So i've been talking to some people since 2018, a friend from school days introduced me to them and we started talking etc. fast foward to 2026 i just feel like the odd one out. i'm 30yo and these people are 20-24, (apart from other 3 guys who are 29,30,34) who barely join the vc anymore.they are nice kids but theres somewhat of a valley between us. ive living a shitton of things like losing a parent, living alone and many other experiences that they cant relate, whenever i talk to some of them its like talking to a toddler who never experienced shit in life. should i just distance myself from these people?
>>34399028>the vcit's inevitable you'll drift apart with any friend group who you only do discord calls with, or sit around smoking weed togetherthis is especially true as you get olderyou need to do crazy shit with friends in order to maintain strong bonds, this is something people don't seem to understand lately>they are nice kids but theres somewhat of a valley between us. ive living a shitton of things like losing a parent, living alone and many other experiences that they cant relate, whenever i talk to some of them its like talking to a toddler who never experienced shit in life. should i just distance myself from these people?you don't have to go out of your way to distance yourself, but it's probably a waste of time/energy
>>34399028I don't think you should end your friendship with the groupI think you should act like an unc, a boomer.If all they do is talk on discord, and smoke weed, they're not really actively being friendsYou need to focus on hosting BBQs. And that will instantly seperate the wheat from the chaff. Host 2-3 BBQs, and you will know who wants to come over drink some beers and eat some meat, who will say they are interested and flake, and who will just not answer or engage in any way.Being an adult is knowing social events don't just happen, it takes effort to herd cats. Take on that burden
>>34399051>you don't have to go out of your way to distance yourself, but it's probably a waste of time/energywell talking to these people is a waste of time and energy because i have a different world view, i didnt have a phone or a computer untill i was 18 years old. and they're.. well gen z kids who grew up with this stuff, thats just one of the many things we think about differently, i cant talk to these people about adult stuff like paying bills or having responsibilities because they dont get it, they dont have experience. whats the point of talking to people like this?
>>34399028You don’t necessarily need to distance yourself from them if they are useful for other things. It just sounds like you are putting more expectations on them that they don’t want to or are unable to meet.You can still keep these connections, but you need to find new ones for the purposes of relating to death of a parent for example. You can’t expect a person to be your everything, that’s a lot to put on a single individual. You have to diversify. Get to know more people and keep the purpose of each relationship simple.
>semi retired>on NEETbux and housing paid for>no job, lots of free time>still don't draw>realize my problem wasn't lack of time or money, it was just me all alongAm I unsalvageable, bros? How do I get over my art block?I already have a bunch of screenwriting notes and projects i have in mind but i only write about them, not draw.this is my sketch from years ago
we all think we are time constrained but we are attention constrained. You just realized this a bit slower than you should have but you aren't fucked. Now you can work on the right problem.
you know what to do
What am i supposed to do with my life? Is porn and games all that there is to this? I've stopped masterbaiting and i have nothing else going for me, what am i supposed to do? How do i find something more productive i guess? I feel like my life is empty and that i have to change that but i have literally no desire for anything, i don't have any ambition, but at the same time im not content just rotting away fapping and playing gameshelp please
>>34399631Hobbies. Hobbies have been the best thing in my life. Creative hobbies to feel fulfilled, nerdy hobbies to make friends, nature hobbies to get outside, and exercising to clear my head.If you don't naturally collect hobbies I don't know what to do about that. But if you do find something you might have an interest in try pursuing it.
>>34399636>If you don't naturally collect hobbies I don't know what to do about that.Well that's a bit of a problem, i tried reading before but couldn't get into it, I'm also willing to force myself to workout because it's not something i completely detest and I'm used to working out on and off. I'm scared of asking why though, like if i workout or read a book and midway through i start asking myself "what's the point?" how do you deal with that? Any suggestions?
Autism is a curse
>>34399707I like mine but no one would know I had it unless I say that I do.
I am a 30 year old kissless dateless handholdless virgin. Zero romantic or sexual experience with women whatsoever. Whenever I bring up my situation on the internet, whether it's 4chan or Reddit or elsewhere, people tell me I should just "get it over with" and hire an escort who's open to guiding virgin men through their first experience.I have the money to do it, but I'm terrified of even doing that. I'm scared the woman would be repulsed by me and think I'm unattractive, but would go along with it anyway just because I paid her. I'm also terrified of doing things wrong and humiliating myself. I have absolutely no idea how to kiss, let alone have any form of sexual intercourse. I can't handle the idea of doing it wrong and the woman thinking I'm pathetic and retarded, even if it's "just with a sex-worker".What should I do?
