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Old: >>34562449
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first for dab
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I really just wanna give her a hug man
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>>34565266
((hug))
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Didn't notice there was a new thread, so I'll ask again:
Women, do you ever experience penis envy?
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>>34565274
No, I'm very grateful I don't have one of those things.
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>>34565274
From time to time, I do get jealous of the ability to penetrate and ejaculate.
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Should I get /fit/ before I start talking to women again? Will my muscles appease them enough?
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>>34565250
Dark hair with pale skin is the peak though.
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>>34565274
Freud was a lunatic but I used to think I wanted to troon out/should've been male before I figured I would've been weird by male standards as well. I once has a strange dream where I went to the bathroom and all of a sudden I had a penis but it was a weird disgusting micropenis and it haunted me for years because it was visually horrifying and malformed, I have a not so unconscious fear of my chromosomes being all fucked.
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>>34565282
What do you envy about these abilities?
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>>34565313
You are into MBTI.
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>>34565319
yes, and? are you proud of yourself for recognizing my retarded posts?
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>>34565258
did you guys know that take me to church is not about going to church?
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>>34565322
what is your MBTI?
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>>34565323
>did you guys know that take me to church is not about going to church?
I used to think it was about two gay guys until I looked it up.
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>>34565326
INTP, unfortunately
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>>34565329
that is mine too. You know the chinese are obsessed with this shit?
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>>34565333
interesting. why are they obsessed with MBTI? I think I saw some Koreans on the internet randomly putting their MBTI in their social media profiles but I didn't know the Chinese were into it as well...
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>>34565315
Quite honestly, it's probably some sort of a power fantasy. As is, I might theoretically be able to use my fingers or certain objects to penetrate someone, but there's no way to replicate the other function. Being able to cum on people or things, or even fill them up, just sounds enviable to me. I feel this way most strongly whenever I look at porn depicting penile penetration, thinking, "Must be nice to do that to someone."
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>>34565337
idk, probably social media and the natural autism they have
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What's worse:
Being a virgin, or getting sex in the past and not being able to get it again?
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Femanons, do you watch porn?
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>>34565266
Why
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>>34565291
You can do both at the same time, unless you're fat, then fix that first
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>>34565351
Both are fine
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Our ass lips could be french kissing right now.
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>>34565274
>Women, do you ever experience penis envy?
I'd like to be able to pee anywhere the way men can.
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>>34565322
>recognizing
I didn't recognize shit, except when somebody mentions Freud or Jung, I just assume they are into MBIT, you defensive little shit. lol

>>34565329
>INTP
That explains it.
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>>34565291
>Should I get /fit/ before I start talking to women again?
Yes.
>Will my muscles appease them enough?
Definitely not. But it'll help a little.
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Post gender
Would (You) date/marry someone with a past of casual hookups?
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>>34565352
>Femanons, do you watch porn?
I like videos of me+bf. Otherwise not.
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>>34565351
Being a virgin is much worse. Once you've had sex you realise not having sex doesn't matter nearly as much as you thought it did.
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>>34565366
M
Of course?
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>>34565274
No
>>34565352
Sometimes if my bf isn’t available.
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>>34565366
>Would (You) date/marry someone with a past of casual hookups?
M. I'm not a big fan of marriage as a concept, but having had hookups wouldn't bother me.
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>>34565366
M 26
At this point I really dgaf anymore, it is what it is.
Caring about virginity or purity past like early college days is silly. That ship has long sailed
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I got a sunburn on my hair part.
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>>34565381
Wear a hat.
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Women
At what points in time is it ok for men to approach you?
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>>34565366
M
No, relationships are fine but hookups are a massive red flag in my opinion
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>>34565384
Fuck you
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Rise and shine. Any nons been dreaming, lately?
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>>34565341
Do you want to penetrate men or women, or both?

I feel like squirting or pissing on someone kind of satisfies a similar urge, but not really the same.
There are also some cumming strapons but it's not your fluid and you can't really feel it so it's obviously not the same thing, the mental part has to do a lot of heavy lifting in that case.
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You could have just asked me to help you. I'll always have time for you and your beautiful smile.
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>>34565363
well yeah you're right. sorry, it just seems like there are a few idiots who take pride in recognizing posters and roasting them in unrelated threads.
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>>34565391
I've dreamt of a little pearly beach in the Pacific that's maybe a little quieter than it should be.
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>>34565354
>>34565364
I'm skinny. Not fat thankfully
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>>34565391
Just stress dreams
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Should I get Modelo or Corona today, /atoga/?
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>be me
>hanging out with my friend drinking and laughing
>start talking about women
>casually say I'd fuck a tranny
>his expression immediately changes to a stone cold serious one
>he immediately blurts out "what?" in a serious concerned tone, not like "haha that's so cringe and silly dude", but in like a "wtf is wrong with you" tone
>Immediately do damage control and I say I was not serious
>we move on like nothing happened
>still thinking about it the next day
How badly did I fuck up? I thought finding trannies hot was a common thing men banter about, like liking Asians or Latinas. Is he gonna think I'm gay now?
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>>34565388
Time matters less to me than place. If I can't easily get away I don't want to be approached. So the train station is fine, but inside a moving train is not. It's fine to approach me while I'm waiting to order or pick up my food, but it's not good if I'm working at the cafe or sitting at a table eating.
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>>34565353
Why not
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>>34565399
>recognizing posters and roasting them in unrelated threads.
I only hang out in atoga.
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>>34565409
Being "trapped" is one thing, specifically liking trannies is kind of gay tho vro
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>>34565409
> Is he gonna think I'm gay now?
Yes
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>>34565381
Use aloe vera
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>>34565413
sorry for the unfair assumption
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The Soft Bigotry of Low Expectations
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>>34565409
Being into those people is gross, but he also did overreact
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>>34565423
Profound, revelatory, penetrating
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>>34565409
I have a friend who's kind of a playboy and be unironically asked me if he should bang a tranny from a dating app and I just thought it was funny. 2bh I didn't think of it much again until now.
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I wish i was someone he was proud to show off
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>>34565274
Yes, often. I'm mad that sex feels good for men and they can have offspring without going through pregnancy. And if they aren't aroused sex just isn't happening.
But practically speaking, if I were male I'd surely still be single and if I'm not having sex or building a family then it's better to have a vagina.
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Is emotional unavailability really any different from someone just not liking you?
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>>34565391
Dreamt I was lying down indoors in the afternoon sun, with a little black kitten asleep under my chin. It made me really happy.
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>>34565434
No, it's basically a whole pseudoscience that women developed to cope with not being liked by C**D
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>>34565436
NTA
Why do chads who do not like me want to marry me and have children together?
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>>34565434
Yes, but most of the time it's actually closer to >>34565436
Actual emotional unavailability is fairly rare and even then it's not necessarily 100% no emotions, just frequently. The same holds for a lot of mental illnesses desu
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>>34565351
>>34565357
Both are kind of incel-ish, so incel = bad, in case you didn't know.
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>>34565434
>Is emotional unavailability really any different from someone just not liking you?
Emotionally unavailable people don't like *anybody*.
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>>34565434
Women should prefer emotional unavailability. The most intense and common emotion we men feel is rage.
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>>34565434
Idk
I think so
Someone who doesn’t like you won’t go out of their way to interact with you, usually. But if someone considers you a friend or a loved one and still aren’t able to emotionally connect with you then that would be unavailability
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>>34565444
It’s not a bad thing to be a virgin
It’s not a bad thing to not have sex all the time
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>>34565388
When we've known for a few months and I'm giving him clear signals, like inviting him to hang out 1 on 1 and touching him
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>>34565449
It's a bad thing to want some form of intimacy with a person you'd love. You're basically an incel in that situation. Women don't owe you sex (I'm pretty sure you already knew this absolute fact, though).
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>>34565448
>But if someone considers you a friend or a loved one and still aren’t able to emotionally connect with you then that would be unavailability
It feels so disrespectful and immature.
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>>34565407
What about tiger eye?
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>>34565421
No problem!
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>>34565452
How is that a bad thing? Unless you are truly despicable then it’s okay to want something like that and not be able to get it right away
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>>34565433
>I'm mad that sex feels good for men
It doesn't feel good for you?
>and they can have offspring without going through pregnancy.
Fair enough!
>And if they aren't aroused sex just isn't happening.
Speaking as a guy with severe erectile dysfunction, I feel like you're adopting an unhealthily narrow definition of "sex", there. Plus, while PIV sex with a woman who is not aroused may be mechanically possible, it's never advisable and rarely enjoyable, even for the man.
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>>34565454
What'd they do to you?
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>>34565450
How are you supposed to know him if he's not allowed to approach you?
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>>34565430
>I wish i was someone he was proud to show off
What makes you think you aren't?
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why am I so tired femanon
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>>34565407
Ugh, neither! Get into real ales instead.
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>>34565472
You take too many drugs and alchohols you drink too much caffeine you don’t practice good sleep hygiene and you don’t eat right or exercise
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>>34565461
In itself, the existance of a man who
>wants to have sex, even (gasp) respectfully towards the woman
>has been unable to form a romantic and intimate connection with a woman
>isn't able to "get" casual sex either, even if he doesn't want that
is desicable. As stated everywhere, incels are despicable. I described to you what an incel is. That should suffice.
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>>34565467
my general appearance and my awkward social skills
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>>34565476
is sleep hygiene even real
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>>34565472
>why am I so tired femanon
Dunno. Are you anemic? Sleep apnea?
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>>34565466
I thought this was about romantic approaching. If it's purely platonic he can do it through any of the usual channels like school, work, hobbies, mutual friends
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>>34565484
Have you actually asked him how much those things bother him?
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>>34565486
>is sleep hygiene even real
NTA, but of course it fucking is. What kind of dumb question is that?
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>>34565492
just sounds made up like microplastics
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>>34565393
>Do you want to penetrate men or women, or both?
Both.
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>>34565398
>You could have just asked me to help you.
I didn't need help. Patronizing prick.
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>>34565329
>female intp
rare
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>friendzone is real and it's impossible to date your friends nor should you even try
>but also, you're not allowed to pursue women who you aren't already friends with

