Hey, a woman who I rejected a couple of months ago just sent me a long (maybe drunk) message last night. She accused me of lying to her and said I was a bad friend. She wrote that I made her feel unwelcome when we saw each other. We were at a potluck my friend was hosting yesterday. (The only thing I said to her was when I asked her to pass the mascarpone cheese.)What should I do? We're both in uni and I don't want her to ruin my reputation. Is there a good way to diffuse this situation?
What can I do with a degree in music production?It's good money, yes?
Should I keep secluding my personality? Every time I have an episode, I just leave the room or power off my phone because I don't want anyone to know about my feelings if they are not that close.I know some of yall idealize girls with BPD, but is it the same for boys? I'm fucking tired of pretending
>can find dudes who might be attractive and or into my interests>Almost impossible to find a non normie oneYou males (not all) don't understand cause you put your dick in anything. But I literally can't be with a normies EW no matter how they look they are not sexual to me. I literally can't be with a man if he 1. Doesn't have specific features I need 2. Is a normie 3. Doesn't have any hobbies in common 4. Isn't from a country I like the culture and the language off(most north eu I have the Language learning autism) . And it is hard as fuck to find, my ex had it and that is why I am so salty it failed fml.Yes I know it is my fault for having autism standards but post copes . Thank you for coming to my spergout
>>33458217I mean how do you talk to them in concerts etc
>>33456753what hobbies o algo
>>33456753I can't really empathise with you I've only had sex once and I'm 29
>>33458483What do you mean how do you talk to them. You're a girl, you basically just sit there and he does all the work.
>>33458483What did you do to get your ex? Replicate that.
Somehow gainfully employed at 30, making about $85k as an engineer for a factory. Decent opportunity for advancement if my company survives. The issue is that the company has been spiraling real bad and the job itself kind of sucks, decent amount of "overtime". There is zero chance I'm quitting in this economy, but was wondering if anons knew how I could upskill and position myself to quit later after the crash/recovery. I don't mind "overtime" but not for 85k. Was thinking of checking out data science and machine learning and seeing if I could power through an online program somewhere.
I'm a pretty ugly and masculine girl. After a life of loneliness I got this bf. He's pretty nice.However, I have found out that he likes trannies. I asked him about previous gfs and 90% of them were trannies. I told him this was weird and he literally told me:>well yeah, I like masculine women. That's why I like youThat made me feel like slitting my wrists, it was like taking a punch to the heart.My first impulse is to leave him. Idk how I can get over this. But at the same time, I don't think I'll be able to have a relationship with another man: I am undeniably ugly.What would you do?
>>33451211Loving feminine girls is not a fetish either
>>33458282...and the daughters?
>>33451211>having a type is a fetish
>>33458344They'll get laid anyway, it's fine. An ugly daughter still has a better chance at love and a successful marriage than a son who isn't otherwise special or wealthy.
>>33451013He likes you, just keep it at thatAs long as you're happy in this relationship, stay in itYou don't exactly have lots of choices, as you said. Still I doubt that you won't be able to find a bf, as long as you're not obese you should be able to find someone, standards are shockingly low for men
Europoor stuck at a dead-end job. I want to get into software dev position but I don't have a degree. Any idea what to do?
>>33457989For example, although it is another field, the guy who became Spacex's chief rocket engine designer built and flew rockets as a hobby before being hired.
>>33457433https://www.careersinthemilitary.com/career/detail/programmers-and-developers
>>33457433>but I don't have a degree. Any idea what to do?get a degree
>>33457433>>33458318I see europoor now that was a usa site but your country probably has a military too
>>33457433The first step is to work on some projects on your own that demonstrate basic software competency, like a web application that stores and retrieves data using a use friendly interface. That would be the bare minimum of skill to demonstrate.Afterwards, you start with low bidders that are desperate to hire anyone that seems competent, even if it’s a freelance job. That will allow you get real work experience that you can actually put on your resume.After you have experience, that’s when you can realistically start getting the better paying software development jobs. It’s like weightlifting. You start small, then gradually work your way up.
