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As a 33 YO Hetero man in the "west", how do you know when to give up with women and that you'll never be any woman's (you like) first choice?
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>>34073453
You are not special
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>>34073079
He could just go outside where theres no age number tacked next to his picture.
All those numbers ( height too) matter A LOT less when women meet you as a person first and not a dataset.

>>34073422
If he actually stoops down to dating apps, theres little choice. Most women have a filter set that automatically hides men above 30/35. Real life of course offers no such filters.
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>>34073201
Putting in the reps is a term from weight lifiting, to progress there you need to put in the repetitions, actually lift a bar loaded with heavy weights, repeatedly.

Same with social/romantic stuff, gotta pu t in time socializing, with men and women. For a denizen of 4chan, I would also recommend therapy, from a guy specifically, they're more likely to function like a coach than a hugbox, guys need a coach more than a hugbox.
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>>34073056
>and that you'll never be any woman's (you like) first choice?
if you are consistently falling for women you'd never be a choice for that means you have a mental problem you need to address. you are afraid of the risk of opening up to someone you would really form a connection with so you seek situations that will end poorly and safely confirm your inertia is the only answer
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>first choice
Grow up and learn why settling down uses the word settle.
>Not a native english speaker here, don't know what that entails.
No excuse for being retarded.

should i buy an art? i've been living in my house for 3 years and all of my walls are bare. i think it's weirding people out. what kind of stuff am i supposed to put there?
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>tfw have good arts but no guests to appreciate them
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>>34074791
Better but for a wall you want something closer with a point to focus on.
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>>34072407
I've never understood the purpose in putting up abstract shit on the wall like paintings that have absolutely no meaning. I have family photos, pictures of my pets, Pokemon posters, Land Before Time screenshot printouts, Star Wars stuff, etc. You know, stuff I actually care about that has meaning. I don't care about putting up what I'm "supposed" to as an adult. That boring generic shit has no appeal to me. I'm 34 so I'm not just out of high school or whatever. I've always decorated my house the way I want. I don't give a fuck what other people think.
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>>34074964
>meaning
Enjoying an aesthetic in your space is sufficient meaning.

>supposed to
People judge, often stupidly. If you want to interact with them then you have to pay the toll.
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>>34072407
There has never been a better time to decorate your house with art. Just generate stuff with AI and then get it printed somewhere. AI makes great watercolor paintings and stuff like that. If you can't think of anything make some still-life paintings or landscapes.

Unsure whether or not this girl is hitting on me
>begin uni
>party
>same girl randomly compliments me three times on how I dress, also has a thing for specific watches
>she always smiles when she looks at me, with a grin (I know it's genuine because her eyes are also little closed when she smiles)
>at first I believe that she's onto me, ask friend if she also talks in high pitched voice towards him and he says "yeah she does that". Learn that she apparently has a boyfriend and has a thing with another guy going already but not confirmed
ffw few weeks
>we don't have much contact but lately she asks me a lot for help, take it as she's just using me (lol)
>need I mention she starts convos more than I do
>help her, she deeply appreciates it and she tries her best to help me back and looks like she feels genuinely sad when she can't help me back
>sometimes we talk about random stuff and chats look equal (not like I'm the only one putting in the effort in the convos)
>heart reacts to a lot of my messages which doesn't look like a particular sign to me, just a sign of agreeing with me
>sometimes when we have a convo going up and she gives shorter answers, I feel like I'm interrupting her
>she still smiles at me every time she sees me but it just looks like she's trying to be friendly
what do you think
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>Learn that she apparently has a boyfriend and has a thing with another guy
Even if she was the answer has to be no
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>>34077661
Answer has to be no to the fact she's into me or that she has a thing with other guy (and her boyfriend) going?

