>>34567652
What do you do once you're in a friendship?
Do you just hang around in one spot and talk until you feel like going somewhere else and do the same then either eat or have sex in between? How do you know when to do what? Are you supposed to read the other person or take charge and do whatever you feel like doing? If it were up to me, I would just hang out with my dog in the woods or watch movies and chip away at creative projects or business endeavors all day everyday. How is another person supposed to fit into this?

Just add some flowers and sex.

>>34567652
Have sex occasionally and spend the rest of the time regretting the relationship. Pretend to like each other until you mostly do. Grow codependent. Die eventually.

You're supposed to do things with your gf or she will nag you to death.

>>34567652
You make plans.

>>34567838
You're supposed to *want* to do thing with your gf or you will feel nagged to death and miserable

>>34569120
such as?

>>34569267
what lingerie she will wear
when you'll have kids
where to travel
when she'll pick you up from the skatepark
what is for supper
how to self improve together
how she can make you happier
what time to go to the gym together
how to delete the local pitbull dog
which place to go hiking
how you're gonna dominate her as take care of her

>>34569304
I meant day to day activities.

>>34567652
when I had a bf we used to enjoy each others company, planned so much stuff to do together. Good times

>>34569324
nta but for us it's just hanging out talking (about books we're reading, or vidya, or just random shit), playing vidya togetehr, watching movies or yt, grilling in the summer or going swimming, occasionally going to concerts together etc.
but honestly most of the time at home we kind of ignore each other and do our own stuff in different rooms. no need to be together 24/7 every day.

>>34569446
>>34569425
All of it seems very arbitrary to me. How do you know when to do what? Do you just do off instinct? Like:
>I want to do *insert inconsequential leisurely activity*, wanna do it with me?
Especially because since I'm a guy I would have to take the initiative and make plans and everything. But I don't naturally gravitate towards social activities at all, so any plan I would always just be a shot in the dark since it's take-it-or-leave-it for me. Being around others is pretty draining.
How do other introverted people have relationships?

>>34569486
Idk how its arbitrary, if either one wants to do something they just suggest it, very simple. If you don't want to do anything then just hangout at home and don't do anything, simple.

>>34569496
It's arbitrary because all of it sounds to me like just lounging around at different locations and doing more or less nothing just with different set dressings.
Although I'm probably making it more complicated than it needs to be. I do think it's different for men and women though, since women aren't expected to take initiative. All of my female relatives and friends always rely on me or other guys in my social circle to come up with things to do and places to go, and I never really know, because there are infinite options and I don't particularly care for any of them, so it ends up being more about keeping the woman entertained.

>>34569540
I still don't see what's so hard about this for you, being in a relationship is not entirely different from being very good friends who are roomies.
You don't have to entertain anyone, but most people are aware that being fun to hang out with is a bonus for your friends or partner. If you feel like you're always the planner (I am assuming you're not just lying here to make yourself look like the victim) however then just find better people and stop gravitating towards shitty people, this is also simple.

>>34569486
I just wanted to have as many experiences together so I would get us tickets to concerts or plan trips, but yeah this wasnt day to day activities. We would just talk about the future and then planned it. He was my best friend and I wanted to share everything together... until he called me clingy, codependent ant we broke up. Maybe don't listen to me haha.

>>34569713
>He was my best friend and I wanted to share everything together
That's literally all I want. Soul bond with each other and build something bigger than ourselves together.
I've been thinking about it and I think all of the details don't matter if you like spending time with the person. In fact, how your days will be spent would entirely depend on how your personalities match up. It's just scary that I don't know what that will look like.

>>34569267
>such as?
Where shall we go today? What's for dinner? Should we see that movie tomorrow? Is it about time we went to visit your parents again? Did you want to try lateral position tonight?

>>34569943
>Did you want to try lateral position tonight?
not OP but holy shit that's a low test reply

>>34567652
Id imagine they become your new best friend and you now have something you'd want to do everything with. Because I have some friends i do stuff with but only certain things and now all the time because I dont wanna annoy them. If I had a gf I wouldn't worry about annoying them by asking them to do stuff with me because id assume they really like me, or love me, and wanna do stuff with me all the time too.
Wanna see a movie? Wanna try a restaurant? Wanna sit around and drink and listen to music? Wanna watch a new TV show?
But now invite your new gf over to do it with them also

>>34570142
OP here, thanks for the advice, see >>34569736
Consider the issue solved and the thread closed if you want.