I told my bf I think I might be a guy on the inside. He said he didn't care as long as I stay a girl on the outside. I figured that meant he'd be okay meeting me in the middle about it and treating me like a guy, at least at home.He keeps telling me to bury the delusion and just be chill about stuff. I told him I just want to be one of the guys, I want to do guy stuff without people treating it weird or special.I started packing up everything feminine I owned to donate, and I told him I wanted to start using he/him pronouns. He called my brother, who drove all the way over unannounced and started unpacking everything I had packed and kept calling me a retard. My brother asked me if I wanted our mom and dad to find out about all this "weird shit". I knew they wouldn't take it well, so I said no and I folded on the argument.I want to give it another try, but I'm trying to picture how to better approach it where my parents won't be used as ammunition against me.
>>34524683anon you're his gf, it might be selfish but of course he's gonna react this way, he doesn't want a bfthat being said, you should do what you wanti think it's retarded, but you only get one life, so if you feel like you'd be wasting years spending life as a girl then u shouldn't do thati don't think it would be a waste though and i think you underestimate the struggles which will come with being a guy & with being a trans guy specifically
>>34524683some iteration of this thread pops up at least once a week
>>34524893I refuse to believe someone can read this post which is the equivalent of a drunk text and actually think there is good information present.>>34524849This. Always something to complain about. Sounds like your bf is a nice guy. Sounds like your brother is a nice guy. Sounds like they are trying to save you from petting the lions at the zoo. Get out of your period mind and into the real world. You want to know what it's like to be a guy? Boo hoo. Not gonna happen. Every guy will see you as a red flag that will get them fired. As a smaller pathetic transman you could expect every single man you encounter to see you as a pussy, which you objectively are. Oops did i just make john cry by calling xer sorry? Oh boy ill go clear out my locker. Even your boyfriend is trying to avoid the conversation because he knows that if it is seriously entertained that you're girl brain will turn all his advice(good advice) into a dare. Listen to these people. They are saving you a very miserable(not tough in a masculine sense) time as a weak, short, ugly man, who still has the problems of women. Oh and once guys figure out you are trans IF you pass(big if) they will still want to fuck you so bad you'll still be scared of being raped.
>>34526571>guys dont use pronounsLol i wonder if your women pilpul will work on "one of the guys". When that anon said that he meant that guys do not have the kind of empathy to say he/him in a way that will be convincing. They will say your male name like a question everytime. They will make jokes behind your back. They will not banter with you for fear of backlash. They will go along with all your requests like you are a superintendint on a job site. They know that if you feel uncomfortable or feel like they are being mean to you, your true female instincts will come out and you will slash and burn anyone you want with your newfound social power.
>>34529646No you are built different, if you transition you will go from a petite woman to a manlet, and if you spend anytime looking at any male channels you will see that short man aren't takes seriously, often are made fun of, they aren't desired in dating. Their lives are very different then your life, and these problems are just because of their appearance, something that they can fix with a ton of surgeries and a ton of money. Man also have trouble if their personality is typically masculine, if a guy is shy or just reserved then they can't get dates or pretty much anything since no one really gives a damn about them. Listen OP you have some problems as a woman, but transitioning into a guy isn't a solution you will just get a ton of new problems that you don't know how to deal with.
I'm an autistic. 19. Currently in university going for biomedicine, the thing is, it's difficult for me to learn stuff, and i feel terrible because my entire class is prettier than me, they all have jobs, successful lives, and full of money with stable families, meanwhile i'm here living in hell since i've been born. I have been depressed since i was 11, i now have a boyfriend and my life is really getting better, but i feel a sense of emptiness sometimes, it's not a suicidal feeling, but something else. I don't know if it's because of my BPD. But i feel like there's no hope left since the only thing that i care about in my life is my cat and my boyfriend, i try doing makeup but i never look good, like it doesn't look good in me like it looks good on other girls. I don't really have a feminine face, i have a long nose and my jaw is a bit more square shaped, everytime i try to dress feminine i look like a damn joke. It's weird since i get hit on a lot by other guys, even though i am really not interested, but i can't understand how, since i don't think i look good. My eczema makes me feel worse about my body. I don't know i feel like i'm only venting at this point, and my english is kind of bad, it's not my first language. But is there a way to get rid of the feeling that you're terrible and useless to society? I go to therapy since i was 12 but it never helped. I wonder if i will succeed in life, my life would be better if i was only a little bit cuter. Maybe i'm bad at makeup? Or the makeup styles won't fit me? Also this is my first post on here, sorry if it's in a wrong way or something. I want overall life advice and makeup advice would be better too, maybe some hair advice. My hair is shoulder length and wavy, but i always straighten it because i don't know how else to style it.
