I asked for advice on how to deal with a narcissistic sociopathic stepfather who deserves to be emotionally destroyed, on here, and no one helped. It's gotten to the point where he buys cameras to stalk me at night, and he calls me childish names like, "fatass", and "faggot" when I'm in way better shape than him. I just did 200 pushups the other day and it was easy. He had to have heart surgery because he eats like a retard, and still continues to eat fried food after his doctor told him not to, and still smokes pot like a loser. He has to use a dick pump and take testosterone cus he's a pussy. Every single time I simply leave my room, he says something brude to me, stares at me like he hates me, loudly sighs at me when I'm not doing anything, or mumbles shit talking about me in the other room. I need to emotionally destroy him before I leave. He deserves to be mentally crushed. Tell me what the fuck I do and don't be fucking useless this time. I'm surrounded by do-nothing pothead losers who think they know everything when in reality they're failures and project their failure onto me. They all believe his sociopathic narcissistic manipulation except for me. Any time I call him out on shit or do what he does to me back to him, they jump in the way and protect him like he's a child. I'm going to resort to physical enforcement and beating his old faggot ass outside. I don't care if my family hates me btw, I just want him to be emotionally and mentally destroyed.
>>34563975Just leave, just move out, my god
>>34563990I'm not leaving until this task is completed. Also, I need to make sure my mother is in good health before I go, because he will let her rot away until she dies. Also, I can't get a job anyway because no one will hire me. I have over 170 applications out. I'm here all the time and I don't deserve it.
>>34563990If you have any ideas for places I can go, please tell me. I want nothing more than to leave.
>>34563975Have you considered not letting him live in your head rent-free?
>>34564040You have it the other way around: his entire life evolves around me. It revolves around hating me. He literally eavesdrops on me in the next room, hides in the kitchen for when I walk in, he drives around all day hating me and immediately starts mumbling about me when he steps foot through the door.
>>34564045but then he virtue signals and says he wonders why I THINK he hates me.
>>34563975How many times does one have to make a thread about the same fucking thing before any actual advice arives
>>34563975>I don't care if my family hates me btw, I just want him to be emotionally and mentally destroyed.If you're gonna jump him, use a mask, don't be an idiot. He could press charges. Beat his faggot ass.
>>34564121he only goes to work and home because he can't afford to do anything else because he's a broke loser who works for his parents company.
Ya'll are fuckin useless fags
>>34563975You're gonna get your ass kicked if you do try anything physical.
>>34564214Nah i'm stronger and faster. he's been physically intimidated by me since I was ten.
>>34563975nothing but faggots on this board, it seems
you're just insulting in place of bumps, maybe you should reflect inwards and realize you have a lot of the same traits as the stepfather you hate. find peace within yourself
Look up gray rock method. It can be dangerous (backfires and enrages them - could be a risk for violence) basically just be emotionless/boring. Then move out.>>34564217
>>34564263Yeah you.
>>34563975All problems can be divided into two categories - problems that you should solve, and problems that you should avoid entirely by removing yourself from the problem-causer. This is an obvious problem of the second category. There is nothing you can do to get "revenge" on this guy that would not equally fuck up your own life. Just leave the house as soon as you can.>Every single time I simply leave my room, he says something brude to me, stares at me like he hates me, loudly sighs at me when I'm not doing anything, or mumbles shit talking about me in the other room. There's nothing physical or material here that forces a response. You can just ignore him. If you really can't ignore him, the next best thing is pouring all your time into work/friends so you spend as little time as possible in that house. >>34564021>Also, I can't get a job anyway because no one will hire me. I have over 170 applications out. I'm here all the time and I don't deserve it.Literally how? No one? Not even some poorly-paying high-turnover random shithole job?Do you have a felony or something?
