Can someone tell me what is wrong with my mind / methods to circumvent how it works? For some reason my brain keeps switching between two modes, for months on end. I am mostly referring to hobbies / studying skills here.I have periods of time where I do not want to do anything. Not necessarily in a depressed "nothing is enjoyable" way, I acknowledge things are enjoyable but the act of doing them feels daunting or like a chore. I don't want to do anything despite knowing I should, no internal drive to be proactive. Sometimes doing something feels like I am "locking in" a specific amount of time which is off putting, marking myself just another hour closer to sleeping, losing free time, etc. rather than viewing this as the opportunity to get to do something I enjoy for X amount of time. I spend months doing nothing because setting a daily quota is too stressful, and have no real thing binding me to do anything at all. Time keeps slipping by, I waste more and more of it, and could have been so much farther along had I stayed consistently normal.I have moments where I feel a resurgeance, I recognize the person I want to be, the life I wanna build but just....can't...........until I can - everything I just said will suddenly 180 one day and last...a month or so before reversing.If I sound familiar with all this it's because I am. When I started my current job I had a 6 month malaise, so, I thought it was stress at first, set very low quotas for myself, but also didn't stress about doing things each day - acknowledged focusing on the long term vs. short term, etc. but it just only lasted a month and i barely got stuff done....I just wanna be productive with my hobbies and goals yet never want to do anything, I go to work, come home, and that's it.
I realize this is a text wall and it would be too much to type out my precise feelings to a T but hopefully this was clear enoughOne thing I miss from being a bit younger was the ability to spontaneously do things. Now I just can’t. Everything needs to be predetermined, I don’t just let my mind choose something and do it. Unsure if it’s from having too many interests, too lofty of expectations, stressing over time both in a full time worker and mortality sense or whatWish I was just a few years younger again (I am fucking 25 typing this)
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How do I stop my mind from going blank in conversations
I'm getting tired. I has to pick college major I want to be an art teacher and paint and draw all day not K-12 especially. Perhaps college? Or get paid more by a lot and get an associates IT degree?
went on an alcohol binge all day saturday and my belly is still kind of bloated, how long will it take to go back down?
Similar to OP I was bloated and had slow digestion which really freaked me out so I quit drinking. Five months later I lost 20 pounds but now some digestive issues are coming back like frequent constipation and a lot of gas. Am I going to be alright? I have been eating probiotics like natto and miso soup, kraut and yogurt.
>>33638173motility - look into the supplement "bloat relief" by life extension, it has artichoke and ginger to speed up digestion, also hypothyroidism will cause slow digestion
>>33638199Okay thanks. I think I will just eat ginger and artichokes, I like both.
>>33637875Dear drunkard subhuman, please register with your local euthanasia center and wait for the cremation van to collect you.
>>33639365you are lower than a jungle nigger with no compassion and only enough bodily function to try and have sex with the dirt
for a while i spent my days just doomscrolling social media, browsing 4chan, or sleeping.but i got tired of wasting my existence away, so lately i've been trying to do other things, but i can't seem to feel anything.i've tried watching anime, movies, tv shows.playing games or reading manga.but no matter what i just can't seem to feel anything, i've tried the gym for a while too and it doesn't seem to do anything.any advice on what i should do? maybe some books to help me?pic partially related
>>33639802>for a while i spent my days just doing nothing and wasting away.>but i got tired of it and tried new ways of doing nothing, like videogames, tv and anime.>Why I don't feel anything, omg!Are you like, physically disabled? Maybe you should just get a job.
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>>33639817this. we were doomed from the start
>>33640181Wow, do you have more of his letters? I had seen this one before but had lost it. Also, Ted wasn't a doomer, he said:>Never lose hope, be persistent and stubborn and never give up. There are many instances in history where apparent losers suddenly turn out to be winners unexpectedly, so you should never conclude all hope is lost.
>>33640247https://www.thetedkarchive.com/library/primary-source-documents-on-ted-k#toc42it's hard not being a doomer as a wagie in an urbanized hellhole
There is this chad guy who I have noticed online, he literally looks like yes chad. He is funny, cool and unbothered and I want him so fucking bad. I am a autistic girl a bit younger than he is, but how do I make this happen? I know he will like me because I look kind of the same as the girl he is following.He is confident, socially dominant and seems high IQ and looks wise he is a solid 8I created a fake account with a pretty cool profile pic made with AI and me and my friend sent him a message but he never replied
>>33639574Hopefully it is fake and you get raped by a pajeet.Or better yet, hopefully he actually fucks you, you fall in love and then leaves you forever because you stupid whores cant get the memo you are worthless to them
>>33639795AI image.
