I've been trying to quit for 3 years now. I think I only got worse. Just this summer I lasted a month (not uncommon for me when I get burned out), but then the usual depressive state hit me (flatline?) and after wrestling with it for a week I caved in as usual. >Porn burned out my brain so I don't enjoy anything and hate my life>Hate my life and don't enjoy anything so I willingly go back to itHow the FUCK do you stop this, preferrably without fixing your life because I don't know how to do that either.>Just work out and eat healthyDoesn't have anything to do with porn, never helped. Also I don't like working out.>Get a gf / make friendsI don't want a gf and never enjoyed anyone's company>Block it on your routerI have and then I unblocked it. Besides, there's too many workarounds>Willpower etc etcI have none, never had any and never will.>HobbiesNothing is fun and I couldn't care less. I assume this is a side effect of porn addiction, so I'd have to actually quit and recover first.>EasypeasyComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I learnt a valuable lesson , never get overconfident, I hadn't done it In more than a month and I started giving out advice on how I quit porn, only for me to relapse a few days ago, lesson learnt, don't get overconfident and with gods help I shall suceed
>>33737027I felt no difference. I just become emotionless and don't care for anything.>>33737034But my brain is completely blown out, no? I don't enjoy anything but porn. I don't want to do anything at all. I don't think any diet can really fix that. Otherwise.. yeah, I enjoy it a tad bit too much.>>33737085Normalfag>>33737611Bizarre post, but best advice so far. Maybe jerking off to nothing will break the conditioning and help in the long run. Thanks...
>>33736959When you realize it's completely fake, and those women are just unhappy prostitutes making dumb sound effects for your pitiful amusement, it takes all the enjoyment out of it
>>33737997I don't jerk off to real women, nor do I listen to sound effects while doing it.
>>33736959You need to get a hold of yourself and grow up. You want willpower? Work on it. Actually work on it. Yes it's going to be difficult. But it will get easier. That's how life works.
First time posting here so please be kind anons, as im asking something very degenerateIn a loving relationship now with GF for 2 years, shes super nice, conventionally attractive, wife material basically. I dated someone before her ("ex") who was not as conventionally attractive face-wise (I had friends tell me I could do better, but no such comments now with my current gf), but she was very good in bed and had a crazy body (huge boobs on a slim tight frame, toned ass from doing ballet). We'd have sex a couple times a day, EVERYDAY. Compared to my current gf, who I only have sex with once a week. Bad thing about my ex was, ex was bat shit insane like cutting herself bc of what I said that she mistook as offensive, had like 20+ bodies, smoked and drank every day and was generally not a healthy person.But I was super attached to her, and i still cant help but think about her even when im with my current gf. Current gf is not great at sex, shes alright, but nothing crazy and exciting like I experienced with ex. Ashamed to admit I still have an album of ex's photos and videos I still coom to when I think of her. We ended on really bad terms.What do i do anons-- be happy with current gf who i will likely marry and be generally happy with, or reach out to psychotic ex who had the best body and gave the best sex I've ever had?Pic semi-related, ex had the same look and personality as kurumi from date a live
>>33738818You're asking us if you should cheat on the woman you intend to marry?
>>33738818If you only already have sex only once a week then she isn't wife material. It will only get worse.Don't go back to your ex either.
>>33738846Yes. Or alternatively if ex is worth breaking up with gf to meet again
I don't wanna leave my house but i also don't want to be a parasite (Can't get tard bucks either since i live in a third world country)
Well, the remote jobs are drying up fast and being replaced by AI, but you probably need some skills and previous experience.
>>33735489>i live in a third world countryyeah its over
>>33735489Get to america first, then complain. You got bigger problems than being a virgin.
>>33736845or an unemployed parasite
>>33736845I don't mind being a virgin, i just picked a random image
Why does it make normies mad i dont engage in their weird humiliation rituals?
>>33738547Normies don't care what you do. You're invisible to them.
I won't read thinly veiled /r9k/ threads.
