I'm a female to male trans person (FTM), but because I'm 4'11" I decided there wasn't any point in getting hormone treatments or surgeries since I'd never pass for a guy anyway.Until last night I was dating a male to female (MTF) trans woman. I thought because of our shared hardship in being trans she'd validate and support my gender identity at least in private, but she just treats me like a woman. She even admitted she's only attracted to women and only ever entertained my male identity as a kindness. So I broke up with her.She is claiming that she has rights to the cat we adopted and that she's going to take it with her when she moves out, and that unless I take her back I'll never get to see the cat again.I filled out all the paperwork with the shelter when we adopted the cat so I feel like if the police were involved they would side with me, but I wanted to check if anyone had experience with pet custody in breakups and if there was any advice? She is not going to take care of this cat if she gets him, I always fed him and took care of him.
>>33452162>being this thoughtful and tactful>still calling such an elevated animal "it"ill let you off this once(i heard their astralic bodies defend ours, like some civil protectron-bot on the astral plane, thats why they say they keep small ghosts away)
Call the shelter and ask about ownership. Mention that it's urgent and important because you don't trust your ex to take care of the cat. If it's really legal for one of you to just take the cat, simply do it first. Do you have friends or family? Anyone who can temporarily catsit until she's moved out to make sure that she doesn't steal it?
>>33455673>astral planefuckthisshitimout.jpg
>>33452094>I'm a femaleJust fixed your mental illness issue
>>33452094Find out when they’re moving out, move cat to your parents house a week before they do so and tell your parents to call the cops if he comes over to claim it. Easy peasy, especially if the paperwork from the shelter was done in your name.
I applied to an Amazon DSP for a driver position and immediately got an email back asking me to schedule an interview on their website. What is the interview like? I have a clean driving record and no drug use currently. The 2 jobs I've had for the last 15 years I got because I knew somebody, was paid minimum wage for skilled work, and didn't have to interview for them. Everywhere else I've had an interview I wasn't hired because I'm retarded. I'm scared. I'm running out of money and I'm desperate for a job.
How true is this? I'm a 21 year old virgin and I've never had any obvious signs either
>>33456937Because dating is high risk
>>33456937Most men are more shy around women they find attractive - why is that?
>>33456975because being a cad with women can lead to accusations and destroy your future if you don't approach every single interaction carefully (a factor that women don't face whatsoever)
>>33456986BZZZZZT!Shitty lie from a demoralizing black pill loser.Men being shy around women they find attractive *because the results of the interaction matter* is a trope over 500 years old.Women are the same - they don't care about the guy? They are relaxed.They worry they might mess up?they get nervous and shy.Also - look up the word 'Cad' because you;re using it wrong
>>33456975Im like that and it baffles me.
I work in a job where I need to interact with people, make new contacts, bring business to the company. I don't know how to open up conversations. Im a fucking introvert, I can't lie like how I've seen my colleagues do. No I can't switch jobs please help me anons. I'm too fucking tired. I like to learn about others, it's not that I pretend to be curious about others but I don't know how to ask them or open up.Let's say I have to visit some office to bring funds from them or some hospital or any place. I don't know how to talk with the basic helper staff, so that I can get access to clerical staff then officers. I don't know what to talk about. On the other hand I've seen people making personal relationship with all three and securing the funds .Help me
>>33457247Always be honest and real. Open a conversation with saying that you don’t know how to start the conversation. Be transparent about any markups or however you fuck with people and explain how that gives service that is beneficial in whatever way. Tell the truth and people will see the real you. Literally ask customers how you can make a sale, or whatever you do.
what should one do if they find out their mother is cheating on their father? and im not saying this as a "ohhh mommy has been suspicious"; did some snooping after she told me she was going to her friends house and found a message from this dude saying she should come over cause he wanted to cum in her mouth; ive known about this for a while, it has probably been going on for at least a year, but seeing that confirmed it is also sexual and not just emotional.my dad is a great man. if he wasn't for him my mother wouldn't have a penny to her name; she's a housewife and often complains about having to clean the house, while my dad fucking busts his ass all day for us. he absolutely doesn't deserve it, especially since the other guy is one of his closest friends.my mother is a fucking snake who has done nothing but make my entire family miserable in the last couple of months, and she's the reason why i am fucked up as i am right now, probably. my main issue with telling them is that i have a younger sister; if she ends up with dad, all good. but if for some godforsaken reason she ends up with my mother and i gotta live knowing it's my fault she's also gonna ruin her life, i don't think i could go on. it's so obvious that even she knows as well, we've had talks about it a few times. sending in anonymous proof would be useless, since there's only 3 people that could know and i would stick out immediately, she also deletes texts quite frequently, im not always around to catch em. ive been thinking of purchasing a secret microphone or camera to catch her in the act.
