stupid post but how do people even start dating? firstly, im straight and i go to an all girls school. and what happens when i go to college? i feel like its pretty unrealistic for someone to just come up to a random after some lecture and ask for a contact... i also dont do anything online or go out in general other than w friends. am i cooked? will i be a single loser forever?
>>34339334>how do people even start dating?They agree to either implicitly or explicitly.>and what happens when i go to college?Either people already know each other and start dating through friends, friends of friends and acquaintances or it's all cold approaching. There's also dating apps.>am i cooked? will i be a single loser forever?As a woman if you approach a guy and ask him out your chances are probably not that bad.
>>34339334It’s virtually impossible to be alone as a woman, you have to really try to stay alone
>>34339334First off get off 4chan because it just feeds into all the insecurities you have.Second of all, once you go to university/a workplace, you will meet men and it will be easy to find someone you want to date. If you spend enough quality time with a man and ask him out, it’s likely to work out.Since you seem inexperienced with interacting with men, I will add more to this in case your parents haven’t taught you. Be cautious of people pressuring you/forcing you to do things you don’t want to do. Don’t put yourself into vulnerable situations (i.e. a man invites you to a party at his house and you don’t know for sure you won’t be the only woman there). Don’t take a man’s compliments to heart, as they often will be disingenuous to sleep with you. If someone gets too close to you too quickly, assume that they want something from you and keep your distance. Someone who has ulterior motives will move on to an easier target.You will find someone, don’t worry about it.
I've already been in support groups but for less heavy topics so idk what to expectnot worried about talking about these parts of my life when the setting specifically calls for itbut I'm afraid to do the thing again where I revictimize myself by learning about awful shit that happened to people I care about and my short-term memory gets fucked up afterwards because of thatmaybe at some point it'll help being confident with speaking about what teenage me went through at the time to my family but they're shit at actually listeningdo you think I should go meet other damaged people or just keep all this to myself?
>>34338193Don't keep it inside. But if talking to a group is intimidating, talk to a therapist
>>34339356I did therapy for a while but it didn't really helped with the guilt or anger management issues and I still regularly shake my body uncontrollably right before falling asleepAlso they won't be mean to me its boring I kinda want someone to be genuinely pissed about how much I let happen and the damage my inaction has done
>>34339356I mean of course its intimidating but it makes me want to go anyway I won't know if it will do more harm than good before trying it out
How do you recognize when you're being ghosted?
>>34336837The structure of your question says otherwise. If your invitations are met with half hearted responses or short deflectionary answers, it could be an indicator.
>>34336849Well the structure of my dick suggests I am male. And yeah, I have been receiving half hearted responses and deflection.
>>34336733It shouldn't matter to you. Abundance mindset is a must have even if you're only texting one woman.
>>34336733Um I dunno but you sure are ugly
>>34336876You've got your answer. Move on
I want a cute geek GF, how do you approach nerdy girls at anime conventions?
>>34338725Ask her if you can take a picture with her, then ask a random person nearby if they can take a pic for you. Then ask her if she came with friends or something.
>>34338973This.I kind of like a cosplayer girl that seems okay but she has the crazy eyes.
>>34338965Just ask for pics, I force my self if they are cosplaying something I like, Even if am not very good speaking the local language.
Lookmaxxing and cosplaying hot popular characters, i landed 2 cosplayer gf's like that.
What will you cosplay as?
I am 20 years old, this is my fourth job, in total I have worked 2 years and 8 months adding up all my jobs. In this current job I have only been here for 3 months and I don't like this job. I basically just organize the supermarket shelves, it's an easy job, but that's precisely the problem. Since the supermarket sells little, there are always few things to organize, so I and the other employees basically just hang around until it's time to go home. In the supermarket where I used to work, there were always many things to do, since it sold a lot, so there wasn't this problem. In this job I am more concerned with fulfilling the working hours than actually working.Now about crying: Every day I feel like crying because I know that I am in a job where boredom dominates me, because there are few activities. But in the end I always end up holding back the tears.I'm not going to change jobs because I fear that a new job might be worse than this one.I wanted advice on how to deal with having a job you don't like and that makes you feel sad.
>>34332768Stocking shelves was a good job for a 17 year old, but it is time for you to start thinking about what you want to be when you grow up.
>>34335905There's no difference between 17 and 20
>>34332768Off topic but based for Coraline. Remember to call her CORAline. Not CAROline
>>34336210Not if your ambition extends to a life of perpetual childhood.For many people these years are the greatest transition of all, from being an underage b& kid who nobody talks seriously to beginning your life in the adult world.As >>34335905 says, shelf stacking is a job for kids, it's what I did weekends whilst I was finishing high school to earn some spending money. By 20 you should be looking upwards.
>>34332768You should cry. Let it out. Cry on the job.If there are customers, go near them and cry.If you're the cashier, cry.If a customer comes to you and asks you something, cry.If anyonr makes eye contact with you, cry.
