Every morning I wake up physically drained and completely unmotivated.Well not every morning. But it comes in bouts, and this last bout has been going a long time.After a few hours out of bed or a nap not long after getting out of bed I usually gain enough energy to do stuff, but it's rough.I'm getting enough sleep. When it's like this I'm in bed at least 9 hours simply because I'm too tired to get up earlier.I can't work out what the cause could be. My current guess is it's because my sleep is often disturbed by my mind going through memories of stupid/embarrassing/shameful stuff I did, and that sometimes affects my dreams, too.
>>34160925Go to a doctor and ask for a polysomnography. Sleep apnoea is an obvious possibility, but there are a lot of others.
>>34160925Try tea or coffee in the morning.
>>34160925It could be a bunch of different factors. >snoring Get a $100 mouth piece (one that you form to your teeth like a mouth guard) and slowly start wearing it to sleep to see if it fixes sleep anpiea >diet Less to no sugar Less to no alcohol As others have said vitamin supplement, probably just a basic multi would be fine. Do a little research though. >envoronmental factors This one is a bit harder. Is your bed saggy? Too soft ? Get a firmer mattress What is your air quality like?Get a air purifier Have you tested for black mold Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34163046Oh, also I forgot to mention, routine, routine routine, go to bed at the same time, get up at the same time, eat dinner at the time time, exercise at the same time. Your body gets into a better natural cycle that way. All of this can take months for it to better your sleeping good luck. T. I had to do all of this to stop feeling super tired all day.
>>34160925I won't read threads which are probably all about not following the usual dad advice about health and fitness. Nothing can be done because OP probably already knows what to do but is too lazy to do it.
People at work call me Minnie Mouse when I get mad. I'm not very tall, and I guess I get shrill when I get mad. My coworkers think it's funny to mess with me until I snap, and my boss doesn't care. I can't afford to quit and looking for another job hasn't been going well.How can I make myself seem more intimidating when I get mad so people stop thinking it's funny or cute to upset me?
>>34162025You'd be respected if you were living a respectable life.
Not all jobs are bad. Not all people in all jobs will treat you that way. Just find something else.I think the main problem is that a part of you cares what they think. Otherwise you wouldn't get mad about it... So stop caring. Obviously, it's hard to get your work done and ignore them when they're clawing at you every minute of the day.You could always sue for harassment if you wanted. But just walk away and find another job is the best bet. Or find something that doesn't pay as well and do a side hustle...Being with good people is a priority.
>>34161379Stop getting mad. They treat your tantrums like entertainment. If you stop performing, they'll lose interest and leave you alone
>>34162149>I can't afford to quit and looking for another job hasn't been going well.>Not all jobs are bad. Not all people in all jobs will treat you that way. Just find something else.Thanks for the feedback.>>34162271They throw my lunch in the dumpster behind the building a lot. I have to go in and dig it out because I can't afford to buy a new lunch bag every time they do it.
>>34163083So here's the problem. You've made yourself a doormat, because you're afraid to get in trouble. You want to make this go away? You need to get over that.You look small and non-threatening? Use it. Bake them a pie or something, play up the sweet angle. Say you're sorry for getting so mad at them. Don't act like you want anything in return for it.Load the pie up with sugar-free sweetener instead of regular sugar. This works as a laxative without the legal liability of a real laxative. They go to the bathroom? Bar the door. Prop something up to make it look plausible it was an accident blocking the door. Leave them there, if you can arrange to get them to eat the pie near shift's end so they go in the bathroom and get locked in overnight, all the better.Keep manufacturing accidents. Accidents aren't anyone's fault, but if they're smart they'll piece together quick that they're getting problems and the saccharine sweet act will make any reprisal efforts on their part turn others against them.Play scared, in a subtle way, of your coworkers around customers if you're in retail (which it sounds like you are). Customers complaining to management is a bad look and it will get management involved quick. You want to seize people's sympathy toward short women and play it to the max.
I did something and only realized it was a crime days later. I joined a group where girls exchange intimate photos, but I found it strange that most of them were very young, so I left. But a girl from the group contacted me privately and insisted on continuing the conversation. We exchanged photos and talked. I don't know why I didn't care at the time, but the girl was 13 years old and I'm 18. For the past two weeks, I've been thinking about it every day, and I'm on the verge of killing myself from so much guilt. I don't know exactly why I'm telling you this; I just wanted someone to tell me what they think.
