I'm currently 19 years old and I have a serious problem with my cell phone and everything that comes with social media and video games. I feel an emptiness inside that I want to fill, but I've become so dependent on it that if I don't spend even a single day glued to a screen, I get desperate. This causes me to procrastinate a lot; it feels horrible to be constantly focused on this addiction. What would be the best way to solve this? Because I really want to become disciplined with what I set out to do and not leave it unfinished.
>>34456217Delete the apps.
>>34456217>What would be the best way to solve this?I can give you a million routines and say "Break this up into 5 things, do this at 6:00 AM everyday, take a shit at 12:00 PM every Sunday" and other shit like thatBut to be honest, after the 2nd week you'd give up and come back here asking for more help, and it'd be an endless cycle.What you should know anon is that your body needs a stable routine, it relies on muscle memory. If you stray from your pre-existing routine too hard and too fast, it'll snap back and make it even harder to leave.So the thing you have to do is examine why you even need the phone.Dopamine? Mindlessly just filling time? What is it that you want? Try and fill it with something else.Again, don't try and replace every single time you want to use your phone with a different task, it'll become tiresome after a while. Maybe every now and then, when you get the urge, take a walk instead of scrolling, or listen to some music.Eventually it'll get easier as you fill in more urges to scroll with walks or tasks or even finally doing your homework. Again, don't rely on what people say is a "Dopamine detox routine" or whatnot. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
You need a "fix" of information, but your own source is this "junk food" type. You need a denser concentration and dosages of "information". Identify what information you are "missing". Find ways to fill that gap in the fastest, most efficient and comprehensive way possible. Do it.
>did well at school>no girls ever attracted to me>made fun of by women as a loser beta>went to university>no girls ever attracted to me>girls didn't acknowledge my existence>got part time jobs in summers>no girls ever attracted to me>got a full time job>no women ever attracted to me>moved to a big city>no women ever attracted to me>made online dating profiles>no matches>just went outsideComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Maybe you're ugly and unapproachable, ugly people need to try harder and take the first step. but since you're already in your 30s you also need money and your own place to even have a chance with 4 out of 10s single mothers. That's pretty much your dating pool now. Or just forget about relationships and go to Tailand for cheap whores
>>34455552Maybe you just don’t know if they’re attracted to you or not? Like often times girls are scared to look at guys they find attractive. Also girls are complimented a lot and can afford to just not pay attention to people around them, so if they don’t look at you it’s prob on them. I bet someone will like you anon
>>34455552Don't care about Women and live your life.
A long time ago I was a pretty asocial kid or whatever you call it friendless. Bullyng, and to this day my mother tells me that I give a mentally retarded that my good future is useless, and soon I will die.. Well at that time as a child I had a cat and I began to interact with him excitedly until I started to act as if he was talking to me and my voice transmitted what he said, I thought it was already something from childhood until it became strange to me that to this day I talk to my cats. Every time I play they talk to me they tell me that I am a fool and although I should be the one who remembers it is as if I had talked to them, every time a cat dies. Only 3 died from illness, something that I I left it broken, because the voices of the deceased cats no longer emitted in my speech, and then a cat came to save me from that same disease and we played and until now I talk and scream as if he had told me, I went to psychologists etc but my family said that it is no longer useful That psychologists are not psychiatrists and in the end I had a result that I refuse to believe, that I have paranoid schizophrenia. I don't feel so serious that that comes out in the results but it was still a while ago and a new psychiatrist appeared and I guess she didn't know much about me. I share this because no one understands me and I am annoying for just the 2 people I know
Ah, I was writing while I was busy, but when it came to psychologists, my parents said that they are shit and they are useless, and not even psychiatrists, that is to say that my problems ended up being minimized to this day.
>>34455930>>34456024I think Ideally it's best to see both when possible. The Psychiatrists will diagnose conditions and prescribe medication when needed, and the psychologist talks and helps you reflect about stuff.Did you ever go to a psychiatrist, or just to a psychologist?
How do I do other things instead of browse the catalog every day and night? I said to myself "if I quit 4chan then I will be forced to do anything else that probably should be done anyway but is not since I'm still here. What is a good stopping point in someones life that is a good enough reason to quit going to this website?
>>34447590i've had people call me a bot, and i know you won't believe it but i am in fact a real human being, sitting at a computer, eating crisps
>>34447164Do not beat yourself up. If you had more important shit to do, you would.
>>34447164>> "if I quit 4chan then I will be forced to do anything else"That's too weak. You're trying to run away but you've got nothing to run towards.Do anything else. THEN you will be forced to quit 4chan.
