is it over für mich?
>>33959267yes put your balls in a hydraulic press
What’s the point of forgiveness: it just seems like faggot shit of letting people walk all over you. Why is this even a thing for anyone other than a cuck?
>>33958156I agree. When people reveal their true nature and cause you injury, there is no forgiveness you owe them - you owe them revenge. "Living better is the best revenge" is pussy shit. You either encounter and overcome bigger challenges such that the previous violation is nothing in comparison, or you decimate your opponent. My advice is to strike back with such overpowering force that it is undeniable, at least to your inner self. It has been studied that male testosterone levels increase with wins and decrease with losses. So, if a bully got away with violating you, he won and you lost. Let that sink in... basically we are animals playing a zero-sum game, always in competition.
>>33958156I forbid people, even for bad things. But, retaliation and violence isn’t bad either. Well, killing is really bad. But otherwise, you’re a human. Thoughts of retaliation are normal.
>>33958981*forgive
>>33958156I forgive for my mental. There's just no point in hanging onto grudges. Would you climb a hill with more heavy bs than you need? No just remove the bad so you can climb it faster. Because you dont know what lies ahead on that mountain.
>>33958156the more you think about something bad someone did to you the more you actively spend time on it.the more it drags on you.giving forgiveness is you taking back power and deciding it wont be something you devote attention to thinking about anymore.
This probably belongs on a doctors' subreddit, but they tend to be exclusive about what you post, so maybe you guys could give me an outside perspective? You tend to be more honest/harsh, which I need, so here I am.I'm a nineteen year old girl. I didn't graduate my senior year (skipping + health problems) and am now on the path to earn my diploma by January. I've had an interest in medicine and the human body since I was a little kid. I sort of have a knack for it? It might just because it interests me, but I memorize medical things super easily. Not saying that I'm a medical prodigy or anything, just that I have an inclination for it. Towards it? I'm not desensitized to gore, but blood doesn't freak me out. What I am freaked out by are things like rashes and parasites. I also have had lifelong myoclonus and mild coordination issues, and I don't think anyone wants a twitchy, uncoordinated doctor working on them. I understand that I can end up in a specialty that isn't super hands on, where I'm less likely to encounter the things I'm scared of, but I'll still have to do rounds in the ER in med school, so who knows what I'll have to deal with?I've been considering going into psychology instead because of those reasons. It does interest me, I like helping people, and I've had experience with mental illness of my own. I'd like to be a psychiatrist. But at the same time, I'd love to work in physical medicine and specialize in neurology or genetic disorders. Still, I'm not sure I can make it through med school. I'm sensitive. I'm good in emergencies and can stay calm, but long term? I'm a huge pussy. I don't want to go into debt just to buckle under the pressure. Or become an inadequate doctor. I know I have years to figure this out, but I like to plan. How would you feel if you had a doctor that was twitching and struggling while she worked with you? Is being sensitive enough reason to avoid medical school altogether? Should I pursue psychology instead?
>>33956607You have to be of an unusual intensity, not merely have a vague inclination towards medicine in order to get in and succeed in medical school. If you want to leave a contact I can talk more to you about it.
>>33956607ask >>>/sci/med
>>33957687Well I'm a dumb whore on ssris, so
>>33958663I want a farm house one kid and you must treat my elderly cat like your own daughter
>>33958682I have a pretty intense interest in it. Not sure if it's a passion, but I do have a passion for helping people.
I have no reason to live and no goal except for money and it's acquisition, am I normal? I was never interested in relationships, really. I guess I wanted to have kids, but they weren't as important as me desiring more and more money. I don't care about politics much anymore, I just want to get more and more money. Women are boring and porn is more so something to get me running through the day. What do I do? I don't believe friendships are real, I hate family, and I think religion is funny.
>>33957767I've found that sharing some of that acquired wealth is pretty pleasant. I'm mostly the same so this might be something you can find out about yourself. I think that because of this underlying nature / mindset behind money obsession I see most things as transactional, including family / friends / relationships. I used to think I was autistic or asexual, but I can handle all of these things pretty well / feel for them nowadays thanks to understanding myself. I bought my little sister an expensive phone she wanted and it felt pretty goodDitch the porn, and address the obvious problem of you not having any friends / hating your family... Some open-mindedness toward religion or spirituality wouldn’t hurt eitherYour finances will improve too
>>33957767What kind of money are we talking about?
>>33958370Using an “inside voice” just means being a cuck
>>33958433what about the thought that something would bite you in the back after years?
>>33958933Like what?
Condensed thread for all of your NNN thoughts and questions.Good news: If you're reading this, you're at least 40% done! >prev>>33884906
20 days in already. Im gonna make it. I realize that porn isn't the worst thing in my life but it's definitely an extra nail in that depression coffin. I'm still depressed not jacking off but the burden is a little lighter.
