I’ve got a group interview on Thursday for Waitrose (a UK supermarket chain). I’m pretty nervous about it. I bought some smart clothes for the occasion, but I know that can only do so much. I’m a very anxious person and I’ve basically lived as a NEET since I was 18. I’m 25 now and have very little work experience aside from a bit of voluntary work here and there. I’m also very socially awkward due to years of isolation, so a group interview is completely new territory for me.I really can’t afford to mess this up as I’m in a rough spot and need a consistent source of income. Any advice on what to expect or how to handle it would be appreciated.
>>34649444Just take the chill pill before you go.
>>34649444Expect the interview to be a formality. Don't sperg out, don't swear, smell nice, look nice, bam, you're hired. I know Waitrose is posh, but it's a supermarket job, they just need a warm body
>>34649444Is the job within a store - anything from shelf-stocking to cashier? Then just show up and be breathing and you'll beat most of the competition.
>Male 25>6'1">245 to 260ish lbsIt's been a while since I weighed myself, but it fluctuates somewhere around those numbers.I'm not land whale size, but I definitely look disgusting naked. Since I'm overweight do I even really need to eat? Could I get by just drinking water?Literally my only goal in this is to become fuckable.
>>34646879>do I even really need to eatNope. Your current body is perfect for enduring a biblical-era famine.>Could I get by just drinking water?Yes. Toss in a daily multivitamin and a tbsp of olive oil (some of those essential vitamins are oil-soluble).https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angus_Barbieri%27s_fast
>>34646879>Is starving myself a good way to lose weight?Yes, in moderation. Count consumed calories and assume 10% more than what you counted. Exercise and assume you only burned 90% of the calories you think you did. Do not go off the deep end with GLP-1s or some shit. It's good for getting people away from the brink of morbid obesity, but it comes with a lot of side effects of extreme starvation such as brittle bones, muscle loss, hair loss, internal organ failure, etc because you aren't getting enough vital nutrients before feeling so full you'll throw up.>Could I get by just drinking water?Yes, but again, extreme starvation.Protein is your friend and will build muscle.Fiber is your friend and will (naturally) help you think you are full.Mono and poly unsaturated fats are okay as they are easy to break down while still delivering some nutrients and performing key functions.Carbonated drinks will bloat you up and make you feel miserable.Know the levels of processed food. Shredded chicken and mcdonalds chicken nuggets are both processed chicken, but I'll give you one guess as to which is healthier.
>>34646879You gain it back extremely easily. I lost 30lbs in a month but also had to deal with being so fucking cold like insanely cold, constipated, insane hair loss, and extreme bitterness for some reason. I'm now at my lowest weight (weigh less than I did at 10) without doing all that nonsense and just setting meal times and mild exercise and portion sizes and it was infinitely easier and maintainable. Try that before you do any life miserable nonsense. And again, you can gain it back really easily. Your body starts holding onto it like crazy if you start eating normally so you kind of have to do that forever and then it just doesn't benefit you in any way. Seriously. Awful time in my life.I know I'm zero percent believable since I'm some rando but my boyfriend is your height and weighs more than you and he's incredibly attractive to me and I really enjoy being able to be intimate with him. I'm 5'7 and last I weighed ~130lbs myself so it's not that this is my "look match" situation (though he's honestly more attractive than me I think, hard to say with bias). It's comfortable to have someone not too hard (in cuddling) and it's nice to feel small comparative because it makes me feel more feminine and desirable. If you're aiming for some 8+/10 social media esque woman for sex, that's definitely more rare but if you're fine with a 4-6/10, I bet you can find one anyway though by conventional standards you'd probably have better odds. Just don't hurt yourself.
Intermittent fasting + running a few times a week is a really easy way to lose weight. I was around your same weight now im 215-220 after only eating around once a day for 2 months and working out occasionally. Just get used to being a Lil hungry.
>shortest male in my family>dad taller than me>grandfathers were taller than me>all my nephews are taller than me, even the 13 year old>brother-in-laws are taller than me>brother taller than me>uncles taller than meGod dammit...God... damn... it... all...
>>34649952Where do you live? Dude I was expecting something like low 5s or even 4' something. 5'10 is perfectly fucking fine nigga.
>>34649934Posting bussy might help though I don't know
>>34649952Your family is tiny af. I'm 6'0. My brother is 6'6 at 14 and my uncle is 6'9. And YOU feel tiny?