>>33639574Nothing is going to happen with the fake account. Talking to him by being fake isn't a good way to start anything. This is called catfishing and it is usually a good way to not have a relationship with someone. Best you can do is make a real profile of yourself and see if he likes you. It also depends on what website you are on. If it is not a dating website, it'll be harder. He also might not even be looking to date. If he is an entertainer or streamer it isn't going to happen. Is he only following 1 girl? Or is it just a coincidence that 1 girl out of the girls he follows looks like you? But yeah, you can try to real account and if he isn't interested you'll be blocked and then can move on. Just don't get mad at him if he doesn't want you. Right now he has no idea you exist and you may not be what he is looking for. I know that if a random girl messaged me online, and I wasn't looking for a relationship, I'd think it was a scammer.
>>33640196what in the sweet love of god is wrong with you dude?
>>33640201>>33640209Okay, you guys are right. He’s not a streamer or anything just some random dude arguing in the comments of a girl's YouTube VOD. I stumbled across it and checked his yt profile his X account is linked there.
A confession:>Always felt other people have it all when it comes to women. Relationships come and go, and it's too easy for them. >Decided to pick myself up. I learned guitar over the last two years. Started going to the gym about a year ago. Have a successful job, and was able to buy my own car with it. Back in January, I planned to move to another city to study, all self-funded.>In February. Had first serious relationship at 22 with a good, caring girl who paid attention, was responsive, and would drop off gifts at my place randomly. Very clingy. We were also very intimate and physical with each other. Despite this, she isn't the best looking. She's skinny, but her face is wide, and her hair thins. Tits are there but nothing special. >After 6 months, I break up with her. I went into the relationship knowing I had to break up because I was moving away. She cried a lot, and hoped we wouldn't be strangers. I felt sad but I knew it had to be done.>Won't lie, going away gave me hopes of meeting someone else. Now that I had gone to the gym, now that I played guitar, now that I lived by myself, now that I had a car and a job, and now that I knew how it was done.
>>33638840>>33638850Did you move from a small town to a city?
>>33638864Big city to bigger city
I wouldn't say you fucked up, but it's just the opportunity cost of striving for better. And this time, the payout wasn't worth it - so far, at least.
Just tell her (HONESTY) and discuss with her You definitely fucked up by leading her on
>>33639260I don’t think I should tell her about it. Specially after I broke up with her and live in a different city. That would just add salt to the wound. Whenever she texts me (not often) I’ll text back less, until it naturally goes away
I've figured out a way to fantasize about and jack off to a girl I like who's in a relationship and doesn't like me — this is by imagining her without eyes. Masturbating has become more exciting now, but are there any possible negative effects this could have on me?
When you say "imagine her without eyes," do you mean that it looks like someone just poked her fucking eyes out, and it's all bloody and gory, or is it like she has a shadowy eye socket that makes her look like a darkest dungeon character or some shit?
>>33638875Surely it's the unseeable eyes. I'm not OP but I have a thing for that too. At least in 2D.
>>33638875No poked eyes and not even an eye socket. Just skin. Akin to >>33638945
>>33639028Idk, I think imagining her having shadowy eye sockets, or being blindfolding would have been a better option instead of skin eyes, but I don't think it will gonna give you negative effects. There might be a chance of you developing an attraction to a blind woman, but still
How much is too much to blow on hookers in Japan? (in Euros) (Im a Minimum wagie)
I'm 19M. my first (and only) time having sex is when I met this random fat 23 year old girl on discord and we had short unsatisfying sex. About a week or so later she sends me a DM telling me she's pregnant, at first I think she's lying or pulling a scam on me. But we met up and she did a pregnancy test at the doctors and yeah she is fucking pregnant and she is 100% certain that I'm the father. She is refusing an abortion and wants to have the baby but I really do not want to be a dad at my age especially not with this horrible fat lady as the mother of my child. This is seriously going to mess up my life as I was planning to go to university and my family will definitely never approve of her. She's a horrible human being and will never find another man who wants to be with her so she'll be left looking after this child by herself. I can't be a dad, I'm not ready for it. I want to meet a nice girl and get married and do things the traditional way. I don't want to be a deadbeat dad either but I'm not fucking sure what to do. I'm so fucking depressed and suicidal I don't know what to do. I haven't told anyone about this and I'm really dreading it, I'm so fucking embarrassed.
