I feel like I'm missing a certain "X-Factor" when it comes to attracting women. On paper I should be doing well, I'm 24, white, have been told I'm good looking, I used to be a personal trainer and am in good shape, and I have a prestigious and high paying career. The only thing truly wrong with me is that I'm short (5'8") but I don't think I'm short enough to negate literally everything else I have accomplished. I have had one relationship in the past, and the girl liked me (I ended up breaking up with her) but outside of that I've basically had zero luck with women. When I chat with women online, they're aware of my situation, find me attractive, etc. yet never want to go on a date or meet in person, all they want to do is chat. It's a similar story with a lot of women that I meet in person, most women are actually pretty nice to me and treat me well, but it seems like the very few times I have tried to pursue anything romantic with a woman irl something just fallas flat it's hard to explain. I've never experienced outright rejection, but it's always like the women want to put off a date until later if that makes sense. I'm hoping someone on here may be able to redpill me on what I'm doing wrong or what's I'm missing. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to read and respond.
>>34972365kill yourself
You're probably autistic and lame
How to stop being afraid of taking risks?
>>34967758You don't. You just take them anyway.
>>34967758After not taking a couple of risks the pain of regret will be so ingrained in you that you start taking stupid risks, then you scale it down from there.
>>34967758risk asessment
>>34967758You can't force yourself to not feel fear, but you can choose how you respond to it.Take small and calculated risks.
With risk comes progress. Imagine if you never risked anything and saw your whole life breeze by with no accomplishments. Go take risks for the right outcomes.
I have delusional thoughts which I think come from undiagnosed ocd. Because my delusions are me seeing something and in my vision it looks ok. But my delusions tell me that my eyes are wrong and it is actually really not ok and something bad is going to happen.Really struggling right now because this
>>34967492This. Delusions are beliefs that you are not consciously aware of. Acknowledgement is the first step to healing, but it will take time. Spiritual healing and proper sleep is the best way to reconfigure your subconscious and overcome these problematic beliefs.
You need some support
>>34964849Although OCD can be hereditary it is still a personality disorder and with all personality disorders they are not permanent afflictions and can be cured. With all emotions, the more you feed into them the more they are sustained. Even if you don't act on them as long as you continuously think about it, it will remain. You need to try and focus on something else whenever your OCD gets triggered.
>>34970745For me, I don't doubt my memory. Only when I am confident I forgot to do something, will I then go and check. Even if I think I may have done something but I can't be sure if I did. I will not doubt my memory and will continue on with the assumption that I did do that thing.There are exceptions to this, like if you have to bring something important like a passport. Checking until you are confident you did bring it, is fine. But you should try and allow yourself to not be completely sure about things.
Have really intense, passionate, and life changing sex.
> be me, 32 year old unemployed anon> zero career aura, currently rawdogging life with no job> going back to the academic trenches for the 5th time> this time we're maxxing the IT degree skill tree> chat, is there still time to secure a female companion and drop a sequel?> wait, hear me out> I have negative sun damage because my goon cave has no windows and I refuse to touch grass> I unironically get facials and have been looksmaxxing my skincare routine> people literally think I'm 18, maybe early 20s if they squint> 26 is the average NPC guess when I actually leave the houseif I secure this IT bag via LARP at Community College and keep my skin on prestige mode, can I still achieve a W rizz ending and reproduce with a looksmatch?or is my bloodline permanently cooked and its over?
>>34969745IT is really bad, go to communications and meet real women there, you will have a jack of all trades job to get any position in any company.