>>34530486You must look decent if guys hit on you. Attractive people usually underrate their appearance.
>>34530486>and i feel terrible because my entire class is prettier than meyou still care about this shit? in fucking UNIVERSITY?you need to grow the fuck up, genuinely
i care! i used to get bullied a lot for my appearance back in school, and i stopped going to classes because of it :( i know it can sound like a stupid thing, but it was so bad i had to change schools for a bit.
>>34530538are you OP or
>>34530527oh sure tell her to grow up but when I want to date an 18 year old she's suddenly a child
So, I was fixing myself a cup of hot chocolate and getting ready to drink it while watching 500 days of summer on my laptop. But then just ask I was about to take a sip, I accidentally spilled the chocolate onto my laptop.I don't think it's working. What do I do now? Typing this from my phone by the way.
Tips please. Autistic girl, 25. But there are probably others in a similar situation.I feel like deep down I know nothing about the world. I love science, technology, psychology, economics. Many things. I know more than the people around me, but at the same time, I feel I know nothing. I also don't know where to research.When I've gone to various conferences, I see many people who know a lot about everything, and I don't understand how. > What am I missing? > Where can I learn?I have too much free time and I don't enjoy it. I feel like I'm constantly wasting it. I'd like to dedicate all this time to reading and learning about useful topics.I'm a very logical person. I studied computer engineering hoping to work in something that didn't involve dealing with people, and although I enjoyed my degree (I feel like it was a rip-off), I couldn't find a job due to a "lack of social skills" and a lack of junior positions. During my studies, they told us we could work in genomic data analysis, but they never gave us a foundation in biology. I've tried to learn about it, and I know quite a bit, but I still don't know where to start. I feel that once I start working in a related field, I'll be able to learn from my colleagues, but I don't know how, and I don't know how to make friends who know about it either.I find it hard to find people I enjoy talking to. I get bored with ignorant people, and I dislike sociopaths. I don't drink alcohol or coffee, so I don't know how to meet people. English isn't my first language either, so I'm afraid to move. Although I plan to do it when I'm settled.
>>34527842>I know more than the people around me, but at the same time, I feel I know nothing.That's good.>Finally I went to the craftsmen, for I was conscious of knowing practically nothing, and I knew that I would find that they had knowledge of many fine things. In this I was not mistaken; they knew things I did not know, and to that extent they were wiser than I. But, gentlemen of the jury, the good craftsmen seemed to me to have the same fault as the poets: each of them, because of his success at his craft, thought himself very wise in other most important pursuits, and this error of theirs overshadowed the wisdom they had, so that I asked myself, on behalf of the oracle, whether I should prefer to be as I am, with neither their wisdom nor their ignorance, or to have both. The answer I gave myself and the oracle was that it was to my advantage to be as I am. (Apology of Socrates)
>>34527922I would start with this.https://www2.hawaii.edu/~freeman/courses/phil100/04.%20Apology.pdf>As a result he came to dislike me, and so did many of the bystanders. So I withdrew and thought to myself: "I am wiser than this man; it is likely that neither of us knows anything worthwhile, but he thinks he knows something when he does not, whereas when I do not know, neither do I think I know; so I am likely to be wiser than he to this small extent, that I do not think I know what I do not know." After this I approached another man, one of those thought to be wiser than he, and I thought the same thing, and so I came to be disliked both by him and by many others. After that I proceeded systematically. I realized, to my sorrow and alarm, that I was getting unpopular, but I thought that I must attach the greatest importance to the god's oracle, so I must go to all those who had any reputation for knowledge to examine its meaning. And by the dog, gentlemen of the jury—for I must tell you the truth—I experienced something like this: in my investigation in the service of the god I found that those who had the highest reputation were nearly the most deficient, while those who were thought to be inferior were more knowledgeable.