>>33451384This is the worst possible advice ever. Fuck that. OP would be better off warning his dad than tipping off the mom so she can put some bullshit manipulative story together.
>>33451297Lol. He's cucking his father by proxy by not letting him know. He absolutely needs to make sure he knows but ONLY when the logistics part is figured out in advance like the divorce rape stuff
>>33451295Wtf how old is she?That sounds like some early onset dementia related shit.
>>33457091in her 50s, unsure specifically. i suck with my relatives ages, lol
>>33451528she's 14.
24/7, for several years now, nothing feels real to me. People around me, situations I'm in, not even I myself feel real. I don't feel much anymore, but when I do, it's as if my feelings are "apart" from me, as if I'm not really the one feeling them. It's gotten to the point where I have extreme memory loss, not just for events that happened a long time ago. At the end of the day I can't even tell you what I did today. I can't really communicate with people because I can't concentrate on what they're saying, because, as I said, nothing feels real. It goes in one ear and out the other. To be honest, I can't even say if there was ever a time when everything didn't feel so fake. It's taking away my will to live. Has anyone here had this before, and please, how can I get rid of it? (I've never been in therapy or anything like that, but I have/had severe social phobia, which got better through depersonalization)
>>33455784Also, should I go to a psychatrist or psychologist?
>>33455570>Has anyone here had this beforeYes, for a near decade long. >How can I get rid of it?Understanding it, allowing it, but identifying what caused/is causing it. DPDR is almost always a response your mind does automatically as a safety feature. It cuts the connections between external stimuli (world outside, people interacting with you) and your emotions. Makes you numb, makes you foggy, dissociative, over time, erodes your sense of self and feeling present in the here and now. It does this to protect your sanity, bro. Same way a dentist injects your gums with anesthetic fluids to numb your mouth before drilling. Your mind numbs you and erodes your sense of self because your circumstances are killing you. You need to find out what those are. Could be family, toxic friends, abusive shit, high stress shit, shitty living conditions, fucked up neighborhood. Figure out what is fucked up. Then get away from it, whether that's people or locations. Then eventually it stops and you come to life again. Because your mind learns that the situation that forced you to brain fog the fuck out is bo longer there
>>33455946>should I go to a psychatrist or psychologist?(NTA) Probably a psychiatrist first. They may recommend talking to a clinical psychologist, but there's a wider range of conditions that a psychiatrist can diagnose.
>>33455570You need a psychologist. Read 'the body keeps score'. Parts two and three have a lot of info on this.
>>33455570>>33456481Just adding to what this anon says. Just know that your depersonalization is not something that's wrong with you. It's one of the many ways the human mind tries to cope with reality and trauma, others being depression, anxiety, OCD, etc. Trying seeing your thoughts about how "this isn't real, I'm depersonalized, I'm derealized, Nothing is real, Everything is fake" as just thoughts, because that's what they are. Then your thoughts lose power. Once thoughts lose power, you can come directly in contact with the painful feelings in the body that your mind is trying to dissociate from, because trust me, that is what's actually going on regardless of what your mind is telling you. Once you stop running from the discomfort, the dissociation and depersonalization will stop.
How do I do stuff that should be fun but hard to get into? For me these things are any type of media except video games. I'm trying to expand the things I do during my free time but I always land on video games which should be fine for me because all types of media are of equal value to me. I know that during free time you should just do what you want but I also want culturally improve myself. I don't know if I should force myself or not to do something. I'm guessing a little bit of force should do me good but I really don't know. How do you think I should approach this?
