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I hate my fuckass neighbor. How do i harass him without getting in legal trouble?
His house is across the street from mine. It's a rural environment here. He has a wife and two daughters, i think.
I really want to do some stuff to his property or some other shit. We've only ever exchanged glances.

>inb4 why do you hate a family man
>inb4 love thy neighbor
He just pisses me off. And his dumb greenhouse out front that reflects sunlight so hard you can't look in it's direction. Only serious responses. I need some creative ways to mess with him without it actually being illegal.
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>>34649182
Get your rifle and take potshots at his family.
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>>34649227
I can't get a weapon. And i doubt shooting, or even pointing with a rifle at children is legal
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>>34649206
Hey smartypants, why aren't you reading it then, if it's so enirching, and instead you're on 4chan?
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>>34649346
I already finished it years ago. I am currently reading another edition of the Enneads by Plotinus, a thinker in the later Platonic tradition. The reason I am on 4chan is that recently when I was out on a walk in the local park I got "randomly assaulted" by some kind of scientist or engineer, so I am killing time with low stress activities while waiting for my nervous system to exit threat detection mode.
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>>34649182
>look in it's direction
IT'S = it is
ITS = belonging to it.

Gee, I bet his sins include being literate as well.

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I am someone who has already cut major distractions out of my life like doomscrolling / watching short form content - and this has lead to feeling more conscious, aware, mind racing less, etc
But
I don’t know how to consistently translate this addition time, energy, and focus into actually engaging with my hobbies
And I fear if I do not do this I will turn back to social media due to how easy it is
I am not saying this from a perspective of someone who wants to spend every waking moment being productive, but it is not as simple as just replacing distractions with other things to do instantaneously
This isn’t exactly choice paralysis but I often find myself just sort of frozen or in limbo, not really doing anything and don’t know where to go from here, unsure how to outwardly approach things
Sometimes I go from thing to thing rather naturally but other times I feel like I am just masking my distractions but doing other pointless tasks like researching shit I don’t care about, randomly opening tabs, etc
Basically I just need some sort of structured approach nothing stifling but just simple efficient and easy that will get me on the right track, an inward approach where I find what to do, not search what to do
The majority of the work can be attributed to simply not using social media, freeing my time, mind, focus, impulse control, etc but now I want to know where to go from here
Does anyone have methods: meditations? Questions to run through your mind to decide what to do? Mental simulations? Etc
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How did you cut out doomscrolling?
What is it you want to do with your time, what are the hobbies you're talking about?
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>>34650776
I cut out doomscrolling by just not allowing myself to use Twitter or YouTube unless I have something specific I wanna look up
For hobbies it really is simple stuff, watching anime, gaming, writing, reading / Japanese study

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there is an asmr artist who lets her pets occasionally join in and meow or bark since she has a cat and a dog

the comment sections is filled with arabs asking and borderline demanding that she does a video with no pets in the scene
the thing is she clearly doesnt like this idea and those weirdos have no concept of choice so they just go around harassing anyone that says "go watch someone else"

ik this is parasocial and shouldnt take this much time from me
but who is genuinely in the right or wrong here
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>>34651223
>arabs are weird
That's what happens when their culture is inspired by a epileptic psychopath who had a strange proclivity to marry 8 year olds.
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>>34651223
most arabs are genuinely inbred retards or at least some proportionate of them

this goes for every 3rd world population in general they somehow are a safe environment for rigidity and mental illnesses that pass as cultural differences such as izzat, blood debt and other psychopathic behaviours
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You're in the right because some Arabs are harassing her.

But in reality, your "right" is totally irrelevant; she is a content creator in it for the money and if you didn't provide revenue for her then she would never talk have any reason to talk to you.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I am pretty sure you knew you were a paypig at least a little bit.
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>>34651251
What would be mexico's quirk? Im just genuinely trying to be aware
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>>34651217
As an ASMR girl aspirant I agree. I've consumed ASMR content since I was 7 and I have so much passion and ideas for a future channel of my own but I just can't come up with a way to limit male access to my content, so I haven't been able to create a channel at all. Do you have any ideas?

