how do I cope with being ineffectual at best and staggeringly incompetent at worst?
You mean: "How can I become smart enough to impress people who I think that are cool unlike what I deal with."How? Well. Be happy being alone. If you try to be happy with people you'll never go anywhere in life. It'll just be unpredictable all over the place. With yourself on the other hand, well you got your internal locus and that is what counts.
continue doing the thing until you become mildly competent
I've known her for years but not seen her in a decade.Im 26 and shes 28. Her grandfather and my grandfather grew up on the same street so that's how our families know eachother. I went to my grandmas the other day and she was just there, only now did I find out that shes there until the end of June. her family moved to the USA like 20 years ago and mine stayed in the UK.I will be seeing her for like almost every day until the end of June when she flies out back to Atlanta because I am always at my grandmas in the workshop.I just don't know how to handle this. I wouldn't be stressed if this happened at Uni or through a female friend or something but I have found myself into someone highly compatible but it's all happening at my grandmas house...My grandma finds her laziness a little annoying as she can be quite slow but I find it charming. I made good first impressions when seeing her after a decade just coasting off the surprise since I didn't know she'd be there... but now I'm getting kinda nervous and stressed, like she's cute and clearly a bit lonely since she's staying away from family and doesn't know anyone here.I was planning to offer to show her around the area since I have a car, but I don't want to be weird --- because it all feels awkward since my grandma will be there. My grandma is wise, I don't want her to think i'm preying on her.Mature people of this board, please advise so that I won't be a freak. How do I:( a recent design graduate looking for work, often scruffy sewing and fabricating in a workshop most days, also into esoteric Christianity and sometimes linux & tech)Charm a:Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34584498>>34585322>>34585372>He is just trying to rage bait you, but are you Indian?lmao see? even this guy recognizes it>lives in the UK>"middle eastern">discovers that he has access to a woman who can't easily escape his advances>immediately launches into insanely complex theory crafting about how he's going to manipulate her into liking him>every post is packed with third world incel energy; childish and deluded while simultaneously sexual and predatory100% chance he's not white, at least a 80% chance he's indian, 20% chance he's some other flavor of third worldevery thing about this thread is indian codedthe premisethe writing styleComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34585696>i'm brown but my bone structure is Caucasianlmao confirmed, the most indian fucking i've ever heard>Also I write like a predator?you do not write like a man approaching 30 years oldyou write like someone in their early teensi'm sure you have a similar energy in the real worldpeople like you do this intentionally to make women lower their guard>haha he's so innocent and harmlessmeanwhile, as evidenced by this thread, this is a carefully crafted front and behind the scenes everything you do is designed to manipulate womennormal people do not find a family friend visiting their grandmother and immediately run to 4chan to start gathering advice on how to manipulate this person into a sexual relationship
>>34585713Quite an insightful observation, i dont know enough Indians to notice this sort of thing.>>34585721Valid- thanks for opening my eyes to how it comes across. You did look at the whole situation in quite a harsh way but if that’s how i come across then it’s good to know. Out of fear of getting doxed i can’t say my real ethnic mixture because its niche and you could literally google that with some other clues i left behind And find me so yeah.I don’t try to seem harmless btw. I used to do that over a decade ago- maybe it never fully went away but am quite neurotic in general to everyone.You’re wrong about most details but the assessment obviously has elements of truth in essence so I’m not gonna say that you’re completely off. Anyways I’ve already said that I’m just gonna be normal with her. I was never aiming for anything sexual- only a bond thats open. I am more interested in how i can mature my internal dialogue. Do you have any theories or ideas? If I can manage that it would change my writing style. I lowkey want to dm you privately and show you the truth you’d probably be interested and it’d make sense.
>>34586166I’m thinking that i should smoke And drink more, Maybe make Bible reading a daily habit. The main areas I struggle are with older men who dismiss me and with the cool kids who look down on me.
