>>33679702
>>33679719
I won't be able to get a job with a useless college certificate. Nothing will change between now and a year from now as I have no ambition or passion. I dread having to learn 'discipline' and all the other hard life lessons I haven't learned due to limited life experience. I'm only biding my time for the inevitable.

>>33679578
Apply for a low income type apartment/ section 8 whatever you can for yourself now because there are long waiting lists. Keep going to school as long as possible. Is there a counselor at your school you can talk about your problems? Maybe they can make accomodations for you. Stay on disability bux for as long as that lasts.

>>33679749
>I won't be able to get a job with a useless college certificate. Nothing will change between now and a year from now as I have no ambition or passion.
It's infinitely better than not having one, and the difference between now and a year from now is that you'll have a degree.
>I dread having to learn 'discipline' and all the other hard life lessons I haven't learned due to limited life experience. I'm only biding my time for the inevitable.
Dude, the time to dread that was when you were like 12. You're 24 years old. Do you want people to wipe your ass forever? You aren't going to magically learn life experience, you have to actually go do things. There are teenage down syndromes who are capable of holding down jobs. The longer you stay an adult diaperbaby, the worse it's going to get. Your dad isn't doing anything wrong by trying to make you stop acting like a fucking retard. He should have done it long, long ago.

>>33679774
I was filling out a form a couple weeks ago but I don't want to live in a run-down apartment with cockroaches and bed bugs with violent drug addict neighbours. I tried researching each building and neighbourhood but got quickly overwhelmed and gave up.
>>33679814
I have no choice, do I? How can I make it more bearable? I bring my ps vita and noise cancelling headphones. My biggest issue is finding a quiet and secluded spot on campus while I wait for my next class. I can't relax around other people.

>>33679578
I suppose a job is beneath you

>>33679300
>>33679308
Both were me a former art student and it has worked

>>33678690
Was it a standard CS-related class?

>>33679643
not really... it's more like a technical elective that you take because the college asks you to take it. Both of us joke from time to time how dogshit the class is.

>>33679914
Worst I ever had was a class called Energy. It was all about Energy. The professor was deadpan and we had to write a paper every week basically.

>>33678690
Do it in person. "Hey, it's fun chatting like this. Want to meet up for coffee later? I'm free after 2:00."

do you ever say the n word in the cockpit

>>33680085
Take a xanny or a couple shots or both to lighten up and you will be A-OK boss

>>33680106>>33680095
Gives me advice

>>33680085
Haven't you gone through countless flights for your training? It's just another one.

>>33680085
The airline has manditory psychiatric counselling for pilots

>>33679195
just a deep cut is necesary, just put the knife on your wrist and take your time until you're able to do it.

>>33679195
>why cant i just take it like a champ?
Do you really want to hurt yourself, or do you just want control?
What is it that you're trying to get away from?

fuck off attention whore, go back to tiktok

>>33679195
try hobbies that use a razor, like model kits. you'll end up with small cuts on your fingers that heal quickly, don't scar, and sting in the right ways all the same, and because it's "accidental" there is no fear ahead of time and it's easy to explain away to others.

>>33675482
how old are you lot
>She's neglecting chores, she's going to drop out
these are the important parts, the bf thing is normal unless he actively tries to isolate her
get your parents involved if she won't listen

>>33675511
im 23 shes 20
parents dont care bc theres nothign we can do according to them

>>33675482
Mormons do not stay out to 1 AM

>>33675770
welp idk what to tell you. she is definitely out with her mormon bf until 1 am

>>33680233
Mormons are the most uptight group in the world - no sex, no drinking, no smoking, no coffee. Some don't even dance. Whatever she's doing until 1 AM, it isn't with Mormons

>>33673250
FUCK no.

>>33673313
>Joseph Mengele
No Shlomo, he was libelled just like all the other nazis. There were no fiendish experiments and he saved many of the work camp inmates from typhus.

>>33673271
Hey there Anon, sorry I didn't reply until now. Don't worry about my time, you're welcome though, but I did it all willingly because I feel we all have to help one another these days. If we all did, just a bit, I think it becomes contagious and good things begin to happen. Things seem really bleak at times with all the negative news and such around the world and it makes me feel better to try and help out others by listening and giving hopefully positive perspectives to help them, and even me, course correct and reflect. I definitely don't have all the answers and make a lot of mistakes as well as have my own down days but what I mentioned about live music, socializing and dancing changed everything for me. It literally is my happy place now a days and is something I cherish.

