In my early twenties and I want little out of life. I don't have any desire or motivation. I have no friends and don't want any, few hobbies, a boyfriend sounds nice in theory if he was almost an exact male version of me but I doubt someone like that exists and I don't think I feel sexual attraction. I'm not happy but not unhappy, my small joys come from little things like nice meals. I can make myself a little motivated to do something with my life by imagining myself eventually having a sweet Disneylike romance with a guy and me being stylish and us spending our days happily together but that's it. My motivation comes from unrealistic fantasies. Everything I do is coloured by an immense cynical down to earth mindset, where I am aware I am just a bit of a loser and will never be anything else. Everything in my mind is stripped down to its gritty bare minimum, and I don't know how to fix this mindset. I can't explain it well but I can't view anything as anything other than its base. I see people romanticising their lives and I think 'why are you taking yourself so seriously? Why are you doing so much for such small things? Why?' and I cringe and resent them for wasting their energy and time. I could never view myself as someone to be taken seriously, I am aware I am a little retard so I should not try to step above my post and should only just laugh at myself and this attitude is present in everything. TLDR: Everything is shit to me. I have no motivation and cannot view myself as anything other than my base. How to have a more positive and serious outlook?
>>35021025I find it extremely hard to articulate this so here is my attempt at a better example:Imagine everyone is a cookie. Most people are vibrant cookies with lots of toppings, frosting, decorations, and so. I am a plain cookie. I look at the decorated cookies like they are a different species, I used to resent them for being frosted and decorated when I was little and unable to replicate their topping but now I feel nothing. I am aware that, hypothetically, there is nothing stopping me from becoming a sparkly frosted cookie too and I yearned for that in the past as a child but I just can't. The mental block is too strong. I'm all too aware that parts of me are crumbling, and to be honest I think the frosted cookies look a bit ridiculous. I come to like myself but a lot of why I like me is because I have learnt to laugh at my flaws and a lot of my self love comes from me going against the grain and embracing being a crumbling plain cookie in a world of frosted cookies (so, a bit shit.). But when it comes down to it, the crumbling tasteless cookie knows that it's bad that it's so unappetising despite not hating itself and a lot of the cookie's motivation to get up out of bed is thinking of the future and person you envisioned being as a child even if part of you is questioning if you even really like version of yourself you dreamed of being as a child or if you're just nostalgic.This is a really, really bad analogy and still doesn't encapsulate what I'm trying to say but I honestly can't put this into words I'm sorry.
>>35021054>Imagine everyone is a cookie.I find it difficult to do that, anon.
>>35021025i put actual effort into solving a captcha so i can give you my discord @silversstuffim not gonna give u a cookie analogy or anything, you just seem a little like me, and i kinda want someone to write with for my boring nightshift tonight. So add me back.
>>35021025You'd be surprised, I'm a 24 year old man and I don't know you but I truthfully don't feel like I really give much of a fuck about most things. I'm not happy or outright unhappy and I want very little out of life. I just don't care and I have no idea why. I have interests I pursue but in the grand picture it all doesn't matter to me. I'm not exactly proud of it... but its what I am. I don't feel depressed. I look respectable and normal from the outside but inside I'm a different beast. I don't long for many of the things others do. I don't care for love or relationships or sex. It's all inherently vapid to me and I'm tired of it.
How do I get more followers to my new puppies insta / fb / YouTube
>>35021343Don't. Your dog did not consent to being a social media star.
>>35021343That's the neat part, OP
>>35021343Everyone who gets a cute puppy or kitten starts a social media page and at least briefly tries to make it famous/profitable these days. It’s not that your videos aren’t cute but rather that they’re not unique so nobody wants to “follow” with their attention.So you have to do unique things with your dogs and especially in unique visual environments. Be outside exploring in places other than your backyard, a small park, or the sidewalk. Buy life size play structures for the pups so they can play on them and do interesting things in your house.Your puppies are cute but not so cute that you can get famous based on them alone. You have to make the puppies be doing interesting things.
