When I first had my son I was hoping he'd be the opposite of me in every way. I was always a very shy unathletic nerd who got bullied daily (both verbally and physically) by my stronger more assertive peers and because of that I'm now an adult with really severe depression as well as massive anxiety and distrust of people. I was hoping my son would be the opposite of me. I was hoping he'd be the one DOING the bullying if anything. But he's now in the second grade after having completed first grade and kindergarten and unfortunately he's a carbon copy of me. At first we thought it was just his kindergarten class but then the same thing happened in first and second grade and transferring schools didn't work either because he was bullied in the new school as well. Whenever I tried bringing it up to the teachers they basically didn't give a shit and just used the boys will be boys excuse. Even when he had several bruises and shit. I tried to get my son more into sports but he prefers drawing and writing stories. I tried to tell him that when bullies attack him fight back I don't care if he gets in trouble for standing up for himself but he just doesn't have it in him and lets them beat him up. I also tried contacting the parents of the bullies but the parents are also bullies themselves.So far my son is EXACTLY the way I was when I was his age. It's like I'm a father to my younger self. And I worry he'll end up just like me, depressed, full of anxiety, and very distrusting of people. My wife has no idea what to do either because as a girl growing up no one bullied her. So I'm at a loss here. Practically the only difference between my son and me at his age is he's slightly smarter and doesn't make as many stupid mistakes.
>>34021074homeschool, feed him properly so he has muscles(protein etc...), you probably can't teach him properly because you still don't know what to do he is being bullied because of YOU not HIM, children learn to talk from their parents, he learned the same patterns you have and now he is being run over, YOU are supposed to teach him to be assertive in conversations by playful banter etc... if he has no one to learn that from he will end up worse than you probably because YOU had children and there's a chance he never will have children or might even kill himself, sorry for being honest, but I've been through this myself, society is brutal and it's hard to "tow the line" especially if he has no brothers or friends after school.
This reminds me when I was bullied by a group of girls when I was 14 fuck
>>34057806not sure if it was the same for you but for me it was back when i was 12 in the 6th grade of middle school and i was a late bloomer and hadn't hit puberty at all yet. and there was a group of about five or six 8th grade 14 year old girls who would all bully me together. they weren't especially tall for women but they had hit puberty and i didn't so they were all bigger and taller than me. it all started when one day i wore shorts that were just barely above my knees, like not even a full inch above, just sort of grazing the top of my kneecap but literally no higher than that, and those five or six girls began shouting all sorts of homophobic slurs at me due to the length of my shorts. then they sort of pushed me around, shoved me, stole my school supplies, punched me, kicked me, etc. no one took me seriously, not even my own parents because they thought the idea of a boy getting beat up by girls were so funny. i fucking hate women now for that reason alone. if women were physically stronger than men they would for sure be abusing men
>>34058001>there was a group of about five or six 8th grade 14 year old GIRLS who would all bully me together.>it all started when one day i wore shorts that were just barely above my knees, like not even a full inch above, just sort of grazing the top of my kneecap but literally no higher than that, and those five or six GIRLS began shouting all sorts of homophobic slurs at me due to the length of my shorts.Wow. GIRLS did that? As in the female gender? That sounds so alien to me. All my life from early childhood to adulthood I've heard nothing but praise from the female gender (girls or women depending on what stage you are in life) on the male gender (boys or men) in shorts above the knee. Even when the trend was for below the knee shorts the female gender never liked it and it was a pretty big collective groan from them when the trend came around. I've totally seen guys call other guys homophobic slurs for wearing shorter shorts but every woman I met has loved it. So to me it's surprising that girls would treat you that way over your shorts.
>>34058001faggot
How do I cope with having short legs
be hairless, oiled up, wear heels like picrelthere's no coping with being genetically inferior. just try to make them look nicer ig
>>34059336do what this woman does. when you take a photo zoom all the way out and then make sure your legs are in the bottom 30% of the frame which will create this lengthening effect.
I never tried to look for another man. What is it going to be like? What should I know?
>>34058479You'll probably get a better deal if they have kids with an ex too. Some single men fetishize it. Some are indifferent. Some like it. But most don't prefer it. Meeting people in general is difficult after a certain age, and you may be aging too, so that can contribute. Don't get mentally ill and contribute less attention to any one thing. Of course there is the classic "Men like young women" trope, but on top of that... men just like... die a lot, so as you age there are less and less men for every woman. At around 35 there starts being less men than women, in spite of more men usually being born than women in any population. Like, 9.9/10 of people over 100 years old are women.