>>34162679What made you decide to join the group in the first place? Are you trying to convince me it was something other than you wanting to invade a space designed for little kids?
>>34162679You'd better hope that girl was actually who she appeared to be, and not a paedophile hunter.
>>34162679The fact you feel guilty and regret your actions about it means you have morals. Destroy the media you got, and learn from this and move on. Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.
>>34163109>Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.Legally he certainly did. Here in the UK he could be charged with making an indecent image of a minor. And, weirdly, so could she! If he *asked* for any of the pictures, then there would probably be some kind of incitement or grooming charge too.
34162893I didn't join the group to see children; I joined because I thought it was a group for girls my age. There was NO age information whatsoever, and when I joined it was different, which is why I left.
am i allowed to ask my bf for more romantic gestures in everyday life? and specifically romantic, not overtly sexual gestures like aggressive groping.we don't really kiss and there are basically no romantic gestures in our everyday life. sometimes if i come by i gently touch/caress his hair but he doesn't seem to care for it either way. i sometimes wish he did something similar with me. gentle touching of some sort basically, romance.when we sleep, and even if he's dead asleep snoring, he'll put his hand on my thigh and it's one of the things he does i love the most. he doesn't do it if he's awake. but during the days when he's not asleep i feel like nothing like that ever happens and everything feels so aromantic/friendship-like between us.how do i communicate this without making him feel like he's not enough/not doing enough? i want to avoid a negative reaction like that basically.
It sounds like he might just be naturally uncomfortable with this sort of stuff, no matter who he's with. I don't know if he has some complex about feeling like he doesn't do enough already, but straight up telling him you'd like him to touch you more might work best.If he's unsure what's appropriate, guide his hand when you're together and smile at him or something so he won't feel like he's crossing a line.
"am i allowed to ask my bf for more romantic gestures in everyday life? "FUCK YES ITS YOUR RIGHT, you're allowed to want intimacy in a relationship, why else are you here. As the other guy said, communicate it to him and phrase it more like "I wouldnt be mad if you touched me more" I'd recommend you amping up the intimacy with him as well, you already gently touch and caress him, take that up a notch and with time he'll mirror it.
>>34162828>how do i communicate this without making him feel like he's not enough/not doing enough?Bear in mind that he actually isn't doing enough. But yeah, it's better to phrase it in a constructive way. Don't say "You never kiss me!" Instead smile and say "Can I have a kiss?" Then, when he does kiss you, react positively, like you're really enjoying it. Then say "Oh, that was lovely! Do it again!" And after he's kissed you again, smile about it a lot. The next day, say "I really loved it when you kissed me yesterday!" Keep being positive and reacting positively, and he'll get the message eventually
>>34163001This is advice that is punching way above the weight class of this board. Also note that while wanting to be given affection, a lot of men never experience the feeling of being given affection and it can atrophy their emotions. Please be sure to give him kisses and initiate hand holding. That said if after like two weeks of doing this as well as blatantly outright talking to him saying you are trying to work on having more affection going both ways in the relationship, if he dose not reciprocate in a lasting and earnest way. Then you dump him and move on he isn’t worth the time.
>>34162828discuss love languages with each other, this kind of thing going unspoken will lead to feeling unwanted and resentful
not like comically racist or bigoted or anything, just someone who can accept facts and act accordingly
>>34154913Blame your ancestors for invading and colonizing other people's lands. Only they are to blame.
>>34156718ok shlomo goldbergsteinowitz
>>34156938but those are two different people so it'd make sense they'd say different things
>>34144339QRD?
>>34138929This but with people in general. It's so fucking demoralizing see otherwise smart people do this and it's so predictable. It feels like I'm the only person trying to think original thoughts while the rest are AI generators trying to justify the prevailing ideology. My people seem happy to sacrifice our entire country for the ideology.More specifically the problem is, how to get people out of a cult and mass psychosis. I guess the last time we talked politics it went okay, but since people normally are hesitant to change their position, I'm tired of being the asshole. It feels like the parent telling the kids that no, you really need to put the shoes on because it just doesn't work otherwise.
