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Went on a date with a girl and I really liked her, sex was good and we have similar interests/personality

Only problem is she used to be a sex worker back in her home country
>japan
>claims it was only for 1 year to pay for school
>been tested multiple times completely clean

Now I have no problem with a high body count because mines not exactly low either, but i feel theres a stark difference between having sex with someone cause you are attracted to them and someone paying for it

shes a literal 10/10 looks wise but how cucked am i if i date a literal ex prostitute?
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>>32622367
>i feel theres a stark difference between having sex with someone cause you are attracted to them and someone paying for it
there is none
you're both worthless in that aspect (neurological pair bonding)

the difference is she got paid, while you put out for free (sucker)
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>>32622376
You dont think theres a difference between wanting to have sex with someone you are attracted to/want to spend time with and having sex with people solely for monetary reasons?

I have zero issue pair bonding, I have had recent long term relationships that prove this to myself, she might not be able to tho which is a potential problem
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>>32622455
>I have zero issue pair bonding
lol.
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>>32622367
It doesn't matter. What's in the past is in the past.
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>> shes a literal 10/10

No she isn't because 100% complete and perfect genetics isn't something that exists in the real world. You mean a subjective "she's really hot" so just say that. No doubt if you share a pic of her she'll be a 4 or 5 like they always are. Which is fine, but don't claim she's something she isn't.

>> ex pro

Listen, for some girls this can absolutely be a thing they do for a short time and then never again and they play happy homemaker. For others, it's something they're drawn back to, especially when their life feels out of control or they feel stressed out, like a drug. It's hard to know which is which. But either way, how would you be able to look your kid in the eye and tell them that mummy used to give "sucky sucky five dolla, love you long time" and not kill a part of that child?

If you don't want kids, then take things slow figure out if she's the type to go running back to it or if she's going to be loyal. And listen, some of those girls can be ridiculously loyal. So take it slowly find out who she is, make your decision down the line in 4-6 months. There's nothing saying you need to know immediately.

But if you want kids, bring that up early within the first 3 months and have a conversation about how that would look, how her past would impact a child. Like it or not, there's a different stigma between sluts and whores.

>>32622376

>> neurological pair bonding

Hahahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahahahahahahahaahaha

You fell for the whatever podcast made up puritanical nonsense that's as transparently snake oil as nofap

Hahahahahaha hahahahahahahahahaahaha hahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahaahahahahahahahaha
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>>32622465

Your copium is retardo
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>>32622367
why would you think you are better than tens to hundreds of men who fucked her, that you are not just another white, culturally incompatible fat wallet to empty? You are gonna be used and dumped by gold-digger, story old as time. You can just be glad she is kinda transparent with you about being a whore
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>>32622543
lmao.
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>>32622367
>>32622455
What type of "sex work" was it?
Was she an "escort" GFE type hooker who only had a few clients that were wealthy older men? Or did she work in a brothel or as a street walker?
The former option is definitely preferable but in this day and age a woman who chooses to prostitute herself is either doing so because she wants to or is too useless to make money another way
Chances are this is another retarded LARP but on the off chance it isn't then don't lock it down into something serious. Have your fun with a hot girl but T B H there are so many hot japanese women you can find one who wasn't a hooker. The obesity crisis isn't a thing there and a Japanese 5 is like an American 7 or a British 9
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>>32622367
Most women are ran through anon. She just got paid to get ran through, while others did it for free.
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>>32622367
what are you scared of lil bro, the cuck police? will they find you and lock you up in the cuck cage?
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>>32622367
If you believe that sex has a spiritual meaning (it does,) then yes this is an issue.
Do you only believe in science? Mind the fact that the brain has certain mechanisms that make us emotionally attached to our partners. This is through the release of different hormones when spending time together and especially when having sex. Keep in mind over 70% of marriages fail when the woman has had 5 or more premarital sexual partners.
You probably think she loves you, but you will find out how far that love goes when it is tested. Consider the following: She dedicated her more youthful and beautiful years to selling her body, now she has decided to settle down and can still reap the benefits of a long term relationship because she found a man who is willing to overlook her past. Ask yourself, is there a reason that the thought of settling down with a woman who has had many sexual partners evokes a disgust response in most men?
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>>32622367
Japanese sex work is totally different, its all condomed up and safe. there's no cum in her, no exposure to male hormones, etc.

She's closer to virgin levels of being able to pair bond than 90% of American women who let their high school bfs shoot in them raw

You're fine and will have a great relationship
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I want a japanese ex-escort GF...
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>>32622702
not sure about that, in thailand all blowjobs are raw by default
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>>32622367
>>japan
>>claims it was only for 1 year to pay for school
>>been tested multiple times completely clean
many women everywhere have done sex work from sugar daddying. you should date women just when they turn 18 before they start doing sex work
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>>32622844
How can I accomplish that?
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>>32622702

Seriously, why are you chuckle heads buying into this "pair bonding" snake oil made up by a puritan podcast? It's hilarious that you're going hurdy durdy durdy as if you have any clue what you're talking about when the subject matter is made up.