>>34650004I'm 6'7 lmaoroflcopterpenis
>>34649931What about your Mom's supposedly gay best friend?
How do I get faster at reading? Friend of mine asked me if I could proofread her thesis, however reading it takes me a HUGE amount of time, about 1 hour for 5 pages and that's without even checking for typos or anything like thatI have no idea what's wrong with my brain, I just can't seem to focus on the text so I have to read the same sentence multiple times or going back because I forgot what I just readI'm 30 this year for what it's worth, and as a kid I used to devour books, I remember the whole Eragon saga took me less than a week for 3 fairly big booksAny tips?
>>34650092We've known each other for the longest, and I'm the only one who offered her some help as far as I knowPlus she asked me for help on small sections at first, liked the edits I did and after a couple of those she asked me if I wanted to do the same for the same thesis. Mind you, this is more on style and presentation, not the actual content since we've done two completely different unis
>1 hour for 5 pagesHuh? Seriously?
>>34650248I genuinely don't know howMy friends think I might have ADHD, but I was never tested for it so I don't know
>>34650027"I'd love to, Suzy, but I am a very slow reader and I just don't have the time right now. Why not ask Tom?"
>>34650027I don't think you're having a reading issue I think you're having a focus and comprehension issue. You want to read it for your friend but you don't actually want to read it, so you're struggling. Make a choice you either gotta lock in or tell her the material is too dense for you.
I keep going back and forward with the idea of travel, I keep looking at flights and planning but then in the end won`t pull the trigger to go through with it. I even packed everything went to the final page to confirm and pay but then just closed the page and unpacked for some reason. Then 3 hours later I`m looking at flights again...any advice?
>>34650862Afraid to travel on your own? Get your toes wet with a short guided tour package. Even if you don't like the people or the restrictions, it will take the mystery out of travel and make you ready to do it on your own next time.
i'm 21, russian. the only second language i know is english. i'd call it globish, even. i'm probably transfem though i can't really explore my identity in my country. i want to move, study and then live in a country that is safe, lgbtq+ friendly and have the least amount people of color. basically i want to live in the whitest country possible. what would that country be?i would be really respectful to this country, learn the language and even volunteer for some local things. the uni major i want is probably filmmaking or art/motion designeri want your advices, anons p.s. i hate all the commonwealth of independent states so that includes russia too. i'm not gonna move to russia. also i live in kazakhstan
>>34645577Trans friendly but also racist? Lol good luck with that
>>34649424who said anything about racism lol?
>>34649421that's a funny one lol but no
>>34649257>doesn't mean i should live in russia you nazi bitchYes it does. Either sacrifice your life fighting the regime of stay downtrodden, serf. We don't want you russoids in the West. Collectively fix your shit first.
>>34651456you're fucking retard> fighting the regimeretard i'm not from russia what regime am i supposed to fight? i was born and raised in kazakhstan and still live in kazakhstan> We don't want you russoids in the West.who's we retard that's just your whiny ass talking. pretty sure you're brown
Is it possible to have a mommy fetish in your 30s without being cringe?my gf is younger than me, I definitely shouldn't bring it up, right?
>>34646256just wait a few years
>>34646617so it's over?
>>34646256lol
>>34646256well she will become a mommy in a while, do you not have the patience to wait for that blissful moment? I do not understand the shortcomings of your question.
>>34646256I am 26 and my bf is 33 and I love it whenever he’s my good boy
I changed major from mechanical engineering to computer science in college and ended up taking longer to graduate due to various reasons. Those reasons also made my grades tank from 4.0 to 2.7 by the time I graduated 3 years ago with the bachelor's. The computer science industry is uber fucked for starting positions currently in the US and I have been unable to procure a single interview. I can circumvent the bad grades by beefing up my portfolio and github with good work, which is fortunate. However, I need a job in the meantime. What are some industries where my skills might fit well based on all this? What's the secret to getting a job nowadays?
>>34650112Hahaha you tell me nigga.
