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Explain the women game to me. What do I need to do to fuck them? How would you game pic related to fuck her?
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women are men with boobs but less brain
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You have to present the best side of you, be confident, show genuine interest in her. And most importantly, know you may have to cut your losses, since it is entirely possible that no matter what you do she will not feel attracted to you.
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>>34612156
based
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>>34612401
she did some travelling between the ages of 16 - 18 to 'find herself'. she has most likely had dozens of boyfriends and friends with benefits and one night stands.
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>>34611588
You can only win if you don't play

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/r9k/ wasnt much help so I'll ask here
>be me
>small penis, 4.5 inches
>girlfriend is supportive and affectionate though
>last too long though
>takes 30-40 minutes to orgasm depending on stress as long as it's uninterrupted
>girlfriend only takes 5 minutes
>after her third orgasm she gets too exhausted
>end up just using her like a toy or something while she lays there until I can manage to finish
>feel like she just feels obligated because she's my girlfriend
>get self conscious about not being enough
>if my penis was bigger maybe she'd enjoy it more and want to go more rounds
>get too self conscious and can't finish
>girlfriend is supportive because good girlfriend
>resume cycle of blue balls and sexual repression

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>>34613974
>A vagina is 3 inches deep and 90% of the pleasure possibilities for both of you are at the shallow end
this is flat out untrue
but it doesn't seem to matter in OP's case, seeing as he's providing more orgasms than big-dicked guys do on average
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>>34613897
It is objectively small though. every statistic I've seen says women's ideal is 6 and a half.
why shouldn't it take me 30 minutes? how long does it normally take people?
>>34613974
we already do lots of foreplay cause she likes it and I enjoy doing that for her. it doesn't do much for me
>>34614057
if you have a massive penis I don't see how you're in that position to be quite honest. and I don't think I'm doing anything right or unique or anything. I'm pretty fat and unhealthy, I'm pushing 300 desu. and I have a bad back so essentially I just kinda mush up on her a bunch. I'm sure it's the ugliest sight in the world.
>>34614062
>no woman wants 30 to 40 minutes of monster penetration
why not? how do you know? if they don't why do they talk about big penises so much?
>>34614074
>providing more orgasms than big-dicked guys do on average
I'm sure this isn't true
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>>34614585
>The average woman does not orgasm during hetero sex, at all
>I'm blessed I've jelqed for years to have a very large member, my wife can't have me fuck her for more than 15 minutes, most women tap out after 20
>Average penis size globally is 5 inches, you are in the average bell curve of 4 to 6 inches erect.

My advice to you is if you want it bigger jelq. I've been jelqing for 10 years and went from 6.5 inches to 8 inches. Basically when your in the shower make an o with your pointer and thumb and wrap it around the base. Then massage it down the length. Do a hundred reps of that a day and in 3 months you should be an inch or so longer and a half an inch thicker. If I was more consistent with it I think I would be bigger than I am.

Also STOP WATCHING ALL PORN!
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>>34614585
>every statistic I've seen says women's ideal is 6 and a half.
>why shouldn't it take me 30 minutes? how long does it normally take people?


First off the average penis length is 4-5 inches. Women only need about 3 inches to be able to cum from penitration, which it's common for women to not be able to cum from penitration. Also just like men, women also suck at judging things so when women say 6 inches, they don't actually know how big 6 inches are.

As for sex, Unironically sex is only supposed to last 10 to 15 minutes at the most. 30+ fuck sessions are a porn and whore thing, so the fact that you can last 45 minutes and still have enough stamina to keep going and haven't cum is already pretty impressive. Also for someone with a proclaimed small dick you made your woman cum 3 times, I actually have a 6 inch penis and have had trouble making women cum many times.

