How do I stop saying 'errrrrr' before every sentence when I'm speaking to people?
>>34849970Take a (somewhat) deep breath before you start talking. Practice a little in front of the mirror, think of a few questions and what you would answer. Take a deep breath, then remember that you're not supposed to start with "errr", then start speaking when you know what you want to say.
>>34849970Try tongue twisters and just generally speak more trying to not do errrr
>>34849979This. People overestimate how long pauses feel to the other party. If you pause then it actually grabs the other person’s attention. Another thing is while thinking, it’s a good idea to think about the wording you want to use instead of the idea you want to convey
>>34849970Remove your tonguetongue tongue Sahur
>>34849970Just say it for a short duration. Like, um. Not uuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhh
How common is it really for an outsider to get into politics in a meaningful way?There are some notable examples, like Trump becoming president, or AOC going from bartender to senator. Tim Walz was a teacher as well.But these seem to be exceptions, not the norm. And I'm not talking about being the mayor of my small town, I mean at a meaningful level.I am not a stupid man, despite what you might think from me asking this. I have a masters in engineering from one of the best schools in the country, and have held prominent positions at some companies you've heard of. However I don't have any law experience, and that is the common denominator for most politicians.But there are many things I would want to change about American society that often don't get talked about in a meaningful way (i.e. not immigration and abortion). Rather than be a teacher, doctor, or therapist or something I think the best way for me to truly make meaningful changes is at an organizational level. And I don't mean killing someone that will be replaced, like Luigi. I wouldn't be running for president either, I am fine starting much smaller, even if that means being mayor of my city or something like that. This is probably not at all the right place to ask this, but does anyone have any advice?
>>34850534Thanks, I guess if I let my age stop me then I'll never accomplish anything since I'm only getting older.>>34850538No engineer union or anything like that but I am SAG-AFTRA from some acting gigs in high school and college before I committed to being an engineer.>>34850539I guess you're right. Maybe this is something I'll just get over with time rather than needing to uproot my life. I didn't want this to become a blogpost thread but I'm getting very emotional and I feel so guilty that I couldn't help her.
>>34850472Any politician has at one time not been a politician. Here in the UK the most common path is to join a political party, and then gradually work your way up through the structure. Working as an MP's researcher is a common first step. T At some point you might try and get yourself selected as a candidate for a local council seat, and then later as an MP, then you start sucking up to the party leader to see if you can get selected as a minister or shadow minister, and so on. I'm less familiar with the political system in the US, but most presidents have previously been either a senator or a state governor; many senators have previously been a congressman; many congressmen have previously been a state senator; and so on. State governors have often previously been something like a State's Attorney or local mayor, and mayors have often previously been a city councillor, etc.
>>34850553Sorry for your loss anon. Reagan was an actor before becoming CA governor at age 55. 30 isn't old for this shit. I'm 28 and when I go to this type of local politics shit I'm always the youngest by a mile. Try some shit out before committing to a career change. Do some volunteering, join local groups, try your hand at local advocacy, see what you like and go from there
I came in here to make fun of you but after reading your posts now I'm angry and sad.Good luck anon.
>>34850472Doesn't matter how common it is, only matters how the uncommon did it so you can follow the formulaOr make your own
Long story short I want to end it all and I need some advice on how to get that mental state. I have too much self-preservation and fear and not enough hopelessness. If anyone can offer me some advice on how to get to that mental state to go through it. Thank you
>>34847787/r9k/ has a general for this. idk maybe get really piss drunk. you're probably going to regret it mid air anyways before the first flip
>>34847825Thanks. I don't use 4chan so I assume most boards are just filled with porn so I didn’t want to intrude. I'll look into it. And when I drink I just get sleepy and that's it.
>>34847825not OP, but i'm interested as well and can't seem to find the thread you're referring to anywhere?
>>34847787If you have to ask this question, you have absolutely no chance of ever succeeding.
>>34847787You don't want to end it all enough, full stop. Continue on.