Now to answer your question about a God. I don't actually know the answer to that question but I do believe in energy and spirituality. Animals can sense good and evil without speaking human languages. They know good people from bad. They aren't just reading our body language. They can sense love, kindness, safety, etc. I've had birds land on me, cows lie at my feet like dogs, soooo many wild animal encounters with things like foxes, deer, coyotes, skunks, cougars, even bears. I've lived through it all and I respect wildlife. All this variety of life and unbelievable complexity came about somehow. I don't think it was created by one single entity (a God) though but I do know that I'm a bag of water and meat that has a conscience and makes decisions in an avatar body so I can interact on this planet Earth. I think that goodness brings greatness and as a community we all have a place. The universe is massive and apparently infinite. We'll never get to see any of it in this current body form. So I'm hopeful there is some kind of afterlife or way to go elsewhere. Simply lights on and lights off just seems like a giant waste of everything.

>>33679871
Don't worry Anon! I'm really thankful to see a response. I think it was really insightful. I think there must be something more out there which at least if one believes that it helps when it comes to create a sense of meaning but it also makes life as something that must be taken seriously. I have to make the most of it, in the sense that I want to die without regrets, I want to know that I tried

Thank you very much for such thoughtful replies, I'm really grateful that you took the time to reply to me

>>33670479
1 Do as little harm as possible
2 Within the bounds of #1, do as much good as possible
3 Within the bounds of 1 and 2 find as much joy as possible

>>33676873
>>33677031
If OP's an obsessive, ruminative type this won't work
Not everyone has that zenmaster mindset or can even cultivate it.

>>33677242
then what can I do anon?

>>33677231
>Is this your first gf?
she is my fourth (and final) gf but I know what you mean anon. my first gf was kinda a whore (fucked like 7 people at 19, had sex with a rando black dude on a trip abroad [and complained his dick was smaller than she expected], etc etc). I tried to make it work but exactly as you said, it wasn't possible for me to work it out then so I broke up

with my now gf, honestly I think it's just me problem and not her. I think its just this what I said here>>33675717

>idk I think I just never wanted to even consider the fact my gf had been intimate before, like obviously she has and I'm cool with her having a past (ofc within reason), but idk something about this bothers me and idk what. like before, I knew she had shitty exes and experiences on a high level and it never bothered me, but now, after she mentioned revealed some of the negative sexual experiences she's had, I'm like "forced" to think of her in a sexual way with her past, you know what I mean?

man your stories remind me of me going on dates with many women with weird sexual pasts (giving blowjobs at 13, weird bondage, repugnant cheating, faking pregnancies with the wrong person) that I instantly would say no to. my gf is a normal girl, thank christ. it's only been normal bf-gf type intimate stuff in her past. in fact, I was the first she agreed to swallow and also the first dick she actually came to with penetration.

>I recently broke off a relationship because of a sexual past dealbreaker
dare I ask anon

>>33677242
Yes it will work lol
That's the whole point of doing it. Its just harder at first and will take a longer time to learn for people like that.
Obsessive thoughts aren't normal.

>>33677425
Well sounds like lack of experience isn't the issue then, 4 is a good number and it sounds like you're about body matched.
If you're willing to acknowledge it's a personal hangup then yeah maybe there is a chance of you working on it.
My advice is to not discuss it or bring it up again and see where that gets you. Maybe even spend some time apart from her, not like taking a "break" but maybe going on a trip to see family or something, some healthy distance to make the heart grow fonder.
>dare I ask anon
She fucked the streamer Destiny after one of her breakups, she was in his discord and they were "friends" lol. It's funny to me now but my initial reaction was visceral disgust.
It was on top of a bunch of other red flags, like being on anti-depressants, being older than me, having "dated" black guys (I've dated black women so I brushed it off), being a cat lady with frozen eggs. But she was pretty for her age and she was a very generous lover but looking back it was probably baby rabies.

Anyway I've been single for like half a year now but I don't regret it, rather be single than have the knowledge I'm having Destiny's sloppy seconds.

>>33680396
>4 is a good number and it sounds like you're about body matched
Yeah our body counts are both 5 inclusive, and she's always had sex within relationships, barring that one guy who she wanted to date anyway but now regrets having sex with. We both agree that sex without love is shitty af.

>not discuss it or bring it up again and see where that gets you.
>some healthy distance to make the heart grow fonder.
Yeah that's fair my guy. She is a great girl in all honesty, and I fully intend to work on myself and make this work till the end

>my initial reaction was visceral disgust.
I'm with you man, that woman is fucking yucky. you made the right call.

