I've been diagnosed with ADHD and been given meds. It made my life functional; however; the first month ended and the renewal for the medication costs $85.Where I am from, that's a lot, and my parents are nagging me to not go.However, my life suddenly became better and I feel like my parents are trying to cut costs at the expense of my health.Should I tell them to gtfo and go get my meds monthly?My father said "this would mean you'd spend $1200 a year on these meds"So what? My health > everything.
Get a job and pay for them yourself. Tell your parents to supply you with a few months supply of medication until you can get a job
>>32013689Your parents are retarded and/or not taking your illness seriously. If you have ADHD the way I have it, you're going to lose much more than 1200$ a year stuck in limbo where you cannot do anything but follow random thoughts. You are given the priceless opportunity to overcome this just before the years of your life during which using your brain counts the most. Every moment when you're not at the top of your game will have consequences in the future. 85$ a month is literally nothing compared to the benefit of an healthy brain during your studies and early career.
DRINK MORE COFFEE LOL POORFAG KEKW
>>32013689They are actually terrible for your health. About as bad for your heart as cocaine and they give you psychosis too. They also stunt your growth if you are still developing. Meds might still be worth it but they are actually looking out for your health, albeit accidentally
I am gettting my driver's license soon but I have absolutely zero knowledge of cars. Idk which are good, which are bad, what issues I should look out for, what the best deals are, maintenance, recurring costs, etc. Call me a retard if you will, I know this is basic shit most other functional adults have figured out, but researching it on my own has been very draining and I am a busy guy.
For the last week or so I've been telling myself that I'll stop using the internet so much. Every day for that week I've woken up and mindlessly scrolled the internet for 12+ hours, occasionally breaking to go to my classes or attend to my biological needs. Please help me.
Download leech block on all browsers
>>32014456Lack of motivation and self-discipline are very common topics here. Read the 4plebs /adv/ archive for thousands of posts where this is discussed.
She got the ick and decided to ghost me and give me dirty looks in public but then she got a boyfriend and one week later, she begins looking at me while smiling. She is no longer ghosting meI thought girl's interest went away completely after they got a boyfriend but for her, that's when she STOPPED ghosting me? What does that mean? I'm trying to imagine going home to someone every day and then seeing the guy who gave you the ick earlier and looking at them while smiling. What is the deal? Does she suddenly want to become friends? Why? Is she unhappy socially with her boyfriend?>inb4 ask herSomeone who ghosted me for someone else is beneath me. I only want to understand what she is doing so I can stop being confused. What is she doing and what should I do?
>>32014520I won't read please, adv, micromanage my social interactions threads, like we're supposed to be mindreaders of people we know nothing about.
>>32014534>Give me ideas>"I won't, I will only respond to people who want me to micromanage their social interactions"Ok
Any advice on how to cure sadness/hopelessness?Been feeling depressed for more than a week now. It's pretty bad.Used to like doing hobbies but they're not fun anymore.I know this kind of thread is posted a lot but I didn't see one on the catalog and thought it might help someone else too so why not.
>>32008190That's the neat part you don't>>32008307holy fuck kill yourself
>>32013091There's only one escape isn't there.
>>32008307>just pay a foid to “listen” to you instead of paying for s*x
>>32008307Therapy is garbage.I've tried it multiple times with different therapists, it's pointless.>>32009590Don't listen to this retard.SSRIs are garbage too, even worse than therapy.Not only are they completely useless, but also, if you're unlucky enough, you might find yourself with PSSD, meaning that there's a chance it's side effects may persist even after ceasing use of the medication.
>>32014478What do you suggest?
Although I've been depressed for 1 year I don't want to take ssris because I'm afraid to loose my lust and sexual life. Is this a reasonable thought or is it weird?
>>32011508take Mirtazapine it's a nassa and doesn't affect sex drive or erections
Talk to your doctor you dumb bitch.
>>32011508just got off ssris after a year of trying things like lexapro and wellbutrin (which is technically not an ssri, it works on dopamine instead of serotonin)long story short they didn't seem to have much of an impact on me, but everyone has a vastly different experience. I had a far better time on wellbutrin than lexapro, but even then I got off of them at the end of the day. Just take a low dose if you're scared.
