>>34394373
They didn't have fortnight or Netflix. The only entertainment are orgies in the woods.

>>34394340
based

>>34396757
People like that (Adamites, Khlysts, etc.) got burned at the stake. Pity we don't do that anymore.

Every incel who considers himself a freakish failure because he's a virgin at 18 expects women to remain unrouched until marriage (and the average age for first marriage is 30)

>>34397275
I don't consider myself a failure for being a virgin, it actually makes me better than you.

>>34393510
Buy them some lightsabers and a pound of magic shrooms. Or you could tell us more about them.

>>34393510
From the pic, they seem to enjoy hitting the gym. Buy them a few tubs of protein powder and creatine... TRUST ME, they'll be super thankful.

A flame thrower for cooking

Scented candle.

>>34393510
frilly underwear

Go outside and get a job.

>>34396942
A Legend (read it - it has a moral):

How Shaking Hands Began
In days of old, knights in armour who wanted to show friendship would take off one metal glove and extend their bare hand, knowing the other guy could cut it off with his sword, but hoping the offer of vulnerability would create trust. Two knights wanting to show friendship would both take off a glove and shake bare hands.

The moral: EVERY human interaction, from shopping to making love, involves some risk of being hurt. But sometimes you juat have to take off the glove.

>>34396942
If you're actually socially awkward and you're not say, suffering from other detractions the rest of us are (like ugliness or mental illness), find a regularly used voice chat software tool (such as Discord, Element... shit, even in-game), and start initiating conversations with strangers.
If you don't know how to do that, learn ice-breakers. Learn how other people start a conversation, and copy what they do.
Eventually you will get used to starting up conversations. Then move onto practicing light humour (puns, dad jokes, mild sarcasm, irony, etc) so you can start making people laugh.
Yes you will fail. Yes, there will be times it will feel or sound awkward. But you'll learn other people feel awkward in social interactions too, and that is perfectly normal.
Once you get jokes down, start finding common ground interests between you and strangers. There's two ways to have a common interest, you can either pick communities where that is already a thing (E.G. you love a specific video game, but that's very nerd incel type behaviour) OR you adopt someone else's common interest that you find out that you like (E.G. you see how much you like football, golf, tennis, etc).
Then it becomes a case of
1) Talking about common interests, and
2) Making jokes
Congrats, you're halfway there. Unfortunately OP I cannot take you the rest of the way but you will find yourself socialising and even having fun in next to no time. Always avoid depressing and negative concepts and subjects, that's always a social vibe killer.

Oh and for the record OP, there is *always* an obnoxious douchebag you makes you feel bad. Practice socially shunning them by ignoring/not engaging in conversation with them. Nobody likes them.
Avoid learning toxic, abusive, insulting behaviours, and don't do anything you wouldn't do in-front of a 7ft tall angry muscular man who is ready to perform a beatdown on you (that way, when you move into physical conversations, the transition is almost seemless).
As for scoring the GFs, you'll need to start icebreakers, jokes and common interests with them either in person or online. You will either keep hitting landmines (they already have boyfriends) or you'll find out that secretly you're just ugly.

>>34396942
Post an online ad saying you want a girl who likes spending time indoors, frogposting and having sex. Simple.

>>34383649
>Although this depends on how much you talked beforehand
Sending nudes is a redflag regardless of how long you've known the person. Such a disgusting behaviour even if she was my gf I'd be extremely disappointed.

>>34383359
Let's go over the problem:
>I think i am an average girl
>I hate 'normies'
>I send randos on the internet nudes when they ask and they just ignore me
>I wanna feel loved
>I am very mentally ill
>I feel I'm unlovable and useless

Here's my advice:
I'd isolate what the love you want actually is. Attention? Kindness? Sexual desire? If you don't really know what you want it's hard to feel any which way. Some sociologists call this a love language. Find what you value in a relationship then create situations that foster it.

