I had a really bad relapse on porn and I need to quit it but I'm a NEET so I'm being realstic that I can't get a girl to take care of needs so jerking off will be necesary. Will using tame stuff be better for my brain?
Porn is porn. Doesn't matter what it looks like
>>34056960Try using your imagination? I think about past gfs and hookups usually because fantasy isn't real enough a lot of the time.
>>34060376How? There's a difference between jacking off to voyeur pics vs watching a couch gang bang. I dont see how it's porn if it's something that can naturally happen to get you off.
>>34056960As someone who jerks off to tame shit like Victoria Secret magazines or stock images of hot chicks:The addiction is still there. The only difference is that you don’t rely on visual sexual stimula to get off, which is a massive detox, but tou’re still addicted to masturbating.
>>34061006So then there's clearly a difference. You can't tell someone with a masturbation addiction to stop porn because porn isn't the goal. It just gets annoying when ppl say they want to stop masturbating and the first answer is "quit porn!"
When it comes to making friends, there is one person you want to avoid making friends w/: The Insecure FriendAn insecure friend usually does not own up to their feelings of low self-esteem and instead of seeking help regarding those feelings they decide to take it out on others by projecting their insecurities. This could be in the form of criticizing others frequently (especially you), they want to put others down to their level to cope. An insecure friend constantly seeks external validation, gets passive-aggressive when that is not met. An insecure friend compares themselves to others. An insecure friend loves to boast about themselves because deep down they don't believe in intrinsic validation. An insecure friend will throw you under the bus in group interactions.Having an insecure friend is one of the most draining experiences, I am still recovering from the fact they were not my friends at all. Don't do that mistake, as soon as you notice signs, drop them.
>>34060128Sounds like you know what the right answer is and instead of telling them the truth you lied to them and are trying to absolve your accountability by blaming it on them.
God I wish I had friends. I'm in my 30s and I've never had any kind of interaction with anyone
>>34060137there is no “right” answer. He’s seeking an opinion but clearly wants a certain answer and will only be satisfied if you give his pre-determined “right” answer.It’s the same as a loaded questionHe knows what the right response is, he just wants reassurance and something to point back at to absolve his own responsibility if he’s wrong.By insisting that you agree with him, his words and actions are shared with you, as are their consequences.It’s all for his ego, but he frames it like he’s giving you the courtesy to put himself above you. It’s bordering presumptuous
>>34060232>He knows what the right response is, he just wants reassuranceThen assure him what the right answer is by telling him the right answer.
>>34060313nta but how genuine is the friendship if you expect them to constantly just validate you? If as a friend I disagree with a decision because I don't believe its in their best interest but they want me to just keep blowing smoke up their ass I'd rather just not engage in a pointless performance to satisfy their ego.
>be me>havent had friends in a decade>dont go out of my way trying to make any either>make a friend at work>have a lot in common>try to distance myself once he suggests doing something togetherWHY do i have this need to sabotage things for myself
>>34060664did you miss the last sentence where i clearly blame myself for my situation, or are you just looking to show off how retarded you are?
>>34060664Hey. Why do you have to be mean? Why do you have to be an asshole? People like you are the reason people struggle to open up about their problems to other people and instead bottle them up until they one day can't take it anymore.
>>34060668I've had this sort of thing happen to me before and I swear to fucking god bro a lot of people just read like half of what you wrote (or even less, sometimes only like the first 3 words) without finishing the other half. Like people looking to "debunk" things I myself already debunked in my main post
>>34060449Your fear will prevent you from doing anything good in life. Stop being afraid.
>>34060820I'm bisexual but damn the idea of a strong woman who could just break all the bones in my body is so fucking hot to me. Sexier than anything else.
She's a girl. We're both fairly older, she's in her late 20s and I'm in my early 30s. We've been talking for a month here and there in the hallways and I'm wondering if it might be too intense if I knocked on her door and gave it to her? I'm not looking for a relationship and I'm hoping it doesn't give her the impression that I like her. There is nothing wrong with her, she's attractive and charismatic. She's gone through the loss of a relative and has cut a lot of social contact with people. She use to be this very vibrant and playful girl that would sing whenever she would go out and walk and now she looks completely destroyed. I had seen her in my apartment complex for years but never really talked to her (I dislike carefree spirited people so I didn't think of speaking to her) but we only started talking about a couple of months ago. So I'm at a bit of a dilemma, would you think that giving her the gift is too intense or would she appreciate it? Some help would be much appreciated.
