hello, it’s me. the person who posted asking for help with her cats old age and realizing its eventual passing.unfortunately, she has gotten far worse, it is very noticeable how she is on her way out. it breaks my heart. woke up today, went to the bathroom, came out and my bf was holding her crying. apparently she was hiding, and anyone who knows cats know this is one of their instincts, to hide during their leave from this world.i thought i would be hurt during this. i am, but i think my brain is shifting to make sure my bf is entirely okay. it is awful, this cat is essentially one of the last tangible links to his late mother. this was her cat. and i am seeing this will be extremely hard on him. i do not care about how im going to get through it, thats not even a thought in my mind before. i’ve had a brutal life, ive been homeless, addicted to so many drugs, i can overcome all that, i can overcome this.i want to help my boyfriend as much as physically possible. what can i do for him? how can i make this easier? what should i do? please i need any and all advice. it broke me seeing him holding her crying his eyes out. i could not even physically feel bad in that moment i just held him so tight.thank you.
>>34563063It is going to be hard, not much you can do to make it easier. If possible go to the vet and get painkillers, opiods preferably but gabapentin if not. Kidney failure isn't a painful way for cats to die (they feel sickly and out of it, but not in huge amounts of pain) but it is much helped by something like gabapentin keeping them out of it. Be the stong partner for your bf, which means taking care of cooking, cleaning, chores, etc. while the cat is dying. Also, be prepared to handle the burial, choose a blanket or something to wrap the cat in, and dig a hole when the time comes. Your bf will appreciate not having to think about these aspects of the cat's death
>>34563236thank u for ur detailed response. i already do all the chores around the house, he likes cooking a lot, but ill take it over if necessary, i already told him if there’s anything extra i can do to please tell me. i picked out a blanket for her. i’ve tried to do everything possible. is it possible to get gabapentin just otc? or would we have to take her in to get a diagnosis and verification… bc his sister told him to take her to the vet to put her down but she doesn’t understand how late stage this is (her tone pissed me off honestly, it all happened so fucking fast she was fine and all of a sudden it went to this).i do need opinions on this tho… i feel like an animal wouldn’t want to be confused and surrounded by people she doesn’t know in a scenario like this. aka, putting her down. we’ve kind of both decided that she would want to be with us, she hides when we leave the room so we’re doing full shifts and kept her in bed with us and she slept with us all night. it hurts a lot. i’ve never had to be the strong one in a situation like this. we laid down yesterday and my bf cried in my arms and i had to be strong and tell him everything will be okay.it’s all so much. i wasn’t ready for it but i kinda have to be.hug ur cats for me guys. :( it’s breaking my heart.
>>34565054Not the person you're replying to BUTpersonally I think the cat is entitled to a natural death, painful or not. You're only really trading a lack of physical pain for mental stress at the vet for your cat. My parents were trying to get rid of my cat when he in his mid to late adults because they adopted a couple German shepherds and ya know cats and dogs I took him in because I believe when we adopted him as a stray 8 years prior we promised him a full life with a predictable environment. I have generally weird views about animals though spiritually. I think that they kinda act as vessels for our passed relatives to watch over us and by casting them out it's effectively casting out our relatives.For my next animal I'm definitely not gonna get them fixed though because I think them having kids to carry on the lineage will help the pain knowing that they're still with me in their children
>>34565124i totally agree. i think natural deaths are important and people jump to euthanasia so fast. i had a cat many years ago, and although he left a lot earlier, i know for absolute fact he would’ve wanted to spend his last moments with me, since he imprinted on me. i can’t imagine being taken away in that position and just being put down.honestly what you said about the vessels thing made me start crying, since it is his late moms cat… i’m sure he looks at her like a piece of his mother. it destroys me i can’t even fathom how he’s feeling. i don’t think those are weird views at all friend, not at all. i am of the same opinion that our pets hold very high importance in that regard. good on you for taking him and giving him much more life. i think, no matter where our animals go, whatever anyone believes in, they will always remember us. :’(honestly, thats a sound idea. my cat many years ago wasn’t fixed bc i got him, oh it was so long ago now, 15 or so years ago, so i wasn’t able to afford everything i should’ve. he had kids and they reminded me of him every time.thank you so much.
>>34565139No problem fren, live happily
