21 y/o Male with nothing really going on. Thinking about joining the Peace Corps since it sounds cool. Good idea or nah?
>>34717095That’d be pretty cool. The toughest job you’ll ever love. Probably surrounded by spies and slavers but that’s everywhere.
>>34717095Go for it. Might as well do it while you're young, right
is there any end to the suffering of starving yourself? how do I either become happy with how I am or change it. if I am skinnier, I will look more like a woman, than I can be happy. why does God put me in a body that I wish to change so much?
Refusing to starve yourself is the only way to stop the suffering.You will never reach a point where you are satisfied with how you look. You will continue to fixate on some small feature of yours and not realize what's happening to the rest of you as you restrict/starve yourself: deterioration. You siphon nutrients nonpreferentially from your whole body when you're chronically undereating/malnourished. Your heart and other organs atrophy (many ED patients have low heart rate and kidney/liver abnormalities). Your bones deteriorate (92% of anorexics have low bone density IIRC). Your brain will also suffer, with the effects being permanent if not addressed early enough. Learning that is what got me to stop starving. I had no idea I was destroying my body. I knew that whatever happiness I thought starving myself brought would be overshadowed (and likely prevented) by the health consequences of eating so unhealthily. I hated not starving myself, and I still do, but I hate the idea of fucking up my body and brain forever just because I was trying to become happy. You said "if I am skinnier [...], then I can be happy." I thought that, too, and it's total bullshit. I was never skinny enough, even when people were concerned over how small I'd gotten. I never got to the point where it made me happy, and neither will you or anyone else with an ED because that's part of the ED. What telling yourself "if X, then I'll be happy" does is train yourself to think you can't be happy if you don't have X, and it's a fucking lie. Whether it's being stand-out attractive, wealthy, smart, etc., no one or two traits are either necessary or sufficient to be happy. I'm back to my old weight now, and I'm able to enjoy sitting outside and watching the adorable critters in the park. I also spend time with friends, listen to my favorite songs, and do fulfilling work. I do all of those without being ultra-attractive or skinny. I can be happy without that, and so can you.
>>34714571The prognosis for eating disorders is very good, if you get the right professional help. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/apr/29/eating-disorder-treatment-recovery
>>34714571If you’re a fatass, trying to lose weight is not an eating disorder. You just don’t know what the fuck you’re doing.Go move around and eat some balanced meals holy shit
>>43714698I forgot to say to get help from a dedicated eating disorder place. Don't go to some random therapist. Schedule an ED intake ASAP. Don't let anything get in the way of making an appt and going to it.I've so glad I got help for myself. I didn't realize how miserable I'd been until I got help and started recovering.
>>34714571>is there any end to the suffering of starving yourself?Carnivore/keto/paleo diets are memed a lot but they are genuinely the best sort of diet for this. If you're eating lean meats and veg exclusively it's almost impossible to eat enough of it to be in caloric surplus. Even if you do set a hard calorie deficit, meat is very satisfying so you don't need to eat a lot to feel full, and most green veggies are basically zero calorie so you can eat as much of those as you want (as long as you don't use sauce/oil/salad dressing).>if I am skinnier, I will look more like a woman, than I can be happy.Oh, you're a troon. Nevermind what I just said, you deserve to suffer. Alternatively, consider a snack of cyanide tablets for your next meal to stave off those food cravings.
how do I get over my bpdemon ex? we broke up and got back together 2 times, and we broke up for the third time 4 months ago. she made another relationship 2 weeks after our last breakup even though we've known each other and been together for 2-3 years. i still love her despite her condition and i cant bring myself to hate or forget her, and some part of me still wants her to come back. ive tried talking to different women but no matter what I do, i still yearn for her. any bpdemon veterans out there who know what to do? should I just say fuck it and get into another relationship like her?
>>34716013Whatever it is, it's manipulation and I want nothing to do with her ever again. But yeah it wouldn't surprise me if someone like this would pull off some bullshit like that, to play the victim.She knows what she did, she knows it affected me, AND she was actually mad that I seemed mad at first, then she was even more mad I cut her off and showed zero anger and was actually showing I was happy laughing.Part of me still loves her, part of me hopes she find some other poor fool too leech off of, doesn't help that she's divorced.
>>34715850You shouldn't open up 100% to anyone ever in this life tbf, saw an anonymous post of a woman desperate, saying she wanted a divorce cuz her husband admit to fucking a guy once kek
>>34716416That's not what opening up means, not usually. I can 'open up' about bad things or events I lived through, I'm doing it now, I can talk about bad shit as a separated event that I can coldly discuss. That's not opening up, I mean actually opening up with women, speaking about how I feel, how something made me feel, how I had felt this fear, or that sadness, or this humiliation or that despair. That sort of thing, opening up emotionally, I'm stone cold now and that's a problem because the majority of a woman's pleasure in a relationship is to get at her man's juicy soft heart. But if his heart is cold dead, she's not gonna be having much joy.