>>34564287Thank you, some actually good advice>>34564332I'm a targeted individual, it seems. Yes, even the shitty ones are denying me. I said I wouldn't go back to food and warehouse jobs, I rescinded on both of those things, and they still reject me. I have I have a series of smoke shops and gas stations I'm gonna try, but, if they don't hire me, I'm turning to the streets and going homeless. What's worse is I have to use my families fucking car and lie to them about where I do get a job, because they can't know where I work, because once I leave here, I'm cutting contact with him, so he won't be able to stalk me. I'm gonna have my own life.
>>34564287the problem is i have already tried to ignore him. he started ignoring me first half the time, and i didnt complain about it. when i did it to him he cried about it nonstop. everyone tells me how bad of a person i am for ignoring him. they all constantly fall for his manipulative bullshit to where i cannot just ignore him and go about my day.
>>34564287but, this advice is definitely in the right direction. I need smart shit like this to make him snap
>>34564021>I'm not leaving until this task is completed.You're an idiot. Just leave.
>>34564636>everyone tells me how bad of a person i am for ignoring him. they all constantly fall for his manipulative bullshit to where i cannot just ignore him and go about my day.You need to do the same thing to anyone who defends him. Refuse to discuss it. Walk away from them. Hang up on phone calls.
>>34563975>Also, I need to make sure my mother is in good health before I goHave you considered that your mom is an adult with at least 20 more years of life experience than you, and yet she chose to marry this faggot? She also doesn't seem bothered by the fact he's abusing you, her own child.She's making her own life choices, and clearly you aren't in her considerations. Now go and make your own.
>>34563975Are you twelve? Lol
>>34563975If you really want to mentally destroy him then simply drugging him and leaving him would probably penetrate his thick skull
Ignore him. Narcissists feed off attention. Do what I did, give every camera the middle finger, disobey him no matter how small and petty it is do not give him any indication that he has control over you. Include mocking and taunting, be above that shit. If it gets violent, fuck him up. If you lose, then sue him. It's way better than living life like a little bitch.
>>34563975>he buys cameras to stalk me at nightCan you prove this? Not just a bunch or assumption? This is illegal in most states even if it's his house. Prove it with actual evidence and go to the police. That's a pretty good fuck you.
>>34564929This will make my family hate me, but, I guess I don’t care, anymore>>34565256That is true. But, I need to make sure she has access to the right health choices before I leave. I want her to have grandchildren.>>34565856How would this make someone twelve>>34566626Are you saying to NOT include mocking or taunting, or to include it? Please rephrase>>34566640Every time I leave the house he watches me on the camera outside and he sends me text messages to try to ruin my day and to make me aware that he’s watching me. Our house is small and the new camera is “for safety” even tho it’s placed just where I walked in the front room thru the living room into the kitchen, which is the only place I’m walking to, and he wants to watch me at night while he sleeps, cus he can’t sit right in the living room or hide in the kitchen to try to harass me while he’s sleeping. He has this camera even though I and my mother said we dislike it being there and feeling like we’re being watched. So, no, I don’t think I can prove anything, unfortunately.
>>34566659Have you tried recording his behavior and spreading it to family? You say he plays victim when you ignored him so why not prove everyone in the family that he's a liar and manipulative?
>>34563975sounds like you need to take your meds
>>34563975You are a fucking retard, OP, and I suggest you read two books: How to Start Living and Stop Worrying by Dale Carnegie, and The 48 Laws of Power. Only after that you would see how stupid you are but let me give you some clues.You are obsessed with the unhappy and the unlucky and the miserable. Law 10 is Avoiding miserable people, know that you can literally DIE from thier misery and shitty behavior. It infects like a disease. Your stepfather is a miserable CUNT, and you are a complete simp for him. You compare yourself to him, you spend your days daydreaming about how to crush him, and you insist on being around him for some reason. And the worst part? He feeds off of it. You keep acting like he's some fucking loser or a joker, but the real clown is you, you think your anger will poison him, but it just makes him stronger..Even worse, you want to be the master, the savior, perhaps, to a bunch of people who do not respect your system of beliefs or world-concept. They worship him as the center of their social world no doubt and see his way as the truth. Those followers will defend him, they can never be convinced otherwise, certainly not through your argument, probably not through anything you do. >I'm going to resort to physical enforcement and beating his old faggot ass outside. You could punch him and knock him out cold a hundred times, and they would look at you as a monster. All you do is make him stronger with your resistance, and you enforce their beliefs that you are an insolent upstart trying to fill big shoes.My advice to you. Fuck all of them. Leave them behind, even if means you are homeless for a time. Channel all that hatred and anger into finding a new life for yourself. The rest of the family can wallow in their own misery and filth. The only way they will leave is if they come to the conclusion independently, and eventually you will find peace.