I'd suggest not sharing nudes and starting a whole lot smaller with a friendship before you try to make a relationship. It's called having a "boy-friend" for a reason. Try to focus more on cultivating men like flowers, first you have to sew the seeds of a relationship, find out what they enjoy and try it out to see if you like doing what they like. As an example, if you like anime find someone else who will watch anime with you. Then you have to water the seed frequently, say your love language is words of affirmation. Try telling the person you want to love you that you had a lot of fun watching anime together and you'd like to do it again when they have the time. Keep in mind everyone has different interests and timeframes (some flowers need more water than others) and it takes time and effort to get a plant to properly bloom. So don't give up and make some friends.

>>34383359
kek you def browsed 4chan too much. you sound like a cute girl
from your text, you only messaged with random people you didnt even know nor did they know you inrl... ofc such things are just fantasy and nothing serious... you are literally just chatting ... just focus to find a partner in real life instead of discord

>>34386655
kek this a bit

>>34383359
>>34383359
The /pol/ chuds here aren't going to be honest to you (they have a combination of self-loathing + distorted worldview). I will be honest with you, but sit down, this will be painful. This isn't intended as a personal attack, it is just honest feedback on the situation which happens to be negative.
1) I do not think you have an accurate self-assessment of yourself. If desperate guys don't want you, then you may not be "average" in looks, but potentially ugly. I don't say this to be mean, I used to think I was average but realised a lot of people avoided me, so one has to deduce they are ugly (if they avoid you before you say anything).
2) You said "i am very mentally ill". This is a huge social turn-off for a *lot* of people. Even if we assume you are average in looks, being "very mentally ill" means you come with extra emotional burdens that other people, especially emotionally unstable and self-loathing chud incels, do not want to have to deal with. Mental illness is like ugliness but for intelligence or psychology. There's a reason society labels it an ILLNESS and not 'wow cool feature'.
3) "i send them nudes when they ask". Stop doing that, you're at high risk of being blackmailed or extorted. I suspect the 'mental illness' you refer to is impairing your judgement capabilities.
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>>34383359
Part 2/2
Now that's out of the way, your friends and your date are not your therapist nor psychiatrist. They are not there to deal with your emotional baggage or mental illness. If you have trauma issues, find a therapist. If you have psychological issues, find either a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Work on yourself, deal with your own personal issues first. Me personally? I just deal with the consequences of being isolated due to mental illness rather than take drugs, but you might have a different equation.
Also your post title is a lie and you should feel bad about:
>not even chuds want me
>the only 2 irl bfs ive ever had were evil to me and both relationships ended with me getting cheated on
If nobody wanted you, you wouldn't even have "irl bfs".
Also, another reality check, blind fire really: if you're a fucking tranny trying to larp as a woman, *people can tell you're not a woman*. There are entire physical and physiological traits that you will never be able to change that alert people. In-fact, on weight of probability, a normal woman is more likely to be classified as a man ('butch' or 'block jawed' or 'has a moustache' [see German women]), than a man will pass the sniff test on pretending to be a woman.

>>34388986
So why are you asking what you should do if the situation has already happened? What did you do?

>>34390997
This is a contracted company, the same people come in every month. They know the layout of every apartment. Standard practice to treat the kitchen sink AND the bathroom sink. I've been to many apartments, they do the same thing. Kitchens and bathroom sinks.

>>34391712
They give you a window of time as an announcement. Oh on the 28th to the 31st of each month blah blah company will be here to do pest control. Everyone knows, just not the exact time.

>>34391946
Dude, do you think there's just one solution to everything? No there's always something to learn. Someone can always give you a fresh take on the problem or share their own unique experiences which you could learn from. It's not always 1 + 1 = 2

>>34388820
christ that ass is giving me palpitations

>>34396593
April Dawn

>>34396593
That's funny, some faggot the other day said she had no ass.

>>34393462
You weren't socialized during your developing years and society has also conditioned you to not see any value in risking investment into new connections.

Thankfully the only person this'll harm is yourself by not having a single soul be by your side on your deathbed.

Maybe you have enough time to corse correct, if you chose to anyway.