>>33452678Are you familiar with e-books? Basically, digitized books (ideally: files with an "epub" extension) that can be read in Calibre. Calibre runs on all computer platforms, and even has a headless server mode where you can run it on a your own cloud server and read the books on a e-ink tablet such as Kobo. There are shadow libraries that have nearly every book published. You can find them easily. You can read anything ranging from light fiction to textbooks. The latter means you could do all the work of a degree without spending a penny, then get the actual degree cheap and fast (various options). Or just read for enjoyment.
>>33453173Apologies for replying to myself but I would like to add something to address OP's wish to have fun, and that reading textbooks might not be his idea of fun (although it is for me). Light fiction and textbooks are not all you will find in the shadow libraries, there are also nearly all the self-help books ever published, on a myriad of topics familiar to readers who have visited this board: how to make friends, lovers, be smarter, saner, healthier in mind and body, and so on. More than you could read in a lifetime.
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I really can't see how getting a girlfriend is worth the time, effort, and money required.
>>33457259my balls shrank like Grinch's heart while I was reading that
A girl I barely know has been trying to get close to me and it feels -very- sus...I'm 29 and she's probably 22 -at most-, I "met" her at a volunteering event 3 weeks ago but really we barely talked there.Since then I've seen her popping in everywhere I frequent. She's met some of my friends/coworkers and introduced herself as "a very close friend" of mine.Like, it was weird enough that some of my friends just assumed we were dating.I had a sit with her at a coffee shop recently and genuinely couldn't get a read on her or her intentions..Biggest red-flag to me (and this is gonna sound weird) is that she's a fucking bombshell, like a real head-turner. Girls that hot just aren't into guys like me, let alone chasing them like this.I need some help to figuring this shit out. If anyone here's seen or been in a similar situation...
>>33451615Yeah sounds like she's the bait for a gang of thieves. Make sure your friends know that you barely even met her.
>>33451463>>33451479there are ways to sniff out sus interestyou can toss ideas around that make it seem as if you don't have much money/ you're in debtthis works well for not only the gang scope, but for gold diggersjust don't make her suspect you, else you might lose genuine interestploy your action with an AI
Why the fuck do you write like this? It's so fucking gay and annoying. I can't even bother to read it all.
>>33451463Could it possible that maybe, perhaps, a girl actually likes you, anon?
>>33457136Anon went straight ahead to 4chan, impossible.
>Be me>Never hit red>no debt, always gotten close but no dice. Always pulled through to the green>pretty much never use a credit card, because it's not my own money>Steadily stack, aquire things I want, etc >Credit score hardly moves, I think I've been at 750 for years.>Want third motorcycle >Do I need it? No. Do I want it? Yes.>I own two others completely paid off and in tip-top shape.>Stable income, steady job, never need to fear losing it.>Never had a loan, or bills I can't coverWould it be wise to do this as a way to increase le score? Or should I just adhere to my principles and chill till I can buy it outright. I understand intrest, but I figure it's a fee to build credit. I own my house but have my dad live with me, so I wouldn't be opposed to try and get a 2nd house just so he can have his own enviornment because he's a loon' Thoughts? I'm kinda feeling around in the dark on this one. >2k downComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>33456637If you bought two motorcycles on credit and have now paid them off, your credit rating should be absolutely fine.
>>33456637Sure, getting a loan for a thousand bucks ain’t a big deal unless they expect you to carry full coverage insurance. For something like that, offer the full price for layaway and put your money to invest for down payment on a second home that will pay off your third. Feed a couple hundred here and there into bitcoin if you are not ready for index funds and the like. 750 is good enough if you can back it with with a 20 percent down.
I think I need help, guys.
>>33457004Nta but just score out the women who rejected you as people who wronged you. There's nothing wrong with rejection at all. You reject things and people all the time, you just rejected that anon's joking perspective for example. Do you expect him to put you on his genocide list for that? Who gives a fuck about girls who rejected you. It doesn't make you less valuable or worthwhile. It just means you save time by not barking up the wrong tree. Even if you could get those girls to change their mind, it'd be stupid to want them, cuz they rejected you, so it's not a good match. You are meant for someone who won't reject you. As for your mother, what did she do? Was she abusive? Neglectful and cold? Both? Talk about it bro. We had a solid parental abuse thread earlier.
Adopt a baby girl and raise her the way you needed to be raised. She'll then grow up to be a good person, thus making the world a little less evil.
