so lets say hypothetically i fumble this amazing girl like crazy bad like insanely bad like i told her "your not gonna tell anyone about this right" after we did stuff together bad and after that eventually we stop hanging bc our friend group kinda split but a few months later our friend group unsplit so were hanging out againhypothetically could i ever have a chance with that amazing girl ever again if i play my cards right?and am i more likely to have a chance cuz im also a girl?
juat move on and find another woman. Since you like yuri you probably have a fairly difficult personality. Best of luck
>>33389720>ould i ever have a chance with that amazing girl ever again if i play my cards right?No. And it's creepy that you're even thinking about it.
about a year ago i quit my last job. was the best one i ever had, then one day the management went to shit. not sure if it was a personal thing or if the higher ups were just coming down on those below them one day, but all at once it was literal bullying in the workplace.Decide, for once in my life, I'd hold my own and quit with a long letter describing my grievences. already had a long trip planned within the next week so wasnt too worried about finding a job right away. But when I started looking, a month turned to two, and two turned to three. Then I accepted I wasn't going to get a good job, so just started applying everywhere. Then three months turned to four, and four turned to five. Then I pussied through a suicide attempt, and took a month off. Only after seven weeks did i manage to go back to another shitty job i had in the past. During that time my net worth dropped to essentially 0 and, despite working for the past two months to get it back its still sitting there.Now I'm left with a shit job, no money, alcoholism (that outside of the financial loss makes me feel significantly better then life does), and a family trip I can't get out of even if I wanted too.It feels like my life has followed a similar pattern the last few years. Previously it was a car crash, and an illness. On top of that, it seems like the little things that roll over most peoples backs go about as poorly as you can imagine for me. I never have a little stroke of luck to help me out anymore. I know I don't always make the best decisions, but it seems like it takes all my effort in everything i do just to keep me going.Admittedly I think i mostly needed to vent, but if anyone has any advice I'd love to hear it.
>>33389226my girlfriend is tibetan and practices buddhism. while i dont believe any of what buddhism practices, there was a time in my life similar to yours. there are three marks of existence; suffering, change, and a lack of a fixed self. pain is a part of life, but nothing stays the same, and you’re not locked into being the person you are now. shit sucks, yeah, but it won’t suck forever.youll get better anon, just give it time
>>33389226>quit with a long letter describing my grievencesThey don't care retard
Get to the root of the problem.Something about your behavior or circumstances is causing you to experience this.If it's your behavior:This could just be a schizo theory from an armchair psychologist, but you may have borderline-personality disorder. A big part of that disorder is instability. Another thing that makes me think you may have it is when you said, "it seems like the little things that roll over most peoples backs go about as poorly as you can imagine for me." This describes a man I know who has BPD. You probably don't have it, so don't start stressing about it, but it's worth looking into it. It could be something else psychological that is causing all of this as well.If it's your circumstances:I know nothing about you. Think of things in your life that may be causing this.
Anon my advice is to always have another Job before quitting your current one if possible.
Men overestimate the importance of looks and severely underestimate the real determining factor in dating: personality.Women crave a tough assertive man that gets what he wants and is never vulnerable.If they had to choose between a gentle, emotional hot guy who cries or a medium looking but tough as nails, stoic and confident man, they will always pick the latter
>>33381611Not true. Sometimes my man cries on my shoulder and I've never felt more special and loved because it meant he trusted me enough to be vulnerable. It's a man who can be vulnerable sometimes but eventually dust himself off and get back up that is super attractive.
>>33385593Your emotional state shows through your face and body language more than you think.Women get the ick if they see negative emotions, whether it's anger, sadness, anxiety, etc.Also, regardless of being ugly vs. good looking in the face, your physique says a lot about your personality.Zero muscle tone screams mentally weak and lazy.
>>33381611Correct, this is why White women love Indian so much, it's because Indian men approach women with supreme confidence and intent.https://youtube.com/watch?v=4zWPjV7CPAk
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>>33381611Women confuse looks with personality as shown by the OkCupid study graph of Looks and Personality that I'll attach
I’m 19M, in usa, and broke. My biggest insecurity is I have gaps all over my teeth. I can't go outside without covering my mouth or looking away from people. I know this may seem trivial but look up "generalized diastema" and you will understand. My parents never gave a fuck even though I begged them so I have to fix it myself now. But I can't get a job due to aforementioned reasons. Fuckass catch-22 I'm in. What the hell do I do?
>>33385164People won't hire you because of your teeth? Not even nightshift work or in the back of a fast food kitchen?
>>33385259No I’m just too embarrassed to get jobs where I have to directly interact with people. I am trying to get the jobs you mentioned but it seems they don’t want to hire me.
