How do I stop feeling so insecure that the girl I'm seeing isn't just better than me at some things, but is quite literally more intelligent, more socially competent, more outgoing, more athletic, more wealthy, more literally anything you could think of all while taking on the kind of "caretaker" role in the relationship? she has a kind of doting "I can help him/fix him" attraction to me and my autism from some kind of deeply maternal coded nurturing instinct.
>>33930927the "i can fix him" instinct is a powerful one. she probably also finds you cool for her own reasons.
is it common for men to often look much less attractive in 2d (photos, videos), than in real life? recently i had been obsessing quite a lot over a guy i am kind of into, and i caved and looked up some videos of him, since he doesn't have social media. he is not really famous or anything, but if you know where to look, there are videos of him/including him. and i realized that in video/2d form he looks quite unremarkable, i felt nothing when looking at those videos. but irl, whenever i have been around him i have always felt completely smitten, and too nervous to look at him or even to make eye contact for too long because of how nervous he makes me feel (because of his attractiveness).for context, we don't personally know each other, he's more of a distant friend of a friend.
consider killing yourself
>>33930737hope u have a better day, hon
>>33930714I feel like photos don't do my wife any justice. Some people are just like that. Human spirit and vitality > pixels
Im in the middle of trying to bag a crazy 19 year old. (im 30) Mixed results so far. Long since given a fuck about keeping up with memes, but i have to learn the brainrot. Give me a crash course. I learned what Unc is and 67
>>33924519what's 67
>>33930064it's a meme that doesn't mean anything. Zoomers use it any place where a number can be involved. Originated from some basketball dude saying it in an interview or something
>>33924519I'm 42 and will be taking the women who are age appropriate for you. Thank you for your service.
>>33930193you're welcome
>>33924519godspeed anon. I fucked a 19 year old when I was 30. lost my virginity and it felt good.
Look I know this place thinks anything outside of being straight is retarded but I am being serious.>Never once had a real crush on someone, back then I just labeled someone who was nice to me as a "crush" to fit in.>I saw attractive people the same way you would see a nice piece of furniture or painting. >I thought people were joking or exaggerating when they say things like butterflies in stomach or heart racing.>Kissing just feel boring, I felt nothing, it felt like something I was suppose to do rather than something I enjoyed.>I remember thinking that the shit people do for sexual pleasure or love was because they were insane, not because they were really feeling something.I just can't bring myself to care about relationships.
Yeah maybe aroace and/or schizoid pd
>>33930802>schizoid pdThat's a real thing?
>>33930758This is literally the most asexual thing I've ever read. If you're not asexual then I don't know who is.
>>33930802What’s the difference?
i am so fucking tired of other women being prettier than me. all i have going for myself is that i'm skinnyfat and mildly funny. i fucking hate my ugly recessed jaw and stupid chinky eyes and freakish bulb nose. i get so mad looking in the mirror. my mom is beautiful, my dad is handsome according to older women, why am i so fucking cooked? what the fuck can i be doing to make myself less difficult to look at? it's such a fucking waste. i hate my face. don't even get me started on my nervous autistic redditor hunch posture, holy shit. someone, put a hit on me. fuck.
Now you know how every single incel feels.
Manifestelle. Amber Akilla. Stop being a little pickme bitch fag. Men are a means to an end.
Fuck you op bulb noses are my thing. We're all chopped in our own special way.
Lose weight miss. Game your eating habits and find a stable man. THATS ALL YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT
>>33930263just on principle i must remind you you're not a femcel if you can get sex, which it sounds like.
>started to meditate again after a hiatus>first session went great, felt bliss>second session almost killed me>deep seated anger arose, against a particular guy who used to pick on me>literally felt my insides burning, each organ engulfed in its own bubble of hell>deep heart burn that lasted even after waking up>thought I made peace with this situation, even managed to stand up for myself and make him leave, I ended up bullying in return>still feel like this wasn't enough, he's out there probably picking on others>feel my intense desire to kill him to avoid others becoming victims, even if I accrue the worst karma imaginable, but its worth it>felt like I didn't use my gifts to the benefit of humanity, my physical build, I feel like I failed as a man with virtues>im not satisfied with the revenge I already got, I feel like I went against my morals by not burying him alive>tried to just observe these feelings, not rejecting them, it's justified to be seething, but they still linger>my seemingly self-centered narrative continues to hijack my ego>my vision went pitch black, darker than just merely closing your eyes, feels like I got stingrays coming in at every angle directly to my brain>sat in this position for half an hourComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33928879The only solution I have is to brutally harm the wrongdoer.
>>33926890I like Buddhist stuff.All begins with 5 precepts and sense restraint and learning to navigate the suttas and vernacular.