>>33931267going strong
Was looking at porn and let loose some precum. I need to stop looking.
>>33931852What I've been doing for the past two months, focusing on my classes.
I’m 21 and he’s 29 - it’s not like he’s my boss or anything. He’s not actually that old either. We’re both college students. But I’m like seriously crushing on him like we both hadn’t talk in the past semesters. Now he’s currently talking to me, first it was just the heys and now we had our first conversation together because we’re interning in the same place. Now I’m like obsessed thinking about him and stalking him online. Actually couldn’t find anything about him online. I’m thinking he uses a gamertag or something. He actually treats his friends so good too. It’s hot how nice of a person he is. Now I’m waiting for him to make the first move or it’ll be a one sided thing because I never been in a relationship before! Or just have the friendship develop more. lol So that’s what I’m currently feeling right now!
>>33957365That age gap is fine though
>>33943419That age difference is insignificant. Hell, even if he were 39 or 49 I'd say go for it. You're both adults, you're crushing on him, there's nothing to think about here. Shoot your shot.
>>33957918Oh no, not 39 or 49 lol. It’s like I’m taking care of the elderly when I’m older
>>33957983Understandable. I'm just saying it's acceptable. This recent societal rise in prudishness regarding age differences between adults is just bizarre.
>>33958547It is but it shouldn’t really be acceptable. For example, Bruce Willis’ wife is 47 and she shouldn’t really be the caretaker for him you know?
Uhhhm. Should I try dating apps again? I have no other ways of meeting women.
>>33956658>all of the women at my job are ... already dating a dudelittle secret, women are almost never singleyou have to talk to them even though they aren't and convince them you're better than their boyfriend (but without saying that directly, that would be autistic)
>>33958428maybe you'll never understand this anon, but you may as well try sucking your own dick if you think women aren't having sex without an ulterior motive.
>>33959074how is that relevant to anything I said?they do that, but they also just have sex where the only motive is that it feels good for them
>>33956644The general consensus is that they're horrible, and lord knows I had a shitty time. But I know 2 people who are very normal in terms of physical attractiveness who met their now spouses on dating apps...Only do it if you think you can handle it, I find it ends up making me feel like shit. I have no rizz and require in person interactions to have any chance of finding a mate
>>33959165>. I have no rizz and require in person interactions to have any chance of finding a mateI feel like not giving a fuck helps with anxiety and no rizz. Just pretend the chick is your hairy uncle instead of a whore with fat tits
What should I avoid/do (am F)? We both really like each other and discussed maybe getting married in 1-3 years. How do I not mess this up.
>>33959122This isn't you
>>33959137Obviously
>>33959153Then why would anyone want to date you?
>>33959122You gotta talk a lot, which is obvious. you also have to talk to yourself. People always say "oh we would have worked out if we had better communication" but sometimes the hard part isn't talking about your feelings but admitting your own feelings to yourself to THEN bring up to your partner.Also, talk about the sex your having. Its foundational that your sex be amazing, all you have to do is work togetherTake it easy with each other, be kind and patientI dunno eat dinner together now and then all that cute stuff.
>>33959122don't cheat, it's that simple
There was this guy on campus that had a very small penis, yet by the end of the year he had racked up a 150 body count with even stacies.Yet some women said he would fuck them Just because he had a micropenis and felt insecure.I dont get why It was supposed tò be bad if he was sexualy succesful.How does normale slanders work exactly?
>>33956422Yeah it's entirely ressentiment morality for the most part lol. If it is done out of insecurity then he is doing something he doesn't necessarily find fulfilling to impress others which keeps him from a more fulfilling life.
>>33957576>I have a 5Stopped reading here (lol). If it's not at least 6 inches, I don't want to see your face out in public
>>33957576>I get sucked off by ninesYou don't
>>33957576no wonder you had to go for 9 years old children
>>33956422>Yet some women said he would fuck them Just because he had a lot of money.FTFY
a girl at work has recently given me several overt complements and always says hi in passing even if I wasn't even looking at her. does she like me? cant tell if im being retarded.
>>33958623you have her attention, thats enough, get closer to her if you like her and find out where her intentions are
>>33958623You look depressed.
>>33958916I may be clueless but I know I dont look depressed
>28, female>mentally broken but working hard on therapy for years now>does this whole therapy thing even work?>haven't been in relationship for years>recently got fixated on specific type of people that attracts me>fixated so much that I managed to hook up with a few of them>long story short - last one was so my type that I feel like I fell in love>he ghosted me>not that I tried to reach him, I'm too afraid>we just don't message each other>I don't know how people do that, how they show they are interested, how they get closer to each other>so I'm waiting like stupid>hoping for something that's never gonna happen>I'll miraculously meet him somewhere and we'll be happy then, right?>even if somehow - I'll be for one night againComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33958598Are you willing to do arts and crafts with me? All I want is a hobby gf.
