I just ran into a guy i knew from high school who i hadnt seen in 10 years and we got to chatting. As it turns out they actually hated being around me, he explained that most of my friend group at the time was being paid $100 week to hang out with me and spy on me to my parents. When I called a close friend about it he said he thought I knew all about it. How do i reconcile this?
>>34397242OP is definitely better off with the illusion. his parents basically paid to give him the blue pilled experience and he is better off for it. he might be a far more negative and miserable person if he grew up feeling ostracized. Humans are social creatures and socializing, even if it's fake, is healthy for the brain. not socializing can cause permanent developmental damage.Look up the effects of solitary confinement. it's considered a brutal form of cruel and unusual punishment even though you aren't actually physically hurting the individual.
>>34396921I'm sorry to tell you this, but most childhood friendships are based in money. Not all of course, but if Jimmy always wears cool clothes, has amazing birthday parties, has cool video games, etc. then he will be more popular than Timmy who has ratty clothes, birthday parties at the park, still plays snes, etc. Your parents were just more directly involved, but they did it because you are autistic and they wanted you to have some friends. Was it wrong? Maybe. Would you have been miserable and bitter if they hadn't? Probably. You probably are more likely to be able to socialize as an adult now because they paid for practice for you as a kid.You're an adult now, you have surely made at least 1 non-paid friend. Don't let your whole world view shift over this. Frankly, kids are stupid and even if they were getting paid, they probably wouldn't have been able to keep up the facade if they really hated you. They seemingly thought you were in on it, so the kids didn't go out of their way to lie to you.Obviously this taints your memories and is painful, but it was a parenting mistake made with good intentions. You probably should have control of your own money anyway though, now that you're an adult.
OP, no one here is going to be candid with you. Your parents are bad actors just like these people>>34397102>>34397242>>34397301>>34397976Dont gaslight yourself into thinking what your parents did is anywhere close to normal, or out of "good will" in some disingenuous mental gymnastics way.
>>34396921>$100 a weekFor the entire group or per kid? How long were they your friends and how many friends did you have?
>>34399464my real friend group of 5, they were getting about $100 each weekly if they were coming over after school. I still dont know all the details, i am having coffee with one of them this weekend he said he will explain how far it went. >>34399305i was going to say i dont think i have ever heard of anyone elses parents forking over money to their kids classmates to be their friend. I knew my parents were a bit fucked up but i never knew it was anything close to this.
FYI.. im also a tomboy
>>34397980kek
>>34396635i wonder what the value of sitting on top of the word is to one man
>>34399532I laughed too hard at this XD Ugh that was a perfect troll omg!
>>34385504>>34385536I don't any "advice" per se, as I don't see an issue to address.However, I saw the OP in the catalog and felt I could copypasta a brief related story I've told before:I complimented a girl by pointing out her really broad shoulders. She really was just remarkably attractive. For a while, I couldn't put my finger on exactly why her body type was so familiar. Then I realized that she is built like she was designed by Justice League artists. Wide shoulders, perfectly proportional, classically attractive. She giggled and loved it when I explained it to her.Party on.
>>34399679You saw the links to my pictures on a catalog?
I need help, I cannot stop trolling.
That turd cutter sure is something
You will grow out of it eventually. Just have fun and don't get yourself into trouble.t. Guy who spent his twenties trolling and grew out of it.
>>34399480That log ride be getting me all wild senpai
>>34398046Get a real hobby
>>34399496are you a glowie now
How do I avoid girls like my sisterWhen a guy approaches her she's super nice and kind and seems like a good personBut I know the true her, she's very selfish, aromantic and just an asshole in generalhow do you filter out girls like my sister from the first approach
I want to have a large family. What steps do you need to take to have one? Where and how can you find a woman willing to have a lot of children? Any tips/advice? Thanks.
>>34397108Who is this?
>>34397108She's cute.
>>34384000Man has never even heard of pulling out.
OP you have to act fast. You don't wanna wait for our lives to be over. You want to know right now, what will it be.
>>34399191Asian girls usually are.
Why does having opinions have to be such a pain in the ass?
>>34397929not true. i grew up without religion because that's how both my parents were and i never tried to convince anyone to believe what i believe and people still always ask me and melt down when i say it
You don't have to share them.
Because other people make it painful. These days it seems worse than ever. You can't say shit, especially online, without some maladjusted fuckwit pouncing on you so they can vent their anger and insecurities.
>>34397948Your existence invalidates their self-image
Opinions are like assholes
Is it reasonable to want a virgin if I myself am not a virgin? I'm willing to commit to marriage, have kids, let the mother stay at home to raise them and support them through my well paying job. I just want to maximize the chances it's a successful family without worrying about fucked pair bonding or feeling the ick that guys used her etc
Bible says an adulterer will end up with another adulterer. So if you had sex with someone your only real option is to be with someone that has also had sex before.
