership, We have friends. A relationship is something else or people would remain sidepieces.>mutual respectHow much respect is in marrying for money or social status or whatever more frivolous?
>>34009533You're not listening. Stop being a knowitall redditor. I didn't say you should prefer your wife to be fat and ugly. I said her making your life easier, listening to you, and sharing most of your values is more important than her being attractive. I had a unicorn model girlfriend who was too retarded to boil water and only ever generated problems so much so I wanted to drop a cinderblock on her head. I hope the same thing happens to you so you realize what's actually important in a long term relationship. If you just want someone who looks good on your arm and is a good fuck, by all means, go after the pretty girl, but that stuff alone does not translate into being a good wife for you. You should think hard on what you value in a person you're going to be sharing all your time and life with besides 'huuurrr they look nice durr'.
yes it is a bad idea to marry someone you're not attracted to./thread
I was friends with this woman for two years before becoming a couple. We had been sort of soft-dating for a few months this year, going to dinner and movies often. In August, we made it official. We had a really good two months of being an official couple, both hitting it off with each other's siblings and parents.Around two months, when it started getting cold out, her smile had faded. I was worried about her. She told me she was depressed and that if she can't give herself 100%, she doesn't think she can give a relationship what it deserves.We're still friends and talk daily. We recently met up again to get dinner and see a movie we'd talked about seeing when we were together. She's smiling again and was telling me about everything she's been reading. She told me she's been in therapy.All of our mutual friends know that I was falling in love with her. Most of them, especially the women, have said that they're confident that this isn't the end for us and it's just a bump in the road.Am I delusional for listening to them?
>>34002778This is my thoughts on it. We've known each other for a while, I know that she's been afraid of inheriting her mother's bipolar disorder. She's been the most encouraging person in my weight loss so far.I think that we both need to work on ourselves first and be better options for each other in the future.
>>33990191You're here 24/7 to complain about "moids"Go get a job and/or a hobby you stupid tranny
>>33995565Neither women or men are a hivemind you retarded fucking ape.
>>34008038moids constantly brag about being a hivemind
>>34009801No they don't, you delusional tranny
How do women manage to get the money and attention for simply selling nudes? I want you to help me understand how it's possible to male a living of this. There are millions of girls who look exactly the same. How exactly this a random nobody gain such popularity to gain success?
>>34006499>that fugly kike Adin Ross managed to fuck this>and she actually said that it was amazing afterwardsFucking how? None of what attracts women makes sense, you think its looks, then you see counterexamples everywhere, you think its money, you see more counterexamples, you think status and fame, you see even more counterexamples. What the fuck do they want, why is it utter twerps that succeed meanwhile I've had no luck?
>>34006499it’s your fault because troglodyte moids give us money in hopes that they can rape us one day
>>34006499>How do women manage to get the money and attention for simply selling nudes? I want you to help me understand how it's possible to male a living of this. There are millions of girls who look exactly the same. How exactly this a random nobody gain such popularity to gain success?first you need to leech of popular ecelebs, streamers, cloutmaxx until you audiencemaxx, then you can ofmaxxsky bri (pic related) was a retail wagie then she cloutmaxxed and sucked a 50yo bbc and got famousit really is THAT simple when you are in the (((Circle)))
>>34006499y'all give it to the whores, dumbass.>>34007801... the fact that being a whore is profitable is indeed because of moids lmfao
>>34006499It’s quite simply that men are more desperately desire women’s physical bodies than women desire men’s bodies. Men are much more willing to pay for even pictures of a hot woman. Women are simply not as obsessed with physicality as men are.That’s why the porn industry is marketed mostly towards men. It’s also why it’s easier for mediocre women to have sex and be listed over than men.