Yf

>>34393462
You realize people are full of b.s, they don't genuinely care about you, etc

U u

I feel inferior to everyone so I don't see a point. Why would people want to be around a subhuman like me? Everyone else is human and I'm not. I don't leave my house out of shame and the risk of encountering people

>>34395181
You sound like an emotional softie. Find an emotional softie girl, she won't care and she will find the fact that you have no experience cute. In fact she will be happy that your first time is with her. Emotional softies aren't on tinder, because they don't want hookups, they want "connection". Idk where they are lmao I hate that type. They're probably in art/religious groups/architecture/poetry circles. Something about personal values and feelings. Go to those events, join those circles.

>>34395378
All that assuming you got your shit together otherwise and are minimally fuckable/not creepy.

>>34395181
So yeah good news is your age/lack of experience is no problem for the type of woman you should gun for anyway.

>>34395378
That is true.
I'm an emotional guy.

That is also why I joined "boo"
It's supposed to be dating for "nerds" and all the introvert/extrovert types.

The 1st girl said she liked me and was always hugging me at my job.
Then i tried to schedule something outside and she couldn't.
3 days later she asks if I can help her family move and my friend at the job said he needed to speak to me. Apparently they had been going out and started dating. I cried and got hurt.
The most recent was a girl that I haven't seen in 14 years. I wished her happy new year, we talked a lot, she started hinting on me asking her out. I asked her out, went on a date and since I like to express myself, 2 weeks later I told her that I wanted to do something again and that I was catching feelings. She got scared and there's basically no interaction nowadays.

>>34396116
Girl 1 did nothing wrong. She did not lead you on, girls can like men in non sexual non romantic way.

Girl 2, well you said yourself you scared her off.

The problem is not sexual inexperience, it's relationship inexperience. Maybe read books about it or idk. Not manosphere misoginy, maybe female authors pop sci about relationships, don't treat as gospel, analyze how they see world/relationships.

Express your sensitive nature about neutral topics or something. Idk man.

Having sex is gay

How to be good at sex?
I mean excluding PE and ED, how to improve libido and shorten refractory period?
And mostly avoid having PNC and post orgasm depression?

Love is the goal not sex. I have always kind of understood this but it seems like most men just will never understand it even though they all will act as they they feel this way at the end of the day

maybe you're just bad at sex. just fap

Ye. People like different things. Some people like physical sensations and intensity. You don't. That's fine.

>>34397064
interesting. i’ve heard of masking but i always misappropriated the definition in my head. this is a much clearer version.

i can definitely imagine myself. when i do, i guess i can kind of see why someone who’s normally so outgoing and happy downshifting is startling. i can definitely see that.

i suppose it just hurts me in a way, as if im a designated anchor and without me being my usual self, the energy of people around me just collapses in on itself. it feels almost like a burden. it makes me feel like if my mood changes, then everything is dependent on me.

i do tend to have trouble removing the “mask” when others are higher energy bc of these conflicting thoughts. i am emotional not by own my choice 99% of the time, but it’s only this specific scenario that dictates my mood.

is there anything i can do about it? is this bad?

>>34397077
It's not bad, it's just some socio-emotional desynchronizations and hang-ups, it can't kill you or harm anyone else. It's a pain to deal with no doubt, but it's not bad in the critical life or death sense.

Sounds to me like you perform a certain way to appease others and make sure they don't feel bad because of your mood. Like you feel responsible for other people's moods then, so you modulate your own expressions and outward moods to try to get others to play nice. This is called "people pleasing". Something I struggled with my whole life too.

Yes there's something you can do about it, by letting go of doing anything about it. It's a paradox I know, but it means letting go of control and letting yourself have the bad moods more often and more frequently without caring how it makes others feel. Trust they will handle their own emotions and that you don't have handle it for them because that's exhausting for you.

Or likewise if your mood is high energy and manic and you feel you need to tone yourself down, don't do that either. Keep going and let yourself flow the way you wanna flow.