>>34397788>what's the downside?Getting her is its own downside
>>34395040My guess is a mixture of third worlders and red pill types. Also, 4chan naturally attracts a more neurotic and socially maladjusted crowd in general
As a teehee used up slut female teehee, realistically logically it's not that attractive to anyone to be desired due to their virginity. Because after having sex this creates an unpleasant situation if the relationship falls apart because then the person who had internalised being valued for their virginity either if they were the one broken up with will chase the other person not to leave them or if they want to break up they will feel self hatred I know no point for me to effort post but hey
>>34395046This
Should I even share my actual interests at all with a girl?
>>34373350Opinions 4 U from a bitch who wears plastic shoes that show off her sweaty feet and toe jam
1 zillion gorillion reddit spam /adv/ catalog for 3 months
>>34373350Not really advisable, because chances are shit will fall apart, women are traitors, and you'll be left with elements of your hobby/interest that will be tainted by bitter memories of the foid in question.
>>34399688thanks, one post by this ID inflammatorythat's good advice (very well-composed rhetoric)
inflammatory reddit spam on the log, 1 gorillion replies, up for 3 months, infinite necrobump
Is it a bad idea to offer random women I find attractive a hundred dollars in cash and ask them if they want to go shopping with me?
I don’t know why I should be alive. I go to uni to study something I’m only partially interested in and have no aspirations or things to look forward to aside from that. I am a slave to the meds I take everyday so I don’t go nuts. Natural selection dictates that I shouldn’t even be alive right now so genuinely what’s the point?
>>34398838There is no “finally happy”. Happiness is in the pursuit, which you have to learn to enjoy. Achieving a goal, if anything, quickly becomes depressing after the initial high if you don’t have another goal ready. If you don’t know what you want, try things and see how you feel after doing them. If you feel good, do that more. If you don’t feel good or feel bad, try something new. In the end, it is action that creates change, nothing else.
>>34399348I’m sitting at my desk in Langley sipping coffee as we speak
>>34399344Why? What’s the philosophy behind this I’m intrigued
>>34399439Simple, I live my life how I want to which never leads me to such a conflict that OP has
>>34399437i think there are individual freaks who get way more invested & make higher quality demoralization threads than glowies doi'm just saying, "glowie or non-glowie" is a false dilemma, there are other people who want (You) dead posting here
How do I get a gf like this? (no 'that's a man' please). I'm serious, I need this
Spend time around cosplaying/tranime communities. Be advised that women like this are like the forbidden fruit though.
>>34398641>rich>good looking>funny>not a chud
>>34399458why?
>>34398641apparently when you blow your brains out theres a heaven where people make sense. but loli futas arent aloud so its a hell???
>>34398641Go to sakuracon this friday thru sunday in seattle
1) coworker accountant, age 26, skinny, 5’1, wealthy father (mom died), really likes cats, wants to buy properties and start a business, republican 2) girl from my church, 5’5, age 20, friend of my sister, virgin, in college and hates it, wants to marry early, be a stay at home mom These girls have both expressed high interest in me. First girl appeals to me because she is more career-oriented, but I don’t like how she’s not brought up in the church (she’s a nominal Catholic) and seems to really like alcohol (while I don’t drink). Also a little worried that my sons would be short since she is petite Second one i like how she’s from the same religious background as me, she’s feminine, but she appears a tad bit lazy and directionless. I feel like a lot of these church girls are just looking for Christian sugar daddies because they don’t want to work. As for me, I am just a mix of these — very type an and career-oriented but also a religious conservative. So they both somewhat appeal to me but in different ways
>>34399479Are you using chatGPT
>>34399492I understand that. This is just how my mind works — I am not a very emotional or loving person and make decisions weighing positive vs negative. I don’t have any desire to marry out of need for a spouse — I just see it as a more stable living arrangement + better environment for kids
date the republican
>>34399479Sounds like you have a work wife and a home wife on your hands (I'm joking, unless...?)Look I get resenting women to some degree, I had the sister from hell so I know exactly where you're coming from.But you want a wife don't you? You have to learn to balance these things. You can know the nature of women and manage it while still loving your wife.Is hard working at work necessarily what you really want? What's life going to be like if no one manages your home? What's it going to be like if you spend all your time together at work and end up resenting eachother?But don't let me talk you into anything you don't want to do. These are just the things I would weigh.
>>34399479>females of your religious community think it’s the man’s duty to work so that they can leisure>pushing to converting #1 to your denominationYou're not very bright are you?
What the fuck do people even mean when they say "find/create your own meaning in life"? Like you just decide "I want x to be my life's purpose"
>>34396843The you accept an altered reality and adjust your goals to something within it
>>34396809>What the fuck do people even mean when they say "find/create your own meaning in life"? Like you just decide "I want x to be my life's purpose"You don't randomly decide what it is; you search for it until you find it. The point is this that you won't know what is meaningful to you unless you actually think about it a bit, and try a few things, see how they feel, see if they seem important or worthwhile. Once you find something that matters to you, then you decide to pursue it.>>34396843>What if the thing I wanted to get out of bed for was a person and now that person is dead?Then you keep looking until you find something else.