Am I going to get nut cancer cause I've had my phone in my pocket for basically the past three years?
you’re going to die sooner from being angry and stressed all the time
>>34338313There are some claims that excessive use causes brain cancer, but unless your brains are in your crotch you should be OK
>>34338367Win-win situation, I dont see your point
>>34339341>unless your brains are in your crotchkek they are
>made a Bumble account>got a blurred like>continued swiping on Bumble and ended up matching with the woman who liked me>I'm 28 and she's 22 and she lives in the same city as me>we talk for an hour and exchange less than 10 messages>she asks me what I do for workIs it normal for women to ask this or is she a gold digger?
>>34334539it's weird you don't have that on your profile, are you a jobless bum? lmao
>>34334539>we talk for an hourwhy?why are you wasting so much time?Do you guys hit it off, then fucking MEET already
>>34334539Put ANY two Europeans or Americans in a room together and one of the first things they'll ask in introducing themselves is what they do for a living. (Put any two Chinese together and the younger will ask the elder how old he is.) It's just a cultural convention, like "Hi. How are you?"
>>34334539Perfectly normal. She wants to see if you're not some bum
>>34334539It is normal for them to ask it. They care. Unfortunately.
the worst ppl u know have the best lives i wanna be like them all retard and free and calmfor 12 hours i have been anxious irritated hacing that pit in stomach feeling sometime i get so nervous my hands shake for no reason im so scaredi wanna have no shame nor guilt this whale is seen hitting a baby i can even seem to know how to even handle a normal convo let alone hit someone
>i cant* even seem to know
>>34339208Imagine OP, that you have this peculiar problem your whole life, that every time you sit down in a quiet room, you feel visceral aching in your chest. Not physically but it's there, not anxiety but something else, something hollow. Chilling and biting like a cold wind in your entire organism. And that every time you sit down it rushes your entire system until your brain feels like cotton. And it's like that every second of every minute of every day, cold and sharp howling emptiness within. Life feeling like a permanent foggy blizzard where you know if you stop moving for even a step you freeze to death. So you keep moving keep moving keep moving keep moving and you can't be still, neither in your mind or body. Everything is fogged emotionally, your own emotions, the perception of detecting emotions in others too. People around you don't feel like people, more like blurry objects in a distance. You can see them clearly with your eyes, but your mind's eye doesn't see them, just objects. As far as your mind is concerned you're the only person alive, the only "human". Everyone else is just some 'thing'. And no matter how good you get at manipulating these things these other "people" no matter how effective you are at using them to satisfy your base pleasures like sex, or want for money, no matter what you never see them in ways that count, in mind and heart. And they never see you, either. And the disgusting twist is you don't care, you can't care, because that would imply standing still mentally. And you can't do that because that endless freezing void will catch you and flush your entire mind and body with sharp pain. So you keep. Fucking. Moving. Endlessly, tirelessly, until you are dead of premature age or drug induced OD or you are killed.That's Psychopathy OP. You really don't want to wish for that.
Feeling is one thing, it sound paradoxical but chances are our emotions are not ours but channeled to us via genuinely emotional peopleI guess, for exercise, imagine the worst or edgiest situations you can and ask yourself if youre stimulated in any way by it or not, moral compass doesn't count
>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamhttps://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34338697You need to able to read people, customers or women you like. Some might be open to a joke, others will prefer being straight to the point. The only way to learn this is to practice. I say go for it
>>34339093>>34339217Continuing because I know you said you're on the spectrumCheck event calendars for your city. Zoo events, aquariums, music, comedy.You need a pair of new shoes? Ask her to come shopping with you.Saint Patrick's day is coming up, invite her to go bar hopping and to see the parades. Don't use the word date, you're just hanging out right now, you are courting her.
>>34339256Also remember that despite your best efforts she might not bite, she may turn down your advances. That's okay, don't get angry and say mean shit to her, just say okay, just remember and be prepared for that, don't put all of your eggs in one basket.
>>34339256And if you aren't a completely shut in and have other friends, invite her to parties or friendly gatherings, bring her as your guest.
>>34338768Anyone else?>>34338872Like in vibe coding? Srsly though. I've had women hug me in very suggestive ways after that that i didn't invite to my place because I thought she wasn't interested...
I bullied one of my friends pretty badly in high school and he won’t stop leaving threatening messages and generally sends really angry messages and then blocks me. I hit him more than once but it was over eight years ago now and the messages don’t stop coming in. How do I handle this? He goes away for months and then it randomly happens again and again. He even apologizes and then months pass and he’s sending his address and dares me to show up to fight him.
>>34336874If I do do this I’m asking them not to press charges considering what happened but maybe it’s for the best. At least they will get him to stop.