>>34058479tons of anons here willing to be the dad that stepped up
>>34058479did you burn the coal? be honest
>Cant find job for half a year>Savings about to be 0>Family is extremely bitter, condescending, constantly making fun of me and putting me down for not having a job>Everyone i know has good lives>Meanwhile i have to skip eating some days>Brain rotten, stuck in an endless trying to study but end up doing nothing 80% of the dayI lost again
>>34056402How much do you need?
>>34056944I'm not here to e-beg, just to scoff into the void the inevitable mess i gotten myself into.ultimately it's my inability to do things that got me herealso fuck this new captcha
>>34056402I volunteered at the local food distribution out of good will, they gave me like 3 bagfuls of bread afterwards even though i didn't need it. Try that, especially for holidays.
>>34056402Have you considered researching what is in short supply and high demand in your municipality?
>>34056402Join the army, at least they feed people there
How do I find the drive to succeed? I don't want to be the end of my lineage
Make commitments, so you have external pressure to succeed. This can either be jumping into a program, telling other people your plans, or simply just staying consistent with one thing.
What’s a nice way to ask my gf with PCOS to lose 7-8kilos without sounding like a prick
>>34054640Start off with Vitamin D. 5000 IUs max a day.Vigorous exercise actually makes things worse, so do lean weights+walks or Jane Fonda or something. Before bed, hold arms straight in the air for 2 minutes.Broccoli increases estrogen. Eat lots of that.>>34053763No-nothing faggot
>>34053763>What’s a nice way to ask my gf with PCOS to lose 7-8kilos without sounding like a prickBy not talking about it. Just bring her salads and a glass of water every time you eat.
>>34054685>>34055189idk who's bigger retard, women for taking birth control, or men who actively encourage it or are neutral about it. Fucking raw can't be that good.
>>34053763to be honest you need to say what you need to say or more on with your life because its not fair to waste her time if you dont actually like herthere is a subreddit pcosloseit and it may be worth it to browse and see what people do and when you bring it up with her you can phrase it as we can eat more healthy together and start doing x and y exercises togetheri have pcos and i weigh 118 lbs which obviously means i still have a lot of work to do but my weight is stable. upping protein intake to help regulate my blood sugar levels changed me and i no longer get hangry or feel controlled by foodmaybe look into what meals you can cook with balanced fiber protein and healthy fat to support her weight loss if you actually want to help
You could encourage her to get into lifting because women with PCOS often have faster gains. I envy my PCOS friend for her raw strength despite not even lifting. >>34059142>118 lbs>A lot of work to doAre you super short? That's often skinny for most women over 5'5"
25MI've been disabled for the past 3 years. I have finally figured out how to manage it. Right now the only problems I have are that I cut my fingertip off and can't use it right now, that I ripped my big toenail off and that I'm sick. Which is pretty good considering how bad things were. I used to like a lot of things but now I can't even look at the things I used to do. I train at the gym because I have to for my condition or else I will be disabled within 2 weeks and lose my job at a restaurant I worked so hard to be able to do. Now that things are ok ish and I get some free time in the week I get super depressed because I don't know what to do and get lonely. After all that it feels like anything not productive will just drag me back down to where I was. I feel so much guilt when I'm not pushing 100%. So I end up just listing to music in a dark room alone till it's time to go to bed. Every choice I make feels like a waste. Nothing gets me excited in the slightest. Am I traumatized? is this depression? Just give me your opinion on the matter cuz I don't know what to do. Thank you.
the thing about trauma is that it's a solo battle, and it's more accurate if we say it's an affliction of the consciousness or 'soul' if you prefer. to get at any substantial answers to your questions, to heal, to close the rift that opened, takes immense self examination. it could be that you were always traumatized and becoming disabled merely brought it out and revealed it by making it harder to cope. therapists can probably help you maintain a level of function but they can't ease the pain or answer any deep questions about your own psychology, for that you need intensive study of the relevant subjects and some emotional self-probing... start with memories, try to relive certain things, you'll find they sort of 'unlock' and over time change character... when we talk about 'healing' that's what we're looking for, to change the fundamental character of the injurious memories attached to the trauma.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zbBQVqX253g
>>34054697Youre fine
youre depressedtry going out, exercising or playing videogames online, cook, do any hobby
She's a girl. We're both fairly older, she's in her late 20s and I'm in my early 30s. We've been talking for a month here and there in the hallways and I'm wondering if it might be too intense if I knocked on her door and gave it to her? I'm not looking for a relationship and I'm hoping it doesn't give her the impression that I like her. There is nothing wrong with her, she's attractive and charismatic. She's gone through the loss of a relative and has cut a lot of social contact with people. She use to be this very vibrant and playful girl that would sing whenever she would go out and walk and now she looks completely destroyed. I had seen her in my apartment complex for years but never really talked to her (I dislike carefree spirited people so I didn't think of speaking to her) but we only started talking about a couple of months ago. So I'm at a bit of a dilemma, would you think that giving her the gift is too intense or would she appreciate it? Some help would be much appreciated.