>>34060473>>34060459I really like these responses and you're both exactly right. I personally dont feel something for women that dont really feel something for me so I dont know why there's all this deep analysis on whether I like her or have low self esteem. I just figured a man giving a woman a gift will create the wrong impression so I needed a second opinion. I have it in my hands, should I just go?
So, I decided I'll give the gift but I think directly talking to her would be a bad idea because it will convey I'm expecting something from her. On top of that, really don't know the girl too well and she could be seeing someone special and I dont want to give him the wrong impression that I'm making a move on his girl and therefore ruining the relationship they can potentially have with each other. She hasn't made any mention she's seeing someone but in my past I have seen women purposely hide their relationship status from me. I think it would be best if I just knocked and left it at the door step. If she isn't home, it will just remain there until she comes back.
>>34058991What exacrly happened here im comfusion
>>34060861He most likely wrote something that was sentimental to her.
>>34060851dang you chose the worst option
Why did I end up a kissless dateless handholdless virgin at 30 years old, when every single other man I've ever known in my life didn't?
>>34060968>>34060927>just talk to girls as if you were trying to make friends, but with extra compliments.I'm writing of course with the assumption that you've made friends before in your life, which maybe is too big of ask for you given how busy you were with being at the top of your school and a world-class MMA champion and a chess expert and a classically trained violin player and biomedical research engineer and World's Strongest Man and everything else you claim to be.
>>34060968I do that, i just can't say "want to go out" or even think about it. I only have the gift of gab when it's a completely platonic conversation in my mind. As soon as a thought comes in that "this is getting a bit too flirty" i shut down.Also, it's not difficult to get good at your hobbies if you spend your formative years sequestered in your room practicing violin, going to judo training and studying maths. You have a lot of time if you have 0 social life.I am not the other guy you tagged. >>34060672This is my first post
>>34060977I suck at chess
>>34054300Life has more failures than winners, so you clearly know which camp you fall in.
>>34060980>Also, it's not difficult to get good at your hobbies if you spend your formative years sequestered in your room practicing violin, going to judo training and studying maths. You have a lot of time if you have 0 social life.So no friends, then?Like, ever? Or you at least ate lunch with and hung out with a couple of other dudes in high school?>I do that, i just can't say "want to go out" or even think about it. Well you should practice that like you practiced becoming a karate champion mathematician/classical musician.
I'm depressed because I've never had a threesome.I'm not even a virgin. I'm old. I've had multiple relationships. Got as far as cohabitation and almost got married to one. But whenever I told my GF(s) that my fantasy was to have a threesome they'd always flat out refuse saying they're 100% straight or simply told me that was something they did when they were younger and wild and that they're in a different stage of life now.I get it and I can't force someone to want to have a threesome with me. I can't pressure them into one either, I never asked a second time after being rejected. But it still sucks. I'd have no problems trying to fulfill my GF's sexual fantasies. If they had asked me to do stuff to them that I don't normally do i would have done it, because I just wanted to make them happy. But they don't want to fulfill their sexual fantasies with me. At the end of the day they just don't see me as a object of desire. I'm not a part of their fantasies. I'm just the guy who pays rent and takes care of the bills.That's all I am. I have to accept that's who I am, the safe choice, the stable choice. Not the guy they want to have sex with. Because I'm not tall/handsome enough.But I don't want to live like that. So I have to accept being alone the rest of my life.
ive met someone like this. they have asked me twice if i would. i like them though, so obviously not. like why would i want to be cucked and watch you fuck another person. people are slow as fuck sometimes, i swear
>>34059646Demanding a threesome is not really a reasonable relationship requestI’d go with >>34059656 sure it will set you back a bit and it’s not “genuine” but trust me you’re still gonna enjoy yourself and you won’t wreck your current relationship>>34059722Most women having threesome aren’t really doing it out of desire anyway. Most of them fall into two buckets >straight couple and a lesbian who likes the girl but won’t let the guy touch her>people living some kind of degen lifestyle like polyamory or dealing drugs as a livingYou don’t want either of those dude. There’s a reason why having sex with two hot bitches that actually want you is such a fantasy. You might as well talk about finding a unicorn horn.