I’ve got a group interview on Thursday for Waitrose (a UK supermarket chain). I’m pretty nervous about it. I bought some smart clothes for the occasion, but I know that can only do so much. I’m a very anxious person and I’ve basically lived as a NEET since I was 18. I’m 25 now and have very little work experience aside from a bit of voluntary work here and there. I’m also very socially awkward due to years of isolation, so a group interview is completely new territory for me.
I really can’t afford to mess this up as I’m in a rough spot and need a consistent source of income. Any advice on what to expect or how to handle it would be appreciated.
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>>34649444
Just take the chill pill before you go.
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>>34649444
Expect the interview to be a formality. Don't sperg out, don't swear, smell nice, look nice, bam, you're hired. I know Waitrose is posh, but it's a supermarket job, they just need a warm body
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>>34649444
Is the job within a store - anything from shelf-stocking to cashier? Then just show up and be breathing and you'll beat most of the competition.

>Male 25
>6'1"
>245 to 260ish lbs
It's been a while since I weighed myself, but it fluctuates somewhere around those numbers.

I'm not land whale size, but I definitely look disgusting naked. Since I'm overweight do I even really need to eat? Could I get by just drinking water?

Literally my only goal in this is to become fuckable.
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>>34646879
>do I even really need to eat
Nope. Your current body is perfect for enduring a biblical-era famine.
>Could I get by just drinking water?
Yes. Toss in a daily multivitamin and a tbsp of olive oil (some of those essential vitamins are oil-soluble).
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angus_Barbieri%27s_fast
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>>34646879
>Is starving myself a good way to lose weight?
Yes, in moderation. Count consumed calories and assume 10% more than what you counted. Exercise and assume you only burned 90% of the calories you think you did. Do not go off the deep end with GLP-1s or some shit. It's good for getting people away from the brink of morbid obesity, but it comes with a lot of side effects of extreme starvation such as brittle bones, muscle loss, hair loss, internal organ failure, etc because you aren't getting enough vital nutrients before feeling so full you'll throw up.
>Could I get by just drinking water?
Yes, but again, extreme starvation.
Protein is your friend and will build muscle.
Fiber is your friend and will (naturally) help you think you are full.
Mono and poly unsaturated fats are okay as they are easy to break down while still delivering some nutrients and performing key functions.
Carbonated drinks will bloat you up and make you feel miserable.
Know the levels of processed food. Shredded chicken and mcdonalds chicken nuggets are both processed chicken, but I'll give you one guess as to which is healthier.
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>>34646879
You gain it back extremely easily. I lost 30lbs in a month but also had to deal with being so fucking cold like insanely cold, constipated, insane hair loss, and extreme bitterness for some reason. I'm now at my lowest weight (weigh less than I did at 10) without doing all that nonsense and just setting meal times and mild exercise and portion sizes and it was infinitely easier and maintainable. Try that before you do any life miserable nonsense. And again, you can gain it back really easily. Your body starts holding onto it like crazy if you start eating normally so you kind of have to do that forever and then it just doesn't benefit you in any way. Seriously. Awful time in my life.

I know I'm zero percent believable since I'm some rando but my boyfriend is your height and weighs more than you and he's incredibly attractive to me and I really enjoy being able to be intimate with him. I'm 5'7 and last I weighed ~130lbs myself so it's not that this is my "look match" situation (though he's honestly more attractive than me I think, hard to say with bias). It's comfortable to have someone not too hard (in cuddling) and it's nice to feel small comparative because it makes me feel more feminine and desirable. If you're aiming for some 8+/10 social media esque woman for sex, that's definitely more rare but if you're fine with a 4-6/10, I bet you can find one anyway though by conventional standards you'd probably have better odds. Just don't hurt yourself.
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Intermittent fasting + running a few times a week is a really easy way to lose weight. I was around your same weight now im 215-220 after only eating around once a day for 2 months and working out occasionally. Just get used to being a Lil hungry.