>>34716576I know that's what you mean, and desu I've been vulnerable near women and they've only used it against me, saw me as weak, and started mistreating me, it's not worth it, even if there are good women out there.
>>34715850hell, my ex chased me with a fucking knife. if she were LITERALLY anyone else I'd curbstomp them. love is one hell of a drug. all I did was hug her and say, ''keep calm my love i love you''. good fucking god man
>>34719536What is that? A jail for people with horns? What kind of horn do you play?
>>34719549It’s not that kind of horny jail.
>>34719536Oh, those kind of dreams. I envy you for those. Its evident they are on your mind a lot, no shame in telling them how you think about them often. Doesn't have to mean anything but if someone was having some dreams about me, I would be flattered to be on someone's mind.
>>34719553Are you alone or lonely?
>>34718930See how we complete each other? See the reflection to our truth >>34716870
Is it even possible to start dating at 26 if you went your whole life without approaching a girl
>>34704272I met my to be wife at 26 after having never had a gf. It's been 7 years now and she still sucks my cock and swallows. There's hope bro.
>>34714678I envy you desuAll I've got from my relationship at 26 it's becoming the second worst relationship in my life
there are beautiful white women who will fuck dogs and there's at least one that ships herself with bubble bass on twitteryou can do it but you have to choose to do it. get on the apps, puff yourself up, seem fun and cool, and don't do silly things like pick up lines or innuendos. be a good and lovely gentleman and be good to them and it works out.
>>34704272last week I called my parents to tell them I had a conversation with a girl at work. Not flirtatious or anything, just a friendly chat. It was just a normal interaction that most people wouldn't think twice about. But I was intensely proud about it. I'm 34. I don't know how it got this bad.
I don't know about 26 but at 28 it is impossible.
How to keep to a schedule when you sleep more than 8 hours? so I usually sleep 9-11 hours per night so I have this problem where my schedule is constantly flipping around the clock since a day has 24 hours in it and if you sleep 10 and are awake for 16, well thats obviously 26 hours so your schedule shifted by 2 hours. So in the beginning of the month I might be waking up nicely at 7am but 3 weeks later I`m waking up at 7pm and so on.
In a ldr in love can't go without sex its driving me crazy, do I get a male masturbator? I'm a mtf i need to feel that tugging in my p hole. Im going nuts. Pic unrelated im a game dev
just cream a fleshlight, vina sky is my favoritet. fleshlight pro
>>34716471Is there reusable ones??
>>34716491Yes? I just told you the name.
Genuinely how can I last longer in bed. Unless she’s on top I nut within 1 or 2 minutes. This isn’t from a lack of experience either I’ve been with the same woman for years. Do I just need to get boner pills from the doc so i can keep going after or what
Talk with her! I know it might seem like you're "less of a man" because of that, but if you straight up talk to her, I'm sure it'll be fine. Otherwise, yes, use your fingers and your tongue. You mentioned she's not one for toys but there's plethora of different ones, not only vibrators or dildos. Maybe try light BDSM or hell, try edging yourself. As a woman, I love seeing men enjoy themselves and being in control of that too. Maybe just me though. Wishing you luck anon!
>>34709996Thanks for the positivity. As I mentioned, she would not be into the idea of toys at all… That’s just how she’s wired - she likes sex, but she’s a bit prudish with anything out of the ordinary(this doesn’t bother me fwiw). She’s mentioned before lots of times she likes watching me get off and a lot of time that helps her. I know that women have different needs and wants out of sex, which is fine, but there’s just been too many times I’ve felt like I was on the verge of completely rocking her world only to finish too fast and feel a bit disappointed for my sake and hers.I read somewhere that tensing your pelvic floor during sex(which I do) can also increase your chances of finishing quicker… So maybe I just need to relax
>>34708352Foreplay. Loads and loads of foreplay. But don't think of it as foreplay, but as the main course, with p-on-v as the dessert. Give her an O or two by hand or mouth before you even think about climbing aboard and she won't care how long you last inside.
I have this unless I drink which I very rarely do. Its weird because jorking it I can last however long I want but with sex with current gf its like I can go from 1-100 and nut too fast with little warning whereas jorking I can feel it start to happen. With an ex though I used to be able to last a very long time so I'm not sure why either. Ive considered just saying that I'm going to blast the first nut off then go for seconds because the second wouldn't be nearly as fast.
switch over to eating her pussy every time you feel its time to bust
How the fuck do dudes goon for more than 5 minutes without cumming?After 5 minutes I'm physically literally incapable of continuing without cummingLike what the fuck man
>>34711277The fuck do you mean by that?
>>34710707kek
>>34702361You edge and then stop
>>34712516Did that lots of times. Doesn't work.