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If your life is fr a throwaway rn, join the military. Maybe their healthcare will cover getting your teeth unfucked.
i dont want prostate cancer and i just stopped porn for a while. I dont want to jerk off without porn, theres too much pain and not enough intoxication to go with it. i literally dont want to go back to porn and dont want to touch myself it just hurts and im genuinely scared of it. i always thought of reconditioning myself to get hard towards inanimate objects, things like rocks, steel, trains, water, etc. are there any long term disadvantages to that? i dont want to touch myself. how do i cope?
>>33389532Why is there pain when you fap?....
>>33389542I just feel bad and the absence of porn doesnt help, I just end up focusing on how my hand is hurting my thingie instead of pleasuring myself and I usually just stop by then
>>33389532I won't read the absurd, involuted problems of basement-dwelling, perpetually-online, subhuman morons.
>>33389532i get hard at toilet paper rolls and it works out since you never see those in public
>>33389532>i always thought of reconditioning myself to get hard towards inanimate objects, things like rocks, steel, trains, water, etc. are there any long term disadvantages to that?ah yes, that well known practice of brainwashing yourself to be aroused by mundane things you see every single day. surely that is the best idea and not an absolutely schizophrenic recipe for paraphiliagood job underage girl anime poster you have once again demonstrated the healthy, sensible thought process people like you have about sexuality
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>>33391482Guess I'm not human
>>33391511you just larping
>>33391152Answering questions for women means you're gay, dude.Every fucking time...>Question for women: ladies, how does it feel to have a pussy? What is it like to take huge dick in that pussy?>"As a man...">"Man here...">"M..."
>>33391728It wasn't a question addressed to women, you illiterate bookcel.>>33390931
>>33391233Which album
I'm about to go on my first date ever with a guy and I want to throw up so badly. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I haven't showered. I've been over thinking about this, this whole week. Help me.
>>3338938880% of life is showing up. So just show up. And be hygienic and decently groomed, of course. Just to everyday levels, since I wouldn't be surprised if you'd spaz out too. And don't worry about spazzing out either, lots of guys would take it as a compliment that you're thinking so much about it. Also touch grass, pet animals, take a walk, spend time with friends or family, meditate, the usual stuff to unzoom your brain
Just don't overthink it. It's normal to be nervous but don't dwell on it too hard.I'm assuming you're either gay or a massively autistic woman. Either way, you'll have nothing to worry about.Eat. Take a shower. Be at peace. If you don't, your date is going to go as bad as it could go.
How the hell do you talk with another person for long periods of time? That's what terrifies me the most (not OP but also never been on a date)
>>33389498If female: the guy carries the conversationIf male: practice doing that, you will eventually be better at it after a lot of experience
>>33389498You just do? You then figure out if someone you're attracted to is easy to communicate with and enjoyable to be around. The rest comes naturally after an initial period of awkwardness. It's easy to psych yourself out if you don't have much experience with this. I'm a total sperglord, but I got the hang of it pretty quickly. Getting over social anxiety takes work.>>33389520Women who can't carry conversations are dead weight. She can have the fattest tiddies and juiciest thighs, but she's not worth your time if she can't carry a conversation. Sometimes women are just bad over text and better in person.
I kept telling her that I was feeling unheard and that I started to feel intimidated to talk about our issues with her and she kept telling me that she was not feeling the same and that we just have different opinions on this matter.I never heard her say "okay, even if you think like that and I don't, let's try to fix things so that we can both feel the same".She said she felt sorry I feel like this, said that she was feeling bad that this will be the reason I will end stuff. I was hoping for a "let's talk things over and figure it out", but she just accepted it. I said multiple times that, that was the thing I wanted btw. She always shuts down and ignores me.The painful thing is. She is very loyal, she cared for me as well. I had the feeling that she would even die for me. But when things get heated, I feel like she's more trying to be the "right" person than finding a solution together. There's nothing of cheating or physical abuse. We would curse, but even we never called each other whores or other stuff. I used to say that she's stupid asf and that it sometimes feels like I am talking to a person with the mind of a child.I keep asking to set things directly straight as soon as possible, but she wants to stay silent for days if I don't push.It gets so tiring to be the only one that tries to set things straight. I always try, she just says "Fine, if you don't want me, we'll go our ways".---
>>33385945There is no 'right' thing to do. There is no such thing as attatchment styles, stop listening to these people. You felt a way and it wasn't met with openness, and you reacted in a manner that was sought to be fit for your experience. It's fine, just cry about this shit for a few months and move on
>>33389275Reread my post.> I realize that while I may not have to go through it alone, it's my own problem. Helping someone and literally expecting them to fix your trauma are two different things. Helping you because you have anxiety or panic attacks is one thing. Expecting me to fix your or heal your trauma because you dated some asshole who abused you is a totally different thing. It's not my job to fix that. Just like it's not her job to fix my trust issues if I dated some whore that cheated on me. Your baggage is your baggage, I don't get what's difficult to comprehend about this?