I have been struggling for years with a porn and masturbation addiction, I want to quit but I dont know how, it's not as simple as "just quit anon". Please any advice is welcomed.(the longest ive gone without it was 2 months)
>>35019615U need 2 get the sex
>>35019818This is good advice. You need to know the reason for it to be able to manage consumption.Personally I've tried quitting and managing usage for years. Now I'm kind of satisfied. Only once or twice, maybe three to four times a day if I'm a bit bored.
>>35019674You can read some books or go to the gym or take a cold shower and make a hobby to distract from porn and masturbation >masturbation addiction worst than a cocaine
>>35019615You are not addicted; you just need good sex. Masturbation and porn are bad, but until you are getting sex, you have to work with your fucking hands we all are in some boats afterall im also addicted to porn and masturbation >coming to this shit site 4chan to watch bitch asses of bitch
>>35019818Easypeasy is boiled down to "You have no reason to use it, so why do you?" Maybe I misunderstood it, but that, and the assumption that you even really need a reason is why it's never worked for me. I'm not trying to make myself sound better or above you or ezpz, I'm stuck with the same issue as OP, and if you could help me out with it too, I'd honestly really appreciate that.Also, isn't asking for help for a porn addiction on specifically 4chan a little strange? Not that I'm much better, but still.
when does the lurasidone flu go away?i have to take it to get off olanzapine cuz its giving me vision problems from extremely high blood sugar from 17mmol/L to 25mmol/L(but the psychiatrist is still making me take the olanzapine for like 5 years without any change anyway)
>>35019944Why are you prescribed these pills in the first place?
>>35019946discrimination, im indigenous australian and im being genocided with my dad who is shitting blood clots and the psychiatric drugs made him so fat he cant breathe and randomly falls asleep and my cousins who are also forcefully drugged too, ive never been violent ive judt been hyper at times and have different newage-like beliefs
>>35020003Yeah. You need to get off the pills mate. It's really bad for people who aren't psychotic to be taking them. Big pharma make big bucks by handing that shit out to anyone.
>>35020010THEYVE KEPT ME ON IT FOR 5 YEARS
>>35019944It ends when you fully immerse your body in hot lava
I had a crazy thought recently that if I combined all the hate everyone else ever had for me it wouldn’t come anywhere near the amount of hate I’ve had for myself. And the only reason I hate myself is because those people hated me. Is that possible? Does it make sense? Could I do anything about that?
hate is really bad, it doesnt really matter where or when or how it started.important is to let bygones be bygones. "go to the people you have upset and tell them you are sorry, in earnest" if you really are sorry//have learned your lesson.hate is a strong negative emotion, from which certain entities in this realm feed off of. out of spite i already have discarded this emotion for example, or most of it. you can dislike things, but not hate. also not dwelling.stop hating yourself and the people around you will stop hating you. it is that easy. as above so below. as above so below.they are just a mirror for you.i try to be the best version of an extremely righteous/fair avatar and use my God given discernment and use the golden rule of the cosmos, the world does the exact same for me. rarely rarely i get wronged or a bad treatment, also not telling lies helps tremendously
How do I get in touch with my younger brother in the Air Force? My family hasn't heard from him in months. I was the last person he talked to on the phone, which was back in August, and we chatted like normal. From my perspective, him being radio silent for months is normal, but since everyone was freaking out, I decided to call the military police about a month ago and they said he was fine. He sent me a text saying he's decided to see a mental health counselor at his base. I haven't received a text from him since. Also haven't been able to call him since that previous call from August. No one else has heard from him though, not even his old friends from home. He's known to have depressive episodes.
>>35016311>>35016304actually i may be stupid. red cross may be reserved for emergencies only.i will guarantee you though that they will be able to get the message to your brothers chain of command though.
>>35016319I appreciate it though. I'll hit up Red Cross once I, myself, start to get worried. Again, him being radio silent for months is normal from my perspective (it's also something I used to do at times, and our dad also does it for most of the people in his life). He did tell me he was planning to come home for Christmas, so if no one hears from him around that time, I'll try something.