>>34586205Maybe I'm just retarded. I'm noticing how I dont explain things at all. >>34586205For the record I dont smoke or drink much at all at the moment. but after a smoke with friends I feel much less neurotic. Every "cool" person under 30 smokes.And drinking well I am a lightweight, I feel immature to admit that. Might be related.
so, i saw her profile on my recommended accounts on instagram and she looked really beautiful, she followed me back and after liking a few stories for a couple weeks i managed to text her. we've been talking for a month and things were really well, and she would make pretty racist jokes but i always thought they were just jokes. until a few days ago she starts going on and on about how the holocaust was exaggerated and other schizo shit. i let it slide because man shes very pretty and fun to talk to, but yesterday she drops a paragraph on me saying that she only dates to marry, and that she cannot see a future with someone who doesnt align with her politically. what the fuck do i do
LARP
>>34585100either you're larping or that thing was a glowie
>>34585100There is no way you posted this here expecting any other response other than "u is a bitch, send me her insta" Seriously through, if she is hot and single there is a reason. She showed you her reason, and that is she is the crazy kind of racist. If you don't want her telling you skitzo shit over breakfast every morning, tell her exactly that and dip. You can be anti-jew (Israel is just doing what the Jewish people keep doing, I don't get why people are surprised) without going full crazypants (the gas chambers were fake! Hitler was actually a super great guy!) and clearly she is in the latter category. People like that don't tend to get better, and they tend to have something else broken that made them that way.
>>34585458Hitler was a great guy though and the campers were fake
>>34585100Holy based
How come I was born without the "pursue women" gene even though I'm a man? Growing up I always thought girls would approach me and ask me out. I had to be told that that's not how it works.
>>34585274You might just not have a strong libido, or you saw a lot of shows where girls asked guys out, or you are just stupid about that one particular thing. It isn't something to really care about. That said...1. Women want a man who will purse them. They want to be wanted and nothing is a more obvious signal that they are wanted than a man asking for their attention. If you want to date a woman, be confident and ask one out.2. You MIGHT just...not be attracted to women. It is really quite rare, but its ok to not want to have sex. It isn't food or water. 3. Get some strength training in. Seriously, doing some curls and climbing a flight of stairs will massively help a lot of the kind of hormone problems that plague the modern male.
>>34585475>Women want a man who will purse themWhy don't men want a woman who will pursue them?
>>34586027They do, but it never happens so they give up.
>>34586027English is a bastard language and I hate it.But yes, women want a man that will buy them purses (and other things)
I might be lacking the same gene as well, since I've never fallen for the 'sex sells' shit, women's awkward seduction/flirting to get me to do them favors, or this supposed urge to 'protect and provide'.No I am not a fag, I do like women, but I do not get the concept of approaching or these social sparring matches that people do by lightly flirting, it all seems so animal-like, like drone behavior.My brain may just be broken
Since the beginning of this year, the exact same monster has appeared in my dreams about 6 or 7 times already. Just to clear the air—I live a pretty healthy lifestyle, so this makes absolutely zero sense.Here are the traits of this thing based on what I know: It’s massive, roughly 10 to 12 feet tall. It moves by drifting through the darkness like an ethereal mist. It looks vaguely like a spindly, elongated human shadow, but it could also be an oarfish or a snake. It's too blurry to make out a specific shape, but it's definitely long and thin. It doesn’t cause direct harm—like trying to kill me—but it relentlessly stalks me just to make me uncomfortable. It honestly feels like it’s toying with me.The dream settings are completely random: a taco shop, a toy store, a park, or some Spanish-looking village. What I’m doing is random too—sometimes talking to people, sometimes walking aimlessly. Other times, dream-me walks straight toward an unknown destination on autopilot while I just observe from a third-person perspective. But no matter where I am, this thing always shows up and stalks me. It is incredibly annoying. If I had to compare it to something, it's as persistent as Nemesis from Resident Evil.I’ve always thought dreams are just one-off, isolated events. That's usually how it works, right? So having a sequence of connected dreams is really starting to bug me, especially since the content is so eerie.It’s not a life-or-death issue that I need to fix right this second, but it’s a terrible vibe and I’d love to stop it.Does anyone know how to control your dreams to stop this? Or, worst-case scenario, if this thing happens to be some well-known cryptid/yokai that freely travels between dreams, how do I fight it off? Let me know.
Don't worry, OP. I am a traveler and dreamer of dreamers and I will rid you of this stalker spirit. Consider yourself free.
It's probably just an old fear you had. It spooked you in the past, so it remained in your memory. You likely either keep actively thinking about it during the day or have it in your subconscious, so you end up dreaming about it at night.Try occupying your mind with other stuff. You said you live a healthy lifestyle, but in case you don't exercise, I suggest doing that, since you might feel so tired you'll just want to sleep after, without thinking too much before going to sleep.
If you haven't already tried asking it to leave when you notice it in a dream, you should do that.I've had persistent adversarial characters like that in dreams before. They're demons. If I'm lucid enough to do so, I can usually get them to buzz off by pointing out to them, calmly, that demons aren't shit.I also used to have a singular sleep paralysis demon that I would encounter for years. I strained to tell him to leave and never come back a few years ago and haven't seen him since.