>>34396611>Should I hire an escort?no>I am a 30 year old kissless dateless handholdless virginbundle of CIA niggre slop buzzwords>What should I do?find social groups
I only ever had a kiss or two. The sum total of my existence. I could be a renowned philanthropist and it wouldn't matter. My penis never went inside a vagina, so it means I should delete myself.
>>34396611Yes, do whatever you want.>>34399239You're not funny.>>34399414Pay for sex.
>>34396636Sucks to be you, not everyone gets bored of it.
I did it when I was 28, twice, no regrets. I even had them come to my house. It's not everything you've built it up to be in your head, it's probably not even 5% of that. It's 1/2 an hour (or 1 hour) of hedonistic catharsis, nothing more. You'll forget about it in a week.
I'm really scared Google or outlook will ban my accounts because I buy NSFW commissions from artists and save the emails with NSFW photo attachments as backup just in case I lose the image somehow on my PC. I also buy NSFW anime girl figures ( nothing more than topless ) and I like to take pictures of them which saves to google photos. Lately though I've been scared I'm going to get my accounts deleted for violating the policy and if an AI false flags me. All of the characters are adults but I'm still worried because it technically is against their policy's. If I get banned somehow I'd loose everything. I think I'm overreacting but I'd like some advice to calm my nerves just in case. Should I also use Tuta or Proton? If so what authenticator app would you recommend? ( don't wanna use Google or Microsoft because if I get banned I'm FUCKED ) I've been doing this for a long time but I've been getting anxiety lately.
>>34396665I doubt they are going to care or ban you somehow but if it really bothers you consider backing up whatever is valuable on those accounts to you on local.
>>34396665you should rely less on google, anonset up more email addresses & keep them separatekeep all yor nsfw stuff off googleor just rely on google less
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>>34397785I'm going to see if I can use Tuta or Proton as another backup>>34396983I need to keep NSFW photos on google since I have an Android and all my photos go there, but I like to have other options as backup besides Local. Maybe I can also put them on an external drive?
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Hello, recently I’ve been feeling deeply insecure and, at times, suicidal about the state of my life. I am 22 years old and live with my mother, with whom I’ve never had a great relationship. Still, it feels like I’m stuck because I don’t know how to do basic things like cooking or cleaning beyond a very minimal level (dishes, laundry). The upside is that I don’t have to pay rent, but that also feels a bit embarrassing. I have a driver’s license but no car, so I use my mom’s car to get to work. I currently work two days a week and earn $200 or less every two weeks, and lately they haven’t been scheduling me much.I’m also pretty unhappy in my relationship. More and more, my girlfriend reminds me of my mother; she can be rude and manipulative, especially when it comes to getting me to spend money on her. She also complains about her weight while not doing much to change it, and she seems resentful about things like my parents being younger than hers and the likelihood that I’ll still have them later in life. At the same time, it’s hard for me to feel like we should break up because she’s dealing with difficult circumstances. She spends most of her money on rent, has only one friend, and her car is constantly having issues. I want to be there for her.There’s something that feels almost like criminally lazy about me. Even though I’ve been diagnosed with major depression, autism, ADHD, and OCD, I feel like that’s no excuse for how much I struggle to get things done. I’ll make plans for a full day of college work or practicing writing, but I end up lying in bed all day. I’ll even set aside time to play video games or watch movies, and I still end up procrastinating, just lying around feeling sad or tired. It’s frustrating.Has anyone been in a similar situation and managed to climb out of it?
>>34386998>Diagnosed with ADHDOk, assuming you went through a clinical evaluation process and got formally diagnosed, why aren't you on medications? This isn't a hunter-gatherer society anymore, fellow grain-eater.>Major depressionCould be caused by ADHD, it should not be considered a definite part of diagnosis.That's why i sort-of-suspect you haven't gotten through a formal evaluation.>OCDWhich type(s)? If you haven't been formally diagnosed with these things and you're struggling with organization, specially a prolonged period of time, please do.Don't waddle in online self-assessment. It doesn't do anything unless you're trying to rake in sympathy points.You should be taking your mental health more seriously.
>>34393530I explained it at the bottom here >>34389047All I know is these are on my official medical records and have been for a while.