>>35016338no problem, i didnt do anything.probably common knowledge but air force members do fill out a list of emergency contacts, and fill out to whom their remains will be given to in the case of death.
he's probably passed out from all the steak and champagne
>>35017029Huhuh. The Chair Force.
You know how when you're talking to someone and they're explaining to you how to do something technical, but you already know how to do it, and you go "yeah I know how to do that" but they keep on explaining and ignoring you as if you don't know anything?How do you make them aware that you do know that stuff already when they don't listen to you?
>>35016106Are you a nubile young slut, OP?
>>35017509Yes
>>35017512Well that's why
>>35017516Well I'll be damned
>>35016106You are not the judge. Maybe ask yourself why you are receiving instruction when you think you know what you’re doing.
How do I never die?
Never leave your house, wrap yourself in industrial bubble wrap, and refuse to open the door even for the pizza delivery person
Only eat foods with expiration dates from the year 2099..or better yet, nothing at all except glitter and optimism.
>>35016169Leave behind an everlasting legacy of some sort. It can be anything really that is for you to decide.
>>35016719based
>>35016169Many of the oldest people have a habit of using more than an average amount of olive oil.
The kitchen I work at has broken smoke hoods or something. There is haze in the air and my throat is scratchy. I called the fucking fire department and they told me to kick rocks. The FD guy sounded MAD.
>>35016445Call the FDA and tell them the kitchen's fume extractors aren't working. This is their domain.
>>35016445File a complaint with OSHA, sometimes buisnesses can get penalized up to like 10k per day per fine.I figure there is a law for it since almost every kitchen has one. It's not sanitary frankly.
>>35016445They pay you to work there. Fix it. How complicated can a fan with a switch be?Bitches. I swear.
the past two months almost I've been suddenly getting sore throats or even migraines when I eat fast food pizza like dominos little caesers papa john's, combination of the three or whatever amount of generic pizza joints.I don't eat this shit every day or even week, think this is now the 5th or 6th time I've eaten one of the 3 but now after yesterday suddenly 3/5 or 3/6 getting sick again as the strep throat slowly creeps in again.Did age somehow just suddenly start giving me an allergic reaction to whatever spices they put on their pizza or what. Can't exactly go to a doctor to find the possible problem if any, no insurance.
>>35017038An allergy wouldn't give you strep throat.
>>35017238>>35017042I eat actual food when I cook but a bit of slop, at first, doesn't kill anyone. but with multiple instances now in 2 months might cut back entirely.>>35017696alergy probably not the right word but still not sure what could possibly be getting me consistently sick with specifically these cheap under 10 dollar pizzas when I've eaten them for over 3 decades.
>>35017982Sorry I have no help, could be celiac,the dairy most likely. I knew a guy who couldn't eat mcdonalds because it made him sick so maybe its just your body telling you its time to quit it. You really need to stop eating Totinos and eat a sandwich. You're pretending like its fast food on rare occasions but you're eating out and eating processed foods on the regular which isn't good for you.
>>35017038parasite and toxins cleanse
>>35017038Try a swallow of apple cider vinegar every other day. Avoid the one owned by bill gates. That may increase the atmosphere in your stomach and better seal the valve that separates it from your respiratory system.
Why should I bother living if I can't afford an iPhone anyway?
>>35016730Topkek thanks anon
>>35017846>Why would you need that type of phone specifically?Because I want it?
>>35017873insectoid begone
>>35015652Just get a satellite smart phone or become a sugar baby to a rich middle class woman!
>>35015652Can’t believe people pay money for that.
>be me>in the kitchen near the dining room>mum is eating dinner>older brother comes in and says "I'm hungry I haven't eaten yet">mom stops eating and serves him a plate>brother doesnt even say please or thank you>when mum stops serving him he says "you haven't served much have you">mum is 60 years old and this retard is 30> ask mum if she was okay with how this retard treated her >she says she didn't notice anything weird>explain to her nicely how this grown ass retard came in said he was hungry and 60 year old mum stop eating to serve him food while he didnt ask nicely or said thanks. >She says mums love is forever and didn't notice anything weirdAm I making things up here or this retard has no shame? How the fuck he didnt even say thanks or ask nicely when mum was eating. He's a grown ass man. He usually behaves like a manchild, that's why this triggers me but I swear to god it pisses me off how mum doesn't see anything weird in it.