>>34566659>That is true. But, I need to make sure she has access to the right health choices before I leave. I want her to have grandchildren.You've made attempts to communicate with your mom how much of a cunt this class act is, but she shacked up with him anyway. As others have mentioned, a healthy, mature woman with kids who is divorced or looking for another man typically looks VERY CLOSELY at a prospective man. It's a part of the maternal instinct not to bring in somebody who is going to be close to family that prove to be a threat, especially to children. It's supposed to be hardwired into women from our paleolithic days doing hunter-gathering. But some modern women are devoid of this due to shitty genetics or something. It is a mystery. Either way, they end up being selfish cunts and whoring themselves out to complete derelicts, losers, and men who will not provide.All of this to say that she doesn't seem to care about your well-being, so just lay out that you are leaving her to her fate. She'll either stick with it or wake the fuck up. Eventually most abused modern women wake up to it and decide to leave.
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>>34563975Cringe topic from a narcissist women
>>34563975Talk shit back to him and if he tries anything let them know you're not putting up with it.
>>34566682I’ve told them, they didn’t do anything.>>34566763I’ll read those. Are they actually good? I heard they were bad. Also, I don’t compare myself to him, I actually don’t want to be anything like him. The thing is, I actually want to beat his ass l0l idc if they hate me, anymore. There were times where I almost convinced her to leave.I genuinely want to, and, am about to go homeless if I can’t find a job, soon. I can’t grow as a person, here. I don’t have a car.>>34566784He treats them better, but is still a selfish asswipe. It’s mainly me.My mother is a fantastic mother. She kept her children away from bad things. She took the best care of me.>>34567103How so>>34567123The second I do, they all blame me. Even if he screams or calls me names.
>>34564021He’s most likely gonna die before any of us, but, still, I want her to have a great life. She agreed that if she lived with me rn she would be healthier. So, I think I can help her.
That Hell you are in is a small compared to the rest of the world. Just remember that. There are people out there who would love you and want to be around you and appreciate what you do given you struggle a lot. Nice people do exist anon, you just got to look for it like you got to look for gold.
>>34567480You haven't even read the books, so how can you know for yourself. Read it, think about what you have read?Don't let podcasters and social media influence your opinion. I will say this though. I used to worry a lot, used to be unsure of myself, let others control me. I was weak and pathetic. I was so miserable, depressed, and in such bad shape I ended up in a situation at a job where I was abused for so long I ultimately found myself in a psychiatric hospital for three days after a nervous breakdown. In that low state I vowed, if only out of spite, never to let myself fall that low, ever again. I read How to Stop Worrying and Start Living at the behest of my therapist and it changed my life. The 48 Laws of Power helped me navigate all the awful, manipulative, negative people in the world who were scheming to get something out of me without any benefit to myself. People say I'm more confident, more interesting, others say I've become more of a renegade, even an asshole. But at least I am not a fucking pushover.>Also, I don’t compare myself to him, I actually don’t want to be anything like him. Then why are you here, bitching about him? Why do you concern himself with his actions? Why do you engage in performative stunts like doing 200 pushups to prove your superiority? You give him attention, which is all that matters. You feed him, and his megalomania only grows.>The thing is, I actually want to beat his ass l0l idc if they hate me, anymore. And yet you show concern for their thoughts and actions.>There were times...have a car.Law 9 of the 48 Laws: WIN THROUGH YOUR ACTIONS, NEVER THROUGH ARGUMENT. You do not convince people with words and promises. You take action, you do. You do not threaten to leave, you simply leave. You siomply tell your mom you're leaving, and then walk out the door.