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can self isolation lead to regression of social skills?
I've essentially become a hermit since my ex cucked me, and now whenever I do go out I drunkenly embarrass myself or obviously step out of line with people without realizing it. Before the whole ordeal I used to be the popular happy go lucky type, but since then I've moved countries and botched EVERY single first impression I've had since getting here, be it with girls, workmates, authority, you name it.
I've become a hateful, drunken shell of my former self and I don't know how to go back. Why do I dread social interactions? Why do I fear and hate women? Why do I drink myself into a stupor before every single social event I attend regardless how rarely it happens?
Honestly I think I've started to enjoy wallowing in self pity and vegging out all day, it's scary.
I didn't even realize how bad it's gotten until a workmate told me the shit spewing out of my mouth when I was drunk during an office party, ironically on the same day where three other unrelated people asked me if I was depressed.
Holy fuck I need to get out of this vicious cycle ASAP
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moving countries, even to ones with basically identical culture like from Canada to the US is still harrowing in terms of learning the little bits of etiquette and expectation for a highly functional normie. you are in a frustrating position because of that. the unfortunate circumstances of your relationship suck, but you are rushing to make connections and draw conclusions from that series of events. you are trying to make a grand narrative about what this means about your identity and how it is specifically malformed and has led you to disaster. this sort of catastrophizing is common amongst posters here. i don't have any magical advice that is going to resolve your situation for the better, but in the meantime, i could just advise you to compartmentalize these separate difficulties in your life, and think more in terms of having run into 2 or 3 difficult situations at once, where any part of one might turn out better or resolve even if the others are stuck. what i see too often on this board is people taking real but separable problems and instead tying them into a huge gordian knot that destroys their desire to take action to make any one difficult situation any better because it won't solve all of them at once.
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>>34077546
they aren't inseparable issues dawg. Me moving was a direct consequence of losing a long term partner and half a friend group.
I had nothing there except for my aging parents who rightfully don't want me to stay. The country and the differences in cultural minutia aren't the issue, I am.
People I do meet are more often than not busy with their adult lives, or loser gamers/druggies I'd rather not gel with.
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>>34077513
the less you do something the worse you become at it and that applies to social skills too. the bigger issue is your alcoholism, that needs to stop. get into religion, use it as a vehicle to stop being a degen.
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>>34077531
not what i said, the greentext was pulled directly from your ass. i see now that you are a paid demoralizer here to push an agenda and not to get actual advice.
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>>34077656
I was talking about my therapy

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Ever since the covid hoax I stopped interacting with the goyim cattle. I just look through them and pretend they don't exist. I don't even greet them or acknowledge their presence. I'm not staring either, I'm just looking straight through them as if they weren't there.
My life has significantly improved. I am at peace
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>>34076338
>I am at peace
and yet you can't fight the compulsion to post this every day.
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>>34076604
Triggered (you)
Checkmate gaytheist

Should I do it ? I've been dealing with crippling social anxiety and even tho recently I've made some progress, I think having my place and being forced to work, to go out for groceries, to pay the bills and so on would make me progress much faster

Money-wise it's not the best but what's the point of having money if I never use it, I'd rather have experiences, also my parents have money so I'm not really worried about dying of hunger even if I fail

I wanted to go abroad but I'm working in my dad's company right now and me leaving would give him a lot of problems, I live next to a border (Europe) so I could probably still live abroad and take the train to be able to work with him, the countries I can go to aren't the ones I dreamed about but eh better than nothing

21M no degree no driving licence btw (working on the latter)
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>>34077382
Move out but stay in town and continue working at your dads company.

Small steps at first if your social anxiety is really crippling. Reevaluate in a 6 months-1 year. Always make sure you're employed.