>>34059150Give it on her birthday not out of nowhere. I've been there, gave someone a gift cause she said she was starting a small home based coffee shop. Gave an appropriate gift (a mocha pot) and a note of encouragement, it gave her the ick and she's been cold/unresponsive ever since. Some months later on the first day of the year she reiterated she's up for contact for professional purposes only lol. Ofc the level of attraction and interest between you two will be different from my case, just my 2 cents from experience.
>>34059166I dont understand what you mean by "out of nowhere"? I also understand that it might give her the ick but I don't actually know that for certain. If it's too intense and she starts to become avoidant afterwards, I'm okay with that.
>>34059174By out of nowhere I mean no occasion, you just want to give her a gift. Certainly hence my disclaimer. Let us know how it goes, good luck!
>>34059210Thanks man!
>>34058958>I'm not looking for a relationship and I'm hoping it doesn't give her the impression that I like her. There is nothing wrong with her, she's attractive and charismatic. She's gone through the loss of a relative and has cut a lot of social contact with people. She use to be this very vibrant and playful girl that would sing whenever she would go out and walk and now she looks completely destroyed. I had seen her in my apartment complex for years but never really talked to her (I dislike carefree spirited people so I didn't think of speaking to her)the absolute mental gymnastics hahahjust give her the gift, highly doubt you'll pull this off though
I'm 28, my brothers 29. I moved back in with my mom about 6 months ago after living alone for 3 years. He rents the suite downstairs.I'm so sick of this fucking degen.He has brain damage from psychosis meds cause he had a weed induced meltdown when he was 17. At that time I would often translate his schizo rambles cause our mom is a boomer didn't get it. My brother is constantly raging and yelling weird inuendo at our mom about random shit like how much of a faggot the neighbour is because he thinks he's yelling at him (100% hallucination and not happening), also yelling about his genitals and how he's going to make the neighbour eat his ass and my mom is just grossed out but too afraid to get him to leave. It's honestly so disgusting to have to listen to. The light left his eyes when the brain damage happened and he now talks/yells in a restricted/repetitive tone. He's also attacked me for pretty much no reason recently. I called the cops, decided not to press charges, and he mocked me over Facebook that night saying he's not afraid of jail. My shoulders still fucked up months later from him thrashing around while I had him in a headlock. He has such poor hygiene that when he's been up here I can smell his B.O several minutes after he's left the room. I'm so disgusted by the things coming out of his mouth that at this point the sympathy has run out. He's never lived on his own and never had a girlfriend and claims to have had sex one time with this black girl and he hates me (and the world, basically) because girls liked me growing up. I'm tired of acting like because he has mental problems he can't be held accountable for all of the abuse he puts us through. He's a fucking monster and I wish I could afford to move so I could just never talk to him again.Pic unrelated I just think it's funny
For anyone reading this thinking "wow you're a terrible brother, you should support him more", I have. I went to the hospital when he had seizures from alcoholism (he still drinks just way less and won't take the seizure meds), cleaned his blood off his bathroom door and wall from when he fell, ubered over in the middle of the night when he was drunk and depressed to talk him down (which he doesn't remember), and took his side countless time when he was mid flip out sesh. The societal notion that I'm supposed to just continue to haplessly support this abusive asshole is insane. For a long time I've been torn between either accepting that I'll never be able to see eye to eye with him and just continuing to support him because he's too out of it to function, and actually holding him accountable for all of the hell he's put me through, and honestly I'm beginning to not care enough to have that debate with myself.
I feel sorry for him. His life is basically over.