This literally makes no fucking sense, and only enables people to view dating apps as the only viable option
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>>34565391
>Any nons been dreaming, lately?
Almost never. Not that I remember, anyway.
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>>34565381
You should use some of that face powder that doubles up as sun screen.
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>>34565490
no that is compliment fishing
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>>34565388
>At what points in time is it ok for men to approach you?
If it's a social occasion.
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>>34565500
>>friendzone is real and it's impossible to date your friends nor should you even try
Debunked easily by statistics, meeting through friends is one of the main ways people meet
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Is sex the only difference between being friends and being in a relationship?
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>>34565505
Then don't be so arrogant as to imagine that you know what he thinks.
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>>34565510
i can tell by the way he acts
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>>34565500
>This literally makes no fucking sense
It makes perfect sense if women are trying to prevent you from hitting on them under any circumstances. Those are the rules for you; they're different for other people.
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>>34565509
M
No, of course not.
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>>34565452
>>34565435
I am inna super snuggly mood today but stuck at desk.
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>>34565507
"Friends" and "friends of friends" aren't the same thing.
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>>34565513
What are the differences then?
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She's taken all I've got and she still wants more
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>>34565511
>i can tell by the way he acts
No, you can't, and I can guarantee you that the fact that you are arrogant enough to think you can pisses him off more than any other quality you possess. You need to cut that shit out RIGHT NOW if you don't want him to break up with you.
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>>34565500
>friendzone is real
Stop listening to incels. Being friends with someone you love and admire isn't a punishment unless you're either severely mentally ill or were only pretending to get along because you thought it'd get you laid
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>>34565520
>She's taken all I've got and she still wants more
So get more. Do we have to think of everything?
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>>34565351
Probably virginity, because males do not have those. Because males made that shit up based upon antequated science and a bunch of misunderstandings. The virtue is chastity. Physical and mental purity, it's not just about sex (celibacy). Bastardizing celibacy saying that it is thrust upon you is BLASPHEMY. God should punish every man spitting upon his virtue.
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>>34565509
M. Come on. Seriously?
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>>34565531
I'm asking because my bf said that was the only difference, not because I hold the opinion myself. I thought it would be helpful to hear from other men what the differences are for them.
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>>34565518
A romantic relationship is obviously more emotionally intimate than a friendship, and we spend much more time with our lovers than our friends.
A romantic relationship also generally entails more shared goals beyond just enjoying each other's company once in a while.
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>>34565536
He is getting to the most important thing. You can have all sorts of arrangements that contradict his opinion, but they're the exception.
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>>34565528
She takes me for a throw and I'm still not fooled
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>>34565496
Are you attracted to both/having sex with both otherwise?
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>>34565536
Point out to your boyfriend that the term "friends with benefits" exists. It literally means "being friends and also having sex". If there were no difference between "friends with benefits" and "a relationship", people wouldn't have bothered to invent a separate term for it.

Also, you're missing the important point. The important thing to focus on here is that you think this man is your boyfriend, but you're wrong. He thinks the two of you are just doing FWB, and that you're not in a relationship. This is a serious problem.
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Gender
What’s something cool you bought recently?
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>>34565554
M
Wife
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>>34565554
M. Annual membership to London Zoo.
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>>34565366
M
If they don't have STDs and aren't doing it anymore than possibly yeah
>>34565391
I had a pretty nice dream yesterday actually. Was a rainy dream where I was indoors and didn't have to leave the house
>>34565407
Corona
>>34565409
>I thought finding trannies hot was a common thing men banter about, like liking Asians or Latinas
I hear this about futa more than trannies, but yeah you're gay
>>34565554
Guts' sword at a comicon
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>>34565536
>I thought it would be helpful to hear from other men what the differences are for them.
For starters, FWB isn't expected to go beyond what it is. A relationship is something which both people are hoping will end up with the two of them getting married and spending the rest of their lives together. (It often doesn't, but if you knew in advance that it wouldn't, you wouldn't get into it).

