I'm 27. I had only had one date in my life, back in 2020. It was terrible, but she implied she wouldn't mind a second one. Now that I'm running out of options and time, should I ask her out again?
>>34640979Dude she is 5 at best, look how nasty her skin is not to mention her teeth. Maybe she was a 6 when in her prime (13-16) but in her mid 20's she is 5 at best. Also looks like she has man hands.
>>34637887You're trying to get a different result from something you already tried. Always look forward,
>>34637887you don't run out of options at 27
>>34640994who would want to be the last option.come on man
>>34645424>who would want to be the last optionWell, she's single, not very attractive, nor very outgoing. Plus, her sister just married a man she started dating at the same time we had our date. So I thought she might be getting as desperate as I am.
Weird situation. I did everything. Got the degree, got a career and hopefully a good future. But I turned 28 a month ago and I feel so not ready to reach my thirties. I’m just not ready. I’ve travelled around the world and worked for global manufacturing companies, thought that I would just change and not care about youth as I got older, but I recently had a nervous breakdown and realised I never really got to be young. Before COVID I had fun but 2 years of that and the ensuing economic difficulties kind of fucked up my 20s and I still want to sleep around, play games with friends till 3am and go to gigs all night. Feel like the past 6 years have stunted me despite adulting, or because I had to grow up to quick. I dunno. Can you still get pussy, travel and be wild and free at 28? I’m having kind of an identity crisis
>>34647726>Can you still get pussy, travel and be wild and free at 28? I’m having kind of an identity crisisObviously but if you also want a career you're going to have to balance those things
>>34647726>>34647795You have to work towards a career that allows you for that. Forget about becoming an engineer, programmer, doctor, lawyer or any other technical bullshit with high responsibility. Unless you want to cope for the rest of your life on top of a mountain of money.
>>34647795Couldn’t I say that about my uni years?. I couldn’t enjoy jack shit because it was like better do x if I wanna y and endless pressure. Feel like I’ve just been working with no fun. Maybe it’s just a zoomer thing. We got dealt a pretty shit hand. At least I’m not alone
99% of times as to why people don't approach me/find me intimidating is due to my resting bitch face. What do?I see some girls glazing me sometimes, I am physically fit, not tall but handsome. Ex's and female friends would compliment me on my appearance and I'm not a sperg to talk to as I actually listen and don't hold an awkward silence during a convo.RBF is just very natural to me and I find it exhausting to hold a smile non-stop.I'm just very tired of being alone most of my time, one of the best things that have ever happened to me was coming to uni and meeting people that are complete opposites of me. I have the strongest friendships when it's someone else that approaches me and we become friends like that.While I can meet up with people I already know, I'd like to just meet more.oh also kids are scared of me lmao
>>34639263You dont have to smile, just make the corners of your mouth point up very slightly, thats all you need to give someone the impression that you are not having a rbf.
>>34639439Rbf isn't a bad thing at all. All you gotta do is if you make eye contact with someone, just give a small smile and do the casual hand raise greeting. I got a bit of a rbf and I do this often when I'm too focused or lost in thought.
>>34639263no one will respond to this because it sounds retarded but im at least 80% sure rbf is an actual adaptation not a symptom. everyone knows your facial expressions engrave into your face overtime and show up as wrinkles, the resting face is simply the face which invites the least aggression (hence the name, resting). if you grew up in a shithole or as a good bullying target then that is that and rbf is a low effort defense.
>>34642303no I am not holding up a facade non stop>>34643898probably the best thing I could do>>34643997>if you grew up in a shithole or as a good bullying target then that is that and rbf is a low effort defense.That's... actually correct. Think I could have a greater chance of approaching RBF people and having a successful friendship out of it implying they've been through the same?Personally I would just fucking love for someone to approach me and strike up a conversation, could even smile without controlling it.
>>34644724Its not really a facade most of the time I don't even realize that I'm doing it. Its to the point I have to actively stop doing it. Its more about changing your natural state rather than actively smiling all the time.Or maybe I have gotten so used to pretending to be human I don't even realize I'm pretending anymore. Who knows.
I am 27 and I already feel old and crusty. I know with age your body goes and also your mind but I'm young? What is some advice that older anons give about aging?
>>34645060use it or lose it
>>34645060veryoldfag here. Aging is a much much MUCH slower process than you think. I didn't hit my stride until 30. At 40 I was sleeping with 20 year olds, at 60 with 30 year olds.
