>>31691685
Stop being weak minded. Refuse to accept allergies from felines.

bump for better advice

theres gotta be something

>>31693767
>Though I suppose the next question is, how can I fix this? If I was able to become confident enough to not worry about the thoughts of others, then I would've gotten out of this situation long ago.
Well, maybe see it in a neutral light rather a bad one. Maybe your brain knew what you had needed and only looked to others so much because you felt that they could tell you who you are. Like using the audience (people you meet) as a mirror for you to try and piece the puzzle together. Only the puzzle always had a missing piece, right? Something always felt missing, bit like a void? That missing piece is (you) shaped. You are your own missing piece. That is you.

So with that in mind, the next logical step is: be good to yourself. Understand where you’ve been, what you’ve gone through, and what you are facing today and treat yourself with the same kindness you’ve been giving to others. That’s how OP.

I only skimmed the previous answers so sorry if I'm repeating something that's already been said, but this topic hits home. I spent a good chunk of my life so depressed that I can't even recall most of it. I did get proper medication to help me with my mental health issues after I reached a breaking point, but my personality at that point was basically shit and shallow.

What helped me the most was embracing and accepting that I'm starting from complete zero. Like a complete overhaul of everything I've known about myself up til then. I picked up random hobbies, and dropped them quickly if I didn't like them. I started trying out food left and right, I listened to a wide range of music, I went to shopping centres just to try on tons of different clothes. This also helped me figure out things I hated, which is an equally important part of a personality. It took me a few years to get a better grasp of "myself", but I think I'm getting there.

I also got into philosophy a bit to help me define my thoughts and values about the world, since my worldview before that was shaped by pain and thoughts I didn't experience anymore.

I also learned to interact with people from complete zero by reading books and guides. I can hold a conversation with strangers and friends now where both sides enjoy it.
And by talking to different people, I figured out what kind of person I want to and don't want to be.

Also, there is no "true" self per se. You are perceived differently by every single person that ever meets you, and if they described you back to you, you might not even recognize yourself. You might think of yourself as uninteresting and shallow, but to someone whose background is completely different, you might be incredibly interesting. Even the things you like and dislike might change over time, so there's no point to stressing over it too much.

>>31695056

What I'm trying to get at is basically this: trying to replicate a "you" from the past isn't all that helpful, focus on the "you" that you can be now. Things you don't need/want can be left in the past, and that will make room for new things you want now. The "you" that you are right now is things you do, want, and need now.

>>31690395

How about you try some non social hobbies to develop, like: reading, writing, puzzles, building models, etc. choose them on a whim and commit to them for a while in order see if you like them or not; change them if you want after a while. that way you will learn what you like and don't like. however, to avoid the problem of your undefined personality, make the vow of not talking about them or displaying the activity or its results in any way. I mean complete secrecy about them, not even a commentary to a co-worker or family member.

>>31695074
nta but to someone who went through the same thing, thanks this helps a ton.

>>31692583
>so isolated and such a loser he thinks shit tests are real
You will never have a gf

shit tests are real and women do them til 30 because they have the advatage, dating even out then til like 40 at which point men get the advantage and date younger or shit test women their age

>>31695545
>>31695551
Well now I don't know what to believe

>>31695610
it's just something people with options do to reduce their options unironically, young me shittest women if half their generation dies in a war

>>31695626
young men* shittest

>>31693817
I live in a country where public transit is pretty big so we did a lot of stuff in trains. Things like me fingering her to completion in a train car that wasn't too busy, or fucking in the toilet right before a busy stop so the moment we came out together all the people sitting near pretty much knew what just happened but couldn't do much about it. We did a lot of stuff out in nature like having a romantic picnic in a field and then fucking up against a tree in a high-traffic area just off the trail. I would also regularly make her wear skirts without panties when we went out in public. One thing we never did but always wanted to do was getting one of those remote control vibrators so we could use it on her in public. We also did some stuff a couple times behind closed doors but with friends present in the room, like me fingering her under a blanket while we were watching a movie, or very quietly having sex while friends were sleeping in the same room. Though I will say that is an easy way to lose friendships. That said, all of that stuff turned her on like you wouldn't believe, but she was very submissive so I'd always have to suggest it and make the first move. If your girl is as you've described her she'd probably be into a lot of the same stuff if you suggest it to her. You're in for the time of your life, anon.

>>31690798

I don't understand why brunettes are always dying their hair different colours like picrel. Can they not just be comfortable in their own skin? Red doesn't suit.