FWB typically is a short-lived thing; it lasts until one person meets someone they want to get more serious about. FWBs aren't in love and don't expect to be. FWB involvements are usually (though not always) non-exclusive, meaning it's understood that either person might also be having sex with someone else at any given moment, and both are cool with that. Your FWB is no more emotionally significant to you than any of several other friends; your bf or gf should be the most important person in your life (or at least there should be a sense that it's where you're headed). An FWB thing is one part of your life; a relationship should eventually become the foundation on which the rest of your life rests.
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>>34565561
Mail order?
>>34565562
What are you, British?
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>>34565572
Tranny shark
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>>34565575
>What are you, British?
No, I live in Australia, but when wallabies go extinct from climate change next week, I'm worried I'll miss them.
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>>34565581
Why is it called London Zoo?
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Why are women so obsessed with sex?
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>>34565581
Kek, you live on a penal colony. And penal sounds like penis.
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>>34565366
M 30
It would depend on how recent or lengthy that past is. I don't see a relationship working with a woman who is still into casual hookups, personally.
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>>34565585
He lives in a penile colon(y)
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>>34565584
Why do they look like fucking knuckleheads ,
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>>34565554
F
Winter garden
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>>34565498
it sucks, women think you're a pickme bitch and men think you're insane. making people seethe without really knowing why they were mad to begin with is a weekly experience. people laughing at completely normal sentences too. cruel.
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>>34565584
Because the only way to have good sex with men is in fiction.
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>>34565554
F, butter bell
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>>34565588
Are they allowed to name them that
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>>34565583
>Why is it called London Zoo?
It's in London.
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>>34565584
Dealing with moids is already a horror thriller and an action adventure irl. I want fiction to have things that I can't have in real life, like PiV orgasms and a bf who treats me well.
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>>34565603
London in Australia
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>>34565584
Why are men so obsessed with violence? Actually I'll answer that myself: men see the world in terms of objects and distances; women see the world in terms of emotions and people. So things aimed at women are about a complex, ever-shifting web of emotions and interpersonal relationships, but things aimed at men are about lots of stuff whizzing about really fast.
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>>34565604
I do treat people well, but the occasional bullying is neccessary. Everyone needs it.
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>>34565605
If wallabies go extinct throughout Australia, obviously I'm going to have to go to another country to see them. Keep up.
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>>34565604
It's still rape even if you call it CNC
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>>34565554
Skateboard
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>>34565606
A story about a middle aged woman getting fucked by a man younger than here is not a complex emotional story
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>>34565615
Not to you, no.
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>>34565603
what are the abos like
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>>34565606
Guess who the writers are
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>>34565598
>>34565604
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>>34565617
Yes it is
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>>34565620
>what are the abos like
Genuinely fascinating. Did you know they can sleep in extremely cold temperatures without shivering?
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Femanons:
Are you aware when your nipples are showing through your shirt at a store?
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What does the physical sensation of a penis in your vagina feel like, femanons? I'm always curious. What are the differences in feel between a raw penis, one with a condom, and a dildo too?
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>>34565606
I hate that you downplayed men's reasons for being interested in violence and death but I think most men could learn something from the way women approach life

To a man, any stakes less than life and death are uninteresting, but that means his own life is uninteresting. The stakes in a woman's story will be "and then she/he ruined their own life forever, and became old and bitter", which is actually a more realistic challenge for most people
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>>34565630
Why?
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>>34565637
Pressure
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>>34565635
yeah, what am I supposed to do? I wear a bra and a shirt, I have nipples, that's just how things are
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>>34565643
Can you elaborate?
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>>34565603
>>34565581
You're not very likeable.
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>>34565645
I thought the bra was supposed to help prevent the nipples from showing through the shirt?
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>>34565646
I can’t remember
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>>34565642
>Why?
It's one of a number of adaptations they have that improve their chances of survival in deserts.
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>>34565645
Go braless. You probably have small tits, no bra required.
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>>34565596
You got a bf?
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>>34565648
emphasis on help, depending on the nipples, it's just softening the appearance but it won't get rid of it completely
like rn, I'm wearing a padded bra and a shirt and it's still visible, so honestly. whatever
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>>34565650
Why dont white people have that for winters
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I want a bigger bed
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>>34565655
>Why dont white people have that for winters
White people are biologically inferior.
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>>34565652
yeah, that won't work at all
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>>34565657
do it, having a huge bed all to yourself is the best
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>>34565655
Deserts are hot during the day but cold at night. Winters are cold all the time for months.
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>>34565657
What's stopping you?
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>>34565653
no
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Plap
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>>34565659
Let's see who wins that race war
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>>34565666
GF?
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>>34565663
It's a shame. She does have an angelic body, though.
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Anons, is this normal?

When I was maybe five or six (F) I didn't have access to the internet, but I'd be transfixed by ads with models wearing bras and underwear. I had no idea sexuality was a thing, so it wasn't what I was thinking, but like... back then it felt like a very weird very mysterious guilty pleasure and I'd feel horribly embarrassed at the thought of anyone walking by and finding out what I was looking at.

Later on I developed a permanent fetish for big titties. If that matters.

Clearly the answer I'm most hoping for is "no anon, you're not the only one". But if, alas, I was/am a freak, any idea what caused it? Never been abused, inappropriately exposed to porn, etc., more like very sheltered.
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>>34565662
>>34565665
I can’t afford it
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Job advice for someone that is just starting to work?
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>>34565674
big titties don't count as a "fetish"
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Whoever came up with women having a cycle and their moids not having one too and them syncing up needs to go to hell. I need a menstruation husband, a follicular husband, an ovulation husband and a luteal husband.
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Until yesterday, the record for the hottest temperature recorded in England during the month of May was 32.8°C (91°F). That record had stood for more than 80 years. Yesterday it hit 34.8°C in London, and today 35°C (95°F).

Is there any chance climate change deniers will shut the fuck up now?
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>>34565669
no
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>>34565676
you can usually get some for free on craigslist from people that need to move asap and can't be arsed
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>>34565668
If it's fought in the desert without equipment....
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>>34565674
It's not anything super wierd
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>>34565681
Because of the aforementioned issues or you're just not interested in romance?
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>>34565584
Sex as woman is just better.
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>>34565684
That wouldn't really change the outcome
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>>34565679
>I need a menstruation husband, a follicular husband, an ovulation husband and a luteal husband.
What would the differences be?
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>>34565584
>moid fantasy is fuck off and nearly die
>female fantasy is be loved, provided for, and protected
Sounds like male fantasy is to get drafted and not to start a family. Go on.
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>>34565679
Or maybe just tell your man what you need
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>>34565678
When a set of full, round tits with cute nips attached to a narrow waist and curvy hips is pretty much guaranteed to send your body into breeding mode,
>even if you weren't remotely feeling horny before
>even if you're in a completely non sexy setting like an office
>even if you have zero desire to be turned on
>even if the woman they're attached to is light years out of your league
>even if the woman they're attached to is a stranger to you and you have no idea what her personality is like
>even if the woman attached to those tits is a terrible person who hates you
I think it clinically qualifies as a fetish. Definitely beyond normality, at any rate.
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>>34565677
Nobody at work has to be your friend. It's easier if you maintain some distance at first.
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>>34565677
You may be tempted to hold yourself to a higher standard than what you see around you.
Don't.
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>>34565686
I am interested in romance, I'm just a dumbass and there aren't many compatible guys. I wasted too much time and invested in a relationship that couldn't materialize and I came to my senses two months ago, so, I'm done processing but I'm feeling hopeless.
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>>34565696
That's not a fetish, anon. A fetish, by definition, means being aroused by something a normal person isn't aroused by. If you're aroused by feet, or balloons, that's a fetish. Breasts are normal.
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>>34565695
No, he should match my energy automatically because it's his energy at that moment too, not because he has to compromise and adjust to me.
>>34565690
>menstruation husband
Wants to rot at home and cuddle.
>follicular husband
Wants to go on adventures and is full of energy for projects at home.
>ovulation husband
Horny and wants to get dressed nicely and go out for dinner.
>luteal husband
Wants to be left alone, rots in his man cave all day, doesn't speak, orders food constantly.
One can dream.
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I've been dreaming too much lately, I think my mind wants to escape reality again
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>>34565705
>he should match my energy automatically because
Good news is men go through a hormonal cycle every day so that can be utilized.
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>>34565708
I knew you'd say that. But I don't want that, I want us to be 100% cycle synced on a monthly basis.
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If I lived in Japan, what would be my odds of finding a nerdy GF who is also not native?
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>>34565710
Be a dyke then
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>>34565712
I was unironically thinking about this and how expats tend to marry each other because they actually just have a lot in common and are very similar people by the nature of having moved to Japan
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I love how mad people get at me when I post my scars and cuts
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>>34565170
Attention whore website, preasu understandu
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>>34565716
No thanks. I'll just keep living alone, that way there's no need to sync with anyone.
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>>34565154
Whether I like it or not
>>34565041
Male
>Become
...how is one not naturally a little racist by the time he is ten or so? I spent my entire life noticing the differences between people because I had eyes, ears and a brain. No one told me I had to act a certain way to do what's natural; that's slave mentality
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>>34565677
Look busy and always overestimate how long a task will take if asked. Boredom is when you will make all your social mistakes like oversharing, arguments, getting involved in gossip. Only bend rules if it is 100% impossible to get caught, and only in the name of efficiency. A job with people you like is worth a massive pay cut, conversely a job with a sociopath manager is almost never worth it.
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>>34565710
what would happen if you put a man on the pill? but the world doesn't need even more insanity.
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>>34565722
Women literally sync their periods
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>>34565703
What's usually the incompatibility?