>>32011508you are correctdo not take ssrisi took them years ago and the loss of libido remained even after ceasing use of the medicationit's a real thing, if you don't believe me check r/pssd
>>32014443holy shitI am never taking ssrisi'd rather die than experiencing this
I really don't get it. How do you meet the girl and interact with her. Do you take her in your car or her car. What do you do when you're driving to one of your houses. What do you do once you're inside the house. etc
>>32014450watch a movie retardwatch lotr if you havent seen it yet
If this is a genuine question ill gladly answer from a girls pov
I'm in my late 30s now and my sex drive has slowly been going down. I actually noticed my sex drive plummeting during the covid lockdown years. My gf hates the fact that I don't want to have sex anymore. I still sleep with her whenever she gets super horny, but I don't do the initiating anymore. One thing that helps is tadalafil, but I hate how a drug is the only thing that helps in making me want to have sex again.Does anyone have any thoughts on what to do to improve my sex drive? I want to enjoy sex like I was in my 20s. I don't work out much, but I can do 10 pullups and so I don't think it's a weight issue.
>>32011980Working out will massively increase your sex drive. Go for high intensity stuff such as running. Then increase your intake of proteins. sleeping enough is also required.
>>32012019True. I get horny after running but heavy lifting might be even better. Emphasis on heavy, the idea isn't to get totally exhausted
>>32011980I'd do anything to get rid of my sex drive. It's not helping me, and it never helped me.
>>32011980Regular mid-intensity exercise (don't exhaust yourself, but get the heart pumping and muscles working regularly).Improve your own hygiene/style. If you feel & look good, you'll be confident and want to fuck more often.Make sure your diet is balanced. Cut out the soda, sugar, processed foods, and alcohol.Be intimate with your gf in addition to just sex. Kiss her, cuddle her, give her a back massage. Get her to reciprocate.
>>32011980You have low testosterone and your dopamine receptors may be numbed to normal stimulus. Of course to know for certain you need to get bloodwork done and if you do, treatment is not steroids it is TRT. Keep in mind that once you hit your thirties you lose testosterone 1-2% a year which is why someone with actually abnormally low testosterone completely loses their sex drive.
I'm porn addicted with no future, stuck in neet. I kinda need a figure to guide me forward mentally without telling me "just work out lol"Tell me that even though if I got a tiring 9-5 at the end of the day id get home and appreciate lifeI know basically all names by heart to the world of porn since adv doesn't allow nudes I thought I'd get creative with my photography
>>32013934quitting porn for me became easier when i started dating women for real and making irl friends. i didnt want them to find out about my stash so i removed it from my phone and computers. plus going on dates on weekends and staying outside the house makes it extremely difficult for me to get the urge to fap because it avoids two triggers:boredomlonelinessjoin a sports club or some hobby and attend things religiously>t. anon who spent 10k on OF girls
>>32014294Not OP but, how and where did you find girls to date? Online dating is terrible for me
>>32014317online dating and instagram for me. just reached out to chicks i hadnt spoken to in while.it helps i actually have money now so its easier. if i was broke id have a harder time.my friend works in customer service at a pharmacy, is a 5'7 twink looking dude with long hair and he's always in a relationship/or dating some new chick. he literally has a receding chin and still pulls (crazy bitches but they count). His success is from just getting to talk to a lot of women at his job and getting lucky sometimes. the most important thing is to actually be in places where you can talk to and approach women
>>32014351Tinder? Do you look like chad or how do you get matches?I also have money, how does it help you? I fail to utilise itAnyways ty for advice - i also talk to women at my job but i kept it always strictly professional because of muh possible awkwardness, but i should probably change that. Job is basically the only place i get to meet people these days
>>32014421really you have to use your money to convince them to go on extravagent second date AND to get good fashion + post good travel photos on IG. women like the idea that you might fly them out. you have to betabux maxx desu
28m and I need a new job. I've been a substitute teacher for about 3 years now and I can't fucking take it anymore, but the thought of writing up a resume, applying, getting rejected, getting fired, being in the working world in general gives me an unbearable sense of dread. It seems to be so much worse now than I thought it was as a kid.I know I just need to grow up, grin and bear it, face my fears and etc... I just need some help.
>>32014057Your local teaching experience could help you become a secretary in certain schools. Also apply to being a janitor, I heard it sucks but you can always wear a mask if it smells, gloves etc
>>32014057sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do and what you gotta do is do what you gotta and you gotta whatta do whatta a gotta do and do the gotta and the whatta and the whatta you gotta whatta do you gotta whatta you and you do is gotta whatta
Become a police officer. It’s a real easy job with great benefits. Probably sucks being NYPD or LAPD though but if you become a cop in a hick town then you are pretty much set for life.
