i feel like actually roping, i feel like i let go of my soulmate because i was afraid of commitment. she was my first true love of 6+ years. i felt fine for the first 3 months out of the breakup, now i feel like im about to die. like someone is dumping hot lava coals over my head 24/7 and i cant do anything and i can barely get out of bed. she was the only person that ever loved me unconditionally. my parents and friends never got it, even though they werent the biggest fans of her. she was beyond based and knew me better than myself. i threw it away because i wanted freedom, i feel like she was keeping me away from my friends and hobbies. i did sacrifice a good amount of that for her but i never felt satisfied and im selfish. i signed up for therapy because i know i have a whole bunch of shit i need to heal (especially with my parents)i cant forgive myself for thinking the grass is greener. i tried talking to friends and family about it and they mentioned that i wasnt myself while i was with her, she was toxic and controlling but i think they are all wrong bc they didnt have the emotional realness like she did, and i honestly feel my parents and friends just didnt understand what we had. she wasnt asking for much. throughout the majority of the relationship i had a little demon on my shoulder saying this doesn't feel right and you shouldnt be together so you can do your own thing. holy shit i might just call her up and offer a ring and we can move across the country and start over
>>34566329>please tell me dumpers regret goes awayIt does. And you will get another chance at love.Just ride this out till the feeling vanishes. Never rope over a girl.
>>34566387thank you it doesn't feel like i ever will, i just want to find peace at this current moment. love would be a bonus
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>>34566329If even your family and friends validate your decision, don’t worry about it. You might have had the best intentions, but in the end you were not compatible. Just live your single life happily. Once you meet the one, you‘ll truly realise the grass is greener. You will start appreciating life in a totally new way. You got this man
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>>34566329Sorry, anon. When you dump someone for the right reasons, you get over it quickly, of course. But in this situation, you'll still be regretting it on your death bed.
>>34566329I was just thinking of a girl I dumped in 2003 and how dumb I was so no
>>34566329You were told she is toxic & the relationship was bad because of codependency, you and her depended on each other for everything to the point you wouldn't hang out with friends or do your hobbies. You felt suffocated and wanted out.Now that you're out, everyone will tell you that you made the right choice. But you will notice those people who say it are not married. And the ones who are married you will notice they do the same thing, they ditched their friends and hobbies to focus on building a family. So what does it all mean?It's a life lesson is what it is. The lesson is: When you are in a committed long-term relationship, anyone who tries to poke their nose into it should fuck off. Anyone who gives you unsolicited opinions about your gf/wife/relationship is someone who is trying to destroy your future. Next time you are in a relationship, have boundaries.
>>34566741Based AF, thank you for your post. Not OP but excellently worded. Wish I could show this to several people.
>>34566741Not necessarily. If you are trapped I'm a relationship that is based on a foundation of lies and manipulations by a narcissist who decieved you and you are finally seeing what happened them absolutely it is the right decision to leave that narc and get your life back that was taken from you.
>>34566329it's okay bro, i also have commitment issues and dumped a beatiful teacher, because of that. I reached out again some days back after the 3 months over period, she's already dating a new dude. it'll be like that.But in my case she was kind and gentle. If she was a controlling bitch and toxic, better to dump it nigga
>>34566329> i feel like she was keeping me away from my friends and hobbies. i did sacrifice a good amount of that for herwhat exactly do you mean by this?sounds toxic af
>>34566329breaking up with someone is infinitely worse than being broken up with. i did the same thing you did. getting closer to 3 months now and it feels worse and worse every day, and it doesn't help that i'm just numb with loneliness now. she begged for me to come back too.