>>34567480>My mother is a fantastic mother. She kept her children away from bad things. She took the best care of me.No, she's not. She married a man with zero regard for the effect it would have on her children. She probably knew he had problems but used the stupid mental gymnastics a lot of battered women do to justify why that worthless sack of shit was worth letting him stick around, use the resources of the family, and pound your mom. All I see is a woman looking out for her own self-interests rather than fulfilling her duty to her children, even if they are adults, which is to support them. Therefore, she is selfish.>I want her to have a great life. She agreed that if she lived with me rn she would be healthier. So, I think I can help her.Again, Actions, not words. You need to show her how she's going to have a better life with you after she ditches your stepdad, not TELL her. Wouldn't it be nice if we could make the world a perfect utopia where people could see their follies and change their argument? Yeah, well, too bad, doesn't work like that. you cannot FORCE her to agree with you. That might mean moving to another city and getting a job, a house, and a nice guest bedroom where she can live, where the stepdad and the other siblings are forbidden.>>34567528>There are people out there who would love you and want to be around you and appreciate what you do given you struggle a lot. Nice people do exist anon, you just got to look for it like you got to look for gold.Also this. OP, if you found a loyal wife (not a hot one, a loyal, nice woman, it doesn't matter if she's a bit ugly or maybe a bit fat, you need to find a woman you enjoy being with) and married her, you'd have a beautiful family, and they would make you happy. Perhaps, ironically, this is your wake-up call to make that goal happen.
>>34567692It's not perfomative. Just last night I did 250. Tomorrow I'm doing 300. I used to do 350 three times a week. I'm getting back into my routine.Alright, I'll try it.
>>34563975Mad because he obviously has a point.
>>34567709I do agree that she chose someone who was just simply incompatible with her child. But, I forgive her for that. She was searching for a life, and, she kept us safe.Also, I think they barely have sex. But, i guess, I feel bad about that? I want my mother to have a normal, healthy relationship.I'm gonna marry.>>34567528Thank you, so much; that means a lot!
>>34567750Even if he does have a point, he shouldn't be acting that way. It's unforgivable.>>34567709Also, he can't marry her because he's a broke loser, and, he's already been married, so, he doesn't care if she wants to be married, even though she wants to marry, very much.
>>34566763Where do I go if I'm homeless
>>34567742Lol the fuck it isn't, the only reason is because you want to prove to others you CAN do that many. If you were exercising for personal enjoyment you'd lift weights for 1-2 hours like a normal person. What you're doing is a circus stunt for ego.>>34567770That never stopped billions of poor people around the world. If they cannot get married, he has some dark skeleton in his closet preventing him from marrying.>>34570115You can go just about anywhere provided you can put up with a lower standard of living. If you have a car you can carry more, but you'd need a decent car. I had a friend who chose to be homeless to escape a bad life, not unlike you. He saved all his money from the day he was 16 until he was 20, bought the cheapest van, and drove off into the sunset. He kept in touch with me over facebook, as this was back in those days. He basically did season gig work for a long time, showing up and doing temp jobs for music gigs, or labor, carpentry, whatever. Though he had that skillset. He had a 24 Hour Fitness membership so he had showers all around the city
>>34570931https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2u7aAf-cZt4Here's a guy doing over a thousand. Lifting weights vs doing calisthenics for 2 hours? Who cares? I'm doing 300 tonight.I don't own a vehicle.
>>34567511She's in great health! She just needs to stop bad habits, and, pick up good ones.