>Dont imagine women are going to "learn a lesson" from an experience. If they dont die from it all theyll learn is that theyre invincible.True or false?
Protip: Never expect anything from a woman except from retardation. Then, you'll never be disappointed. Because they are all fucking retarded. Yes, even your mom, and that one you have oneitis for. They are all retarded whores
>>34160791Maybe don't take advice about women from virgins.
>>34160791I won't read yellow fever threads featuring goofy, subhuman nerds.
>>34162910Forgot the (very appropriate in this example) picrel.
>>34160798>t. picrel
How can I live a simple quiet life?
>>34159919You can't. It's terrorism against the society of consummation and the state doesn't negotiate with terrorist.
>>34159938>I would like to let go and regain a child-like wonder towards lifeBest advice I can give is to try to break patterns in your routine and thinking habitsTry going somewhere that you usually wouldn't and stopping yourself from having the anxious thoughts that limit youBe careful though if you take this too far you can get in trouble with authority
>>34159930>>34159919Not OP but for me it's my mental slavery to people I have around 3 or 4 places I can live rent free. I have a casual on call minnwwgie job I enjoy so I can afford food and car maintenance.Biggest problem for me is that people around me will see me as a bum if I only work 2 or 3 days a week. Then spend the rest of the day lounging around or walking around
>>34159948
Bump
How can I improve my appearance? I'm an average woman, 53/168, and I've always had trouble meeting people of the opposite sex. For example, when I was assigned to a different department at work with strangers, I immediately found common ground with the girls, but when during lunch break I approached the same group of two guys and one girl with whom I became good friends, they (the men) either ignored me when I said something (perhaps because I didn't speak very loudly, but we were sitting next to each other) or responded very briefly. Even if I managed to strike up a conversation, as soon as I said something wrong, they sighed heavily and rolled their eyes. I wasn't intrusive, it was just regular small talk like, "How's your cat doing?" "Oh, you play the guitar, I can play the piano!" "How long have you been working here?" and so on. and this is very common, not only at work, of all the guys I met, the only adequate ones were my online friends, and a few guys (quite attractive in appearance) who didn’t consider me a piece of shit.
>>34160509Are you sure she didn't mean she's 5 feet 3 inches and 168 pounds?Cause that seems more likely to me. IF she did mean she's 53kg and 168cm then she should be fine yeah.
>>34160446>. I wasn't intrusive, it was just regular small talk like, "How's your cat doing?" "Oh, you play the guitar, I can play the piano!" "How long have you been working here?"This is just me but I hate "small talk", I only like meaningful conversations, maybe those guys were like that too
>>34160446You are at work bitch do your work. Small talk is sexual harassment in 2026. Never talk to women at work.
>>34160446>guys turn away in disgust when a girl talks to themI think they're gay. Try talking about the weirdest things you know about, then tell us if anyone has a gap moe
>>34160446Loose weight
>27>Not had sex since I was 20>Traumatic family event a few years ago caused me to isolate myself completely>Fat and baldingHere's my problem bros, I managed to get a match on a dating app. Fuck knows how as I am a mess, fat as a pig and losing my luscious locks by the day. Yet here we are with someone who I've been talking to. Am I a shallow bastard? Absolutely, am I thinking of just going round there to do the deed? Probably but knowing me I'll get lapped up in actual female companionship and stay the night. I hope thats the case anyway. Said she's dated someone with a micropenis as well, so me and my 5 inch punisher shouldn't be too big an issue (literally). But her place is over an hour away and I just don't know if I can be bothered risking my worn out shitbox driving that far. What do you think chuds? Should I go harpoon myself a whale?
>>34162776>What do you think chuds? Should I go harpoon myself a whale?For her sake, no.
>>34162776Bring a bag of burgers with you, bond over being fat fucks.
