>Be me, 30yo M. Been dating my gf for a year or so, 26yo.>Hang out with my old college group of friends, most of them in their early 30s aswell.>One girl I never really got along with starts to brag about her open relationship. Picture her as a 6/10 nerdy girl, very studious, always in a relationship. She goes in detail about how her bf is aware and supportive of everything.>Picture the bf. 31 yo basedboy/nerdy guy. The classical funko pop collector, cats not kids, internet white knight type.>Wonder who will be the first of us to get married, and start to discuss. Suddenly this girl makes the big announcement. She will be getting married in 1 year. >Starts to say that her parents will spend a lot of money in the wedding, that the honeymoon will be 3 months in Japan, and worst of all, that she will invite all the guys she is hooking up with to the wedding.>While she speaks the bf dosent stop smiling, but his eyes are souless, like a statue.>Everyone starts congratulating her, not only for the wedding, but for how brave and strong she is for handling an open relationship. Everyone except for me and my gf.>I point out what she would do if they have a son that looks nothing like the future husband.>Suddenly the table goes silent, like if I insulted them.>They point out how old school I am, and that most likely I'm a misogynist, and look at my gf as If would beat her u once we got home. >The rest of the supper is silent and akward.>I talk with my gf while driving home. We are not supermodels, but we are rather attractive and fit. When single both of us had plenty of fun, but are happy to have left that behind.>We are not rich, so when planning our wedding we both are happy to know that the only thing we need is eachother.>She says she would rather get married in a casino than to a men she despises so much she won't be able to fuck only him for the rest of her life.>The group of friends keep thinking I'm evil and manipulative
>>32625676If not bait why are you friends with those fags?
>>32625689Old college friends. This type of person you got along with 10 years ago and have a whatssapp group with. It's nice to hang out every once in a while, but things like this make me see why they are not real friends.
>>32625709Real friends wouldn’t treat you that way
>>32625676Open relationships and everyone in them are weak. Weak men, weak women. Weak willed, weak minded. It takes effort and dedication to love one person for the rest of your life, it requires a lot more than they're willing to give or be, so they treat monogamy with disdain and disgust. What a bunch of pathetic fools. Ignore them.
>>One girl I never really got along with starts to brag about her open relationship. Picture her as a 6/10 nerdy girl, very studious, always in a relationship. She goes in detail about how her bf is aware and supportive of everything.>>Picture the bf. 31 yo basedboy/nerdy guy. The classical funko pop collector, cats not kids, internet white knight type.
>>32625709They are all fags, make new friends who aren't retarded.>>32625676That's a very valid question, them not having an answer really shows how they didn't think that arrangement out.
>>32625676You did act like an absolute dick, here, anon, I'm not surprised your friends were upset. You owe them a grovelling apology. You're obviously a monogamous person. Fine. An open marriage would be completely wrong for you. Fine. You have absolutely no fucking idea what being non-monogamous is like. Again, fine, no one expects you to understand it. The problem is that you don't understand that there is something going on that you don't understand. You mistakenly think that you understand it perfectly. You think that everyone's emotions work *exactly* the same way yours do, that everyone else's brain is a perfect mirror image of yours. The only way you can process anyone else's actions is to say "What would this mean if I were doing it?"You need to realise that other people are different. Realise that there might be something going on here that you don't get. You don't need to get it; just realise there's something you don't get.
>>32626787KYS, cuck faggot. There's no justifying the nerdy slut.
>>32626787If they're really so comfortable with their open relationship and their emotions are satisfied by it, why did they get so upset when he asked them what they'd do if she had a child that looked nothing like her husband? If they were, they'd have laughed it off and said they wouldn't care.
Not gonna read it, gonna assume OP didn't mind their business and retardedly thinks that's someone else's fault
>>32626872wrong on all accounts, try reading next time jamal.
>>32625676This is why when a man and a woman get serious they have to say goodbye to their old friend groups. Because they are crabs in a bucket and will drag both you and your Mrs down. Normalising all kinds of stupid shit.That poly-bpd-coded trainwreck isn’t getting married. Her cuck bf knows it. She just wanted to 1-up you and your girl out of jealousy, she isn’t going to Japan to have a big marriage to a bunch of replacement daddies in one go. That’s not on the cards for her. She’ll be in a mental hospital worh grippy socks by the time you and your girlfriend get married. Her cuck handler will probably be balding and gooning in some cave somewhere. You’re not weird for going against psychotic shit. Everyone knows that chick is insane, but they keep their mouths shut to avoid having to deal with her meltdowns. I highly suggest you stop letting them into your life, especially if you’re serious about building something good with your girl.
>>32626805>KYS, cuck faggot. There's no justifying the nerdy slut.Not to you. But they don't give a fuck about justifying themselves to you, nor should they. >>32626853>If they're really so comfortable with their open relationship and their emotions are satisfied by it, why did they get so upset when he asked them what they'd do if she had a child that looked nothing like her husband? If they were, they'd have laughed it off and said they wouldn't care.They were upset with you, because you were being an insufferable prick. What you said wasn't true, it was merely astonishingly offensive.Imagine you had some friends who were a gay couple, and they mentioned they were planning to adopt a child. And imagine you said "But if you're both gay you'll fuck all your children and give them AIDS." Everyone would freeze in horror that you said something so appalling. They wouldn't be upset because it was true, they'd be upset that you said something so staggeringly offensive and narrow-minded. What you said was genuinely THAT BAD. That's why people were upset. They couldn't believe you said something so crass.
>>32626919>Not to you. But they don't give a fuck about justifying themselves to you, nor should they.Except that’s what they did without anyone asking. Making a big announcement too. Read the thread.>They were upset with you, because you were being an insufferable prick. What you said wasn't true, it was merely astonishingly offensive.Multiple men fucking 1 woman = good chance baby won’t be the cuckold’s. Not rocket science, so yes it is true. Who cares if it's offensive. If the woman can take multiple dicks, she can take a serious question.>And imagine you said "But if you're both gay you'll fuck all your children and give them AIDS."I like how you said that and not OP or that anon lol.>What you said was genuinely THAT BAD.It’s not that bad, its a fucking question and a common one that comes up. How does parenting work with 1 womanl 1 cuck, and multiple men coming in and out of the home?Usually what happens is child sex abuse but at least OP didn’t bring that up.
>>32626951>Except that’s what they did without anyone asking. Making a big announcement too. Read the thread.An announcement is not a justification, anon. When two people announce they're getting married, they're not *justifying* anything, they're simply announcing good news and expecting their friends to be happy for them. >It’s not that badYes, it was absolutely that bad. The fact that you are not capable of understanding why doesn't change that. Again: understand that there is something you don't understand. >How does parenting work None of your fucking business.
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>>32627013>An announcement is not a justification, anon.Read the context>Wonder who will be the first of us to get married, and start to discuss>Suddenly this girl makes the big announcementThe whole setup was to see who is getting married first and the spooky poly lady decided to get on a soap box for attention. They made it everyone’s business, that’s the point.>Yes, it was absolutely that bad.No it wasn’t. Hurt feelings don’t matter, they’re feelings, they come and go like piss in the wind. Stop with the appeals to emotion, we’re not kids anymore anon.>None of your fucking businessAgain, the poly cuckold ringmaster and her golem simp made it everyone's business. What you are saying is no one is allowed to ask questions. Because narcissistic feelings will be hurt or something. Bet you’ll say nothing on the fact they proceeded to call OP a misogynyist and villainise him all because he asked a question lol.
>>32626919What he said was an extremely normal question. The open relationship shit is what needs to be looked down on and mocked relentlessly