>>34970471All millennials type like that
>>34970471I cant blame you for not knowing this wasnt written by him
>>34970599Shes a zoomer
>>34970575nice try, i already got an MBA fully going the general route and it did nothing for an incel- so now im going the specialized route of IT its only thing that seems to maybe right for an autist sperg with no life and no friends and no girlfriend but really good skin have you been looksmaxxing bro wooohhh looks who edging, its Bateman!!
am i an asshole? Im a small streamer and a viewer wanted to send me 50dollars as a donation but sent 750 on accident. he then told me he is disabled and does everything with head command. he is telling me that he want me to send back the money but i was cared its a scam so i told him to contact paypal directly. paypal reached out to me telling me that i have a few days to contest it otherwise he will get the money back- which i had no issue over it; i truly wanted to send him back the money. but 3hours before he receive the money automatically he changed the procedure and it will made me lose money- so i asked him why he did that- which he answered ''i dont care about you and your money troubles i just want my money ASAP you can work i cant and you should stop traveling so much. '' so i directly opened paypal and refused the dispute. i can still send him the money back but a part of me doesnt want to because he acted like an asshole. (and yes he is really disabled , his mom called me and ive seen it all- he is not a retard tho he can just neither eat, walk or even speak)
what would you have done? please tell me im lost.
scammer here, whatever you do do not send any money from your end, do everything through paypal support, always make sure you contact the real paypal over email or phone
>>34972355ive got all the proof that he isnt a scammer. i got him and his mom in videocall too.
>>34972355the thing is that i denied the request from paypal support because he acted like an asshole.. but now i am the asshole because ive chosen to ''keep'' the money.
I saw an attractive young black woman the other day in the mall and she had huge breasts and it put into perspective how unattractive I amThe women I'm actually into have plenty of options and I'm on the uglier side unfortunately How can I make peace with this reality?
>>34969689Play video games and jerk off until the sexbots come out. Or do the self improovment and hope you can get women in several years.
>>34970024You're retarded if you don't believe in isekai or heaven. A better world is on the other side
>>34971227How can one reach heaven?
>>34970024He cannot prove the afterlife and you cannot disprove it. Your guess is as good as his.
>>34969996Who is they? Redpill me on reality
Read this giant blog post earnestly:I have been trapped for a few years now in a state of non-action. Wasting away my free time essentially doing nothing, or extremely low effort bottom of the barrel, mind-melting dopamine farmingI simply do not feel a desire to do anything, the things I know that I enjoy are includedI know that I enjoy them, but the thought of actually having to do them is extremely repugnant - therefore I never act - and because I do not do these things, eventually they leave my consciousnessI am mainly talking about my hobbies here, not my career, health, etc those are fine. But, even if they are based on consumption, not creation, in nature, even something like reading a book or watching a show I simply don't do. It isn't even on my mind to do it, only the fact that I didn't do it is.I've tried forming habits, tried quotas, timeframes to do specific tasks, etc but nothing sticksI act entirely on impulse, living a life with zero structure, making life feel unmemorable, fast paced, and honestly confusing. No memories of what I did, no anticipation of what comes next, only the constant fuzz of the current moment It feels like I am only alive just to put money in a 401k each week.I know life is a binary system. You either do something or you don't, get over your problems or you don't, yes - dont say it - I know I am the only one with agency here - but it just feels like my brain does not fucking function properly, my conscience is simply wrongTLDR:How the fuck do I start enjoying things again, WANTING to do them, and form accountability to ensure that I do them, consistentlyFor now, I spend MONTHS doing nothing, with only 2 week bursts of activity I cherish and enjoy, then back to being a zombie
All is vain
>>34970517Don’t be like that
>>34970494Yeah and I'm telling you that you're being manipulated by big tech into behaving like that, and that there is no amount of bargaining and comprimise that's gonna work for us. I've been trying for a decade.
>>34970562Just don’t use things with an infinite scroll algorithm?
what does one do when everything seems boring, tiring, annoying, or angering and putting in effort or focus is repulsivebasically digging myself into a deeper and deeper hole of permanent nothingnessive wasted months of real time i bet just doing nothing
>Mid 20s>raised by parents who had no friends and no real hobbies>never really did anything as a kid as a result.>cps incident, move out at 17 on my own with help from social workers>been living in the same apartment ever since>mostly just worked with a few breaks ('''depressive episodes''')>can't drive>no post secondary schooling>have difficulty planning a move to a better city on my own>I was supposed to move with help from my worker when I was 19 for uni but it fell through and then covid happened>still have the chance to get government gibs for tuition because of the cps thingso how tf do I manage this? Is it even still worth it to go to uni? I cannot do a full degree online, I need to do in person classes. A large motivation behind moving would be to actually get out into the world. I have 2+ years of living expenses at my current place saved. Should I just reach out to friends I know that have moved away and ask for help with getting an apartment or to visit? I've barely even left my hometown so I'm very, very naive to many things.