>>33738567looking people in the eye and having conversations
>>33738547Accepting the hazing shows that you care enough about the prestige of the group or persons involved to sacrifice your pride for membership.You rejecting that highlights the fact that they didn't have enough self respect to do the same. And/or you don't care about them or their groupIt's narcissistic injury
Learn the difference between someone making a joke about you and making you into a joke
>be foreign tourist >about to leave cafe>throw out the napkins I used>fold paper box together>forget to throw out paper box, leave it on the tableShould I call the cafe and apologize? I hated when roommates forgot to flush the toilet, so I feel bad
>>33738800sure go for it
I feel stuck. Here in Canada the price of rent is too high for the quality of the living space and jobs are only where the rent is high. I could at a 100% build a better house/appartement than what is being rented in the city but I can't afford land where the jobs are and propably not even where the job aren't and I don't know what to do. I live in this shit place without any hot water and I spend all my paycheck on this shithole. I feel stuck and don't know what to do, any ideas?
>>33736970There is nothing you can do. There's a reason homelessness skyrocketed the last few years. You're screwed, just like many others. Historically, people looked for partners to help pay rent and survive. So look into that, but beware that you'll have to settle to some poor and ugly woman. Alternatively, you can go homeless and still work at your job. This way you'll be able to save some money. But depending on where you are, winter might be too harsh to handle.People usually try the first option but end up with the second. Then, they slowly start using drugs because life just sucks.
>>33736970Have you tried mass deportations?
>>33736970How about get a place that isn't $1300 a month for a year or so and move somewhere for about half that so you can save up? Maybe sacrifice your good living for a while so you can save up. Meanwhile, you'll get to live around us poor, fun peasant folks for a time.
>>33737136This. I moved to an area over an hour away from a major city about five years ago. The neighbours are nice, the neighbourhood is quiet, there's more space to work with, and there's plenty of hiking trails near me. At first glance, the long commute is horrible. But that's time you can spend decompressing before actually arriving home. Of course, this depends on how comfortable your commute is. Mine is mainly by train, which is pretty comfy.
>>33736981>>33737028yes... but I seem like the only one who thinks this way. I'll probably do something about it but I'll be alone and won't do much change and won't live to see what I have achieved. >>33737136isnt 1300 everywhere? I look away and it's still 1300>>33736990>>33736999I'm not living with anyone Ill end up killing them.
I've had this phenomenon happen to me where whenever I abstain from masturbating for a week or more, and then go back to it, the masturbation feels almost ticklish at first before quickly growing into extreme pleasure and an uncontrollable orgasm.Has anyone else had this happen to them? And if so, how long do you usually have to abstain before it happens?
Anyone?
>>33737861why not just stop it altogether?>stopped fapping june 6th this year and never relapsed
>>33737861You already made this thread
Hi guys. I’m 35. I will be honest, I’m a good looking and tall guy and was kind of popular growing up. I’m also kind of smart and went to a good college. I feel like I got a good hand in life genetically. I’m also a nice guy to people. My weakness is that I’ve had some demons and anxiety and have some financial stress and drink too much. But I have a good job. I went to high school in a small town and have an old friend/acquaintance who is kind of like an angry dweeby nerdy guy. He is very smart and makes a lot of money but he has a hard time getting women and might be a bit Aspergers or something. Don’t ask me why we stayed friends. I guess I see the good in him and appreciate that’s he’s intellectual. We had a business idea together and I did most the work. I ended up dropping out of the business idea because he was being too disrespectful. He told disrespectful stories about me to my gf and has said other disrespectful things. For years he’s been working on himself but he has this fantasy of being like Suge Knight and doing 48 laws of power stuff and getting rich. It’s part of his demons. I personally don’t think he’s ever going to make it big like he wants. He makes everyone feel disrespected, even when people are good to him. Recently he sent me a text screenshot of some loser burnout guy from 20 years ok mentioning me to him in a low key condescending way, asking how I’ve been but using an old disrespectful nickname this loser guy had for me back in the day. He knows I don’t want to associate with people from high school from 20 years ago but I feel he’s doing weird power dynamic manipulator stuff because he’s angry. It really got under my skin. He did get a gf recently and I hoped it would make him happier/cooler but he’s still thinking weird power stuff. He is a parent. I’m not. He’s implied that he wishes he could experience what I have socially. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Do jobs still drug test for pot?