Usually when I broke up/things ended/etc. with somebody, I took some learning from it, understanding what I DON'T want and what to look out for honestly. I tried to make things work, ignoring issues.
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>>34565637
Like a fist in my armpit. It might start to feel good 10 minutes in but the act is about over by that point so the pleasure isn't impactful.
I haven't tried raw dick but given how much worse textured dildos are than slippery frictionless ones I imagine wrapped is better.
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*calling Hedgehog anon*
Bzzt bzzt pick up, this is important
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>>34565604
>PiV orgasms
All you have to do is get a buy with a massive dick.
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>>34565726
That's not a real thing
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>>34565731
what
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There is no fucking way straight women exist
Why do you women put on the charade?
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>>34565744
being a lesbianism is still worse than being alone
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>>34565744
They absolutely do, unfortunately.
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>>34565744
buck broken
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>>34565674
It's ok to be lesbian.
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>>34565747
They don't prefer men they just say they do but only a fictionalized version that can't possibly exist
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>>34565725
NTA
My guess is, he'd start growing boobs and have some health issues.

Just found this article, though it sounds a bit like AIslop it sounds reasonable:
https://science.howstuffworks.com/science-vs-myth/what-if/what-if-man-takes-birth-control-pills.htm
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>34565674
This is the most normal thing in the world. Stop baiting with stupid shit
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>>34565584
Who wants to watch a 56 year-old woman get sex?
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Men's standards are way too fucking high. How can they expect me to not be an obese single mom? This is completely impossible to achieve.
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>>34565705
>follicular
I thought that was the female clavicular
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>>34565696
That's just neurotypical attraction to women. People have been making Venus figurines for thousands of years
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>>34565691
She's 56
She's not having a kid at this point
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I just want a flat chested mid gf
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>>34565674
It's normal for boys, slightly less so for girls but even in this case it doesn't mean she is necessarily bisexual or lesbian for real.

Early sexual awakenings in general are pretty normal.
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>>34565500
You know none of this shit is real right and it's cope and a attempt to string together coherence where there is none
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>>34565576
I thought I was gonna hate the shark too but it's oddly nice holding something to sleep
>>34565677
Something with customers/travelers/patrons around whether you serve them directly or indirectly. It's kinda broad of advice but a lot of different things can be learned from this

All genders, have brushed your teeth this morning?
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>>34565766
>have brushed your teeth this morning?
No comment
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>>34565729
The act is over lol... u need to upgrade to someone who actually cares
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>>34565758
It is.
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>>34565679
I need a frog bitch who can fuuuuarrrk
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>>34565741
Happy Tuesday
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>>34565679
Well either God created it this way for a reason (and since God is the Logos his reasoning is always correct even if we can't understand why) or it was an unguided development where it was the optimal strategy for survival.
Both paths show it is this way due to being the most efficient means.
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a reminder that gooning every day even when you don't want to it's the same as raping yourself
so stop molesting your genitals.