>What's the secret to getting a job nowadays?being a good slave, meaning you would do anything for your job and have zero needs yourself, surely not some audacious things like being paid more than minimum wage, being treated with basic human decency or being allowed to have human needs like food, sleep or using the bathroom basically, be perfect or get lost
why are you waiting three years to talk about doing projects to buffer for your bad grades? that's what you do during recruiting season your senior year
>>34650112>What are some industries where my skills might fitYou are asking the exactly right question. Think outside the boxes of CS or engineering. What sorts of thinking have your studies made you good at, and where would that sort of thinking be wanted?Personally, as one of the very very few college grads of the past 20 years who didn't do CS, I don't know what you're good at. But among my friends I saw that an English major who could analyze and interpret poetry learned very quickly how to analyze and interpret sales figures. A history major who could research Napoleon did well in law school researching precedents. And after writing loads of lab reports I was able to become a technical writer in an entirely different science.
Soon I will be going to college and the fact that I will be sitting alone in a cafeteria again is so brutal.I dont mind being alone in the comfort of my room but being seen alone and sticking out... I just cant. I dont mind socializing (I can handle it) but I just dont want friends. I hate putting up with other people, but I also hate being SEEN alone.Plus college is different from HS. In HS folks can chulk it up to you being a weird kid, but in college youll be seen as a potential threat.
>>34650721also, theres a bunch of people from my hometown who go to the same school and will see me so thats gonna be even worse
>>34650721Time to an hero.
>>34650721Sit at a table for one with an open book. Make it look like a choice.
I'm a 25-year-old guy who has never had sex due to years of struggling with anxiety and body image issues. Earlier this month I finally started medication, and around the same time I messaged a 32-year-old woman I had seen singing on Facebook. Despite the 7-year age gap, we clicked instantly and have been talking every day since. We've both opened up about our mental health struggles, and I've shared things with her that I've never told my closest friends or family. She has her own challenges as well, and we've developed a very deep emotional connection in a short amount of time. A week ago we talked about my virginity, and I told her that if I ever decided I was ready to lose it, she would be at the top of the list. She loved that, and since then our conversations have become more flirtatious and intimate. Yesterday we even had phone sex for the first time, which was a completely new experience for me and honestly felt amazing. From the beginning, we agreed that we should meet when we both felt more stable and in a better place mentally, but she's been doing much better recently and earlier today she practically begged me to come see her and "take her from there." I'm still improving and don't feel completely ready yet, but I really want to meet her. I know neither of us can know if this is real until we meet in person, and we've both acknowledged that, but I've developed very strong feelings for her. Has anyone been in a similar situation involving a fast emotional connection, mental health struggles on both sides, a noticeable age gap, concerns about trauma bonding or emotional dependency, or losing their virginity later in life? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences.
>>34647011i really hope things turn out well for you anon you have no idea how lucky you are to find someone like that most women are horrible. I will say make sure somebody knows where you are and when you'll be there just in case she tries to rob you. It happened to my friend years ago.
Wow that's random. Now go put your dick in her pussy. You're gonna love it. Trust me.What was she singing?
>>34647011Anon, there's really no downside to this. You've met someone you really like and get on with; she feels the same way; stop overthinking it. I lost my virginity at 23 to a woman who was 29; not exactly analogous, I know, but it was lovely. Honestly, just go for it. How much more "ready" do you really think you'll ever be? > I know neither of us can know if this is real until we meet in personThis is true. But all the more reason to meet as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the more time you will have wasted if it doesn't work out irl.
>>34647011>Despite the 7-year age gap, we clicked instantly and have been talking every day sinceignore the retarded age gap discourse onlineits rarely a big deal irl at least if you both met as adults as adults doI lost my virginty in my late 20s to a 19 year old and was with her for several years. To this day its the best relationship I've ever had. We were like best friends. Do not let an age gap be the reason you don't get with somebody unless it makes the person just unattractive to you. Personality and compatibility matter much more. Go fuck her now.
>>34647011Two people with "mental health struggles"What could possibly go wrong?