>>35019174This retard has no shame, but also your mother loves him and if she is okay with that treatment then you shouldn't make a deal out of it. Make up for it by being extra nice to her yourself
>>35019174This is why mothers tend to raise useless losers. Women tend to coddle their children into being pathetic parasites that are generally unloveable and who never do their own laundry or dishes.Worse, then they send their useless children into the world for everyone else to deal with instead of raising their child to be a functional adult, they expect society to raise them instead.
>>35019174>Bitches about a man to strangers online in the manner of a woman.YWNBAWTOGTFO.
>>35019852>men are parasitesWho supported mom?Women are by nature all parasites.Maybe she's paying it forward.
>>35019174Oedipus complex
This is gonna be mostly rambling but I'll try to make a point. Most of my childhood I didn't really consistently have friends or really any hobbies except video games. I had one close friend in high school but he left. I didn't really have any personality except for being good at guitar. I would always barely pass my classes and go home and play video games and be addicted to porn. Even when I quit porn for a year and got really good at guitar, I was still a weird outcast in high school. I went back to games and porn now in community college, because nothing I've tried works. Every time I've tried to change my life or be interesting/interested, it's never worked, and the few people around me are similar, just work and then tv or something similar. So how do I stop the cycle?
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>>35016533
Bump
2 months ago, I told my close friend and coworker I had feelings for her, she politely declined. She's made it clear that she still wants to be friends.I'd like to be friends to, especially as we'll most likely be working together next year (never hear back from other jobs) but a part of me still dies inside thinking of her getting with other guys.She's hot as fuck, funny, similar interests. I fell for the "she showed me slight kindess" again. Thought about cutting ties altogether, but seems a shame to lose a good friend because I can't get my shit together.Maybe I just need more space for now? I was getting over it and liked having my life back instead of fixating on her. But on the few ocassions she's reached out to talk or game I fall back into it..
Just stop simping. Don't be gay.
>>35020908how do you stop? Is there like a trick to it??
Anyone working on their anxious attachment had any medication work for them? I just got off lexapro, which was fine but didn't help much in the way of anxiety. I have been in therapy for 5 years and while I've come a long way, it seems no matter how much work I do once somebody I'm seeing starts to give me the silent treatment, I regress and go back to my old ways. I'm already taking propranolol which helps a lot with body anxiety but I still feel anxiety in my brain which then makes me act retarded. I've done some reading and I'm thinking of getting on either buspar or guanfacine, curious to know if any anons here have experience with either of those and were in a similar situation to me.
Bump before bed, I'll probably be seeing my doctor on monday or tuesday
>>35014939anon i would say the problem might be the people who you are choosing to date. there are genuinely people out there that don't ghost you or give you the silent treatment. you don't have to internalize that and medicate yourself to deal with shit partners.T- someone who left a situation like this and feels loads better
>>35016595Thanks anon, it's hard to tell sometimes, I have so little experience with secure people that I don't know what is inherent to me (i.e. I would still act anxiously attached with a secure person or insecure working on themselves), or what is me just having a normal reaction to being treated like shit. What I'm certain is inherent to me is that I am attracted to them, and probably vice versa. The only thing that's become better with therapy is spotting the warning signs and leaving earlier when I start being mistreated, but the agony when they start to play games never seems to improve and I start acting irrationally same as always.
Bump, I've researched all day and I'm leaning towards Guanfacine but I'm not sure how willing my doctor will be to prescribe it. Any other drugs I might be missing please do share. I think clonidine would be easier to get but I'm not sure if it's as good as guanfacine.
Final bump, earliest possible appointment I could book is actually two weeks away which kinda sucks
