I see all these videos online about people getting rich and they usually tell you to start a "business" or do "sales" or something. But one constant I see is that they were mentored by someone already rich, someone they met seemingly by chance. Is there anyway I can seek this sort of person out or must I just wait around and hope I get lucky?
>>34457207People are already all around you. Learn from them.
All of the videos you see of gurus telling you to dropship or sell some retarded product is fake production bullshit. Its there to keep the viewer engaged and believe what they do is realistic and obtaining.
>>34457554>>34457786I know this... but there are people who have actually started making good money from the ground up. I even knew a couple and they didn't get rich, but were way better off compared to most my age. >>34457656I'm not asking for 'help' per se, but guidance. I'm not expecting some rich guy to come to me and tell me "If you sell me this pen I'll give you a gazillion dollars" or anything. I'm sure for most people even if you gave them the exact roadmap to get rich, they wouldn't follow it anyway.
>>34457207The only way to find mentorship is to impress people around you. It's vital to engage others outside your family and circle of frens. If nobody notices you, you'll never get their attention. Nobody invests time and energy in a poor risk. Everybody wants to be part of a winner. It all starts with education.
>>34457207Everyone here is a poorfag and all the answers are cope.It's quite easy actually.>Befriend someone in an administrative positionThat's it. You're set, you just ask what their future plans are and they'll tell you plainly.Now how do you go about doing just that? I don't really know if all you have going for is your charisma and being a coworker, however these people flock to certain places such as>Immigrant networks for professionalsThey want to expand their businesses so they're always looking for ways to immigrate to countries with high cost of life and they go asking around people who have done the steps.>Additional accreditations and coursesThey need accreditations to climb bureaucratic ranks, they already have a roadmapWhere do people like these learn their knowhow? They are friends of the kid with rich parents in prestigious universities. They're not necessarily good at studying, they're support for someone who's already on the road to become rich, so that rich kid tells his friends how to be rich, and those friends tell their own etc.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Context:>be me, 20m, Septemberish of last year >total virgin, no relationships, and whatever >roommate starts dating a girl, she has a friend who apparently likes me > We try building something but I decide that after 2 weeks, we don’t have anything in common, so we should be friends> She invites me to a party a few days later>we made out>I am blackout drunk after this point>wake up next to her the next morning >okay ig>go to piss, condom on the floor > Eh, weird, ask her if we had sex last night > She denies it, but in a weird joking voice > We do more disgusting things, she questions how I don’t remember x y z> My dumbass essentially means we should be in a relationship with each otherComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Trannies and allies need not apply, I wanna hear from someone outside that sphere.I have reoccurring trans thoughts and there seems to be evidence backing them up but I'm really not sure. I keep getting told "no cis person thinks about this that much" or "cis men dont want to be women" or "you're going to regret it later and transition in your 40s and your family will hate you for it" and other stuff like that but I feel like I could just thug it out and enjoy what I have. On the flipside, if I can't have a wife and children as a man I see literally no point in letting testosterone fuck with my body. And also I'm not entirely sure I should have a kid, even if I became a great parent I'd be devastated if my kid was gay or trans or some nonsense, I wouldn't be able to live with it. Still though I don't see why I should care so much about my appearance, that feels pretty shallow doesn't it? I just don't want to troon out and suddenly be associated with every tranny ever and fuck up my dating pool tremendously.
>>34458159I have trooned and detrooned and yes it massively fuck up your dating pool unless you are a total degen bottom feeder. A str8 wife and kids is the actual right decision. Just be a good example and your kid wont fag out
>>34458209Judas
>do I troon outThe answer should never be yes. The entire post should end after that sentence.
>>34458213Do this
>>34458790My parents were good to me and I turned out like this. Anyways would you mind sharing a bit about what made you transition and where you think you went wrong?
My dad and mom were born so that they could create me. They knew I would be the greatest one in the bloodline. They knew I'd change our families fate and turn us into a dynasty. If I am to take us to the heights of the Rockefellers, Rothschilds, and Habsburgs; I will be needing a sigil worthy of this. Any and all advice is welcomed on what the sigil should consist of.
>>34457950Lil bro mad he has the ambition and soul of a peasant
>>34457903>what the sigil should consist of.Here is the perfect sigil for you
I'm just kidding about this last image. I have the same thoughts as you OP, but then I remember I'm 24, single, and don't own a house, lolz
>>34458280Ego is great if you use it, but it's hinders you if the ego uses you. It's a fine balance between delusion and excess self confidence. I'm 25, i have 10K saved, 3K in a vanguard fund, might try and buy a place next year if the market keeps going down. Could get a nice little starter condo.