Black tenant punched my Latin tenant's door. I know, black, but it was low season and he pays on time.They've been arguing for months because the black one won't wash his dishes until it fills up both sinks. How do I get them to just get along. The other tenants just stay out of it and I am not used to dealing with ghetto people.
>>33457005>how do I kick him out without him going apeshitYou give him an eviction notice following all the proper legal notice he is entitled to. If you think he's going to go apeshit then give him notice with someone else with you. He won't start shit when outnumbered, and if he does he will lose and you get him arrested.
>>33456909Why do you think blacks have been """""discriminated"""" against since they were given freedom? Taxi drivers wouldn't pick them up at night for a good reason anon.
>>33456909Adults shouldn't have shared kitchens and bathrooms it causes all the roommate problems. Buy your spic tenant to paper plates and plastic utensils it's cheaper than drywall.
>>33458302>Adults shouldn't have shared kitchens and bathrooms it causes all the roommate problems.only if you're a savage who can't share or maintain community areas
>>33456909you're a liability tyrone. piled up dirty dished attract mice, rats, cockroaches, ants and god knows what else and now you punch my door in? clean yourself up my man or you will be finding a new place to rent soon.
How does it officially play out?
Why is having a race fetish considered bad? Don't people have sexual racial preferences?
What do you need advice on?
>>33458355How to efficiently fuck you in the ass with a chainsaw.
>>33458301>Don't people have sexual racial preferences?Some do, more do not; and there is a colossal difference between a preference and a fetish.
She has cancer, refuses to get it treated. Shes also like 400lbs, a smoker, and in her 60s. Shes probably gonna croak pretty soon.Then what? Shes all i have. Shes schizoprenic so my phonecalls with her are non coherent (its usually about her apartment neighbors making fun of everything she does in her apartment and othet crazy shit, speaking in code with donald trump, etc.)Not very good company but shes all i fucking have. I keep her alive with 3k usd a month, as an example of how much i care. She was a terrible person to me growing up. Fucked me up beyond repair.But shes all i have. I accept that i have no control over forcing her to get treatment for her cancer, but once shes gone, then what? Fuck!
>>33458163Who do you mean him or his mother
>>33458058>She has cancer, refuses to get it treated.It's her choice. Make peace with it.>Shes also like 400lbs, a smoker, and in her 60s.No offense, but if the cancer didn't get her, it seems like the other ailments would. >Shes probably gonna croak pretty soon.Think ahead and start planning, but I'm sure you know this.>Not very good company but shes all i fucking have. False. She's all you're allowing yourself to have. Nothing is stopping you from going out and making friends. Nothing is stopping you from finding hobbies. Nothing is stopping you from self-development. Nothing other than your own mind. >I keep her alive with 3k usd a month, as an example of how much i care.No. And no offense: this is how afraid you are of having to be alone for a while. Evidenced by:>She was a terrible person to me growing up. You have Stockholm syndrome. Simple as. Your only bond is the fact that she's your biological mother. Sometimes, that doesn't mean much. Sounds like your case.>Fucked me up beyond repair.Here we go with those false projections again. Yeah, she fucked you up. But you're a big boy now and at a certain point, we can no longer blame our parents for their mistakes. At a certain point we have to buck the fuck up and do the inner work to repair ourselves. At a certain point we are accountable for what we do. Say you kill someone. Who in their right mind will accept the excuse of "well, my mom fucked me up beyond repair growing up, so that's why". Fuck no. YOU did that. YOU have free will. And YOU chose to kill. You've got to start taking accountability for your actions and how you present yourself to the world. I don't want to sound mean, but that's simply the way it is, man. Even more so now that it's been brought to your attention, so you have zero excuses.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33458163its his fucking mother wtf is wrong with you, real life isn't an incest hentai comic
>>33458187>>33458308Is it ESL day on /adv/? If his mother is the only person in his life who he loves and who loves him and now he's distraught over that, then having kids at a reasonable age would have prevented this.
>>33458058Sounds like the movie What's Eating Gilbert Grape
What do you do if you are not attracted to your gf/wife anymore and she's getting fatter?