>>34332283sounds like his hate's gonna boil over into doming or beating you into a pulp someday and i genuinely hope something of the sort comes to you, its the only way you people ever learn and it was almost always the only way i could ever stop people messing with me in my experienceyou reap what you sow
>>34332283i hope he fucks you up badly
It might help to understand why he's leaving these messages. You might need to have a proper conversation where you reconcile and bury the hatchet.If you can't reasonably make him stop then at some point you might need to block him. What you did back then wasn't right but that doesn't give him a free pass to harass you indefinately. If it's not a bad idea and you're getting close to that point you can respectfully warn him before hand, that if he doesn't stop you'll need to block or unfriend him.
>>34332283Have you at any time ever considered apologising to him?
If an apartment allows dogs but has a weight limit of 50 pounds could I lie and say my 85 lb dog is 50 lbs?Do apartment people actually care? Would they really notice just by eyeballing that hes too big?
>>34337425>>34337491I wish there would be a more qualitative way to handle it. My dog has extremely good temperament and is generally much more quiet than small dogs.>>34337557Yeah he literally makes 0 noise. My current landlord lived in the house in the other unit where we shared a wall and asked if I had moved my dog in yet when I'd already been here for like 3 weeks. She didnt even know he was there.
>>34337717then you can mention that. also as i said i think this is 100% a breed thing (specifically not wanting pits/pit mixes or any "restricted" breeds). I live in europe and never ever heard of something like this so my assumption is that it's an anti-pit measure, simple as that.
>>34337215>could I lie and say my 85 lb dog is 50 lbs?please doas a landlord, when people do this, the fine I give them before evicte them makes it all worth it.
>>34337215I'm surprised that dog is 85lb, the dog I had growing up was that size and only weighed 50lb but I guess they were skinnier breeds
>>34337215No you couldn't, yes they do and yes they would.
For all intents and purposes I’ve given up on life and just rot, not studying or anything, working enough to not die. Even my vices are completely boring now and are done out of habit, shittttt my dick isnt even hard when I jerk off anymore. Wont rope cuz I’m a pussy, what do?¿
>>34339292Make a bucket list and start doing things on it
>>34339301hmmm… barely getting out of bed these days lol I’d be surprised if I could even cross off the first thing
Was in the same spot in my early twenties: fast food job, no degree, and addicted to pornHad had enough and made a list if what I felt I needed to changeRealized I can't beat addiction on my own, and went back to church since i realized most of my problems started when i stopped going years prior. I'm not a religious man but I believe in God and that honestly was just enough to get my life on trackHere I am several years later, it's a struggle, but I have an OK job now, finished my degree, and not addicted to porn as I was.... some progress is better than no progress. I recommend you pick a trade instead of a degree since they pay more, especially if you are active. Work out. No, really, work out, it builds stamina so you can be more active. Build stuff to feel creative and get a slight dopamine rush. And not to be preachy, it's always good to build your relationship with God, since we all die and will meet him eventually... good luck anon
CS student here. I'm unable to find a working student job (those entry level IT jobs with like 10-15 hours a week). They never accept me. I was planning to just work at a supermarket for the next semester while doing some projects or something that I can put on my resume to get a job later. Any tips on what I should do to increase my chances? For context I live in Berlin and I'm German
>>34336669CS is completely cooked bro ngl
it's already mid March. you need to apply September-December for those kinds of jobs the next summer. Everyone has known this for 15+years. Presently, it will probably take hundreds of applications in those months. You might be able to start looking now for something in the winter.
>>34336669Since no one is offering helpful advice. Internships are just now starting for companies. Apply for an internship. They specifically look for students in most of them so, no, you won't be competing with as many applications.Also try to apply for positions that are IT related (cyber security, application analyst, etc.) that will at least get your foot in the door and give you the work experience
>>34337371fpbp/thread
>>34336669Your college or uni should have an office devoted to just that - finding you a part time job to fit around your studies.
Had a one night stand with a girl a few weeks ago and she keeps texting me demanding money. She first demanded money for an STD test. Sent her the money plus a uber drive (I also got tested, all negative), then she demanded a doctor visit expense because the lube we used gave her a bad reaction supposedly the next day (I said no), and now 3 weeks later is demanding payment for a pregnancy blood test because she supposedly missed her period (even though I pulled out). I didn't think she would be this crazy. Should I ignore her? We were both consenting adults here.
>>34338078Just block her
>>34338078Congratulations you're gonna be a daddy.
Why do you retards never wear condoms when fucking whores on ONS?>UUUHHH BRO, IT'S NOT REAL SEX IF YOU DON'T DO IT RAWHave fun paying child support for 21 years.
>>34338078"No."
> be me> in uni> there’s this girl in my sessions twice a week> whenever I see her my heart skips and I get goosebumps> brain basically stops working> this has been going on for 1.7 years> she probably doesn’t even know I exist> one day during exam god himself gives me a chance> end up sitting right next to her for 2 hours> still can’t say a single word like a complete idiot> wind blows my question paper under her desk> instead of asking normally I just stare at her like a moron> she notices and I awkwardly signal with my handsComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
fuck yappin here and go talk
>>34338253"Hi."