>>31693884
Ok that’s really exciting to hear haha, yeah I recently told my gf that we should try out some new stuff, like maybe stepping up our public sex game, and she was like “YESSS FINALLY!!” (cuz in the last I haven’t been as into it as she has been). Ideally, somewhere down the line, I’d love for her to start posting on GoneWild and stuff like that, cuz I know she’d be a massive hit

>>31694411
godspeed anon.

>>31694426
Thanks bro, nervous but excited

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>>31695326
This is what I'm doing. I can't figure it out. I need a framing that makes me stop thinking about it like a loser. Help me anons?

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>>31695365
Picrel.

>>31695368
The same advice (>>31695365) applies to you.

>>31695373
I try but I can't. My rumination is based on reality and I see the person every week. They know. I know. For meditation to work, I need to become somewhat schizophrenic and I don't want to do that. My life is good. I just need help not ruminating. I was fine for so long before this kvldjfalnsojKFNALKVSCX,

>>31695402
I was referring to the rumination when I wrote about letting it go.A chain of thoughts and feelings leads from the cue of seeing or thinking of the person and the guilt. The breath meditation (in my experience) makes one consciously aware of such chains as like a row of upright dominos tipping against one another. The non-meditator typically doesn't have that experience but instead they are fully involved with the thoughts and feelings. Becoming consciously aware of them as objects made me more able to let them go.

>>31695136
Huh. You're my type of idiot.

>>31695136
kek. Well Ig never goon

>>31695136
Lmfaoooo

Hi,

I hope you are doing well. Apologies for my late response; I was not feeling well for the past few days due to the recent storm.

I have decided to withdraw my application due to some personal commitments I have made with my family. I apologize for the inconvenience and appreciate your understanding.

Once again, I would like to thank you for your time and consideration.
Best regards,

What do you guys and gals think? Is it too much? It feels like I'm breaking up with someone kek

>>31697301
No worries! Do you have weather proofing for windows and doors?

>>31697280
Thunderbolts and lightning, very very frightening.

>>31697310
Helic- dammit, this is a sex joke, isn't it?

Women why cant you pass a mirror without posing in front of it?

>>31694955
With girlfriend*

I'm not a dog

Bump

>>31693087
except those are photos of physical checks. His checks are digitally sent to him

>>31691775
Clearly he isn't, whatever his calendar age.

>>31691943
>none of the douchebags in my life want to help me
Once you hit 18 nobody else has any responsibility towards you, you are on your own. So stop being a fucking child and start adulting, dumbass.

>>31691681
>zoomie doesn't know how to set up direct deposit
fucking GRIM lmao

Hey all, OP here. Just wanted to say I made a few phone calls and got everything sorted out.

>>31695331
She was really worried and scared cause my temp wasn't going down

>>31695338
Take care of yourself then.

>>31695362
Keep In touch on disc was it that dangerous

>>31695395
Aren't you on youtube?

>>31695458
No

>>31686272
kek. castrate that lil beast, if not he could get aggressive. Also, u better brush ur teeth

>>31686125
I honestly hope this is fake.

>>31686125
Youre not evil, youre just mentally ill like all women.

This is a troll post

>>31686125
FAAAAAAAKKKKKEEEEEE

and gay
fuck off either way

>>31695061
If you're tall and handsome. They find you.
If they don't find you. You're not tall and handsome.

>>31694141
short answer: Nothing

>>31694663
>but romantically, they'll almost guaranteed be alone

cope. if its a neet chad he wont

>they will never own anything of value, always being at the mercy of others

same goes for basically everyone and especially business owners. they dont really own anything, it's someone else who controls the territory (the government and army) and has the final say. only an insanely good prepper with a secret bunker or something can not be at the mercy of others.

>>31694663
>A trust fund rich boy has all money needs taken care of, but usually find their lives spiritually bankrupt and emotionally dissatisfying surrounded by hanger-ons and vipers ready to jump in and take everything from them at the first sign of weakness. Many drink or drug themselves to death to escape the very real misery of that life.

that is a cope too in my opinion, in fact, from what i've seen, rich kids tend to believe that they deserve what they have and have no advantage over most people, because they overcame some challenge their parents gave them (which is why I think it's a horrible idea for the parents to do that), for example his dad may say "i will not give you the money for your business, i will lend it to you and you have to pay it back like anyone else". obviously it's not the same, but then the kid may think anyone haves it as easy as him

i only know one guy from rich parents who is a NEET and miserable and it's for different reasons

>>31695386
>if its a neet chad he wont
Doesn't happen. If you're a chad, you don't need to be a NEET for free money, people funnel you towards do-nothing high-paying jobs at big firms like "marketing secondary team lead of sales" where your job is just being charismatic and presenting your underling's work once every two weeks on a dashboard, before everyone goes out for drinks and strippers.