>>33926890Sounds like you are clearing your chakras. The bullying trauma is in your root Chakra, and you are correctly "feeling it to heal it".Lots of things come up as the chakras are cleared on the way to awakening.
>>33928879>your goal should be to have a clear mind that's not particularly thinking about anything at allNot possible. You observe the thoughts you don't shut them down.
>>33930273"particularly"
I am starting a new job where I have to type a lot (programmer). I have an injury in my wrist that was caused by typing all day. It's not a huge issue right now but it could flare up if I am not careful and then one hand won't be able to type.What are some good alternatives to typing on a keyboard? I know there's speech to text - I have used Serenade but it has been abandoned despite badly needing fixes, I would try an alternative if any are good for this use case. Have any of you used a chorded keyboard before? Any other alternatives I didn't think of?
AI
>>33930968Unfortunately I still have to prompt the thing, but if I can trade some typing for spending time reviewing potentially buggy code I will.
If someone gives me a mysterious liquid, and I ingest it, and soon my body feels so much better than it did before ingesting it, how do I know that it was the liquid that made me better and not a placebo effect?
>>33930306By having someone inject it (into food or drink) at random intervals (you unknowing) and measuring state changes (this you may do yourself)Though if not prohibitively expensive maintaining the SQ might net-benefit you
>>33930306Cute
hello… so i wanna say in late septemberish, i caught my bf ahem… pleasing himself, to pirated of content. it came a surprise bc he always shits on simps and whatnot, and honestly it really hurt me, he was extremely nervous so he blurted out what it was, saying “petite, brunette”, and honestly that hurt me even more bc that’s exactly me. having all this happen was kind of an info hazard to my brain, while we got over it, and set boundaries, and he was extremely, extremely apologetic, sometimes it comes to my brain again. and it hurts. it does. it’s not something that ruins my entire day or anything, but it just makes me think. i wish i could just unlearn it. truthfully our sex life did get better bc of all this stuff, it encouraged me to really give it my all in that department and he’s been so happy about that, i as well. on that hand, it’s good it happened i guess, but god, it still rings through my head sometimeshow can i take steps to get fully past this? he clearly wants me, he gets very feral over me, so i know it wasn’t just him wanting something he doesn’t have. he was basically on his knees asking for forgiveness, he knew how much it destroyed me and we set a boundary after and he was completely fine with it, especially after all the steps i’ve taken to make him even happier.i wish to fully erase this from my brain, and fully get over it. i don’t want it to even come to mind. how can i cope with this? i’m a lovey dovey woman so i couldn’t even fathom the very thought of pleasuring myself to someone else. thank you.pic unrelated, but funny nonetheless
Note sure what steps you can take, other than forgiveness and moving on. Men should have willpower, but porn is very addictive and he clearly felt guilty so he knew it was wrong. No excuse for him, but since you say you are now giving it your all it sounds like you recognize you weren't before. Glad you have set clear boundaries.
are you retarded? he literally masturbated to the thought of you. and you find that disgusting? leave him his privacy and let him masturbate. everyone does. he obviously loves you. when I dated a fat chick, I masturbated to chubby porn. since I married an asian, I am masturbating to asian porn. that is a sign of affection. you should be worried when he masturbates to cuck and cheating porn.
>>33927939thank you for your kind response. i really appreciate it. i think you’re likely very right that there’s not much i can do but just keep it out of mind and not let it affect me. yeah, it really did kinda help me out of my shell, it didn’t make me do anything i didn’t want, but it gave me a bit of a push to be more like me. thanks again.>>33928020i don’t know how you classify that as the thought of me if it’s other women… i get men jerk it, and maybe im wrong for hurting as much as i do, but i can’t control the way i feel. it is a spiral of wondering if the other women are better, and what they have that i don’t. i get where youre coming from, but emotions are a bitch.
>truthfully our sex life did get better bc of all this stuffSo what are you complaining about? My ex thought like this. Always tried to create a problem where none exists because she was insecure about herself.>it came a surprise bc he always shits on simps and whatnotYour boyfriend is not a "simp" or a hypocrite just because he jacked off to a girl who looks like you at some point. He was probably doing it because you weren't around or in the mood, but he loves YOU. Again, you are projecting your own insecurities onto him.>maybe im wrong for hurting as much as i do, but i can’t control the way i feel.Yes, you are wrong. By continuing to be upset about this, you are going to create the very outcome you are worried about.>it is a spiral of wondering if the other women are better, and what they have that i don’t.If other women were better, he would be dating them while jacking off to porn, instead of you.If other women were better, he would not be>extremely, extremely apologeticBut other women will start to look better and be better if you don't knock off your woman-brain shit.