>>34396809People don't typically look for "meaning" when they do things. They just do things because it's fun or because it's what they're expected to do. Trying to find meaning in things is weird, something that people who arent normal do. The average human is not an intellectual, they're boring retards that watch sports and consume alcohol all day. When they say "find meaning", what they actually mean is find the one thing you love doing that you wake up everyday excited to do (enough to stop you from killing yourself)
>>34396809Deciding might be a push in some cases, but yeah, kind of. They mean that at some point, you can either reflect, decide and then act to create meaning. Or sometimes life might just throw it at you in a way you didn't expect. A lot of people who "choose" a meaningful path, will fuck it up somehow, or might never realise it. But then some people will just have a situation almost kind of thrust upon them and suddenly find meaning they weren't expecting.
>>34396809there are people who are crossing the entire american continents from patagonia to alaskaothers want to have 4 kids and raise them wellothers want to reach 10 million dollars in savings or somethingthat's what it means.
For the past month I've been sleeping poorly. I am kinda fearful of going to sleep because I have been waking up in the night with agonising mental episodes.It's like something ominous is happening, and I can't imagine what. My head doesn't physically hurt but it's like a psychological torture. Akin to working on a factory line where you repeat actions ad infinitum and your mind wants to explode.Sometimes I think of programming problems, singles words, or shapes. And if I close my eyes they appear and mentally zap me. I need the lights on and my eyes open for about 30 minutes before the thoughts and agony subside.My heart does race. I don't sweat either. I found these could be nocturnal panic attacks. But I'm not panicking. I can breathe fine. There is just harsh mental discomfort. And it's like I've lost control to soothe bad thoughts when my eyes are closed.The good: I have not drank or did weed in 2 years. I go to the gym 4 times a week, skate, and walk lots, and my BMI is 22.3. I do not smoke.The bad: I have not had a conversation with anyone in person in 4 months. I work from home. I still feel guilty for breaking things off with my ex 6 months ago. I feel guilty for not living in the same city as my mother. She is a hoarder.
>>34399389My heart does *not race or pound
You not talking to anyone for 4 months seems most concerning to me, but I’m not sure that would be the cause.Do you think you might have sleep apnea? I’m just shooting in the dark here, but if you’re sleeping and you wake up retarded, then maybe you were literally fucking choking and gasping for air for minutes on end.Tbh this seems like really scary. Schedule a sleep apnea test just in case. While you wait for your appointment, download a sleep apnea app or something that records audio when you make noise.
>>34399476thanks bro, I will keep my lights on again tonight and look into sleep apnea. My very obese father had that. I don't really know much about ithow's your week been?
>>34399523Yeah bro, sleep apnea is serious and can kill you. Get yourself checked out.Good. I had a date a few hours ago and she was looking at me like I was a piece of cake. Though I got some bad psychological ED issues so idk how it’ll go. But also got 2 ladies who have been patient and helping me with it for a price I can afford. Although progress is very slow, there’s still progress. One of the ladies will be my Surrogate Partner Therapist. Feel free to look that up. I find it fascinating and am finally gonna do it.
>>34399592Thanks for asking btw.
My sandnigger parents didn't send me to college, and shortly after went insane and depressed living at home. A couple of suicide attempts and 8 years later I still live with them and hate every second. I have two degrees I got by commuting and online courses but Im too insane to work. How the fuck is it legal to let retard parents decide if you go insane or not? This society is gay and retarded. Should I get transcranial magnetic stimulation or something or am i cooked. I'm filled with rage when they talk to me and tell me to do shit when it's their fault I got so depressed and unstable.
>>34392658Oh boo hoo. Mommy and daddy didn't send you to college. Millions of people have gone to college paying their own way
>insane>still living with parentshmmmm... basically impossible to figure out what would make this situation better?
>>34392658Let me tell you something you have to listen to in order to fix your issues. I’m sure people in this thread are saying the same thing, but you really need to hear and actionably integrate this into your life.If you keep pointing fingers at your parents, society, and anything else that isn’t you as the cause of your problems, any change that comes to your life will be by sheer luck. You can’t rely on luck.You are only truly in control of yourself, and that’s who is at fault for all the shit you’re going through. Once you realize it’s your fault, you can start to make change because if it’s you that did it, it’s you that can undo it or stop doing it. People can help you, but only you can fix this, not anyone else. To fix your shit you must take action because without action nothing happens. If you change nothing, nothing changes.You can start by asking yourself by identifying a problem and then asking yourself “How is this my fault?” Once you can see your fault, the next question is “How can I change this?”, with an emphasis on the *I*.
>This society is gay and retardedGo back to sandnigger land. Your mental health will actually improve
>>34392658Bro you're at the point in life where you can't blame your parents anymore. Mental illness isn't your fault but it's your responsibility. See a psyche, get medicated, and figure out how you can get on with your life. Assuming it's been 8 years since you graduated high school, you must be around 25-26 years old. You're still young and got a lot of life ahead of you. But you're going to fall into a spiral of failure if you don't start holding yourself accountable.