>>34586005Try to have sex with it unironically.
Found this cat near the front porch last night and this morning it was still there. She's pretty thin but a real sweetheart and it looks like she used to have a collar. She also stinks! But it isn't too bad and it really isn't her fault that she's been outdoors for who knows how long. I called the local petshops to see if they could find an ID chip but they refuse to scan cats because they might have diseases. I brought her inside to give her some food and water and she ate almost four handfuls of catfood but I noticed a toe on her back paw is swollen and she has trouble scratching with it. Seems tender to the touch and has slight fluid forming around the nail. Literally every veterinary clinic and animal shelter is closed on Sundays so I'm not sure what to do with her. I'm not equipped to house another cat. My roommates cat hasn't ever seen another cat and is being super pissy to me just for the scent and I don't want to let her into the main house and risk them fighting. Right now she's hanging out in my bedroom but this is a very short term solution. Should I just put her back outside now that she's fed and watered? Maybe I could carry her to the litter box and keep the other cat away for a minute? Can cats even share a litter box? Is there a way I can clean up her paw? I have hydrogen peroxide and rubbing alcohol if that would help. I'd appreciate some advice from any cat friends in the audience.
Well I have an appointment set for four hours from now. I was hoping to get her in immediately but what can you do... Anyway here's a picture of her being very good and sitting nicely in the cat carrier.
>>34581513I would just keep it outside. If you see it hanging out near you often, you can feed it.
Well friends here she is. No chip and no people coming forward with a lost cat. At the vet they ran the full sweep of tests and sadly she is positive for feline leukemia... Her toe was so infected they had to put her under and remove it, so that's stitched up now thus the cone of shame. She is eight pounds on the dot and they estimate her to be 18 months old. The vet visit cost me about $726.00 USD. I have decided to keep her, despite her issues. She's going back in two weeks for another checkup and to get vaccinated. For now I have to keep her separated from my roomate's cat still until he can be vaccinated as well. I have named her Sock. Despite her illness I am determined to give her lots of love and a comfortable home. Thank you to everyone here who offered up help and I hope everyone has a blessed night. Here is the first picture of Sock not as a stray I'm helping but as a new dearly loved pet. : )
This is very nice to see anon, you're a great person. I have a couple of friends that have a cat with a similar story and it's alive and 14 years old, still going strong. May Sock bring you many years of happiness.
>>34581513It seems like you've done the best you can for now so nothing besides that, but if you happen to notice any difficulty with feeding or changes in her dietary habits(vomiting, coughing, diarrhea) keep posting, I have taken care of special needs cats that have problems from their life on the streets and can give you some tips. Hopefully you won't need to hear from me as she looks perfect.
Just bought my first PC (prices now make it better to just buy prebuilt, it's so over). And I want a 1440p monitor that will last at least 7 years. If it has a decent price (around 250-350 eddies) even better. Also any recommendations for a second monitor? I wanted smth on the smaller side, mainly for yt vids and discord.(Pic may be related)
>>34585654I've never had any monitor go bad and I have them on at least 8 hours a day everyday.
>>34585654For a second monitor you can just buy a copy of the same one. Maybe get mount/arms for better placement and so you can rotate the second one if you need to read or use a chat app. Unless you use OLED can get burn in (depending on what you do) but monitors don't really "go bad" afaik. Check out the pc building general on >>>/g/ if you got questions.
Question for schizos with visual issues, how do you make sure that what you are seeing/hearing is real?
All the schizos on this site are fake
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>>34583749i have schozophrenia and with the voices i hear i can still tell theyre inside my head usually because of their sound. the tonage and speech patterns are familiar sounding by now because theyve been around for so long. its extremely rare that i hear a noise or voice that sounds similar irl and it usually makes me stop in my track and go „wtf“ because its indeed a weird experience. it only happens every 2 months or so and even then i can usually differentiate whether the sound was real or in my head like a moment later. i dont have visual hallucinations but i suspect its similar due to people ive talked to. so basically you can separate between what your head generates and whats coming from the outside. the thing is though often people who also suffer from delusions (i dont currently) often experience the idea that their voices are being inserted into their head from a real outside source (radios, witchcraft, whatever, god, whateverthefuck). so thats what makes it problematic because then youre listening to them as much or maybe more as you might be listening to a mentor giving advice.
>>34584494I used to have 24/7 visual schizo as a kid, i do not have at anymore, but nowadays my schizo manifists in not believing what i am experiencing, i always think "what if it was all fake..like back then?" It makes me really depressed that i take these thoughts seriously, idk what to do. I cant afford therapy or meds. But ill try my best to figure a way out.