Focus only on actions, your own action. If your actions show you have not harmed anyone then there is no harm. If people are feeling hurt because of your own feelings, they are what we call "neurotic". That's their problem, they can work that out themselves.

>>34397097
i see. honestly, i was way worse about it earlier in my life. i eventually removed almost all of it, as i was getting to a point where i didn’t feel like myself. restricting my happiness, it wasn’t like now, in fact i have almost the opposite type of thing going on.

i like this idea, bc i personally love being myself so much. it makes me even happier to be as happy as i am, and uplift others. it hurts to retain a remnant of the need to lower myself since i’ve worked so hard on undoing most of it.

i will absolutely try my best to focus on myself. i want to be the one that pulls others up and makes them laugh and talk (if they want to, of course!).

i posted the thread really down about it, but i think this has really helped me. you’ve made me look at it a completely different way. i’ll end the night strong and carry that into tomorrow.

thank you so much.

>>34397110
No problem at all, you're very welcome. And yes when it comes to matter and the mind or spirit bad our internal perspectives of them, remember that "good" and "bad" or "right" or "wrong" does not apply in that realm. Those are for matters in the outside world, matters of action. Only then can we say something is right or wrong, through the action. As far as thoughts or feelings go, you don't got to worry about trying to find out what's right or wrong. Cuz it's not necessary. It's just perspective. A human should have fun with it, rather than worry about it. Enjoy experimenting with uncountable perspectives and let your imagination soar my friend. Have a good sleep!

>>34397118
>When it comes to matters of the mind and spirit and our internal perspectives of them***

>>34393426
What she did at school was not anything abnormal. Teachers lean over all the time, I haven’t been grabbed on the arm myself but I can imagine that happening in some contexts. Assuming flirting behaviour could also be a projection of your own feelings. You should seek therapy.

>>34393426
i fapped to this thread

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>>34393426
You weren't groomed. You were 18 - 20. Grooming is a word that's misused often. Grooming means to rear, to raise, to condition. And that applies to:
- Pets
- Animals
- Babies
- Children

For example a parent grooms their child into becoming an adult. Grooming originally had a non sexual meaning. But it becomes sexual and perverted if someone grooms a child into sexual service. Like a pedophile etc we call it grooming in this case because it's an adult conditioning a child into normalizing sexual activity.

Notice the common word in both scenarios "child". Grooming is what happens to kids. It does not happen to adults. You were 18-20. An adult man at age 18 - 20. Do you understand? You couldn't have been groomed.

You are however extremely impressionable and easily manipulated. That's why you are considering filing a police report against someone who committed no crime because someone else told you to do that.

>>34397083
>You weren't groomed. You were 18 - 20.
He was talking about the things she did while he was still at school.

>>34384752
i just have one small advice to help. don't mistake this as a cure, since best case scenario it only makes a slight difference, but try taking NAC. it's an amino acid not an ssri or snri. Supposed to help ocd and psychiatrists can give it out along with ssris

>>34389635
Do your research, it can cause severe anhedonia

>>34384752
Mindfulness. The key to this is daily meditation practice doing 4 second breaths using your belly.

>>34390194
sorry op i shouldve said that

>>34384752
What does your OCD tell you? I don’t want to go into detail because I’ve been dealing with a lot of mental OCD turmoil lately, but basically I gave into compulsions, and it’s got me feeling like I’m almost possessed or something. Like I’m in constant distress, and misery, and I just want out but I don’t know how to get out of this.

>>34386999
>>34388091
>Im going through such a hard breakup
>Break up lad

>>34391476
Well, it’s how lonely it is to sleep in bed without her there. Secondly, it just hurts so much that while I am in pain alone, she is having fun with her guy friend.. because we called a few days ago and even while we were calling, she was messaging him and laughing.

>>34392058
Yeah that's normal. I've been there. I know how it hurts. The loneliness will of course go eventually, but will still hit hard from time to time. You'll have to live through it. I think it's the same thing as when you lose someone close to you due to death or whatever, it felt exactly like stopping a relationship. The dude being there adds jealousy I guess. But it's just a detail brain-wise.