None of the evidence you have provided points to anything wrong. It seems like you have a misplaced sense of insecurity for some reason. Find out why you judge yourself so harshly or from whom and it might get you to the root of your issues.
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>>34614964
>Find out why you judge yourself so harshly or from whom and it might get you to the root of your issues.

well my first girlfriend cheated on me and was really critical of my size during our relationship. she was my first girlfriend though so I thought that was normal and I just internalized everything. and all that just gets reinforced when you hear women talk about fidelity and stuff like that in general. my girlfriend is the opposite of all those things but at the same time it's impossible to know if she really believes what she says to me or if she's just being nice and lying to make me feel better

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What's a decent minimum wage job I could get over the summer?
At first i thought about working at a fast food place or at a cafe, but I'm pretty clumsy. Is there a real risk of getting burnt / hurt? Is one superior to the other? (cafe vs fast food)
The other option would be working at a store (big or small) - cleaning, being a cashier etc.
Any other ideas? From experience, which one would you recommend?
I know that at the end of the day they're all stressful, but I'd like to hear other people's opinions and experiences!
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>>34614625
there is no good minimum wage job. You just have to evaluate what you can and cannot tolerate and make a decision based off of that
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>>34614830
I know, smartass, I just don't know what to expect from any of these jobs and therefore cannot evaluate them. That's why i wrote the question.

I'm considering going back to university in order to become a nurse. I'd be a mature student after a six year career in software dev (which I despise). Tell me if I'm being an idiot or not, and if so, why? I like the prospect of helping people as a career, have helped several during medical emergencies (ODs and other assorted problems including, in one case, a stabbing) while volunteering at a homeless shelter (I'm trained in first aid), and have been consistently frustrated with my day to day work for some time now.
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Just do it. Why you not nurse yet? You can always go back to your old job if you hate it or split the difference and be an informatics nurse if you cannot handle the grind
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>>34615132
I tend to overthink things, and there's the fact that I would need a clue highschool prereqs in bio/chem before I applied.
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>>34615140
Need a couple prereqs, that is.

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i need a lifehack to rid these slippory things
from my dounstairs shitter. leaving a radio on
in there has failed to work,, i have sprayed them
with salt water and they simply eyeball me
back. do not want to cause harm to them,
simply want them,, out of my house. their
ribberts spook me. thanks for any help.
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Have they laid some eggs in there
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>>34613670
what country has frogs as a household pest?
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>>34613670
why? They look cute and don't shit where they live.
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>>34613670
I used to have one of these as a pet. It would be a fantasy of mine to have them invade my house

>>34613871
Must be an Aussie — whites tree frogs are native to there
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>>34613670
I wish I had frogs living in my toilet. I would feed them and keep them happy. You have no idea how lucky you are, op

>girlfriend broke up with me
>my first relationship ever
>lasted 6 months but signs were there for the last month
>she said she liked me as a person but couldn't see herself with me long term, mostly because I had no relationship experience and she was sick of having to teach me what to do
>she said that despite that she still wanted to remain friends and that she'd give me some space before reaching out
I said I'd rather we just never spoke again.
I said that I appreciated the time we had, but she's the one breaking up with me and so having her continue to talk to me afterwards would just be a constant painful reminder that we used to be in a relationship and then she broke up with me. I also said that I want a completely new fresh start and to do that I have to compartmentalise the period of my life when we were together and basically forget her and all feelings and memories of her so I can start something with someone else in the future.

I left her in tears and removed her from my social media and deleted her number but didn't block it. We had no mutual friends or colleagues so I genuinely have a clean break from her entirely, but did I make the right call?

She was a nice person and she saved me from being an incel, but the thought of basically getting demoted from boyfriend to friend and still sticking around on the sidelines like a cuck, and seeing her post her new boyfriend on social media would just be far too humiliating than any kind of benefit I could get out of continuing to talk to her for any reason.
Her parents liked me and her sisters liked me, but I'm pretty she would've discussed breaking up with me to them beforehand, and I was never in contact with any of those people either.
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>>34613956
eh, can men and women really be friends? especially someone you were in a realtionship with so you're definitely mutually attracted to? sounds like only she can benefit from such an arrangement if she's the one breaking up, because this "friendship" is actually just her way of keeping her options open for her convenience.
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>>34613946
It's bullshit. It doesn't matter the reason she gives, she clearly wants to keep riding the dick carousel before she is ready to settle down but can't come out and say it like that so she will give whatever bullshit reason to save face. It's 2026, women get hit on by hundreds of men from all sides, they will never settle young and before they are all used up.
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>>34613830
Ur such a retard dude she wanted friends with benefits stop being a dramatic cry baby life isn't some naruto amv where he's crying in the rain and music is playing u fucking faggot god dude u should have just parlayed your friendship into friends with benefits manlets when will they learn fuckig npaieet nigger
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>>34613830
>did I make the right call?
Absolutely.
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>>34613916
>yada yada yada
Shut the fuck up.