>Be me, 18 year old female>Kinda pretty I guess>Be a shut in, havent left room for months>Life is boring>Lives with parents, no job>Chronic mental illnesses>Cuts self >No lifeAll my high school friends are moving on. Im all alone, how do I meet new people? Is there a point in getting friends? What should I do with my life? I feel hopeless, so, I decided to take to the internet for the first time and ask for help..
i can save you >>34009177based
>>34009177love lifethe hanged man
>>3400930880% of the threads posted here are bait threads, who cares. From my perspective, nothing has changed. I like helping people.
>>34009282I like this advice a lot. I'm in a middle of butt-crap nowhere town, the nearest store is an hour away, so all the replies havent been very helpful asking me to go out and talk to people and interact with the world,, you're words are very helpful. i've thought of trying to make a list of things to complete but never thought it would do anything long term- I guess ive been too caught up in self-pity that i decided to give up before my life even started,, thanks for the reply, i know half the threads on here are trolls so it was nice seeing genuine people try and help!
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cat followed me home, its to cold to make it stay outside tonight. ill need to let it out before I go to bed though so it might not even come back to me. if it comes back ill have to take it over to the neighbors tomorrow, I am 99% that's where its from.what do I do in this situation? I feel bad for bringing it in, but it had been outside a while, and the neighbors lights were turned off. I also don't want to get up early as a night worker and have to deal with explaining the situation. I might let it out in the morning so it can make its own way home.it doesn't have a tag BTW but a collar
>>34007433Why don't you ask the neighbors if they're missing their cat?
>>34007477because i don't want to admit to maybe having kidnapped it. should not have been outside for an hour or more but cats are funny and sometimes just don't come in when you call them. what matters is that he has a warm place to stay if he needs it.
as of now Nigger Man hasnt come back. he might be sad I put him out in the cold for a few min.
>>34007433Take care of kot, ask around if someone is missing a kot. If they are missing a kot return it, if not you got a kot.
>>34007844I can't have a kitty. It didn't return when I put it out before bed. I obviously didn't have a litter box. If nothing else it got to stay warm for half the night before being put out again.
In order to live the life that you ultimately desire, and not merely be in the state of “not incontent” is it better to focus on banning certain habits / distractions or focus on pursuing certain habits / activities?As far as I can tell from my own experiences it is 99% about removing distractions from your life and 1% about having the willpower to actual act afterwardsBut I am not sure of this ratioFor example, I banned myself (more like 90-95% less usage) from using social media recently while on my pc, and fapping at my pc, and saw my total time spent on hobbies drastically increase. Some are casual like gaming and others are more focused and creative like writing or drawing, reading to study a language. But now I’m back to just scrolling and fapping and getting tiny things doneIt feels like a chicken and the egg scenario. Am I more productive because I removed distractions or did I remove them because my mind was in a “productivity mode” that it eventually lost steam and cycled out of back to a more mellow state
i fap but not to porn because the women are abused or are only doing the porn because theyre in a bad life situation.you could make a job out of social media if you wanted. it's only a "distraction" if it's not something you want to pursue that will make you money. usually we procrastinate and get "distracted" when we're not clear and determined about our goal or career path. so get clear on why that is, why is it difficult for you to go full steam ahead on your career or hobby, and why do you turn on the social media or porn instead, and neglect doing the other things?
>>34007284for me its because i feel very trapped by my parents, and angry at all the abuse, and i know that when they sense i am moving on with my life, they will try to undermine me again. but i have to just keep pushing forward as much as i can, every day, even if i dont necessarily know where im going or whether it will work out. i just cant stay here anymore, thats all i know.
>>34007053Feels a bit of a weird comparison but maybe it’s similar to how one should properly dietNot just cold turkey change everything you eat overnight, but instead substitute for healthier options, eat less bad stuff, introduce healthier things you’ve avoided Substitute things you do in your free time with more productive hobbies, curb doomscrolling a bit, and try new things you’ve avoided
>>34007946It's not weird at all, what do you think I was doing on my PC? Watching videos, fapping, social media, gaming. As you call them - distractions. And yeah exactly, introduce - don't take away. Taking away leaves a massive dopamine gap that TANKS your motivation and happiness. Like it or not - you're on life support buddy. That fapping and gaming and eating bad and social media and all those crap videos you watch are what keeps you going in life. Your body and mind don't know any other source for happiness.