>>34453726I do have a few things to run to but I don't and I find it hard to get off and do anything else
>>34455079>>I find it hard to get offProbably talk to a therapist about that one
>Discover sissy porn>A whole new world of kink opened>Spend a lot of time into sissy porn>Desire to become a sissy increases, sexuality goes bisexual leaning gay>Some time later realizes something is wrong, decides to purge>Some time later the desire comes back stronger>A cycle of purging and porn starts>Starts questioning if I am trans, gender dysphoria builds up>Addicted to transformation and gender-bender porn, comics>Instantly horny at gay thoughts but can't get hard with straight thoughts>Realizes I fucked up and have also wasted an insane amount of timeRight now I am in the purge phase and it feels like that will end soon. How do I get rid of this fetish. Romantically I am still only attracted to girls but sexuality is mostly leaning gay. I don't want to continue with this because it is a huge waste of time to my life.
just stop completely using porn and the like and when masturbating do so without imagining anything else,your brain behaves like this because you've conditioned it to associate pleasure to sissy stuff, associate pleasure to other mundane things and it will solvealso watch this for a simple brief on how attention works https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=laeYq51SYA0
The only utility of sex is to, either make babies, pacify someone else, or pleasure yourself. You are mourning either your inability to make babies, your inability to appease someone else, or your inability to "experience" some sort of "alleged" pleasure that everyone else seems to have "access" toNow, most people don't really care about making babies these days, it seemsConsider that the person you're trying to appease maybe isn't worth appeasing whatsoverAnd thirdly, the pleasure you're missing out on is so overblown and misrepresented it may as well not even be a thing
I'm a 24yo male virgin, which, now that I am typing it out is only really starting to hit me. I usually don't get self-conscious over stuff like that and laugh when I see younger guys complain about being old. But now I'm having some burst of anxiety that I am in fact old. Like, too old to be using 4chan-kind of old.Up until now I have always felt that, if I really wanted to, I could approach any women who were attractive to me. Now, going the same university where I have been ignoring freshmen for 5 years,I can suddenly feel time breathing in my neck, like I am about to miss a train even bigger than teenage love. To put it bluntly I'm scared to miss out on the opportunity to have sex with young women. I guess that kind of makes me a creep but it's really the reason why I'm making this post.I mean aside from the fact that I needed to get that off my chest I am also wondering where to go from here. Of course I could go on WikiHow and look up how to get a girlfriend. But I'm wondering about some more fundamental questions. I never really wanted to commit to a relationship, but at the same time I want to work towards having a family sooner or later. And like usual, time is ticking and I'm not really prioritizing women in my day to day life. Should I just try to hook up with as many girls as I can? If yes any advice on how to do that?
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>>34456048Yeah no offense but I read stuff like that when I was younger and it didn‘t help at all. Gayest shit ever
>>34456061cope harderbtw, this is the advice board, the reassurance board is r9k, go there and never come back, retard
>>34456045Start by trying something. Anything. Getting a relationship is a lot of work if you're not a 10/10 Chad. You need to try and fail a lot to learn how to talk to women. Right now, you have zero experience so you need to start talking to any cute girl you find. Have small objectives, have them add you on social media, get their numbers, etc. Then you can set bigger objectives, set up the first date, the second one, etc. You need to go gradually and expect to fail at every step. I found my perfect GF at 31 so it's never too late. Good luck anon.
I don't know what's wrong with me. For the record I have autism and ocd and historyof intrusive thoughts. I found a site with cp,reported it 100 times,kept going back to report over and over again. I know I need to stop for my wellbeing and try forget about it, I feel like ruined life.
Not OP but bumping as I feel the same way and would like some advice also.
>>34454238I understand feeling shocked about it, but you're not to blame in any way man, you actually did good in reporting it, so don't beat yourself over it too much. You did your part, now just stay away from it. Again, you did nothing wrong, and you're safe.
I am currently sitting in my apartment in my living room.https://vocaroo.com/1cu6fKDwzS5OAnd this is what it sounds like. It's like this everyday. These are my neighbors.You think I should move?
>>34453170Unfathomably based. I hate jeets
>34455107You are the scum of the fucking Earth, landoid.
If I were in your shoes I'd take my AR with a questionable rate of fire and kick their door down and have a little show-n-tell
>>34448824>>34448868This sounds like hell on earth. I'm guessing you don't live in a high-HDI nation. Because those people would get arrested in a white country. I had this problem multiple times when I lived abroad. Maybe it will be different for you, but for me it was never worth talking. The kind of person who behaves like this is seldom the kind of person you can reason with.I'm guessing you've already tried earplugs and all that. You have 3 options:1. Legal. Get the police or HOA/administration involved. They won't give a shit unless you file WRITTEN complaints over and over again, and show up at the police station or admin building enough times that they recognise you. If you call the police, make sure the cop file a report how he was inside your house before confronting the neighbours and how it was extremely loud. It will consume your life and not be worth it. I only did this with a legitimately crazy neighbour and he got involuntarily committed to a psych ward. But never again. 2. Revenge. Jeet shaker, hardbass, poop on porch, whatever. Pointless. It may work, but it will consume your life and not be worth it. 3. Just move. Pay until the end of the lease even if you don't live there. It's not worth it.
>>34455751SAY HELLO TO MY BIG FRIEND !!!
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Question for men and women who go outside, do girls like this exist irl? I haven't left my house in like 2 straight months
>>34458577classic
>>34458571Muslims agree
>>34458585Yes, and they're all toxic, as much as I love some of them.
