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>have a close group of 3 of us girls and 1 guy
>one is my gf, the guy and girl are a couple
>we joke about being a polycule a bunch
>its an open secret that all the girls are really into the guy
>he shows physical interest in the other girls, pretending to grope, slapping my gfs butt once, etc.
>megajealous.jpg
>he buys me stuff all the time, mostly spoils me, calls me the cutest, but I kind of wish he would give me physical attention
>few nights ago
>we're all cuddling as a group
>he sleepily rubs my thigh
>i start to get excited he's finally showing interest
>he realizes its me and immediately stops

what am I doing wrong? I don't even necessarily want to fully date him or anything, I just wish he'd give me physical attention like the other girls.
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>>32392367
stop being a harlot and commit to one person
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>>32392367
fuck off whore

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how to stop being so freaking insecure and suicidal?~
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>>32389882
>literally impossible
How is it impossible to hate everything about myself, Well, I guess I'm glad I'm not blind or anything. But that's pretty much it
>>32390213
>seek a psychiatrist
Why?
I'm going to see one tomorrow
Hmm, so I need to do the opposite of what I want to do?
That seems very illogical and hard to do. For example, what do I do if I'm hungry or need to crap?
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>>32392035
ANON SEEK A THERAPIST AND PSYCHIATRIST
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Why fight it? If you're so suicidal, why are you still alive?
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>>32388179
second post gave you a dozen ways to get on the right track. Stop being a faggot and get some fucking willpower
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>>32392035
>How is it impossible to hate everything about myself
if that were the case you wouldn't reach the keyboard
>Well, I guess I'm glad I'm not blind or anything. But that's pretty much it
case and point. now let's work from there, what DO you hate ? list like 5 things you wish could be magically fixed, once you do so, see which of them is easier to do and which of them is plausible to achieve. from there you start slowly working on fixing these things

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All of a sudden my tinder likes are at 99+ from about 40 earlier today. As a guy I found this strange. Then I noticed upon swiping that Tinder is only letting me run into guys profiles….Even though I have it set to women. I deleted and reinstalled the app to avail. Can somebody please explain what the fuck is going on?
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Now after logging out, my messages are deleted…Holy shit. I just deleted the fucking thing. Now is my account going to be shadowbanned for creating a new one with my existing phone number from the prior account? I heard Tinder hates this and sees it as cheating the system
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>>32391832
You did this to yourself, faggot.
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>>32392055
The fuck I did, dickhead. I’m dead serious that Tinder did this shit
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>>32391803
I've been curious about this too anon. I mean why not check out the gay side of tinder? I just want to see what it's like nothing sexual.

Why is the effective rates so much higher than the actual rate?
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because you voted for it
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>>32391298
Because you deregulated the state and the oil jews are now fucking you
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>>32391298
something you can try is a lot of electric companies will give you a reduced rate to join in with them. do that and when the rate will go to normal look for the next company. that how i reduce how much i pay.
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>>32391670
There is nothing in life that hasn't been keiched.
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>>32392266
My credit sucks, though. Mostly 'cos I don't use it.

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Anyone know how to get free tickets to Disneyland?
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>>32391157
Because it's the real. Imagine being French and not knowing your Baudrillard:
>Disneyland exists in order to hide that it is the "real" country, all of "real" America that is Disneyland (a bit like prisons are there to hide that it is the social in its entirety, in its banal omnipresence, that is carceral).
>Disneyland is presented as imaginary in order to make us believe that the rest is real, whereas all of Los Angeles and the America that surrounds it are no longer real, but belong to the hyperreal order and to the order of simulation.
>It is no longer a question of a false representation of reality (ideology) but of concealing the fact that the real is no longer real, and thus of saving the reality principle.”
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>>32391164
>tfw anon has babbys first "wait if all interactions between people are transactional, and women are people, and women have sex, and sex is an interaction, and transactional sex is prostitution, does that mean every woman is a prostitute???"
You're not as deep as you think you are.
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>>32391185
ok
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>>32391143
Only a problem for locals
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>>32391788
If by
>only a problem for locals...
you mean
>essentially only available to locals...
then yeah, but realistically you're only going to know a disney employee if you ARE local.

