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My brother just fell off the wagon for like the 5th time. He had a pretty bad drinking problem a couple years ago and ended up getting fired because of stuff related to that, then he went to rehab and AA and got a decent job but the exact same thing just happened again. An old friend called him up and I guess wanted to drink and do coke, and my brother just went over there and did it. Then didn't show up to work for two days without saying anything.

I just don't fucking understand this. I don't even know what to say to him anymore. "Ohh man that sucks I'm so sorry" feels pointless after it keeps happening. Maybe just... don't go over there and get fucked up? No one forced him to do it, he had to think about it and then get in his car and go do it. With all the evidence in the world that it would be a terrible idea.

I understand that addiction is hard and a personal struggle, but he's a smart guy. In my opinion he just takes advantage of being the victim since everyone around him lets him write off this dumb shit to his addiction, instead of making it about black and white choices. What do I do? Just sit and watch him fuck up over and over again?
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bump?
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Anyone?? I just don't know what to say to the guy. It's hard to take it seriously after he keeps doing it.
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>>31079987
Sorry OP but pretty much what this guy said >>31079637

I know it's hard as fuck to feel helpless and watch from the sidelines, but the truth is you can't convince him he has to change. Unless he gets there by himself, there's not much you can do.
You can suggest therapy to him, since most addictions have a background of trauma - support him if he goes back to AA and above all don't enable him.
Sorry man, I wish I could tell you otherwise, but that's pretty much it.
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how long was he sober?

alcohol addiction takes like 6 months minimum to get over, it's not just the immediate chemical addiction, it's the lingering psychological attachment/addiction ultimately too
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>>31079561
So what? Its not your problem, just cut him off. Stop being a pussy, what to say to him? Tell him to go fuck himself and never contact you again, you're responsible for anyone other than yourself and your wife and kids. Much less for some grown ass bum. Thats the path he chose in life, are you going to get dragged to hell with him? Just cut him off, learn to be ruthless

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What are some adrenaline or risk taking hobbies? I've been considering mountain biking.
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>>31077445
what a retarded thing to do
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>>31077328
just do mountaineering. its extremely fun, dangerous and you'll see landscapes normal people can't even fathom. it is kinda expensive though, and you must a club with decent enough people, morale is extremely important while you are up there. also you can make money by making normies think that they are mountaineering with you
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>>31077833
Talking to women is something i would never do
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>>31077861
Speaking to females is something i wouldn't consider doing. Too much adrenaline risk.
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>>31077328
skydiving

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I hope this board is a good place to do this, I have exhausted all other resources. I have nowhere to go.
I will really try to be as short as I possibly can be.

>meet this girl
>become extremely infatuated with her. she doesnt feel the same way. She likes me, but I am not interested in just being one of her boyfriends, nor having her be one of my girlfriends.
>Do the right thing (cut contact so that she can be happy)
>a few years pass
>We get into contact again. I confess i have been obsessed with her for years. I tell her she shouldnt be speaking to me but like a coward i dont just ghost her right away.
>Continue having contact with her for about a year. I am extremely unhappy and its rubbing off on her. (she just wants me to be her boyfriend but i am disgusted with the idea of sharing her with her previous and future boyfriends.)
>Currently we are in a period where I need to support her (I cannot simply abandon her right now, she has too much going on and needs someone) but i am very unhappy, all of the time. Its obvious I am in a lot of pain and its wearing her down.

Ive omitted a lot to keep things short. She is now saying that she doesnt want a boyfriend after me, that i have caused her to become disillusioned with regular relationships. I have a few more weeks/months in which i need to take care of her, but after that, i want her to move on and get a boyfriend. I desperately want her to be happy. I worry she is going to spend a few years isolating herself and choosing to be alone as fallout for the way i have acted. How can i prevent this without going insane? I can't set her up with someone... I just can't. I would attack the guy. What do i do? Please, i have no where else to turn, if youre going to tell me to fuck off at least point me in the right direction. I need advice. Also ive never used this board before I am sorry if this is the wrong place.
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>>31077557
>I hope this board is a good place to do this, I have exhausted all other resources. I have nowhere to go.
>I will really try to be as short as I possibly can be.
>>meet this girl
>>become extremely infatuated with her. she doesnt feel the same way. She likes me, but I am not interested in just being one of her boyfriends, nor having her be one of my girlfriends.
>>Do the right thing (cut contact so that she can be happy)
>>a few years pass
>>We get into contact again. I confess i have been obsessed with her for years. I tell her she shouldnt be speaking to me but like a coward i dont just ghost her right away.
>>Continue having contact with her for about a year. I am extremely unhappy and its rubbing off on her. (she just wants me to be her boyfriend but i am disgusted with the idea of sharing her with her previous and
wtf. so you are a special snowflake and aren't able to explain things
how do you not realize you probably have some mental issue? I bet you are retarded and she's taking advantage of you lmao
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>>31076799
>>31077557
You seem retarded and easy to manipulate.
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>>31076799