>>33457048>Nta but just score out the women who rejected you as people who wronged you. There's nothing wrong with rejection at all. You reject things and people all the time, you just rejected that anon's joking perspective for example. Do you expect him to put you on his genocide list for that?Come on, please don't compare that retard to being rejected romantically and sexually. Even girls that approach me or just ask me out end up rejecting me. see: https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/33422862/ if you careThe point is that every single woman I ever tried getting with, who showed interest me, ended up throwing me in the trash. I'm not some fucking autist incel that REEEEEEs at women, i've only ever been described as "kind and sweet but awkward". Is that really this much of a death sentence? Is this really enough to banish me from ever experiencing love and a connection with another human? It's not fair. >>33457048>As for your mother, what did she do? Was she abusive? Neglectful and cold? Both? Talk about it bro. We had a solid parental abuse thread earlier.she was a druggie before she had me, almost OD. She was abusive, beat me, called me a failure and said I should kill myself before I was even a teenager. That kind of stuff.
>>33457204>Even girls that approach me or just ask me out end up rejecting meif girls are approaching you and then rejecting you its probably a you problem. niggas on here complain about never being approached their entire lives, so you are most likely acting like a creep or a retard if youre scaring them off.
>>33457214Nah, I had unpaid sex for the first time in my life at 24 and she later described me as sweet to my friends and texted me saying we should do it again. I treated her right, complimented her, asked her to do things with me, I was attentive when she was talking, remembered details about her. And now she just ignores my texts or takes days to reply. https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/33422862/ I think women are just fundamentally flawed. There's just something wrong with their sexuality. It's sick. It's perverted. And It's sad because outside of this site I actually treat people with respect regardless of race and gender, but it's like all women want is to be abused. I'm just not that. I've always been a hopeless romantic. Why can't I find just ONE woman that is normal? Just a woman that I can treat like a dude except we also have sex and cuddle at night? It's all so demoralizing. I can't get out of bed these days.
Before I say what I say let me make it clear that I like women, both sexually, as people and as whatever else you can think of. And I did have female friends before I started isolating myself and gave in to mental illness.However, I feel like pandora's box has been opened for me in terms of how I view women in that despite them still being people with dreams, hopes, ambitions, fears, desires etc., deep down they want to get railed and bred by male model looking mfs until their brains turn to mush and are willing to debase themselves and twist their morals just to achieve that goal.>inb4 men are the sameI know, but somehow I always used to believe that women were our fairer, more pure, and wholesome counterpart that would counteract our savage animal ways, but no. They're essentially just men without testosterone and with a crippling and chronic anxiety disorder that can only be fixed by stuffing your holes with cock.My specific problem is how do I cope with this information? How do I go from learning that to being a normal, socially active human again? Once you see the patterns you can't really unsee them anymore.Anyone get advice for this?
>>33453972>my specific problem is how do I cope with this information?Find better information to focus on. Find better values. Read a book. You can even like women like this by having them as friends (maybe with common values) or having sex with them without any attachment.
>>33453972>deep down they want to get railed and bred by male model looking mfs until their brains turn to mush and are willing to debase themselves and twist their morals just to achieve that goal.I mean, to the same extent that you want to rail super hot big tit swimsuit model chicks. And obviously this is to a different extent per person. You've been spending to long watching doomer demoralization shit online that just shows the worst in people.
>>33456517Implying 4chan is not toxic & distorted social media.
Before I say what I say let me make it clear that I like men, both sexually, as people and as whatever else you can think of. And I did have male friends before I started isolating myself and gave in to mental illness.However, I feel like pandora's box has been opened for me in terms of how I view men in that despite them still being people with dreams, hopes, ambitions, fears, desires etc., deep down they want to rape and breed female model looking mfs until their brains turn to mush and are willing to debase themselves and twist their morals just to achieve that goal.>inb4 women are the sameI know, but somehow I always used to believe that men were our fairer, more pure, and wholesome counterpart that would counteract our savage animal ways, but no. They're essentially just women without estrogen and with a crippling and chronic rape disorder that can only be fixed by stuffing cock into underage holes.My specific problem is how do I cope with this information? How do I go from learning that to being a normal, socially active human again? Once you see the patterns you can't really unsee them anymore.Anyone get advice for this?