Does he still take his meds? Does he have a psych he sees regularly? Can he have his meds changed?If he's having a lot of breakthrough symptoms he may need to change them. I know it can be difficult to be a caretaker and I'm sorry that role was forced on you.t. dating a schizo on near perfect meds, but it wasn't always like this
I get my kicks by posting extremely hateful, stupid, racist stuff. I’m not a bigot, I just think people need to take the world less seriously. To me, it’s humor- satire. But I know it does cause negativity in my mind and others.I have been doing this for a decade- in many places, never just keeping it in one place. It’s like an addiction, I can’t stop. What could I do about it. What is some healthy step I could take to do less harm to myself, while allowing this mindset to remain.
>>34059163spend more time in real lifeRead more serious literature and become more earnest What's the name of the sculpture?
as long as you don't believe what you're saying for the most part, that's fine. I don't see how anyone who isn't 15 nor mentally delayed would believe half the things on /pol/
>>34059178found itMichelangelo Monti, Gioventù, 1921
>>34059163Stop being an idiot. Become racist and xenophobic in sincerity
To the point where people are willing to die for you despite being trauma bonded workers
>>34058096If you were the man capable of making Despacito popular again, then you could bend the entire world you your will.Wtf did they do with the captcha. What a bs.
Be charismatic and unique
>>34058096Huh, I just heard that song.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xxgRUyzgs0Maybe it has instructions. Never really paid attention. If you already had the oppressed workers, it would probably be easier.
Back in middle school in the showers after PE, we used to do this thing called the "snake pit". Basically, if you were the last out of the shower, everyone would get to restrain you while you were dripping wet and cold, and take turns to shove their fingers up your ass.Was this a thing when you were at school?
>>34058311My school was different. Last one two the showers had to go in the snake pit. Which meant all the other boys would hold you in the middle and slap you with their penises chanting SNAKE PIT! SNAKE PIT!
>>34058311>>34058421That's not a snake pit. A snake pit is when you get forced to your knees in the shower and everyone takes their penises out and surrounds you. You guys just got sexually abused.
>>34058311Our version was that someone held you down while everyone stuck a big toe up your ass.We had to stop it when one kid got a case of athletes ass.
>>34059141>We had to stop it when one kid got a case of athletes ass.Funniest shit I've read today, thanks.
>>34059218yeah I laughed out loud at that
What are the best free upscalers for low quality JPG/JPEG images like pic related. Something that will increase size and improve image without sacrificing the image's art quality. I suppose they offer save formats, should I save them as the same format or pick something else for the download like PNG. Or should I convert the images to other formats and then upscale.It seems I need to increase size so I can then fix any errors the arts may have.
Bifurcate your penis
>>34057686Kill yourself.
>>34057686automatic1111 stable diffusion with 4x-Nomos8kDAT or 4x_NMKD-Siax_200k or R-ESRGAN 4x+ Anime6B, depending on what sort of content is being upscaled
>>34057705I can draw better than you. That doesn't mean I have to limit my creative options.
>>34057946Sorry I can run things locally I was hoping for a website.
I am a baboon with the mind of a nigger. How can I find a job that will pay me $30 an hour and not $15 an hour that they pay to kids out of highschool?
>>34055498This.
>>34055547Create a portfolio of all your projects to show employers. Start new projects and create a portfolio of your work. Apply for jobs and unironically ask AI for help with your resume also with help on hiring procedures. Good luck
>>34053921Night shift securityLaborer
>>34057191It is really that easy? Just make some awesome programs? No degree needed?
>>34057397Really?
For the past 5 days I have been experiencing extreme weakness whenever I do stuff like walk up a simple flight of stairs. It feels like I just ran a 10K marathon. Heavy breathing and sweating and heart racing.It's like I suddenly became a 95 year old man that needs a walker. But I'm 40.Would it be overkill for me to call 911 for this?
Holy shit, today my vertigo came back and it was quite strong. This time it didn't go away after drinking water. And I drank a lot of water today. My veins felt like they were under pressure. I was weak at one point. My arms were shaking. It felt like I was on heroin or something.This lasted for about 15 hours. It just went down in the last hour or so. My veins feel like they've been relieved of that pressure. They feel sore. Who fucking knows, maybe all this is cause the clots are still inside my lungs doing weird shit to my veins or arteries.Anyway, I think this warrants a visit to the emergency department. I'll go first thing in the morning.
>>34050382Fuck it. They're probably gonna tell me I'm fine. I'll just wait till I have a stroke or at least some internal bleeding.
>>34052911Nah, I'll still go. It won't hurt.
>>33952996I hope you get better soon, Anon
>>34057147Thanks buddy