How can I take a page out of the jeet handbook and maximize my izzat? There's no reason why timmies can't profit from the jewconomy either.I want technically legal ways to extract/save money at the expense of the state and mr noseberg.Stats>White>Live in Canada>Late 20sRight now all I'm doing to izzatmax is save money by taking food from provincially subsidized foodbanks but what else could and should I be doing?
>>34850318become a truck driver without a Class A
>>34850318You shouldn't do anything illegal because you are white. The court system will eat you up. Browns get other immigrant or bleeding heart judges and the worst they get is sent back to India. You have no such safety net.
>>34850318How is saving money equivalent to izzatmaxximf
From kindergarden to HS I have had a total of 5 female classmates out of a total of 163.2 which were single moms by age 12, the dads were homeless early 50s yo gypsies.2 who were invalids by birth (one could only drool and only used her limbs to reach out to her mom if she was nearby otherwise someone had to push her wheelchair around, the other was severely retarded but could count and speak, had a mustache and was morbidly obese by 12)and the last one advertised her OF when she was 14 on the same instagram account her family, grandparents, highschool and middle school acquaintances knew her on.This is the dating pool which I locally have access to.I am going to an eastern european engineering university where for the past 20 years there hasn't been a single female graduate and historically very few if any women attended.I intend to work in the merchant navy since it's the only way to make above 1k usd legally here.This town is a semidecrepit and most of the people are in their late 40s and 50s.The youth if they can, move away. Whoever remains are generally losers, criminals, prostitutes and a small segment of people which attend this one university as it is the only maritime university in the entire country.In such an environment how am I supposed to get a gf?I am almost 21 and was interested in commisioning as a reserve officer in the navy while studying to minmax military and civilian benefits and be a conscript to get more admission points for the aforementioned reserve program as I would be "prior service". Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34839846yea
>>34828507well you can't really apply something in just one day.regardless, what has been written here has been of little use and what the jeet wrote was just useful for bumping my thread
>>34822984why so?
>>34844745>129 repliesyou're hopeless. most anons that are capable of help have their head screwed back on after 10 responses. what does that make you after 100+?i work in a field where marital problems are the norm - doesn't matter if it's maritime, military, wildland fire, flight attendant, whatever. if it's long periods away from home, you're cooked.if you're expecting to find a steady staple crop of pussy to plow as a mariner, you're a fucking delusional retard. they pay you 1k usd legally a month there because one of the tradeoffs is long periods away from society. In the US, they pay good money to maritime and you only work 6 months of the year to compensate for these tradeoffs.to find a good woman, you may as well go to an amish community to find a retarded angel to stay with you.women are going to hunt for dick while you're jerking off to isekai hentai on a boat for most the year. if you're serious about your career, you'll find an onshore position stat to have a consistent life at home.if they do stay, chances are it's because the cash flow. and by the time you do get an at home position, they will be so used to living home alone, they'll be glad when you're not around.i don't make the rules, but i know how the game is played and you don't.
>>34824438>>34824461nerd
Granola girls, outdoor girls, whatever the pinterest calls them, where do I meet them? How do I impress them?
>>34846951If you look hard enough, you'd probably find places where weed is abundant and so are hippies. At least here in Finland there are plenty of places like that.t. used to live in a area where like every third person was a hippie and high asf
>>34846919She's a good girl, she just wants to spread the love and give sex to everyone around her
>>34846919the fact that you need to ask means that you never will :)
>>34848088>wack shityou say it.
>>34846919Music festival folk guitar-y shit, superstitious religious witch horoscope zodiac shit, idk
what else can I do with this stupid thing? or adjacent careers?
Dont let the sunk cost fallacy limit your options.
>>34850284okay but what does that mean in practice? what are my options in the first place?
I guess go all in on AI-fucking-everything and chase the dollars until the next retarded fad takes over. FWIW I've been the IT manager at my company for the past 14 years and I absolutely hate what tech has become. I just want to run servers and find innovative solutions to problems, not "pay constantly for someone else to run it" or "just get some AI in there bro" but that's where we are.
