Anyone got any tips for dealing with bacne? Do you treat it the same way you would facial acne?
>>34829777Embrace the bacne and roid up bro
>>34845406find one then. it really isn't that hard. unless you're broke, of course, in that case good luck man.
>>34841466I’m not gonna get on accutane, that’s a pretty severe drug for the kind of bacne I have. It’s not genetic either, it’s just due to poor hygiene.
Get meds for treating pimples. Some things are so severe that you have to rely on modern medicine
>>34845406I use 4% hydrogen peroxide to reduce the swelling and redness and 2% salicyclic acid to make it go away faster.This setup is pretty effective given how cheap it is, its better than a lot of crap on the market as well. But I havent done too much experimentation.
I've been picking and biting my nails and the skin around my fingers since I was about 5. I'm 22 now and want to actually get to the bottom of this instead of accepting it.There isn't one trigger. Sometimes it's stress, sometimes I do it without realizing, and sometimes I'll notice a tiny piece of rough skin or imperfection and get this almost irresistible "itch" where I have to pick or bite it until it feels right. That usually creates another rough edge, so the cycle continues.My parents took me to doctors and therapists when I was younger, but nothing came of it. They either didn't know what to recommend or suggested things like picking an eraser instead or putting lemon juice on my fingers. None of it addressed why I was doing it or worked long-term.Eventually I gave up and accepted it. But as an adult it's bothering me more. I put effort into my appearance. I work out, dress well, groom myself, etc. But my fingers are the one thing I can't hide. I've noticed people hesitate to shake my hand, and even women who are otherwise affectionate with me sometimes seem reluctant to touch my hands. It's embarrassing and has made me self-conscious about physical contact.I want to seriously deal with it now.Has anyone here dealt with this and actually stopped after years of doing it? Does this behavior have a name? What kind of professional should I see, and what treatments have genuinely worked?I'm not looking for another "put something bitter on your fingers" trick. I want to understand what's driving the behavior and address it properly.Where do I start?
Pick at your toes instead. Pluck out your beard, armpits, and pubes with a tweezer instead
You need more therapy guy, more modern approaches or a different therapist that specializes in compulsive behavior would do you wonders
>>34850028I used to chew my nails and hair. It took a while but now I only do it when a nail is really bothering me and is becoming a hazard and I know I won't have access to clippers soon. You notice yourself doing it and consciously stop. Every time you notice you tell yourself "no" like a dog. With enough repetition you get to "no" before your finger is even in your mouth.
>>34850028>But my fingers are the one thing I can't hide. I've noticed people hesitate to shake my hand, and even women who are otherwise affectionate with me sometimes seem reluctant to touch my hands. It's embarrassing and has made me self-conscious about physical contact. How so? I have the same thing but no one has ever mentioned or noticed it unless I specifically showed them my fingers for whatever reason.
>>34850028Just dig your nails into finger where skin is continuous rather than fragile disjointed skin around nails
How do I force my brain to want a gf? I don't care for a wife/gf right now but i fear I may be bored in my 40s/50s when all my family stop talking to me since I don't talk to them much now. I also am retarded and boring so I will struggle to find a gf even if I tried
No joke, find single moms. You get a child in one swoop too so instant family acquired. Get searching on hookup apps
>>34851647If you don't actually want any of the horny good feelings that come with a hot babe, then don't go for hot babes.Just download tinder and swipe right on literally everyone and no matter how ugly you are I promise you'll get some matches.As long as you're better looking than the girl and she's not delusional about her own looks she'll try to please you in terms of personality, hobbies, and cooking.
>>34852480By hookup apps do you mean stuff like tinder/bumble/okcupid/match/fb?Or are there other apps strictly for sex I've never heard of
Boomp
>>34851647You can still talk to people yourself. If you depend on others to talk to you then you're gonna be bored regardless. Getting a gf or family members won't solve your inherent ineptitude at not being a pussy and a boring faggot
I'm 25. I never had a job. No GED/diploma/degree/driver's license.How can I get over my horrible fear of getting a job? I have no social anxiety, but the quick passage of time makes me very depressed even when unemployed. It will be worse if I work.