What's a good place on the internet to find women that want to date BUT at the same time allows people to be anonymous?
>>34008099>Where can I have something real.. on the Internet.I won't read app-addled or remote gf threads. They are always delusional.
>>34009379Then don't read them
>>34009379Hey, thanks for the bump :)
>>34009405>He doesn't know how sage works Oh sweet newfag nigger
>>34009632Thanks for your bump too ^_^
genuinely im so depressed.ive got into a school i really worked for and got in but now i fant even go there.i feel like im hanging on everyone’s shoulders.i still have things i wanna do like a youtube channel nobody knows but i still wanna make one and other stuff…but if im done..i dont see another reasons to stay.its so hard for me to go to school and no i dont wanna get into a traineeship i was done for more but not this.i hate how i turned out i wished my dad never did this.now i took 15+ ibuprofen and 10+ p@r@cetamol pills..lets see if it works
>>34007943>if i had that kind of luxury i wouldve been long goneagain, everyone has this "luxury" you dumb fuck
>>34005998Do you get wet when your father touches you, femanon?
>>34008803what kind of question is that?
>>34009195Im genuinely curious
>>34009625>genuinely curiousMore like genuinely gooning and trying to get any horny thread to cum toFucking gooner.>>34005998So yeah do you ever get wet when you father touches you?
Specifically THC withdrawals. I've been smoking every day for months now and decided that I want to stop acting like a retarded faggot, and tonight was the first night I haven't smoked in a long time.It was hell, slept for maybe an hour before waking up from this wacky dream, drenched in sweat, and both freezing and hot at the same time.I didn't know if you guys had any tips and/or tricks to dealing with this, or if it's just something I gotta thug out.
>>34003982You indeed just gotta thug it out.You’re gonna be irritable and have crazy dreams for a week, maybe two weeks.After that, it’s smooth sailing. Just stop buying the shit.You’ll immediately feel less retarded. God I fucking hate weed.
>>34005753This. One good week not smoking and you pretty much kill like 70% of the urge right there. The real work is not letting yourself fall back on habits
>>34003982There's a study which found that taking N-Acetyl Cysteine helped reduce cannabis cravings when giving up; it's possible it might help with the withdrawal symptoms too.
>>34003982Give it 3 days and add to this thread letting us know how it turned out.
>>34003982I just toughed it out, but I've relapsed. When I quit, it was around 3 weeks of insomnia, averaging 1 sleepless night a week. Often getting a few hours, and then needing to go into work at an office. That was hellish enough, but thankfully its nothing compared to dope sickness.
18, first visit to the psychiatrist today. we talked for like 40 minutes and i got prescribed something called "oribion". no concrete diagnosis or anything like that, he just told me he suspects i might have adhd (not even the issue i came with). he wants me to have blood and adhd tests done, and i have another appointment with him scheduled on the 22nd, but apparently i'm supposed to start taking the meds now. i'm worried because i've heard that antidepressants can permanently fuck up your brain chemistry or some shit like that. anyway, should i take them or not? PLEASE help i'm fucking scared
>>34009184If you really wanted a succesful career you would go for influencer/celebrity and/or entrepreneur, otherwise it’s just will you be a physical drone or an office drone and it doesn’t really matter you can be happy or sad as either one, it’s not the be and end all of things. You can kill the good vs bad career, everything is bad except being the business owner.
>>34009189In medcine, someone who tried issuing medication as a diagnostic or without knowing what the issue is, would be struck off and rightly so. I wouldn't take anything such a person gave me.
>>34009201>>34009203thank you guys, i won't take the pills. i'll do the tests the psychiatrist suggested, and when i see him in 3 weeks i'll tell him i'll try therapy before i start taking any meds. again, thank you very much and hope you have a great day/night
>>34009164Therapy is just as much of a scam. They are just going to feed you basic bitch bullshit instead of giving you any actual direction or advice.