>>34645060No advice but I'm the same age and feel like I'm 70 years old ;-;
>>34645060Xennial hereIt takes more effort the older you get to maintain a healthy weight so get ahead of it now by getting/staying lean. Your mind could get sharper with age in certain ways which is never ending pain as you agonize over stupid bad decisions from when you were younger you would have no problem with now. But my attention span went and I can no longer read an entire book for enjoyment. Have fun!
>>34645128I've never had it
I've always gotten easily angered, my mother and brother both are the same. When I get angry I just find it impossible to control myself, and as I don't want to break anything I usually either bite myself, hit myself or smash my head into my brick wall till I calm down.I've always had this short temper and I'd like to get rid of it.
>>34647048>You can do this while being angryYou can, up to a point. But the more angry you are, the less capable you'll be. Anything that's good and productive would by necessity be good and productive without qualification. If a little bit is good, then more would be better. But the relationship is the inverse of that. The more anger you have, the less capable you become. That means that anger is a detriment, and not an asset.>if you strip anger, you're lopping off a part of your human, biological, useful self.The passions belong to man's lower, or animalistic nature. They're impediments that hold man back from becoming truly human, because true humanity consists of man's best and highest qualities. Defining man by his vices and flaws would be like measuring a line with a crooked ruler. You have to begin with the perfect and compare to that, in order to have a coherent system of measurement.
>>34647122 (checked)If I understand correctly, your definition is: Objective = unchangeable results derived from pure reason.>Anger can't be caused by externals, [...] And since anger comes from within, that means it's a productive of your own beliefs, attitude and worldview.This is more idealistic. It ignores the reality of biology. For example, food you ate can influence your emotions. You can measure and consider, but is it possible to be perfectly rational, and have perfect control?It's still useful as a north star.You make a distinction between internal and external, but again, this ignores biology, and the mind/body separation is unfalsifiable.>But the only kind of worldview that's capable of being angered a worldview that's out of line with reality. [...] That's why it has nothing to do with reality.Again, you're not acknowledging biology. Humans have brains and hormones. But again, this is useful as a tool/north star.And you're, again, ignoring anger as an amplifier and motivator.>Because anger is the absence of patience. [...]This still seems like arbitrary framing. The category of principle is defined.>It's proven correct. [...] But the actual motivating factor is always reason, and reason works best when it's alone.You can pursue goals without anger, yes. Anger can also provide ignition and fuel for pursuing, and even focusing better. Does this work at extreme anger? Not in most cases. Does this work at some other levels of anger? Yes.
>>34647472>The detriment is that anger impedes calm and logical thinking, [...]Anger is useful to shock you out of inert states. It's useful for ignition and fuel. I don't think high levels of anger are productive. I find it flawed to think that anger is a binary state of extremes(0 anger vs high/destructive/unproductive/goal-divergent/etc anger).You could say that anger is patchwork solution to an inert state, that the inert state shouldn't happen to begin with, provided you have a practical framework that you absolutely follow, but again, this ignores the biological reality that humans can't do those things. Even if you accept this framework, reality will not match expectations eventually(and 'eventually' is gracious here). Bad prediction, bad knowledge, imperfect application, etc. This does not account for biological changes that are too complex for current humans to keep track of or predict in real-time. Assuming that you won't fail to adhere to this is unreasonable.>Yes, wherever there's anger there isn't impartial reasoning. [...]What is your definition of impartial reasoning? Is it useful or applicable?>You can, up to a point. But the more angry you are, the less capable you'll be. [...]The linear inversely proportional relationship between anger and capability is made up. And the idea about "if little good, then more good" is rigid and untrue. I can define a function 'y = sin(x)' and it makes sense. Good is defined by us. So I can just define goodLevel = sin(subjectiveMeasurement). Curves that plateau exist. U-shaped curves exist. Curves that go flat exist.What you're saying IS applicable to anger, but again, at extremes - anger isn't a binary state.>The passions belong to man's lower, or animalistic nature. [...]True humanity, best and highest qualities, definitions of vices and flaws, definition of perfect is a metric that is defined.Animalistic nature being lower is also a metric that is defined.Accepting those definitions is a prerequisite.
>>34647472Biology isn't a factor, because the body is a product of the mind. Mind cannot be a product of the body, since that would violate logical axioms. Something cannot come from nothing, meaning mind cannot come from something that doesn't possess mind. Matter doesn't inherently possess mind, which means matter can't product mind. Materialism is a superstition based on appearances and the confusion of correlation with causation, but really there's nothing scientific backing it up. As an example, consider that a television is not the same thing as a broadcast. Somebody ignorant of technology may think that by smashing his television or by messing with the knobs he's influencing the broadcast. But in reality, he's only altering his television set. Getting drunk may alter your perception, which would be comparable to the TV screen, but it cannot alter the broadcast, which would be comparable to your underlying will and understanding. Somebody who gets drunk doesn't develop new urges or emotions, they merely have a harder time inhibiting the urges that were already present. A man who has great self control while sober will still have above average self control while drunk, since drunkenness doesn't produce new passions.