If you live out of state, although it's not a freebie, the BIG thing to negotiate on is renting out a disney vacation club timeshare member's points for the year in exchange for commensurate liquid cash - what often happens is someone buys a disney timeshare for the 30-60k, they enjoy it for 6 or so years before they either grow out of it or get really fucking bored of disneyland, then they realize they're in for tens of thousands against the timeshare and have big annual dues.

What these types in debt to the mouse do is basically say
>you comp me the annual fee, you can use my points for the year for a 1 week vacation or whatever
At which point you're staying in a 400 buck fair market value room a night for 50-150 per night. There are reddit and facebook groups you can use to set this deal up.

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i have been a neet for about 5 years now, didn't do anything other than play video games and i feel like i have lost the ability of actually getting anything productive (like study or work) done
>INB4 you need discipline
thing is, i already have that, i start working on stuff, but i get mentally (and sometimes even feels like physically) tired after a short period of time (about 2 hours) so it makes it hard to get shit done because this exhaustion only accumulates, and i have to take time off because if i do stuff while tired i won't get anything done anyways

how do develop the mental energy to stop being a neet?
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>>32391438
The only way to get good at something is to practice. Push yourself to your limit, then retreat and regroup, then repeat.
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>>32391438
Slowly. Get in the habit of going outside more, meeting commitments with events/friends/volunteer opportunities, and generally thinking of the things going on outside your body rather than in your head.
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>>32391438
What helped me was changing my mindset from thinking that passive shit is rest, to thinking that active shit is rest. So I used to think that watching youtube videos and playing video games was rest, but now I consider stuff like walking, learning through reading, and checking stuff off my "to do" list rest. Went from wasting most of my free time to getting shit DONE. It's really all about how you frame things in your mind. You can fool yourself in so many ways it's not even funny.
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>>32392197
None of this is to say that I don't have bad days where I just turn into a passive vegetable or that I don't take breaks. There are also tons of little and not so little tricks I use like having a daily to do list, affirmations I say to myself, journalling, intentional breathing, etc. It may also help that I work 6 days a week for months on end so when I have a day off I cram a lot of tasks in it and after a bit, you get used to that pace and start to enjoy doing stuff especially when you see it advance your life in some sizeable way.
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>>32391438
do you know of any disorders you may have like autism or adhd. if you do try looking up advice for that specifically. like looking at autistic burnout and how to handle it or anything else that might be more relevant to you.

so the thing is that what or to what extent can your employers dig in to your personal life when YOU ARE NOT EVEN connected to THEM ANYMORE?? it has been wrecking my mental health for months now. I don't even think that it is right to dig in into personal life of an ex employee then judge them when you already sacked them off. Is this even normal??? First off I am not schizo I just based this on facts alone and it's like a fcking initation right .. HELP .
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Tell them you will file a case of harassment with the city, state, if you haven’t yet the HR of the company. That should get them to stop. If not file the case with EEOC with all the proof you have. One of these options should stop them. It could even count as stalking as well you could maybe file with the local police department.
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how to do this???? how do I defend myself when they believe the lies on the internet?
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I cannot do this , we work remotely but it has been affecting my work
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>>32392058
>employers dig in to your personal life
So you confirm they are not lies
>believe the lies on the internet?
Am I missing something here?
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I thnk the one you missing out is that they create the drama for God knows why

>American
>Cannot leave country
>Free for the next 6 months
>$15,000 in cash
What should I do with my time? Cross-country road trip?
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check out the rockies. is hawai'i or alaska an option?
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>>32391416
if u come to new orleans ill host u anon
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>>32391431
I could go to hawaii, I just have to remain within the domestic United States.
I'm considering the rockies for the remainder of the winter.
>>32391451
I appreciate it anon, maybe for mardi gras
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>>32391416
visit the pnw