>>34458574I want a tiramisu drawer
Ever since GLP1s became popular I've noticed fewer and fewer BBWs around. Can't find them on tinder or even around Walmart. I just want to fuck fat bitches
>>34455039Are you white and reasonably well off? Find some ghetto fat bitch, there's plenty of them. They suck a mean dick too.
>>34455715I'm reasonably well off but not white. If I were white I feel like dating and all that would be 100x easier
How do I stop this? I don't really find the female form exceptionally attractive but I don't have much experience with women and every time I'm alone all I can think about is being nurtured by one. It feels wrong to be constantly loading out this excess energy.
Based dichotomy Personally I work a manual labour job in the middle of the night then go home and learn Dutch and also furiously crank it
>>34455844I mostly work all afternoon and I get too tired to jerk off and don't really see the point. I'm trying to use my energy on my off days to learning languages or other intellectual pursuits but I think I become nauseous or something and just want to be comforted.
>go on date with woman last sunday>she's prettier than in her photos>she tells me she's been in dating apps for a short time>we have a good night>we agree on seeing eachother another day>ask her today if she's up for something next weekend>tells me she's really sickIs she lying? Did I bore her out so much? Is she just checking her dozens of other better options on dating apps?
She’s probably sick, OP. Get out of your head.
Could be sick, could be checking out. Either is possible and you won't know until you know. In the meantime, give her the benefit of the doubt and wish her a quick recovery. Maybe offer to bring some cold medicine or something, unless she's far enough away that it would be weird.
>>34454637Well, if you’re that insecure about it then wish her well and wait up until she feels better to see if she still wants to hang out.
>>34454637Always give the benefit of the doubt once. But enact a three strike rule. First time is ok, she is probably telling truth. Second time she bails, she's either being untruthful or she got a bad coincidence happening. Third time? Block her.
>"i hope you feel better soon!">hit me up when you wanna hang out againAnd go radio silent. Get another date in the meantime.If she contacts you, you ask when she is free to meet up and set up another date.Do not text her needlessly.
I'm not meant for society. I help and I do things to be a positive in the world but I feel so small. I want to join a monostary and live as a Novice and eventually a monk.
>>34454023What the fuck help is a monk except sucking priest dick or whatever the fuck. Creepy cultist shit
>>34454023Don't escape your sexuality.. Go pay for a cute girl who wants to fuck. If she's clean and has a nice vibe, then you two deserve it.
It may take a little while. I have debts to pay
What are some substances, pills, peptides or nootropics that are able to suppress autism symptoms?
>>34451870Who cares about living a long life when you have shit mental genetics that prevent you from socializing or doing anything productive anyways? A neurotypical will get more done in a month than an autist or a schizo will get done in a year while also being able to socialize and enjoy the company of others. Is fapping to MLP porn and griding video games alone in your room for 70 years while snorting ashwagandha and cutting out seed oils in a pathetic attempt to be normal really a better alternative?
>>34451911>A neurotypical will get more done in a monthAbsolute horse shit and every time I hear an autistic say this I want to smash my head against dry wall. High functioning autists are high-achieving perfectionistic nerds, always have been. Every time it's the same shit, high school they aced, college the stumbled, but got some useful qualifications, got the higher than average paying job in some corporation>But because they didn't get a friend group or a waifu>They claim they've done nothing with lifeEvery fucking time bro. It makes me want to rip my pubes out holy fuck. I saw you autists in school getting all the high grades and being the star pupil, meanwhile my dumbass was getting screamed at by the teacher for not giving a shit about what's on the whiteboard. Yet somehow the autist never clocks on to the fact he's envied, he's so envied he gains school bullies who hate him for his success. Fffffffuuuucking infuriating bro, I never bullied no one but you have any idea how much greener the grass is on the autist side of the game? Pretty fucking green.
>>34445834Alcohol
>>34451941tangential but if you're a high functioning autist you can embrace it and systemize the fuck outta socializing
>>34451941>Get to be an isolated slave with no friends for a corpo that hates you because you still instantly get clocked by NTsWowie thanks
Stories abot drinking, staying sober, lose everything and stuff like this,
>>got fired>>got a 1.4L bottle of vodka to cope>>blacked out half-way through the bottle>>woke up the next day with vomit in my hair, projectile vomited twice across the carpet>>one stain was 19" in length and the other was 21.5" in lengthinb4 you really measured it?Yeah i grabbed the tape measure bc the only difference between fucking around and doing science is whether you write down the results or not.>>vomit on the walls, some of my stuff. >>angry texts from last night from my down stairs neighbor telling me to stfu >>the smell of hard liquor makes me sick>>I don't drink anymore.
Took 14 shots of vodka while playing tf2. Was neeting at my parents. My sister woke up and heard a thud from my bedroom. My door was locked so my broke the door and found me, said he thought I was dead. Started giving me CPR until the paramedics came. He says the paramedics looked at me with disgust. I woke up in the hospital with the worst hangover I ever had. The nurse says I fought them while they were trying to stick an iv in me. Things are good now though, went to community college and got a job.
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>>34446312I won't read drunkard threads.
>>34446312Wrong board op