>>33735868Some still do, but definitely not as much as they used to. It's mostly corporate, more important jobs that do it now like for police officers, firefighters, doctors, white collar execs etc. They don't really do them for entry level, minimum wage, or fast-food jobs anymore. I know Chipotle and most McDonalds don't drug test or background check. Neither do most local diners or warehouses. They'll be gone completely within the next 10 years along with background checks but there will always be places that do.
>>33736777Sucks for you, pig.
>>33735868I won't read stoner threads.
Yes, even in Canada where it’s federally legal
>>33735868You could have googled this instead of wasting a thread.
(1/2) I’m devastated once more due to problems with my ex boyfriend. >he broke up with me 1 month and half ago because he wants to finally accomplish his dream of flying out of the country and was feeling depressed and stagnant >this was our second round that lasted for 6 months because we split on february too>this time I thought it was definitive because he’s the type to respect his word and ignored me to oblivion when we first broke up and tried to contact him for one week >I deleted messages, pictures, phone numbers and cut contact with his family and people related to him>I was basically determined to heal and didn’t want to know anything about him and viceversa >he texted me 2 weeks ago because the guilt was consuming him, he couldn’t sleep and eat and wanted to know how I’m doing >we had a 20 min call where I told him I wasn’t resentful or bitter, that I wished him the best but I didn’t want to come back because I can’t trust him anymore >he agreed and said he wanted to spend time with me until he leaves the country >was insecure at first but I told to myself “I have nothing to lose” and that this will give me the closure I didn’t know I needed>we have seen each other a few times a week>he has stated that I’m the love of his life but he doesn’t feel man enough to give me what I need >"I needed to be selfish to improve myself so I can be the man you deserve and get back together one day” (we talked about a period of 1 to 3 years)>he elaborated about this in a long letter he wrote me >bittersweet but okay, I decided to continue this process until the end Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33734116I've read all of it. I've been through 10+ breakups to figure out what's wrong with my relationship. I've been convincing myself I could work things out in the end I finally know why.I'm sorry to hear what you've been through. Here's what I have to say about your case. I'm a guy myself and I can already tell his POV. You're a really nice person for giving him a chance but its time you have to let him go. He's lying and manipulating you.He's trying to find a better woman of his life if not he goes back to you. Better to have someone than no one as they say. You on the other hand got no one else as you heal but the reason you're hurt is because of him that you want him back. You need to find a new boyfriend or get rid of him in your life. You gave him enough.His words means nothing just woo you over back to him. The fact he already planned to cheat on you is the thing you already need to know despite going back at it after a break up.
>>33734124>I can see by his words and actions that he loves me deeply.His words may suggest that he does, but his actions strongly suggest that he doesn't. The overall impression I get from this is that he hasn't a clue what he wants. I think possibly he also likes the *idea* of being with you more than he likes actually being with you.I think you know, deep down, that the two of you don't belong together. And it's you who is going to have to make a clean break here, because he doesn't have the ability to: he'll leave for a while because it's not get working, then get bored or horny and want to come back. It's going to have to be you who doesn't let him.
>>33734267>>33734340This is so hurtful to read because I guess is the true. We saw last time on Sunday and we accorded to not talk through chat so I’m here being a ball of anxiety waiting for his call to see each other again. I was thinking of seeing him today to end this weird situationship because I can’t stop thinking about the other girl and how all feels like a lie now.
