i met a man who typically isnt my type and hes head over heels for me. im not sure how attracted i am to him physically but emotionally hes perfect and personality wise i like him quite a bit. can u build a strong relationship without that level of physical attraction when its kind of important to you?
>>34567271Just cheat on him sister everyone does it
>>34567289i dont think cheating is something i could ever do. we're not in a relationship yet, but we both want to be in one.. im just unsure if im ready
Encourage him to exercise.
>>34567271>can u build a strong relationship without that level of physical attraction when its kind of important to you?People can have very different values, so no one can really answer this but you. I could totally overlook someone's appearance if I thought they were perfect for me emotionally/mentally, but I also consider appearance secondary to personality, so this might not be true for you. I've certainly known people who wouldn't be able to do it.If you really consider him emotionally "perfect", I would give the relationship a go, because I find people perfect in any aspect to be exceedingly rare.
>>34567271Elaborate with context and all as to how and why?You coworkers?You both met at some DnD thing?You both met at the gym and he's fucking fat?You stalking his shit?We need more to know how to help you.And if you truly think he's head over heels for you, or if he's just being polite.
>>34567321cant give too much context as he is also a channer and idk what boards he usesbut i know he is bc he called me and told me so but was inebriated typically ive been attracted to men who are more confident and casual. a bit more ironic and what not but hes very down to earth and sweet. hes incredibly kind to me and im unsure if im just liking the attention or if im liking him. we met through a mutual hobby.
>>34567271No, if it's important to you, then it is important to you
>>34567271sounds like me and my wifeyes, it's entirely possible
>>34567271If you are attracted to the person inside the packaging, you come to find the packaging attractive.
Well if you get to know him better and find out more that you like about him, and possibly even grow to love him over time, you might find that he becomes more physically attractive to you
>>34567271A woman can
>>34567271what do you think is hot physically for a man
>>34567271I did this in the past, everything about him was perfect expect the physique. At first I got over it but had to leave the relationship after a year with a lot of pain because I loved him but I couldn’t enjoy the physical aspect. He isn’t even bad looking, actually looked very handsome he was just not my type. Avoid both of you the pain and get a partner that ticks all your boxes. You also deserve a partner you’re head over heels for.
>>34567271>im not sure how attracted i am to him physically>im unsure if im just liking the attention or if im liking himIt sounds like you do know, if I'm honest.I've never had a relationship work where we didn't both want to have sex constantly at the beginning.While there is some truth in>>34567953I've found this issue usually applies to people who've been in a relationship a while and the constant desire has naturally waned. In these instances it can often be rekindled with enough effort, but a lack of physical attraction even before you've had sex is, to me, worrying.If your issue with his physical appearance is something he can change - weight, strength, physique etc - might be worth mentioning this to him. No better motivation to move your ass than a girl you want delivering an ultimatum. If it is something else, his face, height, dick etc, you only stand to make him feel bad by highlighting it.
>>34567271>i met a manyou gay.
>>34567271More into the bad boy type?
>>34567379women are supposed to be the object, not the man, no offense. it's why you all doll yourselves up, why makeup is a multi billion dollar industry, etc. there was some study that 80% of men are rated unattractive by women, while it's 50/50 men rating women, do the mathyou sound like a good girl, I hope it works out for you 2
>>34568620>I've never had a relationship work where we didn't both want to have sex constantly at the beginning.this statement is contradictory. if that type of relationship actually worked you wouldn't have had more than one.
Read Schopenhauer's essay on phisiognomy. You need to read him better, since a lot of the time the exterior is a mirror of the interior.
>>34567271no. you need to be physically attracted to your partner, unless you wanna end up getting written about in r/deadbedrooms. don't listen to the idiotic miserable moids here please they give nothing but horrible advice and hate you
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>im not sure how attracted i am to him physicallyI'd fuck him to see if I like the sex. How else will you find out if you're physically attracted?
how long have you known them for? I see most people as neutral looking at first. Eventually I see people as attractive, since I get used to their looks and associate it with their personality. So long as you don't find him super ugly I don't see harm in sticking it out.
hang out with the guy more and see, you're not under pressure to choose immediately. some people become more physically attractive the more familiar you are with them, so spend time with him and watch if anything clicks for you
>>34567271There is nothing worse than someone that is with you but have no deep primal desire for you. It's obvious he is not your type. If it's something he can change, tell him. If not, just move on.