This kind of easy work is highly available for someone who's a chad, and it strictly outcompetes government bennies in terms of pay, prestige, and ease of getting laid.

>only an insanely good prepper with a secret bunker or something can not be at the mercy of others.
Yeah but there's a stepwise difference between
>you can do essentially whatever you want with your money, and if you've got a passport and the cash for a ticket, you could be basically anywhere in the world you want within the next 24 hours
and
>you fucking pray the person evaluating your disability claims is the same guy, still thinks you're too retarded to work, and that you've got enough money saved up this month to buy some slightly better ramen instead of cheapo maruchan
in terms of "how much control you actually have over your own life".

>i only know one guy from rich parents who is a NEET and miserable and it's for different reasons
Different wealth tiers probably, this is mostly at the 10-100m level of wealth.

>>31694847
I make a lot of money.
I got a STEM degree, graduated at almost the top of my class, and got a job at one of the highest paying companies in my industry.
Just do that.

>>31695093

I'm not good with math. I'm alright at science.

Idk. I don't think I could make it in STEM. I need something better than a goy job anyway. That's why I'm looking for a mentor.

>>31695101
Start learning a good paying trade, you need money to make a lot of money.

>>31694847
Like how much is a lot of money? If you just want to live a comfortable lifestyle and support a family you can do that by going to college/trade school and going into a career field that pays well.

If you want to be rich (like a millionaire) you need to find a way to turn money into more money, which is usually done through using debt in a way that makes enough money to pay off the interest. For example, using your house as collateral you get a million dollar loan from the bank, which you use to purchase a tour boat. You use this tour boat to sell tours to tourists, the profits of which allow you to pay off the loan and purchase an additional tour boat, allowing you to sell even more tours. You turned the value of your house (lets say ~200k) into 1 mil (the bank loan), which turned into several million (proceeds from business - business expenses - loan - loan interest).

The easiest method for you to make a lot of money would be to work for a small/medium sized business (like a tour company), learn about the industry while working, then open your own competing business in that industry/take over the business after the owner retires.

There really isn't a consistent way to make a lot of money, otherwise a lot more people would be rich. You'll need capital/collateral to get going and get loans from the bank, so start saving now and you can maybe be a millionaire in ~20 years.

>>31695426

Bump

>>31694487
Sounds like parents nicely asked you to do some chores and mentioned that you need to get a job and you've exaggerated it to make it sound like they're beating you and abusing you...

>>31694487

i feel you bro that sucks. i hope you're not trolling bc i took it seriously and feel super bad about you. like no one deserves that. parents should be supportive

idk what to do in your specific situation, you're the one who knows all the circumstances, but my parents are abusive too, and I think the main thing you need to do here is to become self sufficient, leave, and, very important: once you leave, don't be visiting them, talking to them... and just pretending that they're ok parents like a cuck. none of that. cut them out of your life entirely

for as long as you're stuck with them, the go to strategy in this situation that psychologists seem to recommend is to just not react at all and not show emotion when they do this. apparently they do it to get a rise out of you and they'll stop. though tb h i think if i had to live my teen years again and be at my parents house again, i'd probably just try to make their lives hell too. like for example when my dad starts calling me a faggot and just humiliating me, i would call him a coward, a pussy or whatever hurts his ego the most, and when he gets violent pull out a knife. and with my mom i would pretend to go into autistic rage and be super annoying so that she just would not want to mess with me anymore because it just wouldnt be worth it.

>>31695226
yes definitely, everyone's parents are just like yours, if they're not they must be lying

i guess you vote democrat and when someone gets his shit stolen by a nigger you'll say he made it up because that doesn't happen in your middle class neighborhood

>>31694487
>What should I do?
Sounds like you should take their hints and get a job lol.

>>31694487
Yeah being unemployed is bad long term, you need to get a job if you want to escape your parents. Ask them if they know of any open jobs/ have any friends looking to hire someone. Use nepotism to increase your chances of getting a job. Try to find a way to get in your parents good graces so they stop being abusive to you.

>>31695183
Missed second sentence: Can you give me advice on how to do it?

>>31695183
More to the point: Give an example of something you want to get over and I'll give you a reframe to try.

>>31695183
didn’t work for me

>>31695183
This just sounds like cope or gaslighting with extra steps.

>>31695183
>>31695184
Give a concrete example (e.g. an issue from your life) so I can illustrate the steps you can take.