>>34647478>It's useful for ignition and fuelAnger can't be a fuel, for the reasons stated before. It's a privation or an absence. It's as far away from objective reality as possible, meaning it's as far away from truth as possible, meaning it's as far away from potency as possible. Saying that you're going to fuel your behavior with anger is like saying you're going to warm up your soup with icecubes. It makes no logical sense at all, once you understand that passions are privations due to the fact that they run contrary to existence itself.>What is your definition of impartial reasoning?Impartial reasoning is objectivity, or in other words a selfless adherence to truth.>Good is defined by us.No, absolutely not. Good exists objectively as an informing principle. Good and truth are synonyms for one another, and any argument that claims truth is subjective necessarily contradicts itself and ends in incoherency. All arguments are truth claims, so to make a truth claim that truth either doesn't exist or can't be accessed is to make an argument against your own position. Truth must exist objectively, which means that goodness must exist objectively since goodness means to cleave to truth as an end in itself.
Kindly post them ITT to help out autists, I'll start. >Greet people by name, making eye contact, smiling each time you meet themIt's a small thing, but the impact is big for a little bit of effort.
>>34640179I just want to get better at communication, so I can come off less worse to others. I'm constantly making mistakes, even in my mid 20s
>>34638451Avoid the impulse to lecture or give monologues. Even if someone asks you a question, they do NOT want a long comprehensive answer. Say no more than a single sentence on any topic unless they specifically ask you to say more.
>>34641747people do tend to do this....
>>34638451showing up early
remembering things about the context of our connection that are relevant to the setting so I don't have to repeat the same information to you each time we have something to do with each other(like for example planning for gluten free options if you know your friends new gf is gluten intolerant, asking if grandma is if the person you're talking to told you last time she fell down the stairs and broke her hips, just anything that looks like you genuinely pay attention and care)
I wanted to call my dad for father's day but too tired. But I laid here for two hours and can't go to sleep.Should I try to get more awake or more tired?I'm probably too tired to get up at this point but still too awake to sleep. How can I get out of this situation without laying here another 8 hours
yo is anyone here? What am I supposed to do
Unless you’re numbing yourself with drugs and entertainment 24/7 even a cushy life with goals talents and an above average appearance mean nothing. Even when good things are happening and I’m happy death is still not even unappealing. Nothing is worth living for. It’s so hard to find people I can connect with without a mask. But even having that doesn’t fix me. Any anons have experience getting a gun in Massachusetts?
>>34646766stop being a homo nihilist materialist
How do you find the will to pick up the pieces, right after you self sabotage everything for the hundredth time?It's hard to find a reason to fix things, when you're so disgusted by the fact you did it all to yourself.I have all the answers, I know all the right things to do, yet I keep fucking it all up.
I've been considering firefighting recently because I feel like my degree isn't right for me. I like the idea of having a job with lots of stability that isn't some variation of being a slave or an asshole (military or cop). They have weird schedules where they work 24 hours a day then get 24-48 hours off. There's also unlimited overtime so you can easily save up for a house. You get to make friends with people who are willing to throw themselves into harm's way to help others. You will also never worry about being jobless. The only downsides I can think of are the schedules. I don't mind working 16 hours a day, but 24 is kinda retarded. You need sleep otherwise you risk being too mentally incompetent to do your job. There's also the hazing mentality that's still present in a lot of departments. I'm too old for that shit. The risk of lung cancer is also a fear but not nearly as bad as having to deal with terrible sleep.
>>346472942/2You can also get some certs, like Hazmat Technician, and you can work at other places. Some factories have their own fire departments or government facilities. Federal government places pay double what most county firefighting jobs do and you get more time off on average. Most have gone to 24/72 which is a dream. The only thing about these places is that people are bored so expect to do nothing but training all day everyday. They don't actually do anything so they over compensate with bullshit. It'll be the same 8-5 that you're running away from. Every department has "work hours" meaning you have to be in business mode from 8-5 doing training and whatever but you're free after 5 to do whatever you want. Once you prove yourself most places will ignore the 8-5 thing and just chill through the day unless a chief swings by.>>34644947I'm a pretty quiet guy and sit by myself and no one really gives me shit. They probably talk about me behind my back but there isn't much to say except that I'm quiet. Also where did you where that required you to get your medic, California? Most places just expect you to get your advanced. >>34644792Endurance matters more than strength. It doesn't matter how much you can lift if you're gassed in ten minutes and sucking down bottles in five.