>shortest male in my family
>dad taller than me
>grandfathers were taller than me
>all my nephews are taller than me, even the 13 year old
>brother-in-laws are taller than me
>brother taller than me
>uncles taller than me
God dammit...
God... damn... it... all...
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>>34649952
Where do you live? Dude I was expecting something like low 5s or even 4' something. 5'10 is perfectly fucking fine nigga.
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>>34649934
Posting bussy might help though I don't know
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>>34649952
Your family is tiny af. I'm 6'0. My brother is 6'6 at 14 and my uncle is 6'9. And YOU feel tiny?
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>>34650004
I'm 6'7 lmaoroflcopterpenis
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>>34649931
What about your Mom's supposedly gay best friend?

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How do I get faster at reading? Friend of mine asked me if I could proofread her thesis, however reading it takes me a HUGE amount of time, about 1 hour for 5 pages and that's without even checking for typos or anything like that
I have no idea what's wrong with my brain, I just can't seem to focus on the text so I have to read the same sentence multiple times or going back because I forgot what I just read
I'm 30 this year for what it's worth, and as a kid I used to devour books, I remember the whole Eragon saga took me less than a week for 3 fairly big books
Any tips?
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>>34650092
We've known each other for the longest, and I'm the only one who offered her some help as far as I know
Plus she asked me for help on small sections at first, liked the edits I did and after a couple of those she asked me if I wanted to do the same for the same thesis. Mind you, this is more on style and presentation, not the actual content since we've done two completely different unis
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>1 hour for 5 pages
Huh? Seriously?
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>>34650248
I genuinely don't know how
My friends think I might have ADHD, but I was never tested for it so I don't know
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>>34650027
"I'd love to, Suzy, but I am a very slow reader and I just don't have the time right now. Why not ask Tom?"
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>>34650027
I don't think you're having a reading issue I think you're having a focus and comprehension issue. You want to read it for your friend but you don't actually want to read it, so you're struggling. Make a choice you either gotta lock in or tell her the material is too dense for you.

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I keep going back and forward with the idea of travel, I keep looking at flights and planning but then in the end won`t pull the trigger to go through with it. I even packed everything went to the final page to confirm and pay but then just closed the page and unpacked for some reason. Then 3 hours later I`m looking at flights again...

any advice?
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>>34650862
Afraid to travel on your own? Get your toes wet with a short guided tour package. Even if you don't like the people or the restrictions, it will take the mystery out of travel and make you ready to do it on your own next time.

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i'm 21, russian. the only second language i know is english. i'd call it globish, even. i'm probably transfem though i can't really explore my identity in my country. i want to move, study and then live in a country that is safe, lgbtq+ friendly and have the least amount people of color. basically i want to live in the whitest country possible. what would that country be?
i would be really respectful to this country, learn the language and even volunteer for some local things. the uni major i want is probably filmmaking or art/motion designer
i want your advices, anons
p.s. i hate all the commonwealth of independent states so that includes russia too. i'm not gonna move to russia. also i live in kazakhstan
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>>34645577
Trans friendly but also racist? Lol good luck with that
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>>34649424
who said anything about racism lol?
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>>34649421
that's a funny one lol but no
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>>34649257
>doesn't mean i should live in russia you nazi bitch
Yes it does. Either sacrifice your life fighting the regime of stay downtrodden, serf. We don't want you russoids in the West. Collectively fix your shit first.
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>>34651456
you're fucking retard
> fighting the regime
retard i'm not from russia what regime am i supposed to fight? i was born and raised in kazakhstan and still live in kazakhstan
> We don't want you russoids in the West.
who's we retard that's just your whiny ass talking. pretty sure you're brown

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Is it possible to have a mommy fetish in your 30s without being cringe?
my gf is younger than me, I definitely shouldn't bring it up, right?
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>>34646256
just wait a few years
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>>34646617
so it's over?
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>>34646256
lol
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>>34646256
well she will become a mommy in a while, do you not have the patience to wait for that blissful moment? I do not understand the shortcomings of your question.
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>>34646256
I am 26 and my bf is 33 and I love it whenever he’s my good boy