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>be me
>24, decently handsome
>am often favorably compared to movie stars (ed norton, ryan gosling, rdj, others) by strangers and acquaintances
>tall, deep voice, long cock
>debilitatingly autistic and depressed with self esteem issues and anxiety, whole 9 yards
>cannot even fake my way into a normie conversation, cannot do "small talk," it all fizzles out because i am incapable of relating with regular people
>can't flirt with people because autistic, when i try it is seldom received well and the lingering shame is always enough to make me not want to try again
>have had sex with only two people in my life, was not particularly attracted to either person like they were to me
i'm so tired of feeling like a fucking failure at life. how do i start smashing good pussy like a champ without hiring a prostitute?
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>>32388345
this
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Just do it you fucking retard. You're "handsome" so people in reality should just talk FOR you. Handsome people get what they want, ugly people do not.
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>>32388332
self-improvement and stop being a narcissistic faggot lmao
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>>32388332
I would start by deleting all Sonic pictures from my hard drive and throwing the computer into a dumpster
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this advice is why i come to /adv/ but you should ask your friend for help to set you up on a date or just try to make more friends that happen to be women. Dont compromise on someone who doesn't except you for you.

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First, thank you for taking time to read this. It's gonna be a bit of a wall, but I appreciate your time and helpful replies/insights.
OK, so I guess I'll start a bit with some info about me.
I'm in my late 30s, I have a 4 year degree in a STEM field (physics, specifically), and I have about 15 years of experience in engineering, research, machining, design, and STEM in general.
I'm fat (but not like "I can't go upstairs" fat or anything). People say I'm very clever or smart, but I don't really agree in general. I have some mental illness difficulties and I am autistic (all diagnosed and yes I take medication but they don't really affect my function).
I currently work, in a very similar field to what I'd like to do, and make enough money to get by but not thrive.
What I really need to thrive is a bit of financial stability (I'm barely above paycheck-to-paycheck at the moment) and a small yard where I can sit outside in the quiet nature and have a little campfire.
I'm with a girl I really love and have been with her for years and I see myself staying with her for the long haul.
I have notebooks (literally over a dozen composition style books) filled with theories, protype sketches, ideas, schematics, research questions to answer, etc. Things from neuroscience, to simple mechanics, to astrophysics, to just fun doodads/toys, to energy and propulsion, etc.
As you may have guessed, I struggle with interactions with people. I can be very charming in front of a crowd, which is bizzare, but I struggle to interface with how the world "works" and get things done, especially because I have no real extra money and it seems like everytime I try to get extra money I fail (at the process or with people along the way) or people just ghost me or it's just not enough money.
OK here is where I ask for advice: (part 2 below)
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>>32385513
offer your skills, not your idea, those can't be stolen. NDAs are also a thing and don't cost anything.
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>>32385718
I am currently offering my skills and in this area I get about $65k/year for them. No where near enough for even a small parcel of land with a simple dwelling for my quiet sitting and nature and camp fires. It's extremely depressing. I have tried selling my skills and promises, but every single time I am met with "requiring" and example, at which point I give them an idea, and then they ghost me. I have no clue how to draft a legally binding and enforceable NDA. I guess I should hire a lawyer for that? Regardless, thank you for the input and I hope there is more from this thread. Apologies for the slow reply, I was watching movies with my partner and now I'm headed to bed.
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>>32387473
it does not matter how much you actually earn. what I mean is, when you make a startup, you should become irreplaceable, so your co-founders don't backstab you and make a company with your idea but without you. when you develop and market a product yourself, you should not just provide the initial idea, but constantly improve on the idea and how to achieve it (whatever tasks it takes) with your knowledge and experience.