>>33958937Sure!! Yeah, would be so cool! What kind of arts and crafts you mean? I can sketch a little, I crochet, I could do other things I think. If by art you mean music or writing then yeah, I'm for it too.Actually art is a way for me to deal with emotions, I always feel better when I pour emotions in the art.Wow I'm really glad you asked
>>33958921That's interesting, I do say that I have mental issues most often when it comes to romantic relationships. I was really upset when I wrote this post, I assure you that therapy works. I can see it in relations between me and my family, friends, coworkers. I see how I act in public, how I deal with any problems occurring in my life.I actually like my life, it has changed a lot since I started therapy. I focused on different aspects of life because that's what my therapist advised - start with fixing your everyday life. And it's good. Really. The only thing that hasn't changed is this.Or has it? Two years ago I was trembling with fear when I tried to imagine anyone touching me. Couldn't imagine anyone finding me attractive. That changed, too.I see my therapist tomorrow, we'll talk about it. Do you guys think it is something that can be fixed too, just like other areas of my life? Somehow I feel like this one is going to be the hardest, even unfixable...But I must say it - it was such a hard work. I worked really really hard to get to the point I am now. It was exhausting. Was it worth it? Yeah, I guess. Because there's still a lot to work on.And I feel like all those years spend on therapy are lost... I know it was worth it but people of my age are getting married, having stable lives. I barely started living. That hurts.
>>33958873I'm with you <3 I'm so sad and tired now, but I promise I won't stop trying. And I don't mean I won't stop trying to find someone. I won't stop trying to fix myself. As someone wrote here, there are therapists specializing in anxious attachment. People that had been in worse situations than I am now managed to start a family. I deserve it. Everyone does. Never had one. That's where all this trouble comes from.
Single mom? Death sentence. Shouldn't have fucked things up with the baby daddy, or you should have played defense better and not let trash men get access to your cootch. Men would rather be alone than commit to raising a bastard son. If you had the exact same woman cloned and gave us a choice between the one with a child and the one without, not a single one of us would choose that burden of a kid package deal. The only man that would stay with a single mom is someone else who has absolutely no other options and is desperate, which you will also come to resent, since you clearly can't stop being played with by more desirable men than you. The only other option is single fathers, and those guys always have some debilitating addiction or mental health problem. Bat in your league (1-3/10) I guess. You will never lock down chad now, so give that shit up.
uh i fell in love, I've joined a program to socialize i was in a room with the group of people who also joined anyway this one girl shows up a bit late. the group leader or whatever you call it was going around asking the people in the group why they joined what they were hoping for at the and lastly favorite thing to do, everyone answered and lastly it was the girl who was a little late at first she didn't answer it took 10secs for her to talk and while answering the question she was holding back tears, she very shy and very awkward but man she's so perfect in my eyes. how do i go about asking her phone number?.
I'm diagnosed with ADHD and planning to go back to college next year after a 5 year hiatus. I really don't want to go back to my meds but I'm also getting really worried I'm going to mess this up again.You guys were helpful when I was getting off the adderall months ago so I was wondering if you have advice for specifically studying with adhd and if it's even realistic that someone like me could succeed. I'm quitting my job for this so it's a risk
>>33953093>Only to be distracted by your own thoughts and likely maladaptive day dreamingThis is a personal assault
>>33952980I take 200mg tablets of caffeine and I don't feel anything
Get adhd accommodations by talking to the college. You can get extra time on tests, distraction reduced environments, and even get on lists for jobs that have a retard quota to meet. Thats how I graduated and got my 3 figure govt job.
>>33959011Six figure lmao. As I said, retard quota.
Question for everyone else with adhd here, do you guys have trouble remembering /retaining stuff? After we complete a lesson and do the homework, I can never remember 90% of what I learned even a few days later. I need to do thing over and over to retain it for only a little bit. Is it just me or is this something you guys deal with too? if so what do you do to help?
>>33959078It's obvious
A mirror. But that isn't really what you're asking.
>>33959078if youre not wildly deformed, do take good care of yourself and your responsibilities, and engage enthusiastically with topics you are interested in someone you are attracted to will find you very attractive, just trust the plan and dont get so insecure about this shit, thats why people are better looking when theyre smiling
>>33959086Not even. Some of the most mirror-obsessed faggots I know are bridge trolls.
>>33958813I never had sex or a partner so it's rocket science for me >>33958813You should get a social job I think it would be fitting for you
>>33958816You sound like a great couple therapist
>>33958813this
>>33958844I won't go further than verbal consent. The last thing I want to do is lather my spear's tip vertically onto a girls clit and then her asshole only to have her deny be the benefit. May as well not even have sex with her at that point.
>>33959070wtf are you talking about, buy a fleshlight and go away