>>34059646>I'd have no problems trying to fulfill my GF's sexual fantasies.If that involved letting an unattractive man with a massive dick fuck you in the ass, would you be up for that?
I have never even kissed a girl in my life and im 23 years old
>>34059646>So I have to accept being alone the rest of my life.Good. Excellent decision.
What are some good life tips? I'm open to anything
figure out if a girl is cool with abortions before porking her
always cum inside her no matter what. life is about spreading your genes.
Don't be fixated on an outcome, focus on the process and treat the reward as a byproduct rather than a given.
>>34060666Master the hedonic treadmill.
I stopped going to school when I was 16 but I started full time work the moment I turned 18 and I've been employed full time up to this day. Right now I'm an call center representative and it's a alright job. What I really want to tho is to go to cosmetology school and get licensed and do that work. I was an salon assistant and I love that kind of work. But to even think of getting licensed you first need a GED. I'm 27 next summer so maybe it won't be worth it?
Get your GED you loser.
I think its worth getting your GED. You have many years left to live so its worth studying for what you want to do right now and then doing it.You're at the right age to do it as a mature student.
im currently looking into getting my ged too. its definitely worth it no matter your age. im having a hard time getting a job, and im pretty sure its because i have no formal education. i hope you go through with it. good luck to you!!
>>34060335you need high school to cut hair? I seriously doubt that.
>>34060335GED at 27 is silly, just tell them you were home schooled.
How do you level yourself up to a point where you can meet the standart of modern women?
>>34060925I make girls and guys around me cry with laughter. I am the king of banter in any social group i'm in. I am 6'4 and jacked. I am also a kissless virgin, never got any signs of attraction from any woman.
>>34060874That explains the first two world wars. Blame all women. Srsy neither gender has changed.
>>34060938Do you take initiative? Ask girls out? Signs be damned, have they told you they feel comfortable/safe around you or actively seek you out to spend time with you?If you're as you describe they might just be intimidated. Do you show a *little* persistence and ask them out once or twice to show that you're genuinely interested, or just tell them up front that you really like them and want to take them for coffee some time?
>>34060945I have never asked out a woman in my entire life.But then again, neither have most of the guys around me that have girlfriends. They all got approached by their current girlfriends.
>>34060948That's your problem brother, if you're funny and charismatic it just comes down to showing that interest. Don't put the pressure on but definitely show that you're interested. Girls I've been with really liked knowing they were on my mind and something light, public and noncomittal like a casual meal, a mall crawl or coffee is a first date that doesn't *need* to go further, or break the bank if it doesn't.
>Cant find job for half a year>Savings about to be 0>Family is extremely bitter, condescending, constantly making fun of me and putting me down for not having a job>Everyone i know has good lives>Meanwhile i have to skip eating some days>Brain rotten, stuck in an endless trying to study but end up doing nothing 80% of the dayI lost again
>>34056402It's hard to be motivated when you have nothing to look forward to and the few people in your life have added to a good chunk of your suffering for nothing, speaking as someone similarly poor.
>>34056402Dude, you need to hit up a food bank. They should give you some bread, canned foods, dried food goods and such. Also, get on food stamps/EBT. Piece of shit Trump’s new Big Jew Cock sucker bill changed some of the rules, and it doesn’t affect all states, but if it does, you need to say you’re addicted to alcohol or alcoholic to still get free food stamps without needing a job 20 hour work shift. If you’re Native American, I think there’s an exemption from working when for work requirements, but you’ll need your tribal paperwork. You also can try to get NEETbux if you’re seriously mentally ill (SMI). Try the Job corps, us military, something dude. I’m a NEET but having a job will help you.
Iktf neet bro. And I’m 29Shit sucks
>>34056402drop your paypal or revolut bro, I can wire you 20 bucks. no shame in asking for help
>>34056402get dumpster diving with that 80% of time. Bakeries usuall throw out whole bags of 2 day old brad and rejects that are still pretty clean.