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>>34611588
>be nice to them
>then be mean to them
>then say your last gf looked like her/was her ethnicity
>but that you will never date their type again and don’t say why
just let them come to you after this. you can do all of this in a single 5 minute convo or over a multiple dates and it works every time
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>>34614237
>>34614373
If the roasties are seething, it's a good indication. I will definitely be trying this out.
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>>34614237
To suck those suckers would be a boon to my mental health
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>>34614237
It makes sense because once you set a boundary there is always a enjoyment in crossing the boundary
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>>34614551
>>34614237
Isn't it a bit schizo to compliment and then insult at the same conversation?
Reminds me of that Oblivion persuasion wheel, where your options are to boast, admire, joke, or coerce, and you have to do all of them in the same persuasion attempt
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>>34614237
Where can I watch this hog get corked up the ass ?

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Had a blood clot last year. Hematologist has me on blood thinners for the rest of my life. Two pills a day, every 12 hours, everyday.

I feel like I've lost something. Before this, I felt free. I felt alive. But now I feel attached. I feel imprisoned. I feel limited. I feel like death is around the corner. I feel attached to the medical system. I feel like my life now has a price to pay.

Everything has changed somehow. I used to feel like death was a million miles away. But now, it's like, at any moment. And these pills are the only thing keeping me alive. For the rest of my life.

How do I cope with this?
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>>34608940

You are dense. You are going to die someday, the blood thinners are just forcing you to accept that fact.
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>>34615003
I am immortal I will never die I will live for all of eternity... :(
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>>34614898
:(
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>>34608871
>he got the clotshot

Shiggidy diggidy doo
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>>34615033
:(

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Do males get thoughts of sex before the age of 6-7? And I mean without having been exposed to pornography or sexual encounters. My partner has said that he thought of having sex with his classmates or just girls he had crushes on from the age of 5. He also masturbated. He does not remember ever being molested or viewing pornography, not at that age at least. I cannot fathom how that would naturally happen to someone so young, so I am scared that he was perhaps molested. I personally do recall using an object to rub against my vagina one time, and I didn’t even know what I was doing. I had no clue I had a vagina, no clue males had penises, no clue what sex was, I never even saw my vagina until much later on, so I cannot understand this. Perhaps it is normal for males however, which is why I am asking here. Though I don’t see any reason for these kinds of thoughts to naturally occur in a child, regardless of gender, so I am inclined to believe he got molested in some way or exposed to pornography. But perhaps I’m wrong, hopefully even. I hate to use this forum, but I will never use Reddit.
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>>34614063
There are beings that push that shit on kids and blame their past life for their decisions, that shit is not standing with me, Idk whether they think they're gonna get away with it, but I'm here to tell them that they won't.
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>Do males get thoughts of sex before the age of 6-7? And I mean without having been exposed to pornography or sexual encounters.
Really taboo topic, but yes, absolutely.
I was jerking off to orgasm at like 8 and did touch myself prior to that. Absolutely fantasized about doing naughty shit to girls in my class or about the peek I snuck at their panties when I did it. Probably quadruple-digit orgasms before I ever started producing. Didn't require exposure to pornography or molestation for it to be so. Liked looking at ladies with big boobs pretty much right out the fucking gate. Liked pretty girls pretty much right out the gate. Liked kissing pretty girls and playing slapass with them and doing touchy stuff you can't get caught doing pretty much right out the gate. Never had a "cooties" or bring grossed-out by girls phase, thought being French kissed with a girl's tongue halfway down your throat was fucking awesome in like kindergarten to be honest. Did have a few instances of weird "sex play" or "playing doctor." I think that's pretty normal, but it's not often discussed because the topic is considered radioactive.
I think in other countries the recognition that boys naturally have dirty thoughts about girls is more widespread.