I was/am in a similar situation and maybe my story can help you.I worked in FAANG for ~4 years as an SDE after college. Got laid off in the early 2020s. I hated my job anyway and when I was looking for other jobs I would read the job description and realize it was more of the same shit I hated. I even did a couple interviews but none of them went anywhere.I was out of options and moved back to my hometown with my parents for a while. I was pretty depressed and bored all day with no job, but I felt "stuck" and didn't really have a way to get into another industry.I ended up finding a job at a small manufacturing company through someone my dad knows. Software engineering and engineering in general has a lot of transferable skills. I got a job doing QA at the company and it didn't pay great, but there is no on-call, much less stressful, and no arrogant Indians in my hometown. I have since transitioned to a more managerial position where I make more than I did as an SDE. It's at a small company with 12 employees. I know the CEO personally and go out to lunch with him once a week or so. The CEO of Meta or Amazon would never do that.So I guess the main takeaway is to see what skills you have that could apply to another job, and rely on your network/references because you might not have all the qualifications. Also be prepared for a potential pay cut, at least in the short term until you prove yourself.
>>34850269Manual labour
I am A+ certified as of today and im not sure what to do next. Do I apply for jobs or build a home lab??
>>34849447Can I get in without a degree?Do you have a degree?Have you gotten a new job recently?I really appreciate the advice. I'm in college for a maths degree at 32 but it's just an associates and I know it's a joke, I just want an excuse to be a NEET with my parents for a bit and learn the higher maths I always felt was necessary for true enlightenment. But I know it won't get me a job. So I need to be looking at something that will.
>>34849521>Can I get in without a degree?Depends where you want to work. Some places yes, other places no. Anything related to the government definitely requires a degree, hard stop, unless you already have multiple years of relevant experience. A degree always helps, regardless. Unless you have a solid track record of building projects on your own and a relevant work history, of if you already have a handful of good-quality certs, my opinion is that you should probably get the degree.>Do you have a degree?yeGraduate degrees aren't really necessary btw unless you want to be management. If you want to remain technical, the only thing that matters after a Bachelor's is certs.>Have you gotten a new job recently?Not really. I'm very happy doing what I do where I am. I know this means I'm pretty lucky considering what I've heard about most of the job market these days.>I'm in college for a maths degree at 32dude>just an associatesdude>I just want an excuse to be a NEETafter reading this I regret typing anything up for you at all but it's too late now, might as well still send thisComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34847102Congratulations OP! Me too! I've looking for even a basic shitty helpdesk job all across the country for months now. Welcome to the boat.As I study for my network+ as if that'll make any difference in this hellscape, I find this is a joke compared to the A+, and were I to get a job in it I'd probably pick it all pretty quickly. So all I need is the job. Then I can have the experience.....oh well back to the void.Maybe we should look into being electricians next.
>>34849675I just got tired of wagecucking for 50k a year and not being able to afford anything. I had no idea what to do next.>if you actually cared you would've already learned them.True. I thought when I got a full-time wagie job it would give me the structure in my life to study on my own. Instead it just drained all my energy.>If you want to remain technical, the only thing that matters after a Bachelor's is certs.I'll see if I can even afford a bachelor's at this point. The only reason I'm getting an associates' is because I used CLEP to skip half the classes. But that only applies for basic bullshit.
>>34847102Job
Serious question, how am I supposed to just go and kiss a girl on our first date just like that?
>>34846625You wil encounetr those women mostly when e-dating aka using apps. To no ones surprise, an attractive woman who has to resort to swiping has something wrong with her. Normally those can just sit in a bar for an hour and get approached by a decent guy. So obviously any hot girl who enters that sausage fest cess pit of losers has mental issues or a dogshit personality. And yes, of course the same applies to guys. Imagine participating in some grand public humiliation ritual like this for the off chance of mid crazy pussy. Couldn't be me lmao
>>34844946LmaoAnyway just ask
>>34844946Dont date this girl she is low iq.She will cause issues.This is your only warning.