>>34969186Thanks for your encouragement. As much as you could say I'm afraid to chase my passions, I'm also slightly unsure of what I want. At least it feels that way. How did you settle on what you wanted? Or was it more of a case of knowing what you need but not pursuing it?
>>34969966The latter, in high school I decided to pursue one of my other interests for a career and pushed aside art/animation. I wanted to be a psychologist or therapist and took classes for that at the closest community college due to car issues with plans to transfer to university in state after 2 years. So I didn't settle on what I wanted and those plans fell through too.>I'm afraid to chase my passionsIt can feel scary but I think what you're passionate about is genuinely viable for a number of possible careers, change can be scary too but a change a of routine might what you need especially if you still qualify for financial aid. It's definitely still not to late, as a freshman I met some 26 year olds picking school back up or going for the first time or even old people going back to school.
>>34968645>Is it even still worth it to go to uni?You need to be thinking about what job is at the end of the degree. A lot of dumb choices can be made where you won't get hired even with education because you have no connections. Something like nursing or anything else medical can get you hired right away. Also unless you live in NYC or work down the street from your apartment you are going to need a car. In my area I have seen dishwasher want ads that said MUST HAVE RELIABLE TRANSPORTATION. & bro the bus is not reliable it can be late, you can miss it and it doesn't come for an hour. It stops running late at night. It's full of crackheads with no car etc.
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>>34970762I don't want to keep on working minwage until I die. Ive done retail and retail sales amd hated it.>>34970758I haven't NEEDED a car yet, but it does bar me from a lot of jobs. My previous jobs have all been in walking distance >you need to think about what job is at the endthis is why i havent gone. I don't KNOW what job or 100% even what degree I want. I was told to just go and do generals for a few years before declaring a major, which honestly I ehould have done.
I am pretty shit at dating. I hate it. I run out of ideas for dating and I consider only dates where we go and sit down and eat to be dates. Mostly because they are simple enough for me. I have like 3 restaurants I like to go to. I don't like trying new ones. Mostly because I have awful luck. The last time I had a date, the restaurant I had never been to actually had burned down maybe 2 weeks prior to my date. I get there, the shit is torched and abandoned. I didn't have a backup plan and spaghetti'd the whole date. So my question, is it fine to just go on dates to the same place multiple times? I basically never get sick of going to the same places. However, I think women might get sick of that. What do you think? Also, what are some valid ideas for dates? I can't fathom doing something other than like a lunch or dinner date.
>>34965153Get cues from her. "You mentioned last time that you like country music (or whatever). There's a Dolly Parton tribute act (or whatever) coming to town next week. Want to go?"If not music, then art, activity, movies, whatever SHE might enjoy
>>34965153It's that time of year for:-haunted houses-pick your own apples-halloween parties-horror movies in theaters-horror movie nights at home-autumn hikingThat's an entire months worth of weekend dates right there.
>>34968570I don't like to do any of those things and if I did do them, It would likely leading to me resenting her because I would feel like I am being forced to do them because she likes them.
>>34971909Find a woman who doesn't like going out then.
>>34971909>I basically never get sick of going to the same places. However, I think women might get sick of that. What do you think?Seems like you're a boring faggot. Women dont like being with boring faggots, anon.
How do I stop hating my own people as a black man?I'm unironically becoming a chuddy uncle Tom. I genuinely see no hope for the future in regards to my people
>>34971132The two main arguments for why black people have lower IQs is the environment or genetics. The real reason is neither, it is due to parentage. Black children are left without fathers, their mothers are irresponsible and don't care for them. Their education is solely provided by the government which expects a certain baseline of knowledge.Knowledge that those black children did not receive from their parents. So they are left behind their peers and are thought of and treated as stupid for their lack of a proper upbringing. This shapes who they are how they see themselves.Not to mention their lack of a father figure leaves them undisciplined.The black people of today's society are fundamentally shaped by neglect. You can hate them for who they are but remember how they came to be.