>girl I'm talking to said she likes reading a lot Be honest bros, how likely is it? Is she reading what I think she is?
>>33929890Rather take an illiterate bitch than someone who reads about werewolf rape desu
>>33929901>werewolf rapeParanormal romance is so weird, because the vampires represent urban hipster gay guys and the werewolves represent hipster con furries.There's enough simps around that even a girl weird enough to be into raping furries will have a cloud of orbiters.
>>33929684There actually are seemingly normal people out there who like to read
Wait, are men actually upset that women read smut?Men? The ones known for porn addiction? MEN WHO USE 4CHAN?
we all know what (you) are into watching on your spare time op. Yet you're worried about a woman reading some fantasy BOOKS?! holy fuck, you're retarded.
Hi all, F18 here, in the future I’m hoping to do mental health nursing, my plan is to serve in the army as a MH nurse, I’m actually studying for a career that’s not even related to it, but I plan on switching next year so this won’t go to waste, I’d say I have good intuition and emotional intelligence, but these days I feel like it’s slipping away, and I’d like to continue building that up, I was wondering if I could talk to anyone, add them off of here? Anyone struggling with mental health issues, i.e. (anxiety, depression, identity crisis etc) I’ve been very attentive on mental health discord servers, but the amount of requests I got was just overwhelming, and I felt more used than anything, since then I got rid of it, it was too draining and I got busy with school but now I have more time, and I’ll have to get over those feelings because I know it’ll be an emotionally demanding job, I was taught the best way to tackle someone struggling with mental health issues is to befriend them first
>>33928698Thanks so much for this, I really appreciate your insight and the reminder about boundaries, but just to clarify, I don’t and will never offer any kind of professional or medical advice, until I am qualified to do so, I only want to provide a supportive space for people who might need someone to listen, and I always encourage anyone struggling to seek professional help, and I completely understand the emotional weight of this kind of work, I’m taking things one step at a time while I work toward becoming a qualified mental health nurse in the future
>>33928066>F18YWNBAW. You're welcome.
>>33929928?
>>33930658You are a biological male.
>>33930735Why does my gender matter?
My friends think I'm a lesbian, because I've never had a bf and I don't do much girly stuff.I told them I'm a trans man and they told me "that trans stuff is fake" and are pressuring me to go with them to this thing to meet some guys Wednesday.Should I go with them just to get them off my case or should I stand my ground and contest their whole "trans people aren't real" thing.
>>33928573Maybe you’re asexual? That’s another good area to look for self reflecting. Some asexual people find that for the right person they can be sexually active with but for some it seems like it’s not for them at all. There’s an /lgbt/ board you might already know but it might be just time to figure out if you want to present differently or not and what you want out of a relationship.
>>33924445>Idk what tomboy extinction has to do with anything,It's what women like you used to be instead of a surgical disaster. Or else a dyke. Or a domme. I'm not really sure what you want to be but surgery is awful, nobody should do surgery voluntarily removing major important stuff from your body.
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE SEX
>>33928573>there are also a lot of really talented people posting there.Tumblr is the platform that generally is more favorable toward the liberal left and those who push those ideas. It is not at all surprising that these influences are pushing you toward trans things, but you are simply you and no amount of propaganda will ever take that from you. Just be yourself.>No, I'm not attracted to anybody. When I was growing up and I didn't like any guysNor do you like girls. It sounds like asexuality. I had an asexual girlfriend before. Very similar, she also had a preference for men's clothing and style. She was not a lesbian or trans, just preferred those things.>I feel like I'd be happier as a guyThat's because this is a man's world. My fiance often laments that she has to be a woman because of the way women are treated and viewed. Especially growing up on WoW. People do not respect women and actively threaten women often so it's natural to not want to be a woman.
>>33928855I just don't like to mentally picture myself as anything but a guy. I don't think the tomboy label fits right.>>33929352I'm going to go out with my friends tonight to get them to relax but I'm not expecting it will go the way they're hoping. They want me to go home with a guy by the end of the night and that seems like a dumb thing to do.
How the FUCK do I last longer in bed.I know it has been asked a thousand times but nothing seems to work.>Think of something elseDoesn't help much.>Use a condomI already do.>Take breaksA 10 second pause gives me 10 seconds more stamina.I'm tired of having the sexual prowess of a 90 year old man.
>>33930769Do levels.>Take breaksThat's good advice, but do it smart. Use your fingers and tongue to keep your partner aroused while you rest.You're clearly dumb, that's why you haven't figured that on your own.
>>33930795Kegels*Autocorrect messed up
Cum early and keep fucking. Use viagra if you can't get it up again.