I was adopted. Now that my parents are getting a divorce they're cutting me off. In their mind their job is done and I'm not related so I don't need to be in the family anymore.The problem is, I just quit my full time job a few months ago so I could work part time (haven't found a job yet) and go to college full time. It's a shitty meme degree but it's something I'm passionate about, and I want to be a university professor myself. I have to look for car insurance, health insurance, and a new phone plan. I have about $30k in savings. Should I invest most of it and find an easy part time gig?I'm filling out the fafsa right now. Idek what I'm asking anymore desu. I'm so confused and all I fucking want to do is get my master's at least.
bump i'm gonna starve to death
>>34060341Phone plans and insurance are for people who have solved their rent and food problems.Cut everything to the bone and a little further even. Go hard on getting a survivable job.
I don't have any advice to offer but I sincerely feel bad for you, nobody should be in a situation like this, I hope things work out
>>34060188Live off college loans/on campus/whatever for as long as possible then like a doctorate level. If it makes you feel any better my parents didn't disown me and were no more help to me than if they did so you can go forwards with life no problem.
i hope y'all can set aside our differences for this oneCONTENT WARNING: ultimate girlfailure>be me>be 18>unironic diagnosed autism. its level 1 so i dont need therapy or anything, but im the definition of socially retarded>live in a gated community (obviously suburbs)>cant drive>only went to preschool and kindergarten, unschooled after that>never worked a day in my life>uses my moms money to order shit like some snacks and all toiletries every week, usually less than $100>doesnt even know how to apply for a job>nothing to put on a resume>wants a job to pay for my own fucking orders, before my very patient mom rightfully crashes out
>>34057280Yeah, bhix.
College.
>>34057260Pretty sure you can get into college but you should at least consider a getting the GED to work for any type of “real” company. Otherwise, you are mostly limited to small local businesses that cannot afford to hardly pay and want to wheel and deal for hours or keep things under the table. Maybe that is what you want.
made a work email and applied for a job as a stocker. if i dont get it, i'll apply for a job as a porter.both of the jobs are a mile away, so i could walk, but i still asked my mom if she'd be willing to drive me and she said "of course!"
>>34060716That's good
I am a 37 year old dude in Texas who works in web3. I make 150k a year. I just closed a deal with a new client for 750k for 2026. Going to ask for a raise from my boss for 1/4 of that amount. I have a wife who doesn't sleep around. Two daughters who are awesome. I own my house. It'll be paid off in like nine years. We all go do stuff together. I used to play a lot of video games with online friends. Recently that has died down a lot. I have a some dad friends in the neighborhood but we don't do anything outside of chatting at soccer games or school/neighborhood functionsI think about killing myself a lot. I can't stop myself from drinking almost every night. What's wrong with me?
>>34054870Yeah, most people think of an hero. Just find a cope and roll with it. I would suggest you stop the alcohol tho, if not for yourself for your family. Good luck to you anon.
no one is going to ask why? why do you want to kill yourself?
>>34054899Even a busted clock is right twice a dayTexas is like you blended the worst aspects of Southern California and the south, just pure undiluted ass
>>34054870you have enough money to fund my entire life. if that doesn't make you happy, kill yourself
>>34054870Like, join a discord for a niche game community or something. Try smoking weed and playing video games with friends with a hot drink and healthy snacks, and maybe a cool video on the side.
Should I sleep at 10PM if I have OSA?
>>34060491How is your OSA being treated?
I've noticed that I do the stuff that I supposedly love to impress and be cool to other people because whenever I think about the stuff I love, the first thing that comes to my mind is that I'm with a group of new or old people/friends and that I'm talking about that stuff. I feel like I don't love these things for what they are but for the advantages they can give me. I also know that this isn't the case as I really really love the stuff that I "love" and I want my life to be full of them but I just can't focus on them for what they are. How can I get out of this "mindset"? I really just want to enjoy things for what they are.
>>34060508fully abandon caring how others view youlife is about impressing people you want to fuck and those who can get you a job, everyone else is cardboard