thank you and have a nice day
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>>34565776
thanks, um what's so happy about Tuesdays though?
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>>34565744
For penis energy
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I accidentally wore my nephew's socks to work.
he is 7 years old
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>>34565779
God is not real and is just babies first functional structural meaning starter pack and it's a horrible one that fetishizes suffering above all else and self sacrifice. Also you have a schizo voice in your head. It's a shit system. A better one is the patrician "meditate and relax" where u melt ideology down to nothing and can finally relax for the first time in your life.
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>>34565788
HAHAHHAA HOW ARE YOU THAT SMALL
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What is the female equivalent?
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>>34565792
I'm NOT small, those socks are just very elastic!
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Is it actually possible for a man to settle for one woman when there are so many beautiful women with different types of beauty? Especially if their partner is just average?
I don't understand people with broad interests being monogamous at all.
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>>34565789
Christianity isn't the only religion
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I will not smoke today
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>>34565789
A creator for our Universe is the rational stance. Everything in this Universe is part of a causal loop since the big bang and the only thing that could begin the chain, the unmoved mover, would be God.
We also have no evidence of any kind for abiogenesis.
The odds of our existence, whether that be fine tuning of the universe or evolution just happening to develop impossibly complex systems that require other separate developments simultaneously to work all point to intelligent design being a much more likely explanation than random chance.
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>>34565793
For me it was big sunglasses, long blonde hair, skateboarding
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>>34565798
>when there are so many beautiful women with different types of beauty
It's not like I could have any of them.
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I feel like this is going ti ge the worst summer in human history. There is going to be a non stop natural disasters there will be no food many will die due to starvation and civil unrest but in the long run this might benefit us somehow
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>>34565808
Great
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>>34565808
good, I hate summer
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>>34565808
Wrong. This will be the best summer of my life. I already know it.
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What's the absolute easiest animal to keep as a pet?
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>>34565808
Well I’ll be having sex so it can’t be that bad
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>>34565813
cat
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>>34565812
Why
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>>34565793
I had very narrow interests, so it was really only animals and nature, unique fashion, and cute twinks. I also thought the internet was cool. And the deep ocean.
The only thing I strayed and returned to with full force is the twinks. Everything else stayed cool.
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>>34565761
Didn't even read my post didja?
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>>34565781
>even when you don't want
Who does that?
Does the same thing apply to women being ringed up by their FWBs for the sex rotation at inappropriate times, such as when they're having their periods or must hang out with the normal BF?
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Having a wank to the thought of having sex with a sexy woman feels good, mentally and physically.
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I like fucking my fists (both of them at the same time)
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>>34565825
In my fantasies the guys are ugly and don't get me off because anything more would be unrealistic and narcissistic
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Is mental health really an excuse not to be with someone you love?
Or is that a cop out
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in her fantasies she has sex with me
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>>34565831
"Mental Health" isn't external, it is a part of a person.
It is like saying I didn't steal, my kleptomaniac tendencies stole!
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>>34565727
well most guys simply don't interest me, not even platonically. I want someone to have fun conversations with on a regular basis. most people would get bored of talking about things that have no practical application or emotional resonance. I want someone I can talk to about all sorts of nonsensical things without exhausing him, boring him, or feeling like a burden.
if we're talking about actual experience, my exes were just, well, 2 of them I only dated because they were manipulating me and making me feel bad for rejecting them, pathetic, yes, I know, I was a sheltered 18-19 year old so whatever. I knew I was bad with sympathy and compassion and thought I was a bad person, so I compensated with people pleasing, I learnt how to actually be a compassionate person much later, unfortunately.
next 2 were decent people, but one of them was emotionally draining and jealous, his lack of trust in me made me fuck with his head on purpose, I eventually got tired of his weird narrative and broke up with him. I regret it and I apologized once I reflected on my behavior. the other one became distant barely 2-3 months into the relationship, I confronted him about it and it led to our breakup, didn't really have issues otherwise, he blocked me on everything and then called me like a year later and we talked about it, he said he was stressed about his life and all that back then and wanted to get back together but I didn't trust it because his mom always pushed him to get a gf, get married and have children asap.
next one is the situation I recently got out of, frankly I would have probably stayed if things could have materialized. there were red flags that I have ignored, and I'll never truly know whether he was being genuine or not when I confronted him about some things. my main issue here was that I was too shy to reveal my feelings until I was too impatient, and by then the world around us had changed and already difficult things became nearly impossible.
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Buxom girl from Luxembourg
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With global warming are we going to see the return of summer umbrellas and hats?
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>there aren't many compatible guys
>I'm on a streak of dumping everyone, actually
>I'm impatient and always looking for some new cock
tldr qrd in a nutshell.
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>>34565828
>anything more would be unrealistic
That's what fantasies are for.
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>>34565683
I’d get a frame that way but not a mattress and that’s the most expensive part
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Girls, is it automatically a bad thing for a man to have wrestling action figures displayed in his living room?
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I want to date an older shotacon woman, but what if she replaces me when I twink death? I'd try to look very young for her as long as possible but I know MPB and wrinkles would catch up eventually and she'd no longer love me.
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>>34565258
women would you date someone who's 5'9, 125lbs, has short copper hair, green eyes and is 29 years old, but is also an incel? asking for my friend hes really pathetic
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>>34565850
I just want to be molested by one and then I can die happily
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>>34565851
I don’t like gingers ask someone else.
Black girls looove gingers though
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>>34565854
yeah it's almost like poetry they contain exactly the same characters
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>>34565835
>my main issue here was that I was too shy to reveal my feelings until I was too impatient
I was that way when I was younger and I learned to just be direct if it feels necessary. Even so far as just asking out a woman I am interested in if they are interested too. No bullshitting around once I am sure how I feel about her.
Doesn't mean I am insensitive and blurt out shit randomly though, but be direct when I want something. Make my issues and "demands" heard. Then it's up to the other person
But it usually takes some negative experience, like the one you had, to come to that conclusion.
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>>34565857
wait so if I date a black girl it's the same as dating a ginger?
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>>34565857
Eyo
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I can't use fans because they will steal the air and I will die
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>>34565854
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I wish I could leave my house
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>>34565867
If the door is stopping you try the window
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>>34565868
it's the sun that's stopping me
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>>34565854
Hope your underage female relatives get raped and filmed
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>>34565869
Try to enjoy the Sun
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>>34565869
Put a hat on
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>>34565872
it hurts my skin
>>34565873
I will.
but uh where should I go once I'm outside?
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>>34565854
>Black girls looove gingers though
Type shit
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>>34565813
One that you actually like and will maintain. Or mostly a reptile imo.
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>>34565857
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hmm I've never dated a brown woman before even though I'm brown, I think it would be nice to date one
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>>34565876
Get a long sleeved linen shirt
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>>34565878
shit
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>>34565882
Id your mother is anything to go by yoo shouldn't even think about it
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>>34565871
wtf why
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>>34565886
Wait, no. Not like that.
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>>34565876
The park
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>>34565882
They're too busy riding white cocks to date you
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>>34565878
shit
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Your gender
Rank these from highest to lowest for you. I'll give 4 archetypes. As romantic partners. Maybe also say which you would have as a friend preferably.
1. Passive, indulgent, resistant to change. But also stress resistant, calm and consistent.
2. Anxious, dependent on the approval of others, very pessimistic. But also artistic, deep and precise thinker.
3. Cold, professional, wants to micro manage others, but quite successful professionally, willful and competitive.
4. Impulsive, chaotic, but also charismatic and sociable.
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>>34565887
it's not like the blonde girls I dated were any better desu
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Kirkenuinely want a Palestinian gf
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>>34565898
M
2 > 4 > 3 > 1
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Why would women prefer to suck cock than have their pussy ate?
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Tfw negative canthal tilt
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>>34565899
Women am I right?
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>>34565898
M
4, 2, 1, 3
I am most close to 3 so 4 is a nice contrast that can bring out that side of me. 2 is insecure but still good. 1 can be boring, but that isn't a bad thing on its own. 3 is too similar to me and it would likely be a romantic dead end.
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Do I really have to read ALL of these posts?
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I found a peanut in my breast pocket neat
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>>34565894
This hits way too close to home and I hate you