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>>34971304So everything is the black women's fault for being hoes.
>>34971320In america, when black people started integrating with white people, their IQs started rising significantly. It was for a short period during the 1990s or whenever. The point is that, the modern black culture that causes the behaviors of black men leaving their families and black woman being irresponsible is being sustained due to a lack integration within our society.Not in the sense of an economical integration, or black people not being given opportunities. But rather, as a result of our communities being gatekeep and whittled down. A day where a black family will go and have dinner with their white neighbors, will simply never happen.There is no cultural integration, no communities being formed so ultimately, this cycle will continue for a very long time until something is done which will never happen.
>I genuinely see no hope for the future in regards to my peopleI dont believe that the issue cannot be solved. First and second gen african and carribean immigrants are very successful, over a fourth of Nigerian-Americans have a graduate or professional degree. Interestingly, I see a lot more young black people rejecting the hood persona, which is good to see
I fuck my gf raw, I'm 33 and she's 40. It's the best feeling in the world, quite literally nothing comes close.I really, really want to cum inside her raw, but I can't because she doesn't take birth control and I agree with her that she shouldn't. I'm hairy and very masculine and I think the pill could make her lose attraction to me, this shit fucks with female hormones.Anyway, sometimes I put the condom on right before cumming and cum inside with a condom, and sometimes I cum on her belly (she hates it lol).I always make her cum on my dick because I know how... basically just rub her clit while fucking at a specific speed, and because I have amazing self control I can cum with her if I wanted, but because I have to pull out and put the condom on it never works well, with the condom sometimes I go soft or take longer.God fucking damn I need to get a vasectomy... I don't want kids anyway. She's 40 in 5 years then she can't get pregnant anyway but I don't wanna wait 5 years...Do I ask if she wants to get sterilized?Thoughts? Advice? I want to safely creampie her. Do I get the vasectomy and store sperm on the bank or something in case I change my mind about kids?
>>34970881>The more recently invented one is a hormonal deviceSo that's why she mentioned it also fucks with hormones. I'll bring up copper/silver and see what she says...>>34971010Never too late bro, I lost my virginity at 31, this is the second woman I'm having sex with.>>34971023Based.
>>34971119You're quite the moralfag
just get a vasectomy.
>>34970924I am only revirginated I haven't had sex in 8 years but I still have good advice from before as long as it doesn't involve how to get women on apps right now I couldn't.
Get a new bitch. This one is old and lame
How realistic are my standards. I basically want someone like me ex bf>from 4chan>a specific country>smart>witty>specific eye color >not bald/family history of balding>Thin>pretentious>not actually diagnosed autismMinus the issues my ex had which I am not getting into for respect for himDo you think I can find somebody like that
>>34970726you’re cringe
>>34970507She's an indian woman who wants a swedish boyfriend
>>34971100So me and no thanks
>>34970944I don't have a personality disorder or the rest>>34971034Yesirrr >>34971100I am white and european
How the fuck is that small moon of a woman still alive?
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>>34972720better safe than sorry igdou have like agoraphobia now?>>34972718are u insecure abt ur nipples
>>34972721Honestly this part makes me think of kittenposter if she actually listened to her intrusive thoughts, and that kind of scares me.
>>34972652Expressing for a person to not talk on my behalf, on how I am feeling and my current state of being. Choosing a career pathway I care about that still fulfills shared (no longer applicable) goals.
>>34972637FNo. I think you decide who your soulmate is and have to continually make that decision it's not some innate truth or w/e. I'd think I'm getting love bombed and disengage emotionally, slow ghost.
>>34972722I guess, there's no way a woman wouldn't notice it if she saw or felt them. They're firm and lumpy.
How do kill a narcissist (through uno reversing their attempted mind game bullshit)?
>>34969292>How do kill a narcissistIgnore them
If you seek control rather than emancipation. Then you are the narcissist, and a very delusional one.