>>34009122Yeah no. Go get a sceond opinion, preferrable from a doctor who actually explains risks and advanatges of the chosen treatment and makes a proper diagnosis before blasting you with midn altering drugs.This guy just wants to sell prescriptions, fuck him. Get properly diagnosed an dthen think about possible steps you may or may not want to take.Remember, unless you're some kind of schizoid who has to be instituzionalized, its always your decision to take medication.
I'm a senior college student. Math and CS double major. I feel I've been losing my interest in software; most job postings are uninteresting to me. What should I do?
Look at the ones that aren't uninteresting and do projects and undergrad research and internships catered to those.
Finish your degree then go apply for jobs you are interested in even if you don't have the right credentials. Employers only care if you are smart enough to learn on the job and your degree will demonstrate that. It might take a while but it's better than starting over again.
>>34007331Finish your degree and THEN decide what you want to be when you grow up. You are NOT limited to the subjects you studied - there are many careers where it is the fact of the degree that matters, not the subject. You need no particular major for sales, marketing, banking, real estate, Wall Street, etc etc etc
>>34007331>senior college studentyou already burned this much money, you really should finish (if you were considering otherwise)>Math and CS double majoryour smarts put you above the boodcamp nodejs/webdev folk, so that's handywith that background, you actually understand the black box of numbers driven autocomplete people call aiwhile I presume it depends on the program, the cs department where I went had classes that actually looked to be relevant in the industrymy business degree in (computer) information systems (programming computers without a ton of math requirements) had classes on windows (.net) development and (oracle) sql, so nothing I would want to directly usethe fact that a system administration role was a typical path for that degree, when they did fuckall to teach the concepts, was surprising to methe programming logic and sql provided me with a stable foundation but I got my my first job primarily due to my hobby/tinkeringall of the jobs I have had were entirely dependent on my friends getting me in the door; sometimes, as I just found out, even that isn't enough in this fucking job marketyou do stuff that is interesting beyond the prescribed course work ... right?Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34008184I wasn't considering dropping out.
If you lived in a house with a pair of parents who were abusive, sexually, although it never got "that bad," with your younger sibling, and there was a constant threat that they will do it again if you disobey or don't grovel before them, and you're worried about letting the gubmint know about it, for fear that things will get 10x worse, and you've told some family members about it, but they don't seem to be able to do much about it, what would you do? Yes I am a legal adult, no the sibling is not. But he or she is almost an adult.
Also https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SgxW9SfhB5U
>>34007047Yeah... the abuse has been going on for a very very long time, but it's not much longer until the poor lad/lass is an adult, when he or she can legally leave... I might just skip out and ask whether he/she wants to come along, which s/he will decline, out of fear. What a waste of life.
>>34007047Interesting video. Yes some similarities are accurate - ego and narcissism definitely. But the abuse has been going on for so long, it's hard to tease out who's to blame, how it started...But I am pretty worried about trying to find a wife at this point, if I leave my parents... Few women want to marry a man like that.
>>34007008>abusive, sexually, although it never got "that bad,"Explain
>>34007565Touching of genitals outside clothing. Displaying themselves naked in a plausibly-deniable "oh it's nothing, everyone does this" way. Other physically intimate behavior that is mildly sexual yet still plausibly deniable that "oh, everyone does this, you're overreacting." I looked up one thing that I witnessed, but don't have evidence of, and it's a Class ___ F 3 |_ 0 |\| y. But the kinds of things that I hear go on in the foster home are way worse, not to mention in the church in town where the mayor goes to pray every week. And I would adopt the poor kid, but they would most likely send their cronies after us for a long, long time... And the kid won't agree to it either, at least for the time being, out of fear...I guess I just need to wait a few more years, and just give them the cold shoulder every day... Or just leave, and if the kid asks to come along with me, I'll let him/her.