>>34845990Your anxiety is the manifestation of your inexperience in life. Only way to get over that is to get social. If you are fat and ugly, then you've got hardmode on, sorry, but that's that - whatever you are, be hygienic (clean, don't stink). If you are a retard who can only hold conversations about anime and Magic cards you need some culturing as well, maybe watch a sport and pick one up as a hobby, just don't be an awkward nerd.Basically, just get the fuck on with it. Yeah, people know you are a retard who couldn't complete the most basic demands society puts on children, but we still need people to cook and clean, and you don't need algebra for that.
>>34846025>if youre fat and uglyNo thats not hardmode, believe me.Many people in the past were fat and ugly and nobody gave a shit.
>seek.com/ indeed.com>"entry level job" + ur area or "no experience">enter>apply >???>success
>>34845990By getting one
>>34845990I hate to say it but as someone who was once in your shoes until after I turned 21, you're not missing out on much.If you're able to save up anything from where you're at right now and own a bank account, I'd recommend starting there.Life and all that it offers is fake and gay. If you can figure out how to successfully NEET without depending on anyone for the rest of your life, then you're doing better than the rest of us.However, I'm not saying you shouldn't go out and do these things, it's up to you and I do think the experience and knowledge from employment is worthwhile but not as much as normies would want you to believe.You'll still feel like you're wasting the year away wageslaving in the same way you may feel you're wasting your life away sitting around at home on your computer. Hobbies and having plans and ideas on what you would like to do will go a long way.
>be me>lonely, want to talk to somebody>send a whatsapp message to a friend>ask them how they're doing>they say they're fine>ask them how their day went>they ask why>I tell them just curious>do you need something?>nah just curious>it's pretty unusual for you to talk like this for no reason, since you're the quiet type>yeah, I know>you don't need to be shy, whatever you need you can ask>I don't really need anything>then why did you message me?Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34850987Send them this next time. People communicate through memes now. Get with the program.
Hang out in a fandom space. People get heated talking about stupid shit like power leveling or nitpicking details. You can jump on in a discussion and playing devils advocate
>>34850987This would be weird to me too. Try opening with a specific topic so you have something to talk about.
>>34850987Drop your discord, op, I can talk to you, and befriend you, that may teach you how to interact with people normally. I'm going to teach you, just drop your discord, I'm gonna sleep rn, but see ya
>>34850987So you were curious, they were busy. Talk when they're not
pretty early on his friend crashed my car and completely totaled it. i ended up in hospital with 4 broken ribs and he came to see me there.after that he started getting distant and eventually told me he doesn’t think he can do anything serious. he opened up to me about some really heavy shit with his ex and told me she had gotten pregnant and had an abortion. not long after telling me all of that he told me he loved me.since then he’s been really hot and cold. when things are good they’re genuinely really good and i really like him, but then he’ll randomly disappear and ghost me, sometimes for up to a week, before coming back and acting normal again.i can’t tell if he’s scared of getting close to someone because of what happened before or if i’m just making excuses for someone who has already told me he can’t give me a relationship.would you give this more time or just leave?
>>34842950>what fucks with me is he was the one who pushed for more in the first place. he told me he loved me first and he was the one saying we should be more than friends, then suddenly backed off when it started getting serious.This is an extremely common manipulation tactic by narcissists. Look up "love bombing" - that's what he did to you
>>34843085>ive been deciding i want him first and then continuously renegotiating what im willing to accept so i can keep him lolCan I ask what made him so appealing that you did this? Because it doesn't seem like he's bringing any value to your life.
