Both the ones that are nice and the ones who are dicks.
>>34570133Pity, anger, and confusion.
>>34570133Some men will find you funny, others will not be bothered at all, and a few will definitely hate you for no reason. Most women, though, will hate you, which is why you need to mask it. That’s why there are a ton of autistic people not getting government benefits and not applying for affirmative action positions at companies (HR is full of women).
Bonus questions:What do they think if you're clearly functional and/or socialable?And how do you bring it up to a partner?>>34570168Why would they hate us?
>>34570182>What do they think if you're clearly functional and/or socialable?I am talking here about autistic people who are still relatively functional and sociable. If someone is severely impaired socially, life becomes much harsher. People usually will not go out of their way to mistreat them, partly out of pity or discomfort, but they also will not actively try to include them, build friendships, or connect with them in a meaningful way. They often end up quietly excluded rather than openly rejected. If you're sociable and functioning, most men will not care, as I said. Some will find you funny, because autistic people often have no common sense (LFMAO), which can come across as unintentionally comedic. Some men, on the other hand, will dislike you for no real reason at all, sometimes simply because you have a more innocent or unconventional outlook on life.>>34570182>Why would they hate us?Humans are social animals, and women tend to be more socially attuned than men. Because of that, they are often more sensitive to social status, group dynamics, and behavior that falls outside what is considered normal. Throughout history, survival depended heavily on belonging to a community, especially for people who were physically more vulnerable and relied more on cooperation, protection, and social stability. As a result, women will look down on people that present traits associated with social isolation or awkwardness, and even go as far as to isolate them, talk badly, gossip, treat them poorly, call it weirdo, creepy and so on...
I am sorry anon. Did you get diagnosed?
>>34570214>Some men, on the other hand, will dislike you for no real reason at all, sometimes simply because you have a more innocent or unconventional outlook on life.They sound like losers.Your part about women makes to much sense. I've experienced it. I've seen it. But I did also have some luck too. Do they even treat autistic women that way?
>>34570225I was. I was also the first time in a while I was talking to normal people my age who know my disability. I usually keep it to myself.
>>34570240>Do they even treat autistic women that way?Yes. A lot of autistic women are heavily bullied, excluded, talked about behind their backs. Since many female social groups bond through gossip, and unspoken rules, autistic women often struggle to navigate those dynamics because they usually dislike or fail to engage with that kind of behavior. That can make them easy targets for mockery, exclusion, or manipulation. In some rarer cases, they are "adopted" into a group as the "pet." But this is usually not genuine acceptance. More often, they are kept around because their awkwardness, isolation, or lower social status makes the others in the group feel prettier, more charismatic, or more socially competent by comparison. It is similar to the stereotype of a very attractive woman keeping a fat friend around because it elevates her own image within the social hierarchy.A lot of autistic women also end up having mostly male friends instead, but that can become its own problem. In many cases, those men want to get in their pants and are not actually looking for genuine friendship. Since autistic women can be socially naïve, lonely, or desperate for acceptance, they are often more vulnerable to these kinds of one sided dynamics and ulterior motives. I would even argue that true friendship between men and women does not really exist in nature, because attraction and sexual interest almost always end up entering the equation at some point, and having tons of males around will only decrease the chances of her finding an actual partner that genuinely loves her.
>>34570246>I usually keep it to myself.I understand how you feel, fren, and I am really sorry about whatever you've been through, I was not diagnosed, but I am sure of my pathology because I have self studied a bit of psychology, I keep it to myself and I will definitely not seek an official diagnosis unless I have something to gain from it (monetarily speaking).
Never tell anyone, there is no benefit to it
>>34570281>Never tell anyone, there is no benefit to itI would not say that. Tell your future partner when you are already in a relationship. That is, if you feel it is important mentioning. Otherwise it is something to take it to your grave.