I have OCD very bad unfortunately these days. I wish I had someone to talk to.
>>34387454>Whites are really the only ones ashamed about this.even most whites do this, only anglos are pathological about kicking children out
>>34396948Do you try ERP?
Hey guys I've been seeing a zoophile/vorephile girl I really like. We did a video date in public at a fast food place and it went very well. She's beautiful, and smart, and has fun memes that even make fun of the Jews sometimes... We live very far away but I'm more than willing to move when she feels ready. She claims to a early 20s virgin. Even if she isn't I would be fine if the number wasn't too high. She's waiting for marriage before sex, which I couldn't be happier to hear. She hates trump, but she didn't flip a kid when I told her I voted for him. So I'm almost convinced she's a unicorn. Meeting her makes me wonder if God really does exist. Thank you Duolicious! Do you have any advice on long distance relationships with sad, autistic girls /advice/? We probably send a meme to each other every 6 hours or so. Pic related is my dog, who she finds adorable.
>>34399356yeah send her this picture
>>34399356Your dog has something on his cheek, that animal is rotting.
You absolutely can't be lazy with a LDR. See eachother as often as possible.Worst mistake I ever made was not getting my license as soon as I got my LDR gf. She wasn't even that far. That mistake let her slip away
My gf found out I have over 500 gb of futa pics in my tablet device 2 days ago. She hasn't mentioned anything ever since, but she's been acting different towards me. Is this the end?
>>34396242Did you make a typo, is my math wrong, or is that at least a million futa pics?
I guess if you have enough videos and gifs mixed in it could be more reasonable
>>34397382lol bro you must have never been in a relationship for over 3 years or so. When you have fucked your gf in every position and done every freaky thing you are willing to do and have done this shit over 9000 times you will absolutely crave the novelty of porn. You can become desensitized to a womans beauty even. She will never look as hot as she did when you first met
>>34396242Buy her a strap on
>>34399440>Waiter waiter!>My lobster is too buttery and my steak is too juicy!
Hello, I'm sending this because I need advice and I don't know what else to do. I'm shaking and i thinks i cant handle this i even try to kill my self already Someone is threatening to publish explicit videos of me; this person has my name and phone number i dont know what to do...I'm terrified and I just want to die right now if my family find this they would kill me
>>34398922I spoke with cat and dog rescue organizations but they all say I have to put him to sleep The vet who examined him said he has a high chance of survival and even gave me a discount on the surgery which really costs $500 I don't really have any friends and my family isn't very close to me so they would completely reject me
Where are you from anyways? Maybe there is some kind of institution that can help you or a hotline
Depending on how much time you have, have you tried raising money on a gofundme?
I explained the situation to the vet and she let me make the payments every week he's having surgery tonight. As for the rest I don't know what to do or not to do I'm scared very scared I'll see if I can buy another phone just like it on an installment plan and change my phone number as soon as possible
>>34399371if you make $10 a day, just let the cat die. Get a new free cat on your 2nd or 3rd world street?Curious how you didn't learn your lesson after being beaten as a child for doing naughty shit.If you will literally be killed by your father, move to a friend's place, or go to the police.
>in 30s>no woman ever been attracted to me>never been on date>no social life>awkward loser in every social situation >ugly male>live in Britain How over is it? Even during university I never socialised with anyone. Lifr has passed me by.
>>34399208if you have to ask this 4chan its super over
>>34399208nice vent post
>>34399208sleep with young women hope this helps
Just go gay
It genuinely isn't over. But this isn't the place to learn that, because most people here have a vested interest in keeping you demoralized. I was a neet in my 20s and started turning things around in my 30s. So I already know first-hand that it's doable. But most people here are only going to try to kick you while you're down because of their own problems.
Anybody here got an alcohol problem? Did you manage to fix it?