>>34527842>What am I missing?basic human interaction. The best way to learn about the world at times is not pure information, its how a person can store and process that knowledge. I have met two different people- when given certain info, one will use it to generate income, the other will use it further their studies. Everyone is different.>Where can I learn?everywhere. From people you meet in different countries, to the local shop owner downstairs in your neighborhood. Books can teach you lots about the world, but I feel you miss out if you dont also learn from others.
>>34529975>richStop with this bullshit. A family can be happy with very little. Materialism rots the soul.
/pol/
>Visit my parents>Old family dog greets me>Little Maltese, getting old at 11 years, we've had her since she was a pup>Notice she's a bit strange>Way, way skinnier than she was 2 months ago when I last visited home>Doesn't want to go for a walk>Moves sluggishly>Quick shallow breathing>Entire belly pumping rapidly with each breath>Refuses to lie down on her side or belly, even when I put her on my lap (very strange for her)>She exclusively sits on her butt with her head tilted up>Give her some food from my plate during mealtime>She just stares at me>Alarm bells start going off in my headComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34527887Snowy passed away while I was driving her to the vet, she had a seizure or something and began spasming and whimpering so I pulled over. Stroked her back and talked to her then she stopped breathing and no longer had a heartbeat. Brought her home and buried her next to a tree she liked to pee onShe was a good dog, very clingy and loved to sleep on my lap. Wasnt all that bright so we didn't try very hard to teach her tricks but she could understand how to play fetch and liked it. She liked less common "games" too, for example me bundling up a blanket so she could tunnel in and wriggle around in there before popping her head out at different spots. Always greeted me + parents + anyone visiting with licks. Used to be good friends with a neighbor's dog(which was years older than her so she passed on first a while ago) I would take her over there pretty often, at least once a week, before I moved out and away. Every time I visited home Snowy would insist on sleeping on my bed with me and even though she would curl up between my legs(I sleep on my back) I would always wake up with her on my pillow next to my head. She liked eating broccoli and baby corn
Shouting into the void: I'm not very religious but I hope she's in Heaven, she deserves it. Carrying her little body out of the car and later placing her in the grave I dug was horrible, I can FEEL her soul was gone, she was so light. Her head tilting off to the side was awful. When I put her into the grave I hated how she looked so I tried to move her body as best as I could so that it was in her favorite sleeping position
>>34530563>>34530574I am so sorry that happened to you anon, and I hope you come to know how meaningful it was that you were there in her last moments. I am sure that if there is an afterlife, she is there being as happy as a dog can be. If you can, keep all the things she loved and used. Her collar, her favorite toys, her bed. You can probably find some hair on her bed or favorite spot to sit and you can put that in a tiny little jar to remember her by
When my dad brought her when I was in middle school I got to name her and I named her Snowy after the dog in the Tintin comics which I liked as a kid. I remember being upset because they hadn't told me they were getting a dog at all and if I had been able to give input I would probably have wanted a golden retriever or something like that but instead we got a measly tiny dog because my mom was worried about messes. But I warmed up to her fast because she was so affectionate right off the bat and because boys like dogs I guess. Once a butterfly got into the house and instead of losing her mind and barking at it or anything like that Snowy just quietly followed it around into different rooms as it flew(while I followed Snowy) and we must have spent half an hour quietly stalking it until mom got curious about wtf we were doing and let the butterfly outside through a window>>34530590I buried all her stuff with her, her bowls, the blankie she's had since she was a puppy, her chew toys, ball, etc. I put them around her body like one of those royal burial things where the dead monarch is surrounded by offerings. Covered her with one of my blankets since she liked wriggling around under them
Sorry for your loss op. Im glad she was with you during the drive and maybe she felt at peace and felt safe to let go with her favorite companion. I lost my dog because I was poor.It cost 700 to put him down which i had to borrow money for. The pain still follows me years later but I always cherish the memories I had with him. Im glad you have lifelong happy memories of her
So my therapist asked me to think about a next step in my life. What are some ways to decide on that and find the will to pursue them?
