sounds like you've watched too much porn and your brain is fucked and needs to reboot.
watch gary wilson "your brain on porn" to get a better idea of what happened and good luck.

I made this post:
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Then this thread:
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And now a bunch of posts basically ripping off the gist of mine are appearing. wtf

>>34565367
Give up porn completely and forever. In a year or so, things will be going much better.

>>34565431
This is like one of the most posted topics here, you think you're original?

>>34565441
The world revovles around me, yes. When I show up everything reflects me. This is undeniable. I'm fine with getting an answer indirectly I guess. Just strange. Pronoia activated, my thread was not going to get results but Iw anted an answer, so the universe made something that would.

>>34565419
Yeah...
I usually came on average three times a day, to copious amounts of porn. My dick is so numb...
I explained this to the girl and she is fine with it, but she really wants to taste my cum...sigh...I feel like I'm disappointing her, at least I'm good with my fingers, tongue and sex...but I just can't cum and my dick goes soft making actual penis in vagina sex ironically hard.
>>34565440
She sends me porn too, lmfao, I can't win. Would two weeks be enough...? We see each other every fortnight.
It's bad because she also sends me photos of herself to cum to and begs me to do so...yes, yes, my steak is too juicy, my lobster too buttery but I'm seriously frustrated that I'm not meeting her expectations.

>>34565367
You need to quit porn my guy. I quit cold turkey about a month ago and I can cum with my girl. But it takes some time and foreplay to get hard. And getting soft in the middle still happens sometimes. It’s a healing process brother. The smartest thing to do would be start it now. Delete all ur porn and bookmarks today.

>>34565709
Thanks. I should...but she sends me stuff too lol. Do I stop masturbating too? Just do it with imagination? I've tried really softly masturbating with two fingers with my non-dominant hand but I think it's just mental when I'm doing it with her. I'm really nervous with other people around me.

>>34565715
I stopped cumming at all unless I’m with her. Idk if that’s necessary though. You might be fine still jerking off occasionally as long as you aren’t death gripping your shit. Cause that will cause issues too. I kinda went scorched earth on my porn consumption and jerking off cause my first time with this girl I couldn’t get it up at all and that shit was a terrible experience for me.
Also mental is definitely part of it too. My advice would be to stay in the moment. Lots of foreplay. Don’t stay doing one thing for too long cause you’ll get bored and start thinking too much about ur boner. Just try to be in the moment and touch her and kiss her all over. Don’t rush the process. And tell her what stuff turns you on. You don’t have to be the only one trying to make the other feel good. When you think less about making sure she feels good and more about you wanting to feel good it seems like the dick responds a bit more at least for me.

>>34565544
>Would two weeks be enough...?
No. You need to be thinking in terms of months or even years.

>>34565431
>muscles in the perineum seize up

you need to get her to massage them until they relax. you'll be losing your ropes in no time

>>34566043
Too awkward at this point tbqh. Probably going to just not bother with sex. Pretty much I'm decent at self hypnosis and when I'm doing whatever I split into pieces. One part is sent forward and can believe and experience whatever it wants as true (which gives the illusion of high suggestbility to others), and the other part watches over it to make sure it doesn't do anything too stupid while I figure out what's what. I suppose I finally just had to "wake up" about why any of it was even happening in the first place.

>>34565709
>getting soft in the middle
I'm 34 and have had this issue recently with random hookups. I found if I keep my hand around the base of my penis as I go in and out of her, it helps keep me hard. Which further convinces me it is just my dick being way too used to my hands. I've been single for 10 years and am very close to getting into a relationship with a younger girl. I'm terrified I won't live up to her expectations. But I am extremely attracted to her so I think that will help.

>>34565367
Porn is better.

>>34565367
You have trained yourself to respond to the specific tactile sensations (tightness, roughness, rhythms) of your masturbation.

>>34565544
>she really wants to taste my cum
Masturbate into her mouth while watching porn. I did that with my ex because she couldn't make me cum from blowjob, so I'd literally feed her cum. Mostly without porn but a couple times with.
It feels like a huge flex to watch another girl and fantasize about her, while having your own loving girl slobber on your cock eagerly waiting to swallow. And my girl did love to swallow my cum.
Recommend this to her, don't listen to all the people who tell you to quit porn. It's not about porn, it's an emotional issue. If you love your gf and feel comfortable around her, you will cum with her. If you don't feel comfortable around her, maybe you should turn gay or find another girl that you do feel comfortable with. Or, try to work on creating desire between you and her again.