>>32014057There are plenty of incompetent people out there who are gainfully employed. As long as you're average intelligence or above and somewhat capable you'll be fine
>>32014057>I've been a substitute teacher for about 3 years now and I can't fucking take it anymoreanon... being a teacher fucking sucks. get a normal office job or some shit. it will fucking suck too, but a lot less.t.ex gf was a teacher and I have lots of friends who are teachers. they are practically slaves to their jobs.
Holy fuck, lemonade
I get really depressed and pensive during sunsetwhen it's full day or after it's night time I feel alrightwhat's up with that
I enjoy 4chan but there’s a literal rape thread on /gif/, /co/ and /v/ are filled with loli artHow am I not a bad person for using this site? It feels evil.
>>32015565there are pedos on reddit, Twitter and Tumblr also, we can't escape these subhumans anywhere, so you're fine.
>>32015565>I enjoy breathing oxygen but there's literal rapists and murderers that also breathe the same air, how am I not a bad person for breathing? it feels evil.
Why is it so hard to find a girl online?I've been looking for 10 years, not a single one of them stuck around.I've been on chatrooms, dating sites, forums, social media. You name it, I've been on it.Absolutely nothing. What the fucking fuck?
>>32014299>dude just abandon your home, your family, and all of the people you know just for a CHANCE at meeting a womanThe fact that this is even considered legitimate advice is a problem.
>>31990265It's not worth it. I mean women in general. And truly, nothing in this world is worth anything.
>>32014306Have you ever seen movies before? The trope of moving to the big city to get a life is extremely common.
>>32014310It's not possible to live without women because single people don't live as long. It can cause you to die in your 60s.You have to have women for an optimal life.
>>32014291>Serial killersI.e. 00000.1% of the populationYour brain is fried from listening to too much "true" crime podcasts
>"I try to avoid telling you about any kind of problem or bad news because you always overreact to everything. You sigh and rant for minutes straight about how there's always something to worry about, life is never fucking simple, nothing fucking works right, etc. You're stressful. I'm anxious a lot of the time because I know you'll spiral and become moody and bitter if even the slightest thing goes wrong. You have zero ability to handle stress without falling apart."My girlfriend said this. What should I do
>>32012594You are dragging her down with you. You being unhappy all the time makes her unhappy. You literally stand in the way of her happiness. Stop being a whiny little bitch and affecting her mental health negatively or leave wtf
>>32012594Sounds to me like she knows what she's talking about and I would bet good money that she's right. Sort your shit OP. You're being insufferable.
>>32012594Man the fuck up.Women crave emotional stability, and your gf is going the extra mile to communicate your deep issues instead of just jumping ship. Far from being a source of stability in her life, you are apparently a neurotic basketcase who makes problems worse.
>>32012594....i might be your gf??? i said something similar to my bf.... oddly similar.
>>32012594Be grateful you have gf who knows how to communicate isntead of playing stupid games and pouting, like many would. Take steps to get better. At least learn how to shut up. Put your feelings in a journal instead of emotionally flailing around recklessly. It takes less energy to STFU than it does to being a cranky windbag. There are literally 8 year olds that know manage their emotions better than you.
>see attractive person>feel shit about myself>spend rest of day miserableis this normal? i don't feel shit about my physical appearance, it feels different, but hard to describe
>>32013265wtdym, just talk to them.
>>32013904it's not a specific person, i feel like shit whenever i see anyone attractivei feel unworthy
>>32014266>>32013265What do you do on a day to day basis. Do you have a job or a hobby? Friends?
how do you guys cope with shit in your life?shit jobshit relationshipshit family relationshipsno motivation everalways tired despite working out and resting wellalways feeling not enough or that others are more important than myselfalways feeling down or wanting to crythe only time i feel happy is when im completely drunk, i dont want to pop pills for depression because i heard they will make you worse, i feel like a complete pussy
You're just negative. Like think positive thoughts for once in your life. Yikes.
>>32013649>how do you guys cope with shit in your life?You may have to ask a different question.The thing with 'cope' is that it implies that the stuff that you are coping about is beyond remedy and that the alternative is to resort to tracing its outline carefully so as to not disturb the form it assumes no matter how warped and contorted. It also puts you in a future course to debate for whether good squander of further resources and time getting back on 'tracing' a newer form every time it shifts on chance or whim — a set of avoidable circumstances not inherently part of the life that could have been.Coping is not a good way to live. Is this what you truly want?