>>34457903If youre making a dynasty a tree with roots is a classic. However I shall be the oracle for youHey girls I am the master of the tree and you will have the power of the gods showin in the image of the crown of a great ruler ornate lemon and a beautiful flower that is a beautiful flower with the sun on top it is beautiful to look for a perfect day.THE SUNFLOWER SHALL BE YOUR SIGIL.
HELP!!! Any tech geeks out there?I need help finding a FREE AI image object removal tool that I don't have to pay to use, and I can use either unlimitedly on the web or install on my WINDOWS computer and not have to solve world hunger in order to install. Just need it to click a simple EXE file and it's installed without me having to download the universe and several billion of it's galaxies.You get what I mean?Also, can Photoshop do this?
>>34458847PC Specs? (GPU/CPU/RAM)
>>3445884720 minutes in opus 4.7, Max effort
I'm a multimedia creator (writing, cooking, game design) but over the past few years I've found that people just aren't interested in what I make. It doesn't matter if I'm showing close friends or random people on the internet. It doesn't matter what art form I'm putting out there. I just get ignored, evasion, disinterest, and the likeI want to enjoy these arts, but it feels like absolute shit that nobody sees any value in what I do, and it makes me wonder if I should even bother putting effort into anything I do when it won't change how little people give a shit about me or my creations.Yes, I know I can just "make things for myself" or whatever the fuck that canned advice is, but doing so just feels lonely. I'm a social animal dammit. I don't want to feel like I live in a void, separate from the rest of humanity
>>34458709Show your "art" faggot.
>>34458709Could you elaborate more?>>34458733>Show your "art" faggot YOU LOOK LIKE A GIRL!!!!!
>>34458709Make fanart for indie games. Like, teeny tiny playerbase of 10 people indie games. It might seem counterintuitive, but the smaller the audience the more they tend to treasure your work
I'm 27, and I'm an abject failure in every area of life. There's nothing positive about my life, and there hasn't been for a long time. I've been desperately wanting to turn it around, or at least give it a shot before I rope. I have endless to-do lists that are constantly occupying my mind. I never relax because I always think about doing something. But I never do shit. I get home from my shitty job and do nothing until it's time to go to bed again. My daily screen time is around 16 hours, most of which is spent on literally just watching the clock (both at work and at home). Every waking minute, I feel like the time is running out. And yet I can't bring myself to do anything productive. And on the rare occasion I do... I have zero control over my thoughts and emotions, so I throw a hissy fit and quit whenever things don't go my way. I also can't keep up a routine for more than a few days.I've never had a goal in life, and I don't think I ever really tried for anything. I don't even know what the fuck I've been doing all these years. I became aware of my situation only a couple of months ago, and I've been feeling like shit ever since. I have no friends or acquaintances, and my family exists only to criticize me and everything I do. I've booked appointments with a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist, and I hope they tell me there's something seriously wrong with me. If not, and it turns out that this all has been my own doing, I don't see a way out or a point in continuing anymore.>TLDR: Realized my life is shit at 27, and I have no power to turn it around on my own.What do you think? Has anyone been in a situation like this? More importantly, has anyone gotten out of a situation like this?