>>33389281This is not an openness to someone else. It's a part of who they are, and should be met with as much care and acceptance as possible. Things go bad when opposition is met, but when there is a mutual openness to another then there are oppourtunities to allow a closeness to build. The issue with OP seems that this woman is not open to his whole being which set off his reactive decisions.
>>33389286I wasn't even referring to OP's case. I was responding to someone else's post in the comments. As far as OP is concerned he should just leave that bitch alone. It's clear as day she isn't even willing to fight for the relationship. And I'm not even talking toxic, fighting, I mean actually fighting to save the realtionship. If it's really just as easy as "well we just disagree, oh well, we should break up" then take a hint and break up.Either 1. she doesn't care and this shit doesn't bother her in the slightest or 2. she's pretending that she doesn't care and it doesn't bother her in the slightest, which is a red flag, nobody has time for the kiddie high school drama no chase me, chase me shit. I was in a relationship years ago where the chick wouldn't listen to any of my issues that I had with her. She'd talk my ear off for hours about shit I did that she didn't like and then would I try and address my issues she would just write the shit off and try to solve it by just throwing sex at me. It also didn't help that she was BPD as fuck too.
>>33389386such is life
I need a non normie northern euro man to love me and worship me and go to walks in nature with me (female) Other than soc where do I look?
>>33379104The love of your life is a Filipino everyone calls Tak, but he's the only one who will ever understand you.
>>33379104is soc actually used? I thought it's just some bots reposting peoples pics who ever posted theirs there and all the gay porn threads.
>>33387086Welp, I happen to be there and ain't exactly the normiest tool in the shed. Can still normie it up as needed, but it's more fun when I have people who I can loosen up with (I'm lucky to have a few coworkers like that, just came back from the barbie with them).Excellent choice of hobby too, by the by.Where are you from anon, and what are you up to?
>>33387698I mean I prefer non normies, I am close to Netherlands but how old are ya
>>33379104Nobody here is worth anyone's time lol.
Is it weird to go to the library every day? I'm 34. I want to teach myself CS.
>>33383143It is not weird to go to the library.It is weird to want to learn CS.
>>33385368I need to make a secure website.
>>33385948Try hackthebox's bug bounty path. That taught me a lot about making a secure website.
>>33383143Enroll in some community college classes, bud. Preferably Programing 1 & 2. Coming from a CS major, here
>>33383143>wants to learn about computers>from books
A few months back I posted about how I had an unhealthy obsession of arguing with AI about not being gay. The post didn't get that many responses, and I had forgotten about it until someone recently commented they saw the post from a screenshot. I was curious, and after reverse image searching, I found the screenshot of my post on tumblr and twitter with tens of thousands of views and likes. Nearly every single comment was mocking me. They called me mentally ill and claimed I have OCD, a man child tech bro who's destroying the environment, and they especially called me gay. It felt surreal reading these comments, knowing they're talking about me. More people than I have ever met in my life have seen my post asking for help, and were laughing about it. I just wanted help and I got mocked on a scale far beyond what I could ever imagine.I don't know how to feel. There's a lot of shame and embarrassment. I guess it's my fault for looking for help on reddit, which is why I'm here now. What do I do about this? I feel like a circus freak. They pointed and laughed at me. How do I stop this overwhelming shame?
Only thing I use Reddit for is making fun of Millenial faggots right to their faces, pointing out Reddit is a political psyop, and making more accounts after getting banned doing these things
>>33384868>Because I’ve seen plenty of traps and MTF that get my dick hardOP found his gay buddy
OP, I think you need to talk about this with your mom or a family member who will love you unconditionally.Going to 4Chan because the rest of the internet is picking on you is as retarded as it is gay.
>>33388379>HahahahahahahaI fail to find the humor in this. Having sex with men is absolutely disgusting. Just because I'm attracted to some male traits doesn't mean I want to engage in that disgusting behavior.
>>33389189Natural next step is to find a woman with those male traits you find attractive. See if a hooker will wear a false beard for you. There are two outcomes:> You nutt the hardest you ever have and you learn something about yourself without continuing to make a fool of yourself in public.> You learn that you aren't actually attracted to these traits and you learn something about yourself without continuing to make a fool of yourself in public.
How do I stop basing my self worth on physical appearance? I hate how I look but I want to feel good about myself.
>>33388836If you are a healthy person with two arms and two legs and without deformations, those feelings are totally valid.Get on a gym.If you are not healthy, accept the cards life delt you and try to base your self worth on other areas where you can achieve accomplishments.