>>34844946she's retarded. who the fuck tries to touch/kiss on the first date unless there's palpable chemistry?also, you were too nice. that's what "feminine/gay" means in whorespeak. be yourself, be funnier.
Tell her she wasn’t worth the effort, that’ll sting
What do you do when you have a big heart but you're also full of anger. They are two very powerful emotions but you can only choose one, and if you don't choose then the tension will tear you apart. It seems like it's easy to let the anger win but it's hard to let love win. And the more you try the more tired you get and the harder it becomes. To love is to let go but why is just letting go so god damn hard?
>>34848640Say that to the cartel
>>34848491Anger comes from resentment. Resentment comes from hurt that was witnessed but not acknowledged. Did someone hurt you and not care that they did?
>>34848538That's absolutely wrong. Everyone can change, it's only a matter of practice and effort. If you haven't changed for the better it's only because you don't want to be better.
>>34848491Love isn't an emotion, it's the abnegation of emotion for the sake of a principle. Or in other words, it's the setting aside of what you want and what you feel for the sake of doing right because it is right. If you're struggling with anger, it's most likely because you haven't yet had the realization that rationality and love are one in the same. I'd recommend spending some time every day meditating on the irrationality of anger. Seneca's 'On Anger' would be a good place to start if you aren't sure why anger is irrational and self-defeating.
>>34848491Well if you're angry you must be angry at something so go fix it so there's nothing to be angry at
How do you recharge the thinking process?
If its a short term thing the best way for me is to take a shower. Longer term go on a camping trip with no technology. After a weekend of just fucking around the woods with no phone your entire imagination will come back as though you were a kid again.
>>34850249Thank you for answer
Bump
I feel so fucking spent
>>34850237By obtaining feedback on your thoughts
Hey adv. I still think about this woman I had this whole summer love thing with and it's starting to make me feel like it's a bit unhealthy. I've been 5 years and I still think about her everyday. Sometimes I think that I see her at the grocery store and my heart sinks. I have no delusion that we will ever become anymore more that memories, but I can't seem to shake still being in love with her.I Don't have anyone that I can talk to about this so any thoughts advice or opinions are really appreciated it. Thank you.
past lovers never really leave your memory, they will always be a part of you.if you're thinking about them TOO much, though, and by too much that's basically anything more than a random "ahhh I remember her....good times" at random moments, it means you're not doing enough in your personal life and are reverting to the past to feel whole.Turn to Christ, get a hobby, spend more time with family are the first few steps.
>>34849282I know the feeling, anon. I keep thinking about a bonkbuddy I had in 2015, even though she's married with a child now. The reason is that I exist in a drought of women right now and so my mind just repeatedly lurches back to memories of random females. The trick is to practice dismissing your thoughts, Thoughts grow with attention, try telling your mind to shut the fuck up whenever it happens, this is basically a primitive form of meditation. I'd suggest reading Richard Carlson's book on controlling your thoughts.
>>34849359>past lovers never really leave your memory, they will always be a part of youno, not really. I met my first real love at work while I was in high school. we worked shifts together most of the time, just the two of us, during weekends, in the evenings until late, etc. she had a bf back then, but we still spent a lot of time alone together over a year and a half. at one point, we made a promise to marry each other if we were still single ten years later. our workplace had to close, so we lost contact. there were some more changes that led us to drift apart. more than 5 years later I remembered the promise we made and looked her up on facebook and I just didn't feel anything. even today I remember her maybe once every few months. looking back, nothing of value was really lost.
Intrusive thoughts is such a bitchmade feminine concept. Nobody is intruding in your head faggot. You think aobut your ex because you miss some aspect of her. You need to get some new pussy. Even if the new girl is not as sexy or cute or whatever. Just move on with your life and it will go away.