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I want to hug a girl and never let go. I just want to feel the touch of a woman.
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>>34072342
>Hating your brother over muh boner
Probably fake as other anon said, but this is depressing to think about. Why would you ever treat your own brother this way?
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>>34072499
If in theory it was a true story then I could see it being fair for her to treat him this way depending on the way he ACTED during the boner. As in did he get embarrassed and tried to distance himself from her somewhat so it doesn't poke into her as much OR did he lean into the boner by moving forward and pressing his boner up against her real close and then beginning to slightly move from side to side to purposefully rub his boner up against her for titillation purposes? If it's the former then yes she's a terrible sister. But if it's the latter it's perfectly understandable for her to react that way as it would then be a form of sexual harassment.
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>>34072342
>Hot adoptive older sister

So you’re willing to throw away a once in a lifetime connection just so you can get your dick wet? Really Anon? You’re that much of a step-sister porn addicted gooner? You fucking retard?
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>>34072733
Right? Like bro. If you lose a friend you can just find another friend (somewhat easier said than done but it's true) but you only get one sister. You can't exactly just go out there and find another sister. You can make new friends but you can't make new siblings. The closest you can get is a close friend who is like a sibling but it's just not the same. So anon is a fucking retard beyond repair.
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>>34068057
Bro. I'm just in your shoes. Every man deserve the soft touch from a woman. I'm a 35 year old virgin incel. I'm built like King Kong so I don't expect any women to ever love me/give me a chance. One thing that helped med was finding a amazing Thai masseuse. Experiment with some different Thai saloons. First time was fucking intense (but in a good way).

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I'm pretty sure I have actual OCD. Here are the following list of symptoms:
>intrusive or depressive thoughts constantly on the front of my mind, themes can last for years until another one takes over
>thoughts are distressing to the point that they are physically painful or cause headaches
>example: one night the thoughts were so distressing that I was essentially bedridden and my brain was paralyzed in fear
>frequently triple-check or quadruple-check things or repeat behaviors to make sure they are correct
>brain refuses to let me focus on anything else or get thoughts out of my mind to the point that I can't concentrate or do anything that requires focus
>nothing stops the thoughts, doing behaviors that you think would solve them just make them worse
>overthink to an absurd degree
>example: find out something potentially scary, go on an internet rabbit hole for weeks on end to know every possible thing about it. not out of curiosity, but because of compulsion
I have heard medication doesn't really work for OCD, nor would I really want to take meds anyway. My brain was fine until the middle of high school, when one day I felt a very sharp pain in my brain and then this behavior started, and has been going on for a decade at this point. I don't know what to do, the only practical advice is "just ignore it" but it doesn't really work. I probably have ADHD and psychopathy or some other shit too, but I feel like OCD is the root cause of all of this.
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>>34077149
Sounds like classic OCD, yes. OCD is often a comorbidity, which means it rarely travels alone, it usually has +1 other disorder that tags along with it. The most common one being Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD). 75% chance. Then major depressive disorder, 60% chance. Then ADHD, 20% chance. Autism, 6% chance give or take.

Despite autism being the lowest combo, autism is the most common misdiagnosis for OCD. This is because autists have ‘routines’. And get extreme crippling anxiety if their routine is disturbed. OCD enjoyers have worse: [RITUALS]. And Rituals operate the same way as routines, with one big difference: The threat of horrors beyond comprehension. An OCD enjoyer will genuinely fear and feel if they don’t fulfill their ritual, someone they love will be harmed or die. Or themselves or something bad will happen, something ominous.
Also forget about the psychopathy self-guessing. Has nothing in common with OCD at all, is absurdly rare, and if you had it, youd not be posting about your fears, psychopaths cannot feel fear.
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>>34077149
>I have actual OCD
>I probably have ADHD
parasites and toxins
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>>34077193
>>34077205
I don't think I'm autistic, I had an autistic friend/acquaintance growing up and I certainly did not have the distinctive traits like he did. I can talk and relate to people normally (at least as far as I'm aware), though I am pretty introverted. I used to have pretty bad social anxiety but that has gone anyway in the past few years.
>>34077193
Sounds about right. I threw out psychopathy there just as an example. I do feel weirdly unempathetic and unable to connect with people at times even though I can fake it really well.
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>>34077211
>I do feel weirdly unempathetic and unable to connect with people at times even though I can fake it really well.
I understand, I relate to that a lot and I had close to zero empathy from childhood to late adulthood. I developed mine later, turned out I had a lot of unresolved shit dampening my ability to empahize, untreated adhd and lifelong unresolved PTSD.