>>34849851im in australia so medical bills thankfully aren't a problem, im getting an injury claim/ payout since I was like hurt by another persons negligence
>>34849859im not sure I just met him at a very vulnerable moment I guess and kinda just fell head first into his bs
update I was out last night and saw him, he looked at me and I walked off so im really proud of myself for not trying to talk to him
How can I trick a girl to look past my flaws and love me?>inb4 just be yourselfthat doesn't work. it never did. realistic plans please?
>>34850493It's not that you're not being yourself, I think. But you clearly need to keep aspects of your personal life private and gradually open up. It's not pretending, it's just being discreet.
>>34852294Or showing that a person is more than their flaws
Find a girl, the way abusers find victims. Someone needing validation is a good pick
>>34850496>its over if high school high school high school high schoolCope. You can change after high school, life doesn't end at 19
>>34850493Vaguepost what flaws
When I was about 22 I was working random bullshit jobs and decided that it was enough and I need to find a career. Originally had my heart set on geology, I was attracted by the thrill of exploration and the ability to hunt and find something potentially valuable as well as the freedom. Talking to people close to me though they suggested that engineering is much better in terms of a career and I ended up listening to them. I'm now 28 and working as a junior engineer in a company which I enjoy, but my passions are actually in geology but I feel like its too late for me, I would have to turn my back on engineering and essentially reset my career to go back to school, move back down the career ladder, and have to regain experience in geology.so wut do? do I just live with this nagging feeling forever or do I take the plunge and go become a geologist
>>34849076The best time to have decided to be a geologist was a couple years ago, but the next best time is now. Go for it anon, chase your dreams. That being said, make sure you're on good financial footing first. If you need to work for 2 or 3 more years to afford the degree then do that instead. Also, idk, but maybe you could just get a masters in geology? It would be a lot quicker than an undergrad
>>34849076Trust me you don't want to be a geologist
>>34849076try it as a hobby first, also*kills you with an obsidian dagger*
Every year you’re going to regret not having becoming a geologist one, five, ten, twenty years ago. It’s not too late, looking back at it twenty or thirty years from now
>>34849076Go be a geologist then, maybe the overlaps mean you can go be it quicker
I used to think I wanted to work now I find that it's just a place where everyone bitches about each other and you can do everything right until you make one mistake and everyone thinks you're a retard.The actual work part of work is okay but dealing with other people sucks.I don't know if I can deal with this for another 40 years. I'm just sick of other people, really
>>34852154Just get a higher paying job then you can cry in a lambo on a girl's lap or something
>>34852154Just be the quiet one and do not care
The bipolar gf of a friend decided she doesn't like me, and now he's cut all ties with me and denounced me in the strongest possible terms to all our mutual friends, dropping a schizo style multi paragraph character assassination of me, including all sorts of black propaganda he got gossiping to my ex. Mutual friends say I should apologise to him (for what? They don't know either). He was always a catty bitch. I got into a street fight on his behalf once, and he ran off and left me fighting two guys at once! Honestly at this point I feel like cutting off the entire group . What do you guys think?
today i was sitting in a waiting room and older dude next to me started jerking off and i dont understand what the fuck he was aroused about
>>34851883i was the only one close to him so nobody else noticed, he did it like through his pocket i think
>>34851977So gross... Whatever, if this happens again or you see it happening, please, do something. Tell someone that can control the situation, that kind of ppl is dangerous for themselves (if autistic) and for other people as well (if they got antisocial disorder).
Women masturbate to me in public. They don't need to use hands or objects. Just core and lower body muscle contractions. It's all done rather discreetly.
It's crazy how shitty I feel after masturbating. It's not even worth it
>>34850095Maybe it's more the exhibitionism or "wrongness" of doing it in public or indecency that was arousing rather than your face
How exactly am I supposed to improve my social skills if no one wants to tell me what I am doing wrong?Instead of taking weeks or months at a time to learn what I should change about myself, why can't anyone just tell me what about me makes them uncomfortable?