>>34565898
F
It varies, depending on whether it's a man or woman, but generally:
4, I love extroverts.
1, I vibe with the go-with-the-flow types.
3, too much like myself, there would be a lot of butting heads.
2, the tortured artist is rarely ever profound or warranting of their shirts personality.
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>>34565910
Yes. I expect your report on my desk first thing tomorrow.
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>>34565898
M
1243
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>>34565912
hello korra poster
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>>34565913
Very well. I am right on it.
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>>34565858
normally I'm very direct, but my fears sometimes reduce my ability to speak up when the emotional stakes are high. the problem here was self-abandonment, and in the end I also overwhelmed him with all of those stagnant feelings and thoughts once I couldn't hold it all in anymore, and I hurt him by being like this because I made him feel bad about himself and he took it all personally... for him it must have seemed like a random 180-degree turn. I was initially afraid he would cut me out of his life, he came off as unpredictable with no obvious patterns to his behavior and had heavily flawed rationalizations to some things. I think that in a way he mirrored my own childhood attachment style and issues but in different ways, eventually making me aware of my own blindspots. if I'm to believe him then he wasn't opposed to relationship, at first, and I can recall things that seemed like attempts to make it official or attempts to gauge my interest in a serious relationship with him that just skipped over my dumbass head.
it wouldn't have been healthy regardless so I'm not mourning it too much anymore but it's bizarre thinking about it.
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it's not normal for women to try and paint your nails and braid your hair is it? why are they like this?
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>>34565907
>3 is too similar to me and it would likely be a romantic dead end
You have good intuition. Two cholerics together are considered a bad match (yeah, i gave descriptions of the 4 temperaments).
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>>34565904
Some women really do just love sucking cock for its own sake. Some find the sensation of the mouth icky or just too light/soft. But the most common reason would be they get really off on the idea of pleasing and being sexy (so giving head scratches that spot) but they are really self-conscious of lying with their legs spread open, all the bits on display, worrying about smell/taste/bits of tp/stubble/discharge or whatever else. Some people find it hard to relax and really feel pleasure because it feels too vulnerable receiving head.
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>>34565898
F
1 is the only one I'd date and the only one I'd be friends with
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>>34565898
M
1 > 4 ≥ 2 > 3
3 sound alike hell in a relationship, 2 and 4 would work best as friendship probably. 1 is the more emotionally stable I believe, which is best for long term compatibility.
4 could probably be a fun relationship, but if it's too chaotic and impulsive then it would be troublesome to think about long-term. 2 would be interesting as there's be a lot of intellectual connection, but I have trouble being with people who have a deep set pessimism.
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>>34565920
Only for women that didn't have a younger brother and got that out of their system
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>>34565920
I mean it is though, but it is definitely learned behavior. A lot of human behavior is, though. As for why, it has to do with positive conditioning. Stuff like seeing braids when you're a young girl and thinking that's super pretty and you want to look just like that when you grow up. Or good memories because of having your hair brushed and braided by a close friend or your sister/mom. More "complex" hairstyles and decorated and well maintained nails are both considered signs that a woman is "put together" which a lot of women really value, there is a lot of subtle and overt shaming about women that "gave up" or otherwise are not considered to be making enough of an effort.

Basically the specific motivation can still range from simply enjoying fidgeting with your hair and how it looks, to wanting to make a certain impression or to feel put together, and more. But it will have to do with possitive connotations they developed over the years.
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>>34565919
>I was initially afraid he would cut me out of his life, he came off as unpredictable with no obvious patterns to his behavior and had heavily flawed rationalizations to some things.
Sounds not like a good partner, why would you be interested in that?
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Women will deadass get ghosted by some Conservative frat boy Chad after getting pump and dumped and immediately become feminist communists overnight lmao
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>>34565898
I find it hard to choose between 1 and 4, which are the two that would be most compatible with me.

I care a lot about other stuff though. Mainly for a partner if they are honest/open and reliable, committed to the relationship. For a friend I just need to enjoy their company so a 2 might even win, if being artistic and a precise/deep thinker means they can and like to share personal and interesting thoughts. I would not be able to deal with a life partner who is very dependent on the approval of others, though.
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>>34565930
>slutty weedlmao party boys are conservative men
Intredasting, I never made the connection
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>>34565921
I also think that it will be somewhat case dependent because how those attributes focus into action, be that negatively or positively, will be highly individual.
A choleric person can lean more towards being principled or protective but can also lean into a more persecuting and controlling manner of behaving for example.
I personally consider myself to more much more of the former than the latter, but people are hardly an accurate judge of themselves in entirety.
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>>34565922
Women fetishize being neurotic prudes during sex and it's quite annoying
No wonder they like being raped it's the only time they're allowed to not overthink
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>>34565924
Is the fact that 1 is a pale overweight person ok with you? Yes that's how these people typically manifest.
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>>34565831
It can definitely be both, that's the hard thing. It can very much be used as an excuse, it is not rare for people to look back on their life and realize they hid behind arguments or perceived obstacles that ultimately were just fear. After all, another person cannot save or heal you, but at the same time it is not like you stop developing in a relationship and have to park any personal growth. In a very good relationship, personal growth is made a lot easier than it otherwise would have been.

At the same time, of course if you are dead ass depressed and literally cannot feel a spark of joy in the company with this person, or if you are in the midst of active addiction or nearly psychotic or whatever, it is very much a good idea not to rush into a new relationship as it will be too hard and is probably just an attempt to patch something up that has nothing to do with them (so it won't work either). Plus the people you attract when you are actively in mental suffering tend to not be the healthiest themselves.

Only you can make the judgment call and it is a learning process to tell intuition and gut feeling apart from reflexive fears, especially as a personal normally quite avoidant.
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What is wrong with men?
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>>34565543
Yep, though it's notable that I'm only attracted to men with twink-ish looks (no body hair, no overly angular facial features, skinny, etc.). I have a strong aversion to what I consider excessive physical masculinity. Then again, I am more attracted to effeminate men than to women.
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>>34565947
>What is wrong with men?
Women.
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>>34565939
The only reason it gets fetishized in any way is because most women cannot act on their sexual urges as much as they'd like if they want to avoid getting a bad reputation, so then yeah it makes sense to idolize being hard to get and not sexually "easy" in any way. It is not easy to just shed that attitude the second you get into a mutual relationship.

And you are unironically right that historically rape fantasies have often been a loophole for women to fantasize about sex that in a way does not demean their own character (because they did not want it and are passive).

That said you might also just underestimate how rampant insecurities are. I have also known men who were shy about receiving head because being in the focus so much made it harder to relax and enjoy, not get stuck in your head.
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>>34565943
Of course, I'm also a pale fatty and both of the men I dated were pale and fat. My only issue is that type 1 men will seek bpdemons to cheat with once they have their boring pale fat wife secured at home
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>>34565898
nobody likes number 2
:(
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>>34565951
>I'm also a pale fatty
How fat? Stats? Height weight and what does the body look like? How big the tits?
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>>34565937
White frat boys are overwhelmingly Republican, yes.
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>>34565950
In 2026 where are you getting this shame from?
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>>34565952
I do! As I commented I would not be able to deal with an anxious people pleaser for a life partner, but reading the descriptions if I had to make a choice for a conversation or chance meeting with any, 2 sounds most interesting to me just to spend time with.
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>>34565952
Literally the first reply had 2 as the first one
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>>34565952
Is that you? I'll tell you how 2 typically embodies. Skinny, recessed chin. Has small meals, maybe many every day.
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>>34565955
They're probably mostly apolitical
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>>34565957
what if I change and stop being a people pleaser? (I'm trying to change actually)
>>34565962
I don't have a recessed chin, everything else is accurate yeah...
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>>34565956
For the record I have never personally had an isssue with receiving oral, but I am no stranger to sexual shame at large. I am on the older side (now 33) so that might matter for your perception but still I grew up in an outwardly very sex positive time, where if anything there was pressure on girls to "not be a bitch" and put out fairly easily/quickly. At the same time though it was always very mixed. I remember my best guy friend in high school telling me that he would not want to date a virgin because "they are so clingy and just get obsessed with you", but in the same breath he added that of course nobody wanted to "date a used up condom". It was very weird to get such mixed messages that you were supposed to be free and fun and experiment, but if it was ~too much (which different men will have different opinions on) you were a lowlife slut that only served to be the punchline in jokes.