>meet this girl
>become extremely infatuated with her. she doesnt feel the same way. She likes me, but

Stopped reading here, its enough to tell. You have attachment issues, abandonment wound, low self esteem, you are unhappy with your life and you have no female options

Unless you fix yourself, become self secure proper man, you will suffer no matter what you do. Dating and life itself is a ruthless hard game, you have to play it right
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>>31076799
>I will really try to be as short as I possibly can be.
You failed.
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>>31076799
>extremely infatuated
>like a coward
>i am disgusted with the idea of sharing her with her previous and future boyfriends.
You're very immature and have virtally no self control, we get it.
>Currently we are in a period where I need to support her (I cannot simply abandon her right now
AND you're co0dependent?
FFS, you're really fucking up BOTH your lives, aren't ya'?
>What do i do?
Well, assuming this ISN'T a LARP,
1) leave her
2) grow up

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/biz/ is impossible to use to I'll ask here...

is getting a high rate, long term mortgage a good idea if you already have 90% of the money you need to pay for the house, you will pay a 60% downpayment and plan on either renegotiating it at lower rate or outright paying the remaining 40% in full at some point in the near future? I make enough money to pay for that missing in like 6 months of waging, but I need the money now.

also, would you pay $250k for an old house that, in your opinion, should be priced at $200k because only the lot is worth something (it's in a good location)? a housing market crash seems to be coming in my country, and a particularly bad one in the area where I'm buying... should I just wait, and risk
how does one even "measure" value in houses? who are the professionals that do this kind of shit and are able to tell you if a house is worth it, considering both the house itself and my income? who should I be talking to?
I'm scared as fuck of making a mistake with this house. this touristic city is a fucking shithole but I've lived here all my life... and this is all the money I have for now.

pic unrelated.
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>>31076321
Yeah, that's a good idea, or else you'll end up paying an insane amount of interest for nothing. I just put 150k in a house to bring down the mortgage to 1500$ a month, so around the rate the apartments are going at now. That was about 30ish% downpayment
If you have the money, then go ahead,and make sure you still have plenty. If you can afford it, you could perhaps have it paid faster (less interests) rather than wait 25 years
Keep in mind that they might not let you borrow in some places if the loan is too low, so you might have to settle for a lower downpayment
>also, would you pay $250k for an old house that, in your opinion, should be priced at $200k because only the lot is worth something (it's in a good location)?
That's how the market works unfortunately in most places. Here it's 400k for a basic starter home, 350 and down, either you're lucky, it's a cuckshed or needs major repairs, urrgh
If it's in a good location (for you) and that's convenient, then it's worth it. It will keep its worth too
> a housing market crash seems to be coming in my country
Not sure where you live, but check data. Where I live houses has been basically going up for hundreds of years with a single crash and that's it. Houses will probably be the last thing that crash
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>>31077277
You should have said that in the OP. You mean you'll have to demolish it soon(?) and build a house on top? I don't know where you live, but that can be a handful with laws and shitty bureaucracy not being in your favor. I've heard local stories of some couples losing 70k on some bureaucracy bullshit that had to stop them from building the house that already started
That could be more trouble than it's worth
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>>31076321
NEVER borrow when you don't absolutely have to and ALWAYS look to pay as little interest as you can. If you really have 90% ready, borrow the rest from family or get a short-term personal bank loan. Indeed, if you have 90% in cash, a seller might drop the price 10% just for a quick sale.
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>>31079690
>You mean you'll have to demolish it soon
I'd have to inspect it to know that, but it's an old, deteriorated wooden house.

>Not sure where you live, but check data
I've been doing that for a while. prices fell in 2022-2023, but that was in real terms, not in nominal terms. prices had been growing like crazy since 2012 or so.

>>31079861
>ALWAYS look to pay as little interest as you can
if I pay the debt in full I'd end up paying a fraction of the interest, depending on how early I pay.
buying with a bank as intermediary has its benefits: they would be in charge of checking the papers and giving me a valuation and factibility of buying it.
I'm not ever asking anyone close to me to loan some cash to me, not even joking. also, personal bank loans are more expensive than mortgages.
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>>31076321
You should do it.