>>349692921/2There are a few steps to "winning" against a narcissist in their own game. That is, if you consider your opponent losing to be the equivalent of you winning.Firstly, become utterly indifferent to everything that they do. Or show the appearance of indifference as much as you possibly can.If you show some form of emotion, even joy when your insults land successfully. They will perceive it as you caring about them in some form.This is why it is not about winning, as you must suppress your emotions when dealing with them and there will be no happiness gained from victory in doing so.Secondly, whenever you say anything negative about them, they will endlessly try to shift blame and defend themselves. If you try to fight against it, it shows that their opinion of the situation matters to you. You would be better off outright rejecting their argument without explanation, "You can shift the blame as much as you want it won't change anything." or ignoring it all together.Thirdly, when the narcissist tries guilt tripping you or engages in narcissistic behaviour, dont question why they are doing it even rhetorically because you don't care about their reasoning.Just say, "Stop trying to guilt trip me." If they make excuses say, "Stop making excuses, I don't want to hear it." Eventually you might to remove yourself from the conversation. But thats okay.Finally, Narcissists are practically addicted to being soul sucking vampires, if you show that you are unaffected by their behaviors it will only make them want to try even harder. Which fits in with the plan of making them lose since we cannot act against them since that shows we care, we can only react and this gives us plenty of opportunities to do that. You want to refrain from using vague names like "narcissist and egomaniac." this is like water off a ducks back to a narcissist since they do not see themselves as such.
>>349716352/2You must collect every failing in their life, whether it was that they got bad grades in highschool, their crush dumped them, they got cheated on, they have a low paying wage, they are ugly. It can be anything. Especially all of their poor behaviors, their attempts at manipulation and such. All of these things are like bullets to a narcissist because their personality disorder is caused by a deep rooted shame. The moment you have accumulated enough venom, and when they have chosen to attack you, that is the time to dig into them and break them down. And after all that, you tell them that they are a worthless failure, and whether they live or die, it doesn't make any difference to you.Embarrassing them infront of others has a significant effect, but making them feel the ultimate indifference and shame is the true key to victory.
>>34969292the narcissist does not care about you, you have to realize this. your attempts at breaking someone down like that are rooted in attempting to correct their behavior, trying to have them "wake up" and become normal again but they will not do that, ever (or at least most definitely not for as long as you are trying to fix them). a narcissist needs to be abandoned by everybody, lose all emotional support and victims they feed themselves from, and only then will there ever be a *chance* of the person actually changing. of course that is very unlikely because narcissists are masters at analyzing and enforcing social/power structures to keep people dependent on them and by extension keep around their narcissistic supply, so in reality they just never heal.narcissism is like an error in the brain, a complete failure to establish normal relationships where the afflicted person starts using power instead of love to maintain social connections, especially with loved ones. as long as the victim can't leave then the narcissist feels satisfied, if you get emotionally invested then that is already a victory because it shows that you still care about the relationship and as such the narcissist is less likely to be abandoned, which is the thing that they actually fear most.just like anons above said, you can try and ignore them, don't give them information, realize that they are deeply mentally disturbed and don't become affected by any of the many baits that they're going to be constantly trying to pull on you. only problem with that is that it's pretty much impossible, especially if it's someone who's known you for a long time and knows how to push your buttons well - eventually you will slip up and give them even more fuel to gaslight you with more which just keeps the cycle going.really as sad as it is, the only option you have is to simply leave.
Is it a good idea to gift married woman a box of chocolates? I have massive crush on my neighbour.
>>34964360give her a voucher to climb mount /insert your name/
>>34966830You live in the UK bruv?
>>34966856>As someone that fucks only married women (easiest pussy to get)How? Where do you find them and how do you do it without getting a shotgun to the face from the husband?
>>34967976Thanks for answering my questions. At your height 225lbs lean would look good. You should definitely pursue this woman, she likely doesn't have an attentive lover, so you need to be that, make out passionately, eat her pussy, suck her tits. Hold her close, they love that. Then fuck her in the ass and cum on her back.
>>34964360That's a hot pic