There's a hack that I haven't tried, it sounds corny but it's based off neurology. Basically shifting to gratitude activates prefrontal cortex and deactivates amygdala or whatever, and that helps you deal with pain faster, since neurons will shift to activate different parts of the brain that don't cause pain. So when it starts hurting, go "well at least I am glad we did X together", or "well at least I can now find a new partner that will be better", or any other gratitude cope. That way your brain will rewire faster. You don't have to force any ultragratitude, just make your brain shift to finding crap to be grateful for.

>>34392058
sounds like typical women branch hopping. just take pleasure in the fact that it won't stop with the new guy. even if they got married she'll still be on her phone laughing with other men.

>>34386999
>, i had spent a year saving up for our vacation.
You're a homo

>>34396776
There's probably options for you to get more comfortable with and feel more 'right' about kissing and whatever else you aren't sure about. It just might take more time and effort to figure out how to get to that point.

>>34396806
I hope so. I desperately want a loving, normal, age-appropriate relationship, but I can’t shake the feeling that my sexuality operates differently than that of my peers. Sometimes I feel like a child in a woman’s body. I wish I knew how to grow up.

>>34396830
I don't have many experiences to pull from, but I have some similar issues and I suspect I have autism as well. The best sex I've had has been with partners who were very flexible about pacing, willing to take breaks if I got weirded out. Or for making out, when I was close to orgasm I properly enjoyed it briefly, and then it went right back to being weird and I wanted nothing to do with it. Couple a patient and understanding partner with a professional to help you explore solutions, and a willingness to get to know your body and a curious approach to determine what works and what doesn't and you'll go pretty far.

>>34396847
Like a therapist? Yeah, I’ve been meaning to get one for a while. For other issues mostly, but I should probably bring up the sex/intimacy thing too. Dealing with insurance is a pain though

>>34396857
Yeah, it seems worthwhile.

>>34393532
>Maxed out her RAM
I'm sure you did...

Was this a bad place to ask this question?

>>34393532
I'm almost positive this is a made-up Epstein fantasy but I will say, before you go hurting minors in real life, please understand that legality does not determine morality. A sixteen year old girl is not an adult woman. While she may seem "mature" to someone who doesn't see women as intelligent people, she is just like every other child her age. If you are incapable of being with a woman within your age group, probably look into why that is, and consider how differently you'd treat her as soon as she starts to get "too old" for you. That is not fair to a young girl. She deserves love regardless of age, not pedophilic infatuation from someone who will leave her as soon as she develops stretch marks and wrinkles.

He’s 54 she’s 15.

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>>34396223
>>34396234
I have friends but none of them would wanna do this shit with me. Women my age hardly exist in Public in an approachable setting. You cannot just approach every single female who is busy doing something like having her fucking headphones in or texting on her phone.

>>34396292
>You cannot just approach every single female who is busy doing something like having her fucking headphones in or texting on her phone.
Yeah but I'm gonna say fuck all of that shit I'm 23 years old in the same situation as you and I'm sick of being alone. I will bother every single woman I see until I get a girlfriend, because at this point I'm sick of dating apps and "waiting" for the right one.

ITT we will have a bunch of lonely loser guys coping about why beautiful women pick men they consider inferior without considering a single personality trait. it will be completely filled with doomposting and not worth reading.

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>>34396110
>I actually try a lot and get rejected or ghosted by women. Many girls just act coy and give fuck off signals if I shoot my shot. Advice?
that's life

there's no advice to give. most people you meet won't feel like dating you. that doesn't mean anything bad is happening to you. even Chad is shot down as much as he succeeds

>>34396292
>You cannot just approach every single female who is busy doing something like having her fucking headphones in or texting on her phone.
there's a huge difference between approaching every single woman everywhere and 15 women in a year

have you ever tried like, approaching one girl every three days? 100 women approached in a year isn't hard