>>34162876Arent you a good little redditor
>>34162905She vegan so I'll have to bring corporate slop
>>34162776>Not had sex since I was 20you definitely should go
I moved to this part of Italy, completely isolated from everything, with my uncles, although I never really had friends, boyfriend or many family. This is a worst type of loneliness. I still don't have a job because I'm still waiting for my permit to work, I can only clean houses for ten an hour. I got savings (I pay them 200 a month). These people treat me badly; they don’t even let me cook because "I waste gas", they don’t let me shower more than 3 times a week and less than 10 minutes because "I waste water", they don’t let me read because they say I’m wasting time. The other day I just went out for a walk and they purposely locked me outside. They always text my dad, (even tho I'm a grown woman), that they’re worried about me because I’m locked alone in my room. When I go downstairs to be with them, they tell me to leave. When I want to eat something, they joke that I’m fat. I literally can't take it anymore, I'm bout to cut my throat in front of this people.
>>34162797Where are you from originally? Why did you do this?
>>34162826Argentina, there's no jobs, a lot of crime, got my house broken into twice, I want to bring my mom to europe. I didn't know they were like this
>>34162838Euros are very xenophobic if you cant actually fit in.
>>34162845It's actually Italians in particular who can be really awful peoplet. Italian trying to leave this shithole
>>34162797>permit to workI won't read subhuman, invasive species threads.
for a long time I was a complete fucking neet loser. and that was due to a lot of circumstances that were both out of my control. it wasn't a state I was happy in, so I put the work into myself and fixed my life because I wanted better. and it took longer than I wanted too, but like, I fucking did it.now I'm like, out. I'm holding a job, I'm studying, I moved out of home into a major city, eating healthier, cooking my meals, working out, going out, making friends, complete freedom, completely independent, blah blah blah. life is going so fucking well for me and I'm honestly loving it.but I just fucking can't. a few months before I moved out, while I was still getting everything I needed for that set up and together, I ended up hooking up with my best friend. it wasn't something either of us were expecting to happen, but it was really fucking great and we very quickly ended up in a situation that was progressing into a relationship.and I was just so genuinely fucking happy. like Id always loved her, and not in some unrequited love friend zone way where I always wanted more but she was oblivious, it was just a genuine and full love I had for her that was stated as mutual and had been progressing over the years we had known each other. and so for it to get to this point while I'm getting my life together, like I was just fucking ecstatic.cont.
>>34162688like I said, our communication was actually really good. we had every conversation about being exclusive, and every conversation about sharing a life together. I didn't go into detail because it wasn't what the post was about, but she used to crash out to me about how much she loved me. like she was intimidated by the fact that she wanted to build a life together because she had never actually wanted that in her past relationships. when its said like that I should have known, but you know.>I'm really curious about what her reaction was when you broke up.she told me that she did what she did knowing it would hurt me, and expected me to put up with that. when I said no, what the fuck, a line has been crossed, she was actually pretty shocked then started telling me how sorry she was and how she didn't recognise the consequences blah blah blahactually she still has the fucking pet name I came up with for her in all of her social media bios, which I think is pretty fucked lol.
>>34162793>like she was intimidated by the fact that she wanted to build a life together because she had never actually wanted that in her past relationships.Ah, right, she got scared, and sabotaged herself - kind of like getting cold feet on your wedding day. It happens. Nothing to do but move on, sadly.
>>34162710I make it sound in the post like I've just pulled myself up from nothing, but I've also had some very lucky opportunities come by lately that have helped this attempt stick better than any other. Granted I could have easily thrown them away and ruined everything, but I can't do that knowing that I'm not going to kill myself and not knowing when I'll get another chance. Like, trust me, I have broken down over less. I used to be a much weaker person, I've been more worsely affected by much shittier situations because of how alone and insecure I was. It took a lot of misery and growth to get to the point where I was capable of doing anything but wallow. I promise you can make it out, just gotta take it a step at a time. Every time you fail you learn something, c'est la vie.
>>34162811True but cringe. I wrote this whole post in a pretty low state (obviously) but I'm like, genuinely coping pretty well all things considered. That said, it's impossible for me not to be hurt. When I pretend that I'm not it all comes back around to hit me with a lower low.