>>33388868>If you are a healthy person with two arms and two legs and without deformations, those feelings are totally valid.>Get on a gym.>If you are not healthy, accept the cards life delt you and try to base your self worth on other areas where you can achieve accomplishments.Sounds complicated. OP, "self-worth" has absolutely nothing to do with things that are given; it is about choices you make.
>>33388959>OP, "self-worth" has absolutely nothing to do with things that are given; it is about choices you make.that's incredibly useless as a concept then. Hitler Stalin Mao all had tons of that, they were super sure of their choices being the objective best thing they could do to benefit their fellow man. without feedback from others, you don't have a valuable concept of "worth"
>>33388836Master new skills and perfect them. Get stoned (optional). Getting high is pretty nice. Note that all human perception is subjective. We can't not be biased. Reality is nihilistic and meaningless, and what meaning we have only exists in the mind. Whether you choose to have any sense of meaning or not is your call. Focus more on making sure your short meaningless life doesn't go to waste with what little time you and everyone else actually have. That includes not wasting your time on your current insecurities + unhealthy/low self esteem. Try to balance it out. Self worth or not, live your best life just because you can.
I am an 18 year old young man, didn't finish high school but while neeting I got a passion for coding and digital systems design (went through the rabbit hole of modern firmware then got into game development) that I have cultivated extensively, I think I would make for a good architect.I talked to / reached out to some people in the industry and have been told to just contact companies online and they will put me on an internship program, but I am super procrastinating on that because it's not how my brain functions at all!? Like I am supposed to just stay at home coding, talk to a phone sometimes and at the end of the month there is money in my bank account? It sounds so surreal>Ask a question etcI would post on g but that board is for brand wars
>>33389122>contact companies online and they will put me on an internship programi haven't heard of this... its a lot harder getting an internship, especially for swe. ive had friends struggle to get internships and they are fairly good at coding, compared to the jeets/"le 100k"ers i interact with>talk to a phone sometimes and at the end of the month there is money in my bank accounta lot of ppl think swe/it is like this but its really the opposite. its a fairly social job. i know a lot of sre that are on call constantly, swe that have to communicate with their pm/management/team and potential customers.if i were you, id go to a community college -> state school assuming ur in the land of the free. career fairs will help you out, thats how i got my internships.t. upcoming college junior w/2 internships
>>33389122That's how job work: You do work for people and they pay you. Now fuck off and don't come back until you have a real problem.
>>33389122>Like I am supposed to just stay at home coding, talk to a phone sometimes and at the end of the month there is money in my bank account? It sounds so surrealit's more like a zoom scrum on Mondays and then posting on your slack/confluence what you're doing and looking at the git to make sure you don't step on anyone's toes. it's a real ass annoying job where the boss has to call you for an hour to explain in intricate detail he wants you to make the filter chip widgets blue. but yes within 24-48hr spans where you have to finish what you promised so the pipeline can move you have discretion to get high, game, do your work at 3am, take a nap
no matter what i do, i shave my armpits, take GOOOOD shower, scrub my underarm, wear DEODORANT, WEAR PERFUME, WASH MY CLOTHES GOOOD, went to google and they say applying aloe vera for like 30 minutes or 1 hour or whatever hour you want before showering to stop the smell bacteriathe underarm of my shirt still smells AFTER 1 TIME USE!!, why?? how?? WHAT DO I DO???>keyword: after 1 time use!i don't want to smell bad around people at WORK, my work includes talking to customers a lot and employees, and i walk around a lotis it normal and okay for my shirt underarm to smell? will they notice the smell? or only me?and only my shirt underarm smells, not my whole shirtHELP ME, WHAT DO I DO??
>>33381661you sweat salts into it which start smelling like sweat whne they get wettry a hot wash at 60C+sports detergentsoak in warm water + vinegar then wash, your clothes mite smell like vinegar but it should evaporate in a couple days max maybe a faint vinegar smell after the next wash as well
>>33381773idk who the other people are but unless you're east asian wearing a shirt for the whole day is gonna make it stink to varying degrees. polyester traps more smells too if that info makes any difference
>>33381661The only thing that worked for me was cleaning my underarms thoroughly with Hibiclens every shower and using a clinical strength deodorant. I really like mitchum brand. Also use a strong detergent for your shirts like one made for work wear to get existing smells out.
>>33381661Is it BO smell?Change your diet. Lay off spices, especially tumeric.If it's a pungent musty smell, you probably let clothes sit in the washer too long, or sweated too much in them and left them wet in the laundry hamper for days. You can't just leave clothes wet for days at a time or else they pick up an almost permanent musty smell.Either way, switch detergents and throw out any shirts that smell too bad of it.
>keyword: after 1 time use!What kinda shirt are you buying? Some fabrics/cuts trap warm air and doesn't breathe.