>>34565367
girl with a dick is probably more up your alley. or simply a dude.

>>34566102
I’m 29 and also just started hooking up with a younger girl. The first time was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life(just could not get hard at all). I just ate her out for awhile but still I felt like less of a man. She was just so cool and understanding about it I kinda fell in love. Since then we’ve hooked up 4 times and my boner and confidence gets better each time. My advice would be to get your head off of it and just be in the moment
Also I’ve been working out and doing cardio cause my energy and fitness just isn’t there right now which probably is related to the getting soft issue. Not sure if that applies to you though.

>>34566962
I do agree it's likely a being comfortable thing too. When you're younger everything is just newer and more fun and less worried about shit in your head. The anxiety of life starts really kicking in 30+ ... it definitely is my cardio too yeah, I'm kind of chub. I lift weights but dogshit cardio. It's probably just a mix of everything. Modern age cocktail, no pun intended.

All things considered, porn probably doesn't help either. Or jorkin it.

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>>34565367
You fried your dopamine receptors. Cut off porn completely, go easy on brainrot conteng and doom scrolling acrivities and you will heal.

>>34566962
Not being able to perform is not your issue, she gotta work better on her charm and your dick would be rock hard

>>34568694
honestly there's probably some truth to this
I love her but she's very shy and her attempts to be sexy often end up being awkward and cute
one time she was trying to jerk me off while we were making out but was basically hammer fisting my balls until I grabbed her hand away
But I'm also awkward and find it hard to verbalize the things I want her to do so I think it's just something we'll get better at the more we're together

>>34565367
it's only a problem of you're fucking her raw

Hey dude, maybe you're just too anxious while fucking and that's why you can't cum. If you're all nervous and worried about what she thinks of your body/dick/strokes it's going to be hard to let it fly.

>>34565431
>And now a bunch of posts basically ripping off the gist of mine are appearing. wtf
yeah 8.3bn people in the world and you're the only one this ever happens to, you're so special anon

>>34565367
My dream is to find a girl that doesn’t take it personally if I don’t cum. I honestly don’t really give a shit if the girl gets off or not either, orgasm is the “main part” for most people but I find cumming to be boring and too much effort. The fun part of sex is the act itself not the ending.

>>34565367
lmao cuck

>>34565367
Here’s some legit advice anon. Have her ride you while you masturbate the base of your dick with your hand. Once you cum doing this you’ll regain confidence. It’s a long process as porn recovery is an absolute bitch.

>>34569606
I am...
>>34571242
Hm...I'll try...
>>34569620
I'm naturally a nervous person. Wtf do I do bro?

I’m 34 with a similar issue, I have high anxiety and nerves when I’m about to have sex. I tried taking CBD once to see f it helped me calm down and it did, but I still went soft right before I put it in. Unfortunately we’re not together anymore so I can’t explore that theory but does anyone have some suggestion to help me calm down and not get so anxious during sex?

>>34571746
I'm the OP and I'm 25 vro...we're cooked.

>>34571752
Could be anxiety, I always treated sex as a big deal and always felt like I had to make sure she was happy no matter what which puts a ton of pressure on me. I didn’t have sex for the first time until I was 23 and that was just putting my dick in. It didnt happen again until I was 27. Point is I’ve always been super anxious with intimacy and vunerablity which you don’t have to worry about with porn, you can go as slow or fast as you want, and you won’t get judged or berated for it

>>34571752
You’re likely just nervous. I’d take things very slow and let her take the lead. You’re already pleasuring her so she knows it’s not a her issue. I’d recommend hanging out in the nude with her more often so you get comfortable with the setting - even fully soft watching TV while chatting. It’s normal to be naked and seen by your significant other - once you get over this hump you should feel more confident. The fact that she seems understanding is a big green flag.

>>34571752
I dunno, maybe the longer you stay together and the more sex you have, the more you get used to her and the less anxious you'll be? Do tell her that it's an anxiety issue though. It's probably a real ego blow that she can't make her boyfriend cum.

>>34571936
She's really understanding, it's fine. She did say that she feels useless and didn't do a good job when I haven't cum but she has once and nearly twice in the same session with me, but I said it was about the journey not the destination lol

>>34565367
so stop watching porn and then keep trying to cum inside and one day it will happen