>>34455120I can't say my situation was similar to yours, OP, but I can tell you I experienced similar emotions, feelings, and thoughts as you do. I've been productive and had a decent life, but I had severe depression and general malaise, which was exacerbated by a toxic workplace and family pressures until I ended up voluntarily committing myself to a mental hospital. In those 72 hours, I was at my lowest point, and even there I realized I had more to life to offer than most of the dejected, uneducated buffoons I was sharing a ward with. I resigned myself not to live a life of suffering, but one of happiness fueled by spite. I was literally going to live my best life possible, if only to spite whatever forces that be had tried to make me miserable in this dystopian shithole we call the world. I now live a much more fulfilling life, and am more mentally resilient than ever before. But that's a long journey to get to that mental state, so I'll give you some useful, tangible advice.1: I want you to read How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. You can find it online for free, or most bookstores and thrift shops will have a copy for under 2.00 USD. It will help with worrying about daily life.2: Your biggest issue is stagnation, realization, and overwhelm. You've been stuck doing the same thing for many years, and then it hit you that you've been living in an unsatisfactory manner. Here's how you can beat that, in a way that my manager at work, and my therapist, both shared with me in thier own way. YOu need to break down your goals into manageable steps. I want you to take a sheet of paper and a pen and write down 15 goals you have. They should be the first thing that comes to mind. Want to get more fit? An education? A better job? Write those down. They should be general as possible, but you can add details if you have goals in mind (Eg. salary of 80K/year).1/2
>>34455373>>34455120The next thing you'll want to do is examine all of your goals and assign them a timeframe. Be honest with yourself. How long do you realistically estimate it would take to accomplish those tasks. You should have goals you can do in 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, a year, and maybe 2 years. Once you have categorized them, I would place them into a spiral bound notebook and give each goal 3-5 pages. Now in each goal you are going to really analyze the goal. What steps need to be taken. You might want a new job, so what steps would a reasonable person take? Maybe you need to polish up your resume, do some networking, or take some certifications. How long do those steps take? Things will start falling into place. You will use this "quest journal" to log your progress on every goal, preferably at the end of each day.>I've booked appointments with a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist, and I hope they tell me there's something seriously wrong with me. They will probably tell you that you have depression. Expect it to take several sessions, most first sessions are info gathering and intake. Be ready to have that information on hand. Also, if you can, I recommend an out of network/private pay pysch. Your ability to schedule appointments will be better, and quality of service will be better. The good ones all go private because the demand is insane.>If not, and it turns out that this all has been my own doing, I don't see a way out or a point in continuing anymore.Again, live to spite the forces of the world that have tried to bring you down, be it your parents or the system. You have nothing to lose by struggling. Struggle and triumph over adversity is the ultimate win.
>>34455120To recap:>I've never had a goal in life>I never relax because I always think about doing something>I have no friends or acquaintances>>34455216I'd start by asking yourself, what do you enjoy doing? Figure out the things that make you happy. For me, that's making things.>What if I just like video games and movies?Try to deconstruct it a bit further, what do you like about movies and games? Pair things you see on TV to skills you can adapt. As an example horror games might get you into urbex or shooting. Try to go to a range or get permission to explore an abandoned property.Next is worrying. Stress itself is a massive killer, the brain constantly will choose safety over risk. In some cases, that can lead to stagnation. >>34455386 Aspiration's a great tool to get you going, try to break things down as far as possible. It can be easy to go into something unprepared and over estimate how simple or difficult a task might be. It can also be discouraging and stressful to feel like your missing the mark and your not where you wanted to be years ago. The truth I've come to accept is life goes on, sometimes plans change and that's ok. I'd try it, but keep in mind that the most positive version of yourself is always going to be growing and changing.
>>34458671Lastly is friends. When exploring what you enjoy, find people who also like doing the same things and enjoy doing what you do. Don't be afraid to talk to people, rejection isn't failure. It means your finding out what you dislike just as much as what you like.
>>34455120You need to change your mindset. That's probably the most important thing. You're an abject failure according to whom? Yourself? Listen: it might hit your consciousness like a banal platitude, but I really do believe that we are all the best at being ourselves. I don't care whether you're black, white, rich, disabled, whatever—your life is your life, and nobody else knows how hard it is to be you. So allow yourself to recognise this. You have a job? Good on you. That's something. Maybe it's not your ideal job, but it's something you managed to achieve, and maybe that seems trivial in the grand scheme of things, but not every debilitating personality trait is visible, and maybe it's been more of an accomplishment than you generally recognise to have gained and maintained employment, even if it is just menial labour. Give yourself a bit of credit. >I have endless to-do lists that are constantly occupying my mind.How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. If you're anything like me, you will simply not have the time and/or energy to do everything on your to do list. Here's another cliche: you can do anything, but not everything. I'm writing a book, and it's going to take me quite a lot of time and energy to finish, and that means I don't have time for everything else I want to do. Regardless, I've still managed to find time to do at least fifteen minutes of German every day.I'd say that's a good place to start. Surely you can manage 15 minutes of consistency a day. That's where it all starts. If you can't decide what to spend that fifteen minutes on, just spend 15 minutes silently meditating, focusing on your breath. If you miss a day, don't allow it to become two days you missed. If you miss two days in a row, don't allow it to become three days. Just start by doing one thing consistently, decide what it is, and do it regardless of your own fickle whims.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I am 32. I got my BS in Computer Science at the end of 2018. I was 25 then.Is it too late for me to get a job in software development? At one point in the gap I worked at a convenience store for 2 years. There were 3 other jobs I lasted about a month at, and I would not put those on my CV. I recently got put on Social Security because schizo. The medication takes away my drive for coding, I mostly had that drive with ADD medication, which the psychiatrist won't let me have because too much dopamine can cause schizo symptoms.
