I can't make friends because I've gotten so used to being alone. I'm extroverted in public because I learned it got me opportunities. But I feel like I've always been an introvert. I had to learn to be independent because it was the only way to get out of homelessness. Literally anytime I've ever asked for help, I've always been let down by my parents, teachers, the police, coworkers, school projects, etc. I can succeed well in life because I've developed military-like work ethic, but it has left me very lonely. I can't connect or be bothered to connect with anybody at all
>>34567580I'll be your friend.
>>34567580>Literally anytime I've ever asked for help, I've always been let downMan reading that made me real sad. I'm assuming you had friends growing up? Making adult friends isn't that different.
>>34567883yeah i did. i think theres only like 2 i can really say would help me in a pinch. i tried getting some people at work to hang out. one would make plans then not follow through on them (he doesnt even say anything, he just doesnt do it and says nothing about it). the other person was mildly interested but would only hang out if it was in a really convenient area for them (so not really that interested)
>>34567580Best way to do it is trying, don’t be afraid to try, do your best and also check out a bit of therapy maybe. Start reaching out to people, start interacting, talking, going out. You’ll feel weird at first but you’ll get there eventually you’ll be like a fish in water. I currently started falling in love with someone who’s a bit like this and I suspect he is learning again to be less “alone”. He’s very independent and I’m very “dependant” and social. As long as he’s trying and doing his best I will be there during his process, I’m sure those who love you and know you will feel the same while you’re in your process.
>>34568937My honest advice as a fairly extraverted person is don't worry about other dudes being a bit flakey. Male friendships often start off very superficial. the more you hang out, the more you will get to know each other and possibly develop a real friendship.
>>34567580If you're constantly using afterburners to gun it at work you won't have fuel in the tank to connect with people. Also, people love whimsy, which is lacking when you're burnt out.
>I had to learn to be independent because it was the only way to get out of homelessness.This is me right now. I live in a group home for mentally ill people, I gratefully am on a pill that gets rid of my schizophrenia. I want to move out, but there is no circus net if I fail. Neither of my parents will allow me to live with them if I become homeless.
>>34572047samefag here.OP, were you actually homeless?
>>34567580I'm in a similiar situtation, though the difference is that the stakes weren't as high as yours. At this point i have a value system so disconnected from the people that surround me that i'd loathe them if i didn't know why.
>>34567580I seem to be in a similar place where I never "feel" alone and like 95% of my life is fine, but the other 5% is either about keeping me sane/grounded and that crushing feeling of no wife/children that I'll admit has that existential crisis feel that's not very fun.
>>34567580just be yourself. being dependent on others is for subhumans and they be avoided.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ&ra=m