I once had a date tell me how she slept with a senior colleague at work who was married and had kids. dug deeper and found out her dad was a major cheat growing up, and it all made sense. its crazy how shitty parents are connected to so much shit in life. disgusting woman either way.

>rather be single than have the knowledge I'm having Destiny's sloppy seconds.
kek I never imagined id read a sentence like this, but yeah mate good on ya. there's always good women out there, don't settle for slop

>>33674027
How about being memorable to them while you're alive?

>>33674027
share it while you are here. probably your laptop will go in the trash or get sold if you die.

>>33674027
write password on stickynote and put it on your keyboard. dont forget to delete all your embarrassing stuff

>>33674027
Get/create a living will. There are free templates online. In the document put the password to the laptop on it and decide who should get your digital stuff and physical stuff. Or you could have no password on the machine but that's not a good idea. A living will is supposed to be updatable so you can do as you please when you please. Honestly, every living person should have one just in case.

Unfortunately, getting rid of all the stuff someone accumulates through life is a big burden on those who are left to receive and process the deceased person's things. We spend our whole life accumulating STUFF and in the end you can't take any of it with you but what is in your head/brain. So think about that when you have to buy things...Not picking on you or anything...just giving you a perspective to think about.

>>33678079
>Unfortunately, getting rid of all the stuff someone accumulates through life is a big burden on those who are left to receive and process the deceased person's things. We spend our whole life accumulating STUFF
unfortunately this. We keep things meaningful to us, or perceived as valuable, useful, whatever, but to others it's just stuff they now have to deal with it. Most of the things we cherished will end up in a dumpster once we are gone.

>>33674027
see >>33674056
drives don't last forever, and especially laptops that are a daily driver. Look into cloud backups or a home NAS for yourself, if not for any legacy. If you are still here in twenty years, you want your data to also be here too right?

Some cloud services like github offer legacy ownership transfers in the event of the account owner's death, but if your family is not technical that won't help much.

Although I've been in similar situations and had to make similar choices, everyone's situation is different and I won't pretend to know what you are going through. I hope you have trusted friends or family you can confide in though. It's a real struggle to work through those things alone.

>>33678294
is that the same as electrician? Find an apprenticeship/internship asap

>>33678899
>I dunno what to do then.
Well have some agency anon, and repeat what I did.
Make a list of jobs you'd like or at least tolerate. For each career field:
Figure out how many people are employed now, multiply by some percentage to see how many new hires there will be every year. Some absolute shit jobs like K12 education burn out the average teacher in only five years, and what they do the rest of their life is someone elses problem. Others like medical doctor, if you make it, you got a job for life unless you go into management.
Add some corrections for BS govt predictions about growth or shrinkage of the field, those people historically have been morons but sometimes their advice isn't that bad.
Add some more corrections for BS govt policies about immigration, some careers are highly at risk others not at all.
Add a correction factor for "the effect of AI" or some nonsense.
Then compare it to the last couple years graduation rate to see the odds of getting hired to do the work after you graduate.
If academia creates about 20K BSEE per year in the USA, and there's at most "maybe" jobs for 3K to 6K american grads, thats going to be a big problem if you took out a mortgage sized student loan for a job that statistically you're just not going to get. And the backup field for EE used to be going into programming which is also dead. Other jobs may be better odds. Maybe other jobs are even worse.

What are you looking to specialize in? Do you want to do field work? Have a desk job designing shit? Power electronics? Process Control? Industrial Automation? Mechatronics?

Honestly you're better off starting as a tech first then after a couple of years when you're really good go back to school and get your degree which will put you in an elite category of engineers that make the big bucks.

Get a college approved internship

>>33678294
internships
part-time and summer jobs
networking

Take every opportunity to meet people actually working in the field. When the day comes, they just might be able to offer you a job

>>33680976
see? entitled

*bows and leaves*

>>33680998
Understandable

*bows in return*

>>33680998
kek no kek as in kek for >>33680972 bc no you do need to give advice to give advice. Even if it's one guy vs everybody.. if everybody just says you got a x problem and doesn't explain lol like yeah obviously what the first person is saying and doing is probably exactly what they are referring to but most people who are willing to just go around saying YOU as in just starting any sort of sentence with you, they are bitches. YOU are just always blah blah blah yeah actually not even true bitch.

You are halfway to understanding that it is just your perspective... but also not... bc women are people first... people with tits. So they know they are cute and can get away with anything. It's a fact. They can't help but be sociopaths when things come so easy. But there really is an entirely different world out there, a world of abundance, one in which you may actually still not get laid bc people assume you do and you just fail to fuck the five or so hot bitches around you. But you know... WELL ADJUSTED PEOPLE. just start fucking IMAGINING IT. because you really have to expect shit for it to come to you sometimes

>>33680433
Every single man in the world has mother issues. Every single man in the world has seen too much porn. They don't all give up. That's all that is wrong with you - you have given up.