>>33734124I wasn't able to read this since I assumed it wasn't part of the green text. The (2/2) looked like a date when it had no space next to the paragraphs. The other anons here might have not read it as well.>I gave him everything, from acts of service to great sex I’m certain he enjoys a lot. He knows I love and desire him and I fear that validation is what he’s craving for right now that he’s mentally unstable and preparing to leave his comfort zone.He had told me multiple times how he will never forget me because I’m his first love. So unconsciously I’m getting excited about the idea of meeting again and starting from 0 when we’re both better version of ourselves. I have never loved a man this way. I love him beyond the surface. I don’t care how he looks or what he has. I just wanted to get old together and come back to a home where I know he will be waiting for me.>I told to myself “I have nothing to lose”Yes you are losing. The love that you wanted isn't there. This is your expectations of him controlling you. It's NOT him doing what you wanted right at the start so you're just fantasizing over it when it's not real.>I just wanted to get old together and come back to a home where I know he will be waiting for me.You already know what your wants and needs yet you still think otherwise. He is in the wrong but you're also in the wrong too allowing this to happen. He's not only lying but you're also lying to yourself. You have NO ONE ELSE that's why you're fine going through this but you're just wasting time here loving someone who will abandon you anytime.
If none of this matters to you or any losses then you would have been fine doing "friends with benefits altogether" but your words above is opposing that idea. He's not the guy you wanted and you're fantasizing that he will be. Your love is deserved by someone else or rather not spent to someone like him as he won't return it to you. Even if he returns it he'll do it to someone else also which causes you problems. He's not going to wait for you entirely but for someone else to show up who is interesting to him.IF YOU WANT TO EVER GOING BACK ON SOMEONE:>1. That person has to make up for their mistake.>2. Provide TWICE the benefits than the drawbacks.>3. Acknowledge every mistake they make and fully understand your needs and wants.Out of those above, he doesn't meet most of it. It's just about him not understanding anything. You're so understanding yet he doesn't understands you. There's no rebound for your relationship I can assure you that. Your love is deserved by someone else. If someone else doesn't exist then just save your time and energy for something else worth your time, energy and emotions than spending it to the wrong person.
Previously on /atoga/ - >>33735433
>>33740758Nepal
>>33740777My answer was correct thoTerrible trips
>>33740777Wasted trips on a fucking ESL non-white
>>33740758M, the former is more likely. Conjunction fallacy, I think it’s called.
Women, would you rather be stock in an elevator with a man or a bear?
How often should a loner leave their home to socialize with the outside world so they don't feel the need to self-harm/medicate?>Axxing for a fren … maybe.
you'll often need to interact with someone if you need to buy alcohol
>>33735664Leave your home and go where? To socialize with who? Why do you young people think like this lol? There's nothing out there dude. Socializing is done on social media now bro, and going against that just makes you look weird and autistic. Learn the way, then get good at it. Lose all these ideas from 1999 as if people still go out to socialize. We aren't in that world anymore dude idk what you people don't get about that.
>>33735664>How often should a loner leave their home to socialize with the outside world As much as you feel like? Aren't you in charge of yourself?>so they don't feel the need to self-harm/medicate?This is a thing based on your diagnoses. Self-harm is not a normal mechanism, whatsoever. Self-medicating is also stupid.
>>33736988Don't listen to this supreme retard. His dubs confirm autistic rage.
I won't read imaginary problems thread
hi, 4chan. This is my first post on this board. I think this is the only place where people could understand me. I need help with my ex.in 2022, i've met a girl online from Russia (im from different country), we we're close friends for a while, but started to date in middle of spring. The problem is, she is very weird. She didnt mind dating me while i was underage, she stalked my every action, my every social media. I will skip a breakup and few other moments and go onto 2024.She was 18, while i was 15, and the "stalking" that i've mentioned before gone more intense. Every time i would go online - she would start monitoring my every action. What games i play, who im talking with, what music i listen - everything. After a month of dating, she broke up with me, but the problem stayed. We stopped talking at all, but she continued stalking my medias. Everything. Steam profile, discord, telegram, game platforms. In this year, 2025, i've tried to commit suicide (because im a retard), and because of that - she decided it was a good idea to search up my every friend, or ask random people from irl or my social medias to go up and check on me. She didnt knew where i lived, but in the end, my close (to that moment) friend decided to call me and meet me irl. When i came back online, when i finally started feeling myself much better - in 3 am, in the middle of the night she messaged me out of nowhere. The message was "dont do anything stupid anymore.".First of all, since im a pussy, i got a panic attack, and second of all, what the fuck? Why now? Why cant she let it go?She is still stalking all my medias that she got accsess to. Maybe im too paranoic. But im still scared. Rn we didnt spoke up in 2 months, and i hope it will stay that way. She has a thing going that she comes back in 3-4 months to "be your friend again". And, even if i try blocking her, she has alot of accounts i dont know about. I need your advice of any sorts. Thank you alot.