>>33457182gold
Am I crazy for hating my ex's current partner? Whenever they talk they're always so fucking pathetic talking about how much trauma they have and how they're disabled and a fucking failure of a human being. That'd be fine if that was all but, they also are fucking terrible with their finances despite being 9 years older than me which makes me see them as even more pathetic as a person. Like I get it you have issues, but they're so damn pathetic I can't even see them as an adult but instead as a fucking toddler who unfortunately has taxpayer money wasted to support them.
>>33457215Why do you care? Don't tell me you're still attached to this girl.
>>33457220I care because unfortunately the leech is now getting chummy with my friends.
I feel the energy building. I feel that this may be one of the secrets to higher planes of consciousness.What are the potential ecological physiological knock on effects of not cumming for long periods? Immanuel Kant probably went multiple decades without busting a nut.
I think it's interesting how usually there's more of a divide on self improvement topics on this board, but when it comes to nofap there is unanimous consensus that it doesn't work.Which should give you insight into how you actually harvest advice from this place. You can't take what anons say at face value, because they themselves are on here and thus it would be like the blind leading the blind, so instead you have to look what principles they abide by and where they are in life because of that.If all of the people on here say that nofap doesn't work, then that means that everyone that says it DOES work and actually practices it is out there living his life instead of coming to this god forsaken website.Same with every other topic, whatever anons here preach, understand that those ideas are the very same ones that made it so they ended up on here and are to this day posting here. Until proven otherwise, always assume that whatever anon you're talking to is a antisocial loser shut in and ask yourself whether or not you want to take serious advice from someone like that.
>>33456426or you can be smart masturbate as much as you want and just take a supplememnt of zinc (the thing that you lose when you ejaculate too much)
>>33456449>Kant and Trump are both the absolute bottom of the barrel intellectually, and their fans are on the same level.Ok buddy, you're out here comparing Kant and Trump. you're clearly mentally retarded.
>>33456873>or you can be smart masturbate as much as you want and just take a supplememnt of zinc (the thing that you lose when you ejaculate too much)Have you ever taken in to account what else happens when you masturbate? You're acting like you just lose zinc.>be smartDo some actual research, actually be smart, don't just listen to what everyone else says.
>>33457197>Have you ever taken in to account what else happens when you masturbate?I only care about nutrients. It objectifies women also which is why I do it. It's actually a form of training to make sure to never become a weak simp
I'm 18F and I moved in with a dude from 4cukc just a week ago, he is the first man I've ever dated but I thought why not be the last as well so we got engaged and all that. It's fine but something that boils my blood is that I'm always the horny one who initiates sex. I want to do it every day but it's embarrassing to act in heat and force myself onto him, the only reason we have been doing it everyday is because of me. If I stopped, nothing would happen. Does this guy not feel as horny? I've started to question my appearance and my body, does he not like it? I'm perfectly fit. We're both still very shy as well, I don't have the guts to talk dirty or explicitly ask for sex, so I have to touch him and all of that first to work my way, the entire time I do, he doesn't seem strongly invested as I am, I'm drooling and all while he just sits there blank. He is way older than me, so may not have the same drive but aren't males always supposed to be horny and hungry for it? I'm going insane, should I abstain?
>>33451487Lmao I'm sure you had a lot of premarital sex and thought it was normal and healthy. Sybau
>>33452994More than you will ever touch in your whole life.You know nothing
>>33450256Men lose their sex drive a lot while in their late 20s or early 30s. If you want constant dicking, date another 18 year old, though be prepared for him to leave you for a different girl after a few months once he's gotten sick of you.Otherwise date me, OP, I'd dick you constantly. Are you in Australia by any chance?
>>33452696NTA, but I'm genuinely curious. You think he's retarded for saying it's a bad idea for an 18 year old woman to date a 32 year old man? Or he's retarded for saying a relationship won't work out if two people aren't sexually compatible? Or he's retarded for thinking that "Why not?" isn't a good enough reason for getting engaged?
>>33450256Maybe he's not horny enough to initiate with you because you're draining his balls on the daily and he's probably like 30 something.Have you considered that if you to stop initiating daily within a week or two he'd probably start initiating himself if you just let his balls fill up for like 48-72 hours instead?