>>34647303>Also where did you where that required you to get your medicFlorida. Could just be the one department I was at I dunno if that’s a statewide requirement
>>34647305Which part of Florida, if you don't mind me asking. The reason I can think for that is because there are so many old people there.
>>34647308For the sake of not doxxing myself I’m just gonna say it was in Northern Florida around the Nassau/Jax area
>>34647316Could be a money thing just to say "we have all paramedics here!". But I'm in Georgia and that's pretty close to southern GA so I know it's really rural down there. I'd assume that hospitals aren't as quick of a drive as they are in other places so that could also be the reason. Make sure ya'll can keep the patient alive for extended periods of time.
Womeme, why are you so cute and moggable?Previous thread: >>34644203
>>34649846From the last episode especially I just assumed zooble is non-bimary (they/them)
Should you love your wife more than Jesus?
>>34650080you shouldnt love a kike fanfiction character more than anyone
>>34647810I didn't say that. The complete opposite. That was in reference to her lashing out at people who haven't done anything to her.
I just woke up and peed a lot
I’ve had a couple dreams about my boss. Is it likely he likes me, just innocently or a little bit? My only indication is that he joined a remote call (scheduled with only me and another employee) looking at himself in the viewfinder and forgot to unmute. At that time, I was the only person on the call. He’s sort of a bigwig so I’m surprised he forgot to. I wonder if this could be meaningful.
He probably didn’t want to come off unprofessional, that didn’t mean he wants to marry you.
So how does this work? Do I stand in front of a jury or does the judge just give me a punishment?Am I gonna have to do community service?I'm really hoping I just get a fine...
>>34640646You probably won't even see a judge unless you contest the ticket. A clerk will tell you how much the fine is, you'll pay him and walk away
>>34640646I’ve been to court several times for tickets and have never seen a jury. If you aren’t contesting the charges, you may just be able to pay the fine online or over the phone without even going to court.
>>34640646depending on the ticket, you might be able to plea for a lesser charge & end up paying substantially less.Look up your local state/area followed by ticket reddit & see what people have done under similar circumstances.If you want more specific advice, you'd need to provide what the charges are & as specific of a location you can give. ie, town is likely not necessary but county or state is
>>34641583>If you want more specific advice, you'd need to provide what the charges areit was a citation for “disobeying an officer”I drove up next to a cop car blocking the road due to a road closure at an intersection to see if he would come out and tell me what was going on. He demanded to see my license after I stopped and waited for him and gave me a ticket without letting me explain myself. Didn’t even ask where I was going until he already wrote me up
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the confidence boost cannot be overstated whatever shortcomings you may have, it's w.e because your dick is huge, and even if it's not practical, it existing makes most other men highly insecure
>>34645258>troon variantwhat
I'd have more confidence if I didn't cum in 30 seconds.
>>34636424nah, I'm ok with my average (for my country) penis16 cm apparently is above average in most countries but I still can't wrap my head around that fact, I don't see my penis as particularly big, you guys are walking around with child like peepees
>>34636424my dick is 17cm but i'm a virgin at 24 because i'm a 167cm manlet
>>34645875hey man if you hustle you can definitely get a gf, she might not be the prettiest and or she might be black, brown, or asian, but you got this
once youre an adult youre basically on your own. if you get into trouble like a medical emergency, you have nobody except yourself to rely on. even if you have a spouse or friends, they can only do so much to help you. my only wish is to go back to that time when i was a kid where all i cared about was playing video games. how do you get over this fear of living with no security for the rest of your life?
>>34641903You can make that money last longer if you live out of your vehicle.
>>34641348It gets better the more stability you build up. Like 2 years ago I was worried I'd lose it all and be homeless next month. Now I'm doing slightly better i'm just worried I'm wasting time and will die alone and be homeless at some point later but not now.
>>34645910not op but that's my backup plan if I lost my place. I may even build up a van at some point for fun if I can swing it, I have seen all the youtubers doing it.
>>34646026When I retire, I’m going to evaluate my finances and see if I can live until I die in a comfortable house. This will probably not happen, so my other plan is to live as a nomad. I’ve always wanted to camp out in federal land in the wilderness so now I can do it in an age where we have wireless internet and wireless power and lots of technological comforts.During that time, I’ll keep most of my money in a managed account and then cash out when I’m too old to drive around. After that, I’ll settle down somewhere.
>>34646776The problem is minimalism, living out in the public, and mechanical issues. I'd need some kind of storage or work space, like a garage at least.