>>34530609Write down a list of things you'd like to be true about your life. Then think of actionable steps to turn our life into that life
I feel like the April 2025 hack was the final nail in the coffin for this site. Before the back, I thought this site was dead and gone. I still used it everyday, but I regularly lamented how much better the early 2010s used to be.After the site came back online, I almost immediately realized that I took 4chan for granted. It wasn't as good as it used to be, but at least it still felt like 4chan. It lost that unmistakable spark last April and I guess it never came back.I'm assuming a lot of great posters went elsewhere, but where? Which altchans should I check out? Or should I just stay here and hope they come back?>inb4 reddit spacing
>>34530520boo hoo nigga
>>34530520Maybe check 8
>>345305428 is pretty dead. It does feel a lot like how 4chan did right before the hack, lots of quality posters there (who you can tell are 04/25 refugees who ended up staying) but it's too slow for my liking.I think I already know the answer to my question and I just don't wanna admit it. Imageboards are becoming a thing of the past
>>34530520>Where did everyone go?Unironically:>twitter/reddit/discord>killed themselves or died>became boomers and grew out of itZoomers don't use 4chan outside of a handful of autists
>>34530520Alt chans are always better for friends, but they're slow as fuck. Personally I feel the site is the same.Yes it changed along the years. The whole culture shifted, sometimes it ebb and flowed in fun ways. For example the site was a lot more fun around 2020 when the uooohhh meme blew up. After the AI rollout the whole internet became shit, there's less authored information, media puts less effort into everything and now there's laws popping everywhere reining in even things that aren't AI like loli. Anyways you just have to see what comes next, and besides we're too old for this shit.
I'm almost 27 and I don't have a girlfriend, should I give up? I'm also balding which definitely won't help
You give up in your 30s not in your 20s
>>34526495kys
>>34526499Then she doesn't and an existential crisis happens, leading to a desperate and frantic search for meaning.
>>34530422You have to actually try anon
>>34530493No. No, it's Joever. Trying is like being a hamster on a wheel, running for nothing. It's hopeless. A ruse. A sham. An empty pursuit. I'm going to die inside and my body will follow.
>Have SEVERE OCD anxiety>Start using 200-400mg of CBD during the day>Mood feels way more relaxed>Not sure if placebo but it feels good>Wanna try CBD vapes so it works fast>Also wanna buy CBD with the most cost effective way so I don't have to pay a lot>inb4 "just use weed"weed gave me psychosis and is the reason I am so stressed
Previous>>34526146:)
>>34530795>Fair skinned>Nice hair>Hunter eyes>Good facial symmetry >Super likeable personalityWhat's mid about her exactly?
>>34530802>hunter eyesIs that what we call puffy face hooded eyes from hanging fat deposits now?
>>34530802>puffy and swolen face>bleached hair, doesnt even look good>ugly piercings>asian genes>quirky chungus personality that gets old a week after knowing the person
>>34530355The shaving sounds kind of romantic, but the rest is just going over board and taking a deep dive into annoying.
>>34530809cringe whore
>What is /htgwg/?How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.>What is /htgwg/ not?These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!>How to ask for adviceContext is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.>Resources and Bookshttps://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.htmlhttps://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmamhttps://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34529107You already know how and why
>>34528936>If faggots are telling you something that means girls are thinking it.One time a gay guy and a cute girl approached me in the store and told me how cute I was. I was flattered but felt bad about dismissing the gay guy to get to the girl, so I did nothing.
>>34530078I like baggy button upsthey're fa
>>34528936Doubt it. Women only want men that fits a socially comfortable bright outlook. They don't like guys who are just attractive. Just attractive is their father or cousin who tries too hard. No, what they want is that guy that makes their life socially comfortable.
>>34528316What is the difference between a woman being nice to you and a woman actually liking you?
I just found out my girlfriend who I was planning on proposing to had sex with my brother years before we met. I feel so fucking disgusting she basically raped me. I loved this woman but she made me unknowingly commit second degree incest with my brother what the hell is wrong with her I thought she cared about me but turns out all this time I was manipulated by a shedevil. Romance is so cruel Anons…
Nightmare situation holy fuck
>>34529895Nasty
Hey /adv/,I’m an immigrant studying for my Bachelor’s in IST. I finished my Associate’s degree with a 4.0 GPA, so I’m not a lazy slob. When I was still in high school, my parents’ marriage fell apart and went to court. My father has been bribing the judge back home, so the case is still dragging on years later. Because of the corruption in my country, it’s been almost impossible to prove anything. He took the university fund that was meant for me and my sister and spent it.Since then, things have been extremely difficult. University costs and rent here are crushing us. We’re now at serious risk of losing our apartment, and I’ll have to drop out if we can’t generate income soon.This is my mom’s last real attempt to keep us from falling apart: she launched a small online makeup store. We’ve been posting consistently on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook for weeks but haven’t made a single sale. We tried $2/day ads but got nothing, and we can’t afford anything more. We have no following or real network.If this doesn’t start working soon, we’re going to lose everything.I’m willing to grind extremely hard. I’m looking for practical advice on how to actually make this business successful with almost nothing. What free methods, platforms, content strategies, or growth tactics have worked for people in desperate situations like this? Any harsh truths are also welcome.Thanks.