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>>34614796
>Picturing sex in your mind and wanting to do it is not normal or natural at that age. How would one know what sex even in 1st grade? Humping is one thing, but picturing having sex is another.
I dunno. I think it's literally just natural. I knew I wanted my dick sucked and thought about it without having been taught what a blowjob was. And instinct. I think making out and humping are preloaded software on human brains.
What's weird, too, is that you do also sort of have almost an Edenic conception that what you're doing is naughty without ever being told that. You know your parents and the teachers aren't supposed to know about it. Like knowing to hide your nakedness when God starts walking through the garden.
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>>34614063
I wanted to fuck at 5 but didnt know about penetration.
If you had an age where you "found out you were straight" or whatever you might be low iq.
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>>34615014
>If you had an age where you "found out you were straight" or whatever you might be low iq.
Also this. I think the whole trope of naive and sterile boys who eat worms and dig in the dirt being grossed-out by girls for having cooties liking kissy stuff is a myth. Boys come out wanting to flip up their skirts and grab them. At least they did before they started putting cell phones in all the frog water to make us gay.
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>>34614063
Idk, I know I did, but I was molested a lot as a kid (luckily always by non-family females).

How do you go that many years without seeing a body part that is in front of you when you look down in the shower?

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>not tall not short 5’11"
>lost nearly 40lbs. Lean, abs and jawline, nice hair etc
>gym 5x week
>asked out nearly 60 girls since 2024(don’t like apps, never much luck)
>have 4 hobbies that are quite social
>surgery to fix my teeth

>outside almost every weekend
>not ugly. Don’t like rating myself, but I’d say above a 6 for sure
>turning 28 soon still a virgin despite doing all the improooov shit

Just be real, it’s mostly looks isn’t it? I don’t know what else I can do, why aren’t I seeing results? Over 60 women asked out, 3 dates and the farthest I got was kissing
Should I just accept a life of being single? Seeing no results and putting in the work is just exhausting

I’m getting old and the lack of results is chipping away my spirit. Do I keep up the endeavour or just bow out
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>>34611102
>why aren’t I seeing results?
Because you lack confidence. Learn how to simulate confidence convincingly, and you'll get laid easily.

t. former khhv incel for whom this worked
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>>34611102
EVERYTHING you list is external. Have you considered getting a personality?
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Unironically just be funny and say whats on your mind in a charming way. Goes so far you have no idea. Also always ask questions. When people especially girls are asked about themselves they love it.
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>>34611102
You are giving women the ick, watch this and learn dude https://youtu.be/lL13EeEhgag
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>>34613866
>It's entirely about attitude. You need to believe you're worth having
Not OP, but how do I get to this point? Even after years of therapy, I feel so unappealing. I always have to initiate conversations and regardless of my efforts I’m never met with any interest.

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I have been married 5 years and have one child. My wife was great and i really lucked out with her (despite making this thread) but when she had our child who is a toddler now, we both went through a hard time. I was working over 12 hours a day daily and she was breastfeeding our child the whole time. With our newborn going nuts and life being crazy, my wife and I didn’t get along too well and took it out on each other.

Fast forward to now and i’m over what happened (yelling matches, fits of rage, stressed by the baby) but my wife isn’t and mentally can’t get over that time period. We fight once a month, barely have sex anymore. I used to have major anger issues that she asked me to fix and I totally have and she admits it but she still can’t get over her trauma which is reasonable. From me to the baby, stress and being away from each other and being postpartum it all kind of broke her brain but life is becoming unbearable to live at this stage.

She just confirmed with me that i’ve done everything i could have but she is still struggling. She refuses to have more kids and is overall just cold to me and it almost seems like divorce is becoming unavoidable. Any advice or anything?
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>>34614590
Can you take some vacation time from work to just stay home? Maybe more time together at home, ask her what projects would help make her life easier? Some shelves to organize toys so she can easily rotate them, a kitchen upgrade, make the house more cozy.