>>33457864Tell her that her getting fat is making her less attractive. /thread
>>33457864You yourself have to then get more attractive. This makes her get anxious about her position because you have more options.
>>33457864does she have an attractive personality?
>>33457953This will only work if OP's wife is still attached to him.Even the fattest, ugliest, most snaggle tooth dogbreath behemoths of women will have more options than like 80% of men. Dread game is still possible but only under a narrow set of conditions otherwise your girl will just go "ok, bet" and she'll get new dick faster than you can order a pizza.
I'm a man, I have a female friend who is 29 now, so she hasn't got much time left. I'm pretty sure she's never had a boyfriend in her life before, but she's been dropping lots of very obvious hints she is looking for a man now. Problem is she's a good christian, so its not quite as simple as goung to a nightclub with her tits out. I just feel bad for her becuase she's not the most conventionally attractive woman, and she's got very little time left to find a husband and settle down.
>>33451578I won't read threads where OP roleplays as if there's a female in his life that he isn't interested in dating. Fucking LARPer>>33455329Don't act like you're some benevolent being trying to find her someone else you fucking roleplayer, make her fall for you and guide her into being a better person that knows how to shave and let her take care of you
>>33455739Most women don't have a problem with the transparent type of hair unless it gets particularly long or fuzzy. Black hairs are more concerning but having just a few is usually normal and can be dealt with by plucking or waxing
>>33451578Good luck
>>33455329ok she has a beard but how are her bobs and rump?
>>33455858you're right it's probably a larping tranny wondering if he can pass with facial hair
My friend said my eyes looked “dead” a few days ago and i dont know how to fix it. I havent fapped in 4 days but it doesnt seem to be working
>>33457680>I havent fapped in 4 days but it doesnt seem to be workingWhat does masturbation have to do with anything?Your eyes look fine, some people have big irises.
>>33457859>Your eyes look fineI'm not the op. No, it's not like that, his eyes look askew.
>>33457680>. I havent fapped in 4 days but it doesnt seem to be workingyou made me laugh retarded kek
Pregnant but I don't want it atm. I dislike kids, I can't help but feel no affection when one smiles at me, touches or hugs me, even if related by blood. Can't abort without destroying my relationship. I'm open to having a kid, but in about 2 years when we're at least settled in our own home we've been working hard for. I know I'll never be ready but at least I will have my own space and privacy. I feel like I won't be able to control the negative emotions being poured into this pregnancy and it is unfair to the kid. Everyone is pressuring me into having one asap because I'm 34 but I personally know plenty of women who've had kids later, my cousin is 44 and had one perfectly healthy. I'm aware of the potential risks with advanced age and I accept the possibility I may never have one in the end. This is very stressful, I'm supposedly somewhere between 6-7 weeks, hormone levels ok but no visible embryo or heartbeat on ultrasound. Have another one scheduled for next week but I'm going nuts until then. I'm praying it won't turn out viable, but if it does, how do I cope? Is there anything I can do to up the chances of it being naturally rejected by the body (I'm scared of just doing damage while pregnancy continues)?
>>33456596You have to lead the target with kids because by the time you are ready, it is too late. People that love children should have less of them. They are young humans and should be taught to act as such. Not treated as a plaything nor status symbol. Who cares about precious life and birth defects? Feelings got you here. Try out logic, while your hormones are developing. Having a baby sooner is like doing anything else sooner. The sooner the better for any adult who can manage finances with simple math you have known since seven years of age. Secret is that kids are cheap AF and you can even profit from them. You are being a puss about decisiveness so instead, get to acceptance. Enjoy.
>>33456596Does he know you're pregnant? If not, then having it aborted and not telling him is definitely the way to go. If he knows, then get an abortion pill without telling him, and claim you miscarried.
>>33456596Why do you want to murder your baby, I don't understand
Keep the kid. If you still feel nothing after delivery, either destroy your life and marriage by giving the child to your husband and leaving, or take responsibility and raise the child as well as you can.
>>33456596didn't know trannys could get pregnant