>>34455075How much of what you were taught 8 years ago is obsolete?
>>34455075You need to build a portfolio. Code a bunch of programs and apply to jobs. If you live in a city, try looking for government jobs. They pay less, but you got job security and the benefits make up for it. Also check with your city for any job placement programs.
>>34455075>medication takes away my drive for codingPerhaps you are not really schiz, and have some mild condition. You can try wean off the meds.But your psy could be right you should not use ADD if it fucked you in the past.In short, if you have not psychosis, you should not use antipsychotics.Good luck.
>>34455075>Is it too late for me to get a job in software development?Unironically yes, OP. The job market for entry level dev jobs literally imploded over the last year. Don't try to get in now. Maybe leverage your degree in some tech adjacent jobs (tech writing, system admin., etc.), but you need to have at least some experiences (even if it's only for home or hobby projects).Best of luck OP.
In Asia, 35 is considered too old because of the stereotype of being difficult to work with and struggling to keep up with new tech.In the U.S, 32 isn't too old to start. However, you might still experience some ageism depending on the company. You might have better odds at smaller companies or universities instead of FANNG. If it makes you feel any better, I have a 47-year-old friend working in the IT department of an ivy league university. I knew a guy around 50 working the IT department back at my old job at an electronics manufacturing plant.
How do I stop being a racist Chud?
>>34452899>Chuddha, how do I find a sweet, unpromiscuous, and demure gf?That's not how you reach nirvana. You must stop desiring a tradwife to stop suffering from your lack of tradwife.
>>34452686Try to acquire 6 black bitches in a Benz and tell me if you're still racist.
>>34452686>>34452899Chuddha once said women will let rich guys grab them by the pussy, fair enough.
>>34452686Become a proud homosexual! We are waiting for you to come out anon! Here is my friend Tyrone!
>>34452686Let a big black man fuck your bussy as an apology
Am i wrong about this or not?So as someone with a vagina, i use to hate that i couldn’t usually finish from sex fast enough because when i masturbated i could finish within seconds, it also did not help that i had depersonalisation which made sex feel like shit, the depersonalisation started a little before i went sexually active in my mid 20s and ended up losing my virginity, it was the worse day of my life cuz of the dp/dr, but im in a position now where i cant get sex which is good cuz i needed like over 5 years to be without anyone to really heal, having sex when i didnt feel like it made my get in a loop i could not tecover from fast enough, making sex so shitty it made me psychotic multiple times and nobody took my dp/dr seriously and just thought i was attention seeking from being bored but somehow i still needed to be drugged which made me fear the drugs were doing this to me and i thougjt for years it was the antipsychotics but then i realised that it was just the trauma and stress that started the depersonalisation/derealisation that made me hate absolutely rvery single thing in existance and made me want to die but if i ever was to try to suicide(i didn’t) then its attention seeking but if i dont its also attention seeking…Anyway i had a couple of times where sex(in the past before i stopped) was okay sometimes(very rarely), and i got a taste of how it could actually feel and it made me realise im not supposed to finisb during sex cuz the feelings i get from sex are way better than any orgasm. But i might be being delusional?
>>34456981sex isn’t for making babies cu we masturbate and suck dicks, explain that you fucking retard
>>34456562It is not the object of the game to get there as quickly as possible, but to have as much pleasure as possible along the way.
>>34457017That's masturbation and sucking dicks you fucking retard, not sex. Which can be explained by seeking pleasure through actions that are associated to the making babies act (sex). Clearly you aren't seeking pleasure either if you end up in this le omg I'm so suicidal over it!!1! Kerfuffle.Here:>>34457037
>>34457030yeah you put it into better words>>34457874i was suicidal cuz my dp/dr made me not feel connected or relaxed or good suring everything in my lifeand sex isn’t about making babies at all so sybau
>>34458754Fuck off stop blaming random mental "illnesses". You are an overdramatic retard.Yeah sex isn't about making babies okay tie your ovaries up show's over
My mom copes with life by drinking and I cope with life by cutting. But she thinks I need help and is forcing me to go to a psychiatrist with her. It don't make sense. She gets to be a horrible person and is killing her liver and is shortening her lifespan with alcohol, but cutting doesn't do none of that. Help me understand this logic?