The home is supposed to be a safe haven and a shield to protect us from the turmoil outside.
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>>34608706
Keep your commitment and let her act like the bad guy/woman. Who wants to take dad away or make life a bigger pain in the ass.
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>>34608706
Maybe some Progest-E would help. Or therapy.

Have you sincerely apologized?
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>>34608706
Honestly you should meditate, work up to an hour a day, I say this because you will seem like a peaceful new person u will have so much time and room to breath before you act life will seem to move in slow motion
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>>34612038
>No I am totally against therapy in every way. I’m in a tough business and I’m a private guy, I refuse therapy and I can’t afford to air out my dirty laundry in that way. In my mind, my marriage is over if we had to go to therapy to fix it.
That's absoluteky retarded especially since you're not refusing it because you think it would make things worse but rather because of an ego thing

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I'm going to move in with my boyfriend of 4 years in a few months. I've been having a lot of doubt about it and I don't know if my hesitation is normal or it's going to blow up in my face after living together for a few months. We both live with our parents, I'm 21 and going to go into my second year of college when we move.
I think about moving out to get roommates instead all the time. Not only because it would be more financially viable (I am worried my boyfriend will flake and not work fulltime, I will be working fulltime. I pay for my own college, I'm going to a community college atm), but because my boyfriend gives me a rash sometimes.
When I told him I wanted to move, he told me "You should leave me, I'll just hold you down, I'm not built for this" - which is retarded defeatist shit. It took him a few months to get a job, not because of a lack of choice, but because he didn't want to work fulltime and he got too nervous at his first attempt. I am as understanding as possible. If I bring up shit that scares him he completely stonewalls me and tells me he's worthless, he pouts like a child. I am so worried how this will continue when we move out. However, I do believe he's not as much of a pushover as he makes himself out to be. It is really not hard to work a shitty job that doesn't require social interaction.
He is clingy and I feel very guilty for not feeling the same way. He does the whole "I love you MORE" like he's telling me "I know you love me less". I love him, I like him, but I am worried about the relationship itself. He's a very nice person. He rarely does mean petty shit.
I feel like I do not have the option to say no. I do not know if it's normal to feel this apprehensive about moving in with your partner. I am not necessarily seeking something else, I just don't want to move in with a basket case. But I know >>>Relationships take work. I am worried he will not put in the same effort as I do because he feels like he is not worth it.
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>>34612371
The sensation you're getting right now is one that every young person who engages in young relationships experiences - that the person you're with currently is not going to adequately grow with you into adulthood. You may love him and you may have had wonderful times but, frankly, you're both still kids. You got with him when you were 17. Your priorities and decision making and desires out of a relationship are much, much different now in your 20s than when you were 16-17. That nagging feeling you're getting about him not being the right person for you is not going to go away. Clearly, your mind and body are communicating something very important to you and the fact that you are not excited to move in with your boyfriend tells you everything you need to know about how sound of a decision this is. You already know the answer to your question, you just need us to tell you that your gut is right, which I understand.

All you need to do is ask yourself - if you move in with him and he doesn't change is this what you really want to be doing when you're 25 and 30? Living and supporting a guy who pouts and refuses to communicate and constantly talks shit about himself to avoid responsibility and emotionally manipulate you into feeling sorry for him and not holding him accountable for his actions? Do you want to be doing this for the next 10 to 20 years of your life? If the answer is no then you have your answer.
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>>34612392
>I think people can change. He wasn't always like this.
This is the mentality that keeps people trapped in relationships where they wake up one day and realize they've wasted decades of their lives waiting for someone to change.
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>>34612392
People can change, but usually they don't. And when people make an effort to change, you can tell
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>>34612392
Can you not talk to him directly and tell him what you need him to do?
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>>34612392
Dude is low quality. His desperation to get u to move out, he probably felt like this would make him happy having you. But he's too immature to realize that desire collapses when you have the object in totality. So he will most likely be a piece of shit to you in a few years or a lot less time, people who arent happy with themselves can't really treat others with sustained authentic respect. Sounds manipulative, might want to keep him on your roster for dick but not as a responsible person u want to share a life with. My advice? Casualize it. Turn it to a friends with benefits takes the pressure off him.