It’s normal enough I wouldn’t worry. There’s two types of empathy, everyone has at least one, even psychopaths.
>Cognitive empathy
aka “I can imagine in thought how you approximately may feel, in my thoughts.” (no emotional feelings when thinking it)
and
>Affective empathy
Aka “When you told me the sad story or expressed the emotion, I felt it in my own body like second hand sadness or joy.” (emotion based, you feel the same emotion as someone else as it happens to them or is expressed to you)

If you struggle with mental baggage of any kind at all, depression, anxiety, ocd, adhd, ptsd, whatever it is, your affective empathy goes bye bye. But not forever. And you will always have cognitive empathy, even psychopaths have that much at least. Though psychopaths may never gain or regain affective empathy, its said the parts required for the brain to do it just aint there for psychos.

Anyway everyone will always ‘fake’ it if they lost the affective empathy, its called masking. Which is probably the among one of the most common human behaviours. Doesnt mean psychopathy necessarily.
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>>34077211
>I don't think I'm autistic
its all connected

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Hi, it’s really late at night where I am but I just wanted to take this out of my chest and maybe get some advice on how to let go. When I was 8 I moved out to a different state to live with my single senior aunt, I don’t have any problem with her, I’m very thankful for her care and love all these years but she is a hoarder, I lived in a 7 square meters apartment for 10 years of my life and it really changed me to the core, every single wall was covered with something either a bookshelf, pictures or her 40 year old degrees, every centimeter of the apartment was covered with something, even the windows were covered, I lived in darkness for years, I never really had a bed, we shared one or when I was a little older I preferred sleeping on the couch just to have a little more space for myself, the bathroom was the only place where I could have privacy and I remember staying there for hours just to have alone time. Now that I’m older I look back and I feel so bad for my younger self, I always wanted to be a normal girl, have parties or sleepovers at my house, be able to record a video or take a picture of me while in the house, I never wanted to be home, I remember when my mom came from work usually two or three times a month we would stay outside in the car for hours just to not get inside. This is something only two people that are not my family members know about and every time it talk about it I can’t control my tears, I’m not saying it was the end I of the world not having my own bed but living in a hamster cage for 10 years really changed who I am now
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>>34077180
I know the feel. My dad is a hoarder, severe one, OCPD. Not to be confused for OCD. Its obsessive compulsive personality disorder. It’s OCD but on steroids. Or OCD except the bully inside the mind won the war and took over the body.

I relate to everything you wrote. My house had boxes everywhere, old items, utensils, scattered everywhere. Boxes on boxes, things stacked on top of each other that shouldnt be stacked yet somehow my dad stacked them because he wanted more space to hoard more shit.
Every room, every corner, everywhere. The fucking rot of the house as well, the mold, all the filth beneath and behind the stacks of hoarded trash. And if I tried to move or touch any of, anything at all, my dad freaks the fuck out as if I just tried to touch his hoard of gold and he was an angry possessive dragon. Fucking madness.

Anyway I forgave him for it. He grew up in extreme poverty, his own dad wasted all the rent money when he was a boy. He came home from school one day, excited to show mom and dad (my grandparents) his good grades. He saw his entire bedroom out on the street, his toys, his comics, his bedsheets, his bed, his whole little world on the street. They were being evicted, and his dad was drunk and yelling, his mom screaming and crying. And what’s worse is the neighbourhood kids flocked like hyenas, taking everything, stealing his toys, his books, his possessions. He had to fight all of them off and got beaten bloody while he tried to defend what was his. The vultures took everything and he was left with nothing except heartache, a broken home, and a bruised body and a mile of humiliation.