>go on four dates with this girl who is below my league >she seemed really into me and eager to hang out. she was always available for me>she was dtf and brought me to her dorm on the third date, and wanted to do so again>on our fourth date, we went to pool bar>we made out and she made it very sensual. our convos took a sexual turn and she even complimented my looks>while we were playing pool, i see her looking at this other group of ppl (of guys and girls)>wtv >she later approaches one of the guys (who was taller than me) to tell him that she likes his shirt (I think)>i am in panic mode and excuse myself to the bathroom after we finished our game>she ends up texting me asking if im still in the bathroom>we leave the bar and i am trying to process what just happened. i try to stay mute since I am on the verge of tears, and she seems to want to hold my hand and continue talking as if she is oblivious to my feelings>she asks what I want to do and if i am busy the next morning >I told her that I am busy the next morning and that I just want to continue walking around>i then told her that i should leave before the subway closes. we kiss goodbye, she tells me not to miss her too much, and I leave>i immediately unfollow her and remove her from my ig Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34648391How are you a homewrecker? You don't have that much power or influence so a bit egotistical. The woman opening her legs is because if not you it would be some other man. I fuck married women almost exclusively. They are looking for a good time with a good looking guy that knows how to fuck, without guilt, and a guy that won't get possessive and try to fuck her up. If you are home-wrecking then you must be one of those possessive types. Most women compartmentalize so the tryst in the afternoon with you in no way is carried home with her. She goes home, kisses her husband and goes about her normal life.
>>34648349You are a disgusting porn addicted creep. Nothing to do with my girl and I
>>34648307Thanks anon. And keep in mind, I had no intentions of dating this girl. I was seeing others girls. But if a girl is going to flirt with other guys while on a date with me, even if I don’t want her as a gf, then I am getting a shitty deal. >I give you credit for you seeing her home safe despite her acting as if nothing was amiss.What do you mean? I didn’t make sure she got home safe. We parted ways when I went on the subway.
>>34648568you literally are a child of a prostitute and a cowardly cuck. kys bastard child
>>34639138The Rodger OP image was a little too much but the pasta is high quality, al dente
Ive been battling transgenderism since I was a kid and in the beginning it was just a fantasy but as i got older, the desire grew stronger and emotions similarly described as "gender dysphoria" followed. Im not ugly, anti-social, pervy, prude or anything that typically stereotypes most transwomen and yet these internal feelings have stayed with me and have even mentally crippled me at times for as long as I can remember.is there a way out of this? whats also frustrating for me is that I welcome these as equally as i reject them. im religious as well and so this truly serves as a genuine impass for my life because im not sure if the transgenderism thing is just a psyop or not but it mentally weighs and impacts my decision making daily and i just dont know if my feelings are true or not or if theres a deeper picture
>>34650956>the transgenderism thing is just a psyopCouldn't have said it better myself. "Gender dysphoria" is a natural part of the human condition since time immemorial, you can accept that you have these feelings without any shame, . Transgender-ism was only recently invented by the medical-industrial complex, don't fall for that bullshit, it is possible to be okay with whatever body and biological gender you have, without being brainwashed by the system that behaviors and feelings not conforming to your gender stereotype are problematic and only curable with whoremoan therapy and surgery.
>>34650956Had gender dysphoria (although in preteen years which I was probably tricked into having) and ultimately got out of it strongly by having a reason to really like being the sex that I am. After all, my partner isn't going to be with someone of the opposite sex and that makes me really like that I am this sex and the benefits I reap (them choosing to touch me and talk to me and stuff)! Easier said than done but perhaps a sliver of chance? You can also start idealizing that dynamic a little too. In the case of mine, it's heterosexual so I start thinking how great it is and how a man and a woman compliment one another and so on. You don't need to be homo/heterophobic but realizing all the advantages is huge. This may only work if you seriously have some mental component that makes you hyper responsive to relationships as I seem to be. I'm not sure. Good luck.
>>34650956Lol
How do I prevent my mom from watching mindless K-drama all day? Ever since my older cousins introduced it to my grandmother and her a couple of years ago, my mom has gotten hooked and goes to bed unusually late because of this garbage tv-slop. She's very adamant, and I am shit at persuading. Do I just block it from the tv, or do I try and talk with her? It hurts to see her watching this superficial romance crap every single day.
>>34650514American can only think in two directions.
>>34649809It's extremely dysgenic and dysfunctional to parent your own parent and is the sign that you had a fucked up childhood. That is not normal behaviour at all, even if you don't question it and assume it's normal. That shit isn't normal, most families don't have a set up where their own children are parenting their own parents
this>>34649821>>34649809Just let them enjoy their chad pretty boy sexxo stories anon and let them relive their chad cock carousel days they had before they decided to settle down with carl the cuck type betabuxx husbands
>>34649809In precisely what way is this any of your business?