>>34529122I understand, but unfortunately those kinds of jobs aren’t an option for me. I’m an international student on an F-1 student visa in the USA. I’m only allowed to work part-time if it’s a school-approved internship directly related to my major. Any other employment (even food delivery, retail, gas stations, etc.) would violate my visa status and I’d have to leave the country immediately.Almost got an internship, but my DSO shut it down 3 days before starting.I’ve also tried applying for grants and scholarships (since I have the grades), but I got nothing. And I can’t get loans either because I’m considered a “non-resident alien,” so I don’t qualify for any federal or state financial assistance. Giving state aid (FL, btw) to an international student would be like giving it to a tourist.
>>34529276Idk how to solve your overall situation, but you can stop paying for groceries and get food at a food kitchen or St Vicent dePaul pantry instead
>>34529234It’s not “doubling down.” I don’t have many options. This wasn’t my idea, mom started it before I knew how bad things were financially. I’m just trying to make it work so I don’t end up completely screwed since I can't work retail like any other person.
what country are you from
>>34530011Niggerstainia
have you experienced porn-induced erectile dysfunction? how did you treat it? i think i have it and cant' get it hard during sex half the time almost. i still have morning wood and can get it up when jorking it to porn but i've been cutting back quite a bit in the past month or two with some irregularity - some improvements but not consistent. I've also started cardio training to improve general erection quality. luckily my wife is understanding because i get her off every time anyway and she's not a super demanding person sexually so there's that, but it's fucking with my head really bad and i need to fix it.
Personally i have another problem: i cant cum with my gfi get erections, but i honestly dont feel the pleasure, plus putting on the condom hurts, im uncut and the bottom of the glans is sensitivewhen i masturbate i try to avoid retracting the foreskin until i cum, as for the sex i feels good at times but i cant cum unless we stop (my gf already reached orgams) and i masturbate next to her as she kisses me and gives me "love" in general.Im honestly planning on maybe cutting my foreskin, i dont think putting on a condom should be this hurtful, maybe i should go for an urologist? I dont have phimosis, i can retract my foreskin just fine
I have a similar problem, dude>>34524428
>>34530042If you were talking to me >>34530025, i feel youPersonally i lost my virginity just recently and thank god i got an understand girlfriend that was patient with me. I think that the erection thing is just psychological, take it from me, we got in a fight due to this but after that, we fuck normally.This is gonna sound gay as fuck but you do also masturbate like me? personally my glans arent THAT sensitive if i pull back but it is some problem when i put on a condom, its about the foreskin pulling back to hard.As for you, if you pull back and IMMEDIATELY feel pain and discomfort (like, only from that and air), i suggest going to the doctor, that might be phimosis.As for your "first time", you can always masturbate her, at least thats what i did with her and she enjoyed it
>>34529589I hope you didn't pay her.
>>34530091Yes, I also jerk off the same way as you. I never understood how guys jerk it while keeping the glans exposed. >As for you, if you pull back and IMMEDIATELY feel pain and discomfort (like, only from that and air), i suggest going to the doctor, that might be phimosis.No, the pain and discomfort dont occur that easily. Here is what happens: I get an erection while my pants are on, which exposes my sensitive glans to the inside of my pants/underwear and/or pubic hair. That is what really causes pain and discomfort, which kills my horny level, and I try to psychologically suppress my boner. This + the anxiety + the daily fapping and porn since my adolescence is a recipe for disaster
Older brother is a broke drug using pretty boy that's been fucking women since he was in highschool. I'm a 25 year old incel that still hasn't had a gf and works full time making $28/hr. Do you have a similar story? How are you coping?
>>34529921Fair, but I also don't want to age out of my 20s without getting to use my prime sexual drive. This shit sucks
>>34529497Are you guys white? Also, is your brother fucking attractive women at least?
>>34529921Why?
>>34529542Its vague because its meaningless and you are an idiot
>>34529970When it wears off, you won't care so much anymore.