So he became a hoarder, obsessed with keeping everything because he fears losing anything ever again.
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>>34077180
>I always wanted to be a normal girl
Hey, your story has touched me, I feel really bad for you, but I just wanted to let you know that no matter how much you try, no matter how much you want it, you will never, ever, unfortunately, be a woman.
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>>34077323
I don’t know what happened in my aunt life to make her this way, but it’s just like you describe it, she was a doctor and she had all the information of all her patients even if they were already dead she had everything in paper and dozens of boxes, I couldn’t move anything without her getting mad.
There’s just so many things on how this has changed me, I am extremely anxious about my own smell and self care, i used to take two showers every day and use lots of products to not have a scent, even though I don’t live there anymore I’m still so self conscious about my body odor, I used to get so uncomfortable when someone was near me because i thought they would smell my house in me,

Thank you for sharing tho, I hope you get out of there soon if you haven’t already :)
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>>34077347
I am tho… lol

Between 2014–2021 I was a huge anime fan. I was a loner with no real life friends (I only had a few people on the Internet I talked to) and I spent my entire days watching anime and reading manga. I used to get absolutely engulfed in the stories, I was getting attached to the characters and had a strong emotional reaction several times when watching/reading something. It was like experiencing an alternate reality since my real life sucked.
Fast forward to today. I'm way better at socializing, I even had my first girlfriend last year, I have multiple friends, I go out with them frequently... But as my life has changed I have also almost entirely stopped watching anime. And whenever I attempt to watch it again today I don't enjoy it nearly as much as I used to. When I try to start a series it takes me months to finish with several breaks and the feelings just isn't there. I kind of miss the enjoyment I used to get from it. Now I'm glad I have a social life and I'm not a loser khhv anymore but when I remember the feelings I used to get from anime I start longing for it. Is there a way to fix this and enjoy it again while not being a loser anymore?
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this happened to me with videogames
now I'm back to hermit life and they're just meh
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i became this way with fiction in general, as i got older and my life got better, i stopped reading and stopped being able to finish books. i found them to be boring, tropey, when i was younger everything was fresh and i was also escaping from a shit home life i had no control over.

i think it's normal to lose interest in things you once used as escapism after you've escaped.
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>>34077248
You can but that doesn't stop it from being a dangerously thin line to tread for a lot of people who are socially anxious and avoidant and hiki tendencies etc to devolve into parasocial escapist manufactured fantasy lands of tailored deres and tropes to itch and tickle their deprived brains. At the cost of lost real life experiences that could've helped them evolve with more self awareness and connections in the real world
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>>34077949
It's a bit of a complicated relationship we have, us versus media of any kind
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>>34077955
Because sometimes one also NEEDS to consoom media otherwise they'll be too out of the loop and be excluded from real life stuff

So I just had a massive disagreement with my father at the family dinner. I said our country is boring, and he exploded and called me ignorant and said I don't know anything of this country. I told him that I've seen enough and it's boring to me. He thought I was projecting but I named him some countries that I don't find boring, like Italy, Japan and Korea. He was screaming at me, my left ear is still fucking ringing.
Anyway, my mom started crying and my aunt told me I was being a cunt and told me she won't come to my birthday dinner because I didn't deserve it now. I told her that's her choice to make.
My father told me I can never accept other people's opinions and that I always enforce my viewpoints onto others. I said no, I don't care about changing your opinions, but I'm still not ignorant and I still find this country to be boring. I told him that he was behaving like a big baby and that he's only angry because he can't control my opinions. I swear, everyone got so worked up about it, lmao.
Then my father told me to leave. I told them to take philosophy classes to have rational conversations. Then I fucking left.
I kinda regret telling them about my life and all that. Had I known that they were just absolute fucking losers... Well, I always knew that, but I thought it was a good idea to eat dinner with them again.
Who was in the wrong here? Should I finally cut them off from my life, even though I had already told them my next life plans? Fuck, I shouldn't have told them about it all. FUCK.
I stood my ground, and I love this rush I'm feeling. That rush of defending myself.
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>>34073199
>I'm already friends with four of them,
>four entrepreneurial people as eccentric as me
I suppose that's possible. I was conflating that with the "golfing yacht bro with super models" but those were separate points. I don't doubt that you know others who are "entrepreneurial" and "eccentric". Although I wonder how they acquired the money to be entrepreneurs.