Do not think so lowly of yourself because of a salary. Your skills might be worth less than 60k to an enterprise company. but that says nothing about your actual value. From the sound of it you have a lot of technical skills and only need the skills for marketing, compliance and management

Remember, you do not have to be friends with co-founders. In fact many friendships and marriages fail when people who are close, start working together. but your co-founders should always value your skills and your input.
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>>32388871
I don't want to develop and market one product. I want to prototype, develop many products and do research. I have very poor social skills (marketing, management, etc) so you are correct there. How do I find co-founders? What is the process of making a company like? Also thank you for the reply.
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>>32385393
The end of my story is to write a business plan.
Before you spend money, do what you can for free. Idk your business but, if you have a deadbeat cousin who can help with the light work, do that. If you can borrow a laboratory or machine shop after hours, do that. You can use the company you work for to run your own business out of. You can. Make it official so there’s no trouble. How you manage your own money is how your business is going to run so, get your shit together. Anyway, if you want funding, write a business plan. It starts with your current drawings and ideas and some scratch paper, a bunch of sticky notes, and plenty of pacing around. Refine your scribbles into something you could present to your grandmother in a way that she would loan you the money over dispensing it to all of her offspring. The bank would take a deal like that. Even better if if can find people with balls to leave banks out of it. You still need a business plan to secure balls like that.

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> Monday
> 1 hour commute
> engage in office small talk with "cubicle neighbor"
> work 8 hrs
> 1 hour commute
>Tuesday...Weds...Thursday...Friday...
> Finally friday
> Payday
> Work 8 hours
> Drive home during rush hour.
> Get a hooker on way home.
> 30 mins of "joy"
> Get home
> Pay bills
> Transfer any remaining money to investment accounts + crypto portfolio.

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>>32392007
This sounds pretty cozy and care free OP, just try and enjoy this part of your life. Change is constant and change is coming for you eventually.
Sounds like you may want to try having a girlfriend, they suck most the time but if you find a nice girl its worth it. Either that or I am going to give you the generic advice of finding a hobby your passionate about. I was bored like you until I found Jiu Jitsu, it's greatly improved my overall enjoyment of life.
Try and find something like that
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>>32392091

>This sounds pretty cozy and care free OP

I forgot the truly most awful part about my situation. I live with my parents, because I don't want to pay (((rent))). Could this be the true source of my sadness?

If I lived on my own with my exact same routine, I probably would be much, much happier I'd imagine.

>until I found Jiu Jitsu

I have done Jiu Jitsu and it is indeed so much fun. I should get back to it but I keep imagining myself breaking a finger and being unable to do my job, even though I did Jiu Jitsu for almost a year with no issues

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We have someone in our company (LLC) who we want to get rid of due to him being an illegal sex freak. Since he won't leave on his own terms (he has some money in the company) how do we force him to take his money out of our company and leave?
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>>32391767
New York
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>>32391783
post the operating agreement, I'll read it and give you my opinion
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>>32391388
Gonna need the source my man
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>>32392104
Just look up "hulkenburg vore" and you'll find it
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>>32391388
>LTAF
based

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>>32394223
No you dumbass, they are mentally ill men
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>>32394286
No she's not, probably a normalfag. Seethe cope and mald
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>>32394111
No, the fun part is being the exception.
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>>32394406
>she's not, probably a normalfag.
Now who's coping ;)
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>>32394611
I'm not

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Hello! Asked this on /g/ with no success so trying here:

I'm sorry to bother you guys but we're learning about Computational Intelligence, Fuzzy Logic and Evolutionary Algorithms right now and there's been a few things that kinda confused me, so I was hoping someone would lend me their knowledge on the topic. There's just been a few lecture slides that just confused me to no end. Literature or video series recommendations would also be very cool. If someone would additionally be nice enough to teach me a bit on Discord, I wouldn't mind paying them for it.

That's all guys, have a wonderful day and thanks in advance if anything comes through!!
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leave your discord
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>>32391952
Thank you! I'll drop it off in a pastebin because I don't wanna have my username sit out here in the open forever:

https://pastebin.com/m2TDWFJg
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>>32392085
if I wanted to I could just paste it in here to spite you

there was no point in being silly like this

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>failed computer science after a year
>failed one subject in veterinary in the first semester
I need advice. The test was today and it was naming structures of bones, and it was shit. I didn't want to learn that.
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>>32390928
Computer science and animal medicine is are not academia jobs.
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>>32391237
programming is not, but computer science is a science, go fuck yourself, you drama queen
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>>32391244
>>32390928
man fuck you
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>>32389430
philosophy is absolutely not any less data based of a major
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>>32391974
Didn't know platonic invented statistics


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