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I changed major from mechanical engineering to computer science in college and ended up taking longer to graduate due to various reasons. Those reasons also made my grades tank from 4.0 to 2.7 by the time I graduated 3 years ago with the bachelor's. The computer science industry is uber fucked for starting positions currently in the US and I have been unable to procure a single interview. I can circumvent the bad grades by beefing up my portfolio and github with good work, which is fortunate. However, I need a job in the meantime. What are some industries where my skills might fit well based on all this? What's the secret to getting a job nowadays?
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>>34650112
Hahaha you tell me nigga.
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>What's the secret to getting a job nowadays?
being a good slave, meaning you would do anything for your job and have zero needs yourself, surely not some audacious things like being paid more than minimum wage, being treated with basic human decency or being allowed to have human needs like food, sleep or using the bathroom
basically, be perfect or get lost
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why are you waiting three years to talk about doing projects to buffer for your bad grades? that's what you do during recruiting season your senior year
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>>34650112
>What are some industries where my skills might fit
You are asking the exactly right question. Think outside the boxes of CS or engineering. What sorts of thinking have your studies made you good at, and where would that sort of thinking be wanted?

Personally, as one of the very very few college grads of the past 20 years who didn't do CS, I don't know what you're good at. But among my friends I saw that an English major who could analyze and interpret poetry learned very quickly how to analyze and interpret sales figures. A history major who could research Napoleon did well in law school researching precedents. And after writing loads of lab reports I was able to become a technical writer in an entirely different science.

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So I started developing this relationship with this girl at work. A friendly relationship. I slowly started to try and build our relationship by talking to her during lunch and I even took her home after work, while also eating cake at her place and building a lego set. She is autistic
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Yesterday I made the worst mistake you can do with friends: Talk about politics. I brought up how Starmer resigned and she said "good, he's far right." I asked her why she thought like that and the conversation went from there. I don't remember much of the conversation, but throughout the whole thing I remember thinking that this girl might have a few problems, due to some of the shit she was saying.

At one point she said " I don't like your opinions" I tried to have a balanced and fair conversation with her, if she didn't like my opinions, then that's fine but I still wanted to talk to her. I had no intention of offending her or pissing her off.
Eventually, she grabbed her things and left the room without even saying a word to me. I knew I fucked up at that point.
It also took me some time to realise that she also blocked me as well, which I'm a little fuzzed about since she wanted me to come over to her place and help her with her car.
So should I avoid this person at work completely, do I try and mend this relationship through a third party or what? Keep in mind she's not my ultimate best friend, just someone I was hoping to be stronger friends with.

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Soon I will be going to college and the fact that I will be sitting alone in a cafeteria again is so brutal.

I dont mind being alone in the comfort of my room but being seen alone and sticking out... I just cant. I dont mind socializing (I can handle it) but I just dont want friends. I hate putting up with other people, but I also hate being SEEN alone.

Plus college is different from HS. In HS folks can chulk it up to you being a weird kid, but in college youll be seen as a potential threat.
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>>34650721
also, theres a bunch of people from my hometown who go to the same school and will see me so thats gonna be even worse
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>>34650721
Time to an hero.
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>>34650721
Sit at a table for one with an open book. Make it look like a choice.