I could list many more examples but they all come down to the same thing, that there was a very conflicted attitude and while a lot of it was very sex positive/sexualized, shaming was still there.
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My pee still smells like asparagus :(
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>>34565965
>what if I change and stop being a people pleaser? (I'm trying to change actually)
That would definitely change everything for me. I can deal with anxiety, am pretty anxious myself so I can relate and I have experience in how to deal with it. But I grew up in a household where conflict was avoided at all costs, including not acknowledging some pretty fucking toxic shit, so I grew into a person who is quick to speak up and someone who wants to keep the peace too much would just not be compatible with me.
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>>34565967
No no one's surprise, when women have a lot of options and are in a city with a lot of rich men, they... well, they reveal their true selves.
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>>34565967
It sounds ridiculous to me but then again, I've never even been in the US, he was specifically asking if this is a common expectation there and I have no clue about that (or stuff like how safe it is to use public transport at night in those areas as a woman).
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>>34565928
regarding the fear of him cutting me out it was an unfounded fear triggered by God knows what. unpredictable behavioral patterns, not in a toxic way at least, not as far as I could tell anyway, I simply never had a good grasp of his way of thinking, and when he was emotionally triggered his thought process was completely irrational and he did would think and behave in ways that made no sense at all, he would usually shut down and fear the most unlikely extreme scenarios, and when he isn't emotionally triggered he would mostly disregard caution altogether. he wasn't an irrational person, he is quite intelligent, but it's like some weird tunnel-vision and I used to have the same issue but in regards to different things. I think he had a similar childhood attachment style to mine, and this is probably why I had patience for this seemingly irrational behavior. nevertheless he's an adult and should work on these issues.
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>>34565965
The recessed chin can be subtle. Ghislane maxwell qualifies as melancholic, she doesn't have a crazy recessed chin, but it's there.
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women who smoke are the best!

Just found out beabadoobee smokes cigs and that makes her hotter! i would fuck her!!!
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>>34565979
do you even smoke though?
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>>34565980
Nope. Smoking is disgusting but it still makes me HORNY.
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>>34565979
Slow suicide is everything but hot. Also yellow teeth, bad smell...
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>>34565974
oh wow, must protect le women from le danger of paying for their own uber
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>>34565966
Okay but I've seen married women in their 30s say they'd rather die than ask their husband to eat pussy and at some point it's their fault for not working through that
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State gender
Do you have anxiety? If so, how do you fight it?
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>>34565976
Probably from sucking her thumb as a child. >>34565979
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>>34565987
F
Yes
I have a three page document full of ways to fight it and structure my days around reducing anxiety
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>>34565944
It is supposed to be good luck.
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>>34565987
Define Anxiety
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>>34565982
then step aside, that girl belongs to smokers with big dicks like me
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>>34565962
What does a recessed chin look like?
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>>34565898
M
I am answering my own question
3 1 2 4
3 because she has money, i am a bum with not enough income.
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>>34565991
I am really anxious lately. Do you have any tips that might help?
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>>34565985
I mean first and foremost you are just right that if someone wants to experience a sex act and their own hang ups get in the way, that is their job to work through (and it is not rare for people to do that naturally with feeling more comfortable in time).

If the issue is asking with a partner you are actually married to, though, I would guess the issue is less that they literally do not want to ask and more that they desire it so much at that point that they are unsure if they can actually emotionally deal with hearing out loud that he does not want to. Which IS pretty likely if you have been dating long term, successfully to the point of getting married, and the whole act has never come up. You can ask but then you are just betting on the off chance that he is fine with it but does not like it enough to ever feel like doing it or even bringing it up all that time... Of course it is irrational because if you are married and monogamous, whether you find out sooner or later, you will just have to deal with his limits and boundaries. But people are often irrational when it comes to emotional topics and I do understand wanting to put off finding out if you will ever feel a mouth on your pussy again in your lifetime.
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>>34565970
oh yeah I grew up in a household like that, you could feel the tension in the air every time my dad came back from work
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>>34565898
M
2 > 4 > 1 > 3
2 is who I'm dating right now and I like her a lot
3 is who I was for a very long time and I wouldn't want to date a female version of that me
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>>34565987
M
yes
i don't fight it i just embrace it
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>>34565996
You can see it in the side profile. This guy has that.
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>>34565984
Don't be a dick for the sake of it, you know I am talking about the risk of being assaulted. It's not that rare for women to not use public transport at all after a certain time or in certain areas to avoid that.
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>>34565987
M
yes
>how do you fight it
I smoke
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>>34566006
Is that supposed to look bad?
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>>34565952
Is this a joke?
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>>34565987
F
I take burning hot bubble baths until I get dizzy. That's what I am doing rn.
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>>34566011
Hot.
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>>34566007
yeah, I wasn't the anon, sorry. I guess women in NYC can afford to pay 3k a month for rent but can't take ubers to see the men they're supposedly SO INTERESTED in.
please give everyone a break ffs.
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>>34566009
It looks fine. Personally i find many women with that beautiful.
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>>34566010
no?
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>>34565987
F, yeah, for me it was never so crippling that I was unable to work or go outside or whatever but definitely known to anxiety. For me part of it was exposure, shitty as it is, just going through it again and again and proving to yourself that you will survive even if it feels like you won't. Or that even if a personal worst case scenario happens, you will still live.

But in terms of deliberate tactics to "use", for me the most helpful thing was embracing that there are very scared and vulnerable parts of me and I should treat those with more kindness and patience, more acceptance, instead of getting angry with myself for being anxious in the first place. When it concerns another person, we find it easy to understand that flipping on them for being anxious will only make them more anxious, no matter how "justified". But most people still find it very difficult to let it sink in that they cannot expect themselves to learn from a harsh attitude, either. Even just something as simple as (out loud or not) telling yourself "oh I'm really anxious, well, it's fine, it'll all be okay", not trying to suppress it but paying it deliberate attention, can be very relaxing.

For a longer term I very much recommend meditation (guided or otherwise) to help you find a place inside where you feel safe. Experiencing that more and more often will make it easier to feel that 'centredness' and just being safe with yourself in other situations, eventually even pretty scary situations.
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>>34566015
I was asking cus that guy looks pretty good and I thought you posted him as an example of someone ugly
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>>34566001
This is in fact not a situation where "what if he says no" applies
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>>34566014
As I said I'm not exactly native to the area. You make a good point that it is unlikely that anyone unable to afford an Uber (semi-regularly) probably also cannot afford living in NY in the first place.
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>>34566020
Nah, i am just going deeper into the archetypes i described initially
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>>34565999
Well first make sure you know why you’re feeling that way. Are you hungry, tired, thirsty, lonely, etc. then Look up TIPP, Butterfly taps, containment exercises. Find something that works for you for the short term moment. Then start looking into long term things, fixing your sleep, diet, moving your body, maybe therapy
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>>34566021
I don't know, I still feel divided. On the one hand yeah it is a really good thing in life to know how to ask for what you want and it does mean getting it much more often. At the same time I don't know the context, I think there is a big difference between saying it is humiliating having to ask like in general, at all, or meaning "he hasn't made any move towards that area for years and now I have to spell it out that I would also like attention there?". The second I can understand would feel humiliating to some.