>>34162566This, craft a more accurate story n don't get swept in memes for long
i feel like every other person has something inherently interesting about them that others always latch onto, except me. one guy i know is a distant relative of our previous president, and everyone always brings that up and obviously find him interesting for it. this fact about him would give him an identity in the eyes of others, even if he was the most boring person in the world otherwise. some women i know whom everyone always mentions are from a minority culture in my country and that obviously makes them interesting in the eyes of others, people always talk about these girls as "the girl from x". they have a "free" interesting identity that makes them interesting, and it came with birth, that's what i mean by "free".i'm completely average, born from a poor family (but not that poor that we could not eat), i'm not born from an interesting country or region and don't have a single interesting identifier about me and that's why nobody knows about me. i guess i enjoy art/drawing, and video games, but those things are more mundane and nerdy, and not something that can make you attractive or at least interesting, such as "the girl from russia", or "the guy who grew up in an ultra religious family". i don't have a single interesting identifier like that, and everyone else seems to have one. i know this is a pretty childish thing to be sad about, but it seems like you need a simple identifier like this, which you were born with most of the time, for people to truly be interested in you and find you interesting.i just find that others talk about people like this ( people who have an interesing identity that they were essentially born with) in a different way, they are way more inherently interested and invested in a person if they are like that it feels like.
does anyone else feel like this or am i just mentally ill
>>34162627>or am i just mentally illHonestly? Yeah. Most people are not intrinsically interesting. If you want to be interesting, do something about it.
>>34162640i have tried to, but i guess i'm too inherently boring (too much of a homebody, i have tried but i just don't enjoy going out very much even if i had a phase when i tried many things and tried going out more often, didn't enjoy any of it).but i yeah i also kinda disagree with the first point, it does seem like most people are intrinsically interesting. everyone else has that some thing that gives them an identifier, "girl from x", "guy who is y", it's always something one is born with though.
>>34162598I don't have an intrinsic thing People do yhink it's cool I've crossed the US in a car by myself. Make your "thing" yourself.
>>34162804i see, you make a good point and that is a cool thing. i guess i'm just insecure that i don't have a lot of life experience, but when i have tried to essentially go outside more, i never really enjoy it. i only like solitary nerdy inside hobbies and i don't talk to people about them really because talking about myself irl always feels awkward ngl. the only thing i enjoy outside is taking long walks in forests and exploring the wild woods, but that's not really considered cool since it's not camping, but rather just walking around, and i'm not particularly interested in actual camping.
>23 year old male>I was super shy in high-school>Got confident in college but it didn't matter because it was male dominated (compsci)>Never had a relationship because of it>Now I'm back in my hometown>The town is small and full of old people>But I have a well-paying job here and I live alone and rent-free in the house my old folks left behind>All of that is to say I'm not going anywhere>I have no friends. I cannot network.>All clubs and hobby-groups are geared towards little kids or the elderly>Sometimes I go to bars by myself but everyone there is already in a group and is not interested to bother with me>I feel trappedI've taken care of everything else. I just want to see what romantic love is like.
>>34162127Go to church, go golfing. Go places where you will see the same people multiple times over weeks, be sure to take some opportunities to chit chat, be a face people remember. Develop some guy friends, a network, and then branch out to women
Just like go golfing bro pffhahahaha
I have an inferiority complex where I need to feel like I'm better than the people around me in order to feel good about myself.I need to know that I have the better job, the better car, the hotter girlfriend, the bigger dick.I need it.How do I cope?
>>34160947Yes!
its because youre an idiot and like you say have an inferiority complex bc of itidk could be many things that caused this, only you can know the root issueit might be that you have an overblown ego etcbut the good thing seems to be that you are sefl aware and can sense a problem and assess the situation correctly, its just that you actually dont seem to want to change it.many people are like you describe in op, but they wouldnt even admit it, so youre one step further than these
>>34161072I'm not an idiot. You're an idiot. I already have my answer from the above replies. And that is to actually be better than everybody else. Which I'm working on. So fuck you, I have always been working on changing my situation and always will be, because I deserve every good thing that is coming my way and your little 4chan keyboard two dollar psychoanalysis of me ain't gonna change that.That is fact.
>>34156722So you want to increase your finances so you can get nice things mostly? This is very attainable anon. Just learn to make money go browse >>>/biz/ or even >>>/g/ so you can learn to make money with cryptocurrency and read Rich Dad, Poor Dad.
>>34161497You got this nigga :D