I stroke with my fleshlight for a bit, then when it starts to tingle I stop for just a bit 10-20 seconds then continue, can last 15-25 minutes like that
So my boss is a bully to me and my coworkers but we all need the money so we put up with it, but I decided today that I can't take it anymore so I'm going to find a new job and once I secure the new job, then I'm putting in my 2 weeks notice. That's the plan but I just need advice on the little details like how to explain to HR my situation without calling my boss a fucking asshole, and how to handle my boss for the last 2 weeks I'm there because I'm sure he's going to be extra angry those 2 weeks
>>34709687>ExplanationI have found a better job with better pay.>resignation lettertwo weeks. Happy to cross train my replacement.>do notbad mouth your boss to anyone. HR knows what he is like. You're not the first person to leave. Don't burn bridges, you'll need his reference sooner or later.
>>34709728>>34709904>>34710025Thanks for the advice. After sleeping on it I've decided to lock in and put in my notice on Monday after work. My only question is will I be the one training my replacement, because then my boss will know I'm leaving
>>34711850It’s only right to train your replacement.
>>34712109Right has nothing to do with this situation I'm just trying to get this recommendation and never look back
Actual HR here. Exit interviews are done for a reason and despite what people online will tell you, your honesty is appreciated. We may not always act on your complaints, some things really are just a damn that sucks type thing, but shit like hostile bosses is a problem we can address. Work requires difficult conversations sometimes but that doesn't give anybody the right to be an outright asshole to you and your team.Do you have actual documented incidents or just a vague sense of "he's mean"? We need actual stories to work with, not simply feelings of hostility.
My dad is a horrendous asperger that always abused and tormented me since day 1. what triggers him is anyone surpassing him in literally any aspect. my innocent little sister literally attempted suicide because of his nonfeeling cruelty. no theory of mind whatsoever.hes also a sexual creep and I want to expose him. Dealing with this broke my brain at the undeniable realization that the legal system and the police arent some kind of force that fixes injustice even if its glaringly laid bare. everyone is content to accept this, he makes me so sick.
Are there women that are attracted to crossdressing sissy men?And by women I mean biological women that identify as women.How do I find them?
>>34710434kek so true
>>34708613If you're not fucking men in the ass, yeah it's cool
>>34710456Not OP but i'm french too and chronically autogynephiliac please send discord
My dominatrix makes me wear panties and bras because of the effect it has on my psyche, but she cuckolds me brutally as a result. I do not recommend it.
>>34715294Hmm um okay
i used to draw a lot as a kid. trying to get back into it and I get frustrated when i try to do urban sketches and it doesnt look right. most things are complicated to draw. i just wanna try sketching things that are tailored to my level. is there an artbook that gradually ramps up the difficult where i can just copy the images?
>>34716156Just read the >>>/ic/ sticky.
>>34716156The upside of being not very good at something the there's lots of room for improvement. Break it down into small steps and pieces and don't be too ambitious. Also, you should probably have the mindset that you're drawing for the joy of drawing, not for the final result. If finished drawings is what you want you're probably better off getting into proompting and inpainting.
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>>34719384>even with <500 peopleI bet you take those <500 studies about some bumfuck USA campus college to talk about millions of people though>https://sbs.com.au/news/the-feed/article/andrew-tate-the-violent-and-viral-tiktok-star-who-has-domestic-violence-campaigners-worried/lizads7lqno surprise there. lots of men are assholes. (wow that was easy)
>>34719433>about millions of people thoughOf course, as long as they're middle class college kids from the same culture.>assholesWhy so vague? 3+x more men like strangling women than women like some rapey sex scene in a period drama.
>>34719458>3+x more men like strangling women than women like some rapey sex scene in a period drama.goinb by the statistics, half that women or so would like to be strangled by the guy if he's hot enough.
It isn't sex unless we're biting each other
>>34719478Hot
>sit home alone>’wow im a fucking loser I should go out and be social’>go out and be social (and i mean actually be social, not just like sitting at the bar alone)>’wow I hate this I wish I was home alone’This isn’t a crying/woe is me thread.How do I address this conflict? Earnestly?
>>34712728I disagree. I strongly relate to OP and I remember reading /adv/ice like this at the time.It made me feel better, there is great comfort in being told that you are okay the way you are. But being social is actually super super important to the point where if you become too lonely your life literally becomes meaningless.So it is important to understand that we *should* feel some pain from associating with people because it is that struggle that gives our life meaning. But when you hang out with new people it can be extremely difficult to bear.So in conclusion I actually partially agree with the first post. You should not stay at home and you should keep facing the discomfort, but you can make it slightly better by focusing on the now and accepting yourself as you are in the moment.If you can shut out the overthinking and keep seeing the same people, not only will it get better over time, but the extreme discomfort will turn into a more healthy feeling of wanting to keep up with the others.
>>34713076I think a good compromise is finding a social hobby that you enjoy. You learn to interact with people and you do something you like. Might make a friend or two as well.
>>34713076When I finally do go out i'm afraid i 'll meet redditors like you.
>>34715344I only type like a redditor precisely because I socialize too little
>>34712096just sit tight and wait for a sign.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ&ra=m