>I seethe every time I sew their amazing lives on their Instagram stories.
You do know that most of what everyone on social media is engaged in the incredibly brain rotting drone behavior of presenting the best possible fabricated version of best parts of their lives with all the awful bits removed in order to make others think they're happier and more successful? Right?

>wants to be interesting globetrotting entrepreneur
>gets salty over Instagram
I might indeed have a lot of nerve, but I am not far off. I'm "almost always eventually right."
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>>34073199
I forgot:

>How do you know I'm not working towards getting out of this shithole?
Irrelevant to the fact that you lack basic awareness. You'll be the exact same only in a different geological place. Which would be fine if you actually didn't need the great deal of growth and maturity that you're lacking.

>>No country provides elite bros and super models
>What about Singapore? And I know they're not countries, but New York could provide that too.
They *have* them. They don't *provide* them.
A taco truck has seating but it doesn't necessarily provide seating.
The us military has nuclear weapons. They (ideally) don't provide them.
Savvy?
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>>34074167
>I suppose that's possible
You got me, only one of them actively plays golf and only two of them use a yacht, of which only one of them hangs with supermodels all the time (he's gorgeous)

>resenting the best possible fabricated version of best parts of their lives with all the awful bits removed in order to make others think they're happier and more successful?
Yes I already know it's not the full picture of their lives, but that doesn’t make what they have any less valuable.

>>wants to be interesting globetrotting entrepreneur
>>gets salty over Instagram
>I might indeed have a lot of nerve, but I am not far off. I'm "almost always eventually right."
Not far off what? Of course I'm not gonna get salty over Instagram. Look, I'm happy for them. But I want a piece of that cake too. Else I'm fucking angry.

>>34074182
>Irrelevant to the fact that you lack basic awareness.
What kind of awareness, growth and maturity are you talking about? I'll be the exact same, as in what?

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>>34076901
*Of course I'm gonna get salty over Instagram
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>>34076901
*(he's gorgeous and gay)

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>soon to be 27
>khhv, never been on a date
>if I ever manage to date a girl, no matter how much younger, she'll have years of boyfriends and hook ups
Tell me why, and I mean seriously why, I shouldn't do a Christine Chubbuck at this point
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>>34076766
>Clown world, it's society's fault, national conspiracy working against me.
>Really I'm just an agoraphobic neet that doesn't want to work

You're just looking for a grand external narrative when the reality is that it's all your personal choice.

There are millions of people, and anons in this very thread, that work jobs they enjoy for perfectly fine salaries. It's really not that hard to reach a comfortable spot in life. You're just incredibly defeatist for some reason, and you've given up before even trying. It's legitimately some pussy shit.
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>>34076791
it’s funny because the only thing your last post proves is that you are an utter goycattle slave

you literally got angry that a person doesn’t want to work (I didn’t even mention the country Im from like)
and you got MAD about it

and it is understandable
you wake up every day early
like 6 am or something
you take public commute to get to your job site
break your back everyday on barely enough to afford your RENT (you don’t even own, you rent from some boomer landlord goodlifer and finance his lifestyle which is no different to mine lol)
after that you take yet another public commute back to your apartment
and you basically go back to sleep because you are too tired to do anything for the rest of the day



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Thanks for ruining my thread guys
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>>34076808
>guys I'm a retarded lazy self-defeatist subhuman that will wallow in bitterness throughout his entire life, are you MAD?
wew, seek help amigo
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>>34077241
at least I’m not brown
Imagine being all that you listed and have shit colored skin on top of that

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What are the most brutal philosophies and concepts you can recommend to help me develop my "dark" enlightenment school of philosophy?
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>>34073504
Start with this: you are not basically good. You are not even neutral. You are bent. Twisted at the root. Not because society failed you or because your parents hugged you wrong, but because your nature is damaged. You did not choose this damage, which makes it worse, not better. You were born already in debt.
Grace exists, but not because you deserve it. Grace exists because without it you are finished. Not sad-finished. Ontologically finished. You cannot climb out of the hole by effort, insight, aesthetics, or rage-posting. You can stack virtues like trophies and it still doesn’t fix the core rot. Every “self-improvement arc” is rearranging furniture in a condemned building.