>>33681318
On some level sure, but how do I recover? That's the whole point, I'm consumed by negativity towards women, myself and the world, I suppose. I can't imagine a woman wanting me on her own accord, not currently at least, and I'm already 34. I mean what the fuck do I do?

>>33680281
The internet isnt real life.
400,000,000 people in this country. Yiu can make anything look rampant. Relax.

Like my fb neighborhood watch group screaming for their safety despite crime rates being lower than ever in my city, but now social media shows them a stabbing a day in our city of 1,000,000 people making it actually an incredibly rare occurrence.
Youre fine. Talk to women. Just don't literally threaten to rape them or show up on their lawn at night having never been told their address.

>>33672371

you have to learn to be comfortable first with being alone and ffs get off the apps

>>33672371
Talking to women and getting a gf is the easy part anon. Honestly, this is speaking as a probably autistic loser that has spent way too much of his life playing videogames and watching star trek. The real challenge is coming to terms with the fact that a woman won't make you happy, she is just another source of obligations and pressure in your life. Yes it's better than being a loner, because you have a purpose and you have hope, but it's not like you imagine it will be. it's work and it's pressure.

But talking to them is easy, they just want to talk about their boring lives just like everyone else. They just want someone to vent to and to validate their opinions.

>>33680536
I'm already pretty happy with my life, it just feels like I'm missing love.

>>33676763
>>33677232
The point was to meet them as people in situations wherwe their gender is not the major factor

>>33680186
at 26 I got my first serious gf, the previous ones barely counted, one we were together for two months but in those two months we almost never saw each other or anything
the other her dad was some sort of ex military or ex narco or something and when he found out he sent her abroad for a couple of months and we broke up over e-mail
a couple of kisses and stuff here or there but it was mostly me being at the right moment at the right time, nothing out of merit
then at 26 I got a serious gf I stayed with her for years

>>33680186
28 and never had a gf. at this point I'd be happy just getting anything. i think it's ok but don't waste your time like i did.

>>33680186
31.
Had a few dates, nothing productive and the few "breakups" were made out to be victim situations....

At this point in time don't worry about it women have been brainwashed to believe in unreasonable things. Just hope you meet a girl who isn't 100% fem brained and knows men are actual humans.

>>33681196
More details.
Girls I have been around expect me to both be a MAGA chad with perfect liberal values. To always agree with her but also always assert my own will. To have hobbies that are macho but also be 100% invested in her interests and have no conflicts between the two.
Have my own very full life and and open schedule for her interests.
Also fully fund her "lifestyle" but not do any of that nasty capitalist stuff.

Making women happy is impossible.

>>33680186
34 non larping khv. Never been on a date, never had a single girl interested in me.

>>33680153
>What can I do about this?
Try to get the things you don't have if you want, but with the family part you're fucked obviously. Also, if you have money (have a decent job with good money saved up or are rich from your parents) and do things on your own just fine, plus enjoy that lifestyle, then I suggest you keep it that way. Sure you can occasionally hang out with people if you know for a fact you enjoy that or are one of those extremely needy people, but if you have never had a girlfriend and want one, to have her live with you, and maybe a family, etc. I suggest you take a very hard look and understand that shit isn't a fairy tale, plus your life can go to complete shit with that route extremely fast.

TL;DR: Life is a gamble, people use you for what you have and are fake as hell (99% of the time), so if you're currently comfortable, then stay that way. In other words, be careful when going for those things. Also, life is boring as hell, so you either deal with that or go insane according to most anons I guess.

>>33680153
Get offline and go spend time with your friends

>>33680948
We're going to need a bit more information than that. What's your subject? How, exactly, are you struggling - are you having trouble retaining information, or having trouble expressing yourself in essays, or what?

>>33680948
Show up.
Do the work.
If you feel yourself slipping, IMMEDIATELY go to prof for help. That's what they keep office hours for.

>>33681208
Nigga you are able to come here and make a funny post. You are fine.

Id have a beer with you and make fun of you untill you acted normal.

Source: a nother autistic retard.

You aren't one of the poor non verbal bastards so stop acting like it.

>>33681208
It doesn't seem to have been over for actress Daryl Hannah, actor Anthony Hopkins, environmental activist Greta Thunberg, comedian Dan Aykroyd, scientist Albert Einstein, and tech entrepreneur Elon Musk.