The amount of sex a woman has, doesn't impact her ability to be in a successful relationship. "Male hormones" (which ones are those, lol) don't impact that, neither does sperm. You don't cum in a bitch and then start remote controlling her. Lol.
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>>32622852
just meet 18 year olds and eventually find one hat is attracted to you
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>>32622367
Japanese so she basically is worth the effort no matter what
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>>32622367
My guy, I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. Most women, at some point, have prostituted themselves. Your fucking sweet old auntie probably did. Oh sure she was just hitchhiking in the 70’s and blew some dude because he offered breakfast and a place to stay for the night and he might have been mildly attractive. It’s all the same. Women say it “doesn’t count”. It does. But many, many of them have done it when you want to be honest.
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>>32622367
Prostitution is seen extremely differently in Japan. Way less of a big deal, so it's not like she had some insane depravity or counter cultural sentiments or damage for getting involved.
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>>32622367
All women who do sex work will inevitably see men as Johns. Only an idiot marries a whore
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>>32622367
Yeah, if you're getting paid then it's business. Gotta pay the bills.
But if she was a thot purely to chase muh tingles, then she still is.
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>>32622508
>how would you be able to look your kid in the eye and tell them that mummy used to give "sucky sucky five dolla, love you long time" and not kill a part of that child
Child will think it's normal and not lose any sanity
Ez
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>>32623400
Yeah obviously.
But non-prostitutes also see men as Johns, just in different context.
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>>32622367
It is wild to me that there are men so desperate they are willing to even talk to ex-prostitutes let alone marry them
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>>32623429

I don't know what kind of poverty striken hell hole you grew up in, but no, normal children would not just think that's normal. Because children aren't isolated islands, they learn from the world around them and would understand the stigma attached even if not why. That will then be internalised to themselves because their parents are part of them.
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>>32622367
>sex worker
Just say prostitute.

I must have completely missed the boat on whatever happened that the term "sex worker" caught on. The term has always been prostitute...
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>>32624738
Just say whore.

I must have completely missed the boat on whatever happened that the term "prostitute" caught on. The term has always been whore...
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>>32622367
Sorry but tfym by "date"? You had dinner and fucked, that's no cause to escalate anything. No cause for sexual exclusivity let alone more.
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>>32624747
>Just say whore
No. Do not say whore when you mean prostitute or you get ignored because whore has been used to describe a slut or a cheater and you will not make your point with most people.

Hell, even if people know whore means prostitute, distinct from slut, they can't be sure you meant it that way, so you're losing a percentage of them too.
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>>32624747
>I must have completely missed the boat on whatever happened that the term "prostitute" caught on
There was no boat because it didn't catch on. Its just me using it
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>>32624065
At least she's honest, and most women aren't.
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>>32622367
I personally wouldn't date a former prostitute. I think for a girl to do something like that, it shows where her morals are and they would be drastically different from mine, and so it just wouldn't work out. Though, the fact that she was honest about it and it was short make it better. How long ago was this and does she show any remorse for her actions? Has she done anything to show that? If not... I would turn her down.
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>>32622367
Sounds like she gave it up on the first night so I'm not sure why you are so surprised or hung up about her being a sex worker? You seem to have an interesting patchwork of values
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>>32622367
Most women are whores. Some want money for sex, some others want attention, higher positions, free food or other things.
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>>32622508
>You fell for the whatever podcast made up puritanical nonsense that's as transparently snake oil as nofap
oops
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>>32622508
>You mean a subjective "she's really hot" so just say that.
No, because she probably isn't noticeably above average temperature for a human female.
See how silly you sound when you "correct" people for using words and concepts metaphorically?
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>>32622479
Patterns don't matter.
If you walk through a mine field don't worry you didn't loose your foot last time.
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>>32622367
>Now I have no problem with a high body count
Yes you do. You using the fact she got paid for it as an out is just cope for your own insecurities. She fucked some dudes before you, so what? People fuck, it's a thing we do.
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I think the issue is more whether she is STILL a prostitute, and whether she's got any other job prospects.

If she was a prostitute a year ago, she's a prostitute. If she's only been in your county a year, she's likely a travelling prostitute.

I know prostitutes, the practical problems you have relate mostly to STDs, income security, mental health, drug use.
Put it this way, none of the men who pay her $500 for sex will date her. They are paying NOT to have to date her.

If they're fucking get once with a rubber their chances of catching an STD are reasonably low. But if you date her you're virtually guaranteed to catch all of them, and nigger that might be HIV.
Don't think because the STD rate in Japan is low that means anything, she fucks foreigners.
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>>32624738
sex worker encompasses more things, like phone line sex work or fetish stuff that isn't outright sex. Stripping is sex work.



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