I don't think this attitude in your picture is actually that common but maybe I am biased because of the people I know, plus by far most online communities that discuss sex being progressive for all the obvious reasons.
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>>34566022
the point is that women there most definitely can afford it, they'd just rather use men and make them pay because they're women and inherendly privileged in such an environment.
Not exclusive to NYC.
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Just get her a limo
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>>34565953
BMI of 22 with 0 muscle tone, like picrelated but deflated thighs and no ass. I was overweight for around a year and there were no notable physical changes while gaining or losing the weight, my natural shape is just that of a fat 50 year old
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imagine ever supporting nyc in any capacity. what a fucking shithole.
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>>34566036
Maybe not ideal, but i probably am attracted to that. I used to be tall an skinny, i added some muscle and fat to that to look more normal.
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>>34566016
Literally the first reply ranked 2 first, and two other replies ranked it second.
Seemed like you were acting up the stereotype
>Anxious, dependent on the approval of others, very pessimistic.
as a joke,
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god this entire thread reeks of reddit.
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Are you guys done arguing about ragebait from Reddit and Twitter
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>>34566042
I didn't read the replies to be fair
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>>34566040
GREATEST CITY IN THE WORLD!!!! HICKS STAY MAD!!!
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>>34566046
That's not fair.
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>>34566045
NEVER
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>>34566049
anyone who is truly sentient (possessing awareness) would never actually recommend NYC to anyone. it literally smells like garbage and piss. i couldn't find a place where it didn't smell like both. it's honestly hell on earth.
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>>34566045
That ragebait is rooted in reality. Otherwise people wouldn't relate to it and it wouldn't make them emotional. Ragebait isn't formed in a vacuum.
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>>34566045
That's literally all 4chan is nowadays though
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4chan is just shittier reddit
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I'm cold :(
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>>34566063
"ragebait" is a meaningless term to disengage yourself from having to converse with someone.

virtually everyone online says im ragebaiting but im really just speaking the raw honest truth. which most people hate because it breaks their ideas of how things are and should be. breaks down their ego. i have an ego too we all do but honesty is something most people hate.

but if you're honest it's ragebait.
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>>34566045
Yes, bring on the Tiktok PUA ads
>Moids, why do you never approach us females anymore?! We're crying and begging!
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>>34566069
*throws a snowball at you*
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>>34566014
I actually get weirdly shy around someone I am EXTREMELY interested in. I know it's totally backassward but I can't actually help it •́︿•̀
I have been working on my extroversion in these type scenarios, mentally... I think I would show my light if I was in that situation again instead of shyly ignore.
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>>34566036
Bulking season? Take a walk or do some push ups
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>>34566074
that hurts
;((
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>>34566075
you get weirdly shy when the waitress brings the bill and until after the guy pays for everything and puts you on an Uber.
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>>34566062
>smells like garbage and piss
It really does. Boston also smells like piss but not quite as garbagey as NYC.
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Desu I don't think I've been to any city that doesn't smell like piss.
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>>34566091
Even the famously clean Tokyo smells like trash.
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Cities don't smell like anything if there's wind, you inland losers
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>>34566091
charlotte north carolina but the problem with that "city" is that its more or less a collection of suburbs and the actual city itself is just businesses. there's nothing there. the usa will never have real cities like tokyo. not that you would want one because even japanese cities are not truly good. they only seem that way. cities are hell.

the problem with anything humanity makes in this world is they will never make it the right way. utopian cities will never happen.
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>>34566094
>if there's wind
I could just live somewhere that never smells like piss
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>>34566098
Anywhere you happen to be smells of piss.
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>>34566104
>>34566098
In my case the smell always comes from my own undewear area
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>>34566030
I'm not talking about what's best I'm saying there's a lot of women who fetishize this prudish personality where sex is something that is done to them but they are not responsible for
Idk maybe you're different any you have the niche where women aren't afraid to ask their husband to eat them out or cum on their face or call them a slur, but reading women's dissatisfaction in sex most aren't giving the guy any clue in why and at some point it feels like it's a kink by itself
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Every trip I've had to a city was fine but I can't imagine long term being that close to strangers forever
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>>34565930
Any moid that has premarital sex is not conservative. Ya'll are just demons.
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Do Americans really not drink instant coffee? It's so convenient.
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>>34565898
BacterialVaginosis is 1 by the way. But 1 can be a much better person than she is in other cases.
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wauw I love water so much :D
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Not my problem not my problem!
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Stop disrespecting my holy waqf known as Mamdanistine
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I want visible ribs
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>>34566116
I do drink instant coffee every morning but I wish I had the time for a fancy espresso machine setup
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>>34566116
Maybe they do, I don't drink coffee because it makes me feel like I'm going to die so I wouldn't know.
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I don't know where to ask this but I think this is the best place to get advice straight from the source.

I'm really into ugly girls like not just obese but ones that would be repulsive to most men, real sewer dwellers. I have never seen one IRL or on dating apps but I really want a relationship with someone I can be attracted to.
So annons where can I find people like you?
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>>34566122
I have that it just looks ugly
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Girls: would you rather date a rapist or a murderer
Guys: would you rather date a false accuser or a murderer
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>>34566122
We can pivot the discussion into starvation tips if you want
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>>34565831
It's a cop out.
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>>34566122
Why though
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>>34566130
well I don't think it looks ugly
>>34566132
yes please!
>>34566134
why wouldn't you want visible ribs?
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>>34566131
>would you rather date a rapist or a murderer
Rapist? No.
Murderer? Yes.
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>>34565898
F
I would say I'm 1 and that's also my ideal partner. 2 for a friend. I don't think I'd get along with 3 in any sense and 4 doesn't seem like a good influence.
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>>34566131
It depends on who she murdered.
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>>34566062
>>34566086
I think Paris is much worse in this regard, honestly.
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>>34566136
>why wouldn't you
I do have them. What's the appeal for you?
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>>34566116
I drink it just about every day that I go to work, and I even make it with an electric kettle wow.
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>>34566144
Maybe like someone who bullied her or a shitty parent or something
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Why do women play more games than me, a Gamer
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>>34566132
go on
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>>34566150
Well, these are two horrible options and neither one is something I would ever do. I don't think I could get over murder. Maybe if she was really sorry about falsely accusing somebody I could get over that.
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>>34566131
murderer, there's very valid reasons to kill someone, there's not one valid reason to rape someone
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>>34566146
I just want to be comfortable with my body
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why do people think I was raped?
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>>34566161
cause your sexuality is all fucked up
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It’s okay to make mistakes in life

Right?
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What does it mean when someone who has frequently expressed distaste for your journaling and their paranoia that you're writing bad things, suddenly tells you after an argument that they're going to start journaling, and then they make it a point to come into the room you're already in and start journaling?
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>>34566163
If you learn from them and don't make a habit of making the mistakes, yeah.
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>>34566163
fucking up is an inherent, unavoidable part of the path to success
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>>34566164
What? Is this your mom?
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>>34566163
greatly depends on the mistake
make brownies that turn out bone dry and hard af? not that big of a deal
running someone's child over? big deal
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>>34566136
>yes please!
Make a spreadsheet for calulating calories in food and make meals that have the highest volume and lowest calories. If you get hungry, no you arent. Dont eat. After a few weeks you wont be able to notice anymore. Eat more fiber and protein, they make you more full

i was able to manage 600-800 a day for 5 months
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>>34566164
they want you to feel like they feel, namely like they are writing bad things about you in there and you're not allowed to read them
but you already knew that
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>>34566163
As long as you don’t make the same ones over and over again, yes
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>>34566167
No
>>34566171
I did, but needed the confirmation, because if I point it out, they'll tell me I'm crazy, that they're just journaling in their own home, and whatever other excuse makes them out to be reasonable and me unreasonable. Thanks.
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>>34566170
so how much have you gained back?



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