>>34456843Biological Maternal instincts anonDon't cut yourselfLook up CBT Therapy.Your mom needs a friend circle to keep her mind off of her misery, but she should be mature enough to cope with their success
>>34456843Psychiatrists are dumb.Both of you need some sort of improvement from your suboptimal states. Drinking is dumb and so is cutting. Can't you both fix your lives instead of coping with bodily destruction? Otherwise just kys and open up a spot on this earth for someone else who'd be more appreciative of it. Ya wastes of oxygen
>>34456843Get internal family systems therapy.
Cut deeper next time.
>>34456843You BOTH need help.
How are you supposed to deal with dead bedrooms?It's one of my biggest fears if I am to enter a relationship. It's not even that I need to have sex all the time but I know that frequent sex is key to a stable relationship. I remember reading stories on reddit about couples where the woman would resent the man for groping her like she used to enjoy.
You make good sex a priority early in the relationship, since you have both been single, you should both be horny and it shouldn't be an issue. Then focus on her pleasure in the beginning, love bomb her pussy and nipples. Always make sure she's comfortable with you and your sex. After a few dates I bring up freeuse. I haven't been denied it yet, only limited by how often we seen each other. I even lived with my last girlfriend so it was constant, I got tired of the sex before she did
>>34458105That pic goes hard
>>34458105>It's one of my biggest fears if I am to enter a relationshipIt sounds like you really don't have any relationship experience. If you aren't autistic and retarded and you know how to communicate then its not an issue.
>>34458105>I remember reading stories on reddit about couples where the woman would resent the man for groping her like she used to enjoyya you can't treat your wife like shit and then go begging for Mommy milkers at the end of the day. crazy, i know
>>34458105>I remember reading stories on reddit about couples where the woman would resent the man for groping her like she used to enjoy.
How do you cope growing old and ugly while other guys online are younger, fitter than you and having more sex in a week than you've ever had in your life?
>>34457129>>34457276>myselfWhat is that even supposed to mean then? The most "you" thing that exists are your genes, everything else is the environment or chance.
>>34457304Genes aren't the be all end all of bettering yourself, there are body builders with cerebral palsy.You can't control the deepest code in your body but you have control over a lot of it, from how you fuel it to how you use it. Same with mindset, blaming your genes isn't a catch all for the things you don't feel like doing.I come from 2 long lines of losers and wanted to better myself, so I did. Nothing genetic about that.
>>34457276Yes, you just described genetics.
>>34457523Elaborate. How are deliberate actions to rebel against ones own nature genetic?
>>34458026But it is in your nature, I never said it was supposed to feel easy to you
How do I choose between being an unsociable reject creep vs. masking and living a lie?
>>34457585Putting on an act is not exactly a lie.
Whichever one feels best.
masking isn't a lie. do you say fuck and faggot around your grandmother or boss? do you talk about special snuggles with your male friends around like your gf?every single person has a thousand versions of themselves they switch between based on setting, people, authority. seeing that as "living a lie" is juvenile thinking
How do you successfully avoid certain types of people without hurting their feelings?There are certain people that I just don't like their personalities. They talk about things I don't care about. They believe in stuff that annoys me to death. And everything they do just infuriates me.
>>34452801You could stop people pleasing for one thing. If all you do is kiss people's asses then all you will get are people you don't actually like
>>34452801Look up assertive communication
while it's true that you can behave in a generally sensible assertive way like this >>34455722 one said, you have to understand that it's impossible to be compatible with everybody no matter what efforts you place in people pleasing and coping, just state to yourself "I don't like that person" honestly and chop them off your life the most you can
>>34452801>How do you successfully avoid certain types of people without hurting their feelings?Will be following this thread.I have the same issue. At work people try to talk to me for no reason, I try and be polite and humor them for a minute or two, but I have responsibilities.After a while if they can't tell by all of my obvious body language that I want to leave, I simply tell them that I have stuff to do.They get so fucking pissy about it. Holy shit they need to get anally fisted by me. FUCK.
>>34456216We bumpin' we bumpin' we bumpin' for YOU :D