>>34849282Go talk to her if that's not possible find new bitches
I started talking to this girl when I started uni on Monday, I was going to speak to her today, but she was talking to another guy. I watched them since I walked the same route (she goes to a class, while I go home). Body language appeared casual, nothing apparently romantic about it, but this is really my only chance in a day to talk to her and I want to ask for a phone number (I have a natural advantage, since I finished my graduation project and she is working on hers for next year). She also sits with a empty next to her seat in class, which is a clue too.What should my next move be? My next chance is likely Friday, though I briefly saw her when I was going home yesterday, I was crossing a street and did not want to change directions in the middle of a street (it would seem awkward and unnatural). I wish not to rush things, but I have broken the ice and I want to do it again.How do I best position myself to be able to speak to her again after my last class? Tomorrow during class change as well as on Friday. All advice is welcome and thank you for your time.
>>34844355You should ask for her number so you can continue your conversation via text. If she says no, you shot your shot and you're done with her. Just ignore and move on. If she says yes, talk a little more, tell her you'd like to ask her out on a date and see what she says. Good luck.
>>34847324>i have broken the ice and i want to do it againyou've spoken before? so it should be natural to speak to them again.you're going to be nervous no matter what. it's natural to stop someone in the street and ask a question. you're acting like it is, but it's not. people did this before cell phones and google and they still do it today. overly planning this out as you are is what is going to make it seem awkward because you're making up retarded rules in your head. i remember another anon with a similar problem was telling me the woman might call the police if they simply talked to them.>but i have to get going, and would she mind if we traded phone numbersjust ask her out for coffee. it's a way to feel each other out in a social setting. it's gonna appear strange if you stop someone to ask a question and also say you have to go, can i have your number.if you approach her, there is some part of her that is going to suspect you like her. there's nothing wrong with this and a police report is not going to be filed for it.if she's that type, then she's doing you a favor by letting you know, so you can keep your distance from her.you just have to accept some things aren't going to go to plan. you'll be nervous, and might say something stupid, but just do it or you'll be trapped in hentai heaven for the next century.if you need to calm down before it happens use a nicotine patch and try box breathing.
>>34847850>>34847884Thanks, I was thinking of pizza instead of coffee since there is no coffee shop at Uni, but there is a pizza place.You have made me realize that perhaps I am being my own worst enemy. Thank you.
>>34844355You already spoke to her so you're acquainted just go do the same again, grab a contact
>>34849868Will do, thank you. Only about three hours until I do. Wish me luck.
How do I get rid of my thoughts regarding screwing over famous people? I keep thinking what if I was near a famous person and caused them to embarrass themselves. Lmk
>>34848150have you ever tried to fulfill your dream before you abandon it? how far have you gotten to screwing over a celeb?
>>34848150This is what drove Luigi. God speed.
Become paparazzi
>>34848150>what ifYeah, what if you did? I fail to see how doing such a thing changes anything at all
I'm turning 35 and have zero interests in life and have no idea what I want to do. I suffer from chronic pain that prevents me from holding down a regular job and I just have no fucking idea what I would even want to do in life. I have no education or skills or training whatsoever and the only experience I have in work is 10 years of retail. I have no personality and am as introverted as possible and just can't think of a reason to appreciate life.I can't think of a single thing I would actually want to do that is feasibly possible for me. What the fuck should I try to do?
>>34848583But that's still not DOING somethingI don't need to be social, I need to find something to care about life. It's not like I haven't been out to hang around with friends in my life before. I need something to care about and I just don't know how to find it
>>34848517well what have you been doing the last 35 years? anything in there that seems like itd be worth picking up again in one shape or form?
>>34848517There is nothing better in this world right now than weed, vidya and shitposting.
>>34848517the truth is life is basically like a pay to win video game and you dont actually have much control or choice in what you do. once you understand this you can change your expectations and goals.
>>34848517Figure out what's causing chronic pain and fix itAside from that, talk to people maybe they'll have ideas of opportunities for you