>>34651290>they >theirKill yourself, and your family
Humans are an entirely failed species. All people live for is hypocrisy/lying/putting on fake shows every single day. Why should i bother with people?
>Why should i bother with people?You shouldn't. You're absolutely right, just give up and spend the next 40 years waiting to die like me. It isn't like actually trying will even make a difference anyway. You can only succeed in this world anymore if you're a lying backstabber. If you aren't willing to be one, why participate?
>>34651304>Humans are an entirely failed speciesFailed at what?
>All people live for is hypocrisy/lying/putting on fake shows every single day.Incorrect, autists general do not do this
>>34651304>Why should i bother with people?You shouldn't. You should kill them (go on a killing spree).
I'm not talking about lust or desire for sex. I (by miracle) found a really great partner who wants to do that with me. I mean creating a new human with someone.I balance with both videos of children being annoying and hard to take care of, the fact that it would be detrimental to both my own life and the partners (and probably the kids too, kinda crazy to have to exist), the repercussions to the body, and so on yet somehow it STILL creeps up on me. Somehow my brain justifies it all or just gets depressed about those realities and feels "heartbroken" sort of feeling. I recognize this is most likely a hormonal problem given it follows little logic. The issue with this desire is somehow it gets me really down on occasion that it's not happening. Seeing families or pregnancy tests or whatever makes me feel this strange sadness. I can try to cope by "well maybe someday!" but I'm just a retarded college student where the jurys out of I'll be able to manage all of those continued responsibilities. I'm never going to be able to afford it. They are also older than me and have somewhat limited time.The worst part of it is during sex when these thoughts start taking over and my brain starts begging for something to happen or that it's right and overrides any common sense. Protective measures (that cannot be disabled mid sex) are there but I just feel bad and don't want if it was not safe to encourage them to be irresponsible (as they have such thoughts on occasion too). It just sucks. It would be better to not have these feelings (obviously). Any ideas? I am very aware that this is pathetic.
>>34651247I'd factor in birth costs and pregnancy maintenance and multitude of checkups to make sure the baby is safe but you do make a good point. Even those have some avoidable aspects or programs you can get into. Truthfully, I am mostly parroting that from others as I figure given that I'm (relatively) outside of the expense bubble at the moment that they'd know better but internet dramatization is definitely a well known case. I think part of it is obviously if pregnancy occurs without intention that all of that is going forward without question and I've always figured in some senses that I can figure it out. It just maybe feels hard knowing that there's this non-existent being and I choose to bring them into existence and then may struggle in certain aspects or not provide them a comparative standard of care (which as you note with tribal women how it's not as if this is substantially bad and I'd certainly do more than them)... There's also always emergencies and I don't want to be unprepared but hopefully I could manage it. It is somewhat as you say though. It's not unavoidable. Other problems do exist but this may not be that great. I hope so.>>34651255I don't think it's wrong to want to procreate or really abnormal but I guess I can't see the same for myself. It just feels so out of place. I don't feel like I'm the type to be a mother. That is to say if there wasn't the biological imperative and instead this was all being judged by a rational individual that I would've never been given these feelings. I can obviously grow and change as a person, I just wonder how much. It would be awful of me to do as much and be some janky mother. It is natural though and makes sense biologically, it's true. I think my primary issue is probably shame which is something I need to work through. I appreciate your reply. Internal conflict is something I struggle with.
>>34651297It doesn't matter that you don't feel like you're the type to be a mother. Because you already demonstrate that you would make a fantastic mother. You know why? Because you spent your time dwelling on worrying about being a shit mom. That is proof you have what it takes. Bad parents don't give a shit and they don't care, period. But you care enough to not want to fuck it up. That's proof you actually care, and you care before the baby is even born too. That's mother material through-and-through.
>>34651303I hope so. I'll just need to get over internalized negativity towards the idea that I'm allowed to want that and it's not some embarrassing inferiority. Regardless of the outcome, it seems unwise to let myself be so mean to myself for wanting something which despite what societal circles that I've seemingly been ingrained in say isn't something weird. Posting things online can be helpful in this sense of realizing what is the more detrimental underlying concept even if I'm not cognizant of it. Thanks again for your input.
>>34651313That's the spirit. And no problem, have a good one
>>34651227The cause of your problem is not realizing that there are two ENTIRELY different species out there:1. children2. your children