>>33930795>You're clearly dumb, that's why you haven't figured that on your own.Thanks.Consider now that as a 90 year old man, pulling out and directing all blood flow to my fingers makes me lose my erection.>>33930803I do this, but it ruins enjoyment.May actually consider viagra.
>>33930805>Consider now that as a 90 year old man, pulling out and directing all blood flow to my fingers makes me lose my erection.If you lose your erection that easily, I think you need to check your overall health.Go do some cardio.
Happily Married 13 years. She was a virgin when we met. Still in love w/ an active sex life. Wife is a 38 y/o yoga-goddess & homesteader. I am a 45 y/o fit/lean construction & tradeworker. we have great sex 4 to 6 times per week. we have done just aboot everything. I make sure she cums at least once per session, she is usually multi-orgasmic. we have several toys already: "Rabbit" style thrusting vibrator, AKADY clit suction vibrator, a 3 motor dual armed clit vibrator that slides over my dick and vibes my balls/her clit with the opposite base motor, and finally; a small vibrating butt-plug.I/we have tried the "come hither" fingers 1-2" inside her pussy upwards towards her bellybutton, while bumping my palm on her clit. while she does orgasm, it's not earth-shattering and there has been no "Gush" or squirt.I believe she has gotten us EITHER: 1) a We-Vibe Chorus Pro2) a LELO Enigma I think it's 80% likelihood to be the We-Vibe Chorus Pro.she was and to a lesser degree still is a bit on the reserved side. don't get me wrong, she is and has always been down-to-fuck and get her rocks off. that said, I think maybe she has a mental block at the thought of "peeing" during sex (I know it's NOT pee). I have let her know I think seeing her pee in the shower would be hot & flat out told her I think it would be out-of-this-world HOT if she squirted during orgasm. as such; I have "given her permission" to "let go" but I think her oppressive upbringing is blocking her from embracing the flood.how do i:1) let her achieve squirting orgasmand/orComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33930091>>33930121Fake porn squirting is just peeReal squirting, female ejaculation, is more viscous and comes out more in a single spurt. It's girl cum, not pee. I've only done it once, to one girl, but damn I felt like a sex god. Bitch was arching her back like the exorcism as she came.
>>33930107>>33930117>>33930179soory, I guess I missed the memo aboot 4chan going prude. I'm just gonna guess that all yuins have 15+ year happy, sexually active & satisfying marriages. I am clearly the problem & odd-Anon-out. forgive my lack of marital expertise. >>33930251this is definitely reccomended, but it's hard to stop once I get her going. not because of her demands, but because I love to see and hear her cum at my hands or on my jank. I love taking her to complete satisfaction. >>33930277I also got a girl to squirt when I was ~18. I had no idea what I was doing, but I just happened to stumble onto the "come hither" fingerbang because I had already shot my load & she had not orgasmed yet. it was fucking awesome.based on significant recreational research via multiple *actual* experts, Doctors & various PHD's this is the case. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33930068>I think maybe she has a mental block at the thought of "peeing" during sex (I know it's NOT pee).It's pee.
It is pee. It comes from the bladder and is mostly urine. Every time this shit is studied the women who claim that they squirt simply piss themselves. Not to say that pissing yourself mid-orgasm can't feel pleasurable.
>>33930068>I think maybe she has a mental block at the thought of "peeing" during sex (I know it's NOT pee).It's pee, it's piss, it's urine, it's peepee, it's a golden shower, it's a #1, it's writing your name in the snow, it's draining the lizard, By the way I am a 46 year old rock star millionaire with a 9 inch dick with 8-pack abs who makes 7 figures a year and is over 6 feet tall and I've been happily married 14 years to my 30 year old wife, and we have sex 5 to 6 times a week and she orgasms 7 to 8 times a sex, and I've never had to use cuck toys.
Im 19 and keep accidently cold-approaching woman that are like 35 and then its awkward as fuck and I just walk away. Even worse I accidently did this to a high schooler the other day cuz she looked early-twenties. What are some signs a woman is 18-29?
>>33919919Always area context clues. "80s night at the bar" hmm I wonder how many teens will be there, about zero I'm guessing. The bar is playing some shitty 2020's college kid music, you'll find kids your age there.If they look good, whats the problem unless you have a calendar fetish? If you have a calendar fetish then go away those people are almost as annoying as foot fags.
>>33919919Take a lesson from this Boomer, little bro: If shes hot, shes hot. Period.If anything , a 35 year old will suck and fuck you in ways your fellow zoomettes can't even imagine. And if she responds to your advance, you already passed the hurdle at which age may have possibly mattered.
>>33925908Just random public places, mainly my local downtown area.
>>33919919
>>33919919Don't worry about that. It doesn't matter. Don't be awkward if they are older or younger than you thought. It doesn't matter and nothing bad will happen to you.