>>34570240as an autistic woman, yes. all the memes about the "not like the other girls" girl? literally just about autistic girls. i never got along with other women until i exclusively hung out with other autistic women... which aren't exactly easy to find
>>34570264My SIL is autistic. She was diagnosed in her early 20s. Before that point she made friends better than almost anyone I have ever met, and was great at keeping them, too. She was very social and outgoing, even though she was also always a fucking asshole who was simultaneously super fragile. As soon as she got her diagnosis, she devolved into "oh I'm autistic, it's too hard to make friends," "why doesn't anyone understand that I don't like to hang out much because I'm autistic," "people need to accept that I say mean shit constantly because I'm autistic, but also need to walk on eggshells around me and never call me out on anything ever, because I'm autistic," "I need to wear sunglasses 24/7 even indoors and wear earmuffs all the time because sensory issues since I'm autistic".I feel like the concept of autism makes people give up and embrace being a piece of shit.Autistic hands typed this post, fwiw.
>>34570423>She was...>She was...I do not believe you. I have no way of knowing whether what you said is true. I have no way of verifying whether she received a valid diagnosis or whether the psychologist made an error. I also have no way of knowing whether she learned to mask it. Your personal experiences are not valid evidence, sorry.
>>34570423But I am glad you tried it. I just will not change my beliefs based on a text describing personal experiences on an imageboard. I wish you a good life, anon.
I'm a real autistic woman. I wasn't bullied at school. I wasn't socialable, but I had normal friends. I still think if the person is generally nice they will give you a chance. At least you're a woman.
>>34570454If only you knew. Everything I said is true and you reject it because you want to believe you have an excuse to not try. I fell into that trap for a while myself. Try aggressive rejection of autism. Gaslight yourself that you aren't autistic and that autism isn't real. I started doing that about 15 years ago and it has helped a decent amount. I'm still not Mr. Charisma or even not othered, but I am doing a lot better.
>>34570528>Everything I said is trueYou do not know if it is true. Specially for my last few affirmations about her diagnosis and masking.>you want to believe you have an excuse to not try.What I said about autism is simply the truth, not my opinion, it is based on years of research, psychology, and even an acute analysis of human action through philosophy. I did not tell anyone to give up, and I am not using this as an excuse not to try, I understand you want to help me, but I do not need your unsolicited advice, I was simply answering the OP's question>>34570133>What do normalfags think about people with autism?And I think I did answer that very accurately. Now, if you excuse me, I am going to sleep.
>>34570582I know its true because I knew her for 8 years before her diagnosis, have her entire family's recollection of her life, and have seen plenty of home videos. She always kind of odd, overly sensitive, and had a brutal mean streak, but she was also very social and had no "sensory issues" until she received her diagnosis. She has had many doctors, psychiatrists, and psychologists over the years. She is also a somewhat prominent autism advocate nowadays and goes to autism conferences and is invited to all sorts of autism events. She has met major autism researchers for years now. I doubt there is a woman in the world with a more vetted autism diagnosis than her. If I merely told you her name you could find so much of this yourself with a single search, but I'm not stupid enough to doxx myself, or her for that matter. She tries to relate to me by trying to get me to co-wallow in "muh autism" self-pity with her, but I reject it, tell her I am NOT autistic (she never believes me bc she has known me too long and has seen it herself since I was a young man), and then later she pulls my wife aside and tells her I need to stop masking and embrace my autism like her. Fuck that cringe shit lmao.Anyway, you seem like a nice enough person and I wish you a good night's sleep and a wonderful happy life.
>>34570133>the ones that are nicelove em>the ones that are dicksfucking despise them99% of autistic people fall into this category. they're snarky, sociopathic, annoying, or all of the above
>>34570618either that or she was an asshole all the time due to being overwhelmed with constant sensory issues that she was in denial of. lmao i also hate the "spoonie" "neurospicy" types but sensory overload is real you just don't have to be a dramatic baby about it but that's how some people "unmask"
I think you really need to get out of Sonic the Hedgehog's asshole.
>>34570618>Anyway, you seem like a nice enough person and I wish you a good night's sleep and a wonderful happy life.Thank you, I slept well. You too, I wish you a wonderful and happy life.