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How do I stop chugging almost 1 litre of raw/fat milk daily? This habit started a few months ago and I can't stop. It's so fucking tasty. Is it even okay to drink this much daily? Haven't drank my entire life as much as I'm drinking now Idk why

The only problem I'm facing is that I've gotten fatter by 2-3 kgs and I feel absolutely disgusting though I'm still well within normal BMI. But this is an extra 500 or so of calories....
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>>31080032
Is your bf ok with that?
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>>31080041
Hmm, maybe jogging but not even that burns 500 in 30 mins, only half. I also have to brisk walk (and get sweaty) for almost an hour to burn 250± calories. I guess it depends on how big and lean you are

>>31080045
He is so long as I don't turn into a whale but that standard is pretty low
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>>31080098
Is a girl drinking her own milk cannibalism?
Is a bf drinking his gfs milk cannibalism?
Is it vegan?
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>>31080020
Instead of caring, just start lifting weights and get jacked.
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>>31080020
Get yourself a lactating mommy gf

Some anon said there might be a law to stop the county from steal my house, when I made this thread a day ago.

Of course all other advice is welcome. Thought about creating a nonprofit. Like the old joke, the president lives on government housing.....
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>>31074212
Nah man, I ain’t down with spy’s either, so much. This seems, form what little information I have, to be a no brainer for like, if someone with a little money could buy out your cousin and pay the taxes, take possession of your property, and sell it back to you at a rate that is affordable to you. For a profit, of course. Can’t believe you can’t find someone like that. Like maybe the owner of some local restaurant may dabble in real estate and has a stash available and no hurry to get a good return.
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>>31074298
You can see as you are writing it how soft allt those things are as targets, right? Where do you find that RIGHT NOW? Maybe for next year....the luxury I don't have is time. I can guard shit here, as I'm house bound. Fully guarded highly discounted RV storage? Not that I know anything about that world either....
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Nothing else matters.
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Carrying the fire.
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We cant stop.

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I don’t have dental insurance and am broke, but I have a bunch of important work that needs to get done. I have a dead, broken tooth near the front of my mouth that’s probably going to need to be pulled. All of my wisdom teeth are impacted and also need to come out. An implant or something would also be nice to have, but they’re too damn expensive.
What can I do?
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>>31080204
Ever since I started taking vitamins D3 and K2, I never had a cavity. I also drink trace amounts of borax for boron and epson salt for magnesium. Said to be vital for bone health. I use chlorine dioxide water solution instead of toothpaste.
>Borax
https://archive.org/details/pdfy-1L1-Jixe44schg3A
>Chlorine dioxide testimonials
https://t.me/theuniversalantidote/1990
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>>31080204
Pulling a tooth should be free. If not ask around at a local dental school or something - a student would be glad to have someone to experiment on.
Are you in any pain? If not, you're probably fine. If you are, the cavity probably reached the pulp/there's an abscess/teeth are pushing on each other. Root canals are more trouble than they are worth, get the offending teeth pulled.
If your wisdom teeth are growing horizontally or something it's a cause for concern, otherwise that surgery's just a money sink.
I have all my wisdom teeth and am keeping them against medical advice lol, never had any problems.

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im depressed as fucki
have no friends or family
i have autism and just rotting away with neetbux

I dont know how to get a job

video games are boring
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>>31080307
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZN6m0-UVLro
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWHGYm6UmxI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxLMWbjoGiM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTknLwSkI2k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GrWxHl4WGiY

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>single for a while, do my own things
>Decide to start looking for gf
>Meet a lot of cool girls, go on dates
>Cool girls don't like me, ghost me, reject me for one reason or another
>End up dating girls I'm less enthused about but who really like me so I'll give it a shot and see if something grows
>It never does
>Painstakingly break girls hearts to regain my freedom, peace of mind
>This whole process leaves my routines, habits, mental state in shambles. I gain weight, fall behind at work, etc.
>Spend some time getting everything back in order. Commit to no girls, getting back in shape, improving myself.
>A few months in feel like I'm at a good enough point to start dating again, can't keep putting it off if I want to find a girl and settle down anytime.soon (I do)
>Process repeats

How do I break this cycle?
I don't want any more year long "self improvement" phases. I don't want any more year long situationships or failed relationships.


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I'm learning how to paint (digitally) and I go to the gym. Is it enough to lose virginity at 30 y/o?
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>>31079110
Wacom tried doing that and everyone started pointing out how it was AI.
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>>31076417
>doing two things that have nothing to do with my virginity
>can I have the sex now
I hate froposters so much.
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>>31079132
What do you mean? People always tell me

>look good
>be good at something

Gym and art fill those gaps. Without that, what do I have to offer in the first place?
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>>31076417
Whether or not you can paint is irrelevant to whether you get laid and going to the gym is less relevant than incels make it out to be.