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Basically I have a cat that we got at 1.5years, she came from a shelter. We've had her for abt 9 years. A friend had to give away his cat and she's 5 yrs old, but she lived with another cat.I'm thinking since my cat's been in a shelter she'll be okay with the new cat, but she's also super territorial when it comes to outside cats coming on our property. Right now I have the new cat setup in a room and I'm gonna try slowly introducing their scents to each other. Stuff like brushing one cat and letting the other smell the brush. Is there anything I should know or any tips you guys have?
>>34583685Please post one cat pic for each question you submit.
pin the dominant cat nose down haunches in the air so the submissive cat can come up and sniff it's asshole. even the meanest shithead cat will be able to eat some humble pie after something like that
>>34583685Oh, let them meet almost right away. The trick is not to force them to be apart, but to *allow* them to be apart if they want to be. Give them long enough to get comfortable in whichever part of the house they're in - a week or so, maybe. Then let them meet and see what happens.
Sorry anons I forgot I made this thread>>34583701XD i got u. Picrel is new cat>>34583705lolwut>>34583711hmmmmm I see. She's stayed in my room for the past day and a half, and she seems to be adjusting quite fast. I'll introduce them tomorrow or today maybe, thx anon.But, how likely is it that my first cat will react badly?
>>34585801forgot pic
so i've been friends with this girl for a while and she says we're a lot alike even i dated some of her friends (she's in a relationship) and i told her i couldn't find a gf and she told me it's because i behave like an incel although being cute and funny do u guys think she want me
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>she told me it's because i behave like an incelhard to believe. no one uses that lingo irl, outside of /here/
>>34585961she lurks here since we met at school 8 years ago, nuclear level femcel
>gf is mentally ill and depressed>suddenly she ghosts me>ask her if she wants me to come over>she says no>come over anyway>she pretends not to notice me>after a while she says thank you for coming>ask her if she wants me to stay or leave>she says both I guessWTF?
>>34582538>Don't put up with thatSo you're saying it's my fault?> You're unreliable to her.So you're saying it's her fault?>>34583206thanks for reading the first line or my post
>>34582488this is your first sign that you have tu run the fuck away from that person, what else do you need?
>>34583464is that something really that horrible?
>>34583514well anon, those signs are not worrying per se, they are just signalling an unstable person. That only escalates and gets worsehonestly unless you are very much invested in this person and you decide to keep on investing on their mental health, I'd suggest you move on to greener pastures
She feels depressed and wants to reject the world around her, but you being compassionate in spite of her declining means a lot to her. When you're at your lowest and don't want to be around anyone, you just want to sleep and wallow in your pain, somebody who shows up to hold your hand and weather the storm is no small gesture. Sometimes you just want to be upset and bad about yourself, but when you're depressed, it's frequent and heavier. She wants to feel that you're there even if her depressed side is trying to push everything away.
I am a south asian short but not fatHow do I go about getting a white pretty tall bf? And pls don’t say look here or something that doesn’t helpI don’t really attract white guys but that’s mostly online appsI’m 24 iimAnything I can do? In aus if it matters
>>34583631>And pls don’t say look hereJesus Christ, do NOT look here! =-oAll you basically need to do is make sure your hair looks okay, that you're dressed in a way that suits you, and that your facial hair is under control, and then find a guy you like and ask him out. The first guy may not say yes, but it won't be very long before someone does. Most men spend much of their lives wishing women would approach them. Your being south Asian will put off white guys only because they assume that your dating preferences are going to be "south Asian and the same religion as me". So you're probably going to have to make the first move to make it clear that these are not actually your priorities.
>>34583631Go do some group activities where white guys hangs out. Dance classes (target west coast swing or Bachata, not Kizomba), rock climbing, board games nights etc.
Lol women don’t struggle with dating in the big 26 silly
Be chill. Play up the kawaii.Chads settle for mids that don't give him shit.
>>34583631>How do I go about getting a whiteThis is the fucking problem with you shitskins. You cry about being incels, but then you ONLY go after white people.Maybe if you stuck with your own you'd have more luck.
>Dumb European tourist in Harlem. Bought new J1s earlier, had my backpack on.>Went into a corner store for cigarettes.>Two young guys (around 16-18) were just standing inside, not buying anything.>One had a ski mask pulled under his chin and was visibly eyeballing me up and down.>Half a minute later while I'm in line, he pulls the mask over his face, leaves the store and stands right at the entrance.>I noped out and rushed to my friends.Was this an attempted mugging or am I just paranoid? Never had anything like this happen before.