>>34845575you put the socks wrong and don't read the room
>>34845575record or film yourself practicing or in calls
>>34845575When you improve you are supposed to feel better or more comfortable, not them
>>34845575Be nice to people. Do nice things for them. And here's the number one rule, my friend. Enjoy their presence. Love them by enjoying their presence.
>>34849999quads of truuuuthhhhhhh. you shouldnt be so vigilant about other peoples comfort over your own.friendship to me is being with someone thats comfortable like you are
I am finding all the therapist I run into tend to either be the same type of jerk we run into everyday life or someone who has no good answers and are very quite. I read therapy books and I am usually very happy with the advice it has. One important piece advice is find a therapist. I just cannot find a good one. I am beginning to wonder if the are any good one out there.
>>34848280i treat them as hobby.but no.they are all traitors.one promised me something and just now told me she was planning on never deliver.
>>34850403i shall add that the hobby is state funded.for me it is free to talk to random strangers who get money for talking to me.
>>34848280every therapist ive been to (quite a few) has either been bafflingly retarded or outright admitted they couldnt help me. i dont think therapy is very useful unless you dont know whats wrong with you, most therapists are just normal people who cant really do anything outside of naming your issues.
>>34850478Interesting, I know exactly what I want to look into... dysfunctional family patterns. I just need someone to help me get the right info. I figured therapist had accesses to better info than the rest of us but I am probably wrong.
>>34848280Instead of "therapy" just meet new people talk to people and research yourself and discuss with people.
I am not sad. I am chemically depressed. I know what sadness feels like, this feels more empty and less sad.I quit a bad habit that I have had for most of my life including formative years. I successfully made it past the point where my body is screaming at me to relapse, now I am dealing with a very very noticable chemical imbalance. I would like some advice from people who went through clinical depression, especially relating to addiction or habits.Notes:>I have no desire to self harm whatsoever>I have a strong desire to disengage, which I am doing my best to fight and try and see other human beings.>I work out and do my best to eat balance, but I have gained a lot of weight since quitting>I do my best to keep healthy nutting habits, even though the desire is fleeting to keep hormonal balance.Please keep in mind that I am not sad, I appreciate the types that want to help, but this is less about cheering up and more about coping mechanisms for a chemical imbalance.Also, I do not do not want to be medicated and am not on any substances
>>34848882There's no such thing as chemical depression or chemical imbalances. You're going to have a tougher time dealing with your addiction if you bark up the wrong tree and place blame on something that doesn't exist. It may not be sadness you're dealing with, but whatever it is it's mental.
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>>34848915>There's no such thing as chemical depression or chemical imbalances.errrrm that's not true though
>>34848882You should do something with your life that isn't nutting, comfort eating, gymcelling and annoying other people. Maybe get a job, meet new people and annoy new people rather than old.
Does trying to hang yourself hurt, or do you pass out pretty quickly? If anyone here has tried and survived let me know how it went
>>34847759Everyone is different and people react to things differently.
>>34846584So if i make myself pass out right before i hang myself by slowly stopping the bloodflow to my head, it wont hurt ??
>>34849735Anon, anything that doesn't kill you instantly has a high risk of hurting a lot or making you retarded for the rest of your life.If you are really about it, go for something that will put you out without a doubt.Extremely high jump into solid groundShotgun to the headBeing honest, a 12 gauge to your brain is a sure and quick way of going out.
>>34834256I was actually going to school early to get help for a test or project or something. That specific hallway with the staircase was known for sketchy shit because it was way in the back and apparently had no cameras. There weren’t many people but it definitely wasn’t just me around there, and I think the fact that there were other people but nobody else had reacted yet was what made it difficult to process the situation as something out of the ordinary, but I don’t really know. There was a commotion a bit later and that’s when the realization hit.I’m not sure he died because they never gave an announcement or did a mental health awareness thing like when another guy killed himself. I don’t even know how I’d find that info though at this point though
>>34847700It's more like you're contrarians who flip-flop on every issue.