The number one problem keeping most posters on this board from having sex is the fact that they don’t talk to women.
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>>31080004
I went on a few dates in the past decade and shit didn't work. I don't think talking to them is the answer, at least on its own. Anybody can talk to a woman, that doesn't make you attractive

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Is it even possible ? software engineer here but my gf watches shorts on snapchat and stuff and there is no way it was written by a real person. is there a fully automated means to do this and just get money ? i seen some videos about it but they are so vauge i can't help but feel it's snake oil.
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>>31080153
and if so... how ? is it easily done ? am i just an idiot ?
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You have to give it a human touch with editing at this point or its just worthless. AI's output is so much better when you feed it original ideas and good prompts too. It takes effort. AI is just a tool
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Retards falling for the AI meme is pretty insane lol
it is just snake oil, anon.
It all depends on how good of a salesman you are, the product tends to be secondary. Reasons why a keychain of a famous IP sells faster than a good old plain keychain.
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>>31080182
yea i thought so. i just wanna get out of the office life at this point desperately.

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>be me
>19yo supervirgin, no actual experience with guys whatsoever
>meet another virgin thats around my age via discord
>hit it off with him, hes nice and we share hobbies
>ffw few weeks spent with sweet talking and vidya he starts insinuating dating

ISNT IT TOO EARLY? I definitely do enjoy chatting with him but i feel like pursuing something like that right now is pointless. I WOULDNT KNOW, but, isnt it better to form a strong friendship and make sure that this is the person you want to try something with rather than going yolo like this? Or is this some online dating culture im not aware of? Were in different countries too kek
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>>31078361
Isn't is just a matter of labels? Call it "hanging out together" if "dating" scares you.
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>>31078361
>discord ldr
It's nothing
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>>31078361
>Discord virgin in another country

You picked a real winner here.
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>>31078870
>>31079676
it's not necessarily bad although it is true that most of these cases amount to nothing
some of us are too autism to date irl
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nvm anons he asked me to download vrchat its over
>>31078870
>>31079676
fuck you for being right

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I'm starting to catch feels for a hot 24 year old Asian prostitute I've been fucking every week. How do I snap some sense into myself?
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You can't love a dead person. Kill her.

Nice woman on pic rel, by the way. It's just my type of girl. I wish I could see her whole naked body.
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>>31076736
simple: quit seeing her
maybe actually not easy from the sound of it, good luck
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>>31076736
how did you find/meet her?
Ive always wanted to try this
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>>31078264
she'll always be a whore, you can't undo your body count
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That's it. There is no way any of you people are real.

do people really care about mental health these days? ive been underperforming at work which worsened my depression to the point where im borderline suicidal. should i try to ask for some time off or just quit? i work in software.
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>>31079032
that's... not how it works
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It's not profitable to care about mental health
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>>31079083
it is. its situational depression vs clinical depression, one being caused by your situation and the other being a chem imbalance but go off faggot
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>>31079083
>that's... not how it works
Yes it is. Most depression is a logical response to shit life circumstances, which, when fixed alleviate the depression.
There was a study done on male suicide cases that found that between 40-60% of men who were suicidal had no mental illnesses - their life was quite literally shit and opting out was logical conclusion for them.
You can only call it actual depression when you have most areas in your life going at least all right (not even all at the same time even) and you still want to kill yourself. That's when you go for meds.
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>>31079070
Get off, you will build physical dependency like crack.

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Alright, listen up, anons. I've been trying to wrap my head around this whole Gen X humor thing, but I'm starting to think there's more to it than just jokes. It's like they're living in some alternate reality where dark humor reigns supreme.

Their jokes are so twisted and self-deprecating, it's like they're all in on some inside joke that we just don't get. They're constantly poking fun at themselves and their whole "slacker" vibe, and it's honestly kind of unsettling.

But here's the nigger: they're using the internet like it's their personal diary, sharing all sorts of dangerous stuff like it's no big deal. I'm talking about TikTok challenges that involve playing with fire or risking serious harm. It's like they don't realize the consequences of their actions.

So, what's the deal, anons? How do we make them understand that the internet isn't just a playground for their dark humor and dangerous stunts? Should we try to intervene and educate them, or is it better to just let them figure it out on their own?
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you made this thread in chat gpt
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>>31080270
What is Chatgpt?


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