>>33738129Might be a symptom of schizophrenia where you think someone is obssessed with you without having tangible proof. How do you know she is stalking all your accounts?
>>33738162Well, i was kinda a retard, and because of that posted alot of important infromation on my medias that im gone n shit (i regret this too much). She checks my telegram channel posts, and i know that because 1) she told me 2) my 2 "friends" are only subscribers to that channel, and i dont sit in any groups that could boost my posts views to 15. One of my posts was reposted, and there was no reason to that at all. Like, i didnt spoke with anyone on TG, especially to people who could repost anything anywhere that it would get 135 views. I need to also add the fact that she herself told me that "i couldnt stop thinking about you" before, in this year. Thank you alot for replying :)
>>33738208Then maybe she is the one suffering from schizophrenia. There is a symptom where the patient gets obssessed with someone and starts stalking. I don't know the circumstances of your breakup to say exactly. But in general you should stay away from psychotic women like that. Also keep in mind that there are bots who crawl telegram so this can boost the view count drastically.
>>33738302>I don't know the circumstances of your breakupShe told me that, quote, she doesnt feel like a girlfriend with me. Disregarding the fact that i was near her every time she needed, the fact that i tried as much as i could to help her, and the fact that i started saving cash to buy a trip to Russia.And about obsession part, after we broke up for the first time, her coping mechanisms, ig, decided to start dating people and waste a month on them ( i confronted her once about that, and she told me she didnt want to feel "alone" and wanted "love" ). The people she dated usually had alot of my features, curly or long hair, into tactical stuff, and after i introduced her to my favourite band ( that she listens to even now ) - she started liking Rock. Before she usually just listened to pop music.I dont know if im stupid or she has something wrong with her.
Anons, help me with this little problem. Basically, I tried to have sex with my partner, and she said it hurt a lot, even to the point of tears, and we stopped because of the pain. Another day, months later, we decided to try again, and once again she felt pain, and she said it even hurt with my fingers. This time I brought lube, and it helped. I was able to enter much further than I did last time. The bad part was: When we tried it the last time, I was able to enter 100% and we didn't even move. I just put it in and she pulled it out really quickly, because of the unbearable pain she was feeling. There was foreplay for both of us, there was lube, and she was the one who called, so I think she was mentally prepared.Tell me what you think this is and how I can solve it...
My girlfriend was way too nervous during the first few times we had sex so it was painful for her, I suspected sexual trauma but she never said, her own solution was to get drunk each time to loosen up, after half a year she became comfortable enough with me that she no longer needed alcohol and we have had great sex since.
>>33733351She just needs to put up with the pain for a few times and things will stretch out.
>>33733351I wouldn't put up with this. You're not going to be a life long ATM banking machine for a woman that can't fuck because OWiE my snatch hurts! Seriously, just drop it off at a mall with $20 to go shopping and never come back to pick her up. Change the locks at home and have all her shit packed up and ready to move on the lawn. The sooner you get rid of her, the sooner you can fuck real pussy.
>>33733607>Sounds like vaginosisI think you meant "vaginismus". Vaginosis is a bad smelling infection.>>33733351Anyway, yeah, OP: this sounds very much like vaginismus. You should get her to see a gynaecologist to confirm that there isn't anything more serious going on. Assuming there isn't, you should then talk to a sex therapist. You should be aware that vaginismus is sometimes not treatable, and even when it is, it takes a LONG time. So you need to resign yourself to the fact that PIV sex is not going to happen any time soon, and maybe not ever.https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
>>33737579lmao
Wy do alll fwswe broqniwa get so offended anymore about gender expressions, why do so many males go against females that im self destrictive go against them?, like i'am niow feels like heaven, i feel like i will persist even after the enivetable the end, pls chanz help me, how do i regain consciousbess