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I'm a 25-year-old guy who has never had sex due to years of struggling with anxiety and body image issues. Earlier this month I finally started medication, and around the same time I messaged a 32-year-old woman I had seen singing on Facebook. Despite the 7-year age gap, we clicked instantly and have been talking every day since. We've both opened up about our mental health struggles, and I've shared things with her that I've never told my closest friends or family. She has her own challenges as well, and we've developed a very deep emotional connection in a short amount of time. A week ago we talked about my virginity, and I told her that if I ever decided I was ready to lose it, she would be at the top of the list. She loved that, and since then our conversations have become more flirtatious and intimate. Yesterday we even had phone sex for the first time, which was a completely new experience for me and honestly felt amazing. From the beginning, we agreed that we should meet when we both felt more stable and in a better place mentally, but she's been doing much better recently and earlier today she practically begged me to come see her and "take her from there." I'm still improving and don't feel completely ready yet, but I really want to meet her. I know neither of us can know if this is real until we meet in person, and we've both acknowledged that, but I've developed very strong feelings for her. Has anyone been in a similar situation involving a fast emotional connection, mental health struggles on both sides, a noticeable age gap, concerns about trauma bonding or emotional dependency, or losing their virginity later in life? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences.
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>>34647011
i really hope things turn out well for you anon you have no idea how lucky you are to find someone like that most women are horrible. I will say make sure somebody knows where you are and when you'll be there just in case she tries to rob you. It happened to my friend years ago.
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Wow that's random. Now go put your dick in her pussy. You're gonna love it. Trust me.
What was she singing?
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>>34647011
Anon, there's really no downside to this. You've met someone you really like and get on with; she feels the same way; stop overthinking it. I lost my virginity at 23 to a woman who was 29; not exactly analogous, I know, but it was lovely. Honestly, just go for it. How much more "ready" do you really think you'll ever be?

> I know neither of us can know if this is real until we meet in person
This is true. But all the more reason to meet as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the more time you will have wasted if it doesn't work out irl.
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>>34647011
>Despite the 7-year age gap, we clicked instantly and have been talking every day since
ignore the retarded age gap discourse online
its rarely a big deal irl at least if you both met as adults as adults do
I lost my virginty in my late 20s to a 19 year old and was with her for several years. To this day its the best relationship I've ever had. We were like best friends. Do not let an age gap be the reason you don't get with somebody unless it makes the person just unattractive to you. Personality and compatibility matter much more. Go fuck her now.
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>>34647011
Two people with "mental health struggles"

What could possibly go wrong?

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>go on four dates with this girl who is below my league
>she seemed really into me and eager to hang out. she was always available for me
>she was dtf and brought me to her dorm on the third date, and wanted to do so again
>on our fourth date, we went to pool bar
>we made out and she made it very sensual. our convos took a sexual turn and she even complimented my looks
>while we were playing pool, i see her looking at this other group of ppl (of guys and girls)
>wtv
>she later approaches one of the guys (who was taller than me) to tell him that she likes his shirt (I think)
>i am in panic mode and excuse myself to the bathroom after we finished our game
>she ends up texting me asking if im still in the bathroom
>we leave the bar and i am trying to process what just happened. i try to stay mute since I am on the verge of tears, and she seems to want to hold my hand and continue talking as if she is oblivious to my feelings
>she asks what I want to do and if i am busy the next morning
>I told her that I am busy the next morning and that I just want to continue walking around
>i then told her that i should leave before the subway closes. we kiss goodbye, she tells me not to miss her too much, and I leave
>i immediately unfollow her and remove her from my ig

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>>34648391
How are you a homewrecker? You don't have that much power or influence so a bit egotistical. The woman opening her legs is because if not you it would be some other man. I fuck married women almost exclusively. They are looking for a good time with a good looking guy that knows how to fuck, without guilt, and a guy that won't get possessive and try to fuck her up. If you are home-wrecking then you must be one of those possessive types. Most women compartmentalize so the tryst in the afternoon with you in no way is carried home with her. She goes home, kisses her husband and goes about her normal life.
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>>34648349
You are a disgusting porn addicted creep. Nothing to do with my girl and I
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>>34648307
Thanks anon. And keep in mind, I had no intentions of dating this girl. I was seeing others girls. But if a girl is going to flirt with other guys while on a date with me, even if I don’t want her as a gf, then I am getting a shitty deal.
>I give you credit for you seeing her home safe despite her acting as if nothing was amiss.
What do you mean? I didn’t make sure she got home safe. We parted ways when I went on the subway.
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>>34648568
you literally are a child of a prostitute and a cowardly cuck. kys bastard child
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>>34639138
The Rodger OP image was a little too much but the pasta is high quality, al dente


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