>>33636937>my first (and only) time having sex is when I met this random fat 23 year old girl on discord and we had short unsatisfying sexThis is fkin tragic, didn't u use a condom?
>she is 100% certain that I'm the fatherWhich means nothing. Women lie all the fucking time. Big lies, small lies. They do them all and they do them frequently.On the off chance this isn't a fake story, speak to a lawyer and find out what your options are with getting a paternity test in your locality. It's pretty much guaranteed you're not the father, and a paternity test would prove that.
Who the fuck said you still couldn't go to college?
Welp, time to man up and be a father, kiddo. Unless you have other arrangements >hands you wire hangar
>>33640134Not in this feminist shithole
How to practice safe sex during dating in the modern age? I've been thinking of getting vacced for Hep B and HPV, and then asking a potential partner to do one of those 5min Hometests for HSV1-2 before anything physical with a condom, and then later doing the tests for gon, clam and syf before doing it without a condom. How's that sound? Anything I'm missing? I really don't want it to hurt when I pee and neither do I want my peepee to explode so help me out. Does not need to cover buttstuff, blood play or whatever fucked up shit you anons are into, just vanilla
>>33639994I think getting vaccinated is a good idea. HPV vaccine protects against the strains that cause warts. Hepatitis is known to cause organ failure so would def get vaccinated for that too. Before having unprotected sex would def have her do a full panel test. Better to be safe than sorry. Most STDs are curable or at the very least manageable, but they can weaken your immune system and contribute to future health problems.
How do I cope with not being able to have this kind of college expirence
>>33637994work hard, network even harderyou can get live a very good life for decades as long as you have your shit together
>>33637994There are 99,000,000,000 things to do in this life and if you lived to your absolute fullest every single day you're going to miss almost all of it.Tune your fucking radio better. Go build your own damn life.
>>33639836No. I want GF and I want it now
Football players break their brains
>>33637994Most of the people watching this proposal probably thought it was one of the corniest things they’d ever seen, even if they said otherwise. Couple of attention hogs.
i suspect i have a neurotransmitter deficiency and i clearly have mental health issues. i feel like i have a serious problem that needs to be addressed by a doctor, but i don't dare do it.
I don't like asking I really don't like asking but here goes do you know what to do to sign up for school as in dorm do I go to the campus website? I can't get my shit together I want to go to school so I can move and immigrate I don't like amerifats I want to move to the netherlands.
>>33639950Call the university and ask them
>>33639982Smart. Thanks.
Had sex with this chick and now she wants to be my girlfriend but I literally fucking hate driving and she wants to hang out every weekend
>>33635860True! Well I recently did so.
>>33635855Not really. Tons of conservative/religious Chads fuck only one or a few women while looking for their life partner, then settle down and marry. The Chaddiest Chad I ever knew was my classmate who started dating Stacy when we were 14, they broke up once and he got another gf, then got back with Stacy and now they've been married for 20 years and have 4 kids.Meanwhile there are tons of soiboi redditor types who have sex with lots of women and other men and trannies and nonbinaries and whatever the fuck, in weird polyamorous relationships.Usually the two types of people who indiscriminately fuck a lot of other people are those who have zero morals or value system, and those with deep trauma - goes for both men and women. There are a ton of sluts who fuck like crazy too because of their trauma - usually touched by family members or some crazy shit. Normal, adjusted, mature adults just want a partner. If you still want to fuck like this past your early 20s, you have developmental issues.
>>33627873I’ve fallen for every woman I’ve had sex with haha lol. Casual sex is not for me.
>>33635855This sounds like someone who fucks their sister
>>33636241>conservative/religious chadsNo such thing, you can't be a christcuck and a Chad. Chad is the quarterback who fucked all the stacies in class, went to college and fucked all the sorority stacies, and only then, MAYBE he gets married.>Meanwhile there are tons of soiboi redditor types who have sex with lots of women and other men and trannies and nonbinaries and whatever the fuck, in weird polyamorous relationships.That's a different thing, you can't compare healthy heterosexual male sexuality with literal faggotry.Humans have always had a dual mating strategy - incels are right about this. Woman will naturally fuck the strangest most attractive male (=good genes) in the short term, while seeking to acquire a long term mate who can provide food and shelter. Males who can't do the former try to achieve the latter because it's the only way they can get pussy. Christian morality was created to put shackles on the strong and force them to conform to beta male sexual expectations so they don't hog all the attractive women themselves. It's literally just a pathetic jewish cope to shackle the strong.