Providence or God or whatever you want to call it (I don't give a fuck) is not impressed by sincerity. Hell is not reserved for cartoon villains. Hell is what happens when a finite will insists on itself against an infinite good and is allowed to have what it wants forever. No flames required. Just permanent refusal. Eternal NO locked from the inside.

Forgiveness is not a warm hug.

Forgiveness is annihilation. The self you are attached to does not survive it. To be forgiven means admitting that your justifications are garbage, your excuses are transparent, and your self-image is a lie you tell to keep functioning.

Repentance is not feeling bad.

Repentance is consenting to your own demolition.

Grace does not flatter. Grace humiliates. It arrives precisely where you are weakest, most dependent, most stripped of leverage. You do not cooperate with grace like a business partner. You submit to it like a patient on the table while something sharp goes in. If it feels violent, that’s because it is.

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>>34075289
This was really darkly beautiful, anon... did you use AI?
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>>34074883
>>34074941
I put everything mentioned on watch later list on youtube
>>34074862
I feel like that's kind of toxic, but I'll grok it
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>i need the most brvtal and kvlt philosophy to develop my dark enlightenment... vgh... im too dark and twisted for the likes of normal humans... chatgpt says im so dark and mysterious... so fvcking kvlt...
Graduate from middle school before posting again.
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>>34075749
Butthurt christian detected

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-start conflating horniness and loneliness. i've always been able to feel loneliness and even i get them mixed up
-start telling VIRGINS that we're mistreating our nonexistent boyfriends. i pointed out how genius that gold is, and one of you experts took "I can't mistreat my partner because I'm a virgin" to mean "I mistreat my partner even though I'm a virgin"
-start lying for sex
-start acting surprised that your gf doesn't appreciate you for who you are after lying for sex
-start stealthing
-start ignoring boundaries (like going in fast after she says to go slow)
-start deliberately making sex agonizing for the woman
-start choking women without consent. it causes brain damage including mental health issues and sometimes strokes. this is the reason why girls really should lose their virginities
-start committing rape. the fact that it's usually a woman's boyfriend or husband gives us all the more reason to marry. i've seen one of you experts use the fact that it's usually someone the victim knows... as evidence that sex is safe for women??? wtf?? It all makes sense now.
-start cheating
-start whining about women who want their bfs to not hate them and then getting mad that you can't get a woman to not hate you
-start getting haircuts, unless you're balding, in which case take finasteride
-don't grow sideburns
-start denying how easy it is for a moid to injure a woman
-start calling it your duty to stab women in the ass and rape them in the pussy, only to act shocked that any self-despising woman respects you
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thank you for sharing your seethe, but i ain't reading all that
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>>34075719
Holy shit take your medication

>Don't grow sideburns
Seriously what the fuck are you on?
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yeah girl im femanon but ur unhinged. go to therapy
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>>34076292

I don't get this one either, are we supposed to?
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>>34075719
>unless you're balding, in which case take finasteride
Tranny advice? Take chlorine dioxide CDS instead it actually regrows hair without troony side effects. Better yet, research the full stack because it can be caused by many things. Like wearing polyester, lacking vitamins D3+K2, EMF exposure, toxins, parasites, etc.

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How do I study without thinking about watching porn and masturbating?
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>>34073853
Like idk what that means but it grabs interest and starts out strong and hits hard, with an unexpected, should have seen it was coming ending. All in like one sentence. It is fucking amazing.
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>>34076216
Nigga wht...chainsaw man manga
>who's watching who fag no body gives a fuck what ur lokin up
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>>34076713
Last time I looked up something and it was bad, so, they probably are watching.
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>>34076179
I’m trying to help OP resist the temptation to be distracted.


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