>>34398306also it wasn't just my schedule that changed everything, there were a few behavioural impulses that i had to really willfully crush:- once I had one beer I felt the urge to get fucked up. it wasn't possible for me to enjoy a glass of wine with a meal without starting to plan the next point:- always having a contingency plan of how to get fucked up. i had serious junkie brain and the minute my lips touched a pint i started planning which bar and corner shop or liquor store i could hit up next to get fucked up before getting home. - stop stockpiling booze at home, i'd do the alkie thing of going to different stores every day to get beer and liquor and just going to the bar for a couple of pints to look respectable before heading out and getting trashed alonebut ime there are two really different kinds of alcoholics: the ones with absolutely zero impulse control who get fucked up as soon as they wake up Leaving Las Vegas style, and more functional ones whose alcoholism is more about routine, and specifically controlling a routine and time they get drunk. i was the second kind and it's possible to wean yourself off, but the first type absolutely need some kind of intervention or therapy to function
>>34398261its always hard to drop. ive had lots of relapses and sobriety streaks. im working hard for this because i genuinely want to stay and be sober. its not something you can do if you arent willing to.
>>34398334If you told the friend what exactly has been happening to you healthwise, he wouldn't even allow you to drink.
>>34398368a major thing to me staying sober is having a good support system. get a sponsor, see a therapist, attend meetings, meds etc. some can be sober on their own, some cant. if you need to reach out for help thats okay.
25 days without without a drink here. also started running again. I'm finding getting faster and/or increasing distance every week is good motivation to avoid alcohol. it really fucks up any gains I make
I am a NEET in my late 20s and I want to escape it.Ideally, I'd like to study and enter the field of electrical engineering.What are some books to read, lectures to watch, or things to do to prepare while I'm still a neet? What can I do to prepare while I have the free time of a NEET?
>>34399053>I am a NEET in my late 20s and I want to escape it.>Ideally, I'd like to study and enter the field of electrical engineering.it's a good idea anon :D>What are some books to read, lectures to watch, or things to do to prepare while I'm still a neet?you can try some projects on your ownyou should definitely brush up on your math, try some SAT practice tests, etclearning the discipline to study etc. after years of NEETing is probably gonna be the hardest part, but the structure of college can help
you can often get an electrician apprenticeship & go straight into a career, without much more than a highschool education to start, and make decent money doing thatit might be difficult if you're late 20s, but it's something to be aware ofcollege is good but u gotta find a way to pay for it, obviously, have a plan of some sort
>>34399091I've thought about this. I'm not sure how much an electrician and an electrical engineer overlap, but I'm sure they must to some degree.My main interest in electrical engineering is being able to design circuit boards.
I bought my 11 year old daughter an Alex Rider graphic novel from ebay and the graphic novel had Alex Rider naked in it and also had him naked in multiple other pages. Can I sue ebay or get a refund for this?
>>34399262>buys graphic novel>it's graphicHory shiet
>>34399262if your daughter is being groomed, a magazine is the least of your problems
>>34399262I've never seen fan service like this in a non-ecchi genre. usually fan service that panders to guys will have the female characters in lingerie or swimsuits. maybe you can see them nude and covered by hot spring steam. but never have i seen fan service just straight up show you a female character's completely naked bare ass in battle stance.
How long are you going to post this gay shit
as a 28 year old shy loser, is it even possible to become charming and a people person at my age
>>34399252you literally give only fake responses you even said it yourself kekliteral npc bot
>>34399257Mhm, I give nods and fake acting casual until I can relax when I'm alone. Don't hate myself tho.
>>34399261being an npc is an easy way out, its probably more an ego thing, fat ego afraight of making his actual self look retarded, so he is just a complete fake automaton, imagine dealing with retards like that all day. there you have your average npc normie all fake and gay
>>34397405Yes, but you need a lot of work and you will get almost zero help.First, you must not suffer. Eliminate sources of suffering from your life. Coming to terms with injustices can take about 3 years. You need a group to belong to and a way of life you can see progress on. You could try going out more, talking to girls more, joining all sorts of hobby groups or elective/short uni courses. You could try a radio locution course to better your thinking speed and communication. All these take a lot of money. therapists are a waste after a few 4 or 5 sessions. You need a sponsor.
>>34399282>all these take a lot of moneyBetter to be a shy loser with money, than a social butterfly that's broke.
Hi 4chan, I want to grow cannabis but I'm new to it, so I'm here to get information from experienced "bosses". Please help me with detailed information such as odor problems, how to get higher THC levels, what kind of seeds shall ı use, and soil selection.
>>34398704You can't imagine how expensive it is where I live; I just want to produce my own product, to hell with it.
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>>34398619I think you can find guides on that easily on the surface web. Maybe you can buy a book about it in Amazon? Who knows?
>>34398704>>34398892y'alls a buncha retarded niggersbut OP probably is too
>>34398898>goy picrel calling me retarded nigger