>>34585473
>>34585488 Yeah they were black as shit
>>34585491They were probably going to mug you. Make American friends who like guns. Although, I think you can't carry guns in a leftist shithole like NYC which is why the criminal element is so everpresent to begin with.
>>34585473>eyeballing me up and down They were gonna mug your bussy. Then steal your jordans. Part and marcel m8
>be me >be fat but stronk >girls aren't into me>be desperate for qt3.14 >get older>nofap>become a "gigachad" and have stacies after me all of the time>absolutely hate them em all and want nothing to do with them outside of some morning boner bullshit>God hates us and we deserve it
>>34585076It's such a degenerate culture. Truly is. Yoga pants are underwear you useless mutts.
>>34585120Iraq Lobster
>>34585140Hindu butt worms I think
>>34585057>breaks his mind with shit>got hates us>usI have it all right, I'm having a mighty nice time, this seems to be a you problem>me and all the other dudes posting here, the male epidemicso you and the increasingly small 4chan posters, get it.
idrk how I'm supposed to romantically love a woman.I have sex bc I want to get off, but I can't relate on any level to any of the girls I meetThey have absolute nothing problems, they blow up miniscule shit that'd take 2mins to fix. Completely helpless creatures.I talk to my friends and they're like>yeah but I love herand it's like, idfkI tried practicing with a girl I'm seeing, just talking to her instead of flirting, and I wanted to jump out the window in the first minute of her yapping...idk how people can "love". To me, women just come and go. We have a good time together then they're gone and there's not that many feelings involved.I do want to feel love some day but idk how I'm supposed to make it happen...
>>34581664You may well be aromantic. And that's actually fine, so long as you're honest about it up front.
>>34581969you seem kinda miserable. sounds like you are desperate to be in a relationship for some reason. but being in a relationship is not the point, at least not for me, for me it's always about specific people i want to be in a relationship with. it's generally just a matter of time before you will find someone, and when it happens there isn't much you can do about it anyway. it's the best and worst thing that can happen to you. you just want to live your regular life and all of a sudden you have to deal with all these emotions and stuff and it just gets in the way of your daily life, but it also feels really fucking nice if it's going well. of course you can actively go on dates and whatever, doesn't mean that you fall in love soon. it's a matter of feeling it. also kinda sounds like you hate women. so, maybe try not looking down on them first...
>>34583654>sounds like you are desperate to be in a relationship for some reasonI just think it'd be nice to be in love once, basically out of curiosity. Not really desperate for it. Does >I tried practicing with a girl I'm seeing, just talking to hersound desperate to you? >just a matter of timeLike I said, shit just doesn't happen by itself. Maybe for others, but that's never worked for me.I'm almost 30 and I've never even had a crush>kinda sounds like you hate womenI mean, not all of them. I hate helpless people, people with no excuse that can't do shit about nothing, doormats, and that's most girls I've met.Like 4 years ago I started dressing all whack intentionally, when I'd date a girl she'd start dressing whack just like me. (I stopped but yeah)The women in my family all had a spine, I want a girl with a backbone man that's the type I like but they're just impossible to find.
>>34585226> Like I said, shit just doesn't happen by itself. Maybe for others, but that's never worked for me.I'm almost 30 and I've never even had a crushbut that's literally how it happens. you don't decide to be in love, you feel it. i am a rather picky person when it comes to dating and i need to know someone better before it feels like i am not just pretending to like the other person and still there is always a moment where it switches from "this person seems romantically interesting" to "oh shit, i hope i have chance with them". if you never had a crush then it's probably like the others said, you might just be aromatic. trust me, you are missing out but that also means that you are missing out on a lot of pain. i had several big crushes that did not work out and it was always really painful and occupied a lot of my mind and my daily life. at least you dont have to deal with that. still sounds like you hate women. i dont know the people you met but most girls i met are just perfectly normal people. i am friends with a lot of women and i like them as people. they arent that different from anyone else. it would have never occured to me that anyone of them is helpless or that it's because they are women. everyone has their own problem to deal with. it's the same with guys. life isnt always easy, but you dont need to go through it alone.
>>34585385>if you never had a crush then it's probably like the others said, you might just be aromatic. trust me, you are missing out but that also means that you are missing out on a lot of pain. i had several big crushes that did not work out and it was always really painful and occupied a lot of my mind and my daily life. at least you dont have to deal with that.I've felt like I'm dying for 6 months haha