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My friend has been cheating on her husband with at least two guys and I'm tired of having to lie and cover for her. But I don't want to be the one that has to drop the it on him. I hope you can help.

My friend has been seeing at least two guys one pretty consistently for awhile and I know she slept with him for sure. I think she just talks to the other. But her husband James is a detective at the oak hill police office in oak hill wv. I don't know how he hasn't figured it out but I know if he looked at her phone without letting her know he'd see everything. He'd have to check it without her knowing or she'll delete everything. I feel bad for him and I'm tired of covering for her.
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>>34613849

Unless he looks at her phone without her knowing, she'll just delete everything to hide it.
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>>34608423
who wants to friends with people that btw? just pretend you never knew those people and then you won't have a problem at all anymore.
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>>34614329

she's talking about her husband, but it still comes across whorish, 2bh
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>>34608423
Never cover for her wtf but don't snitch either weird ass nigga cover for her wtf!!??? That's fucking insane imagine being a part of the plot to help ur friends wife cheat unbelivable
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>>34613849
I just realized this is all Indian shit this whole site is Indian

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Hi I wanna go from Mia to Ana can someone coach me? This is urgent!

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I'm in love with my lesbian bandmate. I'm a bisexual guy with a preference for women. I'm very feminine and I'm secretly learning towards being a trans woman. She is very affectionate and handsy towards me and flirts with me a lot. She says she wants to feminize me. She definitely loves me and I think she feels safe with me since we both have the same queer mindset. I feel a strong and unexplainable pull towards her. How do I go about gently and subtly getting her to be open to the idea of us doing or being something more together and taking our relationship to the next level without having it interfere with the band and the music? Thanks for any insight and advice you can give me!
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>>34612640
I'm not asking if I should go trans. I'm already headed in that direction. My main issue is how should I go about getting my lesbian friend to be open to us being something more than just friends. We're already very close and there's definitely love between us.
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>>34613096
If I may ask,
With or without D?
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>>34613153
I don't know. She didn't give details. Probably with D.
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I don't see how beating around the bush helps you here.

Just go with something like: 'I ask you, knowing who I am and who you are - do you wanna go on a date?'

Option 1, she says yes, you guys date and explore your sexualities and gender identities together. Be kind to each other.

Option 2, she says no and is nice about it. Take the L like the (assigned at birth) man that you are and be in pain for a while until you get over it. Band will prolly be OK.

Option 3, she says no and is mean about it. You now know she wasn't good for you, because you don't want someone who assumes the worst in you and doesn't respect you enough to act kindly. Your future in the band is suspect here, but from your description this seems very unlikely.

If you get hit with 'what kind of date?` don't hesitate to double down and identify it as romantic, something fun and slightly physical. Dancing, some kind of sport, an event that gets you jumping and cheering.
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Can you change?

She is trying to troon you. She is dominating you. This is not attractive to women.

My wife was gay, I'm a guy and she hated men because she had been sexually abused a bunch by dudes so her subconscious mind made her hate men. I'm a very masculine dude, construction job, bodybuild, but not a douche. I was friends with her and she fell in love with my masculinity. She went from being a girlboss IT consultant, to my housewife in a nice dress who cooks and cleans. My wife said to me, if you have tried a hamburger and every time it was disgusting then one time you had one that was amazing, you'd be super happy and go back to that place with the amazing burger. She said most men were shitty burgers and I was a delicious burger.

I say that to say this, you need to be a man. Women don't want weak men. Yes it will fuck up your band. Yes it will fuck up the music. But have masculine confidence.

Something to the effect of, I am going to be honest with you I have feelings for you and want something more.

You won't do that though because you are a weak feminine man. Be more masculine, again not a douchebag but a man.

Here is a video to inform you about male and female psychology: https://youtu.be/lL13EeEhgag


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